I lost my little boy suddenly just over 3 months ago, from severe to anxiety to panic attack to things like being cold being triggers. Literally feel like I'm losing my mind. This helped me to realize what I'm feeling is a normal response in an abnormal situation. Thank you.
This is absolutely amazingly clear and coherent information on navigating loss and the trauma that flows from the loss . My 16 and half year old son was killed nearly 24 years ago . It was a sudden brutal death and the trauma experienced by myself and his brother ( who was present at my sons unlawful killing ) knows no bounds . I honestly do not know how we have survived in the way we have . But listening to this is such a recognition of the process that I have been going through since I lost my child . Thank you . I will be asking my son to listen to this podcast too 😍🙏🏽
I am crying through this interview. It validates my feelings because there are times that I feel guilt and shame for how I am stillfeeling . I am 60 years old now and particularly as an HSP/Empath I still feel the pain very deeply. The title alone "The Trauma Response is never wrong." is very healing to my spirit. Thank you Tami for bringing us such wonderful work. You are certainly helping to heal this world. love from Canada.
The 2 lb weight analogy is so accurate. And, trauma continues when a 1 lb weight is then added a year later. Then, another 2 lb weight. And so on. This helps me understand how a person can be a powerful, strong, successful person for years, and then suddenly want to "sit down" (so to speak) and actively put the weight down.
Thank you for such valuable information on the topic of Trauma. My 35 year old daughter passed several months ago. So many good people share their knowledge and experience on this platform. Your explanations were very easy to understand and I could relate to many of the examples today I am trying to clear my mind as much as I can along. I’m working with the meditation process. Hopefully I can heal from this pain. She will give me the strength to move on with love and perseverance.
Tami, there’s so much information/truth coming to light about trauma. Somehow you found someone who definitely has much to add. Thank you for finding and bringing us MaryCatherine.
I’m sharing this with everybody. I had to keep pausing because the conversation led to so many epiphanies that I had to process along the way. And the last bit about Tetris had me laughing…I experienced a significant trauma late last summer and have spent several hours each evening since doing jigsaw puzzles on the iPad while having a tv show on in the background that I’d seen over and over. Doing this always made me feel safe and calm and sort of meditative. This particular episode of your podcast has been so incredibly helpful. Thank you!
I found online chess, where I can learn chess by playing against a "bot". When I feel dysregulation sinking in, I play online chess against a bot. I have no chess skill, but online chess coaches you through it, which feels like someone is helping me.
Thank you for sharing this . Trauma is the single greatest obstacle to peace and happiness in my life. I had alcoholic parents, and my father would get drunk, lie on the floor, and rant while pounding loudly on the floor. Now, any time I hear banging (especially if it's from people, usually kids, running and jumping in the apt behind mine) it makes me feel very anxious and then very, very angry for being subjected to the noise, since I don't think children should be running and jumping inside!! It makes me feel so angry, I feel I HAVE to release the energy physically, usually by punching my bed or a pillow..sometimes a wall. I've heard different theories about whether expressing the anger in a physical manner is helpful or harmful.. I think this is one of the most important fields of study. I know I find somatic techniques, like breath work or stimulation of the vagus nerve, etc, the most beneficial. My body/CNS is the part that seems the least under my control. But kids should play outside!! They need fresh air, sunlight, and exercise!! The way millennial parents keep their kids locked up inside all day is, imo, criminal and very detrimental to the health of the children. Humans period need connection with nature!! Going out in nature helps me a lot. ✌😡🔥
This was EXACTLY how I described my own trauma responses & relative coping mechanisms after my "spiritual event" in 2018. They helped me to lose 150lbs,quit cigarettes, alcohol, coffee & much more. I organized my brain like files on a computer. ☯️🧠☯️
She’s right that it’s psychological and somatic, so it’s best to address both. We historically separated the mind from the body and only focused on the mind, let’s not make that mistake and only focus on the body. However, the way she talks it’s 80% mind and 20% body and she has that backwards. I can tell by the way she speaks that she’s never personally experienced CPTSD. Sorry about the death of her father, but it doesn’t sound like that trauma dysreguated her nervous system. She was grieving, which is understandable. Grief IS NOT CPTSD. Her NS was properly wired to “take the hit”. If she really knew, she’d understand it’s 80% body, 20% mind. The file cabinet and memories are a byproduct of what’s going on in the body. The brain tries to tell the story of what the body is going through. She’s way too cerebral about this, and that’s the clue. Wow, it does have to do with the NS in how trauma lands! A more robust NS, that was properly wired, has more capacity and with a co-regulator (care giver or friend) the trauma won’t land. Smh You need to study the somatics more. You know ZERO about building NS capacity. Folks trying to sell books and don’t have a FULL grasp of trauma. Scary. “Life has no meaning”? Tragic. But you want to get the word out about how trauma works and you can’t see that as your life’s purpose?! LOL! To not be able to see a grand design goes against tens of thousands of years of history and belief. It’s an inability to see a bigger picture. She never mentions IFS either. This whole interview is alarming. She got her PhD in 2016. Only 7 years of practice. Wait another 5-10 years bc writing a book. I normally don’t comment on these videos but this was bad.
ASSISTANT PROFESSOR Philosophy & Religious Studies at Old Dominoin University. Ma’am what does this have to do with trauma?!?!?!? Resume: Ph.D. in Philosophy, Boston University, (2016) M.A. in Philosophy, Department of Philosophy, The New School, (2008) B.A. in Philosophy and Religious Studies, College of the Holy Cross, (2003) I am not trying to troll. I just can’t believe this is your background and you’re trying to present as a trauma expert. No direct acedemic training in the field and 7 years from graduated doesn’t mean 7 years of experience with trauma. And wrote a book?! There’s enough failure in the medical community for traumatized people. I’m sorry, but you are not qualified to present in this way. Unbelievable. I could tell by the way you were talking, you were not a master in this subject. Give it another 10 years WORKING IN THE FIELD, then write a book. Smh. Academics: psychology, psychiatry, neuroscience. You have no training in any of these. Going rogue from what? You have no training in the field.
She forgot to mention Deep meditation, martial arts & "dark shadow work". Question: What if you had zero connection with any family or friends & you don't care if you lose them? Due abuse, betrayal or other traumas that they caused you to suffer from,ALONE. ☯️🧠☯️
I lost my little boy suddenly just over 3 months ago, from severe to anxiety to panic attack to things like being cold being triggers. Literally feel like I'm losing my mind. This helped me to realize what I'm feeling is a normal response in an abnormal situation. Thank you.
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This is absolutely amazingly clear and coherent information on navigating loss and the trauma that flows from the loss . My 16 and half year old son was killed nearly 24 years ago . It was a sudden brutal death and the trauma experienced by myself and his brother ( who was present at my sons unlawful killing ) knows no bounds . I honestly do not know how we have survived in the way we have . But listening to this is such a recognition of the process that I have been going through since I lost my child . Thank you . I will be asking my son to listen to this podcast too 😍🙏🏽
I am crying through this interview. It validates my feelings because there are times that I feel guilt and shame for how I am stillfeeling . I am 60 years old now and particularly as an HSP/Empath I still feel the pain very deeply.
The title alone "The Trauma Response is never wrong." is very healing to my spirit.
Thank you Tami for bringing us such wonderful work. You are certainly helping to heal this world.
love from Canada.
Same here I'm 50 and have been through the all kinds guilt and shame too 😊🙏✨️
The 2 lb weight analogy is so accurate. And, trauma continues when a 1 lb weight is then added a year later. Then, another 2 lb weight. And so on. This helps me understand how a person can be a powerful, strong, successful person for years, and then suddenly want to "sit down" (so to speak) and actively put the weight down.
This was helpful to me. I've been ashamed of my grief for years.
Thank you for such valuable information on the topic of Trauma. My 35 year old daughter passed several months ago. So many good people share their knowledge and experience on this platform. Your explanations were very easy to understand and I could relate to many of the examples today I am trying to clear my mind as much as I can along. I’m working with the meditation process. Hopefully I can heal from this pain. She will give me the strength to move on with love and perseverance.
Tami, there’s so much information/truth coming to light about trauma. Somehow you found someone who definitely has much to add. Thank you for finding and bringing us MaryCatherine.
I’m sharing this with everybody. I had to keep pausing because the conversation led to so many epiphanies that I had to process along the way. And the last bit about Tetris had me laughing…I experienced a significant trauma late last summer and have spent several hours each evening since doing jigsaw puzzles on the iPad while having a tv show on in the background that I’d seen over and over. Doing this always made me feel safe and calm and sort of meditative.
This particular episode of your podcast has been so incredibly helpful. Thank you!
I found online chess, where I can learn chess by playing against a "bot". When I feel dysregulation sinking in, I play online chess against a bot. I have no chess skill, but online chess coaches you through it, which feels like someone is helping me.
Amazing work from two incredible human beings. Thank you! 🙏☮
Thank you for sharing this . Trauma is the single greatest obstacle to peace and happiness in my life.
I had alcoholic parents, and my father would get drunk, lie on the floor, and rant while pounding loudly on the floor.
Now, any time I hear banging (especially if it's from people, usually kids, running and jumping in the apt behind mine) it makes me feel very anxious and then very, very angry for being subjected to the noise, since I don't think children should be running and jumping inside!! It makes me feel so angry, I feel I HAVE to release the energy physically, usually by punching my bed or a pillow..sometimes a wall.
I've heard different theories about whether expressing the anger in a physical manner is helpful or harmful..
I think this is one of the most important fields of study. I know I find somatic techniques, like breath work or stimulation of the vagus nerve, etc, the most beneficial. My body/CNS is the part that seems the least under my control.
But kids should play outside!!
They need fresh air, sunlight, and exercise!! The way millennial parents keep their kids locked up inside all day is, imo, criminal and very detrimental to the health of the children.
Humans period need connection with nature!!
Going out in nature helps me a lot.
✌😡🔥
Tami, another really relevant interview. Appreciating this very much. 🙏🏻
This is precious. I'm grateful for this channel. I love it
This was EXACTLY how I described my own trauma responses & relative coping mechanisms after my "spiritual event" in 2018.
They helped me to lose 150lbs,quit cigarettes, alcohol, coffee & much more.
I organized my brain like files on a computer.
☯️🧠☯️
She’s awesome Tami ❤ you too of course.
Thank you, this was incredibly valuable.
She’s right that it’s psychological and somatic, so it’s best to address both. We historically separated the mind from the body and only focused on the mind, let’s not make that mistake and only focus on the body. However, the way she talks it’s 80% mind and 20% body and she has that backwards. I can tell by the way she speaks that she’s never personally experienced CPTSD. Sorry about the death of her father, but it doesn’t sound like that trauma dysreguated her nervous system. She was grieving, which is understandable. Grief IS NOT CPTSD. Her NS was properly wired to “take the hit”. If she really knew, she’d understand it’s 80% body, 20% mind. The file cabinet and memories are a byproduct of what’s going on in the body. The brain tries to tell the story of what the body is going through. She’s way too cerebral about this, and that’s the clue.
Wow, it does have to do with the NS in how trauma lands! A more robust NS, that was properly wired, has more capacity and with a co-regulator (care giver or friend) the trauma won’t land. Smh You need to study the somatics more. You know ZERO about building NS capacity. Folks trying to sell books and don’t have a FULL grasp of trauma. Scary.
“Life has no meaning”? Tragic. But you want to get the word out about how trauma works and you can’t see that as your life’s purpose?! LOL! To not be able to see a grand design goes against tens of thousands of years of history and belief. It’s an inability to see a bigger picture. She never mentions IFS either. This whole interview is alarming.
She got her PhD in 2016. Only 7 years of practice. Wait another 5-10 years bc writing a book. I normally don’t comment on these videos but this was bad.
ASSISTANT PROFESSOR
Philosophy & Religious Studies at Old Dominoin University. Ma’am what does this have to do with trauma?!?!?!?
Resume:
Ph.D. in Philosophy, Boston University, (2016)
M.A. in Philosophy, Department of Philosophy, The New School, (2008)
B.A. in Philosophy and Religious Studies, College of the Holy Cross, (2003)
I am not trying to troll. I just can’t believe this is your background and you’re trying to present as a trauma expert. No direct acedemic training in the field and 7 years from graduated doesn’t mean 7 years of experience with trauma. And wrote a book?! There’s enough failure in the medical community for traumatized people. I’m sorry, but you are not qualified to present in this way. Unbelievable. I could tell by the way you were talking, you were not a master in this subject. Give it another 10 years WORKING IN THE FIELD, then write a book. Smh.
Academics: psychology, psychiatry, neuroscience. You have no training in any of these.
Going rogue from what? You have no training in the field.
You must have listened to a different podcast.
This is so good~ 💚 gratitude 💚#RadicalVulnerability
Love you Tami❤🎉
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She forgot to mention Deep meditation, martial arts & "dark shadow work".
Question:
What if you had zero connection with any family or friends & you don't care if you lose them? Due abuse, betrayal or other traumas that they caused you to suffer from,ALONE.
☯️🧠☯️
She "forgot to mention" car repair, tennis practice, and ceramics, too. What's your point?