IT ENDS WITH US! || Rewriting the legacy for our children

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  • @joyceyugi9266
    @joyceyugi9266 2 місяці тому +12

    Best season hands down. Love the conversations. Definitely my vibe. I love deep convos. I have a 9yr old and I'm just so happy that I'm a parent in a time that such convos are being heard on this level of platform. Almost shed a few tears on some of the sub topics

  • @asavaisaiah8072
    @asavaisaiah8072 2 місяці тому +24

    Aaaawh! Yaani wanjiru is studying the Bible and buying Bible related books to help Tawa...Ben mnitafutie kama Wanjiru...that's so awesome maan😮

  • @abigaeln.muange9748
    @abigaeln.muange9748 2 місяці тому +30

    Family love - Not telling each other that we love each other after a certain age. No matter how old our children are we are saying it , it ends with us.
    Sleeping - Drilling into kids that if you don't wake up really early it equates to laziness. it ends with us (rest is also important)
    Hobbies - Not holding space for open conversation if a hobby is money demanding it ends with us
    Partner - They don't have to fit in our traditional box so many people damage relationships with their kids ati because they want to get married to a person who goes to a different church ama different tribes NO Please our relationship with our kids is far much important. it ends with us
    Emotions - for our boys *boys don't cry Oh this ends with us.
    Business - If there is a family business they will be include the not talking about it definitely ends with us and it doesn't have to be that they take it up but just know this is our source.
    Weddings - Weddings lazima ikue Saturday 🤣🤣 this ends with us but every other traditional thing we are carrying forward.
    Work - white colour job is the end goal and the bar for success 😅 this definitely ends with us
    Health - 😂😂 this was not important when growing up no conversation was had unless we actually fell sick so let's be intentional to talk about health all round it ends with us
    Romantic love - will have to put more thought on this . more on how we approach sex before marriage
    Reading - I agree the lack thereof
    friendship - personally my parents really dictated my friends this ends with me I'll trust the kids I've raised to pick good friends
    Family - dropping family when they do something wrong and not talking to them this ends with us even when they fail we are in this together
    This was an amazing episode thank you BNW

  • @KidjoK
    @KidjoK 2 місяці тому +18

    I'm with Ben about the process of Wedding. It's important because; unlike how people have made it to look nowadays, the glam(which is not bad), the monetization (which is unfortunate), etc... It is/was intended to be a friendship/relationship building between the 2 families. Also, respect is earned in the longrun.
    Maybe what should end with us is using those terms of "being bought/going to buy", makes it sound like a commodity. 😃
    As always, loving and enjoying the topics.❤

  • @maryannemutheu1172
    @maryannemutheu1172 2 місяці тому +25

    A speech for a birthday party and then a wedding 🤣🤣🤣that got me rolling

    • @veronychela
      @veronychela 2 місяці тому

      me too, that part was so funny

  • @dorinelilian4360
    @dorinelilian4360 2 місяці тому +44

    'Daddy I want blead' 😂😂got me

  • @nyashatasha
    @nyashatasha 2 місяці тому +7

    You two are such a breath of fresh air. I was in tears with the banter, enjoyed the episode!😊

  • @faithkamau5005
    @faithkamau5005 2 місяці тому +5

    Ben and Wanjiru it's wholesome to hear you discuss and want the best for Tawa.I see so much of me when my baby was your son's age now older and gentle parenting is working for sure even though disciplining will do a number on you,,, interacting with other children brought up in different dynamics especially at school and sometimes home will challenge you but keep pushing.The internet too UA-cam kids side ain't what you would like especially if you're Christian based now that they have put the Alphabet agenda on everything so you have to be careful on it... all the best fellow parents we can do this!❤

  • @HuusHome
    @HuusHome 2 місяці тому +38

    About the beating I recommend a book that changed my parenting life forever. “The book I wish my parents read and children will be happy I did” My son is 8 and daughter is 6, never beaten. It’s possible guys. Nice episode ❤

    • @beautyon-check95
      @beautyon-check95 2 місяці тому +1

      Name of the book

    • @HuusHome
      @HuusHome 2 місяці тому +2

      The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read: (And Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)
      Book by Philippa Perry

    • @roseivyn4242
      @roseivyn4242 2 місяці тому

      ​@@HuusHomecan we get it in Kenya stores? If yes please recommend

    • @victoriamurugi6758
      @victoriamurugi6758 Місяць тому

      @@roseivyn4242yes, at most book stores even supermarkets😊

  • @jecchukachurch
    @jecchukachurch 2 місяці тому +7

    Oooh my Gs i have not been commenting but today i had to. This was am Amazing episode, am at 23 but i feel so mature to handle parenting though Abit far from it. This is bcoz of what i listen to podcasts especially Joyride .
    God bless
    This is mickline

  • @wangarijskamau
    @wangarijskamau 2 місяці тому +2

    I have absolutely enjoyed this episode. You two are the gift that keeps on giving.

  • @leahoginga
    @leahoginga Місяць тому

    Love this so much i actually think its my favourite episode so far! So raw and indepth, ah love it!

  • @kaynuggets4635
    @kaynuggets4635 Місяць тому +1

    Daddy i want blead😅,my ribs! I've had such a good laugh after a busy day at work😅
    I've really enjoyed "It ends with us" episode guys,epic ride it has been ♥️♥️
    Keep up the good work guys👌

  • @wangarikariuki6522
    @wangarikariuki6522 2 місяці тому +10

    Hi Ben & Wanjiru,
    Thanks for your great job podcasting and for the topic today.
    On the emotions bit and what ends with us, I’m also a mum to 3 boys and whereas I’m more for boys/men being more open with their emotions, my current struggle is where the balance is with showing emotions and feminizing our boys/men. There should be a safe space for the male gender to express themselves (the current trope of many angry men clearly shows this need) but there’s also a growing number of men who have let go of their masculinity. Sasa hapo kwa the right balance ndio kizungumkuti

  • @SylvesterKioko-lm5dk
    @SylvesterKioko-lm5dk 2 місяці тому +22

    "He has to abstain until he's 32" is diabolical 😂😂😂

  • @icykawira
    @icykawira 2 місяці тому +3

    And what continues ?...😂😂😂 definitely Ben's humour 😂

  • @s.m-l2e
    @s.m-l2e 2 місяці тому +2

    So sweet that Tawa will grow up listening to this ❤

  • @violetnaserian9171
    @violetnaserian9171 2 місяці тому +4

    Ben is effortlessly funny. I need to start paying him for therapy 😅

  • @chrisantmwaka
    @chrisantmwaka 2 місяці тому +1

    "Ben, Focus!" Took me out 😂😂

  • @fionakabugi7397
    @fionakabugi7397 Місяць тому

    in love with every episode of this season ❤

  • @dennismungai9109
    @dennismungai9109 Місяць тому +1

    The silence after "toll order" 😂😂

  • @nancyoyula
    @nancyoyula 2 місяці тому +2

    15 minutes in and I see the subtle African parenting in Ben. Nice episode

  • @jillkoech3111
    @jillkoech3111 Місяць тому

    “That menace ends with us” Ben 😂😂😂

  • @IreneMuthama-k1w
    @IreneMuthama-k1w 2 місяці тому +1

    " I do a speech for a small lunch" 😂😂😂

  • @98Patrobas
    @98Patrobas 2 місяці тому +12

    Deep down Ben is a traditional man😂

  • @faithmuriithi1397
    @faithmuriithi1397 2 місяці тому +1

    I met this podcast a few weeks ago and I have been catching up with ya'll ....I love you guys so much ❤

  • @kerylruth9523
    @kerylruth9523 Місяць тому

    This new season is my favourite yet❤❤

  • @KellenWanjiku-y2y
    @KellenWanjiku-y2y 2 місяці тому

    the way I have watched season 6 like it's a course, love the journey

  • @simplyanampiu8850
    @simplyanampiu8850 2 місяці тому

    This has to be the best episode so far. Very light (in a good way), very engaging and very entertaining. The banter and the jokes are like the cherry on top. The road to joy is actually really fun. I like it, I approve and definitely here to stay. Mumesema ticket ya Turkey ni how much tupatane huko?😂😂😂

  • @emmyemmilykhasoha
    @emmyemmilykhasoha 2 місяці тому +2

    My favourite podcast,,,love you Wanjiru and Ben.

  • @priscillaangwenyi8574
    @priscillaangwenyi8574 2 місяці тому

    Nyaribari chache was just chilling! Loved the episode!!!

  • @beatricemuringi4120
    @beatricemuringi4120 2 місяці тому

    With discipline, My take is, there is a blend between chapa and talking. Parenting is work laid more on the parent than the child. You really have to heal a lot of things in yourself before you pass them on to the child.
    That's why this topic is AMAZING.
    I do not believe love needs to be tough and truth needs to be brutal. Just love them .
    God loves us perfectly and fully and His correction can be painful (chapa in the case of a child) and come let's reason together. It is all love.

  • @sharonmerongo273
    @sharonmerongo273 Місяць тому +1

    😅😅😅😅Nyaribari chache was just chilling. Ben ❤️loved the episode

  • @akothbellah
    @akothbellah 2 місяці тому +1

    Aah not the 'bled and njus' to kill us completely 😂😂

  • @marymwangi6888
    @marymwangi6888 2 місяці тому +4

    LOVED LOVED this episode... The wedding part, hundred percent agree. All Kikuyu milestones in my house shall be followed

  • @fridanjeru8384
    @fridanjeru8384 2 місяці тому +2

    Thursdays have never been the same😊

  • @marya50
    @marya50 2 місяці тому

    Intentional parents right here. I am enjoying and learning at the same time. Joyrider for life❤

  • @charitywaitherero4633
    @charitywaitherero4633 2 місяці тому

    Started watching the Joy Ride Podcast this season and I'm loving every episode🥰🥰🥰

  • @mugurehnjorogeh9775
    @mugurehnjorogeh9775 Місяць тому

    Mother and son were the OGs back then

  • @sheillahsanau1189
    @sheillahsanau1189 2 місяці тому +1

    Wanjiru alinyoa Bob na ka nywele kamefikia kangu kwani nywele hufika menopause pia todu wueeeh my hair been same length since 2015, acha ni focus Joyride Thursday innit ❤❤

  • @happiness-mwangi8389
    @happiness-mwangi8389 2 місяці тому +1

    Been waiting for this the whole week 😍♥️

  • @cukssss
    @cukssss 2 місяці тому +1

    hii episode nimeisha aje😂talking about kind of serious things but kuna tu venye mnazisema😂😂. Great Episode as usual!!

  • @marywisequi5571
    @marywisequi5571 2 місяці тому

    Hii episode nafeel ni best for parents but pia ss wenye we are not even close to that we've learned........also,Ben wa sheng bible na ciiru wa beyonce concert compared to ben and ciiru of now,you guys have grown and it's beautiful to watch and experience ❤

  • @suppersports7100
    @suppersports7100 2 місяці тому +1

    Love what you guys have built

  • @Monsterbrawller
    @Monsterbrawller 2 місяці тому +2

    Considering you appreciate your parents' relationship, what makes you think that open expression of emotions has anything to do with anything. Does expression mean that your relationship is unbreakable or is it solid for a specific period. Then what does it matter what your child sees with you if it doesn't mount to anything.

  • @emmaotuge6689
    @emmaotuge6689 2 місяці тому

    Is how Wanjiru is ready to defend Tawa for me 😂, Nice topic ❤️❤️

  • @FaithMwangi-v4n
    @FaithMwangi-v4n 2 місяці тому +1

    Nice episode.
    Mama T has a nice ring, was trying to see if Baba T has the same type but sae nothing.
    On a light note!

  • @talesofkiki5099
    @talesofkiki5099 2 місяці тому +3

    God you order my steeepssss...best line from bens new song

  • @GacheruMarc
    @GacheruMarc 2 місяці тому

    The intro production is faya!

  • @mitchellnaishiro
    @mitchellnaishiro 2 місяці тому

    Wow Wanjiru i admire how you are naturing Tawa in the ways of God mapema😊

  • @chikaokereke
    @chikaokereke 2 місяці тому +2

    The humour on today's episode😂😂😂

  • @victoriamurugi6758
    @victoriamurugi6758 Місяць тому

    😂😂😂😂😂😂that kikuyu “blead” is hilarious

  • @catherinekimulu
    @catherinekimulu 2 місяці тому +2

    Ben: na akianza kung'oa 😅😅😅

  • @sylivierondora1233
    @sylivierondora1233 2 місяці тому

    Eiiiyyy Wanjiru Ben aseme to kama yeye ni msda what is aty sukari,,,mara nyama mara sijui nini ,,,😂😂we call it being reformed as an adventists ,,,anyway mob love 😊❤❤❤

  • @onfleekliveke
    @onfleekliveke 2 місяці тому

    May it be so to the intentions. Was also manifesting them with you. One might be thinking about them but having a video where you can go back to and check what exactly you intend is the deal💜

  • @SusanWia
    @SusanWia 2 місяці тому

    Such a calming episode. too lovely

  • @faithmwaura7582
    @faithmwaura7582 2 місяці тому +3

    😂😂😂😂I just love Ben's initial attempt at understanding the question or even reading it... until Wanjiru jumps in to save dear Ben ❤

  • @sheilasiakilo3843
    @sheilasiakilo3843 2 місяці тому

    Aaah I've really enjoyed this episode and I'll definitely try this out 😊

  • @wanjiruchege9392
    @wanjiruchege9392 2 місяці тому

    I'm with Ben on the health take. Neglecting our health should end with our generation

  • @christinekelsy7388
    @christinekelsy7388 2 місяці тому

    Apo kwa wedding I really get you wanjiru..i used to hate some culture stuff and my dad said somethings that made sense we as the kikuyu tribe can never undo/fight with what our ancestors did it will be so difficult plus when we miss to do things the right way they affect us in future and our generations big time eg unexplained sickness addiction etc

  • @gracemwaura246
    @gracemwaura246 2 місяці тому

    Just amazing♥♥

  • @mwendenyaga91
    @mwendenyaga91 2 місяці тому +3

    🤣lakini majibu za Wanjiru leo..when reviewing previous episodes.

  • @JescahAwinjaMuyokani
    @JescahAwinjaMuyokani 2 місяці тому

    😂😂😂Wanjiru I am gonna hold your hand while saying this...get that cane. Gentle parenting tuachie wazungu

  • @velitahvee
    @velitahvee 2 місяці тому

    The cousins part also ends with me...

  • @monicahneemax4495
    @monicahneemax4495 2 місяці тому

    😂😂😂Hii nayo ni free therapy .
    I will do a session on this, what ends with me !

  • @nifridahnyakundi122
    @nifridahnyakundi122 2 місяці тому

    Did Ben just say Nyaribari cache😂😂😂😂😂
    Mwambie Tawa aende uko ,it's beautiful.

  • @janiceodhiambo6484
    @janiceodhiambo6484 2 місяці тому +2

    Wanjiru were you silent or silenced 😂? 30:44

  • @mashawambo
    @mashawambo 2 місяці тому

    Mama Tawa I definitely agree with you on the gentle parenting. What you just described as I call it is time out at the naughty corner😂. And trust you me it works. The child gets to reflect and later when having a conversation they get to understand you and even appreciate you❤

  • @kinyanjuimercy7504
    @kinyanjuimercy7504 2 місяці тому

    Ben’s “khai na akianza kung’oa” question was soo genuine 😂😂😂he’s really concerned
    Toodû maundu maya ti mahuthû
    Translation: Ben afunze Tawa kikuyu aki 😭

  • @ciruwainaina
    @ciruwainaina Місяць тому

    Enyewe wanjiru ni activist 😆😉
    Kùhàdà ìthìgì ni lazima.
    Culture is about identity.
    Living in Australia, I've seen firsthand what a lack of identity does to people.

  • @nancyoyula
    @nancyoyula 2 місяці тому +1

    Also, 49:27 Ben is still very funny 😂😂😂

  • @stellahwanyoike7865
    @stellahwanyoike7865 2 місяці тому +2

    Baba and mama TAWA looking lovely ❤

  • @maggiehero2510
    @maggiehero2510 2 місяці тому

    I love you guys,so many insights ❤

  • @wangarikariuki6522
    @wangarikariuki6522 2 місяці тому +1

    On a light note, might you be from Murang’a Ben?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
    Aki your thought process reminds me of my many relatives.

    • @wangarikariuki6522
      @wangarikariuki6522 2 місяці тому

      Oh! My question has been answered. I typed this comment before I reached the part on ‘Murang’a love’. 🤭🤣

  • @africangirl189
    @africangirl189 2 місяці тому

    PDA in the house is very important for the kids to see that i always advocate too 😂 as long as it's not extreme..I only hate PDA in public by the way 😂 indoors i can be very wild 😜.. speaking up, travelling hii kwanza 🙏🏿

  • @cukssss
    @cukssss 2 місяці тому +1

    eh, hapo kwa Turkey wahhhhhh😂😂

  • @DVISA
    @DVISA 2 місяці тому

    🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @CAPACITATEDLEADER699
    @CAPACITATEDLEADER699 2 місяці тому +1

    My favorite poeple🫶

  • @kimmyWams
    @kimmyWams 2 місяці тому +1

    ❤❤❤

  • @tanianjeri1210
    @tanianjeri1210 2 місяці тому

    We talk then unakula beating😂😂😂ah Ben!

  • @loiserealtor67
    @loiserealtor67 2 місяці тому

    Shiru kindly plug where you bought bible books/prayer books. I would like to buy some for my little one too

  • @talesofkiki5099
    @talesofkiki5099 2 місяці тому +1

    Ati kamekukatia nyasi ben😂😂😂😂😂

  • @sandrajeruto7706
    @sandrajeruto7706 2 місяці тому

    I can't wait for Baby T's marriage preparations😂😂😂 Shiru...

    • @rao023
      @rao023 2 місяці тому

      😂😂😂me too

  • @lornambau
    @lornambau Місяць тому

    Voting is the bare minimum !!!!

  • @LilianLutukai
    @LilianLutukai 2 місяці тому

    Kwa intro, Tawa ako kwa hiyo pram ... curious just😊

  • @gracenthemba6761
    @gracenthemba6761 Місяць тому

    Turkey because of the hairline?😂😂
    Bfr

  • @esthergakuo4566
    @esthergakuo4566 2 місяці тому +1

    ❤❤

  • @abybartay
    @abybartay 2 місяці тому +2

    Chupa ya soda kwa gate😂😂😂

  • @cynthiaweru
    @cynthiaweru 2 місяці тому

    We listen and don't judge

  • @christinemumbi9900
    @christinemumbi9900 2 місяці тому

  • @Michael.20244
    @Michael.20244 2 місяці тому

    Amazing

  • @just-annie1335
    @just-annie1335 2 місяці тому +1

    No because how i can convince someone am watching something sensible and not comedy,,Turkey joke left me 😮 and the kung'oa joke finished me

  • @jessegrey9248
    @jessegrey9248 2 місяці тому +1

    Ben and the Wazee's got me😂...Moji init😂🎯

  • @maureenkimani2305
    @maureenkimani2305 2 місяці тому

    This is a great podcast and very informative. Well done, Ben and Wanjiru!😊

  • @mitchellnaishiro
    @mitchellnaishiro 2 місяці тому

    Kichwa ya supu🤣🤣🤣🤣ah Ben

  • @judyolango473
    @judyolango473 2 місяці тому +5

    Mimi hii life nikona examples mob, hata the first topic I was struggling to understand why Wanjiru was taking time on the "Family Love" topic of things that ends with us. My I had a list of 10 things in mind 😅😅in the first few seconds. Sema trauma

    • @akothbellah
      @akothbellah 2 місяці тому +1

      Wanjiru clearly was brought up in a healthy home I guess, she turned out well

  • @jemimahwambua2399
    @jemimahwambua2399 Місяць тому

    Wanjiru ur looking so beautiful

  • @ttanufaith763
    @ttanufaith763 2 місяці тому

    Lack of PDA ends with us

  • @hils_kathiga
    @hils_kathiga 2 місяці тому

    49:33 😂😂

  • @wangarimuriithi8748
    @wangarimuriithi8748 Місяць тому

    Children do what the see not what they hear. Yaani like yearly medical checks, healthy living, they have to see you doing it. Telling them not to eat junk or go for check ups won't amount to much.
    They'll walk your walk not your talk.