what if one spouse wants to completely remove sex from the marriage and tells the other “you don’t really need it so it isn’t a big deal” while having an affair. I don’t think she owes me but I expressed it as a desire for closeness and was shot down. I don’t want to sound like she owes me but I am unable to stay in a marriage where my spouse not only refuses to have sex with me but chooses to have sex with others.
Im so sorry to hear that😢 i never would tell anybody to divorce or to retaliate. But in your case i think you should try to talk to her about how your feeling. And if that doesnt work, than you have a really tough decision to make😒 which you the best and ill be praying for God to give you wisdom and to guide you in the path that is his will🙏🕊
@@lidiamurillo9467 Thank you, that’s the most important thing. I feel Ive gotten lost in my desire to save my marriage and while I know God hates divorce, I still need to try to discern his will and his path for me, with or without my wife. Thank you for the prayers.
@@johnsonjj117 Well, obviously her affair is unacceptable, period! As is telling our spouse that a natural and healthy aspect of marriage isn’t necessary and deciding to withhold. I’m guessing there is a lot more going on in the relationship than just this area
@@RelationShots I honestly don’t know. She said she has never been in love with me despite the fact we dated for 8 years before getting married. She’s not sure she wants to put in the effort required to keep romance alive in a 15+ year relationship but still wants to plan out our life because she “loves the life we have built” and “want my cake and to eat it too”. Her words. I just don’t know what to do with someone who says she wants to be here and chooses the marriage every time I tell her to make a decision but then can’t commit to the work required to fix a marriage.
@@johnsonjj117 That’s certainly difficult to be with someone who likes the benefits of the marriage and life you’ve built but isn’t willing to work hard to get back the connection and intimacy with you.
You did not address weponized withholding of sex. Would not a better approach be, if a spouse wants to withhold sex that they should fast and pray until their hearts are right and they want to meet the needs of their spouse? Isnt that Pauls answer to the problem?
@@jchrishackler Paul is not addressing the punitive withholding of sex in this passage but based on the rest of scripture and his writings, I think he would be against the selfishness, the intentional acts done to harm or punish, and the lack of love that would accompany withholding as a weapon
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what if one spouse wants to completely remove sex from the marriage and tells the other “you don’t really need it so it isn’t a big deal” while having an affair. I don’t think she owes me but I expressed it as a desire for closeness and was shot down. I don’t want to sound like she owes me but I am unable to stay in a marriage where my spouse not only refuses to have sex with me but chooses to have sex with others.
Im so sorry to hear that😢 i never would tell anybody to divorce or to retaliate. But in your case i think you should try to talk to her about how your feeling. And if that doesnt work, than you have a really tough decision to make😒 which you the best and ill be praying for God to give you wisdom and to guide you in the path that is his will🙏🕊
@@lidiamurillo9467 Thank you, that’s the most important thing. I feel Ive gotten lost in my desire to save my marriage and while I know God hates divorce, I still need to try to discern his will and his path for me, with or without my wife. Thank you for the prayers.
@@johnsonjj117 Well, obviously her affair is unacceptable, period! As is telling our spouse that a natural and healthy aspect of marriage isn’t necessary and deciding to withhold.
I’m guessing there is a lot more going on in the relationship than just this area
@@RelationShots I honestly don’t know. She said she has never been in love with me despite the fact we dated for 8 years before getting married. She’s not sure she wants to put in the effort required to keep romance alive in a 15+ year relationship but still wants to plan out our life because she “loves the life we have built” and “want my cake and to eat it too”. Her words. I just don’t know what to do with someone who says she wants to be here and chooses the marriage every time I tell her to make a decision but then can’t commit to the work required to fix a marriage.
@@johnsonjj117 That’s certainly difficult to be with someone who likes the benefits of the marriage and life you’ve built but isn’t willing to work hard to get back the connection and intimacy with you.
You did not address weponized withholding of sex. Would not a better approach be, if a spouse wants to withhold sex that they should fast and pray until their hearts are right and they want to meet the needs of their spouse? Isnt that Pauls answer to the problem?
Sorry "Weaponized"
@@jchrishackler Paul is not addressing the punitive withholding of sex in this passage but based on the rest of scripture and his writings, I think he would be against the selfishness, the intentional acts done to harm or punish, and the lack of love that would accompany withholding as a weapon
SO …WHAT DO YOU THINK WILL HAPPEN WHEN WE DISCOVER HE IS HAVING LUST ADDICTION….IN MANY MANY FORMS ???
@@MarinaM-o6p I’m not sure what your asking. Are you saying that giving a husband sex regularly will control a lust issue?