xX Roro Xx I'm from the South and it's not like we go around calling everybody sir and ma'am. It's a title of respect reserved for people who are NOT MY PEER meaning you are older than me, you are my boss/supervisor, you are a teacher or cop etc. You ain't gotta be 80 years old but I'm not addressing a grown ass man or woman by their first if I don't have a familiar relationship with them.
It’s not that deep .. that world is typically used for elders , & people who feel a bit younger than them don’t wanna feel as old yet . Sure , it’s used as a respect thing , but some people would just rather not be referred to as it . That’s all . I wouldn’t be “offended” because the person was trying to be respectful , but I also wouldn’t want to be called ma’am . Especially since I’m from Connecticut (now living in Louisiana 😒) & I don’t even like saying the word . I hate it , along with sir too because I was FORCED to say it in school or I would get in trouble . Somehow me just saying “yes” was TOTALLY disrespectful lol .
I'm from Mississippi/The Dirty South. I was raised on the values of saying, "Yes Ma'am, No Ma'am, Yes Sir, No Sir, Ms., Mr., Miss, and Mrs." to my elders, teachers, principal, etc. If I didn't say anything of these things, my mother would either gave me the look and say "Yes/No what!?!?!?" or I got my teeth knocked out. In the South, it's a sign of respect, honor, and simply just polite. IT'S SOUTHERN HOSPITALITY!!!! And if somebody ends up offend by me just being polite to them. I'm Sorry Not Sorry.
Oh??, I only call adults and elders ma'am or sir. Children have to earn the title, but if it's on a business level, for instance like a costumer or employee, everybody is called sir or ma'am. You know what I mean.
Thats the SOUTH everybody is not from the south everybody was not tought to say yes sir yes ma'am today Ma'am and sir is for old people old people dont need no reminders that they are old !
PureSparkles22 a 6 year old is baby, them saying miss shouldn't offend you, I remember in elementary we called all the female teachers miss then added their last names
Scott Casey someone saying ma'am does not mean they respect you. For some, It's just part of the protocol when you work somewhere. I will Never make a big deal about it but it does not change the fact that i don't like it and no i will not be satisfied with whatever i get. I'm not desperate
If someone call you maam or sir accept it. It shows that they respect you unless you want them to disrespect you by calling you hey women or hey man! Stop being sensitive its just stupid sheesh
MissDhonnaMary it depends on how n when it’s used. Some ppl use it in an insulting condescending manner (As well depending-on your age i GUARANTEE YOU that u may not see it that way)
Nattie bubbles you don’t need to give me examples if your agreeing with me. Where I live it’s rare to have been born and raised here like I have. Everyone else is from all over the place. It’s a melting pot. So I’ve been able to see the cultural differences which is why I had said that
In England, some people (usually men) refer to others (usually women) as "love". Like the bus/ driver, postman, shopkeeper...they will say it when they're handing you money/letters or to thank you for something. For example, "here you go, love" or "thanks, love" Edit: I've only ever heard "ma'am" being used by police officers to refer to someone who outranks them. This is from tv, so I don't know if police officers use the term in that way in the real world
Amena Teferi no lol. They’re all coastal girls, Mel b is British and Loni is from detroit I believe. Not sure if Loni would have been raised similarly to southerners.
I’m from Jersey and this reminds me of back in high school when I was on dance team and this girl from the south had moved here and joined the team and she called my coach ma’am and she got hella offended saying it’s rude and I was confused bc I never thought it was rude. If anything the way my coach responded at the time was very rude
I moved to Texas a few years ago and felt so BAD about offending everybody cuz I didn’t know how serious they were about ma’am and sirs. Now I say it regardless of age to show respect to allll people!
Definitely a sign of respect in the south no matter your age. I even say it to the kids like “No ma’am (sir) we don’t do that” or “Yes sir (ma’am) you can go play. I don’t mind at all when people call me ma’am. It was how I was raised.
The1baddman who said that I would say Mr? the girls on the real were talking about being polite and what you should say to older person so therefore I would say sir and miss instead of saying ma'am so being polite people going to look at me crazy honey stfu 😂
Gay also used to mean just happy . When a stranger can either call you Mam or Miss it is not just a sign of respect but a subtle age reminder and understandably not something thirty or forty somethings welcome with open arms . With men there just isn't the same distinction adding further insult to injury .
I worked at McDonnald’s when I was 17 and customers would call me “ma’am” at first it bothered me but then I realized they were trying to be polite, unlike those customers that just say “hey, hey, hey”
I say sir or ma’am to everyone. If someone is checking me out at the grocery store and they are younger than me, I say yes/no ma’am or yes/no sir. Age doesn’t matter to me and I live in the south. It’s just the polite thing to do. 🤷🏽♀️
Same but I live in Wisconsin/Illinois. I was not raised at all but when I got my first job, I started saying Sir and Ma'am and now I literally say it to everyone in public
I call everybody that is older than me Ma’am or sir cause it’s just respectful. And anybody that is serving me (?) like a waiter or a cashier or a sales person regardless of age, cause they deserve my respect at those times (also I do not know their ages, as well as not friendly enough to call them by their names)
You ever just wonder what the world Is coming to..like nothing is that deep..why people make an issue of things..I get called ma'am and I'm 20 ...never thought it was an issue
In places like down South it may be more universal but if you got addressed as miss and young lady and suddenly got ma'amed once you hit middle age that could be a rude awakening . Women are generally sensitive about getting older so that's not rocket science .
Xochilt Escalante right? I'm 16 and I've just moved to the south, and I get called ma'am literally everywhere, and they're all by people who are at least in their 30s. I personally don't like it, it makes me feel old. 😒
It's someone showing respect to you regardless of your age. You should be respected. Please don't get upset some people are just raised that way and mean absolutely no harm.
liza T LaShuna Hughes aw, I'm from the south & they absolutely mean no harm. I was called mam as a kid all the time... especially if I did something to help or assist an adult, like holding the door open or passing them a fork/napkin... & in their heart it's coming from a " thank u / I respect you" place.
I’m 20 years old and my guy friend when we met we used to call me ma’am and i loved that! It is a sign of respect, i appreciate!. FYI he younger than me in 2 years!
I’m 31 and I can remember a very influential teacher that I had in school. He would call his students ma’am and sir and expected us to do the same. It doesn’t bother me...I actually feel flattered by the respect of it all. 🤗
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I'm only 26, but I LOVE being called ma'am. Miss is OK, or even sir. As long as you are addressing me in a respectful manner, we're cool. The minute I hear 'sweetheart' or 'sweetie', I will END you.
I'm 33 and I think it's totally fine if a child calls me "miss" or "ma'am", but I do find it insulting if someone in their 20's calls me "ma'am"....cause I consider us to be in the same age group...no need to make me feel like I'm 60.
@@jennifere551 I don't even think 40's is elderly. 55 and older is considered a senior citizen. Kim Kardashian just turned 40...I don't think anyone considers her "elderly" lol.
@@Sergio-fu7mv ameeicans hate everything thats Not american . Thats why you so many ignorant people over there. No british is going to take thier time to hate on american on british TV.
I was brought up to say sir and ma'am. The problem is that nowadays people have become ageist. Nobody wants to accept that they are getting older. There is no respect anymore. Everyone for themselves. The other part is that I was brought up in the South (Florida).
Lol in Miami if you say that people will give you a double look. It’s not something we say here. We’re not southern at all. But I understand that northern Florida is completely different.
I used to hate it but now? idgaf. you can call me whatever the hell u want long as it's not an insult. honestly, I am at a point in life where if something doesn't bring me Jesus or money, idgaf
I sometimes use "ma'am" when i talk to my daughter, i don't see it as a word to be used for someone that's older, it's outta respect!! I'm from Texas....
The State Trooper pulled me over the other day. I was super nice to him. And he gave me a warning. That was nothing but God. I call people ma’am and sir. It’s call respect.
I’m age 60 young. At first being called ma’am I get it , AT FIRST is a form of ‘respect’ but it makes me feel old ,and at some point if they keep calling me ma’am and especially if I ask them NOT to please call me by my name , or please call me Miss,and they continue it’s disrespectful.Sone people call a person ma’am to disrespect them. There’s this comedian on Instagram that I follow and when she’s poking fun at a person young people no matter the age she refers to them as ma’am ma’am ,why did you do that , or this etc. she’s being disrespectful.
NO ONE Should ever be told they are too sensitive we all have boundaries , and our own triggers.I have referred to men as Sir just to be respectful ,and they politely tell me please call me by my name ,so I see it effects both genders
No. To my friends in New York, I say hello! My friends in L.A., they don't know where I've been for the past few years or so! Paris to China to Colorado! Sometimes there's airplane we can't jump out, sometimes there's bullshit that don't work now! We all got our stories, but please tell me what there is to complain about?
LOL in the North I am starting to see more and more ppl using it as an opportunity to be rude. Like a rude way of saying ,oh you look happy today... , HI Ma'am !. when they did not address anyone else that way. Have you noticed that ?
I opened the door for a 70 something yr old lady & wen she said thanks i said ur welcome miss & she giggled n smiled so big it was so cute she said i made her day❣ so i never say ma'am lol
As a Southern girl, born and raised, sir and ma'am is just how we talk down here. It's the TONE in which it's said that will differentiate whether it's sincere or you're just being a smartass. Same with "Bless your heart!" lol
I’m from SoCal and I was always raised to say sir, and ma’am too. It’s respectful. I will continue to use it to. It’s not out of disrespect, it’s literally the opposite.
When I say yes sir or yes ma’am, it’s usually not as a “title” per say. If someone asks me or tells me to do something- regardless of age- if they’re older than me, I say “yes ma’am”. I just feel that it’s the polite thing to do. I don’t think of age or anything along those lines. I do have women that I look up to who tell me not to call them ma’am because it makes them feel older. I respect that completely, but I still slip up sometimes. Here in Kentucky, we see it more as a respect thing than an age thing. I used to get in trouble, if I didn’t say “yes ma’am” or “yes sir” when my parents told me to do something. Sayin “yeah” or “okay” was considered a short answer.
They use the term Madam to address women formally or in most cases on a daily basis the terms darling, sweetheart, love which some people still take offence to
You can tell no one on that panel is from the deep south because we call women ma'am all the time, not out of disrespect or shade but out of respect. As a matter of fact, if you answer your teacher (regardless if she's a very young teacher in her early 20s)with just a "yea" or "no," you'll get snapped up by her or other adults around you that over heard you answering her back like that. If you're not from the south, you're not going to re-teach my child not to say ma'am or sir just because someone mistakenly told you it's only for old people or people who want to throw shade at you.
That’s understandable. But just know that if you go to any other part of the US and insist on calling people sir or mam you’re gonna annoy a lot of them. But yeah some people are way too sensitive about it.
My husband is in the military and it took me a ton of getting used to when his subordinates and coworkers would call me m'am, , I am pretty young and they were often the same age or older, its a sign of respect but to this day 5 years later, I have not gotten used to being called m'am! That being said, I am German where we have Sie and Du, one is more formal, to be used for elders or when you're an adult, other adults to show respect because you don't know them well. Du is informal and used between friends and family. The older person is expected to offer the use of "Du". I like that formality of putting people in a category and see m'am and Sir as that as well, a way to show respect to people that you don't know well.
Theres a bunch of military bases in Hawaii almost all military personnel call you ma'am even when you're wayyy younger than them. It's just them being respectful. Here in Hawaii we generally refer to anyone older than us as aunty or uncle. Even if it's only a few years older.
In Australia, we have a 'reverse' formality culture, where calling someone 'sir' and 'ma'am' is actually offensive as it implies you are mocking them for one reason or another. If you do not use informal language such as 'mate', it is seen a if you don't respect someone, or don't like them.
What is Mel B talking about? In England it's Miss or Madam. Go into shops and they'd say _"can I help you Madam?"_ or _"can I help you Miss?"_ . They don't just call any woman of any age "Miss". Also, anything else is a colloquialism (i.e "love" / "darling" / "pet" etc...) . My only gripe is that men don't get referenced by age (In the UK). When a boy is fifteen he can be a Sir, when he's a man of 30 he can still be a Sir. When a girl is 15 she's a Miss, when she's a woman of 30 she's a Madam. A man is a *Mr* no matter what, a woman is a *Miss/Mrs/Ms* depending on relationship status. It's pretty sexist and ageist against women where these things do not apply at all to men. Women are always referenced by how old they look or classed by their relationship status whereas men are never classed this way. I'm not even a new-age/3rd-wave whatever feminist so don't come at me with that nonsense, it's just an observation that's hard to miss, is all.
My family is from the south and you say "Yes Ma'am - No Ma'am , Yes Sir - No Sir" to everyone no matter the age. That's what my mother taught me. Its a sign of respect no matter the age.
I live in the south. I say “Yes sir, no sir, yes ma’am, and no ma’am.” I say it as a form of respect, regardless of how old you are. That’s how I was raised and that’s how I’ll always be.
Kelly Shirley yeah it’s definitely the way to speak to people in the south. But in a lot of places you’ll get a double glance. If you said that to me I would just find it amusing and might smile and move on. A sensitive person might think you’re calling them old lol.
Florida Girl, oh wow! I never knew people would take it the wrong way. My husband is from the north. Every time we go to visit his family and I say “Ma’am and Sir” they’re always like “You really don’t have to call me that.” I think that’s so interesting.
Kelly Shirley yeah very interesting. Your in laws are probably not used to it. People who were raised in the south who are Hispanic or Asian American do they address others as mam and sir too? Or is it strictly something that only white and black southerners do? Just curious.
Florida Girl, I personally don’t live around a lot of Hispanic or Asian cultured people. The few that I do know or have known, don’t say “yes ma’am or yes sir.” Yeah, I don’t think my in laws will ever be used to it lol! I just can’t stop. When I was little, if my siblings and I didn’t say “Ma’am or Sir” to people, we would be in big trouble!
I address people as sir and ma’am all the time. I show respect to everyone until they are no longer worthy of it. To me ma’am is the female sir. You don’t see men getting upset with being called sir
The first time I got called Mam I was 21 and I was so offended. He was maybe 2 years younger than me. But I also took care of elderly 90 years old and they would say mam to me. I said you guys don’t need to say that to me. And my elderly client said why not I respect you? So yea I don’t care now
It’s the way some of our parents raised us. It’s a good thing and it is respectful to say, “yes sir” or “yes ma’am” . My mom used to be on me about that, so now I’m used to saying that to people that are just older or more experienced in life than me.
Its just respectful. I use it to address ppl at work. (Cashier) It takes 10 extra damn seconds of my time (annoying but fine) to explain it is out of respect when they say "dont call me ma'm or sir".. i cannot remember everyones damn name!!!! Idk what else to call you? Do i make up my own name for you?? Or what???? I see ppl at most an hour once a day but i also see 100+ other people in that same day lol.. ya'll need to chill with the feeling "old" thing.. or the "dont call me that" thing.. uhhhhgghghhg (im not going out of my way to call someone "miss" or "young man" because they are insecure n cuz i need to stroke your ego. i dont get paid $10 to worry that much about feelings when i have a phrase that the majority of customers will understand "sir" "ma'm", lets be real)
It possibly was just a cultural difference. When I was in High school, we called our classmates sir & ma'am. Nothing to do with age or size. Just general respect. But then again, I was not there. Idk what the person meant. Just know, if you ever run into me on the street and I call you ma'am it's simply my way of respecting you as a human being. No qualifications attached. 😇
When a woman calls me Ma'am I say Ma'am back to her, she thinks im offended, its she who is offended because im calling her old back !!! Every body wants to be young !!!!
I was always taught if someone is a few years older and up you always say sir or ma’am. I will always say it because when I didn’t I got my tail whooped lol.
Worked in customer service for a little over 10 years... using 'sir' or 'ma'am' for *all* men and *all* women was the standard practice. Customer: "Excuse me... Can you help me find something?" Employee: "Yes sir/ma'am. How can I help you?" In regards to every day life? Unless you're a little kid or a young teenager, I will use sir or ma'am. It's called *common courtesy* and it's something my parents raised me to have.
Why do people need to address people with miss, Sir, or ma'am anyway when a hi or an hello is sufficient enough? I find when such greetings are made they are often not said with sincerity. I make a point of telling people not to greet me with Sir and if they do I correct them.
It’s really not that much of a big deal. Because it is a sign of respect. My parents rise me to respect ppl. Especially my elders. So if someone call me ma’am I’m not gonna get mad. Yeah, I’m only 25. I’m still young but at least. They didn’t call me out of my name
if we're in a customer-based business, EVERYONE is sir/ma'am. If a woman in front of you drops something without realizing it, you don't get her attention by saying, "Ay you!". It's "Ma'am, you dropped this." No matter what age. I've never met anyone in person who voiced being offended by it.
Why even call people sir ma'am or anything just say what you have to say, people use it way too much. If I didn't sleep and look more tired and older than usual I don't need you reinforcing it, or ever even if I am older. I'm not an army sergeant or someone in authority who needs that to feel respected, I don't need it being rubbed in my face. If you wanna say hi, just say hi, thank you, excuse me, but you don't always have to tag titles at the end of it. It's taught to be respectful yet it makes so many people feel uncomfortable. It doesn't need to be practiced as often as it is, and it's honestly really annoying.
For me, it's a sign of respect. I was raised saying it. I even address people younger than me as sir/ma'am. I don't like for people/kids to say Miss (insert my name). That makes me feel old.
If someone called me miss or ma’am madam I am not going to don’t care I don’t mind being called either one , because people nowadays are not even close being of respectful like use they too,people are so focused on the negatives it’s irritating .
I was brought up to refer to older folks as sir and ma'am as a sign of respect and surprisingly I would have adults telling me I should not refer to them as sir or ma'am because they are not old. I was confuse as hell. I was like huh? In my head. And it's not just Ma'am... Sir, Miss, Madam. I say it nontheless, if they ask me not to and tell me what they prefer to be address by, I just work with them.
If someone calls you ma'am just accept it and go on. Atleast it shows they respect you. Also it's better than being called Babe or something
xX Roro Xx I'm from the South and it's not like we go around calling everybody sir and ma'am. It's a title of respect reserved for people who are NOT MY PEER meaning you are older than me, you are my boss/supervisor, you are a teacher or cop etc. You ain't gotta be 80 years old but I'm not addressing a grown ass man or woman by their first if I don't have a familiar relationship with them.
Thats what i was thinking. Not everything is about "offending" people
xX Roro Xx all old men sir to me and old women are miss I'm from the UK
xX Roro Xx Correct
Precisely
Our world is becoming way too sensitive ! We all need to fix up ! What is wrong with humanity 😩😩😩
N A I agree with you.
Yea, it's not like we ever separated people by using water fountains or something.. We live in crazy times in 2018..
Ikr!! It's ridiculous now. People does get offended for everything. I cud never be in the public eye
It’s not that deep .. that world is typically used for elders , & people who feel a bit younger than them don’t wanna feel as old yet . Sure , it’s used as a respect thing , but some people would just rather not be referred to as it . That’s all . I wouldn’t be “offended” because the person was trying to be respectful , but I also wouldn’t want to be called ma’am . Especially since I’m from Connecticut (now living in Louisiana 😒) & I don’t even like saying the word . I hate it , along with sir too because I was FORCED to say it in school or I would get in trouble . Somehow me just saying “yes” was TOTALLY disrespectful lol .
Erynne Carver Yep your a perfect example of how sensitive our world is today.😊
"I'm not a ma'ma I'm Loni...😀😊 Bitch" Lmfao I love it!
Dirty South here! My mother raised me well 💁🏾♀️ I still say sir and ma’am as an adult. It’s respectful 😉
Porsche Vonne do you still live in the south?
Exactly.
Same here. I'll forever say Sir & Ma'am & mean it in the kindest way possible! I feel like I'm respecting them.
Erica Aguilar agreed
Florida Girl I do
I’m sorry but all of them are ma’am age😂
Maya B honestly 😂
Right! Y'all like 40 talm bout would you be offended. Da fuqq.
Maya B then it’s ok if they call you child or young
Keishelle White yup! if someone's drastically older than me, I am a child (in their eyes). it's not disrespectful at all
Not Adrienne and Jeannie imo
I'm from Mississippi/The Dirty South. I was raised on the values of saying, "Yes Ma'am, No Ma'am, Yes Sir, No Sir, Ms., Mr., Miss, and Mrs." to my elders, teachers, principal, etc. If I didn't say anything of these things, my mother would either gave me the look and say "Yes/No what!?!?!?" or I got my teeth knocked out.
In the South, it's a sign of respect, honor, and simply just polite. IT'S SOUTHERN HOSPITALITY!!!!
And if somebody ends up offend by me just being polite to them. I'm Sorry Not Sorry.
Nyaisha Doyle PREACH🙏🏾‼️
That's not the problem tho. It's about who to call ma'am and who to call miss.
Oh??, I only call adults and elders ma'am or sir. Children have to earn the title, but if it's on a business level, for instance like a costumer or employee, everybody is called sir or ma'am. You know what I mean.
Aisha Doyle why do u call it dirty south
Thats the SOUTH everybody is not from the south everybody was not tought to say yes sir yes ma'am today Ma'am and sir is for old people old people dont need no reminders that they are old !
Lol i'm 25 and i feel weird being called ma'am.. I'm a miss.🤔
what if a 6 year old says miss?
PureSparkles22 a 6 year old is baby, them saying miss shouldn't offend you, I remember in elementary we called all the female teachers miss then added their last names
Same. I worked in retail and these hs kids was like “thank you ma’am” Like first of all, we’re the same age little boy 😭
At 25 your lucky to get respect. Be thankful, whatever you get.
Scott Casey someone saying ma'am does not mean they respect you. For some, It's just part of the protocol when you work somewhere. I will Never make a big deal about it but it does not change the fact that i don't like it and no i will not be satisfied with whatever i get. I'm not desperate
Am 23 and I love it when someone older calls me ma'am. I always smile.it makes me feel respected and humbled.
Ivy Shelmith what of they call you aunty?
Me too sometimes though😂😂.other times they'll make me feel older
jami s as for me,only the kids are allowed lol
jami s by kids only
Lilian Waeni so true lol
If someone call you maam or sir accept it. It shows that they respect you unless you want them to disrespect you by calling you hey women or hey man! Stop being sensitive its just stupid sheesh
MissDhonnaMary it depends on how n when it’s used.
Some ppl use it in an insulting condescending manner
(As well depending-on your age i GUARANTEE YOU that u may not see it that way)
Yess!!! It is respectful. I’ll be offended if u don’t know me and don’t address me as ma’am. Lol
MissDhonnaMary exactly
It’s a cultural thing. Some people do consider it rude.
Nattie bubbles you don’t need to give me examples if your agreeing with me. Where I live it’s rare to have been born and raised here like I have. Everyone else is from all over the place. It’s a melting pot. So I’ve been able to see the cultural differences which is why I had said that
3:53 Loni kills me
In England, some people (usually men) refer to others (usually women) as "love". Like the bus/ driver, postman, shopkeeper...they will say it when they're handing you money/letters or to thank you for something. For example, "here you go, love" or "thanks, love"
Edit: I've only ever heard "ma'am" being used by police officers to refer to someone who outranks them. This is from tv, so I don't know if police officers use the term in that way in the real world
elle19ism that just sounds creepy tbh
elle19ism depends where in England, I’m a Geordie and in Newcastle it’s ‘pet’ or ‘Hin’ but I live in Barnsley and it’s ‘love’ here
SULEKHA It's just a sign of friendliness or politeness. You get used to it
Natasha Duncan "pet"? Lol that would be so weird to me. What does "Hin" mean? 🤔
I like "love". Can I move to England? 😍
Lol nobody on this panel from the south? It's not offensive at all!
Amena Teferi no lol. They’re all coastal girls, Mel b is British and Loni is from detroit I believe. Not sure if Loni would have been raised similarly to southerners.
Amena Teferi I love your UA-cam videos. ❤️
tamera is from texas but shes missing
I’m from Jersey and this reminds me of back in high school when I was on dance team and this girl from the south had moved here and joined the team and she called my coach ma’am and she got hella offended saying it’s rude and I was confused bc I never thought it was rude. If anything the way my coach responded at the time was very rude
We say ma’am and sir out of respect
When Adrienne mimicked the way Jeanie say “ahehhhh biiiitchh” I died 😂😂😂
I moved to Texas a few years ago and felt so BAD about offending everybody cuz I didn’t know how serious they were about ma’am and sirs. Now I say it regardless of age to show respect to allll people!
Exactly, it's a sign of respect.
Definitely a sign of respect in the south no matter your age. I even say it to the kids like “No ma’am (sir) we don’t do that” or “Yes sir (ma’am) you can go play. I don’t mind at all when people call me ma’am. It was how I was raised.
Tara Holloway What about madam?
I don't say ma'am I'll say miss instead
Stephanie Mariah Woman: Would you like a glass of water?
You: Yes miss
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Jasmine Jackson more like yes thank you. Wtf was the point of your comment?
Some people in this world don't even want you addressed them as Mr or Ms, or Sir or Ma'am they would look at them like they're crazy.
The1baddman who said that I would say Mr? the girls on the real were talking about being polite and what you should say to older person so therefore I would say sir and miss instead of saying ma'am so being polite people going to look at me crazy honey stfu 😂
Jasmine Jackson I was thinking the same lol
What doesn’t offend women? That’s the REAL question.
Women don't even know... XD
Lol, true
Leave it to a snowflakey manlet to ask such a question LOL
that's a mystery can't be solved 😂
These are 4 old ladies trying to get called miss so they can feel 20's again.
I'm from the south. I will call you ma'am
I hate that word is disgusting sound similar men
ma'am is just short for madame. so technically i'm just calling you miss. it's not that serious.
songlyrics technically mademoiselle is ‘miss’. Madame is more equivalent to “mrs.”
songlyrics true
nah madame means married
Gay also used to mean just happy . When a stranger can either call you Mam or Miss it is not just a sign of respect but a subtle age reminder and understandably not something thirty or forty somethings welcome with open arms . With men there just isn't the same distinction adding further insult to injury .
Madame is what they call women who are the head of whore house's
I felt so sad when someone called me ma’am idk why
I've been called Ma'am and Miss by people older and younger than me. It doesn't bother me.
I worked at McDonnald’s when I was 17 and customers would call me “ma’am” at first it bothered me but then I realized they were trying to be polite, unlike those customers that just say “hey, hey, hey”
I say sir or ma’am to everyone. If someone is checking me out at the grocery store and they are younger than me, I say yes/no ma’am or yes/no sir. Age doesn’t matter to me and I live in the south. It’s just the polite thing to do. 🤷🏽♀️
Same but I live in Wisconsin/Illinois. I was not raised at all but when I got my first job, I started saying Sir and Ma'am and now I literally say it to everyone in public
Everyone deserves respect regardless of the gender or age.
I hate being called ma’am I am not nobody’s grandma!
Not nobody's? So you're somebody's grandma?
Don't worry. I wouldn't call you "madam". I don't have much respect for you. :)
I called this lady ma’am and she got offended and ever since then I have never called anyone that
I’m from Texas and we’re always taught at school to say ma’am and Sir to someone who is older than you!
I call everybody that is older than me Ma’am or sir cause it’s just respectful. And anybody that is serving me (?) like a waiter or a cashier or a sales person regardless of age, cause they deserve my respect at those times (also I do not know their ages, as well as not friendly enough to call them by their names)
I think you should only call people sir or ma’m out of respect.
You ever just wonder what the world Is coming to..like nothing is that deep..why people make an issue of things..I get called ma'am and I'm 20 ...never thought it was an issue
rosie delray ily lol.. ppl look toooooo far into ish.. their feelings are fragile
In places like down South it may be more universal but if you got addressed as miss and young lady and suddenly got ma'amed once you hit middle age that could be a rude awakening . Women are generally sensitive about getting older so that's not rocket science .
celestialcircledance yeah I'm only in my early 30s and I'm getting that phrase I'm like I'm not middle aged loo
Sarah koob its a head trip and especially if its a woman I'd ma'am her right back lol .
I'm relieved to hear that. That'a normal reaction. Nowadays people tend to make a fuss about everything.
I've gotten called ma'am and I'm 19. I was like wtf you're older then me sir .
Xochilt Escalante right? I'm 16 and I've just moved to the south, and I get called ma'am literally everywhere, and they're all by people who are at least in their 30s. I personally don't like it, it makes me feel old. 😒
It's someone showing respect to you regardless of your age. You should be respected. Please don't get upset some people are just raised that way and mean absolutely no harm.
LaShuna Hughes yeah it's just something I have to get used to.
liza T LaShuna Hughes aw, I'm from the south & they absolutely mean no harm. I was called mam as a kid all the time... especially if I did something to help or assist an adult, like holding the door open or passing them a fork/napkin... & in their heart it's coming from a " thank u / I respect you" place.
Xochilt Escalante I’m 19 too and I work at Disney and most of the guest call me Ma’am
I’m 20 years old and my guy friend when we met we used to call me ma’am and i loved that! It is a sign of respect, i appreciate!. FYI he younger than me in 2 years!
I’m 31 and I can remember a very influential teacher that I had in school. He would call his students ma’am and sir and expected us to do the same. It doesn’t bother me...I actually feel flattered by the respect of it all. 🤗
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I couldn't agree more and respecting your elders. Honestly I think no matter how old or who you are everyone deserves to be respected.
I'm only 26, but I LOVE being called ma'am. Miss is OK, or even sir. As long as you are addressing me in a respectful manner, we're cool. The minute I hear 'sweetheart' or 'sweetie', I will END you.
I’m from Cali but now live in ATL. Saying ma’am and sir regardless of age is very common here.
Same in NC. Age doesn't really matter. No one gets offended here .
I'm 33 and I think it's totally fine if a child calls me "miss" or "ma'am", but I do find it insulting if someone in their 20's calls me "ma'am"....cause I consider us to be in the same age group...no need to make me feel like I'm 60.
Qt Pie I agree 33 is still young
Arun S Key word you used....”elderly”....people in their 30’s are not “elderly”. If you’re 22 and I’m 35, I don’t need you calling me ma’am.
I agree with you and I’m 26
Arun S lol elderly are you tripping elderly is 40s and 50s
@@jennifere551 I don't even think 40's is elderly. 55 and older is considered a senior citizen. Kim Kardashian just turned 40...I don't think anyone considers her "elderly" lol.
I’m from the south and I say ma’am and sir to everybody. It is just a sign of respect. I especially make sure to say it to elders.
Clearly, that is different from the way it’s used up north.
Y’all need to bring back Mel and ask her y she wasn’t at the royal wedding like she initiated she was gonna b☕️
She should've kept her mouth shut!
They didinvited her
Send that Brit home. I hate hearing british accents on AMERICAN television.
@@Sergio-fu7mv ameeicans hate everything thats Not american . Thats why you so many ignorant people over there. No british is going to take thier time to hate on american on british TV.
When old ladies walk into a store, they are called Hello Ma'am, when young ladies walk in to a store they say Hello !
I was brought up to say sir and ma'am. The problem is that nowadays people have become ageist. Nobody wants to accept that they are getting older. There is no respect anymore. Everyone for themselves. The other part is that I was brought up in the South (Florida).
Lol in Miami if you say that people will give you a double look. It’s not something we say here. We’re not southern at all. But I understand that northern Florida is completely different.
In Miami people will also not give a you a double look, people see it as respectful here and im from Miami. So don't generalize like you know everyone
@@theashologistI’m from Miami and hate when someone calls me ma’am
I used to hate it but now? idgaf. you can call me whatever the hell u want long as it's not an insult. honestly, I am at a point in life where if something doesn't bring me Jesus or money, idgaf
I sometimes use "ma'am" when i talk to my daughter, i don't see it as a word to be used for someone that's older, it's outta respect!! I'm from Texas....
Mrs. R_28 im from houston texas just moved to Arizona ... i need thar texas love
say my name mami Well, welcome to Houston!
The State Trooper pulled me over the other day. I was super nice to him. And he gave me a warning. That was nothing but God. I call people ma’am and sir. It’s call respect.
I’m age 60 young. At first being called ma’am I get it , AT FIRST is a form of ‘respect’ but it makes me feel old ,and at some point if they keep calling me ma’am and especially if I ask them NOT to please call me by my name , or please call me Miss,and they continue it’s disrespectful.Sone people call a person ma’am to disrespect them. There’s this comedian on Instagram that I follow and when she’s poking fun at a person young people no matter the age she refers to them as ma’am ma’am ,why did you do that , or this etc. she’s being disrespectful.
I literally say yes ma’am and yes sir to EVERYONE, even to the kids at my group home. 🤷🏻♀️
That’s pretty weird...
KIDS ain't no Sir or Ma'am girl, that's too much 😬😩
NO ONE Should ever be told they are too sensitive we all have boundaries , and our own triggers.I have referred to men as Sir just to be respectful ,and they politely tell me please call me by my name ,so I see it effects both genders
I remember the first time I was called ma’am. I was so pissed. In the north it’s def a rude offensive word. Nothing worse then being called ma’am
No. To my friends in New York, I say hello! My friends in L.A., they don't know where I've been for the past few years or so! Paris to China to Colorado! Sometimes there's airplane we can't jump out, sometimes there's bullshit that don't work now! We all got our stories, but please tell me what there is to complain about?
So you would rather be called "b*tch" than "madam"? Ok then.
@CC Alexander Ok Ma'am
LOL in the North I am starting to see more and more ppl using it as an opportunity to be rude. Like a rude way of saying ,oh you look happy today... , HI Ma'am !.
when they did not address anyone else that way. Have you noticed that ?
@@Allison11111 I think the problem is you. It's in your head
Easily one of the best segments of Loni
"I'm triggered because someone respected me too much."
Nah it makes them feel frumpy and old
I be offended when people call me ma'am because I'm only 14
You’re offended when someone shows you respect? Got it 👌🏾
I opened the door for a 70 something yr old lady & wen she said thanks i said ur welcome miss & she giggled n smiled so big it was so cute she said i made her day❣ so i never say ma'am lol
I got called ma'am for the first time at 19 and I felt old af 😭😔😔😔
As a Southern girl, born and raised, sir and ma'am is just how we talk down here. It's the TONE in which it's said that will differentiate whether it's sincere or you're just being a smartass. Same with "Bless your heart!" lol
sir and ma'am is fine for strangers but is a shady insult to someone you know. say my name say my name. 😡
Y you think so?
Here in Australia it’s a sign of respect to call someone sir or ma’am no matter what age
If you don’t say sir or ma’am in the south you will get slapped. Nope. I’ll stick to saying it lol.
Ashley Richmond if you say that in Miami you’ll get a double look for sure. We just don’t say that here lol
Florida Girl oh ok see I’m from Tennessee lol
Yea, it's sometimes considered rude if we don't say it😅
No... they're times when I don't say ma'am and I don't get slapped! Maybe it's because I'm from the north!
I’m from SoCal and I was always raised to say sir, and ma’am too. It’s respectful.
I will continue to use it to. It’s not out of disrespect, it’s literally the opposite.
100% on board for being respectful but everyone should know the difference in how to address a clearly older lady as ma'am and a younger lady as miss.
I mean I call anyone sir or ma’am if it’s a professional setting or someone who I need to show respect to regardless of age.
When I say yes sir or yes ma’am, it’s usually not as a “title” per say. If someone asks me or tells me to do something- regardless of age- if they’re older than me, I say “yes ma’am”. I just feel that it’s the polite thing to do. I don’t think of age or anything along those lines. I do have women that I look up to who tell me not to call them ma’am because it makes them feel older. I respect that completely, but I still slip up sometimes. Here in Kentucky, we see it more as a respect thing than an age thing. I used to get in trouble, if I didn’t say “yes ma’am” or “yes sir” when my parents told me to do something. Sayin “yeah” or “okay” was considered a short answer.
They use the term Madam to address women formally or in most cases on a daily basis the terms darling, sweetheart, love which some people still take offence to
I'd rather be called love or darl. When someone calls me Ma'am I tell them they have depressed me for the day as it makes me feel super old.
I look good for my age, calling me ma’am isn’t going to “steal” my youth, it’s a respect thing .
I concur. I mean, If you find it offensive, then it's your problem.
I'm in Texas. We call everyone Sir & Ma'am, even adults to kids. Ageless titles. Just a more formal greeting.
You can tell no one on that panel is from the deep south because we call women ma'am all the time, not out of disrespect or shade but out of respect. As a matter of fact, if you answer your teacher (regardless if she's a very young teacher in her early 20s)with just a "yea" or "no," you'll get snapped up by her or other adults around you that over heard you answering her back like that. If you're not from the south, you're not going to re-teach my child not to say ma'am or sir just because someone mistakenly told you it's only for old people or people who want to throw shade at you.
That’s understandable. But just know that if you go to any other part of the US and insist on calling people sir or mam you’re gonna annoy a lot of them. But yeah some people are way too sensitive about it.
My husband is in the military and it took me a ton of getting used to when his subordinates and coworkers would call me m'am, , I am pretty young and they were often the same age or older, its a sign of respect but to this day 5 years later, I have not gotten used to being called m'am! That being said, I am German where we have Sie and Du, one is more formal, to be used for elders or when you're an adult, other adults to show respect because you don't know them well. Du is informal and used between friends and family. The older person is expected to offer the use of "Du". I like that formality of putting people in a category and see m'am and Sir as that as well, a way to show respect to people that you don't know well.
Theres a bunch of military bases in Hawaii almost all military personnel call you ma'am even when you're wayyy younger than them. It's just them being respectful. Here in Hawaii we generally refer to anyone older than us as aunty or uncle. Even if it's only a few years older.
What the hell ? Sir and ma'am is a sign of respect I would address you by your last names until you tell me otherwise
I like ma’am I’m young af but I still love it 🤗
Yasmin Sayeed lmao you dont look young at all .. im sure ur mind is mature
say my name mami lol I’m 21 that is young ..
You look your age, these people are just being haters
Okay, these people are trolling you. You look your age
I was 13 and babysitting, the kid said "yes ma'am". God I felt old!!
In Australia, we have a 'reverse' formality culture, where calling someone 'sir' and 'ma'am' is actually offensive as it implies you are mocking them for one reason or another. If you do not use informal language such as 'mate', it is seen a if you don't respect someone, or don't like them.
i prefer that
That's absolutely bizarre
What is Mel B talking about? In England it's Miss or Madam. Go into shops and they'd say _"can I help you Madam?"_ or _"can I help you Miss?"_ . They don't just call any woman of any age "Miss". Also, anything else is a colloquialism (i.e "love" / "darling" / "pet" etc...) . My only gripe is that men don't get referenced by age (In the UK). When a boy is fifteen he can be a Sir, when he's a man of 30 he can still be a Sir. When a girl is 15 she's a Miss, when she's a woman of 30 she's a Madam. A man is a *Mr* no matter what, a woman is a *Miss/Mrs/Ms* depending on relationship status. It's pretty sexist and ageist against women where these things do not apply at all to men. Women are always referenced by how old they look or classed by their relationship status whereas men are never classed this way. I'm not even a new-age/3rd-wave whatever feminist so don't come at me with that nonsense, it's just an observation that's hard to miss, is all.
Saying sir or ma’am makes the other person feel old lol
W. Ray Depends on where you are. In the South it’s respect/drilled into ya.
Don't say anything. Sir or ma'am is an insult. It makes people feel old and undesirable.
Exactly.
I call my customers sir and ma’am, and I’m from the South, I say it because I don’t know their name and want to be respectful.
My family is from the south and you say "Yes Ma'am - No Ma'am , Yes Sir - No Sir" to everyone no matter the age. That's what my mother taught me. Its a sign of respect no matter the age.
I live in the south. I say “Yes sir, no sir, yes ma’am, and no ma’am.” I say it as a form of respect, regardless of how old you are. That’s how I was raised and that’s how I’ll always be.
Kelly Shirley yeah it’s definitely the way to speak to people in the south. But in a lot of places you’ll get a double glance. If you said that to me I would just find it amusing and might smile and move on. A sensitive person might think you’re calling them old lol.
Florida Girl, oh wow! I never knew people would take it the wrong way. My husband is from the north. Every time we go to visit his family and I say “Ma’am and Sir” they’re always like “You really don’t have to call me that.” I think that’s so interesting.
Kelly Shirley yeah very interesting. Your in laws are probably not used to it.
People who were raised in the south who are Hispanic or Asian American do they address others as mam and sir too?
Or is it strictly something that only white and black southerners do?
Just curious.
Florida Girl, I personally don’t live around a lot of Hispanic or Asian cultured people. The few that I do know or have known, don’t say “yes ma’am or yes sir.” Yeah, I don’t think my in laws will ever be used to it lol! I just can’t stop. When I was little, if my siblings and I didn’t say “Ma’am or Sir” to people, we would be in big trouble!
Kelly Shirley kelly your seem mature
I address people as sir and ma’am all the time. I show respect to everyone until they are no longer worthy of it. To me ma’am is the female sir. You don’t see men getting upset with being called sir
I'm just glad we don't use any titles like that here in Norway.
The first time I got called Mam I was 21 and I was so offended. He was maybe 2 years younger than me. But I also took care of elderly 90 years old and they would say mam to me. I said you guys don’t need to say that to me. And my elderly client said why not I respect you? So yea I don’t care now
Only vain people overly concerned with their age would feel disrespected by being addressed as mam or sir.
not if they address some as Miss and ma'am you. that's insulting
It’s the way some of our parents raised us. It’s a good thing and it is respectful to say, “yes sir” or “yes ma’am” .
My mom used to be on me about that, so now I’m used to saying that to people that are just older or more experienced in life than me.
Idgaf who doesn’t like it, you’re not getting me popped in my mouth for not saying sir or ma’am lol
Its just respectful. I use it to address ppl at work. (Cashier) It takes 10 extra damn seconds of my time (annoying but fine) to explain it is out of respect when they say "dont call me ma'm or sir".. i cannot remember everyones damn name!!!! Idk what else to call you? Do i make up my own name for you?? Or what???? I see ppl at most an hour once a day but i also see 100+ other people in that same day lol.. ya'll need to chill with the feeling "old" thing.. or the "dont call me that" thing.. uhhhhgghghhg (im not going out of my way to call someone "miss" or "young man" because they are insecure n cuz i need to stroke your ego. i dont get paid $10 to worry that much about feelings when i have a phrase that the majority of customers will understand "sir" "ma'm", lets be real)
I'm 18 n someone called me ma'am n i was offended....I know i'm a big gal you don't have to rub it in😒, so disrespectful 😒
Bantoo ; don’t you feel like maybe you’re overly sensitive?
It possibly was just a cultural difference. When I was in High school, we called our classmates sir & ma'am. Nothing to do with age or size. Just general respect.
But then again, I was not there. Idk what the person meant. Just know, if you ever run into me on the street and I call you ma'am it's simply my way of respecting you as a human being. No qualifications attached. 😇
When a woman calls me Ma'am I say Ma'am back to her, she thinks im offended, its she who is offended because im calling her old back !!! Every body wants to be young !!!!
I was always taught if someone is a few years older and up you always say sir or ma’am. I will always say it because when I didn’t I got my tail whooped lol.
I was brought up to call people sir or ma’am . It was polite and respectful
I get called ma'am every day and I HATE it
Yes Being polite is so offensive.
Worked in customer service for a little over 10 years... using 'sir' or 'ma'am' for *all* men and *all* women was the standard practice.
Customer: "Excuse me... Can you help me find something?"
Employee: "Yes sir/ma'am. How can I help you?"
In regards to every day life? Unless you're a little kid or a young teenager, I will use sir or ma'am. It's called *common courtesy* and it's something my parents raised me to have.
Ma'am means OLD and people know thats what it means, thats why they love to say it, they want to pick at people, Women especially !!!!!
Exactly
No it doesn't! Good grief.. means mature. Not elderly
Truth.
Why do people need to address people with miss, Sir, or ma'am anyway when a hi or an hello is sufficient enough? I find when such greetings are made they are often not said with sincerity. I make a point of telling people not to greet me with Sir and if they do I correct them.
It’s really not that much of a big deal. Because it is a sign of respect. My parents rise me to respect ppl. Especially my elders. So if someone call me ma’am I’m not gonna get mad. Yeah, I’m only 25. I’m still young but at least. They didn’t call me out of my name
if we're in a customer-based business, EVERYONE is sir/ma'am.
If a woman in front of you drops something without realizing it, you don't get her attention by saying, "Ay you!". It's "Ma'am, you dropped this." No matter what age.
I've never met anyone in person who voiced being offended by it.
Why even call people sir ma'am or anything just say what you have to say, people use it way too much. If I didn't sleep and look more tired and older than usual I don't need you reinforcing it, or ever even if I am older. I'm not an army sergeant or someone in authority who needs that to feel respected, I don't need it being rubbed in my face. If you wanna say hi, just say hi, thank you, excuse me, but you don't always have to tag titles at the end of it. It's taught to be respectful yet it makes so many people feel uncomfortable. It doesn't need to be practiced as often as it is, and it's honestly really annoying.
I have been saying this for a long time. I never use titles
i totally agree with you
For me, it's a sign of respect. I was raised saying it. I even address people younger than me as sir/ma'am. I don't like for people/kids to say Miss (insert my name). That makes me feel old.
Older people call me ma'am and im 24. Its more of a pet peeve to me.
If someone called me miss or ma’am madam I am not going to don’t care I don’t mind being called either one , because people nowadays are not even close being of respectful like use they too,people are so focused on the negatives it’s irritating .
I was brought up to refer to older folks as sir and ma'am as a sign of respect and surprisingly I would have adults telling me I should not refer to them as sir or ma'am because they are not old. I was confuse as hell. I was like huh? In my head. And it's not just Ma'am... Sir, Miss, Madam. I say it nontheless, if they ask me not to and tell me what they prefer to be address by, I just work with them.
Being called Ma'am makes me feel old, but young lady or Miss is okay with me.