Was Our Marriage Arranged? | Ep.27

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  • @Julie-uq7sz
    @Julie-uq7sz День тому +40

    Jinger is so well spoken! I love how God revealed Himself to you! Relationship, not religion!!! Thank you for sharing!!! I am praying for you and all those experiencing the wildfires.

  • @Eliza-ko6zy
    @Eliza-ko6zy День тому +118

    The divorce rates are lower in India because there are serious societal and financial impacts for women not being married and especially being divorced. Domestic violence against women is a massive issue in these areas and people are not safe to leave their marriages. I don't think that's something to work towards. While the rising divorce rates in Western culture are disappointing, it also just reflects that our society is becoming more human - things change, people change, and it's okay to move on and find someone new. You don't need to stay somewhere you are unhappy or unsafe. I think its positive.

    • @socalgurl01
      @socalgurl01 День тому +7

      exactly. arranged marriages are not all good.

    • @Courtneey428
      @Courtneey428 День тому +9

      From a lot of the sociological data that we're now getting, marriage rates are dropping in Western cultures but divorce rates are also dropping. So people who do still chose to get married are a lot more successful in their marriages than over the last several decades. I think we over prescribed marriage through religion as a society not recognizing that not all relationships deserve that level of intimacy. Some relationships help us build our character to become better partners for our future spouses.

    • @abpbrown
      @abpbrown День тому

      Came here to say this. Thanks for pointing this out.

    • @bubsodleson4109
      @bubsodleson4109 День тому +6

      In western cultures people are too quick to give up. It's hard sometimes, but marriage is a commitment- not something to be disposed of when times get tough.

    • @asleepbydawn137
      @asleepbydawn137 День тому +1

      THANK YOU. I'm pleasantly surprised to see someone speak up and not just accept what he says.

  • @milcarivera8926
    @milcarivera8926 День тому +64

    Another great episode! Jinger really shined in this one.... " We were not arranged, I fought for you" - so sweet. God is going to do so many great things with your podcast!

  • @Courtneey428
    @Courtneey428 День тому +40

    12:37 When Jeremy calls Jinger "brilliant". I love to see that validation of her critical thinking process and the encouragement of her self growth. I would imagine for someone who grew up with such prescriptive ideology, those small moments of really seeing her is more important than you could ever realize.

  • @422sweetdreams
    @422sweetdreams День тому +29

    "...legalism is easy for those who don't actually gave a relationship with God because it can provide this faux sense of security of their salvation because it's just following a set of rules"
    YOU NAILED IT Jinger!

  • @kimmacfarlane3816
    @kimmacfarlane3816 День тому +24

    Hope your family and your home are safe from the fires going on in LA. Praying ❤️

  • @elizabethkettlehut422
    @elizabethkettlehut422 День тому +26

    Jinger did a phenomenal job of speaking and sounding so articulate in this podcast! Great job 🙂

  • @shelleydawson4449
    @shelleydawson4449 День тому +9

    Off subject but praying you all are safe from the fires in LA. Praying for all those who have lost their homes and that they can get it under control very soon.

  • @elliepoillucci1883
    @elliepoillucci1883 День тому +10

    Thinking of you guys there in LA. Stay safe!! Praying for you!! 🙏

  • @charlascovil1630
    @charlascovil1630 День тому +24

    This is one of your best podcasts in that you clarify legalism from a true heart desire for holiness. Some people have a true desire for holiness however think legalism is the way to achieve this, you make the difference so clear in this podcast. Good job!

  • @lyndamurphy3276
    @lyndamurphy3276 18 годин тому +6

    Prayers for you and your children for protection and safety during the fires in LA ❤🙏

  • @kathyfolk7743
    @kathyfolk7743 13 годин тому +3

    Jigger and Jeremy I don't know where you guys live but I have been praying for your home and family to be safe and spared any damages from these fires. I love you guys a lot and please take a minute to let us know you are OK. My prayers will continue.

  • @anneellison8188
    @anneellison8188 День тому +4

    Great episode! Prayers for you both during these horrific fires. I hope you guys get through all this okay.

  • @ILoveSingingAboutJESUS
    @ILoveSingingAboutJESUS День тому +18

    Praying for safety, health, and peace during the Cali fires. Hope your house wasn’t harmed, along with your friends. Praying the State of California as a whole.

    • @TinaEllena
      @TinaEllena День тому +2

      Sending prayers to everyone 🙏🙏🙏

  • @TerriGillespieAuthorforAuthors
    @TerriGillespieAuthorforAuthors День тому +13

    Nailed it. People are looking for systems--formulas--to please God rather than building a relationship with Him. Just remember what the New Covenant was about. Jeremiah 31:31ff.

  • @707Grammy
    @707Grammy День тому +12

    I was glad to hear from you guys today. Hope you're not affected by the wildfires!

  • @RJones-lz9rl
    @RJones-lz9rl День тому +4

    Great episode! I know God can use this to help people who are struggling with untangling from
    unbiblical teachings… or…who might be looking for the Bible for practical guidance on clothing, dating, etc. Please keep the videos coming and I’m praying for you both.

  • @stacy.michelle.3462
    @stacy.michelle.3462 День тому +4

    Love everything about this! It’s so great to see you both articulate & modernizing the Bible & the love of Jesus but, still in truth. Can see you both have such good hearts. I was raised in a regular, conventional Christian home. However, had a lot of similarities in that of a “fear based” home. Instead of focusing more on a personal relationship with the Lord & leading by example while raising free thinkers. Keep up the great work! Your relationship is precious & reminds much of my husband’s & I. We’ve been married since I was 19 & he 20. Celebrating 30 together, 26 years of marriage & 5 amazing children ranging from ages 23-14yrs old 🥰

  • @maryannmast4577
    @maryannmast4577 День тому +14

    Prayers that you all are safe with the wildfires in CA.

  • @long2877
    @long2877 20 годин тому +2

    I LOOOVED Jinger in this episode. She was amazing.

  • @jenniferjones7998
    @jenniferjones7998 День тому +2

    "Legalism gives you a false sense of security..." This is so true. Legalism sent me on a downward spiral because I couldn't keep all the rules all the time. And every time I'd break one, I felt condemned anyway. This, and my volatile home life, left me confused and abandoned.

  • @SurelyMac
    @SurelyMac День тому +4

    I love your love, your respect, your kindness, your friendship and your commitment to God. Thank you for having these interesting conversations. Have a good day you all 🙏🏽

  • @katie2412
    @katie2412 День тому +2

    my favorite podcast of your
    podcasts so far … I love how you explore together, respectfully, with deep reflection in real time.
    Thank you ✨🙏✨

  • @mayra2455
    @mayra2455 День тому +2

    I find it interesting how different cultures and families talk about important subjects like marriage, faith, and values with their kids. I feel lucky to have grown up in a home where faith played a big role in our lives. My parents taught me that even when life gets tough, having a kind heart and staying connected to God can help guide you to the right path and true love. I've seen this in my own life, as I've been happily married for 15 years.
    I met my husband when we were both teenagers in high school. We started off as friends and slowly realized that we wanted to be together, get married, have kids, and build a happy life. With our parents' support, we began dating. Over the years, we’ve grown together and are thankful for our two amazing children.
    I genuinely believe that if you approach life with kindness and keep your faith, things can become easier and more fulfilling. It’s important not to get stuck thinking you have to follow strict rules that some religious groups might suggest about being "good." We don't belong to a specific religion or church; instead, we focus on lessons from the Bible. We believe in God and think our purpose is to help others, learn to be more caring, and practice patience and compassion towards each other.

  • @karenpierson9841
    @karenpierson9841 День тому +2

    Jeremy makes so much sense when it comes to finding a spouse according to the Bible.

  • @pamelabrennan4118
    @pamelabrennan4118 День тому +10

    Jeremy, I really enjoy listening to you, and Jinger I want you to know that your Dad introduced me to Christian life and taught me how to pray. I still watch the show every now and then.

  • @splchicago4636
    @splchicago4636 43 хвилини тому +1

    Fantastic discussion ❤!

  • @vmestrada2822
    @vmestrada2822 День тому +2

    God has given you so much wisdom Jinger! You both are such a beautiful couple. So Blessed❤

  • @NancyLapointe
    @NancyLapointe День тому +6

    I’m so happy to catch you live!! I really love to listen to you both, not a lot a people talking about god and jesus these days…

  • @robynhigginbotham6468
    @robynhigginbotham6468 День тому +2

    What a great podcast!!!! Thank you for blessing others!!!!❤❤❤

  • @wandarainy8581
    @wandarainy8581 День тому +4

    If we put God in our marriages first it makes life easier and he will lead us in the way we should go.

  • @ansathomas5390
    @ansathomas5390 22 години тому +2

    I had an arranged marriage. I do think it works. Arranged marriages in India are not where the bride has no say. That’s a stereotype that the a lot of Americans have. I very much had a say in what I wanted. My parents were involved and I’m glad they were. We follow a biblical pattern in not giving our several men physically and emotionally before marriage.

  • @laurengriffin2816
    @laurengriffin2816 День тому +4

    Love this convo and how you two point back to the main thing. A true relationship with Jesus gives freedom from man-made rules but we shouldn't take advantage of daily grace. Boundaries are good when given from the Holy Spirit.

  • @peggyv8819
    @peggyv8819 22 години тому

    I absolutely love and appreciate what Jeremy was saying about what the bible is actually used for and not used for! Very clearly and directly stated.

  • @valeriemoran842
    @valeriemoran842 День тому +2

    I am always so impressed with how thoughtful, articulate and objective Jinger is during interviews and on her podcast. Jeremy does hsve a tendancy to interupt her however. Other than that, an Excellent episode ❤

  • @ruthannelamantia5568
    @ruthannelamantia5568 20 годин тому

    I love Jinger’s honesty about her upbringing. She doesn’t defend the issues she didn’t agree with.

  • @jamienelson7114
    @jamienelson7114 День тому +2

    This is just an amazing episode! ❤ Love the insight and reminders of amazing scriptures speaking of marriage. I have been blessed with 30 years of marriage and could not be happier!

  • @shellylanders7325
    @shellylanders7325 16 годин тому

    ‘I fought for you.’ I love it! Y’all are such a sweet couple! I love listening to your podcast!

  • @Hidinginyourcupboard
    @Hidinginyourcupboard 4 години тому +1

    My mind really went to Anna listening to the beginning of this 😢

  • @emilyivey93
    @emilyivey93 18 годин тому

    I found this episode to be super encouraging. Sometimes in church settings it's difficult not to be treated like a lesser person or outcasted being a woman who hasn't married. I'm not sure if I will ever get married, but I won't do it just to prove I'm worthy to others on this earth. It just seems like many just like to twist scripture to validate their own choices and to bring others down who may have chosen different.

  • @sandramiller5332
    @sandramiller5332 День тому +2

    A plant would be lovely in that corner. Maybe a table with a plant. or tall faux ficus! Love you guys can’t wait to hear your next episode every week!

  • @vickisturgill4792
    @vickisturgill4792 18 годин тому +1

    I always understood the Bible telling us to dress modestly. I can remember girls always wore dresses at school and church but then as the styles changed and mini skirts and dresses came out so at that time pants were more modest . Heck now a days there seems to be no rules on what people wear

  • @louisezimmer4992
    @louisezimmer4992 День тому

    Thank you both. The topic was needed to be discussed and explained. Great job.

  • @yvonneharbin1345
    @yvonneharbin1345 День тому +2

    Yes Husband Jeremy, you hit that hammer right on the nail Jinger is so SPOT ON WITH HERE CONVERSATION THOUGHTS ON THIS BEAUTIFUL POD CAST.
    And it's " Blessed is the Man that walketh not in the ways of the UNGODLY"
    Not blessed is the man that walketh not with sinner.
    All have sinned, but WE THAT HAVE RECEIVE THE BLESSED BLOOD OF JESUS APPLIED TO OUR HEART, Recognize the traits of sin that will lead to eternal life of death and choose not to walk in those way as the unsaved would want to do.
    GOD BLESS YOU BOTH AS YOU GROW IN GRACE AND IN GOD KNOWLEDGE. AS THE POD CAST TAKE US TO HIGHER HEIGHT AND DEEPER DEPTHS IN CHRIST JESUS OUR SAVIOUR AND KING 👑📖🌈🙏

  • @patriciagreene5842
    @patriciagreene5842 День тому +1

    Great job , you are together and will remain together by choice and love ❤

  • @hallymariah45
    @hallymariah45 18 годин тому

    I'm so glad you, two, have a godly and beautiful marriage! It is lovely to see! 💗

  • @1951kvk
    @1951kvk День тому +27

    If parents have done their jobs raising their children then there is NO need for their involvement in the courting process.

    • @mktay2067
      @mktay2067 День тому +4

      That wouldn't be wise. We know that wisdom comes with many counsellors and parents are aware of us in ways we have yet to learn in many situations.

    • @mymakersdaughter6041
      @mymakersdaughter6041 День тому

      @@mktay2067Agreed!

  • @sallyjohnson
    @sallyjohnson День тому +1

    Enjoy listening to your podcast. Been following Jinger for years and her last book was wonderful. Can't wait to read the next one.

  • @pattistuber8018
    @pattistuber8018 День тому +4

    I really enjoy your relationship and this podcast. Something i notice, is that Jeremy try to let Jinger finish thoughts before you insert yours.

  • @malvadachica9291
    @malvadachica9291 День тому +2

    Jinger your message is amazing to witness!

  • @Bev-s1g
    @Bev-s1g День тому +5

    Please let us know how you all are doing with the fires! We’re concerned for Jinger and for the baby she is carrying and for all of the smoke in the area!
    We love you all and we are praying for you! 🙏🩷✝️😢

  • @Yvone0707
    @Yvone0707 11 годин тому

    Prayers that God will keep your family safe from all these fires in the Los Angeles area.

  • @rachellethomas216
    @rachellethomas216 День тому

    This was so well done! Thank you for sharing your hearts and speaking truth each week!

  • @LeahniesjeHanson
    @LeahniesjeHanson 16 годин тому

    Jinger said Jeremy you guys are incredible people!!!! I love this entire show! Great episode
    The baby bump is so adorable

  • @nichole_danielle2083
    @nichole_danielle2083 12 годин тому

    Yall are the absolute sweetest. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @LeaderLink
    @LeaderLink 11 годин тому

    Thank you for sharing this thoughtful discussion with us.

  • @reese7641
    @reese7641 День тому +8

    I wouldnt say it was arranged jessa and ben introduced them each other

  • @sanequathompson8262
    @sanequathompson8262 10 годин тому

    Y'all podcasts are so good!

  • @lesleyfarr5622
    @lesleyfarr5622 12 годин тому

    So enjoyed you guys today very well spoken 😊

  • @jillfalco992
    @jillfalco992 17 годин тому

    Not sure where else to write to you but wanting to let you know we're praying for everyone in LA and praying and believing that you and your famly are safe.

  • @dianaAJC
    @dianaAJC День тому

    I loved this topic!!! So important to talk about this… and what I loved also was the grace and the humility that both of you had talking about it. Thank you! May JESUS bless you both and your families, abundantly!!!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼✝️♥️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @vickisturgill4792
    @vickisturgill4792 17 годин тому

    You guys compliment each other may God continue to bless you

  • @vickylin5126
    @vickylin5126 День тому

    I like your biblical interpretation towards systems.❤❤

  • @elliepoillucci1883
    @elliepoillucci1883 День тому

    Aww! Love you guys! You guys are a great couple! Jinger I am so happy for you that you got out of that toxic way of teaching. 🙏😊

  • @shaunaghsutton6020
    @shaunaghsutton6020 День тому

    Thank you for sharing, very well explained on living in this.world in relationship with God. Very insightful.

  • @lynneuribeross2695
    @lynneuribeross2695 День тому

    Jeremy has such great understanding and wisdom!

  • @sheadeveney6774
    @sheadeveney6774 День тому

    I loved how much more lovey dovey yall were compared to your siblings courtships

  • @bubsodleson4109
    @bubsodleson4109 День тому

    Excellent episode! Really enjoyed it. Thanks!!!

  • @katiehamilton3915
    @katiehamilton3915 День тому +9

    OOooooff 😓 that "going to the wells" conversation at the beginning.... took me right back to "Return of the Daughters" and how we were supposed to be daughters "watering our father's flocks" (their passions, lifes work, calling etc) and that's how our husbands WOULD find us 💔
    THE END!!! "I wasn't picked for you; I FOUGHT for you." 👏

  • @taemo33
    @taemo33 День тому

    What a beautiful, healthy and very well articulated, conversation!

  • @tracyhorst4764
    @tracyhorst4764 День тому

    Thank you for sharing this and the wisdom and discernment God has given you! I wish my parents had taught me this when I was young. My husband and I have learned it and grown together in our 35 years of marriage. We have tried to do this with our kids now. Our youngest just got married this last weekend.

  • @ruthannelamantia5568
    @ruthannelamantia5568 20 годин тому

    Incredible episode!

  • @barbgardner5549
    @barbgardner5549 День тому

    What a great podcast!! I was in my late 30's when i was pursued and my now estranged husband had to get permission from Pastor before moving to the next level.😅 No being alone together,no holding hands until,no hugging until,no kiss until,etc. A lot of legalism. So sad .

  • @natbrust
    @natbrust День тому +2

    Very Good Podcast!

  • @marilynlopez2630
    @marilynlopez2630 23 години тому

    So interesting and informative

  • @GS-kv3zy
    @GS-kv3zy День тому +1

    Is the waiting what your sister Jana did? So happy she found the perfect match❤

  • @roseprocopio9526
    @roseprocopio9526 День тому

    Great show. Truly loved this episode. 💙💜

  • @carolsimspon1168
    @carolsimspon1168 День тому +2

    That's where the holy Spirit comes in,not leaning on our own understanding.

  • @rhondamckinley4373
    @rhondamckinley4373 22 години тому +1

    Thank you

  • @yvonneharbin1345
    @yvonneharbin1345 День тому

    That so right Jinger, the WORD SAYS " WORK OUT YOUR SALVATION" Not others work it out for you.
    We thank those who have given us a GODLY GUIDELINE but we must then go on TO KNOW GOD FOR OURSELVES AND THE RICHNESS OF GOD LOVE ❤️❤️❤️

  • @cricket47222
    @cricket47222 23 години тому

    I've been thinking about y'all. I hope you're not in the path of the wildfires. Sending prayers 🙏

  • @cindygraham1357
    @cindygraham1357 День тому

    I would love to hear you guys talk on drinking alcohol. I grew up Pentecostal and have had alcoholics in our family. I raised my kids to never drink, but they do social drink now as adults. It’s really disappointed me, but I understand that’s between them and God, but I feel it opens those generational doors.

    • @emilymorris864
      @emilymorris864 День тому

      I know that must be hard but I would say trust that you raised good wise kids❤I will have a social drink on occasion but never drink to excess❤

  • @GS-kv3zy
    @GS-kv3zy День тому +2

    Did the girls your brothers wanted a relationship with in your family have to go through Jim Bob and answer all the questions the guys had to answer

  • @jenb8009
    @jenb8009 День тому

    Love you guys. I hope your home is safe from those terrible fires.

  • @lynneuribeross2695
    @lynneuribeross2695 День тому +9

    I never understood how a man who was never married or had children conned so many people!

  • @taraavis3533
    @taraavis3533 День тому +6

    This was a great one!!!!!

  • @shelley31leader
    @shelley31leader День тому +2

    I would so love for you both to listen to Jeff Cavins and Fr Mike Schmitz. I feel like Jeremy, in particular would really be moved by their perspectives.

    • @deborahduffy7344
      @deborahduffy7344 День тому

      For me it would be Father David - a brilliant, kind, good man, an Episcopal priest. His understanding of true Christianity is profound.

  • @icanteven4141
    @icanteven4141 День тому +2

    The story about the father communicating with the man for a year before the guy could date his daughter is Jill and Derick, isn't it?

  • @deborahherring6077
    @deborahherring6077 День тому

    you two are awsome. loved this video today and thank you!!

  • @heatherarmstrong1366
    @heatherarmstrong1366 День тому

    Thank you so much for your podcasts!!!!❤❤❤❤ I love how you live for God. I see this in God's fruits in your life. I don't really actually know you but I agree with you 100%.

  • @BluVelvt
    @BluVelvt 15 годин тому

    Good episode!

  • @deborahfosdike2024
    @deborahfosdike2024 День тому +3

    Great podcast! I had a similar upbringing to Jinger and can identify and agree with a number of points you discussed particularly on parents needing to treat their adult children (in particular girls) as adult women and entrusting them to God and trusting the adult child to make sensible life decisions etc.... I'm now 6 months married and am so glad I started to figure out who I was before my now husband came into my life 🙏🙏

  • @sherrypaproski9564
    @sherrypaproski9564 День тому

    I met my husband of 32 yrs through my twin sister and his sister they were friends and we went out on a blind date and been together ever since

  • @ninawest8
    @ninawest8 День тому +1

    Please let us know if you guys are okay with these fires. We care about y'all and worry.Will pray for your saftey🙏

  • @Jenks885
    @Jenks885 День тому +1

    Jinger is right about it.

  • @lisak7380
    @lisak7380 День тому +12

    Why did Jinger's family have a problem with him going to the gym?

    • @inez122779
      @inez122779 День тому

      I bet it's because people don't wear a lot of clothes at the gym... too much temptation looking at women in yoga pants and sports bras. 👀👀

    • @Meghan-lx7be
      @Meghan-lx7be День тому

      Yes! I’ve seen footage of Michele at the gym.

    • @bethshaw1310
      @bethshaw1310 День тому

      Because he might see a half naked lady.

    • @elliepoillucci1883
      @elliepoillucci1883 День тому

      Yes, because he might see a half naked lady and be tempted.

  • @PatriotafVenise
    @PatriotafVenise День тому

    That was informative and said with such CLASS ❤🙏🏼🫶🏼💗

  • @d.hamilton1282
    @d.hamilton1282 День тому +2

    It’s simple: Jeremiah 29:11 speaks of God’s plans for individuals compared to the leader of the IBLP deciding everyone’s future.

  • @monicazacarias3055
    @monicazacarias3055 День тому

    I have never heard of a “dating “ talk like this !

  • @Largefamilyfloridalifestyle
    @Largefamilyfloridalifestyle День тому

    Came on to ask how you guys are doing with the fires?! Praying for you guys and your community!!