@@rowanphillips3497 Actually, after pressing on the big download button on the webpage at above link, the book appears in a new window, from where you can download it. It's the newsletter that goes to the entered email address.
I dont think all bullyingSituations are that cut n dried. i once had a bouncer 20 lbs smaller160 than me 180 but a karate belt say WATCH THIS from 15 ft away, attack me by just running up to me from the side and trying to sucker punch me. i seen/heard it coming and turned away making it just a glancing blow. Thn i grabbed him and we basically knocked over half the tables in the bar trying to get over on the other guy and i was eventually grabbed by all his bouncer buddies and thrown out. Weeks later in a diif bar, the same lil punk came running up and this time just cuff me on the back of the head as i was about sit down with a table full of friends, then quickly retreat to stand with his buddies 15 ft away. None of the guys i was with were least bit fighters and wouldve watch me get beat to a pulp if i attacked him/all 3-4 of them rather than help so this time i just scoffed, waved him off and said fuck off . He taunted me from 15 ft away with his buddies but never came closer so i didnt escalate. I already had a reputation as a fighter so i felt no need to defend my ego from such a cowardly attempt to bait me into getting beat by 3-5 guys or just ruining another evening getting ejected before it even started or worse going to jail or emergency
This really pissed me off the first time I encountered it bc I didnt even know it existed. This guy had been in my friend group and started making snide comments a yr in and made comments he thought I was weak behind my back to others. When I confronted him and blew up emotionally, this guy ran!
@@watamutha Yup. They usually do. PA bullies are insecure little people, who themselves got bullied but didn't have the stones to stand up for themselves. SO! They'll go and target who they perceive as weaker, maybe needy? Once you check them, they'll usually try and make it your fault or blame someone else. And yup, to your point try to run away from the conflict.
I remember my “homeboy” decided to try to rob me. I was an active drug addict at the time.. so was he. He had about a good 45lbs on me.. I knew I was gonna lose. I hadn’t eaten in more than 3 days at that point.. I had no business fighting.. but I was too scared to stand up for myself as a kid, so I promised myself I’d never let myself down like that again. So I fought him.. ended up with a broken nose lol. Was completely flat I had to straighten it myself at a park bathroom mirror lmao I could barely even see. But that experience is what got me clean and off the streets. I’m coming up on 4 years now.. I exercise regularly and I’m in great shape. Yes I lost the fight.. but in a weird way I’m proud of myself. Swords are molded through fire.
@@EdLatimore1 I’m blessed now brother. Truly. Some might think it wasn’t worth it.. but my experience , as a man , it’s the times you let fear defeat you that stick with you and bother you the longest. I’ll take a loss any day where I did my best. But to not even try..? That’s unacceptable.
Fighting really is an inescapable necessity; the cost of not fighting is much greater in the long run, and I learned that the hard way. I never back down from conflict anymore.
@@Lambdamale. Being a push-over will get you killed; if not immediately, then slowly and painfully, which is much worse. My life started getting better after I realized that avoiding conflict would attract even worse conflict in the future.
I've notice In my life that the nicer a person i was the more people would want to batter me,I'm naturally a very friendly person by nature but the mount of times I've had to batter people who thought they batter me and bullie me just bcos I'm a very friendly person but I've seen the fear in there faces when I turn round and start pulling them all over what a horrible world we live in where people see you as a victim if you are a nice natured person and I've notice if you don't stand up for yourself against bullies shit then other people will come out of the wood work to try there luck against you so stand up straight away against anyone who trys to bullie you.
Distance is the ultimate martial art then deterrence followed by actual defense. Distance from stupid places where stupid people hangout at stupid times
AGREED.The best weapon is your mind and common sense,use both. LOL. The best battles are the ones you don't fight,amigo. Take it from me,grew-up in a very bad-HOOD-in Philly seen lots of test crash-DUMMIES-go to the coroner's pull out drawer when they didn't have to. Stay frosty fam.
It’s a mindset thing. As a kid in middle school, I got beat up multiple times. As long as you stand up for yourself, that’s the only thing that matters in the end.
@@dn8443you don’t have to win necessarily. You just have to be a tough out. No bully wants a tough fight. That’s why they pick on people they assume won’t or can’t fight back. But once you show that they’ll get hurt going up against you they’ll pick another target.
@@dn8443 everyone is built different. If you listen to what he said, he stated “ the easiest fights are the ones you shouldn’t be involved with” which in other words it means if a bully comes up to you and starts his/her bullying, the logic is to never back down. Without a doubt self belief will win against a bully. Now with that mindset you just said about victims not caring, than in that point YES, harassment will continue repeatedly.
I hate bullies bro, I was actually gonna fight a bully one time but I was too scared to fight even though I'm actually strong, I don't even know why, lack of confidence I guess
200%. Edward Ashley Latimore is spot on. Fighting is not about winning. It’s about your soul. You want to avoid them like the plague, but if you TOTALLY CANNOT, you don’t back down, even if you know you will lose. Your soul dies a little if you back down, and you only blame yourself.
It depends on who you have to fight though...id rather loose a little bit of my soul rather than get crippled or blinded for life because I wasn't strong enough to put my ego away for a min & fall back...its different if your defending loved ones tho ofcourse...if you back out on that then yeah you can't live with yourself
Some people end up losing their lives from a bad case of too much pride. There is a time and a place to fight and to avoid fighting. Think with your intelligence and not your emotions. Wish a good healthy life to all of you🙏
@@dn8443 I think your soul can tell the difference between you willingly breaking your promise because you got distracted. And you running away from a deadly situation.
@@wesleywallace4426 the problem is every street fight you engage in is potentially deadly or can ruin the rest of your life especially as a adult. You never know what the other man is capable of...I've known of a few ppl that literally ruined there whole life from engaging in street fights. That's why I personally would walk away every time unless I'm actively being attacked/assaulted...ppl who fight in real life are usually ppl who are lowkey suicidal or just never experienced the physical & legal consequences that come with real violence. Unless you or your loved ones are being attacked it's never worth it to engage. Getting away from the situation is always better.
I’ve noticed that avoiding low vibrational evil people is the best resort. Be able to pick up on the subtle signs of a low vibrational person and get away from them.
I used to get in fights all the times as a kid. Last time I got in a fight was before my parents put me in boxing in middle school and I haven’t had any issues since. It’s better to know and be capable of violence than to have to use it
Went to middle and high school with a girl, it was well known she took karate classes... There was an undercurrent of respect and probably a little fear for her. No one ever picked on her, but she was pretty cool anyway.
Ever stop to think ,you have a great gift as a speaker and teacher. I just started judo at 69. Elders too must remember, you won't feel any better of you back down , even though you use your age as an excuse. Especially men ,until we're bedridden we must maintain our status as men.
I like to think of myself as a teacher whose been fortunate enough to not have a boring life story and be able to string together interesting ideas. But that's fantastic man! Starting Judo at 69. It's NEVER too late!
This is why I keep 2 sets of boxing gloves in my work van, just in case desecalating doesn't work, so far no one took me up on the offer, and if they do no one gets hurt, I assume, lol, but this way I'm standing up to you and letting you know I'm down for a friendly sparring session if you want to settle it as gentleman, and get it out of our system, I'm in my 60's but kept in shape since I was 17, and workout with the younger guys at the gym I work at, but don't want to get into any real fights in the streets, people die, get hurt, stabbed, shot, court dates in front of a judge, . Arrested, always try to de-escalate first.
I started a new job a couple of years ago. Unlike my previous job, i had to deal with the blue collar mentality. I tried to be "nice" in order to learn, but the niceties were taken as weakness in this environment. I had 0 choice but to show my teeth. Attitudes changed once i tapped into my teenage mentality. Its an atmosphere of respect and theres only one way to get it. It's not in being an asshole, but being willing to be an asshole.
I wish I could work a job where showing teeth would be tolerated. I absolutely loathe the passive-aggressive bosses in corporate who mistake their made-up positions of power for invincibility.
This is real talk...even tho I was never bullied because I was athletic, I was usually socially isolated, I guess I knew some of these things instinctively. I witnessed alot of bullying and I wish I spoke up more.
I was bullied backed down a thew times as a younger kid, had a thew fights in later life won and lost multiple violent altercations, its stuck with me i have a huge grudge i cant let go of and i feel like i need to face all dangerous situations and i probably create alot because i always want to test my bravery now , i know im alot braver than i used to be but I think my soul still seeks revenge and i always need to prove myself I dont want god to think im a coward and i see everything as threat now
@Spartan-Of-Truth I've got no actual fight training I think maybe ima start boxing at my old age it's part of my pride I need to get over and I don't wana be angry all the time but with that said I wana know I can f someome up if I need to hoping the boxing will let be a peace with myself, we're soldiers now but we tryna be superman I think, just don't wana project this shit on my kids I think we should all been forced to learn and practice fighting as young men maybe .... either way we both see what's going on so we ain't guna let it swallow us up ca we're stronger than that now and they want us on this madness and in street anyway, stay strong we beat this 2025 bro
@deyahsteel Also, if I had a little boy I’d make it almost an obligation to learn self defense. Heck, even use the little man or girl to practice. You look about my age too. Stay up my dude! Those at the top want their feet on our necks.
The only way to get rid of bullying is to get a lot of muscle and every time someone talks trash up to your face, challenge them for a fight, high chance of winning. I also fully support and condone protein, creatine and learning MMA. You won't regret getting strong.
I HATE bullies intensely and have been training in martial arts and self defense. Been doing MMA and BJJ for several years. Also practice “verbal jiu jitsu” in front of the mirror and writing. Writing is a very powerful tool and it let’s out a lot of your pent up ideas out.
So true. I grew up in the Bronx in the 60s and it was a tough neighborhood. As a little guy I knew I had to fight even though I knew I would lose. That being said, every bully I fought never picked on me again, even though I got my ass kicked in some of the fights.
I think everyone should get in a fight at least once. Not a boxing match. Not an mma fight. A street fight where it’s you and another guy and there’s no rules or limitations to how hard you can go. It builds character and confidence even if you lose but that’s only if you don’t back down and you actually fight back.
I wish more people brought up Patrice. As goofy as some of his stories got, man lived a learned life. Lot worth listening to. Glad I found your channel as well.
The only times people try to bully me is when they have the leverage in their favor. I'm an MMA instructor, so I often have police officers, security guards, coaches, professors, etc. trying to mess with me, only while they're on the job of course. Then I run into them in public and they won't even give me eye contact... Nobody wants to try me on an even playing field.
Back in time the person we loss fights with we end up kool a few weeks down the line. Now losing fights escalated to further actions like gunplay. Society gotten way too emotional
Too many ppl respect criminals (I mean rappers) & not decency. Your everyday avg citizen civilian believes in "no snitching" because of criminals (I mean rappers). And they don't even realize it.
Ive trained at a few MMA Gyms and Ive gotten into it with all types of fighters whether it be ones who train or amateur contenders. They all saw me as the small, new, young guy. A lot of fighters are cowards for picking on people they know aren’t as skilled as them at martial arts and I always let them know that and that I didn’t care how intensely they trained. Some people see a kid with more potential and get insecure.
@@EdLatimore1Ive been to many, I meet most of these @ssholes at the community gym to but they all go to local gyms too. I stopped going to mma gyms for a while cus of prices and drama in general. Im no expert I do this for fun but Ive gotten into too many altercations just for defending myself. Im known as the strongest kicker in my gym despite being 5’9 155 so they tend to bark but not fight my physically.
@@EdLatimore1Man I used to think fighters were humble but i think a lot of them are insecure / got issues at home. Ive met a few that blew up on me / raised there voice because of things Id casually mention im conversation. Type of shit that makes you too surprised to even react. Like one older fighter yelled at me because I asked him if he still went to this gym he apparently had beef with. I dont like having to walk on eggshells when it comes to talking to ppl, sorry if it may sound like im ranting
@@EdLatimore1 Yea bro its cool 99% of fighters I met were very respectable and level headed, there were some situations where they were wrong and Im sure there were some situations where I couldve said things differently or avoid a misunderstanding with better communication. It was really only 4 or 5 fighters in my life I met with a crazy ego who I had problems with, type of shit where you dont even want to interact with them.
@ You don’t want to talk to anyone, that’s why you ignore someone. Defuse a situation could lead to provoking a situation to expand very wrongly!!!! Mind your business and ignore someone!!!
@@JonathanLomax-d4y I believe we are talking about 2 completely different type of situations. If you're in a bad area which you're unfamiliar with and you walking minding your business you walk past an alleyway and couple dudes in hoodies call out to you without using your name then your approach is perfect. But let's say your out in a bar where you're familiar with the people there or something and a guy comes up to you he hasn't got too close to you but is talking like a punk keep in mind he hasn't put his hands on you yet. Ignoring him may not be the best option here as it may provoke him more depending on whether this person is actually worth reasoning with.
I also loosed my first fight in school times … but after that I trained and then had 12 years a job as security and Door Keeper… after a while and much fights … I got more respect from people there … always be prepared for everything everytime everywhere… also if you go home after security work … always eyes open 🔥🔥🔥✌️😎✌️🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀
i was bullied up until 6th grade. sonething in me snapped then i turned into a bully for the next 6 years. i regret the years i was the aggressor. i am grateful none of those kids i bounced around haven't looked me up and took me out.
I’m an X-Hockey player and played up to semi pro, I’ve been in my fair share of fights on and off the ice and I always loved getting into the locker room after a fight to see what kind of damage I took😂 IMO attitude is everything when it comes to defense. If u look like u can fight ppl are less likely to wanna throw hands. Love your videos great topics. Don’t be scared be prepared 💪🏻👊🏼👊🏼🤛🏼✌🏼
Good stuff. I agree that Bullies go after the easiest targets. I also think they do it because their hurt and looking to empower themselves while avoiding the consequences like you said. When you examine bullies they are people carrying around a lot of pain and insecurities. All of this just because humans struggle to deal with their pain and insecurities in a healthy way.
I had to fight growing up and had no other choice,every day, i fought before, and after school, i started doing karate and judo to start i also did muay Thai jkd and bjj because of the constant bullying , i lost so many fights because of being scared i got beatens at home as well i started fighting back and still lost😂 as it was never one on one when i started doing damage the bullying stopped ,during that time i also started fighting back at home against my mothers abusive boyfriend it quickly became me not knowing anything other than fighting , i started getting in trouble and getting locked up , eventually losing everything and going in and out of prison , as i never learned to deescalate situations. present day with my 20s and thirtys mostly gone because of prison i, at the very least ,know that i can defend myself and the people i love whether or not a weapon is involved .these days, i stay away from hi risk areas and situations, and so far, so good i haven't had any fights in about 2 years or so. i still train and learn daily different self-defense techniques. im ready if anything goes down.
Sorry about the rough upbringing man. It's terrible that the most important thing for our future-the family we're born into‐is beyond our control. But the best you can do now is protect yourself, the people you love, and always be a good example.
I was lucky and had 3 brothers. We fought each other for as long as I can remember. This made me a tough kid. Not necessarily stronger than others but I was meaner and could take more punishment. So when I was in school I only dealt with a few bullies because they knew that even if they won the fight they were not going to walk away without knowing they were in a fight.
I started off with martial arts because I was smaller and an easy target for bullies. Eventually despite them being twice my size once I cracked them they soon learned. Eventually that got me into boxing. I plan to get my son and daughter into both wrestling and boxing. Start them off with weightlifting first though. That’s just the way of the world.
Love your videos. I grew up in the projects up in East Harlem and I had to force myself into developing that “You not gonna play me mindset”. The fears I had as a kid broke after an extremely humiliating situation that happened to me. The laughter of everybody broke me to the point where I turned fear into anger. I’m honestly grateful for that reality check till this day. I am a big believer in training to prepare even if nothing ever happens (Hopefully it doesn’t but I must continue preparing just Incase)
The training probably kept you from escalating situations that could have been bad. I find that knowing how to hurt folks makes you less likely to want to hurt folks.
@ I’m grateful for seeing all the evil things that came from the projects and the environment because it has actually led me into knowing human capability. My capability in which I use in my workouts and training. It made me see what the true power of extreme discipline can achieve and I’ll never stop doing the hard work. God bless for the content and anybody going through it learning the hard way💎🙏🏻
Hey Ed, you share truth here. I agree with everything you shared. If someone disrects you when other people are arround you allways have to stand your ground in first place. If someone does accept bad treatment, its like teaching others how he can be treated. I think one of the best advices i can add: Develope inner confidence. Don't be someone who needs external validation or attention. Be able to move and act silent - unbothered, even when a group of people is arround. Be able to do that without giving the people arround you any attention. That sends a clear message.
@@PicaPauDiablo1 Not as well as I would like to, but I've been working on it in anticipation of returning shortly. My wife is Portuguese, so that helps.
True. In the hood with badass kids always wanting to start problems in numbers. But passive aggressive bullies are the ones that use words to sneak this so you can act a certain way and they succeed by making you look like a loose cannon. It's crazy how you mentioned tattooed facial hair guys that's exactly how you describe is accurate there is a guy who owns a barber shop and he is exactly like that and one of his employees said that he is passive-aggressive.
Ed, did I read you lived in Portugal?!...Portugal and Spain are "the life". I loved Porto, and I loved the beachfront, tile streets, and all the cafe's in Lisbon. Used to go to the beach in Lisbon, take a walk, and pick up broken pieces of Azulejos, the blue and white tiles from the murals. The sardines in portugal are OUT of this world. Most people in America, have never had a sardine or seafood like that. I love the Alfama in Lisbon also. I always say, the only two words you need in Lisbon are "cerveja" and "obrigado". It's a beautiful place, glad you got to live there. First time viewer. Also northern spain (the western part)....Galicia is the best!. ~ Also, great job with your production!
Hey thanks! And yeah, my wife is from Portugal and we lived over there from the end of 2019 to just after the pandemic hit. We plan to go back soon for a few weeks/months. I love that place so much. We lived in Parede outside of Lisbon, and then in the center of Porto. And yeah, the sardines are fantastic haha.
@@EdLatimore1 Oh wow!..It's very cool that you got to live there, and also have a local guide!!!.... I strongly reccommend the national park..."Pineda Gerez"...All I can say, is go to the farthest in, parts of the park. ~ Again, thank you for your entertaining and informative production! ~ Wishing you and your family the best in 2025 :)
Thanks unc. I randomly came across this video n been wanting to see someone speak like this on bullying on all levels. Including prison. I subscribed nd like. 💯
I was living in an alley years ago in Vietnam, the alleyway "Big Dog" did not like me for whatever reason even though I was always nice to members of his family. One day i drove into the alley on my moto and he tried to intimidate me by starting shit and saying he'd teach me a lesson. I called him on his bluff bc i was tired of not standing up for myself my entire life. He squared up to me and me to him. I stared dead on in his eyes and in that moment I didnt care if i got hurt or not. Knew in my bones I couldn't back down this time, even though i hadnt learned to box at this point. 10 longest seconds of my life went by and he backed down. I went upstairs to my apartment and shook like a wet dog from all the adrenaline. One of the proudest moments of my life and I'll always remeber it for the rest of my life. Most fights should be avoided, but some you know you just have to step up
All I got to say is no one's really trying to fight out here 90% of the time it's just posturing. Most men aren't going to know the attitude to have if they never put their life on the line making their own decisions. Get kicked out your living situation, or try so hard to change you willing to die for it. Stand 10 toes down on who you are so much you're willing to get hit for it. That's just called having morals & not backing down in the game of life.
Your video is great was adding the perspective that the adult world is easier to deal with bc you'll get thousands of dollars for provoking someone and bonus points if you don't even care that it's just 1 person who doesn't fit in a your job trying to jump you it's not like a mob trying to go all out on you. Psychological bullying is different which is why men typically learn sooner or later not to make the wrong friends whether it's work, prison, school etc. your friends can sabotage your rep & ruin whatever situation you get thrown into It's better to watch from a distance, get on good terms with more people & learn how to put yourself out there favorably and even bravely just not recklessly I've had grown men tell me I have anger issues bc of how I deal with situations but there's no emotion when I bring a woman's boyfriend to her, and counter whatever comment her boyfriend told me. etc. You get what I'm saying. Men learn skills to deal with the smaller petty things it's about intervening early & not accepting "karmic" behaviors such as a handshake after witnessing some scummy go down you already know What you touched on was the harder stuff I want to add there are attitudes from bullies such as superiority or privilege if one guy perceives you as "You know you're a B**** so ik you're not going to disagree with me" It makes me want to give them the stern facial expression and outright disagree. This can come from hood people etc. they don't think someone born middle class has that but it's a skill more average people need to sharpen when dealing with a bully The more confidence people pick up on the easier this gets like training a muscle
@calint123 yeah men are sorta bad (initially) at the psychological stuff. But that's where civilized people play from behind the veneer or plausible deniabikity. It's important to learn how to manage that as well
I did seven years in state prison (I used to be a dumbass) and the first thing I was taught was do not let anyone disrespect you for free. That goes into the next lesson and the topic of the video, never back down from a fight even if you think you'll lose. If you let someone disrespect you and you back down then you will be a target for the entire time you're locked up. I'm 5:10 about 155-165. Played sports and lifted my whole life but I don't cut an intimidating figure, so naturally I was tried a few times. I took those lessons to heart and you know what happened? Except for one guy every other person who I called out copped dueces soon as we're in the cell away from the cameras, guards and any help they may get. Not saying I'm a badass at all, but I did have my mind made up that I was gonna unload on anyone who squared up with me. People like that wanna look tough in front of others by picking on someone they think is weak, but they don't have any heart and that makes up for a lot in a fight or confronting people. If they expect someone to just fold when they don't and the target becomes the aggressor they don't know how to react. If you're not already locked up you should try to avoid fights as much as possible because that's a great way to get locked up.
Great video, thanks ! Unfortunately, being kind and empathetic is often interpreted or perceived as weakness, even though the person could actually be more firm than others who appear aggressive on the exterior or at the outset. But perception and first impressions do matter, at least in many contexts/environments. In business this seems sure, but e.g. among clergy or in caretaking profession, being kind (to a certain degree) would probably be rewarded and considered a positive characteristic.
Wow. This video is killing it! (Not to mention filled with good advice as always.) I have been following you and reading your books for a long time. I Hope you keep finding success here on UA-cam.
Isn’t everyone else in disbelief this guy just condensed relevant depth & substance so many lessons? TY ❤❤❤❤+++++ but I didn’t catch any better usable solutions esp for imposs manipulative situs already thieving all unsurvivable
Most people are afraid when they throw hands ..its 'the blood pumping ..whether you win or lose you fight ..when someone knows you gonna throw hands they'll think twice about fighting you again
I just learned of your UA-cam channel from your Twitter/X account. It's great to see you on here and I look forward to absorbing your video content. Good luck with navigating the UA-cam algorithm - it's a fickle beast!
My saying on it is, you can't show aggression AND you can't show fear. You have to go in it with teh attitude of "I won't fight you, but I will not back down from you fighting me.'
One time I went to jail for a week (bs childsupport charge and having to wait on a transport to the county where the warrant was issued). I saw a couple of times where things got confrontational between inmates, but never was directly threatened. I made a point to look confident, but not cocky, friendly and respectful, but not ass-kissy, and to be laid back as much as possible. Maybe I just was never in a scenario where I was going to get into a fight anyway, but I at least felt safer by trying to maintain that attitude.
“…every single time anyone even THINKS about bullying you, you let them know that they are getting into a fight. Win, lose, or draw, EVERY SINGLE TIME. They will soon lose interest in bullying you. Don’t worry about your mom, I will back you up…” -Best advice dad ever gave me
I'm a 44 year old left arm amputee lost my left arm 2 inches above my elbow when I was 25 years old so being I had a martial arts upbringing from my army drill seargent Dad whom I'm his 1st born child dad was already a 2nd degree blk belt in old school taekwondo and goju-ryu karate his biggest joy was teaching me "how to fight" as his eldest I was disciplined and trained by an US army drill Sergeant how to defend myself I earned my 1st degree blk belts after I graduated highschool and entered into the US Navy for my own military career. -cont
After I make it 7 years in the navy with 2 tours of war time detail I'm Afghanistan as a combat engineer as a seabee i immediately get out if the military and get into a bad accident and lose my left arm in a freak incident and have to spend the rest of my life as an arm amputee and to prepare myself for this life I then at 25 or 26 underwent training to obtain my 2nd degree blk belts in goju-ryu karate and taekwondo now as a combined 4th degree blk belt I proceeded with my life intending to live an honest non violent lifestyle but due to the toxicity of society I WAS CALLED BACK INTO FUTHER ACTION, AND MY DAD TOLD ME TO NOT TAKE PPLS SHIT, NOR TO GIVE ANY TO YOU ALL, SO BEING THAT YOU FUCKING JABRONIS OUT NUMBER ME BY A VAST NUMBER, IVE TAKEN GREAT PLEASURE IN BEING A SOCIALLY REJECTED INDIVIDUAL WHO DOESN'T HESITATE TO PUT HIS SIZE 13 FOOT UP ALL YOUR TYPE AND IVE NOW BECOME SO UNWILLING TO DEAL WITH THE IGNORANCE OF YOU ALL THAT I ALWAYS FEEL THREATENED BY YOU ALL AND HAVE BEEN "DEFENDING MYSELF " OUTSIDE OF MARTIAL ARTS COMPETITIONS IN THESE STREETS AND I ASSURE YOU THAT ATLANTA GEORGIA IS THEE ABSOLUTE SWEETEST PLACE ON EARTH IN REFRENCE TO THE BUM ASS DICKHEADS AND FAGGOTS BEING MY PERSONAL STRESS PUNCHING BAGS. EVERYONE IS A TOUGH GUY, GANG MEMBERS GYM BROS ,DRUG DEALERS ANY MALE WHOS BEEN TO PRISON EACH LIVE A DELUSIONAL AND TOXIC EXISTENCE AND BELIEVE THAT THEIR ALL THE CHOSEN ONE BUT CANT EVEN BEAT A 1 ARM MAN. YOU ALL SHOULD JUST BECOME GOOD PPL BECAUSE THIS BAD GUY SHIT ,YOUR NOT AT ALL BUILT FOR.
I grew up in a poor neighborhood and was an ugly kid, so fighting was unavoidable. Never bullied others but learned striking hard first quickly ended most fights. Never back down or you will be a target their after. How you carry yourself matters.
The strategy for avoiding physical bullying reminds me of the story of Frederick Douglass, a man born into slavery in the US. One day, he was about to be beaten by an overseer but he decided he would not comply. He seized the overseer by the neck and fought with him for hours until the overseer left, exhausted. Douglass said that from that day on, he would put up a fight whenever he was about to be beaten, and he writes in his autobiography that from that day forward, he never received a severe beating at the hands of a master again.
I am a small guy, but I agree. I have never been in a prison but it has happened that I had to defend myself. I was expecting to lose the fight but the other guy was so suprised that I actually fought back that he froze. He had multiple bruises on his face, I had nothing.
This is what people always told me-- "just ignore it," while it would just UP the abuse if I did. Then if you fight back, the blame the victim as having a "problem with anger."
I'm in my 50s. Learned this a long time ago. I got good at deescalate issues. I know where to walk away from bad places. If I can't walk away then I'll do what I need to do. I'll uses anything to be able to go home.
Beware the dog that does not bark and the man that does not speak. Cheyenne proverb Less thunder in the mouth and more lightning in the hands. Apache proverb
12:17 my boss is trying this with me. He made a comment saying maybe they didn't need me but I just ignored him. I wanted to tell him any job can be taught to anyone as to imply that his job can be taken too.
Thats crazy how you said bullies leave enough space for plausible deniability so you, as the agresaor can seem wrong. They aslo leave no evidence of their harassment. I lost a job thru this.
I'm a lil guy but growing up with a military ghetto dad and an older brother. They weren't having me being scared of anyone. Also, my brother's friends made me tuff regardless of my size. I had to fight or face my dad or brother.
I have been bullied my whole life, being short I am easy pickings. Going into the workplace and college, the bullying became Racial based from the Usual Suspects. I have never known anything different.
Dude my thing I realized about fighting, it only takes one mistake to mess up your face so bad that you can't get laid anymore, for the rest of your life. No matter how good you are at fighting all it takes is an oddly shaped pebble or if someone dropped a pencil on the sidewalk somewhere and you slide your foot on it while you try to take a swing at somebody, or maybe you just happen to get your ass kicked really bad that time. True story also my one boss was this New York rich kid and he had to get 2 separate nose job surgeries to fix his nose because it got broken so bad when he was in high school and got his head slammed on a table in a fight w some football players who he started sh*t with. His nose was messed up for years basically his whole adult prime was ruined and he was balding real bad by the time he got it fixed
As a certified former bully myself when you ignore non physical bullying the bully will take it as disrespect and will resort to physical bullying to get a reaction
Martial arts helped me a lot. It helped me stand up and conquer 2 bullies in my lifetime. Yes, physical training and mma is a necessary life skill for a man.
Always called the “pretty boy” bc I look like my mom. Mix that with being a Navy Brat there was always somebody who wanted smoke. But I fight like my daddy. Bullies became my friends when I put them in their place lol.
I’m an Air Force brat. When my dad retired, he brought us back to his home town: Baltimore, MD. I spent a chunk of my childhood in Germany. By the time this happened, I was a fluent German speaker and had an accent that you could cut with a knife. I might as well have stepped out of a UFO on my first day of school. Fortunately, my dad taught me to box. I fought a lot, especially in middle school, probably got my ass kicked most of the time but eventually a demonstrable willingness/ability to maul someone in the process paid off: “There’s easier targets around here. That little fcker is crazy.”
Interesting video on so many levels....Triggered much thought and memories in me as well. When I was much younger than I am now (and also much stupider) I was bullied quite a bit....(Bullied too by people in places/institutions that basically had NO business bullying ANYBODY....Basically paying LIP SERVICE to the concepts of "Do-Gooderism", and sometimes not even bothering with THAT....The "lip service" that is.🙄) I also realize that my "torture" that I have endured could have been at least MORE "Heavenly" or "blissfull" to SOMEONE ELSE?? (Generally NOT a good idea to bitch about "paper cuts" on "fingers" to someone with a "BROKEN ARM". How does something like THAT get QUANTIFIED....????....I have NO idea.) Though MY torment by bullies reminded me of a cliche I myself learned in the MILITARY..... (("Heaven" for bullies....The Military.....Though a PEACETIME military MIGHT be more "HeavenLY" for bullies than one fully engaged in an actual war???🙄🤣))..... ......."Shit rolls DOWNHILL" In other words, "bullying breeds bullying" or rather "assholes breed assholes" or EVEN...."Demons breed demons". (Of course there will always be exceptions to the rule, but probably not too many..... "Exceptions" to the "rule"😶) Sooo, as a "weakling" MYSELF, I dont think I necessarily went OUT of my way to LOOK FOR and FIND those "weaker" than myself, BUT.... if I "bumped" into them--then I generally made sure that I was the "alpha wolf"....Until IF or WHEN I may have overstepped my "bounds"???? But this is one of the "benefits" of getting older....Just discovering that it gets pretty exhausting playing the SOCIAL GAME. (Not that I am ANTI social...Which, to me by the way, is a mildly bullying thing to label someone as...."Antisocial"....But I am often NOT as "PROsocial" as I "should" be????) I am also "young" enough that I MAY still take "passive aggressive" pot shots at people that I MIGHT think MIGHT be needed to be "taken down a notch" even if that means pointing out to others such people are wearing "the EMPEROR'S new clothes"....Or that their "tighty whiteys" may have SHIT STAINS in them???? Is that a wise thing to do?? Probably not. But I have noticed that "passive aggression" is probably better than ACTIVE aggression....At least in the SHORTER run?? But having discovered "Buddhism" or more "Far Eastern thought", I AM starting to realize that MAYBE its best to be more AWARE of one's own behavior and "fly" LESS on "Autopilot"???? In other words, be AWARE enough to KNOW when ones OWN bullying might be unnecessary and unlike "Nike"....Just DON'T do it?? But I am human, and I DO get annoyed/irritated, and am NOT disciplined enough in my "Buddhist/Far Eastern mindset" to NOT respond to ALL such "stimuli", so I MAY then "bully" someone to get them to "cease and desist" with whatever they are doing that I might find annoying/irtitating?? I also get BORED too, so I MAY amuse myself at someone else's "expense" and that MAY involve "bullying"??? (Or sit "idly" by while SOMEONE ELSE amuses THEMSELVES at SOMEONE ELSE'S expense....That is someone who is NOT me?? Maybe even laugh at the antics or "bullying" by the "class clown"....Just as long as I'm NOT sitting in the "FRONT ROW" at the "Comedy Club" where the comedian starts picking on ME... Because I might be "quick" with the "pen" or "typewriter" but I am SLOWER than "continental drift" with my "tongue"!!!🙄 🙄 Please excuse the "passive aggressive" look on this Emotion's face! 🤣😉🫡
Haha I got you. Yeah the military is the worst place for a lot of that shit. And a lot of times, it goes WAY too far, especially with young girls. When I was in, they were making a BIG push on sexual harassment because of this.
Get my free e-book, "The Fighter's Mindset: Boxing Lessons In Grit, Resilience, and Anti-fragility" -> mind-and-fist.kit.com/fffe6279bf
I keep trying to download your ebook, but its not sending it to my email, brother
@@rowanphillips3497 Check the spam folder. ed@edlatimore.com is where it would be coming from
@@EdLatimore1 I tried multiple times last night and this morning, and religiously checked the spam folder. I’m getting nothing.
@@rowanphillips3497 Actually, after pressing on the big download button on the webpage at above link, the book appears in a new window, from where you can download it. It's the newsletter that goes to the entered email address.
I dont think all bullyingSituations are that cut n dried.
i once had a bouncer 20 lbs smaller160 than me 180 but a karate belt say WATCH THIS from 15 ft away, attack me by just running up to me from the side and trying to sucker punch me.
i seen/heard it coming and turned away making it just a glancing blow. Thn i grabbed him and we basically knocked over half the tables in the bar trying to get over on the other guy and i was eventually grabbed by all his bouncer buddies and thrown out.
Weeks later in a diif bar, the same lil punk came running up and this time just cuff me on the back of the head as i was about sit down with a table full of friends, then quickly retreat to stand with his buddies 15 ft away.
None of the guys i was with were least bit fighters and wouldve watch me get beat to a pulp if i attacked him/all 3-4 of them rather than help so this time i just scoffed, waved him off and said fuck off .
He taunted me from 15 ft away with his buddies but never came closer so i didnt escalate.
I already had a reputation as a fighter so i felt no need to defend my ego from such a cowardly attempt to bait me into getting beat by 3-5 guys or just ruining another evening getting ejected before it even started or worse going to jail or emergency
Passive-aggressive bullies are cowards. They fold when they’re responded to with direct verbal aggression.
Yea they do 💯
Then they’ll be the first to go run and tell on you and play victim.
@@LeadLeftLeon they humble under a little pressure
This really pissed me off the first time I encountered it bc I didnt even know it existed. This guy had been in my friend group and started making snide comments a yr in and made comments he thought I was weak behind my back to others. When I confronted him and blew up emotionally, this guy ran!
@@watamutha Yup. They usually do. PA bullies are insecure little people, who themselves got bullied but didn't have the stones to stand up for themselves. SO! They'll go and target who they perceive as weaker, maybe needy?
Once you check them, they'll usually try and make it your fault or blame someone else. And yup, to your point try to run away from the conflict.
@@watamutha Ha, sounds typical of the type of dudes who do this.
I remember my “homeboy” decided to try to rob me. I was an active drug addict at the time.. so was he. He had about a good 45lbs on me..
I knew I was gonna lose. I hadn’t eaten in more than 3 days at that point.. I had no business fighting.. but I was too scared to stand up for myself as a kid, so I promised myself I’d never let myself down like that again. So I fought him.. ended up with a broken nose lol. Was completely flat I had to straighten it myself at a park bathroom mirror lmao I could barely even see. But that experience is what got me clean and off the streets.
I’m coming up on 4 years now.. I exercise regularly and I’m in great shape.
Yes I lost the fight.. but in a weird way I’m proud of myself.
Swords are molded through fire.
Damn brotha that's a serious story. I hope life is good now though
respect to you for getting and staying clean.
@@EdLatimore1 I’m blessed now brother. Truly. Some might think it wasn’t worth it.. but my experience , as a man , it’s the times you let fear defeat you that stick with you and bother you the longest. I’ll take a loss any day where I did my best. But to not even try..? That’s unacceptable.
@@1BasedAmerican "I'll take a loss any day where I did my best." That's a life motto right there.
@@christobevins6426 Thanks man. Best thing I ever did
Fighting really is an inescapable necessity; the cost of not fighting is much greater in the long run, and I learned that the hard way. I never back down from conflict anymore.
You can never back down, ever in life
If I didn't accept the fact I needed to check my coworkers, I would have had to leave my job.
@@Lambdamale. Being a push-over will get you killed; if not immediately, then slowly and painfully, which is much worse. My life started getting better after I realized that avoiding conflict would attract even worse conflict in the future.
@Lambdamale. It's all part of this learning experience we call "life"
I've notice In my life that the nicer a person i was the more people would want to batter me,I'm naturally a very friendly person by nature but the mount of times I've had to batter people who thought they batter me and bullie me just bcos I'm a very friendly person but I've seen the fear in there faces when I turn round and start pulling them all over what a horrible world we live in where people see you as a victim if you are a nice natured person and I've notice if you don't stand up for yourself against bullies shit then other people will come out of the wood work to try there luck against you so stand up straight away against anyone who trys to bullie you.
Distance is the ultimate martial art then deterrence followed by actual defense. Distance from stupid places where stupid people hangout at stupid times
Yep! An ounce of prevention is worth thousands in legal and medical bills
AGREED.The best weapon is your mind and common sense,use both. LOL. The best battles are the ones you don't fight,amigo. Take it from me,grew-up in a very bad-HOOD-in Philly seen lots of test crash-DUMMIES-go to the coroner's pull out drawer when they didn't have to. Stay frosty fam.
@kerry-j4m Up in North Philly?
@@EdLatimore1 No,SW Philly,76 & Springfield Ave,..
My defence is to run, but if you trap a prey and they can fight for their life.
It’s a mindset thing. As a kid in middle school, I got beat up multiple times. As long as you stand up for yourself, that’s the only thing that matters in the end.
Yep. It's the message you send to yourself and the world.
Like in jail
There's some predators that don't care if you fight back..if you keep loosing fights you'll keep getting abused..
@@dn8443you don’t have to win necessarily. You just have to be a tough out. No bully wants a tough fight. That’s why they pick on people they assume won’t or can’t fight back. But once you show that they’ll get hurt going up against you they’ll pick another target.
@@dn8443 everyone is built different. If you listen to what he said, he stated “ the easiest fights are the ones you shouldn’t be involved with” which in other words it means if a bully comes up to you and starts his/her bullying, the logic is to never back down. Without a doubt self belief will win against a bully. Now with that mindset you just said about victims not caring, than in that point YES, harassment will continue repeatedly.
I hate bullies bro, I was actually gonna fight a bully one time but I was too scared to fight even though I'm actually strong, I don't even know why, lack of confidence I guess
Probably good thing. Fights go sideways fast.
Fear is normal and all of us experience it. There's nothing wrong with you feeling that. Learn how to fight though fr.
Serious injury and jail time can seriously ruin a mans life.
Best thing to do is continue to improve yourself. Let those petty bastards watch how successful you become 👍
Don't worry you'll get there. Life will get you prepared for that.
200%. Edward Ashley Latimore is spot on. Fighting is not about winning. It’s about your soul. You want to avoid them like the plague, but if you TOTALLY CANNOT, you don’t back down, even if you know you will lose. Your soul dies a little if you back down, and you only blame yourself.
Thank you friend!
It depends on who you have to fight though...id rather loose a little bit of my soul rather than get crippled or blinded for life because I wasn't strong enough to put my ego away for a min & fall back...its different if your defending loved ones tho ofcourse...if you back out on that then yeah you can't live with yourself
Some people end up losing their lives from a bad case of too much pride. There is a time and a place to fight and to avoid fighting. Think with your intelligence and not your emotions. Wish a good healthy life to all of you🙏
@@dn8443
I think your soul can tell the difference between you willingly breaking your promise because you got distracted.
And you running away from a deadly situation.
@@wesleywallace4426 the problem is every street fight you engage in is potentially deadly or can ruin the rest of your life especially as a adult. You never know what the other man is capable of...I've known of a few ppl that literally ruined there whole life from engaging in street fights. That's why I personally would walk away every time unless I'm actively being attacked/assaulted...ppl who fight in real life are usually ppl who are lowkey suicidal or just never experienced the physical & legal consequences that come with real violence. Unless you or your loved ones are being attacked it's never worth it to engage. Getting away from the situation is always better.
I’ve noticed that avoiding low vibrational evil people is the best resort. Be able to pick up on the subtle signs of a low vibrational person and get away from them.
I agree. Unfortunately, we don't always have that luxury
@ you are 100% correct
@ I’m also from and currently am in the dmv this place has always had the element that you are talking about
I used to get in fights all the times as a kid. Last time I got in a fight was before my parents put me in boxing in middle school and I haven’t had any issues since. It’s better to know and be capable of violence than to have to use it
A man who is skilled with his sword, keeps it sheathed only to use it when absolutely necessary.
Like Outkast said: "Don't pull that thang out unless you fixin' to bang."
Good for you your parents where smart..
Went to middle and high school with a girl, it was well known she took karate classes... There was an undercurrent of respect and probably a little fear for her. No one ever picked on her, but she was pretty cool anyway.
Ever stop to think ,you have a great gift as a speaker and teacher. I just started judo at 69. Elders too must remember, you won't feel any better of you back down , even though you use your age as an excuse. Especially men ,until we're bedridden we must maintain our status as men.
I like to think of myself as a teacher whose been fortunate enough to not have a boring life story and be able to string together interesting ideas. But that's fantastic man! Starting Judo at 69. It's NEVER too late!
You're my champ sir. Amma get up my feet.
@internetgoldmine3441 thanks yo
RIGHT on, I just enrolled in kickboxing as well
This is why I keep 2 sets of boxing gloves in my work van, just in case desecalating doesn't work, so far no one took me up on the offer, and if they do no one gets hurt, I assume, lol, but this way I'm standing up to you and letting you know I'm down for a friendly sparring session if you want to settle it as gentleman, and get it out of our system, I'm in my 60's but kept in shape since I was 17, and workout with the younger guys at the gym I work at, but don't want to get into any real fights in the streets, people die, get hurt, stabbed, shot, court dates in front of a judge, . Arrested, always try to de-escalate first.
I started a new job a couple of years ago. Unlike my previous job, i had to deal with the blue collar mentality. I tried to be "nice" in order to learn, but the niceties were taken as weakness in this environment. I had 0 choice but to show my teeth. Attitudes changed once i tapped into my teenage mentality. Its an atmosphere of respect and theres only one way to get it. It's not in being an asshole, but being willing to be an asshole.
Different cultures definitely come with different expectations. Being able to read that is always important.
I wish I could work a job where showing teeth would be tolerated. I absolutely loathe the passive-aggressive bosses in corporate who mistake their made-up positions of power for invincibility.
@@1r3u It's annoying AF. Weak folks who get a little bit of power and then hide behind it. I feel your pain fam.
@@EdLatimore1 Exactly. It's crazy, man lol Loved the vid btw👌🏻
@1r3u thanks man!
This is real talk...even tho I was never bullied because I was athletic, I was usually socially isolated, I guess I knew some of these things instinctively. I witnessed alot of bullying and I wish I spoke up more.
It's a dog eat dog world out there. Sucks sometimes, but it's true
I was bullied backed down a thew times as a younger kid, had a thew fights in later life won and lost multiple violent altercations, its stuck with me i have a huge grudge i cant let go of and i feel like i need to face all dangerous situations and i probably create alot because i always want to test my bravery now , i know im alot braver than i used to be but I think my soul still seeks revenge and i always need to prove myself I dont want god to think im a coward and i see everything as threat now
God won't care. Just stay safe brotha
@EdLatimore1 I owe him man , love brother and long live the resistance 🫡
Basically the same here.
@Spartan-Of-Truth I've got no actual fight training I think maybe ima start boxing at my old age it's part of my pride I need to get over and I don't wana be angry all the time but with that said I wana know I can f someome up if I need to hoping the boxing will let be a peace with myself, we're soldiers now but we tryna be superman I think, just don't wana project this shit on my kids I think we should all been forced to learn and practice fighting as young men maybe .... either way we both see what's going on so we ain't guna let it swallow us up ca we're stronger than that now and they want us on this madness and in street anyway, stay strong we beat this 2025 bro
@deyahsteel Also, if I had a little boy I’d make it almost an obligation to learn self defense. Heck, even use the little man or girl to practice. You look about my age too. Stay up my dude! Those at the top want their feet on our necks.
The worst bullies are the ones with authority
The only way to get rid of bullying is to get a lot of muscle and every time someone talks trash up to your face, challenge them for a fight, high chance of winning. I also fully support and condone protein, creatine and learning MMA. You won't regret getting strong.
Yep. No one ever regrets becoming more capable and healthy
I HATE bullies intensely and have been training in martial arts and self defense. Been doing MMA and BJJ for several years. Also practice “verbal jiu jitsu” in front of the mirror and writing. Writing is a very powerful tool and it let’s out a lot of your pent up ideas out.
So true. I grew up in the Bronx in the 60s and it was a tough neighborhood. As a little guy I knew I had to fight even though I knew I would lose. That being said, every bully I fought never picked on me again, even though I got my ass kicked in some of the fights.
But you stood your ground and earned respect
I think everyone should get in a fight at least once. Not a boxing match. Not an mma fight. A street fight where it’s you and another guy and there’s no rules or limitations to how hard you can go. It builds character and confidence even if you lose but that’s only if you don’t back down and you actually fight back.
Haha I'm the first guy to tell guys to fight, but I'm also the first guy to say maybe not a street fight haha. Them thigns can get you killed!
I wish more people brought up Patrice. As goofy as some of his stories got, man lived a learned life. Lot worth listening to. Glad I found your channel as well.
The only times people try to bully me is when they have the leverage in their favor. I'm an MMA instructor, so I often have police officers, security guards, coaches, professors, etc. trying to mess with me, only while they're on the job of course. Then I run into them in public and they won't even give me eye contact... Nobody wants to try me on an even playing field.
People like that hate an even playing field.
😂because there cowards.💯
How tall are you?
@@marc6883 6’1. 210 lbs
@@marc6883 I’m 6’1 and 210 lbs. Not the biggest guy but big enough 😈
Back in time the person we loss fights with we end up kool a few weeks down the line. Now losing fights escalated to further actions like gunplay. Society gotten way too emotional
Folks ego out of control because they can't take being humbled. Coolest part about boxing is that after you fight, everyone is cool again
Too many ppl respect criminals (I mean rappers) & not decency. Your everyday avg citizen civilian believes in "no snitching" because of criminals (I mean rappers). And they don't even realize it.
@@YellowPaint100 That is sad AF too. I always have to explain to people that regular citizens can't snitch. Snitching is only when you doing dirt too.
We had respect thats what we (HAD) !!!
You consistently give some of the best life advice on the internet.
I'm just out here trying to drop the game
Ive trained at a few MMA Gyms and Ive gotten into it with all types of fighters whether it be ones who train or amateur contenders. They all saw me as the small, new, young guy. A lot of fighters are cowards for picking on people they know aren’t as skilled as them at martial arts and I always let them know that and that I didn’t care how intensely they trained. Some people see a kid with more potential and get insecure.
That's a whack ass gym for that. Doesn't sound like most gyms I've been to. Most fighters are humble and helpful as long as you come correcr.
@@EdLatimore1Ive been to many, I meet most of these @ssholes at the community gym to but they all go to local gyms too. I stopped going to mma gyms for a while cus of prices and drama in general. Im no expert I do this for fun but Ive gotten into too many altercations just for defending myself. Im known as the strongest kicker in my gym despite being 5’9 155 so they tend to bark but not fight my physically.
@@EdLatimore1Man I used to think fighters were humble but i think a lot of them are insecure / got issues at home. Ive met a few that blew up on me / raised there voice because of things Id casually mention im conversation. Type of shit that makes you too surprised to even react. Like one older fighter yelled at me because I asked him if he still went to this gym he apparently had beef with. I dont like having to walk on eggshells when it comes to talking to ppl, sorry if it may sound like im ranting
@Zathriscm Yeah I'm sorry you had that experience. It ain't supposed to be like that
@@EdLatimore1 Yea bro its cool 99% of fighters I met were very respectable and level headed, there were some situations where they were wrong and Im sure there were some situations where I couldve said things differently or avoid a misunderstanding with better communication. It was really only 4 or 5 fighters in my life I met with a crazy ego who I had problems with, type of shit where you dont even want to interact with them.
You are supposed to ignore someone until they put their hands on you. Then the lord will be with you and give it everything you got!!!!
Ha no weapon formed against me
And thats the rule of self defense...in most places.,,
More important to defuse a situation rather than ignore the problem
@ You don’t want to talk to anyone, that’s why you ignore someone. Defuse a situation could lead to provoking a situation to expand very wrongly!!!! Mind your business and ignore someone!!!
@@JonathanLomax-d4y I believe we are talking about 2 completely different type of situations. If you're in a bad area which you're unfamiliar with and you walking minding your business you walk past an alleyway and couple dudes in hoodies call out to you without using your name then your approach is perfect.
But let's say your out in a bar where you're familiar with the people there or something and a guy comes up to you he hasn't got too close to you but is talking like a punk keep in mind he hasn't put his hands on you yet. Ignoring him may not be the best option here as it may provoke him more depending on whether this person is actually worth reasoning with.
I was bullied growing up. Once I joined the Army I started weight training and my confidence sky rocketed. Never been bullied since. I hate bullies. 😒
You and me both. And thanks for your service man
I also loosed my first fight in school times … but after that I trained and then had 12 years a job as security and Door Keeper… after a while and much fights … I got more respect from people there … always be prepared for everything everytime everywhere… also if you go home after security work … always eyes open 🔥🔥🔥✌️😎✌️🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀
Look alert and stay alive
i was bullied up until 6th grade. sonething in me snapped then i turned into a bully for the next 6 years. i regret the years i was the aggressor. i am grateful none of those kids i bounced around haven't looked me up and took me out.
The internet really could make that possible
I’m an X-Hockey player and played up to semi pro, I’ve been in my fair share of fights on and off the ice and I always loved getting into the locker room after a fight to see what kind of damage I took😂
IMO attitude is everything when it comes to defense. If u look like u can fight ppl are less likely to wanna throw hands. Love your videos great topics. Don’t be scared be prepared 💪🏻👊🏼👊🏼🤛🏼✌🏼
Hockey is a epugh one haha. But yeah, prep is key! And thanks man, happy you dig the videos.
Good stuff. I agree that Bullies go after the easiest targets. I also think they do it because their hurt and looking to empower themselves while avoiding the consequences like you said. When you examine bullies they are people carrying around a lot of pain and insecurities. All of this just because humans struggle to deal with their pain and insecurities in a healthy way.
I had to fight growing up and had no other choice,every day, i fought before, and after school, i started doing karate and judo to start i also did muay Thai jkd and bjj because of the constant bullying , i lost so many fights because of being scared i got beatens at home as well i started fighting back and still lost😂 as it was never one on one when i started doing damage the bullying stopped ,during that time i also started fighting back at home against my mothers abusive boyfriend it quickly became me not knowing anything other than fighting , i started getting in trouble and getting locked up , eventually losing everything and going in and out of prison , as i never learned to deescalate situations. present day with my 20s and thirtys mostly gone because of prison i, at the very least ,know that i can defend myself and the people i love whether or not a weapon is involved .these days, i stay away from hi risk areas and situations, and so far, so good i haven't had any fights in about 2 years or so. i still train and learn daily different self-defense techniques. im ready if anything goes down.
Sorry about the rough upbringing man. It's terrible that the most important thing for our future-the family we're born into‐is beyond our control. But the best you can do now is protect yourself, the people you love, and always be a good example.
I was lucky and had 3 brothers. We fought each other for as long as I can remember. This made me a tough kid. Not necessarily stronger than others but I was meaner and could take more punishment. So when I was in school I only dealt with a few bullies because they knew that even if they won the fight they were not going to walk away without knowing they were in a fight.
Plus there was four of yall! That's awesome man.
I started off with martial arts because I was smaller and an easy target for bullies. Eventually despite them being twice my size once I cracked them they soon learned. Eventually that got me into boxing. I plan to get my son and daughter into both wrestling and boxing. Start them off with weightlifting first though. That’s just the way of the world.
That's one of the best things you could do as a parent for your kids. At least in my opinion
Love your videos. I grew up in the projects up in East Harlem and I had to force myself into developing that “You not gonna play me mindset”. The fears I had as a kid broke after an extremely humiliating situation that happened to me. The laughter of everybody broke me to the point where I turned fear into anger. I’m honestly grateful for that reality check till this day. I am a big believer in training to prepare even if nothing ever happens (Hopefully it doesn’t but I must continue preparing just Incase)
The training probably kept you from escalating situations that could have been bad. I find that knowing how to hurt folks makes you less likely to want to hurt folks.
@ I’m grateful for seeing all the evil things that came from the projects and the environment because it has actually led me into knowing human capability. My capability in which I use in my workouts and training. It made me see what the true power of extreme discipline can achieve and I’ll never stop doing the hard work. God bless for the content and anybody going through it learning the hard way💎🙏🏻
Hey Ed, you share truth here. I agree with everything you shared. If someone disrects you when other people are arround you allways have to stand your ground in first place. If someone does accept bad treatment, its like teaching others how he can be treated. I think one of the best advices i can add: Develope inner confidence. Don't be someone who needs external validation or attention. Be able to move and act silent - unbothered, even when a group of people is arround. Be able to do that without giving the people arround you any attention. That sends a clear message.
Indeed my guy!
You grew up in the hood but speak and act all Fox Chapel or Nevillewood. Salute my man
Haha that's a good sign for me. Funny you say Nevillewood. When my wife and I moved back from Portugal, that's where we moved to.
@EdLatimore1 Você fala português também? Legit Renaissance man
@@PicaPauDiablo1 Not as well as I would like to, but I've been working on it in anticipation of returning shortly. My wife is Portuguese, so that helps.
Wow man i haven't seen someone speaking as much sense as you are in a long time, much respect to you brother 🍻
Thank you kindly fam
True. In the hood with badass kids always wanting to start problems in numbers. But passive aggressive bullies are the ones that use words to sneak this so you can act a certain way and they succeed by making you look like a loose cannon. It's crazy how you mentioned tattooed facial hair guys that's exactly how you describe is accurate there is a guy who owns a barber shop and he is exactly like that and one of his employees said that he is passive-aggressive.
It's the new wave of hipsters man. I do not understand it at all.
@EdLatimore1 it's a new way of thinking with these humans
Subscribed. You earned it.
Your explanation of passive/aggressive behavior is using sarcasm and indirect attacks is spot on.
Much love man!
.....bullies pick and choose their fights... .....alot like cowards...
Exactly
You’re a good person putting out content like this. I hope it helps people.
Hey thanks. I hope it helps too
I not afraid what my opponents is going to do to me I'm more afraid of what I'm going to do to my opponents 💯
Hahaha I'm gonna start using this
Ed, did I read you lived in Portugal?!...Portugal and Spain are "the life". I loved Porto, and I loved the beachfront, tile streets, and all the cafe's in Lisbon. Used to go to the beach in Lisbon, take a walk, and pick up broken pieces of Azulejos, the blue and white tiles from the murals. The sardines in portugal are OUT of this world. Most people in America, have never had a sardine or seafood like that. I love the Alfama in Lisbon also. I always say, the only two words you need in Lisbon are "cerveja" and "obrigado". It's a beautiful place, glad you got to live there. First time viewer. Also northern spain (the western part)....Galicia is the best!. ~ Also, great job with your production!
Hey thanks! And yeah, my wife is from Portugal and we lived over there from the end of 2019 to just after the pandemic hit. We plan to go back soon for a few weeks/months.
I love that place so much. We lived in Parede outside of Lisbon, and then in the center of Porto. And yeah, the sardines are fantastic haha.
@@EdLatimore1 Oh wow!..It's very cool that you got to live there, and also have a local guide!!!.... I strongly reccommend the national park..."Pineda Gerez"...All I can say, is go to the farthest in, parts of the park. ~ Again, thank you for your entertaining and informative production! ~ Wishing you and your family the best in 2025 :)
@@bksvdb Thank you! Oh yeah, I've been to Gerez Park a few times! I love it!
Thanks unc. I randomly came across this video n been wanting to see someone speak like this on bullying on all levels. Including prison. I subscribed nd like. 💯
Much appreciated man!
I was living in an alley years ago in Vietnam, the alleyway "Big Dog" did not like me for whatever reason even though I was always nice to members of his family. One day i drove into the alley on my moto and he tried to intimidate me by starting shit and saying he'd teach me a lesson. I called him on his bluff bc i was tired of not standing up for myself my entire life. He squared up to me and me to him. I stared dead on in his eyes and in that moment I didnt care if i got hurt or not. Knew in my bones I couldn't back down this time, even though i hadnt learned to box at this point. 10 longest seconds of my life went by and he backed down. I went upstairs to my apartment and shook like a wet dog from all the adrenaline. One of the proudest moments of my life and I'll always remeber it for the rest of my life. Most fights should be avoided, but some you know you just have to step up
My man! Sometimes that's what you gotta do!
All I got to say is no one's really trying to fight out here 90% of the time it's just posturing. Most men aren't going to know the attitude to have if they never put their life on the line making their own decisions. Get kicked out your living situation, or try so hard to change you willing to die for it. Stand 10 toes down on who you are so much you're willing to get hit for it. That's just called having morals & not backing down in the game of life.
That's what I say in the video, basically. Well, tangentially.
Your video is great was adding the perspective that the adult world is easier to deal with bc you'll get thousands of dollars for provoking someone and bonus points if you don't even care that it's just 1 person who doesn't fit in a your job trying to jump you it's not like a mob trying to go all out on you.
Psychological bullying is different which is why men typically learn sooner or later not to make the wrong friends whether it's work, prison, school etc. your friends can sabotage your rep & ruin whatever situation you get thrown into
It's better to watch from a distance, get on good terms with more people & learn how to put yourself out there favorably and even bravely just not recklessly
I've had grown men tell me I have anger issues bc of how I deal with situations but there's no emotion when I bring a woman's boyfriend to her, and counter whatever comment her boyfriend told me. etc. You get what I'm saying. Men learn skills to deal with the smaller petty things it's about intervening early & not accepting "karmic" behaviors such as a handshake after witnessing some scummy go down you already know
What you touched on was the harder stuff
I want to add there are attitudes from bullies such as superiority or privilege if one guy perceives you as "You know you're a B**** so ik you're not going to disagree with me" It makes me want to give them the stern facial expression and outright disagree. This can come from hood people etc. they don't think someone born middle class has that but it's a skill more average people need to sharpen when dealing with a bully
The more confidence people pick up on the easier this gets like training a muscle
@calint123 yeah men are sorta bad (initially) at the psychological stuff. But that's where civilized people play from behind the veneer or plausible deniabikity. It's important to learn how to manage that as well
I did seven years in state prison (I used to be a dumbass) and the first thing I was taught was do not let anyone disrespect you for free. That goes into the next lesson and the topic of the video, never back down from a fight even if you think you'll lose. If you let someone disrespect you and you back down then you will be a target for the entire time you're locked up. I'm 5:10 about 155-165. Played sports and lifted my whole life but I don't cut an intimidating figure, so naturally I was tried a few times. I took those lessons to heart and you know what happened? Except for one guy every other person who I called out copped dueces soon as we're in the cell away from the cameras, guards and any help they may get. Not saying I'm a badass at all, but I did have my mind made up that I was gonna unload on anyone who squared up with me. People like that wanna look tough in front of others by picking on someone they think is weak, but they don't have any heart and that makes up for a lot in a fight or confronting people. If they expect someone to just fold when they don't and the target becomes the aggressor they don't know how to react. If you're not already locked up you should try to avoid fights as much as possible because that's a great way to get locked up.
Yeah you can't just let any cat get in your face. Otherwise you'll just be a victim. Jail sounds like a place where this rule reigns supreme
Where are you now? I'm pretty sure I can take you😢
Latinore, let's spar. I'm going to teach you some new boxing lessons🥊 😮
Great video, thanks ! Unfortunately, being kind and empathetic is often interpreted or perceived as weakness, even though the person could actually be more firm than others who appear aggressive on the exterior or at the outset. But perception and first impressions do matter, at least in many contexts/environments. In business this seems sure, but e.g. among clergy or in caretaking profession, being kind (to a certain degree) would probably be rewarded and considered a positive characteristic.
Yeah I think it comes down to the domain you want to excel in for sure
Wow. This video is killing it! (Not to mention filled with good advice as always.) I have been following you and reading your books for a long time.
I Hope you keep finding success here on UA-cam.
Hey thank you friend! I always appreciate the support man.
Isn’t everyone else in disbelief this guy just condensed relevant depth & substance so many lessons? TY ❤❤❤❤+++++ but I didn’t catch any better usable solutions esp for imposs manipulative situs already thieving all unsurvivable
Hey thank you!!
Well put together brother. I subscribed . I enjoy the way you speak and break it down. You deserve success brother.
Thanks my man! I appreciate the love
Most people are afraid when they throw hands ..its 'the blood pumping ..whether you win or lose you fight ..when someone knows you gonna throw hands they'll think twice about fighting you again
Exactly! That adrenaline dump is real
I just learned of your UA-cam channel from your Twitter/X account. It's great to see you on here and I look forward to absorbing your video content. Good luck with navigating the UA-cam algorithm - it's a fickle beast!
Haha indeed it is. Thanks for checking me out. Hope you subsxribed!
Your channel has much wisdom. Respect, sir.
Thank you kindly!
very good advice, Ed… thank you for spreading the word…. Bill in Vermont
You're welcome man. Thanks!
Thank You Very Much For Sharing 👍 🇯🇲
thank you my man!
My saying on it is, you can't show aggression AND you can't show fear. You have to go in it with teh attitude of "I won't fight you, but I will not back down from you fighting me.'
One time I went to jail for a week (bs childsupport charge and having to wait on a transport to the county where the warrant was issued). I saw a couple of times where things got confrontational between inmates, but never was directly threatened. I made a point to look confident, but not cocky, friendly and respectful, but not ass-kissy, and to be laid back as much as possible. Maybe I just was never in a scenario where I was going to get into a fight anyway, but I at least felt safer by trying to maintain that attitude.
Thank You Ed Latimore🙏🤝 Sir I was bullied in school
You're welcome!
Great information as usual from you. Thanks brother.
Always trying to be helpful! Much appreciated!
9:55 “Even if I lost, I made sure it wasn’t worth it” I like that
It's a life motto
Different types of bullies. Now they in the workplace
“I’m not joking and now we have a problem” …felt that line
It's the truth
“…every single time anyone even THINKS about bullying you, you let them know that they are getting into a fight. Win, lose, or draw, EVERY SINGLE TIME. They will soon lose interest in bullying you. Don’t worry about your mom, I will back you up…”
-Best advice dad ever gave me
Hell yeah. Best lessons
The advice in this video is solid gold.
Thanks! Just trying to drop game!
Because your name will be remembered as something invaluable no man wants that
Even worse, you become a liability to men.
@@EdLatimore1 Liability to men how?
@@lennard5393would u want to be teammates with a player who’ll give up and run as soon as the game gets tough?
If they think that than they can piss off too.
@@AndreHarrisIi-zb8tx no i would not like that
A video of yours was in my feed and you have really really useful and meaningful content.
I'm a 44 year old left arm amputee lost my left arm 2 inches above my elbow when I was 25 years old so being I had a martial arts upbringing from my army drill seargent Dad whom I'm his 1st born child dad was already a 2nd degree blk belt in old school taekwondo and goju-ryu karate his biggest joy was teaching me "how to fight" as his eldest I was disciplined and trained by an US army drill Sergeant how to defend myself I earned my 1st degree blk belts after I graduated highschool and entered into the US Navy for my own military career. -cont
After I make it 7 years in the navy with 2 tours of war time detail I'm Afghanistan as a combat engineer as a seabee i immediately get out if the military and get into a bad accident and lose my left arm in a freak incident and have to spend the rest of my life as an arm amputee and to prepare myself for this life I then at 25 or 26 underwent training to obtain my 2nd degree blk belts in goju-ryu karate and taekwondo now as a combined 4th degree blk belt I proceeded with my life intending to live an honest non violent lifestyle but due to the toxicity of society I WAS CALLED BACK INTO FUTHER ACTION, AND MY DAD TOLD ME TO NOT TAKE PPLS SHIT, NOR TO GIVE ANY TO YOU ALL, SO BEING THAT YOU FUCKING JABRONIS OUT NUMBER ME BY A VAST NUMBER, IVE TAKEN GREAT PLEASURE IN BEING A SOCIALLY REJECTED INDIVIDUAL WHO DOESN'T HESITATE TO PUT HIS SIZE 13 FOOT UP ALL YOUR TYPE AND IVE NOW BECOME SO UNWILLING TO DEAL WITH THE IGNORANCE OF YOU ALL THAT I ALWAYS FEEL THREATENED BY YOU ALL AND HAVE BEEN "DEFENDING MYSELF " OUTSIDE OF MARTIAL ARTS COMPETITIONS IN THESE STREETS AND I ASSURE YOU THAT ATLANTA GEORGIA IS THEE ABSOLUTE SWEETEST PLACE ON EARTH IN REFRENCE TO THE BUM ASS DICKHEADS AND FAGGOTS BEING MY PERSONAL STRESS PUNCHING BAGS. EVERYONE IS A TOUGH GUY, GANG MEMBERS GYM BROS ,DRUG DEALERS ANY MALE WHOS BEEN TO PRISON EACH LIVE A DELUSIONAL AND TOXIC EXISTENCE AND BELIEVE THAT THEIR ALL THE CHOSEN ONE BUT CANT EVEN BEAT A 1 ARM MAN. YOU ALL SHOULD JUST BECOME GOOD PPL BECAUSE THIS BAD GUY SHIT ,YOUR NOT AT ALL BUILT FOR.
When gangsters call me OG, knowing I'm not affiliated with any gangs I find their submission to be very pussyclot in nature.
Ha that's interesting as heck
I grew up in a poor neighborhood and was an ugly kid, so fighting was unavoidable. Never bullied others but learned striking hard first quickly ended most fights. Never back down or you will be a target their after. How you carry yourself matters.
The strategy for avoiding physical bullying reminds me of the story of Frederick Douglass, a man born into slavery in the US. One day, he was about to be beaten by an overseer but he decided he would not comply. He seized the overseer by the neck and fought with him for hours until the overseer left, exhausted. Douglass said that from that day on, he would put up a fight whenever he was about to be beaten, and he writes in his autobiography that from that day forward, he never received a severe beating at the hands of a master again.
They conveniently don't often teach that story to kids when they're learning about Douglas, and it's a defining story of him. I wonder why...
I am a small guy, but I agree. I have never been in a prison but it has happened that I had to defend myself. I was expecting to lose the fight but the other guy was so suprised that I actually fought back that he froze. He had multiple bruises on his face, I had nothing.
Standing your ground is the most important thing.
@EdLatimore1 exactly!
You don't have to be the big strong guy. Just showing that you won't go down without a fight already helps.
This is what people always told me-- "just ignore it," while it would just UP the abuse if I did.
Then if you fight back, the blame the victim as having a "problem with anger."
Sometimes you gotta let em pin that on your jacket
I'm in my 50s. Learned this a long time ago. I got good at deescalate issues. I know where to walk away from bad places. If I can't walk away then I'll do what I need to do. I'll uses anything to be able to go home.
It's one of those skills that can save your life
If you have the thought in your mind that you'll lose, you've already lost the fight before you began.
Very Sun-Tzu esq
Thanks Ed, so much truth in this video! 🙏
@@mikenicoletti3899 that's for getting value of it
Beware the dog that does not bark and the man that does not speak. Cheyenne proverb
Less thunder in the mouth and more lightning in the hands.
Apache proverb
The apache version is the one I rock with haha
I grew up similar, only overseas. Same conclusions. Great vid.
Thanks my guy. Where'd you grow up?
Very objective way to speak. Thank you so much, your channel has my support 💯
I appreciate the support man! Happy you dig the content!
Try not to, but dont allow it either. Patience, tolerance, outlook.
Good motto!
12:17 my boss is trying this with me. He made a comment saying maybe they didn't need me but I just ignored him. I wanted to tell him any job can be taught to anyone as to imply that his job can be taken too.
13:40 oh I will
Gotta stand up for yourself even to the boss
Martial arts in general will give you more confidence and the ability to speak up and stand up for yourself. Especially boxing or Muay Thai
It's not that most people don't know what to think, it's that they don't or it hurts them when they do.
This is golden. Will be using this.
Thats crazy how you said bullies leave enough space for plausible deniability so you, as the agresaor can seem wrong. They aslo leave no evidence of their harassment. I lost a job thru this.
Damn I'm sorry to hear that.
I'm a lil guy but growing up with a military ghetto dad and an older brother. They weren't having me being scared of anyone. Also, my brother's friends made me tuff regardless of my size. I had to fight or face my dad or brother.
"Better to be judged by twelve than carried by six." I subscribed❤
Welcome!!
I have been bullied my whole life, being short I am easy pickings. Going into the workplace and college, the bullying became Racial based from the Usual Suspects. I have never known anything different.
Damn how'd it become racial??
Ive lost most fights tbh. Still left some scars on the Victors. They aint going to forget me for a looooong time.
That's what they get for trying you.
Great video. It came at the right time, brother🎉🎉🎉
I appreciate it man. Happy you dug it
Dude my thing I realized about fighting, it only takes one mistake to mess up your face so bad that you can't get laid anymore, for the rest of your life. No matter how good you are at fighting all it takes is an oddly shaped pebble or if someone dropped a pencil on the sidewalk somewhere and you slide your foot on it while you try to take a swing at somebody, or maybe you just happen to get your ass kicked really bad that time.
True story also my one boss was this New York rich kid and he had to get 2 separate nose job surgeries to fix his nose because it got broken so bad when he was in high school and got his head slammed on a table in a fight w some football players who he started sh*t with. His nose was messed up for years basically his whole adult prime was ruined and he was balding real bad by the time he got it fixed
As a certified former bully myself when you ignore non physical bullying the bully will take it as disrespect and will resort to physical bullying to get a reaction
Then you gotta check him
They won't get physical if they know there's a good chance at getting severely injured, or worse..
@thaistomp very very true
@@thaistomp no one would for that matter unless they have nothing to lose
Martial arts helped me a lot. It helped me stand up and conquer 2 bullies in my lifetime. Yes, physical training and mma is a necessary life skill for a man.
Wow awesome share my friend. Big like ❤❤😊😊
Much appreciated! Thanks for enjoying!
Bro this video is deep...i got to watch this again.
much appreciated man. watch it 3 times, heck!
Great advice and insight
Thank you!
Thank you for the video! I will ah e to re watch when I’m off work this was great infoz
Thanks man!
Well thought out and presented. Great vid. Subscribed.
Dealing with workplace bullies is nasty also
Very nasty indeed
Always called the “pretty boy” bc I look like my mom. Mix that with being a Navy Brat there was always somebody who wanted smoke. But I fight like my daddy. Bullies became my friends when I put them in their place lol.
That's how it goes. A little respect earned the hard way goes a long way
I’m an Air Force brat. When my dad retired, he brought us back to his home town: Baltimore, MD. I spent a chunk of my childhood in Germany. By the time this happened, I was a fluent German speaker and had an accent that you could cut with a knife. I might as well have stepped out of a UFO on my first day of school. Fortunately, my dad taught me to box. I fought a lot, especially in middle school, probably got my ass kicked most of the time but eventually a demonstrable willingness/ability to maul someone in the process paid off: “There’s easier targets around here. That little fcker is crazy.”
Useful
Interesting video on so many levels....Triggered much thought and memories in me as well.
When I was much younger than I am now (and also much stupider) I was bullied quite a bit....(Bullied too by people in places/institutions that basically had NO business bullying ANYBODY....Basically paying LIP SERVICE to the concepts of "Do-Gooderism", and sometimes not even bothering with THAT....The "lip service" that is.🙄) I also realize that my "torture" that I have endured could have been at least MORE "Heavenly" or "blissfull" to SOMEONE ELSE?? (Generally NOT a good idea to bitch about "paper cuts" on "fingers" to someone with a "BROKEN ARM". How does something like THAT get QUANTIFIED....????....I have NO idea.)
Though MY torment by bullies reminded me of a cliche I myself learned in the MILITARY..... (("Heaven" for bullies....The Military.....Though a PEACETIME military MIGHT be more "HeavenLY" for bullies than one fully engaged in an actual war???🙄🤣)).....
......."Shit rolls DOWNHILL"
In other words, "bullying breeds bullying" or rather "assholes breed assholes" or EVEN...."Demons breed demons". (Of course there will always be exceptions to the rule, but probably not too many..... "Exceptions" to the "rule"😶)
Sooo, as a "weakling" MYSELF, I dont think I necessarily went OUT of my way to LOOK FOR and FIND those "weaker" than myself, BUT.... if I "bumped" into them--then I generally made sure that I was the "alpha wolf"....Until IF or WHEN I may have overstepped my "bounds"????
But this is one of the "benefits" of getting older....Just discovering that it gets pretty exhausting playing the SOCIAL GAME. (Not that I am ANTI social...Which, to me by the way, is a mildly bullying thing to label someone as...."Antisocial"....But I am often NOT as "PROsocial" as I "should" be????)
I am also "young" enough that I MAY still take "passive aggressive" pot shots at people that I MIGHT think MIGHT be needed to be "taken down a notch" even if that means pointing out to others such people are wearing "the EMPEROR'S new clothes"....Or that their "tighty whiteys" may have SHIT STAINS in them????
Is that a wise thing to do?? Probably not.
But I have noticed that "passive aggression" is probably better than ACTIVE aggression....At least in the SHORTER run??
But having discovered "Buddhism" or more "Far Eastern thought", I AM starting to realize that MAYBE its best to be more AWARE of one's own behavior and "fly" LESS on "Autopilot"???? In other words, be AWARE enough to KNOW when ones OWN bullying might be unnecessary and unlike "Nike"....Just DON'T do it??
But I am human, and I DO get annoyed/irritated, and am NOT disciplined enough in my "Buddhist/Far Eastern mindset" to NOT respond to ALL such "stimuli", so I MAY then "bully" someone to get them to "cease and desist" with whatever they are doing that I might find annoying/irtitating??
I also get BORED too, so I MAY amuse myself at someone else's "expense" and that MAY involve "bullying"??? (Or sit "idly" by while SOMEONE ELSE amuses THEMSELVES at SOMEONE ELSE'S expense....That is someone who is NOT me?? Maybe even laugh at the antics or "bullying" by the "class clown"....Just as long as I'm NOT sitting in the "FRONT ROW" at the "Comedy Club" where the comedian starts picking on ME... Because I might be "quick" with the "pen" or "typewriter" but I am SLOWER than "continental drift" with my "tongue"!!!🙄
🙄 Please excuse the "passive aggressive" look on this Emotion's face! 🤣😉🫡
Haha I got you. Yeah the military is the worst place for a lot of that shit. And a lot of times, it goes WAY too far, especially with young girls.
When I was in, they were making a BIG push on sexual harassment because of this.