"You're more comfortable with coercive control than you are with an uncomfortable conversation." Damn! Less than 5 minutes in and you've given me perfect language to describe my experience with purity culture in my SDA religious cult boarding school. 👏👏👏👏
In one of Malcolm X's speeches, he describes his pilgrimage to Mecca and meeting white Muslims for the first time, "And though they were white, and they would call themselves white, it was different. They were just mentioning an incidental aspect... It was just white. But when the ones over here call themselves white, they have a different tone in their voice. You've heard it. When the white one here says he's white, he means he's boss." The general thrust of the speech was about how the media manipulates the populace through the skillful use of language. Everybody should listen to it, at least three or four times. There's a lot of wisdom and warning in it.
O. M. G. I just REALIZED that my extremely charismatic mother literally taught me how to be charismatic. She taught it with good intentions and I use it with good intentions. I literally spent most of my daughter's wedding reception love-bombing and dumping charisma on people. I use it in my work as a knitting teacher. I'm autistic, and I don't get social cues, so I had to learn, step by step, how to make conversation and make people feel loved.
Omg also I had to Google the origin of 'chip on shoulder' 😂 The phrase "chip on your shoulder" originates from a 19th century American custom where boys looking for a fight would literally place a small piece of wood (a "chip") on their shoulder, daring anyone to knock it off, signifying their aggressive and ready-to-fight attitude; essentially challenging others to a confrontation by placing the chip as a visible provocation.
the right/responsibility of companies bit reminds me of of how this concept is everywhere. I had no idea how horrible it is trying to fly with severe allergies until I got them. Such an easy thing to accommodate and yet no airline really does. Dogs, peanuts, every perfume known to human..and so many people are actually impacted.
23:31 😮 the lowercase letters q b d p are all the same object in different perspectives if it was one 3D object. That’s one interpretation of how people great at spacial awareness could be dyslexic! I saw that on a TikTok and it changed my life! I am not dyslexic.
OMG, Rebecca, YES! (You probably know this but for anyone interested) The Landlord's game was written by a left wing feminist, Elizabeth Magie, to promote Georgism, and had two sets of rules designed to prove that monopolies are bad and we do better when we all work together. But the second set of rules were removed when it started being published as monopoly.
The quote "sunlight is the best disinfectant" was a quote from US Supreme Court Justice Louis Brandeis referring to the benefits of openness and transparency. It is NOT a scientific statement. Scientifically, direct sunlight can kill SOME pathogens, but others, like salmonella, are resistant to sunlight.
i can hunt with a bow and arrow, so i'll cry a lot but i can do that or at least teach people who wont cry every time they have to shoot something how to do that, pretty solid apocalypse skill. i also am kinda good at foraging and i have a lot of foraging and apothecary books saved. other than that its knitting, crochet, sewing, and gardening. and getting headaches before big storms, so a pretty reliable weather service
36:20 my mom thought I was the only kid who thought that drinking and driving included coke with your fast food meal. 😭😭😭😭 there was a huge billboard with funny shaped bottles and glasses with olives in them on the same exit as the Burger King we went to once a week. And every week I thought my dad was breaking the law.
As with many knitters there will (almost) always be a time you hop on UA-cam to actually see what you’re doing wrong. Stay with me. I’ve watched a ton of tutorials with mixed results. It wasn’t until I saw a black woman’s channel, better than any white woman’s, that I realized I never see any black people doing knitting tutorials. It was a really jarring moment. For me it wasn’t “I’m color blind” but I didn’t realize that I was only seeing myself, a white woman. This pissed me off royally and three days later I find an awesome black woman knitting the hell out (a sweater?) It’s also made me aware that I never see men knitting on UA-cam.
I will never forget my mother asking my partner if the comedian John Witherspoon was on the blue collar comedy tour. My partner said, "Hell no! He's black." My mother hit him for saying black. Thank you for clarifying why she hit him for saying that. He and I never understood.
I unknowingly married a covert narcissist and then he switched from anti-war leftie activist into a homophobic MAGA. I used to try to talk with him, ask him questions to get him to wake up, but it’s impossible. I’m staying in the marriage for my children until they graduate high school because I’ve been able to create a stalemate. We have separate beds, we are cordial, etc. But “grey rock”-ing was really important in the beginning when I realized that he was a narcissist. My understanding of it is not reacting to triggers, being bland and uninteresting, so they lose interest in interacting with you. Then they go find narcissistic supple elsewhere. Which he did.
"You're more comfortable with coercive control than you are with an uncomfortable conversation." Damn! Less than 5 minutes in and you've given me perfect language to describe my experience with purity culture in my SDA religious cult boarding school. 👏👏👏👏
Yeah.... wow... I'm going to have to pause this video and process that a bit and come back later. Wow. Mind blown 🤯. Thank you so much!
In one of Malcolm X's speeches, he describes his pilgrimage to Mecca and meeting white Muslims for the first time, "And though they were white, and they would call themselves white, it was different. They were just mentioning an incidental aspect... It was just white. But when the ones over here call themselves white, they have a different tone in their voice. You've heard it. When the white one here says he's white, he means he's boss." The general thrust of the speech was about how the media manipulates the populace through the skillful use of language. Everybody should listen to it, at least three or four times. There's a lot of wisdom and warning in it.
O. M. G.
I just REALIZED that my extremely charismatic mother literally taught me how to be charismatic. She taught it with good intentions and I use it with good intentions. I literally spent most of my daughter's wedding reception love-bombing and dumping charisma on people. I use it in my work as a knitting teacher.
I'm autistic, and I don't get social cues, so I had to learn, step by step, how to make conversation and make people feel loved.
@@thezaftigwendy you sound a lot like me ❤️
Boats are meant to rock! Love that. Thank you, ladies. I learn so much from you both. 💙
Omg also I had to Google the origin of 'chip on shoulder' 😂
The phrase "chip on your shoulder" originates from a 19th century American custom where boys looking for a fight would literally place a small piece of wood (a "chip") on their shoulder, daring anyone to knock it off, signifying their aggressive and ready-to-fight attitude; essentially challenging others to a confrontation by placing the chip as a visible provocation.
Oh my goodness I’m so excited to watch this!❤❤
Just started watching but I’m so glad to see you ladies back! I learn something new every episode ✨
Okay you just walked into two of my degrees! I’m in!
the right/responsibility of companies bit reminds me of of how this concept is everywhere. I had no idea how horrible it is trying to fly with severe allergies until I got them. Such an easy thing to accommodate and yet no airline really does. Dogs, peanuts, every perfume known to human..and so many people are actually impacted.
23:31 😮 the lowercase letters q b d p are all the same object in different perspectives if it was one 3D object. That’s one interpretation of how people great at spacial awareness could be dyslexic! I saw that on a TikTok and it changed my life! I am not dyslexic.
25:00 Oooo. Knitting as a language?
You might have heard of this, but there's an intricate Andean textile(strand/knot) language called Quipu. ✌🔥
I love the term “narcissystem”
OMG, Rebecca, YES! (You probably know this but for anyone interested) The Landlord's game was written by a left wing feminist, Elizabeth Magie, to promote Georgism, and had two sets of rules designed to prove that monopolies are bad and we do better when we all work together. But the second set of rules were removed when it started being published as monopoly.
The quote "sunlight is the best disinfectant" was a quote from US Supreme Court Justice Louis Brandeis referring to the benefits of openness and transparency. It is NOT a scientific statement. Scientifically, direct sunlight can kill SOME pathogens, but others, like salmonella, are resistant to sunlight.
i can hunt with a bow and arrow, so i'll cry a lot but i can do that or at least teach people who wont cry every time they have to shoot something how to do that, pretty solid apocalypse skill. i also am kinda good at foraging and i have a lot of foraging and apothecary books saved. other than that its knitting, crochet, sewing, and gardening. and getting headaches before big storms, so a pretty reliable weather service
36:20 my mom thought I was the only kid who thought that drinking and driving included coke with your fast food meal. 😭😭😭😭 there was a huge billboard with funny shaped bottles and glasses with olives in them on the same exit as the Burger King we went to once a week. And every week I thought my dad was breaking the law.
As with many knitters there will (almost) always be a time you hop on UA-cam to actually see what you’re doing wrong. Stay with me. I’ve watched a ton of tutorials with mixed results. It wasn’t until I saw a black woman’s channel, better than any white woman’s, that I realized I never see any black people doing knitting tutorials. It was a really jarring moment. For me it wasn’t “I’m color blind” but I didn’t realize that I was only seeing myself, a white woman. This pissed me off royally and three days later I find an awesome black woman knitting the hell out (a sweater?) It’s also made me aware that I never see men knitting on UA-cam.
I will never forget my mother asking my partner if the comedian John Witherspoon was on the blue collar comedy tour. My partner said, "Hell no! He's black." My mother hit him for saying black. Thank you for clarifying why she hit him for saying that. He and I never understood.
I unknowingly married a covert narcissist and then he switched from anti-war leftie activist into a homophobic MAGA. I used to try to talk with him, ask him questions to get him to wake up, but it’s impossible. I’m staying in the marriage for my children until they graduate high school because I’ve been able to create a stalemate. We have separate beds, we are cordial, etc. But “grey rock”-ing was really important in the beginning when I realized that he was a narcissist. My understanding of it is not reacting to triggers, being bland and uninteresting, so they lose interest in interacting with you. Then they go find narcissistic supple elsewhere. Which he did.
they really tried to say colors are made up 😂😂
Ok, this might be my new favorite podcast duo! 💜
“Blood is thicker than water” is a misquote.
You can come to my house, I have all the yarn