Here's What To Do When Your Child Swears
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- Опубліковано 27 сер 2024
- What to do when your child swears is what is going to either encourage or dissuade the behaviour. In this video I'll share with you three reasons why kids swear and what you can do to stop it.
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How do you handle your kids' swearing?
I’m going to try this .our 2 year old girl just started swearing .so I’ll let ya know how 😀
@@chrishirini5414 she must be learning it from somewhere... 😉
Bc the parents swear much duh
@@darkpodok3478 yes, parents are usually the culprits ;-) How they deal with the behaviour, though, can either increase or decrease it.
Um, kids swear because they hear adults swear. Never should punish kids because they listen to you and repeat after you.
Exactly, parents are the first role models a child has.
It kind of depends on the parents. Like I'm a 14 yr old boy and my dad doesn't seem to mind what I say. But my friend George's dad HATES swearing more than anything.
it is really just a matter of what we perceive as "normal". At 14 you are quite aware of the words you use and have enough life experience to choose who to say what with... For example, to an adult (when you're surprised) you might say, "No way! Amazing!" but to your friend you might say, "Get the f**k outta here, no way!".... You know what I mean? This is part of language knowledge called pragmatics and using different language with different people or in different situations is fine. But very young children don't have that life experience yet.
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You can't stop a kid from swearing you can only teach them when it's right and wrong
very true! swearing comes from deep within and when it wants to come out, it will :-) the tricky part is when you're dealing with preschoolers who tend to repeat what they hear (adults say) and can't judge the situation.
Honestly I don't see what's so bad about swearing, I don't think we should punish people for swearing.
I agree. If you watch my video, you’ll see it’s not about punishing kids at all. It’s about changing our behavior in order to change theirs.
We are a Christian family and my ex husband swears (he denies it and blames us because nothing is his fault because he is a narcissist like his dad ), my 5 year olds teacher keeps complaining my kid screams profanities in class at her and the kids . I am embarrassed and sick of it. We’ve taken things away, his dad has spanked him, nothing works. I have a teenage son that has mental illness and plays video games and I am for sure he has picked it up from his brother , but what else can we do?
Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like your younger son is crying out for attention. Punishment rarely works; if anything it will make the situation worse. There are communication strategies you can use with your little one that could help change this and other unwanted behaviours. Could you be interested in a consultancy? If so, send me an email to segreteria@adrianacantisani.it
Isn’t that against the law
I didn’t really swear as a child. My parents taught me not to. But one would curse more than the other growing up and I still didn’t adapt the behavior. Only until I made friends that cursed in middle school did I occasionally curse. Then I completely stopped when I got to high school/college. Now as an adult, I curse more than I did in my youth because of the people I’ve been around. But I’m solo these days. But I must say it does feel liberating. But would like to learn different words to express my emotions.
Hi Jade, sorry for the late reply but I was on vacation :-) Swearing does come from a very deeply rooted place in our brains and yes--- it can be liberating!
why is it bad for a child to swear adults swear and no one cares so why shouldn't kids be allowed to swear
Hi, it's hardly ever a matter of good/bad, right/wrong with people. In some cultures, swear words are hardly noticed and in others they can be very offensive so it really depends on what the parents choose to do, really. I often get asked about how to correct this behaviour so I thought )'d make a video on it. Where are you from? How is swearing seen in your country?
@@adrianacantisani British so it's quite common.
@@L_Hazza_l I grew up in the U.S. but have been living in Italy for the past 30 yrs or so. I have many British friends and yes, I totally agree with you!
I’m an older brother with younger brother who will swear, it’s kinda my fault since we share a room and I play a lot of FPS games, I’m 16 btw
fault is a big word and I don't like to think anyone is really at fault (I mean, we all have our reasons, right?) but the fact that you are aware of your behaviour, gives you the power to change it so kudos to you! that's great!
It’s impressive and hopeful that a 16 year old has this much self awareness and empathy for his younger brother. Way to go!
I've always been someone who has always very rarely used cuss words beyond G-rated ones ("sucks" and "freaking" are usually the strongest language I use) but sometimes I still giggle when I hear a taboo cuss word. I think the combination of I've always had good vocabulary for my age and I rarely get angry is why it's so uncommon. The most recent time I used a swear word was a few months ago when I really needed to go to the bathroom and both were occupied, I have Crohn's disease which makes it especially hard (I'm thankful though that mine is very mild). Since it was a mild cuss word by most people's standards everyone just laughed.
Well, with Crohn's I can just imagine what it might have been. Say it if you can't do it 😉 Jokes aside, what you say is soooo true... our background and experience with cuss words will have a heavy influence on how we use and react to them.... and they come from where our emotions stem, no doubt about that! Thanks for sharing!
Do you know a little one who has picked up on a few swear words? I've watched 3 videos about kids swearing so far and your comments have been at the top of them talking about how you don't swear 😆
Oops, just saw this comment.... I use bad language all the time.. it's quite normal so just go with the flow. I do give myself a mental kick, though, to not do it in front of the kids! :-)
My son goes to a church for after care he has been swearing a lot. My husband suggested ignore it but what about when he is at school? The teachers won't ignore it.
Hi, Sorry if I'm writing this twice... I just answered and the answer disappeared... youtube mystery! Anyway, I just wanted to say that ignoring a behaviour really depends on the age of the child. In my video I talk about very young children. The older children become, the more they have to understand and accept the consequences of their behaviours. Have you spoken to the teachers at school about what's going on? Perhaps you can find a strategy with them that can be implemented both at home and at school.
I am 13 and I am watching this. And I swear all the time to my friends lol.
Oh no! Poor friends ;-)
Happy Sunday Adriana🙋wonderful teacher and psicologist
thank you! (but I'm not a psychologist 😀
@@adrianacantisaniSure you could be a good psycologist....your zodiac sign Is good for all the jobs
@@MrGIADERO maybe some day...
Very helpful. My grandson has a potty mouth that he picked up from his fathers side of the family :(
I'm glad you found it helpful, thank you!
Hello, Stephanie, I thought you might be interested in this video to understand why your grandson might just be saying the things he is: ua-cam.com/video/P0csgregey4/v-deo.html Let me know what you think! xxx
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Thank you so very much!
you're welcome, I'm glad this was helpful!
When they swear, not by using random words, not to get attention, just to force you to do what they are asking, with all aggression behind it, I can’t offer them a hug or ignore them! What is your next advise?
how old are the kids?
My friends always swears
We all
Are kids they just can't seem to snap outta it
And they always
Make inappropriate jokes
While they can't change the only
Way is to stop being friends with them.
But what do you guys think?
I believe that if someone is making you uncomfortable then getting away from them is best. You don't have to be with those that make you uncomfortable.
What happens when you talk calmy to them and they say fuck you???
They pretty much instantly get muted by covering their mouth, or worse, running from the belt.
It depends on the age.... the very young ones tend to use foul language just to see your reaction.
doesn't it depend on what language the foul word it's in?
besides, the more middle Eastern the word is the more trouble you are in.
el veneño.
My four year old has been obsessed with the word "kill" for about a year now. At first he would say it without context but now he uses it as a threat. I admit I've sometimes reacted way too emotionally in desperation and now he knows it sometimes gets him attention. I'm about to have a second child and my 4yo is already talking about hurting the baby. He has his moments but he's really very loving, loves people, and isn't violent. Is it too late to get him to forget/move past this phrase? Do I just pretend he's not saying it? I don't want other kids to hear it and for it to cause him trouble keeping friends, or for it to be a source of division between him and his new sibling.
Hi Katilyn, kill is really just a word. You have to see what meaning your child is giving it. Think about how many times we adults use that word or related words in different contexts. For example, " I was so embarrassed, I wanted to die!" or "She put her shoes up on my white couch... I could have killed her!" Things like that. It's very possible that he is using "kill" in this type of context: "get very angry with someone." Have you tried asking him what he means when he uses it as a threat? Ask him also what "kill" means. You may be surprised at his answer. If you feel that your son is suffering emotionally, talk to your pediatrician. (preparing for a sibling is a big event and not an easy one...he's literally heading for the unknown! Everyone tells him things like how exciting, you're going to have a baby bro/sis to play... isn't that great??' And he's thinking "is it great? I actually like being the star of the show..." Jealousy is normal but it is a big feeling.
Hey what do i do in this ocasion, so my brothers 14 and 15 keep fighting and swearing infront of my little sister, my parents basically everyone and they dont care, So even if I did all that she will still hear those words and keep on saying them, Example, if my mom told her we cannot buy this toy or Tommorow we will eat donuts she will instantly swear at her and i cannot take it and im trying to teach her not to swear but it just does not work, nothing works because she keeps hearing those words. And she is going to grow up like that and i cant take it, its like everyone cares but nobody does anything! She is 5 and like 30% of her vocabulary is like that. I tried everything, telling my brothers not to talk like that infront of her, helping me, they seem like they care but nobody does nothing they just forget about everything. Can you please advice me on what should i do???? I really care about her shes my sister you know i cant just leave her like that. Please help.
Hi, you're right when you say your sister will keep learning and using those words if everyone around her uses them.... but in the end, they are just words.... what I feel may be more important is what is pushing her to swear... the frustration she is feeling, I think that may be the thing to concentrate on first.
I just found that my 9 yo lil sis curse and I don’t know how to deal with it
How do your parents deal with it?
How do I stop my 2 year old son from swearing ?
At such a young age he is most likely repeating what he's hearing so my first suggestion is to make sure the adults at home are not using foul language. The next thing is just to ignore it. He is probably swearing because he is getting a response from you/parents. If you ignore it, the bad word just becomes another word. Once he sees the response he gets is the same as when he says table, for example, he'll most likely stop.
My three year old brother curses bad
How do your parents deal with it? (sorry for the late answer; I just saw this.)
Luckily my parents don’t know about this video, I’m 13 and my parents are not strict.
Unless I wanted free hugs continuously.
Hugs are always a good thing ;-)
I'm a kid and watching this lol
That's awesome... did you relate?
If it's your daughter tell her it's unladylike and she will be alone and miserable if she keeps doing that. If it's your son buy him a beer and tell him he's a man now.
And unfortunately it really is like this in so many parts of the world..
The belt Is what my parents used that works better than anything else or punishments such as cleaning a trash can or a lap around the field with a slosh pipe
It probably got you to stop swearing outwardly but did you stop swearing on the inside? Behaviours begin with a thought and if we want to change the behaviour, we have to change that thought.
@@adrianacantisani you can’t stop kids from swearing there still gonna use it with friends all teenagers do if they don’t like a teacher they will tell eachother she’s a b*tch if they forgot something they will say sh*t
what you do at home still won’t change that part but you can stop kids from swearing in front of you
@@lavalamp9002 that is true but it begs the question: do we want to correct the behaviour for the children's sake or for our own?
that is child abuse, what the actual Fuck
@@carb_8781 violence is never educational