It's like everyone is supposed to constantly present themselves as massive try-hard that is doing everything 24/7 with 100000% effort... It gets tiring really fast especially in the workplace.
I'm Filipina married to a Japanese guy and it was a huge shocker to me at first when he told me my crooked teeth made me look cute/attractive even though I was dying to pay for dental work to straighten it. Since he liked my crooked teeth, I didn't push through getting braces to straighten my teeth. Plus I noticed it's my natural double eyelids that made him attracted to me from the first time we met even though my eyes are considered just typical for Filipina.
Good interesting story! I have naturally perfect teeth but nobody paid attention when I was young in Japan. But many people liked my teeth in USA saying their teeth were fake and not natural. I thought I was born in a wrong country only for this teeth part.
Its funny how often Nobita has to clarify "not everyone" or "these are opinions" and similar statements. You'd think people would understand this by now😂I feel your pain Nobita, I feel your pain.
True, but I don't think it's only so people won't become offended or reply with "Well actually...". There are people who are very insecure about such stuff. And paradoxically they still look up these kinds of videos. His comments in between are there to remember us that we shouldn't take it to heart.
@@Black.Spades Yea you're right I can see that. Everyones mind works differently for sure. Its better to cater to both sides than alienate people who would maybe feel targeted by the comments he makes. I've always been one to think from all perspectives/play devils advocate so I tend to go into any situation with the "this is an opinion" or "not everyone apples" mindset lol. But for sure I understand what you're saying, it makes sense.
I think that's the correct way to express a opinion, not just because you could offend people but because some people actually think like that and you can not support that.
"If you are ugly in Japan you are recommended to go to Yoshimoto kougyou, the biggest comedy agency in Japan. So I have actually considered that while I was in middle school."
I'm a happily married woman but let me say this respectfully: you're looking good, Nobita. I see that you're taking better care of yourself and you look healthier everyday that passes. Your new style suits you well.
As a fellow happily married woman, i second to this 👏 and nobita has such an interesting personality that's more important. I feel like we could talk for hours
I pointed this out to him a few years ago and gave him tips on his style which I think he actually implemented. For example, I told him to wear his hair less sleek and more ruffled because it suited him more (which he now does), I told him to stop wearing white because it makes him look ill and to instead wear ivory or cream (which he now does), told him to ditch the glasses because it covers up his good bone structure, and told him to focus on colours like navy instead of black. It's good to see him focussing on what looks good on him instead of following what the general style is for Japanese men. He's a good-looking guy and it's a shame that he was called ugly just because he didn't know how to style himself properly.
I would think the same as in every country, symmetric facial features as close to the top of the beauty formula ranking as possible, followed by status and income
There's ugly people with symmetrical faces (Danny Devito) and models with asymmetrical faces (Shannen Doherty). It's proximity to the perfect mean face that defines beauty, symmetry is just one of many factors that result in a face that's closer to the golden mean. (The face that you get by averaging all faces together.)
@@credman Danny devito is an old short fat man, suggest you check out pictures of him when he was young. Shannon was a sex symbol when she was young... even Brad Pitt is going to end up less attractive if he gets old enough.
@@credman Symmetry and various other factors all interplay: In Men testosterone levels indicate strong brow and chin and thus are masculine and attractive WITH symmetry. in Women Oestrogen and collagen and proportions of curves indicate good hormone balances thus high fertility. In BOTH cases the indications are good immune system AND good nervous system. These are all positive towards sexual attractiveness and beauty. However mental interaction and behaviour are very important too - but excluding those and only commenting on physical. There is some cultural attribution to tastes eg attractiveness of breast size and many many other features can varying simply due to culture and locality tastes that establish. Again smell (body odour) is "surprising" important because it is associated with immune system compatibility. The mean of human faces is a statistic it's not descriptive of the above thus it's misleading to say the average mean of faces is the pinnacle or some such of beauty standards. Back to Japan: I think the women do an amazing job of demonstrating feminine beauty via feminine behaviour and strong beauty aesthetics in their dressing without necessarily having high levels of the above association of physical ostroegen creating curves and fertility indications eg they tend to have narrower hips for one example. So it really goes to show how flexible the subject is. Though atst: Tall, Salary, Status it shows similarities too across human groups (racial groups).
@@credman It seems many people are mistaking the general idea of asymmetrical face with what would draw closer to a facial deformity. Many celebrities have naturally uneven eyelids, and uneven styling to give it a more dynamic feel to a person. To me, those with perfectly Photoshop-like symmetrical faces often appear as they have no soul, or something.
It's crazy that so many men around the world would love to have a cute Japanese girlfriend but they won't commit to the hygiene and upkeep to get one xD
Definitely can't relate to this. I've never come across any man that, even going as low as 17 years old, didn't take care of their hygiene. I can see kids being that way, not 17 year olds and older. They are usually clean.
Lol so true, they expect women to be adorable and smells like garden but men (not all) don't take care of themselves. If I dress all nice and spend money to my body then I expect nothing less for my partner.
5:30 there's a similar term in Mandarin called 高富帅 which translates to tall, wealthy, and handsome. it seems like the standards for men are pretty similar in East Asia
Haha I thought the same thing! At least for Japanese you can be educated instead of handsome. I'm tall and educated, just not rich. Two down one more to go!
In the USA, there's the 6-6-6 rule: six figure income (in USD), six feet tall and six pack abs (or 6 inch you-know-what). American women are very demanding.
As a westerner who used to live in Japan, when I dated a japanese woman I had very casual clothing on me, a simple t-shirt + jeans, very normal and casual-stylish in the west. She on the other hand were extremely up dressed, however - because I was a gaijin she thought that it actually suited me and looked very handsome, but for some reason she wouldn't think that it would look appropriate on japanese men, so you're right that foreigners in japan doesn't have to care so much about the japanese beauty standard, because we foreigners come from other cultures with it's own charm
I'm not going to lie anime got me more interested in Japanese culture, and by far this guys channel has been the most informative. The main Drive behind my curiosity is what you see in an anime especially dealing with the high school ones how close is that to Japanese culture.
in my observation since ive been to japan 3x, their beauty seems more natural, and very japanese.. compare to korea or thailand which is towards perfection, just an honest observation since ive been to most countries in asia..
@@user-pd9ju5dk5s judging by your other comments on this channel you seem like a miserable person. Chill out mane, you gotta stop commenting. It’d do good for your mental health.
Hey nobita, could you make a video on the Japan Travel Ban to students abroad? Many students, workers, familes are straded abroud with no awnsers as to when entry might be possible. Davide Rossi has a lot of videos on the subject and so many people are willing for interviews. No matter what, Keep up the great content! :)
i love the cute culture of japanese girls. in my teens, i always wanted to emulate it. i started buying cute skirts, hair accessories, and socks. im not the type to wear lolita fashion everywhere, but i do like to add cute elements when i can. i also love how japanese girls style their bangs. as a young asian american, i definitely prefer a "cute/kawaii" look to an abg one. i cant pull the latter off
I used to be this way but as I gotten older the more I cant stand super moe and cute girls. Especially the girls who have that cute uwu voice and talk like a baby, literally makes me want to peel of my skin burn it and stab myself in the ear with a knife. Its funny for guys I like when they are feminine but for girls I like when they are alittle more harsh
@@CheerUp2 As a girl living in Japan I completely agree with you. There's nothing more cringey than a moe/cute girl talking and behaving like a baby, especially when you know her real personality is 90% to be likely complete crap. I'm amazed how many foreigners are being deceived by that. Japanese are already pretty big hypocrites (part of the culture). But these girls usually take it to another level.
@@dothetwist298 Like even every day normal girls in japan will have that high pitched voice and certain cutesy mannerisms and I just hate it so so much. Its interesting to hear from you perspective and someone who lives there.
@@CheerUp2 High pitched voice is considered to be polite here, so it's kind of a given that you hear that when you enter a supermarket, a cafe, a bank or just wherever. However, a lot of girls also consider it cute. The funny thing is that most of these girls with a high pitched voice have a really low voice in reality lmao. My best advice would be - don't be fooled by looks when you're in Japan. 99% of the time it's not what you imagined.
Very insightful. I love the ending message of not caring about what others think because at the end of the day, you cant control who you can attract or not. Just be you, cut the insecurities & be happy. The right person will be apart of your life unexpectedly.
You are attracted or not to someone when you first see them, but you fall in love with that person when you get to known them and they become beautiful to you.
If love on first sight was more than a "horny impulse", what would you love about that person? You've seen that person once, you probably don't know shit about them, so it very likely is just a h.i.
I should have come to Japan when I was a teenager. I was quite all Japanese women want... quite tall, blond, blue eyes, very white, slim. but ... I lost my hair since then and that's really a problem to be bald in Japan 😭 From kawaii to kowai 😭
Same here but even now that I buzz my hair down to almost nothing some Japanese women still find me attractive. I may have less options but it's still more than zero haha.
Dude I did foreign exchange in Japan two of my years of highschool. I'll never forget my friend, who was 6 ft tall blonde and blue eyed, shaking the hand of a Japanese girl and her laughing so hard and falling to HER KNEES. I had black hair and was five nine so nothing for me lol
I think baldness is not that frowned upon in Japan. It's quite common and maybe only the youngest girls care about a man's hair that much. I have been to Korea too, and being bald there is way more detrimental. haha
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It’s so funny, as a medium-dark Black woman with long braids who is definitely considered large in Japan, I never got more attention from men then when I was in Japan a few years back! I must be considered “exotic” there, although I’m sure some of the guys also were genuinely attracted to me hahah. As you said everyone also has their own preferences ✨✨🙏🏾
Well Philippines Culture is a mixed of west and east. The more I learn about other cultures that I admire. The more I appreciate the culture of my country. It has both worlds.❣
I love what he said there!!!! because let me tell you this.....young and dumb, marry because $$$$$$$...handsome, good job, society makes you feel all together rather than being single and loner...........WELL, when both of you stop making babies, when he comes home late or she comes home late from a true job and not SCREWING AROUND......makeup wont hide the TRUE AGE FACTOR!!!! Yes.....BOTH OF YOU WILL LOSE IT ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow what Japanese women generally look for in men is exactly what I look for lol. Especially when it comes to hygiene... I feel like the West, or where I come from at least, men don't care much for hygiene and it's really irritating because I personally do. Very much agree and love your grandma's words, self-love should always come first :)
Same. Western men don't take good care of themselves and boast about it. I have similar criteria to Japanese women. Self care, hygiene and self maintenance is important
@@ok_listen not saying they're dirty but a lot don't do the bare minimum surprisingly, and yet expect women to be shaven, clean, well-dressed at all times because in their eyes that's the bare minimum for them
@@chrystianaw8256 talk about yourself. We Italians are not like that, many people I've met from Europe and whatnot are not like that. It's a stupid generalization.
The proverb from his grandma at the end is perfect. It took me years to realize this myself. While I still don't like how I look, it's not because I'm disgusting, I just need to get in better shape. Otherwise I'm happy with myself and who I am as a person. I still wish I had much better luck with women though.
I was listening so carefully and deeply to the video then suddenly at the end he put " Fuck the Beauty standards in japan" and i died laughing... completely unexpected
In all fairness, the emasculating of Asian men in western culture is just appauling. You cannot judge a culture based on your own lens. I have always found Asian men attractive and have personally preferred dating them. I agree with what you say that men that are too mascular and hairy are just....intimidating.
@@CheerUp2 that’s just rude what’s wrong with being macho? Nobody is here to please you . You can have personal preferences however you calling them disgusting was rude :/
At least a few times in the last two decades I've pondered this question. Some cultures are very clear cut when it comes to beauty and attraction but Japanese people I've met, mostly tourists or JASDF on base, have varied opinions. Edit: Just got to 3:43 and this explains a lot of my personal experience. Japanese women young and old would often gather around me at work to take photos, if they were bold enough to do so. These were my late teens and the description here matches my stupid boyband appearance back then >_< Clueless and shy kid, wishing I could go back and appreciate how lucky I was. Don't take your youth for granted!
When I was in my 20s, Japanese tourists would come and ask me to take a picture for some reason. I guess they thought I was cute? LOL. I'm not that cute now though with my big boobs and tanned skin lol.
I think luck is also a factor in finding a partner. It may be difficult to find someone that would appreciate and cherish you for who you are without luck. You can be a kind, clean, calm, caring, educated, outgoing, and work a stable job, but without any luck, you may not have a chance at true love.
Law Of Attraction Then? As Long As You Find Out And Love Yourself, Then Eventually You Will Resonate The Same Partner On Who You Are To Yourself. So Yeahh The Luck You Are Considering Is Engaging To Know If The Partner You Are Looking For Radiates The Same Values And Interests As You. Sure, Physical Attractiveness Can Matter Too But In A Long Run, The Way How Does Your Personality Match Up With That Person. Because Its More Engaging To Have A Partnership With Someone Whom Has A Cute And Warming Personality Yet Average Lookinh Than Someone Whom Is Considered Super Beautiful Yet Too Dull To Talk With.
Yes! Nobita you are so right. I am an American female in Japan. I am married to a Japanese man. We don't focus on SO physically or social status conscious. We care about the heart of each other. You never mentioned that in the video and it's sad that many do look too much into appearance and social status. Obviously, that is not true happiness if the suicide rate is so high. Maybe just caring about who we are can change a lot.
Since I have crooked teeth and it actually dragged my confidence down in the mud and learning that Japanese people doesn't really pay much that attention to how pretty your teeth makes me confident.
I did not have that big of an issue when dating in Japan though having to get her parents' permission took some time. I found after a few days that I first arrived that I switched to a full suit and tie clean-shaven and short hair. Only on Sunday did I relax on what clothing to wear. I found it helped and also I am under 6 ft so I don't look that intimidating. But this video is very true on a lot of things. Thank you for posting it.
Unless you are a wannabe idol or something, you should ask "Being attractive for whom?" instead of looking at stats. Your grandma's advice says you should start from attracting yourself. Nice advice indeed.
The sexiest part of any person is their mind. Are they intelligent, curious, and open? When it comes to finding a mate, you only have to find one--you don't have to appeal to a wide demographic to find happiness. Nobita, your concluding statement is really on point, and I value your work (except for the bit about Connor :-)
i think you pretty much summed it up. i woudl add the following (in terms of dating and relationship) The other person should genrally be attracted to you because of your personality not your looks. if the love/friends call it what you want is mutual and you change your looks to the others liking it will probably benefit both of you
@@guidi7442 damn bruh I mean u already choosing how ur kids must look like which is a figure of speech for ur so called physically attractive women , I mean aren't u keeping the bar too high . I will not use some saint lines but u have a very stereotypical way of thinking.
Yeah, I did notice how often the "handsome Japanese men" all had similar face shapes- high cheekbones and almost the EXACT same jawline. It was uncanny.
As an Asian American, I've found this really interesting. I've never worn make up, I've always looked like a kid, and my overall physic is pretty much equal to a middle-schooler. Yet, in my friend group, I'm considered the most mature and hardest to anger. I've always known that being cute is attractive in Japanese culture, and I've always wondered how a Japanese native would react to meeting me. I've always thought that I'm the complete opposite of my appearance, and have had some self esteem issues because of it. Also its always been a running joke that whoever dates me is gonna look like a p*dof*le.
Western standards of beauty and femininity favour Asian women i.e. slim, youthful, zero body hairy, petite. Many men of other races prefer Asian women. On the flip side Western beauty standards disadvantage Asian men who, comparative to men of other races, can display the traits. Western women find them less attractive than Western men.
Grandma’s advice is on point. When you like how YOU look, you feel good about yourself, you show confidence and nothing looks better than a confident man or woman.
I remember, my Japanese female friend was told by her foreign boyfriend 'Be strong', when she was having a hard time. And we were both surprised. 😳Because we had been generally expected to behave 'soft and fragile' in Japan. As Nobita san said, the popularity for men/women is changing. Recently many Japanese women(and men) work out to build mustles💪 And I love that trend. We can choose to look soft or strong whichever we feel good. I 100% agreed to Nobita san's grand ma's statement..☺️☺️
Great Video again Nobita, to be honest l have no expectations when l come to Japan in terms of love and attractions based on cuteness, for me that is all superficial. It's about being able to connect on a higher level. You can feel an attraction to a person its sort of magnetic. Looks are important but like they say "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder." What matters is how you feel around them 😊
Thank you Nobita! I had known about all these categories for attractiveness for women, but didn’t know what women looked for in men. Very enlightening!
"F*** Japan beauty standards." I agree. F*** the worlds beauty standards. Just be yourself. Of course, care about your physicality and health. But who you are will naturally attract the correct people toward you.
Wow, that's so different than what I was expecting! Thank you for sharing this video. Also may I just say how much I loved it when you said ''F*ck The Beauty Standards'
There is nothing more attractive than just being you. If you can just accept and love yourself for you are and own it like a Chad, even if other people don't find it attractive, you'll be so much more happier
Yui Aragaki, Haruka Ayase, Minori Takao, Marie Yanaka, Aki Shibuya, Kaho Shibuya, and most of the Japanese Hololive girls! And that's just for starters! ❤
I'm from the 🇺🇸 and men's standards are be tall, muscular, make money. Here at home I feel like I'm your average dude. Been to Japan 3 times and everytime was an eye opener when it came to interactions with people. I used to be bigger than my current picture and most interactions where just stares or the off comment of me being big or macho which I didn't mind but I certainly didn't feel big. Then there's been the negative comments people made when they thought I didn't understand any Japanese. Things like being compared to a gorilla while at the zoo or people saying things like why would I want to look like this, Or them thinking I probably got mad easy, short tempered or being afraid I'd put hands on a woman. Anyways the good outweighed the bad and I'll be back after covid. Guess I'm the complete opposite of what Japanese girls find attractive 😆. Thanks for reading my rant, have a good day ✌
Very good video and summary at the end. I do find all the information very useful because if you hit multiple points naturally already, you can know you will have a much higher percentage to attract a person you like in Japan.
Appearance that attract, personality that keeps. In my opinion when you know a person for a long time and you feel comfortable with them, his/her appearance doesnt really matters.
Like many things it’s about balance. It’s good to have pride in your appearance and have a standard but not to the point of obsession, and everyone has their own preference. In Asian countries they tend to care too much I mean South Korea is the plastic surgery capital of the world. Then in America there are some who care little if at all about appearance and health. Some even want to act and appear masculine for some reason.
@@hokkaidosnow6643 It’s not that Americans don’t care it’s just in comparison to Asian countries it’s not as obsessed I don’t think. That’s why I made sure to explicitly say there are SOME Americans.
One thing I don't like about some western countries is how some people don't care to much about their health. I think everyone shouild care to keep their health/hygiene and appearance well. I also don't understand the bright color hair/tatto and piercing trends; that alot of my class mates have. Im probaly gonna get backlash for this, but especially when ppl have alot of tattoo's It's like they have a permanent sleeve; you can't ever remove it. Your stuck almost 'wearing' the same shirt for ever.
It's like in every culture, the Beautiful People are attracted to the beautiful people. And the rest of us average people ( the majority of the population ). Have to fight for scraps and what's leftover !
Being childish and immature isn't exactly a negative trait in the USA for some guys. Younger girls who are childish and immature are more sought after than say more mature/older women due to being easily manipulated or easier to work with than the more 'mature' women who are stereotyped as being stubborn, hard to work with, set in their ways, 'used up,' closer to menopause, high maintenance, or harder to get a family with because they are older. It's a stupid mentality but it goes to show that Japan isn't that much different than the USA when it comes to some base values.
But most women, for the most part, are not immature after 19-21. you are talking about hebophiles, or whatever they are called. Men who want teenagers. Japanese men want "child-like " women because they are retiring and somewhat effeminate. America has macho culture by comparison, so the women are womanly and the men more manly.
I find Connor attractive if I was gay
Interesting how when a girl says she finds another girl attractive, she doesn't need to defend herself of being straight.
noBIta
Nobita x Connor is the new romance confirmed.
"If I was gay," how about bi curious lul?
@@AdachiCabbage Freddie: I think I'm bisexual
Mary: You're gay
Sometimes when nobita is being genuinely nice it comes across as the best deadpan delivery of snide British sarcasm and I crack up.
chad nobita🤣🤣🤣🤣
hi do you know if 4:11 comes from a show or movie idk just wondering.
I legitimately can't tell if he was complimenting Connor, or absolutely roasting him
It's really fascinating to learn about what other cultures find to be attractive
Fancy seeing you here
HAH i GOTCHA NOW!!! you're currently at 5 likes
I never been this early to respond to your comment. Here before K likes.
Your commenting to a lot of video 24/7.
What’s up it’s good seeing u here
I'm fascinated by Japanese culture, but the more I find out about it, the more I think it must be exhausting to be Japanese.
It's like everyone is supposed to constantly present themselves as massive try-hard that is doing everything 24/7 with 100000% effort... It gets tiring really fast especially in the workplace.
I agree.
I could also say the same for other cultures
I m no longer deceived by pretentious kindness and smiling face
@@User_37821 Awesome👏
Nobita: "What is considered attractive?"
Me: "A good credit score."
In China: a good social credit score
Also known as: good bootlicking score
That’s true for the entire world hahah
@@shukrantpatil world of women maybe
Never taking any credits and never being in debt)
Must be ChinLUL
I'm Filipina married to a Japanese guy and it was a huge shocker to me at first when he told me my crooked teeth made me look cute/attractive even though I was dying to pay for dental work to straighten it. Since he liked my crooked teeth, I didn't push through getting braces to straighten my teeth. Plus I noticed it's my natural double eyelids that made him attracted to me from the first time we met even though my eyes are considered just typical for Filipina.
Good interesting story! I have naturally perfect teeth but nobody paid attention when I was young in Japan. But many people liked my teeth in USA saying their teeth were fake and not natural. I thought I was born in a wrong country only for this teeth part.
I think you are eyes are beautiful when I see your profile.
@Yesorno The video said crooked teeth is considered attractive in Japan
@Yesorno he probably doesn't understand the grammar of your comment. It took me two readings to get what you're saying as an ESL speaker.
Im a filipina, in my workplace, I had japanese admirers even though I have naturally perfect teeth.
Now I want a video featuring Nobita's grandmother.
No I want a video featuring by doraemon.
Based Japanese Grandma when?
KONNO KOTTA IINA
Nobita: Connor's not weird or cringy
Also Nobita: Feast your eyes on all these clips of Connor's weird and cringy cosplays.
XD XD XD
Its not cringy, Nobita knows how cultured Connor's cosplay is.
Its funny how often Nobita has to clarify "not everyone" or "these are opinions" and similar statements. You'd think people would understand this by now😂I feel your pain Nobita, I feel your pain.
True, but I don't think it's only so people won't become offended or reply with "Well actually...". There are people who are very insecure about such stuff. And paradoxically they still look up these kinds of videos. His comments in between are there to remember us that we shouldn't take it to heart.
@@Black.Spades Yea you're right I can see that. Everyones mind works differently for sure. Its better to cater to both sides than alienate people who would maybe feel targeted by the comments he makes. I've always been one to think from all perspectives/play devils advocate so I tend to go into any situation with the "this is an opinion" or "not everyone apples" mindset lol. But for sure I understand what you're saying, it makes sense.
People get offended over everything these days and can't read between the lines. So, I cant blame him.
Well I think it's fine. It's something I say as well. It's because a lot of people who don't say that forget that it is an opinion
I think that's the correct way to express a opinion, not just because you could offend people but because some people actually think like that and you can not support that.
"If you are ugly in Japan you are recommended to go to Yoshimoto kougyou, the biggest comedy agency in Japan. So I have actually considered that while I was in middle school."
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Awww
Cracks me up 🤣
I'm a happily married woman but let me say this respectfully: you're looking good, Nobita. I see that you're taking better care of yourself and you look healthier everyday that passes. Your new style suits you well.
I agree he's looking good in this video
As a fellow happily married woman, i second to this 👏 and nobita has such an interesting personality that's more important. I feel like we could talk for hours
Was thinking the same. That's a good look for him. He's really not a bad-looking guy when he's spiffed up a bit. And such a great personality.
I wonder if Nobita didn' t get married? Maybe his wife is helping him?
I pointed this out to him a few years ago and gave him tips on his style which I think he actually implemented. For example, I told him to wear his hair less sleek and more ruffled because it suited him more (which he now does), I told him to stop wearing white because it makes him look ill and to instead wear ivory or cream (which he now does), told him to ditch the glasses because it covers up his good bone structure, and told him to focus on colours like navy instead of black. It's good to see him focussing on what looks good on him instead of following what the general style is for Japanese men. He's a good-looking guy and it's a shame that he was called ugly just because he didn't know how to style himself properly.
Looking forward for a Nobita & Connor date episode
next connor ep: im dating nobita from japan🤣
Nobita: *Gropes Connor*
Connor: Put your hands on me again and I'll thump you.
Later, they kiss.
@@setro5582 Bohemian Rhapsody reference?
@@Denjikuu yes
I would think the same as in every country, symmetric facial features as close to the top of the beauty formula ranking as possible, followed by status and income
Yes, facial symmetry is subconsciously perceived as being indicative of good genes.
There's ugly people with symmetrical faces (Danny Devito) and models with asymmetrical faces (Shannen Doherty). It's proximity to the perfect mean face that defines beauty, symmetry is just one of many factors that result in a face that's closer to the golden mean. (The face that you get by averaging all faces together.)
@@credman Danny devito is an old short fat man, suggest you check out pictures of him when he was young. Shannon was a sex symbol when she was young... even Brad Pitt is going to end up less attractive if he gets old enough.
@@credman Symmetry and various other factors all interplay: In Men testosterone levels indicate strong brow and chin and thus are masculine and attractive WITH symmetry. in Women Oestrogen and collagen and proportions of curves indicate good hormone balances thus high fertility. In BOTH cases the indications are good immune system AND good nervous system. These are all positive towards sexual attractiveness and beauty. However mental interaction and behaviour are very important too - but excluding those and only commenting on physical.
There is some cultural attribution to tastes eg attractiveness of breast size and many many other features can varying simply due to culture and locality tastes that establish. Again smell (body odour) is "surprising" important because it is associated with immune system compatibility.
The mean of human faces is a statistic it's not descriptive of the above thus it's misleading to say the average mean of faces is the pinnacle or some such of beauty standards.
Back to Japan: I think the women do an amazing job of demonstrating feminine beauty via feminine behaviour and strong beauty aesthetics in their dressing without necessarily having high levels of the above association of physical ostroegen creating curves and fertility indications eg they tend to have narrower hips for one example. So it really goes to show how flexible the subject is. Though atst: Tall, Salary, Status it shows similarities too across human groups (racial groups).
@@credman It seems many people are mistaking the general idea of asymmetrical face with what would draw closer to a facial deformity. Many celebrities have naturally uneven eyelids, and uneven styling to give it a more dynamic feel to a person.
To me, those with perfectly Photoshop-like symmetrical faces often appear as they have no soul, or something.
Your grandma once again with the very wise advice. おばあちゃんは天才です。
It's crazy that so many men around the world would love to have a cute Japanese girlfriend but they won't commit to the hygiene and upkeep to get one xD
Me: *Laughs In Myself Being Obsessively Clean To The Point That Almost 100 Percent Of Germs Are Nowhere Visible To My Body*
Facts lol
it will be trouble to everyone if i been commit because i only have 2 speed, immerse and idgaf
Definitely can't relate to this. I've never come across any man that, even going as low as 17 years old, didn't take care of their hygiene. I can see kids being that way, not 17 year olds and older. They are usually clean.
Lol so true, they expect women to be adorable and smells like garden but men (not all) don't take care of themselves. If I dress all nice and spend money to my body then I expect nothing less for my partner.
5:30 there's a similar term in Mandarin called 高富帅 which translates to tall, wealthy, and handsome. it seems like the standards for men are pretty similar in East Asia
Haha I thought the same thing! At least for Japanese you can be educated instead of handsome. I'm tall and educated, just not rich. Two down one more to go!
@@lordkent8143 hahahah good luck!
That's pretty much standard all over the world. Even a lot of people western girls want those
@@lordkent8143 You forgot that Nobita also mentioned 5 criterias for Seiketsukan, it's including being good looking.
In the USA, there's the 6-6-6 rule: six figure income (in USD), six feet tall and six pack abs (or 6 inch you-know-what). American women are very demanding.
As a westerner who used to live in Japan, when I dated a japanese woman I had very casual clothing on me, a simple t-shirt + jeans, very normal and casual-stylish in the west. She on the other hand were extremely up dressed, however - because I was a gaijin she thought that it actually suited me and looked very handsome, but for some reason she wouldn't think that it would look appropriate on japanese men, so you're right that foreigners in japan doesn't have to care so much about the japanese beauty standard, because we foreigners come from other cultures with it's own charm
Agreed.. She was dating you cause she liked the way you looked as you were. Western. She had a "thing" for that look. Some Japanese people do.
I'm not going to lie anime got me more interested in Japanese culture, and by far this guys channel has been the most informative.
The main Drive behind my curiosity is what you see in an anime especially dealing with the high school ones how close is that to Japanese culture.
in my observation since ive been to japan 3x, their beauty seems more natural, and very japanese.. compare to korea or thailand which is towards perfection, just an honest observation since ive been to most countries in asia..
have u been to the philippines??
Well not true
Wow, you visited Asian countries. You must be such an expert with deep understanding of their societies. STFU
@@user-pd9ju5dk5s judging by your other comments on this channel you seem like a miserable person.
Chill out mane, you gotta stop commenting. It’d do good for your mental health.
@@jellyjellywowie damn you too. You gotta call it at some point with the comments 😂
Who hurt you guys
I did not expect to see Connor at the end, but I def enjoy some Connor scenes😂
Nobita-san is awesome for his honesty, politeness, and insightfulness.
Hey nobita, could you make a video on the Japan Travel Ban to students abroad? Many students, workers, familes are straded abroud with no awnsers as to when entry might be possible. Davide Rossi has a lot of videos on the subject and so many people are willing for interviews. No matter what, Keep up the great content! :)
Yes, and international couples as well :(
Totally agree, in some cases the whole degree depends on the semesters abroad! There's no other place to learn advanced Japanese properly...
@@mitzmimi0515 He’s done plenty of those vids already
@@arielgonzalez9993 I think mita is talking about relationships with people stranded abroad
What would you like to know?
i love the cute culture of japanese girls. in my teens, i always wanted to emulate it. i started buying cute skirts, hair accessories, and socks. im not the type to wear lolita fashion everywhere, but i do like to add cute elements when i can. i also love how japanese girls style their bangs. as a young asian american, i definitely prefer a "cute/kawaii" look to an abg one. i cant pull the latter off
I used to be this way but as I gotten older the more I cant stand super moe and cute girls. Especially the girls who have that cute uwu voice and talk like a baby, literally makes me want to peel of my skin burn it and stab myself in the ear with a knife. Its funny for guys I like when they are feminine but for girls I like when they are alittle more harsh
@@CheerUp2 As a girl living in Japan I completely agree with you. There's nothing more cringey than a moe/cute girl talking and behaving like a baby, especially when you know her real personality is 90% to be likely complete crap. I'm amazed how many foreigners are being deceived by that. Japanese are already pretty big hypocrites (part of the culture). But these girls usually take it to another level.
@@dothetwist298 Like even every day normal girls in japan will have that high pitched voice and certain cutesy mannerisms and I just hate it so so much. Its interesting to hear from you perspective and someone who lives there.
@@CheerUp2 High pitched voice is considered to be polite here, so it's kind of a given that you hear that when you enter a supermarket, a cafe, a bank or just wherever. However, a lot of girls also consider it cute. The funny thing is that most of these girls with a high pitched voice have a really low voice in reality lmao. My best advice would be - don't be fooled by looks when you're in Japan. 99% of the time it's not what you imagined.
The sad part is that many probably don't like it but feel pressured into it, in order to be likable and not intimidate others
Very insightful.
I love the ending message of not caring about what others think because at the end of the day, you cant control who you can attract or not. Just be you, cut the insecurities & be happy. The right person will be apart of your life unexpectedly.
You are attracted or not to someone when you first see them, but you fall in love with that person when you get to known them and they become beautiful to you.
What about love at first sight ?
@@zacardi1622 Doesn't exist, that's just dumb horny impulses
@@zacardi1622 I prefer the terms attraction at first sight. You cannot love someone you don't know in my opinion.
If love on first sight was more than a "horny impulse", what would you love about that person? You've seen that person once, you probably don't know shit about them, so it very likely is just a h.i.
@@AnalogueAbsynth Agree. Love At First Sight Is Just Pure Lust.
That last advice is fire. Thank you for sharing. Wise words.
Nobita's grandma, tho I've never met her, seems like a genuinely lovely person I would love to have a convo with. She always dropping gems.
The best informative video that I have found yet
I love the advice from your Grandmother 🙏
Your content is mind-blowing! You are very open-minded and you think objectively which most Japanese people are not. Respect, man! Keep it up.
I should have come to Japan when I was a teenager.
I was quite all Japanese women want... quite tall, blond, blue eyes, very white, slim.
but ... I lost my hair since then and that's really a problem to be bald in Japan 😭
From kawaii to kowai 😭
Same here but even now that I buzz my hair down to almost nothing some Japanese women still find me attractive. I may have less options but it's still more than zero haha.
Dude I did foreign exchange in Japan two of my years of highschool. I'll never forget my friend, who was 6 ft tall blonde and blue eyed, shaking the hand of a Japanese girl and her laughing so hard and falling to HER KNEES. I had black hair and was five nine so nothing for me lol
I think baldness is not that frowned upon in Japan. It's quite common and maybe only the youngest girls care about a man's hair that much.
I have been to Korea too, and being bald there is way more detrimental. haha
I'm a Tank Abbott look-alike and still do quite well. I get the Kowaii thing a lot, but it's not hard to work around.
🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭Everyone is always a good friend. Love everyone from the heart. Boss. My name is 1 Nickname. My name is Boss...and that I And what I set for myself is Satan walks on the ground 5555🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Love the message at the end
It’s so funny, as a medium-dark Black woman with long braids who is definitely considered large in Japan, I never got more attention from men then when I was in Japan a few years back! I must be considered “exotic” there, although I’m sure some of the guys also were genuinely attracted to me hahah.
As you said everyone also has their own preferences ✨✨🙏🏾
Well Philippines Culture is a mixed of west and east. The more I learn about other cultures that I admire. The more I appreciate the culture of my country. It has both worlds.❣
Your Grandma is a wise woman Nobita.
Thanks for an ispiration for my next presentation ;-)
Your grandmas advice is the best!!!!!!!!
"f* the beauty standards" this is why I adore this channel
exactly
I love what he said there!!!! because let me tell you this.....young and dumb, marry because $$$$$$$...handsome, good job, society makes you feel all together rather than being single and loner...........WELL, when both of you stop making babies, when he comes home late or she comes home late from a true job and not SCREWING AROUND......makeup wont hide the TRUE AGE FACTOR!!!! Yes.....BOTH OF YOU WILL LOSE IT ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
0:41 i thought she was un popular but u included her here, im
So thankful🥺
Wow what Japanese women generally look for in men is exactly what I look for lol. Especially when it comes to hygiene... I feel like the West, or where I come from at least, men don't care much for hygiene and it's really irritating because I personally do. Very much agree and love your grandma's words, self-love should always come first :)
What do you mean? Western guys are not dirty.
@@ok_listen they are.
Same. Western men don't take good care of themselves and boast about it. I have similar criteria to Japanese women. Self care, hygiene and self maintenance is important
@@ok_listen not saying they're dirty but a lot don't do the bare minimum surprisingly, and yet expect women to be shaven, clean, well-dressed at all times because in their eyes that's the bare minimum for them
@@chrystianaw8256 talk about yourself. We Italians are not like that, many people I've met from Europe and whatnot are not like that. It's a stupid generalization.
I appreciate your opinion at the end of this video so much.
An interview about Connors personal opinion about things in Japan with you is a must, Nobita-san!
Keep Fighting Nobita san Your English is Getting More and More Good
nobita is the most handsome man in japan
fr no one can compete
I absolutely agree.
i love your reminder/final words. so true. 💯
The proverb from his grandma at the end is perfect. It took me years to realize this myself. While I still don't like how I look, it's not because I'm disgusting, I just need to get in better shape. Otherwise I'm happy with myself and who I am as a person. I still wish I had much better luck with women though.
Great video! Short, informative and cautious. And ofc, Grandma's message just nailed it.
Japan to pretty men: "You should be in music and on television!"
Japan to ugly men: *"YoU hAvE a FaCe foR cOmEDy!"*
i always like nobitas messages. just be yourself other wise you have to mask yourself your whole life
I was listening so carefully and deeply to the video then suddenly at the end he put " Fuck the Beauty standards in japan" and i died laughing... completely unexpected
i understand why he said it
Thank you so much Nobita for your good videos always!
I love how most japanese woman even the idols and actress prefer natural looks beauty
Great video Nobita!
In all fairness, the emasculating of Asian men in western culture is just appauling. You cannot judge a culture based on your own lens. I have always found Asian men attractive and have personally preferred dating them.
I agree with what you say that men that are too mascular and hairy are just....intimidating.
They are not being emasculated. In many ways, they are more manly than Western softbois who are injected with hormone blockers.
@@intermilan9731 if they're being injected with hormone blockers, I don't think they're men in the first place lol.
@@intermilan9731 Honestly more the more men embrace femininity the manlier they are in my eyes. Super macho buff dudes are disgusting to me
Dykish-type girls like you are a minority so it really shouldn't concern anyone in the grand scheme of things.
@@CheerUp2 that’s just rude what’s wrong with being macho? Nobody is here to please you . You can have personal preferences however you calling them disgusting was rude :/
Thank you Nobito! Positive message!
At least a few times in the last two decades I've pondered this question. Some cultures are very clear cut when it comes to beauty and attraction but Japanese people I've met, mostly tourists or JASDF on base, have varied opinions. Edit: Just got to 3:43 and this explains a lot of my personal experience. Japanese women young and old would often gather around me at work to take photos, if they were bold enough to do so. These were my late teens and the description here matches my stupid boyband appearance back then >_< Clueless and shy kid, wishing I could go back and appreciate how lucky I was.
Don't take your youth for granted!
When I was in my 20s, Japanese tourists would come and ask me to take a picture for some reason. I guess they thought I was cute? LOL.
I'm not that cute now though with my big boobs and tanned skin lol.
Your last quotes were really wholesome 🤩🤩
I think luck is also a factor in finding a partner. It may be difficult to find someone that would appreciate and cherish you for who you are without luck. You can be a kind, clean, calm, caring, educated, outgoing, and work a stable job, but without any luck, you may not have a chance at true love.
Law Of Attraction Then? As Long As You Find Out And Love Yourself, Then Eventually You Will Resonate The Same Partner On Who You Are To Yourself. So Yeahh The Luck You Are Considering Is Engaging To Know If The Partner You Are Looking For Radiates The Same Values And Interests As You. Sure, Physical Attractiveness Can Matter Too But In A Long Run, The Way How Does Your Personality Match Up With That Person. Because Its More Engaging To Have A Partnership With Someone Whom Has A Cute And Warming Personality Yet Average Lookinh Than Someone Whom Is Considered Super Beautiful Yet Too Dull To Talk With.
Best advice from your grandma thank you soo much ❤
my husband is japanese, and i prefer him with the messy curly/wavy hair. gives him more character. but, than im not japanese so….
From Canada here, fascinated by Japanese perspectives, your videos are intelligent and well done
Yes! Nobita you are so right. I am an American female in Japan. I am married to a Japanese man. We don't focus on SO physically or social status conscious. We care about the heart of each other. You never mentioned that in the video and it's sad that many do look too much into appearance and social status. Obviously, that is not true happiness if the suicide rate is so high. Maybe just caring about who we are can change a lot.
appreciate you not sugar coating this!
Since I have crooked teeth and it actually dragged my confidence down in the mud and learning that Japanese people doesn't really pay much that attention to how pretty your teeth makes me confident.
da japanese beauty standard has always intrigued me :) thanks for bringing these topics into discussion Nobita :D
I did not have that big of an issue when dating in Japan though having to get her parents' permission took some time. I found after a few days that I first arrived that I switched to a full suit and tie clean-shaven and short hair. Only on Sunday did I relax on what clothing to wear. I found it helped and also I am under 6 ft so I don't look that intimidating. But this video is very true on a lot of things. Thank you for posting it.
this was a great video, sick work man
Unless you are a wannabe idol or something, you should ask "Being attractive for whom?" instead of looking at stats. Your grandma's advice says you should start from attracting yourself. Nice advice indeed.
Great video. Very informative 👏
Grandma always with the right quote
I always wait for your grandma's great words!
The sexiest part of any person is their mind. Are they intelligent, curious, and open? When it comes to finding a mate, you only have to find one--you don't have to appeal to a wide demographic to find happiness. Nobita, your concluding statement is really on point, and I value your work (except for the bit about Connor :-)
no matter how intelligent you are, if your "pole" dont stand up in bedroom you wont be whit that person...
Reads like a hallmark card
i think you pretty much summed it up. i woudl add the following (in terms of dating and relationship)
The other person should genrally be attracted to you because of your personality not your looks. if the love/friends call it what you want is mutual and you change your looks to the others liking it will probably benefit both of you
I only date physically attractive women because I want my children, in the case of a daughter to be the image of her. Not her brains.
@@guidi7442 damn bruh I mean u already choosing how ur kids must look like which is a figure of speech for ur so called physically attractive women , I mean aren't u keeping the bar too high . I will not use some saint lines but u have a very stereotypical way of thinking.
Love your videos bro !
Yeah, I did notice how often the "handsome Japanese men" all had similar face shapes- high cheekbones and almost the EXACT same jawline. It was uncanny.
Another great video by Nobita! Well done!
As an Asian American, I've found this really interesting. I've never worn make up, I've always looked like a kid, and my overall physic is pretty much equal to a middle-schooler. Yet, in my friend group, I'm considered the most mature and hardest to anger. I've always known that being cute is attractive in Japanese culture, and I've always wondered how a Japanese native would react to meeting me. I've always thought that I'm the complete opposite of my appearance, and have had some self esteem issues because of it.
Also its always been a running joke that whoever dates me is gonna look like a p*dof*le.
They’re gonna react like an Alien 👽 from outer space 😂
Dont say that. Your an adult and men will be attracted to you
Western standards of beauty and femininity favour Asian women i.e. slim, youthful, zero body hairy, petite. Many men of other races prefer Asian women. On the flip side Western beauty standards disadvantage Asian men who, comparative to men of other races, can display the traits. Western women find them less attractive than Western men.
Saw Hamabe Minami so I watched. Great work, Nobita ❤️
Grandma’s advice is on point. When you like how YOU look, you feel good about yourself, you show confidence and nothing looks better than a confident man or woman.
That ending advice was pure gold
I remember, my Japanese female friend was told by her foreign boyfriend 'Be strong', when she was having a hard time. And we were both surprised. 😳Because we had been generally expected to behave 'soft and fragile' in Japan.
As Nobita san said, the popularity for men/women is changing. Recently many Japanese women(and men) work out to build mustles💪 And I love that trend. We can choose to look soft or strong whichever we feel good.
I 100% agreed to Nobita san's grand ma's statement..☺️☺️
"Be strong." is a way of saying "Don't give up."
You are very correct. We train to be strong and muscular
What are you talking about? Japanese men are considered as homosexuals if they have muscles.
You r doing a great job. I really appreciate this. It's a pleasure to know about other cultures ❤❤❤
Great Video again Nobita, to be honest l have no expectations when l come to Japan in terms of love and attractions based on cuteness, for me that is all superficial. It's about being able to connect on a higher level. You can feel an attraction to a person its sort of magnetic. Looks are important but like they say "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder." What matters is how you feel around them 😊
Thank you Nobita! I had known about all these categories for attractiveness for women, but didn’t know what women looked for in men. Very enlightening!
"F*** Japan beauty standards." I agree. F*** the worlds beauty standards. Just be yourself. Of course, care about your physicality and health. But who you are will naturally attract the correct people toward you.
Wow, that's so different than what I was expecting! Thank you for sharing this video. Also may I just say how much I loved it when you said ''F*ck The Beauty Standards'
There is nothing more attractive than just being you. If you can just accept and love yourself for you are and own it like a Chad, even if other people don't find it attractive, you'll be so much more happier
BS
"If you can"
Nobita you are amazing
Yui Aragaki, Haruka Ayase, Minori Takao, Marie Yanaka, Aki Shibuya, Kaho Shibuya, and most of the Japanese Hololive girls! And that's just for starters! ❤
Nice video ,
Video ending got me really surprised 😂
I'm from the 🇺🇸 and men's standards are be tall, muscular, make money. Here at home I feel like I'm your average dude. Been to Japan 3 times and everytime was an eye opener when it came to interactions with people. I used to be bigger than my current picture and most interactions where just stares or the off comment of me being big or macho which I didn't mind but I certainly didn't feel big. Then there's been the negative comments people made when they thought I didn't understand any Japanese. Things like being compared to a gorilla while at the zoo or people saying things like why would I want to look like this, Or them thinking I probably got mad easy, short tempered or being afraid I'd put hands on a woman. Anyways the good outweighed the bad and I'll be back after covid. Guess I'm the complete opposite of what Japanese girls find attractive 😆. Thanks for reading my rant, have a good day ✌
Dude I'm an Asian woman and if I were there I would find you attractive. Be more confident lah!!
looking good mate. You do you. Im more on the tall, lean side.. more of a swimmers bod these days. But I miss having more weight on the bone.
Very good video and summary at the end.
I do find all the information very useful because if you hit multiple points naturally already, you can know you will have a much higher percentage to attract a person you like in Japan.
Appearance that attract, personality that keeps.
In my opinion when you know a person for a long time and you feel comfortable with them, his/her appearance doesnt really matters.
What a good way to conclude the video. Nice!
Like many things it’s about balance. It’s good to have pride in your appearance and have a standard but not to the point of obsession, and everyone has their own preference. In Asian countries they tend to care too much I mean South Korea is the plastic surgery capital of the world. Then in America there are some who care little if at all about appearance and health. Some even want to act and appear masculine for some reason.
Well said !!
Americans 100% care a lot about looks. Look at online dating and studies about it.
@@hokkaidosnow6643 It’s not that Americans don’t care it’s just in comparison to Asian countries it’s not as obsessed I don’t think. That’s why I made sure to explicitly say there are SOME Americans.
@@Jekyll08 People bleach their skin in some Asian countries.
One thing I don't like about some western countries is how some people don't care to much about their health. I think everyone shouild care to keep their health/hygiene and appearance well. I also don't understand the bright color hair/tatto and piercing trends; that alot of my class mates have. Im probaly gonna get backlash for this, but especially when ppl have alot of tattoo's It's like they have a permanent sleeve; you can't ever remove it. Your stuck almost 'wearing' the same shirt for ever.
This video was really well done, thank you.
It's like in every culture, the Beautiful People are attracted to the beautiful people. And the rest of us average people ( the majority of the population ). Have to fight for scraps and what's leftover !
I agree with Grandma! Thank you very much for making this video, Nobita-san. It's really informative^^
You should care, how you look to yourself. Not how you look to others.
Thanks for this lesson 😊
The last things you said were very inspiring. Thank you Nobita-san!!!
Being childish and immature isn't exactly a negative trait in the USA for some guys. Younger girls who are childish and immature are more sought after than say more mature/older women due to being easily manipulated or easier to work with than the more 'mature' women who are stereotyped as being stubborn, hard to work with, set in their ways, 'used up,' closer to menopause, high maintenance, or harder to get a family with because they are older. It's a stupid mentality but it goes to show that Japan isn't that much different than the USA when it comes to some base values.
But most women, for the most part, are not immature after 19-21.
you are talking about hebophiles, or whatever they are called. Men who want teenagers.
Japanese men want "child-like " women because they are retiring and somewhat effeminate.
America has macho culture by comparison, so the women are womanly and the men more manly.
Okay Nobi i'm ready!