Thank you for watching! After seeing the before/after toward the end of the video, how do you like my decorating so far?? Keep in mind, it's FAR from being finished and there are a ton of changes I'll be making. But at least it's starting to feel a little more like home. I'm thinking it's heading in sort of a dark boho, groovy, rock and roll vibe, so stay tuned! 🖤🎸☮
Oral allergies are a pain. I am allergic to all stone fruit, but thankfully avocado is not one. If you have bad seasonal allergies, it can create this sensitivity.
Your doing a fantastic job. Love the sofa and keep the chair they look great together. Plus you got to keep the cat happy 😂. Where did you get the lamp it’s really cool.
Absolutely beautiful, I'd love to see some of your studio apartment decor repeated here. You seemed so happy there and your home was so lovely and really seemed to express yourself. I hope your lip heals soon. Best wishes to new beginnings and being true to ourselves🌺.
Not gonna lie. I cried and broke plates when I moved in my current. Also thank You for sharing with Us. I'm sorry You had such a bad experience and time heals. My grandma said it's like a scar. You get reminded of the hurt but the skin is tougher when it heals. Also brandy and pralines and cream ice cream helps! I hope to see this works out for You and Helo. It already looks good.
I have always loved your rugs, but that new lamp could now be in the lead for my affections. My favorite part is the Apartment itself being just yours. The most GORGEOUS affect in it is Freedom! "FREEEEEEDOOOOOOMMMmm!!!" (Channeling scene from Braveheart). Steffi, I am so grateful that you addressed the mix of pain with hope, plentiful exstistential dread and a dash of despair that can and often does move with a person. Most important issue to address in the designing of one's apt is the emotional process that can be crippling. Your sharing that journey with us is going to be a most important tool for guiding why a pretty Apartment is medicine for the soul. The "why" behind the motivation. I say this as you are moving me towards more action to reclaim myself expression through my decor and still remain married (😂 felt good things when he moved in, but in giving him space, i lost my way in expression). I have definitely held way back on design choices that would make me feel alive, for fear really, of his not understanding the vision. Maybe having a negative response before its finished. How we blend this reality with respect to others we live with, is huge dilemma for so many of us. Would love some guidance (even in a linked example)? Stay strong Steffi, your voice is one so desperately needed that design runs so much deeper in its transformative powers than the vision of the room. You are truly a sorceress❤ You embody that wisdom so beautifully.
The best content creators are those that keep it real. We are your supporters and you can cry and have an apartment with stuff everywhere because you're supposed to. As I watched this video tour I thought to myself, this is what your life looks like after a man comes into it and then leaves. We are left to pick up the pieces and put them back together again🙄. Pace yourself, this is after all your life. You've been given an opportunity to decorate a new home making it beautiful and making it yours🤓 STAY STRONG...HE'S GONE...DON'T HESITATE... DECORATE😻
You are an inspiration. I'm 65 and you have taught me so much. Styling tips yes but also life skills. You have no idea dear who your videos reach and the impact they have. I'm sending warm wishes and love. You will get through this time.
I don’t know if you will remember me but I am the less talented sports twin that your grandpa coached. We played with your youngest aunt. I just wanted to say you have the spirit and gumption of your family running in your veins. I am proud of you that you once again realized your worth and got out. You are a beautiful person inside and out. I hope you find healing and calm in your new apartment. I love your tips and tricks. Keep going girl. You got this. ❤️
Even though I don’t know you personally, I hope you will accept my heartfelt sympathy for you as you are obviously struggling through something very difficult. I hope you find healing and strength in your new home.
I think it's nice that you can be honest about you're feeling. We're here for the raw real shit all day, and I think most of us have felt the pain you're in now at some point. You deserve to not have to pretend when you don't have the energy to do so. Loving the living room and the bedroom so far!
Steffi, thanks so much for sharing your moving experience. I'm having to move soon, and it is such an emotional time, esp when in an abusive living situation I have to get out of. I joined a healing group and it has been helpful. Know that we are here for you. Stay your authentic self. Love to you and Helo ❤❤
I love your channel, and it’s the only decorating channel I follow. Have you ever heard the phrase “don’t should on yourself”? Your feelings are 100% valid as they are and there’s no way you “should” be feeling. This stranger offering totally unsolicited advice(which I hope is not unhelpful) just hopes you can be gentle and compassionate with yourself while you heal, because at least from personal experience, resisting my true feelings or feeling guilty about them makes it even harder, at least for me. This stranger is rooting for you and your healing, no matter how long it takes. ❤️
Hello Steffi, I can feel you. I came out of a toxic family and had a very painful break-up with a narcissistic partner who made me allergic and afraid of commitment many years ago. Until the universe proved me wrong. Today, they gave me the little angel who became my husband and the warmest family love I've ever had (love from my in-laws family). Please don't give up on being a beautiful and inspiring person in such a difficult time. Take your time to rest and heal your wounds. But never give up! Once you've made your new armor shine, the Universe will give you the best gift you could ever imagine and deserve. Take care
Love that chair in that new space actually. It makes the living room look cozy and intimate for when you have guests but yet with plenty of space. Remember it just takes time to mend a heart. You will be ok at the end.
Your statement about leaving things behind when you move hit me hard. I moved 3 months ago to a new place with almost no connections. I left behind a life I'd built for myself over nearly 10 years. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, but I still don't feel completely happy here. Thanks for always being real and honest with us. I hope you know that you never have to be happy or feel like you need to pretend. Of course we all want to see you happy, but we know that this is your journey of healing. We're just a small portion of the internet, but we support you no matter what and want the very best for you.
Right now you're stuck in the "messy middle" which is, at the best of times, kind of chaotic. Moves in general are not the best of times. Moves like this one are even more so. Just know it gets better and you're headed towards it being gorgeous. I do like the idea of you getting a big wallpaper for the bedroom, either the same as the one you had before (because you loved that one) or something similar but different (for a fresh start, without associations). Things are starting to fall into place and I'm sure it's already looking more cohesive without the random household clutter lying out (given that this was filmed 2 or 3 weeks ago, I believe). You can totally do this and it's already starting to look like your style is coming to the front.
I hope by the time this posts that you're into decorating mode - I know that will be a healing process for you. Your emotions sound like mine when I got out of a five-year relationship with a narcissist. I felt like I totally lost myself, my confidence, and everything I liked about being me. Detangling from the relationship was messy and heartbreaking, but a couple of years away from it and in my own space and I've regained everything I've lost, plus some wisdom and life lessons. I don't know if that's similar to your experience, but if so, know that there are some really good moments awaiting you as you rediscover things you thought you'd lost. Thank you for your honesty and authenticity. I'm looking forward to watching the new place transform.
Not depressing. Just real. I've been through a couple moves like this as well & your content helped me get oriented in my style during those times. Healing sometimes hurts a LOT, even as we recognize the progress we're making & it's so valuable to see that process in all its complicated glory. Thanks for the gift of sharing your journey. The intensity of the pain does pass & the best path isn't over, under, around - it's through. Just right goddamn through. It sucks but it's worth it on the other side. You got this.
God bless your new journey ahead. Change is tough. But greatness is ahead. Always value you. You deserve light never darkness ❤ Keep sharing beauty❤❤🙏🏾❤❤
Loving the new apartment. Girl, it was a lesson and you passed the test. The challenge now is to remember the lesson. We are champions and we thrive Keep doing what makes your heart sour it looks good on you.❤❤❤
Please remember that you are pretty powerful too ❤ Sending lots of hugs to you, things will get easier. The apartment is looking great already - looking forward to seeing how you choose the style it. Take care of yourself first though xx
Thank you for being real. I know how hard it is to move, and move away from the life you had. My husband and I retired and moved from Tacoma to Richland to be near his family. It damn near killed us; despite the fact that it has turned out to be a great and loving place to be. I send you healing and hope for closure for you. Just remember the pain is so fresh it takes time. The apartment looks great already and looks like your wonderful style.
So proud of you Steffi for moving foreward even though you are going through so much. You are a brave women and your story resonates with me ( and no doubt many others) I love your style and your place is alreadying starting to look so cozy! I am not happy that you have to go through what you are going through but at the same time for your viewers who have experianced something similar it can feel oddly comforting knowing that we are not alone, that someone else understands the heart wrenching pain we are or have gone though. I hope your journey of healing comes with peace and comfort in the midst of what can often times feel like hell and chaos. You will be stronger on the other side! No doubt in my mind! ⭐Blessings from Canada! ♥
Thank you so much for your kind words. They mean so much to me! I hate that so many of us have gone through this pain, but I agree - something about hearing someone else talk about it can be so comforting. 😊
Just know you're doing well. It may not feel like it sometimes, but you are. As a 58 year old woman, I can tell you, your feelings are valid and you are not alone in how you feel. Most women have been there. We learn and cherish those lessons. Don't be afraid to love again and never be bitter. God gave women the best power ever, our Intuition. We are taught growing up to ignore it. Never ignore it! . As usual your place is lovely and unique. I look forward to future videos 💜
Thank you for being so real and being so open to showing your vulnerability 💜 I experienced the ending of an almost 15 year relationship a year ago and its been so hard and it often feels like no one gets how much damage it had left me with. They expect me to just "get over it" and its just not possible for me, its further complicated by my being mentally and chronically ill, and honestly completely lonely and without support. Anyway I guess my point is that sometimes seeing someone (especially someone that you honestly I guess kind of idolise 😅) being so real and so open just makes you feel less alone. I am sad that you are experiencing such sadness and stress but thank you for not pretending otherwise 💜 I adore watching your videos and seeing the beautiful ways in which you express your creativity. I hope that you will continue being your amazing self, that you will focus on your healing, and that you will continue to bring us along on your journey 💜 Thank you for being you 😊💜 Also loving what you have achieved so far in your new home, and can't wait to see what you do with it in the future 💜
Aw I'm so sorry to hear about what you've gone through. I can't even imagine leaving such a long relationship, and the idea that you should just "get over it" is absolutely preposterous to me. It's going to take time, and that's okay!
@ModaMisfit Thank you, yeah we had been together since I was 15 😔 I wanted to fight for the relationship and try to work through it but he did not 😔 So now I just have to try to figure out how to live without the person I really believed I would be with for life 😮💨😔 I think people often don't realise that not all relationship breakdowns are the same 🤔 some leave us with more baggage than others but everyone expects you to get over them the same way they did but there isn't any one size fits all when it comes to heartbreak (or anything else for that matter 🤷♀️). So yeah I hope you will not let people tell you how to get through what you are going through, you need to get through it how you need to 💜
Love that you're keeping it real. No point in putting yourself through the stress of trying to be fake happy for the camera....the heartbreak shows through anyway. I'm sure many of us can relate, I know I can. I've had more than my share of heartbreak in life. So happy that you're in the healing process and bravely taking your life back. Sending all good energy and looking forward to watching your process. Thank you for sharing with us! Also, love the new place and it's looking fab so far! Much love!
Aw thank you! You're right - heartbreak shows through, and I could sense that as I was acting upbeat and happy. So I was just like eff it, let's fess up to the sadness. Otherwise, I think you guys would have watched and thought "hmm something seems off with her..." Best to just be authentic!
In my opinion this video makes you so much more relatable. So I thank you for being vulnerable with us and hope you know that you’re not alone. I’ve been in the emotional rollercoaster that is moving post-breakup and it is tough. You got this! Hang in there.
You'll be fine! You've done the hardest part already, calling an end to a bad relationship. That's good survival and you can take back control in your life without someone hurting you that doesn't belong with you after all. Lesson learned. The place is shaping up nicely. Love the sofa style and color in particular, and good choice with the pillows on it. Best wishes to you in your new home.
I do not know specifics of your situation. But I know what you are going through, and how hard it is to rediscover yourself. Reclaiming your own space in the world is the first step. Just know we all see you as brave and lovely and look forward to all the new content. It is okay to mourn and be sad. It is okay to take time to become the new you.
Oh Steffi it's so nice to see you blooming again (and not only from the upper lip 😅)!! This transition is hard but necessary... be gentle with yourself as you have to mourn a relationship and the hopes you had for it, on top of all the changes. I believe you seem in pretty good spirit overall, you'll be just fine but let the emotions pass. Remember we're all here to encourage you and cheer for you. 🥰 Sidenote : if I can give you (and everyone) one good advice when moving : set the bedroom first (you've already pretty much done it!) and keep it completely free of chaos, boxes, etc. so you can retreat there when the mess feels overwhelming. That trick saved my sanity MANY times!
Definitely agree about setting up the bedroom first! For exactly the reason you stated - so you have at least one place of refuge away from the chaos, haha.
YOU ARE POWERFUL!!!!! Thank you for sharing, you are so so brave and strong. Leaving a bad situation is the gift you give yourself. Peace and healing are your reward. I love your space so far, I'm sure you are enjoying the process (after you clear the clutter) 😊. Take care.
Hey... Do not feel bad about showing your sadness. You are helping your viewers because many of us are also going through sadness and heartbreak for many reasons. It is "bittersweet" this move. You have given me the inspiration to heal my own sadness through allowing myself to be creative and make my surroundings a beautiful healing place. Please know the good you are doing for others.
"Bittersweet" is exactly it. And I can't tell you how much it means to me to read that you feel inspired to heal your sadness with the help of your space. That's literally why this channel exists; to inspire you to create a space that gives you little sparkles of joy on a daily basis!
Steffi, I love your videos! It takes a lot to bare your soul, and I appreciate your courage, honesty, and love your creativity! "Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end."-Closing Time by Supersonic January of this year, I moved from an 850 sqft one bedroom apartment to a 250 sqft studio! As you said, "Moving comes with baggage," and I had a lot! Deciding to donate some of the items that didn't fit or that took up too much space was difficult because of emotional attachments, but donate them I did! Seven months later, after getting rid of the clutter, I love my new place, and I am quite pleased with how I've set it up.
Love the new couch and the new decor - the living room looks super. Myself, I can’t stand the early weeks of a move, where you’re wondering where on earth to put everything, keep tripping over boxes, etc. I hope you will feel better soon. It’s a lovely apartment and I think you’re going to be very happy there.
Please allow yourself to grieve. Happiness takes time to build during recovery periods. I heard you mention gratitude in the video which is gr8 self-talk and produces positive neurotransmitters. Thank you once again for being open and raw about your life and don't be so hard on yourself! Grab Hilo and get some cuddling time. 😊😊😊😊
Thank you for being so open about your feelings. Your apartment is looking good and you have a nice view. I like where you put the chair and you could also try putting it where there is a small wall between your entrance and your kitchen and may be a an angle facing yyour T.V. I am so looking forward to watching your vlogs and hang in there as each day will be a new one for you.
Oh, Steffi……I just want to reach through this screen and hug you! You are so brave and you’re doing great! Just keep breathing and putting one foot in front of the other. It does get better, I promise. Love what you’re doing with your gorgeous new space!!
Your apartment looks so good in such a short period of time. Please embrace all aspects of the moving - the chaos, the sadness, the fun - everything! You are heading in the right direction - a life of creativity, freedom, joy and love. I remain so excited for you. It is so much better than the dark place you were in with the wrong person. Can't imagine.
We have all been there once or twice in our lives. I had been there too, and I looked at my family, my sisters, who love me more than their lives, and it gave me the power to push through. Believe me, you will be in your happiest place in a year or two. This challenging time will pass. Be strong and be proud of yourself. We love you.
That gold lamp is sso So gorgeous. The color pallette you use is always on point. When it comes to relationships i have never gone though a break up since i married my teenage love but one thing i always say to people is that things have to feel at ease when you are with someone. If you Have to try hard just to be with them its not worth it. Life is difficult even without the "love factor", if that gets difficult too you willl end up very tired very soon....
I appreciate you recording and posting this video. I'm going through this right now... And I completely understand you ❤ I'm moving into my new space on the 15th, and I plan to document the journey. I'll keep us both in prayer 🙏🏼
You're so gifted and strong. I have been there and I can tell you it is better on the other side. Feel the feelings. Piece yourself back together. You are worth it. ❤️
Hello Steffi, I'm so happy for your new journey, take your time, take care of you. You deserve the very best💝 Thank you for sharing💛 P.S. Please don't get rid of Helo's chair😽
Steffi, hello again. Wow, you hit it out of the ballpark with the new couch. It looks so cozy. I hate moving and all of the clutter it creates. Take good care of your health and your heart and everything will eventually come together. Slow and steady wins the race. Looking forward to following you on the journey. Till next time.
This video makes me so happy for you. Thank you for being so real. I moved into an apartment over a year ago, and the heartbreak was awful. I am just like you, so grateful for my little place in this world, it just takes time for it to fall into place, physically and emotionally. Sending you good vibes, and I am anxious for your next video!
I so wish I could give you a hug. I'm 64 and will be moving into a new apartment with my estranged husband after many years of healing and getting our shit together. I'll be looking for your upcoming decorating tips for this brand new chapter of my life. I absolutely love your decor/style. You're so brave to stay authentic and grounded. It will get better, I promise. Just pace yourself and stay focused. The old Steffi will come back in no time! Much love and peace... ❤
I love the pieces that you’ve added thus far. Beautiful couch 🛋️ by the way. Definitely giving me ideas as I begin thinking and decorating my new apartment. Appreciate your transparency and tears 😢. Never apologize for being in the season of healing ❤️🩹. Not sure if you mentioned this BUT therapy might be something to consider as you are transitioning from one place to the next. Be well! 💜
As one door closes so many more are waiting to be opened. I’m now in my 60s and still feel that way as much as I did in my 30s. Pain and grief are real catalysts for change. There is an exciting new direction opening up for you.
Cut yourself some slack, you need it. Moving takes time, don't expect to magically have everything together, especially when you've been through a lot emotionally. Your apartment is already looking amazing & it's only going to get better with your crazy talent for making a place the coziest anyone has ever seen. You made the right choice with your statement pieces, your couch is 🔥. The chair looks good on the other side of the room, I think you found a good spot for it & kitty gets to keep his chair. I'm excited to see what you do with this place. Don't rush it, let it come together organically.
That is it!! I thought I missed your old studio apartment but I think this new one may give your old studio some serious competition. Love that sofa set.
You're doing a phenomenal job! This is very inspiring. I'm in a moving process (very slowly packing up boxes) and it's more emotional this time. Thank you for your transparency in these last couple of videos, it truly helps. Greetings from Argentina ❤️
I think you've done way more with your unpacking and initial decorating than you think you have. It's interesting to see some lighter colors than your usual totally dark and moody (which I love). Can't wait to see how it all turns out. Very glad you kept the chair. On a more serious note: thank you for not feeling like you need to hide all the feelings you're going through as a result of the hell you're coming the other side of. I'm pretty sure that those of us who watch your channel and love love love what you do are glad you feel safe enough to show your vulnerability. There is no timeline in the recovery process and "getting over" something like what you're working through - please don't ever feel like there is. We're just so glad you're back and doing what you do best and bringing us along.
I love that the kitty is already loving the new couch. She's too cute and comfy. I'm so excited to see your new journey unfold. I completely understand the overwhelming feeling of your new space being in transition and all your belongings ALL over the place. We did some light renovating in my less than 700sqft duplex we live in during the spring, and having stuff out of place and everywhere absolutely frustrated me. My daughter and I are still organizing and finding storage for things, but I'm glad to pretty much have things in place in general. Consider maybe putting the chair in your bedroom, maybe? If I may, one thing (which some may consider a small thing, but I get how it can be a big thing) is that your transition right now and moving into this apartment has already given you a bit of a blessing.... more storage!!! You have a small pantry which is the perfect size for a single person plus that big closet you showed us during the empty apartment tour. 💃🏽 On a final note, don't forget that you've got a whole community of people rooting for you.💜
My hear breaks for you hun. Do not apologize for anything. We appreciate your realness and send positive healing vibes your way. The place looks warm, cozy, and pretty already. Big hugs.❤
I'm not really a hugger but I think you could use all the hugs you can get right now but I also feel that you have a strong personality and that you will pull through with flying colors I love how your apartment is shaping up your new things are so pretty love love the couch and the lamp is so gorgeous
Love authentic Steffi, keepiing it real! Apartment looking great, and when the dust settles it will feel like a breath of fresh air I bet. And darling faithful Helo, there just giving you his quiet comfort. He deserves his chair I reckon. How happy will he be having mum back to hiimself. Stay strong, you got this. 💞
Steffy, you've been through Hell and back. You are currently experiencing a form of mourning, grieving the loss of a relationship and a home you worked so hard to create for the two of you. This in no way makes you a failure. You are stronger than you may feel right now and that is ok. Sharing the ups and downs, the good and the bad with us takes a lot of strength and courage. Allow yourself some time to grieve and heal. I have loved watching your videos for a long time now and I for one don't plan to go anywhere. If I could hand you a tissue through the screen I would! 💕🍁 ~Chris
Girl you are doing amazing all things considering! I've been in your shoes and my heart goes out to you. What you went through is HARD! And what you're going through is hard,but you are going to come out on the other side of this stronger then you were before! I promise you! My pastor once said "tough times never last,but tough people do "! Just getting yourself to where you are now is a testament to your strength. You will find yourself again. It may take a bit but she's in there still. Hang in there love. You so got this! I'll keep you in my prayers ❤
Loving your new apartment and I’ve always loved your style. I love your metaphor about getting your new place together and uncluttered and relating it to what’s going on in your life. Take everything as it comes one day at a time or even one minute at a time. I appreciate the realism and am sending you healing vibes ❤️
I am sad that you're going through a breakup and are still in the process of moving. Both are truly stressful events. I am happy that through pain you are still following your passion of making and sharing your styling videos. It may not seem like it now but it's all part of the healing process. Going through all these emotions while you keep moving forward is important even if it is challenging right now. I personally am proud of you. Keep doing what brings you happiness and day by day it will accumulate and eventually will be your normal. Your apartment is big. My favorite pieces are def your new couch and your arched lamp. Where did you get your lamp? In your office area in your studio you also had a really cool wall piece above your desk. I actually tried to copycat that lol didn't exactly look like yours did. Imma keep an eye out for that. I am excited to see the progress in your new apartment.
Yay no pants gang. I to am no pants. The rug is epic. I love it. - I dream of a velvet couch but Blue or black. As someone that had a mental break down in March 2022 last yr from major emotional truama and only just coming out of it. I offer this. Healing isnt linear, there be ups and down. Time doesn't heal- it's what we do with our inner world that will or wont heal what we have gone through. Take note of any stories you may be telling yourself about yourself in regards to the pain. Don't let the down days make you think you havnt made progress. Just give yourself permission to be in the pain. Feel it. Really feel it. Because trying not to feel it is what makes it last longer, it demands to be felt, not past over, not distracted, not avoided, not 'ok I'll be a little sad but then'.. nope none of that, just felt. And it's OK to not be ok. It's ok to Be ok when you think you shouldn't be ok. It may take weeks, months, years to fully move on from it. But your timeline is yours, try not to judge if thinking 'I should be over it now', we may never fully 'be over' the things we go through, we grow around it. Grief isn't just for when someone dies. It's for the lose of self, lose of a person in your life, lose for who you thought they were, lose for the future plans/dreams. And it never really goes away, we become someone new with that Grief. I wish our culture spoke more on Grief in a not death related context. Thank you for showing up in your realness. I hope your new space brings at lest 1 smile to your heart each day.
You are a beautiful and sweet girl, I'm so sorry you are going through this pain. Even though we do not like to go through sadness it can actually help us to slow down, think clearly and see the way forward. You will come through this and become who you were before. Sending a big hug your way
First time watching you and I am crying with you. Change is hard. Sudden change is hard. Hoping you have someone you can talk to and share those emotions with. Talking helps. Crying helps. Please know you are worthy and have purpose. And I love your style. Blessings and prayers from Florida💕
I can't believe how beautiful your apartment is already! I am so sorry you are going through this hard time. Hugs and love sent your way. I look forward to what the next year will bring for Steffi! So proud of you sweet girl.
I appreciate your honesty, I hope you can find healing + serenity throughout your journey in this new space + within your new life. Grief isn't linear, there are going to be high highs + lows lows, just know that you have internet strangers rooting for you n sending you lots of love + well wishes! your new space is going to be amazing, I can't wait for your confidence to start bouncing back as you find yourself again 🖤 until then, be patient + kind to yourself! ps the new space is looking gorgeous already, im in love with your sven too!
Thank you so much! You're so right about grief not being linear. I've had sooo many ups and downs over the last couple months, it's been insane. You kind of just have to accept that that's how it's going to be and just buckle up!
@@ModaMisfitone day it will all make perfect sense why your life took a different path! doesn't make it any easier but hopefully your new surroundings can bring you some comfort :) sending lots of hugs + support your way!
Thank you for showing how difficult this is for you for the ones who are in a similar situation as you. ❤ you are a great person and don't for get YOU ARE PRETTY POWERFUL TOO! ❤❤
I love your new apartment! That couch is amazing. Thank you for being authentic because you never know who you could be helping in the process. I’ve been through something similar last year and also had to start over. It’s hard and it hurts and comes with ups and downs. One day though you’ll notice things are getting easier and easier. Don’t be afraid to lean on your friends and family. And of course we are all here for you online too. ❤
I just want to give you the biggest hug. I went through something similar at the end of 2020 and it was hard. It will take a while for you to find yourself again, but you will. I look back and i don't even recognize myself. You are a strong, independent woman, and you don't need no man!
Ahhh Steffi! You are so strong and, as you say, pretty powerful! Thank you for the inspiration these past years. Your videos helped me so much while I was creating a new space of my own after a breakup in 2021. I wish I could give you a hug and tell you everything is going to be fine! 🧡
eeeeee! thank u for showing us the not-so-perfect stages! it looks great already - im so excited for you.✨ ur brain must be thinking about so much - but take a moment to mediate and remember this chaos is actually within your control ❣ for me, it was easier to stop trying to understand what happened before, and just focus on new time and space for myself, and the things that DO make sense to me. 💭 btw if the chair is just for kitty, it could even be in a back corner or flat against a wall, rather than positioned for conversation. maybe you could decorate it with a cat pillow/ toys so it's obv kitty's chair? 😻 cant wait for the next video - whatever it is! ⛅⛅⛅
After ending a bad relationship, it took me a bit to realize: Someone that breaks your heart isn't worth your heart. All the best to you Apartment is already looking great!
Omg that couch is everything. It’s so gorgeous, love the color and style. The chair looks good where you put it. I’m glad you are keeping it for the kitty. I’m so sorry your going through all of this. But this will pass. It will help once you organize some more. You did a lot already. It’s looking good. Do you have any girl friends you can hang out with? That might help too. I’m praying for you to heal and be happy again. ❤
Thank you so much! You're right, this will pass. And I'm so lucky to have some very supportive friends and family who have helped me so much through this. 😊
New beginnings are hard but I really hope you end up loving the journey despite ups and downs. Loving the new place though and looking forward to all the decorating videos!
Girl, i feel you. Going through a heartbrake myself. I wish i was moving out with my 2 cats to somewhere, where there are no reminders of what was and could have been. I love your style btw! New couch is gorgeous. Iceland where i live is quite expensive to decorate (don't get me started on shipping stuff in) but you inspire me to make it more comfy before winter comes. We are all here for you and we love you 💜💚 You got this 💛💪
You're doing great and your new place is awesome! I went through something similar a few years back; felt like I would never feel whole again, but time and some much-needed therapy helped me through it all. I think it was T.D. Jakes that said this, but we are gallon sized people so we hope that the people we surround ourselves with can provide us with the gallon sized love we require, however, some people are just pint-sized people and can only give us pint sized love...stay strong Beautiful.
I’m so sorry for the pain you are going through right now. I’m glad you are acknowledging your feelings. You WILL feel better in time. You have a support system in your followers. Sending healing love ❤️🩹
I'm glad you get to get your groove back! Sad that your relationship had to end, but you do so great solo! Can't wait to continue following your journey! I'm watching you unpack your kitchen, as I sing 🎼Go Moda🎙Go Misfit🎼 I move in a couple of weeks, and have been binging your videos! I know you don't know me, but you're basically my favorite person right now! 😁 I'm okay with sounding super weird about it too! Teehee 💕
The grieving process is different for all sorts of scenarios and looks different for everyone. Balance is your friend. I hope you welcome the new freedom with open arms and be gentle with yourself when letting go and feeling your painful emotions.
Thank you for watching! After seeing the before/after toward the end of the video, how do you like my decorating so far?? Keep in mind, it's FAR from being finished and there are a ton of changes I'll be making. But at least it's starting to feel a little more like home. I'm thinking it's heading in sort of a dark boho, groovy, rock and roll vibe, so stay tuned! 🖤🎸☮
Oral allergies are a pain. I am allergic to all stone fruit, but thankfully avocado is not one. If you have bad seasonal allergies, it can create this sensitivity.
Your doing a fantastic job. Love the sofa and keep the chair they look great together. Plus you got to keep the cat happy 😂. Where did you get the lamp it’s really cool.
Absolutely beautiful, I'd love to see some of your studio apartment decor repeated here. You seemed so happy there and your home was so lovely and really seemed to express yourself. I hope your lip heals soon. Best wishes to new beginnings and being true to ourselves🌺.
Not gonna lie. I cried and broke plates when I moved in my current. Also thank You for sharing with Us. I'm sorry You had such a bad experience and time heals. My grandma said it's like a scar. You get reminded of the hurt but the skin is tougher when it heals. Also brandy and pralines and cream ice cream helps! I hope to see this works out for You and Helo. It already looks good.
I have always loved your rugs, but that new lamp could now be in the lead for my affections.
My favorite part is the Apartment itself being just yours. The most GORGEOUS affect in it is Freedom! "FREEEEEEDOOOOOOMMMmm!!!"
(Channeling scene from Braveheart).
Steffi, I am so grateful that you addressed the mix of pain with hope, plentiful exstistential dread and a dash of despair that can and often does move with a person. Most important issue to address in the designing of one's apt is the emotional process that can be crippling. Your sharing that journey with us is going to be a most important tool for guiding why a pretty Apartment is medicine for the soul. The "why" behind the motivation.
I say this as you are moving me towards more action to reclaim myself expression through my decor and still remain married (😂 felt good things when he moved in, but in giving him space, i lost my way in expression). I have definitely held way back on design choices that would make me feel alive, for fear really, of his not understanding the vision. Maybe having a negative response before its finished.
How we blend this reality with respect to others we live with, is huge dilemma for so many of us. Would love some guidance (even in a linked example)?
Stay strong Steffi, your voice is one so desperately needed that design runs so much deeper in its transformative powers than the vision of the room.
You are truly a sorceress❤
You embody that wisdom so beautifully.
The best content creators are those that keep it real. We are your supporters and you can cry and have an apartment with stuff everywhere because you're supposed to. As I watched this video tour I thought to myself, this is what your life looks like after a man comes into it and then leaves. We are left to pick up the pieces and put them back together again🙄. Pace yourself, this is after all your life. You've been given an opportunity to decorate a new home making it beautiful and making it yours🤓
STAY STRONG...HE'S GONE...DON'T HESITATE... DECORATE😻
You are an inspiration. I'm 65 and you have taught me so much. Styling tips yes but also life skills. You have no idea dear who your videos reach and the impact they have. I'm sending warm wishes and love. You will get through this time.
I don’t know if you will remember me but I am the less talented sports twin that your grandpa coached. We played with your youngest aunt. I just wanted to say you have the spirit and gumption of your family running in your veins. I am proud of you that you once again realized your worth and got out. You are a beautiful person inside and out. I hope you find healing and calm in your new apartment. I love your tips and tricks. Keep going girl. You got this. ❤️
Even though I don’t know you personally, I hope you will accept my heartfelt sympathy for you as you are obviously struggling through something very difficult. I hope you find healing and strength in your new home.
I don’t know you, but I love you. You’re talented and smart and deserving of a calm and loving life.
Aw thank you SO MUCH for the love!
I think it's nice that you can be honest about you're feeling. We're here for the raw real shit all day, and I think most of us have felt the pain you're in now at some point. You deserve to not have to pretend when you don't have the energy to do so. Loving the living room and the bedroom so far!
It's bonkers that you don' t have sponsorships pouring in yet. You're one of my favorite people on UA-cam. And I watch a LOT of UA-cam!
thank you for being open and honest. It helps with stuff im going through. We're here for you!
Steffi, thanks so much for sharing your moving experience. I'm having to move soon, and it is such an emotional time, esp when in an abusive living situation I have to get out of. I joined a healing group and it has been helpful. Know that we are here for you. Stay your authentic self. Love to you and Helo ❤❤
I love your channel, and it’s the only decorating channel I follow. Have you ever heard the phrase “don’t should on yourself”? Your feelings are 100% valid as they are and there’s no way you “should” be feeling. This stranger offering totally unsolicited advice(which I hope is not unhelpful) just hopes you can be gentle and compassionate with yourself while you heal, because at least from personal experience, resisting my true feelings or feeling guilty about them makes it even harder, at least for me. This stranger is rooting for you and your healing, no matter how long it takes. ❤️
Aw thank you so much. You are SO RIGHT about all of this, and it's exactly what I would tell someone else going through what I'm going through.
Hello Steffi,
I can feel you. I came out of a toxic family and had a very painful break-up with a narcissistic partner who made me allergic and afraid of commitment many years ago. Until the universe proved me wrong. Today, they gave me the little angel who became my husband and the warmest family love I've ever had (love from my in-laws family). Please don't give up on being a beautiful and inspiring person in such a difficult time. Take your time to rest and heal your wounds. But never give up! Once you've made your new armor shine, the Universe will give you the best gift you could ever imagine and deserve. Take care
I love hearing you talk your voice is so soothing and love your videos!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🥰
Love that chair in that new space actually. It makes the living room look cozy and intimate for when you have guests but yet with plenty of space.
Remember it just takes time to mend a heart. You will be ok at the end.
Thank you so much. 😊 And the chair is definitely growing on me, especially after I moved it!
Your statement about leaving things behind when you move hit me hard. I moved 3 months ago to a new place with almost no connections. I left behind a life I'd built for myself over nearly 10 years. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, but I still don't feel completely happy here.
Thanks for always being real and honest with us. I hope you know that you never have to be happy or feel like you need to pretend. Of course we all want to see you happy, but we know that this is your journey of healing. We're just a small portion of the internet, but we support you no matter what and want the very best for you.
Right now you're stuck in the "messy middle" which is, at the best of times, kind of chaotic. Moves in general are not the best of times. Moves like this one are even more so. Just know it gets better and you're headed towards it being gorgeous. I do like the idea of you getting a big wallpaper for the bedroom, either the same as the one you had before (because you loved that one) or something similar but different (for a fresh start, without associations). Things are starting to fall into place and I'm sure it's already looking more cohesive without the random household clutter lying out (given that this was filmed 2 or 3 weeks ago, I believe). You can totally do this and it's already starting to look like your style is coming to the front.
I hope by the time this posts that you're into decorating mode - I know that will be a healing process for you. Your emotions sound like mine when I got out of a five-year relationship with a narcissist. I felt like I totally lost myself, my confidence, and everything I liked about being me. Detangling from the relationship was messy and heartbreaking, but a couple of years away from it and in my own space and I've regained everything I've lost, plus some wisdom and life lessons. I don't know if that's similar to your experience, but if so, know that there are some really good moments awaiting you as you rediscover things you thought you'd lost. Thank you for your honesty and authenticity. I'm looking forward to watching the new place transform.
Not depressing. Just real. I've been through a couple moves like this as well & your content helped me get oriented in my style during those times. Healing sometimes hurts a LOT, even as we recognize the progress we're making & it's so valuable to see that process in all its complicated glory. Thanks for the gift of sharing your journey. The intensity of the pain does pass & the best path isn't over, under, around - it's through. Just right goddamn through. It sucks but it's worth it on the other side. You got this.
God bless your new journey ahead. Change is tough. But greatness is ahead. Always value you. You deserve light never darkness ❤ Keep sharing beauty❤❤🙏🏾❤❤
Loving the new apartment. Girl, it was a lesson and you passed the test. The challenge now is to remember the lesson. We are champions and we thrive
Keep doing what makes your heart sour it looks good on you.❤❤❤
Aw thank you so much. Haha my inner good student is so happy to hear when I pass any test. 😂
Please remember that you are pretty powerful too ❤
Sending lots of hugs to you, things will get easier. The apartment is looking great already - looking forward to seeing how you choose the style it. Take care of yourself first though xx
Thank you so much 😊
Thank you for being real. I know how hard it is to move, and move away from the life you had. My husband and I retired and moved from Tacoma to Richland to be near his family. It damn near killed us; despite the fact that it has turned out to be a great and loving place to be. I send you healing and hope for closure for you. Just remember the pain is so fresh it takes time. The apartment looks great already and looks like your wonderful style.
Thank you so much. And wow that's quite a move! I have a lot of family over in Eastern WA and went over there a lot as a kid. It's so beautiful!
So proud of you Steffi for moving foreward even though you are going through so much. You are a brave women and your story resonates with me ( and no doubt many others) I love your style and your place is alreadying starting to look so cozy! I am not happy that you have to go through what you are going through but at the same time for your viewers who have experianced something similar it can feel oddly comforting knowing that we are not alone, that someone else understands the heart wrenching pain we are or have gone though. I hope your journey of healing comes with peace and comfort in the midst of what can often times feel like hell and chaos. You will be stronger on the other side! No doubt in my mind! ⭐Blessings from Canada! ♥
Thank you so much for your kind words. They mean so much to me! I hate that so many of us have gone through this pain, but I agree - something about hearing someone else talk about it can be so comforting. 😊
Just know you're doing well. It may not feel like it sometimes, but you are. As a 58 year old woman, I can tell you, your feelings are valid and you are not alone in how you feel. Most women have been there. We learn and cherish those lessons. Don't be afraid to love again and never be bitter. God gave women the best power ever, our Intuition. We are taught growing up to ignore it. Never ignore it! . As usual your place is lovely and unique. I look forward to future videos 💜
"We learn and cherish those lessons" - so well said! Love that, and thank you. 😊
@@ModaMisfit You're Welcome 🤗
Thank you for being so real and being so open to showing your vulnerability 💜 I experienced the ending of an almost 15 year relationship a year ago and its been so hard and it often feels like no one gets how much damage it had left me with. They expect me to just "get over it" and its just not possible for me, its further complicated by my being mentally and chronically ill, and honestly completely lonely and without support. Anyway I guess my point is that sometimes seeing someone (especially someone that you honestly I guess kind of idolise 😅) being so real and so open just makes you feel less alone. I am sad that you are experiencing such sadness and stress but thank you for not pretending otherwise 💜 I adore watching your videos and seeing the beautiful ways in which you express your creativity. I hope that you will continue being your amazing self, that you will focus on your healing, and that you will continue to bring us along on your journey 💜 Thank you for being you 😊💜 Also loving what you have achieved so far in your new home, and can't wait to see what you do with it in the future 💜
I am a supporter also and I thank you for the kind words. Our girl is going to heal and be better than ever🤓
Ditto everything you expressed and well!
Love and healing vibes to both of you! Remember, You are pretty powerful !!!
Aw I'm so sorry to hear about what you've gone through. I can't even imagine leaving such a long relationship, and the idea that you should just "get over it" is absolutely preposterous to me. It's going to take time, and that's okay!
@ModaMisfit Thank you, yeah we had been together since I was 15 😔 I wanted to fight for the relationship and try to work through it but he did not 😔 So now I just have to try to figure out how to live without the person I really believed I would be with for life 😮💨😔
I think people often don't realise that not all relationship breakdowns are the same 🤔 some leave us with more baggage than others but everyone expects you to get over them the same way they did but there isn't any one size fits all when it comes to heartbreak (or anything else for that matter 🤷♀️). So yeah I hope you will not let people tell you how to get through what you are going through, you need to get through it how you need to 💜
Love that you're keeping it real. No point in putting yourself through the stress of trying to be fake happy for the camera....the heartbreak shows through anyway. I'm sure many of us can relate, I know I can. I've had more than my share of heartbreak in life. So happy that you're in the healing process and bravely taking your life back. Sending all good energy and looking forward to watching your process. Thank you for sharing with us! Also, love the new place and it's looking fab so far! Much love!
Yep I know what you mean. Women are strong because we have to be. Loved you comment🙂
Aw thank you! You're right - heartbreak shows through, and I could sense that as I was acting upbeat and happy. So I was just like eff it, let's fess up to the sadness. Otherwise, I think you guys would have watched and thought "hmm something seems off with her..." Best to just be authentic!
Proud of you!!!!!❤❤❤❤
In my opinion this video makes you so much more relatable. So I thank you for being vulnerable with us and hope you know that you’re not alone. I’ve been in the emotional rollercoaster that is moving post-breakup and it is tough. You got this! Hang in there.
You don't have to apologize for being sad, you're human.
you have such a great touch!
You will be ok, I could feel your pain as you spoke. I am sorry, you will find yourself again.
You'll be fine! You've done the hardest part already, calling an end to a bad relationship. That's good survival and you can take back control in your life without someone hurting you that doesn't belong with you after all. Lesson learned. The place is shaping up nicely. Love the sofa style and color in particular, and good choice with the pillows on it. Best wishes to you in your new home.
Thank you!!
I just found your channel but the bold decor, the chill vibes and the Death Note manga on the floor? I’m staying.
I do not know specifics of your situation. But I know what you are going through, and how hard it is to rediscover yourself. Reclaiming your own space in the world is the first step. Just know we all see you as brave and lovely and look forward to all the new content. It is okay to mourn and be sad. It is okay to take time to become the new you.
Thank you so much. 😊
Oh Steffi it's so nice to see you blooming again (and not only from the upper lip 😅)!! This transition is hard but necessary... be gentle with yourself as you have to mourn a relationship and the hopes you had for it, on top of all the changes. I believe you seem in pretty good spirit overall, you'll be just fine but let the emotions pass. Remember we're all here to encourage you and cheer for you. 🥰 Sidenote : if I can give you (and everyone) one good advice when moving : set the bedroom first (you've already pretty much done it!) and keep it completely free of chaos, boxes, etc. so you can retreat there when the mess feels overwhelming. That trick saved my sanity MANY times!
Definitely agree about setting up the bedroom first! For exactly the reason you stated - so you have at least one place of refuge away from the chaos, haha.
You will be ok, because you have to be ! You are a beautiful survivor! Do you !
YOU ARE POWERFUL!!!!! Thank you for sharing, you are so so brave and strong. Leaving a bad situation is the gift you give yourself. Peace and healing are your reward. I love your space so far, I'm sure you are enjoying the process (after you clear the clutter) 😊. Take care.
Hey... Do not feel bad about showing your sadness. You are helping your viewers because many of us are also going through sadness and heartbreak for many reasons. It is "bittersweet" this move. You have given me the inspiration to heal my own sadness through allowing myself to be creative and make my surroundings a beautiful healing place. Please know the good you are doing for others.
"Bittersweet" is exactly it. And I can't tell you how much it means to me to read that you feel inspired to heal your sadness with the help of your space. That's literally why this channel exists; to inspire you to create a space that gives you little sparkles of joy on a daily basis!
Steffi, I love your videos! It takes a lot to bare your soul, and I appreciate your courage, honesty, and love your creativity! "Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end."-Closing Time by Supersonic
January of this year, I moved from an 850 sqft one bedroom apartment to a 250 sqft studio! As you said, "Moving comes with baggage," and I had a lot! Deciding to donate some of the items that didn't fit or that took up too much space was difficult because of emotional attachments, but donate them I did!
Seven months later, after getting rid of the clutter, I love my new place, and I am quite pleased with how I've set it up.
Love the new couch and the new decor - the living room looks super.
Myself, I can’t stand the early weeks of a move, where you’re wondering where on earth to put everything, keep tripping over boxes, etc.
I hope you will feel better soon. It’s a lovely apartment and I think you’re going to be very happy there.
Thank you!!
Hugs to you, dear one. And your new place is looking lovely.
Please allow yourself to grieve. Happiness takes time to build during recovery periods. I heard you mention gratitude in the video which is gr8 self-talk and produces positive neurotransmitters. Thank you once again for being open and raw about your life and don't be so hard on yourself! Grab Hilo and get some cuddling time. 😊😊😊😊
Sweetie, you are going to get through all this. Put some of YOUR ORIGINAL APT STUFF UP.... PLEASE FEEL IT.
Thank you for being so open about your feelings. Your apartment is looking good and you have a nice view. I like where you put the chair and you could also try putting it where there is a small wall between your entrance and your kitchen and may be a an angle facing yyour T.V. I am so looking forward to watching your vlogs and hang in there as each day will be a new one for you.
Oh, Steffi……I just want to reach through this screen and hug you! You are so brave and you’re doing great! Just keep breathing and putting one foot in front of the other. It does get better, I promise. Love what you’re doing with your gorgeous new space!!
Your apartment looks so good in such a short period of time. Please embrace all aspects of the moving - the chaos, the sadness, the fun - everything! You are heading in the right direction - a life of creativity, freedom, joy and love. I remain so excited for you. It is so much better than the dark place you were in with the wrong person. Can't imagine.
We have all been there once or twice in our lives. I had been there too, and I looked at my family, my sisters, who love me more than their lives, and it gave me the power to push through. Believe me, you will be in your happiest place in a year or two. This challenging time will pass. Be strong and be proud of yourself. We love you.
Aw thank you! I know you're right, that happy times are ahead, but man it's so hard to see when you're in the thick of it!
That gold lamp is sso So gorgeous. The color pallette you use is always on point.
When it comes to relationships i have never gone though a break up since i married my teenage love but one thing i always say to people is that things have to feel at ease when you are with someone. If you Have to try hard just to be with them its not worth it.
Life is difficult even without the "love factor", if that gets difficult too you willl end up very tired very soon....
I appreciate you recording and posting this video. I'm going through this right now... And I completely understand you ❤ I'm moving into my new space on the 15th, and I plan to document the journey. I'll keep us both in prayer 🙏🏼
You're so gifted and strong. I have been there and I can tell you it is better on the other side. Feel the feelings. Piece yourself back together. You are worth it. ❤️
You have made huge progress - go you!!!! Tears are part of the process, let them happen ❤
Hello Steffi, I'm so happy for your new journey, take your time, take care of you. You deserve the very best💝
Thank you for sharing💛
P.S. Please don't get rid of Helo's chair😽
Steffi, hello again. Wow, you hit it out of the ballpark with the new couch. It looks so cozy. I hate moving and all of the clutter it creates. Take good care of your health and your heart and everything will eventually come together. Slow and steady wins the race. Looking forward to following you on the journey. Till next time.
You deserve a follow. ❤❤❤
This video makes me so happy for you. Thank you for being so real. I moved into an apartment over a year ago, and the heartbreak was awful. I am just like you, so grateful for my little place in this world, it just takes time for it to fall into place, physically and emotionally. Sending you good vibes, and I am anxious for your next video!
Thank you for the good vibes and support! You're so right - it takes time. 😊
I so wish I could give you a hug. I'm 64 and will be moving into a new apartment with my estranged husband after many years of healing and getting our shit together. I'll be looking for your upcoming decorating tips for this brand new chapter of my life. I absolutely love your decor/style. You're so brave to stay authentic and grounded. It will get better, I promise. Just pace yourself and stay focused. The old Steffi will come back in no time! Much love and peace... ❤
Aw thank you so much, your words are so encouraging 😊
I love the pieces that you’ve added thus far. Beautiful couch 🛋️ by the way. Definitely giving me ideas as I begin thinking and decorating my new apartment.
Appreciate your transparency and tears 😢. Never apologize for being in the season of healing ❤️🩹. Not sure if you mentioned this BUT therapy might be something to consider as you are transitioning from one place to the next. Be well! 💜
As one door closes so many more are waiting to be opened. I’m now in my 60s and still feel that way as much as I did in my 30s. Pain and grief are real catalysts for change. There is an exciting new direction opening up for you.
Love the console behind the couch w/ the flowers and portrait. Doesn’t take away from the couch.
No matter how well you take care of yourself, there's no escaping the need for time to take care of the rest. You'll get there.
So true. For the last couple years, it's felt like I've needed more rest than ever. Like merely existing has been exhausting. 😅
Cut yourself some slack, you need it. Moving takes time, don't expect to magically have everything together, especially when you've been through a lot emotionally. Your apartment is already looking amazing & it's only going to get better with your crazy talent for making a place the coziest anyone has ever seen. You made the right choice with your statement pieces, your couch is 🔥. The chair looks good on the other side of the room, I think you found a good spot for it & kitty gets to keep his chair. I'm excited to see what you do with this place. Don't rush it, let it come together organically.
That is it!! I thought I missed your old studio apartment but I think this new one may give your old studio some serious competition. Love that sofa set.
Thank you! Haha I miss my studio to this day, but I do think I'll be able to get this place looking just as good or better!
You're doing a phenomenal job! This is very inspiring. I'm in a moving process (very slowly packing up boxes) and it's more emotional this time. Thank you for your transparency in these last couple of videos, it truly helps. Greetings from Argentina ❤️
Some moves are definitely more emotional than others! Hope you get your space to a point where it comforts you as soon as possible. 😊
I think you've done way more with your unpacking and initial decorating than you think you have. It's interesting to see some lighter colors than your usual totally dark and moody (which I love). Can't wait to see how it all turns out. Very glad you kept the chair.
On a more serious note: thank you for not feeling like you need to hide all the feelings you're going through as a result of the hell you're coming the other side of. I'm pretty sure that those of us who watch your channel and love love love what you do are glad you feel safe enough to show your vulnerability. There is no timeline in the recovery process and "getting over" something like what you're working through - please don't ever feel like there is. We're just so glad you're back and doing what you do best and bringing us along.
I love that the kitty is already loving the new couch. She's too cute and comfy. I'm so excited to see your new journey unfold. I completely understand the overwhelming feeling of your new space being in transition and all your belongings ALL over the place. We did some light renovating in my less than 700sqft duplex we live in during the spring, and having stuff out of place and everywhere absolutely frustrated me. My daughter and I are still organizing and finding storage for things, but I'm glad to pretty much have things in place in general. Consider maybe putting the chair in your bedroom, maybe?
If I may, one thing (which some may consider a small thing, but I get how it can be a big thing) is that your transition right now and moving into this apartment has already given you a bit of a blessing.... more storage!!! You have a small pantry which is the perfect size for a single person plus that big closet you showed us during the empty apartment tour. 💃🏽
On a final note, don't forget that you've got a whole community of people rooting for you.💜
You have beautiful taste. I love your ideas of how to decorate a small space ❤
I’m obsessed with the couch! 😀
My hear breaks for you hun. Do not apologize for anything. We appreciate your realness and send positive healing vibes your way. The place looks warm, cozy, and pretty already. Big hugs.❤
A vintage style Edison bulb would look great in your new floor lamp. I adore your sofa and cushions!
I'm not really a hugger but I think you could use all the hugs you can get right now but I also feel that you have a strong personality and that you will pull through with flying colors I love how your apartment is shaping up your new things are so pretty love love the couch and the lamp is so gorgeous
Love authentic Steffi, keepiing it real! Apartment looking great, and when the dust settles it will feel like a breath of fresh air I bet. And darling faithful Helo, there just giving you his quiet comfort. He deserves his chair I reckon. How happy will he be having mum back to hiimself. Stay strong, you got this. 💞
Steffy, you've been through Hell and back. You are currently experiencing a form of mourning, grieving the loss of a relationship and a home you worked so hard to create for the two of you. This in no way makes you a failure. You are stronger than you may feel right now and that is ok. Sharing the ups and downs, the good and the bad with us takes a lot of strength and courage. Allow yourself some time to grieve and heal. I have loved watching your videos for a long time now and I for one don't plan to go anywhere. If I could hand you a tissue through the screen I would! 💕🍁 ~Chris
Girl you are doing amazing all things considering! I've been in your shoes and my heart goes out to you. What you went through is HARD! And what you're going through is hard,but you are going to come out on the other side of this stronger then you were before! I promise you! My pastor once said "tough times never last,but tough people do "! Just getting yourself to where you are now is a testament to your strength. You will find yourself again. It may take a bit but she's in there still. Hang in there love. You so got this! I'll keep you in my prayers ❤
Loving your new apartment and I’ve always loved your style. I love your metaphor about getting your new place together and uncluttered and relating it to what’s going on in your life. Take everything as it comes one day at a time or even one minute at a time. I appreciate the realism and am sending you healing vibes ❤️
I am sad that you're going through a breakup and are still in the process of moving. Both are truly stressful events. I am happy that through pain you are still following your passion of making and sharing your styling videos. It may not seem like it now but it's all part of the healing process. Going through all these emotions while you keep moving forward is important even if it is challenging right now. I personally am proud of you. Keep doing what brings you happiness and day by day it will accumulate and eventually will be your normal. Your apartment is big. My favorite pieces are def your new couch and your arched lamp. Where did you get your lamp? In your office area in your studio you also had a really cool wall piece above your desk. I actually tried to copycat that lol didn't exactly look like yours did. Imma keep an eye out for that. I am excited to see the progress in your new apartment.
Yay no pants gang. I to am no pants.
The rug is epic. I love it. - I dream of a velvet couch but Blue or black.
As someone that had a mental break down in March 2022 last yr from major emotional truama and only just coming out of it. I offer this. Healing isnt linear, there be ups and down. Time doesn't heal- it's what we do with our inner world that will or wont heal what we have gone through. Take note of any stories you may be telling yourself about yourself in regards to the pain. Don't let the down days make you think you havnt made progress. Just give yourself permission to be in the pain. Feel it. Really feel it. Because trying not to feel it is what makes it last longer, it demands to be felt, not past over, not distracted, not avoided, not 'ok I'll be a little sad but then'.. nope none of that, just felt. And it's OK to not be ok. It's ok to Be ok when you think you shouldn't be ok. It may take weeks, months, years to fully move on from it. But your timeline is yours, try not to judge if thinking 'I should be over it now', we may never fully 'be over' the things we go through, we grow around it. Grief isn't just for when someone dies. It's for the lose of self, lose of a person in your life, lose for who you thought they were, lose for the future plans/dreams. And it never really goes away, we become someone new with that Grief. I wish our culture spoke more on Grief in a not death related context.
Thank you for showing up in your realness. I hope your new space brings at lest 1 smile to your heart each day.
You are a beautiful and sweet girl, I'm so sorry you are going through this pain. Even though we do not like to go through sadness it can actually help us to slow down, think clearly and see the way forward. You will come through this and become who you were before. Sending a big hug your way
Thank you so much 😊
First time watching you and I am crying with you. Change is hard. Sudden change is hard. Hoping you have someone you can talk to and share those emotions with. Talking helps. Crying helps. Please know you are worthy and have purpose. And I love your style. Blessings and prayers from Florida💕
I can't believe how beautiful your apartment is already! I am so sorry you are going through this hard time. Hugs and love sent your way. I look forward to what the next year will bring for Steffi! So proud of you sweet girl.
I appreciate your honesty, I hope you can find healing + serenity throughout your journey in this new space + within your new life. Grief isn't linear, there are going to be high highs + lows lows, just know that you have internet strangers rooting for you n sending you lots of love + well wishes! your new space is going to be amazing, I can't wait for your confidence to start bouncing back as you find yourself again 🖤 until then, be patient + kind to yourself!
ps the new space is looking gorgeous already, im in love with your sven too!
Thank you so much! You're so right about grief not being linear. I've had sooo many ups and downs over the last couple months, it's been insane. You kind of just have to accept that that's how it's going to be and just buckle up!
@@ModaMisfitone day it will all make perfect sense why your life took a different path! doesn't make it any easier but hopefully your new surroundings can bring you some comfort :) sending lots of hugs + support your way!
All I can say is that it’s going to be a rollercoaster. Hang on…you will get to the end. Blessed be
Thank you for showing how difficult this is for you for the ones who are in a similar situation as you. ❤ you are a great person and don't for get YOU ARE PRETTY POWERFUL TOO! ❤❤
I love your new apartment! That couch is amazing. Thank you for being authentic because you never know who you could be helping in the process. I’ve been through something similar last year and also had to start over. It’s hard and it hurts and comes with ups and downs. One day though you’ll notice things are getting easier and easier. Don’t be afraid to lean on your friends and family. And of course we are all here for you online too. ❤
I just want to give you the biggest hug. I went through something similar at the end of 2020 and it was hard. It will take a while for you to find yourself again, but you will. I look back and i don't even recognize myself. You are a strong, independent woman, and you don't need no man!
Ahhh Steffi! You are so strong and, as you say, pretty powerful! Thank you for the inspiration these past years. Your videos helped me so much while I was creating a new space of my own after a breakup in 2021. I wish I could give you a hug and tell you everything is going to be fine! 🧡
eeeeee! thank u for showing us the not-so-perfect stages! it looks great already - im so excited for you.✨
ur brain must be thinking about so much - but take a moment to mediate and remember this chaos is actually within your control ❣
for me, it was easier to stop trying to understand what happened before, and just focus on new time and space for myself, and the things that DO make sense to me. 💭
btw if the chair is just for kitty, it could even be in a back corner or flat against a wall, rather than positioned for conversation. maybe you could decorate it with a cat pillow/ toys so it's obv kitty's chair? 😻
cant wait for the next video - whatever it is! ⛅⛅⛅
Thank you!! The chaos is in my control - I'm going to repeat this to myself over and over now. 😊
I am going to be moving into a new space in 30 days!! You are my hero!🎉you are grieving...treat it as such, love.
Thank you for sharing your personal life. I feel your pain and am going through the same thing. You are not alone. Hugs
After ending a bad relationship, it took me a bit to realize: Someone that breaks your heart isn't worth your heart. All the best to you Apartment is already looking great!
Omg that couch is everything. It’s so gorgeous, love the color and style. The chair looks good where you put it. I’m glad you are keeping it for the kitty. I’m so sorry your going through all of this. But this will pass. It will help once you organize some more. You did a lot already. It’s looking good. Do you have any girl friends you can hang out with? That might help too. I’m praying for you to heal and be happy again. ❤
Thank you so much! You're right, this will pass. And I'm so lucky to have some very supportive friends and family who have helped me so much through this. 😊
New beginnings are hard but I really hope you end up loving the journey despite ups and downs. Loving the new place though and looking forward to all the decorating videos!
Thank you so much!!
Girl, i feel you. Going through a heartbrake myself. I wish i was moving out with my 2 cats to somewhere, where there are no reminders of what was and could have been.
I love your style btw! New couch is gorgeous. Iceland where i live is quite expensive to decorate (don't get me started on shipping stuff in) but you inspire me to make it more comfy before winter comes.
We are all here for you and we love you 💜💚 You got this 💛💪
You are taking your power back! Think of this new place as your cocoon for healing. Feel your feelings & take one day at a time.❤
You're doing great and your new place is awesome! I went through something similar a few years back; felt like I would never feel whole again, but time and some much-needed therapy helped me through it all. I think it was T.D. Jakes that said this, but we are gallon sized people so we hope that the people we surround ourselves with can provide us with the gallon sized love we require, however, some people are just pint-sized people and can only give us pint sized love...stay strong Beautiful.
I’m so sorry for the pain you are going through right now. I’m glad you are acknowledging your feelings. You WILL feel better in time. You have a support system in your followers. Sending healing love ❤️🩹
Just so happy for you. Congratulations. The couch is lovely.
I'm glad you get to get your groove back! Sad that your relationship had to end, but you do so great solo! Can't wait to continue following your journey! I'm watching you unpack your kitchen, as I sing 🎼Go Moda🎙Go Misfit🎼 I move in a couple of weeks, and have been binging your videos! I know you don't know me, but you're basically my favorite person right now! 😁 I'm okay with sounding super weird about it too! Teehee 💕
The grieving process is different for all sorts of scenarios and looks different for everyone. Balance is your friend. I hope you welcome the new freedom with open arms and be gentle with yourself when letting go and feeling your painful emotions.
That floor lamp is everything 😍
I just wanted to say you look truly happy, younger, and more relaxed. ❤️🌹🌹🌹