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I was widowed 2 years ago after a 52 year marriage. I put makeup on every day, wear a fragrance and even bought myself a blonde wig to make myself feel sexy. I am no spring chicken, age 76, but it has helped my self esteem immensely even if I am just staying home. My husband always liked to see me look sexy. Women do it for yourself-it works wonders.
To be authentic we must do it for ourselves for our benefit , I always make some effort even when casually dressed ( which is most of the time as a busy mother ) , I’m a strong personality but I like to look feminine and always wear scent , even to bed on my own !
Peggy Micsky I appreciate your comments Peggy but it isn’t in me to look for someone else. My husband and I only dated each other so I really have no interest in seeking someone else. I live with my 2 grown daughters in the apartment I shared with my husband so I feel this is the way God had intended for me to live till I meet my Lord.
Keeping my skin and hair soft and fragrant. Men often say " you are so soft" to which I reply , while rubbing his back or biceps, ' And you are not soft at all". It really works to not be afraid to play up the differences between male and female.
Building your own self esteem and self worth that you can let go of your past , release anger, forgive yourself & those who have hurt you in the past & live stress free having healed yourself & previous relationships by self work books such as Louise Hay “mirror work “ & “you can heal your life “ - and learn to be positive about yourself & life as when you learn to love you & believe lovely positive things can happen to you and you are clear about what you want & that you deserve them as your birth right - you are of open heart and not scared of a healthy loving and passionate , sexy relationship that your energy aura will naturally give off the right signals and the law of attraction will operate to attract a person just right for you - 💖🏹
I took a dancing in heels class to connect with my feminine energy and it was so good for my self-esteem. I started wearing essential oils that affect the mood such as ylang-ylang, rose and neroli, lathered on after a shower and it immediately boosted my energy, making me feel irresistible. I started telling myself everyday that I'm beautiful, attractive and a great woman. I found my own hobbies and interests and lived life from a place of fun. My sexual energy increased dramatically to the point that I can tune in to it whenever I feel like it.
What oils do you use? Its this an essential oils that comes in this 10 ml Brown Bottles or do you use some mists? I am not that into perfums, but its hard to find nice smelling essential oils as they mostku smell like chemicals.... And if i can advice-try monoi flower scent. I have only oil which is not easy and convenient to use but I would buy this scent for ever price. Extremely feminine and men looo vvvveee it
I feel sexy after i have a great workout, jumping in the shower having the warm water hit my body .. knowing im getting steps closer to my goal also helps me feel 10x more confident.
I just be myself and laugh. I am madly in love and the says he feels the same for me. I just wanna be happy again. I lost my husband 3 years ago to cancer. I am 66 and want a man to I love me for who I am. I am very loving and want to make him happy.
Can you make a video about how to NOT attract men who put you in the "sex zone"? Because honestly the sexzone is a much bigger problem than friendzone for women.
You can only end up in sex zone if you want to, and i mean its also not bad if thats also just what you want from that guy. If he's not taking you serious, quit
Anytime I wanna feel more feminine I listen to arabic or turkish music or andalucian gypsy music that connects to my soul and start dancing. Nothing helps me feel more sexy than that.
I totally agree with you, it makes you feel magical, sexy , needing to move rhythmically & sexily like no other music ... when in Marrakech I bought a lot of this music and went to amazing venues and restaurants to watch belly dancers... gypsy music has the same effect but I have a little Spanish in me... I find the song Desert Rose by Sting feat. Chub Miami unbelievably stirring , I feel so feminine dancing to it...
Dream big Always is it weird / cultural appropriation that I do this even though I am not Turkish or Spanish? I mostly listen to Baltic Gypsy music, because that is where my family is from. However, it’s not authentic Gypsy music, from what I understand, if it is Baltic.
Mara M no I don’t think but I studied science and our genes/ dna make us susceptible to certain tastes and preferences totally subconsciously, so possible could be something in it! Regardless though do whatever you enjoy that gives you pleasure...that’s the essence of a happy life
Johanna Charpentier It can but it’s far less critical with friends. For example I don’t envision my life with children. Plenty of my friends have a fundamentally different vision for their life, that doesn’t stop us being friends but it’s pretty important when it comes to choosing a partner.
“A man is always in sexual pursuit.”🤣🤣🤣 Confidence goes a long way! It doesn’t matter what you look like. As long as you feel and believe you’re beautiful, so will everyone else
All those things heels, lingerie, dance classes etc are fine and dandy but very superficial in the end. If you want to feel good about your body hit the gym seriously. It will have a much deeper and long lasting effect, you will be proud of what your body is able to pull off. At that time the heels will be the cherry on top.
Bakerygo I did the gym part only for a few years until a guy told me how good I'm looking naked and that he never would've guessed it cause I was poorly dressed. So clothes and make-up do matter
You don’t need a gym for a good body & a good body does not make you sexy or attractive.. dancing touches part of the soul , I have done all exercise since I was 4 and dance , ballet and Pilates were without the best , I am also very strong for a woman... there is nothing superficial about embracing your femininity, particularly if you are an independent , strong woman... it’s about doing for yourself that matters not just for a man/ men or to compete with women ... who cares about that. A man’s or anyone’s opinion of my body doesn’t matter and our bodies can be sexy in all forms... the biggest thing you can proud your body has achieved is giving birth... now that’s hard!
I started lifting weights and doing exercises to improve my posture....the last man, after about 12 months friend-zoned me & broke my heart. I know what I didn't do---Mat is right!! I'm making changes so the next time will end differently :) xoxo
It isn’t about ‘feeling good about your body‘, it’s about exuding an aura of sexual energy. The physique is the outer layer; the sexual energy radiates out. Going to the gym and getting the physique you desire only matters if that is what ignites or turns up your intangible sexual energy. Heels, lips stick, music etc whatever it takes are tools that transform a woman’s thoughts about herself and for herself, into intangible sexual energy that can be felt, sensed by others. I am often told that I am sexy (even strangers say so). I am 57 and without even trying, I am perceived as ‘sexy’.
I found my soul mate 2 months ago...we are both older. We are currently doing the long distance relationship because of family commitments. We are so in tune with each other it's an incredible feeling. Never in my life has any other relationship been like this. As I sit in the airport waiting for a connecting flight to him, I am thankful of everything we've achieved so far.
What really “moves the needle for me” to make myself feel sexy is doing my hair and putting makeup on. Even if I don’t go anywhere, knowing my hair and makeup is slayed will always make me feel sexier.
For me it helps to dress in a way that makes me feel good. I also put some make up on and smile all the time... but most importantly I'm being authentic and trust that I can figure things out. 😊
Thank you Mat!!! I am in a beautiful 10 month relationship. He is a Widower of over 3 years and I was divorced over 35 years ago. Neither one of us has been in a close relationship since. We are waiting to have sex until after we are married. We are both around 70. Neither of us have EVER been in a relationship like what we are experiencing. We are both highly sexual people so needless to say we are both excited and anxious about our honeymoon. We have spent the last 10 months getting to know each other -- the good and the "bad". It's really quite amazing how much you can truly get to know someone when SEX is temporarily off the table so to speak...
About your question at the end: I tell the guys very honestly and direct almost without filter (in an assertive way obviously) what I really want, expect and hope from “a guy” or a “relationship” right now in my life. Notice I don’t make it about “him” in particular but “a guy” in general. I say this right away at the beginning of my interaction with any guy, even in the very first date. In my experience, this works to filter guys who are just looking for a casual thing to those that perhaps are more into something more long-term. It saves me time and emotional investment. And so far, it’s funny cuz I’ve met guys at the beginning of this year who literally wanted to play me and I applied this technique and they went ghosts, but, this helped me to later on “move on” extremely quickly and find other men who were highly valuable and way more more interesting. So in my opinion, what works best is to first: know exactly what you want right now whether is just sth casual, only sexual, or long term relationship and express that clearly, honestly and assertively, and you’ll be surprised how quickly you’ll scare away the less interested guys. What do you think Matt??
Lesly Castro I couldn't do that. Probably the guys that keep in touch w you are kind, but at the end of the day maybe they think that you're desperate for a formal relationship. Just conect with yourself you will feel who's honest for be selective. Let it flow.
Ilse Sideral hahahah precisely because I’ve connected well with myself I am able to do this, if I’m not confident enough to know what I want and don’t want from a relationship wether formal or not, I would t be able to communicate that. I couldn’t care less what a guy thinks about my “instant direct honesty” cuz if someone thinks that knowing what I want and speak my mind and heart freely means I’m “desperate “, oh well, let them think I’m desperate. Whatever third parties think of me at first glance without giving me the opportunity to really show them who I really am, seems to me judgmental and pretty superficial. That’s precisely why I do it, cuz, I do not want to waste my time and energy on people that judges the cover without really reading the book. Thx for your comment though. Have a good day!
As a woman with middle eastern roots, unwanted body hair is a big issue. There is a lot of it, it grows back fast and its very time consuming to remove it all. For that reason I usually only make the effort if I know I have a date or speciall occasion coming up. But nothing makes me feel more unfeminine (& unsexy) than all that hair if left to grow. So I find that if I keep on top of it every week I can feel confident and beautiful always 😊 And when I was rejected by a man I had a massive crush on last winter, I started dance classes in salsa. Latin beats, swaying my hips and in the arms of different dance partners all gave me my confidence back 😊 Come the following summer I started dating again, and I felt very appreciated 😊 The third man I dated turned out serious and we have been dating for 5 months now 😊 I keep dancing and on top of my unwanted hairs 😁 And feel the best with my new fella 😉🔥
Hair is natural, and healthy. Every time a person shaves, they put their body in shock. Body hair is not unfeminine. It's just an insecurity that a lot of women have because they've been programmed to think that way.
Having spent years working as a woman in a very predominantly male career, I learnt an awful lot about what men think. The biggest thing that puts a woman in the friend zone? Being overweight. Second biggest reason? Being unfeminine and being "one of the guys". I know of one lady who was eighty pounds overweight and had so many guy friends it wasn't true. When she lost the weight for health reasons, they all asked her out on a date.
I've noticed (after years of research😁) that when I'm actively trying to attract a man, it seems to have opposite effect. When I don't try at all, no makeup, hair in ponytail etc, they flock like bear to salmon 😂😂 what's up with that? Confusing but whatever works, thanks for great video!
I think men really don't want to be impressed. They want you to be your best self for yourself and that is sexy as hell. Caring about yourself = sexy + not caring about what they think. I would even say that's what he is saying. That a woman that is relaxed, feels good about herself, shows it, and isn't afraid to show sexual energy (feeling sexy about herself, not directed towards a man necessarily) is just considered hot
The big change in me that has helped me embrace my sexual energy was deciding that I was perfect as I am. The knowledge that we are, and are meant to be diverse has led me to see myself as enough. I chose to stop criticising myself, to take responsibility for the way I felt in the past and truly forgive myself for hurting me. Once I had done this loving myself for who I am and what I look like has been a natural consequence. It is easier than ever before to be confident and open. I am dating at the moment and discovering that I am connecting with men far easier than ever before. I believe this is because they are experiencing my self love, openness and sexuality through my energy. I am often complimented on my refreshing outlook and I am being told how easy I am to be around. Knowing I am perfect as I am has made me feel sexier than ever before and the more I feel this way the more I have become attractive to others.
Lacy lingerie everyday underneath those clothes - at work and at home, good fitting work clothes and a good pair of leather boots. Shave every other day. The last is to smile radiantly.
ahh, yes...the smile!! I get comments from men often about my smile :) :) :) xo----but I need to work on feeling sexy about myself--2020 Goal!! And y'all have given me a huge boost! THANK YOU!
When you look good, you will feel good! Work out, watch the diet and be sexy. You will get attention from men of all ages! Even in your forties. True story.
It feels like We are responsible for looking good ,healthy and strong,smiling and less ego ,intelligence, connection skills and loyalty for our love ...these qualities make us more attractive and lead to a true union with someone ...
The things which dial up my feminine energy are 1 wearing dresses even without occasion at home, wear some attractive lipstick and make cool hair, 2 dance oriental dance, make hip and shoulder movements, streaching 3 self-care - do facial and care masks, use cremes 4 fragrances - one of the most important elements 5 earings, braclets et al. 6 singing, playing music 7 speaking with my boyfriend, smiling.
What gives me the sexual aura to be generated is to have a shower, feeling fresh and ready to wear good clothes, which oozes my confidence and topped off with wearing my favourite perfume. The perfume is the most important bit xxx
when I'm in a relationship that goes well, I feel calm, desired and happy. So when my significant other becomes distant, I must create these feelings to myself to make me irresistible to him.. So far I've focused too much on being desirable and sexy, less so on my happiness and calmness. When my sexy looks are going unnoticed, I feel miserable and in a nagging mood.. And my schedule is usually loaded with stuff, which make me unable to relax, perpetually anxious. So I need to dress for myself, not to try to cause a reaction to my SO, and to make a better program, so that I'm more relaxed on dates, not arrive late. Do things that make me happy, and assign chores to others, not take up more than I can handle
Look up Marisa Peer 'I am enough' Feeling like you are trying to become your best Self can come from external veneers such as clothing etc, but believing you are ALREADY your best Self (no changes needed) comes from within
Ladies......truly love yourself and don't put your focus on finding a man or having sex. Enjoy your best life being a complete person. Then, another complete person will love your energy and be drawn to you. Have a blessed day 🙏
Hey Mat - love your videos! I’ve just got to say kudos on not posting misogynistic rubbish that would lead women astray into harmful behaviors and thought patterns. You come from a wholesome place in all of your content, and I just want to say thank you for loving/respecting/valuing women enough to provide them with non-damaging ways to get what they want romantically. Keep it up!
I also started exercising to tone my body back up , wearing nice clothes even at home that aren’t frumpy, frumpy is out. Just a little makeup but more importantly skin care. I’m going to at a later point get to a gym to intensify the weight work out that will help in meeting people with similar goals. I’ve also love to dance but don’t do night clubs that will help in both socially and self rewarding. Great video Matt, if you feel good and have a better attitude it will all fall into place but if you allow all these walls to get in your way stuck in your rut is where you will stay.
Its 11:11 and I just finished watching this video. With this new relationship, I am finding that I AM able to turn my sexuality up and down as needed and am able to hold my boundaries without having to be rude about it. I wait for his move, step in, respond (not react), step back and let him process.... It seems to work for me.
Sleeping naked really helps. And generally having very little clothes on when I'm at home..Also not wearing panties both at home and occasionally really unlocks feminine energy😉 Ladies, have you tried dancing while looking in the mirror? My man loves to see that, so I had to learn.. And it was actually even more beneficial for me because I feel so much more attractive now ..He's just eating me up with his eyes whenever I do that😉 Also, one Matt's video really helped me. It was the one where he says that women should use/move more their hips, because sometimes the energy is totally blocked "there"
interesting topic, luckily never been friend-zoned so guess I must do thing right? :) I don't have that much fancy clothes, but I love myself, love the way I look and the way I smile, feel good and positive about life in general. Keep a good shape, have lots hobbies and happy with my single life. Wearing sexy dress and makeup always help, but feeling confident, attractive and desirable inside are more important.
I agree pretty much with your definition. It's different when it's going on long distance. We spice things up with discussing sex and making plans to visit. He accepts me how I am physically and vice versa. We are very open in discussing any topic even sex with out feeling embarrassed or judged. Definitely not in friend zone with him any more.
The single BIGGEST mistake men make is believing that women are "not as sexual" as they are. Everyone has the same end goal. It's the "getting there" that is in need of attention.
When I am getting ready to go out on a date or with my friends as I am doing my hair and makeup I listen to music -my favorite is " man I feel like a women" Thanks
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I noticed after a long time being in a bad relationship, and my self confidence deteriorated, that I actually felt more comfortable walking with bad posture. My hips didn't sway, I walked weird and unconfident. If I stood up straight with my head high and my back straight, I would feel as though i was sticking my butt and breasts out, and that people would look at me more or assume im trying to get attention. I actually have forced my self now to start walking with a sexiness, my back straight, and a sway to my hips. I find i look more beautiful doing this as well. I feel more confident, and walk better. Its not bad attention I get.
Outside of keeping up with health and outward appearance, confidence is super sexy and being positive attracted men to me. Walk with your head high and dress to feel sexy. Attitude changes everything.
This is funny because it goes both ways...I’ve been on dates with men as well sometimes where I can’t feel any sexual energy (and of course, it’s a turn off). Some men just radiate tons of sexual energy, just as some women do!
I would put on some music that makes me want to dance while I'm getting ready to go out on a date with him; I would make my makeup look extra special; I would wear colors that would accentuate my eyes & hair along with an outfit that is stunningly beautiful; If I had enough time, I would probably do a dance to get my energy flowing and have a great smile when I answer the door and expect to have a great time !
Thanks for the continuous quality messaging. When I listened to this video and you mentioned spiritual connection as a one solution I immediately thought of the Goddess energy that has been suppressed in women for soooo long. It’s the confidence in female energy that I feel like needs to the be uplifted again. Connection to the divine power of the feminine not the cheapened version of the feminine.
Whenever I go to the nude beach here in South Florida it makes me feel great. This is because I see all shapes and sizes and they have so much confidence that it rubs of on me. ☺️
I completely understand the "not trusting myself" feeling. I want to dial it down without scaring him off or making him feel rejected or uncomfortable. Help!
Dancing really helps me feel so sexy and sensual. Even me thinking of dancing and how I can see others checking me out while I do so lol. I remember compliments people have told me while on the dance floor so when I wanna activate feeling sexy I’ll put on songs that remind me of that. Oh and I try walking a little more upright with my head up a little more with like a little smirk on my face 😊
When I'm going on a first date I'll dress in something that flatters my figure, as well as a nice pair of shoes, possibly heels (depending on the type of date). I make sure my hair and make-up looks good. If I'm attracted to a man I'll smile and flirt a little bit. I'll be polite and gracious. I'll ask him questions and see how interesting he is, and engage in some conversation that requires a some depth of mind. Most of all, I'm going to make sure I'm having fun.
What makes me sexy is just loving my Self in all aspects , be genuine and always smile If you love your self first , every puzzle comes together in its place. A woman that have confidence on herself will have a beautiful genuine smile always in her face to share with others, you never know who will fall for that smile 😀♥️and most of all .... a smile doesn’t costs🤷♀️it’s complete free .... so girls be confident about yourself first , love you self and. Be yourself... don’t try to be someone you are not to try to impress, believe me boys knows
I am a single mother with two beautiful children. I do and teach yoga. I meditate. Listen to soulful and sexy beats and dance to it, however i want. I apply pure essential oils on my body to keep my skin moist and it makes me feel saucy, sexy, and confident. Being a pescatarian has also made my skin glow, and everywhere i go, i just know i am beautiful. I just know.
I dated a guy who I'd been friends with for nearly a decade. We were inseparable and had the most fun dates and fantastic sex. We lived an hour and a half away.. Then I went on a road trip for 3 weeks and missed him terribly. Came back and something was off.. While I was gone he started dating someone at work. We were together a few more weeks and he dropped the "let's just be friends" line a few weeks before our 1 year anniversary. A few weeks later I found out from his daughter about the new woman. He tried gaslighting me, his family, my family and all our friends by insisting we were never in a relationship and were just "really good friends". So what's up with that?
@zumzy u ... It's not that. He was deported and is in Mexico. He's become somewhat depressed about trying to come back home and doesn't want to talk much. But he and I need more communication to work together on getting him home.
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I was widowed 2 years ago after a 52 year marriage. I put makeup on every day, wear a fragrance and even bought myself a blonde wig to make myself feel sexy. I am no spring chicken, age 76, but it has helped my self esteem immensely even if I am just staying home. My husband always liked to see me look sexy. Women do it for yourself-it works wonders.
You are amazing Marcia!! Sorry for your loss. Your attitude is absolutely admirable. Your husband is really proud of you up there!
@zumzy u stop
Waow thnx
To be authentic we must do it for ourselves for our benefit , I always make some effort even when casually dressed ( which is most of the time as a busy mother ) , I’m a strong personality but I like to look feminine and always wear scent , even to bed on my own !
Peggy Micsky I appreciate your comments Peggy but it isn’t in me to look for someone else. My husband and I only dated each other so I really have no interest in seeking someone else. I live with my 2 grown daughters in the apartment I shared with my husband so I feel this is the way God had intended for me to live till I meet my Lord.
Keeping my skin and hair soft and fragrant. Men often say " you are so soft" to which I reply , while rubbing his back or biceps, ' And you are not soft at all". It really works to not be afraid to play up the differences between male and female.
appreciate and groom the differences
oh I'm going to steal that line ;) my guy will love it
haha outrageously effective
I feel sexier when I'm working out, shaved and my hair looks right.
Crystal V me too. I feel powerful that way.
Exactly the same! :)
Me too!
You're talkin about legs and armpits or something else??
Building your own self esteem and self worth that you can let go of your past , release anger, forgive yourself & those who have hurt you in the past & live stress free having healed yourself & previous relationships by self work books such as Louise Hay “mirror work “ & “you can heal your life “ - and learn to be positive about yourself & life as when you learn to love you & believe lovely positive things can happen to you and you are clear about what you want & that you deserve them as your birth right - you are of open heart and not scared of a healthy loving and passionate , sexy relationship that your energy aura will naturally give off the right signals and the law of attraction will operate to attract a person just right for you - 💖🏹
I took a dancing in heels class to connect with my feminine energy and it was so good for my self-esteem. I started wearing essential oils that affect the mood such as ylang-ylang, rose and neroli, lathered on after a shower and it immediately boosted my energy, making me feel irresistible. I started telling myself everyday that I'm beautiful, attractive and a great woman. I found my own hobbies and interests and lived life from a place of fun. My sexual energy increased dramatically to the point that I can tune in to it whenever I feel like it.
Wow! U could actually be the teacher!! Way to go! ...but where can u take a dancing in heels 👠 class? I've never heard of that!
What oils do you use? Its this an essential oils that comes in this 10 ml Brown Bottles or do you use some mists? I am not that into perfums, but its hard to find nice smelling essential oils as they mostku smell like chemicals.... And if i can advice-try monoi flower scent. I have only oil which is not easy and convenient to use but I would buy this scent for ever price. Extremely feminine and men looo vvvveee it
Smart woman! Thanks for the ideas as well.
Thank you for this!
Thank you for sharing
I feel sexy after i have a great workout, jumping in the shower having the warm water hit my body .. knowing im getting steps closer to my goal also helps me feel 10x more confident.
Sports is the best way to feel good about yourself!
I can relate myself to this 👍🌈
Yes
Yes. I feel tuned in and connected to myself then.
I agree!
Self love and self care are essential.
Cats are best.
cpht2000, you got a lovely smile
Working out and taking time to prepare my physical appearance makes me feel so confident and radiates by feminine energy.
I just be myself and laugh. I am madly in love and the says he feels the same for me. I just wanna be happy again. I lost my husband 3 years ago to cancer. I am 66 and want a man to I love me for who I am. I am very loving and want to make him happy.
EXACTLY.SELF CONFIDENCE.WHEN YOU SEE GOOD RESULTS AND FEEL YOURSELF BEAUTIFUL.LOVE YOURSELF.NEED TO BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF FIRST.
Kristel Walton,your lovely smile can make the news!
Be yourself...smile...be happy...be funny...dont be what your not...😊
True💖
When you look like this you have to think like that to survive
Can you make a video about how to NOT attract men who put you in the "sex zone"? Because honestly the sexzone is a much bigger problem than friendzone for women.
yes so true m always put into that zone if even i m not into sex at all
make boundry , teach him how to act with u... 😊 its easy
You can only end up in sex zone if you want to, and i mean its also not bad if thats also just what you want from that guy. If he's not taking you serious, quit
Exactly!
Youth Empowerment what are you 19? Evidently you haven’t dated much if you can simplify it like that.
Anytime I wanna feel more feminine I listen to arabic or turkish music or andalucian gypsy music that connects to my soul and start dancing. Nothing helps me feel more sexy than that.
Eva Komaromy OMG! I thought I was weird for doing this!! I do this all the time!! It makes me feel timeless or connected to my feminine more!
I totally agree with you, it makes you feel magical, sexy , needing to move rhythmically & sexily like no other music ... when in Marrakech I bought a lot of this music and went to amazing venues and restaurants to watch belly dancers... gypsy music has the same effect but I have a little Spanish in me... I find the song Desert Rose by Sting feat. Chub Miami unbelievably stirring , I feel so feminine dancing to it...
Dream big Always is it weird / cultural appropriation that I do this even though I am not Turkish or Spanish? I mostly listen to Baltic Gypsy music, because that is where my family is from. However, it’s not authentic Gypsy music, from what I understand, if it is Baltic.
Mara M I am arab and I don’t think that listening to a type of music is cultural appropriation at aaaall. Enjoy it!
Mara M no I don’t think but I studied science and our genes/ dna make us susceptible to certain tastes and preferences totally subconsciously, so possible could be something in it! Regardless though do whatever you enjoy that gives you pleasure...that’s the essence of a happy life
Being genuinely natural, accepting imperfections of my body and dressing up accordingly.
I would not say sex is the only big difference between friendship vs relationship. There is also compatible life visions.
So true!!
@@The5ftgoddess bullshit!
That kinda goes in friendship too. My closest friends we have common visions, passions, goals in life. That's why we're friends...
Johanna Charpentier It can but it’s far less critical with friends. For example I don’t envision my life with children. Plenty of my friends have a fundamentally different vision for their life, that doesn’t stop us being friends but it’s pretty important when it comes to choosing a partner.
Yes.
“A man is always in sexual pursuit.”🤣🤣🤣
Confidence goes a long way! It doesn’t matter what you look like. As long as you feel and believe you’re beautiful, so will everyone else
Soooo true!
Totally agree, men love confidence and someone who's fun to be with.
you rock
@Jeffrey Bone yep, set the date 👍
@Jeffrey Bone 😜
My three most important needs in a relationship are to feel desired, respected and amused
Ursula Muller,hope you are with a good man!
I wear red that compliments my dark skin. I also wear heels when I go out. I also show that I can have fun by myself.
Love yourself, confidence, independence.
Love is not about sex,going on fancy dates,or showing off.
it's about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can😊😊
#justsaying😜😅
@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz hello🙂
All those things heels, lingerie, dance classes etc are fine and dandy but very superficial in the end. If you want to feel good about your body hit the gym seriously. It will have a much deeper and long lasting effect, you will be proud of what your body is able to pull off. At that time the heels will be the cherry on top.
Bakerygo I did the gym part only for a few years until a guy told me how good I'm looking naked and that he never would've guessed it cause I was poorly dressed.
So clothes and make-up do matter
Agreed
You don’t need a gym for a good body & a good body does not make you sexy or attractive.. dancing touches part of the soul , I have done all exercise since I was 4 and dance , ballet and Pilates were without the best , I am also very strong for a woman... there is nothing superficial about embracing your femininity, particularly if you are an independent , strong woman... it’s about doing for yourself that matters not just for a man/ men or to compete with women ... who cares about that. A man’s or anyone’s opinion of my body doesn’t matter and our bodies can be sexy in all forms... the biggest thing you can proud your body has achieved is giving birth... now that’s hard!
I started lifting weights and doing exercises to improve my posture....the last man, after about 12 months friend-zoned me & broke my heart. I know what I didn't do---Mat is right!! I'm making changes so the next time will end differently :) xoxo
It isn’t about ‘feeling good about your body‘, it’s about exuding an aura of sexual energy. The physique is the outer layer; the sexual energy radiates out. Going to the gym and getting the physique you desire only matters if that is what ignites or turns up your intangible sexual energy. Heels, lips stick, music etc whatever it takes are tools that transform a woman’s thoughts about herself and for herself, into intangible sexual energy that can be felt, sensed by others.
I am often told that I am sexy (even strangers say so). I am 57 and without even trying, I am perceived as ‘sexy’.
I found my soul mate 2 months ago...we are both older.
We are currently doing the long distance relationship because of family commitments.
We are so in tune with each other it's an incredible feeling.
Never in my life has any other relationship been like this.
As I sit in the airport waiting for a connecting flight to him, I am thankful of everything we've achieved so far.
Just wondering how is ldr works?? Looks like i am getting there too.. hope it will work.
What really “moves the needle for me” to make myself feel sexy is doing my hair and putting makeup on. Even if I don’t go anywhere, knowing my hair and makeup is slayed will always make me feel sexier.
I love to walk the streets with a straight posture, thinking that there are people who are watching me. Makes me feel confident and so sexy
Hi Masami,
I so absolutely the same!
From Paris in Oz x
For me it helps to dress in a way that makes me feel good. I also put some make up on and smile all the time... but most importantly I'm being authentic and trust that I can figure things out. 😊
Is it just me or is this man aging like fine wine. Goddamn
It's got damn. Don't take the Lord's Name N Vain, sweetie. I guess Only Black People says Got
Thanks hun got damn
I think it’s just you lol
Alice odonkor I thought the same lol
it's the beard
There is two things that make me feel sexy, when I look my best and when I get really involved in a hobby that I am passionate about
Thank you Mat!!!
I am in a beautiful 10 month relationship. He is a Widower of over 3 years and I was divorced over 35 years ago. Neither one of us has been in a close relationship since.
We are waiting to have sex until after we are married. We are both around 70. Neither of us have EVER been in a relationship like what we are experiencing. We are both highly sexual people so needless to say we are both excited and anxious about our honeymoon.
We have spent the last 10 months getting to know each other -- the good and the "bad".
It's really quite amazing how much you can truly get to know someone when SEX is temporarily off the table so to speak...
Only 10 months? I say go 2 years. Wait that long to see the mask wear off. See if you will get the same person. It's worth waiting for.
May you be blessed with a beautiful marriage! It's so wonderful to find love as you both have. ❤️
About your question at the end: I tell the guys very honestly and direct almost without filter (in an assertive way obviously) what I really want, expect and hope from “a guy” or a “relationship” right now in my life. Notice I don’t make it about “him” in particular but “a guy” in general. I say this right away at the beginning of my interaction with any guy, even in the very first date. In my experience, this works to filter guys who are just looking for a casual thing to those that perhaps are more into something more long-term. It saves me time and emotional investment. And so far, it’s funny cuz I’ve met guys at the beginning of this year who literally wanted to play me and I applied this technique and they went ghosts, but, this helped me to later on “move on” extremely quickly and find other men who were highly valuable and way more more interesting. So in my opinion, what works best is to first: know exactly what you want right now whether is just sth casual, only sexual, or long term relationship and express that clearly, honestly and assertively, and you’ll be surprised how quickly you’ll scare away the less interested guys. What do you think Matt??
Right on point. Watch SheRaSeven1 on UA-cam. You'll thank me later. ❤️
It may kill the mystery and the charm of the relation as well , but it is also honest and courageous of you .
@@alexiakazanova7685 Totally. I did this and the man who agree to everything I said I wanted turns me off instantly. No challenge for me.
Lesly Castro I couldn't do that. Probably the guys that keep in touch w you are kind, but at the end of the day maybe they think that you're desperate for a formal relationship. Just conect with yourself you will feel who's honest for be selective. Let it flow.
Ilse Sideral hahahah precisely because I’ve connected well with myself I am able to do this, if I’m not confident enough to know what I want and don’t want from a relationship wether formal or not, I would t be able to communicate that. I couldn’t care less what a guy thinks about my “instant direct honesty” cuz if someone thinks that knowing what I want and speak my mind and heart freely means I’m “desperate “, oh well, let them think I’m desperate. Whatever third parties think of me at first glance without giving me the opportunity to really show them who I really am, seems to me judgmental and pretty superficial. That’s precisely why I do it, cuz, I do not want to waste my time and energy on people that judges the cover without really reading the book. Thx for your comment though. Have a good day!
Never tire of your videos Mat, they are always so informative and useful. Never stop your good work xx
As a woman with middle eastern roots, unwanted body hair is a big issue. There is a lot of it, it grows back fast and its very time consuming to remove it all. For that reason I usually only make the effort if I know I have a date or speciall occasion coming up. But nothing makes me feel more unfeminine (& unsexy) than all that hair if left to grow. So I find that if I keep on top of it every week I can feel confident and beautiful always 😊 And when I was rejected by a man I had a massive crush on last winter, I started dance classes in salsa. Latin beats, swaying my hips and in the arms of different dance partners all gave me my confidence back 😊 Come the following summer I started dating again, and I felt very appreciated 😊 The third man I dated turned out serious and we have been dating for 5 months now 😊 I keep dancing and on top of my unwanted hairs 😁 And feel the best with my new fella 😉🔥
Hair is natural, and healthy. Every time a person shaves, they put their body in shock. Body hair is not unfeminine. It's just an insecurity that a lot of women have because they've been programmed to think that way.
You go, Girl!
I'm slightly overweight. I feel sexy when I'm looking my best. Men always tell me my confidence is off the chain. I own my sexuality.
I own my sexuality. - your words are the truth
Having spent years working as a woman in a very predominantly male career, I learnt an awful lot about what men think. The biggest thing that puts a woman in the friend zone? Being overweight. Second biggest reason? Being unfeminine and being "one of the guys". I know of one lady who was eighty pounds overweight and had so many guy friends it wasn't true. When she lost the weight for health reasons, they all asked her out on a date.
I feel sexy..when I m dressed elegantly with well blended makeup....n it boosts my confidence !!
Almost every date I have been on men want to take me home. That is a turn off for me. Makes me think he just sleeps around.
It could be a good thing, as long as there is commitment.
I've noticed (after years of research😁) that when I'm actively trying to attract a man, it seems to have opposite effect. When I don't try at all, no makeup, hair in ponytail etc, they flock like bear to salmon 😂😂 what's up with that? Confusing but whatever works, thanks for great video!
ScotsLeo Queen your energy is everything
@@angel33333333 Grow up and wash your mouth out with soap.
Not caring is a good tool to use. You’re probably also more relaxed and chill which is also good. You won’t seem desperate which is also a plus
I think men really don't want to be impressed. They want you to be your best self for yourself and that is sexy as hell. Caring about yourself = sexy + not caring about what they think. I would even say that's what he is saying. That a woman that is relaxed, feels good about herself, shows it, and isn't afraid to show sexual energy (feeling sexy about herself, not directed towards a man necessarily) is just considered hot
Men like the chase, a deer all alone in the woods enjoying the trees, we want in on it
The big change in me that has helped me embrace my sexual energy was deciding that I was perfect as I am. The knowledge that we are, and are meant to be diverse has led me to see myself as enough. I chose to stop criticising myself, to take responsibility for the way I felt in the past and truly forgive myself for hurting me. Once I had done this loving myself for who I am and what I look like has been a natural consequence. It is easier than ever before to be confident and open. I am dating at the moment and discovering that I am connecting with men far easier than ever before. I believe this is because they are experiencing my self love, openness and sexuality through my energy. I am often complimented on my refreshing outlook and I am being told how easy I am to be around. Knowing I am perfect as I am has made me feel sexier than ever before and the more I feel this way the more I have become attractive to others.
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I play a specific confidence building playlist while i get ready to go out every day.
What songs are in it? I'd love to know. Thanks. Awesome idea by the way.
@@carmendom9862 Demi Lovato Confident and Solo
Ariana Grande 7 Rings
Lizzo
Christina Aguilera
Anything that makes you feel sassy!
Nothing wrong with "Fake it til you make it"...Love this video.....thank you for being here.
My 3 feelings in a relationship:
1. Mutual respect
2. Mutual admiration
3. Playfulness
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Lacy lingerie everyday underneath those clothes - at work and at home, good fitting work clothes and a good pair of leather boots. Shave every other day. The last is to smile radiantly.
I shave my face every day.
Yes, wearing nice lingerie makes me act and walk differently, even if I’m wearing work clothes.
ahh, yes...the smile!! I get comments from men often about my smile :) :) :) xo----but I need to work on feeling sexy about myself--2020 Goal!!
And y'all have given me a huge boost! THANK YOU!
Confidence in yourself is the sexiest thing you can ever wear.
sara palin, you look stunning
well spoken
I feel best when I’m fully dressed up; hair, makeup and cute outfit!
When you look good, you will feel good! Work out, watch the diet and be sexy. You will get attention from men of all ages! Even in your forties. True story.
How I feel in my own skin. To actually look at myself and like what I see and to walk a certain way with long strides, not short shuffling steps.
It feels like We are responsible for looking good ,healthy and strong,smiling and less ego ,intelligence, connection skills and loyalty for our love ...these qualities make us more attractive and lead to a true union with someone ...
The things which dial up my feminine energy are 1 wearing dresses even without occasion at home, wear some attractive lipstick and make cool hair, 2 dance oriental dance, make hip and shoulder movements, streaching 3 self-care - do facial and care masks, use cremes 4 fragrances - one of the most important elements 5 earings, braclets et al. 6 singing, playing music 7 speaking with my boyfriend, smiling.
What gives me the sexual aura to be generated is to have a shower, feeling fresh and ready to wear good clothes, which oozes my confidence and topped off with wearing my favourite perfume. The perfume is the most important bit xxx
when I'm in a relationship that goes well, I feel calm, desired and happy. So when my significant other becomes distant, I must create these feelings to myself to make me irresistible to him.. So far I've focused too much on being desirable and sexy, less so on my happiness and calmness. When my sexy looks are going unnoticed, I feel miserable and in a nagging mood.. And my schedule is usually loaded with stuff, which make me unable to relax, perpetually anxious. So I need to dress for myself, not to try to cause a reaction to my SO, and to make a better program, so that I'm more relaxed on dates, not arrive late. Do things that make me happy, and assign chores to others, not take up more than I can handle
Look up Marisa Peer 'I am enough'
Feeling like you are trying to become your best Self can come from external veneers such as clothing etc, but believing you are ALREADY your best Self (no changes needed) comes from within
Believing my man finds me attractive and loves my body makes me feel sexy. Knowing he shares his body with only me makes me feel safe and secure.
Rosa Perkins,hope you are with a good man!
Ladies......truly love yourself and don't put your focus on finding a man or having sex. Enjoy your best life being a complete person. Then, another complete person will love your energy and be drawn to you. Have a blessed day 🙏
Hey Mat - love your videos! I’ve just got to say kudos on not posting misogynistic rubbish that would lead women astray into harmful behaviors and thought patterns. You come from a wholesome place in all of your content, and I just want to say thank you for loving/respecting/valuing women enough to provide them with non-damaging ways to get what they want romantically.
Keep it up!
Brittany Goss 💯
My appearance, perfume, master my body Language to be inviting.
Confidence (in a non-judgmental, caring manner) is sexy enough that I don't need to wear or do anything special. ALWAYS a bonding moment.
Definitely walking sexier, dressing sexier under my clothes and starting to workout.
I also started exercising to tone my body back up , wearing nice clothes even at home that aren’t frumpy, frumpy is out. Just a little makeup but more importantly skin care. I’m going to at a later point get to a gym to intensify the weight work out that will help in meeting people with similar goals. I’ve also love to dance but don’t do night clubs that will help in both socially and self rewarding. Great video Matt, if you feel good and have a better attitude it will all fall into place but if you allow all these walls to get in your way stuck in your rut is where you will stay.
Its 11:11 and I just finished watching this video.
With this new relationship, I am finding that I AM able to turn my sexuality up and down as needed and am able to hold my boundaries without having to be rude about it.
I wait for his move, step in, respond (not react), step back and let him process....
It seems to work for me.
Wearing no makeup to the gym and getting a workout in, that’s what I look like so gotta rock what you got!
Serena Hall, I admire your lovely smile
Sleeping naked really helps. And generally having very little clothes on when I'm at home..Also not wearing panties both at home and occasionally really unlocks feminine energy😉
Ladies, have you tried dancing while looking in the mirror? My man loves to see that, so I had to learn.. And it was actually even more beneficial for me because I feel so much more attractive now ..He's just eating me up with his eyes whenever I do that😉
Also, one Matt's video really helped me. It was the one where he says that women should use/move more their hips, because sometimes the energy is totally blocked "there"
Sacral energy, mines blocked asf 😂
I relate to your points 💯🌈
WOMEN PLEASE SHAKE YOUR HIPS WHEN YOU WALK!
Agree
Mat you’re amazing truly my favorite when it comes to relationships
interesting topic, luckily never been friend-zoned so guess I must do thing right? :) I don't have that much fancy clothes, but I love myself, love the way I look and the way I smile, feel good and positive about life in general. Keep a good shape, have lots hobbies and happy with my single life. Wearing sexy dress and makeup always help, but feeling confident, attractive and desirable inside are more important.
I agree pretty much with your definition. It's different when it's going on long distance. We spice things up with discussing sex and making plans to visit. He accepts me how I am physically and vice versa. We are very open in discussing any topic even sex with out feeling embarrassed or judged. Definitely not in friend zone with him any more.
The single BIGGEST mistake men make is believing that women are "not as sexual" as they are. Everyone has the same end goal. It's the "getting there" that is in need of attention.
Wow
That's a very interesting statement, and a valid one. Never considered it before but I think you're right.
Your comment is reflective of the dis-information that has prevailed for far too long. ;0)
I stopped wearing pants and spent way too much money on cute dresses, and Foundation garments.
JewelBlueIbanez did it work? I personally feel more comfortable in a nice fitting pair of jeans than dresses.
Mara M I’m not sure. I think he’s trying to woo me. Like actually woo me. You know, like old school style.
I invest In a lot if dresses and skirt and it makes me feel sexy also I walk sexytryst me I get so much attention and interest from men.
When I am getting ready to go out on a date or with my friends as I am doing my hair and makeup I listen to music -my favorite is " man I feel like a women" Thanks
I LOVE that you’re talking about everything being energy!!! Tesla
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I noticed after a long time being in a bad relationship, and my self confidence deteriorated, that I actually felt more comfortable walking with bad posture. My hips didn't sway, I walked weird and unconfident. If I stood up straight with my head high and my back straight, I would feel as though i was sticking my butt and breasts out, and that people would look at me more or assume im trying to get attention. I actually have forced my self now to start walking with a sexiness, my back straight, and a sway to my hips. I find i look more beautiful doing this as well. I feel more confident, and walk better. Its not bad attention I get.
Feeling his desire is the best feeling. You feel worthwhile.
Knowing that his desire for you is the most incredible feeling ever.
Outside of keeping up with health and outward appearance, confidence is super sexy and being positive attracted men to me. Walk with your head high and dress to feel sexy. Attitude changes everything.
Just feel good about yourself and look good for yourself first. The man will see that you love yourself and that you enjoy having fun.
This is funny because it goes both ways...I’ve been on dates with men as well sometimes where I can’t feel any sexual energy (and of course, it’s a turn off). Some men just radiate tons of sexual energy, just as some women do!
I wear flowers in my hair and sometimes on my clothes, wear perfume and love to be playful and flirty x
playful men are super attractive, too
Walking with a definite swagger and you know he is watching
Taking a nice luxurious shower, doing a little makeup, fixing my hair, wearing an elegant dress and feeling confident and comfortable.
I would put on some music that makes me want to dance while I'm getting ready to go out on a date with him;
I would make my makeup look extra special;
I would wear colors that would accentuate my eyes & hair along with an outfit that is stunningly beautiful;
If I had enough time, I would probably do a dance to get my energy flowing and have a great smile when I answer the door and expect to have a great time
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Aileen,I admire your lovely smile!
Thanks for the continuous quality messaging. When I listened to this video and you mentioned spiritual connection as a one solution I immediately thought of the Goddess energy that has been suppressed in women for soooo long. It’s the confidence in female energy that I feel like needs to the be uplifted again. Connection to the divine power of the feminine not the cheapened version of the feminine.
Working out and "showing off" my body; Being funny and flirty
Absolutely! Be fun and be sexy! Works for me and I'm no oil painting... Confidence attracts men.
You are the best!
La La, hope you are with a good man!
Whenever I go to the nude beach here in South Florida it makes me feel great. This is because I see all shapes and sizes and they have so much confidence that it rubs of on me. ☺️
Every woman needs to love herself first. Pamper yourself with spa treatments, new clothes, jewelry, etc.
I completely understand the "not trusting myself" feeling. I want to dial it down without scaring him off or making him feel rejected or uncomfortable. Help!
Your videos are fantastic Matt!! Thank you so so Muccchhh!!! Love all your content!! God bless you and your Family so so Much!!!
I feel sexy wearing a really high quality perfume.
Its only when I feel good and look good and love the way I look .and love my body shape . This is when I feel sexy and dial up things 😅
Dancing really helps me feel so sexy and sensual. Even me thinking of dancing and how I can see others checking me out while I do so lol. I remember compliments people have told me while on the dance floor so when I wanna activate feeling sexy I’ll put on songs that remind me of that. Oh and I try walking a little more upright with my head up a little more with like a little smirk on my face 😊
When I'm going on a first date I'll dress in something that flatters my figure, as well as a nice pair of shoes, possibly heels (depending on the type of date). I make sure my hair and make-up looks good. If I'm attracted to a man I'll smile and flirt a little bit. I'll be polite and gracious. I'll ask him questions and see how interesting he is, and engage in some conversation that requires a some depth of mind. Most of all, I'm going to make sure I'm having fun.
What makes me sexy is just loving my Self in all aspects , be genuine and always smile If you love your self first , every puzzle comes together in its place. A woman that have confidence on herself will have a beautiful genuine smile always in her face to share with others, you never know who will fall for that smile 😀♥️and most of all .... a smile doesn’t costs🤷♀️it’s complete free .... so girls be confident about yourself first , love you self and. Be yourself... don’t try to be someone you are not to try to impress, believe me boys knows
Loved that you changed the background scenery a bit! Good change
Here's my scenario: I have no problem with talking in sexual innuendos, but I don't like a guy talking in vulgarity. What to do?
Desire, love, self respect.
When I wear pretty undergarments, working out, bring out more of my feminity with doing my nails, lotion, perfume and doing good self care.
All i need is some high heels and a great perfume.That's all every woman needs.
Unless you're six feet tall 😅
I love your videos!
I love this channel!!!!
I love the energetic perspective. It makes a lot of sense and is very empowering.
I am a single mother with two beautiful children. I do and teach yoga. I meditate. Listen to soulful and sexy beats and dance to it, however i want. I apply pure essential oils on my body to keep my skin moist and it makes me feel saucy, sexy, and confident. Being a pescatarian has also made my skin glow, and everywhere i go, i just know i am beautiful. I just know.
Wow. This is a fantastic video. It has completely changed my perspective about MYSELF. Thank youuuu ♥️
I dated a guy who I'd been friends with for nearly a decade. We were inseparable and had the most fun dates and fantastic sex. We lived an hour and a half away.. Then I went on a road trip for 3 weeks and missed him terribly. Came back and something was off.. While I was gone he started dating someone at work. We were together a few more weeks and he dropped the "let's just be friends" line a few weeks before our 1 year anniversary. A few weeks later I found out from his daughter about the new woman. He tried gaslighting me, his family, my family and all our friends by insisting we were never in a relationship and were just "really good friends". So what's up with that?
That just happened to me and I'm shattered 😢
Clearest explanation of the difference between the brains that I hv ever heard.
Bring my attention to my three lower chakras, but ONLY after I can feel in my gut that it’s safe to do so. Thanks Mat
I wish that you would do a video about regaining communication skills between a husband and wife.
@zumzy u ... It's not that. He was deported and is in Mexico. He's become somewhat depressed about trying to come back home and doesn't want to talk much. But he and I need more communication to work together on getting him home.