I would add that if you do know dinner etiquette, but you are in a dinner that most people aren't following it (for some reason), don't use your knowledge as an excuse to be superior and correct everybody and be "that guy". The way I see it, etiquette is about creating a relaxed, clean and orderly ambiance, not stiffing everyone up.
That is very true! In this particular situation as well, one could say that you would have the *subtle* advantage if you were to just casually use the basic dining etiquette while everyone is not. When no one else is & only you are (As well as minding your own business lol) you may be seen as even more respectable in a way.
@@noahwiththehardr5787 It's a waste of energy trying to change people. Just make that the last time with them. If not possible, create the maximum distance so you won't be seen as a bird if feather with the ignoramus.
Straight to the point. 100% western standard etiquette in five minutes. Last rule (to the host): never correct others in table manners. Thank you for this useful video!
What an informative and funny piece this video is. I'll be attending a wedding in several weeks and it's great to get a refresher for a setting like that. Thanks, Art of Manliness!
Watching this video is never enough. So grateful that my parents taught me this, sometime even harshly. But now I can really see the difference when I attend some dinners.
Excellent as always gents, you managed to distill lessons learnt from all the family meals of my childhood into a really useful video. Thankyou kindly for sharing it.
Thank you for the video! Though I was forced to have proper table manners, there are quite a few tips in here, and I'll be the first to admit that a reminder now and again is very nice. I especially appreciate the table setting one. I always forget how to set one.
I was brought up by a Southern mother and father, one thing I have noticed is good table manners and respect for a host/hostess are a major turn on for Northern girls. By the way, is the necktie completely dead? One makes me feel more adult and manly.
This is SO brilliant! Thanks, you guys! I will be sharing it with my friends. It's great for anyone, both male and female! Some of us were not raised with proper table manners! lol So it's extremely helpful. Especially the part about setting up the knives and forks properly. I never did understand that! (And I'm a girl!)
Great video. But the dining set up needs some editing. The smallest fork is a cocktail fork, then the salad fork, then dinner fork. The dessert fork & spoon (or the spoon for coffee) is located above the plate.
Good point. I was the same, we had a more rounded soup spoon as well. I guess there are versions that are longer tipped? That or they didn't have any soup spoons on the day :P
I always love watching these little things because although it's obvious it helps me pick up on a bad habit. Also I laughed at 4:20 position. Not a man yet 😂
I was told back in the day, if one were to excuse yourself to the restroom, he/she should leave the napkin on the chair. However if you're finished with your meal and were to leave, you put it on the table.
in fact, the proper way for the drinker/user) is to hold them at the stem too. For two reasons: You won't warm the wine with your fingers... and it doesn't leave greasy stains (aesthetic) on the glass. (at least that's the European etiquette)
Hate when people try to take something from my plate and eat it. I growl at first and if he/she keeps doing it, i make a shift bite at their finger. I also keep face above plate to show dominace. Good video though.
Nice video! It should be shown in schools (and universities)! Although the "good guy" puts his napkin to the right hand side of the plate (around 3:10), while the narrator says it should be placed on the left. Which is the correct side? For flyroscoefly - wine glasses are held by the stem by butlers or catering staff, but if you are drinking, then you can hold the glass however you want to, at least that's what I think. Many thanks!
One should think. The younger generation might not watch but would beneficial. After all they have a short attention span. Maybe that is why it was under 10 minutes. Wonder if simple logic enters their little grey cells that this could be a good educational tool. Time will tell.
A not so quick question: I am used to use my fork right handed and knife left handed (as we call it 'eating like a left handed person') and many people makes remark of it, but only a few did call it 'wrong' or 'just like a farmer' or 'disrespectful'. But on the other hand, I do eat with my mouth closed, and know how to lay my silverware to signal that I'm still eating or if I'm finished. I at least taste what they serve and if it is something that I don't like such as Brussels sprouts, I will not say it unless they ask why I didn't eat much (I know that it is more polite to say you are just not that hungry, but on the other hand I think that in the long run it can be better to be honest so that that situation won't happen again). I also would not except that they would look for something else for me to eat, I would just deal with it myself, it is not their fault that I don't like certain food, that is my 'fault'. I would never binge eat dessert if the food was not to my liking. Long story short: I know the basic étique but I am used to take my cutlery the other way around, and only for that last bit there are people who say I am eating like a peasant/farmer and know zero étique. While some of them eat with mouth open, or speak while eating, which in my eyes is worse than taking cutlery the other way around. For me it feels like saying to a left handed person that he should only write with his right hand, as respect for other people and such, it is ridiculous that they would critic it. As a host I always ask if there are things that people don't like, to avoid the 'I don't like that'-awkward situation. Why would people bitch about me using my cutlery the other way around, while they are less civilized on other aspects (which I don't tend to bitch about) than me, why is it that big of a deal? I tried many times to use my cutlery on the standard manner, but that does end up messy many times. Why is that such a big deal for many people?
I definitely will be using these rules because every time I go to a restaurant the waiter seems to grab my plate without asking if I was finished with it. so i will start placing my fork in my plate.
The order of forks is wrong: from left to right, cocktail fork (as in crab or shrimp cocktail), salad fork and dinner fork. The fork at the top of the plate (head to toe with spoon) is the dessert fork.
There is a hotel in Pluto and you can stop on the way in Mars were there are some mines I'm sure there are some people that will help.. We are in the Milky Way Galaxy. Good Luck.
0:30 Conveying the idea of the old days with an old school telephone and a mac book in the same shot lool. It's grainy black and white so it doesnt matter.
Ok, constant issue I run up against. Spicy food/allergies can get the nose running. Discreetly dab nose at the table or get up every 3 minutes to go to the bathroom and blow it?
Professional military dining courtesies say to wait until the head of the mess (person who is organizing/hosting the meal) begins to eat before eating yourself.
What do you do with the silverware in between courses? It seems rude to set them on the table cloth after eating in case it has some viscous residue on it that that could stain the table cloth and you couldn't get off with a single tonguing and you don't want to sit there licking the utensil with excessive force. Similarly with plates. Do they put the desert on the dinner plate? Because what if the residual dinner juices got on to the desert? That seems gross. And is holding out a chair for a date still a socially acceptable thing?
Thank you very much. Although I have one question: I was brought up where when you are done eating you do that with your fork and knife but you turn your fork over so the prongs are on the plate. Is this correct or does it matter as long as they are in a similar position?
I would add that if you do know dinner etiquette, but you are in a dinner that most people aren't following it (for some reason), don't use your knowledge as an excuse to be superior and correct everybody and be "that guy". The way I see it, etiquette is about creating a relaxed, clean and orderly ambiance, not stiffing everyone up.
That is very true! In this particular situation as well, one could say that you would have the *subtle* advantage if you were to just casually use the basic dining etiquette while everyone is not. When no one else is & only you are (As well as minding your own business lol) you may be seen as even more respectable in a way.
@@Tarsibu Right. The first rule of good manners is don't correct other people's manners.
@@olive3700 true but if your being ignorant at the table is it really that bad to correct them
@@noahwiththehardr5787 It's a waste of energy trying to change people. Just make that the last time with them. If not possible, create the maximum distance so you won't be seen as a bird if feather with the ignoramus.
"place cutlery in the 420 position" this will indicate to your host that it is time for a post-dinner joint
😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Straight to the point. 100% western standard etiquette in five minutes.
Last rule (to the host): never correct others in table manners.
Thank you for this useful video!
Agreed. Just never invite them again.
Don't forget to wipe your mouth before drinking to prevent floaters in the glass. Love the videos. Im afraid this is becoming a lost art.
the female partner of the sophisticated man is soooooooo cute.
you mean gorgeous ;) :)
gbtrac her name is Christine Tucker.
Sophisticated is such a big word.
What an informative and funny piece this video is. I'll be attending a wedding in several weeks and it's great to get a refresher for a setting like that. Thanks, Art of Manliness!
I love the narrator's voice
I dont, and its none of your business. Do not reply.
+de Bunnies What's your problem?
FluttershyAndPosey i dont have any problem. Ok , thats it.
Amen
Thanks for this! It's amazing how many people have no idea how to behave politely toward others at the dinner table.
these actors are amazing, especially that hat guy
very helpful video for personal or instructional learning on table manners. Good manners reflect one's character or up-bringing
Once the host starts eating, then you eat. That’s what I was taught.
True
Same here, but a majority of the time the host asks the others to go ahead first. (I always do as the host asks)
Watching this video is never enough.
So grateful that my parents taught me this, sometime even harshly. But now I can really see the difference when I attend some dinners.
Great job on the video I had learned this from my parents at a young age thanks😊
Good video.
Excellent as always gents, you managed to distill lessons learnt from all the family meals of my childhood into a really useful video. Thankyou kindly for sharing it.
Well done.
Excellent video gentlemen! I'm really glad I subscribed to your channel
Thank you for the video! Though I was forced to have proper table manners, there are quite a few tips in here, and I'll be the first to admit that a reminder now and again is very nice. I especially appreciate the table setting one. I always forget how to set one.
I was brought up by a Southern mother and father, one thing I have noticed is good table manners and respect for a host/hostess are a major turn on for Northern girls. By the way, is the necktie completely dead? One makes me feel more adult and manly.
This is SO brilliant! Thanks, you guys! I will be sharing it with my friends. It's great for anyone, both male and female! Some of us were not raised with proper table manners! lol So it's extremely helpful. Especially the part about setting up the knives and forks properly. I never did understand that! (And I'm a girl!)
Great video. But the dining set up needs some editing.
The smallest fork is a cocktail fork, then the salad fork, then dinner fork. The dessert fork & spoon (or the spoon for coffee) is located above the plate.
What are the two spoons on the right then? Dinner spoon? Other? And which is which?
@@idwtbam Soup spoon?
I don't know why my school blocked this, so I'm watching this on my personal account.
This is wonderful! I think this was fantastic and included practical advice with a nice tone of humor, thank you!
Good point. I was the same, we had a more rounded soup spoon as well. I guess there are versions that are longer tipped? That or they didn't have any soup spoons on the day :P
I always love watching these little things because although it's obvious it helps me pick up on a bad habit.
Also I laughed at 4:20 position. Not a man yet 😂
I was told back in the day, if one were to excuse yourself to the restroom, he/she should leave the napkin on the chair. However if you're finished with your meal and were to leave, you put it on the table.
The guy with a cap is the best actor!
The "small gift" part will go a long way, especially if you're going to a college party and want to build a connection with the people there.
Surely you wait until everyone is served and hosts seated before you commence eating? unless specifically stated by hosts that you can start
May God bless this channel.
We had a lot of fun putting this little ensemble video together.
in fact, the proper way for the drinker/user) is to hold them at the stem too. For two reasons: You won't warm the wine with your fingers... and it doesn't leave greasy stains (aesthetic) on the glass. (at least that's the European etiquette)
Narrator's voice is smooth like leather and cognac.
This very comical but informative! I enjoyed it very much.
i hated my dad for it at the time but now I'm really glad he forced manners into me from a young age.
I show this video to my Chinese students. (Adults, university and children) they break most of the rules.......
Love the oldie sure goldie music
The man with the hat on is hilarious 🤣
4:30 confused face saying "should i be glad for the good guest this evening or the departure of the bad guest"
I wish more people followed these simple rules...
Hate when people try to take something from my plate and eat it. I growl at first and if he/she keeps doing it, i make a shift bite at their finger. I also keep face above plate to show dominace.
Good video though.
I've never had anyone take food from my plate. If that were to ever happen to me, I would argue with the rude person. I would also embarrass them
So glad their are stoners who watch these videos or I wouldn't think twice about him saying the 420 position.
Nice video! It should be shown in schools (and universities)! Although the "good guy" puts his napkin to the right hand side of the plate (around 3:10), while the narrator says it should be placed on the left. Which is the correct side? For flyroscoefly - wine glasses are held by the stem by butlers or catering staff, but if you are drinking, then you can hold the glass however you want to, at least that's what I think.
Many thanks!
black duck productions actually you hold white wine by the cup and red by the stem, as white is properly served at room temp
One should think. The younger generation might not watch but would beneficial. After all they have a short attention span. Maybe that is why it was under 10 minutes. Wonder if simple logic enters their little grey cells that this could be a good educational tool. Time will tell.
A not so quick question: I am used to use my fork right handed and knife left handed (as we call it 'eating like a left handed person') and many people makes remark of it, but only a few did call it 'wrong' or 'just like a farmer' or 'disrespectful'. But on the other hand, I do eat with my mouth closed, and know how to lay my silverware to signal that I'm still eating or if I'm finished. I at least taste what they serve and if it is something that I don't like such as Brussels sprouts, I will not say it unless they ask why I didn't eat much (I know that it is more polite to say you are just not that hungry, but on the other hand I think that in the long run it can be better to be honest so that that situation won't happen again). I also would not except that they would look for something else for me to eat, I would just deal with it myself, it is not their fault that I don't like certain food, that is my 'fault'. I would never binge eat dessert if the food was not to my liking. Long story short: I know the basic étique but I am used to take my cutlery the other way around, and only for that last bit there are people who say I am eating like a peasant/farmer and know zero étique. While some of them eat with mouth open, or speak while eating, which in my eyes is worse than taking cutlery the other way around. For me it feels like saying to a left handed person that he should only write with his right hand, as respect for other people and such, it is ridiculous that they would critic it. As a host I always ask if there are things that people don't like, to avoid the 'I don't like that'-awkward situation. Why would people bitch about me using my cutlery the other way around, while they are less civilized on other aspects (which I don't tend to bitch about) than me, why is it that big of a deal? I tried many times to use my cutlery on the standard manner, but that does end up messy many times. Why is that such a big deal for many people?
Great information and a well done video. Also, those are nice wine glass, I have the exact same ones.
That would actually be 10:20 position😁
I definitely will be using these rules because every time I go to a restaurant the waiter seems to grab my plate without asking if I was finished with it. so i will start placing my fork in my plate.
This is going to be helpful for my wedding day! Thanks.
some people I know should definitely see this video...
3:58 "these are not your friends" lmao
The order of forks is wrong: from left to right, cocktail fork (as in crab or shrimp cocktail), salad fork and dinner fork. The fork at the top of the plate (head to toe with spoon) is the dessert fork.
This is awesomely classy.
Great! And I was wondering a while ago about dining etiquette. XD
Thanks AoM!
I love your channel man. Keep up the good work!
1:24 A lady never uses her teeth against a fork.
Very good video but I believe that the cocktail fork goes on the right side.
I like that voice over.
It's interesting to see what Marshal Rimmer has been in post-RoosterTeeth.
Remember to always turn your ball cap around backwards so when you dig in for another bite, the bill does not block your face from your guests!
One should not be wearing a cap at all in the first place while dining or when indoors.
Oh man thank god my step father taught me all this
Too early in the morning. 4:20 means 10:20 in Sweden (and a lot of EU countries). Took me embarrassing long time to figure out...
Such a well mannered argument.
Needs more details, some people don't know how to use forks and spoons, which food to eat and what time.
Chosen one they tell at 2:20.
Same, I guess it doesn't matter much as long as you place both your fork and knife close to each other in your plate.
indeed Joey, you're correct
I feel like our culture is much more uncivilized these days. Ive dedicated my life to being a sophisticated mature gentleman
says The anal bandit
The blonde woman, whose is the girlfriend of Dim, is called Lacy Lynn Prince and is the wife of Jordan Crowther, who plays Bill.
There is a hotel in Pluto and you can stop on the way in Mars were there are some mines I'm sure there are some people that will help.. We are in the Milky Way Galaxy. Good Luck.
"place you fork and knife in the 420 position." heck ya blaze it
Antonio Centeno is awesome.
0:30 Conveying the idea of the old days with an old school telephone and a mac book in the same shot lool. It's grainy black and white so it doesnt matter.
I love this channel
Ok, constant issue I run up against. Spicy food/allergies can get the nose running. Discreetly dab nose at the table or get up every 3 minutes to go to the bathroom and blow it?
Avoid foods who could cause it to yourself? Explain why you are refusing the dishes? That is what I would do, at least...
It truly is an art! :)
These videos are awesome!
Professional military dining courtesies say to wait until the head of the mess (person who is organizing/hosting the meal) begins to eat before eating yourself.
Really well done video, I'm impressed.
I'm just want to eat a dinner.
why look like very difficult...
These are the best
Everyone should.
i like the voice over
LMAO!!! The fellow in the hat reminds me of myself :D
It's supposed to be common sense, but I guess it's not.
It's not. It's common knowledge maybe, but I wouldn't say common sense. These are things that need to be taught or observed.
It actually is common sense. You just have to be reminded.
Thank you AoM
Thanks AoM :)
Nicely done, once again.
What do you do with the silverware in between courses? It seems rude to set them on the table cloth after eating in case it has some viscous residue on it that that could stain the table cloth and you couldn't get off with a single tonguing and you don't want to sit there licking the utensil with excessive force. Similarly with plates. Do they put the desert on the dinner plate? Because what if the residual dinner juices got on to the desert? That seems gross.
And is holding out a chair for a date still a socially acceptable thing?
Hey, where's Bill?
Kuncoro Hadi he's there. He was the one that was directing it.
Thank you. Excellent video!
Only George double dips.
Fantastic video!
This should be on T.V
Great Post as always!!
Lol when I'm done i stack the dishes to help the servers out. There is always an organized pile when I'm done.
When you say "dessert fork", are you sure the hand is pointing at the right object? I'm not a specialist but i think it's a mistake.
Thank you, Dear!
Let me add that wine glasses should be held by the stem, not the bowl.
Thank you very much. Although I have one question: I was brought up where when you are done eating you do that with your fork and knife but you turn your fork over so the prongs are on the plate. Is this correct or does it matter as long as they are in a similar position?
Yup, should be.
More please!
2:50 swear i thought he was about to say "like a bitch."
Dinner parities in Australia are nowhere near this posh.
It's almost literally a trough
Thank you.
Very Creative!