Agree. I'll take that opinion even one step further, to say that venturing out often leads you to need to act and behave according to someone else's value system.
I've always been a loner and I love it I stopped worrying about what other people think about me, because they don't think about me, they think about what people think of them.
You can't seriously say you don't get lonely from time to time. That would make you not human. Even small animals get lonely sometimes. Maybe you're just quoting "Heat" (one of my favorites, I love that scene in the diner), but I think you may be mistaken.
@@ilovebutterstuff ..u just dont get it... u can be alone and not be alone... and u can be in a crowded room and be alone.. ...i often find myself alone in crowded places...
My father, who is 80, has said that for his observations, many people tend to grow more introverted over time. I have always preferred solitude, yet even more as time has passed.
Zactly! Some of my best vacations were spent going solo. After my low-rent narcissist girlfriend left me for a rich guy-who ended up making her miserable- I celebrated with a week-long car trip. T'was a peak experience!
@@henrykujawa4427 Yup- I'm proud to say that I recently exhausted a narc. Interesting guy, started out thinking he could make a good friend, but that's how they hook ya. My ignoring his commands and answering with "whatever" forced him to move on. Passive/aggressive pretty much always worked for me. His loss, I figure.
I can go either way: I grew up in the country, with few neighbors and fewer kids my own age, so being alone is normal for me. I learned to be a reader, and a thinker. Sadly it also makes me uncomfortable in large groups (that are not quite large enough for anonymity), since I seem to have few if any 'social' skills. Sadly. I do well one on one, however.
But have you ever gone to the dark side of this? I have. I... Hate... This... Place. This prison. This zoo, whatever you want to call it. I... Must... Get... Out. Everybody wants something. They're all fighting like monsters to get it... It's not only horrifying, it's ridiculous. Ever see Vanilla Sky? TECH SUPPORT!!! 🤣🤣🤣
I feel you are very wrong! You better start watching time, ever notice your nightwear inside out? ABDUCTIONS FRIEND. Unless you pray to GOD night and day you will be a targeted individual by 👽🛸. As they have a agender these demonics. Please pray and have a relationship with GOD/ JESUS CHRIST you are a sitting duck. This podcast is miss leading.
@@ilovebutterstuff I have and see it, hell on earth mate. It’s best to be a Christian and have your shield up by JESUS CHRIST. Abductions are still going on and the disembodied black spirit demons work with these creatures the Reptilians, Greys, insectoids and Wolfens 🛸👽🦎🐍👿. Witchcraft is worse than ever, those poor souls will be suffering too. LOVE THE CREATOR GOD, that’s what really matter for your soul.💝💐🙏
Awesome! Thanks for spreading the news! I'm so sick of being told I'm shy, maladapted, antisocial, and negative, withdrawn, and sad. I'm quite engaging when I'm with people who actually talk with you instead of just running off at the mouth. And, yes, I can easily entertain myself for days and, no, I don't get lonely.
People don't understand how I can stay home alone, I don't want the show anymore . I try not to do what everyone is doing. They tell me I think to much, I live in my mind because the world makes little sense to me. The crowds and traffic remind me how we waste our lives running to the same place.
Especially when people take ages to tell you one thing or start talking about someone you don't even know .... when, in both instances, they could convey the info in a couple of sentences, but somehow makenit drag on for minutes. Drives me crazy!
This is me whenever I have to go to a dinner with my parents and a friend or group of friends of theirs. They spend hours talking and I don’t even do anything! It is so tiring and annoying just sitting there and not even getting to interact. And yeah I like time to myself too but I also like to talk with friends
right and i dont like being around other people because i been traumatized and bullied and laughed at all my life by other people all my life. it affected me.
Never had a lable before someone else thought; strange behavior,, for someone who dont look like me, talk like me, act like me and want too be the center of all existence just like me.
Yup married twice, and engaged for awhile... Now retired and live alone, it's the happiest and most secure I have ever felt. Nope never been shy, actually outgoing, but I had to work at it. Now I wrap my aloneness around me like a big comfy blanket. Never feel lonely
Exactly, when I was a teenage I watched a large group of girls sitting together. The Queen of the group held court which basically meant she talked to her inner circle while the rest of them sat on the outside and looked bored . They were all dressed the same but that didn’t mean they all belonged . I decided then and there that I would rather be “ Billy no mates “ doing what I want to do rather than be a “ hanger on “ just so I can say I have friends and belonged to a group that I don’t really belong in and I am just making up the numbers so that the Queen can rule . I am 60 years old now and very content , bit of a free spirt and prefer a good book , music or painting to peoples BS especially as the in thing at the moment seems to be “ building a brand “ or “ playing victim for money “ . Get a life
The worst thing I ever did was to get married in my 40s - a long distance sight unseen relationship destroyed my life. The only upside was that I did manage to claw back some of what I lost by being able to retreat to my man-cave surrounded by the things that mean the most to me. Unfortunately it also means that I cannot relax in the living room that I entirely paid for.
I have been an introvert my whole life and proud of it!! Look like every time I broke that role and tried to hang out with folks who were not like me or go to family events or job celebrations I always paid a price for it. If I sat in a corner quietly they whisper, she's too quiet, stuck up, anti-social and all the other names some of you guys have dealt with too. I really especially hate it when it comes to women the most, who think just because you're a woman you have to go shopping with them, tell them all of your business, talk about and gossip about others and when I reject that or them they get all mad and angry because I choose not to be a part of their toxic narcissistic circle!! I go shopping by myself, movies by myself, dinner by myself and have had Thanksgiving and Christmas by myself, but then again I'm never alone because I have my God with me all the time. I love meditating, reflecting on and talking to Him!! I love going on walks in a park with Him where I find true peace and the meaning of life!! I don't have to worry about Him running back telling anything I've said or keeping up a bunch of gossip and drama!! I tell people all the time, you can't put a price on peace!! I love being alone because that is where I truly find that eternal peace!! The Bible says it's a kind of peace that surpasses all understanding!! Glad to see I'm not alone in my thinking!!
Stuck up , yes . If you don't know someone how do get to know them ? Well I watch and see first . Maybe I'm wrong . Hey most only care about themselves anyway ! If I don't need anything , wait and later we can be closer after we get closer .
Spot on!! All that you’ve stated I’m currently going thru, but I’m grateful for my solace it has definitely helped me strengthen my relationship with the creator, now I don’t ever want to be separated from him or Mother Earth they’ve both been my comforters in my time of solitude after a harsh separation…I’ve learned to become my own therapist/healer which in turn made me want to branch out & help others do the same well those who are willing that is…🤷🏾♀️ Gratitude for this, keep going you’re doing well! Namaste✨
@@PhoenixRyzin7 Spot on you too Psychology state we need to meet 7 people a day to stay healthy I sometimes don’t Still I love my peace and find I’m a better person when I do meet others Learn inwardly to shine outward
Hey. I am very intrested learning about God. Do you mind telling me some over another plattform perhaps? I am also an introvert so I understand you fully. I have been so let down by everybody but my family that loves me scincerely but I never had the blessing to meet a true genuine friend that shares the same thought system that I do. Even though I enjoy my company and don't feel alone I still want to share alot with another humanbeing my age or above, does not really matter whom, because I really love thinking and talking deeply about intresting topics and thought system that does not give space in this world I feel. It's like I from time to time loose hope and find life really meaningless to the point I have a hard time keeping up with the fact that people are this way. It would make me truly happy if I got to believe in God I think... All love /S
I love being alone. It’s less complicated. You don’t have to try to think up a conversation. Most of all : you stay out of gossip. I hate gossip and stay away from it.
Being alone is much, much better than being with just anyone! I was able to do what I wanted, when I wanted, and with whom I wanted ... life doesn't get any better than that!!!
For me, being introverted and on my own means I don't have to rely on other people for anything, except in exceptional circumstances. I have a few close lifelong friends, but don't usually even ask them for help unless I have no other options, and I'm often radio silent for days because I'm not really into small talk. I can understand why we're misunderstood, but we cannot change who we are, and neither would I want to.
Well said. I am always amazed at the lengths some people go to to avoid being with themselves. Life is so much more fun when you get to explore all the things you find interesting.
@@SqueakyBarbarianI once had to work with someone who couldn’t stand her own company. If she was alone, even for a few minutes, she had to go out to find someone to interact with. I found her to be a really sad, insecure person!
This is ME!! I have those old school friends who are literally mad at me because I don't want to talk to them on the phone. I'm happy to text often (keeps it short & less questioning with frivolous talk). And I've explained I'm just an Introvert!! I don't know if they don't understand it, or believe it or what the problem is but they just totally ignore it... They've pushed me to the point of anger, hence not speaking to them at all. I'm ok with that, because it's just never enough... If I call then they want to set up WEEKLY calls, if I set up calls then it's getting together in person, visiting from out of state on a moments notice & bringing others with them, etc. I'm happier not feeling obligated and disappointing people who simply don't understand me. It's nice to be in a space where I don't have to explain myself 😌
Yes. When I have a problem I like to find the answer to it and solve it myself. Being alone I have the time to hone in on the causes of the problem and find an easy solution. As a result I have been able to develop new skills both practically and intellectually. But when someone tells me about their problems and I make simple suggestions they actually seem to be intimidated by my simple solutions I am not sure why. Perhaps solutions which seem simple to me are not so simple to them.
You summed it up well. I'm pretty okay with you being our rep. I know it's a bit of pressure, but you can just not. You can always just NT. We get it.Holy shit. We get it, my guy.
I have lost countless friends and even family members who think I don’t like, love, or appreciate them because I want to be alone most of the time. And I tried to tell them it’s nothing personal I just prefer to be by myself and most people just don’t understand. I’m 39 years old and I’ve lived by myself since I was 25. I must say this video is spot on. I felt like the guy was describing me personally lol.
I love and appreciate your comment. My son that lives across the country is 38 yrs. old. At the age of 25 after his divorce he became a Marine. Since he got out, he truly lived alone for the first time as he had been married at a young age and divorced, no kids. All through the years I've had countless conversations with him about us being introverts and how to deal with people that are not. We truly stand back and feel bad for those people that crave to be around others constantly and can't stand to be alone for 5 minutes. We talk about all the whys and how come they are as they are. Those of us that are truly introverts find that we deal with ourselves more completely than others that can't and won't. Above all, we don't apologize for being who we are simply because there's no need. However, we allow people to be who they are but choose and refuse to be around those that are truly messed up and time wasters for us, those that want to whine, complain and suck up our peace of mind and well-being. We love being who we are and don't need approval from anyone and gave up explaining to people long ago.
@@Shaderunner7153 I have spent many holidays alone by choice and was very content. People would think that was so so sad and I must have been lonely but quite the contrary as I had a day all to myself, I didn't have to perform for anyone as I could just be myself. Some of the most peaceful holidays I've ever spent.
@marygoround7153 Spent 24 Christmas alone because of my toxic cruel 2 brothers & their wives who've I've watched them disrespect my mother & sister, true saintly people who are long gone sadly because of decade's of this treatment. Both died of broken hearts fed up with these low life losers using & stealing from them no matter how I tried to get law enforcement & social services involved defrauding them. Now I see in people of dubious character target the vulnerable elderly & now elder financial fraud number one white collar crime destroying all they've worked for so stay to myself as I've been targeted myself as a woman with no one left I am calling government reps out to do something about agencies who are supposed tp protect all from a breed of individuals getting away with criminal victimization. Beware of people especially nowadays with precautions. Oh I'm 70 & left angry that nothing has been done by said agencies.
I love being along, just relaxing,or baking, or watching a movie, I don’t need bars, parties or hanging out with people to have fun, I enjoy my home and getting ideas of how I can make my home more comfortable. I’m most comfortable when I’m heading home from work and I can close the my door and enjoy my afternoon.
Funny during the pandemic, I heard so many people having struggles and for me it was a blessing because I am constantly around people around family or someone needing something from me, so just having to be able to be in my own space without constant obligations it was a huge blessing, and a relief for almost a year and a half.
As an Introvert, I loved that time!!! 🤍 and I do think the way we live now has changed. Meanwhile the extroverts are still trying to force things to go back to what they prefer by filling their lives with as much as possible to validate & avoid themselves. It's not working.
I love to have at least 60 percent of my day alone and have time to reflect on things. I often find being around people for extended lengths of time mentally tiring, particularly when they are contrary and I find myself having to defend my point of view on a regular basis even over little things.
I saw this video by accident. Being a typical introvert, I have to say, it is incredible how accurate this video is. Every word is applicable to myself.
Yes, I agree. I just ran across it and thought hmmm 🤔 let's see if it describes me, and IT DID! It actually made me feel better about myself bc my ex has made me feel bad about enjoying my alone time and quiet time. I so need it so much.
If it wasn't for the fact that I've written a few things down ( like comments ) it would be easy to convince me that I'm an idiot .... I'm not . @@Leokat334
I cannot recommend state supervised solitary confinement. Unless like me you're paid to wait there alone with firearms. To ensure nobody escapes all institutional supervision. As your chase and hunt afterward will become unpleasant. @@Leokat334
I have always been a solitary person. I don't care for crowds. In realty I'm not crazy about a lot of people. But those I care about are my true friends and I love them forever.
Wow so nothing is wrong with me. Some of these qualities make me feel negatively but this made me realize I should embrace it as a positive personality trait.
I come from a family of extroverts and I always felt inadequate or weird somehow. They even accused me of being anti-social. I know now that I'm an introvert, and I like myself better than I like the extroverts in my circle. The extroverts' need for spotlights is sometimes shameful and sometimes just funny. But, I am so glad to know I am an introvert and that I am not needy for praise or glory or being in the limelight.
@@nwelay1475true im introvert originally but i can switch between extrovert and introvert depending on environment i prefer introvert because its more comfy 😀
I always get like there was something wrong with me. Why I dislike parties or social gatherings. I’m an introvert and enjoy being alone. I thought I was crazy as other people I know have to always do stuff with people etc.
I will have to play this video, for family and friends so that they can stop assuming I am lonely and/or just too shy, because this video just broke down how I feel without missing a beat. I love being alone, I love just hanging out and doing my own thing, at my own pace…absolutely nothing wrong with that, the same way as wanting to be around people and needing to have someone around you.
2:56 easy to please 3:26 goal-driven motivation 4:13 thriving in silence 4:41 the value of time 5:21 talk a little, learn a lot 6:21 the spectator mentality 7:26 unstoppable self-sufficiency 7:57 excellence in communication 8:33 finely tuned listeners 9:25 protectors of privacy 10:11 easygoing partnerships 10:54 leading by example
Silence is golden. Time to think and create. I prefer solo pursuits. Nothing is worse than noise - unwanted intrusions on my mind. And I love tramping/hiking alone - no cellphones, no security devices like personal locator beacons. Just a well-developed bush sense. I love my man-cave - gives me everything I desire surrounded by a huge variety of electronic componentry, wood, etc. I identify with everything expressed in this video. Nice job!
People assume I'm lonely , not at all . I used to know many people, they weren't real friends , they tried to always take advantage , the type that want to borrow your car , because they wrecked every car they ever had. You say no and they freak . because you have boundaries and don't your car at the mercy of an inconsiderate fake friend. The friends you have left are your true friends for life , and they are all able to be alone too . Great video!
I agree. My family are all extroverts and I’m just about as introverted as one can be. I view my introversion as a sort of superpower. Never lonely as long as I have my cat and my WiFi. Social media is more than enough human contact for me. 😂
This really describes me. I have also noticed my intuition has gotten so much stronger .i am definitely more of an observer and it has served me well. Also no need to announce everything you do or about to do.
Omg... My annoying childhood friends who want to talk on the phone just so they can tell me EVERYTHING they've done, everything they ate, everything they bought (& want to buy), everywhere they went & going, every conversation, everything they wore, everything everyone else did & it just goes on & on!! Then they want a full account from me 😳 I don't remember!! Seriously who cares?? Then they get mad at me because I refuse to answer the phone. It's as if their lives are justified by how much they can shove into a week, like the busier they are that makes them more successful. Meanwhile, I don't care. 😂 I laugh about it but they make me feel so guilty & horrible as a friend. I had to stop talking to them altogether because no matter what I say; they don't understand me.
This video explains why I am the way I am . I went through a lot of trauma and I never been close to family so I have became very much a loner and I like keeping my life private due to my downfalls. So I don’t feel bad about being alone .
I love being an Introvert! I'm at home doing my own things most of the time (even though I do have a husband and 2 kids), I don't feel lonely at all and I wouldn't want it any other way. I especially enjoy the silence when everybody's asleep, which is why I stay up late every night! The pandemic was "a blessing" for me, since I didn't have to go to family gatherings which I don't enjoy. Everything said in this video is absolutely true... I'm a good listener who is observant of the world and things that happen around me. I find the loud people around me are not very intelligent, therefore I have no interest in starting conversations with them.
why does anybody need anybody wen they have their phones and tablets im glad I am alone most of the time keep myself to myself I hate the internet im a 90s baby I agree with a lot on this video
I went from a management position for a busy exhibition firm to become a long distance trucker to be alone, i don't dislike people but people bore me with unnecessary conversation, i find myself thriving while being alone, i play guitar as well as drums, the only person i do not get bored with is my son, watching him navigate life is amazing. i found truth in this video, thanks for posting
Thanks for this episode. I was starting to feel bad about all this - wanting to be alone, with no family, no kids, not a big social life, living in my head, needing a lot of downtime...Some days I want to go to the gym, but I won't even do that as I can exercise at home, so I stay home all day. Today is one of those days. Happy to read all these comments.
I hate being in a room surrounded by people, finding it overwhelming. After separating from my husband of 50 years, and getting onto the internet, I've learned a lot more about life than ever before. I have an overseas friend who I've known all my life and we keep in touch by email and I'm quite happy.
I spent New Year's alone, 45-yrs old. Watching the action and fireworks outside and seeing in New year's from my box & UA-cam. Wonderful time, happy alone and with others if must.
Im glad i came across this video. It's incredible how accurate this is. I dont need others to entertain me. In fact, i entertain myself by being alone. Most people think of me as a boring or depressing person because i dont like hanging out or even talking to other people. I can be one of the most energetic and happy people out there when i trust people. People often judge me by the gover a book thinking that being lonely is a bad thing, it's not. For all the introverts out there, we are powerful and love ourselves for who we are. We love to be alone, to find ourselves at peace and to have our time alone. We shall never change ourselves!
I'm like this and have been a very long time. No matter what you do you are going to have people who think the worse of you . If you have a none judgemental friend our neighbor hold onto to them because they are like a rare treasure. ❤
Weekends - just me, my music, my wine, my books, my PC. I can't imagine what it must be like to be married, kids running around, not a moment to oneself.
Wow. I wish that this video was around 60 years ago when I was a kid. This video totally describes me and teachers were always trying to change me. People made me feel badly most of life into adulthood. I always felt inadequate. Fortunately, I became a programmer, a profession that really accepts loaner personalities. I thrived in my element and even developed leadership qualities.
Thanks for this enlightening video, and all the comments on it! I didn't realise that there were so many people out there feeling like me. I used to be an extrovert, but have gradually changed into an introvert over the years for a number of reasons, most of which have been addressed in this video. One thing is for sure: I found a lot more inner peace through my solitary (healthy) lifestyle!
I’m happy to say I possess every one of those traits. I am your ultimate introvert but not always by choice. It is so hard being an introvert in an extrovert world and yes we are so misunderstood and judged, but we have our strengths too. I am a deep thinker and a good listener and quite creative. It can have its downsides however, we have to work harder at the things extroverts would take in their stride eg, work, relationships and parenting. I think a lot of extroverts could benefit from introverts and learn to close their mouths and open their ears. I enjoy being alone without being lonely.
I have always been a loner.. I think it's in my genes.. two of my uncles were also loners. I've been living alone for over 20 years and I rather enjoy my alone time. Being alone is great.. Go and come when you please, nobody to ask where have you been, where are you going or when are you coming back. No arguments and no drama. You do what you want to do when you want to do it. 👍
My dad was a doctor, my mother a concert pianist. I am the youngest of three children. My parents knew they made a mistake marrying one another on the day after their wedding, but stayed married for 23 years (until my mother died of cancer) for the "benefit of the children." I had no relationship with my brother or sister growing up, and neither my mom nor my dad spend time with me; they were too busy. Moreover, they never taught me how to socialize with other children or adults. Aside from a short 3.5 yr. marriage, I have lived alone for almost 60 years. Only now do I appreciate my "good luck" to be a loner, introvert, etc.
I love being along. The peace of mine and happine'tss it brings. I feel that it makes me stronger as well as happy. I don't need or care about what other people think or say it DOESN'T MATTER!!! You can not please anyone in this world make yourself happy. It can be done.
Honestly, I don't mind being alone. There's a empowering movement to it. Solitude is definitely a trait that many can't handle but for me it's simple, work, gym, grocery store, video games then home.
Guess I’m one of the lucky ones, always been a loner, all the true friends in my life can be counted on one hand. All 4 of them have never criticized nor found fault , always ready too reciprocate and I to them. Have always held a good job, paid for everything I own...Then 20 years ago I met number 5 we agree on most things but not all. In our first conversation she said, “I’m not a people person, would rather be with my dog than most self centered insecure people.” As previously stated that was 20 years ago and we haven’t been apart since our first conversation.
I've always been an introvert, in school I had 2 friends, and they were also introverts. This is very true; my 2 friends have been my friends since we were in 6th grade. True again, I had wanted to be a funeral director since I was 12 and I did it, I even got a second degree in embalming. In person, I don't talk much, I'm almost painfully shy, I'm a very good listener and I don't repeat things without permission, like if it's just general talking, but I NEVER reveal secrets. I've been married for so long; I think I was born married lol.
I have one dear and trusted friend of 45 years. My husband is an extreme extrovert and doesn't understand me. This is an ideal learning lesson for him to view.
I love being alone - I’m definitely a homebody/nester enjoying quiet time doing all my creative activities, reading, etc. I thrive in this environment. I’m not a joiner, although I do enjoy being involved in group activities, just not all the time. I’m observant, instinctive, empathetic and caring. Yet I am also very social, chatty, and friendly in small or larger crowds. I easily give sincere compliments where I see they are deserved. So what am I called?
Due to my solitary preferences, family members, as well as others, think i am somewhere between different and strange. I also fit most of what the video highlights. As someone who has spent most of my working life in technical fields, it is easy for me to work fluidly inside and outside the box to figure out a resolution to a finicky machine. Some people are naturally solace, and others like me were forced into it from an early age. I am sure many can relate.
I love this! This explained a lot about myself that other people may not understand, especially the talking. I don't care for small talk or conversations that won't be appreciated or remembered later on. Attention to detail goes a long way in career and life.
I was always an extrovert UNTIL 4 yrs ago when a car crossed the Hwy line totaled my Jeep & left me with brain damage 😡. That changed me into a different person. Stimuli is a main one-- too many people & noise have changed me into an introvert. Now I’m content to be alone ( not lonely!). I love the silence 👵🏻👩🌾❣️
Sunday morning, out of bed at 04.30h, starting up computer, getting some coffee, 1st video that pops up is this one as if it had to be. Instantly made my day. Everything in this video is so true. Glad to read the comments knowing I am not the only one being like this. Thanks for sharing.
in the first 25+ yrs of my life, i hated being alone. be it goin to the movies, beaches, & everything else, i had to be with some ppl. couldn't stay single longer than a wk, it felt like im worthless in life for being single at any given time. but nowadays, i prefer being alone. life taught so many lessons by now, & i gravitate to a more peaceful, content & simple life these days. no turning back, this suits my state of mind so much more.
It was the same for me when I was in the Air Force. I loved being in my dorm room and people were so confused (and offended) when I often spent time by myself.
This is so just me. Even as a very young child I would be painting, drawing and reading, and always in another room, much apart from my parents and sister. But having a wonderful pet being with me was the companionship I really loved and needed.
Some of my friends keep telling me to join groups and take classes to meet people, but they do not understand that I choose to be alone I have no problem socializing or meeting people but I can only take it in small doses.
As a life long introvert I endorse this message. It's really surprisingly spot on. I would bet if you relate you also appreciate these qualities in others.
This is me 100 percent, I've always been like that and enjoy every minute of it😊 it's amazing how you come up with 12 amazing qualities of people like being alone that is so true.
People always think I’m an extrovert because I am very outgoing, but I am really an introvert. I may seem outgoing out in public & around my family, but I can only be with people for a short time. I’m not only an introvert, I’m an empath. I am really careful about not allowing energy vampires near me. It’s taken me many years to understand these qualities about myself.
I completely relate, Linda! I grew up thinking that I was inferior in many ways and because I was also an empath, was completely misunderstood by family. I always felt that my efforts and accomplishments were never understood and that my choices were never fully acceptable. Learning about emotional vampires was one of the most enlightening experiences of my life. I now feel more in charge of my feelings and choices.
@@maureenschweickert2091 I agree 100%! I have always been considered the “black sheep” of my family, but it was because I was misunderstood more than anything. It’s taken me a long time to understand my differences (I am 59), but I am finally at peace with myself ❤️
Once, my adopted mother asked me if I ever felt lonely? At first I was puzzled by her question but then I realized and answered her that just because I preferred being alone doesn’t mean I am lonely. Things I enjoyed doing it doesn’t take an audiences.
As an extrovert but married to an introvert it took me a long time to appreciate her great qualities. Very organised, very focused and the total opposite of myself but the partnership is amazing.
I love being alone. I don't like drama or trouble. The less people I deal with the less B.S. I have to deal with. I find happiness without social connection because I don't have the stress that people can bring. Peace and quiet it's the best 😊
Now I know more about myself than I ever thought I would. As far back as I can remember I have always wanted to be alone. As a small child I would find places to conceal myself so I could be alone! At 79, I live alone except for my cats. I have most everything I need delivered. I rarely venture out because I have no desire to. I am very uncomfortable around people so being alone solves this issue!
There were 7 little kids to take care of. Noise and chaos that I had to adjust to. Now that I’m 87, they are all adults, and I enjoy the peace and quiet. I’ve always been happy as a loner😂😂😂
I also have 7 children, which has grown to include 6 in law children and 16 grandchildren. One lives with us (with her husband and toddler), and two are neighbors. My house is an active beehive. The only alone time I get is after 11 pm
Honestly, I have tried to explain to so many friends I'm an Introvert and they just ignore it (like I never said anything). I'm hoping this video might help, but I'm not sure because they want you to be what THEY want & expect.
I found after bad connections with people being alone was what I always needed.Never felt so much peace.Sometimes the negative thoughts come in and I push them out.I like just being with my pup.She is my girl.
When I am around people I don't feel safe and I feel lonely, but when am alone I feel like am with many people I like a quiet place . I feel so happy when am at home I hate going outside
Great little show explains a lot as I am an introvert. Which in my banking and finance career was a bit of disaster, don't get me wrong I did pretty well but it was the small talk, rituals and blokeeness of the place that drove me out. What was the catalyst was our 3 monthly review. There was no work problems but I originally come from the arse end of New Zealand but now live in Australia. One of the many cultural curiosities Southlanders have is we use the word "we" to describe a task completed in the context of " we have finished the marking plan" when of course it was just me doing the work. Well that set my superior off in rant for about 30 minutes on this "we" thing. No worries though it was time to go anyway. So I set up a chilli business on my little farm I will never get rich but it is a hell of a lifestyle and I have been going for 10 years now couldn't be happier
📚🙋 Thanks!! So happy I found this video. It is just what I need to share with critics that are too quick to criticize by accusing of being: ...selfish ...anti-social ...fearful ...lazy Actually having time alone to learn new things to share .. benefits everyone we know.
Those kind of people couldn’t be more further from the truth. It shows just how interesting and intelligent we are. This is really helping me I used to feel there was something wrong with me.
@@fungirl809 💞🙋...Thanks for the reminder to check ourselves .. which is exactly what we should do first .. so when we discover that we are not guilty .. we also discover what sort of people we are dealing with. Then we can offer them a new life in Christ .. and if they reject .. then we can use our precious God given time to fellowship with those who love one another or reach others who would love to hear what we have to say. Much love.😊 💞💌💞
Often society treats introversion as a handicap or an affliction. It makes us seem like we are missing out on something, or that we should be sad for being left out. Heck, nothing threatens me more than an invitation to a party or gathering of some kind. LOL!!
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I much prefer to be alone. When I do go out around people, it makes me realize why I like being alone.
Agree. I'll take that opinion even one step further, to say that venturing out often leads you to need to act and behave according to someone else's value system.
Me too!
Ha Ha! Well said!
YOU BET ! 😁 I used to worry about how people perceived me, then I realized how people only put me down to make themselves look better ! l o l😂
I've always been a loner and I love it I stopped worrying about what other people think about me, because they don't think about me, they think about what people think of them.
I love being alone , I don’t have to please nobody but me ❤
exactly
Not only that, but there's no one around to irritate the living daylights out of me.
Took me a LONG time to figure that out lol im45
AMEN
Amen ❤
I’m alone but I’m not lonely
You can't seriously say you don't get lonely from time to time. That would make you not human. Even small animals get lonely sometimes. Maybe you're just quoting "Heat" (one of my favorites, I love that scene in the diner), but I think you may be mistaken.
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
@@ilovebutterstuff ..u just dont get it...
u can be alone and not be alone...
and u can be in a crowded room and be alone..
...i often find myself alone in crowded places...
@@Patrik6920well said!!
Yes SAME, I love being alone I've NEVER felt lonely I don't even know what loneliness feels like 😂
As I’ve aged being alone is soooo peaceful. At times I choose to be around others but it’s my choice.
My father, who is 80, has said that for his observations, many people tend to grow more introverted over time. I have always preferred solitude, yet even more as time has passed.
I know many people, I have a few close friends, however I spend the majority of time alone - it's bliss. ❤
I spend most of my time alone wishing I was spending time with this woman or that woman or those women over there…
I love being with my dog - I talk to him and he doesn't give me straight B.S !
@@MarkPearce-u7mI thought I was alone in that understanding lol.... Well done to you my friend I don't know...
I love being alone, less complications, less drama and so much better for your mind 👍
Zactly! Some of my best vacations were spent going solo. After my low-rent narcissist girlfriend left me for a rich guy-who ended up making her miserable- I celebrated with a week-long car trip. T'was a peak experience!
@@yafuker6046 So happy for you
@@yafuker6046-- I had a home care client once who might have said, "THAT'LL TEACH HER!" But, being she's a narcissist... PROBABLY NOT. 😆
@@henrykujawa4427 Yup- I'm proud to say that I recently exhausted a narc. Interesting guy, started out thinking he could make a good friend, but that's how they hook ya. My ignoring his commands and answering with "whatever" forced him to move on. Passive/aggressive pretty much always worked for me. His loss, I figure.
I can go either way: I grew up in the country, with few neighbors and fewer kids my own age, so being alone is normal for me. I learned to be a reader, and a thinker. Sadly it also makes me uncomfortable in large groups (that are not quite large enough for anonymity), since I seem to have few if any 'social' skills. Sadly. I do well one on one, however.
There's nothing better than being by myself, where I have peace and tranquility 🙏👼💖
But have you ever gone to the dark side of this? I have. I... Hate... This... Place. This prison. This zoo, whatever you want to call it. I... Must... Get... Out.
Everybody wants something.
They're all fighting like monsters to get it... It's not only horrifying, it's ridiculous.
Ever see Vanilla Sky?
TECH SUPPORT!!! 🤣🤣🤣
I feel you are very wrong! You better start watching time, ever notice your nightwear inside out? ABDUCTIONS FRIEND. Unless you pray to GOD night and day you will be a targeted individual by 👽🛸. As they have a agender these demonics. Please pray and have a relationship with GOD/ JESUS CHRIST you are a sitting duck. This podcast is miss leading.
@@ilovebutterstuff
I have and see it, hell on earth mate. It’s best to be a Christian and have your shield up by JESUS CHRIST. Abductions are still going on and the disembodied black spirit demons work with these creatures the Reptilians, Greys, insectoids and Wolfens 🛸👽🦎🐍👿. Witchcraft is worse than ever, those poor souls will be suffering too. LOVE THE CREATOR GOD, that’s what really matter for your soul.💝💐🙏
@@ilovebutterstuff get help
No one around to judge you and criticize you.
Awesome! Thanks for spreading the news! I'm so sick of being told I'm shy, maladapted, antisocial, and negative, withdrawn, and sad. I'm quite engaging when I'm with people who actually talk with you instead of just running off at the mouth. And, yes, I can easily entertain myself for days and, no, I don't get lonely.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
Unless a professional assessed you, disregard.
@jackiepowell7513 disregard that too. Trial and error rules the roost on that topic
People don't understand how I can stay home alone, I don't want the show anymore . I try not to do what everyone is doing. They tell me I think to much, I live in my mind because the world makes little sense to me. The crowds and traffic remind me how we waste our lives running to the same place.
I love being alone, I'm always alone... but I am NOT shy at all.
When I’m out with friends, I am ALL IN. But coming home to my own space is where I find true peace and it NEVER gets old.
This. Yes!
If you know you know.
That's true I love having my own privacy 😉
❤❤❤ me
Amen. Sanctuary
Me too 😀
It bothers me when people talk so much and it's not even interesting! That drains me. I love doing my own thing it relaxes me and keeps me happy 😊
Especially when people take ages to tell you one thing or start talking about someone you don't even know .... when, in both instances, they could convey the info in a couple of sentences, but somehow makenit drag on for minutes. Drives me crazy!
This is me whenever I have to go to a dinner with my parents and a friend or group of friends of theirs. They spend hours talking and I don’t even do anything! It is so tiring and annoying just sitting there and not even getting to interact. And yeah I like time to myself too but I also like to talk with friends
❤ Truth
@@thekrribSOUNDS LIKE MY LATE FATHER "TO MAKE A LONG STORY EVEN LONGER"
@@anngonzalez6863 talk talk talk, I too get sick of it.
I love time with me. Nothing better. I am never bored.
It's quite nice not having to answer to others, huh?
right and i dont like being around other people because i been traumatized and bullied and laughed at all my life by other people all my life. it affected me.
Am a people person..but grew up an only child.
Ditto!
Love being alone. Never feel alone, I'm my best friend. Still make mistakes but I like myself. That's the key.
Yes. Introverts gets misunderstood sometimes. Thanks for sharing. ❤
Never had a lable before someone else thought; strange behavior,, for someone who dont look like me, talk like me, act like me and want too be the center of all existence just like me.
Exactly I don't know why
I rather be alone than being with the wrong people that makes me feel so alone with loneliness.
same here.
Yup married twice, and engaged for awhile... Now retired and live alone, it's the happiest and most secure I have ever felt. Nope never been shy, actually outgoing, but I had to work at it. Now I wrap my aloneness around me like a big comfy blanket. Never feel lonely
Being alone is a good quality,because many ppl are toxic !
Exactly, when I was a teenage I watched a large group of girls sitting together. The Queen of the group held court which basically meant she talked to her inner circle while the rest of them sat on the outside and looked bored . They were all dressed the same but that didn’t mean they all belonged . I decided then and there that I would rather be “ Billy no mates “ doing what I want to do rather than be a “ hanger on “ just so I can say I have friends and belonged to a group that I don’t really belong in and I am just making up the numbers so that the Queen can rule . I am 60 years old now and very content , bit of a free spirt and prefer a good book , music or painting to peoples BS especially as the in thing at the moment seems to be “ building a brand “ or “ playing victim for money “ . Get a life
The worst thing I ever did was to get married in my 40s - a long distance sight unseen relationship destroyed my life. The only upside was that I did manage to claw back some of what I lost by being able to retreat to my man-cave surrounded by the things that mean the most to me. Unfortunately it also means that I cannot relax in the living room that I entirely paid for.
I have been an introvert my whole life and proud of it!! Look like every time I broke that role and tried to hang out with folks who were not like me or go to family events or job celebrations I always paid a price for it. If I sat in a corner quietly they whisper, she's too quiet, stuck up, anti-social and all the other names some of you guys have dealt with too. I really especially hate it when it comes to women the most, who think just because you're a woman you have to go shopping with them, tell them all of your business, talk about and gossip about others and when I reject that or them they get all mad and angry because I choose not to be a part of their toxic narcissistic circle!! I go shopping by myself, movies by myself, dinner by myself and have had Thanksgiving and Christmas by myself, but then again I'm never alone because I have my God with me all the time. I love meditating, reflecting on and talking to Him!! I love going on walks in a park with Him where I find true peace and the meaning of life!! I don't have to worry about Him running back telling anything I've said or keeping up a bunch of gossip and drama!! I tell people all the time, you can't put a price on peace!! I love being alone because that is where I truly find that eternal peace!! The Bible says it's a kind of peace that surpasses all understanding!! Glad to see I'm not alone in my thinking!!
Stuck up , yes . If you don't know someone how do get to know them ? Well I watch and see first . Maybe I'm wrong . Hey most only care about themselves anyway ! If I don't need anything , wait and later we can be closer after we get closer .
Spot on!! All that you’ve stated I’m currently going thru, but I’m grateful for my solace it has definitely helped me strengthen my relationship with the creator, now I don’t ever want to be separated from him or Mother Earth they’ve both been my comforters in my time of solitude after a harsh separation…I’ve learned to become my own therapist/healer which in turn made me want to branch out & help others do the same well those who are willing that is…🤷🏾♀️ Gratitude for this, keep going you’re doing well! Namaste✨
@@PhoenixRyzin7
Spot on you too
Psychology state we need to meet 7 people a day to stay healthy
I sometimes don’t
Still I love my peace and find I’m a better person when I do meet others
Learn inwardly to shine outward
Hey. I am very intrested learning about God. Do you mind telling me some over another plattform perhaps? I am also an introvert so I understand you fully. I have been so let down by everybody but my family that loves me scincerely but I never had the blessing to meet a true genuine friend that shares the same thought system that I do. Even though I enjoy my company and don't feel alone I still want to share alot with another humanbeing my age or above, does not really matter whom, because I really love thinking and talking deeply about intresting topics and thought system that does not give space in this world I feel.
It's like I from time to time loose hope and find life really meaningless to the point I have a hard time keeping up with the fact that people are this way. It would make me truly happy if I got to believe in God I think...
All love /S
⚠️Be very careful about being asked to move to another platform to communicate.
I love being alone. It’s less complicated. You don’t have to try to think up a conversation. Most of all : you stay out of gossip. I hate gossip and stay away from it.
I don’t like it either. I don’t even understand the purpose of it. It’s the junk food of conversation.
I dislike gossip too. I mean, what's the point?
Me too either
I am male by gender - a species from Mars, and in the course of life, I have discovered that Gossiping is for women - a species from Venus!
Being alone is much, much better than being with just anyone! I was able to do what I wanted, when I wanted, and with whom I wanted ... life doesn't get any better than that!!!
got it right i never married. my first girlfriend damaged me for life after that no girlfriends or marrage and i dont regret it.
And you don't have to answer to anyone
It actually does get better….especially when you have a spouse that understands the way you are.
I loved lockdown,it was the perfect excuse to not see anyone.❤
For me, being introverted and on my own means I don't have to rely on other people for anything, except in exceptional circumstances. I have a few close lifelong friends, but don't usually even ask them for help unless I have no other options, and I'm often radio silent for days because I'm not really into small talk. I can understand why we're misunderstood, but we cannot change who we are, and neither would I want to.
Well said. I am always amazed at the lengths some people go to to avoid being with themselves. Life is so much more fun when you get to explore all the things you find interesting.
@@SqueakyBarbarianI once had to work with someone who couldn’t stand her own company. If she was alone, even for a few minutes, she had to go out to find someone to interact with. I found her to be a really sad, insecure person!
This is ME!! I have those old school friends who are literally mad at me because I don't want to talk to them on the phone. I'm happy to text often (keeps it short & less questioning with frivolous talk). And I've explained I'm just an Introvert!! I don't know if they don't understand it, or believe it or what the problem is but they just totally ignore it... They've pushed me to the point of anger, hence not speaking to them at all. I'm ok with that, because it's just never enough... If I call then they want to set up WEEKLY calls, if I set up calls then it's getting together in person, visiting from out of state on a moments notice & bringing others with them, etc. I'm happier not feeling obligated and disappointing people who simply don't understand me. It's nice to be in a space where I don't have to explain myself 😌
Yes. When I have a problem I like to find the answer to it and solve it myself. Being alone I have the time to hone in on the causes of the problem and find an easy solution. As a result I have been able to develop new skills both practically and intellectually. But when someone tells me about their problems and I make simple suggestions they actually seem to be intimidated by my simple solutions I am not sure why. Perhaps solutions which seem simple to me are not so simple to them.
You summed it up well. I'm pretty okay with you being our rep. I know it's a bit of pressure, but you can just not. You can always just NT. We get it.Holy shit. We get it, my guy.
I have lost countless friends and even family members who think I don’t like, love, or appreciate them because I want to be alone most of the time. And I tried to tell them it’s nothing personal I just prefer to be by myself and most people just don’t understand. I’m 39 years old and I’ve lived by myself since I was 25. I must say this video is spot on. I felt like the guy was describing me personally lol.
Me too!
I love and appreciate your comment. My son that lives across the country is 38 yrs. old. At the age of 25 after his divorce he became a Marine. Since he got out, he truly lived alone for the first time as he had been married at a young age and divorced, no kids. All through the years I've had countless conversations with him about us being introverts and how to deal with people that are not. We truly stand back and feel bad for those people that crave to be around others constantly and can't stand to be alone for 5 minutes. We talk about all the whys and how come they are as they are. Those of us that are truly introverts find that we deal with ourselves more completely than others that can't and won't. Above all, we don't apologize for being who we are simply because there's no need. However, we allow people to be who they are but choose and refuse to be around those that are truly messed up and time wasters for us, those that want to whine, complain and suck up our peace of mind and well-being. We love being who we are and don't need approval from anyone and gave up explaining to people long ago.
Im 75 send most of my time alone. I spent 20 years on active duty and all the holidays I was alone. Im happy that way
@@Shaderunner7153 I have spent many holidays alone by choice and was very content. People would think that was so so sad and I must have been lonely but quite the contrary as I had a day all to myself, I didn't have to perform for anyone as I could just be myself. Some of the most peaceful holidays I've ever spent.
@marygoround7153
Spent 24 Christmas alone because of my toxic cruel 2 brothers & their wives who've I've watched them disrespect my mother & sister, true saintly people who are long gone sadly because of decade's of this treatment. Both died of broken hearts fed up with these low life losers using & stealing from them no matter how I tried to get law enforcement & social services involved defrauding them.
Now I see in people of dubious character target the vulnerable elderly & now elder financial fraud number one white collar crime destroying all they've worked for so stay to myself as I've been targeted myself as a woman with no one left I am calling government reps out to do something about agencies who are supposed tp protect all from a breed of individuals getting away with criminal victimization.
Beware of people especially nowadays with precautions.
Oh I'm 70 & left angry that nothing has been done by said agencies.
I love being along, just relaxing,or baking, or watching a movie, I don’t need bars, parties or hanging out with people to have fun, I enjoy my home and getting ideas of how I can make my home more comfortable. I’m most comfortable when I’m heading home from work and I can close the my door and enjoy my afternoon.
Most people who like to be alone are allergic to bullshit.
Good 👍 way! Of putting it. Hah!!!!
🤗 💘 😁
You know it
😉👌💯
Love your comments
Amen 🙏
Funny during the pandemic, I heard so many people having struggles and for me it was a blessing because I am constantly around people around family or someone needing something from me, so just having to be able to be in my own space without constant obligations it was a huge blessing, and a relief for almost a year and a half.
I so agree. Nobody bugged me to go out. It was ok to be home alone. It really worked for me.
Now if I could just get somebody to tell my wife that I'm retired.
Ditto! I never felt lonely or isolated!
As an Introvert, I loved that time!!! 🤍 and I do think the way we live now has changed. Meanwhile the extroverts are still trying to force things to go back to what they prefer by filling their lives with as much as possible to validate & avoid themselves. It's not working.
I enjoyed the alone time during the pandemic too.
The part about making friends is spot on. When I make a friend it’s long term and I don’t require many because the relationships are fulfilling.
Solitude is my sanctuary
If we felt lonely we wouldn't want to be alone, a lot of people say it must be boring, but i am rarely bored!
I love to have at least 60 percent of my day alone and have time to reflect on things. I often find being around people for extended lengths of time mentally tiring, particularly when they are contrary and I find myself having to defend my point of view on a regular basis even over little things.
I saw this video by accident. Being a typical introvert, I have to say, it is incredible how accurate this video is. Every word is applicable to myself.
yes
Yes, I agree. I just ran across it and thought hmmm 🤔 let's see if it describes me, and IT DID! It actually made me feel better about myself bc my ex has made me feel bad about enjoying my alone time and quiet time. I so need it so much.
If it wasn't for the fact that I've written a few things down ( like comments ) it would be easy to convince me that I'm an idiot .... I'm not . @@Leokat334
I cannot recommend state supervised solitary confinement.
Unless like me you're paid to wait there alone with firearms.
To ensure nobody escapes all institutional supervision. As
your chase and hunt afterward will become unpleasant. @@Leokat334
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I have always been a solitary person. I don't care for crowds. In realty I'm not crazy about a lot of people. But those I care about are my true friends and I love them forever.
Amen 💯
Exactly
Yes.
So, very true.
TRUE FRIENDS IS THE KEY NOT SEVERAL THOUSANDS "FRIENDS" ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
Wow so nothing is wrong with me. Some of these qualities make me feel negatively but this made me realize I should embrace it as a positive personality trait.
I come from a family of extroverts and I always felt inadequate or weird somehow. They even accused me of being anti-social. I know now that I'm an introvert, and I like myself better than I like the extroverts in my circle. The extroverts' need for spotlights is sometimes shameful and sometimes just funny. But, I am so glad to know I am an introvert and that I am not needy for praise or glory or being in the limelight.
@@nwelay1475true
im introvert originally
but i can switch between extrovert and introvert depending on environment
i prefer introvert because its more comfy 😀
@@nwelay1475thank you ❤
I always get like there was something wrong with me. Why I dislike parties or social gatherings. I’m an introvert and enjoy being alone. I thought I was crazy as other people I know have to always do stuff with people etc.
For years I thought something was wrong with me for feeling this way. Now I know there is a lot of us! Isn't it wonderful!
"Hermit," and, "Loner," is what I am called.
Solitude lets me really travel in my mind.
Great video!!! Love that you point out introverts' qualities! Finally someone not acting like being an introvert is a negative thing.😊
I will have to play this video, for family and friends so that they can stop assuming I am lonely and/or just too shy, because this video just broke down how I feel without missing a beat. I love being alone, I love just hanging out and doing my own thing, at my own pace…absolutely nothing wrong with that, the same way as wanting to be around people and needing to have someone around you.
Perfect to share, but other people will say, "I don't need a video to explain you, as a friend I know how you are"
NOT!
Just pull down hsp..show them that.
Can be rewarding after a long day of work. Can get depressing as well.
Same here
2:56 easy to please
3:26 goal-driven motivation
4:13 thriving in silence
4:41 the value of time
5:21 talk a little, learn a lot
6:21 the spectator mentality
7:26 unstoppable self-sufficiency
7:57 excellence in communication
8:33 finely tuned listeners
9:25 protectors of privacy
10:11 easygoing partnerships
10:54 leading by example
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Like to be alone, but not lonely!
Congratulations, you paid attention.
Thank you yaar toone Mera keemti samay bacha diya.
Enjoying my me time ! I’m the boss of myself😊
Silence is golden. Time to think and create. I prefer solo pursuits. Nothing is worse than noise - unwanted intrusions on my mind. And I love tramping/hiking alone - no cellphones, no security devices like personal locator beacons. Just a well-developed bush sense. I love my man-cave - gives me everything I desire surrounded by a huge variety of electronic componentry, wood, etc. I identify with everything expressed in this video. Nice job!
Your comment describes my life perfectly.
COOL DUDE!!!!!!👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
People assume I'm lonely , not at all . I used to know many people, they weren't real friends , they tried to always take advantage , the type that want to borrow your car , because they wrecked every car they ever had. You say no and they freak . because you have boundaries and don't your car at the mercy of an inconsiderate fake friend. The friends you have left are your true friends for life , and they are all able to be alone too . Great video!
Nothing better than being by myself where have peace 🌺🇦🇫
Being an HSP(Highly Sensitive Person) or introvert, in my opinion is a gift and should be celebrated.🥳
I agree. My family are all extroverts and I’m just about as introverted as one can be. I view my introversion as a sort of superpower. Never lonely as long as I have my cat and my WiFi. Social media is more than enough human contact for me. 😂
@@silvermainecoons3269 hi , How's the superpower going ? 🥰
This really describes me. I have also noticed my intuition has gotten so much stronger .i am definitely more of an observer and it has served me well. Also no need to announce everything you do or about to do.
You sound just like me.
Omg... My annoying childhood friends who want to talk on the phone just so they can tell me EVERYTHING they've done, everything they ate, everything they bought (& want to buy), everywhere they went & going, every conversation, everything they wore, everything everyone else did & it just goes on & on!! Then they want a full account from me 😳 I don't remember!! Seriously who cares?? Then they get mad at me because I refuse to answer the phone. It's as if their lives are justified by how much they can shove into a week, like the busier they are that makes them more successful. Meanwhile, I don't care. 😂 I laugh about it but they make me feel so guilty & horrible as a friend. I had to stop talking to them altogether because no matter what I say; they don't understand me.
I love my life being alone. I socialize once in a while, but it’s so nice to get home and be by myself.
This video explains why I am the way I am . I went through a lot of trauma and I never been close to family so I have became very much a loner and I like keeping my life private due to my downfalls. So I don’t feel bad about being alone .
I’m all about the silence. Living with someone else would eventually feel like I’m in a prison with a cellmate
I DID&IT DID. NOW ALONE&FREE
I’m alone but not lonely. Books and helping others , there’s no perfect formula for happy family life!
I love to be alone! I think it is even necessary for our sanity,at times...
There are very few people who are really nice...and genuine...always have a motive...
That’s the truth sister
Sad but true.
Yup I know what you mean, retired now and don't miss people, my god there are some purely nasty people out there 😳
Truth. And i've acknowledged and made peace with this years ago!
@@ferretfriend5458 Yep..liers
I love being an Introvert! I'm at home doing my own things most of the time (even though I do have a husband and 2 kids), I don't feel lonely at all and I wouldn't want it any other way. I especially enjoy the silence when everybody's asleep, which is why I stay up late every night! The pandemic was "a blessing" for me, since I didn't have to go to family gatherings which I don't enjoy. Everything said in this video is absolutely true... I'm a good listener who is observant of the world and things that happen around me. I find the loud people around me are not very intelligent, therefore I have no interest in starting conversations with them.
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why does anybody need anybody wen they have their phones and tablets im glad I am alone most of the time keep myself to myself I hate the internet im a 90s baby I agree with a lot on this video
I went from a management position for a busy exhibition firm to become a long distance trucker to be alone, i don't dislike people but people bore me with unnecessary conversation, i find myself thriving while being alone, i play guitar as well as drums, the only person i do not get bored with is my son, watching him navigate life is amazing. i found truth in this video, thanks for posting
I'm an introvert but I didn't continue to watch this video because I don't need confirmation or validation for what I am.
Thanks for this episode. I was starting to feel bad about all this - wanting to be alone, with no family, no kids, not a big social life, living in my head, needing a lot of downtime...Some days I want to go to the gym, but I won't even do that as I can exercise at home, so I stay home all day. Today is one of those days. Happy to read all these comments.
I am very much like you. I do yoga at home, avoid gyms and just swim laps at the pool. I do not miss not having a family
we are just the same, thank you so much for this post!
I hate being in a room surrounded by people, finding it overwhelming. After separating from my husband of 50 years, and getting onto the internet, I've learned a lot more about life than ever before. I have an overseas friend who I've known all my life and we keep in touch by email and I'm quite happy.
I spent New Year's alone, 45-yrs old. Watching the action and fireworks outside and seeing in New year's from my box & UA-cam. Wonderful time, happy alone and with others if must.
Im glad i came across this video. It's incredible how accurate this is. I dont need others to entertain me. In fact, i entertain myself by being alone. Most people think of me as a boring or depressing person because i dont like hanging out or even talking to other people. I can be one of the most energetic and happy people out there when i trust people. People often judge me by the gover a book thinking that being lonely is a bad thing, it's not. For all the introverts out there, we are powerful and love ourselves for who we are. We love to be alone, to find ourselves at peace and to have our time alone. We shall never change ourselves!
I LOVE BEING ALONE DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT.....😊😊😊😊
Until hospital bed
Lol must be talking about your self🙄🙏🙏🙏👌👌
I'm not ALONE I GOT COMPANY🤔🤣😛
But anyway I really don't have a PROBLEM with it......
I love being alone. It makes me stronger. @@KatoshiaEzell-hi6mx
I feel lonelier in a room full of people than i do being by myself.
I feel the same way.
I can definitely relate.
agree
Amen
Me too.
I'll never get enough of being alone .such amazing time and feeling for yourself ❤
I'm like this and have been a very long time. No matter what you do you are going to have people who think the worse of you . If you have a none judgemental friend our neighbor hold onto to them because they are like a rare treasure. ❤
Wow! You have just described ME!! :)) It was so strange listening to my own description given by a total stranger, though!...
I love being alone. Thank you for sharing this positive side of being an introvert.
Weekends - just me, my music, my wine, my books, my PC. I can't imagine what it must be like to be married, kids running around, not a moment to oneself.
Been alone for almost 4 years now and could not be happier.
Wow. I wish that this video was around 60 years ago when I was a kid. This video totally describes me and teachers were always trying to change me. People made me feel badly most of life into adulthood. I always felt inadequate. Fortunately, I became a programmer, a profession that really accepts loaner personalities. I thrived in my element and even developed leadership qualities.
I like being alone sometimes and I am happy most of the time.I do like being with people to.🤗
Thanks for this enlightening video, and all the comments on it! I didn't realise that there were so many people out there feeling like me. I used to be an extrovert, but have gradually changed into an introvert over the years for a number of reasons, most of which have been addressed in this video. One thing is for sure: I found a lot more inner peace through my solitary (healthy) lifestyle!
I’m happy to say I possess every one of those traits. I am your ultimate introvert but not always by choice. It is so hard being an introvert in an extrovert world and yes we are so misunderstood and judged, but we have our strengths too. I am a deep thinker and a good listener and quite creative. It can have its downsides however, we have to work harder at the things extroverts would take in their stride eg, work, relationships and parenting. I think a lot of extroverts could benefit from introverts and learn to close their mouths and open their ears. I enjoy being alone without being lonely.
I have always been a loner.. I think it's in my genes.. two of my uncles were also loners. I've been living alone for over 20 years and I rather enjoy my alone time. Being alone is great.. Go and come when you please, nobody to ask where have you been, where are you going or when are you coming back. No arguments and no drama. You do what you want to do when you want to do it. 👍
My dad was a doctor, my mother a concert pianist. I am the youngest of three children. My parents knew they made a mistake marrying one another on the day after their wedding, but stayed married for 23 years (until my mother died of cancer) for the "benefit of the children." I had no relationship with my brother or sister growing up, and neither my mom nor my dad spend time with me; they were too busy. Moreover, they never taught me how to socialize with other children or adults. Aside from a short 3.5 yr. marriage, I have lived alone for almost 60 years. Only now do I appreciate my "good luck" to be a loner, introvert, etc.
I'm at the stage where I'm saying 'why is it I married..' there's become a bit too much drama., 9 years on.
Amen you can say that again freedom
Marriage is full of drama, little bit love and full of argument😂😂😂
I love being along. The peace of mine and happine'tss it brings. I feel that it makes me stronger as well as happy. I don't need or care about what other people think or say it DOESN'T MATTER!!! You can not please anyone in this world make yourself happy. It can be done.
I love these definitions. This is the person I am and I'm glad to find myself; looking forward for more discoveries.
It described me so well, I love my life with very small circle of love ones, no extras in my life.
People are so disappointing, so it’s much preferred to be alone.
Amen to that.
That's why I prefer dogs to people.
Surround yourself with the people that are not disappointing
@@gustaaf1892… Dogs are welcomed - People are tolerated (that’s one of the most enjoyable signs I’ve ever seen)
Mostly true.
Honestly, I don't mind being alone. There's a empowering movement to it. Solitude is definitely a trait that many can't handle but for me it's simple, work, gym, grocery store, video games then home.
It's wonderful being alone most of the time, where I can think, get things done, etc., without being interrupted.
Guess I’m one of the lucky ones, always been a loner, all the true friends in my life can be counted on one hand. All 4 of them have never criticized nor found fault , always ready too reciprocate and I to them. Have always held a good job, paid for everything I own...Then 20 years ago I met number 5 we agree on most things but not all. In our first conversation she said, “I’m not a people person, would rather be with my dog than most self centered insecure people.” As previously stated that was 20 years ago and we haven’t been apart since our first conversation.
I've always been an introvert, in school I had 2 friends, and they were also introverts. This is very true; my 2 friends have been my friends since we were in 6th grade. True again, I had wanted to be a funeral director since I was 12 and I did it, I even got a second degree in embalming. In person, I don't talk much, I'm almost painfully shy, I'm a very good listener and I don't repeat things without permission, like if it's just general talking, but I NEVER reveal secrets. I've been married for so long; I think I was born married lol.
I have one dear and trusted friend of 45 years. My husband is an extreme extrovert and doesn't understand me. This is an ideal learning lesson for him to view.
I'm so tired of ppl infantilizing me because I'm introverted. I'm not a little girl I'm a grown woman that just doesn't talk that much🤷🏾♀️
Silence is Golden.
Not needing others is like a super power!
I love being alone - I’m definitely a homebody/nester enjoying quiet time doing all my creative activities, reading, etc. I thrive in this environment. I’m not a joiner, although I do enjoy being involved in group activities, just not all the time. I’m observant, instinctive, empathetic and caring. Yet I am also very social, chatty, and friendly in small or larger crowds. I easily give sincere compliments where I see they are deserved. So what am I called?
Due to my solitary preferences, family members, as well as others, think i am somewhere between different and strange. I also fit most of what the video highlights. As someone who has spent most of my working life in technical fields, it is easy for me to work fluidly inside and outside the box to figure out a resolution to a finicky machine. Some people are naturally solace, and others like me were forced into it from an early age. I am sure many can relate.
I love this! This explained a lot about myself that other people may not understand, especially the talking. I don't care for small talk or conversations that won't be appreciated or remembered later on. Attention to detail goes a long way in career and life.
We are so often misunderstood
I was always an extrovert UNTIL 4 yrs ago when a car crossed the Hwy line totaled my Jeep & left me with brain damage 😡. That changed me into a different person. Stimuli is a main one-- too many people & noise have changed me into an introvert. Now I’m content to be alone ( not lonely!). I love the silence 👵🏻👩🌾❣️
@@deecooper1567 Sorry for your accident. Glad to be understood as an introvert.
Sunday morning, out of bed at 04.30h, starting up computer, getting some coffee, 1st video that pops up is this one as if it had to be.
Instantly made my day. Everything in this video is so true. Glad to read the comments knowing I am not the only one being like this.
Thanks for sharing.
One of the best things about being without company is that, in general, I tend to agree with myself.
in the first 25+ yrs of my life, i hated being alone. be it goin to the movies, beaches, & everything else, i had to be with some ppl. couldn't stay single longer than a wk, it felt like im worthless in life for being single at any given time. but nowadays, i prefer being alone. life taught so many lessons by now, & i gravitate to a more peaceful, content & simple life these days. no turning back, this suits my state of mind so much more.
When I had roommates in the Army they always thought I didn't like them because I never came out of my room. I just valued my precious time alone
It was the same for me when I was in the Air Force. I loved being in my dorm room and people were so confused (and offended) when I often spent time by myself.
This is so just me. Even as a very young child I would be painting, drawing and reading, and always in another room, much apart from my parents and sister.
But having a wonderful pet being with me was the companionship I really loved and needed.
Yeah for dogs!
@@LV-bk4it Exactly, and cats! 😊
Some of my friends keep telling me to join groups and take classes to meet people, but they do not understand that I choose to be alone I have no problem socializing or meeting people but I can only take it in small doses.
As a life long introvert I endorse this message. It's really surprisingly spot on. I would bet if you relate you also appreciate these qualities in others.
So good to see others like being alone.
This is me 100 percent, I've always been like that and enjoy every minute of it😊 it's amazing how you come up with 12 amazing qualities of people like being alone that is so true.
People always think I’m an extrovert because I am very outgoing, but I am really an introvert. I may seem outgoing out in public & around my family, but I can only be with people for a short time. I’m not only an introvert, I’m an empath. I am really careful about not allowing energy vampires near me. It’s taken me many years to understand these qualities about myself.
I completely relate, Linda! I grew up thinking that I was inferior in many ways and because I was also an empath, was completely misunderstood by family. I always felt that my efforts and accomplishments were never understood and that my choices were never fully acceptable. Learning about emotional vampires was one of the most enlightening experiences of my life. I now feel more in charge of my feelings and choices.
This can very likely describe me as a person since I can be an introvert while also trying to be an extrovert by stepping out of my comfort zone.
Totally relate…from one Linda to another…🥰
@@maureenschweickert2091 I agree 100%! I have always been considered the “black sheep” of my family, but it was because I was misunderstood more than anything. It’s taken me a long time to understand my differences (I am 59), but I am finally at peace with myself ❤️
Described me perfectly!
Once, my adopted mother asked me if I ever felt lonely? At first I was puzzled by her question but then I realized and answered her that just because I preferred being alone doesn’t mean I am lonely. Things I enjoyed doing it doesn’t take an audiences.
As an extrovert but married to an introvert it took me a long time to appreciate her great qualities. Very organised, very focused and the total opposite of myself but the partnership is amazing.
I love being alone. I don't like drama or trouble. The less people I deal with the less B.S. I have to deal with. I find happiness without social connection because I don't have the stress that people can bring. Peace and quiet it's the best 😊
Now I know more about myself than I ever thought I would. As far back as I can remember I have always wanted to be alone. As a small child I would find places to conceal myself so I could be alone! At 79, I live alone except for my cats. I have most everything I need delivered. I rarely venture out because I have no desire to. I am very uncomfortable around people so being alone solves this issue!
There were 7 little kids to take care of. Noise and chaos that I had to adjust to. Now that I’m 87, they are all adults, and I enjoy the peace and quiet. I’ve always been happy as a loner😂😂😂
I also have 7 children, which has grown to include 6 in law children and 16 grandchildren. One lives with us (with her husband and toddler), and two are neighbors. My house is an active beehive. The only alone time I get is after 11 pm
Next time someone asks me to tell them something about myself, I will just send them this video :)) 100% true
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😂 Exactly! !
Good one! hehe!
Same, lol, I'm going to send this to everybody I know so they can leave me alone 😁
😂yes yes yes
Honestly, I have tried to explain to so many friends I'm an Introvert and they just ignore it (like I never said anything). I'm hoping this video might help, but I'm not sure because they want you to be what THEY want & expect.
I found after bad connections with people being alone was what I always needed.Never felt so much peace.Sometimes the negative thoughts come in and I push them out.I like just being with my pup.She is my girl.
When I am around people I don't feel safe and I feel lonely, but when am alone I feel like am with many people I like a quiet place . I feel so happy when am at home I hate going outside
Great little show explains a lot as I am an introvert. Which in my banking and finance career was a bit of disaster, don't get me wrong I did pretty well but it was the small talk, rituals and blokeeness of the place that drove me out. What was the catalyst was our 3 monthly review. There was no work problems but I originally come from the arse end of New Zealand but now live in Australia. One of the many cultural curiosities Southlanders have is we use the word "we" to describe a task completed in the context of " we have finished the marking plan" when of course it was just me doing the work. Well that set my superior off in rant for about 30 minutes on this "we" thing. No worries though it was time to go anyway. So I set up a chilli business on my little farm I will never get rich but it is a hell of a lifestyle and I have been going for 10 years now couldn't be happier
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Thanks!! So happy I found this video.
It is just what I need to share with critics that are too quick to criticize by accusing of being:
...selfish
...anti-social
...fearful
...lazy
Actually having time alone to learn new things to share .. benefits everyone we know.
Those kind of people couldn’t be more further from the truth. It shows just how interesting and intelligent we are. This is really helping me I used to feel there was something wrong with me.
@@fungirl809
💞🙋...Thanks for the reminder to check ourselves .. which is exactly what we should do first .. so when we discover that we are not guilty .. we also discover what sort of people we are dealing with.
Then we can offer them a new life in Christ .. and if they reject .. then we can use our precious God given time to fellowship with those who love one another or reach others who would love to hear what we have to say.
Much love.😊
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True and well described the “introverts“ that’s exactly me all the way along. Thanks for understanding and making this public 🙏🏼
As someone else has said, I'm alone but I'm not lonely and these explanations in this video describe me to a tee 😊
I love and appreciate my own company. I prefer to socialise with people that can provide value so that I can learn from them.
Thanks for analyzing me. I see myself more clearly after watching your clip.
Often society treats introversion as a handicap or an affliction. It makes us seem like we are missing out on something, or that we should be sad for being left out. Heck, nothing threatens me more than an invitation to a party or gathering of some kind. LOL!!
Oh, I know. If I know I have to get dressed up and go out later in the day, I have anxiety all day and wish I could stay home.
Thankyou!!
I have been a loner(introvert) all my life and these 12 points are right on target. love my me time. I like being alone but am never lonely.
Nope…never lonely 😊
I always look forward to going on a holiday.......by myself!!!
Once you've enjoyed such a trip you'll never go with anyone again.