I’m Dating a Married Man (He Won’t Divorce Her)
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She said she divorced her husband bc he cheated on her, just to want to get remarried to another man that's cheating on his own wife. Some of y'all just need to learn to be alone bc this is a mess.
he cheated but did he cheat first? feels like there's more questions than answered......
@@saeedhossain6099 IMO it does not matter who cheated 1st...cheating is cheating.
This is that quote that says "When you point the finger at someone, remember you've got 3 fingers pointed back at you."
@@mrseliephant but she was with the guy for 2 years! Most likely they were both and like you say it doesn’t matter who did first
The longer I listened to her, the more I didn't buy anything she was saying about her first husband.
The "I'm going through a divorce too" oldest trick in the book. She doesn't realize he's using her and she's a sidepiece.
She realizes. She knows how cheaters work she is one and she was married to one and she’s having an affair with one.
She actually says ridiculous laws and pieces of paper with reference to his marriage. But she divorced her cheating husband like he owed her something more than ridiculous pieces of paper. So her husband was supposed to be faithful while she’s a cheater. She’s completely amoral.
My Aunt dated a married man, he never left her! Thank God my Aunt had a reality check and left. She met someone else and was happy.These unfaithful men just want to use a women for convenience.
Yep 100%
She’s the horrible person. 100% her fault.
My mom always said "lo que mal empieza, mal acaba" which translates to "what begins in a bad way, ends in a bad way"
And lo mal quitado, no luce....
Lol
We say 'how you get him is how you lose him'.
Muy cierto. I don't understand the people who think that divorcing their spouses will result in a fairytale happy ending.
Tu mami was right
I will never understand women who mess with married men and then they believe all the married man's bs.
Women dont do it for the man. They do this to try amd take something from another woman.
he has the best of both worlds and is probably telling himself 1001 good reasons why he can do this ....I would not be surprised if he blames it all on the caller if he ever gets caught by his wife...he is just a silly boy.
They were both married and separated....
If they cheat WITH you, they'll cheat ON you.
It has something to do with being able to take a man from another woman that feeds their ego. They think they are "better" because they got the guy. Women really think about stuff like this differently than men. Like, men wearing a wedding ring get hit on more than men that don't wear one. There's actual studies that were done that showed this. As to why they believe the lies... That's pretty simple: They want to and it's the same lies they tell themselves. It's really easy to lie to people if you just tell them what they want to be true. They'll fill in all the gaps themselves.
Lady you just got divorced. Can you not be single for 5 minutes???
She can't wait because the new guy is probably loaded and she's gold digging. If you listen at 6:13 she said, "A bunch of legalities with businesses he owns". I also wouldn't be shocked if she was the cheater with her first marriage.
people just scared and unable to be alone, very sad, she sounds needy
Sounds like she wasn’t even divorced before they started dating
@@raynaemurray Didn't even sound like, that's what she said happened.
She wants children. Maybe her husband didn’t.
She's the other woman and doesn't want to admit it... Once a cheater, always a cheater. He probably wasn't going thru a divorce but just said it to appease her.
Exactly. By her own words she tries to stay out of it. She knows but doesn’t want to admit it
"Once a cheater always a cheater" is a BS saying. People are fully capable of learning lessons
It's not cheating if both parties agree that they're separated
@@tubeloobsTrue but personalities rarely change. Cheaters are very self centered and chase after instant gratification, not good for relationships.
@@tubeloobs no they're not. Cheaters will always cheat.
Why would you want a man who would cheat on his spouse?
Indeed
Especially since she claims that her previous husband cheated on her… 😒
💯 Most obvious question in the universe.
But he loves her and won't cheat on her....... 😅
He's a low life and she's a low life...birds of a feather type thingy.
You’re dating a married man. Own it. If you can’t say it you don’t like it.
Personally, I think she likes doing this, and she really likes telling people some other narrative. I've noticed these types over the years and they're scary to be around.
@@Sam11747gross
@@Sam11747 one landed me in the hospital 2 whole years after I dumped him for running around with her. You know them when you spot ‘em.
A man who leaves a woman for you will leave you for someone else.
The vast majority of married men won't leave.
What shall we do with the married man who tries to hook up with a single woman and wants to cheat telling fairy tell to her, the next victim of his lies? 1) call/write his wife? 2) hang him out on Instagram and likewise call out his buddies who play along in his games? 3) report to his parents and the brothers of the wife? 4) write the accusation on his Facebook page? 5) call Dr John and use the real names, by mistake?
Aren't we all in a moral dilemma when we get to know about such attempts? (Reverse for gender in question, please!)
correct. there's always going to be some wild excuse as to why they "can't leave"...is what they always say!
A mistress who becomes a wife leaves a job opening behind her
@@DNA350ppm What God has bought together, let no man put asunder.
You don't run around breaking people's marriages up.
The reality is, I strongly suspect many people know deep down, their spouse is cheating on them.
They prefer to remain willfully blind, and hope that life eventually returns to normal.
But he isn't doing that.? Are yall even listening?
You don’t need babies with a married man.
True. She also said "settle down and have babies". She wants money and a lifestyle for it. She said the guy owns multiple businesses. He's loaded and she's probably digging for gold. lol
No one needs babies with a 39 year old, they’ll be autistic AF.
@@Sam11747 Remember the movie Idiocracy? I think she starred in it.
She dont need babies PERIOD!!
cray cray!!
The lies people tell themselves… he’s not getting a divorce, Samantha!
With her wording, tone, fluctuations, etc. I think she's only lying to everyone else. I think she's fully aware what's going on.
It’s cool to wait to see how things pan out. Jumping into relationships so quick just a recipe for heartbreak.
Why on earth would a man go through two years 2 1/2 years of divorce, lose half his assets, half his business, and then get into another marriage??? That is insane!
You hit the nail on the head cuz in this specific instance where the bf is obviously a more or less rich guy. For a calculative cheater, the biggest thing at this moment is to cut losses hardcore. He would try his best to stay legally (albeit unhappily for both) married to his wife so that he doesn't lose a hefty amount of his money and still string along this foolish woman for sexual fun. Harsh truth. But the truth. The caller needs to RUN. Cuz she ain't gonna get the money.
Yeah this chic is dumb. I lost braincells listening to her. She got cheated on but sees nothing wrong with being the side304😂 as if he won't do it again.
that's the answer John didn't want to say - the guy isn't dumb enough to repeat this process with her.
@@trishasurangana2278 STDs & potential pregnancy.
That’s the thing. People with messy finances tend to just stay married and pretend they o be divorced so they don’t have to divide assets. I’ve seen it several times.
Her husband cheated on her she left.
Now she is having affair with a man that is cheating on his wife⁉️
🤔hmmmmm wonder if she ever thought of that ⁉️
The more this lady talked the less I liked her. And I didn't buy half of what she was saying. Ten to one she was messing around w/ him early on & now she gets her "prize", he doesn't leave his wife.
I think she cheated with him out of revenge for her husband's cheating. But she started to catch feelings. The married guy is just enjoying the sex.
Yeah, after listening to her, I have my suspicion she cheated on her first husband.
He didn't on cheat her. You could hear the lie in her voice
For someone who says "I knoooow" a lot, she doesn't know that guy is lying and stringing her alonge.
Oh, she does all right, she just refuses to accept it for whatever reason.
She legit sounds like a psychopath. 😅
Mhmm
lol you noticed that too
She is suffering from low self-esteem. She needs to have the courage to build her self up, and get herself out of that hole. Please, have compassion for this woman.
She’s incredibly annoying to listen to. She’s well aware she’s dating a married man but can’t take a clue and is latching on to said married man probably out of fear of being alone.
Probably, and the biological clock is ticking... or, is the biological clock an excuse, too?
She is proud of her behavior; the new relationship won’t last.
She doesn't sound like the brightest person . The end
Agree.
She's very proud of her behavior, and she's even smug about it. She's going to get a reality check.
Which person broke a vow? She didn't. He did and continues to.
Nothing wrong with dating a separated man in the process of getting a divorce
She is in denial, he is not going to divorce his wife, they never do. She needs to end it with the words:" okay, call me when you got divorced until then I live my life without you, see ya!" The call is not going to happen. she is wasting precious lifetime on this guy. He just wants all the cool stuff that comes with this relationship but not the duties, classic friends with benefits situation with a man promising lots of nonsense to keep her in his world.And to be honest : people who move from longterm relationships to the next without ever being alone for a period of time , they never become wiser or more mature. If he really is divorcing his wife , he should take a break from dating and relationships for a while to see clear again.
Sometimes they do, but then the cycle continues. He’ll cheat on her eventually and/or he’ll go back to his wife aka the old supply.
They very much do divorce their wives. But he won’t be with her when he does. He’ll find someone else.
She shouldn't want him at all because she already knows he's a cheater. She needs to say a final goodbye then start looking at improving herself and setting better standards for herself.
"She is in denial, he is not going to divorce his wife, they never do. " - She's not in denial. She's creating an alternate reality. She's cold and calculating. She's in the realm of double down fallacy, but she thinks if there's a 10% chance he'll settle with her it's better than starting over again.
@@Sam11747Agreed. But let me add, She's trying to decide if she's going to "accidentally" get prego and what all that would entail....
That's the alternate reality she's working on.
I dated a guy going through a divorce. After months of dating and checking the divorce status online(seeing progress) they ended up dismissing it and back together...I was devastated…we went no contact. 2 years later he shows up at my job asking me to be his mistress. I will never put myself in this situation again. Save yourself the heartache and focus on yourself
What an idiot.
Karma. You got what you deserved.
Ill marry you
To be 39 and this delusional is crazy work.
Kardashian, Madona, and Hollywood mentality
quick divorce, quick remary
quick divorce quicky remary
Its like rewriting book, and make new update.
Now the "Pride month" virus came to middle Europe here
the cities pay attention to it.
We are very thankful to America, for every event they create....for themselves. :D
@@alenaadamkova5322Don’t forget Jennifer Lopez in that list.
@@alenaadamkova5322 I'm so happy Pride Month infected your corner of the world!
My mom did the same thing. Left my dad for a married man and he said nope and reconciled with his wife after she moved out of state to be with him.
It’s a story I’ve heard time and time again.
The gist of everything is "Because he doesn't want to".
Her husband cheated on her so now she's dating a guy who's still married. If that isn't the biggest "you have become the very thing you swore to destroy", I don't know what is.
My guess is there's more to the story here, and she's just not wanting to come clean with it. She comes across as extremely manipulative.
Straight up
She's attracted to cheaters.
She goes after those type of guys, and that's a two hour call unto itself!
Pretty much
In every single call I’ve heard where a woman is asking about dating a married man, I’m always shocked by how immature they sound. This one is no exception.
It’s like they’re a delusional, jealous 15 year olds. It’s so pathetic and gross.
Women love a thrill.
I think the immaturity is more a lack of self-love and self-worth.
Lack of basic accountability and human decency is always the commonality. They also never admit that what they're doing is in fact...cheating.
Although he's married, it sounds like the married man is loaded. It's not shocking how many women are quick to ignore their morals when a man has money, looks, etc.
@@Sam11747 If you are quick to ignore morals...you never had them to begin with.
When morals or integrity are tested and you stick to them is when you prove that you actually have morals or integrity.
If he really wanted to marry you he would move mountains to end his marriage. Move on.
Soooo true!!!!!
2 minutes in and I'm like "this b CANNOT be serious"
Capital B!! lol
Very serious, and verrrrrry ridiculous!
This is the world we live in lol
You typed my exact thought!
When you meet someone in a relationship, keep your hands off!
Agreed 100% I'd never consider breaking up a couple no matter how taken I was with a woman, to me it's so morally wrong
I agree, but that's not how the world works for a lot of women unfortunately.
Right? I just hear Karen Hill from Goodfellas screaming "GET YOUR OWN GODAMN MAN!!!!"😂
What these "other women" don't realize is that if they were to exit the picture completely, the chances of reconciliation with the wife is so much more probable. ESPECIALLY if there are children involved.
I used to catch my ex texting other women and he would pick a fight with me and run to her to vent that I'm a jealous person, controlling blah blah blah.
Don't get me wrong, I think these types of women know exactly what they're doing. Based on what she said and how she said it, she seems like a very cold and calculating type. I've worked and gone out with these types of women, never knowing they were in a relationship, and they're very scary to be around as a man. I don't know how to put it but it's like a mix of completely disconnected from reality in an a sociopathic-like manner. The married man she's with is also in the same boat.
Nobody leaves an entree for a side dish. She’s deluding herself. She’s nothing more than a side salad.
It happens
Love the "side sals" term
An appetizer 😂
She’s the soft yucky lettuce under the appetizer!
@@abby4027 IF it was going to happen, it would have happened already. This married dude is lying to her and has no intention of divorcing his wife. He's just using her and then going home to his wife who enjoys all the benefits while this pathetic side piece goes home to an empty, lonely house, wishing she was the wife. Sick, stupid sh!t.
I had a friend who was dating a married man - she didn't know at first but hung in after she knew. He kept stringing her along with the "I'm getting a divorce routine". She finally gave him an ultimatum and he said he gave the wife divorce papers. I told her to ask to see a copy of them and he had to admit he had not done that. Finally, she broke up with him.
@clearsky4003 the two of them at fault. Women are not brainless
Good friend for forcing her to ask the right questions
My husband cheated on me so I decided to help another husband do the same thing to his wife
At the end you are the one hurting yourself
That is what happened in my relationship. I pretended to be him on his Instagram account and messaged with the $/¥+, she actually tried to use her ex husband cheating on her to convince him that I would leave him so he should just get divorced and move on with her. I was shocked!
Yeah, makes no sense.
Exactly
Literally😩
She says that she doesn't remember how or when she and the boyfriend got reconnected
That is simply not true.
I am surprised there is not more comments about that part!!! I don’t believe her! They started seeing eachother well before any were divorced
Agreed.
She's already talking marriage and babies with a man who isn't even divorced yet. She's incredibly naive and immature.
I’ve noticed most men and women who are like this are sociopathic or narcissistic. They have issues with normal attachment and feelings.
Needy too
She’s delulu
LET HIM GET A DIVORCE FIRST! HE'S STRINGING YOU ALONG! A DIVORCE DOESN'T TAKE YEARS!
With children and assets, divorces often take 2-3 years (so the attorneys can drain all the money possible.)
I know two men who married vindictive women their divorce cost them over 50k in court, and lawyer fees first guy took 4 years and 3 years for the other. So yes, some divorces can take years
@@H.R.H-Amina_Bin_Shafiq-SHAKTI oh yes, they absolutely can! Shouldnt, but they def can. They system is even more corrupt than the marriages.
Yes, they do. And the property settlement can drag out even longer.
I once knew a man who went to court 29 times because his wife would not settle and felt that he was hiding assets. They were both older in their early '70's and the wife had suffered a stroke. The judge told her to settle because neither of them had that many years more to live. Best not to waste your life on anyone going through a divorce.
Sad how people just throw away marriages.
It is actually sad how people get married in the first place. Many marriages shouldn't have happened.
Whats sadder is how many stayed in miserable marriages throughout the ages
@@lorainefleeman6011 lol. yeah I guess it all kinda sucks. 😎
Whether or not the marriage "should have happened", both parties chose it and made vows to one another. You work things out unless it's so bad it's impossible. Most of the time, that's not the case.
They think the marriage is to serve them. Their needs.
They don’t get it’s to serve a higher purpose, a community, a spiritual structure for society that helps ensure population and development of the species. Marriage is what you contribute, not what you tolerate or what serves you.
"we're designed to move forward in relationships" uh yeah, when neither person is ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP.
If a man leaves his wife for his mistress he creates a vacancy for a new mistress
True. She's basically a wet hole for him. I don't know what she expects.
Pretty sure she's not the only one. Her ego is huge if she thinks he won't do it to her
🎯 he’s just gaslighting her that he’s “leaving” and going to marry her and have babies\children for 18 years. NOBODY gets a messy divorce and loses half their worth immediately says “I want to get married again immediately and get you pregnant, with 18-20 more years of financial obligations.”
For someone who says "l Know" so much she really doesn't know anything.
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 🤦♀️ I know 😅
My dad left and moved in with his mistress when I was 9. He refused to divorce my mom-that would have meant selling the house and splitting the bank accounts. He lived with the side piece for 4 years. The mistress finally kicked him out when she finally realized he’d never marry her, and he came back to my mother. My mother actually took the POS back. They rarely divorce the wife.
That’s awful. What a terrible example they set for you. I’m so sorry.
Damn. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Sounds like some of us whose fathers just left might have had it easier 😢
@@velvetplans5396What made it worse was that he had a massive stroke 6 years later, making him paralyzed and unable to speak. My mother actually took care and of him until he died.
@@benu_birdI’m sorry to hear that. But it does say soo much about your mom. Your mom is a very beautiful role model for love and forgiveness and that is Life.
@@godfirstthenfamily6922 She actually was a narcissistic abuser who looked for every opportunity to be the victim. One of my earliest memories of her was disagreeing about which socks I was to wear. She told me that if I didn't put on the socks that she wanted me to wear, I'd find her dead in the bathtub with her wrists slit-and no one would be there to take care of me. That's "a very beautiful role model for love" indeed. And she never forgave him. She just didn't want to have to get a job. They deserved each other. I went no contact with them before I started my own family. Best decision I ever made.
Most men don’t jump right into marriage after a divorce, especially with children.
Neither do women. Riding the choo choo train. Newly divorced people are like animals let out at the circus. both men and women have a hoe and plow phase.
and they shouldn't!
SAME FOR WOMEN. SHE DOESNT HAVE ANY KIDS YET SHE CLAIMS TO WANT THEM,. IF THE BF HAS KIDS ITS GONNA GET DIFFICULT.
"Why not?" Because he doesn't want to, Samantha. If the guy wanted to leave his wife and marry you, it would've happened by now.
I've never understood dating someone who's already spoken for in marriage, then expecting the cheater to commit to you. If they're willing to do it to their partner, what's to stop them cheating on you later?
Either way cheating on your partner is bs - be an adult and break it off if you're not happy, the person being cheated on just gets left with relationship trauma and trust issues just because you want a little fun behind their back, completely selfish and spineless!
I could see if they have been separated for a long time and don't live together
May this level of desperation never locate me. Imagine you have gone through a process of divorce from a cheater and instead of healing and dealing with it first you are so quick to jump into another relationship worst of all with a married man. Just imagine how this man will view you. You are a place where he channels his weaknesses and he will never respect you.
Don’t’ let your boyfriend keep you from finding you husband….run
It sounds like they both had an affair on their spouse even though she denied it.
Yep
@@clearsky4003
True or not, sounds like probably ALL were cheating. 😂
💯
Why do we use the term 'dating a married man' instead of 'I'm committing adultery with a married man'? Isn't the former softer that using the word 'adultery'?
The former is softer, but it’s also closer into what’s actually happening. Adultery emphasizes the wrongness of it, but “dating a married man” emphasizes the stupidity.
True. You can't DATE married people. They are married. You are having an affair with them. These people belong to the streets.
Because it's 2024
👍🏼👍🏼@@garfieldGG
This is a tale as old as time. I feel like John discusses this every other week yet no one learns.
“The thought of your impending loneliness makes me sad. But not sad enough not to sing about it in your face =)”
He ain’t leaving…….
Exactly ...why would he
A relationship that starts this way is going to have no respect, once you’re not convenient for him he will leave, that’s what I’ve seen at least
She probably knows that but doesn't care. She justifies it with "settle down and have babies". The man probably can financially take care of her, and she thinks she's invested too much into this she'll get him to marry him.
@@Sam11747 that’s trueeee the “I’ve already gone this far” train of thought is very strong
@@tkbreen1381 Although that's part of it, the more I think about it she seems very cunning, cold and calculating.
How can you ever trust each other? Everytime they leave the house, you would be wondering what they are up to.
Oh, never get involved with someone married. Or even separated! Takes about 2 years to recover from a divorce.
Not having gone through a mediation after 2 years- IS bananas. Im a divorce lawyer- thats kinda crazy- very unlikely honestly
HE ISNT GONNA GO THRU MEDIATION, HE DOESNT WANNA LOSE OR SPLIT UOP THE ASSETS.
I was wondering how long that normally takes. Thanks.
You're helping him stay in his relationship. A vacation from the real world. He gets recharged and sent home empty.
My mom always said- people do what they want to do
Her casual giggles about the reality of her relationship makes me think the dude is smart to keep his distance.
@@clearsky4003He is the problem and the affair partner is the problem too. They are both doing something immoral and the wife has zero participation on this. Do you have any idea of how the wife will become after the discovery date? She will be traumatized. 😢
She was cheated on now she is cheating with a married man makes sense.
Exactly. I'm finding it very difficult to believe her divorce story.
One wonders why she married her first husband when she knew the affair person first?? Did she marry on the rebound, if they had a temporary breakup??
Shes probably the one who cheated on her husband.
I mean if you want to word it that way 🤦♀🤦♀🤦♀
Ma'am, you're dating a married man who's stringing you along. If he wanted to finalize his divorce to be able to be with you, he would. Couple of years? Jesus 💀
"You're dating a married man. How else would I word it." Great to let her know that up front. There is no WE when the other person is still married.
This home-wrecker has no shame. This man is not leaving his wife for her. Even if he does leave his wife, he will not marry her.
No home wrecker does. None of them have any Shame. If they did they wouldn't be wrecking someone else's Home to make a Home for themselves. Envy, Greed and Hatred at their Worst all rolled into one.
Even if he does marry her, he will cheat on her.
So much judgement.
@@camellia8625 Sounds like something a home wrecker would say.
@@SarahConnor562 I knew it lol! Maybe she’s the caller…..
"Don't sacrifice what you know is right and what you know love looks and feels like in a desperate attempt to complete this picture."
-John Delony
Date a married person and you get what you deserve. This should have been a 15 second phone call.
Well luckily Dr John is more realistic and mature than you, so it lasted way longer.
Agreed, but I think this is just a reflection of who she was. I'm seriously doubting her divorce story.
39 and acting 15. Sad
Also, wanting children and waiting for a dude to get divorced, marry you and have them when you're 2 years beyond geriatric pregnancy age is wild. Years of poor decisions led to this. Years of immature, selfish thinking and poor foresight. Learn from this woman people you don't want to end up like her
Life can be painful, but she is not a victim
every action has an equal and opposite reaction 🤷🏻♀️ choose wisely. i find the happiest and most blessed ppl i know are the ppl who make good choices that don’t harm others. it’s as simple as it sounds, don’t over complicate life with excuses.
Well said
Trading in one cheater for another 😑
Make it make sense.
Oh come on. She's special. He actually loves her and would NEVER cheat on her. (Insert sarcastic voice)
@@clearsky4003 wait are you the mistress? 🤣🤣🤣Cause i notice you defending her so hard. Maybe you are or you were a side btch. But don't worry you have your responsibility in it too. 😂😂😂
He's using you and telling you what you want to hear so that he can keep you hanging around!
She didn’t have children with her first husband in seven years but just cannot wait to marry, settle down, and reproduce with new guy.
That’s interesting and also concerning.
I think the need to win is taking over here.
He's rich
Yeah. Been there, done that.
All types of excuses could be made, but at the end of the day, it's done out of selfishness, low self-worth, and blatant disrespect.
My situation was a rarity. He did leave, but I had already broke things off months before. When he proudly sent me a copy of his finalized divorce papers, it didn't even phase me, I just replied, "Good Luck."
Why did you participate in it then? Wasn't it what you wanted? And suddenly you retract after being a complice in breaking another woman heart even thought you knew you couldn't assume it. Both of you are trash.
This woman is the worst. She's going to live a miserable and lonely life if she doesn’t make major changes to her morals.
She hardly sounds like “the worst”. Did you listen to the whole call?
I knoooooooow!
@@Gemmarose9012 yup i listened to the whole call and she really is not a good person. You have to keep in mind that we are only getting her side of the story resulting in her portraying herself as the victim. She victimizes herself by saying how her ex husband cheated on her and how her new boyfriend won't commit to her by divorcing his wife and marrying her right away. We don't get the side of any other party that may give a sense that she may be manipulative or the cause of the issues in the guy's marriage.
Its just awful to cause issues in other people's relationships and she does it in the worst way.
@@Gemmarose9012Trying to destroy someone else's marriage while making excuses for her own behavior despite claiming that she's divorcing her husband due to his adultery makes zero sense.
If you think she's the worst, then you need to get out more.
I was a victim of this. I was single and dating a married woman who was 'separated' from her husband. Turns out she was using me to fill in the gap, and she ultimately went back to him. Big mistake on my part. I know that I am just as much a bad person for dating a married woman as she is for dating when she was married, wanted to make that clear.
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lol, you were not and are not a victim. You chose to date someone who was married. You chose to deceive her husband. In my opinion, you got what you deserve. KARMA.
She’s not getting strung along. She’s knowing and actively trying to marry a married man. This isn’t about him at all.
Its all about her ego and how she think her 🐱 is better than the wife…is a tale as old as time 😂
Shes in her feelings because she thought this married man was going to leave his wife for her….delusional
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash
amazing,i am kinda in a similar situation,how did you handle it?
well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer
Please how can i get in touch with the spiritual adviser?
her name is Quelani Eileen Freja, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster
You can look her name up online and you will find all you need.
I just want to say the comment section was so juicy to read.
Chef’s kiss 😗👌
Samantha, don’t set yourself on fire to keep other people warm!!! It’s time to start having better conversations!!!
Don't act like changing the wording makes the situation different. You are dating a married man.
She’s 39. Hoping to have kids. And waiting on a guy who’s taking years to finalized a divorce????? Her clock is about to expire.
Oof, that's the truth. I suspect that's the main reason she's not left him. She knows she's almost out of time to have children. That's a huge loss.
wow, that is the one line critical here; I am 36 and I think time is ticking for the second child, she is not on the first yet.
Wanting to *start* having kids at 39 is so rough. She may be able to, but depending on a number of factors, it may be incredibly difficult. My heart hurts for her, feeling as if she may have wasted 2-3 years with someone who isn't actually willing to build a life and family with her.
@@SarahConnor562its possible to show compassion to people who are in the wrong
She is totally responsible for this messy situation.
Congrats, 41 year old mom. Your baby has XY and Z.
I don’t feel bad for her lol. She should know better
😂she knew. 39 and a married man stw she too old to making this kind of decisions
If this guy and his wife are OPERATING a business together, it’s not a matter of buying her out. It’s a matter of replacing an operating partner.
This is a good point actually
I feel for her. Latching onto a man that wants his cake and eat it too. After a couple years, that is a clue that he won't leave his wife. Let him go. Respect yourself.
Not me.
@@ikeameltdown8012same
I know he’s pissed his side chick is calling the show 😂 babe I would love to get together but you know I can’t!
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Her husband cheated on her, she did not give herself time to heal.
There were a lot of things with that call that made me think we weren't getting the true story about her divorce.
They were together for seven years before they got married. Makes me think either both or one of them was a backup plan.
@@clearsky4003 yes. One of them settled for the other.
Girl, go and spend all this energy you’re giving to this man on yourself. Get right, with time you’ll see how much better it feels than the current. A good lad will come along one day but you know you’ll be right and got it together for something healthy
Coo coo for Cocoa Puffs? Tells me all I need to know.
🤯 when I heard the coco puffs
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Her husband did not cheat on her I believe she lied about that. She lowers her voice when she lies it seems like. And Ive been cheated on and as a wife I could never do that to another woman.
She's wasting her time on that guy. The time she is wasting on waiting for him she could take a break then date others. The time she is wasting is causing her grief. She needs to free up her energy and enjoy her life and there's a better chance the things she wants will fall into place with someone worthwhile.
She is not a quality woman. She’s not faithful or honorable. No good man should be stuck with this person.
The woman is foolish.
What an awful caller. “I want to be married and have babies” Sweetie, you were married.
Oh knock it off. Her partner cheated.
She's cheating now...! Sounds immature.
@@AshleyLebedevso she says, she could have been the cheater. Maybe with this married man, and her husband found out. We only have her word that her husband cheated.
...so...she should have stayed in the marriage just to have kids?
The amount of women who clearly don’t have good female friends really shows. Why would anyone want this mess around your family? A good female friend would call you out and tell you to wait…
I've got female friends who do stupid stuff repeatedly no matter how many times we warn them.
It’s the oldest story in the book. And it always has the same ending.
She tries to stay out of it? …she’s making it too easy for him by not holding him accountable to his part
She doesn't want to push him away because she knows if that happens, she'll be left and have zero chance of landing with him. Something about this man makes her think it's okay to be the mistress. I suspect it's because he owns multiple businesses and is loaded.
She said she was staying out of the property division issue. That is the right thing to do. Otherwise she might appear to be a gold digger, even if all she is doing is being a sounding board and doesn’t say anything other than supporting a fair and proper settlement of the assets.
@@genxx2724 Yes, she knows if she digs into it she'll come off as a gold digger. She's half good when it comes to 'impression management' (legit psych term), but fails on the other stuff. These types of people are scary to be around.
@@Sam11747 I couldn’t listen to the whole thing. I was disturbed by her sounding very happy and excited. Manic?
@@genxx2724 I know what you're saying. It comes off manic-like or delusional but it's not, because it sounds almost fake. Her word usage, tone fluctuation, pausing, etc. came off very predatory-like. She acted clueless for a lot of it but there were times where she was very cunning (e.g. pretending to stay out of the business finances), including the call. That's why I was mentioning about impression management, because I think she's doing that. If the call was indeed real, everything she says sounds really odd. It almost sounds like she wants to play this for the married man or his wife.
Deception is real
At age 39, if she wants to have babies she needs to find a man ready to commit NOW! Not a married man who may never leave his current wife and if he does it’ll be too late to have biological children.
How on earth does one find a man ready to commit “NOW!”? I would expect such a man would have issues, and she may be jumping from the frying pan into the fire.
@@SarahConnor562 That sounds unfair and inaccurate. From what she said,. they were both in the same boat: separated with divorces pending. Her divorce just came through first.
@@genxx2724But the divorce wasn't final!! 🙄 I have an uncle whose wife was an absolute nightmare almost from day 1. You think I batted an eye when he started seeing someone else while he was in the divorce process? Nope. If that makes me morally deficient, then so be it 🤷🏽♀️
@@ijustneedmyself divorces take a long time. It’s not like you can assume it’s a situation where the couple might reconcile. Often both parties are in new relationships before the divorce is final.
@@genxx2724 They sure can take a while, especially when major assets are involved. I definitely wouldn't advise jumping into anything new so quickly, but to say people should "honor" a shitty marriage by not getting into a relationship until everything is said and done divorce-wise is kinda silly. I mean, it's smart to consider local divorce laws, I guess. But whatever, it's ultimately not my business or anyone else's!
AMAZINGLY BOLD ADVISE AND INSIGHT!! Thank you for being so respectful while being completely honest as you teach what dignity and self worth looks like. 😊
She likes distant (or unavailable) men. Her husband cheated and she is practically with a cheater. She is drawn to men that don't value her. Most likely she is also a cheater (emotionally rather than physical) and insecure. No judgement but she needs to grow as a person before jumping into a new relationship. Sounds like Samantha got some red flags, and he is just tryna get the milk without buying the cow. There is a reason why the Bible says being with someone that has been "divorced" is adultery. It is a very broad idea, but things like this situation is at play in that statement.
He isn't even divorced.
Most evangelical marriages that I know are miserable and they treat their spouse poorly but as long as they don’t cheat they are self-righteous about their actions. What’s the Bible say about that? (PS-I married 31 years. No cheating. I think there are plenty of divorces that are justified.)
Absolutely right, it doesn't become right just because they get a divorce first.
She's not practically with a cheater. All of them are cheaters except maybe the woman in the other marriage. That's if we can trust what this manipulative woman says.
@@DuffyGabi agreed but that is because they chose someone that only fit into their own ideal. Most likely those people did not have the right knowledge on how to choose a person for marriage.
She needs to have a difficult conversation with herself
So many single people out there yet she chooses a married man.
i find her view on marriage contradictory
- referred to divorce as just paperwork
- gets involved with a married man
- doesn't want to play house
She needs a lot of therapy.
She doesn't wanna play house w a married manz which makes sense. But she shouldn't even be w him to begin w
Speaking as a cheater, I think she got exactly what she signed up for and deserves. And now she’s too old to have kids. I hope others learn from her mistakes.
The part of “I want to settle down and have kids”. I presume she’s having these doubts seeing the big 4 0 approach
@@VV-er3zg You can have a kid other ways. The "settle down" part along with the mention he owns multiple businesses is probably the real reason. She doesn't want kids. She wants kids with a well off man.
Shes not to old to have kids… 2 friends if mine had at 50..
Geriatric pregnancy is a thing🤷🏻♀️
So you’re dating a married man “ yeah you can put it that way” the look on his face
Yeah, that was a huge red flag when she said that.
My divorce took 4+ years, mostly because neither of us were in a rush - I wasn't planning on ever getting married again. (He was a major narcissist.)
What screwed him up was the woman he was living with gave him an ultimatum. Eventually they did get married, and several years later they divorced. She bankrupted him (he signed on a loan for her business, and it failed.) Then she also got a good chunk of his pension.
Dr. John is being very charitable to her.
If he had a show that belittled women he wouldn't be on the are very long.
She divorced because he cheated and now she’s with a guy who’s cheating on his wife.
He will never divorce his wife!