SomeBuddies Podcast Ep 11| Getting Clean and Getting Your Kids Back | Parenting, Loss & Connection
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- Опубліковано 21 сер 2024
- SomeBuddies Podcast back again with new topics of Getting Clean and Getting Your Kids Back, Parenting, Loss & Connection.
Parents also want a democratic household where each family member has a say about what happens-Should we go outside now? Are we ready to have a bath? Would you like to have the party here?-and they cultivate independence and freedom of thought in their children. Strict obedience used to be praised; now it is seen as outdated and potentially dangerous. Compliance might mean your kid is a pushover, which no parent wants, especially as bullying has spread from the schoolyard to cyberspace.
There are broader influences shifting the parent-child dynamic as well. Over the past half-century or more, the public has come to scorn power imbalances based on gender, race, religion and sexual orientation, and historic gains have been achieved in the pursuit of equality. Even corporations are now replacing pyramidal management with “flat organization.” In Western society, where equality for everyone has become a cultural objective and a constitutional right, children are treated like they are one more minority group to honour and empower. “Empower has come to seem virtuous,”
The first step towards creating a safer home environment is by removing the influence of substances from your life. To that end, the following are some steps you can take to maximize your chance of regaining custody of your children:
Seek legal counsel.
It is important to seek the advice of a child custody lawyer as soon as possible after your children are removed from your home. Make sure to follow your lawyer’s recommendations.
Seek treatment.
The sooner you can check in to a detox program, the better. Make sure to follow up with individual therapy and ongoing groups after you are discharged from your detox facility.
Comply with all court recommendations.
The court may recommend substance abuse treatment, individual or family therapy, addiction groups, or other interventions. It may be difficult to bring yourself to attend therapy or groups.
You may not want to go and it may be difficult to face your substance use head-on, but detox, therapy, and groups are your best chance at creating a safer environment for your children and ensuring you will be a part of their lives.
Wipe the slate clean.
family barbecue - dad giving kids foodMost mental health and addiction experts agree that substance use disorders are the result of a complex interplay of genetic, environmental, and personality factors. Removing one of these three components weakens the other two. Since you cannot change your genes and have limited control over your personality, you will need to change your environment.
Over time, you have likely built up a network of friends and acquaintances who use. You likely have suppliers, fellow users, and places you go to use. It is important to cut ties with those relationships. Make sure you have no way to get in contact with your dealer, and spend time building new friendships, perhaps with members of groups you attend.
Reconnect with family and friends.
It is common during one’s spiral into drug addiction to withdraw from relationships and family. Now is the time to reconnect with sober family members and sober friends with whom you may have lost contact. Relationships provide a powerful source of support and a buffer against stress. Lean into those relationships.
Family members and friends will likely have many different reactions to your attempts to rebuild a relationship. They may mistrust you or be angry, afraid, sad, or scared. Though it will be difficult, listen to them openly and nondefensively.
Maintain contact with your lawyer and the court.
rp_Advisor-advising-couple-with-financial-papers-300x199.jpgAs you make progress towards sobriety, make sure your lawyer and the court know about your victories. Keep records of meetings and therapy sessions you attend, and work closely with caseworkers and other service providers. If you should slip up and use again, talk to your sponsor, therapist, sober friends, and lawyer, and follow your lawyer’s advice. Substance abuse thrives when it is kept secret, but it tends to wither when brought into the light.
Losing custody of your children is a profoundly painful and scary experience, but it can also be a wake-up call. Though regaining custody of your children will likely be a long and difficult struggle, and there is a possibility of never regaining custody, there are things you can do to improve your ability to provide a home where your children can thrive.
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