Generation Y = Millenials. Gen X and millenials are not in grade school anymore. Gen z is, but yes, I agree with your post. Gen X are usually the parents of older Gen Z.
After 27 + years of teaching in several grade levels, I urge you to walk a mile in a teacher's shoes before you make a comment! In fact, put yourself in a classroom as a substitute teacher for a week! I guarantee you will walk away shaking your head in disbelief. Happily retired!!!
After 36 year I have also seen many negative things. I have also met and worked with wonderful parents and students who are studying medicine who come and visit me, write to me and thank me for having a good year with meParents run into me and thank me. One student is making artificial hearts. I focus on the positive. I do totally understand this teacher, may God bless her!
I have wanted to be a teacher since I was in 2nd grade and it's still in the back of my mind but the way I see it's going to be with these bad ass kids and even bad parents I refuse to get paid shitty plus have to deal with all this bullshit after working hard to get a degree. Fuck that, I'll wait til shit settles down or til being an educator doesn't require a degree anymore due to lack of teachers lmfao. Hopefully shit gets better but it doesn't look like it.
Alicia Ornelas As a parent whose child attended the same school district this teacher Julie Marburger teaches at, I can tell you the problems are not only with the parents and students. If you Google Bastrop ISD you can read about problems dating back years from teachers ,to administration, to parents, to the students. My husband and I taught my daughter young that she had a big brain and she was going to college and we weren't paying for it, because there are to many scholarships she can earn. So, when she started kindergarten we made a contract with her stating our expectations: 1) We don't accept any grade lower than an A, 2) When you go to school your teacher is your boss and your grades are your pay 3)You do not talk in class unless the teacher calls on you 4) If you don't agree with something your teacher says or does you tell your parents and we will decide how to handle it 5) If you get into trouble at school you will get into trouble at home. These are the consequences: 1) No Tv show 2) No company 3) No sports 4) Spanking. I signed it, her daddy signed it and she had to sign it. This was our yearly routine. From kindergarten to 6th grade her dad and I were very involved with school, we were constantly asked to bring snacks because mom liked to go through the cookbook and made the cool snacks, we took turns sitting in her classes as room monitors. The teachers loved it because the kids acted better with a parent in the classroom. Things changed and problems began when my daughter got to 7th grade, then we learned we were not wanted there, we were asked by her teachers why are you here? You need to let her grow up and so on. So, the parents that were involved stop coming to the schools. We did not. The majority of my daughter's teachers were great. Exceptional really. They were appreciative we cared enough to be involved. But, we had a few that were not, those are the ones we had issues with. 7th grade Pre-AP I Texas history teacher Texas history teacher was subjective with the students grades, mine included. 8th grade the school principal told my daughter she looked look a gang member because she wore a black and white banana as a headband to match her black and white t-shirt. My honor roll kid, who never got into trouble at school and never talked, looked like a gang member. Being a very detailed parent, I knew the student handbook backwards and forward so I always set up conferences to try to solve situations. What I learned is when you try to have a conference when there is a conflict no one hears each other. The teacher is thinking of ways to defend themselves and the parent is focused on defending their child. Nothing gets solved. Starting freshman year, Hubby and I decided to start having conferences with all of daughters teachers 3 weeks after school started. The teachers were always on edge and worried. Their first words were "V has all A's in my class". I tell them I know, the reason I called for a conference is because there isn't a problem, so you can hear me and I can hear you. I told them my goal is for my daughter to go to college and I wasn't paying for it. So, what can I do to help you help me make that happen? Of course, most of the teachers were relieved and had excellent advise on my daughter being successful in their classes and also advising me on her applying for scholarships even if we didn't think she would qualify for them. We had 2 teachers my daughter's Junior year that didn't take us seriously. The one AP English teacher kept giving daughter zeroes for assignments she turned in. It turned out she graded the papers and put them in a basket but did not input the grades. She would then deduct 20 points off the grade she gave in the fist place for it being late. I had another conference with her and that angered her so she kept giving my daughter zeroes. Now, mind you my daughter is ranked 10th out of 472 students and this woman is messing with my daughter's future. In the student handbook it says you cannot request a teacher change you could request a level down though. I refused to request a level down because my daughter could and did do the work this was a teacher issue. So, second semester I told my daughter to schedule an appt. With her school counselor and ask for a different AP English teacher. I told her if the counselor said no schedule an appt for me to see her. She was switched into a different AP English class. Also, during her Junior year she had a Pre-AP physics teacher who was a former elementary teacher trying to teach physics and didn't do it well, so the smart kids got together and taught themselves. Then they had to do a project and write a paper. This was a major grade. Daughter turned hers in early. We get her report card and she has a 70. She talked to her physics teacher and he told her she didn't turn in the written part so she made a 50 on her project. She told him she turned it in early and showed him on her USB the essay and it was dated to show when it was last edited. It turned out half the class got a 50 on their project. They all turned their papers in early. The teacher laid the folder with their essays down, he says someone must have stolen it. Another ding on my daughters GPA. Thankfully, most of the teachers she had from freshman year she had her Senior year so she had a great senior year. Like I said, she had majority of great teachers. She had a handful of bad apple teachers. She was fortunate enough to have parents that supported and advocated for her. She graduated 11th out of 472 in her class. She was awarded a lot of money in scholarships. She attended and graduated from an Ivy League University. V sent each and every teacher from kinder to senior year who made a positive impact in her college success a graduation invitation and a picture with a personal letter thanking them for their role in preparing her for college and just overall caring about her succeeding. Even though I told her I was not paying for college, I have a student loan of under $10,000 that I am paying. Watch this face🙄🤗😂. It only takes one teacher to have a major impact on a student, but it only takes one teacher to ruin a student, especially if that student does not have support at home. It disappoints me that Mrs. Marburger decided to post her frustrations on social media because there may be that one student that she may have reached that was basically thrown out with the bath water. If a teacher gets that frustrated maybe it is best to get out of it. I would advise teachers to watch Ted Talks Rita Pierson's "Every kid needs a champion". She was a former educator in Texas with wonderful advise to other teachers.
A huge Thank you to this teacher!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We need more outspoken teachers like her!!!! It is the only way our children will grow up to be responsible adults!!!!! Remember that these kids will grow up and may work for you and live next door to you!!!!
I can agree on the part where you're mentioning about being responsible, but there is a point that it has to depend on the nature of the circumstance. There are circumstances where it can have information that is either right or wrong.
Cassie Reno I’m sure the parents would have to hope in vain that the kids themselves wouldn’t interpret those lectures they’d have to deal with as too many boring, incomprehensible words coming out of the parents’ mouths, which could easily be explained by that “wah wah wah” sound in the Peanuts cartoons!
Cassie Reno Kids act better with you then their own parents sometimes? Thats funny because when I tell my 11 year old daughter to do something..she gives me a hard time and says "I didn't do it", I tell her again to just do it..and she comes up with another excuse why not to do it... then I have to get in a serious tone of voice and tell her to do it or she'll have something taken away.... Finally she goes to do it..but screaming and yelling throughout my house like she's having a baby. BUT...if her friend is over at our house and I tell my daughter to do something...she does it immediately, even speaking in a gentle voice saying "ok Dad!". Strange..🤔
Cassie Reno Well Im sorry if I have a manly voice and not the voice of the guy from "Blue Clues" or even "Mr Rodgers(neighborhood)". Always...everytime initially...when I see something that my daughter did, I just tell her WITHOUT confrontation in a normal voice. My voice is my voice, its the same way I speak to adults or anyone(except a really cute puppy). But anyway....after I let her know(in my normal voice) what she did or didnt do...she ignores me or either says.."I didn't do it". Should I just let that slide or continuious speak repeatedly in my normal voice about what she did or didn't do like a malfunctioning robot? If I know her...she wouldn't take what I say seriously..she would think I'm just playing with her or acting.... Therefore she wouldn't do anything about her wrong and ignore me, going back to doing what she's doing. I believe the parent needs to be respected AND listened to first. Why? Because the parent is the first and only source of all that they have(until they are 18). Everything they own... Every diaper change... Every bite of food... Every house lived in.... Every electronic played... Every piece of clothing down to the socks... Comes from a parent. And thing is...the parents works hard to make sure the child(ren) enjoy life with those things...and they work hours and hours for nearly two decades(sometimes more) just to make sure the child(ren) has everything they need to enjoy life. And thing is...Children will never ever understand the stress of work and home COMBINED...until one of two things happen: - When you bring them to your job(which is rare because your boss might not allow that due to the work environment), to show them what you have to do everyday, so they can appreciate how much you do for them and what you go through. OR - Have a mental breakdown in front of the children, so they can clearly see how much stress and depression you're going through trying to stabilize work and home. If neither of those two happen...then they will never understand what you go through raising them and working. All they will understand are the things they have...which are an PS4 or Roblox, or UA-cam videos, or My Little Pony. Now...me.. personally....I plan on bringing my daughter with me to work next month(when their school is out). I'm a delivery truck driver and drive on average about 150 miles a day...but not before driving TO WORK 70 miles each way(I live in Utah). And its not to punish her....Its so she can know what I do for her each day when I go to work, and how far I have to drive..FOR HER. I tell my daughter I work delivering to cow farms(which I do), she never grasp what I do when I just tell her...even in detail. So I plan to show her. She doesn't respect me because she asks for ALOT of things in which she knows are not good for her, and I don't give it to her...she even ask for things that she can easily do on her own(a simple task). Most the time I guide her to do those things, and she just says..."I cant do iiiiit!!" without even trying. She's just lazy.. don't feel like doing stuff. She didn't get that(laziness)from me, I workout, go on runs and do all the manly stuff(moving heavy objects, fixing both family cars, going food shopping for family). So.......please.. Don't go around blaming parents that are trying their very best, and trying to get the right chemistry and the right balance in their household. Parents would NEVER EVER ask or wish for a misbehaved child... Parents are humans too..and make mistakes..and we learn from our mistakes, sometimes its takes an a week..some times a decade...some times never...but we learn from our mistakes and try our very best to make sure those mistakes don't happen again. BUT..its very difficult with so much emotions tied into raising a child...with how they are acting, and how you need for them to act.
When we were young if you did something stupid in school the first thing out of your mouth was "please don't tell my Mom". Punishment would be much worse at home. As it should be. I work with many young people and they are not taught any respect or discipline anymore. They think the whole world needs to do what they want. Raising your kid as if they are the ones in charge and can do no wrong is why there are school shooters now. If you actually love your child then you would raise them to be prepared for the real world. It is full of disappointments and someone is always going to tell you what to do. Raising kids otherwise is making their life so much harder for them.
Ann Green not respect or displin ..I believe it call being a rebel cause being a rebel is so cool . At least that social media and cartoon taught them being a rebel with no cause is cool
Of course, because that is how we were raised. But that does not mean I put up with their disrespect when they start to dole it out. We were raised to never talk to our elders in any kind of disrespectful way, even if we did not agree with them. People old enough to be your parents or grandparents are not your peers, you do not tell them to STFU ever!
Ann Green The older people dont like truth when it come from a younger person. You view an opposing viewpoint as disrespect. That is how most older people are. Your age doesnt buy respect, when you are disrespectful.
I work as a nurse at a local hospital. There are three other RN's I work with that left their careers as teacher's to become nurses because of similar reasons to what this woman posted. Sad, they went through college twice and have two bachelor's degrees because of how bad it was being a teacher.
I ended up leaving BOTH nursing and Teaching (did both in my twenties and early thirties) for my current career in IT, and I don’t regret it. Yes, both are very under appreciated careers and people quit and leave all the time!
100% agree with this teacher. Parents and teachers must be a team not "whatever the teacher says is always wrong and i will always defend my child no matter what" the children need to know that their wrong behavior has consequences. They need to learn FIRST by their parents respect towards others and parents should stay away from using profanity in front of their kids because kids think that's ok. Children bring that behavior to school and influence kids that really are just trying to learn and pass to the next grade level.
I agree with parents and teachers being a team. However whatever the teacher says isn't always right. Some teachers act worse than students and use profanity in the classroom.
Jane Dough Profanity is always going to be there, just saying. The kids most likely already know a few swear words, if not most and/or all. We couldnt say "crap" when in grade school. But all the kids during break were saying all sorts of profanity. I know the classroom is different. I know it is a rule to be followed. But it seems idealistic to think the kids are so innocent.
Nan M+ The thing that pisses me off the most, is when the kid bullies another kid, and then when the parent of the victim approaches the bully's mom, they turn round and say: "Oh, are you sure? My kid would never do that! You must be mistaken! Watch- SAMANTHA, HONEY, DID YOU HIT LAURA YESTERDAY?!" Samantha (blinks innocently): "No mommy, of course not...!" (Sends evil grin towards Laura. Laura folds her arms and glowers.) Samantha's mom (smiles): There, you see? My Samantha's an angel! I think dear Laura may be a little over-sensitive... Would you like to see some of Samantha's baby pics? I taught her to take a selfie by age two! What a little genius! Aww, isn't she cute...?" Laura's mom (grits her teeth): "Really?" 😒 Laura: 😢😢😢 "But mommy! She did hit me yesterday, she's lying!" Laura's mom (grabs Laura's hand and marches toward the school): "I know she did, sweetie! Come on! We're going to see your teacher about this..."
@@janedough6410 I did have a statement where I was mentioning that it has to depend on the nature of the situation. Situations can have right or wrong information.
lord knows if i found out my child was being disrespectful she would soon find herself in a world of trouble. I hold no punches when it comes to having respect for people and things around you. some parents these days just think that child services will come after them if they so much as take away their child's toys or tell them no. >:(
She is telling the trurh. These parents are not helping their children by coddling them. Parents have to prepare their children for the real world. They are setting their children up for failure. This a result of parenting skills, which a lot of parents do not have any and do not take the time to discipline their children and teach them right from wrong and teach them respect for their elders. Bit soon as they go out here and get in trou le with stealing, fighting, guns and the law gets involved, the first thing parents want to say, they are good children.Parents get mad when someone calls them out about their children's bad behavior. Children's behavior are a reflection of their parents. You are the one who chose to have children.
Not, African Teachers! USA is using a no sense discipline in schools. Children should understand that the teacher is important member in their lives same as parents. Parents also should follow up on their kids behaviors in school.
Paula Ault , students should be thought from home that number one rule in school is to Respect their teachers, two is to respect other students three is to make a full focus on their studies. Please parents, talk to your kids about the importance of respecting teachers. Imagine if all parents are doing homeschooling, are you telling me that some kids would still disrespect their parents during their homeschooling hours and parents would not do anything? Children should treat their teachers as we want them to treat us as parents. I am a parents, I am from Africa but now a USA citizen. I will never follow the USA gov rule when it comes to parenting.
Honestly, I side with the teacher on this. When I was a kid and would get trouble I would like try to blame the teacher and hope my parents would side with me but they didn't, they sided with the teacher 100% of the time. I hated it at the time but now as an adult I see where they were coming from and literally thank them for telling me to respect the teacher and for them always taking the teacher's side and giving punishment where it was due. At the time the kid will hate it and you for it but in the long run will thank you for not taking their side when a teacher diciplines the student
tromboner2012 depends. there are abusive teachers. i had been abused by 3 teachers. one hit my hand with a wooden ruler when I was 5 for losing my place during reading. I only lost my place because I was so afraid to not lose my place after she yelled at us about how sick she was of us losing our places. I was keeping up until she called my name. then she hit my hand so very hard with that wooden ruler. now mind you that was a yard stick. anyway another teachet constantly yelled at me and called me stupid...i was brought to a pshyiatrist who deemed I had no learning disability but that I was being emotionally abused by my teacher. that was 4th grade... i had a number of abusive teachers actually. so what you said is not always true.
Tromboner - Some students don't manipulate situations and actually tell the truth. The idea of automatically siding with teachers put parents in a quandary especially when some educators have psychological issues.
meli sol oh wow you received corporal punishment big whoop kids in texas get that all the time. I got that. Made me a more respective person. Stop crying
People really don’t understand that this is THE issue in education and our future. This also effects the other well-behaved kids because their education is being sacrificed by these students. It’s a joke how these parents aren’t more on top of this and don’t have direct intervention as soon as this crap happens. Be a damn parent, it’s not that hard. Don’t tolerate this stuff, or else they’ll end up in prison
Ive been bullied by every teacher i ever known because of my mental illness. The disrespect and verbal abuse i received was enough for me to not trust anyone in the education department
Parents are so stupid now. Such a shame. They have no time for there kids. Selfish parents!!!!!! Kids are a reflection of the parents Ugh. We are a doomed future. So glad my kids are great and responsible citizens. It takes your full attention raising kids. These moms are on utube....Playing games...texting and gossiping. There is no excuse for kids acting up in class. It the parents responsibility. Not the teachers.
Bless this woman for shining a light on what all teachers deal with! She is absolutely right about disrespectful students and parents who behave just as badly; they learn it at home, and that is not okay. Unfortunately, if these kids do not learn to be respectful and are not held responsible for their actions now, it will come back to bite them down the road.
I’m watching this as a teacher b/c I’m fed up and tired. Working 2 jobs just to make ends meet. Our job is to educate your child with knowledge. Parents job is to instill values and respect. Too many parents expect us to do it all and shoulder the blame for their children’s bad behavior.
COMPLETELY understand.... I taught 8th grade science and the attitudes of parents and children are nothing short of rude, disrespectful and entitled. Parents are doing a serious disservice to their children and their community by allowing their children to "get away with" a myriad of actions. If they are our future then they should be better prepared for the world that they will soon discover will not tolerate such behaviors and attitudes.
My mom has been a teacher for over twenty years, I can't tell you how many times she's come home in tears, not because of a student (she's a tough lady who can handle her classroom) but because of how a parent treated her and how administrators sided with the parents. Nobody wants to believe their child can do any wrong.
One of the many reasons I homeschool. Both my parents were public school teachers and encouraged me to homeschool. A student tried to poison my dad, he had his car keyed, and he had his phone stolen multiple times. It was disgusting to see his teenage students treat my dad that way. My mom was stuck in a classroom full of 35 kindergarteners multiple years; illegal and a fire safety code violation. How can anyone learn in that environment? Teachers are amazing, selfless people that truly want to encourage their students and change the world for the better; but they just have too much on their plates and the system they have to work within doesn't support them.
After 5 years of teaching, I'm walking away from the profession next month! Absolutely disgusting how disrespectful kids and their parents have become. Just today I had to hang up on a parent who was screaming and cursing at me because his daughter got a 0% for talking to other students multiple times during a test. What kind of example is that setting for his child?
This is why I quit. Teaching is a living hell and the administrators/politicians/parents are COMPLETELY to blame. Children's behavior REQUIRES consequences. If a teacher can't give a SERIOUS consequence then kids can and will run the school. We have an epidemic in this country and I hate to say it, BUT if you want to fix it then ... you're going to have to beat a few kids (edit: & parents) till they understand, they are NOT in control. You did this to yourselves. You let your kids do anything and it resulted in making them spoiled monsters who think they're the center of the universe.
Parents, please remember that allowing children to face negative consequences for bad behavior is NOT child abuse. It's much better to allow the consequences when they are younger and not as severe, than to wait until they are older and the consequences are much more significant. This can start when a child is even under 2 years. And it's an important way of loving them.
I can understand where she's coming from. I believe. parents need to work together and dont be so quick to feel offended when the teacher has to correct your child behavior
While I generally agree with this teacher, what kind of situation would warrant her calling a parent while the class hears? She probably would not have been embarrassed as much if whatever the parent said wasn’t heard by her class. She’s still right about parents coddling their children.
Parents seem to think, these days, that their kids can do no wrong.... it's everyone else's fault. That attitude has directly lead to the majority of this country's problems.
As another viewpoint on the matter: when are parents supposed to teach their children or even be able to spend time with them? Many kids are sent home with so much utterly useless homework (often that was poorly explained using convoluted and ridiculous methods apparently mandated at a federal level) that children have to stay up half the night to even complete it all, and then they get up early and start the whole thing over again. Few ADULTS could function under that kind of stress, let alone children. To make matters worse, the parents often must work multiple jobs, cutting what family time they DO have. And entertainment often glorifies destructive behavior, foul language, and rudeness. What do we expect?
She should be calling the parent and publicly embarrassing the kid in front of the class! The people here that don't understand why are precisely why these kids' are the way they are. You care more about the politically correct BS that you're fed and little to do with making this child held accountable for his actions. Saying, No, no, Timmy, isn't going to work, especially with junk parents' raising these kids' who should have never had kids' to begin with.
Theresa Loicano agree. The only thing that worked for me with 8th graders was calling parents then and there. They weren't on speaker phone but I watched many a cocky, loud kid change to dear and trembling
Disrespecting teachers is unconscionable! I owe soooo very much to the awesome teachers i had growing up! I have the "smarts" and the opportunities i have today thanks to them!
I think that it’s so easy to drop kids off at the public school. Parents do this and then go about their business then complain when things go south. I’ve always felt that it was ultimately my responsibility to teach my children. But sending a child off to a school to either bully or be a menace is completely irresponsible and contributing to a dysfunctional society. Why did people like this have children? It’s not the public’s responsibility to raise the child that you chose to bring into this world. It’s yours! And if you don’t do it, society will. This can bring on heartbreak for both child and parent. I’m very thankful that I could and do homeschool. But people often look at public school as a baby sitting center free of charge. No way! What will happen if all the teachers quit and the public school shuts down? This could happen!
Wow it’s no surprise that kids are disrespectful but their parents enabling this behavior is shocking. Whenever I get in trouble at school my parents always take the teachers side. Their not helping their kids at all by always taking their side. Their teaching them that they can behave any way they want and not have any consequences and that is a destructive mentality to have.
The taking teachers things off of their desk is a huge issue I remember in third grade someone stole the reward candy off my teachers desk and she was so hurt so my friends and I ended up tracking down the person who did it because we loved our teacher so much, we need to do better for our teachers their great selfless people.
My son s teacher asked me why I never went to a student psrent interview. I said I can't my job don't let me. He said, why not you have rights. The thing is I don't I don't have job security like he does.
This is what folks don't understand. Some parents have 2-3 jobs just to stay afloat or homebound. There should be alternative methods to accommodate "non-traditional" parents: email, Skype, FaceTime. However if an educators make themselves available, and parents don't follow during lunch or a commute; then I question whether they care about their child's education.
Jane Dough I do care . But someone needs to feed the kid ... buy the books .... pay the transport... My son is already 16 and he works with me cleaning stores at night. His teacher asks me why my Son looks so tired .... I anwser "he works "..... And he asks "Why?" Do i really need to answer that..
Yes! She is absolutely right!! The role models for such bad behavior are most times the parents. I've had teacher friends that really loved teaching, but loathed the utter lack of respect and carelessness coming from some of their students. And genuine parent involvement? Good luck. Not much of that happens.
those bookshelves they showed are cheap and do not hold up long and with that many kids taking books and puting them back...those bookshelves seriously just do not hold up.
I feel horrible for this teacher. I've met some disrespectful teachers, and some really good ones. My children KNOW to behave in class and to trear their teachers with respect- or there will be consequences. Like washing a neighbors car or cleaning nanas house. I have a child with special needs and he acts better than most of the kids in his class. It's crazy! I wouldn't say coddling, though. To be exact. And I mean no disrespect. Because as parents, we want to keep our kids safe. And at young ages ( Prek-4th), they're vulnerable and easily taken for granted( silenced) in the class room. But instead, I would say enabled. Disrespectful behavior, verbal abuse, bad attitude and treatment of others, is the problem. I've met some parents who were literal heathens, and taught their kids the same. Bless this Teacher. She deals with too much. As a parent, I'm sorry this is your day to day. 😞 A healthy teacher is a healthy environment. And successful kids.
MILITARY SCHOOLS!! If you have to sign up for selective service to go to college with any financial aid then maybe trouble students should have to go to military schools and if they want government to pay for their education
Some teachers are very bad.... 1 of mine tried getting me in trouble with my parents but it didn't work..... in the end she changed how she was teaching the class..
Parent's whether they like it or not are ultimately responsible for their child's behavior, NOT the teacher if that behavior is on-going. Parent's who think it's 100% and totally the teachers responsibility for an education are just plain ignorant. They need to instill an interest in their child to work at it. A child is learning responsibility and maturing. If kids see there are no consequences, and ADMINISTRATION AND PARENTS are putting it all on the teacher, those kids will carry that rotten behavior to a very serious outcome! Apparently the liberal approach to parenting and education for a little over the last 40 years needs to be looked into seriously. Is it truly working or not? Think hard about that
The root issue is that the West has very poor social policy and makes it very hard for parents to be present. Home have exploded over the last 30 years, parents are working two jobs or more just to survive. And Society has been salt litigious that schools have stop enforcing Behavior standards for students out of fear ratio and legal backlash. You don't see this happening in China or the Middle East. Over there it's the adults that run the classroom and school
As a teacher, I was with you until you brought in an Editor of a mommy and me magazine to discuss problems within the classroom. How ignorant. What makes her an expert? And newsflash: all schools have parent/teacher conferences just most of the parents don't come. Why don't you start having segments where you keep the discussion going with people working directly in the field or retired from the field. Instead, you constantly bring in people who have no clue, but they write some blog or some crap so you've labeled them an expert.
Many but not all parents believe that whatever they are willing to put up with at home the rest of us should be willing to do the same in public spaces and schools. CRAP! Grow up and be the adult. You must important job is to discipline your child. Discipline: to teach!
Totally opposite in Asia in general. Teachers are like dictators. Parents always respect and listen to everything the teachers say. A call to the parents is like death sentence. And humiliating students in front of the class is never off limits. But maybe that's also why I have depression since childhood ...
Hahahahaha! I’m sorry, it’s just that I literally teach a class of children in China, all the kids of nouveau rich parents. Most of the parents have a “my child is perfect always and forever even though They don’t get have boundaries at home and have every single obstacle ploughed over for them, also, I paid money for the school so I own you and I get whatever I want, and I will be angry but then not even talk to you regarding anything relating to teaching and planning, and go over your head, and immediately to the office” kind of attitude.
Never take this stuff to facebook. Talk to your parents and find ways to support and create understanding. I get that parents can be hard to deal with. Students too. For the record, I myself am a teacher. I fully see where she's coming from.
Awesome teacher for standing up for herself! The parent & student being disrespectful in school is one thing. Entering the real world, getting & keeping a job is a totally different reality that will never put up w/ disrespectful behavior. I feel sorry for kids who have parents damaging their lives with lack of discipline & proper guidance.
My brother is raising his kids the same way we were raised. You follow the rules you get freedom, break them and there will be hell to pay. There is really only a few rules of parenting that every parent needs to stick to as far as dicipline. #1 bed time is non-negotiable #2 if you say it mean it. Do not threaten a punishment you are not willing to uphold. Actually follow through. Example time. As a child I took a tantrum to end all tantrums in a store. My mother threatened to never take me out again if I continued. I did, so she didn't take me out shopping for a year. They would go every two weeks and every time she would tell me I was not going because I didn't know how to behave. I heard that 26 times before she finally relented. I never gave her a problem again.
@@Tast-1934. no, quite the opposite. I believe it was the correct decision. It's not like I suffered when she went shopping without me. My babysitter was my favorite person aside from my parents (my grandmother's cousin). Besides, I was 2 years old. The closest grocery stores is an hour away so we'd be out for 3 hours at a minimum. Honestly it was probably better for both of us that she didn't take me with her.
Parents worship their children. They won't face the truth about their children. They defend them right or wrong. It makes children grow up without character. This kind of parenting is not love. Not all parents do this, of course.
This is why you don’t become a teacher kids once teachers see what they REALLY have to do they instantly regret their life choices of becoming a teacher
She might not have called the parent in front of the class…….She said when she was with the parent in person the parent admonished her when the class was present……so it is entirely possible that we are talking about two different encounters with this parent…….She said the parent was rude to me in person and on the phone…….. I think she is referring to when the parent came in to address the issue in person…….
Although I’m quite confident that this teacher is being honest, I have had way too many experience with disrespectful and lazy TEACHERS who are never held accountable. It boggles my mind that there are so many incompetent teachers out there when there are tons of promising individuals graduating from teaching school who aren’t able to secure positions due to high demand.
Deflecting much? Ineffective teachers are not the subject here. For once, people should be able to deal with what effective classroom teachers have been saying about unruly students for years. The. Nerve. Also, I guess you haven't heard or looked at any national statistics on the number of potential education majors --as of 2016, enrollment was at an all time low in teacher programs. It simply isn't true that there is a long line of young people lining up to become teachers, and with stories like these and other issues, it's no wonder.
Layla Melodie I respectfully disagree, Layla. I acknowledged that the teacher is in the right in this situation. However, I have found that in general, students are much too scared about calling out their teachers for behaving poorly or inappropriately. I am simply sharing my experience. Thanks for sharing your opinion; I really don’t mean to be aggressive or disrespectful in my comment. Also, I don’t live in the US, so things may be different there.
Now I don't have kids, so I can't really look at it from that particular angle. However, I do own a business and if an employee acts up, they would never be reprimanded in front of other employees. It's not professional to do that. The teacher should NEVER have called the kid's mother in front of the other students. I'm glad the teacher was treated with disrespect by that kid's mother. If I had a child and I found out his or her teacher was trying to embarrass them, I'd rip that teacher a new asshole. How dare she do that!
Simply Magical BYYYYYEEEEE you must have not gone to public school or did in a very white neighbourhood because HELLA kids in middle and high school had their parents called in front of the class. If your kid is literally damaging school property, making offensive comments to other students, and refusing to let other kids do their work let alone their own, and I have been to the administration plenty of times with no support, THEN IM GOING TO CALL YOU RIGHT THERE AND THEN AND LET YOU KNOW WHATS UP
For starters, though my parents wanted me in a private school, I chose to attend a public school. It was indeed in a predominately white neighborhood, with quite a lot of Mexicans mixed in. No African Americans, though. Secondly, those types of matters should be handled privately. When I was middle school 20+ years ago, if a student was acting up like that, they were immediately sent to the principal's office. The teacher would call the principal from the class room, tell him what was going on and the parents would be called from his office. They were NEVER ONCE called in front of the classroom, as that was considered inappropriate. Apparently things have changed over the years. My parents would've definitely chewed the teacher and principal out for handling it like the teacher did in this video. In fact my senior year of high school, there was a student who sexual harassed me numerous times ...and my parents threatened to sue the school if they didn't do anything. They weren't (and still aren't) the type of people you pissed off.
IMO the teacher's complaint is an administrative issue. These are 6th graders. What rules and consequences are set by the school for misbehaving students? If the teacher has repeated issues with a student, then her complaint (call) should be forwarded to a guidance counselor or the dean. Her gripe is with school administration for not having supportive services for overwhelmed teachers. IDK the student or the parent's account, but stopping a class to contact a working parent on speakerphone, posting and touring about job complaints is not the right move.... and unprofessional.
Parents need to show their children unlimited love but do not reward bad behaviour.If parents do not let their children know that there will be consequences if they behave like little brats they will continue this behaviour.
Jane Dough It's about the number of discipline referrals schools have to officially report to their districts. The less official referrals your school reports, the better image the school has. It reflects on the school, the principals and the district. So- teachers are sometimes forced to "eat" the excessive bad behavior so as not to raise the number of discipline referrals.
In theory, the teacher can go to administration for disciplinary issues. But in reality, the administration (principal, vice principal) are politicians: Their job is to keep the peace among all stakeholders, parents, students, teachers, caretaking staff, even the local community, law enforcement and the media. But there's a power differential at play here: They answer to the superintendent and the school board, not to teachers. Overbearing parents will often go over their heads and file complaints to their bosses based on the stories the child relays to them without properly consulting either the teacher in question or the principle. Oftentimes, the administration just finds it easier to placate the parent, even when evidence shows that the teacher was right. For this reason, teachers often don't feel supported by their administration and are encouraged to document EVERY behavioural problem that occurs (which is multiple times daily) in case they're taken to court... but even with ample evidence to protect you, your name will have been slandered and your reputation as an educator ruined. This is the culture of fear that today's teachers are facing.
The problem is that the parents are coddling their kids when they don't get their way. The parent goes to the Administration to complain. The parents bully the Administration and then the Administration then bullies the teacher. But it all comes down to the parents coddling their babies and whining to the administration about it. That is the Genesis, the parents.
That was the worst most ridiculous interview ever, where are you going to find these miracle parents who can do a good job raising a kid but just haven’t realized that there needed yet? Parents who don’t care won’t care. Parents who do care already doing a good job, we need discipline in the schools and you need better parents. Reducing the rate of single parenthood would be a good start in the long term but in the short term you’ve got a big problem that needs to be addressed drastically and decisively otherwise the entire society will descend into chaos
Discipline needs to be back to reality. Real consequences, not just words but actions. And administration must back up the teachers. School boards must back up school rules. A teacher should have parents sign a class rules policy. Make sure Administration knows you’re having that policy in your class and if that child violates that policy, the teacher will enforce those rules. Call parents, document those calls, and keep communication open. RESPECT is the key.
My mother was a single parent with a government job. She never coddled me. She wasn't horrible to me but she never coddled me. I was watching SBS, lateline and Q and A whilst other teenage girls were stuck on passions and home and away and trying to get boyfriends. I'm so grateful for my upbringing. I honestly don't know what I'd do without it.
Same in the UK! Teachers get dissed by parents, inspectors, the government! I think part of the problem is - parents are expecting teachers, not just to teach their kids, but to raise them! The job of raising kids is the parents' but many are lazy (thankfully not all are). Parents need to wise up! The government inspectors go into the classroom looking for negative things - a few inspectors are drop out teachers who couldn't teach! How demoralizing for the teachers! The government itself says schools need to do this and that, they change things without having a clue what it's like! They set ridiculous targets!
If parents are able to disciplined their children the way we were raised back in the days, I bet they'll teach others respect and know their consequences. Don't blame the children, don't blame the guns, and don't blame the law! I think it's the parents faults and disciplinary actions must be reinforced!
laws are important, take look at this: ua-cam.com/video/Rd78QRf-cB0/v-deo.html What the government there is doing is coddling the homeless, illegals and the rich. I mean encouraging rich to be greedy/selfish, encouraging homeless and illegals to be lazy and rely on the government. Give the homeless money, they would spend it on drugs and alcohol or they would spend it badly
God bless this teacher!! When my boys misbehaved in school and I found out, they were punished and made to apologize to the teacher!!! They are wonderful, RESPECTFUL young men today!
Also, the respect needs to go both ways I've had experienced a lot of mean teachers who completely disrespect the kids and embarrass them or scream at them and things like that so it definitely has to go both ways
The best advice I've ever given to teachers is to pick and choose the battles with students and parents not everything is worth fussing over. Your better off letting things go than wasteing your breath over something totally not important. trust and believe it actually helps.
Oh man It must be so frustrating for so many teachers I can't imagine, especially if the parents don't do much to help. This may not be related to the video, but i was out having a picnic with two friends when this little child came up to us and just sat at our table. It made me feel concerned for the child because the mother was just sitting far away on a bench on her phone letting her kid run free. Like come on, are you really going to let your child out of your sight like that? What if her child went up to some pedophile!
I am iffy on this answer from her. One, you're not suppose to humiliate children in front of their peer's in that case it does lead to bullying. Two, The reason why children have bad attitudes because they feel pain and all these children are dealing with puberty,hormones,sexuality,and being bully. Three,No there attitudes its not base on video games and no its not bad parenting either. Four,Do you know why parents enable their children? Maybe their parents didn't have things like us back then compare to the technology we have today. Plus, parents they care for their children twenty four seven. Usually children have a hard time talking about their issues to someone else because they worry; and sometimes they don't want their parents know about their issues. Five, Most children like to draw in books because they are bored of the curriculum in school. Im sorry if its inappropriate drawings though. Six, Teacher's can be bullies too. And last but not least, You're there to Teach children this subject or that subject not humiliating them in front of their peers. I have dealt with my fifth grade teacher who was a bully to me. She didn't like the fact I did a short cut in math for a answer,she didn't like how I say big words in class,she didn't like how tall I was,she didn't like how skinny I was,she told most the classmates to derailed me as a friend in the class,she said I played my parents,she said forged signatures,she even yelled in my face and made me cried,and she dragged me out of the classroom by the collar of tshirt and left a little bruise on my neck. So, as im trying to say, Teacher's don't be bullies,don't humiliate children in front of their peers,&you're their to help children with their subjects in school.
IMO parents these days try way too hard to “be” a parent without actually parenting. Parenting does not mean you side with your kid at all times, you’re supposed to teach them important life skills and character qualities. Just look at how many things moms bring in their designer diaper bags these days - it’s like their packing for every scenario imaginable plus more. And parents aren’t serious enough when disciplining. Saying “we don’t take what’s not ours...” in a sweet voice won’t do squat. And so many parents today have become just as petty and rude themselves. Just look at how adults comment online, everyone wants to have the last word! It’s frightening.
Maybe the mom went off on her for calling her during class, where everyone could hear. I would be furious about that since in middle school that could cause my kid to be bullied. Aside from that maybe the parent thought it was a private matter & there was a better way to handle it or maybe she was just busy doing her job. I send my kids to school to learn & expect that during class time instruction is being given. Either way there are two sides. As a parent who is trying to be involved but can't get emails or phone calls or a meeting from my son's teachers I know very well that all teachers don't want the best for their students as they insinuate.
I do understand both sides. The truth is there are bad students and there are bad teachers and there are bad parents. But don't call the kids mom during class. I mean seriously if she's a teacher expecting respect she should have showed some to the parent. As I'm sure the parent didn't appreciate another adult trying to get on to her in front of other students.
The kid embarrassed himself by acting a fool from the get go. A phone call hardly mattered from there. Act like an ass, get treated like one. Shame on that mom.
That mentality is why children think they can misbehave to begin with. Consequences need to come quickly after the disrespect to really cram it into these kids heads that if you act like a fool expect a punishment and embarrassment.
Alondra Hernandez she wasn't being disrespectful to the mom the mom was being disrespectful to her. Which goes to explain why her child acts the way that they did. If your child is so bad that I have to interrupt my class. To call you about disciplining and you disrespect me then your kids getting kicked out my class you can transfer his ass somewhere else
I'm in Highschool and my math class is so disrespectful that sometimes I can't handle being in there and HAVE NO CHOICE but to leave before having a breakdown. My teachers haven't done anything about it. It's such a shame that it seems that I'm the only one who has some respect for the teacher.
My mom was friends with my teacher so disrespecting would have never worked and parents that raise their children to think that it's okay to disrespect their teachers needs it to rethink what they're teaching their children
I see it all the time at my work (I operate a children's ride) the kid cries for a ride, they give in, they cry again when they have to get off so they buy them another ride and, shocker, the kid cries again! I want to tell them rewarding a child for that kind of behavior can be damaging in the long run but I don't want to lose my job so I just bite my tongue and run the ride again.
My brother is the same age as the kid that caused her to do this and if my dad ever got a call from the school even over something minor he would be all over us because teachers deserve respect and don’t get it and the parents need to teach there kids manners so that the teachers can teach them school subjects which is there job
So true! It's a parents job to prepare their kids for life and being able to take care of them self. I can't imagine my child disrespecting a teacher. if I have a problem with a teacher that conversation will happen between me and the teacher with out my child being present, an adult conversation!
I am a parent who work with teachers and always told my son to be respectful and follow rules. He has always been a good student and I’ve always got compliments for his kindness. So when I started having problems with a teacher’s treatment of my child it got bad. It became a retaliation against me for expressing my discontent which reflected on how my son was going to get treated. It ended when I decided to have a meeting with the entire school staff and brought witnesses and basically gave instructions on how my son will be treated from that point on. I asked what were the issues and no one had nothing to say except nice things. But I did bring all the negative letters and emails as proof and recordings. Needless to say the situation was put to rest. I know many teachers are awesome but there is always one that is mean 😔
Everyone gets angry at millennials and generation Y and Z but seem to forget who raised them
Arabella Ishere The state?
All these dumbasses complaining about them forgetting they were just as bad and teachers whine more than the ones the complain abs out
Its fucking irrelevant
Yes we were weren't guided properly, but we're adults. Stop bling others and recognize your mistakes.
Generation Y = Millenials. Gen X and millenials are not in grade school anymore. Gen z is, but yes, I agree with your post. Gen X are usually the parents of older Gen Z.
Arabella Ishere I don't have any kids, therefore I am not responsible.
Even though I'm not a parent, I'm not offended by what she said because it's the TRUTH!
After 27 + years of teaching in several grade levels, I urge you to walk a mile in a teacher's shoes before you make a comment! In fact, put yourself in a classroom as a substitute teacher for a week! I guarantee you will walk away shaking your head in disbelief. Happily retired!!!
After 36 year I have also seen many negative things. I have also met and worked with wonderful parents and students who are studying medicine who come and visit me, write to me and thank me for having a good year with meParents run into me and thank me. One student is making artificial hearts. I focus on the positive. I do totally understand this teacher, may God bless her!
I have wanted to be a teacher since I was in 2nd grade and it's still in the back of my mind but the way I see it's going to be with these bad ass kids and even bad parents I refuse to get paid shitty plus have to deal with all this bullshit after working hard to get a degree. Fuck that, I'll wait til shit settles down or til being an educator doesn't require a degree anymore due to lack of teachers lmfao. Hopefully shit gets better but it doesn't look like it.
Alicia Ornelas
As a parent whose child attended the same school district this teacher Julie Marburger teaches at, I can tell you the problems are not only with the parents and students. If you Google Bastrop ISD you can read about problems dating back years from teachers ,to administration, to parents, to the students. My husband and I taught my daughter young that she had a big brain and she was going to college and we weren't paying for it, because there are to many scholarships she can earn. So, when she started kindergarten we made a contract with her stating our expectations: 1) We don't accept any grade lower than an A, 2) When you go to school your teacher is your boss and your grades are your pay 3)You do not talk in class unless the teacher calls on you 4) If you don't agree with something your teacher says or does you tell your parents and we will decide how to handle it 5) If you get into trouble at school you will get into trouble at home. These are the consequences: 1) No Tv show 2) No company 3) No sports 4) Spanking. I signed it, her daddy signed it and she had to sign it. This was our yearly routine. From kindergarten to 6th grade her dad and I were very involved with school, we were constantly asked to bring snacks because mom liked to go through the cookbook and made the cool snacks, we took turns sitting in her classes as room monitors. The teachers loved it because the kids acted better with a parent in the classroom. Things changed and problems began when my daughter got to 7th grade, then we learned we were not wanted there, we were asked by her teachers why are you here? You need to let her grow up and so on. So, the parents that were involved stop coming to the schools. We did not. The majority of my daughter's teachers were great. Exceptional really. They were appreciative we cared enough to be involved. But, we had a few that were not, those are the ones we had issues with. 7th grade Pre-AP I Texas history teacher Texas history teacher was subjective with the students grades, mine included. 8th grade the school principal told my daughter she looked look a gang member because she wore a black and white banana as a headband to match her black and white t-shirt. My honor roll kid, who never got into trouble at school and never talked, looked like a gang member. Being a very detailed parent, I knew the student handbook backwards and forward so I always set up conferences to try to solve situations.
What I learned is when you try to have a conference when there is a conflict no one hears each other. The teacher is thinking of ways to defend themselves and the parent is focused on defending their child. Nothing gets solved. Starting freshman year, Hubby and I decided to start having conferences with all of daughters teachers 3 weeks after school started. The teachers were always on edge and worried. Their first words were "V has all A's in my class". I tell them I know, the reason I called for a conference is because there isn't a problem, so you can hear me and I can hear you. I told them my goal is for my daughter to go to college and I wasn't paying for it. So, what can I do to help you help me make that happen? Of course, most of the teachers were relieved and had excellent advise on my daughter being successful in their classes and also advising me on her applying for scholarships even if we didn't think she would qualify for them. We had 2 teachers my daughter's Junior year that didn't take us seriously. The one AP English teacher kept giving daughter zeroes for assignments she turned in. It turned out she graded the papers and put them in a basket but did not input the grades. She would then deduct 20 points off the grade she gave in the fist place for it being late. I had another conference with her and that angered her so she kept giving my daughter zeroes. Now, mind you my daughter is ranked 10th out of 472 students and this woman is messing with my daughter's future. In the student handbook it says you cannot request a teacher change you could request a level down though. I refused to request a level down because my daughter could and did do the work this was a teacher issue. So, second semester I told my daughter to schedule an appt. With her school counselor and ask for a different AP English teacher. I told her if the counselor said no schedule an appt for me to see her. She was switched into a different AP English class. Also, during her Junior year she had a Pre-AP physics teacher who was a former elementary teacher trying to teach physics and didn't do it well, so the smart kids got together and taught themselves. Then they had to do a project and write a paper. This was a major grade. Daughter turned hers in early. We get her report card and she has a 70. She talked to her physics teacher and he told her she didn't turn in the written part so she made a 50 on her project. She told him she turned it in early and showed him on her USB the essay and it was dated to show when it was last edited. It turned out half the class got a 50 on their project. They all turned their papers in early. The teacher laid the folder with their essays down, he says someone must have stolen it. Another ding on my daughters GPA. Thankfully, most of the teachers she had from freshman year she had her Senior year so she had a great senior year.
Like I said, she had majority of great teachers. She had a handful of bad apple teachers. She was fortunate enough to have parents that supported and advocated for her. She graduated 11th out of 472 in her class. She was awarded a lot of money in scholarships. She attended and graduated from an Ivy League University. V sent each and every teacher from kinder to senior year who made a positive impact in her college success a graduation invitation and a picture with a personal letter thanking them for their role in preparing her for college and just overall caring about her succeeding. Even though I told her I was not paying for college, I have a student loan of under $10,000 that I am paying. Watch this face🙄🤗😂. It only takes one teacher to have a major impact on a student, but it only takes one teacher to ruin a student, especially if that student does not have support at home.
It disappoints me that Mrs. Marburger decided to post her frustrations on social media because there may be that one student that she may have reached that was basically thrown out with the bath water. If a teacher gets that frustrated maybe it is best to get out of it. I would advise teachers to watch Ted Talks Rita Pierson's "Every kid needs a champion". She was a former educator in Texas with wonderful advise to other teachers.
SpiritualLight 4 u a joke
SpiritualLight 4 You're dumb for being a teacher 27+ years.
A huge Thank you to this teacher!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We need more outspoken teachers like her!!!! It is the only way our children will grow up to be responsible adults!!!!! Remember that these kids will grow up and may work for you and live next door to you!!!!
I can agree on the part where you're mentioning about being responsible, but there is a point that it has to depend on the nature of the circumstance. There are circumstances where it can have information that is either right or wrong.
I would have gotten spanked in front of the whole class by my parents if I acted like that.
jtomally9681 I admittedly deserved that as a kid thanks to how highly defensive people have been about spanking recently!
Cassie Reno I’m sure the parents would have to hope in vain that the kids themselves wouldn’t interpret those lectures they’d have to deal with as too many boring, incomprehensible words coming out of the parents’ mouths, which could easily be explained by that “wah wah wah” sound in the Peanuts cartoons!
Cassie Reno
Kids act better with you then their own parents sometimes?
Thats funny because when I tell my 11 year old daughter to do something..she gives me a hard time and says "I didn't do it", I tell her again to just do it..and she comes up with another excuse why not to do it... then I have to get in a serious tone of voice and tell her to do it or she'll have something taken away....
Finally she goes to do it..but screaming and yelling throughout my house like she's having a baby.
BUT...if her friend is over at our house and I tell my daughter to do something...she does it immediately, even speaking in a gentle voice saying "ok Dad!".
Strange..🤔
Cassie Reno
Well Im sorry if I have a manly voice and not the voice of the guy from "Blue Clues" or even "Mr Rodgers(neighborhood)".
Always...everytime initially...when I see something that my daughter did, I just tell her WITHOUT confrontation in a normal voice.
My voice is my voice, its the same way I speak to adults or anyone(except a really cute puppy). But anyway....after I let her know(in my normal voice) what she did or didnt do...she ignores me or either says.."I didn't do it".
Should I just let that slide or continuious speak repeatedly in my normal voice about what she did or didn't do like a malfunctioning robot?
If I know her...she wouldn't take what I say seriously..she would think I'm just playing with her or acting....
Therefore she wouldn't do anything about her wrong and ignore me, going back to doing what she's doing.
I believe the parent needs to be respected AND listened to first.
Why?
Because the parent is the first and only source of all that they have(until they are 18).
Everything they own...
Every diaper change...
Every bite of food...
Every house lived in....
Every electronic played...
Every piece of clothing down to the socks...
Comes from a parent.
And thing is...the parents works hard to make sure the child(ren) enjoy life with those things...and they work hours and hours for nearly two decades(sometimes more) just to make sure the child(ren) has everything they need to enjoy life.
And thing is...Children will never ever understand the stress of work and home COMBINED...until one of two things happen:
- When you bring them to your job(which is rare because your boss might not allow that due to the work environment), to show them what you have to do everyday, so they can appreciate how much you do for them and what you go through.
OR
- Have a mental breakdown in front of the children, so they can clearly see how much stress and depression you're going through trying to stabilize work and home.
If neither of those two happen...then they will never understand what you go through raising them and working.
All they will understand are the things they have...which are an PS4 or Roblox, or UA-cam videos, or My Little Pony.
Now...me.. personally....I plan on bringing my daughter with me to work next month(when their school is out). I'm a delivery truck driver and drive on average about 150 miles a day...but not before driving TO WORK 70 miles each way(I live in Utah).
And its not to punish her....Its so she can know what I do for her each day when I go to work, and how far I have to drive..FOR HER.
I tell my daughter I work delivering to cow farms(which I do), she never grasp what I do when I just tell her...even in detail. So I plan to show her.
She doesn't respect me because she asks for ALOT of things in which she knows are not good for her, and I don't give it to her...she even ask for things that she can easily do on her own(a simple task).
Most the time I guide her to do those things, and she just says..."I cant do iiiiit!!" without even trying.
She's just lazy.. don't feel like doing stuff.
She didn't get that(laziness)from me, I workout, go on runs and do all the manly stuff(moving heavy objects, fixing both family cars, going food shopping for family).
So.......please..
Don't go around blaming parents that are trying their very best, and trying to get the right chemistry and the right balance in their household.
Parents would NEVER EVER ask or wish for a misbehaved child...
Parents are humans too..and make mistakes..and we learn from our mistakes, sometimes its takes an a week..some times a decade...some times never...but we learn from our mistakes and try our very best to make sure those mistakes don't happen again.
BUT..its very difficult with so much emotions tied into raising a child...with how they are acting, and how you need for them to act.
jtomally9681 yeah beat all these kids asses with a belt
When we were young if you did something stupid in school the first thing out of your mouth was "please don't tell my Mom". Punishment would be much worse at home. As it should be. I work with many young people and they are not taught any respect or discipline anymore. They think the whole world needs to do what they want. Raising your kid as if they are the ones in charge and can do no wrong is why there are school shooters now. If you actually love your child then you would raise them to be prepared for the real world. It is full of disappointments and someone is always going to tell you what to do. Raising kids otherwise is making their life so much harder for them.
Ann Green not respect or displin ..I believe it call being a rebel cause being a rebel is so cool . At least that social media and cartoon taught them being a rebel with no cause is cool
Ann Green Are you respectful to them? Just sayin.
Of course, because that is how we were raised. But that does not mean I put up with their disrespect when they start to dole it out. We were raised to never talk to our elders in any kind of disrespectful way, even if we did not agree with them. People old enough to be your parents or grandparents are not your peers, you do not tell them to STFU ever!
Ann Green The older people dont like truth when it come from a younger person. You view an opposing viewpoint as disrespect. That is how most older people are. Your age doesnt buy respect, when you are disrespectful.
This is why I'm glad my parents raised me right.....
Totally agree
I work as a nurse at a local hospital. There are three other RN's I work with that left their careers as teacher's to become nurses because of similar reasons to what this woman posted. Sad, they went through college twice and have two bachelor's degrees because of how bad it was being a teacher.
Justme nursing isn't much better! 5 year burn out rate for new grads.
I know, been doing it for four years.
Teaching is easier than nursing
DigimonVids girl bye!!! Both jobs are two of the hardest and under appreciated jobs in the country!
I ended up leaving BOTH nursing and Teaching (did both in my twenties and early thirties) for my current career in IT, and I don’t regret it. Yes, both are very under appreciated careers and people quit and leave all the time!
100% agree with this teacher. Parents and teachers must be a team not "whatever the teacher says is always wrong and i will always defend my child no matter what" the children need to know that their wrong behavior has consequences. They need to learn FIRST by their parents respect towards others and parents should stay away from using profanity in front of their kids because kids think that's ok. Children bring that behavior to school and influence kids that really are just trying to learn and pass to the next grade level.
I agree with parents and teachers being a team. However whatever the teacher says isn't always right. Some teachers act worse than students and use profanity in the classroom.
Jane Dough Profanity is always going to be there, just saying. The kids most likely already know a few swear words, if not most and/or all. We couldnt say "crap" when in grade school. But all the kids during break were saying all sorts of profanity. I know the classroom is different. I know it is a rule to be followed. But it seems idealistic to think the kids are so innocent.
Nan M+ The thing that pisses me off the most, is when the kid bullies another kid, and then when the parent of the victim approaches the bully's mom, they turn round and say: "Oh, are you sure? My kid would never do that! You must be mistaken! Watch- SAMANTHA, HONEY, DID YOU HIT LAURA YESTERDAY?!"
Samantha (blinks innocently): "No mommy, of course not...!"
(Sends evil grin towards Laura. Laura folds her arms and glowers.)
Samantha's mom (smiles): There, you see? My Samantha's an angel! I think dear Laura may be a little over-sensitive... Would you like to see some of Samantha's baby pics? I taught her to take a selfie by age two! What a little genius! Aww, isn't she cute...?"
Laura's mom (grits her teeth): "Really?" 😒
Laura: 😢😢😢 "But mommy! She did hit me yesterday, she's lying!"
Laura's mom (grabs Laura's hand and marches toward the school): "I know she did, sweetie! Come on! We're going to see your teacher about this..."
@@janedough6410 I did have a statement where I was mentioning that it has to depend on the nature of the situation. Situations can have right or wrong information.
Sadly when parents do not see how their children behave in the future the police will either put them in jail or kill them.
Maria Casas well some police are on power trips or too afraid bc they are so new. so...
lord knows if i found out my child was being disrespectful she would soon find herself in a world of trouble. I hold no punches when it comes to having respect for people and things around you. some parents these days just think that child services will come after them if they so much as take away their child's toys or tell them no. >:(
I actually don't believe in spanking I believe in talking but you can parent the way you want to don't let anyone tell you different
She is telling the trurh. These parents are not helping their children by coddling them. Parents have to prepare their children for the real world. They are setting their children up for failure. This a result of parenting skills, which a lot of parents do not have any and do not take the time to discipline their children and teach them right from wrong and teach them respect for their elders. Bit soon as they go out here and get in trou le with stealing, fighting, guns and the law gets involved, the first thing parents want to say, they are good children.Parents get mad when someone calls them out about their children's bad behavior. Children's behavior are a reflection of their parents. You are the one who chose to have children.
Absolutely you did the right thing! Im also an educator and my colleagues and i very much agree with you..
Agree with publicly humiliating a child in front of his peers?
I work in schools and this teacher is right on, keep on preaching!
Not, African Teachers! USA is using a no sense discipline in schools. Children should understand that the teacher is important member in their lives same as parents. Parents also should follow up on their kids behaviors in school.
Cetribea Burundibwiza that’s the problem.. teachers here aren’t allowed to and kids know that. And suspension is like a vacation to the kid. 😒
Paula Ault , students should be thought from home that number one rule in school is to Respect their teachers, two is to respect other students three is to make a full focus on their studies. Please parents, talk to your kids about the importance of respecting teachers. Imagine if all parents are doing homeschooling, are you telling me that some kids would still disrespect their parents during their homeschooling hours and parents would not do anything? Children should treat their teachers as we want them to treat us as parents. I am a parents, I am from Africa but now a USA citizen. I will never follow the USA gov rule when it comes to parenting.
Cetribea Burundibwiza I agree! That's how I was raised. It's just becoming less and less common... Depressing!
Then why can't they educate any African countries out of poverty?
Vapid Toast if you think that impoverished countries can just "educate" those conditions away, then you really ARE vapid...
Honestly, I side with the teacher on this. When I was a kid and would get trouble I would like try to blame the teacher and hope my parents would side with me but they didn't, they sided with the teacher 100% of the time. I hated it at the time but now as an adult I see where they were coming from and literally thank them for telling me to respect the teacher and for them always taking the teacher's side and giving punishment where it was due. At the time the kid will hate it and you for it but in the long run will thank you for not taking their side when a teacher diciplines the student
tromboner2012 depends. there are abusive teachers. i had been abused by 3 teachers. one hit my hand with a wooden ruler when I was 5 for losing my place during reading. I only lost my place because I was so afraid to not lose my place after she yelled at us about how sick she was of us losing our places. I was keeping up until she called my name. then she hit my hand so very hard with that wooden ruler. now mind you that was a yard stick. anyway another teachet constantly yelled at me and called me stupid...i was brought to a pshyiatrist who deemed I had no learning disability but that I was being emotionally abused by my teacher. that was 4th grade... i had a number of abusive teachers actually. so what you said is not always true.
Tromboner - Some students don't manipulate situations and actually tell the truth. The idea of automatically siding with teachers put parents in a quandary especially when some educators have psychological issues.
Jane Dough bitch shut up
meli sol oh wow you received corporal punishment big whoop kids in texas get that all the time. I got that. Made me a more respective person. Stop crying
^^ Clearly you still have issues.
People really don’t understand that this is THE issue in education and our future. This also effects the other well-behaved kids because their education is being sacrificed by these students. It’s a joke how these parents aren’t more on top of this and don’t have direct intervention as soon as this crap happens.
Be a damn parent, it’s not that hard. Don’t tolerate this stuff, or else they’ll end up in prison
What should we do to the kids?
I am 64 yrs old,& my training came from MOM,&DAD& MY 1st grd teacher. We had respect for authority
Some still do, but most do not because people in authority don't respect them. I've witnessed too much with teachers. The respect must be earned.
Ive been bullied by every teacher i ever known because of my mental illness. The disrespect and verbal abuse i received was enough for me to not trust anyone in the education department
JAZZ ELLIOTT THANK YOU. This is just one of the reasons I cannot stand ‘teachers’.
Parents are so stupid now. Such a shame. They have no time for there kids. Selfish parents!!!!!! Kids are a reflection of the parents
Ugh. We are a doomed future. So glad my kids are great and responsible citizens.
It takes your full attention raising kids. These moms are on utube....Playing games...texting and gossiping. There is no excuse for kids acting up in class. It the parents responsibility. Not the teachers.
Patty Morton
Speak for yourself.
Ashley Sebo I sure did. :-)
Patty Morton I can tell by your post here that you’re full of shit and your children probably dislike you. You Condescending and clueless.
Alex Avery your hilarious. You are soooo far from the truth. Im proud of our kids. Your sooo clueless your self
Alex Avery bring it on. Your immature comment shows your clueless on bringing up children and there need instead of pparents being selfish
Bless this woman for shining a light on what all teachers deal with! She is absolutely right about disrespectful students and parents who behave just as badly; they learn it at home, and that is not okay. Unfortunately, if these kids do not learn to be respectful and are not held responsible for their actions now, it will come back to bite them down the road.
I’m watching this as a teacher b/c I’m fed up and tired. Working 2 jobs just to make ends meet. Our job is to educate your child with knowledge. Parents job is to instill values and respect. Too many parents expect us to do it all and shoulder the blame for their children’s bad behavior.
COMPLETELY understand.... I taught 8th grade science and the attitudes of parents and children are nothing short of rude, disrespectful and entitled. Parents are doing a serious disservice to their children and their community by allowing their children to "get away with" a myriad of actions. If they are our future then they should be better prepared for the world that they will soon discover will not tolerate such behaviors and attitudes.
My mom has been a teacher for over twenty years, I can't tell you how many times she's come home in tears, not because of a student (she's a tough lady who can handle her classroom) but because of how a parent treated her and how administrators sided with the parents. Nobody wants to believe their child can do any wrong.
As someone who works with children i do understand that parents enable bad behaviors in their children on a regular basis.
I always worked in the classroom my daughter was in I’d just go help out her teachers it made everything a lot easier!
One of the many reasons I homeschool. Both my parents were public school teachers and encouraged me to homeschool. A student tried to poison my dad, he had his car keyed, and he had his phone stolen multiple times. It was disgusting to see his teenage students treat my dad that way. My mom was stuck in a classroom full of 35 kindergarteners multiple years; illegal and a fire safety code violation. How can anyone learn in that environment? Teachers are amazing, selfless people that truly want to encourage their students and change the world for the better; but they just have too much on their plates and the system they have to work within doesn't support them.
After 5 years of teaching, I'm walking away from the profession next month! Absolutely disgusting how disrespectful kids and their parents have become. Just today I had to hang up on a parent who was screaming and cursing at me because his daughter got a 0% for talking to other students multiple times during a test. What kind of example is that setting for his child?
This is why I quit. Teaching is a living hell and the administrators/politicians/parents are COMPLETELY to blame.
Children's behavior REQUIRES consequences. If a teacher can't give a SERIOUS consequence then kids can and will run the school.
We have an epidemic in this country and I hate to say it, BUT if you want to fix it then ... you're going to have to beat a few kids (edit: & parents) till they understand, they are NOT in control.
You did this to yourselves. You let your kids do anything and it resulted in making them spoiled monsters who think they're the center of the universe.
Parents, please remember that allowing children to face negative consequences for bad behavior is NOT child abuse. It's much better to allow the consequences when they are younger and not as severe, than to wait until they are older and the consequences are much more significant. This can start when a child is even under 2 years. And it's an important way of loving them.
Your wrong
@@Tast-1934. So what is your “right” counter argument that you have? You didn’t mention it. I’d like to know.
I can understand where she's coming from. I believe. parents need to work together and dont be so quick to feel offended when the teacher has to correct your child behavior
Now, here in 2024, nothing has changed. It probably got worse, to be honest.
She's absolutely right!
While I generally agree with this teacher, what kind of situation would warrant her calling a parent while the class hears? She probably would not have been embarrassed as much if whatever the parent said wasn’t heard by her class.
She’s still right about parents coddling their children.
I’m a student and I agree 10000%. I respect my teachers so much
Parents seem to think, these days, that their kids can do no wrong.... it's everyone else's fault. That attitude has directly lead to the majority of this country's problems.
As another viewpoint on the matter: when are parents supposed to teach their children or even be able to spend time with them? Many kids are sent home with so much utterly useless homework (often that was poorly explained using convoluted and ridiculous methods apparently mandated at a federal level) that children have to stay up half the night to even complete it all, and then they get up early and start the whole thing over again. Few ADULTS could function under that kind of stress, let alone children. To make matters worse, the parents often must work multiple jobs, cutting what family time they DO have. And entertainment often glorifies destructive behavior, foul language, and rudeness. What do we expect?
She should be calling the parent and publicly embarrassing the kid in front of the class! The people here that don't understand why are precisely why these kids' are the way they are. You care more about the politically correct BS that you're fed and little to do with making this child held accountable for his actions. Saying, No, no, Timmy, isn't going to work, especially with junk parents' raising these kids' who should have never had kids' to begin with.
Theresa Loicano agree. The only thing that worked for me with 8th graders was calling parents then and there. They weren't on speaker phone but I watched many a cocky, loud kid change to dear and trembling
Fear not dear
Raven Wood Thank you very much!
Yea but she'll be fired
Fired, sued and made to apologize as if she actaully did something wrong. Probably charged with child abuse and damaged reputation.
Disrespecting teachers is unconscionable! I owe soooo very much to the awesome teachers i had growing up! I have the "smarts" and the opportunities i have today thanks to them!
A...FRICKN....MEN....TEACHER!!! TELL THESE PARENTS TO GROW UP....AND SCHOOL THESE KIDS!!
I think that it’s so easy to drop kids off at the public school. Parents do this and then go about their business then complain when things go south. I’ve always felt that it was ultimately my responsibility to teach my children. But sending a child off to a school to either bully or be a menace is completely irresponsible and contributing to a dysfunctional society. Why did people like this have children? It’s not the public’s responsibility to raise the child that you chose to bring into this world. It’s yours! And if you don’t do it, society will. This can bring on heartbreak for both child and parent. I’m very thankful that I could and do homeschool. But people often look at public school as a baby sitting center free of charge. No way! What will happen if all the teachers quit and the public school shuts down? This could happen!
Wow it’s no surprise that kids are disrespectful but their parents enabling this behavior is shocking. Whenever I get in trouble at school my parents always take the teachers side. Their not helping their kids at all by always taking their side. Their teaching them that they can behave any way they want and not have any consequences and that is a destructive mentality to have.
The taking teachers things off of their desk is a huge issue I remember in third grade someone stole the reward candy off my teachers desk and she was so hurt so my friends and I ended up tracking down the person who did it because we loved our teacher so much, we need to do better for our teachers their great selfless people.
she is telling the truth I agree
Parents don't discipline their kids but get pissed off when teachers try to do it.
My son s teacher asked me why I never went to a student psrent interview.
I said I can't my job don't let me.
He said, why not you have rights.
The thing is I don't I don't have job security like he does.
This is what folks don't understand. Some parents have 2-3 jobs just to stay afloat or homebound. There should be alternative methods to accommodate "non-traditional" parents: email, Skype, FaceTime. However if an educators make themselves available, and parents don't follow during lunch or a commute; then I question whether they care about their child's education.
Jane Dough I do care . But someone needs to feed the kid
... buy the books .... pay the transport...
My son is already 16 and he works with me cleaning stores at night.
His teacher asks me why my Son looks so tired .... I anwser "he works "..... And he asks "Why?"
Do i really need to answer that..
Yes! She is absolutely right!! The role models for such bad behavior are most times the parents. I've had teacher friends that really loved teaching, but loathed the utter lack of respect and carelessness coming from some of their students. And genuine parent involvement? Good luck. Not much of that happens.
those bookshelves they showed are cheap and do not hold up long and with that many kids taking books and puting them back...those bookshelves seriously just do not hold up.
I feel horrible for this teacher. I've met some disrespectful teachers, and some really good ones. My children KNOW to behave in class and to trear their teachers with respect- or there will be consequences. Like washing a neighbors car or cleaning nanas house. I have a child with special needs and he acts better than most of the kids in his class. It's crazy!
I wouldn't say coddling, though. To be exact. And I mean no disrespect. Because as parents, we want to keep our kids safe. And at young ages ( Prek-4th), they're vulnerable and easily taken for granted( silenced) in the class room.
But instead, I would say enabled. Disrespectful behavior, verbal abuse, bad attitude and treatment of others, is the problem. I've met some parents who were literal heathens, and taught their kids the same.
Bless this Teacher. She deals with too much. As a parent, I'm sorry this is your day to day. 😞 A healthy teacher is a healthy environment. And successful kids.
MILITARY SCHOOLS!! If you have to sign up for selective service to go to college with any financial aid then maybe trouble students should have to go to military schools and if they want government to pay for their education
Some teachers are very bad.... 1 of mine tried getting me in trouble with my parents but it didn't work..... in the end she changed how she was teaching the class..
Yeah she doesn't mention how there are bad teachers
Parent's whether they like it or not are ultimately responsible for their child's behavior, NOT the teacher if that behavior is on-going. Parent's who think it's 100% and totally the teachers responsibility for an education are just plain ignorant. They need to instill an interest in their child to work at it. A child is learning responsibility and maturing. If kids see there are no consequences, and ADMINISTRATION AND PARENTS are putting it all on the teacher, those kids will carry that rotten behavior to a very serious outcome! Apparently the liberal approach to parenting and education for a little over the last 40 years needs to be looked into seriously. Is it truly working or not? Think hard about that
The root issue is that the West has very poor social policy and makes it very hard for parents to be present. Home have exploded over the last 30 years, parents are working two jobs or more just to survive. And Society has been salt litigious that schools have stop enforcing Behavior standards for students out of fear ratio and legal backlash. You don't see this happening in China or the Middle East. Over there it's the adults that run the classroom and school
Yes, we need more teachers. Not more melt downs. Respect
Teachers need to quit coddling bullies.
Daniel Thomas mhm
As a teacher, I was with you until you brought in an Editor of a mommy and me magazine to discuss problems within the classroom. How ignorant. What makes her an expert? And newsflash: all schools have parent/teacher conferences just most of the parents don't come. Why don't you start having segments where you keep the discussion going with people working directly in the field or retired from the field. Instead, you constantly bring in people who have no clue, but they write some blog or some crap so you've labeled them an expert.
Many but not all parents believe that whatever they are willing to put up with at home the rest of us should be willing to do the same in public spaces and schools. CRAP! Grow up and be the adult. You must important job is to discipline your child. Discipline: to teach!
Totally opposite in Asia in general. Teachers are like dictators. Parents always respect and listen to everything the teachers say. A call to the parents is like death sentence. And humiliating students in front of the class is never off limits. But maybe that's also why I have depression since childhood ...
Hahahahaha! I’m sorry, it’s just that I literally teach a class of children in China, all the kids of nouveau rich parents. Most of the parents have a “my child is perfect always and forever even though They don’t get have boundaries at home and have every single obstacle ploughed over for them, also, I paid money for the school so I own you and I get whatever I want, and I will be angry but then not even talk to you regarding anything relating to teaching and planning, and go over your head, and immediately to the office” kind of attitude.
Spanking is not good to a child, but when you talk, you think they’re gonna listen?
Never take this stuff to facebook. Talk to your parents and find ways to support and create understanding. I get that parents can be hard to deal with. Students too. For the record, I myself am a teacher. I fully see where she's coming from.
Awesome teacher for standing up for herself! The parent & student being disrespectful in school is one thing. Entering the real world, getting & keeping a job is a totally different reality that will never put up w/ disrespectful behavior. I feel sorry for kids who have parents damaging their lives with lack of discipline & proper guidance.
My brother is raising his kids the same way we were raised. You follow the rules you get freedom, break them and there will be hell to pay.
There is really only a few rules of parenting that every parent needs to stick to as far as dicipline.
#1 bed time is non-negotiable
#2 if you say it mean it. Do not threaten a punishment you are not willing to uphold. Actually follow through.
Example time. As a child I took a tantrum to end all tantrums in a store. My mother threatened to never take me out again if I continued. I did, so she didn't take me out shopping for a year. They would go every two weeks and every time she would tell me I was not going because I didn't know how to behave. I heard that 26 times before she finally relented. I never gave her a problem again.
Did you try fighting your mom about it
@@Tast-1934. I did. That's what extended the punishment to a year. She never goes back on her word.
@@alsinakiria and you don't hate your mom for that.
@@Tast-1934. no, quite the opposite. I believe it was the correct decision. It's not like I suffered when she went shopping without me. My babysitter was my favorite person aside from my parents (my grandmother's cousin). Besides, I was 2 years old. The closest grocery stores is an hour away so we'd be out for 3 hours at a minimum. Honestly it was probably better for both of us that she didn't take me with her.
Parents worship their children. They won't face the truth about their children. They defend them right or wrong. It makes children grow up without character. This kind of parenting is not love. Not all parents do this, of course.
'when perversion becomes norm in society, the society will end with a generation of absolute assholes."
-Joseph Vooz
So sorry for her. I worked in a tough school in a Denver suburb, but the families were awesome
Marcia Ham nice troll lol
This is why you don’t become a teacher kids once teachers see what they REALLY have to do they instantly regret their life choices of becoming a teacher
Hmmm I see both sides, but why on Earth would you of called a students mother when the whole class could hear???
Probably humiliation and it backfired. Contact the parent after the class and off the speakerphone.
Walk a mile in the shoes of a classroom teacher!
Another person who no doubt would be rude to her. Sometimes the best time to deal with a situation is right away.
She might not have called the parent in front of the class…….She said when she was with the parent in person the parent admonished her when the class was present……so it is entirely possible that we are talking about two different encounters with this parent…….She said the parent was rude to me in person and on the phone…….. I think she is referring to when the parent came in to address the issue in person…….
I thought the kid called his mom while in class.
I disagree with that "being involved" thing teachers are NOT there to raise your children.
they're with them all day in grade school. kids need nurturing and to be raised lol.. so who does it??? it's a broken system.
Although I’m quite confident that this teacher is being honest, I have had way too many experience with disrespectful and lazy TEACHERS who are never held accountable. It boggles my mind that there are so many incompetent teachers out there when there are tons of promising individuals graduating from teaching school who aren’t able to secure positions due to high demand.
Deflecting much? Ineffective teachers are not the subject here. For once, people should be able to deal with what effective classroom teachers have been saying about unruly students for years. The. Nerve. Also, I guess you haven't heard or looked at any national statistics on the number of potential education majors --as of 2016, enrollment was at an all time low in teacher programs. It simply isn't true that there is a long line of young people lining up to become teachers, and with stories like these and other issues, it's no wonder.
Layla Melodie I respectfully disagree, Layla. I acknowledged that the teacher is in the right in this situation. However, I have found that in general, students are much too scared about calling out their teachers for behaving poorly or inappropriately. I am simply sharing my experience. Thanks for sharing your opinion; I really don’t mean to be aggressive or disrespectful in my comment. Also, I don’t live in the US, so things may be different there.
Now I don't have kids, so I can't really look at it from that particular angle. However, I do own a business and if an employee acts up, they would never be reprimanded in front of other employees. It's not professional to do that. The teacher should NEVER have called the kid's mother in front of the other students. I'm glad the teacher was treated with disrespect by that kid's mother. If I had a child and I found out his or her teacher was trying to embarrass them, I'd rip that teacher a new asshole. How dare she do that!
Simply Magical BYYYYYEEEEE you must have not gone to public school or did in a very white neighbourhood because HELLA kids in middle and high school had their parents called in front of the class. If your kid is literally damaging school property, making offensive comments to other students, and refusing to let other kids do their work let alone their own, and I have been to the administration plenty of times with no support, THEN IM GOING TO CALL YOU RIGHT THERE AND THEN AND LET YOU KNOW WHATS UP
For starters, though my parents wanted me in a private school, I chose to attend a public school. It was indeed in a predominately white neighborhood, with quite a lot of Mexicans mixed in. No African Americans, though. Secondly, those types of matters should be handled privately. When I was middle school 20+ years ago, if a student was acting up like that, they were immediately sent to the principal's office. The teacher would call the principal from the class room, tell him what was going on and the parents would be called from his office. They were NEVER ONCE called in front of the classroom, as that was considered inappropriate. Apparently things have changed over the years. My parents would've definitely chewed the teacher and principal out for handling it like the teacher did in this video. In fact my senior year of high school, there was a student who sexual harassed me numerous times ...and my parents threatened to sue the school if they didn't do anything. They weren't (and still aren't) the type of people you pissed off.
IMO the teacher's complaint is an administrative issue. These are 6th graders. What rules and consequences are set by the school for misbehaving students? If the teacher has repeated issues with a student, then her complaint (call) should be forwarded to a guidance counselor or the dean. Her gripe is with school administration for not having supportive services for overwhelmed teachers. IDK the student or the parent's account, but stopping a class to contact a working parent on speakerphone, posting and touring about job complaints is not the right move.... and unprofessional.
Parents need to show their children unlimited love but do not reward bad behaviour.If parents do not let their children know that there will be consequences if they behave like little brats they will continue this behaviour.
I agree
Jane Dough It's about the number of discipline referrals schools have to officially report to their districts. The less official referrals your school reports, the better image the school has. It reflects on the school, the principals and the district. So- teachers are sometimes forced to "eat" the excessive bad behavior so as not to raise the number of discipline referrals.
In theory, the teacher can go to administration for disciplinary issues. But in reality, the administration (principal, vice principal) are politicians: Their job is to keep the peace among all stakeholders, parents, students, teachers, caretaking staff, even the local community, law enforcement and the media. But there's a power differential at play here: They answer to the superintendent and the school board, not to teachers. Overbearing parents will often go over their heads and file complaints to their bosses based on the stories the child relays to them without properly consulting either the teacher in question or the principle. Oftentimes, the administration just finds it easier to placate the parent, even when evidence shows that the teacher was right. For this reason, teachers often don't feel supported by their administration and are encouraged to document EVERY behavioural problem that occurs (which is multiple times daily) in case they're taken to court... but even with ample evidence to protect you, your name will have been slandered and your reputation as an educator ruined. This is the culture of fear that today's teachers are facing.
The problem is that the parents are coddling their kids when they don't get their way. The parent goes to the Administration to complain. The parents bully the Administration and then the Administration then bullies the teacher. But it all comes down to the parents coddling their babies and whining to the administration about it. That is the Genesis, the parents.
That was the worst most ridiculous interview ever, where are you going to find these miracle parents who can do a good job raising a kid but just haven’t realized that there needed yet? Parents who don’t care won’t care. Parents who do care already doing a good job, we need discipline in the schools and you need better parents. Reducing the rate of single parenthood would be a good start in the long term but in the short term you’ve got a big problem that needs to be addressed drastically and decisively otherwise the entire society will descend into chaos
Discipline needs to be back to reality. Real consequences, not just words but actions. And administration must back up the teachers. School boards must back up school rules. A teacher should have parents sign a class rules policy. Make sure Administration knows you’re having that policy in your class and if that child violates that policy, the teacher will enforce those rules. Call parents, document those calls, and keep communication open. RESPECT is the key.
My mother was a single parent with a government job. She never coddled me. She wasn't horrible to me but she never coddled me. I was watching SBS, lateline and Q and A whilst other teenage girls were stuck on passions and home and away and trying to get boyfriends. I'm so grateful for my upbringing. I honestly don't know what I'd do without it.
So “Teacher’s” means one teacher ranting on Facebook because kids draw pictures? Cool.
Same in the UK! Teachers get dissed by parents, inspectors, the government!
I think part of the problem is - parents are expecting teachers, not just to teach their kids, but to raise them! The job of raising kids is the parents' but many are lazy (thankfully not all are). Parents need to wise up!
The government inspectors go into the classroom looking for negative things - a few inspectors are drop out teachers who couldn't teach! How demoralizing for the teachers!
The government itself says schools need to do this and that, they change things without having a clue what it's like! They set ridiculous targets!
Especially parents who are lawyers. They think they can just do anything they want, and their kid follows by example thinking they rule the school.
My only question is: what do you do when the teacher is wrong? It does happen. Disrespect is never ok but sometimes the child is innocent.
If parents are able to disciplined their children the way we were raised back in the days, I bet they'll teach others respect and know their consequences. Don't blame the children, don't blame the guns, and don't blame the law! I think it's the parents faults and disciplinary actions must be reinforced!
laws are important, take look at this: ua-cam.com/video/Rd78QRf-cB0/v-deo.html
What the government there is doing is coddling the homeless, illegals and the rich.
I mean encouraging rich to be greedy/selfish, encouraging homeless and illegals to be lazy and rely on the government.
Give the homeless money, they would spend it on drugs and alcohol or they would spend it badly
God bless this teacher!! When my boys misbehaved in school and I found out, they were punished and made to apologize to the teacher!!! They are wonderful, RESPECTFUL young men today!
The teacher called the parent over a pencil though, while the parent was busy at work. I know because I was one of the students.
Did they go no contact with you?
Also, the respect needs to go both ways I've had experienced a lot of mean teachers who completely disrespect the kids and embarrass them or scream at them and things like that so it definitely has to go both ways
She's one hundred percent correct
Dear parents, do not let the Internet raise your children!
The best advice I've ever given to teachers is to pick and choose the battles with students and parents not everything is worth fussing over. Your better off letting things go than wasteing your breath over something totally not important. trust and believe it actually helps.
Oh man It must be so frustrating for so many teachers I can't imagine, especially if the parents don't do much to help.
This may not be related to the video, but i was out having a picnic with two friends when this little child came up to us and just sat at our table. It made me feel concerned for the child because the mother was just sitting far away on a bench on her phone letting her kid run free. Like come on, are you really going to let your child out of your sight like that? What if her child went up to some pedophile!
I am iffy on this answer from her. One, you're not suppose to humiliate children in front of their peer's in that case it does lead to bullying. Two, The reason why children have bad attitudes because they feel pain and all these children are dealing with puberty,hormones,sexuality,and being bully. Three,No there attitudes its not base on video games and no its not bad parenting either. Four,Do you know why parents enable their children? Maybe their parents didn't have things like us back then compare to the technology we have today. Plus, parents they care for their children twenty four seven. Usually children have a hard time talking about their issues to someone else because they worry; and sometimes they don't want their parents know about their issues. Five, Most children like to draw in books because they are bored of the curriculum in school. Im sorry if its inappropriate drawings though. Six, Teacher's can be bullies too. And last but not least, You're there to Teach children this subject or that subject not humiliating them in front of their peers.
I have dealt with my fifth grade teacher who was a bully to me. She didn't like the fact I did a short cut in math for a answer,she didn't like how I say big words in class,she didn't like how tall I was,she didn't like how skinny I was,she told most the classmates to derailed me as a friend in the class,she said I played my parents,she said forged signatures,she even yelled in my face and made me cried,and she dragged me out of the classroom by the collar of tshirt and left a little bruise on my neck.
So, as im trying to say, Teacher's don't be bullies,don't humiliate children in front of their peers,&you're their to help children with their subjects in school.
Maybe she didn't like the fact that you never paid attention during English class?
Teacher's don't have to humiliate difficult and disruptive students. They are quite capable of doing that on their own.
She has a point...
IMO parents these days try way too hard to “be” a parent without actually parenting. Parenting does not mean you side with your kid at all times, you’re supposed to teach them important life skills and character qualities. Just look at how many things moms bring in their designer diaper bags these days - it’s like their packing for every scenario imaginable plus more. And parents aren’t serious enough when disciplining. Saying “we don’t take what’s not ours...” in a sweet voice won’t do squat. And so many parents today have become just as petty and rude themselves. Just look at how adults comment online, everyone wants to have the last word! It’s frightening.
Maybe the mom went off on her for calling her during class, where everyone could hear. I would be furious about that since in middle school that could cause my kid to be bullied. Aside from that maybe the parent thought it was a private matter & there was a better way to handle it or maybe she was just busy doing her job. I send my kids to school to learn & expect that during class time instruction is being given. Either way there are two sides. As a parent who is trying to be involved but can't get emails or phone calls or a meeting from my son's teachers I know very well that all teachers don't want the best for their students as they insinuate.
I do understand both sides. The truth is there are bad students and there are bad teachers and there are bad parents. But don't call the kids mom during class. I mean seriously if she's a teacher expecting respect she should have showed some to the parent. As I'm sure the parent didn't appreciate another adult trying to get on to her in front of other students.
The kid embarrassed himself by acting a fool from the get go. A phone call hardly mattered from there. Act like an ass, get treated like one. Shame on that mom.
That mentality is why children think they can misbehave to begin with. Consequences need to come quickly after the disrespect to really cram it into these kids heads that if you act like a fool expect a punishment and embarrassment.
Alondra Hernandez she wasn't being disrespectful to the mom the mom was being disrespectful to her. Which goes to explain why her child acts the way that they did. If your child is so bad that I have to interrupt my class. To call you about disciplining and you disrespect me then your kids getting kicked out my class you can transfer his ass somewhere else
Cris Reacts the kid called the mom in class.
she the type.of teacher to call a kids mom in the classroom in full view of the class how u expect kids to respect you when u do something like that
I'm in Highschool and my math class is so disrespectful that sometimes I can't handle being in there and HAVE NO CHOICE but to leave before having a breakdown. My teachers haven't done anything about it. It's such a shame that it seems that I'm the only one who has some respect for the teacher.
she seams like one of the good ones who actually care about peoples kids, the type we dont want to lose.
If she doesn't like it there are always other jobs.
I’m with this teacher 110%
My mom was friends with my teacher so disrespecting would have never worked and parents that raise their children to think that it's okay to disrespect their teachers needs it to rethink what they're teaching their children
I see it all the time at my work (I operate a children's ride) the kid cries for a ride, they give in, they cry again when they have to get off so they buy them another ride and, shocker, the kid cries again! I want to tell them rewarding a child for that kind of behavior can be damaging in the long run but I don't want to lose my job so I just bite my tongue and run the ride again.
My brother is the same age as the kid that caused her to do this and if my dad ever got a call from the school even over something minor he would be all over us because teachers deserve respect and don’t get it and the parents need to teach there kids manners so that the teachers can teach them school subjects which is there job
So true! It's a parents job to prepare their kids for life and being able to take care of them self. I can't imagine my child disrespecting a teacher. if I have a problem with a teacher that conversation will happen between me and the teacher with out my child being present, an adult conversation!
I am a parent who work with teachers and always told my son to be respectful and follow rules. He has always been a good student and I’ve always got compliments for his kindness. So when I started having problems with a teacher’s treatment of my child it got bad. It became a retaliation against me for expressing my discontent which reflected on how my son was going to get treated. It ended when I decided to have a meeting with the entire school staff and brought witnesses and basically gave instructions on how my son will be treated from that point on. I asked what were the issues and no one had nothing to say except nice things. But I did bring all the negative letters and emails as proof and recordings. Needless to say the situation was put to rest. I know many teachers are awesome but there is always one that is mean 😔
Parents helping their children become helpless. Works out great for the child....they never learn to GROW UP!