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They keep chasing you when you love yourself and have your own life away from him.. when you work on yourself to be successful and make yourself happy and not making him the only source for your happiness
Control your emotions. Don't loose your temper. Give him space to do his own things. Stay in shape, smell good ... basically keep your feminine side. Be grateful for things...even the small things. Give him emotional connection... physical touch, eye contact, listening, etc. Stay true to this and you won't have to do much because his masculine side will come out and he will naturally chase.
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together
Been married 30 yrs…I keep my hubby on his toes by always giving him space, and allowing myself the same. No smothering! And most importantly retain independence with separate bank accounts! Keep one for joint expenses and one each for your own. Staying together is a choice and not by necessity…this keeps things alive and well.
I've been married to the love of my life for 22 years (been together 23) and I do all that was discussed on this video just automatically....cuz I know that that's what men NEED! Another tip that I feel is important in any relationship is to be individualized. To be able to "hold your own" and always show that, yes, u can be a great team, but u are also your own unique, strong self. Men truly want that in a woman. I'm not saying that u can't lean on each other when times are tough....just know when to step back and be your own person too.
I need to add: PASSION. Be passionate about something. Don’t put him on a pedestal. Be passionate about something he sees you being passionate about and BE CONSISTENT with it. I’m still working on it myself
Men chase me because of my passion and desire to build an incredible life. I am beyond smiles kind and caring but a straight shooter with what I do and dont want. I highly respect and love myself.
No, it's only about what you look like. I've some flat-out admitted drug addicts...but she's cute, so I guess that's ok... Have you seen the video where they cute girl steals the silverware to see what he'd do? A; nothing. She looked that certain way.
All of this is exactly what women want, too. We want affection, appreciation, and admiration. We want to be wanted, needed, and cared for. We want our efforts to be noticed, to make an impact, and to feel loved. To the women shooting this down... I get it... I'm not fluffing him up if he isn't doing the same in return. So, if he isn't doing it all for you, then don't do it all for him- and move on. Someone will inspire these things in you by doing them for you. Then, you will want to reciprocate.
You don't always get what you want immediately. Sometimes love becomes stronger in giving. Not to be confused with being taken advantage of, that's something totally different. However, many people are letting their relationships go simply because they believe marriage is a 50/50 100% of the time. That's wrong, it's not.
If you do these things for him expecting the exact proportional treatment in return, then you are missing the point. Take the initiative and demand nothing in return. Then keep it up and see the Lord work on him. You may have to wait longer than you anticipated, but in the long run he will come around. Unless he is just a complete deadbeat. Which hopefully your man is not. Maybe the husband is the leader and head of the household, but the wife is typically the one who sets the tone. Smile, speak softly and gently, be pleasant, be helpful. Don't nag or initiate big arguments. There is a way to discuss differences without being so confrontive. Be that way and he will be endeared to you indefinitely.
This. I learned to put more effort into things as a woman. Do more talking, make him feel at ease, be sweet and interesting, ask a lot of questions to show my interest. Too many women are traumatized, cold, overwhelmed, timid, anxious. This makes it hard to deal with men that are a bit quiet and too nice. They seem off compared to all the loud and narcissistic men! Shame.
I’ve been with my bf 3 years and appreciating what he does has made a huge difference. As women sometimes we get stuck on thinking what he could be doing for us rather than appreciate what he’s already been doing.
My husband and I meet when we were 10 years old, but did not started dating until college and in all the years we have know each other I have always told (everyday) him how much I appreciate him, how awesome he is and how bless I am to have him in my life. We have been married for 28 years and have 3 kids. We also spend a week or two apart every few months
After being married for over 9 years and learning many things the hard way, it is refreshing to hear such authentic and honest relationship advice as opposed to much of the shallow information that exists out there. Much of the things you speak of are very intuitive for those who are well-versed in emotional intelligence but these nuances specific to men are inspirational. Also, loving the spoken and unspoken references from other experts in the field. Thank you 😊
Daniella Total BS! I had a horrible toxic childhood. Haven’t spoken to my Dad in 24 years (since I was 17) and my Mom in 2 years. I have dealt with more trauma than anybody I know. I’ve been happily married to my husband for 15 years and he worships me. I adore him but he loves me more, if that makes sense. He is a high earning executive and I’ve been a SAHM for 13 years, yet he tells me he’d be lost without me. Here is the secret... Stay in great shape and always prioritize your looks. I’ve had 5 kids and this shocks people because I don’t look like it. Be a freak in bed but be fiercely loyal to your man. Fake it until you make it. (Confidence, that is. Don’t let your past define you, choose you you want to be. Read Robert Greene’s the 48 Laws of Power.) Stop being a victim! Nobody wants to be with someone who whines about their toxic childhood. Use that trauma to your advantage! You are a survivor, girl. Honestly I didn’t even watch this video just scrolled to the comments because I doubt men know as much as women who have succeeded in this area. Best of luck. Read that book!!! XO
It's not total BS like the other person said. Don't you hate when ppl compare their life with yours. I didn't have a father and my mother was and is a horrible person. I grew up in a love less household and my mother was very promiscuous. I have suffered from depression, emotional overeating, self hatred and attracting low vibrational men. First you heal your inner child, accept the fact your parent (s) were trash. Look at your abusive childhood as making you a better person then most. Replace your negative self talk with positive self talk. Understand that no one is judging you and if they do, what difference does it make in your life? If you are single don't focus on men, focus on you. This is a journey and you are going to backslide. Let it happen it's natural. As you begin to heal and understand that you are the love of your life and not a man, you will raise your vibration. I agree you should workout, eat right and read books to help heal. But once again it's not about getting a man it's about you falling in love with yourself. Don't be ashamed of your childhood but when you start dating have this be apart of your mystery. As the guy shows his character to you, you can start telling him more about yourself in small doses. If your social life is not that strong, work on fixing that. Reconnect with old friends, join groups, clubs etc, take classes, take yourself out on dates and you will attract a better quality of men. Once you find the right guy keep up with having your own life and being mysterious. This is your life baby, they took your childhood don't let them take your adulthood as well. I am here for you if needed. 🥰
I’ve learned a lot at 53. Self confidence, deliverance, appreciation and the ability to own yourself are all “key notes” in any relationship and as an individual. It’s not complicated. Love to you and yours and thank you
Honestly, i just find that me working on myself and doing the things i love makes my husband happy and desire me. Ive tried the advice that you give and i just found that he took it for granted and got selfish with an ego. So i pull the energy on myself and he starts to notice me again.
I have been married for almost 27 years and he still chases me but I seriously don't know what I do to make that happen. Maybe because, after all these years, I still love, and appreciate him and all he does for me. He's my best friend, my lover and my hero.
My guy becomes more loving when I give him lots of space making him becoming imaginative to get my attention, however I try to look my best around him make up dress up gym daily n focus on my passion.
Being happy when we get together. Also I ALWAYS dress fabulously and wear a special scent just for him... He loves loves loves affection and words of affirmation he gets lots of both!! But my secret weapon is my joy even when it's hard. I think that is what keeps our cord tied so tightly 😊
I tell him what I want (in a sweet way) and wait until he steps up and does it. When he does, I give him my full attention. Keep our interactions fun and full of laughter. My hope is I get him smiling through to the next day :)
I always build him up. I’m always making him authentically feel like the King that he is. He is the most important thing in my life. So I strive to make sure that he continues to feel that way every day.
I'm Jewish. Our commandments require the creation of a physical disconnect according to the female cycle. This is the time when passion is built and anticipation is strengthened. During this time the emotional and verbal infrastructure of the relationship is also built, while things cannot be expressed through physical contact. Love your videos
I think a woman's strength of character and how she values herself has a lot to do with men chasing her or not. So if a woman is appreciative but clingy and needy, no man will value her!
agreed! all high quality men I've ever dated have stated this and shown me that it's true. they absolutely want a strong, confident woman....who also knows how to make them feel appreciated, admired, and shown affection to. high quality men want to feel like a man...but not have the life sucked out of them by someone too needy.
If more women would put that energy into making something of themselves and improving their lives, instead of trying to figure out how to make him like you, we would see more videos where men are like how can I make women chase me.
Preserving your personal mystery keeps a chase long term. Interest stays high when they are always working to know you versus when you pour out your life story right away.
Actually this puts me off men. If a man is all secretive and not open I find it so boring and lose interest very quickly. I have actually left a few relationships near the beginning because the guy was too closed off about revealing deep personal stuff, or trying to be mysterious etc.
I don’t mind someone pouring their entire life story and feelings out it makes my desire for them increase. Maybe to get similar effect though you can be a person always wanting to evolve and grow and change which would create similar feeling I guess of never fully knowing someone cause each month they have evolved into someone else to a point.
i always try to motivate him. when he tells me about his little goals he has reached that day i tell him how good he is and that i'm proud of him. it's not a lie i actually am.
I hate manipulation. I hate feeling like I'm taking advantage of my love interest. This video is great because you don't want to feel like you are ruthless.
Admire him in front of others: yes, its the same with sending flowers to her work as opposed to given at home.😃😃dont get me wrong, flowers/gifts are always welcome.💕
My experience of men is absolutely not that they like to “step up”. My experience is that they want the path of least resistance. They are not curious or consistent enough for this to work. This sounds like the ideal man, not the average man.
This is why it is SO important to be always working on your high value life and mindsets in the background. You're right - if a man is 'meh' on you, he'll treat you just like anything he is 'meh' on in his life - with as little effort as possible. The same is honestly true for men or women. The spark of attraction is so important so that he always has that (high) value perspective of you in his mind.
"They are not curious." I doubt my one knows what siblings I have or whether my parents are alive or not.. I wonder if he even remembers my name as I haven't heard him say it in ages.. I try not to feed expectations, but my interest is slowly dissolving with this indifference
I think the point Mark and Mathew are missing is - since the type of man they describe is the exception versus the rule - what's a girl to do? She can't wait a lifetime for a man to step up unless she wants to be alone... and there's nothing wrong with being alone but there is also the basic human need for connection. I think we have a epidemic of men who have been taught to let the woman chase and it leaves women doing ALL the work. I appreciate their idealistic view but practically, there has to be a better solution on how to have a fulfilling dating and sex life.
As unwatchable these videos I am practicing the techniques on male friends in a friendship way, not a partner to be way. Many of them are men whose wives I know or am friends with. Just doing the minimum of appreciation and asking for assistance and little things give me practice in a safe setting. However, what I am noticing and realizing is that I’m treating their husbands better than they are. I’ve tried to share the videos and the response I get from the women is “why should I work so hard to make him feel special...he should be doing that for me!” It really is amazing to see that basic appreciation of a spouse has turned into a “what’s in it for me” in many marriages. I will keep encouraging them to watch you guys because I see a difference!
I’m actually practicing this right now with my guy, and at 74, he’s not quite sure how to take it. 😄 It’s been a good many moons together, and he still smiles when he’s with me, so I’d have to say it’s working.
I’ll preface this by saying, I am a mechanic by trade. However, a few months ago when my truck blew a tire, I called my man to come out and help (my truck barely fit on the side of the road, and I really just wanted him to stand guard and put out flares). He refused to let me do ANYTHING, and changed the tire himself. Even though I am fully capable of doing it myself, I really appreciated him making a point to keep me out of harms way.
I tend to be intriguing that drives a guy nuts .. they always say “it’s just something about u “ ☺️☺️☺️ duh 🥰it’s called self love and knowing ur worthy
Proud of you Mark Rosenfeld for investing so hard in your dream, buying that plane ticket, to grow your career. Truly a move of faith. Great job guys. Watch you both and was happy to see this fun and informative video!
2 of my favorite coaches together yeeeey!! Entirely relying on you guys so I can re-build my life. I'm not even looking for a new guy, more like trying to getting over the last guy . I think a lot of your advice could help me to find myself again. Would love a series on re-building yourself though, because I think a lot of us have hidden pains that we haven't dealt with, leading us to get into unhealthy relationships because we're lonely.. this goes for both man en women.. we're relying on other people to fix us, which is unrealistic.. love you both and your energy!
Liokatje watching Mat Boggs and Bernardo Mendez on UA-cam helped me become the best me I could be after a breakup. I learned what I want and don’t want, in relationships and in life. I learned that I love salsa dancing and hiking and keep doing this because it helps me love my life to the fullest. I’ve since met someone wonderful 2 years ago but long story short, these coaches can help live our best lives.
Hey, couldn't agree more... I think i am in the situation where i am in the relationships with a man i really like, but i haven't figured out myself yet, my goals in life... And he is quite older than me and had had traumatic relationships therefore he is dealing with trust issues, and i would like to help him with that, but as i have learned from these incredible coaches, that is very fragile topic and a man doesn't need a piece of advice when he doesn't ask for it... So i am a bit confused right now... Because i see a great potential in my man as a loving caring person, but for now we are seeing each other several times a week, spend some time together doing activities like sports etc., having great sex... I think i need advice from my favourite couches. P.S. He said to me once that due to our age gap -13 years - and his bad relationship baggage he thinks that at some point i leave him for younger guy... He showed me his vulnerability several times and i appreciated that
My man chased me when i stopped expecting, asking, complaining......while not giving him cold shoulder....but showing empathy and appreciation that ....yeah we took care of each other for long time. I'm grateful for the part you did. I get it i can't force you to be with me if you don't want at any point. But I'm building my life in high value. He always came around. He appreciated me more ... After every come back. Its really tough sometimes to love someone without expectations. But this is what worked for me in last 3 years. What didn't work was: Crying Begging Complaining Showing that i cant live without him. Wanting more and more affection. I'm looking forward to marry this guy. Its still uncertain. Coz what they choose at any point. Whether while dating or after marriage...its not in your hands... So i just remind myself of whats in my hand. I also thought tht i should find someone else who gives me hardcore commitment that he'll stay forever no matter what.... But... Eventually i realised thag I cant take a man's word at face value.... So I'm just doing my part. Making my life happening... And offering him irresistible affection and care. After everything if it does not work out.... I'll atleast not have the feeling that i destroyed myself in process of loving him. Or that he broke me.... I don't give anyone power to break me. Thing are going fine for a while now.... Will come back to this comment after year or two.... Wish me luck that i have a good news to share by then.
I agree and don't be needy. Let him think of ways to please you. Let him think of ways to get you into his life. Yes, show affection, appreciation and admiration when it is authentic.
Hahahaha. This caaaaan be a good thing or it can be an avoidant guy thing. Healthy and unhealthy versions of this! I think what you're saying is give them healthy space and have healthy space in your relationship, which sounds spot on to me!
My experience is away from him for a short time, like travel alone, go somewhere for a few days or a month. That makes him miss u and happy to see u back, share your nice activities during the trip, that makes him feels u are so attractive.
My husband and I have been together 6 years, and for us I think this video is totally on spot. Before him I was in a really toxic relationship where we often had screaming matches with horrible insults. It was a really difficult transition to my husband whose main love language is words of affirmation. We struggled a lot in our first two years together until I realized how much the things I said affected him. If I criticized the way he did something he took it really hard, even little things like loading the dishwasher. If I thanked him for brushing snow off my car in the morning you could really see him soar and he would keep doing it. I don't think I ever really thought about it in this context where it would strengthen our relationship, all I was focused on was that I wanted to be better for him since he is such an amazing man. It was interesting though listening to this video and realizing that that was exactly the difference in our relationship then and now
📝Notes: 1) Don't nag him (be chill)🚫 1:36 2) Smell good💅🏾 3:51 3) Be his supporter⚡5:52 4) Be unavailable🛀 7:18 5) Be flirtatious, but don't be a h*e!💄9:11
I love this video. I like how you started off by explaining the difference between playing games and creating natural psychological desire. Create challenges to build anticipation. 1. Affection 2. Appreciation 3. Admiration
I was married to my husband for 13 years. He and I were in court ordered couples counseling after he got a DUI, then his record would be expunged. She said, "Look at your mate and say something nice to them. " He took a good long look at me, I was dressed up from work that day, and he said, "I think you are very intelligent." I was floored! I called him my walking talking encyclopedia because he was so smart. For him to say that to me after 13 years of marriage, was a mega compliment.I had no idea he thought of me that way! It was a giant surprise, a pleasant one at that.
I've learnt -through some recent storms - that just the mindset thinking: "OK, today's a new day, so he'll just have to win my heart again no matter what'd happened yesterday between us" has been taking our relationship and his feelings into a whole new dimension. I think this just meant that I had to step back not only from the aspect of taking action or being active but also in how intensly I'm feeling and especially expressing it. Matt, I loved the challange You two gave each other, You are serious goofballs! Appreciate it though - normal people are just booooooring!
I would LOVE to believe this Mat, because I really enjoy giving a man positive attention and affection. But what I have consistently found, and what soooo many women also say, is that the less attention I give to a man the more he will chase. Men just seem to be addicted to the chase, and it frustrates the heck out of women. It's a game they seem to love playing to fulfill their competitive urge and I just don't want to play games. If I really like a man and want to feel connected, I want to be open and honest and share that, but it seems to just push them away. So then I let it go, walk away, and they come chasing. I don't want these childish games, thus I've been single for a few years. It would be wonderful to encounter a conscious man who actually walks your talk! 💖
It’s the kind of attention you can give. The energy and intention- Needy ? Or you’re too much of a push over or Available then the cycle happens. But when you come solidly and give respect and admiration they want you. When you say. Oh my you make me feel so good. Or say. You know I really respect blank about you. You’re the best. Then have your own life. Respect is his number one need. AFFIRM HIS CHOICES. EVEN IF IT IS FOOD ON A MENU !
I think another thing is if you are dating someone with kids it is important to be understanding and respecting personal space of his time, kids time, and you time until the relationship builds to sharing that time together.
Can’t get over the fact my two favorite coaches did these great videos together! You both are truly amazing! Thank you for all the great and real advice as always!
I’m so glad I found this. My bf keeps telling me he wants to make me happy. And I keep telling him that I am happy. But it’s nice to know there are things I can do to challenge him to let him actually see me get happy. I love when he plan trips for us and surprise me with a nice date or a gift. I just need to give him more appreciation for it. Lmao love the Memphis Accentl lmao. We definitely country down here ! Lol
@@tendohanipha4196 The men hardly love their wife more, then she loves him......Men are obsessed about other things, and themselves and their achievements and less of focusing on their wives at ALL
I love that you guys are together. I’d love to watch more collaborations! 😍 To answer your question Mat, on what has made a man chase me: it’s loving my life. When I’m living and loving my life men flock to me like moths to a flame. It’s just an energy that’s radiated that life is fun and full of love and happiness already and for someone to join me on the journey is just a bonus.
For me, honesty connected with empathy, being authentic and open, that's what brings up the best in men and brings in the best relationships. But this openness and authenticity must come from the place of love. If I treat myself as a person worthy of love, warts and all as the saying goes, I will elicit love in the others. They really cannot love you if you do not love yourself. They may fall in love, but the deep bond will not form. The attraction will not last.
You two guys are the rare ones I can listen to on the subject. From my (vast:) experience and research, I would summarize - Guys chase you when they feel encouraged, but not pressed.
Wow we are so blessed of having you guys helping us beautiful people. I've been doing all these steps and it's so effective and the results are amazing, my man still chasing me till now... I appreciate you two ❤
Yes! I am now ready after hearing Mats wise words to make myself a priority and unwilling to no longer accept crumbs of male attention to feebly and unsuccessfully validate my self esteem and fulfil a yearning for a meaningful, respectful romantic relationship. I will love myself with renewed conviction that I am always worth more than being an option and relish never suffering the pain that I have inflicted upon myself by previously allowing myself to be only that. I will now take responsibility for the outcome of sometimes feeling 2nd best was because I allowed it. I pledge to never give away my power again. Anyone else going to join me? What have we got to lose? Wishing this community their dream Christmas and a happy new year. Xx
Telling a guy that as he long as he stays the way he is I’ll always like him and then topping this off with the confidence to know your an amazing person.
1) appreciation is a must, 2) never stop to grow and strive to be best version of self, to create exciting life that a man wants to be in; 3) vulnerability helps, at early stage of dating, it means not afraid to open up or show him green lights, if he does not move, then his interest level is not enough, move on.
I really appreciate your advices, and you are two of my favorite coaches. I wish i had these advices when I was in my twenties, so now I share your advices with my daughters who are in that place in life. Giving them a portion now and them. I want them to know, so they can stay out of difficulties I have experienced myself. How to build a good relationship is not coming natural for most people, because we often are selfish. But when you start to focus on the needs others have, you often get your own needs met, if it is a high value person you are dealing with. And also it is so important to not stop working on yourself in a relationship, not settle for the less, but try to reach the highest potential.
My fiancé and I seem to be kicking arse with this we’ve been together 5 years and I think it’s because we have our own hobbies and interests away from each other and we respect that separation of time but we always show interest in what each other are doing and ask questions about it too. We have to figure out our time and compromise and never just take for granted that each other is free- it’s made us appreciate each other and never undermine the others goals or time dedicated to them. The easy time we do spend together we’re all in and totally connected and it just flows we never stop smiling and laughing 👍🏻
It's important to stay high value and not make your life all about the relationship. I have a best friend who changed relationships every 2 months because her only focus in life is to be in a relationship. She never improves herself and doesn't even have hobbies.
I am learning to communicate better. I never spoke up for what I wanted or needed. The book Non-violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg has been very helpful. I raised an issue that bothered me. Rather than coming off any or judgemental, I asked as a favor. He received it well. I also made a point to tell him that I really appreciated that he takes the time to listen to me. I was pleased with myself for how I communicated my needs.
I've been watching your channel, and I pick up a lot.... but hope you make a video about relationships through long distance... thanks and more power to your channel 😊 God bless
I love to see you together!!!!! what a great surprise, definitely a treat for us viewers. I have watched your videos for a long time and both of you have given me great pieces of advise. Today, I enjoy a long term relationship. Thank you both.
They're talking about when you're already in the relationship. How to keep it going once you're already in it. So ideally, he would still be wanting to chase you.
I'm so happy my two favorite guys made a video together! It's exactly true what you said, I feel the rest do not give emotionally healthy advice. You guys have both always given great life advice whether I use it towards relationships or not. It's still applicable and useful to me as an individual and I wanted you both to know I've always appreciated it
I was married for 25 years and did all of this naturally without being told. Proud of myself for giving my husband those great years. He passed away 4 1/2 years ago and I don’t think I could ever feel that love again. I’m not willing to settle just to not be alone. Wish there were videos
I'm happiest when I come back from holiday. I stress before hand. And most people who do the preparation for the family know before going is the most stressful time. Same with Christmas.
@@Christine-hn5cd I am gay. 😊 I love animals, I live for dogs, they make me very happy. Thank you for taking the time to perhaps elevate me in my path towards higher consciousness. Not all of us need the same things for happyiness. And there is more than 1 way to be in a happy and healthy relationship. I am starting with myself, and self love. Emotional fullfillment, for me, comes from within. I wouldnt expect it from a partner. 🙏
@@Christine-hn5cd your response was actually volatile and Ines wasn't. I see projection of your own issues in your life being expressed and dumped out in an angry way. I recommend focusing on your own healing and not lashing out on people you don't know who aren't even directly doing anything to hurt you. Critism is pretty volatile. Be careful because we attract more of the energy we give off. People are entitled to how they feel and we all have different experiences in life and see things differently. I know for myself and all my female friends we have all been used and hurt by men all our lives. Men are not easy to deal with. If they were, nobody would need coaching! I'm looking to create healthy friendships and relationships with men and women. Look at how you approach someone, if you are mean and critical, people won't always receive or respond the way you want. Think about that.
@@vhayashi7369 First off; hello. so I am basically very young {under 20} so relationships, being dumped unfortunately or fortunately I have never experienced, [I live in a structured culture that pushes the teens to mature and study before those kind of things I hope you get the jist ] was I negative in this post definitely but was my argument wrong no. Whether gay or straight nobody should condemn others for their needs and wants and debased them to that of an animal. How would you feel if the things you want in life financial or romantic and means of getting to it were deamed meaningless like say compared to a warthog? I will remove this post however because you have just reminded me why there are always bullies; nobody wants to tell them that their wrong and somehow the kid defending the bully is somehow problematic thank you for teaching me this it will save me later when I grow up and venture out of home
Everything you said is totally true, just because men gotta be strong on the outside still doesn’t mean the things we like to hear, they also don’t and wouldn’t love to hear. I always say raise each other up support one another be there for each other always make sure u appreciate your man because if u don’t someone else will
I send him a small text at work, telling him that I'm desiring him and what type of sexual experience I'm planning for us tonight!👍we've been married 15yrs and 8 children😄
love you guys. great advises. now i see i was with the wrong man. he stopped me from Admiring him all together. he said he didn't need a cheer leader and believe me i am a very diplomatic person. so sad. i know the right man is out there for me somewhere when i am completely ready. and only then.
we met at a horse stable-I loved horses and farms-he could do EVERYTHING farm/horse related-he was my absolute hero-we married and he would build fences barns,sheds,remodel our home-and I adored him for it and made my parents come out to see all he did every time he finished a project When we got one place done we sold it for a big profit and started over.He had to be challenged or he lost interest.He could run heavy equipment-drive huge trucks-I truly admired everything he did-he was totally on a pedestal to me-he was a master in the bedroom and I made sure he knew he was my hero there too-he knew he was my dream man in every way-our desire never faltered-we were soul mates til death parted us.He had some flaws but I accepted him through it all. How do you live with half of a heart?
i, too, have lost the love of my life after an accident. 42 years of marriage. an old friend is helping me live again, but i still miss my dear husband hugely, painfully at times, and will until the day I leave here. even if I get to love big again. and i hope i do.
You guys are awesome! And totally dropping some gems ... married for 23 years! And I truly believe that it’s because I’ve applied many of the things you guys are mentioning! Make a man feel in a way he loves and he will crave you always! What you guys are saying is so spot on! I grew up in a household in which my father was constantly put down & stripped of his manhood. I promised to never do that! And here we are! He is the best provider to our family, protector, and partner ... and I make sure to tell him! Is it perfect 100% no! We have our issues, arguments . But those are few in between. Great great awesome content! Love it! Keep up the great work! New sub to both accounts! xo
Mark, thank you for this advice. one thing i am most proud of is that i am open to always learning. We have been married for 20 wonderful years. i am serving my purpose and as i continue to grow and develop, i include developing as a wife. Too many women are finding their purpose and leaving their husbands. My marriage and having a happy husband is included in my purpose. I appreciate my husband, however i will truly step it up with the Triple A payoff. Thank you
I used to watch his channel ...but after I got busy with school I never watched any of his video...but am but on truck you both have amazing relationship advice thanks alot...you both God sent👌
Your analysis of relationship dynamics....so amazing & helpful....guiding women into heartfelt, genuine responses in self care, plus attracting & loving our man. Thank you! I'm absolutely implementing all of this. I anticipate a more mindful, solid, soulful relationship. I have SO much more confidence & insight.
I think it's also very important to encourage my man in pursuing how he wants to provide for me his woman, and for us as individuals. While all the while I'm dotting on him, appreciating him, helping him feel empowered, sharing me as to who I am, and doing my part in what we need to do, to make our dreams come true... As you can see I could go on & on Lol💖
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They keep chasing you when you love yourself and have your own life away from him.. when you work on yourself to be successful and make yourself happy and not making him the only source for your happiness
AMEN!!
I find it true I think....
Brilliant. This needed to be included in the endless desire formula. Thanks
Very true
@zena89 God bless you
Dear ladies this is all you need to know
Control your emotions. Don't loose your temper. Give him space to do his own things. Stay in shape, smell good ... basically keep your feminine side. Be grateful for things...even the small things. Give him emotional connection... physical touch, eye contact, listening, etc. Stay true to this and you won't have to do much because his masculine side will come out and he will naturally chase.
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Clean his house, stay young, don’t rock the boat, and lose yourself. Girls…that’s the way to keep him. Im all set.
I agree! It seems to work for me.
@@trinity2860 don’t clean his house unless ur married…
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The bromance between these two just makes my heart melt, wish I saw this kind if openness and appreciation between men more often.
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Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together
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Been married 30 yrs…I keep my hubby on his toes by always giving him space, and allowing myself the same. No smothering! And most importantly retain independence with separate bank accounts! Keep one for joint expenses and one each for your own. Staying together is a choice and not by necessity…this keeps things alive and well.
I've been married to the love of my life for 22 years (been together 23) and I do all that was discussed on this video just automatically....cuz I know that that's what men NEED! Another tip that I feel is important in any relationship is to be individualized. To be able to "hold your own" and always show that, yes, u can be a great team, but u are also your own unique, strong self. Men truly want that in a woman. I'm not saying that u can't lean on each other when times are tough....just know when to step back and be your own person too.
Thanks for sharing
Agree 🙂
Great advice! Appreciate it!
Well said Karen! 😊
Thanks for sharing
I need to add: PASSION. Be passionate about something. Don’t put him on a pedestal. Be passionate about something he sees you being passionate about and BE CONSISTENT with it. I’m still working on it myself
Men chase me because of my passion and desire to build an incredible life. I am beyond smiles kind and caring but a straight shooter with what I do and dont want. I highly respect and love myself.
I think I need an advice from you 😔
Anytime
No, it's only about what you look like. I've some flat-out admitted drug addicts...but she's cute, so I guess that's ok...
Have you seen the video where they cute girl steals the silverware to see what he'd do?
A; nothing. She looked that certain way.
How do you do that? What do you tell to yourself to be so confident? What are your thoughts behind that confidence?
@@anaquintero2973 I second that. Could definitely use some advice!!
All of this is exactly what women want, too. We want affection, appreciation, and admiration. We want to be wanted, needed, and cared for. We want our efforts to be noticed, to make an impact, and to feel loved. To the women shooting this down... I get it... I'm not fluffing him up if he isn't doing the same in return. So, if he isn't doing it all for you, then don't do it all for him- and move on. Someone will inspire these things in you by doing them for you. Then, you will want to reciprocate.
You don't always get what you want immediately. Sometimes love becomes stronger in giving. Not to be confused with being taken advantage of, that's something totally different. However, many people are letting their relationships go simply because they believe marriage is a 50/50 100% of the time. That's wrong, it's not.
Much more than a thanks for doing the dishes, women need to be cherished and adored
If you do these things for him expecting the exact proportional treatment in return, then you are missing the point. Take the initiative and demand nothing in return. Then keep it up and see the Lord work on him. You may have to wait longer than you anticipated, but in the long run he will come around. Unless he is just a complete deadbeat. Which hopefully your man is not. Maybe the husband is the leader and head of the household, but the wife is typically the one who sets the tone. Smile, speak softly and gently, be pleasant, be helpful. Don't nag or initiate big arguments. There is a way to discuss differences without being so confrontive. Be that way and he will be endeared to you indefinitely.
You are absolutely right, are you single
If a guy feels good about himself every time both of you are together, this will definitely attract him more and more to you. Admiration is the key.
This. I learned to put more effort into things as a woman. Do more talking, make him feel at ease, be sweet and interesting, ask a lot of questions to show my interest. Too many women are traumatized, cold, overwhelmed, timid, anxious. This makes it hard to deal with men that are a bit quiet and too nice. They seem off compared to all the loud and narcissistic men! Shame.
Hello dear how are you
I’ve been with my bf 3 years and appreciating what he does has made a huge difference. As women sometimes we get stuck on thinking what he could be doing for us rather than appreciate what he’s already been doing.
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My husband and I meet when we were 10 years old, but did not started dating until college and in all the years we have know each other I have always told (everyday) him how much I appreciate him, how awesome he is and how bless I am to have him in my life. We have been married for 28 years and have 3 kids. We also spend a week or two apart every few months
After being married for over 9 years and learning many things the hard way, it is refreshing to hear such authentic and honest relationship advice as opposed to much of the shallow information that exists out there. Much of the things you speak of are very intuitive for those who are well-versed in emotional intelligence but these nuances specific to men are inspirational. Also, loving the spoken and unspoken references from other experts in the field. Thank you 😊
It's easier when you haven't had a toxic childhood. It's effected my ability to invest in myself
Daniella Total BS! I had a horrible toxic childhood. Haven’t spoken to my Dad in 24 years (since I was 17) and my Mom in 2 years. I have dealt with more trauma than anybody I know. I’ve been happily married to my husband for 15 years and he worships me. I adore him but he loves me more, if that makes sense. He is a high earning executive and I’ve been a SAHM for 13 years, yet he tells me he’d be lost without me.
Here is the secret... Stay in great shape and always prioritize your looks. I’ve had 5 kids and this shocks people because I don’t look like it. Be a freak in bed but be fiercely loyal to your man. Fake it until you make it. (Confidence, that is. Don’t let your past define you, choose you you want to be. Read Robert Greene’s the 48 Laws of Power.) Stop being a victim! Nobody wants to be with someone who whines about their toxic childhood. Use that trauma to your advantage! You are a survivor, girl.
Honestly I didn’t even watch this video just scrolled to the comments because I doubt men know as much as women who have succeeded in this area. Best of luck. Read that book!!! XO
It's not total BS like the other person said. Don't you hate when ppl compare their life with yours. I didn't have a father and my mother was and is a horrible person. I grew up in a love less household and my mother was very promiscuous. I have suffered from depression, emotional overeating, self hatred and attracting low vibrational men. First you heal your inner child, accept the fact your parent (s) were trash. Look at your abusive childhood as making you a better person then most. Replace your negative self talk with positive self talk. Understand that no one is judging you and if they do, what difference does it make in your life? If you are single don't focus on men, focus on you. This is a journey and you are going to backslide. Let it happen it's natural. As you begin to heal and understand that you are the love of your life and not a man, you will raise your vibration. I agree you should workout, eat right and read books to help heal. But once again it's not about getting a man it's about you falling in love with yourself. Don't be ashamed of your childhood but when you start dating have this be apart of your mystery. As the guy shows his character to you, you can start telling him more about yourself in small doses. If your social life is not that strong, work on fixing that. Reconnect with old friends, join groups, clubs etc, take classes, take yourself out on dates and you will attract a better quality of men. Once you find the right guy keep up with having your own life and being mysterious. This is your life baby, they took your childhood don't let them take your adulthood as well. I am here for you if needed. 🥰
Being aware is halfway in the recovery process
Take time to heal and you will be able to invest in yourself. Be selfish and gentle on yourself.
@@TheAlexa6 WELL DONE: you are so right that one's past need not define one!
I’ve learned a lot at 53. Self confidence, deliverance, appreciation and the ability to own yourself are all “key notes” in any relationship and as an individual. It’s not complicated. Love to you and yours and thank you
Honestly, i just find that me working on myself and doing the things i love makes my husband happy and desire me. Ive tried the advice that you give and i just found that he took it for granted and got selfish with an ego. So i pull the energy on myself and he starts to notice me again.
Yes too many compliments, and it will go to their head
I have been married for almost 27 years and he still chases me but I seriously don't know what I do to make that happen. Maybe because, after all these years, I still love, and appreciate him and all he does for me. He's my best friend, my lover and my hero.
Thanks for your great advice. I think after 22 years of marriage I forget to notice / compliment my husbands actions. I have to do this again. Thanks.
Thanks so much Claudia! Really glad you liked the video!
@@matboggs thanks for the extra motivation
My guy becomes more loving when I give him lots of space making him becoming imaginative to get my attention, however I try to look my best around him make up dress up gym daily n focus on my passion.
Being happy when we get together. Also I ALWAYS dress fabulously and wear a special scent just for him...
He loves loves loves affection and words of affirmation he gets lots of both!!
But my secret weapon is my joy even when it's hard. I think that is what keeps our cord tied so tightly 😊
I tell him what I want (in a sweet way) and wait until he steps up and does it. When he does, I give him my full attention. Keep our interactions fun and full of laughter. My hope is I get him smiling through to the next day :)
Great Idea wow
I always build him up. I’m always making him authentically feel like the King that he is. He is the most important thing in my life. So I strive to make sure that he continues to feel that way every day.
I'm Jewish.
Our commandments require the creation of a physical disconnect according to the female cycle. This is the time when passion is built and anticipation is strengthened. During this time the emotional and verbal infrastructure of the relationship is also built, while things cannot be expressed through physical contact.
Love your videos
According to female cycle? How does this work? I m intrigued.
yes for us Muslims too. Aftrall Jewish (torah)are from our books too :)
This is interesting....elaborate, please and thank you.
She means they aren't allowed to have sex. Sometimes, they even sleep separately during her cycle.
Judaism is so sexist. Yuck.
I think a woman's strength of character and how she values herself has a lot to do with men chasing her or not. So if a woman is appreciative but clingy and needy, no man will value her!
agreed! all high quality men I've ever dated have stated this and shown me that it's true. they absolutely want a strong, confident woman....who also knows how to make them feel appreciated, admired, and shown affection to. high quality men want to feel like a man...but not have the life sucked out of them by someone too needy.
I keep him coming back by not chasing him & let him come to you. Appreciate him. Be very kind & humble
If more women would put that energy into making something of themselves and improving their lives, instead of trying to figure out how to make him like you, we would see more videos where men are like how can I make women chase me.
Dottie YES ! 100% true
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👏🏼🙌🏼 so truee
Woman chase him? Lady, you got it all wrong. Let the man be a MAN.
Preserving your personal mystery keeps a chase long term. Interest stays high when they are always working to know you versus when you pour out your life story right away.
It's that balance isn't it! The depth of connection versus the excitment and mystery of finding out new things.
Spot on!
I’ve always poured everything all out!! That’s some mistake.
Actually this puts me off men. If a man is all secretive and not open I find it so boring and lose interest very quickly. I have actually left a few relationships near the beginning because the guy was too closed off about revealing deep personal stuff, or trying to be mysterious etc.
I don’t mind someone pouring their entire life story and feelings out it makes my desire for them increase. Maybe to get similar effect though you can be a person always wanting to evolve and grow and change which would create similar feeling I guess of never fully knowing someone cause each month they have evolved into someone else to a point.
i always try to motivate him. when he tells me about his little goals he has reached that day i tell him how good he is and that i'm proud of him. it's not a lie i actually am.
I hate manipulation. I hate feeling like I'm taking advantage of my love interest. This video is great because you don't want to feel like you are ruthless.
1. Affection
2. Appreciation
3. Admiration
Admire him in front of others: yes, its the same with sending flowers to her work as opposed to given at home.😃😃dont get me wrong, flowers/gifts are always welcome.💕
My experience of men is absolutely not that they like to “step up”. My experience is that they want the path of least resistance. They are not curious or consistent enough for this to work. This sounds like the ideal man, not the average man.
When they don't "step up" just walk away....
They are not for you!!
@Spooky Spectre SO TRUE.
This is why it is SO important to be always working on your high value life and mindsets in the background. You're right - if a man is 'meh' on you, he'll treat you just like anything he is 'meh' on in his life - with as little effort as possible. The same is honestly true for men or women. The spark of attraction is so important so that he always has that (high) value perspective of you in his mind.
"They are not curious." I doubt my one knows what siblings I have or whether my parents are alive or not.. I wonder if he even remembers my name as I haven't heard him say it in ages.. I try not to feed expectations, but my interest is slowly dissolving with this indifference
I think the point Mark and Mathew are missing is - since the type of man they describe is the exception versus the rule - what's a girl to do? She can't wait a lifetime for a man to step up unless she wants to be alone... and there's nothing wrong with being alone but there is also the basic human need for connection. I think we have a epidemic of men who have been taught to let the woman chase and it leaves women doing ALL the work. I appreciate their idealistic view but practically, there has to be a better solution on how to have a fulfilling dating and sex life.
As unwatchable these videos I am practicing the techniques on male friends in a friendship way, not a partner to be way. Many of them are men whose wives I know or am friends with. Just doing the minimum of appreciation and asking for assistance and little things give me practice in a safe setting. However, what I am noticing and realizing is that I’m treating their husbands better than they are. I’ve tried to share the videos and the response I get from the women is “why should I work so hard to make him feel special...he should be doing that for me!” It really is amazing to see that basic appreciation of a spouse has turned into a “what’s in it for me” in many marriages. I will keep encouraging them to watch you guys because I see a difference!
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Unwatchable yet you watched
When a man feels that you don't want anything from him and you just love him for who he is
Whoo whoo that's me self sufficient
I’m actually practicing this right now with my guy, and at 74, he’s not quite sure how to take it. 😄 It’s been a good many moons together, and he still smiles when he’s with me, so I’d have to say it’s working.
I’ll preface this by saying, I am a mechanic by trade. However, a few months ago when my truck blew a tire, I called my man to come out and help (my truck barely fit on the side of the road, and I really just wanted him to stand guard and put out flares). He refused to let me do ANYTHING, and changed the tire himself. Even though I am fully capable of doing it myself, I really appreciated him making a point to keep me out of harms way.
I tend to be intriguing that drives a guy nuts .. they always say “it’s just something about u “ ☺️☺️☺️ duh 🥰it’s called self love and knowing ur worthy
Proud of you Mark Rosenfeld for investing so hard in your dream, buying that plane ticket, to grow your career. Truly a move of faith. Great job guys. Watch you both and was happy to see this fun and informative video!
2 of my favorite coaches together yeeeey!!
Entirely relying on you guys so I can re-build my life. I'm not even looking for a new guy, more like trying to getting over the last guy . I think a lot of your advice could help me to find myself again. Would love a series on re-building yourself though, because I think a lot of us have hidden pains that we haven't dealt with, leading us to get into unhealthy relationships because we're lonely.. this goes for both man en women.. we're relying on other people to fix us, which is unrealistic.. love you both and your energy!
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Liokatje it's so beautiful to hear you're doing the work. Thanks so much for supporting us both. It really means the world to us!
Liokatje watching Mat Boggs and Bernardo Mendez on UA-cam helped me become the best me I could be after a breakup. I learned what I want and don’t want, in relationships and in life. I learned that I love salsa dancing and hiking and keep doing this because it helps me love my life to the fullest. I’ve since met someone wonderful 2 years ago but long story short, these coaches can help live our best lives.
@@westcoastsands I'm so happy for you!! :D I hope one day I can say the same. Sending you lots of love and positivity.
Hey, couldn't agree more... I think i am in the situation where i am in the relationships with a man i really like, but i haven't figured out myself yet, my goals in life... And he is quite older than me and had had traumatic relationships therefore he is dealing with trust issues, and i would like to help him with that, but as i have learned from these incredible coaches, that is very fragile topic and a man doesn't need a piece of advice when he doesn't ask for it... So i am a bit confused right now... Because i see a great potential in my man as a loving caring person, but for now we are seeing each other several times a week, spend some time together doing activities like sports etc., having great sex... I think i need advice from my favourite couches. P.S. He said to me once that due to our age gap -13 years - and his bad relationship baggage he thinks that at some point i leave him for younger guy... He showed me his vulnerability several times and i appreciated that
My man chased me when i stopped expecting, asking, complaining......while not giving him cold shoulder....but showing empathy and appreciation that ....yeah we took care of each other for long time. I'm grateful for the part you did. I get it i can't force you to be with me if you don't want at any point.
But I'm building my life in high value.
He always came around.
He appreciated me more ... After every come back.
Its really tough sometimes to love someone without expectations.
But this is what worked for me in last 3 years.
What didn't work was:
Crying
Begging
Complaining
Showing that i cant live without him.
Wanting more and more affection.
I'm looking forward to marry this guy.
Its still uncertain.
Coz what they choose at any point. Whether while dating or after marriage...its not in your hands...
So i just remind myself of whats in my hand.
I also thought tht i should find someone else who gives me hardcore commitment that he'll stay forever no matter what....
But...
Eventually i realised thag I cant take a man's word at face value....
So I'm just doing my part. Making my life happening... And offering him irresistible affection and care.
After everything if it does not work out.... I'll atleast not have the feeling that i destroyed myself in process of loving him. Or that he broke me....
I don't give anyone power to break me.
Thing are going fine for a while now....
Will come back to this comment after year or two....
Wish me luck that i have a good news to share by then.
I love that .. same boat .. 2years later ..👀👀 update ?
Surprisingly, it’s when I give them not too much attention.
Agreed!
griffinina nina Likewise
I agree and don't be needy. Let him think of ways to please you. Let him think of ways to get you into his life. Yes, show affection, appreciation and admiration when it is authentic.
Hahahaha. This caaaaan be a good thing or it can be an avoidant guy thing. Healthy and unhealthy versions of this! I think what you're saying is give them healthy space and have healthy space in your relationship, which sounds spot on to me!
Ginger Ziccardi very well said, dropping gems❤️🥰✨
My experience is away from him for a short time, like travel alone, go somewhere for a few days or a month. That makes him miss u and happy to see u back, share your nice activities during the trip, that makes him feels u are so attractive.
My husband and I have been together 6 years, and for us I think this video is totally on spot. Before him I was in a really toxic relationship where we often had screaming matches with horrible insults. It was a really difficult transition to my husband whose main love language is words of affirmation. We struggled a lot in our first two years together until I realized how much the things I said affected him. If I criticized the way he did something he took it really hard, even little things like loading the dishwasher. If I thanked him for brushing snow off my car in the morning you could really see him soar and he would keep doing it. I don't think I ever really thought about it in this context where it would strengthen our relationship, all I was focused on was that I wanted to be better for him since he is such an amazing man. It was interesting though listening to this video and realizing that that was exactly the difference in our relationship then and now
📝Notes:
1) Don't nag him (be chill)🚫 1:36
2) Smell good💅🏾 3:51
3) Be his supporter⚡5:52
4) Be unavailable🛀 7:18
5) Be flirtatious, but don't be a h*e!💄9:11
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I love this video. I like how you started off by explaining the difference between playing games and creating natural psychological desire.
Create challenges to build anticipation.
1. Affection
2. Appreciation
3. Admiration
I was married to my husband for 13 years. He and I were in court ordered couples counseling after he got a DUI, then his record would be expunged. She said, "Look at your mate and say something nice to them. " He took a good long look at me, I was dressed up from work that day, and he said, "I think you are very intelligent." I was floored! I called him my walking talking encyclopedia because he was so smart. For him to say that to me after 13 years of marriage, was a mega compliment.I had no idea he thought of me that way! It was a giant surprise, a pleasant one at that.
Dumb question: how does that negate an obvious drinking problem? It won't just go away.
Trust, loyalty, space, make him feel like a hero, treat him like a king...
Yeah.... No. The result of that over years is being taken for granted and for a fool.
Agreed!!! It works for me!!
@@tweetiepie551 only if your standards are low!! You cannot EVER be taken for a fool..you just lowered your standards
I did all that then he cheated. If a guy is a scum just leave no point in treating him like he worth u
@@anawonka Absolutely!
It’s refreshing to listen to great advice from a happily married man. Thank you 🙏
100%
Right!!!
I've learnt -through some recent storms - that just the mindset thinking: "OK, today's a new day, so he'll just have to win my heart again no matter what'd happened yesterday between us" has been taking our relationship and his feelings into a whole new dimension. I think this just meant that I had to step back not only from the aspect of taking action or being active but also in how intensly I'm feeling and especially expressing it.
Matt, I loved the challange You two gave each other, You are serious goofballs! Appreciate it though - normal people are just booooooring!
I challenged a man to be a gentlemen and he deleted me... that’s dating for my generation
same here ... I now believe those type of guy are just animal
Not a man for you...don’t worry, one will be a gentleman.
Lol he is an immature man probably a player or fuccboi, find yourself a real gentleman
Sad!
I guess he wasn't a man
I would LOVE to believe this Mat, because I really enjoy giving a man positive attention and affection. But what I have consistently found, and what soooo many women also say, is that the less attention I give to a man the more he will chase. Men just seem to be addicted to the chase, and it frustrates the heck out of women. It's a game they seem to love playing to fulfill their competitive urge and I just don't want to play games. If I really like a man and want to feel connected, I want to be open and honest and share that, but it seems to just push them away. So then I let it go, walk away, and they come chasing. I don't want these childish games, thus I've been single for a few years. It would be wonderful to encounter a conscious man who actually walks your talk! 💖
Life Is Beautiful I agree. Not sure what the sweet spot is. Chase leading to closeness. 🤷🏿♀️
Life Is Beautiful exactly!!
Soo f***in right 👍
Perfect!
It’s the kind of attention you can give. The energy and intention- Needy ? Or you’re too much of a push over or
Available then the cycle happens. But when you come solidly and give respect and admiration they want you. When you say. Oh my you make me feel so good. Or say. You know I really respect blank about you. You’re the best. Then have your own life. Respect is his number one need. AFFIRM HIS CHOICES. EVEN IF IT IS FOOD ON A MENU !
A guy finds it immensely rewarding to have me write a song or poem about some special moment we had together. Creating memories that are immortalized.
Savana Moore,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌷🌹🌺,hope you are with a good man!
I think another thing is if you are dating someone with kids it is important to be understanding and respecting personal space of his time, kids time, and you time until the relationship builds to sharing that time together.
Can’t get over the fact my two favorite coaches did these great videos together! You both are truly amazing! Thank you for all the great and real advice as always!
I’m so glad I found this. My bf keeps telling me he wants to make me happy. And I keep telling him that I am happy. But it’s nice to know there are things I can do to challenge him to let him actually see me get happy.
I love when he plan trips for us and surprise me with a nice date or a gift. I just need to give him more appreciation for it.
Lmao love the Memphis Accentl lmao. We definitely country down here ! Lol
I feel exhausted and I’m not even in a relationship 😂😂 constantly trying to maintain the mystery to remain exciting is too much work
Virgo Vixen exactly why its important to know he love u more than u love him..you'll put in less work
Tendo Hanipha yep 👍🏼
@@tendohanipha4196 The men hardly love their wife more, then she loves him......Men are obsessed about other things, and themselves and their achievements and less of focusing on their wives at ALL
myassessment adres I didn't know this n ts sad tbh I also feel tired before I get there
Have your own life, Goals, aspirations!
I love that you guys are together. I’d love to watch more collaborations! 😍
To answer your question Mat, on what has made a man chase me: it’s loving my life. When I’m living and loving my life men flock to me like moths to a flame. It’s just an energy that’s radiated that life is fun and full of love and happiness already and for someone to join me on the journey is just a bonus.
I find that men like you to be positive and tell him you appreciate him and what he does for you
For me, honesty connected with empathy, being authentic and open, that's what brings up the best in men and brings in the best relationships. But this openness and authenticity must come from the place of love. If I treat myself as a person worthy of love, warts and all as the saying goes, I will elicit love in the others. They really cannot love you if you do not love yourself. They may fall in love, but the deep bond will not form. The attraction will not last.
Monika Canarska,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌷🌹🌺
It’s nice to know I’m already doing the right thing. Positive reinforcement is good for any and everyone.
Great to hear Lola. What's important is what makes you happy and that you're on that path.
You two guys are the rare ones I can listen to on the subject.
From my (vast:) experience and research, I would summarize - Guys chase you when they feel encouraged, but not pressed.
jovanka gasic,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷 dear,hope you are with a good man!
@@christianpulisic7784 thank you. Usually look best when without a guy :-)
@@jovankagasic4889 You are welcome dearest 🌹🌷🌹.I am Christian from the States.You?
@@christianpulisic7784 From Novi Sad
@@jovankagasic4889 Where is that?
Beautiful. When you said “we are here to serve you” i thought, ya serve me baby. Thank you guys. Such good teachers and coaches and friends.
Wow we are so blessed of having you guys helping us beautiful people. I've been doing all these steps and it's so effective and the results are amazing, my man still chasing me till now... I appreciate you two ❤
This is working for every human being, it does not matter the sex, the age, the culture, the place.
I'll call the cops if a man chases me forever😂
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hahahahahahahaha that is so funny
Eh depends if you like guy..
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Carmen Carmenatti 😂😂😭
Yes! I am now ready after hearing Mats wise words to make myself a priority and unwilling to no longer accept crumbs of male attention to feebly and unsuccessfully validate my self esteem and fulfil a yearning for a meaningful, respectful romantic relationship. I will love myself with renewed conviction that I am always worth more than being an option and relish never suffering the pain that I have inflicted upon myself by previously allowing myself to be only that. I will now take responsibility for the outcome of sometimes feeling 2nd best was because I allowed it. I pledge to never give away my power again. Anyone else going to join me? What have we got to lose? Wishing this community their dream Christmas and a happy new year. Xx
Telling a guy that as he long as he stays the way he is I’ll always like him and then topping this off with the confidence to know your an amazing person.
1) appreciation is a must, 2) never stop to grow and strive to be best version of self, to create exciting life that a man wants to be in; 3) vulnerability helps, at early stage of dating, it means not afraid to open up or show him green lights, if he does not move, then his interest level is not enough, move on.
Now it's Mark's turn looking for something inside the refrigerator 😂
Lol
You wouldn't believe it... Nothing there again!
@@Markrosenfeld wow you are my crush 😍😍😍 it's okay you are enough 🤣🤣😃😃😘
Yah, they need to change the scenario
Lol 😆
I have found that guys like my intelligence. My compassion and my inner strength and the way that I express myself.
How to make him chase you: be absolutely uninterested.
Kindness, being a good listener, humbleness, being genuine, gentle, polite, respect, being feminine (soft), asking for help, caring.
I really appreciate your advices, and you are two of my favorite coaches. I wish i had these advices when I was in my twenties, so now I share your advices with my daughters who are in that place in life. Giving them a portion now and them. I want them to know, so they can stay out of difficulties I have experienced myself. How to build a good relationship is not coming natural for most people, because we often are selfish. But when you start to focus on the needs others have, you often get your own needs met, if it is a high value person you are dealing with. And also it is so important to not stop working on yourself in a relationship, not settle for the less, but try to reach the highest potential.
jorunn62,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷 dear
My fiancé and I seem to be kicking arse with this we’ve been together 5 years and I think it’s because we have our own hobbies and interests away from each other and we respect that separation of time but we always show interest in what each other are doing and ask questions about it too. We have to figure out our time and compromise and never just take for granted that each other is free- it’s made us appreciate each other and never undermine the others goals or time dedicated to them. The easy time we do spend together we’re all in and totally connected and it just flows we never stop smiling and laughing 👍🏻
You two are my favorite pairing. I’ve seen you each with other relationship coaches and your dynamic is best!! Thank you!
My two favs! Now we just need Matthew Hussey in the mix too! ☺️🙏
Great idea
Kiara White LOVE LOVE LOVE Matthew Hussey!
Mary Murphy me too lol!
OMG I love Matthew Hussey too! These vids are excellent too
and sexy confidence! aka matt ledolce
It's important to stay high value and not make your life all about the relationship. I have a best friend who changed relationships every 2 months because her only focus in life is to be in a relationship. She never improves herself and doesn't even have hobbies.
Gonna suck a bag of ass after 40, lol
I am learning to communicate better. I never spoke up for what I wanted or needed. The book Non-violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg has been very helpful. I raised an issue that bothered me. Rather than coming off any or judgemental, I asked as a favor. He received it well. I also made a point to tell him that I really appreciated that he takes the time to listen to me. I was pleased with myself for how I communicated my needs.
Appreciate him in every possible way... You guys are amazing! Thank you so much
That's right! And him to you. Thanks Madhuch.
I've been watching your channel, and I pick up a lot.... but hope you make a video about relationships through long distance... thanks and more power to your channel 😊
God bless
I love to see you together!!!!! what a great surprise, definitely a treat for us viewers. I have watched your videos for a long time and both of you have given me great pieces of advise. Today, I enjoy a long term relationship. Thank you both.
Thanks Silvia - am super glad that you liked it. Was great working with Mat!
Men work really hard to take care of us. 'I appreciate you ' is the least we can do. Thanks for the reminder
Sorry, but I think it depends on the guy. This approach won’t get you a guy to chase you unless that guy wants to chase you
They're talking about when you're already in the relationship. How to keep it going once you're already in it. So ideally, he would still be wanting to chase you.
Girl, he has to want you first 🙄🥴😂
Exactly
I'm so happy my two favorite guys made a video together! It's exactly true what you said, I feel the rest do not give emotionally healthy advice. You guys have both always given great life advice whether I use it towards relationships or not. It's still applicable and useful to me as an individual and I wanted you both to know I've always appreciated it
I was married for 25 years and did all of this naturally without being told. Proud of myself for giving my husband those great years. He passed away 4 1/2 years ago and I don’t think I could ever feel that love again. I’m not willing to settle just to not be alone. Wish there were videos
I just saved this video..literally been waiting a lifetime for someone to make this video!!
I'm happiest when I come back from holiday. I stress before hand. And most people who do the preparation for the family know before going is the most stressful time. Same with Christmas.
According to this; I was right all along. It is like training a dog. 🤷♀️ I already have a wonderful dog, thanks.
Hahahaaa.still it’s a dog
Exactly what I get from this video 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Christine-hn5cd I am gay. 😊 I love animals, I live for dogs, they make me very happy. Thank you for taking the time to perhaps elevate me in my path towards higher consciousness. Not all of us need the same things for happyiness. And there is more than 1 way to be in a happy and healthy relationship. I am starting with myself, and self love. Emotional fullfillment, for me, comes from within. I wouldnt expect it from a partner. 🙏
@@Christine-hn5cd your response was actually volatile and Ines wasn't. I see projection of your own issues in your life being expressed and dumped out in an angry way. I recommend focusing on your own healing and not lashing out on people you don't know who aren't even directly doing anything to hurt you. Critism is pretty volatile. Be careful because we attract more of the energy we give off. People are entitled to how they feel and we all have different experiences in life and see things differently. I know for myself and all my female friends we have all been used and hurt by men all our lives. Men are not easy to deal with. If they were, nobody would need coaching! I'm looking to create healthy friendships and relationships with men and women. Look at how you approach someone, if you are mean and critical, people won't always receive or respond the way you want. Think about that.
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First off; hello. so I am basically very young {under 20} so relationships, being dumped unfortunately or fortunately I have never experienced, [I live in a structured culture that pushes the teens to mature and study before those kind of things I hope you get the jist ] was I negative in this post definitely but was my argument wrong no. Whether gay or straight nobody should condemn others for their needs and wants and debased them to that of an animal. How would you feel if the things you want in life financial or romantic and means of getting to it were deamed meaningless like say compared to a warthog? I will remove this post however because you have just reminded me why there are always bullies; nobody wants to tell them that their wrong and somehow the kid defending the bully is somehow problematic thank you for teaching me this it will save me later when I grow up and venture out of home
Everything you said is totally true, just because men gotta be strong on the outside still doesn’t mean the things we like to hear, they also don’t and wouldn’t love to hear. I always say raise each other up support one another be there for each other always make sure u appreciate your man because if u don’t someone else will
I send him a small text at work, telling him that I'm desiring him and what type of sexual experience I'm planning for us tonight!👍we've been married 15yrs and 8 children😄
@Another Day In Space 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣☠🤣🤣
This is awesome, I do this too lol
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Affection, appreciation and admiration.
Waaaaaw following n loving both of you what a sweet surprise
Thanks so much Rabab - glad you liked it!!
love you guys. great advises. now i see i was with the wrong man. he stopped me from Admiring him all together. he said he didn't need a cheer leader and believe me i am a very diplomatic person. so sad. i know the right man is out there for me somewhere when i am completely ready. and only then.
we met at a horse stable-I loved horses and farms-he could do EVERYTHING farm/horse related-he was my absolute hero-we married and he would build fences barns,sheds,remodel our home-and I adored him for it and made my parents come out to see all he did every time he finished a project When we got one place done we sold it for a big profit and started over.He had to be challenged or he lost interest.He could run heavy equipment-drive huge trucks-I truly admired everything he did-he was totally on a pedestal to me-he was a master in the bedroom and I made sure he knew he was my hero there too-he knew he was my dream man in every way-our desire never faltered-we were soul mates til death parted us.He had some flaws but I accepted him through it all. How do you live with half of a heart?
I am Soo So very sorry for that deep loss. Do you talk to him & leave space for response?
i, too, have lost the love of my life after an accident. 42 years of marriage. an old friend is helping me live again, but i still miss my dear husband hugely, painfully at times, and will until the day I leave here. even if I get to love big again. and i hope i do.
Fantastic, no manipulation, genuine healthy, respectful advice 👌🏻💯 well done guys.
You guys are awesome! And totally dropping some gems ... married for 23 years! And I truly believe that it’s because I’ve applied many of the things you guys are mentioning! Make a man feel in a way he loves and he will crave you always! What you guys are saying is so spot on! I grew up in a household in which my father was constantly put down & stripped of his manhood. I promised to never do that! And here we are! He is the best provider to our family, protector, and partner ... and I make sure to tell him! Is it perfect 100% no! We have our issues, arguments . But those are few in between. Great great awesome content! Love it! Keep up the great work! New sub to both accounts! xo
yes the 3 As and care for yourself too that is paramount like Mathew Boggs!
Mark, thank you for this advice. one thing i am most proud of is that i am open to always learning. We have been married for 20 wonderful years. i am serving my purpose and as i continue to grow and develop, i include developing as a wife. Too many women are finding their purpose and leaving their husbands. My marriage and having a happy husband is included in my purpose. I appreciate my husband, however i will truly step it up with the Triple A payoff. Thank you
I used to watch his channel ...but after I got busy with school I never watched any of his video...but am but on truck you both have amazing relationship advice thanks alot...you both God sent👌
Your analysis of relationship dynamics....so amazing & helpful....guiding women into heartfelt, genuine responses in self care, plus attracting & loving our man. Thank you! I'm absolutely implementing all of this. I anticipate a more mindful, solid, soulful relationship. I have SO much more confidence & insight.
I think it's also very important to encourage my man in pursuing how he wants to provide for me his woman, and for us as individuals. While all the while I'm dotting on him, appreciating him, helping him feel empowered, sharing me as to who I am, and doing my part in what we need to do, to make our dreams come true... As you can see I could go on & on Lol💖
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Two handsome coaches giving some awesome advices. Thanks for being for us. 😍😍
It is when you are naturally honest but also tactful about what you say or do. ❤️