The value of this talk was available to me because he talked about systems thinking, complexity, emergence etc. (the deeper science stuff). He immediately apologized for getting to detailed but it's exactly what I needed to hear to gain the necessary affordance to accept this new understanding of the term integration, supplanting it's colloquial and equivocal useage.
Oh wow this video was so informative! I’m realizing so much about how I was parented. It’s got me thinking about nature vs nurture and how a lot of people say our behavior is mostly determined by nature but I’m realizing patterns don’t change because we have a society of unconscious people who dont understand their own brain/mind and thus pass that into their children. This information NEEDS to be apart of early curriculum. In grade school not college.
I agree with your point about unconscious patterns, but I doubt that schools could help as 99% schools have structures that make children _more_ unconscious, emotionally stunted, and chronically defended. See this Peter Gray video for more insights: ua-cam.com/video/coMXLy8RBIc/v-deo.html Most school-based emotional development programs fail to notice their own hypocrisy, using coercive, psychologically abusive methods to impose the curriculum. However, teachers and administrators could definitely benefit from Siegel's approach, and if they truly _got_ it, they'd insist on making radical changes to the structure of schools, so that they'd be free to truly support children's healthy development.
It's scary, I always imagined being a hands on mother. My eldest turns 9yrs old next week. I can count on one hand how many times I've sat down and played with him. I'm not present. I don't mean it as an excuse but I'm always emotionally tired and there's always housework to do. I'm always busy and the relationship has not been a priority. I'm aware how bad that is. But I'm waking up and trying to change.
Tell darling. There is no time for emotions but knowing that that little time one may use for negativity can be turned into quality time is an insight. Do not analyze it. Accept it as the truth and live differently from that very moment. That's all I am getting from this man. I have so much time for anyone who looks at humanity as a system that has to get its act together without blaming but understanding what's going on. We parents need to heal to heal the future. We are a product of our past.
This is absolute perfection. I recently enjoyed a similar book, and it was absolute perfection. "Mindful Mastery: Living Intentionally in a Chaotic World" by Kyle Ash
"I want you to be there for me" - how often does a female partner say that and how often does a male partner try to "fix it"? Dr Siegel explains this so readily and easily. His definitions of the mind and emotions have moved the world along a long way. Dr Stephen Porges and Ian McGilchrist produce detailed workings of other very important elements in Polyvagal Theroy and The Master and his emissary - of find the youtube clips.
The transcript discusses the role of parents in shaping their child's brain and the importance of early years in developing circuits for kindness and resilience. It emphasizes that parenting is an opportunity rather than a burden, as it allows parents to shape their child's brain through everyday interactions. The concept of integration is introduced, highlighting the importance of differentiation and linkage in relationships and the nervous system. Integration leads to harmony and self-organization within complex systems. The conversation also contrasts this approach with ineffective methods like Baby Einstein videos, emphasizing that learning happens through relationships rather than screens. Finally, it suggests that understanding how the brain works empowers individuals to change its functioning and highlights the relevance of these concepts not only for parenting but also for cultural change in society. In this part of the transcript, the speaker discusses the importance of integration and communication in parenting. They explain that when there is chaos or rigidity in a family, integration is impaired and intervention is needed to create harmony. The speaker emphasizes the need for parents to understand their child's brain development and provide support during challenging moments. They also discuss how nonverbal signals play a crucial role in connecting with children before problem-solving. In this part of the transcript, the speaker discusses the importance of being open to what is happening and resolving personal issues in order to effectively connect with others. They emphasize the need for right hemisphere alignment and giving emotional support before problem-solving. The speaker also highlights how looking inward and connecting emotionally can have a significant impact on a person's well-being and resilience. They explain that by naming emotions, especially fear, it can help calm down the brain's downstairs area responsible for emotions and motivation. Summary: The speaker discusses the role of the upstairs brain in maintaining coordination and balance with the downstairs brain. They use an analogy of hanging off a cliff to explain how the upstairs brain holds on until it can no longer handle the firing from the downstairs brain. The speaker then introduces nine functions of the upstairs brain, including regulating the body, attuning to others, emotional balance, response flexibility, and calming fear. They also discuss how temperament influences these functions and provide examples of parenting strategies for a shy child who is fearful of going swimming. Summary: The transcript discusses the importance of nonverbal communication and attunement in parenting. It explores a scenario where a shy child is hesitant to swim at a pool party, and how the parent can support them. It highlights the interhemispheric battle between the logical left brain and the empathetic right brain, emphasizing that both sides need to be balanced for effective parenting. The conversation also references Kagan studies on overprotection causing anxiety, and suggests scaffolding techniques to expand a child's comfort zone. The ultimate goal is to create feelings of safety and connection while promoting growth and development. Foster connection and attunement with children by acknowledging their feelings and providing nonverbal signals of understanding. Practice naming emotions to help calm the downstairs brain and promote emotional regulation. Encourage response flexibility by creating space between impulse and action, allowing for consideration of different possible responses. Support the development of the upstairs brain by promoting emotional balance and the ability to regulate one's own body. Help children overcome fear by teaching them to interpret contexts in a way that reduces fear responses. Scaffold a child's development by providing support and assistance to expand their capabilities within their zone of proximal development. Maintain attuned communication with children to nurture their emotional well-being and promote healthy brain development.
I assembled this video from several clips, each of which had a very loud, screechy jingle at the beginning. I reduced the jingle volume and edited out all but the first one. I know there are also some points where laughter overloaded and distorted the audio signal in the original recordings (example at 17:01). Is that what you meant by "whatever frequency is screeching in it"? The volume can be reduced at these points, but the distortion can't be fixed. If you heard a different sound problem, please post a time reference (mm:ss) of a point in the video where the screeching is clearly audible to you.
@@ScottNoelle Hi Scott. About 9:43 is an example. I think it's microphone screech. But I think there are a few more less audible but in the upper ranges. Unless it's the refrigerator in my work break room lol. Thanks for putting the video together. I shared it on Facebook.
@@Averagesasquatch - I think your fridge is fine. :) You are correct that there is some high-pitched microphone feedback at that point, but it's not very prominent to my ears, even when listening with good headphones. I'm pretty sure my hearing is fine as I'm a music teacher. Perhaps your audio gear is emphasizing that frequency, or maybe you have superhuman hearing! Thanks for your help.
@@ScottNoelle The frequency is quite high, I'd guess above 13k, but there's obviously really bad parts like 10:47, surely you can hear that one! Some software like Izotope RX could fix it, if you could be bothered... Thanks for the upload though, big fan Dan Seigle's work.
Thank you for posting. Does anyone have the link for the summary of the book he mentioned? He said it was a 700 pg book and the summary video is 15 min
Min 24:00 is money in the bank!!! If parents are stuck in their own untreated trauma then we don't have the capacity to be present for our loved ones. 😢 How do we create space to integrate ? We as parents can integrate within... by finally loving ourselves thru reparenting self...via IFS, or similar modalities... by treating our own CPTSD/trauma history we can create capacity to experience right hemisphere connection. 😊
👍🏻👌🏻 But Do you have any personal experiences with applying mindful parenting principles in your daily life? How have these principles helped you in your interactions with your children? I recently discussed this topic in my latest video and would love to hear your thoughts on it.
The value of this talk was available to me because he talked about systems thinking, complexity, emergence etc. (the deeper science stuff). He immediately apologized for getting to detailed but it's exactly what I needed to hear to gain the necessary affordance to accept this new understanding of the term integration, supplanting it's colloquial and equivocal useage.
We are definitely living unconsciously. This video needs to be shown to every parent to be. Schools, colleges, etc. Highly useful stuff.
As a parent I will treasure this video..thanks for uploading..
I hope this knowledge becomes common 🙏
This information is absolutely essential for every parent on earth.
Great video!!! Thank you so much for posting!!!
Just a heads up... audio high pitch feed back at~ 3:20, 10:22, 10:50, 17:32
Oh wow this video was so informative! I’m realizing so much about how I was parented. It’s got me thinking about nature vs nurture and how a lot of people say our behavior is mostly determined by nature but I’m realizing patterns don’t change because we have a society of unconscious people who dont understand their own brain/mind and thus pass that into their children. This information NEEDS to be apart of early curriculum. In grade school not college.
I agree with your point about unconscious patterns, but I doubt that schools could help as 99% schools have structures that make children _more_ unconscious, emotionally stunted, and chronically defended. See this Peter Gray video for more insights: ua-cam.com/video/coMXLy8RBIc/v-deo.html
Most school-based emotional development programs fail to notice their own hypocrisy, using coercive, psychologically abusive methods to impose the curriculum. However, teachers and administrators could definitely benefit from Siegel's approach, and if they truly _got_ it, they'd insist on making radical changes to the structure of schools, so that they'd be free to truly support children's healthy development.
These two are good together, and funny! I'm reading the book now, so this is good reinforcement.
What a brilliant man, Dr. Daniel Siegel is! Just got two of his books! Great video
It's scary, I always imagined being a hands on mother. My eldest turns 9yrs old next week. I can count on one hand how many times I've sat down and played with him. I'm not present. I don't mean it as an excuse but I'm always emotionally tired and there's always housework to do. I'm always busy and the relationship has not been a priority. I'm aware how bad that is. But I'm waking up and trying to change.
Good on you 👍
Tell darling. There is no time for emotions but knowing that that little time one may use for negativity can be turned into quality time is an insight. Do not analyze it. Accept it as the truth and live differently from that very moment. That's all I am getting from this man. I have so much time for anyone who looks at humanity as a system that has to get its act together without blaming but understanding what's going on. We parents need to heal to heal the future. We are a product of our past.
I can relate very much. 😢
Oh, how much i wish I could just download all your knowledge straight into my brain!
No drama discipline arrived today! Before I crack it open it was suggested I watch this tutorial/educational. Thank you for this.
This is absolute perfection. I recently enjoyed a similar book, and it was absolute perfection. "Mindful Mastery: Living Intentionally in a Chaotic World" by Kyle Ash
Thanks for sharing. So helpful and I am glad I found it!
😂 thanks for all the LOL moments there with all the helpful parenting tips
Such a great way to explain the brain's functions so that we can understand. Thank you!
Love love love love love this!
glad to see your comment// I wasn't sure if it was my computer or this video!
I thought it was me! Oh this was reassuring it’s not the chips in my brain malfunctioning 😂🙏🏻
This is such a powerful interview, thank you so much for that Dr. siegel. I have been reading your books.
so brilliant!! it's a gift!!!
"I want you to be there for me" - how often does a female partner say that and how often does a male partner try to "fix it"? Dr Siegel explains this so readily and easily. His definitions of the mind and emotions have moved the world along a long way. Dr Stephen Porges and Ian McGilchrist produce detailed workings of other very important elements in Polyvagal Theroy and The Master and his emissary - of find the youtube clips.
This was extremely helpful!
The transcript discusses the role of parents in shaping their child's brain and the importance of early years in developing circuits for kindness and resilience. It emphasizes that parenting is an opportunity rather than a burden, as it allows parents to shape their child's brain through everyday interactions. The concept of integration is introduced, highlighting the importance of differentiation and linkage in relationships and the nervous system. Integration leads to harmony and self-organization within complex systems. The conversation also contrasts this approach with ineffective methods like Baby Einstein videos, emphasizing that learning happens through relationships rather than screens. Finally, it suggests that understanding how the brain works empowers individuals to change its functioning and highlights the relevance of these concepts not only for parenting but also for cultural change in society.
In this part of the transcript, the speaker discusses the importance of integration and communication in parenting. They explain that when there is chaos or rigidity in a family, integration is impaired and intervention is needed to create harmony. The speaker emphasizes the need for parents to understand their child's brain development and provide support during challenging moments. They also discuss how nonverbal signals play a crucial role in connecting with children before problem-solving.
In this part of the transcript, the speaker discusses the importance of being open to what is happening and resolving personal issues in order to effectively connect with others. They emphasize the need for right hemisphere alignment and giving emotional support before problem-solving. The speaker also highlights how looking inward and connecting emotionally can have a significant impact on a person's well-being and resilience. They explain that by naming emotions, especially fear, it can help calm down the brain's downstairs area responsible for emotions and motivation.
Summary: The speaker discusses the role of the upstairs brain in maintaining coordination and balance with the downstairs brain. They use an analogy of hanging off a cliff to explain how the upstairs brain holds on until it can no longer handle the firing from the downstairs brain. The speaker then introduces nine functions of the upstairs brain, including regulating the body, attuning to others, emotional balance, response flexibility, and calming fear. They also discuss how temperament influences these functions and provide examples of parenting strategies for a shy child who is fearful of going swimming.
Summary: The transcript discusses the importance of nonverbal communication and attunement in parenting. It explores a scenario where a shy child is hesitant to swim at a pool party, and how the parent can support them. It highlights the interhemispheric battle between the logical left brain and the empathetic right brain, emphasizing that both sides need to be balanced for effective parenting. The conversation also references Kagan studies on overprotection causing anxiety, and suggests scaffolding techniques to expand a child's comfort zone. The ultimate goal is to create feelings of safety and connection while promoting growth and development.
Foster connection and attunement with children by acknowledging their feelings and providing nonverbal signals of understanding.
Practice naming emotions to help calm the downstairs brain and promote emotional regulation.
Encourage response flexibility by creating space between impulse and action, allowing for consideration of different possible responses.
Support the development of the upstairs brain by promoting emotional balance and the ability to regulate one's own body.
Help children overcome fear by teaching them to interpret contexts in a way that reduces fear responses.
Scaffold a child's development by providing support and assistance to expand their capabilities within their zone of proximal development.
Maintain attuned communication with children to nurture their emotional well-being and promote healthy brain development.
Great video, but would it be possible to run it through a sound editor and trim of sounds above whatever frequency is screeching in it?
I assembled this video from several clips, each of which had a very loud, screechy jingle at the beginning. I reduced the jingle volume and edited out all but the first one. I know there are also some points where laughter overloaded and distorted the audio signal in the original recordings (example at 17:01). Is that what you meant by "whatever frequency is screeching in it"? The volume can be reduced at these points, but the distortion can't be fixed. If you heard a different sound problem, please post a time reference (mm:ss) of a point in the video where the screeching is clearly audible to you.
@@ScottNoelle Hi Scott. About 9:43 is an example. I think it's microphone screech. But I think there are a few more less audible but in the upper ranges.
Unless it's the refrigerator in my work break room lol.
Thanks for putting the video together. I shared it on Facebook.
@@Averagesasquatch - I think your fridge is fine. :) You are correct that there is some high-pitched microphone feedback at that point, but it's not very prominent to my ears, even when listening with good headphones. I'm pretty sure my hearing is fine as I'm a music teacher. Perhaps your audio gear is emphasizing that frequency, or maybe you have superhuman hearing! Thanks for your help.
@@ScottNoelle The frequency is quite high, I'd guess above 13k, but there's obviously really bad parts like 10:47, surely you can hear that one! Some software like Izotope RX could fix it, if you could be bothered... Thanks for the upload though, big fan Dan Seigle's work.
Thank you for posting. Does anyone have the link for the summary of the book he mentioned? He said it was a 700 pg book and the summary video is 15 min
ua-cam.com/video/81Ci-9y_EYo/v-deo.html
I can't find the 15 mins. :)
Min 24:00 is money in the bank!!! If parents are stuck in their own untreated trauma then we don't have the capacity to be present for our loved ones. 😢
How do we create space to integrate ? We as parents can integrate within... by finally loving ourselves thru reparenting self...via IFS, or similar modalities... by treating our own CPTSD/trauma history we can create capacity to experience right hemisphere connection. 😊
Is anyone hearing the high pitch of the microphone in the background? Ouch my ears!
How can I have a no drama discipline approach with the guy who can’t keep the microphone feedback controlled? ;)
What is the name of the book?
whats the name of the book he is referring to?
See the description above.
👍🏻👌🏻
But Do you have any personal experiences with applying mindful parenting principles in your daily life? How have these principles helped you in your interactions with your children? I recently discussed this topic in my latest video and would love to hear your thoughts on it.
Getting horible sound defects, too bad cause it's interesting
Just a heads up ... brace yourself for high pitch audio feed back at~ 3:20, 10:22, 17:32.
Facebook 🤣🤣🤣
Looks like he is a bit mean and controlling in a subtle way.
Or just intelligent and trying to teach and convey complicated information in a very small time frame... Perspective.
wtf is up with the microphone? Who did the sound production on this?
Whoa-- that woman was sooo distracting!! Flirty Cute 🫤