I love to, but I spent all my money in her, and right now I'm broke 😔. let me recover financially and then I'll contact you. thank you Susan for all your advices. lots of love from Chile ❤
Experienced divorce lawyer here. I hear all of these issues from most of my divorce clients. If you are dating and experiencing these issues in your relationship, it maybe a good idea to walk away. Do NOT marry this person. Do NOT have children with this person. It will likely be an expensive, lengthy mess to untangle the marriage. Stay safe out there. Take off those rose colored glasses. Communicate your needs. Set boundaries. You can thank me later.
1.Feel like something is off - a shift 2.Communication becomes stilted 3.Grey Rocking - short vague answers - avoiding detail - minimal information shared 4.Physical intimacy is becoming less and intimacy when it does occur becomes less intimate 5.palpable distance- less quality time 6. Secrecy 7. One of both of you are not interested in trying to resolve issues 8. No more laughter or playfulness 9.You are having the same arguments over and over without resolution. 10. Either you or your partner has refused to go to counselling 11. Have trouble seeing your future with them 12. All your efforts feel futile. You have done everything you can but the other person is not making an effort to resolve things.
1 something feels off 2 the communication is stunted 3 feeling excluded from details of the partners life 4 non-existant/rare physical intimacy 5 palpable distance 6 more secrecy than before 7 one or both are not interested in trying 8 there is no more laughter 9 same arguments over and over without resolution 10 one of the partners refuses to enter counseling 11 trouble seeing future 12 all our efforts feel hopeless
When he says you were pushing me off the bed last night, you know it's coming to an end because that just means that when you were trying to get close to him physically, he was physically moving away. After i heard those words, i never ever got back in bed with him. It was literally over for me.
Gosh, I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years now, and it’s been such a tumultuous experience. It’s finally run it’s course, and neither of us is really interested in fixing it. The fight is truly over, and I don’t think it’s a bad place to be, either.
Thank you. Sadly we often only look back and realise these things later down the line and then tell ourselves off that we should have walked away sooner. But I guess we didn’t want to accept we might be right and wanted to to persevere and carry on regardless. That blouse and colour looks great on you
UTubeuzer- thank you for this comment. Can you believe it? All these years on UA-cam and I never hired a technician to assist me? I never worried about SEO. Nor did I worry about thumbnails. Let’s see what happens.
over the past three years, there were appearing one by one in my relationship. Yes, I said "my" because always was me that struggled to maintain the relationship. She did almost nothing to be together 😕
Susan- this really hit home with me. Thank you for this thoughtful video. I Broke up with my guy after 6.5 years with him Long Distance. Waiting for him to come around and want to have a full time live in Relationship with me. It never happened and I got mad and he pulled away / a viscous cycle. 3x i broke up with him and the last time I finally couldn’t take it anymore. I simply said- clearly we want different things. He is a good man and we had a lot of good times together-but he is dealing with a lot of personal issues that became walls for us- as he didn’t take measures to deal with them. The relationship went as far as it could with all those roadblocks. It’s sad but it it was time to let go for both of us . ❤
Great video Susan. You hit the nail on the head.. and yes should have made a break sooner. Living with someone we didn't even really know after all this time is daunting, and the bait and switch.. wow. The partner exposes himself for who they really are a man child complete with tantrums and rages.. and whoa! The loss of all the dreams and "future faking" dreams( it will all be better when..) ..with that person gone, and new person inserted. Working on that, feeling empty as a shell.. know it takes time. and lots of strength. Also the former partner- with ms right now, a life of smoke and mirrors for the house of cards he offers to the next victim. xx to you and Nikka.
Excellent video. Really helpful. I've checked all the boxes. It's good to hear this from you this morning. I didn't know how much I needed it. I've definitely turned over every rock. Every stinkin one! I miss fun and passion so much. They give me life. I gotta find it again. Baby blue looks good on you! Ha ha Happy Tuesday y'all.
Suzy! 😢 oh, no. You checked every box. Well, I’m here for you. As is everyone else on this channel. If you get a chance to tune into the LiveShow on Thursday, please do. Please introduce yourself and let us know how we can support you.
All the signs are there, I know what to do, but it’s so hard to fail again in a relationship. My big red flag was a few weeks ago when I wanted to discuss something that happened in my surroundings and that was very important to me. He said he didn’t want to know anything about that, didn’t want to know about “my shit”. I was so hurt, still hurt. I’m not important to him obviously……… and it was even more hurting as I tell you that my ex partner once said the exact same thing to me, he didn’t want to know anything about my work. Very selfish men.
Susan, I love this video. So much detail in this video and I really appreciate how much you break down your points. In my relationship, my partner in the past has hurt my feelings, there is a lot of things I’m not over. And he always says leave it in the past and he says that I always bring up the past and there’s no point because he can’t change it. But I guess I’m still hurt and have a hard time forgiving. Still working at the relationship but it does hurt. I guess sometimes that kills the moments together. Don’t know how to leave the past in the past I suppose. 😞
Very helpful video Susan! It's interesting about your 3rd scenario where I know a few couples who do that. What do you think of this? My friend calls it "living with an enemy".
As long as they’re staying together, doesn’t stop them from growing individually and having the option to have a romantic life with someone on the outside. There are times that couples stay together for financial reasons. And there are other times that couples stay together because they want the appearance of a family for their children. But if they are truly separate romantically, it is my belief they should separate romantically. And that means if they want to live in the same house, fine. But allow each one to discreetly pursue romantic relationship that fulfills them.
Susan, what do I do if a former romantic interest who pursued me first, then ended it, won’t give me back a momento I gave them? The momento is a piece of jewelry that was originally mine, but I gave it to them as an act of affection. I’ve asked for it twice but they won’t respond. It is not a piece of jewelry I want to part with as it has a strong meaning for me and it’s quite valuable monetarily as well. Is this a power move?
My marriage is dead since 30 years, but we are staying together, without love, without lust. My husband never want to beclose, only sitting in front of the television, wrong choice. Torschlusspanik
I see some of the signs like not communicating as he once did, etc and I have approached it to my partner. He denies it. What do i do ? just wait for everything to crumble?
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I love to, but I spent all my money in her, and right now I'm broke 😔.
let me recover financially and then I'll contact you.
thank you Susan for all your advices. lots of love from Chile ❤
Experienced divorce lawyer here. I hear all of these issues from most of my divorce clients. If you are dating and experiencing these issues in your relationship, it maybe a good idea to walk away. Do NOT marry this person. Do NOT have children with this person. It will likely be an expensive, lengthy mess to untangle the marriage. Stay safe out there. Take off those rose colored glasses. Communicate your needs. Set boundaries. You can thank me later.
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1.Feel like something is off - a shift
2.Communication becomes stilted
3.Grey Rocking - short vague answers - avoiding detail - minimal information shared
4.Physical intimacy is becoming less and intimacy when it does occur becomes less intimate
5.palpable distance- less quality time
6. Secrecy
7. One of both of you are not interested in trying to resolve issues
8. No more laughter or playfulness
9.You are having the same arguments over and over without resolution.
10. Either you or your partner has refused to go to counselling
11. Have trouble seeing your future with them
12. All your efforts feel futile. You have done everything you can but the other person is not making an effort to resolve things.
The fact that this can also apply to to not only committed relationships but friendships as well.
1 something feels off
2 the communication is stunted
3 feeling excluded from details of the partners life
4 non-existant/rare physical intimacy
5 palpable distance
6 more secrecy than before
7 one or both are not interested in trying
8 there is no more laughter
9 same arguments over and over without resolution
10 one of the partners refuses to enter counseling
11 trouble seeing future
12 all our efforts feel hopeless
When he says you were pushing me off the bed last night, you know it's coming to an end because that just means that when you were trying to get close to him physically, he was physically moving away. After i heard those words, i never ever got back in bed with him. It was literally over for me.
Gosh, I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years now, and it’s been such a tumultuous experience. It’s finally run it’s course, and neither of us is really interested in fixing it. The fight is truly over, and I don’t think it’s a bad place to be, either.
Thank you. Sadly we often only look back and realise these things later down the line and then tell ourselves off that we should have walked away sooner. But I guess we didn’t want to accept we might be right and wanted to to persevere and carry on regardless. That blouse and colour looks great on you
Terrific commentary. Thank you so much for your share and your perspective. And also thank you for the compliment
Awesome video, I hope the redesign gets you more clicks, everyone should be exposed to your very large collection of knowledge.
UTubeuzer- thank you for this comment. Can you believe it? All these years on UA-cam and I never hired a technician to assist me? I never worried about SEO. Nor did I worry about thumbnails. Let’s see what happens.
over the past three years, there were appearing one by one in my relationship. Yes, I said "my" because always was me that struggled to maintain the relationship.
She did almost nothing to be together 😕
Thanks for this Susan ! Please do more like this one ❤ After 23 years of marriage you hit it right on the nose … thank you 😊
Will do!!!❤❤
Susan- this really hit home with me. Thank you for this thoughtful video. I Broke up with my guy after 6.5 years with him Long Distance. Waiting for him to come around and want to have a full time live in Relationship with me. It never happened and I got mad and he pulled away / a viscous cycle. 3x i broke up with him and the last time I finally couldn’t take it anymore. I simply said- clearly we want different things. He is a good man and we had a lot of good times together-but he is dealing with a lot of personal issues that became walls for us- as he didn’t take measures to deal with them. The relationship went as far as it could with all those roadblocks. It’s sad but it it was time to let go for both of us . ❤
Sending Love ❤️…Kate…Are you single?
Great video Susan. You hit the nail on the head.. and yes should have made a break sooner. Living with someone we didn't even really know after all this time is daunting, and the bait and switch.. wow. The partner exposes himself for who they really are a man child complete with tantrums and rages.. and whoa! The loss of all the dreams and "future faking" dreams( it will all be better when..) ..with that person gone, and new person inserted. Working on that, feeling empty as a shell.. know it takes time. and lots of strength. Also the former partner- with ms right now, a life of smoke and mirrors for the house of cards he offers to the next victim.
xx to you and Nikka.
Zen Maiden- Nikka and I send our fur kisses and our hugs to you.
Excellent video. Really helpful. I've checked all the boxes. It's good to hear this from you this morning. I didn't know how much I needed it. I've definitely turned over every rock. Every stinkin one! I miss fun and passion so much. They give me life. I gotta find it again. Baby blue looks good on you! Ha ha Happy Tuesday y'all.
Suzy! 😢 oh, no. You checked every box. Well, I’m here for you. As is everyone else on this channel. If you get a chance to tune into the LiveShow on Thursday, please do. Please introduce yourself and let us know how we can support you.
😢 sadly its all over between me & my boyfriend of 14 months, I think wd both lost Interest in each other in the end 😮
All the signs are there, I know what to do, but it’s so hard to fail again in a relationship. My big red flag was a few weeks ago when I wanted to discuss something that happened in my surroundings and that was very important to me. He said he didn’t want to know anything about that, didn’t want to know about “my shit”. I was so hurt, still hurt. I’m not important to him obviously……… and it was even more hurting as I tell you that my ex partner once said the exact same thing to me, he didn’t want to know anything about my work. Very selfish men.
Sending Love ❤️…Monica. So sorry to hear, How are you doing today?
Susan, I love this video. So much detail in this video and I really appreciate how much you break down your points. In my relationship, my partner in the past has hurt my feelings, there is a lot of things I’m not over. And he always says leave it in the past and he says that I always bring up the past and there’s no point because he can’t change it. But I guess I’m still hurt and have a hard time forgiving. Still working at the relationship but it does hurt. I guess sometimes that kills the moments together. Don’t know how to leave the past in the past I suppose. 😞
Very helpful video Susan! It's interesting about your 3rd scenario where I know a few couples who do that. What do you think of this? My friend calls it "living with an enemy".
As long as they’re staying together, doesn’t stop them from growing individually and having the option to have a romantic life with someone on the outside. There are times that couples stay together for financial reasons. And there are other times that couples stay together because they want the appearance of a family for their children. But if they are truly separate romantically, it is my belief they should separate romantically. And that means if they want to live in the same house, fine. But allow each one to discreetly pursue romantic relationship that fulfills them.
Thank you for this! ❤
You are welcome
Thank you for this.
So happy you liked the video
Susan, what do I do if a former romantic interest who pursued me first, then ended it, won’t give me back a momento I gave them? The momento is a piece of jewelry that was originally mine, but I gave it to them as an act of affection. I’ve asked for it twice but they won’t respond. It is not a piece of jewelry I want to part with as it has a strong meaning for me and it’s quite valuable monetarily as well. Is this a power move?
Asking for the gift back is a power move. Don't give things to people as leashes
You are the best..tx you
My marriage is dead since 30 years, but we are staying together, without love, without lust. My husband never want to beclose, only sitting in front of the television, wrong choice. Torschlusspanik
Sarah- sorry to read this. Do you have Support here.
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Why are you staying with them? I'm happier being single. Done after 34 years
@@31Aldenso easy to just blame someone else isn't it?
Sending love ❤️…Sarah, so sorry to hear this. Do you care to chat?
I see some of the signs like not communicating as he once did, etc and I have approached it to my partner. He denies it. What do i do ? just wait for everything to crumble?
😂 Don't be scared to unplugged.😂
Turquoise really suits you 😊
Thank you! It’s one of my favorite colors!