Too Fat for Social Media? | Body Image and the Gay Community (Black Gay Couple Chat)

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  • @TemujinScott80
    @TemujinScott80 Рік тому +62

    I’m sorry you all experienced DUMB & BLIND trolls. Thank you both for always being transparent! We appreciate you both!

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому +9

      Thanks for the encouragement Temujin. It’s funny as you can probably see, same guilty party is in the comments doing exactly the same thing we are speaking out against. But we can’t change people until they want the change for themselves. We will continue to work on ourselves though, health wise, emotionally, and holistically and share while we do so, for those who can see a apart of themselves in us. Much love to you as always! 💜

    • @dextersmithbsee
      @dextersmithbsee Рік тому +1

      Amen!

    • @blkwheeler32
      @blkwheeler32 Рік тому

      Gays don't judge based on how much you weigh. They judge you about a disability you might have. for them, you need to be perfect.

    • @jacquelinebrown8243
      @jacquelinebrown8243 Рік тому

      ​@@MeetTheMazelins aaa

  • @mustangsally2606
    @mustangsally2606 Рік тому +21

    “Hurt people, hurt people” is a true statement. I pray you will let those negative comments roll off your back. I never thought either of you to be over weight. You both are handsome inside and out. Stay blessed!!! ❤❤

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому +1

      It really is and we are reminded of that everyday. Thank you so much Sally!

  • @Christian-cy4ws
    @Christian-cy4ws Рік тому +30

    Yes, sometime in the gay community can be so rude. It’s like you have to live up to a certain image and all the other craziness. Love yourself and be yourself.

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому +2

      Thanks Christian! It’s a lesson that’s really applicable in any community. We hope sharing our experience, that even one person thinks before they intentionally or unintentionally puts someone down.

  • @spreadmorelove5235
    @spreadmorelove5235 Рік тому +3

    The internet has become a cesspool of hateful and mean-spirited people but nothing goes unrecorded. Glad that you guys are strong enough to let this foolishness ride.

  • @erviatyler656
    @erviatyler656 Рік тому +42

    Brian and Alec, please be yourself. God made all of us different for so many reasons. Both of you are truly loving and beautiful inside and out. Please keep doing what you all are doing. People should think before speaking because the tongue can truly be a weapon in some ways. No two people are alike. Stay strong, and please remember you guys are my favorite UA-cam married couple. I love watching everything you're doing. Keep showing up much love ❤️ ❤️.

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому +1

      Thank you so much Ervia. We can always look to you for such positive and encouraging insight. We truly love you! 💜

  • @angelawilliams8440
    @angelawilliams8440 Рік тому +14

    I was teased in school in Jamaica for being too thin. So, you know what, they can kiss you know what. Keep on loving each other.🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲💚💜

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому

      You really damned if you do, damned if you don't. People will find anything to try and bring you down which really is just crazy. Glad that you didn't allow that to define you. Much love Angela 💜

  • @mustangsally2606
    @mustangsally2606 Рік тому +15

    And while someone’s personal appearance is important to some people, personality and content is what most people look for. Y’all have it all.

  • @jacquelbaker6546
    @jacquelbaker6546 Рік тому +11

    I hardly ever comment on someone’s page. You all are a very beautiful and genuine couple. I enjoy watching your videos. You will always have haters and admirers but remember you have more admirers than haters. Keep up the good work and never let anyone change who you are.Peace!

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому

      Thank you Jacquel. We appreciate you stepping out and leaving your positivity in our comments. We will definitely remind ourselves that the love outweighs the hate. Sending love your way too! 💜

  • @marquisbarnett1975
    @marquisbarnett1975 Рік тому +8

    Being big all my life when someone says I look good or you lost weight, I look at them and say it must be the clothes. "If you don't like yourself, how in the hell do you expect someone else to love you?" Rupaul ♥️💚💛💙💜🧡 I love you Just the way you are and always have. ❤️

  • @aldon560
    @aldon560 Рік тому +16

    I love my thickems and my bears. Fellas, Love the body you are in. You guys are snacks at any size! Much love to u both!

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому +8

      It’s this comment right here! It’s about being as kind to your body as possible. Doing your best to keep healthy yes, but also loving it at all stages in your life. Thank you for this 💜

  • @helloxonsfan
    @helloxonsfan Рік тому +3

    *You guys are so beautiful... not just on the inside, but you are one of the cutest & most physically beautiful couples on the outside as well. Society is always trying to convince us to be someone we're not. It's a symptom of the consumeristic society we live in where businesses make money when they convince us not to be satisfied with ourselves, so we're pushed to spend money to become someone else.*
    *So their advertisements tell us that If our hair is curly, we have to straighten it. If it's straight, we have to get curls. Likewise, if we're skinny, we have to put on more weight. If we're heavy, we have to lose weight, etc.!!! Whatever we are, they want us to change it to something else. It's best to ignore the false marketing & just be happy & accepting of one's own innate beauty!!! This was a great topic! Love you guys...!!!* 👍🏽 👍🏽 👍🏽

  • @christopherdamien2248
    @christopherdamien2248 Рік тому +9

    What a beautiful, compassionate, loving and honest conversation between the two of you and with all of us. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I embrace your values as my own. The community needs your voices to grow and evolve. Yes, you are very much appreciated.

  • @kidzscopetv...tosanroro-og5491

    Love you guys just the way you are. The sweet smelling fragrance of your souls come wafting through the screen . Some people don't have that.

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому

      Thank you so much for these words! It really does mean so much. 💜

  • @joelsahadath8515
    @joelsahadath8515 Рік тому +2

    I’m so sorry you guys experienced that. It’s such a pervasive problem in society. People have these “couple goals” images in their heads of what a married gay couple should be, but alot of people don’t think about what it actually is to be married and going through life’s ups and downs together. What happens if one of you becomes disabled? What happens if one of you abruptly loses a job? What happens if one of you gets a chronic illness? The people saying these cruel things would probably run and leave the person they’re with if those things happened. Don’t let the words of people who have no idea of what reality and true love and partnership are get to you. You two continue to be you. I’m sure your channel has saved someone’s life by showing them real love is possible. My husband and I send you much love and support from one normal regular everyday bodied couple to another. Lol

  • @debbieannisaacs2778
    @debbieannisaacs2778 Рік тому +28

    Can you guys just please focus on your fans who loves, respects and accepts you both for who you are. I love you both and think you are both great. Live your lives and never allow anyone to put you down.

  • @valeriebrown4418
    @valeriebrown4418 Рік тому +6

    I am so sorry you guys had to go through that. It really hurts my feelings because you are so nice and absolutely handsome. I personally think you both look great at the sizes you are now. People are so mean and it is pathetic. Keep being your beautiful selves and try not to let peoples ignorance get to you. 🤎

  • @Jordi7174
    @Jordi7174 Рік тому +1

    When I tell you, you guys are refreshing to watch because you both look like normal people and you still love each other. That tells me that you're both not just in it for the looks and rock hard body. The problem with our community is that we're too superficial and attracted to only what's on the surface. I'm so sick of the gay/workout junkie type of vlogs. There's nothing wrong with being healthy but having the six pack abs and chiseled chest is not realistic for everybody. I work 12 hour shifts, I can't be up in the gym 24/7! That's why it's refreshing to see guys like you, Our Boy Story and Gio and JC, that are normal and loving people, instead of (wannabe) fashion models. Keep doing what you're doing. 💛

  • @Brandmarlonanthony
    @Brandmarlonanthony Рік тому +9

    “Empty barrel make the most noise”
    People can’t give what they don’t have. Sometimes people are going through moments when they are feeling insecure and as a result they consciously and subconsciously start to project their unsettled emotions on others. It is unfortunate that some people are narrow minded and allow negativity to control there minds and by extension their fingers. The world needs love, and what we should be doing is reaching out to spread love and not hate. Life is a journey and nothing happens overnight. You are doing an excellent job my brothers and at the end of the day living an authentic life exceeds any negative comments, as we can’t tell a persons full life by a 30 minute clip. You are guys are blessed continue to be great and it’s commendable that you have found your purpose. Wishing you lots of success, continue to be encouraged and continue to spread your light on this platform.
    Nuff love 🤜🏾🤛🏾

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому +1

      You were really able to capture so much of what we are feeling in just a few words. Thank you so much for the love and constant encouragement Cousin Marlon! We appreciate and love you! 💜

  • @OurBoyStory
    @OurBoyStory Рік тому +4

    So glad you guys are leading this conversation. The insecurity is real, and there’s a direct correlation between all the body shaming online and the success of creators too! The algorithm is a bully! Anywho I’m glad you could relate to us, we share so much of the same experience. Keep shining and spreading positivity - that’s what keeps the haters at bay!! ❤

  • @mapulamaunatlala
    @mapulamaunatlala Рік тому +15

    Thank you guys for taking us through this hard to tell topic ,that is intentionally searching the inside ,deep within you it is so interesting .once more thanks guys ❤❤❤❤❤🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦

  • @tarheelfan004
    @tarheelfan004 Рік тому +3

    Let me start by saying that both of you are beautiful inside and out. Your social media brings light and love and joy into the world. Thank you for sharing your journeys and struggles. It takes courage to open up and to be vulnerable like that. Your posts always make my day brighter. Those that post hateful comments about you are little brains. They lack cognitive reasoning ability. They are self-loathers who are a waste of oxygen. Don't waste one iota of your time or energy on them. Remember, you can't fix stupid. Keep shining bright. Keep loving and supporting each other. You guys make the world a better place. 👏🏼❤️🌈

  • @Libraseason24
    @Libraseason24 Рік тому +6

    Thank you for sharing guys. Always a breath of fresh air listening to yall.

  • @brendagarrison4428
    @brendagarrison4428 Рік тому +1

    I'm sorry for all the pain you went throw y'all are great just the way you are.

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому

      Thank you so much for the kind words Brenda 🫶🏽

  • @drummermg131
    @drummermg131 Рік тому +4

    Great video, guys. I've never been bullied about my weight, but I was definitely bullied a lot growing up (people read me as gay long before I realized it myself) so I can empathize from that perspective. Some folks are just really, really lame. It's so hard to tune out all the awful, negative noise and just focus on loving yourself and living your best life, but that's what we must do. And for what it's worth from this random stranger, I think you guys are both handsome, beautiful people exactly as you are. Keep being you. 😊

  • @brendagarrison4428
    @brendagarrison4428 Рік тому +1

    You are great just the way you are just as long as you are healthy.

  • @Urbanworld
    @Urbanworld Рік тому +4

    This is such a good episode. I enjoy your vlogs because it’s great to see your vulnerability and love for each other. You are both just great guys and I am happy you found each other. You are a beautiful couple and you always make my day when you upload new content. Continue being vulnerable because it resonates with so many of us. Don’t listen to the naysayers. Give them grace for their ignorance and continue being the beautiful kings that you are. Remember, people that lash out intentionally to hurt others are battling demons we know nothing about. Their actions are designed to make us cower and retreat. They are trying to silence us. This is why you must continue to create the great content that you make and love on each other loudly. Praying for you both that God will continue to bless you and provide a force field of protection over your union and your mental health. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому +1

      Thank you so much for the encouragement! We are happy to know you have been able to connect with our content and it definitely pushes us to want to share even more with you. We definitely will continue to give grace though while we do strive for a more inclusive, gracious world. We too are learning, so we know no-one is perfect. Sending love your way! 💜

  • @djbonet2427
    @djbonet2427 Рік тому +1

    This definitely speaks to me, as someone who has struggled with weight and is married to a professional dancer who is smaller framed... its definitely a struggle .. especially when you hear comments like "How did you get him", "you should work on being smaller so he will stay with you", "ya'll don't match physically" - it truly has been something I have been conscious of internally and externally. The inner struggle to keep your head out of the pool of negativity is a battle I think we all face. Also learning that when you are happy and for the majority of people when you find that person that increases your happy - your weight tends to increase as well - the "Happy In Love Weight - they call it. For anyone that is watching someone's channel just to get a kick off of their looks, isn't watching for the right reason to begin with but also they are missing the point of people sharing their stories and lives. I applaud you both for being so open, authentic, and transparent about your journey and showing the ups and downs of not only being black men, but black gay married men dealing with a society who loves to encase people in boxes both within and outside our community.

  • @kennethshuman9846
    @kennethshuman9846 Рік тому +3

    I really appreciate you guys putting a video out there. I imagine that it was probably very difficult to sit and talk about it and put your raw feelings out there. You guys are very inspiring. I love you to death. I watch you all the time I think you’re beautiful and I love the fact that you were together and you expressed a positive image. Thank you so much for all you do. Love, Kenny.

  • @dr.willisreese
    @dr.willisreese Рік тому +1

    All of us who are married AND happy understand! Love weight looks great on those in love!

  • @yorktmd
    @yorktmd Рік тому +2

    So I’ve binged all of your vlogs and I am a huge fan. You guys are great physically and spiritually. Don’t let the haters get you down.

  • @conniebennett995
    @conniebennett995 Рік тому

    Listen to me! Both of you are fine as hell! Please, do not let ignorant, insensitive comments affect you. Keep doing what you are doing. I'm a straight 67 year old woman who happened to discover you on UA-cam. I've watched every episode. You're relationship and personality is so authentic and infectious. Please don't let the haters trigger a need to respond. You are doing an amazing job sharing your journey. Much love and respect to you both.❤️

  • @skywaydon4070
    @skywaydon4070 Рік тому

    Dear Beautiful Brothers - I trust that you will continue to Live & CELEBRATE your beautiful, authentic selves! Send Peace & Love to those disparaging souls. They hurt within - You can love them about! Be Healthy , Be Loving, Be Kind, Live your TRUTH. Big HUGS!

  • @malcolmm.3010
    @malcolmm.3010 Рік тому +1

    I love this topic. Be yourself and don't let these crazy people tell you how to be yourself. The ones that are truly here for your support will never do such a thing and only comment with positive comments. Just know everyone watching and following are not the 1% of those that don't have anything else to do but try to bring someone's spirit down. I have been watching for about a year now and have followed you guys and I just enjoy watching you adventures and the immigration process. If you don't go through something like that you never know what people have to go through just to be with someone they love. Peace and Happiness always. Until next time be safe out there.

    • @logicalonehere
      @logicalonehere Рік тому

      What a great response! I know they appreciate you for this one!

  • @mretaughtus2152
    @mretaughtus2152 10 місяців тому

    You two bring what you bring to social media. Your transparency and vulnerability is captivating. And honestly you two have found something in one another that most people never find. So those “comments” were probably just misplaced jealousy. 🤷🏾‍♂️

  • @maureenmupedzi7407
    @maureenmupedzi7407 Рік тому

    Sorry for the experience. These internet trolls need to stop. Fun enough I was actually body shamed for losing weight i had people at my work place commenting negatively on my weight loss

  • @BrandonWansley
    @BrandonWansley Рік тому

    The things people commented to y'all angered me!!! What has always pissed me off, was the hate comes within our community. You guys look amazing, f€ck what anyone else thinks. If people are attracted to those types of bodies, please remember bodies will change, especially with age. I wouldn't want anyone, only attracted to my outward appearance and not my inward. I'm a thick guy, and always carried myself with class and confidence, and have a husband that appreciates it all. Many with that shallow mindset, are bitter, and always alone. Thank you guys for talking about this, and sharing your personal stories.

  • @alext1054
    @alext1054 Рік тому

    This conversation is so needed throughout the community 🙌🏾 The hate that queer people have for each other is insane. We could spend months talking about "body goals" amongst queer folks. How dare people feel because you're not ripped with a small waist that you don't deserve love. As queer man myself, I have struggled with this all my life, and I'm still dealing with it. I appreciate the transparency 🙌🏾🙌🏾🤎🤎

  • @ktg787
    @ktg787 Рік тому

    It just baffles me how people will easily spit out bullshit behind a keyboard they won’t be able to say to your face. Obesity is a multifactorial issue and before opening your mouth and bringing that up to someone make sure you know his backstory. Straight ignorance, it just enrages me. Keep doing you guys, be your authentic selves. You are loved ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @sunfirebrown
    @sunfirebrown Рік тому +1

    well at my heaviest I was I was loved. but I've always been known for having a big butt 😂 until I lost weight I didn't realize how big I was. I love you guys just the way you are a few don't never lose an ounce. that's from my heart ❤️ great topic guys keep putting out this good content every week. I'm here for it🎉

  • @kdphilly
    @kdphilly Рік тому

    I’m of a particular age, and I remember when men-period-didn’t worry or concern themselves with their body image. However, that all changed with the advent of social media. Now you have to present this certain masculine image to be accepted by society. It’s so ironic because prior to watching your vlog, I was watching a BBC documentary about straight men who are obsessed with body image to the point where they have surgeries and take steroids and spend excessive amounts of time, energy, effort, and money in the gym just to uphold the “ideal” image and even to the point of death. I don’t care what anyone says, that’s unhealthy. But be encouraged because haters are going to hate. And the only way to combat hate is with love. So, love yourselves and be kind to yourselves and each other.

  • @brucejordan8274
    @brucejordan8274 Рік тому

    First-time viewer. I truly hope you ALWAYS REMAIN HAPPY IN YOUR OWN SKIN, regardless of the societal norms and senseless, arrogant body-ratings. I loved your open, candid sharing in this segment. Notice how couples who have a perfect "10" , physically, at home will still OFTEN find themselves being cheated on, or out cheating with an alternate less-than-ten! Human nature can be cruel and insensitive. Keep STRIVING and thriving by yourselves, and For yourselves!

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому

      Thank you for watching as well as sharing your insight Bruce! As hard as it may get to block out the noise sometimes, deep down we know our self worth and that in itself is a lot more important. Plus we love how we are at all the different stages as well as each other. We appreciate your kind words and encouragement. Much love from us both!

  • @rspen2142
    @rspen2142 Рік тому

    Honestly, you guys are amazing and I hope you understand fully that you are helping people see positivity in who they are and not in what others want them to be. We know that people are constantly running in circles to live up to society's standards of beauty (which is worse due to social media). Being strong, secure, black gay men with strong a strong relationship, friendships and family-ships is more important than idolizing things that will eventually fade anyway.

  • @MrRobert1
    @MrRobert1 Рік тому

    The people who want to bring you down are already below you. You guys are great. With love from Europe, Amsterdam.

  • @sidwillmadumbo4995
    @sidwillmadumbo4995 Рік тому

    In all honesty, I'm so lost most of the time in your inspirational videos, your personalities and beautiful love story that I failed to notice your bodies or weight 🤷‍♂️. Keep being you Brian and Alec. You are admired and loved by soooo many people. Much love all the way from South Africa ❤️

  • @jamesbooker7730
    @jamesbooker7730 Рік тому

    I'm sorry to hear that people are shaming and attacking you guys. You two are beautiful inside and out, and I appreciate you 2 for being authentic and loving, and that's all I have taken from your content.
    Keep up the wonderful work that you are giving us in your content. Love you guys.

  • @DavidCruz-hi6si
    @DavidCruz-hi6si Рік тому

    I just discovered you guys and you guys as well as others are showing the world the way the real world looks, the way the real world loves and breaking glass ceilings for many younger viewers as well as people who don’t see themselves in main stream media…. Please don’t stop 🤍. We need you guys. As hard as it is to see the negative comments, you guys are changing lives. Your authenticity and loving, growing, passionate conversations and relationship is creating ripples of good throughout the universe. Even though some people makes hurting comments, think about the fact that they took the time to watch your video!…. Something caught their eye, they saw even if just a sliver a reflection of themselves in you, which means they need you too! Thank you both 🌈🙏🏾

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому +1

      Thank you so much for this David. This really was such a sweet and reassuring message. We are happy to know that we even remotely may be making a difference in someone's lives. We truly started this journey out not knowing where it would take us, but in the hope that people could see themselves in us in some way and feel represented. So this hit it on the head for us truly and have given us a renewed sense of purpose. Sending love your way! 💜

  • @kasaannix4378
    @kasaannix4378 Рік тому

    You guys are perfect. Fr. Very handsome. Not too fat not too skinny. Perfect body sizes and perfect for each other. And if u were too fat or too skinny……. The vibe is still there. I like how y’all handle each other. People are projecting there insecurities on u. I really hope you guys don’t even put a second thought into those negative comments. You guys are a light in our community. I hope my next relationship has the vibe you all have. Y’all are like a hand and glove. The happiness is real and genuine I do believe. Love to see you guys. Equally yolked you two are.

  • @vrman3
    @vrman3 Рік тому +4

    Great topic. Some people miss out on real love because they are a slave to unrealistic ideals. I enjoy seeing you navigating the trials and celebrating the victories together. I care less about size and more about commitment. Thanks for keeping it real and relatable!

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому +1

      This is really what is so important. People focus on things sometimes that don't necessarily last a lifetime. Don't get us wrong, we believe it's ok to have a preference, as most of us do. But in doing so it is also important to not put down people in a hurtful way. Glad you enjoyed our conversation!

  • @richardmusso3590
    @richardmusso3590 Рік тому

    OMG, that is crazy!! First, you both are beautiful men!! Inside and out! Alex you said beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so true, and as you both said no one knows our journeys. I have known many guys over the years with body builder looks, and personality like a rock. I have had the blessing to have Ben in your company a couple times, and there are no kinder , loving, beautiful men that I have had the honor to know!! Love you both alot, Rick.

  • @scholasticachindove5253
    @scholasticachindove5253 Рік тому +2

    You are yourselves and l personally feel you enjoy being yourselves. I am a mother and l am 66 and l have watched every video of yours...l see blessed young men who are courageous enough to speak reality...men who know what they want for themselves and l pray for you. Such comments are there to distract you from your goals. I never understood what gay people go through you have educated the world.. me inclusive ....there is definitely too much good in what you doing .. keep it up... weight is one out of the hundred good things that define you ...be blessed

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому

      We definitely do! We really do appreciate your prayers and kind words so much. It is so encouraging and we feel seen. That is one of the best gifts you could ever give any one in the world so for that we thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

  • @empressijah4745
    @empressijah4745 Рік тому

    So sorry, don't pay attention to the haters, it is so sad how mean people can be. We love you guys. Stay on the positive words.

  • @terryfrederick8126
    @terryfrederick8126 Рік тому +1

    I am so sorry to hear that guy's, u guy's are amazing and look amazing, keep up the good work, everyone has a different body and people have to learn to accept that. You guy's look good just the way you are, don't pay attention to these people, keep on living your all life to fullest and keep on doing the things that made u guys happy. I love u guy's so much as always lot's of hug's, love, kisses, and support coming from me and my country Grenada to u guy's.

  • @samuelwict
    @samuelwict Рік тому

    So just continue to love each other be their for each other no matter what . I am a Jamaican and I am proud love to watch you guys .

  • @diankogardiner8647
    @diankogardiner8647 Рік тому

    Some people are just trash and unhappy with themselves! You guys are awesome and don’t let the trolls take away your joy!

  • @attcenter
    @attcenter Рік тому

    Don’t pay the haters no mind, y’all have way more supporters than haters

  • @Humanitygracecompassion
    @Humanitygracecompassion Рік тому

    I love this topic because during Covid I’ve gained weight and I’m currently 193 pounds and before Covid I was 165 and it’s hard for me to lose and I’m starting to feel a certain type of way🖤

  • @bunniewilliams1499
    @bunniewilliams1499 Рік тому +1

    My favourite couple, you are both amazing personalities, you inspire us to try and live our best lives, all I wish is for you both to be happy and grow old gracefully. What the world needs is more love and respect for each other, you both just keep on keeping on.

  • @eliovelasco5299
    @eliovelasco5299 Рік тому

    Hey guys! Just stopping by to say I miss seeing y’all and your videos. Putting yourself out there opens you up to critique and public opinion but I’m willing to bet most people with negative things to say won’t show their faces like you guys or even have half the charisma y’all possess. Focus on the positive feedback and the amazing community you guys have built! Haters can F#%$ all the way off ❤

  • @theog1045
    @theog1045 Рік тому

    You two give me hope that there is someone out there who'll look at me the way you two look at each other regardless of what some idiots think you should look like weight wise. Side note for your builds, you guys have nothing to worry about....until you reach my age 🤣🤣. Love and take care of each other and ignore the haters 💜

  • @josephedwards5872
    @josephedwards5872 Рік тому

    Loosing weight is a vasculating activity. We tend to go up and down. Thanks for sharing a sensitive topic.

  • @bigthangz5489
    @bigthangz5489 Рік тому

    never stop.... you have each other & love each other ...... that's all that matters 💙💙💙

  • @TuscanWonder
    @TuscanWonder Рік тому +1

    Tell me about it. Whether it’s topics on being ugly vs conventionally attractive, young vs old, fat vs muscular, masculine vs feminine, light skinned vs dark skinned, blk vs non-blk, “regular”vs exotic, wealthy vs bum, fashionable vs lame, people have their biases/preferences. That doesn’t give them license to exact their (self) hatred against others for not living happily and healthily in peace. Know that you guys are attractive based on many things, and that many, I REPEAT, many types of ppl find you attractive regardless of what you strive to achieve for body image. 🫶🏽

  • @carleswilliams3339
    @carleswilliams3339 Рік тому

    Don't worry about haters! They are lovers. You are winners! Keep doing your thing. Good luck.😊

  • @arnoldoneverything2763
    @arnoldoneverything2763 Рік тому +1

    Well said as always. Very beneficial conversation. So sad how superficial the gay community is and can be; your experiences with apps and otherwise are not isolated and sadly is a norm. Enjoyed this video.

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому

      We are happy to know you saw value in what we shared Arnold. As a community there really is so much we can work on. We are still learning ourselves, but we hope that everyone takes it upon themselves to move towards a more gracious, inclusive society. Much love! 💜

  • @jareddunn8681
    @jareddunn8681 Рік тому

    I love you guys for the way God made yall. I love that we're different & beautifully & wonderfully made. People out here are bitter & God help them with their issues.
    Anyway keep being great & shining brightly Brian & Alec ! ✨🙏🏽💯🥰

  • @jayrr7134
    @jayrr7134 Рік тому

    Brain & Alec, love guys and all the positive vibes that you display on your channel. Sorry for the negative comments you've received. You're getting more love now in these comments shows how much you're appreciated. You continue too be/do you and spread the love that you've have been doing. God bless the both of you!! ❤ 🙏

  • @withabike
    @withabike Рік тому

    Dear friends! The channel is great! Watching the video is like reading a good book! People have benefited a lot! thank you for your sharing!

  • @JdbT-x9w
    @JdbT-x9w 4 місяці тому

    I am a slender person, but I also can appreciate people in different shapes and sizes. I find you both to be very handsome. I enjoyed your video.

  • @aint4it
    @aint4it Рік тому

    Kudos Mazelins for keeping calm and even giving these fools the time of day by discussing this topic. If they have an issue with your appearance, sexual orientation, etc. or just being negative, block them and move on! You guys look great and offer awesome UA-cam content. Haters are gonna hate! That means you’re doing something right!! Life is too short to pay attention to foolishness!! Concentrate on the positive and continue to be blessed!!Love you guys! 💪🏽❤️

  • @PaulKabera
    @PaulKabera 11 місяців тому

    Hi Alec & Brian. It's been awhile since I've commented on one of your videos, so in part I just want to say "Hello! It's nice to see you!" But the other reason I am commenting is that it is great to watch you growing deeper in love. My husband and I are coming up on our third wedding anniversary and the conversations between us have recently grown more profound. It seems like the two of you are going through the same thing. I wish you all the best as you continue on your marital journey!

  • @FUJU876
    @FUJU876 Рік тому +1

    I really appreciate this convo. Personally, I am struggling with weight gain rn and wondering if I can get it together. It's a conversation that we don't have enough in the community. PS. You guys are both super attractive.

  • @smllw
    @smllw Рік тому

    You two guys are amazing, don't ever forget that, it's sad we have so many mean spirited people in this world, that are dealing with there own issue, someone hurt them and all they know to do is hurt others.. you know theirs a true saying, that hurt people, hurt others, so know when people make ugly comments about you all, pay them no mind, because at some point in there lives, they've been hurt by someone.. now I'm not excusing them, because saying ugly things about someone is not cool at all, you guys keep up the great work.

  • @TheGaloof
    @TheGaloof Рік тому

    Brian is gorgeous. Alec you a have a beauty that always shines through in your videos. Don't ever change unless you want to. Love your videos. Glad I found your channel! Hope you keep spreading the laughter and love

  • @rosedixon6104
    @rosedixon6104 Рік тому +3

    Oh! My goodness my favorite couple , just in time to tune in love you guys
    Very interesting topic.
    I love how you guys are true and honest about yourselves 💕❤️🙏🏾

    • @MeetTheMazelins
      @MeetTheMazelins  Рік тому

      Thanks Rose! As difficult as it is sometimes we still try our best to be as upfront as possible.

  • @braxton6680
    @braxton6680 Рік тому

    So sorry you both experienced those hateful messages from these people on social media. You both look great just the way you are now. Just continue to work out for health. Cause it will always be someone hating on you even if you had a 6-pack

  • @bigthangz5489
    @bigthangz5489 Рік тому

    dont listen to the trolls.... use the filters to block out those who post foul language and slurs
    your fans and regulat viewers love what you do.... yall have a really nice channel & a great thing going ❤❤❤❤

  • @kristopherbrown5214
    @kristopherbrown5214 Рік тому

    Thanks for always being open and 100% authentic. I’m sorry to hear that you guys have been experiencing that kind of negativity. It’s crazy to me bcuz u guys are beautiful inside and out. Forget the naysayers. Keep spreading positivity and doing your thing ❤

  • @Kedeuce
    @Kedeuce Рік тому

    Your positive message probably went waaaayyy over the heads of the ones committed to being haters. Unfortunately being on social media opens you to people with their own issues who enjoy projecting their insecurities and self hatred onto others. It’s that whole misery loves company mentality. Though it may be easier said than done, please stop giving energy to people who obviously are not a part of your support group. The people that love and support you guys outnumber the the haters by far!!!!! Do not allow yourselves to be bullied or fat shamed. If you, as a couple, decide that there are some things you want to hone in on and change, then go for it. You journey is just that - YOUR JOURNEY…. Unique unto YOU!!!! You’re human…. I understand that the digs can be hurtful. Refuse to give any hater power over you to the point that they can make you feel a particular kinda way. Your journey has already been quite inspirational. Stay the course…. The best is yet to come. Much Love. Continued success….

  • @shirleystephenson8424
    @shirleystephenson8424 Рік тому

    Hi Brian and Alec, truly enjoyed this vlog my biggest takeaway from the conversation is "You never know what people are experiencing in life, so we need a bit more kindness in the world." I watch you guys for the same reason I watch most UA-cam videos to learn about and see others relationships I have very little knowledge of... yet I realize that all these relationships exist and thrive in the world, so I want to know more! For me knowledge leads to understanding and accepting people for who they are. Love and kindness should be our first steps to helping this world be a better place. When I watch the two of you I am proud that you are healthy, intelligent, well-mannered, handsome, precious black men, and I smile because I know our ancestors are proud also! Keep your heads up, and keep being your authentic selves, better is coming! I know you guys can only share a tiny portion of your lives, and if you don't know, it's appreciated! 🥰

  • @traceyealy5477
    @traceyealy5477 Рік тому +1

    What I love about you two is how kind you are to BJ, your family, your friends, and each other. I'm larger than I want to be, and I know I will need to make lifestyle changes to see a difference. It 's hard to be sent hurtful messages from peopostple. Thank you for the you y ou yyou

  • @miguelseals3258
    @miguelseals3258 Рік тому +2

    Good Afternoon Happy Sunday guys. Just received my notification at 2:20 pm but am happy to see you guys always.

  • @joalblo9581
    @joalblo9581 Рік тому

    The way people treat you is a reflection of the way they actually feel about themselves!
    Those comments weren't for you or about you. They were about the people who made them.
    Don't internalize other people's issues.
    You are both beautiful and we come here because we love you both "...just the way are..."❤️

  • @richardbenson-zp9ib
    @richardbenson-zp9ib Рік тому

    Thank you for your transparency and authenticity. It’s truly regret.

  • @wowsthisandthat
    @wowsthisandthat Рік тому

    Some people are just sad! They troll other people to avoid dealing with their own issues!! I have learned to ignore those poor souls. You both are very attractive physically and mentally!! Thanks for sharing your journeys!! We all have something we can work on as no one walking on this earth is perfect. Love you guys!!

  • @sisterkeys
    @sisterkeys 5 місяців тому

    Ya are fine & the realest 2 men I have seen online. Continue being you, that's why we rock with ya ❤

  • @domG
    @domG Рік тому

    I enjoy your candor and your support of everyone in all their infinite combinations. Not everyone is 6 pack abs and muscles. Everyone needs to be supported and respected. Great topic and amazing discussion. 👏 Thank you, @MazGang
    I was a gay boy @ Calabar hiding in plain sight. I was not an app guy either 😕 They never worked for me.

  • @poppy8318
    @poppy8318 Рік тому

    Self love is the most important thing.

  • @djaswome
    @djaswome Рік тому

    I am so sorry that the two of you have been subjected to this. Fatphobia is deeply ingrained within society and is reflected in so many ways. It's virtually impossible to escape from. People attach value to thinness and fat people are automatically seen as unworthy of literally everything. It's horrible. I appreciate the both of you for being so vulnerable about this because I know it isn't easy. Fuck fatphobia always. I love you both so much. ❤❤❤

  • @PatPure
    @PatPure Рік тому

    One of the truest things of life, is that one is met with negativity in the midst of finding their own joy.
    As much as this hurts, we are also given an opportunity through these woundings to decide to accept what we found out to be our internal understanding of what is right and true.
    I began watching your channel has part of witnessing for myself what homosexuality is and is not. I have a close family member who is a lesbian and looked down upon within the family because of this.
    I have and continue to learn that love is not just between heterosexual pairs.
    It is not foreign to the human psyche (the soul), it simply is.
    Thank you for being what you are - two men, who met each other, fell in love and married.
    The insistence that one has to have a particular look, or clothing size to be an example of true love, is a limitation that has no bearing in truth. Love sees the beauty of the heart of its beloved. All external factors, are like leaves changing with each season of life, and all of the buffering that they receive from the forces of nature.
    Love, is the eternal truth.
    This is what you two have with each other.
    I personally hope, you nurture it and it grows, so that one day, someone somewhere, will tell the story of the Mazelins and their ever-growing love for each other. ~ Patricia

  • @jwalt8019
    @jwalt8019 Рік тому

    Y’all are one beautiful couple. Keep on shining. 🙏🏾

  • @frankvaldes4866
    @frankvaldes4866 Рік тому

    You are both fine, masculine men. F the haters. I have enjoyed the weekly updates on your lives together, like the majority of your audience does as well. Please continue to share your strong loving relationship with your fans and disregard people who are so jealous of what you have together that they feel the need to put you down. -Frank in NY

  • @wjdt1439
    @wjdt1439 Рік тому

    You guys are handsome and fabulous. Makes me feel warm inside when I watch you guys.

  • @barbarahunter931
    @barbarahunter931 Рік тому

    I love you guys, it amazes me that someone would sit behind a computer or their phone and think it is okay to be so ugly to people who's only purpose it to share part of their lives and entertain us. I know it is not easy to film and edit these videos but, just know most of us really enjoy them and wish you guys the best. Keep being the great people that you are because GOD got you!

  • @jackiethompson3144
    @jackiethompson3144 Рік тому

    Happy Sunday! LOVE YOUR HATERS. As for me regardless of what your weight is you both are beautiful soul who found each other and I love you both. It’s so much going on in the world and we on a level of someone’s weight not cool.Mazelins family keep shining God Bless 🙏🏾💪🏾💪🏾

  • @bcusaaus4749
    @bcusaaus4749 Рік тому

    Very good subject and so true in gay world. I’m slim and been in groups where everyone was slim / fit and the way they talked about men even a little over weight was horrific

  • @jvbone1967
    @jvbone1967 Рік тому +1

    Ignore and BLOCK these haters and stay 💪🏾💪🏾....I support you BOTH #BIGHUGS❤️❤️

  • @sheltonclark3926
    @sheltonclark3926 Рік тому

    Hello my guys! It's hard to imagine anyone being critical of your appearance. I've always found you two to be one of the most attractive couples there are! I'm sure you don't have to be reminded that there are always going to be haters no matter what, especially given your popularity on social media. I love you guys and encourage you to continue to be an inspiration to the gay community!!😃😃

  • @sophiachue
    @sophiachue Рік тому

    Being nice is so much easier that hating.......Sending you both love and light. Thanks for sharing.

  • @tyreemcafee8938
    @tyreemcafee8938 Рік тому

    Sending you both 💓. Life is way too short not to enjoy all of it at any weight. My heaviest was 388.6 (now 307) and I look(ed) great and still caught my phine 🇩🇴 husband who is 1/2 my age. I ignore any and all negativity. Anyone that hates on others doesn't love themselves and is projecting. Now off my soap box 📦. Congratulations 🎊 on BGW voting your supporters; we are showing up and showing out. You guys are doing fantastic 👏.

  • @bea6864
    @bea6864 Рік тому

    Bonjour les garçons, comment allez vous? I learned that you have lost someone, my condolences, I hope you will find comfort with your family during these difficult times. Bisous