How To Have A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP
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- Опубліковано 19 жов 2024
- The SECRET That Happy Couples Know
In this video we talk about what most people desire...how to have a happy relationship. It doesn't just happen by accident, but through implementing principles that God teaches us. We talk about what we have found to be the #1 key to having a happy relationship!
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Credit to Andy Stanley for the video topic.
Jesus at the center of everything. I believe that's a sure way to have a good marriage relationship. ❤
Alida Rose yes! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I can see the book title now: “Submission Competition” by Nate & Sutton. You guys are so cute & hope to have a Christian family just like yours one day. 💛
Madison Rand haha we love it! And thank youuu 🥰
I second this!!!
1. Crying is not bad behaviour. It’s his only form of communication right now.
2. Baby sign language, babies can start learning signs as early as 6months old. This can be invaluable, as you may think your baby may want to be picked up but he may also be asking for a totally different thing. I recommend reading the baby signing bible by Laura berg.
I have worked with infants and toddlers for five years and I highly recommend learning ASL. It’s amazing to be able to connect with a baby through ASL and get insight into their needs, and lessen frustration for both parties. Key words to start: Milk, dog, mommy, daddy, more.
I also recommend cherishing the holding more. Soon he’ll be running around and you’ll miss holding him.
I recommend getting a lightweight carrier so you can still do housework/etc while carrying the little guy. Your “work” and “chores” are probably fascinating to him.
I agree. Crying is a form of communicating a 'need'..... babies don't have the gift/curse of manipulation. Toddlers certainly can - but a crying baby/child needs something from you that they can't give/or do for themselves. Guys are designed differently than women - so typically a cry will go right to a mama's heart and likewise to a dads' ears :)
Great answer 🙌
I love the reminder to cherish what you have before it's gone. Thanks for your insight!
0lunia this was a great comment!!
In the meantime you may know this, but just for the record: mamas can hear the difference between the reasons of the crying: discomfort, hurt, ennoyment, borness, hunger, lack of attention.
As I see Sutten has a good dayly schedules, so you can predict or prevent some crying as well.
Now you have two babies, so Nate, just ask Sutton to translate :)
And remember me, when the little guys pass year 10, it will be your turn to translate :D
❤ youguys
Eva
You guys are the cutest! I just love it! Sooo STINKIN proud of you guys for sharing the love of Jesus with the world! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
I think the issue of rewarding a baby everytime he cries mostly becomes a big problem during sleep time and night time. Once you deal with that everything falls into place
"Outdo each other showing honor" Love it! So beautiful! Seeing Oaklan in the sink with the pieces of grapefruit was lovely, so cute! Thank you for another lovely video, may God keep blessing you
Hélia Alves 🙏🏼🙏🏼
My boyfriend and I have a rule “outdo one another in kindness” which is similar to what you said but thank you so much for all your wisdom and how we can keep improving on our relationship:)
Savannah Kellum wow y’all are starting early! So cool that you’re doing that even before marriage! Perfect practice 🙏🏽
P.s having an attitude of gratitude is absolutely a relationship-saving tip!
So my baby cried all the time and always wanted me to hold him until he started crawling! Now he’s so independent. I also think they just go through phases where they want some extra cuddles. ❤️
Hannah Hackett this is good to hear!
Nathaniel is so funny and awkward, love it! 😂❤️
LynnJoelle Gardner 😂😂
I love your message of Jesus in every show. My husband died almost 4 years ago. He was disabled, so we were constant companions for 37 of our almost 46 years of marriage. One thing I learned early on is, never expect anything from each other, but be grateful for all you get from each other. May God continue to bless you, your marriage and your son and future children to come. Keep smiling and laughing. It will get you through the hard times.
Pastor Suzanne Taylor this was a great comment
YES!! Totally agree! Place NO expectations on your spouse, instead place them on Christ... His burden is light and His yoke is easy. He will never disappoint. Thanks for the video, you guys rock! May the Lord continue to bless your socks off! 😁
Justin & Melissa Amen!! 🙏🏼
What do you mean by No expectations, please explain Thanks!!!!
macprincess2 Hi! I hope you’re well.
So when it comes to marriage, the basic cause for unhappiness is unfulfilled expectations. Prior and during marriage, a wife usually has a list of expectations for her husband because she feels like he is suppose to do certain things. If he fulfills the expectations, everything is fine. But if he fails to fulfill some of them, the wife becomes hurt and disappointed. In reality, this makes the husband a prisoner of his wife’s expectations. In response, the husband will tend to do all he can to reduce the number of expectations his wife has for him. He prefers her to expect as little as possible so that he can go beyond her expectations and enjoy her admiration. It is a wise wife who will give all her expectations to God instead of giving them to her husband. By giving them to God, she frees God to work through her husband to meet her needs. She must learn to trust God in such a way, while not getting in the way of God’s lessons to her husband. And she then can also say with confidence, that her expectations are met by God (Psalm 62:5) and prevents gratitude for her husband from diminishing. Does this make sense? Please feel free to come on over to our channel every once in a while to say hi or if you have any questions. My husband and I will be posting videos concerning deep marital concerns and their biblical solutions.
Oh my word, Oaklan toppling backwards during the intro was SO CUTE!!
Even though you are young you seem very wise. I enjoy your shows and look forward to them, God bless
Sabrina Bossio thank you 🙏🏼
Oak always stares at his dad 😂 so adorable. Your love story & family is such an encouragement.
Faith Amian haha he’s his entertainer 😂
Paul and Morgan shouted you guys out I their recent live video and i'm so happy they did, i love your channel. And you two are great examples of what a Godly marriage should look like. God bless your family.
Breanna Ott aww thank you! Welcome to the channel!!
You can clearly see that God has blessed your marriage. You two have wisdom that can only come from having a close relationship with Him!
WOW!! I wasn't expecting an actual secret - I thought it was just a title to get us to watch. Great concept yall - never heard of that before! sharing with my friend for her relationship ASAP!
rae_muk oh yeah it's the secret alright!
So blessed to have found your channel. may God continue to bless you both☺️
cara lyngdoh were blessed to have you here :)
Babies don’t understand bad behaviour they cry for a very good reason either being; hungry, tired, need changing or comfort, they are babies for a very short time. Sutton go with your natural motherly instinct and comfort your baby, meet his needs. I give you this message from a health practitioner and mother of 2 teenagers. There will be plenty of time to deal with behaviour when they are older. Xx
Totally agree. Babies become more secure and content when they are responded to quickly. It concerns me that expressing their need is thought of as "bad behavior". They are communicating in the only way that they are able. I agree with the encouragement to trust your motherly instincts, Sutton. Oak will be a much more secure, happy baby when he is confident of your attentiveness and care. I really enjoy your videos and am a mother of three and grandmother of three.
Absolutely I was about to type the same thing. Some men get bothered by it because they are sometimes typically more selfish and find that it interupts their selfish needs, and then find problem with it. If the child is making a fussing noise or crying they want love or need attention for one very good and valid reason or another- pay attention and be selfless enough to care and to let God use you to meet their needs. How would you feel if you couldn't talk to express how you are feeling and what you need, it would probably be a frequent fuss from you too just to get someone's attention. Imagine having an itch or stomach ache and not being able to itch it yourself because you don't understand how to yet etc. Just start placing yourself into someone else's shoes and you will suddenly have compassion and empathy. When you're too focused on yourself- narcissism for example- you lack empathy and find meeting others' needs as a burden to you.
Sutton’s laugh at the VERY END I died!!! Lol
Rachel Colman 😂😂
Oh just realized y'all are from the Atlanta area. Born and raised there but recently moved to Chattanooga. This is a great city and y'all should make a day trip up here sometime. God Bless and keep up the good work spreading the kingdom. Watching healthy relationships does a lot more than you know
That photoshoot was ADORABLE!!! 😍😍
Yuliya Lyube 🥰🥰
1 Timothy 4:12 Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.
You two are doing a wonderful job living out this verse. Thank you for pointing others to Christ!
I was sleeping and I immediatly woke up. We are so happy. 💃 I love you Emmanuel. ♥
I love this! Applying biblical principles of love and gratitude to relationships is a sure win! God wants us to show gratitude to Him first.
Wow this changed my perspective on healthy marriages, this was really eye opening. Thanks :)
Estie P yay happy to hear it helped!
Hi, I’m a preschool teacher/child development major and I wanted to give you some ideas to help Oaklan! I’m not a mom so you may alter this because as a mom/dad you know your child best!
1. When he cries pick him up but just for a minute or so. Gradually decrease the amount of time you “comfort” him. When you sit him down encourage him to play with a toy independently.
2. Eventually, you may be able to get to a place where you don’t pick him up at all. Instead, say simple things like “it’s okay Oaklan” and then simply go back to what you’re doing.
The goal is never to ignore but to foster independence! It may feel like you’re hurting him by not holding him in the moment but you are equipping him to be emotionally independent in the long run!
Kindel Miller ahh that makes a lot of sense! That you for those tips we really appreciate it!! 🙏🏼
@@nateandsutton That "makes sense" only if you want to hold him less. He is a young infant. He needs his parents to respond to his needs, to develop a sense of security. Crying is communication in a baby this young! It is NOT bad behavior and he does not yet have the capacity to manipulate you! Enjoy him. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty about responding to his cries. Follow your instincts and ask God, - not your You Tube audience - for the answers to these questions. But you knew that. You are a terrific young couple!
GoodSportsPTC absoloutly agree! Babies do not have bad behaviour. He is crying for a reason. As parents it’s our duty to respond empathically to this.
I could watch your videos every day. Nate and Sutton, Paul and Morgan, Jackie and Bobby. Three fantastic Christian UA-cam couples!
Hockey Scouting Reports with Matt Levine wow! The us quite the compliment! Thank you!
Just found your channel and I am so blessed!!!! Y’all are so cute!!! I’ve been married for 22 years and I found this VERY VERY helpful!!!!
Deana Bell Yayy welcome to the channel!!
I know we all parent differently... With my son, I wasn’t concerned about “bad behavior” until he got older and I was able to explain things to him... He’s only 2 1/2 now but I have yet to meet a single person who doesn’t praise his good behavior! Babies can never be held too much & need lots of close time with their mama 💕
I’m in love with this video. Probably the most real relationship video I’ve seen on UA-cam
Emery K 👏🏼👏🏼
Outstanding!!! Thank you for sharing. Praise God for your healing, Sutton. You two are adorable and the time, talent, and energy you put into your videos is greatly appreciated. Again, thank you and God bless.
Karen Helser thank you! And wow your appreciation is felt! That is so nice! 💛💛
So greatful to have found your channel .... ♥️ Stay Blessed 🙏🙌
Andy Stanley is awesome. Our pastor had us watch his talk in premarital counseling.
Rachel Bluemke we've learned so much from him!
I’ve been watching UA-cam for about a year now and you two are by far my favorite couple and channel even though I just came upon your channel about a few weeks ago! You guys really shine Jesus throughout your UA-cam, and I love it! And I love you guys❤️
Gina Cartwright aww thank you Gina that means so much to us!!
😂😂your guys Joy is contagious!!
Alondra Delgado 😁😁
currently binge watching all of your videos
One thing I love so much about your channel is your intro and your overall editing style! When I started watching your videos about a month ago, I had never subscribed to a channel so fast. It took me about 3 seconds until I decided, “yep, I like them!”😂
Edie Lauer wow thank you! We are glad to have you here!!
About the question for Oaklan. You have to wait like 3 minutes before picking him up. And listen to the sound. In every crie there is a different. When he has pain, when he is bord, when he is hungry...but if you pick him up to fast you never know what it is. If he is bord...try to get him out of it by talking ore singing. Try to give him something to play with. So he learns to keep himself busy. Let the reword be picking him up if he is good for a half our. And pick him up in a pattern....so he can feel himself how long things take. Like if you cook...during the cooking not pick him up when you know the crying from bordem...try to let him know with your voice...the tone of your voice that he is good. That helped me.
Love this. My husband and I listened to Andy Stanley's podcast talking about all of this. Só good! Awesome that you put this message out there
Thanks again Nate & Sutton!!! In the midst of a secular community, I struggle to keep my ideals high and used to compromise. But you two make it a reality. Now I know it’s not a far fetched idea but a dream set in motion!
I'm not married and i'm single as a person can be lol but thank you, i'm making notes on all the things that I want to put in practice before and during my relationship. Putting expectations on someone to make u happy is not healthy. SUBMISSION COMPETITION! love you guys, God continue using you !
"a race to the back of the line" mind blowing. Blessings from ROSARIO, ARGENTINA you guys!!!!! you are great
Sooo happy that I came across your channel. First saw the vid about your love story then I find myself watching all your videos from the beginning which I also shared to my boyfriend so now we’re doing the same thing 😂
I’ve been wanting to tell you how such an inspiration you both are to everyone, to me personally, on how I can be the best version of myself that would honor God. All my social media accounts are deactivated so I just decided to leave a comment here and pray and hope that you could read this even if this vid was posted several months already.
Thank you, Nate and Sutton. Wow, can’t believe I’m crying while typing this. But really thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of your videos - like how to be a better Christian that would impact your relationship with others esp when you start building your own family. My boyfriend and I are inspired and so happy to be watching a couple that has the same views as ours. You touched my life by having that fire in my heart to burn more in praising and honoring the Lord not just in handling romantic relationships but in all aspects.
May God continually bless you! Thank you for being His instrument. May you both continue to inspire other people.
P.S. I’m from the Philippines but I pray that I get to visit Georgia someday and maybe see you. ❤️🙏🏻
And also! Vids including Oaklan, Halston, and Levi are so cute!!! 🥰🥰🥰
Awesome video guys 🥰 thank you for imparting your wisdom to us. I love how you love one another ! Your joy radiates , keep smiling ☀️☀️
cassidy Bentley 💛💛
Speaking of having an attitude of gratitude .. I wanted to thank you guys for posting these amazing videos and for sowing seeds to save souls for the kingdom. Thank you for your knowledge and advice and thank you especially for always interacting with your followers and for always responding to comments and showing care and dedication! You guys are much appreciated ❤️
cassidy Bentley we appreciate that so much thank you!! We are blessed to have an outlet like this to share on so thank you for being a part of it 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Great video/ great advice.. Submission was the path our Lord took and its our path too.. in our walk, life, marriage.. everything .. I appreciate that you always put Christ first and foremost as your reference!
Thank God that I have found you two, you are amazing! Wow it is so obvious that God is in the center of your marriage you can see it so clearly that you are blessed
How you smile, how you speak and treat each other is like watching paradise❤️🙏🏼🕊God bless your family
Yall are the best!!! And i always am blessed or learn something new or an area to think more of how i want to change my life to Glorify and follow God, by watching yall. Keep up the awsome work!!!!
As far as Oaklyn n wen he cries, yall will know....if hes just fussing i let my son "cry it out" at times but if its a cey that says he needed something, feeding or diaper change ect then i tried to act promptly.
God bless🥰🙏
Rachel Whitehead aww thank you! And thank you for the advice on Oaklan!!
I think we can all use these in any relationship even if we don't have a husband or wife.
Elizabeth Houghton absolutely!
My favs!!
I always and will always like a video before even watching it cos I know whats coming.
I am a teen who just loves God and loooove also seeing Christian couples who do the same thing.!!
Lots of love for you guys 😭💓💓💓
Even though I am not a parent here is something I read a couple of years ago (paraphrased): I believe children as all other human beings desire love and attention (to be truly seen). If the child learns, that it gets attention more for bad behavior or crying it will behave badly and cry more of the time. If it gets your love and attention even when it doesn't do anything special (like even just sitting around) it learns that it doesn't have to do anything to be loved and will behave normally most of the time.
I hope this helps. And thank you so much for your videos, they are so great!!
Good points. But a bit different for babies i think. a baby never cries for no reason and its not bad behavior when a baby cries.
Every. Video. You. Make. Is. Gold!!
Great question about rewarding unwanted behavior! I work with child psychology- At Oaklan’s age, I would advise you to respond to his crying as it’s his only way to communicate his needs right now and he is learning trust that you will respond when he cries. When he gets a little older and can talk/understand your words, then absolutely find that balance of not giving into crying to get what he wants because he has a new (and preferred) method of communication you want to encourage him to use. Just my two cents! I think you guys are fabulous!!
Kendra Breunig awesome input thank you!!
I'm glad you mentioned you wanted a beautiful wife! I'm so tired of christian guys saying they just want a girl with a good heart who loves Jesus 🙄 like yes that's extremely important and you shouldn't go into a relationship without that but looks do matter.
Nathaniel...you look and act just like your older brother! Your family is sooo precious!
Im thinking you 2 will end up writing a book 🤔 Whenever that happens, I will be the first in line to get an autograph!! 💓
saltwater44 haha we just might who knows what God has in store!
Thank you for uploading another inspirational video that teaches us how to live in a Godly manner. 🥰 God bless y’all 🙏❤️
Aidé Oropeza you're so welcome!
Seriously I can’t watch your videos without smiling! You guys are ADORABLE! And this video is amazing. Excellent advice 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Emily Kropidlowski aww thank you that's so sweet!!
Nate and Sutton, once again you upload a video that brightens my day with your beautiful family. Thank you for choosing be vulnerable in these kinds of videos for the sake of helping others just as Jesus did! You two inspire me so much. I really do feel God speaking to me through the both of you as I am struggling right now. I’m sure many others see his light in you both as well. On another note, I do have a recommendation for your sweet baby Oaklan, I am a full time nanny to a sweet one year old baby girl. When she cries for attention-due to the learned pattern that she will be held. I will hold her for a few minutes and then try different to distract her with some music (I try different paces and beats to see if she likes a certain kind better) white noise, or a change of scenery! It’s all about trying different things to see what works. Don’t be hard on yourselves! It’s your first baby, you can never love a baby too much❤️
Midnight Bluebird aww that means so much to us!! And thank you for your recommendation!
Yes of course! You’re so welcome. ⛪️✨God bless.
You guys never fail to produce amazing content! I am always learning something from you guys. I look forward to seeing all the amazing things to come!
You Guys are an amazing couple keep doing what you're doing you inspire me to live a Godly life 😊
annie tandeo thank you! So glad to hear 🙏🏼
❤️Keep doing your UA-cam on what God’s put into your hearts. I’ve been married over twenty years and it’s great to see young humble Christian couples give advice and talk about what works for them. It refreshes my relationship with my husband ❤️ God bless
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Submission Competition. My husband must be doing this most of the time. I only do it after Father or actually Holy Spirit speaks to me... then I apologize & work better in that area.
I must place this vid as something to vid or audio regularly until its engrained in my heart. Thank Yall so much!
no name so glad you loved it 💛💛
I love that! Submission competition = to outdo each other in showing honor. That's it! Thank you for imparting this wisdom to the world. You guys are both so genuine. Love watching your videos, God bless!
Love your videos! These are such great things to think about as I prepare to get married in just 4 months :-)
Kyndel Richardson congratulations!! Marriage is the best! 🙏🏽💛
Very true. And the baby is toooooo cute.
happy wife, happy life! love you guys!
Lola Who 💛💛
Oakland has great eyes like you guys. So cute. You guys are very inspiring love this channel!
Thank you for talking not only about the beautiful topics but also the real ones.. How much we also have our part of bringing into any relationship.
Oaklan' smile..Lovely!! Beautiful.
N also I see there you did 2 videos in one session Hahaha.. Just kidding
God bless!!
Jennie haha you caught us!
Same question about the “crying and getting them” situation!!!
Sorry this is long but I totally get what your saying about Oaklan..I felt the same way about giving too much attention to my babies(teenagers now) and spoiling them by running to get them every time they cried .it can get out of hand quickly..what I did was just made sure they were ok (belly full, clean diaper, rested ,safe , something to entertain them etc) and just kept an eye on them.. its ok to let them cry a little.. they learn how to soothe themselves and keep them selves content when they know they won’t be picked up every time they cry..they are super smart and learn quickly what they can and cannot get away with..(teenagers too 🤣)..
Cinamen thank you for the insights! 🙏🏼
Love your video! So much wisdom for such a young couple. Love y’all!
what a great, happy, and great advice-filled video :) thank you!!
I like this topic it's an amazing Andy Stanley podcast to listen to
Thank you. You guys are the best! I was about to give up on my selfish gf. It's amazing that you are still in love. I have heard from marriage experts that within 2 years, you will fall out of love and it will be just love. Like the honeymoon phase will be over.
Sunny R the honeymoon phase comes and goes. Each time it returns, it's like a deeper, more evolved version of it.
hi sutton,im from Indonesia, and i have been marathon watching lots of videos of you two 😁. i just wanna say you r so beautiful, and i can feel how genuine, sincere , and honest by the way you share ur perspective /story. God bless you and nate. send love from Indonesia.
Thank you for your content; i appreciate all the work put in all of the videos. God be glorified in your lives!
IT FEELS LIKE Yall ARE THE DEFINITION OF MARRYING YOUR BEST FRIEND!!!!! 💞#ISEEJESUSINYALL
Hey! I've been watching y'all's videos a lot lately and I've been learning a ton!! Y'all wouldn't happen to be a member of one of Andy Stanley's churches would y'all?? I've been going to Brown's bridge since I was 5 (19 now) and this sounds just like one of his messages! It's such awesome advice!!
Great video! I agree that mutual submission is the key. Don't compete, you're a team. Your goals coincide and are irreversibly enmeshed.
Love it very sound refreshing and praise Jesus.
Such a good reminder thank you! Please make more videos with tips on relationships/marriage! 🙌
i love your guy's channel! youtube needs more content like this!
Lauren H thank you and thank you for following along with us!
Wauwww, "submission competition ". I've never heard of it. Thanks for sharing 👍
This was great! It applies to all relationship in our lives. Thankssss guyyyyssss
Wow, gorgeous video, had tears in my eyes! It's pretty cool, how much effort you give Nate in a relationship! I come from Austria and in this way i want to say thank you, because next week I have my A-Level exam in Englisch and with your videos I have improved my English speaking. Thank you Nate and Sutton!
Thank you so much, this was just what i needed to hear. You guys are just the best.
with my nieces and nephews what works best with the baby crying for attention thing, is staying connected but not giving in. what i mean by this is try to watch what they do before they start crying. look for oaks little signs that show he’s unhappy and pick him up then. that’ll teach him that crying doesn’t get you picked up. it takes patience and also when he does cry, go close to him, sit near by. it’s also okay to let a baby cry it out. i’m definitely one who believes in gentle parenting, but at the same time there is a bit of learning that has to happen so that you aren’t teaching him that crying gives you what you want
Y'all are amazing and so inspirational! I am recently married and I love your videos & vlogs, they help me be a better wife. Thanks so much for all you do!!
Loved it!! So much wisdom and uhgg I just love y'all 😂❤️
Alondra Delgado we love you back! 💛
I just want to thank you guys, for everything you express through this social media! I love watching your videos, I love the way you think, the way you love each other, you guys inspire me, to bless others, the way you do, and to let God speak through me, the way he speaks through you guys, God bless you and your family, you guys are amazing, lots of love from Chile
Loreto D'Appollonio aww that means so much to us! Thank you for your encouraging words 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Love this lesson!! Our daughter has hired you guys for her wedding but it's obviously been rescheduled. Loving your videos!!
YOUR BABY IS SO CUTE, also i just found your channel and im BINGE-watching all your videos! such a beautiful family
Dark n white noise I used for my boys(19/12) when they were newborns and we all sleep the same now😁
Pamela Jones game changer!
IM SOO EARLY. i just found you guys afew days and i love you soo much!!!
riquel carey welcome!! 💛
Hey.. I'm Stephnie from India. It's a blessing to hear and see your videos. God bless you both abundantly. 😄 .. I just have a few question to ask.. What do u think of PMS?? Do they affect relationships.? How do you overcome it? Your insight would be helpful. 😊
you guys are amazing! thank you for making these videos!! God is evident in y’all!!
You guys are awesome. Keep up the great work.
I love your tips and how you relate it back to Jesus! Also the homework! Yes more of that! You guys are so wise!