I didn’t go to my son’s wedding 20years ago, still tensions but I will never regret my action. It was a first Saturday and I went to adoration and prayed for them .God will save them through Our Lady’s intervention.
Thank you so much for this! It is so sad that people do not understand what the Holy Church is and what the Sacraments are. I lived so much of my life outside the Holy Church and only became Christian in the year 2000. Now I still get teary when I receive the Holy Eucharist. These are difficult days. Going to weddings outside the faith is difficult indeed. Sad also are unbaptised children.
@@grimreaper1047 with all do respect, fried. It doesn't make it objectively right. Those priests aren't priests. They are on their way out. To go with the flow of society is to follow the blind. Many big deal matters that are approached with the "what's the big deal" is a spineless passive attitude that allows heretical garbage to grow....like a virus.
Matt you are blessed by God for responding to the grace in Gods time your family will join you its like He picked you out of the crowd well come home to His true Church.love you from Sydney Australia.
Excellent Father! I am blessed I never struggled with my daughters getting married Catholic because it was Never an option, I told them "IF they didn't get married Catholic I would not pay for, or attend their Wedding" I held to that and will hold to that for my son also. I only wish I had been more forceful in the spouses being Catholic if I had it to do again I would have said that also. But we can work on the part of the son in law not being Catholic and pray for it too. May God bless and Our Lady of Sorrows, St. Joseph, St. Michael and St. Raphael guide and protect us in the days ahead! Viva Cristo Rey!
@Lacey Brower John 21:25 But there are also many other things which Jesus did; which, if they were written every one, the world itself, I think, would not be able to contain the books that should be written.
@Lacey Brower : I hope what I'm going to share with you here can bring some clarity to your statement. Catholic literally means 'possessing the whole faith'. Before the Lord Jesus Christ ascended into heaven, He gave this command to the apostles: "Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, (meaning the whole world) baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost" Matthew 28:19. It is from this command of Our Lord to teach and to baptize, that the Greek word 'katholikos' came from, because the apostles were told to go out to the whole world and share the fullness of what they had seen and heard when they were with the Lord Jesus. The Church that Jesus established came into being before what we know today as 'the Bible' was compiled. First there was a Church, a community of believers of Christ, who centred their worship on offering the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass, and who used holy writings the Jewish texts as well as the Apostles. Then the bishops who come after the Apostles, decided which holy texts being used at Mass should be compiled into what we know today as the Bible. See this Bible timeline >>> www.catholicbridge.com/catholic/timeline-of-how-the-bible-came.php
@Lacey Brower wow I never saw it that way. Which books are in the Bible? I want to make sure I'm doing it right. Just give me the book, chapter, and verse of the table of contents and I can look it up myself.
@Lacey Brower : tradition and scripture go hand in hand. For example, the tradition to offer the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass was already happening before it was written down as a part of the Bible. When Our Lord Jesus said at the Last Supper He had with his Apostles, "Take eat, this is my body; take drink. This cup is the new covenant in my blood. Do this, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of me” (1 Corinthians 11:23-25)
It is also difficult because so many people are returning to catholic faith. I myself am going through this. It is not somenthing to hard because my mom is very soft and easy goind person, but she is a protestant and my father is "non denominational christian" (which means nothing). But I pray for them, thou I dont pray enough. I feel so weak sometimes and I just dont wanna pray sometimes. God help me
It's a true battle. My family is not catholic, not even chriatian.. they are non believers and many refuse to hear about God. Pray the rosary, it's our weapon in this battle. Mary's heart will triumph.
God Bless You. God hears your prayers & He will take care of all in His time. Pray without ceasing. "Fight the Good Fight; Finish the Course, Keep the Faith." On days when you feel weak, say a perfect (Golden) Hail Mary & try again tomorrow. Great saints went through the same struggles. Remember that. I can't remember the name of one such saint who said when he had great difficulty praying (for any reason), he'd make the Sign of the Cross three times saying, each time: "Blessed Trinity Help Me." & either he was able to continue or he felt at peace & could think more clearly & get rest to "fight another day"
Lacey Brower no, Constantine did not start the Catholic Church. Jesus establish the Catholic Church. Saint Peter was the first Pope. Catholicism is the one religion established by Christ. All the others are heresies/ false religions started because they disagreed with the teachings of the Catholic Church. Where does it say that Constantine started the Catholic Church?
If Protestants truly believed the Bible as they claim to, they would be Catholic. All the Sacraments are there. Especially the Holy Eucharist is presented so clearly, even with the echo of the Protestant rejection of it. They seem to love the Old Testament, the old Covenant, better than the new. They should take heed of what happened to the men and their families who tried to be Priests, like the Levites, the ground opened and swallowed them all. If you truly wish to know and love God, beg mercy and ask for the Grace's to know Truth, attend classes to convert at a Traditional Catholic Church, not a Novus Order Church
Lacey, why do you hate the Catholic Church so much? I will pray for you. Did you know that since You have such a deep hatred of the catholic faith that you cannot say that you love Jesus and follow the Bible.
@Lacey Brower Christ born ~4BC, Christ died ~30AD, NT Mark written ~60-65AD. Sacred Tradition came before Sacred Scripture. If you don't believe this then how can you believe in the Bible handed down by the (Catholic) Church founded by Jesus. BTW, who was Saint Jerome?
Time the truth was spelled out with clarity🙏 I wish all Priests had this courage but sadly too many are wimps trying to weasel out of their responsibilities😭 Pray for huge increase in faithful Priests🙏🙏
If someone wants to understand the catholic faith , read the catechism which will explain the basis for every belief. It is clear,complete and beautiful. Do the work to understand and you will be blessed. And will see the majesty of the Church.
There was no Bible for 400 years after Christ risen and the deaths of the apostles. The Bible was compiled by the Catholic Church during the Council of Carthage in 397 AD
@Lacey Brower you do understand that you just explained protestant thinking, all those that followed Luther, a man, like you said, then are wrong also ? Perhaps you are one of the 4 thumbs down ? Maybe you could interact better with a site that fit in better with ? I am always praying for people like you who are so "in our face" against the one true church of Jesus Christ, us Roman Catholics.
There are so many "wedding venues" out there now that are beautifully crafted and landscaped and make it tempting to have an "outdoor wedding." It's become a big money-maker and that's adding to the division and ignorance.
Amen! So timely this message, thank you Fr for sharing and confirming yet again we do not compromise! Thank you Lord for bringing it up on my feed. There’s only ONE ☝🏽 True Church and that’s the Catholic Church that Jesus Christ established. The Truth, His Truth will set you free indeed! The gifts of our Lords sacraments are for us not against us… “Peace, I leave with you, my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give it to you” John 14:27 … Zero compromise… your reward will be greater in Heaven beloved brothers and sisters, remain strong and steadfast in Him and Holy Mother Church 🫓🍷❤️🔥♥️🙏🏽🕊️
Don Archivo From my perspective it’s not comfortable to call someone step dad or step mom. Calling them their first name is perfectly fine and most comfortable
@Verity Farseer That seems so unfair that you are being put through this. Parents have a responsibility to be a good moral example to their children. Start by praying for them, and going to Mass often, daily if possible. Talk to a priest at a good traditional parish. And pray for the strength that you yourself will be a better example. I spent way too much time looking in the wrong places for answers to the issues in my own dysfunctional family, and my faith has turned out to be the best source. It's the lack of knowledge of the faith, which guides us as to how we are to live and why, that has been the issue all along.
Just attended a wedding outdoors on a ski slope. Female Minister and a dog in the wedding party. I wondered aloud if they'd be sacrificing a virgin but my wife poked me and shut me up.
This literally made me laugh out loud hahaha. I recently attended a wedding of two non-Catholics only because it was about a 2 hour drive from home and I didn’t want my pregnant sister to travel alone (it was her friends). It was a female ‘minister’ and she made some odd references to the trees and the earth being witnesses or some other animist thing. It’s crazy how people do things like this or read horoscopes or “send out positive vibes” or some other nonsense and don’t realize that they’re searching for the Truth in all the wrong places.
@@impasse0124 I had to laugh as well. People also have troubles with saying sth meaningful during funerals, because laymen speakers are being hired as well.
Before I knew Catholic teaching on this, the nicest wedding I'd ever been to was a Catholic marrying a Protestant in a public garden. After I learned the Church's teaching, I asked the Catholic if the marriage had been blessed by the Church, and the answer was, "No, it doesn't have to be. My priest told me we're married and don't need to do anything else. If my [spouse] offers to have the marriage blessed in the Church, that's fine, but it's not necessary." I'm not sure what the priest's counsel really was -- people often hear what they want to hear, and tbh many priests are not skilled in presenting authentic Catholic teaching without hesitation, so they take time to consider their words, which ends up just confusing the parishioner by conveying the message that everything is copacetic. I just wish I had known of this all along. 3 Hail Marys for Fr. Becker
My Orthodox grandmother married a bloke for immigration puposes. She looked around for a better deal, dumped him after she got what she wanted and remarried a better deal in the Orthodox Church. They religiously attended and fasted and prayed. Decades later, after she died, her second "husband" voiced his regret on marrying her.
I am gonna leave this here for those wondering if he or she can or cannot attend a certain wedding. I am just a layman (not a professional in these matters) and assume this list is correct (do note that I do not claim to agree with the "advice" section of the article, however, particularly with reference to mental reservation): www.catholic.com/magazine/print-edition/to-attend-or-not-to-attend
Link not available. But it is a simulation of the sacrament to attend a wedding outside the Church and therefore a sin against the second commandment. It's actually also a sin to attend religious ceremonies that are not Catholic for the same reason
What about protestants who marry each other in their own church? I thought their marriages were at least valid, if not licit. This is because there is no priest required for the sacrament of marriage (as with baptism also), any Christian can perform it, and the bride and groom confer the sacrament on each other. Can someone address this? Would it be sinful for a Catholic to attend such a wedding? We DO acknowledge them as married, do we not? And are Catholics to even acknowledge OTHER weddings that are NOT valid, like marriages following "divorce", and same-sex "marriages"?
@Lacey Brower Where in the Bible (with a "B") does it say anything about Protestantism? St. Paul does command that we not be unequally yoked. It is in the BIBLE.
@Lacey Brower Before Martin Luther, if you were a Christian, you were a Catholic for the most part. So, what do you call yourself, then, Lacy? For myself, I came to realize that there is one true Church and I needed to climb aboard. I grew up Protestant. I am joining the Catholic Church. It helps me to remember that Jesus said that many will say "Lord, Lord" and He will say ," I never knew thee. Depart...".
@Lacey Brower what I notice is the crudeness if your attacks and the eloquence if the Catholic responses. Rethink your path Dear One before it is too late. God does not like people to speak wickedly.
@Lacey Brower Well, God certainly set it up that way. Jesus comes to us through Mary , we go to Him through Mary. She, in Her purity is the bridge to Jesus.
We can go to other religion's weddings. Hindu, Muslim, protestant weddings as long as it's we don't partake in any of their rituals, e. g. Communion etc.. But just being guests at the wedding is fine.
@Lacey Brower but there is something in scripture called adultery. And if people are together outside of the sacrament of marriage... They are committing adultery.
There absolutely is a difference between Catholic marriages and other marriages, AKA civil marriage.... because civil marriage is able to be dissolved. The two are free to become divorced. In Sacramental marriage that freedom doesn't exist.
I´ve heard a teaching of a priest here that the Church considers a matrimony validy, depending on some circustances, even if it is not in the Church, with protestants. And this priest is not a liberal or anything like that. He is a really good priest. I can try to write what he said about it in english (thou is not my native laguage), but now I am a bit confused.
I will try to clear up the confusion. The Catholic Church teaches that marriage between two baptized persons is a sacrament. And of course, baptism is recognized as valid if it is done with the correct form and matter. Form means using the correct words and matter means pouring of the water three times on the person's forehead.
you literally sit in a building and listen to a guy who wantts to have sex with men and kids...and you are worried about going to see a person getting baptised......
If the parents aren't Catholic then you are fine. Baptisms are valid from most Christian denomination. So many churches are not baptizing anymore, very sad.
@@grimreaper1047 you are joking right? The church might get the most press but unfortunately any job that deals with children have this problem. Other churches, schools, ect. The recent issues have been with young men not children...not right but there is a distinction.
@@grimreaper1047 you understand that the Pope is human and that we don't worship him right? Most traditional Catholics are not too happy with a lot of things he has done. The church has lasted 2000 years through many bad Popes. That is how we know The Catholic church is the one true faith....no other human institution could have lasted that long especially with a few bad leaders. Even Jesus choose Judas Iscariot, right?
Yes. If the man and woman were never baptised Catholic, they are not bound by the Church's marriage laws. Non-Catholics validly marry according to the natural law. It is a valid natural law marrige.
@@Wgaither1 Yes, a baby baptised in the Catholic Church is bound by Catholic Church laws. Once someone is baptised in the Catholic Church, they are forever Catholic. It is a very serious thing, which is why the Catholic Church insists on getting the parent's consent for babies to be baptised. It will affect them their whole lives. They will be bound to observe Church laws on marriage. Catholic baptism has consequences that affects a person their whole life. That why priests need to to secure reasonable hope that a baby will be brought up Catholic. A baby baptised in a Protestant church is not Catholic. He wasn't baptised into the Catholic Church, and therefore not bound by Catholic Church law or the Catholic requirements for marriage.
@@Wgaither1 In the case of a baby, the parents given consent for the baby. Being under the age of reason, he cannot consent himself, so consent is given on behalf of the parents. The baby is under the authority of the parents. They have authority over him. Even with a parent's consent, the Church has to insist the baby be brought up Catholic. This is the duty of the parent. To be a Catholic parent, to consent to baptise, and bring up a child in the Catholic faith, is so serious a duty and obligation, that the parent will answer and be held responsible by God, at judgement, for how well a child was raised, treated, and taught by his parents. To have a child, let alone raise a child is already an eternal issue. Water baptism is necessary for salvation, that is what the apostles taught. That is why babies are baptised to begin with. Cleansed from original sin, redeemed, and made a child of God. As long as water is used, touching the skin of the person, with a trinitarian formula, Catholic and Protestants have the same baptism, but what equals membership in the Catholic Church is different. I don't have my theology book in front of me, so I can't go yet into detail why Protestants are not members of the Catholic Church.
@@Wgaither1 If the baby is not in danger of death, people shouldn't be attempting emergency baptisms. That is the role of the Church minister. However, if the Catholic mother or Protestant father use water with the trinity formula, that is a valid baptism. Any person can baptise with water and the correct words.
Father Becker I have been living with my girlfriend for over three years already I did propose to her this past May I was thinking of moving out and moving back again once we get married but my gf/fiance does not want that
@@SensusFidelium I'm glad i got married in the basement of the cook county administration building ... saved my family the effort of boycotting my wedding! It's unfortunate most catholics ignore this ... I come from a family of finger-waggin-right-wingers who are quick with a lecture about liberals who ignore this part of the religion of st. peter.
So, I can marry a divorced protestant or atheist not married in the Church if she converts and we marry as Catholics? She's, by reason, never been truly married, right?
If she and her ex were not baptized at time of their wedding she may also be able to have a Pauline Privilege. This process is quicker than an annulment as two unbaptised at time of wedding is not seen as a valid marriage in the Catholic Church.
@@scott6504 : can you please refrain from ad hominem remarks toward Lacey? Jesus never called anyone names, but rather tried to reveal His truth through teaching and much patience. I hope we can to likewise, and be a little more civil on a Catholic thread.
I wish he would just get to the point. A catholic getting married outside the church commits a mortal sin and if you, as a catholic, attend the wedding or the reception, you also commit a mortal sin. One of the nine ways to be accessory to another's sin: by partaking.
@@spencerwheeler6112 I heard it from my pastor and it's a dogma of the Catholic Church. If a baptized Catholic marries outside of the Church, we, as Catholics cannot attend the wedding. However, to be guilty of committing a mortal sin, the individual must know that attending the marriage is wrong and must have full consent of the will.
@@spencerwheeler6112 You're welcome and good for you! I know that many priests and bishops these days would say that it is alright to attend a baptized Catholic's wedding outside of the church, with the excuse of "not wanting to end relationships" or "not to hurt feelings". But, in attending the wedding, you are publicly showing support for a invalid and scandalous wedding. And even if you only go to the reception, you are celebrating their sin. They will be fornicating in the eyes of the Catholic Church. I hope your issue turns out well. May God bless you and Our Lady of Fatima protect you! Courage!
Father is not correct when he claims that marriages outside the church are necessarily invalid. What is true is that such marriages are not sacramental. There is often still a natural law marriage or a non sacramental Christian marriage.
I disagree. Let's say a non-Catholic marries, divorces, and then converts to Catholicism. The Church will allow them to marry again without an annulment since that person's first marriage was never valid. If marriage is a sacrament, then any marriage outside the Church is by definition invalid as it is non-sacramental. Just as you can't have a "non-sacramental" Eucharist, you can't have a non-sacramental marriage, despite what the secular society may claim.
You disagree on fallacious grounds. "If marriage is a sacrament, then any marriage outside the Church is by definition invalid as it is non-sacramental." That's not true; there is a distinction between invalid and non-sacramental. Abraham and Sarah had a valid marriage that was non-sacramental. St. Joseph and Our Lady had a valid marriage that was non-sacramental. Look up convalidation, natural marriage, etc.
Sure ..True Peace is available only in Christ...and sacred functions in which CHRIST is the basis should be done in Church itself .....else its all against Him....
Getting married outside, very much still in God's creation, does not need to be "fixed". The invalidity claim is not based on anything nearing logic or morality.
@@grimreaper1047 Thus saith you?? Lol 😂 You are you're own pope?! Lol 😂 You're going in circles, you haven't answered my previous questions yet! Too deep for you?? You must be a Pharisee troll. You just here to argue and get attention like a Pharisee!!
you haven't answered my previous questions, so I just have to conclude that you are just a Pharisee troll consumed in hate and ignorance here for attention!
Preaching division is what is wrong with the world ! We are humans and God created all and he created all equal ! So many families are suffering because of religious beliefs. This kind of preaching is why there are so many empty pews in the Catholic Church !
So if you got married in any other church but Catholic your marriage is not valid? So there must be billions going to hell. I was hoping to see my grandparents in heaven, if I make it there. They were godly people. I guess they're in hell.
Certainly it puts a soul at risk of damnation, but we don't know for sure what God's judgement is for any particular soul beyond those of the Saints who are clearly in heaven (and it can also be noted that the Biblical argument that Judas is in hell is quite strong, though I do not believe the Church specifically teaches that he is.)
I thought these other Christian marriages WERE sacramentally valid, since no priest is needed. The bride and groom confer the sacrament upon each other. This is one of only two sacraments that protestants have, the other being baptism.
Marriages between Protestants are valid, but not sacramental (pretty sure that's the teaching). The issue is baptized Catholics who get married outside the Faith.
Whom worships a dead man displayed in vulgarity in the house of the Lord and proclaims this man, their idol, King? Jesus Christ is the Truth and the church has been very Naughty with not teaching the doctrine but selling a dead man hanging m, practicality nude with feminine features, King of Kings. 🤓😆This is going to be epic. 🌹. Get away from me, I came and you knew me not, and being full with the fruit of “their” KNOWledge of good and evil, you will Surely die. 🔥. He that exalts himself higher than his Muslim and gay brother, in the name of Lord and Savior will know Great Suffering by his own hand. They waited in complete, BLIND thirst; and NOW EXACTLY like the Jews, they awaited the second coming of the Savior whom walked among them and they knew him not. Changed the dollar sign and no one noticed, Bible versus...NADA. He’s isn’t a rodeo clown and your not better than anyone for believing in him, he lives in you and you are better to yourself and your GAY Brother Cain. God bless you. In Jesus Christ, the living truth A MEN not Bmen. Hating in Jesus Christ name, is a misguided mistake you will ABSOLUTELY answer for. ❤️
Lacey Brower I follow God, not Satan. The Blessed Virgin Mary is the Queen of Heaven. She is the Mother of God. We love, honor and respect her like we love our earthly family.
@@VivoChristoRey777 i got news for you, mary is not his mother. Jesus is the living word and was with God before Mary was shot out of her dads D into her moms P$$$$
This is so timely for so many faithful Catholics.
I didn’t go to my son’s wedding 20years ago, still tensions but I will never regret my action. It was a first Saturday and I went to adoration and prayed for them .God will save them through Our Lady’s intervention.
Thank you so much for this! It is so sad that people do not understand what the Holy Church is and what the Sacraments are. I lived so much of my life outside the Holy Church and only became Christian in the year 2000. Now I still get teary when I receive the Holy Eucharist. These are difficult days. Going to weddings outside the faith is difficult indeed. Sad also are unbaptised children.
I come not to bring peace, but a SWORD.
I told my twin Sisterno to her Same sex union, as a Devout CATHOLIC, I couldn't do it, or the reception.
Christopher Charles you are very brave . God bless you
God bless you for your fidelity to Our Lord ! ❤️🌹❤️
whats the big deal? your priest are into it....
@@grimreaper1047 with all do respect, fried. It doesn't make it objectively right. Those priests aren't priests. They are on their way out. To go with the flow of society is to follow the blind. Many big deal matters that are approached with the "what's the big deal" is a spineless passive attitude that allows heretical garbage to grow....like a virus.
@@grimreaper1047 the big deal is it is evil and you will go directly to Hell.
I’m in that position of division as so far I’m the only member of my family to convert to the Catholic Faith from Protestantism.
Glory Glory be to God for your conversion!!!
Lacey Brower Jesus established the Catholic Faith.
Me too. There has definitely been some tension. Everyone in my family on both sides are protestant. They truly believe I'm falling away from God.
Matt you are blessed by God for responding to the grace in Gods time your family will join you its like He picked you out of the crowd well come home to His true Church.love you from Sydney Australia.
@@VivoChristoRey777 no he didnt
Excellent Father!
I am blessed I never struggled with my daughters getting married Catholic because it was Never an option, I told them "IF they didn't get married Catholic I would not pay for, or attend their Wedding" I held to that and will hold to that for my son also.
I only wish I had been more forceful in the spouses being Catholic if I had it to do again I would have said that also. But we can work on the part of the son in law not being Catholic and pray for it too.
May God bless and Our Lady of Sorrows, St. Joseph, St. Michael and St. Raphael guide and protect us in the days ahead!
Viva Cristo Rey!
@Lacey Brower John 21:25 But there are also many other things which Jesus did; which, if they were written every one, the world itself, I think, would not be able to contain the books that should be written.
@Lacey Brower I already reported you for spam
@Lacey Brower : I hope what I'm going to share with you here can bring some clarity to your statement. Catholic literally means 'possessing the whole faith'. Before the Lord Jesus Christ ascended into heaven, He gave this command to the apostles:
"Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, (meaning the whole world) baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost" Matthew 28:19. It is from this command of Our Lord to teach and to baptize, that the Greek word 'katholikos' came from, because the apostles were told to go out to the whole world and share the fullness of what they had seen and heard when they were with the Lord Jesus. The Church that Jesus established came into being before what we know today as 'the Bible' was compiled. First there was a Church, a community of believers of Christ, who centred their worship on offering the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass, and who used holy writings the Jewish texts as well as the Apostles. Then the bishops who come after the Apostles, decided which holy texts being used at Mass should be compiled into what we know today as the Bible. See this Bible timeline >>> www.catholicbridge.com/catholic/timeline-of-how-the-bible-came.php
@Lacey Brower wow I never saw it that way. Which books are in the Bible? I want to make sure I'm doing it right. Just give me the book, chapter, and verse of the table of contents and I can look it up myself.
@Lacey Brower : tradition and scripture go hand in hand. For example, the tradition to offer the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass was already happening before it was written down as a part of the Bible. When Our Lord Jesus said at the Last Supper He had with his Apostles, "Take eat, this is my body; take drink. This cup is the new covenant in my blood. Do this, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of me” (1 Corinthians 11:23-25)
It is also difficult because so many people are returning to catholic faith. I myself am going through this. It is not somenthing to hard because my mom is very soft and easy goind person, but she is a protestant and my father is "non denominational christian" (which means nothing). But I pray for them, thou I dont pray enough. I feel so weak sometimes and I just dont wanna pray sometimes. God help me
It's a true battle. My family is not catholic, not even chriatian.. they are non believers and many refuse to hear about God.
Pray the rosary, it's our weapon in this battle.
Mary's heart will triumph.
God Bless You. God hears your prayers & He will take care of all in His time. Pray without ceasing. "Fight the Good Fight; Finish the Course, Keep the Faith." On days when you feel weak, say a perfect (Golden) Hail Mary & try again tomorrow. Great saints went through the same struggles. Remember that. I can't remember the name of one such saint who said when he had great difficulty praying (for any reason), he'd make the Sign of the Cross three times saying, each time: "Blessed Trinity Help Me." & either he was able to continue or he felt at peace & could think more clearly & get rest to "fight another day"
I will offer 3 masses for you so that you get the grace to be strong.
Keep praying. God's timing is not our timing, but with constant prayer, we will be heard.
Keep praying , Invoke St Monica 🙏 and set an example for them to follow with your life. God does not disappoint
Finally a painful but clear teaching on this, thank you. Our Priest gave us multiple answers and we were so confused, He was too.
@@Wgaither1 it is an historical fact that Jesus started the Roman Catholic Church. Do not try to rewrite history to suit your preference.
Anti Catholic rubbish
Lacey Brower no, Constantine did not start the Catholic Church. Jesus establish the Catholic Church. Saint Peter was the first Pope. Catholicism is the one religion established by Christ. All the others are heresies/ false religions started because they disagreed with the teachings of the Catholic Church.
Where does it say that Constantine started the Catholic Church?
If Protestants truly believed the Bible as they claim to, they would be Catholic. All the Sacraments are there. Especially the Holy Eucharist is presented so clearly, even with the echo of the Protestant rejection of it. They seem to love the Old Testament, the old Covenant, better than the new. They should take heed of what happened to the men and their families who tried to be Priests, like the Levites, the ground opened and swallowed them all. If you truly wish to know and love God, beg mercy and ask for the Grace's to know Truth, attend classes to convert at a Traditional Catholic Church, not a Novus Order Church
@Lacey Brower Catholics gave you the Bible. We do not pray " wrong" we pray correctly as Jesus taught us.
Thank you Father for a clear message. .
There is a lot of confusion out there. May God give us the wisdom to understand the scriptures.
Lacey, why do you hate the Catholic Church so much? I will pray for you. Did you know that since You have such a deep hatred of the catholic faith that you cannot say that you love Jesus and follow the Bible.
@Lacey Brower Christ born ~4BC, Christ died ~30AD, NT Mark written ~60-65AD. Sacred Tradition came before Sacred Scripture. If you don't believe this then how can you believe in the Bible handed down by the (Catholic) Church founded by Jesus. BTW, who was Saint Jerome?
@@vmd8057 you keep proving her point, if tradition was before written word.. then these traditions would have scripture to back them up
@@VivoChristoRey777 i dont want a prayer from a pharisee....
@@VivoChristoRey777 also you dont even follow the bible for one, you follow what a priest who molests childre tells you....
In these times we should look to our lady of Good Counsel for guidance. Thank you Fr.
Time the truth was spelled out with clarity🙏
I wish all Priests had this courage but sadly too many are wimps trying to weasel out of their responsibilities😭
Pray for huge increase in faithful Priests🙏🙏
I am so appreciative to hear the truth of our faith and in the teachings of the Church!
If someone wants to understand the catholic faith , read the catechism which will explain the basis for every belief. It is clear,complete and beautiful. Do the work to understand and you will be blessed. And will see the majesty of the Church.
There was no Bible for 400 years after Christ risen and the deaths of the apostles. The Bible was compiled by the Catholic Church during the Council of Carthage in 397 AD
@Lacey Brower you do understand that you just explained protestant thinking, all those that followed Luther, a man, like you said, then are wrong also ?
Perhaps you are one of the 4 thumbs down ?
Maybe you could interact better with a site that fit in better with ?
I am always praying for people like you who are so "in our face" against the one true church of Jesus Christ, us Roman Catholics.
Ed Walter I am praying for Lacey too.
Just get a book on paganism..that should do it
@@VivoChristoRey777 pharisees prayed for attention, just like this comment you are making.
Perfect words! Glory be to God
I now know the truth and will follow it...
Blessed be God, forever 🙏 ♥️
There are so many "wedding venues" out there now that are beautifully crafted and landscaped and make it tempting to have an "outdoor wedding." It's become a big money-maker and that's adding to the division and ignorance.
@@Wgaither1 Weddings pretty much have to be held in Churches.
Thank you! This is indeed timely and helpful.
Amen! So timely this message, thank you Fr for sharing and confirming yet again we do not compromise! Thank you Lord for bringing it up on my feed. There’s only ONE ☝🏽 True Church and that’s the Catholic Church that Jesus Christ established. The Truth, His Truth will set you free indeed! The gifts of our Lords sacraments are for us not against us… “Peace, I leave with you, my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give it to you” John 14:27 … Zero compromise… your reward will be greater in Heaven beloved brothers and sisters, remain strong and steadfast in Him and Holy Mother Church 🫓🍷❤️🔥♥️🙏🏽🕊️
It can apply to other things too. I have friends who are divorced, and living with another man. I cant post "happy for you" I just dont comment.
Mrsandmom5 I see it more often, I truly feel sorry for the children who have to live with this shame
It's sad how so many kids don't have the word "home" in their vocabulary anymore. It's "mom's house" and "dad's house."
Julie Elizabeth they also say the first names of the step parents. It is quite disturbing that today’s society is going like this.
Don Archivo From my perspective it’s not comfortable to call someone step dad or step mom. Calling them their first name is perfectly fine and most comfortable
@Verity Farseer That seems so unfair that you are being put through this. Parents have a responsibility to be a good moral example to their children. Start by praying for them, and going to Mass often, daily if possible. Talk to a priest at a good traditional parish. And pray for the strength that you yourself will be a better example. I spent way too much time looking in the wrong places for answers to the issues in my own dysfunctional family, and my faith has turned out to be the best source. It's the lack of knowledge of the faith, which guides us as to how we are to live and why, that has been the issue all along.
Just attended a wedding outdoors on a ski slope. Female Minister and a dog in the wedding party. I wondered aloud if they'd be sacrificing a virgin but my wife poked me and shut me up.
This literally made me laugh out loud hahaha. I recently attended a wedding of two non-Catholics only because it was about a 2 hour drive from home and I didn’t want my pregnant sister to travel alone (it was her friends). It was a female ‘minister’ and she made some odd references to the trees and the earth being witnesses or some other animist thing. It’s crazy how people do things like this or read horoscopes or “send out positive vibes” or some other nonsense and don’t realize that they’re searching for the Truth in all the wrong places.
@@impasse0124
I had to laugh as well.
People also have troubles with saying sth meaningful during funerals, because laymen speakers are being hired as well.
Thank you father ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
Before I knew Catholic teaching on this, the nicest wedding I'd ever been to was a Catholic marrying a Protestant in a public garden. After I learned the Church's teaching, I asked the Catholic if the marriage had been blessed by the Church, and the answer was, "No, it doesn't have to be. My priest told me we're married and don't need to do anything else. If my [spouse] offers to have the marriage blessed in the Church, that's fine, but it's not necessary." I'm not sure what the priest's counsel really was -- people often hear what they want to hear, and tbh many priests are not skilled in presenting authentic Catholic teaching without hesitation, so they take time to consider their words, which ends up just confusing the parishioner by conveying the message that everything is copacetic. I just wish I had known of this all along.
3 Hail Marys for Fr. Becker
hail marys arent biblical...neither is valid or invalid marriages....read your bible
The Hail Mary is in the Bible in scripture verses.
My Orthodox grandmother married a bloke for immigration puposes. She looked around for a better deal, dumped him after she got what she wanted and remarried a better deal in the Orthodox Church. They religiously attended and fasted and prayed. Decades later, after she died, her second "husband" voiced his regret on marrying her.
Thank you ,for sharing it hits home ..sadly..
So the 2nd marriage is wrong because she already married the 1st one?
We have Bishops just thrilled to attend the ordination of female Lutheran pastors
I am gonna leave this here for those wondering if he or she can or cannot attend a certain wedding. I am just a layman (not a professional in these matters) and assume this list is correct (do note that I do not claim to agree with the "advice" section of the article, however, particularly with reference to mental reservation): www.catholic.com/magazine/print-edition/to-attend-or-not-to-attend
Thanks! I think that covers all situations.
Link not available.
But it is a simulation of the sacrament to attend a wedding outside the Church and therefore a sin against the second commandment. It's actually also a sin to attend religious ceremonies that are not Catholic for the same reason
Pray for our young people. The world is hostile to our faith.
Sensus Fidelium Have you watched the ad on the protein presentation? I don't think you will approve some the images.
What about protestants who marry each other in their own church? I thought their marriages were at least valid, if not licit. This is because there is no priest required for the sacrament of marriage (as with baptism also), any Christian can perform it, and the bride and groom confer the sacrament on each other. Can someone address this? Would it be sinful for a Catholic to attend such a wedding? We DO acknowledge them as married, do we not?
And are Catholics to even acknowledge OTHER weddings that are NOT valid, like marriages following "divorce", and same-sex "marriages"?
@Lacey Brower Where in the Bible (with a "B") does it say anything about Protestantism? St. Paul does command that we not be unequally yoked. It is in the BIBLE.
@@Wgaither1 stupid
@Lacey Brower Before Martin Luther, if you were a Christian, you were a Catholic for the most part. So, what do you call yourself, then, Lacy?
For myself, I came to realize that there is one true Church and I needed to climb aboard. I grew up Protestant. I am joining the Catholic Church. It helps me to remember that Jesus said that many will say "Lord, Lord" and He will say ," I never knew thee. Depart...".
@Lacey Brower what I notice is the crudeness if your attacks and the eloquence if the Catholic responses. Rethink your path Dear One before it is too late. God does not like people to speak wickedly.
@Lacey Brower Well, God certainly set it up that way. Jesus comes to us through Mary , we go to Him through Mary. She, in Her purity is the bridge to Jesus.
What about going to a Protestant wedding? Is that invalid too? Or is it just a Catholic marrying outside the Church is invalid?
@Lacey Brower is right
Kathy K Thanks for this great resource Kathy.
We can go to other religion's weddings. Hindu, Muslim, protestant weddings as long as it's we don't partake in any of their rituals, e. g. Communion etc.. But just being guests at the wedding is fine.
@Lacey Brower but there is something in scripture called adultery. And if people are together outside of the sacrament of marriage... They are committing adultery.
There absolutely is a difference between Catholic marriages and other marriages, AKA civil marriage.... because civil marriage is able to be dissolved. The two are free to become divorced. In Sacramental marriage that freedom doesn't exist.
I´ve heard a teaching of a priest here that the Church considers a matrimony validy, depending on some circustances, even if it is not in the Church, with protestants. And this priest is not a liberal or anything like that. He is a really good priest. I can try to write what he said about it in english (thou is not my native laguage), but now I am a bit confused.
I will try to clear up the confusion. The Catholic Church teaches that marriage between two baptized persons is a sacrament. And of course, baptism is recognized as valid if it is done with the correct form and matter. Form means using the correct words and matter means pouring of the water three times on the person's forehead.
Can I ask for a sermon on Matthew 5:32? Thank You!
what about attending protestant baptisms?
you literally sit in a building and listen to a guy who wantts to have sex with men and kids...and you are worried about going to see a person getting baptised......
If the parents aren't Catholic then you are fine. Baptisms are valid from most Christian denomination. So many churches are not baptizing anymore, very sad.
@@grimreaper1047 you are joking right? The church might get the most press but unfortunately any job that deals with children have this problem. Other churches, schools, ect. The recent issues have been with young men not children...not right but there is a distinction.
@@meganharoldson8785 sure...thats why your pope does nothing about the pedohpiles...thats why you are on the news heathen
@@grimreaper1047 you understand that the Pope is human and that we don't worship him right? Most traditional Catholics are not too happy with a lot of things he has done. The church has lasted 2000 years through many bad Popes. That is how we know The Catholic church is the one true faith....no other human institution could have lasted that long especially with a few bad leaders. Even Jesus choose Judas Iscariot, right?
Im just thinking about this topic 🙏
So is it okay to attend the wedding of a man and woman who were never Catholic?
Yes. If the man and woman were never baptised Catholic, they are not bound by the Church's marriage laws. Non-Catholics validly marry according to the natural law. It is a valid natural law marrige.
@@Wgaither1 Yes, a baby baptised in the Catholic Church is bound by Catholic Church laws. Once someone is baptised in the Catholic Church, they are forever Catholic. It is a very serious thing, which is why the Catholic Church insists on getting the parent's consent for babies to be baptised. It will affect them their whole lives. They will be bound to observe Church laws on marriage. Catholic baptism has consequences that affects a person their whole life. That why priests need to to secure reasonable hope that a baby will be brought up Catholic.
A baby baptised in a Protestant church is not Catholic. He wasn't baptised into the Catholic Church, and therefore not bound by Catholic Church law or the Catholic requirements for marriage.
@@Wgaither1 In the case of a baby, the parents given consent for the baby. Being under the age of reason, he cannot consent himself, so consent is given on behalf of the parents. The baby is under the authority of the parents. They have authority over him. Even with a parent's consent, the Church has to insist the baby be brought up Catholic. This is the duty of the parent. To be a Catholic parent, to consent to baptise, and bring up a child in the Catholic faith, is so serious a duty and obligation, that the parent will answer and be held responsible by God, at judgement, for how well a child was raised, treated, and taught by his parents. To have a child, let alone raise a child is already an eternal issue.
Water baptism is necessary for salvation, that is what the apostles taught. That is why babies are baptised to begin with. Cleansed from original sin, redeemed, and made a child of God. As long as water is used, touching the skin of the person, with a trinitarian formula, Catholic and Protestants have the same baptism, but what equals membership in the Catholic Church is different. I don't have my theology book in front of me, so I can't go yet into detail why Protestants are not members of the Catholic Church.
@@Wgaither1 If the baby is not in danger of death, people shouldn't be attempting emergency baptisms. That is the role of the Church minister. However, if the Catholic mother or Protestant father use water with the trinity formula, that is a valid baptism. Any person can baptise with water and the correct words.
@@Wgaither1 Just to clarify, are you talking about if a Catholic mother baptised her baby by herself? Outside of a church setting without a priest?
What about attending Jewish marriage?
Nope.
So if one Catholic were to marry a Hindu individual with a dispensation from the Bishop, could one attend?
You kind of answered the question with the word “dispensation”
Father Becker I have been living with my girlfriend for over three years already I did propose to her this past May I was thinking of moving out and moving back again once we get married but my gf/fiance does not want that
You need to make a decision my friend. Who do you want to serve?
What if the relative is not Catholic such as my cousin and her husband? Neither of them are Catholic, can I attend that wedding?
Maria yep no problem then... except that they aren’t catholic and conversion is needed
He will separate the sheep from the goats according to Matthew 25
around 6:40 he explains perfectly why I no longer find the Catholic Church to represent of honestly follow the true living Lord
What about a Catholic going to a non-Catholic's third wedding at a restaurant?
It's a sin
I wish I were a better witness
Fr. *Daniel* Becker, Diocese of Worcester?
I don't think so, it doesn't sound like him.
this is a heavy one
Give it a break padre!
Why? Truthful
@@SensusFidelium I'm glad i got married in the basement of the cook county administration building ... saved my family the effort of boycotting my wedding! It's unfortunate most catholics ignore this ... I come from a family of finger-waggin-right-wingers who are quick with a lecture about liberals who ignore this part of the religion of st. peter.
So, I can marry a divorced protestant or atheist not married in the Church if she converts and we marry as Catholics? She's, by reason, never been truly married, right?
@Lacey Brower Hey idiot. Can you define Catholic past that low brow? Yes, yes. We know you're a bigot.
No she was married. She would need to get an annulment from your diocese
@@beckyrosales1591 That sounds right to me. But I'm just a layman.
If she and her ex were not baptized at time of their wedding she may also be able to have a Pauline Privilege. This process is quicker than an annulment as two unbaptised at time of wedding is not seen as a valid marriage in the Catholic Church.
@@scott6504 : can you please refrain from ad hominem remarks toward Lacey? Jesus never called anyone names, but rather tried to reveal His truth through teaching and much patience. I hope we can to likewise, and be a little more civil on a Catholic thread.
I wish he would just get to the point. A catholic getting married outside the church commits a mortal sin and if you, as a catholic, attend the wedding or the reception, you also commit a mortal sin. One of the nine ways to be accessory to another's sin: by partaking.
Where can I find this teaching?
@@spencerwheeler6112 I heard it from my pastor and it's a dogma of the Catholic Church. If a baptized Catholic marries outside of the Church, we, as Catholics cannot attend the wedding. However, to be guilty of committing a mortal sin, the individual must know that attending the marriage is wrong and must have full consent of the will.
Thank you. I'm dealing with this issue and already have expressed I can't attend but want to have the information
@@spencerwheeler6112 You're welcome and good for you! I know that many priests and bishops these days would say that it is alright to attend a baptized Catholic's wedding outside of the church, with the excuse of "not wanting to end relationships" or "not to hurt feelings". But, in attending the wedding, you are publicly showing support for a invalid and scandalous wedding. And even if you only go to the reception, you are celebrating their sin. They will be fornicating in the eyes of the Catholic Church. I hope your issue turns out well. May God bless you and Our Lady of Fatima protect you! Courage!
Jesus attended non Catholic weddings. As did Mary and Joseph. As did pretty much anyone in the Old Testament.
People will be too scared to get married
There is division in the Catholic church, tackle that issue.
Father is not correct when he claims that marriages outside the church are necessarily invalid. What is true is that such marriages are not sacramental. There is often still a natural law marriage or a non sacramental Christian marriage.
I disagree. Let's say a non-Catholic marries, divorces, and then converts to Catholicism. The Church will allow them to marry again without an annulment since that person's first marriage was never valid. If marriage is a sacrament, then any marriage outside the Church is by definition invalid as it is non-sacramental. Just as you can't have a "non-sacramental" Eucharist, you can't have a non-sacramental marriage, despite what the secular society may claim.
You disagree on fallacious grounds. "If marriage is a sacrament, then any marriage outside the Church is by definition invalid as it is non-sacramental." That's not true; there is a distinction between invalid and non-sacramental. Abraham and Sarah had a valid marriage that was non-sacramental. St. Joseph and Our Lady had a valid marriage that was non-sacramental. Look up convalidation, natural marriage, etc.
Sure ..True Peace is available only in Christ...and sacred functions in which CHRIST is the basis should be done in Church itself .....else its all against Him....
Getting married outside, very much still in God's creation, does not need to be "fixed". The invalidity claim is not based on anything nearing logic or morality.
You’re like Judas lol 😂
This is not biblical.....
Thus saith you?....Lol 😂
Are you your own pope? Lol 😂
Seems like it!
@@john_from_eastcoast. says the bible that shows no scripture to back up what this man is saying
@@grimreaper1047 Thus saith you?? Lol 😂
You are you're own pope?! Lol 😂
You're going in circles, you haven't answered my previous questions yet!
Too deep for you??
You must be a Pharisee troll. You just here to argue and get attention like a Pharisee!!
you haven't answered my previous questions, so I just have to conclude that you are just a Pharisee troll consumed in hate and ignorance here for attention!
Says the grim reaper who is pagan
Jesus Saved You and Freed You from Pharisees! Why do you stay under their control?
Wrong
Preaching division is what is wrong with the world ! We are humans and God created all and he created all equal ! So many families are suffering because of religious beliefs. This kind of preaching is why there are so many empty pews in the Catholic Church !
He did not create all people equal; that's human made nonsense. All people have dignity, but not all are equal.
So if you got married in any other church but Catholic your marriage is not valid? So there must be billions going to hell. I was hoping to see my grandparents in heaven, if I make it there. They were godly people. I guess they're in hell.
Im not gona speak outside
The doctorine
The good priest said that those types of arrgument are verry thaugh
Even thinking about it makes
My head hurts
Certainly it puts a soul at risk of damnation, but we don't know for sure what God's judgement is for any particular soul beyond those of the Saints who are clearly in heaven (and it can also be noted that the Biblical argument that Judas is in hell is quite strong, though I do not believe the Church specifically teaches that he is.)
I thought these other Christian marriages WERE sacramentally valid, since no priest is needed. The bride and groom confer the sacrament upon each other. This is one of only two sacraments that protestants have, the other being baptism.
Marriages between Protestants are valid, but not sacramental (pretty sure that's the teaching). The issue is baptized Catholics who get married outside the Faith.
Magnificent drivel and double talk. Impossible not to laugh in 2019.
Whom worships a dead man displayed in vulgarity in the house of the Lord and proclaims this man, their idol, King? Jesus Christ is the Truth and the church has been very Naughty with not teaching the doctrine but selling a dead man hanging m, practicality nude with feminine features, King of Kings. 🤓😆This is going to be epic. 🌹. Get away from me, I came and you knew me not, and being full with the fruit of “their” KNOWledge of good and evil, you will Surely die. 🔥. He that exalts himself higher than his Muslim and gay brother, in the name of Lord and Savior will know Great Suffering by his own hand. They waited in complete, BLIND thirst; and NOW EXACTLY like the Jews, they awaited the second coming of the Savior whom walked among them and they knew him not. Changed the dollar sign and no one noticed, Bible versus...NADA. He’s isn’t a rodeo clown and your not better than anyone for believing in him, he lives in you and you are better to yourself and your GAY Brother Cain. God bless you. In Jesus Christ, the living truth A MEN not Bmen. Hating in Jesus Christ name, is a misguided mistake you will ABSOLUTELY answer for. ❤️
Stupid
Lacey Brower Catholics don’t pray to Mary. Quit being blasphemous.
You are blasphemous.
Lacey Brower I follow God, not Satan. The Blessed Virgin Mary is the Queen of Heaven. She is the Mother of God. We love, honor and respect her like we love our earthly family.
@@VivoChristoRey777 i got news for you, mary is not his mother. Jesus is the living word and was with God before Mary was shot out of her dads D into her moms P$$$$