Bishop John Dolan on Losing Three Siblings to Suicide | EWTN News In Depth September 27, 2024

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  • @edithqr01google65
    @edithqr01google65 Місяць тому +1

    Bishop Dolan's personal testimony will be a source of hope and encouragement to many.

  • @Magazinelady
    @Magazinelady Місяць тому +52

    My condolences, Bishop Dolan. To lose 3 siblings to suicide is a lot for one family. I have read articles before about how churches should be addressing the issue of suicide. You are the very first priest I have heard speak up and speak out. I believe it takes courage to that. Thank you! May God continue to bless and protect you. May He continue to give you the strength to discuss this difficult subject. I agree with you; by talking about it, it lowers the stigma. People hopefully will ask for help. I also think there is a misconception that religious, faithful people will not have a mental health illness. We are all human and prone to all kinds of illnesses.

    • @eileenbrown3805
      @eileenbrown3805 Місяць тому +5

      Father Chris Alar, Divine Mercy MIC, has also spoken about his grandmother who had killed herself. He has co-written a book with Jason Lewis MIC called: "After Suicide:There's Still Hope for Them and You." One of their staff members who worked closely with Father Chris also committed suicide. You can find the episode where Father Chris discusses this subject on his UA-cam podcast Divine Mercy.

    • @hoakerhoaker
      @hoakerhoaker Місяць тому

      This is one of Fr. Chris Alar’s talk about losing his grandmother to suicide.
      ua-cam.com/video/A7jdt2TLSKg/v-deo.htmlsi=ILKBuKu1jnoBJuIy

  • @julieCA58
    @julieCA58 Місяць тому +41

    I pray this reaches the largest of audiences. May God bless you all

  • @stampinggrannieboyd9170
    @stampinggrannieboyd9170 Місяць тому +5

    Fr. Chris Alar wrote Beyond Suicide: There is Hope for Them and You after his Grandmother died from suicide. Great book about a sad subject. It helped me deal with the death of a loved one.

  • @PaulaDesmarais-t8z
    @PaulaDesmarais-t8z Місяць тому +10

    Divine Mercy chaplet being prayed for their eternal souls…🙏❤️🙏

  • @sheilanicolas1263
    @sheilanicolas1263 Місяць тому +31

    Into God's hands we commend their spirits, amen. ✝️💐

  • @KristynLorraine
    @KristynLorraine Місяць тому +20

    I thank God that Bp. Dolan is able to use his own experience of sorrow to help others. May God bless his ministry to those who are grieving and struggling.

  • @susannay.3437
    @susannay.3437 Місяць тому +3

    Reaching out, reaching up is so important, like reaching out of the water when drowning. 🥺

  • @Hotchpotch08
    @Hotchpotch08 Місяць тому +4

    I love Bishop Dolan’s total honesty. Even in that terrible grief his faith must be such a comfort. And the fact that he can say and offer masses for his loved ones. He has turned tragedy into mission.

  • @johnnybgood5836
    @johnnybgood5836 Місяць тому +15

    Horrendous....his poor parents....we must pray for all the extended victims of suicide .....a strong strong Bishop indeed ..... RIP all deceased

  • @nancidansouis7633
    @nancidansouis7633 Місяць тому +6

    Dear Bishop Dolan, I can’t begin to imagine how intense your prayers are in light of the burdens that you endure. Thank you so much for your strength and your courage. But most of all thank you for your faith. You will forever be in my prayers.

  •  Місяць тому +23

    God Bless you for speaking about this...

  • @helenculhane7780
    @helenculhane7780 Місяць тому +5

    Bless you Bishop John. I admire your courage in speaking about your 3 siblings. It can’t be easy. May the good Lord support you in all that you do.

  • @casanova07scrr
    @casanova07scrr Місяць тому +4

    Rev. Bishop Dolan, your testimony has edify me. Thank you.

  • @NoelinaNakato
    @NoelinaNakato Місяць тому +7

    My condolences to bishop Dolan!

  • @bella1975
    @bella1975 Місяць тому +3

    This just proves you can have a catholic Christian family and It is great to be raised with faith. Still, some things are missing. Active talking and dialogue is essential. These issues have to be addressed and not swept under the rug. It is so important !🙏🏻♥️ May they rest in peace kf the lord 🙏🏻

  • @stevendolan6012
    @stevendolan6012 Місяць тому +1

    I would love to talk about this with you Bishop John. I’m missing my siblings too

  • @charlottefasi3557
    @charlottefasi3557 Місяць тому +3

    The Lord keep you in his sight always. You are blessed, Father.

  • @animula6908
    @animula6908 Місяць тому +10

    Suicide must be the hardest way to lose a loved one, second only to having someone go missing and never be found.

  • @robbynholmes9507
    @robbynholmes9507 Місяць тому +10

    My deepest condolences to the Bishop. In addition to commitment to the church and church-related activities, a deep commitment to Jesus Christ Himself is so very important. It is, in fact, EVERYTHING. It's easy to be so involved in activities that a relationship with the Lord almost gets lost in shuffle. HE should be the first, greatest and most important relationship of all.

    • @sophiamac9100
      @sophiamac9100 Місяць тому +1

      Amen! He is the Alpha and the Omega!

  • @Emilyis_preppy
    @Emilyis_preppy Місяць тому +15

    So very sad for all families who have lost loved ones through suicide May their Souls rest in peace

    • @yennguyen-uj3ri
      @yennguyen-uj3ri Місяць тому +1

      One night I had a dream of a friend that committed suicide. I saw him in this dark place and his clothes were very old and raggedy. He looks very sad and I told why are you so depressed. He stood up and I saw the ground was muddy and his ankles were chained. Please someone explain this dream for me?

    • @Vic-ok8mx
      @Vic-ok8mx Місяць тому +4

      It sounds like he urgently needs your help. His soul may have been just about saved but he may still have to suffer intensely in the lowest deepest part of purgatory. You can shorten his prolonged suffering by making acts of contrition on his behalf prayed from the heart. He needs you to pray for him.. Several Catholic masses offered up for the repose of his soul and in reparation for his sin of committing suicide would help him immensely. You could also offer up your Holy Communion for him at Mass, sprinkle some holy water on his grave, light a blessed candle to relieve his suffering, offer the stations of the cross on his behalf, the Divine Mercy daily, rosary and Gregorian Masses will all help to relieve his painful suffering and please God shorten his duration in purgatory.

  • @JoanneMercader
    @JoanneMercader Місяць тому +2

    We express our condolences to this man and his family. What huge broken hearts they all have. May peace be in their lives, alongside hope to continue and try every single day to be happy

  • @manichairdo9265
    @manichairdo9265 Місяць тому +10

    Grace and peace to you in Christ.
    Many years ago, thousands were attending a Christian conference. Whilst teaching, the speaker 'heard a voice' saying, pray for the suicidal. He ignored this prompting of the Holy Spirit until the 3rd time. When he complied, he asked the people to stand for prayer if they struggled with thoughts of suicide. He was uttery stunned that over 3000 people stood up for prayer.
    In my church, one recently widowed lady, my closest friend, took her own life. That opened the door to some of us requiring counselling because her death made us aware that it can happen even in a church. At the funeral, her sister read from Romans 8. Who can separate us from the love of God, (in Christ) Neither death, LIFE, angels, demons, principalities, powers etc.
    May the Father of ALL comfort, comfort us in ALL things, always.

    • @susannay.3437
      @susannay.3437 Місяць тому

      @@manichairdo9265 Thank you, and God bless you, for sharing this. 🌹

  • @elfidasoto9049
    @elfidasoto9049 Місяць тому +7

    Blessings

  • @JoanneMercader
    @JoanneMercader Місяць тому +2

    Thank you,Sir

  • @lynnesperoni2686
    @lynnesperoni2686 Місяць тому

    My heart aches for Bishop Dolan. Obviously there is a chemical imbalance for these siblings to be so in despair. May they RIP and may Bishop have the peace of Christ.

  • @jeannehall6546
    @jeannehall6546 Місяць тому +2

    I knew 2 people who died by suicide. Both made the effort to be faithful in the Church and yet still had plights that needed to be addressed. Bishop Dolan seems to want to do right by establishing this new ministry in Phoenix and I hope more dioceses will follow his lead.😢

    • @Vic-ok8mx
      @Vic-ok8mx Місяць тому

      @@jeannehall6546 One of the most painful experiences a family can go through is losing a loved one through suicide. I am very sorry for your loss. Maria Simma a mystic of the Catholic Church who frequently received visits from such souls from purgatory. The vast majority were saved only a few lost. What happens to them depends entirely on why they did it. Many if not most are suffering deeply with mental illness and in a place of great pain and not thinking clearly. In other cases there are those who are more responsible because they have driven them to doing this by defaming them, refusing to help them, pushed them into a corner where they shortcicuited. Others again may be affected and driven to it by abuse, ancestral curses, bullying or being attacked by demonic spirits or earthbound souls. I have also heard that when the person dies before their ordained time on earth those years are spent in purgatory. Yes, it's a sin against the 5th commandment but God in his infinite mercy does not want anyone to be lost. Some often repent in the very last moments. We must therefore pray for such souls. Offering Gregorian Masses, saying the Divine Mercy Chaplet daily at 3pm or offering our Lady of the 7 sorrows and our Holy Communions for them will all help. We must never loose hope and trust in God's infinite mercy. God Bless you, Amen 🙏

  • @UnderAttack-x1s
    @UnderAttack-x1s Місяць тому +1

    I'm very sorry for the Bishop's loss and I'm glad you hold a remembrance day.
    I lost my older brother to suicide. But I don't agree the mental health system is the answer. It pushed my brother over the edge. I think other intervention is best.

    • @susannay.3437
      @susannay.3437 Місяць тому +1

      @@UnderAttack-x1s I am so sorry to have just read about your loss. I wonder, too, about the health care system, but I wonder how you think so, and perhaps, what could be done. God be with you, comfort you, and give you continued understanding. ❤️

    • @UnderAttack-x1s
      @UnderAttack-x1s Місяць тому +1

      @@susannay.3437 it's too much to write here, but my university degrees are in Psychology and Education, plus Foreign Languages. I studied the situation because I seriously saw the mental health system literally push my brother over the edge. I had seen it elsewhere too. I also have had one or two family members either completely, functionally ruined or nearly so. I've done a lot of study on it and feel our mental health system is part of the problem.
      It's pretty tough out there today in this world. I feel a lot more is situational and simply can be helped, but not by labels and drugs.
      Thanks for asking me. I have solid reasons for how I feel and think about it.

    • @susannay.3437
      @susannay.3437 Місяць тому

      @@UnderAttack-x1s Hope to know more of what you think. You never know how much your thoughts can help others! 🥲

  • @livelovenow8862
    @livelovenow8862 Місяць тому

    Wow he’s amazing

  • @janepearson5802
    @janepearson5802 Місяць тому +1

    So much sadness for 1 family to cope with. I'm too cowardly to end it .

    • @TerriPfeiffer
      @TerriPfeiffer Місяць тому +2

      There is hope! Peace and joy are possible even when you can't see them!

  • @meanchoolee5845
    @meanchoolee5845 Місяць тому

    God you Father

  • @leoniea138
    @leoniea138 Місяць тому +4

    I grew up in S Africa under the then ap art h...laws ....nothing compares....nothing . We did not suicide . We made great lives under all the pressure....so I can not understand why ...we can only pray for those who take the easy way out....Bishop you are super strong....sending prayers, love and light.

    • @Ava2969ny
      @Ava2969ny Місяць тому +6

      Suicide is not the easy way out...people who carry out the act are struggling with their mental health and cannot even manage their daily lives, so suicide looks like the "only" way, but it's certainly not the easy way out for them. It's takes a lot to carry out a suicide; one can only imagine what the individual was going through, which made suicide look like the better option.

  • @PatriciaDebrow
    @PatriciaDebrow Місяць тому +9

    God bless this good bishop! Mental illness is insidious and invisible! 😢 what does the Catholic Church teach about where these souls go after death? I lost a brother to suicide and my mother worries about his soul. I tell her all we can do is PRAY!!!

    • @KristynLorraine
      @KristynLorraine Місяць тому +2

      We commend them to God's mercy.

    • @Vic-ok8mx
      @Vic-ok8mx Місяць тому +1

      One of the most painful experiences a family can go through is losing a loved one through suicide. I am very sorry for your loss. Maria Simma a mystic of the Catholic Church who frequently received visits from such souls from purgatory. The vast majority were saved only a few lost. What happens to them depends entirely on why they did it. Many if not most are suffering deeply with mental illness and in a place of great pain and not thinking clearly. In other cases there are those who are more responsible because they have driven them to doing this by defaming them, refusing to help them, pushed them into a corner where they shortcicuited. Others again may be affected and driven to it by sexual abuse, ancestral curses, bullying or being attacked by demonic spirits or earthbound souls. I have also heard that when the person dies before their ordained time on earth those years are spent in purgatory. Yes, it's a sin against the 5th commandment but God in his infinite mercy does not want anyone to be lost. Some often repent in the very last moments. We must therefore pray for such souls. Offering Gregorian Masses, saying the Divine Mercy Chaplet daily at 3pm or offering our Lady of the 7 sorrows and our Holy Communions for them will all help. We must never loose hope and trust in God's infinite mercy. Do not let unloving and unhelpful comments here discourage you. May your brothers soul rest in peace. God Bless you, Amen 🙏

    • @Eternally_Catholic
      @Eternally_Catholic Місяць тому +1

      Divine Mercy is unfathomable. Read St. Faustina's diary

    • @nicholasgoh3526
      @nicholasgoh3526 Місяць тому +3

      People who commit suicide really don’t want to die. They just don’t want the pain anymore and it’s really not their fault that they have the pain. Some of them could not forgive themselves for what they have done. There are people who have committed hideous crimes but were forgiven and reborn again through God. So I never believe that an all loving God cannot forgive someone who had committed suicide and even punish him. I know it’s hard because you don’t have an answer so just pray. Not having an answer now doesn’t mean there is no answer to it. The answer lies on the other side and you will know it eventually. So just pray and leave the rest to God.

    • @Vic-ok8mx
      @Vic-ok8mx Місяць тому

      One of the most painful experiences a family can go through is losing a loved one through suicide. I am very sorry for your loss. Maria Simma a mystic of the Catholic Church who frequently received visits from such souls from purgatory. The vast majority were saved only a few lost. What happens to them depends entirely on why they did it. Many if not most are suffering deeply with mental illness and in a place of great pain and not thinking clearly. In other cases there are those who are more responsible because they have driven them to doing this by defaming them, refusing to help them, pushed them into a corner where they shortcicuited. Others again may be affected and driven to it by sexual abuse, ancestral curses, bullying or being attacked by demonic spirits or earthbound souls. I have also heard that when the person dies before their ordained time on earth those years are spent in purgatory. Yes, it's a sin against the 5th commandment but God in his infinite mercy does not want anyone to be lost. Some often repent in the very last moments. We must therefore pray for such souls. Offering Gregorian Masses, saying the Divine Mercy Chaplet daily at 3pm or offering our Lady of the 7 sorrows and our Holy Communions for them will all help. We must never loose hope and trust in God's infinite mercy. May your brothers soul rest in peace. God Bless you, Amen 🙏

  • @beverleylockman2906
    @beverleylockman2906 Місяць тому

    Always always always always look behind the scenes. Always. Look deeply .

  • @PInk77W1
    @PInk77W1 Місяць тому +3

    I came from a large catholic family.
    One brother committed suicide
    One brother OD on heroin

    • @Mercalons
      @Mercalons Місяць тому

      My goodness

    • @PInk77W1
      @PInk77W1 Місяць тому

      @@Mercalons life is messy. I’m the only high school drop out in my family. I’ve never done drugs. My house is paid off. I got no debt and I’m retired.

  • @RandomThoughts77777
    @RandomThoughts77777 Місяць тому +11

    Poor Bishop

    • @scootahscoot9389
      @scootahscoot9389 Місяць тому

      God bless him but 3 direct connects taking their lives?
      He would be one of the LAST people I’d want advice from
      Careful w ‘divine mercy’ devotion (Lk 21: 8; Mt 24: 25; not infallible) Lots of Red Flags 🚩 original image history and Diary 📔 Freemason artist also painted himself as Judas & murdered himself

  • @anitavaughn1968
    @anitavaughn1968 Місяць тому +1

    My nephew and my cousin..

  • @maryrankin9869
    @maryrankin9869 Місяць тому +6

    Genetics, lifestyle and environment. All play a part in our future. Sadly mental health is still a secret and not encouraged to talk about. Unfortunately every family has a member suffering with same. It is very much treatable.

    • @ww9192
      @ww9192 Місяць тому

      I don't see it as so easily treatable if we are losing 50,000 people a year now, the most ever. I think society has to take a close look at itself if suicide is the number two cause of death in the 10-25 year old group. Men are strongly affected also. We need to take the stress down in our lives.

  • @SunnyBoyy448
    @SunnyBoyy448 Місяць тому

    Hi Father. When you talk of suicidal ideation , I can tell you that those who inherit the genetic disorder, agoraphobia, often have this ideation. Agoraphobia compels it’s sufferer to “ESCAPE “. This “ESCAPE “ can be most harmful.

  • @bella1975
    @bella1975 Місяць тому

    What treatments were his siblings in. Why didn't they do something when they saw the signs?

  • @josiedickson6959
    @josiedickson6959 Місяць тому

    Dear Bishop Dolan, my heart breaks for you, I know mental illness is a strong reason for suicide in some families and I honestly dont know how your family has managed to navigate your way through this , but I do know that your reason for being here is now extremely apparent today and also as a priest.. I became a Catholic in 2001 as my young daughter attended a Catholic school for a few years here in New Zealand. My 3rd son of 4 also took his life in April 2001 3 months after my husband left our marriage after 28years . He was a Christian from a Christian family of birth and we were ,for 7 years or so up until 2000 .. I realise in our case that tho he didnt take drugs etc ,he was affected deeply by the family situation we were in , that I tried so hard to be the calming level in our family, but failed .. Do you have comments to make on this ,in your experience , whist not personally but those you have known about.?
    My family is very much still affected and estranged from each other and ,my eldest from me ..anyway I continue to pray for unity and healing but it is hard to carry on pretending I am over these losses , when actually I am suffering .. my ex is with the lady he left me for ,still maintaining he "had to leave because of me" ..a double blow to me but now I know his personality more , I understand more .. If you would like to contact me , I can send you my email .. God bless you Bishop Dolan and thank you for sharing ..

  • @amdg9683
    @amdg9683 Місяць тому +4

    Sounds like unrecognized, untreated mental issues. Not that the meds always help

    • @maryrankin9869
      @maryrankin9869 Місяць тому

      Shhhhh it's a secret.

    • @CL-un9gg
      @CL-un9gg Місяць тому

      Sounds more like a pattern of abuse in the family & some people can’t cope with it.

  • @mbtvalli
    @mbtvalli Місяць тому +3

    Too many big pharma meds out there

  • @christopherton
    @christopherton Місяць тому +3

    Exorcism.

  • @NicoleYoshihara
    @NicoleYoshihara Місяць тому

    🥲❤️

  • @OrlandoQuentin-f1y
    @OrlandoQuentin-f1y Місяць тому

    Garcia George Thomas Joseph Taylor Carol

  • @ofrabjousday1
    @ofrabjousday1 Місяць тому

    I love what this man is doing with and for his ministry. But to be clear, God does not enter into the question of science. Science doesn't lead to God any more than it leads to sheet metal manufacturing. One has nothing to do with the other.

  • @josephpereira373
    @josephpereira373 Місяць тому +2

    Suicidal tendency comes after committing a sin.Asva catholic if addicted to drugs, alcohol leads that person to this trend of taking the life.The soul will remain in the Earth and prowl arround another person's life and he/she also fall in the trap of devil. As a catholic these types of persons should go for retreat centres ,and Living Lord Jesus Christ will heal.The write is 73 and catholic.🙏

    • @scootahscoot9389
      @scootahscoot9389 Місяць тому

      Most go to Hell
      Some depending on external influences and mental distress may be in Purgatory (til end of time) on way to Heaven

    • @Eternally_Catholic
      @Eternally_Catholic Місяць тому +2

      ​@@scootahscoot9389 Divine Mercy is unfathomable

    • @scootahscoot9389
      @scootahscoot9389 Місяць тому

      @@Eternally_Catholic If we repent
      Read the Gospels & NT
      Go to Hell if don’t keep Commandments as Jesus and John repeatedly say; Die in state of grace
      Satan wants us to PRESUME mercy no matter what #WideRoadToHell

    • @scootahscoot9389
      @scootahscoot9389 Місяць тому

      @@Eternally_Catholic Canonizations and private revelations are not infallible, especially after Paul VI (‘66) and JP II (disturbing behavior at Assisi etc) made much easier
      Lots of Red Flags 🚩 original DM pic history and Diary 📔
      Paragraph 476 Substitute for rosary
      707 Faustina higher than Mary
      77 Multiple times she was on edge of blurting at blasphemies at Holy Mass

    • @SunnyBoyy448
      @SunnyBoyy448 Місяць тому

      @@scootahscoot9389r u a Freemason

  • @margielamaton8517
    @margielamaton8517 Місяць тому

    Need exorcism

  • @michaelciccone2194
    @michaelciccone2194 Місяць тому

    So now NovusOrdo RCC priests don't mention that suicide is a mortal sin in according to the traditional Catholic Church teachings.

  • @scootahscoot9389
    @scootahscoot9389 Місяць тому +2

    “You’ve done all things well” ?
    Did he talk about Our Lady of Sorrows 7 swords 🗡 in heart ❤️ which gives us humility and love for her
    If his 3 direct connections committed suicide while he was a priest, honestly probably NOT the best person for advice
    Read one chapter of Gospels daily 📖 and pray one rosary daily 🙏
    (1 of 3 sets of mysteries Mary gave us)
    Avoid Satan’s divine mercy trick (Lk 21: 8; Mt 24: 25; not infallible) Too many Red Flags 🚩 in original image history and Diary 📔 including Freemason artist also painting himself as Judas & murdering himself
    Canonizations and private revelations are not infallible, especially after Paul VI (‘66) and JP II (disturbing behavior at Assisi etc) made much easier

    • @limoncellosmith7594
      @limoncellosmith7594 Місяць тому +2

      Wow. You yourself really sound like you need some therapy for your mental and spiritual ssues my friend.

    • @oliverclark5604
      @oliverclark5604 Місяць тому

      to scoot..., Paul VI omitted 'qualitatively equal' in HV, 1968, 12 and JP2 allowed assertion of "higher vocation" in TTMHS, PCF, 1995, 35.

    • @ryanscottlogan8459
      @ryanscottlogan8459 Місяць тому

      Spare me your lunatic rants!

    • @vivs3189
      @vivs3189 Місяць тому +1

      The first suicide was his older brother, the Bishop was only 9 years old! (I think he said that was his age at the time)