That won't be considered losing her if the bond itself never existed in the 1st place. You cannot lose anything when you never received anything in the 1st place. She never agreed to be your girlfriend. She never even offered you any 1 night stand. She did not offer you any relationship. All you did was admire from afar. So the reason why your heart is broken is because all this time, you were shy to a point where you never confessed until the day she left. So having her to leave is meant to get you to move on. It may take some time to heal over it, but eventually, you will find another girl to fall in love with only to go through that same cycle of having a crush. If you do meet the next woman, you can confess your feelings even when you know you will be rejected. I know how it is like because I have been there. It will hurt when your crush leaves and you don't see her again. Eventually, you heal from this. You just have to remember that there is no controlling the outcome of when your crush leaves once you choose the path of hiding your feelings.
You don’t know he didn’t confess and get spurned you are really assuming a lot and from the way you type you are not even 18 so try not to think you’re in any place to give life advice kid.
A good rule of thumb is if you can’t put together a grammatically correct sentence not to think your thoughts are worth sharing on the internet at all.
"Maybe they're not at a place in their life where they can give you the time and the attention. And that's okay. Someone else will." And it's even okay if no one else will.
i've been obsessed with someone for 3 years or so, and i have pretty much destroyed my life completely because of it. I was looking for some chill ASMR and clicked because I like cute faces, idk its some sort of visual trigger for me. I think this is the most weirdly specific video i've ever needed and I havent realised until you started talking and i checked the title lol
@@xnoname223 clear skin, fix up your hair, wear clothing he likes, nice smile, laugh at his jokes or whatever and always smile when he's around, find the same interests as him, if he catches you staring just look him dead in the eye for a second and then quickly turn your head back or look somewhere else, talk to him, call him, text him and a shit ton of other stuff. oh and most men like white painted nails
@@xnoname223 men love a women who embraces her feminine side. A girl who is proud and showcases her femininity is irresistible no matter how they look. For example: be bubbly, smile, be nice and gentle with everyone around you. Trust me he’ll look your way. Hope this helps.
you expained it SO SO WELL. You know sometimes you know the truth and you already know everything you hear but you just need someone else to say it otherwise you don't believe it. Thanks, good video.
Never would I imagine stumbled upon an ASMR channel with this much values. I'm going through similar circumstances and having a hard time getting out of it. Thank you so much for this, keep up your good work, Masha.
Dealing with limerence for a friend and finally coming clean with her and being rejected and potentially losing the friendship, this type of videos are a lifeline. Thank you for the bottom of my heart!
this guy and i talked for ages and he seemed to really like me: hed play guitar for me, play the songs i liked on call, say i was beautiful, flirt with me, he even did my homework once when i was sick and i asked him why and he said it was because he adored me. then my sister started dating his best friend and it got all messed, and now i have to force myself to get over him, even though him unfollowing me on instagram even made me sob
I would like to share a story. I loved her, she loved me, and we both tried to communicate about it. She had gotten a boyfriend, though, so by the time I had the gut to say something, she had already been in a relationship. She loved him. I still loved her. It hurt, and drove me into a depression. We had feelings for each other for three years. It seems like it would be bound to happen at some point, and her slowly growing away from me hurt. It hurt a lot. She is happy though, and so am I, knowing they are in a healthy relationship. We are friends, she still cares about my wellbeing, and I still care about hers. To say that I have no feelings for her still is not true, because even when it’s been about a year, my love for her lingers. I believe it is enough to say that I am definitely recovering, and I was finally more open about the matter.
I could definitely write a book about this topic because I've been in this situation before. In fact, I've written about it online a few times. Unrequited love is not a nice thing to go through, but I'm glad I went through it because post the experience began the journey to my self-discovery, self-introspection, and self-realization. I was forced to recreate myself. Actions and silence speak louder than words. Congrats on the 50k subscribers!
@@Master.Baiting_to_you see? You just addressed me as a "miss" and I'm a Sir, meaning your words are simply based on assumptions rather than facts. I'm done with this conversation. Keep well man.
Going through something similar right now - only it was not them not meeting my standards or not being a right fit. Instead I made the fault of completely falling for someone whose private situation I knew nothing about but just imagined/expected them to be available after they were very deeply caring and open to me in what was probably just them being friendly. It was a display of care and love unlike I have ever experienced from a friend before so I mistook it for something more and started building out a possible future together in my head over months where we couldn’t meet but stayed in regular contact. Now after all that we finally met again and spend a weekend together only for me to discover, they have been in an open relationship with 2 partners for many years. So I had clearly misinterpreted all the “signs”… thing is I clearly love them and we get along great just not in the way I had hoped for. But purging them is not going to help… trying to accept the circumstances now and my own mistakes that led to all this, but it hurts 😢
A friend and I became very close a year ago and she told me she was in love with me. Several months later, after we had confessed so many feelings to each other, she abruptly pulled away with no explanation, and later got back with an ex. It shattered me for several months afterward. I've journaled about it, tried asking her for closure only to get dismissed, saw a therapist, etc. And this video has been possibly the best coping tool I've come across, and put it all in perspective. Thank you, so much, for this.
This happened to me yesterday except that she didn't leave me for her ex. We've been friends for 5years and by the beginning of this year we became very close. So as time goes by and we get more intimate, she finally told me that she loved me and we began to plan our whole life together. That shit meant the world to me. The thing is, that only lasted 2 months as she suddenly completely changed her mind saying that it could never happen anything between us but she would still think about it. Last week she began to ghost me saying that she had a lot of things to do etc... So I waited, and yesterday I finally got to talk to her and she just confirmed that we will never have anything beyond just friends. I know it's not as bad as yours but this completely destroyed me. I've really loved her for a long time now and I know it only gets worse from here. It was the first time someone told that they loved me too, I can't even express what I feel right now.
@@giovanilucas4857 best to stop contacting her and maybe she'll realise she made a mistake but probably really best to move on before you hurt yourself mentally over it man. You can really torment yourself with these kind of relationships. It's hard to move on. It was really hard for me too and it took too long and the time I took didn't really make my mindset better. Maybe I'm just a person that needs more time but it doesn't matter. If you are ready to move on be open but don't look for love because you prob won't find it. Some people are lucky they meet that right person at the right time and some people need to have wait a while longer unfortunately.
@@giovanilucas4857 I hope you're recovering ok. The best thing for me to do was to cut off contact with her, because staying in touch kept reopening the wound. I've had to accept that people change their minds, and no matter how little sense it makes to us, and how terrible it hurts, moving on is the best thing to do for ourselves. Wishing you well, man.
I had that exact situation okay out in my life. I found a friend I just clicked with instantly. We liked a lot of the same things and got along great. She had a partner and I had a one side crush on her and I was 100% content just knowing her. Things happen with her partner and she forces to tell her how I felt. So I did sadly and she said she felt the same and told me to wait while she thinks about everything. I got a text from their partner and they appreciated that I had feelings but I never acted on it and respected them. But I never got a reply from her and was blocked everywhere and it did break me. I always wondered if we would still be friends if I never told her I liked her. But I got over it I still see her on my Snapchat subscription every once in awhile but it doesn’t make me sad it’s just another person now
I had never experienced this until recently. It's been a surreal struggle. This video was in my feed and I don't watch many of these. This was helpful. Thank you so much! I am now a subscriber to your channel.
Wow. I’ve been going through something so similar. A girl I started talking to who we never made it out of the risking stage, but we did stay friends for a while. I found myself falling in love with her. By the time I found out she felt the same way, it was too late. Sometimes I feel I’ll never get over her. But maybe I found this particular video at just the right moment. Thank you. You’ll never truly grasp how much I needed this. And you ❤️
I cant lie, this made me tear up a bit, as much as I feel great about my own self and that the people I once messaged arent here anymore, it seems that underneath that happiness, I'm still scarred by the actions of others and what I perceive as love or interest.. you have calmly spoken your way into my mind it seems, I will say you have a way with your words
As a Male who was everything for a female, besides the intimate physical. I have learned & am still learning to Trust, believe, and have courage in myself to change, especially when your gut or soul already knows, as people & the universe will not do it for you. So make a choice, as it may be the best weight you lose or gain! Thank you for your time & energy Masha!
Omg , I can't describe how I felt even by just reading the title of this video . . . god bless you I can't even express my gratitude to you . . . god bless you again
i've been into asmr for a few years, but these videos are something else. You are capable of approach these issues as if you were in front of me or in front of any other person who is going through the same thing in such an understandable way. Thanks for doing what you do. (sorry if my english is not the best)
That would be considered your booty call. So if that relationship don't work out, of course, you will be forced to get over that person. So if you meet someone new and assuming relationship was not even built, yes, you may develop attraction even if you are not in relationship with that person. I will tell you a story. In March 2020, I developed attraction to my next door neighbor because it was a time where everybody is stuck in quarantine. Watching her picking up her package was already the part where I developed a crush. All I can do is watch my neighbor pick up her amazon package and her door dash. She does not do in person shopping after the pandemic. Then in June 2022, she moved out of the neighborhood. I never even build a relationship with her. I only admire from afar. So in this example, I am forced to get over her because she is out of my life. So I will tell you that if the person you are attracted to leaves, you will get over that person naturally.
Thank you so much for the advice given Masha! Your words made me so relaxed and understood. I was once there before. But I took my time to heal myself. In the end I understood that everyone has the right to choose who they want to be with and that's something I can never interfere with. Hope that everyone has a nice day ahead. Will support you always!
About feeling something for someone tou never dated: Look blank about what you know about this person, If you have any "oh noup" about, grasp on to It and push away. Only real experience with that one can let you retire the "noup" status. I just have scored ppl since forever based in their ACTIONS, not their looks, not their ideas, not their dreams... Well, i have to say, im grateful for my exes, their time and patience, but most, for showing me what actions are exactly the ones i can't cope with.
I asked him on a date and he ghosted me for 3 days. I finally went down to the same place we used to hang out and he saw me, started talking about socks of all things. He finally admitted that he decided to go on a date with someone else but that the decision was hard. I sometimes still see him and get sad because he’s so pretty and we are so compatible but I remember at the end did the day he didn’t respect me enough to tell me this at the beginning. His apology was also very selfish.
Your emotional intelligence is extremely high Masha Your know what to say to bring someone up, or more accurate- how to say. There is no hint of ego or cynicism. It's easy to see that you are 'that person' for most of those people in your life. Sending you much love Masha I keep listening and meanwhile writing more to this comment by editing it. We could have been good friends in some other reality ❣️
Your words feel as if they're describing my situation with this girl. I'm struggling to sleep right now and I came back to this video for a reminder and to help ease the pain that I'm experiencing. Thank you so much for making this video.
I wish I had discovered this video years ago. Thank you for sharing such inspiring words and insightful wisdom. I feel better equipped and empowered to live life again. Thank you so much for making this.
I have never cared about myself in any way shape or form. She and I worked together and she put in effort and showed she cared, and I developed feelings. She of course didn’t and started dating a guy exactly like me. I can’t shake her from my head no matter how hard I try. All the advice to do things for yourself doesn’t really register with me because I don’t care about me enough to do that. So I’m stuck not knowing what to do and just suffering every day.
Seeing you in this video with different hair is a mind-blowing experience, lol. I absolutely love the black. I myself am always evolving and going through different changes in consciousness. We must continue moving forward.
I just went through something like this and was getting used for attention. it really hurt me. because i'm a good guy and have never harmed a woman. and then one day i see her with this bad boy type loser. and was crushed. she was just using me for attention. and didn't care if i got hurt. when i told her i had feelings for her she could have told me she had a boyfriend then but didn't because she was selfish and only cared about her needs. and didn't care if i got hurt or not as long as she got her attention. we were friends when we first met and i tried to be her friend after i found out about Mr bad boy. but she did something today that showed me her true color's and that she isn't a true friend. So finding this video today was a blessing in disquise thank you very much you did an excellent job.
she was the girl I had been looking for I never cried for anyone but losing her broke me into tears idk it was the first good personality girl that I had seen
Masha, the sobriety, propriety and honesty that you convey, analyze and make us think and reflect on the most diverse subjects is simply commendable, enlightening and of major importance! Thank you so much for making videos so amazing and very useful like this one !!
This vid popped up when I was thinking about her, she’s just so amazing but man I can’t put my mind to losing her even tho I never dated her I gave up on dating until I met her and now if I lose her completely I don’t know what I’ll do
Update I lost her completely, and we never even dated lol but I’m fine and came back to watch this a second time, thank you for this video I knew I was gonna need it I’ll be ok
Why your vids feel sooo personal? Like, it's exactly what I am getting through and then boom, new Masha's vid about it Are you spying me? You're awesome btw
Because this woman is not afraid of the truth. Let me tell you something. Everyone experiences these things, they are just afraid to open up to others and even when they give advice, they afraid that the other person will find out what they are truly thinking.
I was indeed needing to listen to that, I was caring to much to people that was not caring and I was not looking for myself, and when the reality that a was being used by someone that ended up put me in a corner when she found someone new hit me so Hard that I was not looking that. Well, thank you for the help.
When I watch your videos I always feel that I should be taking notes. I was brought up believing that I was inferior to others. I carried that belief through two relationships that I see now could never have been right for me because of that belief. The last one put me in hospital and gave me PTSD. From all thats happened I hope I enter my next relationship with a better sense of myself and a greater understanding of what love is and means
I am here once again, for a fifth time if I am not mistaken. I still think about her all the time. Because of the stress I get from school, thoughts about her bring me some kind of relieve. But I can't go on like this. It's not for fair for me, it's not fair for her. Thank you Masha for your wisdom!
I have been there. As soon as final exam is over and you attend that school the next semester, things may change. Your crush may not even be there next semester. Normally, if you keep everything to yourself but only admire your crush from afar, there can come a time where this secretly admiring your crush will be over. As time passes, you will already move on and so will your crush.
@@hp2546 Hey there, the thing is she doesn't go to the same college as me. We have a mutual friend who introduced us. And yeah things are slowly going better. I just hope I will be over her before the New Year begins.
@@Pitbulluss That is a stepping stone to get over her when she no longer attend the same college as you. Where do you meet her? Anyways, Since you said she is not in a same college as you, it means you 2 do not share the same journey. It just take time right after you keep up that 6 ft social distance. I mean you can ask her out and expect to get rejected just to get closure to move on or you can just hide your feelings until the day she is out of your life. Just note that there is no deadline on when you get over her. Once you decided to not confess your feelings, then the path of this means you got to pretend you live in 2020 which is the day of the covid 19 pandemic. During that time everybody was force to do 6 ft social distance. Your case is just practice 6 ft social distance around her if you do not choose to confess your feelings. Eventually, you will get used to it to a point where you ended up moving on only to find another girl to crush on.
similar thing is happening to me, i'm ashamed of it, but emotions are very unpredictable. i'm over 40 but still behave like an idiotic child. But this video is great and your voice is very soothing!
I miss more myself before I met her than I miss her. I was in a good vibe, felt like I had good "apps" running in the background of my mind. I had projects. I remember I was very bad, so I built myself from there.. then she went to my life and reprogramm myself to be worst than ever. Its hard to find energy, gathering resources when you are getting older. I do not believe in love anymore, I believe in set directions and do more the next steps. If someone comes to your mind or life and does not let you follow your own steps by yourself, move on from her/him.
My best friend who was also the only real friend i had for 6 years stopped talking to me (It was mostly my fault). You can imagine how fcking hard it was, but i eventually got over her, how? Well if that friend was the only thing in your life you will NEVER get over it, that's the harsh truth. What you need is distractions, start getting into more hobbies, even if you don't want to, obligate yourself. Go outside, try to make new friends, try to fill the hole that person left in you, it's possible, I've done it and i had it real bad. With that mentality of "This will never happen" You're accepting that this will now be your reality, which makes it impossible to make any progress because "Oh well that's my life now".
@@Noizzed it is my life and it won’t change. I didn’t meet her under normal circumstances, and she was something I had never had before. I’m not putting myself through this again. People are callous, as long as they get what they want they don’t care how much they harm you or how bad they make things for you, I appreciate your advice, but it’s not going to fix this.
It’s just that I’ve never felt like this for anyone ever, I just thought it might work, hell it’s all I ever hoped for, it was all I ever wanted, for it to work, nothing else, yet, nothing
Guys from my experience, just take care of yourself to look healthy, and find a good job to have a stable life. If you believe in yourself good vibe. Good things will also come in your life 🙂.
I've been alone on this deep spiritual journey for a decade now... Not that I want to be, I even met my twin flame and had the best two months of my life dating but she needed to continue her spiritual journey in solitude, I'm 31 and that was the only something I ever had, waiting so long to feel that love just to have to let her go was the most pain I've ever felt in my chest, every other girl I felt drawn to it some how didn't work out in some way wasn't meant to, so I know God wants me to be in solitude as well... It's just so hard when you have so much love to give, for so long deprived of being able to have that special person, anyone... Trust the process, trust that if things didn't work out it is for the better and you are being guided, instead of fighting it flow with it, stay in your heart not your mind your mind is a good tool but a terrible master, you are unique on your own path and they are on theirs, love yourself you are amazing, the way you look at yourself is all that matters, the greatest prison is caring what others think, The hearts of all around you don't judge and all will learn to live from the heart... When you judge others your judging yourself. See yourself in everyone see God in everyone. The pain of loneliness resides in thought of the idea itself but I am grounded in my imagination, my best possible outcome, Your imagination is the tool the key, the only thing that's real. Ignore your current experience and manifest your imagination by feeling it's already done. I am with her in my heart always, In my heart and my imagination(*present moment*) I no longer need a job, we are traveling the world together, without worry of time or money. A feeling of complete joy and freedom. This is what I choose to attract. This is how I choose to feel, whenever possible. Break through the old emotions the old past thinking. for some, great things take time. But trust it is already done in the divine plan for you. If your alone it's god saying take this time, use this time, she will come to you, he will find you, worry about nothing and know you came here with a purpose greater than yourself, embrace silence embrace stillness embrace nature you are exactly where you are meant to be and I love you unconditionally, The best is yet to come
In my experience a good relationship is better than no relationship but no relationship is better than a bad relationship. Personally I'll hang on for a good relationship to give up my freedoms for now.But having grown up kids does make that easier than for someone who might feel their clock is ticking.Not so easy to be chilled then and believe me I've been there.I wish you luck 🤞
You do give an good example with relationships because a lot of people would choose a bad relationship and defend their own abusers claiming to be a good relationship. There are people who chooses bad relationship over solitude life. So in this example, if you know that your relationship is not going to work out, there is no shame in solitude life. Once you get into solitude life, you can be patient in solitude life until a right person comes along which can lead to a good relationship.
“if they’re not messaging you they don’t care” but i never reach out to the person i’m literally in love with i just have pride issues and my inner ego doesn’t let me
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You feel like the big sister I never had
♥♥♥♥ Best comment ever
She was never mine but losing her broke my heart.
she is what we want...or not..baaaaaal ahhhhhh
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That won't be considered losing her if the bond itself never existed in the 1st place. You cannot lose anything when you never received anything in the 1st place. She never agreed to be your girlfriend. She never even offered you any 1 night stand. She did not offer you any relationship. All you did was admire from afar. So the reason why your heart is broken is because all this time, you were shy to a point where you never confessed until the day she left. So having her to leave is meant to get you to move on. It may take some time to heal over it, but eventually, you will find another girl to fall in love with only to go through that same cycle of having a crush. If you do meet the next woman, you can confess your feelings even when you know you will be rejected. I know how it is like because I have been there. It will hurt when your crush leaves and you don't see her again. Eventually, you heal from this. You just have to remember that there is no controlling the outcome of when your crush leaves once you choose the path of hiding your feelings.
You don’t know he didn’t confess and get spurned you are really assuming a lot and from the way you type you are not even 18 so try not to think you’re in any place to give life advice kid.
A good rule of thumb is if you can’t put together a grammatically correct sentence not to think your thoughts are worth sharing on the internet at all.
"Maybe they're not at a place in their life where they can give you the time and the attention. And that's okay. Someone else will." And it's even okay if no one else will.
i've been obsessed with someone for 3 years or so, and i have pretty much destroyed my life completely because of it.
I was looking for some chill ASMR and clicked because I like cute faces, idk its some sort of visual trigger for me.
I think this is the most weirdly specific video i've ever needed and I havent realised until you started talking and i checked the title lol
We're in synch ♥
Any advice for average gal who doesn’t have cute face to be noticed by my crush? 🙏
@@xnoname223 clear skin, fix up your hair, wear clothing he likes, nice smile, laugh at his jokes or whatever and always smile when he's around, find the same interests as him, if he catches you staring just look him dead in the eye for a second and then quickly turn your head back or look somewhere else, talk to him, call him, text him and a shit ton of other stuff. oh and most men like white painted nails
@@xnoname223 men love a women who embraces her feminine side. A girl who is proud and showcases her femininity is irresistible no matter how they look.
For example: be bubbly, smile, be nice and gentle with everyone around you. Trust me he’ll look your way. Hope this helps.
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you expained it SO SO WELL. You know sometimes you know the truth and you already know everything you hear but you just need someone else to say it otherwise you don't believe it. Thanks, good video.
Much love your way ♥
Never would I imagine stumbled upon an ASMR channel with this much values. I'm going through similar circumstances and having a hard time getting out of it. Thank you so much for this, keep up your good work, Masha.
Your support is massively appreciated 💚
Dealing with limerence for a friend and finally coming clean with her and being rejected and potentially losing the friendship, this type of videos are a lifeline. Thank you for the bottom of my heart!
this guy and i talked for ages and he seemed to really like me: hed play guitar for me, play the songs i liked on call, say i was beautiful, flirt with me, he even did my homework once when i was sick and i asked him why and he said it was because he adored me. then my sister started dating his best friend and it got all messed, and now i have to force myself to get over him, even though him unfollowing me on instagram even made me sob
I'm sorry you had to go through this. ♥
I would like to share a story. I loved her, she loved me, and we both tried to communicate about it. She had gotten a boyfriend, though, so by the time I had the gut to say something, she had already been in a relationship. She loved him. I still loved her. It hurt, and drove me into a depression. We had feelings for each other for three years. It seems like it would be bound to happen at some point, and her slowly growing away from me hurt. It hurt a lot. She is happy though, and so am I, knowing they are in a healthy relationship. We are friends, she still cares about my wellbeing, and I still care about hers. To say that I have no feelings for her still is not true, because even when it’s been about a year, my love for her lingers. I believe it is enough to say that I am definitely recovering, and I was finally more open about the matter.
I know it's hard to what I wrote in a previous comment but it's always worth trying
I could definitely write a book about this topic because I've been in this situation before. In fact, I've written about it online a few times. Unrequited love is not a nice thing to go through, but I'm glad I went through it because post the experience began the journey to my self-discovery, self-introspection, and self-realization. I was forced to recreate myself.
Actions and silence speak louder than words.
Congrats on the 50k subscribers!
@@Master.Baiting_to_you your comment was highly unnecessary. Silence could have been better.
@@Master.Baiting_to_you tell me what? How do you actually know that if I were to write a book, no one would read it?
@@Master.Baiting_to_you see? You just addressed me as a "miss" and I'm a Sir, meaning your words are simply based on assumptions rather than facts. I'm done with this conversation. Keep well man.
Means a lot ♥
Going through something similar right now - only it was not them not meeting my standards or not being a right fit. Instead I made the fault of completely falling for someone whose private situation I knew nothing about but just imagined/expected them to be available after they were very deeply caring and open to me in what was probably just them being friendly. It was a display of care and love unlike I have ever experienced from a friend before so I mistook it for something more and started building out a possible future together in my head over months where we couldn’t meet but stayed in regular contact. Now after all that we finally met again and spend a weekend together only for me to discover, they have been in an open relationship with 2 partners for many years. So I had clearly misinterpreted all the “signs”… thing is I clearly love them and we get along great just not in the way I had hoped for. But purging them is not going to help… trying to accept the circumstances now and my own mistakes that led to all this, but it hurts 😢
A friend and I became very close a year ago and she told me she was in love with me. Several months later, after we had confessed so many feelings to each other, she abruptly pulled away with no explanation, and later got back with an ex. It shattered me for several months afterward. I've journaled about it, tried asking her for closure only to get dismissed, saw a therapist, etc. And this video has been possibly the best coping tool I've come across, and put it all in perspective.
Thank you, so much, for this.
Sending you so much love, that sounds difficult ♥
This happened to me yesterday except that she didn't leave me for her ex. We've been friends for 5years and by the beginning of this year we became very close. So as time goes by and we get more intimate, she finally told me that she loved me and we began to plan our whole life together. That shit meant the world to me. The thing is, that only lasted 2 months as she suddenly completely changed her mind saying that it could never happen anything between us but she would still think about it. Last week she began to ghost me saying that she had a lot of things to do etc... So I waited, and yesterday I finally got to talk to her and she just confirmed that we will never have anything beyond just friends. I know it's not as bad as yours but this completely destroyed me. I've really loved her for a long time now and I know it only gets worse from here. It was the first time someone told that they loved me too, I can't even express what I feel right now.
@@giovanilucas4857 best to stop contacting her and maybe she'll realise she made a mistake but probably really best to move on before you hurt yourself mentally over it man. You can really torment yourself with these kind of relationships. It's hard to move on. It was really hard for me too and it took too long and the time I took didn't really make my mindset better.
Maybe I'm just a person that needs more time but it doesn't matter. If you are ready to move on be open but don't look for love because you prob won't find it. Some people are lucky they meet that right person at the right time and some people need to have wait a while longer unfortunately.
@@giovanilucas4857 I hope you're recovering ok. The best thing for me to do was to cut off contact with her, because staying in touch kept reopening the wound. I've had to accept that people change their minds, and no matter how little sense it makes to us, and how terrible it hurts, moving on is the best thing to do for ourselves. Wishing you well, man.
I had that exact situation okay out in my life. I found a friend I just clicked with instantly. We liked a lot of the same things and got along great. She had a partner and I had a one side crush on her and I was 100% content just knowing her. Things happen with her partner and she forces to tell her how I felt. So I did sadly and she said she felt the same and told me to wait while she thinks about everything. I got a text from their partner and they appreciated that I had feelings but I never acted on it and respected them. But I never got a reply from her and was blocked everywhere and it did break me. I always wondered if we would still be friends if I never told her I liked her. But I got over it I still see her on my Snapchat subscription every once in awhile but it doesn’t make me sad it’s just another person now
This is exactly what I needed the past 2 weeks. Thank you very much for this
I'm glad you enjoyed ♥
I had never experienced this until recently. It's been a surreal struggle. This video was in my feed and I don't watch many of these. This was helpful. Thank you so much! I am now a subscriber to your channel.
Wow. I’ve been going through something so similar. A girl I started talking to who we never made it out of the risking stage, but we did stay friends for a while. I found myself falling in love with her. By the time I found out she felt the same way, it was too late. Sometimes I feel I’ll never get over her. But maybe I found this particular video at just the right moment. Thank you. You’ll never truly grasp how much I needed this. And you ❤️
already watched this one 5 times, it really helps a lot when I get stuck in that thoughtloop. thank you :)
look into the blackpill this is word salad
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@@andro.5678 Not trying to cast aside everything, Just trying to overcome that one toxic Woman in my life.
I cant lie, this made me tear up a bit, as much as I feel great about my own self and that the people I once messaged arent here anymore, it seems that underneath that happiness, I'm still scarred by the actions of others and what I perceive as love or interest.. you have calmly spoken your way into my mind it seems, I will say you have a way with your words
She comes in clutch every time. This video is from months ago. But rn is helping me get over this girl. Thanks Masha
it's amazing how insightful you are, as well as correct tbh
Saw this just in time. I was crying the entire time. Thank you. I needed to hear that.
As a Male who was everything for a female, besides the intimate physical. I have learned & am still learning to Trust, believe, and have courage in myself to change, especially when your gut or soul already knows, as people & the universe will not do it for you. So make a choice, as it may be the best weight you lose or gain!
Thank you for your time & energy Masha!
Thank you for sharing with us Jay! Much love your way ♥
Congrats on 50k Masha, you deserve it and so much more. Thank you for doing these videos, you’ve been beyond helpful.
Thank you so much!! ♥
You're so right in everything you say in this video. Always good to hear something like this.
stop simping and look into the blackpill
Glad you're getting cozy Victor ♥
It's kinda weird how I'm going through a pretty similar situation to what you describe. Great advice, thank you. Love your videos.
In synch 💚
Omg , I can't describe how I felt even by just reading the title of this video . . . god bless you I can't even express my gratitude to you . . . god bless you again
i've been into asmr for a few years, but these videos are something else. You are capable of approach these issues as if you were in front of me or in front of any other person who is going through the same thing in such an understandable way. Thanks for doing what you do. (sorry if my english is not the best)
Masha Kata you are so young, but so much wisdom. I am impressed.
Your support means a lot ♥
It's funny because I get over people so easily after being alone and isolated for years but I met someone this year and I can't get over them.
That would be considered your booty call. So if that relationship don't work out, of course, you will be forced to get over that person. So if you meet someone new and assuming relationship was not even built, yes, you may develop attraction even if you are not in relationship with that person. I will tell you a story. In March 2020, I developed attraction to my next door neighbor because it was a time where everybody is stuck in quarantine. Watching her picking up her package was already the part where I developed a crush. All I can do is watch my neighbor pick up her amazon package and her door dash. She does not do in person shopping after the pandemic. Then in June 2022, she moved out of the neighborhood. I never even build a relationship with her. I only admire from afar. So in this example, I am forced to get over her because she is out of my life. So I will tell you that if the person you are attracted to leaves, you will get over that person naturally.
@@hp2546grow up
Thank you so much for the advice given Masha! Your words made me so relaxed and understood. I was once there before. But I took my time to heal myself. In the end I understood that everyone has the right to choose who they want to be with and that's something I can never interfere with. Hope that everyone has a nice day ahead. Will support you always!
I'm glad you get cozy over here ♥
@@themashakata Thank you for your efforts :D
Your voice is like a blanket that covers my soul as I lay in bed on a cold night.
That's the most wholesome comment ever!
@@themashakata I will come up with one more wholesome . In the coming weeks.
This genuinely helped me. Much obliged, truly.
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About feeling something for someone tou never dated:
Look blank about what you know about this person, If you have any "oh noup" about, grasp on to It and push away. Only real experience with that one can let you retire the "noup" status.
I just have scored ppl since forever based in their ACTIONS, not their looks, not their ideas, not their dreams... Well, i have to say, im grateful for my exes, their time and patience, but most, for showing me what actions are exactly the ones i can't cope with.
I asked him on a date and he ghosted me for 3 days. I finally went down to the same place we used to hang out and he saw me, started talking about socks of all things. He finally admitted that he decided to go on a date with someone else but that the decision was hard. I sometimes still see him and get sad because he’s so pretty and we are so compatible but I remember at the end did the day he didn’t respect me enough to tell me this at the beginning. His apology was also very selfish.
Everything is 100%, if they met my standard they would have been here. It feels good to trust myself in this way. 😊
You have all the power ♥
Your emotional intelligence is extremely high Masha
Your know what to say to bring someone up, or more accurate- how to say. There is no hint of ego or cynicism.
It's easy to see that you are 'that person' for most of those people in your life.
Sending you much love Masha
I keep listening and meanwhile writing more to this comment by editing it.
We could have been good friends in some other reality ❣️
Your words are so appreciated, thank you!! ♥
Masha! congrats on 50k! lets freaking go boss! keep up the great work
Thank you my love!!
This is exaclty what i need
Your words feel as if they're describing my situation with this girl. I'm struggling to sleep right now and I came back to this video for a reminder and to help ease the pain that I'm experiencing. Thank you so much for making this video.
I might have to watch this a few more times. It felt personal 😅 Thank you for creating this
You're brilliant. Thank you so much for sharing your insights with us
Much love your way! You powerful soul ♥
I wish I had discovered this video years ago. Thank you for sharing such inspiring words and insightful wisdom. I feel better equipped and empowered to live life again. Thank you so much for making this.
I am suffering from this , you are angel
thank you so much
sending you all my love and blessing
keep making video , great ideas
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Unrelated but I've never seen you look more beautiful..just wow. Thanks for being the second voice inside my head.
You're so sweet! Thank you ♥
I have never cared about myself in any way shape or form. She and I worked together and she put in effort and showed she cared, and I developed feelings. She of course didn’t and started dating a guy exactly like me. I can’t shake her from my head no matter how hard I try. All the advice to do things for yourself doesn’t really register with me because I don’t care about me enough to do that. So I’m stuck not knowing what to do and just suffering every day.
Sorry man that’s rough I hope 1 day you get her off your mind & be at peace with it and be alright 🫡✊👍
Affirmations.
Seeing you in this video with different hair is a mind-blowing experience, lol. I absolutely love the black. I myself am always evolving and going through different changes in consciousness. We must continue moving forward.
I just went through something like this and was getting used for attention. it really hurt me. because i'm a good guy and have never harmed a woman. and then one day i see her with this bad boy type loser. and was crushed. she was just using me for attention. and didn't care if i got hurt. when i told her i had feelings for her she could have told me she had a boyfriend then but didn't because she was selfish and only cared about her needs. and didn't care if i got hurt or not as long as she got her attention. we were friends when we first met and i tried to be her friend after i found out about Mr bad boy. but she did something today that showed me her true color's and that she isn't a true friend. So finding this video today was a blessing in disquise thank you very much you did an excellent job.
I'm sorry you went through this. ♥
Love your strong and gentle whispering voice❤😊
Honestly this is exactly what i needed to hear thank you
she was the girl I had been looking for I never cried for anyone but losing her broke me into tears idk it was the first good personality girl that I had seen
Thank you so much for this video. This is definitely something I needed to hear
What we can react to are ultimately actions, not feelings or thoughts. Because actions are real and perceived.
I needed this to get over Masha😔
Masha, the sobriety, propriety and honesty that you convey, analyze and make us think and reflect on the most diverse subjects is simply commendable, enlightening and of major importance! Thank you so much for making videos so amazing and very useful like this one !!
Uma pergunta sincera, como tu faz pra estar em todo canal de ASMR?, até no Instagram do pessoal do ASMR tu comenta
Much love your way Anderson! Thank you for the support ♥
I love your channel thank you for your wisdom and perspective 🙏 I needed to hear this
I just wish I could’ve gotten a hug from her. She felt safe to me. And she just left. She said nothing and just disappeared. Why do people leave us?
Lol I got this video one day after deciding to stop thinking or trying with someone who I might never meet in person
Thanks for this video angel ❤️ exactly the wise words I needed today x
Tough Love accepted!! On point as usual!
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This vid popped up when I was thinking about her, she’s just so amazing but man I can’t put my mind to losing her even tho I never dated her I gave up on dating until I met her and now if I lose her completely I don’t know what I’ll do
Update I lost her completely, and we never even dated lol but I’m fine and came back to watch this a second time, thank you for this video I knew I was gonna need it I’ll be ok
Why your vids feel sooo personal? Like, it's exactly what I am getting through and then boom, new Masha's vid about it
Are you spying me? You're awesome btw
Because this woman is not afraid of the truth. Let me tell you something. Everyone experiences these things, they are just afraid to open up to others and even when they give advice, they afraid that the other person will find out what they are truly thinking.
That's the energy ♥
19 minutes speaking the truth. All I can say is thank you ❤
I was indeed needing to listen to that, I was caring to much to people that was not caring and I was not looking for myself, and when the reality that a was being used by someone that ended up put me in a corner when she found someone new hit me so Hard that I was not looking that. Well, thank you for the help.
i'm going through this currently. thank you so much
You got this!!
I needed this really badly
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The world is lucky to have your kindness and wisdom
didnt realize how much i liked him until he got with someone else. thankz for this
When I watch your videos I always feel that I should be taking notes. I was brought up believing that I was inferior to others. I carried that belief through two relationships that I see now could never have been right for me because of that belief. The last one put me in hospital and gave me PTSD. From all thats happened I hope I enter my next relationship with a better sense of myself and a greater understanding of what love is and means
Sending you a lot of love ♥
But Thank you,Masha. This vid resonates on many things.
And it gives some relief atleast.
It still hurts so I will keep watching this vid for coping.
Thanks Masha i really needed this one
Masha, my gorgeous therapist. ❤️
I am here once again, for a fifth time if I am not mistaken. I still think about her all the time. Because of the stress I get from school, thoughts about her bring me some kind of relieve. But I can't go on like this. It's not for fair for me, it's not fair for her. Thank you Masha for your wisdom!
I have been there. As soon as final exam is over and you attend that school the next semester, things may change. Your crush may not even be there next semester. Normally, if you keep everything to yourself but only admire your crush from afar, there can come a time where this secretly admiring your crush will be over. As time passes, you will already move on and so will your crush.
@@hp2546 Hey there, the thing is she doesn't go to the same college as me. We have a mutual friend who introduced us. And yeah things are slowly going better. I just hope I will be over her before the New Year begins.
@@Pitbulluss That is a stepping stone to get over her when she no longer attend the same college as you. Where do you meet her? Anyways, Since you said she is not in a same college as you, it means you 2 do not share the same journey. It just take time right after you keep up that 6 ft social distance. I mean you can ask her out and expect to get rejected just to get closure to move on or you can just hide your feelings until the day she is out of your life. Just note that there is no deadline on when you get over her. Once you decided to not confess your feelings, then the path of this means you got to pretend you live in 2020 which is the day of the covid 19 pandemic. During that time everybody was force to do 6 ft social distance. Your case is just practice 6 ft social distance around her if you do not choose to confess your feelings. Eventually, you will get used to it to a point where you ended up moving on only to find another girl to crush on.
similar thing is happening to me, i'm ashamed of it, but emotions are very unpredictable. i'm over 40 but still behave like an idiotic child. But this video is great and your voice is very soothing!
I'm physically gagging. I can't believe UA-cam had the audacity to recommend me this while I'm scrolling through her Twitter. Needed this though lol.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Thank you
Much love your way ♥
He doesn't want to be in a relationship which i understand but god it hurts i like him so much and this helped thank you so much
Thank you for this Masha❤️
Be the person you miss, not the person per se, but the qualities you saw in her/him.
I miss more myself before I met her than I miss her.
I was in a good vibe, felt like I had good "apps" running in the background of my mind. I had projects. I remember I was very bad, so I built myself from there.. then she went to my life and reprogramm myself to be worst than ever.
Its hard to find energy, gathering resources when you are getting older. I do not believe in love anymore, I believe in set directions and do more the next steps. If someone comes to your mind or life and does not let you follow your own steps by yourself, move on from her/him.
Getting ghosted by someone after 5 years of talking is a profoundly damaging experience that I will probably never recover from
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My best friend who was also the only real friend i had for 6 years stopped talking to me (It was mostly my fault).
You can imagine how fcking hard it was, but i eventually got over her, how?
Well if that friend was the only thing in your life you will NEVER get over it, that's the harsh truth. What you need is distractions, start getting into more hobbies, even if you don't want to, obligate yourself. Go outside, try to make new friends, try to fill the hole that person left in you, it's possible, I've done it and i had it real bad.
With that mentality of "This will never happen" You're accepting that this will now be your reality, which makes it impossible to make any progress because "Oh well that's my life now".
@@Noizzed it is my life and it won’t change. I didn’t meet her under normal circumstances, and she was something I had never had before. I’m not putting myself through this again. People are callous, as long as they get what they want they don’t care how much they harm you or how bad they make things for you, I appreciate your advice, but it’s not going to fix this.
omg im so happy i found this channel haha
I needed this back in 2017
This so good! Thank you for making this!
Your support means a lot to me! ♥
This made me feel so much better but then I woke up to her “good morning loozer” message
Good advice as usual 🤗
It’s just that I’ve never felt like this for anyone ever, I just thought it might work, hell it’s all I ever hoped for, it was all I ever wanted, for it to work, nothing else, yet, nothing
Guys from my experience, just take care of yourself to look healthy, and find a good job to have a stable life.
If you believe in yourself good vibe.
Good things will also come in your life 🙂.
Perfect asmr topic. Tryna get over mashakata rn 🙄
Man…I needed this when my long distance girlfriend revealed her true intentions and casted me aside like trash. Hated myself since then.
What did you expect
I've been alone on this deep spiritual journey for a decade now... Not that I want to be, I even met my twin flame and had the best two months of my life dating but she needed to continue her spiritual journey in solitude, I'm 31 and that was the only something I ever had, waiting so long to feel that love just to have to let her go was the most pain I've ever felt in my chest,
every other girl I felt drawn to it some how didn't work out in some way wasn't meant to,
so I know God wants me to be in solitude as well... It's just so hard when you have so much love to give, for so long deprived of being able to have that special person, anyone...
Trust the process, trust that if things didn't work out it is for the better and you are being guided, instead of fighting it flow with it, stay in your heart not your mind your mind is a good tool but a terrible master,
you are unique on your own path and they are on theirs,
love yourself you are amazing, the way you look at yourself is all that matters,
the greatest prison is caring what others think,
The hearts of all around you don't judge and all will learn to live from the heart... When you judge others your judging yourself. See yourself in everyone see God in everyone.
The pain of loneliness resides in thought of the idea itself but I am grounded in my imagination,
my best possible outcome,
Your imagination is the tool the key, the only thing that's real.
Ignore your current experience and manifest your imagination by feeling it's already done.
I am with her in my heart always,
In my heart and my imagination(*present moment*) I no longer need a job, we are traveling the world together, without worry of time or money. A feeling of complete joy and freedom. This is what I choose to attract. This is how I choose to feel, whenever possible.
Break through the old emotions the old past thinking.
for some, great things take time. But trust it is already done in the divine plan for you.
If your alone it's god saying take this time, use this time, she will come to you, he will find you, worry about nothing and know you came here with a purpose greater than yourself, embrace silence embrace stillness embrace nature you are exactly where you are meant to be and I love you unconditionally,
The best is yet to come
The best is yet to come! Trust the process!
In my experience a good relationship is better than no relationship but no relationship is better than a bad relationship. Personally I'll hang on for a good relationship to give up my freedoms for now.But having grown up kids does make that easier than for someone who might feel their clock is ticking.Not so easy to be chilled then and believe me I've been there.I wish you luck 🤞
You do give an good example with relationships because a lot of people would choose a bad relationship and defend their own abusers claiming to be a good relationship. There are people who chooses bad relationship over solitude life. So in this example, if you know that your relationship is not going to work out, there is no shame in solitude life. Once you get into solitude life, you can be patient in solitude life until a right person comes along which can lead to a good relationship.
“if they’re not messaging you they don’t care” but i never reach out to the person i’m literally in love with i just have pride issues and my inner ego doesn’t let me
Same😭
Pleaseee do a video to motivate and relax for night before an important exam pleaseeeee 💖🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
Thank you Masha , love u 😊
I don't need this but I like your voice so I will listen it.
Love this one, holy shit. Thank you 🤜🤛
Much love your way ♥
Just wanna say Thank you!
I clicked the video already knew this would attack me in some way, and yet I'm still not prepared hearing how cold all the truths she said are :")
I know, it's okay..
Great advice!!
Thank you for your videos. ❤️❤️
Thank you for being here! ♥
love the glasses! 😄