This is me Asha!!!! I’ve been working so hard since a October on my appearance, my body, my hair, my skin, my routines, find a career that’s not so demanding, but still makes decent money. Im 28 and I REFUSE to live a life where I am not being provided for. Even if it means going outside my race. At the end of the day, women get worn out so much faster than men, and it’s up to us to seek & become the person we can “do life with”. Providers onlyyyyy ❤
YES!!!! Exactly!!!! You know I have a theory too, that I don’t think I ever mentioned on the channel but anytime you see a couple and the woman looks a lot more older than the man. It tells me that there is abuse present in the relationship and neglect is a form of abuse, so it doesn’t even have to be physical, but the neglect, and or the emotional abuse alone will age a woman, especially when there are children involved in that marriage, and it’s always a red flag to me when you see a guy that is in better shape and everything than the woman is and the woman looks just like she’s been worn down, and that tells me that he is neglecting her or abusing her in another way. So keep your options open. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with dating outside of our race because, we are all human beings. We all bleed red and I don’t take issue with that and it is absolutely imperative that as you were doing investments in yourself that you continue to keep your standards so that you are so I am very proud of you and I agree with this sentiment.
Woow,this was me 15years ago..i was ready to Date/marry outside my race as long i get what i want (a wealthy provider/protector that loves and treat me Like a Queen)..now married with 3kids for 11years to my caucasian husband that is a handsome,Loving,wealthy Provider/Protector that treats me like a Queen 😍.. So Happy seen alot of black women waking up and realizing that they too deserve the best Princes/Queen Treatment aka soft life
I’m a man and I totally agree with everything you said!! As a man especially late 30s…I feel we shouldn’t be dating if we don’t have a home, savings, good credit and the ability to snap our fingers if there’s issues. Women want security, loyalty and a man that know what the hell he doing. I am a King right? So where is my castle 🏰 that’s rock solid before I go get my Queen.
Staying at home until you get married IS a life hack! Absolutely love this episode! In 2024, I’m not dating a guy unless he has a home, car, and career. Just watching HGTV, these men are moving their newlywed wives into stunning homes. The couples that are featured on these episodes are 9/10 hypergamous + traditional! It is happening everyday! 💖
And it’s always the people in the most miserable relationships asking me why I’m single. Ummm because I am serious about my future and date with INTENTION. I am not settling just to have a man. Providers ONLY
I've been dating for marriage but now that I've had my mental glow up, I'm only Communicating with men who are courting me for marriage. I have a degree/career and wanted someone equally yoked... Now with seriously dating a man that is not only equal but is leading me financially, spiritually, and physically.. We have the same values, political beliefs, interests, and he is a Provider with a capital P..I love it here! :)
I bought my wife a lexus when we first got married. I told her she didn't have to work but she still decided to take a part time job. I think she was getting bored at home. She goes to the gym and cooks gourmet meals every day. She definitely takes care of me so I have no problem paying all of the bills. We met online and have been married for 4 years. I found what I was looking for... Fit friendly and cooperative. That's all a man really needs.
I am 22 and only dating providers with my shared religious values for marriage. I am saving myself for marriage. I know I want a beautiful nuclear family & to give my future babies the best life possible - which includes a father who takes pride in providing & protecting. There are strong men out there who WANT & take PRIDE in providing & receiving the love & respect from a devoted wife. So true- women don’t get rewards for building a man - only resentment!
Ladies dating with the intention for marriage & providers - I suggest dating at least 5-10 years older so they have more security in their careers & self esteem compared to you. It allows for a better alignment between the masculine & feminine polarity.
I am so proud of you!!!!!! Hold true to this!!! Honor this commitment and vow to God!!! He will reward you. You are absolutely on the right track and I agree with everything you said!
Asha!!! This video is pure liquid GOLD to the female soul. When I tell you, your videos got me through one of the worst breakups of my life in 2019. After that, I faithfully watched your videos in a specific order to get my mind together. You truly changed my mindset and inner level up. After that breakup, I have ONLY dated men who fully provide and ladies when I tell you. Once you step into the light, and experience this level of life, you will not look back. Dating a 50/50 guy is exhausting and as Asha stated you’ll be “resentful” because let’s face it, men will never truly be 50/50 with us, especially if we have their children. The last thing you want is to work a full time job, take care of/juggle the children (if you have them), go half on bills with a man, have “relations” with that man … cook, clean and maintain a house …. all while you’re getting his second best effort! Really? No, thank you! Do better. Choose better.
I am a testament to that. I became a mom at 23 because I got emotionally manipulated by a guy who only wanted me pregnant because I was building my career in IT making 17 an hour at the time while he was thriving to be in the same field or to fit anywhere. Then once he realized I wasn't the one to play with. I go cold once I learn the truth. he went off to find other women to build him up. My career only blossomed and 10 years later I work for top Ivy League raising my son who is special needs alone while this man knocked up and married a art curator who funds his career and had 2 more kids making her a mother of 5 kids >_
😭😹😭😹😭😹 im so happy I dont have kids everyone shamed me but everyone that got pregnant is single with children who all happened to be special needs. wow. you won though v the dead beat bd
After having my son! 50/50 went out the window. Cooking, cleaning, doing laundry (some must be hand washed) washing dishes, putting away dishes and laundry, raising your legacy, taking care of your husband, taking care of yourself AND WORKING AND PAYING TOWARDS BILLS is actually insanity. I was a 50/50 saddie before my son but I faced reality. Trying to do everything will lead to death and destruction. This is the only way to thrive in your feminine essence. Its showing up in health I think 80% of people with autoimmune diseases are women !
That’s why it’ll only slightly work if no children are involved but if they want children they should not act like they are doing women a favor when they pay the bills a women’s money should be invested on the children
I believe that taking home ec out of schools was one of the worst things that the school system could have done and it’s only become worse as I’ve gotten older
And I don't think they have industrial Arts and Shop classes for the boys anymore, things like wood work, mechanics, etc ! A lot of them can't even change a flat tire, hook up jumper cables, or unstop a pipe ! Sad
Completely agree and the one-liners are HILARIOUS 😂😂😂 You have some men in this world who say “is that all” and others who say “you’re asking for too much, what do you bring” pick wisely ladies!!!
Hi!! First timer here and i couldn't agree more with everything you said 🥰 Although i am young (22) I have had the experience of living with a boyfriend, and now that I'm settled in my own place I understand the importance of why i would never do that again and would prefer a man who already has his ishh together vs trying to build him up!!! Thank you for your time 🤍
Hiii🥰 & welcome to the A team 🤗 and thank you for sharing your story because this is proof that it’s never a good idea! So I am happy you learned and you learned very young! Men are supposed to have the house and we make it a home!!! True tradition!🥰
Yes am dating providers only , I am a stay home wife in training , Can’t wait to be happily married to a genuine generous provider , I might be moving to a city with more established men so I can have a wider pool of options .I am ready for this next phase of my life
I do agree 💯 % with you on everything you said. I am a statistic of a woman who has shacked up with a man for 6 years and still didn’t get married. The old saying is why buy the cow when the milk is free. I was doing everything for my man and relationship. I worked full time, and was running a business on the side. I cooked, cleaned, and did all of the above. But at the end of the day it wasn’t a winning situation. You can wear yourself out. And also financial issues came up in the relationship. Unfortunately when the money is funny so is the relationship. Ladies do me a favor and make sure you find a provider. At the same time make sure you have your own back. Be independent and take care of yourself but just be smart about who you give your time to. Wishing everyone on here prosperity and love! ❤🙏🏽🙌🏽💯
Thank you I live with my mom and I plan on leaving when I get married, I lived in my own for a year (w my sister) and I missed home and prefer being with my mom.
You are so right in the sense a lot of men give resentment as a gift back to you… I’ve dealt with a lot of men who don’t consider your genuine kind help, and rather chase the next shiny thing regardless of how much you’ve helped and supported. It’s a twisted mentality but men truly only will give you the best if you are that dream girl
Becoming comfortable and happy with my singleness has allowed me to put a lot into perspective. I don’t need a man around just to be around. If he isn’t making my life easier or better then it’s time for him to go.
I truly don't understand how I just started watching you this week. Anyway, everything you're saying is pure facts Asha. I'm a 32 year old, spoiled, married, stay-at-home, soft-life, Christian girlie who just had her first kid a year ago. I'm provided for not only financially but also emotionally. I do not mention all that to brag but to tell everyone to listen to Asha do NOT settle. I met my husband when I was 23 and back then there were no platforms on how to choose the right man. The only help I had was God whispering in my ear yay or nay. The man that you're looking for exists! And I'm a living testament to the success of not batting an eye and not opening my legs to any losers in my 20s. The wrong man can absolutely positively ruin you and possibly even destroy your destiny. It's uber necessary to proceed with the utmost caution.
Asha you are absolutely correct, no woman wants to work forever and carry the load. Even the pick me’s who settled for dusties are mad at hypergamous women because they represent everything they want deep down but couldn’t get
Girl you are PREACHINGGGG!! I’m glad I’m not alone in thinking like this. I’m not settling! IDC if I have to be a 35 yr old wife and 1st time mom. I’ll take waiting until then to get what I deserve than to ever settle sooner for the sake of saying I’m married.
Just got finished watching this while I was cleaning the gym. You made a lot of good points. Things I've been saying for awhile. That cooking, cleaning, the way a woman carries herself, even the mystique and intrigue of a woman is gone too. Woman should choose better partners and ask themselves, if this is the person worth their time and body. I've never believed in dating. I don't know how people choose their partners theses. So many signs in most people that are obvious. I'm a millennial myself. Having conversations with people at the gym is interesting. The gym is the hotspot, I'm telling you. You see a lot that comes in there. Hope you find that right guy for you. Your mindset makes you rare out here. Hope this video gives women out there a different perspective on their appearance and mindset. Down the road, I'm going to mentor to young men about doing it right, getting them away from what their uncles and peers put in their heads. A lot of lost men out here. Good video.
WOW!!!!! How heartwarming to receive your agreement and confirmation on what I was discussing from a health MANS perspective! Thank you thank you thank you!!!! LADIES AS YOU CAN SEE, great guys exist! Also, thank you for the service you will do with contributing to a healthy mindset in the men’s community as well!!!!
This was a great video! I completely agree, everything we want IS well within reach, we just need to stop aligning ourselves with dusties who try to convince us we don't deserve what we desire.
I love working though! I want to have a career in the medical field one day but I want to make sure I could be able to reach a point where I could choose when I work to be with my family. I definitely want my man to have a provider mindset though.
Honestly the younger millennials not cooking is really not y’all’s fault. Parents have slacked off a lot when it comes to a lot of things. Sure it’s now you’re responsibility to learn but ur parents shldve been teaching you that when you were kids so that you don’t have to also learn something as serious as how to feed yourself on top of all the other things that come at you in your adulthood. It just makes being grown ten times harder when you weren’t taught crucial life skills. Just like a lot of young men not knowing they shld be the pursuer. There are too many young men waiting on women to shoot their shot cause they didn’t have the coaching from older men on how to approach women. It’s honestly sad
I’m being intentional by taking some time in quiet solitude and away from brokies. 😂 but no seriously I desire a traditional relationship, and I know if I take some time to fall in love with self first, it’s gonna find me. ❤
I’m a childless 23 year old nursing girlie so I just booked me a dermatology appointment I’m back to eating healthy & im getting back into the gym to train again like I use too & I just started back reading & studying the Bible also ❤
women say this then date the unemployed crack head they met at the bar because "he's fun", face it, a man who is working 12-15 hours a day, has a job and a business, focuses free time on his appearance, building his home, taking care of errands, hes not FUN, hes not EXCITING, hes too BUSY... does not matter if hes got it all... he has little time to spare....
OMG thank you for the education on staying at home, I've felt so much pressure to move into my own apartment especially now that I own a business. I'm only 18 yrs old tho and you know what? I don't care how much I make I'm staying my behind in my mama's house period
Now you are ahead of the curve!!!! Wow!!! Great mindset and you’re only 18! I know the pressure is huge at 18 because it seems like that’s just what you do! And that is not true! I’m proud of you!!!
Asha I’ve always loved you because of how similar our values are, you’re my bestie in my head. I’ve never been the type to just date and keep dating, I’ve always been very intentional. Any man im talking to is for the purpose of marriage. I’m not trying to play any games. I know who I am and the value I add to a man so my man needs to know what his role as “ my husband “ is!!!!
Asha, I'm tired, truly. We can talk about adjusting our mindset and focusing our energy on only those who deserve it. But the fact still stands that there is a huge lack of *good* potential partners out there. I've yet to meet someone worthy of my commitment, ever. If God says my time isn't now that's fine, but I'm tired and done with holding out hope. For my mental peace I've given up, I will no longer subject myself to the chaos of wondering "why not me?" when it's others who can't see my value. Even though I've never been in a relationship, I'll happily take that over what I've seen other people go through. My womb, heart and bank account are intact 😭😂
There’s a book you may have heard of by Richard Reeves called Of Boys and Men. It’s about the circumstances many males face today-educationally, economically, romantically. The economy and family structure are typically tied together. I agree that women should pursue partners that can provide for the household. But our economic realities are evolving today.
I’m 28 and learned everything I needed to this year. I dumped my dusty 8 months ago and I am not settling for anything less than a nice provider husband who is emotionally intelligent and aggressively faithful. I’m not letting no man get me pregnant and keep me without adding value to my life
Sorry but to be completely honest. As a man who makes six figures. Watching this is exactly what most men who make that type of money do not want. It's the attitude, the lack of emotional commitment. No man with self respect would be open to dating a woman who 3 years ago sees him as a nobody, but now that he has made something of himself consider you, when he has way more options now. Also, women need to focus less on economic wants and more on economic needs and family needs. No serious guy wants a woman who is living a "soft girl era" you should be a wonderful woman as default. Being something else is just you faking it. Men do not want a woman saying things like "What we're not gonna do is___" not soft at all. We just want down to earth women who are not snobby who values a man who works hard FOR THEM and cherishes that emotionally. No one knows where and what will happen in the world, this guy could go from millionaire banker to broke after a recession, why look for a wife who is planning to leave in such an event? Sorry not interested.
the man doesn't have to have to make six figures to be a provider. he just needs to be able to provide the necessities for the family such as a home (which can be rented instead of bought), food, clothes, healthcare, and education for the children. many single mothers are capable of doing these on their own. so when a man cannot even provide those for the family, why is he marrying anyone? what exactly will be his contribution to the family? when a broke woman gets married to a provider, usually she would still contribute a lot, by being emotionally empathetic and kind, and by taking care of the house and kids. but when it's the other way around, the man usually contributes absolutely nothing. not money, not being kind emotionally to the wife, not doing house chores, not caring for the children. nothing. absolutely nothing except exhaustion, headache, and sadness. plus, violence and trauma in many cases. and these men are usually smooth talkers who promise a lot and deliver very little. so what do you expect? how do you expect women to know which is which? how do you expect any sane woman to be able to have an emotional connection to a man who is not a provider when we now know that a man who cannot provide is a more dangerous bet? expecting a woman to be 'wonderful' no matter what is akin to demanding her to not have any self-respect, to be okay to be with someone whom she cannot even rely on, and waiting on him forever disregarding her own life and her own want. you, yourself, won't do that. you, yourself won't choose a potential beauty and kind, you would choose a confirmed beauty and kind. you, yourself, won't be 'wonderful' to everyone. yet, you have all these expectations for someone else? why? so, yeah. not a good look on you, buddy. not even if you're a six-figure man. it reeks of entitlement and unrealistic expectations that many women nowadays no longer want to deal with.
@@namena7300 1. No one was speaking about homosexuality. Learn to stay on topic then. 2. You guys love to virtue signal and act as though you are accepting of homosexuality but then try to use it as an insult for men. Questionable morals. 3. I have no interest in men and I actually have genuine love and respect for decent women. So I think that is probably a better prescription if you actually wanted to give solutions and have a meaningful conversation. So instead, I'll find myself a peaceful, loving, respectful woman, who can love and care for me in the same way I will do for them. Thanks and stay blessed.
If you're a bum/you don't have a job or you lie to me about having one I'll be like thank you who's next?! If you're a man saying, "oh women are just materialistic." No. Having a job is part of being an adult and if you can't even handle that then you shouldn't even be dating in general. I'm not going to date you. Plain and simple. 💯
I have one more question. How to date successful busy guys with multiple businesses. I don't know but thats the only kind of guys that I have been on dates or relationships with .They are always busy and hence it is difficult to form a bond with them . But in the beginning they are great and hence you give them a chance but later on they are very busy which is true . But I won't be able to form a connection with a guy that I cant talk to peacefully every other day .
THE PART ABOUT KNOCKING YOU UP FOR CONTROL💯 GIRL! This happened to me. While I’m happy to have my son, my ex got me pregnant twice in 2020 (1st one was a miscarriage), after I told him I did not want kids for years. He was purposely not careful. He had a pattern of this with other women, but I was too blind to see it. Idk who that girl was, thank God I’ve gotten smarter. He was VERY controlling, even told me his friend would knock up his wife any time he felt “insecure” when she got her body back. Little did I know, he was referring to himself😂 ladies learn from me. I left him due to the control. He treated me like property, the things he’d say was dehumanizing. (Side note: I know it’s partially my fault for sleeping with him)
Thank you so much for sharing your story. And the accountability is appreciated, listen hind site is 20/20 for a reason I know it’s not easy! But sharing this will help someone. And this also verified my suspicion!
Asha, I would love to hear your thoughts about the pressure of being in your 20s and never having been in a serious relationship, and how to not settle
As a married father of three teenagers I fully agree with this. Only thing is my wife has a job but she works from home. A man will move heaven and earth for the woman he loves. If theres any struggle at all a man who loves will do whatever he can to eliminate it. Remember that.
Has it occurred to anyone that men 'test' you? They may take you to coffee or a low budget restaurant to see how you respond? To see if you like him or just want a free meal? Guys protect themselves too ya know? 😮
That’s a smart move for them to make. Dates don’t equate to marriage so he can take her to McDonald’s If he wants to because if he’s not husband material he’s not going to end up with her anyway. Plus if he’s still naive enough to think that where he takes, the woman on a date is enough to tell who she is, how she feels about him et cetera then I think we have a different problem
The push for independent women pushed us to see 50/50 as okay cuz it meant we can provide just like our man. Cooking is a lost art cuz we were pushed to not cook for a man. I know I was. I am now learning to cook and my food comes out good. It makes me happy😊!!! The things they said we shoildnt be proud of are the things that make me proud. These jobs are so draining and dont care aboit us so why put so much importance on it. Men need to provide!
They’re just telling the audience what they want to hear. Not what needs to be done. She’s telling them about what they should be attaining and not what they should be doing to attain.
I can relate to home ec.But I also know the cost of living it's 50 / 50 .For some of us who has been already been married.Were not in a rush .living separately and dating works for me.I was a single divorced mom and did all that successfully.Worked and have 3 adult children.However,I do like the home based business part financial independence is important
I love love love video,s like this❤they give me free game on how to weed out gold diggers and women who have nothing to offer me in a relationship. Thank you so mutch for your free game❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️kings stop dating broke women if a woman feels like her having a job is being in her masculline she,s not the one for you
Honestly they cut out Home Ed and Parents (who are now Millennial) are not raising their kids to be traditional more than being freeformed and maybe a bit chaotic so now kids I feel coming up and Gen z are not as equipped and hyper independent.
I love you Asha and have been a sub for a while but this particular message had a few sweeping statements that were a bit off to me. “No woman on this earth wants to work” “yes you can have your little side business but you can’t run a home or a family the way you want to if you’re worried about paying your half of the bills”. I totally get the trad wife perspective but we have to be careful that we’re not regressing. I think more nuance needs to be applied here. I also think that the resurgence of the trad wife mode of feminity is happening in a time of financial and economic crisis and uncertainty whereas the feminist revolution from the 50s house wife to free love in the 60s was driven by a time of prosperity, peace and optimism. In other words, trad wife will not seem so appealing to bright young women when the times change and the world feels safe again.
I’m not here to disagree with any points or make moral judgements. Just here to say that some of the views expressed are what encourage men to think they can “buy” women and it actually doesn’t help us develop into whole men and probably doesn’t do well for some women either. Everyone is entitled to a view point just please beware of allowing capitalism to be the sole dictator of one’s worth. Status and Value aren’t the same.
MY LOVES CAN WE GET THIS VIDEO TO 1k likes? I want to know your thoughts on this subject
Hi lovely, you are sounding intelligent, may I ask how young you are❤?
This is me Asha!!!! I’ve been working so hard since a October on my appearance, my body, my hair, my skin, my routines, find a career that’s not so demanding, but still makes decent money. Im 28 and I REFUSE to live a life where I am not being provided for. Even if it means going outside my race. At the end of the day, women get worn out so much faster than men, and it’s up to us to seek & become the person we can “do life with”. Providers onlyyyyy ❤
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YES!!!! Exactly!!!! You know I have a theory too, that I don’t think I ever mentioned on the channel but anytime you see a couple and the woman looks a lot more older than the man. It tells me that there is abuse present in the relationship and neglect is a form of abuse, so it doesn’t even have to be physical, but the neglect, and or the emotional abuse alone will age a woman, especially when there are children involved in that marriage, and it’s always a red flag to me when you see a guy that is in better shape and everything than the woman is and the woman looks just like she’s been worn down, and that tells me that he is neglecting her or abusing her in another way. So keep your options open. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with dating outside of our race because, we are all human beings. We all bleed red and I don’t take issue with that and it is absolutely imperative that as you were doing investments in yourself that you continue to keep your standards so that you are so I am very proud of you and I agree with this sentiment.
This is exactly my mood for 2024 & beyond !
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Woow,this was me 15years ago..i was ready to Date/marry outside my race as long i get what i want (a wealthy provider/protector that loves and treat me Like a Queen)..now married with 3kids for 11years to my caucasian husband that is a handsome,Loving,wealthy Provider/Protector that treats me like a Queen 😍..
So Happy seen alot of black women waking up and realizing that they too deserve the best Princes/Queen Treatment aka soft life
I’m a man and I totally agree with everything you said!! As a man especially late 30s…I feel we shouldn’t be dating if we don’t have a home, savings, good credit and the ability to snap our fingers if there’s issues. Women want security, loyalty and a man that know what the hell he doing. I am a King right? So where is my castle 🏰 that’s rock solid before I go get my Queen.
Wow well said!!!!!
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Amen 🙏🏽
👏🏽 exactly!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Is your messages flooded yet?😂😂
The pony is swanging lol I love the content
YES! The pony swinging is giving! 😂😂
Okayyy!! Yes!! And I Love it!!! 😆😁😍
It's helping helping to prove her points. Lol!
Staying at home until you get married IS a life hack! Absolutely love this episode! In 2024, I’m not dating a guy unless he has a home, car, and career. Just watching HGTV, these men are moving their newlywed wives into stunning homes. The couples that are featured on these episodes are 9/10 hypergamous + traditional! It is happening everyday! 💖
You said it yourself - it's TV! The average person doesn't make the salary of the people/celebrities you see on TV.
It’s Literally a life hack!!!!! You are so right!!! It’s happening every day!!!! No scarcity mindset!!!!
@@AshaChristinaFosterFacts sis! None! 💯
So you want a traditional man.. are you a traditional woman with single figure body count
And it’s always the people in the most miserable relationships asking me why I’m single. Ummm because I am serious about my future and date with INTENTION. I am not settling just to have a man. Providers ONLY
I've been dating for marriage but now that I've had my mental glow up, I'm only Communicating with men who are courting me for marriage. I have a degree/career and wanted someone equally yoked... Now with seriously dating a man that is not only equal but is leading me financially, spiritually, and physically.. We have the same values, political beliefs, interests, and he is a Provider with a capital P..I love it here! :)
I love this for you!
@@jjones4458 thank you!
I bought my wife a lexus when we first got married. I told her she didn't have to work but she still decided to take a part time job. I think she was getting bored at home. She goes to the gym and cooks gourmet meals every day. She definitely takes care of me so I have no problem paying all of the bills. We met online and have been married for 4 years. I found what I was looking for... Fit friendly and cooperative. That's all a man really needs.
Good for y'all ❤ God bless 🙏
@@onevenus6040 Thank you!
I am 22 and only dating providers with my shared religious values for marriage. I am saving myself for marriage. I know I want a beautiful nuclear family & to give my future babies the best life possible - which includes a father who takes pride in providing & protecting. There are strong men out there who WANT & take PRIDE in providing & receiving the love & respect from a devoted wife. So true- women don’t get rewards for building a man - only resentment!
Ladies dating with the intention for marriage & providers - I suggest dating at least 5-10 years older so they have more security in their careers & self esteem compared to you. It allows for a better alignment between the masculine & feminine polarity.
I am so proud of you!!!!!! Hold true to this!!! Honor this commitment and vow to God!!! He will reward you. You are absolutely on the right track and I agree with everything you said!
So what will you providing?
@knowEgo you think women have to provide something? We are the prize. 😊
@@zainabzolita8436 - I hope you're joking because with that mindset be prepared to be alone with a bunch of cats!
Asha!!! This video is pure liquid GOLD to the female soul. When I tell you, your videos got me through one of the worst breakups of my life in 2019. After that, I faithfully watched your videos in a specific order to get my mind together. You truly changed my mindset and inner level up. After that breakup, I have ONLY dated men who fully provide and ladies when I tell you. Once you step into the light, and experience this level of life, you will not look back. Dating a 50/50 guy is exhausting and as Asha stated you’ll be “resentful” because let’s face it, men will never truly be 50/50 with us, especially if we have their children. The last thing you want is to work a full time job, take care of/juggle the children (if you have them), go half on bills with a man, have “relations” with that man … cook, clean and maintain a house …. all while you’re getting his second best effort! Really? No, thank you! Do better. Choose better.
THANK YOU SO MUCH I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR YOU FOR SHARING THIS WITH ME AND COMMENTING!!!!! All glory to GOD! This really made my night seeing this!!!!!!
I am a testament to that. I became a mom at 23 because I got emotionally manipulated by a guy who only wanted me pregnant because I was building my career in IT making 17 an hour at the time while he was thriving to be in the same field or to fit anywhere. Then once he realized I wasn't the one to play with. I go cold once I learn the truth. he went off to find other women to build him up. My career only blossomed and 10 years later I work for top Ivy League raising my son who is special needs alone while this man knocked up and married a art curator who funds his career and had 2 more kids making her a mother of 5 kids >_
😭😹😭😹😭😹 im so happy I dont have kids everyone shamed me but everyone that got pregnant is single with children who all happened to be special needs. wow. you won though v the dead beat bd
After having my son! 50/50 went out the window. Cooking, cleaning, doing laundry (some must be hand washed) washing dishes, putting away dishes and laundry, raising your legacy, taking care of your husband, taking care of yourself AND WORKING AND PAYING TOWARDS BILLS is actually insanity. I was a 50/50 saddie before my son but I faced reality. Trying to do everything will lead to death and destruction. This is the only way to thrive in your feminine essence. Its showing up in health I think 80% of people with autoimmune diseases are women !
Wow! Thank you for sharing! 💕
That’s why it’ll only slightly work if no children are involved but if they want children they should not act like they are doing women a favor when they pay the bills a women’s money should be invested on the children
I believe that taking home ec out of schools was one of the worst things that the school system could have done and it’s only become worse as I’ve gotten older
👀Ikr & now I can't even cook more then an egg🥚
And I don't think they have industrial Arts and Shop classes for the boys anymore, things like wood work, mechanics, etc ! A lot of them can't even change a flat tire, hook up jumper cables, or unstop a pipe ! Sad
Completely agree and the one-liners are HILARIOUS 😂😂😂
You have some men in this world who say “is that all” and others who say “you’re asking for too much, what do you bring” pick wisely ladies!!!
Thank youuuuu 😂 and YESSSS PERIOD!!!!
Hi!! First timer here and i couldn't agree more with everything you said 🥰 Although i am young (22) I have had the experience of living with a boyfriend, and now that I'm settled in my own place I understand the importance of why i would never do that again and would prefer a man who already has his ishh together vs trying to build him up!!! Thank you for your time 🤍
Hiii🥰 & welcome to the A team 🤗 and thank you for sharing your story because this is proof that it’s never a good idea! So I am happy you learned and you learned very young! Men are supposed to have the house and we make it a home!!! True tradition!🥰
Yes am dating providers only , I am a stay home wife in training , Can’t wait to be happily married to a genuine generous provider , I might be moving to a city with more established men so I can have a wider pool of options .I am ready for this next phase of my life
What city has more established men?
I do agree 💯 % with you on everything you said. I am a statistic of a woman who has shacked up with a man for 6 years and still didn’t get married. The old saying is why buy the cow when the milk is free. I was doing everything for my man and relationship. I worked full time, and was running a business on the side. I cooked, cleaned, and did all of the above. But at the end of the day it wasn’t a winning situation. You can wear yourself out. And also financial issues came up in the relationship. Unfortunately when the money is funny so is the relationship. Ladies do me a favor and make sure you find a provider. At the same time make sure you have your own back. Be independent and take care of yourself but just be smart about who you give your time to. Wishing everyone on here prosperity and love! ❤🙏🏽🙌🏽💯
Thank you I live with my mom and I plan on leaving when I get married, I lived in my own for a year (w my sister) and I missed home and prefer being with my mom.
Thank you sm for your consistency and dedication Asha ✨🤍 your wisdom and some iconic one-liners are always delightful 🥰
Awww thank you!!! 💗
You are so right in the sense a lot of men give resentment as a gift back to you… I’ve dealt with a lot of men who don’t consider your genuine kind help, and rather chase the next shiny thing regardless of how much you’ve helped and supported. It’s a twisted mentality but men truly only will give you the best if you are that dream girl
Becoming comfortable and happy with my singleness has allowed me to put a lot into perspective.
I don’t need a man around just to be around. If he isn’t making my life easier or better then it’s time for him to go.
And that’s on period
So what will you provide for him?
I truly don't understand how I just started watching you this week. Anyway, everything you're saying is pure facts Asha. I'm a 32 year old, spoiled, married, stay-at-home, soft-life, Christian girlie who just had her first kid a year ago. I'm provided for not only financially but also emotionally. I do not mention all that to brag but to tell everyone to listen to Asha do NOT settle. I met my husband when I was 23 and back then there were no platforms on how to choose the right man. The only help I had was God whispering in my ear yay or nay. The man that you're looking for exists! And I'm a living testament to the success of not batting an eye and not opening my legs to any losers in my 20s. The wrong man can absolutely positively ruin you and possibly even destroy your destiny. It's uber necessary to proceed with the utmost caution.
THANK YOU FOR SHARING🥰🥰🥰🥰 this is a testimony!!!!!! Wrong man = wrong plan!!!!
Asha you are absolutely correct, no woman wants to work forever and carry the load. Even the pick me’s who settled for dusties are mad at hypergamous women because they represent everything they want deep down but couldn’t get
We are not meant to work out of pure survival. We are meant to nurture and create!! The girls who get it, GET IT!!! Thank you! 💗
So true
Girl you are PREACHINGGGG!! I’m glad I’m not alone in thinking like this. I’m not settling! IDC if I have to be a 35 yr old wife and 1st time mom. I’ll take waiting until then to get what I deserve than to ever settle sooner for the sake of saying I’m married.
Just got finished watching this while I was cleaning the gym. You made a lot of good points. Things I've been saying for awhile. That cooking, cleaning, the way a woman carries herself, even the mystique and intrigue of a woman is gone too. Woman should choose better partners and ask themselves, if this is the person worth their time and body. I've never believed in dating. I don't know how people choose their partners theses. So many signs in most people that are obvious. I'm a millennial myself. Having conversations with people at the gym is interesting. The gym is the hotspot, I'm telling you. You see a lot that comes in there. Hope you find that right guy for you. Your mindset makes you rare out here. Hope this video gives women out there a different perspective on their appearance and mindset. Down the road, I'm going to mentor to young men about doing it right, getting them away from what their uncles and peers put in their heads. A lot of lost men out here. Good video.
WOW!!!!! How heartwarming to receive your agreement and confirmation on what I was discussing from a health MANS perspective! Thank you thank you thank you!!!! LADIES AS YOU CAN SEE, great guys exist! Also, thank you for the service you will do with contributing to a healthy mindset in the men’s community as well!!!!
Amen 🙏🏽
This was a great video! I completely agree, everything we want IS well within reach, we just need to stop aligning ourselves with dusties who try to convince us we don't deserve what we desire.
Bingo!!!
Young lady, I LOVE YOU FOR THIS! I tell my 2 daughters the EXACT SAME THING, WORD...FOR...WORD! Ladies, listen up...she's telling the TRUTH!!!
Asha is taking us to class today on this one! I agree with you "the exception is not the rule". Always aim for the provider man.❤
I love working though! I want to have a career in the medical field one day but I want to make sure I could be able to reach a point where I could choose when I work to be with my family. I definitely want my man to have a provider mindset though.
Yes Exactly what I said 😊 that’s the key! It’s one thing to have to work and another to choose because you love it
Exactly. Imagine saying your birth certificate is “just a piece of paper” lol
Right!!!! 🤣😂🤣🤣
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Honestly the younger millennials not cooking is really not y’all’s fault. Parents have slacked off a lot when it comes to a lot of things. Sure it’s now you’re responsibility to learn but ur parents shldve been teaching you that when you were kids so that you don’t have to also learn something as serious as how to feed yourself on top of all the other things that come at you in your adulthood. It just makes being grown ten times harder when you weren’t taught crucial life skills.
Just like a lot of young men not knowing they shld be the pursuer. There are too many young men waiting on women to shoot their shot cause they didn’t have the coaching from older men on how to approach women. It’s honestly sad
Unfortunately you are right :/ I agree with you!
I love the passion in this video, all true girl!
I’m being intentional by taking some time in quiet solitude and away from brokies. 😂 but no seriously I desire a traditional relationship, and I know if I take some time to fall in love with self first, it’s gonna find me. ❤
You will absolutely find yourself and fall in love with the process! It’s a journey and it’s absolutely worth it because you are worth it!
@@AshaChristinaFoster 🤎🤎🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Yesssss Asha is back 🔥🔥 more of this content
I’m backkkkk
You don’t get a reward for sticking around while he figures things out. Your reward is resentment
I felt that in my shondo 😊
your reward is loyalty. Men have no reason to be loyal if all you did was wait at the finish line for a winner. Easy come, easy go.
I’m a childless 23 year old nursing girlie so I just booked me a dermatology appointment I’m back to eating healthy & im getting back into the gym to train again like I use too & I just started back reading & studying the Bible also ❤
All i have to say is good luck, most of yall still gone have to work. It's nothing wrong with the average man.
I loved this episode! I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way!
You are DEFINITELY not alone!!! Thank you! 💗
Yup..this chic is bomb😊
All facts !! I hear no lies 😌. Love this Asha !
Asha need to be on TV 😂
From your mouth to Gods ears 🥰
women say this then date the unemployed crack head they met at the bar because "he's fun", face it, a man who is working 12-15 hours a day, has a job and a business, focuses free time on his appearance, building his home, taking care of errands, hes not FUN, hes not EXCITING, hes too BUSY... does not matter if hes got it all... he has little time to spare....
OMG thank you for the education on staying at home, I've felt so much pressure to move into my own apartment especially now that I own a business. I'm only 18 yrs old tho and you know what? I don't care how much I make I'm staying my behind in my mama's house period
Now you are ahead of the curve!!!! Wow!!! Great mindset and you’re only 18! I know the pressure is huge at 18 because it seems like that’s just what you do! And that is not true! I’m proud of you!!!
It sounds like this is a personal rant that should’ve been sent directly to the subject instead of hopping on UA-cam sounding superficial 🌚💀💀💀💀
Asha I’ve always loved you because of how similar our values are, you’re my bestie in my head. I’ve never been the type to just date and keep dating, I’ve always been very intentional. Any man im talking to is for the purpose of marriage. I’m not trying to play any games. I know who I am and the value I add to a man so my man needs to know what his role as “ my husband “ is!!!!
Awwww thank you so much!!!!! I agree with thissss🥰
@@AshaChristinaFoster Keep doing the great work and staying consistent in your views, we appreciate you.
Asha, I'm tired, truly. We can talk about adjusting our mindset and focusing our energy on only those who deserve it. But the fact still stands that there is a huge lack of *good* potential partners out there. I've yet to meet someone worthy of my commitment, ever. If God says my time isn't now that's fine, but I'm tired and done with holding out hope. For my mental peace I've given up, I will no longer subject myself to the chaos of wondering "why not me?" when it's others who can't see my value. Even though I've never been in a relationship, I'll happily take that over what I've seen other people go through. My womb, heart and bank account are intact 😭😂
I really needed this today!! You said everything I was thinking!!❤
There’s a book you may have heard of by Richard Reeves called Of Boys and Men. It’s about the circumstances many males face today-educationally, economically, romantically. The economy and family structure are typically tied together. I agree that women should pursue partners that can provide for the household. But our economic realities are evolving today.
I’m 28 and learned everything I needed to this year. I dumped my dusty 8 months ago and I am not settling for anything less than a nice provider husband who is emotionally intelligent and aggressively faithful.
I’m not letting no man get me pregnant and keep me without adding value to my life
Sorry but to be completely honest. As a man who makes six figures. Watching this is exactly what most men who make that type of money do not want. It's the attitude, the lack of emotional commitment. No man with self respect would be open to dating a woman who 3 years ago sees him as a nobody, but now that he has made something of himself consider you, when he has way more options now. Also, women need to focus less on economic wants and more on economic needs and family needs. No serious guy wants a woman who is living a "soft girl era" you should be a wonderful woman as default. Being something else is just you faking it.
Men do not want a woman saying things like "What we're not gonna do is___" not soft at all. We just want down to earth women who are not snobby who values a man who works hard FOR THEM and cherishes that emotionally. No one knows where and what will happen in the world, this guy could go from millionaire banker to broke after a recession, why look for a wife who is planning to leave in such an event? Sorry not interested.
the man doesn't have to have to make six figures to be a provider. he just needs to be able to provide the necessities for the family such as a home (which can be rented instead of bought), food, clothes, healthcare, and education for the children. many single mothers are capable of doing these on their own. so when a man cannot even provide those for the family, why is he marrying anyone? what exactly will be his contribution to the family?
when a broke woman gets married to a provider, usually she would still contribute a lot, by being emotionally empathetic and kind, and by taking care of the house and kids. but when it's the other way around, the man usually contributes absolutely nothing. not money, not being kind emotionally to the wife, not doing house chores, not caring for the children. nothing. absolutely nothing except exhaustion, headache, and sadness. plus, violence and trauma in many cases. and these men are usually smooth talkers who promise a lot and deliver very little.
so what do you expect? how do you expect women to know which is which? how do you expect any sane woman to be able to have an emotional connection to a man who is not a provider when we now know that a man who cannot provide is a more dangerous bet? expecting a woman to be 'wonderful' no matter what is akin to demanding her to not have any self-respect, to be okay to be with someone whom she cannot even rely on, and waiting on him forever disregarding her own life and her own want. you, yourself, won't do that. you, yourself won't choose a potential beauty and kind, you would choose a confirmed beauty and kind. you, yourself, won't be 'wonderful' to everyone. yet, you have all these expectations for someone else? why?
so, yeah. not a good look on you, buddy. not even if you're a six-figure man. it reeks of entitlement and unrealistic expectations that many women nowadays no longer want to deal with.
So find you man and be happy sir.
@@namena7300 You're trying to be funny but unfortunately you're not 🤡
@@foreduca8099 nothing about what I said was funny. I meant every word.
@@namena7300 1. No one was speaking about homosexuality. Learn to stay on topic then. 2. You guys love to virtue signal and act as though you are accepting of homosexuality but then try to use it as an insult for men. Questionable morals. 3. I have no interest in men and I actually have genuine love and respect for decent women. So I think that is probably a better prescription if you actually wanted to give solutions and have a meaningful conversation. So instead, I'll find myself a peaceful, loving, respectful woman, who can love and care for me in the same way I will do for them. Thanks and stay blessed.
Love & appreciate your authenticity and advice 🙏✝
Awww thank you🥰
It’s true, Asha has this unique mix of being classy but blunt, to convince us to make better choices! I love it😂
YES PLEASE, THANKYOU!!!❤❤❤
As a 38 year old millionaire, if you're not a sweet personality, humble, intelligent virgin? Forget about me taking care of you
That pink is pretty with your undertones.
Awww thank you 🥰
I loved my home economics class - although we took it in highschool and it’s been waning since then
If you're a bum/you don't have a job or you lie to me about having one I'll be like thank you who's next?! If you're a man saying, "oh women are just materialistic." No. Having a job is part of being an adult and if you can't even handle that then you shouldn't even be dating in general. I'm not going to date you. Plain and simple. 💯
ASAP Rocky be like.....I meant🤭
I have one more question. How to date successful busy guys with multiple businesses. I don't know but thats the only kind of guys that I have been on dates or relationships with .They are always busy and hence it is difficult to form a bond with them . But in the beginning they are great and hence you give them a chance but later on they are very busy which is true . But I won't be able to form a connection with a guy that I cant talk to peacefully every other day .
Keep yourself busy too
She got on here like Leonidas from 300 "Give them nothing, but take from them everything!" 😂
THE PART ABOUT KNOCKING YOU UP FOR CONTROL💯 GIRL! This happened to me. While I’m happy to have my son, my ex got me pregnant twice in 2020 (1st one was a miscarriage), after I told him I did not want kids for years. He was purposely not careful. He had a pattern of this with other women, but I was too blind to see it. Idk who that girl was, thank God I’ve gotten smarter. He was VERY controlling, even told me his friend would knock up his wife any time he felt “insecure” when she got her body back. Little did I know, he was referring to himself😂 ladies learn from me. I left him due to the control. He treated me like property, the things he’d say was dehumanizing. (Side note: I know it’s partially my fault for sleeping with him)
Thank you so much for sharing your story. And the accountability is appreciated, listen hind site is 20/20 for a reason I know it’s not easy! But sharing this will help someone. And this also verified my suspicion!
No woman deserve to be provided for if they’re not going to be beneficial to the provider
say it louder for the women in the back!!!
Asha, I would love to hear your thoughts about the pressure of being in your 20s and never having been in a serious relationship, and how to not settle
It was the being a mother is full time job so yeah! For me 4:10
As a married father of three teenagers I fully agree with this. Only thing is my wife has a job but she works from home. A man will move heaven and earth for the woman he loves. If theres any struggle at all a man who loves will do whatever he can to eliminate it. Remember that.
FACTS!!! I love how she talks and her expressions !!!!! 😂❤
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Has it occurred to anyone that men 'test' you? They may take you to coffee or a low budget restaurant to see how you respond? To see if you like him or just want a free meal? Guys protect themselves too ya know? 😮
That’s a smart move for them to make. Dates don’t equate to marriage so he can take her to McDonald’s If he wants to because if he’s not husband material he’s not going to end up with her anyway.
Plus if he’s still naive enough to think that where he takes, the woman on a date is enough to tell who she is, how she feels about him et cetera then I think we have a different problem
The push for independent women pushed us to see 50/50 as okay cuz it meant we can provide just like our man. Cooking is a lost art cuz we were pushed to not cook for a man. I know I was. I am now learning to cook and my food comes out good. It makes me happy😊!!! The things they said we shoildnt be proud of are the things that make me proud. These jobs are so draining and dont care aboit us so why put so much importance on it. Men need to provide!
You could be a professional cook and provide for yourself if it really makes ya happy.
When it comes to the “soft life” I feel like content creators don’t mention how to care/ support your husband within this lifestyle.
They’re just telling the audience what they want to hear. Not what needs to be done. She’s telling them about what they should be attaining and not what they should be doing to attain.
I can relate to home ec.But I also know the cost of living it's 50 / 50 .For some of us who has been already been married.Were not in a rush .living separately and dating works for me.I was a single divorced mom and did all that successfully.Worked and have 3 adult children.However,I do like the home based business part financial independence is important
I love love love video,s like this❤they give me free game on how to weed out gold diggers and women who have nothing to offer me in a relationship. Thank you so mutch for your free game❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️kings stop dating broke women if a woman feels like her having a job is being in her masculline she,s not the one for you
women keeping women single
Clown men keep clowning
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Honestly they cut out Home Ed and Parents (who are now Millennial) are not raising their kids to be traditional more than being freeformed and maybe a bit chaotic so now kids I feel coming up and Gen z are not as equipped and hyper independent.
This is the very first video I’ve watched by you & let me just say I love your delivery throughout this whole video😂😂💗 speaking facts
I love you Asha and have been a sub for a while but this particular message had a few sweeping statements that were a bit off to me. “No woman on this earth wants to work” “yes you can have your little side business but you can’t run a home or a family the way you want to if you’re worried about paying your half of the bills”. I totally get the trad wife perspective but we have to be careful that we’re not regressing. I think more nuance needs to be applied here. I also think that the resurgence of the trad wife mode of feminity is happening in a time of financial and economic crisis and uncertainty whereas the feminist revolution from the 50s house wife to free love in the 60s was driven by a time of prosperity, peace and optimism. In other words, trad wife will not seem so appealing to bright young women when the times change and the world feels safe again.
asha is the only person that says "women" the way it's spelled, it's actually pretty awesome
😂😂😂 thank you
Work and finances in 2024. A relationship is not a good investment. Giving attention in 2024 is annoying ♻️😌
hair!!! I loooove how you’ve been serving looks in this era! It’s giving!! Love your shirt too babe 💚💚💚💚💚💚💌💌💌💌💌💌 Asha you are GLOWING BABE! 😘
I’m not here to disagree with any points or make moral judgements. Just here to say that some of the views expressed are what encourage men to think they can “buy” women and it actually doesn’t help us develop into whole men and probably doesn’t do well for some women either. Everyone is entitled to a view point just please beware of allowing capitalism to be the sole dictator of one’s worth. Status and Value aren’t the same.
This gives me a fresh perspective as a young lady who has began dating
Good luck its not the fifties and traditional men are not fond of marrying 304s
Yessss to the NO cohabitation!! I don’t wanna play house!!
Right sick of the cos play! 😂
Heavy on ‘you’re not getting an award. Focus on Yeshua!’ ❤
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Yep I did the wrong way, met in school so both had no money. So he’s like more like a roommate 😢
“Why are we playing pretend?” Amen to that…why buy the cow if the milk is free. ❤❤
Bingo
Aman girl, I’ve been saying this for year and getting looked at like I’m crazy.
1 Timothy 5:8-But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
Yessss💕
What is your opinion if you’re married but don’t have any children? Should the finances be 50/50 in this scenario? Just curious.
In my humble opinion 50/50 is for friends and roommates. If you provide more than what you would provide for just anyone, then so should they.
Great content!
All of this! Nothing less! & I love your soft makeup look. Very pretty.
Awwww thank you so much 🥰🥰🥰🥹
Yes, this happened to me twice.
New Subscriber ! I love your videos and your advice ! Thank you!
Awwwww welcome to the A team thank youuuuu🥰🥰🥰
Ohh Baby, I love your contents. You energy is so powerful!
Loving the ponytail bae you look so cute and youthful.
Aww thank you 🥰
Imagine having to listen to this every day after work
Thank you for this video!! Strictly providers ALL 2024.
Glad it was helpful!
THIS WAS NEEDED THANK YOU❤
You are so welcome!!🤍🤍
When Asha said don’t get mad at me for living the life of my dreams 🎉