As a man you have to set your boundaries, but women will test you no matter what. It is the way they are designed to test how deep the pool is. She needs a framework and boundaries to know how to relate to your environment. She also adresses your weaknesses, so that you can discover what you can work on. View this positively and you will achieve more rather than viewing it as a misbehavior of toxic femininity. From a guy.
yes, understanding feminine testing is crucial. it is (as you say) how she'll determine what you're made of. on boundaries: it's also important to distinguish what is toxic feminine testing (a.k.a projecting past pain) vs. what's a legitimate test, and then set a boundary around not tolerating her projecting unhealed wounds onto you. better still, be the man who can help her heal those wounds. and this is why i qualify this video at the start, saying it is a man's responsibility as to what he tolerates and how he responds to having his shadows called out. having a conscious woman helping you grow as a man is one of the great gifts in life - but it's predicated upon his maturity to handle that and set boundaries around toxic behavior.
This is an important video for men to watch. I appreciate you making with video to bring up many ways partners can demean you, regardless of gender. Toxic behaviours go both ways and need to be watch for. As for, mocking and degrading character, this happens to both genders (not to lessen what happens to men ) many men and women use the public or friends situations to degrade their partner to make them more lenient and insecure. Mocking masculine traits, can be bad for both sides. If a woman naturally has these traits men tend to bully her into being more “feminine” and vice versa. Then criticizing competes and skills again happens to both, i have seen the trend of women making videos about how men don’t know how to do things and mock them. that’s never okay! For any to do. Everyone learns how to do things and unfortunately many men were never taught or never bothered to learn. Nonetheless, I do appreciate light being put on toxic behaviours. I find it very interesting to learn about male perspectives without a pre-tense of women hating but to have an honest conversation. Can’t wait to hear more!
thanks for the comment. right, no pre-tense of women hating. what's important is to have the two way discussion. sadly my impression is that the relationship space is quite often a one-way talk, where men and masculinity are denigrated and demeaned pretty strongly. and more and more women are jumping on the band wagon and holding these strong views (obviously as reactionary to having had bad experiences). however, without taking accountability for their own behaviour. the culture is telling women they can do no wrong. and certainly, this isn't to neglect all the shit that men can do in relationships. the thing is, if a woman wants to be with a man and bring out the best in him, or keep a good man, she need to know how her treatment impacts him (vice versa also). women out there saying the want a king, but are anything but the embodiment of queen energy. it's on one partner to set the standard and model respect and healthy challenge, which calls each other forward, not beats them down. we all need to know the distinction between toxic feminine testing and divine feminine testing.
@@fredday091 exactly! I do find that, that culture of women bashing men is growing and that’s not how things should be. Like you said there should be an open discussion between them about what is hurtful and how to do it in a healthy progressive way that way everyone wins and are able to grow to be their best selves! As well as, how every relationship is unique and how to make sure all of them are healthy for both men and women
Do you not realize that feminists have been talking about this for decades in academic circles? One of the big problems I see is men rejecting feminism and then basically trying to remake feminism without taking input from women. So men come up with stuff like this which is essentially trying to sell someone a square wheel and then wonder why so many people, both men and women, don't take them seriously as intellectuals. People also do with with science. Reject the consensus of the scientific community and then co-opt scientific language to make internet videos about putting forth their own opinions and calling it "doing their own research". The main difference between feminists and guys like this is that feminists don't believe that a man has to meet certain arbitrary ideals of manhood while these guys try to push the same old ideas about masculinity using more modern language.
3 words to destroy a man's confidence - "Is it in?"
"Yeah, are you dilating tho'?"
Just reply with "I don't know".
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As a man you have to set your boundaries, but women will test you no matter what. It is the way they are designed to test how deep the pool is. She needs a framework and boundaries to know how to relate to your environment. She also adresses your weaknesses, so that you can discover what you can work on. View this positively and you will achieve more rather than viewing it as a misbehavior of toxic femininity. From a guy.
yes, understanding feminine testing is crucial. it is (as you say) how she'll determine what you're made of. on boundaries: it's also important to distinguish what is toxic feminine testing (a.k.a projecting past pain) vs. what's a legitimate test, and then set a boundary around not tolerating her projecting unhealed wounds onto you. better still, be the man who can help her heal those wounds. and this is why i qualify this video at the start, saying it is a man's responsibility as to what he tolerates and how he responds to having his shadows called out. having a conscious woman helping you grow as a man is one of the great gifts in life - but it's predicated upon his maturity to handle that and set boundaries around toxic behavior.
You can also just silently walk away when she get's annoying. Very powerful.
Public humiliation would be an instant break up for me.
absolutely
seen it happen to buddy. it's cringe. and painful.
@@fredday091I caught my girlfriend sit into another man car. What should I say and do to her ?
This is an important video for men to watch. I appreciate you making with video to bring up many ways partners can demean you, regardless of gender. Toxic behaviours go both ways and need to be watch for. As for, mocking and degrading character, this happens to both genders (not to lessen what happens to men ) many men and women use the public or friends situations to degrade their partner to make them more lenient and insecure. Mocking masculine traits, can be bad for both sides. If a woman naturally has these traits men tend to bully her into being more “feminine” and vice versa. Then criticizing competes and skills again happens to both, i have seen the trend of women making videos about how men don’t know how to do things and mock them. that’s never okay! For any to do. Everyone learns how to do things and unfortunately many men were never taught or never bothered to learn. Nonetheless, I do appreciate light being put on toxic behaviours. I find it very interesting to learn about male perspectives without a pre-tense of women hating but to have an honest conversation.
Can’t wait to hear more!
thanks for the comment. right, no pre-tense of women hating. what's important is to have the two way discussion. sadly my impression is that the relationship space is quite often a one-way talk, where men and masculinity are denigrated and demeaned pretty strongly. and more and more women are jumping on the band wagon and holding these strong views (obviously as reactionary to having had bad experiences). however, without taking accountability for their own behaviour. the culture is telling women they can do no wrong.
and certainly, this isn't to neglect all the shit that men can do in relationships. the thing is, if a woman wants to be with a man and bring out the best in him, or keep a good man, she need to know how her treatment impacts him (vice versa also). women out there saying the want a king, but are anything but the embodiment of queen energy. it's on one partner to set the standard and model respect and healthy challenge, which calls each other forward, not beats them down. we all need to know the distinction between toxic feminine testing and divine feminine testing.
@@fredday091 exactly! I do find that, that culture of women bashing men is growing and that’s not how things should be. Like you said there should be an open discussion between them about what is hurtful and how to do it in a healthy progressive way that way everyone wins and are able to grow to be their best selves! As well as, how every relationship is unique and how to make sure all of them are healthy for both men and women
Do you not realize that feminists have been talking about this for decades in academic circles?
One of the big problems I see is men rejecting feminism and then basically trying to remake feminism without taking input from women.
So men come up with stuff like this which is essentially trying to sell someone a square wheel and then wonder why so many people, both men and women, don't take them seriously as intellectuals.
People also do with with science. Reject the consensus of the scientific community and then co-opt scientific language to make internet videos about putting forth their own opinions and calling it "doing their own research".
The main difference between feminists and guys like this is that feminists don't believe that a man has to meet certain arbitrary ideals of manhood while these guys try to push the same old ideas about masculinity using more modern language.
These things sound much like narcissistic abuse.
no doubt a lot of overlap. a lot i talk about here is manipulation and coercion, which are classic strategies deployed by narcissists.
No, it's just female nature.
injections that would work
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