Thank you Esther for your amazing content and advice. Could you talk about how to build intimacy with people who have trouble expressing emotions. My partner is very emotionally repressed and refuses to acknowledge any rituals, even birthdays. I know he cares for me because of the small practical things he does for me, but I also crave some larger expressions of love and affection, but not sure how to negotiate them into our relationship. We are 7 years together and I feel myself turning into a mother figure.
I second this request Esther. I love your content and Hannah's comment hits home with me as well. My wife does celebrate certain occassions but how to I get her to be more emotive and expressive in the relationship. I realize our 'love languages" may differ, but how do you get someone uncomfortable in being expressive or communicative to compromise and move in your direction....if that makes sense? Thank you
Men are really conditioned to shut down and not share their feelings. They're mocked for it. So he probably needs a lot of small steps to help him become vulnerable. It's a big mistake of many women to think that because some men don't emote, they don't feel. This is an incorrect assumption.
When we talk about unconditional love, we usually focus on the positive aspects of it, accepting and loving someone no matter what. We might think of what we want and what we want to give but we also need to look at what might be preventing us from experiencing love more fully. So what are some "conditions" that may be preventing love? Judgement, criticism, unfair expectations, shame, blame and guilt, to name a few. If we are creating suffering or punishment for our self or someone else, can we really say that we are practicing unconditional love? In your relationship, what are you focusing on? If you're thinking about how you would like more love and affection from your partner but you're focusing on what they aren't doing for you or are making them responsible for your insecurities and emotional wounds, then you are giving your attention to the conditions that prevent love from growing. If you're allowing fear (fear of loss, rejection or abandonment) to control how you feel, then you are creating anxiety in your relationship which will put limitations on you and your partner, creating confrontation and conflict in your communication. If we keep allowing ourselves to react from past emotional wounds, then we are preventing ourselves from being open to giving and receiving love freely - we create an emotional "dam" that prevents the flow of love. By giving the gift of understanding and empathy for each other, we create a safe space for healing and communication that leads to emotional intimacy and connection. You need to be able to trust that when you're feeling vulnerable, you won't hurt each other. Focus on what you want by responding with love instead of reacting with fear. The more that you empower each other, the less struggle in the relationship there will be.❤
@@heidiainsworth4348 hope so but today nobody have it self control everyone take decision only in a anger and later repentance but I am not sure about this.
I’m in the same boat here. It’s been 10 years. You have to see if you are comfortable continuing like this. People cannot change a ton I think once they hit adulthood.
I don't think it has to be at a regular time. As long as he's marking his affection for you in some way (eg sending you a nice card or letter or gift, or sharing memory spontaneously). But if its just an excuse to not express his passion for you then that's different. When a relationship is new often these rituals are spontaneous but they fizzle out often over time so have to be conscious.
Men are visual. My man didn't like the date night. It might have been too much pressure for him. So I started a lingerie night. I joined AdoreMe (they should give me something for this plug). When a new outfit comes in, I model it for him. He now looks forward to our reveal evenings. It depends when my package arrives. 😉 So you are prepared, but he's not. What's interesting, I haven't purchased very many pieces, he thought my sets were new everytime, and only after 3 years did he begin to remember outfits! and now is starting to request specific ones. You have to find something the 2 of you can both bond over. If one of you has to force themselves to participate for the other, its not going to be enjoyable nor pleasurable. We need to create happy memories to keep our relationships healthy. Be it entertainment, travel, or self/home improvement, family, just find those things that bring you joy together. We also like camping on weekends and getting away for just one night at a hotel. Find activities that strengthen your relationship. We are Christians and very active in our church. There is a spiritual bond between us as well and that's been amazing. Don't give up. Be open and honest.
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Thank you Esther for your amazing content and advice. Could you talk about how to build intimacy with people who have trouble expressing emotions. My partner is very emotionally repressed and refuses to acknowledge any rituals, even birthdays. I know he cares for me because of the small practical things he does for me, but I also crave some larger expressions of love and affection, but not sure how to negotiate them into our relationship. We are 7 years together and I feel myself turning into a mother figure.
I second this request Esther. I love your content and Hannah's comment hits home with me as well. My wife does celebrate certain occassions but how to I get her to be more emotive and expressive in the relationship. I realize our 'love languages" may differ, but how do you get someone uncomfortable in being expressive or communicative to compromise and move in your direction....if that makes sense? Thank you
Men are really conditioned to shut down and not share their feelings. They're mocked for it. So he probably needs a lot of small steps to help him become vulnerable.
It's a big mistake of many women to think that because some men don't emote, they don't feel. This is an incorrect assumption.
That's difficult!
I second this request !
It's a shame I work...I could sit abd listen to you speak all day...All your advice is Good Common sense and straight to the Point.. 😊❤👍
Wake up with a cute face and beautiful smile, dear. The day awaits your specialty. Go on and explore the day! Good morning, damsel.
Good morning dear, how was your night, hope you had a wonderful night
Thanks Esther advice is pure gold!
The world doesn't deserve you Esther. If only everyone were more like you, we wouldn't have relationship problems. You are truely 1 in a Billion.
What do you and your partner like to do for play?
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When we talk about unconditional love, we usually focus on the positive aspects of it, accepting and loving someone no matter what. We might think of what we want and what we want to give but we also need to look at what might be preventing us from experiencing love more fully. So what are some "conditions" that may be preventing love? Judgement, criticism, unfair expectations, shame, blame and guilt, to name a few. If we are creating suffering or punishment for our self or someone else, can we really say that we are practicing unconditional love?
In your relationship, what are you focusing on? If you're thinking about how you would like more love and affection from your partner but you're focusing on what they aren't doing for you or are making them responsible for your insecurities and emotional wounds, then you are giving your attention to the conditions that prevent love from growing. If you're allowing fear (fear of loss, rejection or abandonment) to control how you feel, then you are creating anxiety in your relationship which will put limitations on you and your partner, creating confrontation and conflict in your communication.
If we keep allowing ourselves to react from past emotional wounds, then we are preventing ourselves from being open to giving and receiving love freely - we create an emotional "dam" that prevents the flow of love. By giving the gift of understanding and empathy for each other, we create a safe space for healing and communication that leads to emotional intimacy and connection. You need to be able to trust that when you're feeling vulnerable, you won't hurt each other. Focus on what you want by responding with love instead of reacting with fear. The more that you empower each other, the less struggle in the relationship there will be.❤
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@@heidiainsworth4348 hope so but today nobody have it self control everyone take decision only in a anger and later repentance but I am not sure about this.
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Thank you! Great video!
Wake up with a cute face and beautiful smile, dear. The day awaits your specialty. Go on and explore the day! Good morning, damsel.
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What do you guys do for play?
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What happens if one person does those things and the other is not giving in some way that helps to create a union? What to do then?
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Share your concerns with your partner. If a partnership exists, then so too will communication.
@@sanitysquota937 I will try one final time.
I’m in the same boat here. It’s been 10 years. You have to see if you are comfortable continuing like this. People cannot change a ton I think once they hit adulthood.
What if he says he prefers being spontaneous... Rituals and routines are boring for him?
I don't think it has to be at a regular time. As long as he's marking his affection for you in some way (eg sending you a nice card or letter or gift, or sharing memory spontaneously). But if its just an excuse to not express his passion for you then that's different. When a relationship is new often these rituals are spontaneous but they fizzle out often over time so have to be conscious.
@@redlady935 I was also getting the “excuse” vibes from the way it was framed. As if something that is expected routinely is too much effort..
Men are visual. My man didn't like the date night. It might have been too much pressure for him. So I started a lingerie night. I joined AdoreMe (they should give me something for this plug). When a new outfit comes in, I model it for him. He now looks forward to our reveal evenings. It depends when my package arrives. 😉 So you are prepared, but he's not.
What's interesting, I haven't purchased very many pieces, he thought my sets were new everytime, and only after 3 years did he begin to remember outfits! and now is starting to request specific ones. You have to find something the 2 of you can both bond over. If one of you has to force themselves to participate for the other, its not going to be enjoyable nor pleasurable. We need to create happy memories to keep our relationships healthy. Be it entertainment, travel, or self/home improvement, family, just find those things that bring you joy together. We also like camping on weekends and getting away for just one night at a hotel. Find activities that strengthen your relationship. We are Christians and very active in our church. There is a spiritual bond between us as well and that's been amazing. Don't give up. Be open and honest.
I belive with creativity you can find solutions that work for both
I don’t think we have any but it may be I would have to think about it
Wake up with a cute face and beautiful smile, dear. The day awaits your specialty. Go on and explore the day! Good morning, damsel.
Good morning dear, how was your rest, hope you had a wonderful night.. go and explore the day
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We do gratefulness every night before dinner, kind of like prayer (we’re in the South) but for mindfulness
I love the ritual of dating. Getting ready...excited, looking your best, flirting. I'm at my best.
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I love the emphasis on play between two people
It's so important...why else do we live???
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What do you and your partner do for play?