How We Maintain a Healthy Sex Life | Q&A | PJ AND THOMAS

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  • @BigTinyLife
    @BigTinyLife 9 місяців тому +15

    Seeing you both have this raw, natural beautiful discussion is fantastic. Not trying to prove anything, be anything, hide anything, or embellish anything. Such a wonderful testament to how you both have grown together and get stronger and more connected by the day. Congrats to you both and always enjoy seeing what's coming next. Much, much love!! ❤

  • @dugald56
    @dugald56 Рік тому +120

    You both get more handsome as you get older, and wiser. Being dads obviously agrees with you both. I love your vlogs.

  • @marcathens2951
    @marcathens2951 Рік тому +29

    You guys are so kind and generous with opening up to those of us who let u into our homes and lives. I've followed u guys off / on for a few years and it's been great watching your lives evolve b4 our eyes. Both handsome and the kids are lucky to have you both ! Peace and love from Michigan 💕🙏

  • @matthewward249
    @matthewward249 Рік тому +23

    It always amazes me how some people assume that people who seem to have a comfortable life somehow magically or through an inheritance arrived there. I for one have worked extremely hard to get to where I am financially. It certainly wasn’t easy. The world is abundant and you can enjoy the fruits of your labor. I have rewarded myself with nice cars, houses and fabulous trips.
    I can see from watching your videos over the years how truly hard you both work and then throw in raising three children each a year apart, that is something profound. I say enjoy all the abundance the world has to offer, you’ve earned it! 😊

  • @fredweber9466
    @fredweber9466 Рік тому +24

    I loved this vlog, We’ve been crazy busy. Everything you addressed was everything I would have asked, just because I’m damn nosy! You’ve achieved amazing things, being so realistic about your lives and aspirations. I really think your relationship has lasted because you have done all the things to keep your relationship healthy sexually & nurturing and yet very realistic. I’ve seen how easily you relate to your wonderful family and your friends. Always know this: You’re just great humans!

  • @AfraidMonsters
    @AfraidMonsters Рік тому +13

    Omg!!! Your kids are so cute. 😭😭theyre too precious for this world. Your daughter is so innocent and adorable. Protect her at all costs!

  • @BollywoodMediaOnline
    @BollywoodMediaOnline Рік тому +13

    20:23 is the question you might be waiting for 😉

  • @a.j.stauft1779
    @a.j.stauft1779 Рік тому +13

    Love the session and the honesty...so many people put on a perfect act...it's refreshing to hear how you guys are just 2 men ..in love..living life..and doing the best you can. Just so you know that's special..and inspiring 👍💯❣️💋

  • @jameymentzer1312
    @jameymentzer1312 Рік тому +2

    “Just rich” - Thomas’ face - priceless! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @calvindavis3641
    @calvindavis3641 Рік тому +2

    I watched Red White and Royal Blue this morning myself. Excellent movie. Lots of fun.

  • @shaunstapleton3197
    @shaunstapleton3197 Рік тому +1

    I love Switzerland. The towns are so cool, we stayed in a converted Swiss army barracks in Kandersteg, Switzerland. It was right on the mountain. I went there when I was around 13 or 14 when I lived in Germany because my dad was in the military.

  • @wmichaelh29
    @wmichaelh29 Рік тому +3

    Glad I saw your notification. So many delightful memories of what you've shared with us. Sex life? What the hell is that. For thrills I sometimes use my left hand so it feels like somebody else is doing it.

  • @lawrenceharris7369
    @lawrenceharris7369 Рік тому +4

    Continue to keep it real, and a happy family relationship guys.

  • @OLDS98
    @OLDS98 Рік тому +3

    Hello guys. Thank you for the Q and A session. I have been subscribed for a long time. Thank you for catching me up on your lives. I missed out on a lot due to health concerns. I have been watching and not saying anything. I am glad to see you two are okay and your family has expanded and doing well also. Good for you both. Thank you for being open and sharing.

  • @prl08
    @prl08 Рік тому +35

    As an asexual, I had my fingers all ready to say that sex isn’t important in every relationship, so I’m thankful PJ mentioned it. I will concede Thomas was right that sexual compatibility is important 😂😂

    • @stumack9755
      @stumack9755 Рік тому +3

      I have been n a wonderful 23yr same sex relationship. Sex is important to my partner. So he is free to hookup & take care of his needs. I like porn. We are not compatible sex wise.

    • @prl08
      @prl08 Рік тому +5

      @@stumack9755 I always try to remind myself that different things work for different people! There is no one size fits all

    • @PM-od9qm
      @PM-od9qm Рік тому

      I feel like yes being able to have sex , expressing your desire and love ( emotionally and physically both ) is very important, especially at the start of the relationship but so is the emotional connection. i dont think it should be a very like crucial Crucial factor that decides the quality of the relationship tho Sure it feels Really GREAT to have it but IMO a relationship shouldnt be totally dependant on sex otherwise thats just not gonna be stable at all , its like how do i say , theyre seasonings that spice up a relationship but doesnt mean the food has to rot without it cus lets be real , theres gonna be hiccups and rough patches and yall cant always be desperate for eachother.

  • @JimH13164
    @JimH13164 Рік тому +1

    PJ, I’m in the same boat about long flights. The answer is simple. ie) fly to LA or San Francisco. Spend two or three days visiting or do the touristy things. Fly to Hawaii for the same time, or cruise out to Hawaii. Fly from Hawaii to the Philippines for two -three days. Then fly to New Zealand for a week. On the way back, fly to Tokyo for three days, then to Alaska, then to Seattle, then back home. I know. That is the extreme amount of lay overs. You can eliminate any or even add more. To NZ, will be 6-9 days and back 5-7 days. Total trip about three weeks. You get to see so much! Something to think about.

    • @johniii8147
      @johniii8147 Рік тому

      I wouldn't drag it that long with that many stop overs. Just adds to the expense. But good advice given their location stop over in LA or SFO leave a long layover to get off the plane, go shower at the lounge, etc. Never do such a long journey in economy. That would be pure hell. Business class makes its tolerable and well worth the money. LA to NZ is just over a 10 hour flight so manageable in business class.

  • @dougslaback3459
    @dougslaback3459 Рік тому +7

    You are an amazing couple and parents. Those children are fortunate to have you in their lives

  • @bradleyhays4218
    @bradleyhays4218 Рік тому +5

    You guys are amazing! So glad I discovered your pages!

  • @donnataylor980
    @donnataylor980 Рік тому +2

    So good to see y'all. Y'all get better-looking everyday❤😊❤

  • @prien8518
    @prien8518 Рік тому +4

    Love you both. I’m currently living in Malaysia limiting me having a relationship and family like yours. Hope I’ll make it come true in future. ❤️

  • @mimicolapietro2086
    @mimicolapietro2086 Рік тому +2

    Love your Q&A’s!! You 2 are just so genuine and beautiful men inside and out !!

  • @kennethdodemaide8678
    @kennethdodemaide8678 Рік тому

    When flying to Australia or New Zealand you can break the flight with a short stop in Hawaii. You can cut the flight time from14 hours to 2 shorter flights and reduce the chance of jet lag as well. That's what I do when flying from Australia to the US and back.

  • @ianholets5018
    @ianholets5018 Рік тому +1

    1989 (Taylor’s Version)!! 💙
    You guys continue to inspire me and I always look forward to new content!

  • @MarkieAlonzo
    @MarkieAlonzo Рік тому

    Diane Keaton!!! That's strangely accurate. I won't unsee that now. Love Y'all and what you share with us!

  • @nikkilogan7726
    @nikkilogan7726 Рік тому +1

    Love this Q&A vlog of you guys!
    Thanks for your honesty!
    Love you guys PJ & Thomas! 😎🥰💖

  • @Gor800
    @Gor800 Рік тому

    You two are amazing! Have watched your post for years and LOVE them!

  • @davemattia
    @davemattia Рік тому +1

    Start by NOT cheating on each other or making the move to bringing in a third person.

  • @toner37
    @toner37 Рік тому +19

    Red White and Royal Blue(2 hr movie) was SO good and well done in the writing. I ended up going out and buying the book. So many great one liners that just pulled at the heartstrings. Some laughs and some happy tears too!

    • @jimmymclean9373
      @jimmymclean9373 Рік тому +5

      The book was better, I felt

    • @ThePropertyLovers
      @ThePropertyLovers  Рік тому +6

      I ordered the book, too!!

    • @missymariebee
      @missymariebee Рік тому +1

      You will love the book it is so good!

    • @toner37
      @toner37 Рік тому

      @missymariebee Having seen the movie(3 times already), I know when things start to get really interesting, just reading each page.

    • @amyseaden9069
      @amyseaden9069 Рік тому

      @@jimmymclean9373agree the book was better

  • @theo.barcelona
    @theo.barcelona Рік тому +1

    love the 'appropriate' background music when PJ is thinking about Thomas's boring thing.... LOL

  • @redlangdeau5728
    @redlangdeau5728 Рік тому

    Enjoyed the Q & A. My husband and I also watched red,white and royal blue, I liked it more than I thought I would, the Henry character reminded me of the Caulkin brothers, it was a cute show, and worth the view.....until next time Caio

  • @bobseeger342
    @bobseeger342 Рік тому

    Thanks PJ and Thomas its always interesting to get more to know you guys ❤🤠

  • @kevinsaroz
    @kevinsaroz 8 місяців тому

    Oh my gosh, I love you guys!!!

  • @rjcarter2904
    @rjcarter2904 Рік тому +8

    We definitely agree on the LGBTQ+ series and movie. Love Heartstopper and Red, White, and Royal Blue. Both adorable.

  • @corentinchristian
    @corentinchristian Рік тому

    Love love this format friends 🤍

  • @heavenlyvilla8681
    @heavenlyvilla8681 Рік тому

    Anna Paquin grew up in NZ. Lots of fun things to do in NZ esp with kids. Hope you make it down here one day.

  • @harriedog
    @harriedog Рік тому

    Like you PJ. I love flying but hate long flights 10hrs is my limit. One way I get to and from the US west coast is fly with Hawaiian Airlines. 4-6 hrs west coast depending where you start from. Then 8hrs to NZ or 10 to Sydney Aust.
    I usually overnight in HNL. As connections sometimes get tight with delay from originating port.
    And once you get to New Zealand it is only 2.5hrs to Australia, the land of snakes, sharks, spiders and don’t forget the killer kangaroos 😂😂.
    But that is one way of doing it without that 14hr flight.
    Cheers for down under. Really enjoy your Chanel. Been following you since long before the kids came along. Around 2017. Think you are a really great couple.

  • @KOI-nz3vn
    @KOI-nz3vn Рік тому +1

    You guys are truly THE BEST and that’s a fact. Bless you 🥰🤗👍

  • @jimmymclean9373
    @jimmymclean9373 Рік тому

    Always love following your lives, from the “old gay couple” lol

  • @jamiescott5461
    @jamiescott5461 Рік тому +6

    Been following a long time. The love you have for your family and close friends is so inspiring ❤️❤️

  • @pjaybasmaignee
    @pjaybasmaignee Рік тому +14

    Yay can’t wait for another PJ and Thomas installment.

  • @DudleyMahon
    @DudleyMahon Рік тому +3

    You two have a beautiful family.

  • @chrisss838
    @chrisss838 Рік тому

    The Red, White and Royal Blue book is so much better and I suggest you read it!!

  • @WilliamLarson-t4n
    @WilliamLarson-t4n 4 дні тому

    U guys r amazing!

  • @evelynerasseneur2543
    @evelynerasseneur2543 Рік тому +4

    Toujours un plaisir de vous voir ..vous êtes honnêtes. Épanouis et Sereins....rien est acquis avec des enfants...la seule règle vous l'avez déjà c'est .....l'amour 😅.. bonjour de France 🇨🇵❤️

  • @chriscoleman6956
    @chriscoleman6956 Рік тому

    You are so fun to watch you make my day

  • @charlescoffey695
    @charlescoffey695 Рік тому

    A super video as usual!

  • @mikekelly1151
    @mikekelly1151 Рік тому

    I have gone to New Zealand twice. What I do PJ is I fly from Chicago to Hawaii and start for 3 days then I fly on to Auckland New Zealand. Then on the way back home I do the reverse. I fly from Auckland to Hawaii and then stay for 3 days and then flight back to Chicago. So for me it is 8 hours to Hawaii and 9 hours to New Zealand from Hawaii.

  • @briano672
    @briano672 Рік тому

    PJ is so kind!!

  • @Saidnoone
    @Saidnoone Рік тому

    The patients on Thomas face is real

  • @saeefa
    @saeefa Рік тому

    There's a Japanese animated film called Dokyusei, probably by far the best piece of lgbtq content I've ever watched

  • @LMays-cu2hp
    @LMays-cu2hp Рік тому +1

    Thank you guys for sharing.

  • @Baraaaaaa23
    @Baraaaaaa23 3 місяці тому

    I love you and wish you a long, happy life full of love💚💚

  • @bobebbeskotte
    @bobebbeskotte Рік тому +1

    So forgetful. I got to see the last three minutes. Hey, have you guys or anyone seen Red, White and Royal Blue? I've only seen clips (no streaming) but it looks great!

  • @immanuelingari4336
    @immanuelingari4336 Рік тому

    Did he just say Africa!!🎉Welcome to the Maasai Mara-Kenya.Its magical ❤

  • @Wamiltom
    @Wamiltom Рік тому

    Please come to Ireland 🇮🇪🍀 I would love meeting you guys ❤

  • @williamlarson275
    @williamlarson275 Рік тому +1

    U guys r amazing!

  • @yes3373
    @yes3373 Рік тому

    I've been waiting for this kind of content from you guys ❤

  • @anthonyvisor8880
    @anthonyvisor8880 Рік тому

    Great video!!!!

  • @cam6232
    @cam6232 Рік тому

    20:23 for answer 😄

  • @liljimbob11
    @liljimbob11 Рік тому +2

    PJ: Sex life is important to me…
    Thomas: Nods

  • @Js2Jo
    @Js2Jo Рік тому +1

    PJ and Thomas, I love your Q&A on this video, I can't believe you're both maintaining a healthy sex life at your house in Tennessee, thanks to your kids!! #husbands #gaycouple

  • @andrewkeegan3008
    @andrewkeegan3008 Рік тому +1

    I wish someone had asked about PJ's modeling days. As in how did he get into it. From a very small town and he doesn't seek the limelight so how did that all happen?

    • @TomLloyd-18
      @TomLloyd-18 3 місяці тому

      gr8 question. hopefully in a future Q & A

  • @innocentelf2908
    @innocentelf2908 Рік тому +1

    Red, white and royal blue suppermacy

  • @jr370113
    @jr370113 Рік тому +10

    The most boring fact about Thomas is that he’s a swiftie.

    • @RAVEENNAShreedevi
      @RAVEENNAShreedevi Рік тому

      @jr I think you don't deserve to be a swiftie

    • @jr370113
      @jr370113 Рік тому +2

      @@RAVEENNAShreedeviI’m not a swiftie.

    • @Chuathanhsaodalaplanh
      @Chuathanhsaodalaplanh Рік тому +1

      Excuse me. What kind of Swiftie broke your little heart 😂😂😂😂

    • @johniii8147
      @johniii8147 Рік тому

      LOL..yeah i find that boring. I expect TJ is just like whatever on the topic.

  • @kennethrush9363
    @kennethrush9363 Рік тому

    Hi guys with all very bad weather we here about on the media here in the U K I hope you ok Can’t wait to see the holiday home all finished with P J fabulous ideas and designs LV TO YOU ALL xxx

  • @raptizstephen
    @raptizstephen Рік тому +2

    13:02 that's my question 😎👌🗿

  • @BollywoodMediaOnline
    @BollywoodMediaOnline Рік тому +3

    I cannot believe PJ is 37, he looks 27, please share your age-defying secrets and beauty HACKS lol .....

  • @frankgyure3154
    @frankgyure3154 Рік тому

    I have seen A lot of videos but this question has not been put out there or Been answered.

  • @shawntaljaardviljoen3950
    @shawntaljaardviljoen3950 Рік тому +1

    When the ADHD Kicks in ... "Most boring fact about Thomas"

  • @noelle2see
    @noelle2see Рік тому +2

    PJ is 37? Wow you gorgeous man, who knew?

  • @alanday5255
    @alanday5255 8 місяців тому

    I think the phrase "Sexually Compatible" is an awful word for Gay relationships. What I think is more important is sexual flexibility as opposed to being a Top or Bottom.

  • @jadrankarodic9876
    @jadrankarodic9876 Рік тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤My beautiful family. Thanks a lotfor thisamazing video.

  • @EnriquePascual1989
    @EnriquePascual1989 Рік тому

    ANOTHER Q&A!

  • @deejay5457
    @deejay5457 Рік тому

    Thanks for sharing and bless you for adopting your kids. You all make a beautiful family

  • @robertsimons806
    @robertsimons806 Рік тому

    Hi i seeing in one of your vlog your son got sick how is your son now all better i hope by robert

  • @Gary_Texan_USA
    @Gary_Texan_USA Рік тому +3

    You two are a delightful and interesting couple. I love your videos and your family are awesome. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @sundanceks5074
    @sundanceks5074 Рік тому

    When I flew to Hawaii from NM I took a sleeping pill and then got there.

  • @aaronbynum8968
    @aaronbynum8968 Рік тому

    Pj looks like Ken Doll they could have cast him in the Barbie Movie and he would have fit right in Thomas just has safe organic beauty like Joanna Gaines

  • @brettedgar6733
    @brettedgar6733 9 місяців тому

    Y'ALL LOOK LIKE BROTHERS.

  • @rosa1058
    @rosa1058 7 місяців тому

    The first 5 years of our relationship was very hot, but after 10 years we are so mad involved, then our tools becomes a little over work. So sex is not really really that important. It's like only 50 % when we have an urge.😅

  • @susanmark2000
    @susanmark2000 Рік тому

    Fun! Thanks.

  • @danielwilda8167
    @danielwilda8167 Рік тому +4

    You Men are Excellent role models for our society love your normal persona 👍🏳️‍🌈🇺🇸💜⭐️💪🌈🐻🧸💙

    • @alanaban1840
      @alanaban1840 Рік тому

      Two men are not sexuality compatibility / only man and woman are/

    • @TomLloyd-18
      @TomLloyd-18 3 місяці тому

      @@alanaban1840 lol . . . oh . . so . . .naive. You've got a lot to learn

    • @alanaban1840
      @alanaban1840 3 місяці тому

      @@TomLloyd-18 I think you also have a lot to learn/ the woman was design for the man / not the man for the man - that is a perversion of nature law- the two sex organs do not fit- it is penis and vergina not penis and ass hole - this is - that type of relationship is unnatural and dead end/ love that is mis directed and against the procreative order of natural order/ like charges repel each other/ marriage is husband and wife not husband and husband that is the correct way / do not pervert things

    • @alanaban1840
      @alanaban1840 3 місяці тому

      @@TomLloyd-18 so too you/ Do not pervert mature/ sex is betweem penis and vergina not penis an ass hole/you asss hole is an exit for shit not an entrance for the penis/ homosexual love is love that is mis directed just as homosexual sex/ put things in places they were design for do not force entry into things/marrage is husband and wife NOT husband and husband/ we all cane as a result of hetro sex which is normal

    • @alanaban1840
      @alanaban1840 2 місяці тому

      @@TomLloyd-18 I agree we all have many more to learn/ let me repeate - sex is between vergina and penis / woman sex organ and an man sex organ/ you ass hole is not a sex organ it is part of the digestrive system / it was not desighn for sex / do not force entry into an exit for shit it is wrong That s what you should learn

  • @prl08
    @prl08 Рік тому

    I’m always telling Siri to remind me of something too!

  • @cooneybrendon
    @cooneybrendon Рік тому

    wait there is a clip of pig segs 😮

  • @Nurse8812
    @Nurse8812 Рік тому

    The most boring fact about Thomas had me rollin!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 then the Thomas’s phone reminders sounds just like my hubby!

  • @reblxlb
    @reblxlb 8 місяців тому

    IMA single dad raising a 14-year-old. I envy you guys

  • @ashboss727
    @ashboss727 Рік тому +1

    Why are rich people scared of saying YES WE ARE RICH

    • @Not-Ap
      @Not-Ap Рік тому

      Cause it makes them look like hypocrites and forces them to admit to themselves it was more than just hard work that got them to where they are now.

    • @TomLloyd-18
      @TomLloyd-18 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Not-Ap it's a subjective situation. 'Rich' to one person may equal 'comfortable' to another. I'm relatively new here - and have recently binged 8 yrs worth of their videos and have come to realize they have worked their asses off to be where they are now. I consider them to be 'comfortable'. Not lacking for anything . . . but, not necessarily 'rolling in the dough' either.

  • @timsimmons4615
    @timsimmons4615 2 місяці тому

    Thomas looks better with his hair cut shorter.

  • @aznguymetal
    @aznguymetal Рік тому

    You guys still look the same. 😂❤

  • @vinayakvarma868
    @vinayakvarma868 Рік тому

    Sleeps 9-11 hours (almost half your life) wow😄

  • @AfraidMonsters
    @AfraidMonsters Рік тому +2

    YALL ARE 30s?!?!?!?!
    BRUHHHH. You guys look like mid 20s or late 20s max. wow. damn!

  • @adriandidi5109
    @adriandidi5109 Рік тому

    The question about your motivation to work hard is SOOOO american. You guys live to work. I‘d be so unhappy when this would be my reality. Hope this is really what you want and not what you think others want you to think you really want

  • @Kopyrek
    @Kopyrek 10 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @johniii8147
    @johniii8147 Рік тому

    Just fly business class to NZ. It makes it tolerable. Also stop over on the west coast to break it up.

  • @АлександрДемидов-э3г
    @АлександрДемидов-э3г 8 місяців тому

    🤗🥰😘

  • @juztina7346
    @juztina7346 Рік тому

    Pj maintain so well… thomas change alot though..

  • @ejohnson3131
    @ejohnson3131 Рік тому +2

    You too look like brothers! TF why is this in my feed?

  • @brettedgar6733
    @brettedgar6733 9 місяців тому

    GREAT LIFE, GOOD STOCK, GOOD BRAINS.❤

  • @skammer2007
    @skammer2007 9 місяців тому

    9-11 hours of sleep?????????????????????????????????????? way too much....on my farm, I may get 6....both of you guys are handsome

  • @rrubio6660
    @rrubio6660 Рік тому

    TMI...

    • @ratbastard6293
      @ratbastard6293 Рік тому

      It’s a personal channel about their relationship... the topic was in the title so why did you click on it?

    • @rrubio6660
      @rrubio6660 Рік тому

      @@ratbastard6293 My point exactly! So, why did YOU click on it???!!! I clicked on it to tell them it's TMI! The whole world need not know it. Everyone feels the need to monitize EVERYTHING.