Reflective in Perspective (2013)

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  • Опубліковано 27 лип 2024
  • Written & Directed by Timothy Hautekiet
    Starring Rebecca Need-Menaer, Jack Howard & Matt Hargreaves
    Director of Photography - Hayden Hillier-Smith
    Music composed by Tom Barnes
    Song "Options" by Steven Gutheinz
    Creative Consultant - Jack Howard
    Edited by Timothy Hautekiet
    Colour Grading by Ciaran O'Brien
    Sound Editor - André Philips
    Additional Lighting by Maxwell Boulton
    Extras
    Maxwell Boulton
    Shira Kaliski
    Hayden Hillier-Smith
    Partially filmed @ The UA-cam Creator Space in London
    Special thanks to The RH Experience and "The Miller"
    And a massive thank you to all the attendees willing to stick around to be extras!
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  • @TheBritishBlogger
    @TheBritishBlogger 10 років тому +349

    I keep coming back to this fucking masterpiece.

  • @aleetimes3
    @aleetimes3 10 років тому +693

    I feel like we like the idea of being in a relationship more than being in one

    • @TimH
      @TimH  10 років тому +145

      Very nicely put :)

    • @aleetimes3
      @aleetimes3 10 років тому +16

      Haha thanks,nice video, it was very retrospective. :)

    • @ccaamm_cp
      @ccaamm_cp 7 років тому +3

      Ariel Lee Yeah I agree with Tim it's true aswell

    • @stewarttmills
      @stewarttmills 7 років тому +1

      Ariel Lee ugh yesssssssss

  • @Groundsey
    @Groundsey 7 років тому +86

    "It's just that right now, right here, in this moment, that sounds terrible" - I can relate so much to this.

  • @TimH
    @TimH  9 років тому +302

    200,000 views! Woooooo! :) thank you guys for the support!

    • @that80sobsessedkid
      @that80sobsessedkid 9 років тому

      It's an excellent video that helped me a lot :)

    • @diegolao5236
      @diegolao5236 9 років тому

      Tim, I love your videos and I love your sense of humour. I wish you the best.

    • @OliviaCasley
      @OliviaCasley 9 років тому

      Wow 200,00 views is amazing! It's such a good video.

    • @xandrabliss9327
      @xandrabliss9327 9 років тому

      deserves a million more !! I love this video

    • @dalekcaan99
      @dalekcaan99 9 років тому +1

      this is one of the best explaining vidoes i have ever seen you are amazing.

  • @smartizsome
    @smartizsome 10 років тому +186

    Can i just say that this literally the best video ive ever seen point..blank..period

  • @Mad.E
    @Mad.E 9 років тому +160

    I was going to click on the "Two Boys Kiss OMG" video to write a comment about why the hell that has more views than this video, but it actually feels quite good to laugh after having been hit right in the feels by this video.

    • @TimH
      @TimH  9 років тому +40

      CutePoem Wanna know the craziest thing... That video will likely be my first video to hit a million views.

    • @Mad.E
      @Mad.E 9 років тому +5

      Tim H Well not really surprising when you've been on the internets for a while. People like to watch "scandalous" things. Still ... a shame.

    • @prayemboy5142
      @prayemboy5142 9 років тому

      Tim H

    • @Envy_May
      @Envy_May 7 років тому +1

      Two boys still kissed in this video lol.

  • @aexcentric1
    @aexcentric1 9 років тому +141

    Tim, you know after my breakup with someone who I really cherished, or rather I thought I did. My friend showed me this video. It had been a few days. I seemed okay to everyone. I smiled, I laughed, I didn't do any of the "stereotypical" breakup things. There was a party he held and when everyone else was gone he sat me down and pulled this video up on his laptop. I sat there and at first I was quiet. I laughed at your jokes and the skit, the made up scenario made me laugh too but it oddly stung. Then you got to the last part. I was angry. I was mentally shutting you up as you spoke... until you got to the last sentence. "Right now, at this very moment, that sounds terrible." I sobbed, the hardest I had ever cried. My friend let me be... I hadn't cried that hard in my life. All the sorrow, pain just flooded out of me and because of it, I did mourn and I did end up doing a few stereotypical breakup results... but I healed. Thank you for making this video. You helped me grief.

    • @sophiaannarose
      @sophiaannarose 9 років тому +3

      ***** Your comment just made me cry.

    • @inti4739
      @inti4739 8 років тому +2

      That. Was. Beautiful. 😢

    • @freerunnation5444
      @freerunnation5444 7 років тому +2

      Sharif Ahmad well there it is, the tears from my eyes are waterfalls, thank you.

  • @mindovermindfuck
    @mindovermindfuck 10 років тому +226

    Ugh, the last sentence... For someone who's never experienced something as illogical as love, it hit me hard. I just can't understand it, and I never will until I'm there myself. The mindset people get, the feelings they have, is amazing to someone like me, and the last sentence hammered that in way too beautifully. And yet, here I am looking forward to actually falling in love, even against the possible outcome, however illogical that is. Huh. Humans are weird.

    • @wxjared
      @wxjared 9 років тому +4

      It's not illogical, it's a chemical reaction in the brain responsible for mating (aside from testosterone)..

    • @mindovermindfuck
      @mindovermindfuck 9 років тому +9

      Jared O'Brien Why we fall in love (on the technical level) is not illogical, but the feelings that come with it certainly is. People would die for their significant other, self-destruction, something that doesn't come natural to any living organism. Pretty illogical to me.

    • @wxjared
      @wxjared 9 років тому

      Mind over Mindfuck Good ole oxytocin withdrawals.

    • @mindovermindfuck
      @mindovermindfuck 9 років тому +5

      Ah, well, I can't win this one. Still logical on the technical level, however being my stupid self, I'd like you to consider feelings on a poetic level as well, which is where the beauty in them lies. Of course, you're right in the fact that our "love" is actually just a biological and very necessary response, but I think it's so much more exiting to be poetic about it c:

    • @wxjared
      @wxjared 9 років тому +1

      Mind over Mindfuck
      Oh no, I totally agree with you; the way oxytocin reacts with the brain, and what it does when you're deprived of it, is completely and utterly illogical. But hey, biology.
      However, the impact it has on our brains, implying you don't just ignore it once you feel its effect like I've been attempting the past few months out of pure curiosity, is completely awe-inspiring. So many great inventions and events have come out of the lone chemical reaction. It's amazing how evolution created this chemical reaction, it's like the perfect high which motivates us to do whatever we put our mind to.

  • @TiasTravels
    @TiasTravels 10 років тому +34

    Tbh I still go back and watch this every once in a while when I need a reminder

  • @bgeoghegan8632
    @bgeoghegan8632 8 років тому +43

    "Unfortunately I've been cursed with the unbelievable burden of being a straight white male." XD

  • @nayarasouza678
    @nayarasouza678 9 років тому +50

    The first time that I saw this video I was single, but only now , after a break up, I felt the total power of this. and you right, life will pass.

  • @JackHoward
    @JackHoward 11 років тому +8

    Just revisited this. I'm so fucking proud of it.

    • @rorybutcher5909
      @rorybutcher5909 2 роки тому

      You still should be. The whole thing is just wonderful

  • @DarkRawrb
    @DarkRawrb 9 років тому +35

    That shower scene fucking killed me

  • @YaBoiAc1d
    @YaBoiAc1d 10 років тому +23

    It's funny how relationships work. My girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago and we both felt fine. A week later, I was walking down to class with my friends and I saw her kiss another guy. I barely made it into the hall. My body felt heavy, tears were building up in my eyes, and yet my friends still got me to class. I sobbed for that last class and I felt depressed for the next month, thinking, "Will she take me back?" I started seeing a therapist, no medicine to try to counteract my depression. Soon after having my 2nd appointment with the therapist, I decided to just talk to her, not about the break up or our past, but small talk. I felt better after having that chat. But everyday since that kiss, I've always remembered, "A single look is all it takes to change the mind of a human."

  • @jessicavasquez3529
    @jessicavasquez3529 10 років тому +31

    I've started watching Jack Howard / Jack and Dean / Hazel hayes / Tim H etc. These young people have a Massive amount of talent why are they on UA-cam. You all belong at the Oscars. Don't care if people say different.

    • @JellyMcJellster
      @JellyMcJellster 10 років тому +6

      i honestly think it is way better to be a youtuber than an actualy famous movie/ singer/ anybody type of person. Fame puts alot of pressure on you, and people only like you for stuff that you stared in, not your actual ideas. When on youtube i think people really appreciate you for YOUR work. and not everyone is supportive of being a youtuber as a job but its who supports you and who dosnt. so id say no, dont give them an oscar even though they are more talented then anyone in this world.

    • @connorisnotbright
      @connorisnotbright 10 років тому +11

      UA-cam should never be considered a stepping stone to something bigger. People underestimate UA-cam and the people in it, this place is a treasure trove of talent and I think a lot of people are happy to be a part of it without using it as a way to move into something else. There's just something unique about UA-cam and I like it.

  • @danireilly1906
    @danireilly1906 10 років тому +4

    I keep coming back to this video, it's brilliant.

  • @DoggoMcGee
    @DoggoMcGee 8 років тому +28

    Oh great, I'm bawling my eyes out. It's been more than 3 months and this still captures my exact emotions.

  • @franckbynature5141
    @franckbynature5141 10 років тому +71

    Holy fuck this made me cry in the last 30 seconds.

    • @LeahLordVlogs
      @LeahLordVlogs 10 років тому +7

      I thought that was only me

    • @freerunnation5444
      @freerunnation5444 7 років тому

      FranckByNature Yep, last 30 seconds are devastating, way to real for me lol

  • @LostCompositions
    @LostCompositions 8 років тому +17

    The transcript for this could be a poem.

  • @GenuineFail
    @GenuineFail 10 років тому +12

    I only just watched this now. I can say this has vastly cheered me up and changed my whole mood of things. Just broke up with my long distance girlfriend of 1 year. Her decision, she was fine, I wasn't. Crying myself to sleep every night for a few weeks wasn't fun. I can definitely see myself being ok after this. Thank you, Tim.

  • @LucianWheelerLPW
    @LucianWheelerLPW 10 років тому +5

    That ending always sends chills down my spine

  • @AliJardz
    @AliJardz 10 років тому +16

    Goddamn this video is still freaking awesome.

  • @grovmanstudios
    @grovmanstudios Рік тому +2

    Saw this video when i was 15.
    Kinda thought It made sense and made a mental note to find if if I ever went through something like this.
    Here I am. 24 years old. 5 year relationship and 3 years living together ended 2 hours ago. While sitting here alone, feeling my world crashing down around me, the mental note from 10 years ago pooped into my head. 15 year old me had no f***ing idea how much this makes sense and how relatable it is.
    Most gut-wrenching feeling i have felt

  • @ragecake11
    @ragecake11 10 років тому +8

    i always find myself coming back to this video. it does something to me every time. and indescribable feeling

  • @aridelarosa8919
    @aridelarosa8919 9 років тому +4

    I always end up coming back to this video. The way he just bluntly explains nothing but the truth, this is what made me love Tim.

  • @lottas3561
    @lottas3561 10 років тому +9

    After this video, I subscribed. I love how you talk about heart break. It's exactly that: You quit. You don't want it anymore. You miss it. You'd do anything... You don't want to grow stronger and learn a lesson. You just want that person. And then, it passes.
    I just love you. Please stay like this... or get even better. But don't stop making videos.

  • @queenfangirl4666
    @queenfangirl4666 7 років тому +9

    This needs so many more views. I love the style; how it flips between the whole breaking-the-forth-wall and him talking to his friend ^V^

  • @esenozbay
    @esenozbay 7 років тому +5

    I somehow come back to watching this video a couple of times every year. I really like the thoughts and the way they are put. Even when you haven't been through a breakup it's touching.

  • @TheToTofilms
    @TheToTofilms 10 років тому +82

    I've never even had a girlfriend, and to be honest, I don't care. Relationships can wait until I have time for them. As of now... I have a life to take care of...

    • @wxjared
      @wxjared 10 років тому +12

      Good mindset

    • @willemheijn4076
      @willemheijn4076 10 років тому +2

      Grow up kid. love is something beautiful, and if you're not ready for it then fine. but dont go bragging about on the internet acting like you dont care...

    • @TheToTofilms
      @TheToTofilms 10 років тому +15

      Willem Heijn I'm not saying I DON'T want a girlfriend. It would be nice to have a girlfriend, but I'm fine without one. :)

    • @willemheijn4076
      @willemheijn4076 10 років тому

      well I respect that but these kids just act like they dont care, but they actually just got rejected....

    • @TheToTofilms
      @TheToTofilms 10 років тому +9

      Willem Heijn Well I've never been rejected, considering I've never really tried so there... :P

  • @mika____cbg
    @mika____cbg 9 років тому +5

    i always come back to this whenever i feel heartbroken and then i feel better again :-)

  • @Shannyleee
    @Shannyleee 10 років тому +2

    This is just one of my favourite videos that I've seen in ages and I keep coming back and watching it. How could you possibly not admire every aspect of this film?!

  • @qtbabe127
    @qtbabe127 6 років тому +1

    This film, this message, helped me get through my worst break up. It hurt every day, it hurt to breath, it hurt knowing he was with someone else.
    But then it happened: The pain stopped. Kind of slowly, like the way a scrapped knee heals. You find yourself picking and picking at the scab because it's new, it hurts. Some time passes, and you find yourself picking at it less and less. Then one day someone asks you how that scrapped knee is doing and you look down and realize it's healed. You're not sure when or how long it's been better, but it is.
    Fast forward 5 years and I'm in a new relationship, a better one, my best one actually. He's my best friend, my biggest supporter, my world.
    My ex is in a relationship too. They're just as happy as we are. And I'm actually happy for him. I'm glad he's found someone who makes him feel the way my S/O makes me feel. I'm glad he's happy.
    Right here, right now, 5 long years later, that sounds wonderful❤️

  • @Der_Arathok
    @Der_Arathok 10 років тому +25

    Thanks man... you are really helping me out here. My girlfriend of two years suddenly broke up with me. And it was only later when i realized it was both of us, which did wrong. But it hurts to face your own failures... To realize what YOU made wrong when you are at the point, reliving your relationship, and suddenly you see where it started to go wrong... And personally i hate myself for doing those things and for not doing the right things. All this happened 2 months ago. I don't know if she moved on but i didn't really... Of course my friends are telling me after 2 months it is time to move on and go partying and get to know another girl but i am not over her yet. Anyways, your video helped me alot. Thank you.

    • @keithmilligan7167
      @keithmilligan7167 10 років тому +1

      I am going through pretty much the same thing. A girlfriend of two years suddenly turns to you and tells you its over. And I agree, while you are in the relationship everything seems fine and dandy but after a bit of "single time", you start to realise everything that went wrong, that the relationship was dead long ago. But it's dwelling on these thoughts that really screws with us and makes us depressed and everything. It's better to focus on the good times. Sure, use the bad times to "improve" yourself, so to speak, but don't think about them too much. Stay strong, man. It mightn't get better for a while yet, but it sure as hell isn't going to get any worse. :)
      Also, I just noticed you commented on this five months ago, so that speech was probably a huge waste of time but ah well :D

    • @Der_Arathok
      @Der_Arathok 10 років тому +3

      Keith Milligan I still appreciate it very much. Thank you for putting your time and effort in your answer. To make it (hopefully?) worth your time, let me give you a little update. Still one Month after this comment, I didn't feel better at all... instead i thoought of doing... things. I really thought, that all of which I found to be fun and interesting, was only because of her... I even did not show up for my graduation test until my buddy kicked me out of my bed and dragged me there ( I even scored a B :D). After that i had much time to think... So i took a trip on my own. Not far away just like trekking a few days. but i needed to be alone. I found out a very important thing. You have "just" need to remember, how your life was before you got together with your SO... Remember that you did things happily not because of her but because of you... it is a really simple thought, i know; but it drags every other mental problem with it. Still yeah... it is The sudden change of beeing with someone for so long and from one day to another you are separated, which hurts and which one has to overcome. Thats what worked for me... and just like Tim H said, i got over it someday. What didn't help me was trying hard to forget her. It seemed easy but I never could do it, really. I still miss her sometimes, (sure it was a really good time) but i found new hobbies and got better soon. I now look back and I can say i learned much from this situation and it made me stronger (mostly emotically). And tell you what? I also started dating a girl again, and were are now together almost a month.
      Yeah. So thank you, again, for your time and I wish you best luck for everything. Have a nice evening. And also sorry for my bad english ^^"

    • @idkdude8795
      @idkdude8795 10 років тому +2

      AkolythArathok nice dude, i have a boyfriend, but i dont see him much we've been friends for quite a few years and started dating last year when i took him to a school dance, the reason i dont see him very much is because 3 years ago i move to another state, and he still lives in the old one, i miss him but it works out ya know? i love videogames and so does he so we play them together and talk, im jealousof my friends who see their boy/girlfriends like everyother day, even when i see mine like once a month, but i deal with it, im not sure why im posting this but there ya go, whatever. glad your doing good and good luck with a new girlfriend :D

  • @trulymadlyloveFF
    @trulymadlyloveFF 9 років тому +5

    I'm not expecting any feels from this video, just something cool. Or funny. Or basically anything but tears in my eyes. Yet, here I am, tears running down my cheeks and it feels like someone just slap me with truths.
    Thank you for this beautiful movie, my goodman. You just earn yourself a loyal subscriber. :)

  • @Jennym0n7y
    @Jennym0n7y 3 роки тому +1

    I thought about this during every break up through the last 7 years. I’m glad I found it again. That last little monologue is haunting.

  • @jeze456
    @jeze456 Рік тому +1

    I used to watch this alot 9 yrs ago and something told me to come back and it's still as brilliant as ever

  • @jmanners
    @jmanners 10 років тому +4

    I remember going through all these things about four months ago when my ex dumped me after over a year. Except instead of eating a bunch, I just kinda' stopped eating altogether. I became so sickly during the first couple of weeks because I wouldn't eat breakfast, barely any lunch, and very little dinner. And all during that entire time I stopped enjoying all the things I used to enjoy and would just sit in my room staring at the wall.

    • @lucyj5490
      @lucyj5490 10 років тому +1

      Well, are you okay now? :)

    • @jmanners
      @jmanners 10 років тому +1

      Lucy J Very much, thanks for asking!

    • @lucyj5490
      @lucyj5490 10 років тому +1

      Junga Boon Great! :) No problem!

    • @OfficialJustinFrando
      @OfficialJustinFrando 10 років тому

      I am exactly feeling like this right now with my girlfriend breaking up with me yesterday and we have been together for over 2 years.

    • @UsedAccount505
      @UsedAccount505 10 років тому

      Justin Frando That sucks dude. Just remember that if she couldn't stay in your life she didn't diverse to. Trust me, you will find someone even better.

  • @TheEFromHell
    @TheEFromHell 10 років тому +4

    This is without a doubt one of the best videos I have seen here on the 'tube. Hats off to you, sir.

  • @Eros12289
    @Eros12289 9 років тому +2

    Casually watching this in class and holding back them tears.
    You've summed up a relationship, the heartbreak you feel and how to deal with it... Yet, I can't stop seeing his face everywhere. I'm in a new relationship just to make myself feel better. Yes that isn't healthy but if its a temp happiness, its better then nothing. And yet, I feel completely destroyed whenever I hear him speak. His laugh, his voice... his face. I just don't know what else to do these days...
    So, I've always said this; "Walk in the void, before you walk a mile in their shoes"... Yeah, this just turned into a reflective sob story. It's just, I've never watched anything that truly describes how I feel.

  • @TimH
    @TimH  11 років тому

    I'm glad you got that part! A lot of people seem to have misunderstood that it was definitely intended to be ironic :) thanks for watching!

  • @SuperBlablablaxxx
    @SuperBlablablaxxx 8 років тому +15

    This needs so many more views.

  • @ricoRIC0paco
    @ricoRIC0paco 10 років тому +7

    well slap my ass and call me sally, this was brilliant, never thought i would find a video that would relate to me, and you sir, thank you, and thank god that the idea for this video ran through your mind, it was the best, well, one of the best videos i've seen on youtube.

  • @sh4peshifter480
    @sh4peshifter480 6 років тому +1

    This video was released 5 years ago, has 23k likes and less than 100 dislikes. THE POWER OF RELATABLENESS IS WITH YOU TIM!

  • @jonah8901
    @jonah8901 9 років тому +1

    I have watch this video at least 5 times over the past year or so and it still gives me shivers.

  • @silliestlily
    @silliestlily 9 років тому +15

    writing a college essay about this video, nbd

    • @silliestlily
      @silliestlily 5 років тому +2

      4 years later update: I don't comment on youtube videos anymore but I am still a huge Tim fan and I now go to the school I wrote this essay for

    • @sofial1405
      @sofial1405 5 років тому

      silliestlily congratulations!!!

    • @spottedflame5816
      @spottedflame5816 4 роки тому

      Can I read the essay?

  • @Noldorin92
    @Noldorin92 10 років тому +7

    man you're gonna be a great filmmaker and i will go see your movies

  • @lostismyconstent
    @lostismyconstent 10 років тому

    I wrote this comment seven months ago when I was with the love of my life. I had never loved anyone before him. I spent the best year of my life with him and three days ago I left him. I knew the quality behind this video when I first saw it but had no idea about how true the emotions behind it were. I have never hurt this much. Thank you for sharing this with us, you have no idea how much I appreciate being able to look back on this.

  • @playingwithsockets
    @playingwithsockets 6 років тому +1

    I have had this video favourited on my chrome ever since it came out just in case I will need it. I never thought I’d have to watch it. My girlfriend and I were together for 5 years, had a son and started building a life together. Hey I even proposed to her and promised to get the ring when we had more money. 2 months ago, my whole world fell before me when she wanted to break up. For the past 2 months I have been going out of my mind and I constantly called her to just even hear her voice. It’s a lot more difficult with a child because you can’t just walk away from each other. I still am feeling extremely lost and feel as if I’ve lost everything because what I wanted was there in front of me... a family. I still do want that. I still have high and extremely low moments where I can’t control it but for 2 months I have just stared at this video dreading to watch it. When it came out I thought “hey this will help me get out of it if my girlfriend and I split up” but it’s never as simple as you think it’s going to be. I now have finally watched it and it has picked me up a bit and just to feel like I’m not the only one. Thank you Tim

    • @LukeGartland
      @LukeGartland 6 років тому +1

      PlayingWithSockets hey, hang in there buddy. I'm right there with you

  • @ChloeNarice
    @ChloeNarice 8 років тому +8

    This was actually kind of really beautiful

  • @Ari-ql8em
    @Ari-ql8em 8 років тому +51

    Yo, is breaking up with someone like finishing a really good anime? I've never been dumped so that's the closest I think I might get to feeling like that.

    • @legendoftherxnt1802
      @legendoftherxnt1802 8 років тому +2

      +Inspiria Wow, that's something I never thought about! Almost identical i'd say, but much more intense.

    • @joywolf83
      @joywolf83 8 років тому +3

      Yeh only thing is after watching the anime, you can never watch it again

    • @Ari-ql8em
      @Ari-ql8em 8 років тому +1

      Fox Holmes Yeah, I guess it could be a show, or game. Its just that I was going through a rough time after finishing Ouran High School Host Club. *Sniff* (Yeah so I read all of your comment, sue me. Actually don't please its just a play on words.)

    • @pootisspencer9586
      @pootisspencer9586 8 років тому +1

      Inspiria
      Here are your summons. Be in court on Tuesday. About half a million ought to do it. :3

    • @Ari-ql8em
      @Ari-ql8em 8 років тому +1

      Like, tomorrow Tuesday? If so, ahh sorry bubby I can't do it then. I got some other court business to attend to. Also, would, like I dunno, a cake work instead of half a million dollars?

  • @PotterfreakXD
    @PotterfreakXD 10 років тому +1

    I don't think I'll ever get tired of watching this amazing video.

  • @Davnyissocoollike
    @Davnyissocoollike 8 років тому +1

    I always turn to this video when I need to cry, it's so emotive

  • @aydeederix8566
    @aydeederix8566 7 років тому +16

    Totally didn't come here to see them kiss🌚

  • @AnnaWoods
    @AnnaWoods 7 років тому +4

    wow powerful ending

  • @shushimaninja
    @shushimaninja 11 років тому

    Every time I feel upset or sad I come and watch this because it reminds me that I'm not alone in my feelings. And that someone out there perfectly understands how I feel.

  • @rachel_c_frey
    @rachel_c_frey 11 років тому

    The ending part is so true. No matter how many times you say to your self, "it'll get better, you know it will." it doesn't help the fact that right now, you feel like your world is ending.

  • @SmitheTalsen
    @SmitheTalsen 7 років тому +7

    This is a fucking weird but god damn amazing video

  • @Daleksaresupreme1
    @Daleksaresupreme1 9 років тому +8

    Hmmm my revenge fantasies tend to involve more power tools.

  • @rachelle.alexis
    @rachelle.alexis Рік тому

    Saw this 2013, still remember it after all this time. What a gem.❤️

  • @mellongbottom
    @mellongbottom 11 років тому

    This video is one of my all time favorite videos on UA-cam. I re-watch it all the time... From the bottom of my heart, thank you Tim H.

  • @gardenofroses197
    @gardenofroses197 9 років тому +3

    Can someone please explain why breakups are so hard? I mean, you can still be good friends. What's the difference? What does it mean to be in a relationship with someone and why is it different from just a strong friendship?

    • @cruxmind
      @cruxmind 9 років тому +1

      There's two type of people after a break up. The 'I MISS U's and the 'MOVE ON's. I, being the 'I MISS YOU' person at this moment, would be the best perspective to answer your question right now.
      The 'MISS YOU's are the ones that have been together for months or years with a very strong bond together. When they break up, it'll NEVER end well. No matter how you see it, something will fuck up a break up like this for good. One of them will still love them and the other may hate them with sudden, impulsive feelings to talk to them.
      The 'MOVE ONS' in your perspective are ones that can move on with no emotional attachment.
      The difference is its harder when you feel emotionally attached to a person. Some people are more emotional and sensitive than others. I feel in your case, you don't have that feeling of attachment. Once you do experience it, you'll answer your own ignorant question yourself.

    • @gardenofroses197
      @gardenofroses197 9 років тому +1

      From what I've seen, being in a "relationship" is more trouble than it's worth... I'd rather have best friends.

    • @charlottecrook8995
      @charlottecrook8995 9 років тому

      I thought this I've had this with "boyfriends" until my last boyfriend. He was still very close friends with all his exes and was still hungover one. When I eventually broke up with him I explained I couldn't do it he loved his ex he needed to talk to her and not have a "rebound" I explained I'd be there if he wanted me to be and that I didnt want to end it but he was having non of it. He blocked me on all social media, and if we ever see each other will glare at me, I think it depends on the person and how they feel and what relationship people want

    • @roosterbooster9008
      @roosterbooster9008 9 років тому

      Have you ever broken up with someone? I haven't. I see all the people who have, and i think to myself: "What if this happens to me?". I am not the person who deals well with losing someone. Nobody does, i know, but i am the kind of person who will take 75% of a year, sobbing in bed, before actually getting over with it. The experiences i have had, are all death related. I see all my friends crying over breakups and telling me its the end of the world and calling all women heartless, or all men pigs, and i wonder...
      ...what will happen when it's my turn to feel the breakup?

    • @roosterbooster9008
      @roosterbooster9008 9 років тому

      ***** Oooh deeear...

  • @marmiteghost
    @marmiteghost 7 років тому +5

    holy shit is this abt hannah witton

  • @beatriztoledo551
    @beatriztoledo551 9 років тому +1

    Even after a year and a half, this is still my favorite youtube videos

  • @TrulySincerelyMe
    @TrulySincerelyMe 11 років тому

    I cried. I giggled, I smiled, I nodded, I shared experiences. OMG Man. This was beautiful. Please, never stop.

  • @shaunlomax1
    @shaunlomax1 8 років тому +4

    I know it's not really the point and that in the vid it was a joke but it always bothers me when - straight guys in particular - say they wish they were gay so they don't have to deal with girls - for one thing gay guys have to deal with all the same relationship stuff as straight guys.... afterall; being messed up, crazy, needy or anything like that isn't gender specific.... then there is the idea that gay guys have it easy, that sex is easy and relationships too... well yeah its easier to find a one-night stand if you're gay, but for that reason, its way harder to actually find someone who wants to stay with you as much as you want to stay with them.... then there are higher demands on what you should and shouldn't look like and how you should and shouldn't behave.... then there's the whole "my friends and family might reject me" thing too.... I don't mean to be a downer or anything but I feel like if you don't speak up about these concerns they won't get noticed Other than that another amazing video :)

  • @beccas3034
    @beccas3034 8 років тому +4

    A+
    10/10
    better than John Cena

  • @foundationsmedicalinformat2420
    @foundationsmedicalinformat2420 4 роки тому

    Just sent this video to my brother, I sent it to him years ago after one of his breakups because it helped me through one of mine. He just asked for it to share with his girlfriend’s cousin because he is currently going though a hard breakup. It’s amazing how many people have been impacted by one person’s creative work. Thank you for this

  • @cloj63
    @cloj63 9 років тому +2

    I really liked that video.
    I just have the feeling, though, that those memories and emotions never really go away; it always stay a part of you. Only by growing that it can fades away; becoming a lesser part of you not because it vanishes, but because you are becoming so much more.
    I guess it is different for everyone though...

  • @morgansmumbles
    @morgansmumbles 8 років тому +17

    sucks to be you im aromantic

    • @harperbone5908
      @harperbone5908 8 років тому +1

      +Morgans Mumbles i was actually just about to comment how interesting this was to watch as an arospec person :-)

  • @rosettedleopard
    @rosettedleopard 10 років тому +1

    :) Just when this video came out I was that stereotypical friend who could never understand why people could be stay depressed and heartbroken weeks and even months after when their relationship ended. Then it happened to me. I fell. I fell in love, but unfortunately it was never meant to be. And it hurts when you look back at everything - when you were happy with that person. The worst is the memories that get triggered suddenly. Anyways, thanks Tim :) This video actually helped a lot.

  • @torisaurus5
    @torisaurus5 9 років тому

    When I first watched this I hadn't ever been in a relationship. Watching it two years later and having been in a relationship that he ended is making me see it in a whole new light. I relate to this video so much, everything that was said in this was exactly how I was feeling after my breakup. It's amazing how one thing can make you see things so differently.

  • @firestar027
    @firestar027 9 років тому +1

    This is... i can't even describe it. It's beautiful. It still had some humor, but it's just amazing. One of the best UA-cam videos by far. Good job, Tim.

    • @firestar027
      @firestar027 8 років тому +1

      One year later, here i am. Experiencing exactly what's happening in this video. I considered myself the rational friend who didn't understand why people got so worked up over breakups. And whoopty doo: It happened to me. Now i'm sitting bawling my eyes out with a bunch of sugary crap i know is bad for me. I don't even like sweets all that much. This makes me feel kinda better about how i'm acting, but... still hurts like absolute hell.

  • @HungwanaBossCollective
    @HungwanaBossCollective 8 років тому +1

    I literally laughed the whole time. This really made my day I can relate and it feels so good to say no to your ex. Your really good at captureing emotion. I really am happy you are okay. Thank you for making this

  • @TheBatFromSpace
    @TheBatFromSpace 11 років тому

    When one of my friends have broken up with their girlfriend / boyfriend do I always show them this. And the reaction has always been a lot of tears, but they have been feeling a bit better afterwards. And when ever I am sad, I watch this video, and realise that I'm not the only one that is sad, even though I'm not going through a break up. Because this is my favorite film och UA-cam and I am so thankful for it.

  • @zakford3845
    @zakford3845 10 років тому

    Ive watched this over and over again. I can't hell but to cry at the end.

  • @hedwigcanfly
    @hedwigcanfly 11 років тому

    Every time I watch this I get Merry Christmas Jack Howard stuck in my head. Merry Christmaaaas, Jack Howaaard!

  • @iloveB1TCHCRAFT
    @iloveB1TCHCRAFT 11 років тому +1

    “Tis better to have loved and lost
    Than never to have loved at all.”
    ― Alfred Tennyson,

  • @rumpt1549
    @rumpt1549 10 років тому +1

    Literally a perfect video. This is exactly my life right now, and I can't thank you enough for making this video! Thanks for the link Tom Ska and I look forward to being subscribed to you, Tim H, for more videos from you!!!!

  • @williamfernandez990
    @williamfernandez990 11 років тому

    I always have these times where I feel like I need to be near these people. They're far between but when they come, they're almost unstoppable. They seem to have such great souls.

  • @isacfilms
    @isacfilms 11 років тому

    I think I've gone back and rewatched this about 20 times. Not only is this beautifully made, the cinematography, the script itself, the acting etc. What makes me come back is what you say at 4:30. That's exactly how I've felt and before I saw this film, I've never found anyone that felt the same/expressed it in that way. Thank you for making this, and I'm looking forward to Project Library!

  • @szpaqus
    @szpaqus 11 років тому

    [stands up and claps] Thank you. I cried. I've been lonely for 6 months now and I still feel down about break up. But this... I'm going to send this to every friend who's going through break up. All the understanding you need, all word put together in one video.

  • @Silkbeardable
    @Silkbeardable 10 років тому

    UGH the feels. The truth, the hurt and ALL THE BLOODY FEELS.

  • @samadams8533
    @samadams8533 6 років тому +1

    It's 6 am, I've been up since 12:30 trying to find this video, because of that damn quote at the end being the only thing I could remember after seeing this 5 years ago: "it's just that right now, right here, in this moment, that sounds terrible" That damn quote has had such an impact on me, fuck you and thank you for this haunting video that stuck with me.

  • @gotosleepeli
    @gotosleepeli 4 роки тому

    I remember this coming out within a few days of going through a breakup. I watched it a lot through the course of that, and have still returned every once in awhile over the years. That ending still hits the same.

  • @fruitisnotsoup7355
    @fruitisnotsoup7355 9 років тому +2

    i've never been in a proper relationship so i can't relate right now, but if/when it happens and it all comes crashing down, i'm going to come back and watch this video.

  • @rowenacassondumont4897
    @rowenacassondumont4897 11 років тому

    The last bit was so incredibly true! when you're in a relationship and when you're that happy with someone else... the thought of losing them is terrible!

  • @khaizer1476
    @khaizer1476 5 місяців тому

    Whenever i came to this situation... i always come back to this video... thank you

  • @How2SayFuqALot
    @How2SayFuqALot 9 років тому

    I honestly love this video. The last bit always gives me like..those gut wrenching shivers you get when you want to sob. But it's kind of a good feeling. I think of a few women that have been in my life when i watch this video. And once it's over it reminds me that those relationships are too. So thank you, tim. You've helped more than you realize. honestly.

  • @MrsRandomocityness
    @MrsRandomocityness 11 років тому

    Thank you Tim. You made me cry and laugh, and then contemplate life. If you can do that to people in a five minute video, you deserve a cookie. A really big cookie. The size of the sun.

  • @LittleMissLunar
    @LittleMissLunar Рік тому

    I've come back to this video a few times over the years. Always sad to return, but happy it's still here to help.

  • @Colaholicjerk
    @Colaholicjerk 2 роки тому

    I never realized how much I needed this until now. Damn. Thank you Tim :)

  • @donesk3y
    @donesk3y 10 років тому

    Easily my favourite video on UA-cam. You have the perfect mix of humour and sincerity. Plus your use of Matt Lobster and Jack Howard just bring this vid up to a 10/10!
    Thank you so much for making this :)

  • @cheekyzoombies4588
    @cheekyzoombies4588 7 років тому

    Honestly I've never read/watched anything that's explained this so well. You took everything that I never thought I could experience (And literally have been dealing with for about 3 weeks now) And turned it into a video that explains those feelings so well. Truly a work of art.

  • @TimH
    @TimH  11 років тому

    It wasn't really meant to have any particular message. The video was meant to try and capture the moment, the way things feel when you've just been broken up with. If you're looking for a message it's basically me saying "break-ups suck"...
    But if you didn't find it funny fair enough :)

  • @shushimaninja
    @shushimaninja 8 років тому +1

    And even to this day, this still remains my favorite piece that you've ever done. It makes me feel and I come to it any time there's a pain in my chest that I can't get past because somehow, this video helps. Thank you.

  • @caiknbake
    @caiknbake 10 років тому +1

    I saw this film at the VidCon Intermix screening and loved it! So glad to have discovered your channel :D

  • @warbegins4741
    @warbegins4741 5 років тому

    Every time I feel broken-hearted I watch this video... And here we are again

  • @elliem0802
    @elliem0802 11 років тому

    I was one of the people requesting this at the creator panel at Summer in the City, because I never get bored watching it, even though I've seen it so many times. It's beautiful. My favourite video of yours by far. :)

  • @caseym8245
    @caseym8245 8 років тому +2

    Today, I broke up with my girlfriend of two years and almost three months. Tomorrow, yesterday I broke up with my girlfriend of two years and even closer to three months. This film beat me up a for a bit then it explained why and apologized through comforting me. Thank you for creating this work of art.

  • @claudefaustusloverqp4857
    @claudefaustusloverqp4857 6 років тому +1

    *YASSSS MATT'S APPEARANCE WAS BEAUTIFUL*