Not maybe the voice make. Over behind the scene ,remember Eartha Kitt tiny woman certain features should be displayed not just centered around the voice .
@Drake Hoe I'm not into the religious stuff, but I agree that in a nutshell, she just wants to be free to do whatever she wants without being obligated to get permission or forgiveness from someone. She's in the entertainment industry, which IS a form of "witchcraft" (which is simply science used for the purpose of manipulating the thoughts and behavior of others) and most Hollywood "witches" adhere to the motto/philosophy of *"do as thou wilt."* Hard to *"do as thou wilt"* when a person has to ask for permission or forgiveness to do something.
Good morning Bored what is bored really you have been to puppet shows and seem the circus ,and old as she is and everyone else who has agreed with your comment ,bored it takes two in a relationship ,movies ,lectures can be boring ,that's very immature .As humans we are not here to entertain that's why we communicate what's on our minds .To each other ,She and others haven't respected God's arraignment yet still want to be free basically.
Drake Hoe well I’m not going to judge my sister. And in no way am I insinuating that you are. However there could be a number Of reasons why she may be like this. It could stem from child hood, something she may have experienced or has seen in her parents, etc.. it could be a number of things... however, knowing this, any wise man knows that this sister is not a good investment as far as a long term relationship. She enjoys the newness of a situation and that’s where the ball stops lol
I use to be married but as I got older, I dont want to be married. There is nothing wrong with having a long time partner or just be single. Marriage is not for everybody.
I love everything that she said... SHE KEPT IT 100 ..love my husband to death, never see myself living without him but MARRIAGE AINT FOR EVERYONE ...But marriage is also a beautiful thing when its right...I've been married for 10 years and my husband still feels like my boyfriend
Unfortunately, since God created woman for man, in the beginning, and Jesus said let every man have his own wife and every woman her own husband, marriage is, indeed, made for everyone with a s*x drive. I didn't always think this way but I know better now. I, too, am married, have grown up and realize that the world's way of doing things, as it relates to relationships, is very messed up which is why many will leave this Earth, single and all alone without having experienced the love, solace, joy and comfort which marriage brings. That is so very unfortunate.
Biology don't work that way , there people who want children. Society need children, it's kinda horrible when your 70 realizing you should of had kids . Yeah I've seen senior citizens have that revelation and it's hart breaking .
I’m going to say this. This is nothing against what Ms. said. Life is what YOU make it! Get to know YOURSELF. Once you know YOURSELF. Then you know the type of person who matches your flavor. Everyone you meet is a reflection of YOU. That’s why you meet different people, same problems. & Too many people get in relationships without being WHOLE, out of convenience, loneliness, “finding themselves” (how do you find yourself outside of yourself), “testing waters”, and then give “advice” which deters others from relationships and makes folks feel like they can’t be successful in it since the masses are messing up. I’m here to let you know you CAN be successful in a relationship. Just Be honest with where you are. Take a season where it’s just you and YOU. No you don’t have to wait until you’re 40/50 to find out who you are. The only advice anyone should give anyone in my opinion about relationships is get to know yourself first. Focus on becoming. Heal, forgive, laugh, have fun. Become the person you want to be. Walk in purpose. Understand the POWER of your mind beliefs & tongue. That’s the real relationship. Then everyone else around you (romantic & platonic) will reflect that wholeness and love. If you desire marriage the right one will walk into your life and you will be with your best friend for life. Be equally yolked or be miserable. My 2 cents.
Marriage when done right with proper intent is very rewarding. Some of the same compromises you have to make in a long term relationship are some of the same compromises one make in a marriage. Marriage or long term commitment isnt for everyone, the same as having kids, certain career choices, etc. aren't for everyone. So although I don't completely agree with her, I respect her opinion.
I may not agree with her, but I understand her. And people like this deserve credit ! Believe someone when they tell you they do not want marriage. It is everyone’s own decision to make. I applaud her authenticity.
Prissy having kids and marriage used to go hand in hand. Without kids at her age she would just be trying to live out a fantasy. Whats the point of marrying somebody at age 50 and locking yourself down to them? Research marriage, it’s actually more about the kids and obligations and duty than it supposed to be about two lovebirds.
@@lw3554 I've seen where two old people have come together countless times, and it clearly had not a damn thing to do with having any kids at their age. Even if she has already had kids that are grown and living on their own, a woman still marries of re-marries. What two people agree to get married to do is between those two people.
I totally agree on what she said about the "feeling" part of meeting your one and true love. It's true that looks aren't everything, and it comes down more to the chemistry between two people. Kelitta is a very wise person.
She's not stunning. She's average looking which is how most of us look and there's nothing wrong with being average looking. She was slightly above average when she was younger but age wins in the end for every living human being. Another reason why we want to make better decisions when we're younger. The fact is as we grow older, love opportunities decrease, as they should. It's nature's way of telling us we should be settled or married by a certain time in our lives. Such is life.
@@AlmedaRen I know it's so hard to face facts, lost one. Reality doesn't change by simply willing it so. Many will die, alone, because they choose to live in LaLa Land, aren't anything close to what they tell themselves, are arrogant, broken, baby mamas, baby daddies and can't accept their value has decreased to others....which is what, truly matters. If others don't find you valuable to their lives, you'll never be anyone's spouse......ever!
I’m not sure what I thought I’d hear in this interview. I am glad I listened. She sounds like happiness is key on attaining peace and acceptance of self. I enjoyed this.
Strangely I had to check my cousin youngest son and his friend who were both arguing with each other over what to watch . I pulled them into a room and we discussed compromising to work towards solutions . Compromising is getting what we both want instead of getting nothing at all. These two boys at age seven got it , they watched the movie while the other DVRed the TV show . But 50 year old barely get it .
I am a man and marriage is absolutely wonderful. 10 yrs in and its always new and still getting better. No exaggeration. Its still getting better. A fling cant bring you the joy of a family in marriage.
When she said "In your 40's and 50's, you realize that you don't care that you don't care"? I felt that 100%. She nailed it with that comment because it is definitely on point.
Thts not even wat marriage is 😂😂 wen u love somebody u willinglt do for them ya no kindA wat ppl have confused with "loyalty" and or "entitlement" wen the relationship is like a week old lol
It is odd that she says who knows he might be "the one". What they don't tell you is that no matter what there is ALWAYS someone that you will be attracted to outside of your husband or wife. That feeling never goes away and the idea that there is a "perfect match" out there is a bit of a myth as well. Marriage and committed relationships require sacrifice no matter what.
Salute🌠 Grown Folk convo right here agreed 💯 When a healthy minded woman grow into her authentic self & doesn't find her identity from outside forces but within her Divine Femine Energy is @ it's full peek! She's a Force to be Reckoned With⭐
I'm just seeing this video. Omg. I wish I would have saw this when I got married when I was 19 years old. But back than was no UA-cam at the time. She is so right....she should do a talk show.
People who have unhealed trauma... and who had childhood problems often lack for marriage. Or have unsuccessful marriages. We have to heal ourselves to be with another, otherwise don’t get married. Or heal yourself and love yourself by yourself. No problem with that either.
My ex broke up with me because I didn't want to get married, and i tell you, it felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders, being in a relationship is like going to work, and who wants to do that.
She did the right thing. Your paths diverged. She did not want to stay on a path that did not take her to where she wanted to go. I hope that she found love with a man who shared her goal of marriage and/or children. A lot of women settle for the latter while pining for the former as well. I hope you were honest with the next woman you got involved with and let her know up front that you are anti-marriage. Work is an absolute necessity of life for the vast majority of people. Some people love what they do for work. Some people don't, but they make the most of it. Marriage is what you make it. Yes, it can be like work, but for a lot of married folk, it' worth the sacrifice. If you're not willing to make that sacrifice, just be honest up front. Don't string some woman along for years, holding out the promise of marriage, knowing it is not your intent. That's dishonest and deceitful.
I’ve NEVER heard a black woman say this before. Except maybe Oprah but not in this way. I LOVE Kalita’s confidence! Her confidence scared me though in person. I was actually speechless encountering her.
Mm hm... every now and then, not often or frequently, she's gonna want to see/go/do something else. But there's ALWAYS going to be that ONE dude. I get it... I ain't hating. She's honest.
Ira Leonard She not tryna be tied down to one person for the rest of her life, knowing that at some point, she may fall out of love with that person. It doesn't have much to do with lust.
If a person is a feeling then feelings change then that means the person will eventually change. I will say that not everyone is meant or supposed to be married. So salute to her for recognizing her truth.
No she shouldn’t. Because her ideas are straight garbage. She doesn’t understand marriage. When you understand marriage and the work that both man and woman are supposed to do, the honor and respect from both sides, that love for one another, when you stand by that promise you made to God and your wife/husband then marriage will work. In this day and age people do not understand marriage and they are not ready to take on that responsibility.
Some of her views are somewhat selfish, but I respect her honesty. Aren't we all a little selfish nowadays? She definitely wants the option to upgrade if it becomes available to her. She knows traditional marriage is about sticking with your choice no matter what. I'm not saying she's right or wrong, it's just a matter of perspective.
Its too bad she feels this way. I'm 52 years old, and I've been married for over 30 years to a wonderful man. He's not perfect-never was, but neither am I. I just know that when a man and woman get married, whether its at a court house, outside, or at a church, it says something to each other, and to the world about how serious and committed he is to you. Kellita Smith definitely can have her own opinion and marriage is not for everyone. But, as for me, it was one of the best decisions I made. For Better or for worse. In sickness or in health. For richer or poorer. Till death do us part. If you Both, and I mean both of you (not just one) will continue to hold on to your vows, it'll work. And when you get tired, bored and want to stray.... ask God to remind you of the day you fell in love. Its not up to your spouse to make you happy. Happiness is a choice.
Love her attitude about relationships. There is a difference between compromising and having a relationship that is good for both people. What she is really saying is that if something does not lift you up, you shouldn't hold on to it, especially if you have to give up a pat of yourself. Such a tough concept for us , especially as black women. Loved her in Z Nation! No doubt, we will see more of this stunning lady.
Never understood why we men don't get it. While we're"hitting"... we're also BEING HIT. A lotta women just want to have sex then move on JUST LIKE YOU.
Really??? Hopefully it’s not men in her demographic of 40s/50s... very sad if that’s what a male hears from what she said... just goes to show one’s maturity and comprehension level🤦🏽♀️
@@bbhalocapricorn2321 women are less than half of the entrepreneurs in America. Around 40%. I'm amazed by the amount of people who recite inaccurate information when the correct information is so easily attainable. Lazy, loud and wrong much?
But for children it’s a recipe for disaster as evidenced by your native culture. Not sure why so many men pretend they have millions in assets to protect.,..
DeepHouseNation We got our lives to protect,try going to family court and see how they treat black males or any male.you see all kinds of shit.driver licenses taken away, imprisonment.
I'm African happens to be in America Maybe I know too many stable Black relationships to feel sorry for negroes who made chronic bad decisions. I mostly hear divorced white guys complaining about court and random bitter negroes with 3 baby mommas whining. The marriage decline is real across all ethnicities though...
This is the first black woman who i heard keep it real about marriage i take my hat off to her if we all think the same way and be honest like this ESPECIALLY in this era where everybody has options thanks to social media we be better off as a people just dont have kids, if it not the right one.
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Marriage is for the children and building far as dynasties and empires and clans
We have no clue to the innumerable attack vectors this civilization has on black existence. No black man...no black protector...no black family...no black Nation. Smh.
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@@gnomechompsky8853 its no a brainer today the solution is in front of us
SARA he’s acting like there isn’t a bunch of married women who’s stressing over these dusty ass men. Gaining weight and all types of health problems because of their marriage. Most was better off single. I hate when men use that tactic because women prefer to be single smh most men are so full of themselves it’s ridiculous!!!!! Their ego hurt when she rather stay single...
@SARA nobody said anything wrong that....why did you make a assumption that it was a problem.....that thought process alone is dangerous..I was only making a statement...you sound like you in your feelings😂😂😂😂
Yeah and Harry was knocking off hoes in Las Vegas and got caught buck nekkid in photo with one. Kellita is gorgeous but as blinded by fame, $ euro-'class' trash as anyone else.
@Music Lover Forever * Vérifiez vos faits mon amour *: Denzel Washington / Ozzie Davis & Ruby Dee / Spike Lee / John Singleton / Morris Chestnut / Bill Cosby (yes) / Courtney B. Vance & Angela Bassett / Sterling K. Brown / Jesse Williams / Lebron James / John Coltrane / Miles Davis (all wives including Cicely Tyson) / James Brown / Gil-Scot Heron / Forrest Whittaker / Idris Elba...and THE LIST GOES ON. Even notable experimenters like Richard Pryor and Sammy Davis jr. went white and came back and ended their careers living with Black wives but the media won't show that. Up to you if you wish focus on the biased nature of the press and it's negative imagery. Just saying. P.S.: Will & Jada, Jay & Bey, and special note to Gucci Mane who said marrying his BLACK wife is best decision he's ever made and it's evident in his demeanor and current success. Saying again 2x, much love.
It's crazy how invested and how entitled ppl are when it comes to another persons life and choices we all came here to experience who are you to judge others because nobodys perfect. Everyone here on earth won't have children or want marriage and that's ok but it only seems bad when a woman doesn't want what society think we were put here to do we get a new name on the list every other month or year now the word is 304 I agree with everything she is saying this is not a marathon we don't have settle or rush into anything we don't want to its ok for men to not want marriage to have multiple woman but it's always a slander for women which is bullshit ppl should live and do whatever they want with their life and free will just because marriage and children is what you want doesn't mean everybody else have to get on board
Marriage is beautiful. The concept of marriage is beautiful. When it's done right and approached with sincere care, it is a beautiful thing to experience. It's so sad to hear ppl speak down on marriage. If only both men and women respected it more and treated it better. Shame
@@keyanna2633 if only men and women respected it more...and by that I mean, single men/women not give into the advances of adulterous married folks and married folks not seek company outside of their marriage. If only ppl wanted to (and did)what was right, this world would be such a better place. 🤷🏾♀️
@@nMommyMode Yes I agree. I also believe marriage is about compromising,and communicating with their spouse,so that thier partner wouldn't desire to seek that outside company. Even singles could express with married individuals about adulterous acts being wrong,so few seem to do that though.
Good actress. Seems like she’s been through a few bad men. And she should be free to live just like guys The idolizing of the Eartha comment “He can delight himself in falling in love with me as I fall in love with myself.” It seems as selfish as the man Kellita says didn’t want to lose herself for. Marriage ain’t for everybody but compromise is a part of it if you love them. Obviously Kellita hasn’t found the one to compromise for
I know people who fake it happy but are miserable... Making it look good for they kids and family, I was married and all we did was fuck n fight for no apparent reason, I blew thru all my settlement money lost car's buried a baby son and dam near lost myself. It's the best thing you can do and it can be the worst thing you can do, don't marry a tramp bitch cause you gone control or try too, ladies get your own money before you think a so called street nigga is supposed to take care of yo broke ass💯💯💯💯
Eartha Kitt was multi-talented, but she was also a classic narcissist. Narcissistic people are often very charismatic, but are horrible people to deal with. Eartha Kitt was talking a lot of bullshit; she just spoke with delusional believe in what she said. The woman in the interview doesn't know the difference.
At one point in time when I used to come watch this interview of her, I was scratching my head thinking, “I think Auntie a little confused about this topic of marriage. 🥴” But as times goes by and I get older into my 30’s, I’m starting to understand her perspective. I can say now, I get it and I agree. Marriage is a constant union to work at and it’s not for the faint at heart. I’ve been single for 4 years, and I’m what some will call a “modern day woman”. I work in corporate, I take care of myself as an adult should do, and I do well for myself. To be honest, a lot times us as women just want the d*ck, all that other stuff that comes along with a man is burdensome. That’s why I remain single, travel and do the hobbies I love. And on those lonely nights I might call my PPE or DOD, once the deed is done tell his ass to go home. 🤷🏾♀️ Ladies, do what works for YOU. Always will be a supporter of Kellita Smith. ✨💕
Not surprised by her thoughts on marriage...Truth of the matter is what many don't know marriage is nothing but a business. What people need to be concerned and really taught about is the truth about #RolesAndRelationships that way you will be able to make better clear cut decisions and avoid many preventable problems. Do you agree or what are your thoughts?
I was literally thinking the same thing during the interview. Props to her for keeping it real, but there is so much more to it. I view every relationship as a business and in every business, there are (or at least should be) agreed upon rules and regulations that make the business work and run smoothly. Marriage is a partnership. Its a commitment to a commitment. Have the conversation, define the roles of each person, and go with it. Periodically evaluate and just try to always improve. I will say, usually people with her mindset have been jaded due to past experiences. Maybe the disappointment seems for unrealized expectations. Cause when marriage works, it is beautiful but the 2 parties involved need drive and desire to want it to work.
That impersonation of Earth Kitt tho'.
She's bipolar
So we'll no she can impersonate she can add that to her relationship where it's not so boring .
+panther196321 She kilt it
The impersonation was on point
She is still gorgeous.
Mr. Bennett on the outside...
Guy C Nah she gorgeous inside & out
She hit the wall
@@The1KingTone she aged like fine wine.
Alright mane I'm out, too much cup caking
She should play Eartha Kitt in a biopic
Not maybe the voice make. Over behind the scene ,remember Eartha Kitt tiny woman certain features should be displayed not just centered around the voice .
Twan112785 Paula Jai Parker
Im here for it!
Eartha Kitt granddaughter is a White-Woman...🤷🏿♂️ Google #EarthaKittGranddaughter
@@juaneduardo504 yep she was mackin white dudes back in the day
Bottom line she doesn’t want to feel like she’s being tide down and she gets bored easily. When she’s ready to go she ready to go.
@Drake Hoe
I'm not into the religious stuff, but I agree that in a nutshell, she just wants to be free to do whatever she wants without being obligated to get permission or forgiveness from someone.
She's in the entertainment industry, which IS a form of "witchcraft" (which is simply science used for the purpose of manipulating the thoughts and behavior of others) and most Hollywood "witches" adhere to the motto/philosophy of *"do as thou wilt."*
Hard to *"do as thou wilt"* when a person has to ask for permission or forgiveness to do something.
Good morning
Bored what is bored really you have been to puppet shows and seem the circus ,and old as she is and everyone else who has agreed with your comment ,bored it takes two in a relationship ,movies ,lectures can be boring ,that's very immature .As humans we are not here to entertain that's why we communicate what's on our minds .To each other ,She and others haven't respected God's arraignment yet still want to be free basically.
Drake Hoe well I’m not going to judge my sister. And in no way am I insinuating that you are. However there could be a number Of reasons why she may be like this. It could stem from child hood, something she may have experienced or has seen in her parents, etc.. it could be a number of things... however, knowing this, any wise man knows that this sister is not a good investment as far as a long term relationship. She enjoys the newness of a situation and that’s where the ball stops lol
Tina Williams Good Morning,
so are you speaking for her or for yourself?
@@lm7913
I'm not responding to this question when know the answer.
Period.
That Eartha Kitt impersonation was everything! Big fan of Kellita by the way.
I love Kelita's Generation, they don't tell you directly who they are, but they always give you hints that they GET DOWN!
inster will 😂💯💯
Her Eartha Kitt impersonation!!! 😍😍😍
Was average😆😆
I use to be married but as I got older, I dont want to be married. There is nothing wrong with having a long time partner or just be single. Marriage is not for everybody.
Whàts the difference
@@geminikid609 one word: HALF
@@trackgrad08 lol Eddie Murphy but you can always rebuild and sign a prenup
I love everything that she said... SHE KEPT IT 100 ..love my husband to death, never see myself living without him but MARRIAGE AINT FOR EVERYONE ...But marriage is also a beautiful thing when its right...I've been married for 10 years and my husband still feels like my boyfriend
Unfortunately, since God created woman for man, in the beginning, and Jesus said let every man have his own wife and every woman her own husband, marriage is, indeed, made for everyone with a s*x drive. I didn't always think this way but I know better now.
I, too, am married, have grown up and realize that the world's way of doing things, as it relates to relationships, is very messed up which is why many will leave this Earth, single and all alone without having experienced the love, solace, joy and comfort which marriage brings. That is so very unfortunate.
She's right about most of us not knowing ourselves until 40s/50s. Commitment is not for everyone just be honest with yourself and the other person.
But when yall females get old and none wants you then yall get crazy
@@boknos8411 Define crazy? Different strokes for different folks.
Bo knos right
@@ExistNNature go to a old folks home. Mentally deranged and unpredictable, senseless, eager, unusual, fragile, random qualities, panicky
Biology don't work that way , there people who want children.
Society need children, it's kinda horrible when your 70 realizing you should of had kids .
Yeah I've seen senior citizens have that revelation and it's hart breaking .
I think Kellita is just being real with herself.
No, Kelitta is lying to herself because she has given up.
@@soulsearch1234
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@@soulsearch1234shut up
@@Unknownnappysoul No, YOU shut up
She is still fine like wine🍷
Commitment is for adults only. Can you hold yourself accountable. Can you be true to yourself. If so then you can be true to someone else.
I’m going to say this. This is nothing against what Ms. said.
Life is what YOU make it! Get to know YOURSELF. Once you know YOURSELF. Then you know the type of person who matches your flavor. Everyone you meet is a reflection of YOU. That’s why you meet different people, same problems. & Too many people get in relationships without being WHOLE, out of convenience, loneliness, “finding themselves” (how do you find yourself outside of yourself), “testing waters”, and then give “advice” which deters others from relationships and makes folks feel like they can’t be successful in it since the masses are messing up.
I’m here to let you know you CAN be successful in a relationship. Just Be honest with where you are. Take a season where it’s just you and YOU. No you don’t have to wait until you’re 40/50 to find out who you are. The only advice anyone should give anyone in my opinion about relationships is get to know yourself first. Focus on becoming. Heal, forgive, laugh, have fun. Become the person you want to be. Walk in purpose. Understand the POWER of your mind beliefs & tongue. That’s the real relationship. Then everyone else around you (romantic & platonic) will reflect that wholeness and love. If you desire marriage the right one will walk into your life and you will be with your best friend for life. Be equally yolked or be miserable.
My 2 cents.
Well said.
Ooh that's nice, can I I quote you ?
That's pretty much the EXACT SAME thing she said.
Marriage when done right with proper intent is very rewarding. Some of the same compromises you have to make in a long term relationship are some of the same compromises one make in a marriage. Marriage or long term commitment isnt for everyone, the same as having kids, certain career choices, etc. aren't for everyone. So although I don't completely agree with her, I respect her opinion.
You are right . U have to have good intentions with anything that you do. Says who you are as a human being..
BadAssBlackOverlord DAWG 🤣 You trying to 3-0 everyone I see
I surely agree with this here
I may not agree with her, but I understand her. And people like this deserve credit ! Believe someone when they tell you they do not want marriage. It is everyone’s own decision to make. I applaud her authenticity.
Don't forget she's also past the child bearing age. A lot of people get married after having kids to do what's best for the children.
leonard washington I thought about it. I totally agree with Prissy.
leonard washington What does that have to do with her NOT wanting to marry? She is not discussing children.
Prissy having kids and marriage used to go hand in hand. Without kids at her age she would just be trying to live out a fantasy. Whats the point of marrying somebody at age 50 and locking yourself down to them? Research marriage, it’s actually more about the kids and obligations and duty than it supposed to be about two lovebirds.
@@lw3554 I've seen where two old people have come together countless times, and it clearly had not a damn thing to do with having any kids at their age. Even if she has already had kids that are grown and living on their own, a woman still marries of re-marries. What two people agree to get married to do is between those two people.
I totally agree on what she said about the "feeling" part of meeting your one and true love. It's true that looks aren't everything, and it comes down more to the chemistry between two people. Kelitta is a very wise person.
Kelita smith is one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen
Marriage ain't for everybody, Point. Blank. Period. Ms. Smith is stunning.
But why?
She's not stunning. She's average looking which is how most of us look and there's nothing wrong with being average looking. She was slightly above average when she was younger but age wins in the end for every living human being.
Another reason why we want to make better decisions when we're younger. The fact is as we grow older, love opportunities decrease, as they should. It's nature's way of telling us we should be settled or married by a certain time in our lives. Such is life.
@@hopelove1595 Your opinion. 👍🏾
@@hopelove1595 Heal
@@AlmedaRen I know it's so hard to face facts, lost one. Reality doesn't change by simply willing it so. Many will die, alone, because they choose to live in LaLa Land, aren't anything close to what they tell themselves, are arrogant, broken, baby mamas, baby daddies and can't accept their value has decreased to others....which is what, truly matters. If others don't find you valuable to their lives, you'll never be anyone's spouse......ever!
I’m not sure what I thought I’d hear in this interview. I am glad I listened. She sounds like happiness is key on attaining peace and acceptance of self. I enjoyed this.
Marriage is a contract of business....love is all that's needed...not a state paper saying your a couple
Love is NOT all that is needed, that’s why you see so many failed marriages & relationships.
Ppl have become so self absorbed now a days no one understands the beauty of compromising in a relationship/marriage.
Correct. They have become used to the bastardized version of marriage and have no idea what one is supposed to really look like.
American culture breeds narcissism.
@@mazzb305 100%
@@seekinghimdaily92 what's a marriage s'posed to look like?
Strangely I had to check my cousin youngest son and his friend who were both arguing with each other over what to watch .
I pulled them into a room and we discussed compromising to work towards solutions .
Compromising is getting what we both want instead of getting nothing at all.
These two boys at age seven got it , they watched the movie while the other DVRed the TV show .
But 50 year old barely get it .
I believe in marriage. I also feel marriage isn’t for everyone. Anyone that feels this way isn’t a person that should be married.
Of course you would believe in marriage. You get paid if you decide to breakup
I am a man and marriage is absolutely wonderful. 10 yrs in and its always new and still getting better. No exaggeration. Its still getting better. A fling cant bring you the joy of a family in marriage.
I feel the same way as you
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She needs to be interviewed by someone who's not infatuated with her. He trying to GTD!!! 😁
I understand playa. She's gorgeous.
Betty Jones U are correct about him being infatuated with her. It’s quite easy 2 tell from these clips. Can’t say that I blame him 🤷🏽♂️
Can u blame him he'll I would be too😂😂😂😂
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Get the draws dawg
She was so fine on the Bernie mac show
Damn Right👏👏👏👏👏
Still Fine
She still look the same
She still fine like wine
👑Kellita👑 Is EVERYTHING!!!
This Brother Interviewing always sounds so TIMID, when he ask's certain question. Brother BE CONFIDENT, BE STRONG, BE DIRECT!
SupremeDef this the type of man that works for kelita ... she could probably mold him into the woman she needs in her life !
@@C.O.A.CH_Rà LOL. Thats' funny but I aint going that far. LMAO. I just need The Brother, to be more confident and direct, when he's asking questions.
No. He's a shitty interviewer. Check out his other shows. Shame too, he sounds like a smart guy and gets good guest. Just poor conversational skills.
SupremeDef
He sound like he wants to hit it but, too scared of her 😂.
U sound crazy this channel has gotten bigger and bigger so he doing something right
When she said "In your 40's and 50's, you realize that you don't care that you don't care"? I felt that 100%. She nailed it with that comment because it is definitely on point.
I’ve seen my boys and homegirls in marriages. I don’t want NO parts of that! So I feel Kelita all day!
I definitely don't want to get married...I LOVE MY FREEDOM TOO MUCH...no thanks!!!
The marriage concept is interesting. I just know I don't see myself being in a relationship doing a bunch of shit I don't want to do lol
Me either...marriage is not something that I aspire to do.
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The realest post I ever saw.
Thts not even wat marriage is 😂😂 wen u love somebody u willinglt do for them ya no kindA wat ppl have confused with "loyalty" and or "entitlement" wen the relationship is like a week old lol
straight up; work hard all day and come home to b.s.
This is just sophisticated thot talk 😂😂😂
Bingo
What is wrong with being free?
Word up. She explained it 2 herself
Literally
yep!
😂 she fa the STREEETS! (*Corey Holcomb voice*)
Steve and she sounds like she wants to be for the streets! 50 yr old aspiring jezebel smh
lev luv kelita the chick at the door asking for Trina Corey was talkin bout
💯 Marrying her lol only a damn fool would!
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Haha. 5150 is everywhere. Dirty South Division reporting.
She's always been one of my favorite actresses and to get these interviews just makes me like her more
I haven't met everybody yet 😂😂
It is odd that she says who knows he might be "the one". What they don't tell you is that no matter what there is ALWAYS someone that you will be attracted to outside of your husband or wife. That feeling never goes away and the idea that there is a "perfect match" out there is a bit of a myth as well. Marriage and committed relationships require sacrifice no matter what.
Love it! She's so logical and sound and real about Marriage and relationships. Refreshing!
Mmmm...my naughty neighbor fantasy. I love her intelligence and honesty here.
She gotta play Eartha Kitt.
MARRIAGE IS DIVINE ITS NOT FOR THE WEAK AND WORLDLY....GODBLESS YOU QUEEN KELLITA...
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She mentioned the king of Dubai, the king of Greece and pale, balding, ginger Harry.
No black men.
Van Cozzin that’s why we don’t watch her shit unless it’s the Mac show
@@nonyabidness5454 yes, they're whores for white men and women, for the most part. Compromised traitors
That tells the whole story.
Nonya Bidness
There are no rich black men?
Nonya Bidness
There are no rich black men?
The wall is undefeated!!!
Salute🌠 Grown Folk convo right here agreed 💯 When a healthy minded woman grow into her authentic self & doesn't find her identity from outside forces but within her Divine Femine Energy is @ it's full peek! She's a Force to be Reckoned With⭐
I'm just seeing this video. Omg. I wish I would have saw this when I got married when I was 19 years old. But back than was no UA-cam at the time. She is so right....she should do a talk show.
People who have unhealed trauma... and who had childhood problems often lack for marriage. Or have unsuccessful marriages. We have to heal ourselves to be with another, otherwise don’t get married. Or heal yourself and love yourself by yourself. No problem with that either.
My ex broke up with me because I didn't want to get married, and i tell you, it felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders, being in a relationship is like going to work, and who wants to do that.
She did the right thing. Your paths diverged. She did not want to stay on a path that did not take her to where she wanted to go. I hope that she found love with a man who shared her goal of marriage and/or children. A lot of women settle for the latter while pining for the former as well. I hope you were honest with the next woman you got involved with and let her know up front that you are anti-marriage. Work is an absolute necessity of life for the vast majority of people. Some people love what they do for work. Some people don't, but they make the most of it. Marriage is what you make it. Yes, it can be like work, but for a lot of married folk, it' worth the sacrifice. If you're not willing to make that sacrifice, just be honest up front. Don't string some woman along for years, holding out the promise of marriage, knowing it is not your intent. That's dishonest and deceitful.
I definitely DON'T want to get married...I LOVE MY FREEDOM TOO MUCH...no thanks!!!
Marriage is LOVELY! Going on 10 years
A realationship is all about compromising but on both ends not one sided
Always had respect for her. She is so underrated. Man o man.
I’ve NEVER heard a black woman say this before. Except maybe Oprah but not in this way. I LOVE Kalita’s confidence! Her confidence scared me though in person. I was actually speechless encountering her.
She wanna have a option if it’s available but have a main dude
Mm hm... every now and then, not often or frequently, she's gonna want to see/go/do something else. But there's ALWAYS going to be that ONE dude. I get it... I ain't hating. She's honest.
Same like you guys!!!!
Ira Leonard She not tryna be tied down to one person for the rest of her life, knowing that at some point, she may fall out of love with that person. It doesn't have much to do with lust.
TheSpiritRoom23 so do you want side dudes
Dajour Phil0soph3r when she spoke it was in context sexually if it was not it wouldn’t had been said like that
She is soooo Gorgeous!!
That Eartha Kitt impersonation was spot on! She should play Eartha Kitt in a movie
If a person is a feeling then feelings change then that means the person will eventually change. I will say that not everyone is meant or supposed to be married. So salute to her for recognizing her truth.
she should write a book for ALL THESE FEMALES OUT HERE!
All these "females" should stop making males their number one priority.
No she shouldn’t. Because her ideas are straight garbage. She doesn’t understand marriage. When you understand marriage and the work that both man and woman are supposed to do, the honor and respect from both sides, that love for one another, when you stand by that promise you made to God and your wife/husband then marriage will work. In this day and age people do not understand marriage and they are not ready to take on that responsibility.
29kalel: 💯
@@29kalel man shut up
About wut?being old and single?
This is a great interview. She has a powerful vibe. Highly insightful stuff.
Some of her views are somewhat selfish, but I respect her honesty. Aren't we all a little selfish nowadays? She definitely wants the option to upgrade if it becomes available to her. She knows traditional marriage is about sticking with your choice no matter what. I'm not saying she's right or wrong, it's just a matter of perspective.
Its too bad she feels this way. I'm 52 years old, and I've been married for over 30 years to a wonderful man. He's not perfect-never was, but neither am I. I just know that when a man and woman get married, whether its at a court house, outside, or at a church, it says something to each other, and to the world about how serious and committed he is to you. Kellita Smith definitely can have her own opinion and marriage is not for everyone. But, as for me, it was one of the best decisions I made. For Better or for worse. In sickness or in health. For richer or poorer. Till death do us part. If you Both, and I mean both of you (not just one) will continue to hold on to your vows, it'll work. And when you get tired, bored and want to stray.... ask God to remind you of the day you fell in love. Its not up to your spouse to make you happy. Happiness is a choice.
Lmao👍😁 That's was a GREAT voice impression.. I thought I was hearing Eartha Kitt 4 real..
Love her attitude about relationships. There is a difference between compromising and having a relationship that is good for both people. What she is really saying is that if something does not lift you up, you shouldn't hold on to it, especially if you have to give up a pat of yourself. Such a tough concept for us , especially as black women. Loved her in Z Nation! No doubt, we will see more of this stunning lady.
I wanna get some brown sugar from her
'Hit it and quit it!!' This is how some men will respond to her relationship philosophy.
Y’all men are so full of yourselves smh
Never understood why we men don't get it. While we're"hitting"... we're also BEING HIT. A lotta women just want to have sex then move on JUST LIKE YOU.
Who cares how they respond
@@krajiskoon5327 Thank you. It's no fun when the rabbit has the gun.
Really??? Hopefully it’s not men in her demographic of 40s/50s... very sad if that’s what a male hears from what she said... just goes to show one’s maturity and comprehension level🤦🏽♀️
I bet ya'll thought that what she's saying is deep😂😂😂😂😂😂
The degenerates and idiots think anyone they've seen on TV is a profound, enlightened intellectual. The bar is pretty low. 'Idiocracy'
Nice call!
D Ray it is. That’s why most women are running most corporate and in entrepreneurship
@@bbhalocapricorn2321 women are less than half of the entrepreneurs in America. Around 40%. I'm amazed by the amount of people who recite inaccurate information when the correct information is so easily attainable. Lazy, loud and wrong much?
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I love when women say they don’t agree with marriag,for a successful man this is gold.marriage doesn’t benefit men.
I'm African happens to be in America she'll definitely switch that stance wit a rich man
playaflyJOE27
Like the rich man don’t have options.
But for children it’s a recipe for disaster as evidenced by your native culture. Not sure why so many men pretend they have millions in assets to protect.,..
DeepHouseNation
We got our lives to protect,try going to family court and see how they treat black males or any male.you see all kinds of shit.driver licenses taken away, imprisonment.
I'm African happens to be in America Maybe I know too many stable Black relationships to feel sorry for negroes who made chronic bad decisions. I mostly hear divorced white guys complaining about court and random bitter negroes with 3 baby mommas whining. The marriage decline is real across all ethnicities though...
This is the first black woman who i heard keep it real about marriage i take my hat off to her if we all think the same way and be honest like this ESPECIALLY in this era where everybody has options thanks to social media we be better off as a people just dont have kids, if it not the right one.
Marriage is for the children and building far as dynasties and empires and clans
We have no clue to the innumerable attack vectors this civilization has on black existence. No black man...no black protector...no black family...no black Nation. Smh.
@@gnomechompsky8853 its no a brainer today the solution is in front of us
This chick is insane...... The eyes never lie🥴
In other words she still want to bend a corner
Ooh, that took a sharp turn at the end. Still, a very good interview. And yes, we all love her in every role she plays.
She gonna be a old cat lady😂😂😂
SARA he’s acting like there isn’t a bunch of married women who’s stressing over these dusty ass men. Gaining weight and all types of health problems because of their marriage. Most was better off single. I hate when men use that tactic because women prefer to be single smh most men are so full of themselves it’s ridiculous!!!!! Their ego hurt when she rather stay single...
JIMMY JAZZ415
This chick looks like she would be happily single in her “mature” years.
@SARA nobody said anything wrong that....why did you make a assumption that it was a problem.....that thought process alone is dangerous..I was only making a statement...you sound like you in your feelings😂😂😂😂
@@TheSpiritRoom23 trust me nobody losing sleep over these old as women with worms...keep ur cats!😂😂😂
@SARA sounds like you have bad taste in choosing mates....YOU SHOULD BECOME A LESBIAN..SEE HOW THAT WORKS OUT FOR YOU
That Eartha Kitt impersonation was spot 👏🏿 on 👏🏿.
Yes.... I FELL THE SAME WAY! I'm at the age now where I don't care enough about certain things I care more about taking care of myself and my kids....
I totally like the way this young lady think.
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I don't know why I love this woman so much much 💕🌹
Harry and his wife look like 2 white people who fit well together.
L. Hunt she’s not white. She came out of a black woman’s womb.
@@Ctwosrer But the sperm she came from is from a white man, what's your point.
BlessedwithMelanin&Dimplez She’s obviously biracial dummy 😒
I love Kelita and she is a great actress. I just one to be wirh one person.
OMG, I never thought that Kellita looks like Eartha Kitt. I can see the influence now.
Shes beautiful!! I love her smile and dimples
When she said "It's a feeling," she was really saying "It's the bag." She's trying to be truthful without being completely honest.
Prince Harry? Wasn't he prancing around in a Nazi uniform...I swear some of our ppl🤦
@@Reminisce212 do your research before you commit idiot 😎
I honestly think she's waiting on a man in that's not of her ethnicity to Actually commit to being married to someone.
Yeah and Harry was knocking off hoes in Las Vegas and got caught buck nekkid in photo with one. Kellita is gorgeous but as blinded by fame, $ euro-'class' trash as anyone else.
@Music Lover Forever actually the 'majority' are not but many in the media make it seem like that to the easily fooled masses.
@Music Lover Forever * Vérifiez vos faits mon amour *: Denzel Washington / Ozzie Davis & Ruby Dee / Spike Lee / John Singleton / Morris Chestnut / Bill Cosby (yes) / Courtney B. Vance & Angela Bassett / Sterling K. Brown / Jesse Williams / Lebron James / John Coltrane / Miles Davis (all wives including Cicely Tyson) / James Brown / Gil-Scot Heron / Forrest Whittaker / Idris Elba...and THE LIST GOES ON.
Even notable experimenters like Richard Pryor and Sammy Davis jr. went white and came back and ended their careers living with Black wives but the media won't show that.
Up to you if you wish focus on the biased nature of the press and it's negative imagery.
Just saying.
P.S.: Will & Jada, Jay & Bey, and special note to Gucci Mane who said marrying his BLACK wife is best decision he's ever made and it's evident in his demeanor and current success.
Saying again 2x, much love.
She have always been so beautiful to me inside and out..😍😍😍
she made some good points... about being in your twenties vs forties.. at this point, she needs to do her
She's firm yet still a lady. A beatiful one at that.
Love her!!!!
Amazing interview, love it... one of my favorite interviews is tht Eartha kitt on compromise... women know who u are... 👍🏽👍🏽😊
DAMNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!! She has Eartha Kitt's voice down pat. very good.
It's crazy how invested and how entitled ppl are when it comes to another persons life and choices we all came here to experience who are you to judge others because nobodys perfect. Everyone here on earth won't have children or want marriage and that's ok but it only seems bad when a woman doesn't want what society think we were put here to do we get a new name on the list every other month or year now the word is 304 I agree with everything she is saying this is not a marathon we don't have settle or rush into anything we don't want to its ok for men to not want marriage to have multiple woman but it's always a slander for women which is bullshit ppl should live and do whatever they want with their life and free will just because marriage and children is what you want doesn't mean everybody else have to get on board
Marriage is beautiful. The concept of marriage is beautiful. When it's done right and approached with sincere care, it is a beautiful thing to experience. It's so sad to hear ppl speak down on marriage. If only both men and women respected it more and treated it better. Shame
I agree. Marriage is a sacred act.
@@keyanna2633 if only men and women respected it more...and by that I mean, single men/women not give into the advances of adulterous married folks and married folks not seek company outside of their marriage. If only ppl wanted to (and did)what was right, this world would be such a better place. 🤷🏾♀️
@@nMommyMode Yes I agree. I also believe marriage is about compromising,and communicating with their spouse,so that thier partner wouldn't desire to seek that outside company. Even singles could express with married individuals about adulterous acts being wrong,so few seem to do that though.
@@keyanna2633 smh, it's so sad to see how society as a whole got to where we are now...but yup, I get what you're saying and I agree as well!
@@nMommyMode Who cares if a person doesn't want to get married. Does her not wanting to be married affect your life in anyway
Damn I wish I hadn't have seen this interview. 🤦🏾♂️
Damn she said it ALL on here.
I love her and I’m married but I’m at the age to where I completely understand wth she’s saying! It’s brilliant and very true.
Good actress. Seems like she’s been through a few bad men. And she should be free to live just like guys
The idolizing of the Eartha comment
“He can delight himself in falling in love with me as I fall in love with myself.”
It seems as selfish as the man Kellita says didn’t want to lose herself for. Marriage ain’t for everybody but compromise is a part of it if you love them. Obviously Kellita hasn’t found the one to compromise for
She is a narcissist
what woman does not have selfish qualities lmao
I agree with her 100%. That's how I feel about marriage.
marriage is totally overrated.....that's coming from a person whose been married for 27 years now.
Ty Tempe wow
I know people who fake it happy but are miserable... Making it look good for they kids and family, I was married and all we did was fuck n fight for no apparent reason, I blew thru all my settlement money lost car's buried a baby son and dam near lost myself. It's the best thing you can do and it can be the worst thing you can do, don't marry a tramp bitch cause you gone control or try too, ladies get your own money before you think a so called street nigga is supposed to take care of yo broke ass💯💯💯💯
@@theflyent7106 at least yall was fucking i didnt even get that when i was married.
@@skullmanex9221 simp
Bruh
Yo respect to her, being real is rare 🤘🤝✊️
Eartha Kitt was multi-talented, but she was also a classic narcissist. Narcissistic people are often very charismatic, but are horrible people to deal with. Eartha Kitt was talking a lot of bullshit; she just spoke with delusional believe in what she said. The woman in the interview doesn't know the difference.
This true talk righ here. Im ok with this. Well said sista
At one point in time when I used to come watch this interview of her, I was scratching my head thinking, “I think Auntie a little confused about this topic of marriage. 🥴” But as times goes by and I get older into my 30’s, I’m starting to understand her perspective. I can say now, I get it and I agree. Marriage is a constant union to work at and it’s not for the faint at heart.
I’ve been single for 4 years, and I’m what some will call a “modern day woman”. I work in corporate, I take care of myself as an adult should do, and I do well for myself. To be honest, a lot times us as women just want the d*ck, all that other stuff that comes along with a man is burdensome. That’s why I remain single, travel and do the hobbies I love. And on those lonely nights I might call my PPE or DOD, once the deed is done tell his ass to go home. 🤷🏾♀️
Ladies, do what works for YOU. Always will be a supporter of Kellita Smith. ✨💕
I love her take on marriage! Perfectly articulated!
She’s very beautiful for sure!!💕
"...Because the man is dead...smack" 🤣🤣🤣
Love Kelita
I wish I knew this 21 yrs ago... too late for me
@SARA yes...and making my way out...2020 has to be MY year
@@rayofirst8885 whatever you decide to do, I wish you many blessings, positivity and love your way ♥️
This goes out to the dude she's "dating".....and if u dont know now u know, nigga!!!!
Not surprised by her thoughts on marriage...Truth of the matter is what many don't know marriage is nothing but a business. What people need to be concerned and really taught about is the truth about #RolesAndRelationships that way you will be able to make better clear cut decisions and avoid many preventable problems. Do you agree or what are your thoughts?
I was literally thinking the same thing during the interview. Props to her for keeping it real, but there is so much more to it. I view every relationship as a business and in every business, there are (or at least should be) agreed upon rules and regulations that make the business work and run smoothly. Marriage is a partnership. Its a commitment to a commitment. Have the conversation, define the roles of each person, and go with it. Periodically evaluate and just try to always improve.
I will say, usually people with her mindset have been jaded due to past experiences. Maybe the disappointment seems for unrealized expectations. Cause when marriage works, it is beautiful but the 2 parties involved need drive and desire to want it to work.
People don't put god in they marriage