Parents, How to STOP Coddling your child?

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  • Опубліковано 24 лис 2024

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  • @SethPerler
    @SethPerler  4 роки тому +1

    What do YOU think? Comment below and share your thoughts to help everyone...

  • @erinslawson2269
    @erinslawson2269 7 місяців тому +1

    Great conversation frame!
    What do you say if your child asks you to do too much of his/her work?

  • @newday7504
    @newday7504 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you for this video. I’m the one bringing up the problem. I’m checking with teachers her grades, make up work. She has no worries 😫

  • @carlaa3627
    @carlaa3627 2 роки тому +5

    (1) 6:27 reflect back to them, “that sounds…”, (2) 7:30 “i notice”, (3) 7:52 reflective listening, (4) 9:16 wait time, (5) 10:00 what you gonna do, (6) 10:44 if i can be helpful let me know, (7) 12:25 if they ask help, what do you think would work?, (8) 13:00 Buy in: Do you really want to Hear me?. 15:15 complete Example

  • @AndreavanderMerwe
    @AndreavanderMerwe 2 роки тому +2

    very helpful thanks this is exactly what i need.

  • @sara-annedavid7611
    @sara-annedavid7611 3 роки тому +5

    I've been binging your videos all morning, I'm loving this channel. Would you ever consider doing a video about being an adult with bad executive dysfunction who's raising a child with it? I have adhd and my daughter has ASD, as does my husband. Finding a system for our home between routine and lack there of has been rough. I've already gained so much from these videos. I plan on utilizing all of this.

  • @tarapommer
    @tarapommer 4 роки тому +6

    Yes, how should a parent respond if the child says "I don't know"?

    • @smarteam5920
      @smarteam5920 4 роки тому +3

      This is my son's answer for literally everything 😣

  • @LibbyNorrisInspired
    @LibbyNorrisInspired 3 роки тому +2

    SUCH great nuggets for framing conversations and making this transition. It's tough when you have had to save your child (physically and emotionally) for a long time to start taking those steps back. You know you need to but habits are hard to shift.

  • @Heather-lb4ic
    @Heather-lb4ic 2 роки тому +2

    What do you do if your son is failing but they don't come to you for help.

  • @binauralharmonies3010
    @binauralharmonies3010 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you for this video.
    My son is 9 years old and I believe I have mother coddled him way too much from birth. When it's just one parent (Myself) in the picture and the only child (My son) sometimes it is hard. I need this information 😩. He will be 10 in December.

  • @marilynbarker525
    @marilynbarker525 2 роки тому +1

    How can I accomplish this with 6 other sibling interesting interests conversation or breaking in with their own problem?

  • @MsRachelleDA
    @MsRachelleDA Рік тому +1

    I’m definitely going to try to do this for 10 days with my 5 year old.

  • @wolfalpha4610
    @wolfalpha4610 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you, just what we need.

  • @lisahuber866
    @lisahuber866 4 роки тому +5

    Love this so much! If you get to the step of asking them what they're going to do to solve this, and they are overwhelmed/stressed out etc and don't have an answer because they are truly overwhelmed/feeling helpless (due to their own choices) what do you recommend?

  • @LindseyAlexander-j5g
    @LindseyAlexander-j5g 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for this!!

  • @kerrysammon
    @kerrysammon 3 роки тому +1

    I took a ton of notes! Can't wait to use this.

  • @jessicahday9339
    @jessicahday9339 4 роки тому +2

    BRILLIANT!!! More of this please.

  • @mets834
    @mets834 4 роки тому +2

    I am curious what to do when the kid doesn't want to do it because is boring?

  • @bullje123
    @bullje123 4 роки тому +2

    I love it! You make it sound so easy. I will try this.

  • @betteflentje7697
    @betteflentje7697 4 роки тому +1

    Hi Seth. Can’t wait to try out the new script! I took notes.

  • @nickyferguson9497
    @nickyferguson9497 3 роки тому +4

    Hi Seth, like another parent comment, how do you handle it if it’s parent who can see the problem, but the kid is completely unconcerned...

  • @giftedgreen2152
    @giftedgreen2152 4 роки тому

    My mother took me to a child psychologist who held me down on the ground by putting her knees on my shoulders until I was out of energy.

  • @rachelkushner3485
    @rachelkushner3485 4 роки тому +1

    Excellent! ❤️

  • @giftedgreen2152
    @giftedgreen2152 4 роки тому +3

    Your kid will only listen to his or her comfort person. For me it was my grandmother. Everyone was jealous of our relationship.

  • @whicks74
    @whicks74 3 місяці тому

    What if my son doesn’t come to me to say he has a problem? What if he doesn’t have a solution?

  • @rtrouthouse1506
    @rtrouthouse1506 2 роки тому +1

    Bingo!

  • @jessicahday9339
    @jessicahday9339 4 роки тому +1

    I will admit I often get stopped by my child when I do reflective listening- "so what I hear you saying is....is that correct?" its at this point that she exits conversation- like she almost knows she will have so solve on her own in the next step. and she has to commit to what she is saying as being so/true/real. I guess I can leave it at that. or leave it at- you seem really upset/frustrated... (thoughts?)

  • @andreabarnett6953
    @andreabarnett6953 3 роки тому +1

    Great video! Love the suggestions!
    The teacher in me wants to fix your #. #ExecutiveFunction

    • @SethPerler
      @SethPerler  3 роки тому +1

      Glad it was helpful! I think I fixed it, but it may not fix older vids, thank you!

  • @melindamontes1247
    @melindamontes1247 4 роки тому +1

    Really great “meat & potatoes “ strategy. Thank you!