Kristen Bell’s Daughter Offered to Help Bury Her Grandfather
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- Опубліковано 29 січ 2020
- Kristen Bell talks about the ending of The Good Place, talking with her kids about death and her daughter offering to help bury her grandfather.
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She's not a sociopath! She's just been raised in a very honest way and doesn't consider death to be something that's taboo! It's very natural and loving for her to want to care for her grandfather's remains, and because you've given her this gift of openness, she feel comfortable expressing that! A+++ parenting!
Exactly! Innocence is just a BS word for ignorance. Educate your kids. Educate everyone. Talk to eachother about stuff like death and sexuality and religion and politics and your feelings and other taboos that society has for some reason dictated are 'inappropriate' to talk about. The worst thing you can do is not know any better.
right!! as soon as i heard her say that my first thought was “her and dax must be amazing parents”.
This story made me teary eyed. The fact that at such a young age she wanted to be a part of the burial without out any fear. That is pure love and honor right there. And great parenting indeed.
Pretty sure it was a joke.
Exactly, they could have had a home funeral!
She probably thought if he was flowers, she could plant him on the side of the house. A very nice thing to do for grandpa
Carmen Serra That’s exactly what I was thinking
Very poetic insight, thank you for that.
Their relationship with their kids seems honest and open. I would certainly rather my kids be comfortable enough to ask me these questions, instead of worrying about it on their own or asking someone else who gives them a load of bs.
I once had a student who looked me straight in the eye and said, "You're old. You're gonna die," to which I replied, "Yep, that's true, and you're going to die too. Everyone does and it's completely natural." She laughed and said, "okay!"
It would be so so good to see a meeting between Ryan Reynolds' family and Kristen Bell's family. It would be so crazy and I think that they'd get 100% along right away🤣
‘You May become flowers’. That is such a cute way to explain the death process to children.
And the concept of wanting to bring her garden supplies to bury her grandmother is adorable.
My girl was 2 when her father died. She's now 7 and I am still figuring out how to discuss grieving with her. Thankyou Kristen, not enough people really talk about death until it's forced upon them
Hannah Jordan you should check out Ask a mortician on UA-cam. She’s great
I think you should talk to her some time as she grows. My dad died when I was near 2 too. And I’m 20 now and I still cry about it. I was young so I kinda just tried to push it back but I wish someone had taught me how to deal with it properly.
I lost my mom at 7. For me, it has always come in waves and stages of grief, acceptance and varying levels of understanding. The first question I ever asked my dad was right after she died and I asked “am I allowed to cry?” I can’t imagine it was very comfortable for him in that moment, but he was honest. “You’re always allowed to cry.” Neither of us knew what we were doing but he helped take it one step at a time. That was the beginning of my ability to trust that he was a safe space and that feelings are best felt when they happen. I was bullied about it for a while and kids would tell me that she died on purpose because she hated me. At 7/8 I didn’t understand that wasn’t the truth and blamed myself a lot. Maybe if I was a better daughter she would have stayed. Obviously, I know better now but I wouldn’t without my dad’s honesty. I’m 24 now and we still talk about it honestly but the context is much different. He guided me through the sadness the same way that guided me through the anger and guilt. Therapy probably would have helped me then, but I refused and my dad respected that as much as he could. Sorry for the rant, just thought maybe my experience could help. You being a loving constant in her life is more helpful than you know. You rock, and I believe in you.
0:45 "No one wants to watch an episdode about Jason losing his shoes"
You’re allowed to be wrong, queen.
I'll watch anything with Manny Jacinto anyway xDD
all the scenes will be him popping up in different places saying, "where are my shoes?"
zurzak ne-etra or him not being allowed to ask where his shoes were because he was a monk
i mean when a 5-year-old says that... that's just kids being kids
0:45 Joke's on you Kristen cause i'd love to watch an episode about Jason losing his shoes.
yes that would be a hilarious episode because it would end with Jason being like oh im wearing them, and throws a molotov cocktail at the camera to end
Well, we kind of got what we wanted, he lost the necklace he made for Janet😂😂
Diana Noian yeah and that was super funny
I am the batman it was!!! I totally didn’t see it coming😂😂😂
@@iamthebatman6557 Throwing it while yelling "Bortles" lol
Kristen Bell has been the best guest in late night since way back with Craig Ferguson.
She is also good host
Yeah, totally. She's awesome. Glad someone still remembers Craig :')
Which is another example of something wonderful that was taken from us too soon.
Lytle Chamberlain And here is another. Since Kobe's death I have been revisiting his talk show appearances (thanks UA-cam) and that guy was a terrific guest himself. Funny, intelligent and honest like Kristen. It's the reason I became a fan of his after 20 years of not liking him as a Laker!
Kristen Bell and Craig Ferguson has the best late-night back-and-forth chemistry! But she’s a phenomenal talk show guest no matter what.
I wish my daughter just said ok after being 5 and questioning mortality. She had a 3 month long existential crisis where she would randomly break down and cry n say i dont wanna die
They grow up so fast!
@@YensR I know right! Shes 6 now and just a beacon energy
oh, the drama!!!
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I'm 47 and still feel the same way.
She's not a sociopath! I would love to help bury a loved one when the time comes. I didn't get to sprinkle dirt on my grandfather's grave or even see his casket lowered into the ground when he died. (They dug the hole in the wrong place and had to fix it after we left 🙄) But I did get to help physically bury my childhood pet, and it was very cathartic. I lost my brother when I was 3. and the only good thing about that happening is that I have always been very matter-of-fact about death. When I die, take my organs and put the rest of my remains in a cardboard box and let my molecules return to the earth in peace! No need to make it complicated and weird!
Very nice thought, I will keep that molecules part; thank you for sharing it!
A couple of years ago our big lovable Rottweiler had to cross the bridge; we had her cremated and we have her here at home in a sealed box with her name on a plaque. My grandson was three when she died and seemed to accept that she was too sick and in pain to continue. Skip ahead two years later and he’s staying with us for his first all by his self week+ visit. Ben was staying in the second bedroom where “Phoebe” is on a bookshelf and he finds it and starts in with the questions; I thought I was going to have to try to explain cremation to a five year old!!! Thankfully he saw it as a memorial, thought it was sweet and dropped the subject. A few days later we were kicking back after lunch and he casually asks, “Ghangi, can I just hold Phoebe’s death box?”! I found it so endearing and hilarious at the same time.
We did all actually bury my grandfather - his ashes - three generations of us. Mum was an Anglican priest, and it was her and me and my kid, and we put his ashes in the local churches memorial garden and took turns digging the hole and putting his cremains in the hole then filling it in. There's a camellia bush over it now and a plaque on the concrete edging in front, and my younger kid wasn't born when we did this but I take them often to go and say hello. It's all pretty awesome. Practical is very good :-)
How refreshing to hear how parents are willing to talk about death with their children. In so many cultures, it's taboo to talk about.
as a Catholic, it’s not “taboo” in Christianity.. it's a beautiful thing to be reconnected with God in a whole new way.
@@susansanborn5686 Very cool. Thank you.
I was in 4th grade when I went to my first funeral (my grandpa) and in Judaism the entire family helps shovel the dirt back into the grave and whilst I knew what was going on I was still only ten but I remember feeling a little better after I helped shovel the dirt, like i was contributing something instead of just standing there uncomfortably watching all the adults around me crying.
Roo, same exact experience for me. I’m Jewish as well. I was a bit younger than you though. But I did help with dirt at my grandparents funerals. When I got older and realized the significance, it certainly made me feel closer to them and part of their final send off as one family...rather than just standing there as you said.
I came to the comments section to say this -- but you've said it already, and so perfectly. So I just get to second it :)
Def gonna take some notes of the Bell-Shepard book of parenting
I love her so much... stop being so perfect !
This is great! Love it. Really solidified thoughts I'd been having about if/when I'll have a kid re: santa/death/honesty etc.. I haven't looked into actual practical advice but hearing that it can work in a really beatiful way is so encouraging.
That is an absolutely lovely and sweet and caring way to raise children, to be honest about everything in life, even the fact that sometimes we just don’t know. I love that!!
Her daughter would have helped when we were still in tribalism. Smart kid. Practical
My 3 year old asked me about death and I was just open with him and he just said we are all going to die,the flowers,the animals and you mummy,I was like yeah but let's not get ahead of ourselves
Came here after The Good Place finale to remind myself Kristin is still alive and fine and I'm not crying that's just dust in my eye
Same tbh😥
I love the idea of not lying to your children no matter what! Even though it's probably just in response to how my childhood got fucked up I really wanna do that, too! Glad to hear that it seems to be working out for them!
I love her, and I love The Good Place.
Proud to say we grew up at the same time in the same city! She is the best!
I fell in love with her watching the good place!!!!!!!
My grandmother was buried in a natural cemetery in a forest so like no box or chemicals or anything and we helped with the actual burial, it was incredibly therapeutic🤷🏼♀️
Dang I wish I was raised like that. In my 20's and death still makes me uncomfortable. Always thought parents telling their kids Santa wasn't real was mean, but direct honesty as child really can set you up for a truer view of life as an adult.
I love seeing her talk about her girls it's so entertaining
Charming
The ending was perfect
I just love Kristen Bell!! I seriously can listen to her talk all day!
Loving this whole look. Especially the necklace!
I love that she told her kids that when they die they turn into flowers 😂
MAYBE flowers. What she actually said was that she doesn't know, and I hope she added that no one else does either.
We’ve taken a similar approach with my son. We’ve explained that when you die your energy becomes everything it goes into. So a worm eats your body you’re now the worm. Then a bird eats the worm so now you’re part of the bird. If a tree uses the soil you decayed in, you’re now the tree. Etc. It opens up a lot of conversation for cause and effect as well as transference of energy. How could we become an elephant? And so forth.
Joe S that’s a pretty depressing thing to say, my guy.
@@Alison0305 thats lovely.
Joe S ya I totally agree. I raise my children with facts and am honest with them about things I don’t know or that nobody knows and things have been great. They have had no issues until the other kids at school had my daughter questioning herself because she doesn’t believe in their religions and now she’s having a crisis because she wants to make the kids at school happy but she doesn’t agree with what they believe in and she’s afraid to be judged.
That transition at 1:30 was not easy but Seth pulled it off.
I was in tears watching the finale
Kristen is always so great it's unbelievable
Parenting goals!
Very nice 👌 too see you miss bell...😁 Enjoy week..muahzzz
She is so beautiful 💞💞
a few centuries ago she probably would help bury him. the way we deal with death of loved ones now is so much less personal than just a couple hundred years ago. i love kristen’s kids, they have good parents.
YES YES YES! I was raised on a farm and was aware of the "circle of life" as long as I can remember. I have done the same with my kids. Our 7 year old has been through some big deaths in the family in her life, but understands that it is the way things go. She has a healthy association with death; it it apart of everyones life. Does it make us sad? - yes!, but it it the way life goes.
A+ parenting. Love her
Anyone else thinking Kristen's kid would love Ask A Mortician videos? I think it's a beautiful thought to take more of a part in burying/exposing our loved one's body. Better than a cold stranger who may be disrespectful.
I love her!!!
Katelyn from Ask a Mortician would be so proud!!
Love her look in that dress!
Omg that's actually super cute! My grandpa just died recently and he was the first person I loved to ever go. I'm 25 and I can't remember my parents having a conversation with me about death but then again I never asked. I always knew that people die someday but it just never really hot to my mind that people I love would die till that day. Jan 17 was the day he left and I really don't know how to deal with his lost yet.
Kristen looks absolutely gorgeous!
the best way i've heard death be described is by ginnifer goodwin on the podcast Life is Short with Justin Long. She reads a speech written called why you should have a physicist attend your funeral and it really just has rooted in my soul i love that essay.
Our dog recently died, and we buried her in our backyard. Months later, our 5 year old asked if, when it’s time to move away, will we dig her back up and take her with us. 😭 oh man, my heart sank.
Waiting for season 3 on Netflix!!
If that's how the kid deals with it, that's how she deals with it. If helping is her coping mechanism, that's ok. There are a lot less healthy ways to deal with grief. When my sister's cat died we had to take her to the ER and have her sedated. They kept giving her drugs and she just kept thrashing and screaming.
Awesome
In some cultures it's tradition for everyone grieving and part of the funeral to pass the body, hand by hand in a line, until it reaches the grave with the direct family members climbing inside and easing the body into a resting position. Thai is followed by everyone contributing to the burial by shoveling a bit of the sand and pouring it inside. Of course participation is not compulsory however, it is a way to show and share your love for the departed. It's very peaceful.
I love Kristen's kiddos
The best person ever she is that
Both of my kids asked a lot of questions about death at that same age. It must be the age they try to process it. And as they went through the phase they would occasionally say things to older people like , “You’re going to die before I do”. Cue awkward laughter.
That is super interesting. A lot for my brain to consider.
Captain Fantastic has a beautiful way to look at life and death, so does Midsommar lol.
She will be a member of The Order of the Good Death when she grows up! If anyone is looking for a way to answer kid's questions about death check out 'Will my cat eat my eyeballs?' By Caitlin Doughy or look up Ask a Mortician here on youtube
My kids know Pa is in a box on the shelf in Nana's house 🤷♀️
Everybody's wonderin' what and where they all came from
Everybody's worryin' 'bout where they're gonna go when the whole thing's done
But no one knows for certain and so it's all the same to me
I think I'll just let the mystery be -
- Let The Mystery Be - Iris DeMent
That's the fuckin cutest thing I've heard in a minute
I think hers is the right approach.
I was sheltered for most of my young life from pain and it made me an incredibly bright and happy kid. Like seriously happy.
And then it made me a depressed young adult. Scared. Anxious. Because I didn't know pain and cruelty, I didn't know how unfair life was and when my pink glasses broke I had to take it all in AT ONCE.
And it was too much and I didn't know how to cope
Good. Kids need to start to understand death, it is the one thing we have for sure
I'm quite curious to see how the celebs' kids get to turn out.
theyre just human like everyone else lmao
@@kingkylie9655 I expected to see this comment when clicking view replies 🤦🏻♀️ Nothing wrong with what ziz said
Maybe her daughter could help them bury one of their dogs. Dax said they are basically almost dead
I love that she doesn't lie to her kids x
i would be proud if i had kids like that
This show made all those philosophy classes totally worth it.
I just love her
Was she talking about her father, was he the grampa she mentioned? Because she seemed so cool about it...
Some chav chic jewellery going on with Kristen Bell. Absolutely loving it!
*No, I don't this to end, give me more*
I would love to see an episode of the good place where they look for Jason’s lost shoe
I had the same reaction after my grandfather passed. I asked why we couldn't bury him in the backyard and my Gram said because it wasn't legal.
Not lying to them, yes, but with some things it’s not exactly lying, but more respecting their level of understanding and not burdening them with too much info. It depends on the child though. Her kid was fine but others wouldn’t necessarily be. So you just have to know your child well enough.
I can think of nothing more basic to the human experience than being burdened with information and experiences one isn't "ready" for and struggling to integrate that information into our consciousness. A good parent serves as guide through that process, not as a gatekeeper of it.
As much as we try to protect children, they do get exposed to some negative things early on like death. So if they ask questions, why not tell them the truth?
Kids need to know about mortality and death early on - how else can you teach them to value their lives and be careful of themselves? My kid knew since she was around 2 that we can get hurt and even killed by dangerous things and although we always protect her she needs to watch out and be mindful as well. If you dont make a big, existential thing of death, then its just another information about life they learn. Shes 4 now and for her its a normal fact, that we all will die someday, but first we will most likely have a long life. And she also says sometimes by herself, that we only have 1 life and therefore need to take good care of us. Knowing about mortality gives life more value!
There's a difference between straight up telling a child something.(like about Santa Claus). And telling a child something AFTER they asked about it. When a child starts questioning things it means they are trying to understand how the world works and developing reasoning skills beyond what they can see, so by then lying to them seems wrong to me. The only exception to that for me is when a child asks not because they are starting to wonder as part of their developement, but because another kid told them, and they want reassurance. Then I would just say "don't listen to them. You can see him right? So he's real." Which isn't lying, it's just not going into the more complex meanings of the word "real" until they are ready.
Im Molluccan and is it common for us to close the grave ourself. It is a sort of closure you get.
She will be 40 years old in a few months. How crazy is that?
You want to sit straight after watching kristen
i miss her craig ferguson interviews
When my sister died we had her cremated and when it was time to bury hee it was just my siblings, our kids and one cemetery worker there. The guy asked if the kids wanted to help bury their aunt. They all helped shovel dirt in the hole until they were bored and then we went out for lunch. It was honestly the most therapeutic burial / memorial I've been to. My sister didn't want a funeral. She got her wish and it wasn't traumatic for the kids. When I did I want the same thing. Also, there better be a bounce house afterwards or I'm haunting some people.
Ignore my typos. I suck at typing. Sorry.
What happened to your sister?
@@joaquingaitanbetancor2465 She had liver disease (I don't know specifics) and died waiting for a transplant.
@@littlebirdlife2389 I'm sorry
Caitlin Doughty would love this.
Kids will respond to these topics how they are presented. In New Zealand, perhaps as a result of the influence of Maori culture, we're not as weird about dead bodies. When I was Kirsten's daughter's age, my godfather died, and we had an open casket in the house for about a week. I would go hold his hand and talk to him, I brought him pansies from the garden every day just like I did when he was alive, and on the last day I went and got one of my favourite little dolls and put it between the hands folded in his chest. I think it helped me say goodbye, helped me understand and demystify death, and it's nice to know that my little dolly is still with him, in a funny way.
Caitlin Doughty would love that story.
Amen!
I'm honestly annoyed at how all my fav netflix shows are ending so soon... it's been very unexpected
I bet Bell was voted "Most likely to succeed" in HS... 😂
If at first you don’t succeed, suck suck suck till you do suck seed.
Good job raising kids with no false religion. They will grow up well balanced. Religion messed up my kids but we are out of it now and kids r so much happier and have a better view of the world and more loving
So glad my mom showed me different religions as a child but always encouraged me to believe in whatever I wanted I feel I'm so much more open and chilled lol
I love your comment! Our kids grew up going to church, but all (including me) have eschewed formal religion since. Spirituality is the way to go. Universal truths beat bullshit doctrine any day.
I would be happy enough if parents would at least not force their religion on their kids. My mom is religious, my dad no really. But, besides one or two trips to church as a kid, that's about it. I like to believe i'm an adjusted individual :P
@@razvanzamfir1545
In The God Delusion, Richard Dawkins argues there should be no such thing as 'Christian/ Muslim/ Hindu/ Jewish/ et al children' only 'children of [insert religion] parents' & kids should get to make up their own mind when they are older.
There's a reason religions l̶i̶k̶e̶ ̶w̶a̶n̶t̶ _need_ to 'get them in the door as kids'.
In the UK, religious education in schools requires learning about the main religions in the world, and their different beliefs. I think that's a good idea.
(We also still have government funded catholic schools though - I do believe that should be kept for church/chapel on Sundays; or Temple on Saturdays or Mosques on Fridays - or whatever applies.)
I don't know if I can agree. I felt sad that she didn't say she'd be going to heaven. Isn't there a medium? Not pushing religious zellism day to day, but just that when a loved one dies they go to a better place where they can always watch us and fly with the angels?
In my religion, family members often symbolically dig some of the soil before the coffin is buried!
love Kristin Bell and seems (from a distance, of course ) like she and Dax are doing well.. so for them it might make sense for them to believe they'd "never lie" to their children...however, omg, there are DEFINITELY times adults *SHOULD* lie to children - either directly or by omission - in order to avoid them being traumatized..and i'm not talking about how she answered her daughter when she asked about death.
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obviously there are those who cannot imagine a qualifying scenario (or who will say that they can't) but such scenarios have definitely existed, *DO* currently exist and, sadly, will exist in future - short of an overall, worldwide miracle...so, there are definitely situations in which making up a story is a far kinder, more loving thing to do!..and as far as *adult to adult* interactions go:
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anyone who hasn't seen the film, "The Invention of Lying," well, they need to keep quiet until they've seen it..it's a comedy with a very evolved and intelligent message - for anyone who actually has a heart, a mature mind and a soul.
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I've heard of parents going the exact other way. They tell super porkers at every opportunity. Every easter bunny story, magic, faeries, helpful hobs under the bed, aliens visitors from outer space, witches, bigfoot etc. To the point where the child is forced to critically think about everything they hear.... but not losing the frivolous whimsy of childhood.
I love Kristen Bell! Why is Seth holding a pencil?? Lol
Flowers?
Where is "a closer look" 😩
Why is Seth holding a pencil?
that's how they did it in the old days. buried their own. there's even a thing called "post mortem photography", in the olden days when someone died, children at a high rate before modern medicine, there were no photos of the deceased so they took a photo of them dead for the family album, sometimes it was a family photo with the deceased propped up.
How is she so pretty, she's 39 but instead of getting older it looks like she's getting younger and prettier each year lol. Wish I looked like her.
There was no Seth Tribute to Kobe?