Main Character Syndrome: I learned the Truth Behind China's 50% Divorce Rate Crisis

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  • @ChineseHistorian2022
    @ChineseHistorian2022  Місяць тому +36

    More videos on Chinese life and culture will be released in 2025 as I learn more about the current Chinese state of mind after being away for 8 years, dozens of travel vlogs from different cities will be released starting in May!

    • @quantifiablyqorrect2905
      @quantifiablyqorrect2905 Місяць тому +1

      Do you watch China Observer? Pretty good channel on yt for info!

    • @shumcheeyin
      @shumcheeyin Місяць тому

      @ChineseHistorian2022 早上好,孙先生。Will you be travelling from different Chinese cities via 高铁? 非常快的 at 350km/h. 复兴号 from Beijing to Shenzhen was the best high-speed train ride I ever had. Also, if you make it to 深圳, if you could do a vlog on the 无人机 low altitude economy on such Chinese companies as 美团.

    • @MichaelA-lf2bi
      @MichaelA-lf2bi Місяць тому

      You should do a documentary on Chinese left over women. I believe it's a serious trend in China now!

    • @AC130rus
      @AC130rus Місяць тому

      In india not spoiling you children is not beating them to death . I once took some money from my grandfather wallet he warned but I didn't feel threatened

  • @asvarun4409
    @asvarun4409 Місяць тому +88

    Addiction to materialism is destructive.

    • @Aikunle78
      @Aikunle78 26 днів тому +1

      The Bible warned us.

    • @asvarun4409
      @asvarun4409 26 днів тому

      @Aikunle78 yes it did.

  • @historyjourneys313
    @historyjourneys313 Місяць тому +89

    Narcissism will be mainstream in the future generations

    • @briandrake6881
      @briandrake6881 Місяць тому +22

      Narcissism is mainstream now.

    • @lorik.8368
      @lorik.8368 Місяць тому +12

      Just like Ariana Grande and Cynthia in Wicked, case book study in the making.

    • @briandrake6881
      @briandrake6881 Місяць тому

      @@lorik.8368 I would never see that movie and promote that anti-male drivel. But I get your point. Female narcissism is a great destroyer.

    • @hollowgonzalo4329
      @hollowgonzalo4329 Місяць тому +7

      @historyjourneys313
      In future generations?
      It's already been this way since at least the baby boomers.

    • @Anime1love
      @Anime1love Місяць тому

      It already is, in this world, he biggest ahole gets the cookie.

  • @Marcel-dx5hl
    @Marcel-dx5hl Місяць тому +28

    This problem is global; this is so sad. This is the result of worshiping materialism ... and ignoring our Creator.

  • @EarthAngel504
    @EarthAngel504 Місяць тому +135

    Modern society is a perfect example of what happens when you deviate from biblical doctrine of how to raise children. Everything the Bible says you're suppose to do, society has deliberately done the opposite. Deliberately.

    • @campion04
      @campion04 Місяць тому

      The truth has become so obvious even for a newer convert like myself. Where did it all go wrong? Then you trace back and back and back until you hit a wall you can’t cross. Then you realize it is because I was analyzing the problem from an atheisticpoint of view. Once you reset to a Godly pov, everything is soooo obvious and “easily” fixable.
      The fertility crisis, that has Civilizational ending power, is the perfect example of a problem that atheistic morality can’t solve. But simple dimple for a believer.
      A 16 year old, 25, 37 year old version of myself would never believe this,, but since i became a father, the obviousness of the flaws on my morality became fully evident. I have only one mission in life now. Raise my children under God’s light and no other.

    • @Billy-bc8pk
      @Billy-bc8pk Місяць тому +31

      Yup. People like to call it a "fairy tale", but it is the only book that humans need to abide by to live healthy lives in a prosperous society. We're seeing what happens in real time when man diverges from it, and it isn't pretty.

    • @sitirokimbo
      @sitirokimbo Місяць тому

      Screw your fantasies😊

    • @sitirokimbo
      @sitirokimbo Місяць тому

      It is a shitty fairytale. The people whodivorce the most are christians. The children of religious people are the most traumatazied kids on planet earth. Most people in prisons are christians, the others are muslisms. Do you think that when china was more traditional, it was because of the bible? Can you be any more delusiomal and bias? Gonfijish your smoothie kid.

    • @EarthAngel504
      @EarthAngel504 Місяць тому

      @@Billy-bc8pk Yes sir.. Unfortunately. Most people hate the truth. Especially when it doesn't feel good. Most much rather comfortable like than the hard core truth. This is something about human nature(Most humans) that the elites have always known for 1000's of years and have always played on. It is how America and "The American Dream' was able to become soo prevalent.. However. The Bible is raw, and unfiltered and brutal truth. Most people just can not handle that. So. Whether they know it or not. Consciously or unconsciously, they choose to believe a lie and suffer the consequences later. It's what I call having a gambler's mindset.

  • @blue-phoenix115
    @blue-phoenix115 Місяць тому +35

    Main character syndrome is just one of many reasons for the high divorce.
    I could write an essay listing the key problems contributing to the high divorce around the world.

    • @fluffyblanket1398
      @fluffyblanket1398 Місяць тому

      Feminism?

    • @Mandy-p9w
      @Mandy-p9w Місяць тому

      many religions say the woman must be subservient to the man. the main character in every family must be the man. BUT women have taken it upon themselves to try to be the number 1 thanks to feminism. as a man i will never date a woman who sees herself as number 1. i will continue to let her be the main character in her own story

    • @williamlee7782
      @williamlee7782 8 днів тому

      Can you further elaborate? I’d love to learn. 🙏

  • @shumcheeyin
    @shumcheeyin Місяць тому +30

    There are almost no divorces in both my father's & mother's sides of the family. Hence, my father's paternal lineage of 15 generations for over 300-years.

    • @nytracus9680
      @nytracus9680 Місяць тому +1

      By definition, the paternal lineage goes back 1000s of years or enough time for mutation on Y chromosome to occur

    • @GandalftheWise
      @GandalftheWise Місяць тому +1

      Won't make it to 400 yrs sorry l

    • @shumcheeyin
      @shumcheeyin Місяць тому

      @@GandalftheWise Already 1/3 the way to 400-years.

    • @shumcheeyin
      @shumcheeyin Місяць тому

      @@LetterSignedBy51SpiesWasA-Coup My family is somewhat of an outlier and therefore outside the bell-shaped curve.

    • @GandalftheWise
      @GandalftheWise Місяць тому

      @@shumcheeyin are you married bro? There are no good Chinese women left!

  • @sandyderoche1082
    @sandyderoche1082 11 днів тому +1

    You are so right. This is not only for China, the Western world also.

  • @saysflushable
    @saysflushable Місяць тому +18

    I was an only child. At a young age I knew I had it better materialisticy then my friends with brothers and sisters. I dont think he is wrong.

  • @fallingleaveskungfu
    @fallingleaveskungfu Місяць тому +24

    My Chino keeping it real! I love you, bro! Never change. 😆👏

  • @gomer2813
    @gomer2813 Місяць тому +26

    I've dated a genZ Chinese girl and yes she was spoiled. Joked about getting her dad to pay for anything she wanted. Mom gave her an allowance still, despite being an adult. It's like Chinese people went from being the world's most enlightened to the world's most self-centered people in my lifetime.

    • @bokc_ellis
      @bokc_ellis Місяць тому

      how was it

    • @FindingThumos
      @FindingThumos Місяць тому

      my chinese ex was the same. Her materialistic nature is basically the only reason we broke up. She only loved money. And her parents did everything for her and paid for everything for her, so she never learnt to take responsibility for anything. A generation of spoiled princesses.

  • @lineage13
    @lineage13 Місяць тому +48

    Very hard to have main character syndrome when you hit mid 30s.

    • @iansmith3406
      @iansmith3406 Місяць тому +8

      Lol nah if anything it gets easier because people have more money

    • @candycommander
      @candycommander Місяць тому

      @@iansmith3406 Certain things may become easier but the main focus of many mens' life such as starting a family with a devoted and loving wife is not easy. Doesn't matter how much money you have she still chasing Chad. Even if you are Chad with money and marry her she could eventually get bored and rake you over the coals in family/divorce court.

    • @MichaTheLight
      @MichaTheLight Місяць тому +5

      No main character arc for Normie and Sub5 (95% of men)

    • @MichaTheLight
      @MichaTheLight Місяць тому

      On the other side 95% of woman get the main character arc in the west (see college, university years) When they are in their 20's they really must be d*sfig*red to not get the main character arc

    • @MichaTheLight
      @MichaTheLight Місяць тому +3

      But main character arc for Stacey and all Becky's even LTB's

  • @BourgeoisBoys
    @BourgeoisBoys 3 години тому

    The notion of basing a global economic system on disposable human being is over! The model has to change!

  • @gainerama1
    @gainerama1 Місяць тому +16

    Excellent episode

  • @jimmylee1408
    @jimmylee1408 Місяць тому +10

    None of my family has been divorced in America or China/Hong Kong. I'm 2nd Gen American-born with family from Jiangmen, Guangdong. I believe Cantonese cultured people are less materialistic. IMO/observation

  • @jacknjill3000
    @jacknjill3000 25 днів тому +1

    I’m old school Chinese living in America since I was 7 years old. Back then you couldn’t talk back to your parents no matter if they were wrong or not. I used to get into so much trouble bc I used to talk back all the time bc most times my dad was wrong and I couldn’t take it anymore.
    I do believe in spankings and being afraid of parents bc without that fear, you get all these spoil kids. Same with African American kids telling their kids they are kings and queens and not showing them how to be one.
    I never dated a Chinese girls and wouldn’t put up with assertive Chinese women. I dated mostly white and Latin women and don’t put up with their crap and usually check them.

  • @OrwellsHousecat
    @OrwellsHousecat Місяць тому +6

    Christopher Lasch - Culture of Narcissism
    He was writing about USA but the phenomenon has become nearly global with social media

  • @jeffrey6611
    @jeffrey6611 Місяць тому +6

    yup, seen many times where chinese parents torpedo their child's marriage over the slightest dissatisfaction towards their child in-law, believing that he/she is not worthy enough for their child.

  • @quantifiablyqorrect2905
    @quantifiablyqorrect2905 Місяць тому +10

    Lol raw and uncut!

  • @Maxume
    @Maxume Місяць тому +8

    5:06 It's fantastic hearing this truth from someone so young. The number of people who are willing to admit that 99% of all their problems are self-inflicted, is shrinking at warp speed.

    • @yamiscape
      @yamiscape Місяць тому

      Yes they’re self inflicted but not in the way you think. If you have bad genetics then your life was destined to be bad. So I would say it’s fate. The problem is that people know that they have been dealt a bad hand but keep doing things that make the situation worse.

  • @tanalson
    @tanalson Місяць тому +2

    My sis works in a childcare centre and she is the first hand of seeing such spoilt children. Parents being so overprotective to their child that you are not allowed to discipline/scold them. Yet they expects teachers to teach and educate them. Plus parents don't want to hear the truth of their child's misbehaving actions/bad habits. Parents only wants to hear compliments of their child. So teachers have to tolerate the kids nonsense and always lie to their parents their kids are well behaved

  • @bluebeastgamer7494
    @bluebeastgamer7494 Місяць тому +2

    All the issues which China experiences India starts to experience it 10-15 years later than China.

  • @rutoojinn
    @rutoojinn Місяць тому +20

    To be fair... We are our own main characters. We should priorities ourselves first. The problem with people is that they think everyone else should prioritize themselves as well.

    • @fallingleaveskungfu
      @fallingleaveskungfu Місяць тому +8

      We're all the main character in our own stories, but everybody needs to evaluate their own life and figure out if it's just a side quest.
      If you're the main character, are you doing main character 💩 with your life?

    • @campion04
      @campion04 Місяць тому +4

      Prioritizing self is exactly the problem.

    • @BlueCollapse-vw8br
      @BlueCollapse-vw8br Місяць тому

      @@campion04your wrong, it isn't objectively a problem, it's subjective and may be self inflicted problem. I would hate prioritizing others as why would I listen to others if what I want feels better for me; I wouldn't. I could even hate what others want for me so I wouldn't prioritize others over myself. I would only prioritize someone if I love them enough to do so and agree with them fundamentally, both of which go hands in hand. So, I don't agree that you should prioritize others in general and it should be up to you based on your own reasons whether u want to, otherwise you could be miserable doing what others feel like when u don't want to. So what, ur solution is to be a slave to others to avoid conflict lol. Some people are just evil and unfair and thus the "bad" one in a conflict.

    • @campion04
      @campion04 Місяць тому

      @@BlueCollapse-vw8br I can tel you why objectively it is a problem except experience has shown me anytime I get In depth, as it gets into fertility rates, YT doesn’t allow this topic. Soooooo. You’ve been denied.

  • @QuiteOne-n3t
    @QuiteOne-n3t Місяць тому +2

    The end of modern ideology, sometimes things have to be destroyed to become better.

  • @peterl708
    @peterl708 Місяць тому +2

    Nah … I think we’ve always had bad marriages throughout time. It is just that couple stuck it out in the past, enduring the misery. Most of the older generation of couples I know hate each others guts. In modern time, divorcing is not a big stigma as it was before - so couple readily resort to it.

  • @RoadieSanchez
    @RoadieSanchez Місяць тому +2

    My guy gave 99 reasons why the parents, grandparents and indoctrination centers are at fault and still turned around and blamed the kid 💔

  • @MRWONDERFUL-kk4db
    @MRWONDERFUL-kk4db Місяць тому +1

    WHAT'S UP BUDDY HOW YOU GET SO SMART YOU TALK FAST BUT I UNDERSTAND EVERY WORD YOU SAY I LIKE THE WAY YOU THINK WE PEOPLE LIKE YOU ON THIS PLANET I APPRECIATE YOU MY MAN AND I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING YOU SAY

  • @dwargonedragon794
    @dwargonedragon794 17 днів тому

    This problem can be found in all developed countries and even developing countries among their middle-upper class. In Canada, not only are they the only child, they also have no father lol. I think that is worse than just being the only child "lil' emperor". Whenever I hear someone say "oh I didn't grow up with a father", I was like "that explains everything". Now these little emperors and mommie's boys will grow up, have a child if they're lucky, and won't know how to properly discipline a child.

  • @alexisl9426
    @alexisl9426 Місяць тому +1

    I’m here in China and witnessing how spoilt only children are here. My aunt is an only child and has never married before.

  • @destinationskyline07
    @destinationskyline07 Місяць тому +2

    Love the vids. Keep it up

  • @Sean-398
    @Sean-398 Місяць тому +5

    demographic collapse

  • @kabirkapoor1205
    @kabirkapoor1205 Місяць тому +3

    Finally you are back to REAL content creation than sharing your traveling vlogs. Yes Parents or grand parents they spoil their kids even by telling them that a house is being transferred on their name even when they have not graduated.

  • @vishakhz6744
    @vishakhz6744 Місяць тому +1

    I thought he was gonna say "Zhao shao hao Bing Chilling" 😭

    • @baeber
      @baeber Місяць тому +1

      im gonna be real with you i thought it was going to go that direction too

  • @ivann9924
    @ivann9924 Місяць тому +6

    Dude, we need your take about the propaganda spread by both CCP supporter and anti CCP media, both present extreme opposite sides of China which i don't buy anymore.. news about Chinese high tech cities, desert greenification or something like tofu dregs project or takeout fake food, it will be very helpful to people who wants to move there or stay for vacation there

    • @Go4Broke247
      @Go4Broke247 Місяць тому

      What you need to do is stop watching anf following cult falungong lol

    • @rastoferi6012
      @rastoferi6012 Місяць тому

      Many independent travel vlogs in yt, all you have to do is search china travel vlogs to see for yourself.

    • @weiwei8072
      @weiwei8072 Місяць тому +1

      One is made by people walking around China, the other is made by a talking head in front of a green screen.

    • @autodigitvlogs
      @autodigitvlogs 16 днів тому

      ​@@weiwei8072 😂😂😂😂 western paid propaganda is like watching CNN

  • @jacknjill3000
    @jacknjill3000 25 днів тому

    Interesting bc recently I found out many Filipinos don’t get divorced bc of their religion and bc it’s expensive. So many marry die life, whether they like it or not.
    Oh and many Filipinos don’t used birth control and have too many kids that they can’t afford.

  • @szymonbaranowski8184
    @szymonbaranowski8184 Місяць тому +6

    too good parent is a bad parent
    but physical force against own children is utterly stupid and traumatising, never do it

  • @SmoothCode
    @SmoothCode Місяць тому +23

    Marriage is sacrifice unto Christ. Most people are not fit for marriage because they are not even serving the one who created the institution of Marriage.

    • @konstantinrebrov675
      @konstantinrebrov675 Місяць тому +10

      Marriage existed way back before Christ. Christ has nothing to do with it.

    • @apostate6849
      @apostate6849 Місяць тому

      christians are so gullible

    • @dealman3312
      @dealman3312 Місяць тому

      ❤️

    • @Billy-bc8pk
      @Billy-bc8pk Місяць тому

      @@konstantinrebrov675 Yes, God made marriage right after making humans.

    • @sitirokimbo
      @sitirokimbo Місяць тому

      Great another christie with his arrogant bas. The people who divorce the most are christians.

  • @Danleesixoneonetwofive
    @Danleesixoneonetwofive 24 дні тому

    Good morning China! Reminds me of Yuehan Xina😂

  • @kabirkapoor1205
    @kabirkapoor1205 Місяць тому +2

    Finally you are back to REAL content creation than sharing your traveling vlogs.

  • @biglance
    @biglance Місяць тому +5

    Truth!!! Love the beginning, your rant!!! Keep it up!!!! You will get big on UA-cam for sure, people need to hear things how they are! This is in my opinion after living in China for many years why most of the people, especially middle aged men, they have such bad behavior, such as smoking and spitting wherever they want, b/c their parents never DISCIPLINED them and taught them how to act properly, they were LITTLE PRINCES and PRINCESSES....now they are BIG PRINCES and PRINCESSES who reek havoc in China and the world when they go traveling abroad. I love Chinese people but this is a result of being only children largely IMO, peace. 加油!

  • @hoanggquannnguyen6424
    @hoanggquannnguyen6424 Місяць тому +2

    we got trust fund baby, but china is a different level

  • @tanalson
    @tanalson Місяць тому

    Not all only child is like this, but i could say around 90% are like this. If tge only child happen to be born in a family where the financial situation is really terrible(my friend happens to be the only child and his dad works as a taxi driver and his mum is a housewife) and the couples are smart enough to just give birth to a child. In such financial situation, the parents can't say yes to a lot of materialistic ideals the child would like and a lot of times, the child have to understand and accept that most materialistic stuff, his family won't be able to afford

  • @jacknjill3000
    @jacknjill3000 25 днів тому

    Btw. You talk and think like an American and interesting to hear your point of view with knowing both cultures.

  • @BarryMurrays
    @BarryMurrays Місяць тому

    You don't divorce someone you like to be with... that's nice to be around, interesting. Nasty, mean, selfish, cruel = alone. That's always been so.

  • @jamesandrew62
    @jamesandrew62 Місяць тому

    A lot of truth to the one child family trend or no child, I think the nuclear family is a new term & it's actually the extended family dispersion that adds a lot of pressure, expectations

  • @okaycola2
    @okaycola2 Місяць тому

    Scammers are texting your mature female cohorts. Pay attention to yours

  • @ronnie5329
    @ronnie5329 Місяць тому +1

    50%, thats crazy

    • @AnkitNikunj-v2l
      @AnkitNikunj-v2l Місяць тому

      Half of western countries population if it is happening in china.

  • @sernik_z_rodzynkami
    @sernik_z_rodzynkami Місяць тому

    There is one huge contributor to all of these probpems which you didn't mention at all. Why?

  • @PeterViet
    @PeterViet Місяць тому +1

    4:32 🤣

  • @MichaTheLight
    @MichaTheLight Місяць тому

    0:40 My men keep heed you are in dangerous circumstances.

  • @Lonely_Dolphin
    @Lonely_Dolphin Місяць тому

    "It's parents fault!"
    "It's your fault!"
    You hurt yourself in your confusion lol.

  • @JP-kr7ku
    @JP-kr7ku 28 днів тому

    lmao the hashtags are crazy

  • @DTaze
    @DTaze Місяць тому +1

    Will you be living there permanently

  • @IndubitableBabble
    @IndubitableBabble Місяць тому +3

    This is fascinating. Is there a parallel to the oppressor olympics in china? Who is blamed the different classes? It cant possibly be as bad as the west. Great content as always!

    • @konstantinrebrov675
      @konstantinrebrov675 Місяць тому +1

      Mahakala

    • @shinbi6009
      @shinbi6009 Місяць тому +1

      You gotta keep in mind Chinese historian see the world through the lens of his upbringing and people from the bottom of society. Its what he’s close in proximity to. Its an interesting perspective however I only know Chinese people from good families.

    • @EB-jf5oi
      @EB-jf5oi Місяць тому

      They have nationalism and will blame/finger point at Japan or blame the West, but China is not under Modern Liberalism. Women's tears about 'gender equality' is not listened to. Tyrone and Abdul whining about 'Chinese supremacy' will lead to being deported. It's one aspect of China that is better than the West.

  • @ua1514
    @ua1514 Місяць тому +4

    Have you tried approaching or dating there?

  • @Lichnaya_pravda
    @Lichnaya_pravda Місяць тому

    Not a problem. Yes, I am special - just like everyone else have a right to think so. Never put up with society's bs, no matter how traditional it is. No marriages will mean there will be no divorces. Reproduction of population is what governnent must facilitate, not people on their own.

    • @bokc_ellis
      @bokc_ellis Місяць тому

      It is not putting up with society's boundaries to put boundaries on your children. Running from accountability is the biggest sin anyone could ever do. If you argue with someone and you lose the argument. Admit that you lost the argument. Self-entitlement NEVER works in ANY relationship. People do need to be told NO! or its thier fault

  • @josephtomaselli9181
    @josephtomaselli9181 Місяць тому +4

    Been introduced to a nice, young GF yet?

    • @ChineseHistorian2022
      @ChineseHistorian2022  Місяць тому +7

      I’m not looking for any dates right now, I need to turn my situation around financially first

    • @user-go2xi7zq5q
      @user-go2xi7zq5q Місяць тому

      Same here bro

  • @Charles_The_Texan_youtuber382
    @Charles_The_Texan_youtuber382 Місяць тому

    Bro if you want a girlfriend you should just date a latina, middle eastern or indian woman as they are beautiful and open to dating men like you.

  • @charleswomack2166
    @charleswomack2166 Місяць тому

    Zhonggua? Center country?

  • @CarrotGarlic
    @CarrotGarlic Місяць тому

    Based take

  • @不只偷茄子-y1b
    @不只偷茄子-y1b Місяць тому

    在中国如果你有稳定的社交圈子跟工作,离婚率小于5%。

  • @Brent-z2s
    @Brent-z2s Місяць тому +2

    Is that the yellow river behind you.

  • @bevs9995
    @bevs9995 Місяць тому

    who unalived your uncles gf?

  • @hanhdang8189
    @hanhdang8189 Місяць тому

    Keep it real as always 😂

  • @andile5945
    @andile5945 Місяць тому

    Next video: solutions current measures

    • @e54ultra
      @e54ultra 14 днів тому

      The solutions have already been there for the last 20-30 years.

  • @shinbi6009
    @shinbi6009 Місяць тому +2

    Gotta keep in mind Chinese historian see the world through the lens of his upbringing and people from the bottom of society. Its what he’s close in proximity to. Its an interesting perspective however I only know Chinese people from good families.

  • @jamaicasysbm2580
    @jamaicasysbm2580 Місяць тому

    Millennials are in there 30 to 40 they are adults

  • @shinbi6009
    @shinbi6009 Місяць тому

    Its called solipsism.

  • @CatsndDogs
    @CatsndDogs Місяць тому

    how old are you?

  • @simpernchong
    @simpernchong Місяць тому +2

    haha 一针见血

  • @agnes466
    @agnes466 Місяць тому +1

    Bla,Bla,Bla People finely understood that they don't have to put up with someone's crup forever.

    • @e54ultra
      @e54ultra 14 днів тому +1

      Then they're not mature enough for marriage. Stay single. Work, pay your own bills forever. Simple.

  • @Madness1299
    @Madness1299 Місяць тому

    Reminds me of the baby boomers

    • @e54ultra
      @e54ultra 14 днів тому

      Because it is them!

  • @disneytakeshugedix7463
    @disneytakeshugedix7463 Місяць тому +2

    Two 2⃣ thumbs 👍 up ⬆! Truth ! Truth ! Truth !