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The man has a child with another woman he doesn’t support at all. He won’t get a “real job” because he doesn’t want his wages garnished for child support. They’re selfish. That’s why the parents live in the bedroom while the kids sleep on the living room floor, always have weed stocked up, have new electronics for the parents, & do not care about the kids. I don’t have any sympathy for the parents. I only have sympathy for the kids. Sharing a bedroom is normal. Sharing a bedroom with 7 kids isn’t.
I grew up a welfare child in section 8 housing. I was the first person in my immediate family to graduate high school despite having untreated adhd. I’m 30 and still child free (due to finances and mental health) and have had a stable job for ten years. I still have struggled incredibly hard and have made more mistakes than I can count. My dad has told me countless times how proud he is that I broke the cycle, but this video really solidified the fact that I ended that generational curse. I could still majorly eff up, I could have a baby with a loser and I could lose my job etc, but it’s extremely comforting to know I am miles ahead than nearly everyone in my family already. I have been a viewer on and off for like ten years and your videos have brought so much enlightenment to me. It’s truly inspiring to see how far you’ve come.
The way they portrayed their story is different from the truth. The more videos you watch, the more you realize this family’s priorities are not their children. She doesn’t want a job because she wants to raise her kids as she sees fit and he doesn’t want a job because he risks getting his wages garnished. Sad situation all around. It is morally wrong to bring children into this world when you cannot provide for them. This is applies psychologically as well. I believe they intended to go viral for the money and the handouts. The problem is that, even with this, their mindset is flawed. The kids were doomed from the start and that’s what I’m trying to wrap my head around. So so sad.
These people have a breeding kink IMO. It's mind boggling that they expect strangers to pay for their expenses. To say they're being bullied isn't something I necessarily agree with. They chose to put their business on the internet in the hopes of digitally panhandling so they never have to work. Her being pregnant and saying "he can hump away, I'll take all the babies he can give me." She has exposed ALL her kids faces to the internet and even posted their address so people can send them things. These people are ridiculously selfish. I say all this as the oldest of 9 kids (3 bio, 6 adopted) My parents actually did put us first. Some of my siblings came from the most disgusting and horrifying situations that they will never fully heal from.
I grew up in a wealthy and abusive household. The things I saw and the things that were done to me permanently altered my mental health and future. eventually due to my parents substance abuse they lost everything. At that point I was already over 18 and out of the house. I make a solid living for a single individual, I have enough money to pay all my bills and splurge on some small luxuries, but far less than what my father made at my age. with my first child on the way (a surprise) I know even though my child may grow up with less than I did, they will grow up feeling loved and respected by two people who love and respect each other, life, and them. I will continue to strive to make more money and “get rich.” In fact I’m starting a new job Monday. But In my heart I know, money is far from the most important thing in an upbringing.
This couple lacks some family planning education. 6 kids is pretty rough for pretty much everyone, no matter how much you make or how big of a house have. Still, she does seem to take of the kids. If you the kids to school, give them proper meals and is a loving parson who teaches the kids how to be good people, then you're doing your job as a parent and the kids are gonna grow up fine. Being there for the kids is the main thing. Still... 6 kids is rough and filming them and putting on social media is not a good thing to do.
i havent watched the full video yet but this mom grosses me out bc i saw other videos ive seen of her is eugenics vibes like '' when youre carrying superior genes (pregnant) but still gotta do chores'' or something. weird stuff. she def has some kind of pregnancy or breeding k/nk if you scroll through her content.
Me and the wife had our happy surprise kid 6 years ago, I’ve been a SAHD since I’ve only ever been an unemployed musician on disability… always figured the least we could do is not have anymore… we’re doing ok on 70-100k but you’re right in a perfect world my kid deserves another 100k. I have a cousin that’s on his 6th kid, it seems like it’s for more assistance, they get 500 or so per kid. It’s complicated yall, luv ya Britt
Im so sick of all the hate cps gets it truly is a life saver they will help you even after 18 i wouldn't be here without them but i always heard yeah we get abused but its not as bad as cps and thats why it took so long for us to ask for help.
Bro my IUD cost $30 and whatever general gp fee to install😭 She mentioned God- I'm wondering if they are really religious. I'm so tired of children who didn't ask to come into the world be forced to live in shitty situations all in the name of religious beliefs (like you said there's a difference in belief and knowing..). Anyways very interesting topic, I hope it gets better for these littles x
Same was just going to comment I have the same implant Britt has and it was thankfully free in my country, I feel so bad for Americans having to pay so much for contraception and then having no options if accidental pregnancy occurs
Yes! Thanks, goodness. It's only 80 euro a month here to be insured vs in the States. I was quoted $800 a month to cover my chronic health issues in Arizona, which is why I didn't do it. It was cheaper to pay out of pocket 😭
Mom of 1. I try to make decisions for my family with the thought “if my child challenged me about this when they become an adult, is it logically defendable?” Or course there’s a chance that something will seem defendable to me but not to them, but I find that it helps me act out my values
So true! I feel like one of the most important traits in a parent is to be able to take feedback with grace and have strong introspection skills. I never want my kids to feel like I can’t have a productive conversation about my mistakes.
Buying a $60k car when you make $25k a year is very different than having 4 kids making $20k a year. It’s not fair to the children in that situation. You’re absolutely wrong on the topic of people “doing their best”. Not everybody is doing their best.
I think in a situation where governments are taking away people's ability to opt out of parenting, the amount of contempt I see for poor families is incredibly disheartening. I'm ambivalent towards my decision to not be a mother, and I'm so grateful I've never had to terminate a pregnancy. If we approach parenthood with a place of compassion it would do us all some favours. I remember how tough my childhood was even with all the financial safety nets that were available at the time. This is also difficult in situations with irresponsible parenting or financial planning, which is all too common. It leads to situations where children are unsafe.
agreed, it is so hypocritical for a culture to claim strong family values while simultaneously dismantling social and economic supports for families and removing options for birth control, it is obvious to me that it is rooted in puritanical ideals of sex only for procreation
When u were talking about having kids when ur own life is hard and imposing ur circumstances, in the past there was more upward mobility and we didn’t think of the cost. Like MJ grew up in poverty then could be a child star but at what cost. I know tons of middle class ppl who grew up poor. However we do not have the economic freedom and upward mobility we once had so unless you think you can make your kid move up and have a better life than u without imposing abuse and toxicity on them… reconsider. It also makes me wonder if I should be less sympathetic to ppl who have harder lives but chose those have kids because clearly they don’t think their lives are so bad or they wouldnt copy paste them to someone else while also adding difficulty to theirs.
Some people are used to this lifestyle, so much so that they don’t want to leave it. I’ve known people who wouldn’t buy toilet paper for months yet still buy weed. First red flag to me is that parents have their own master bd?? I’d be sleeping on the floor. I’ve shared bedroom, not judging for that. But my parents have never had to shove us all in a room like a matchbox. If I were them I’d get authentic Japanese futons (or something similar) and move them out every night fold them away every morning with the kids. Tons of extra space, and you probably wouldn’t even need a couch if you have a few futons. Imo you don’t need a couch at all but js, dual purpose. I would also prioritize trying to find a better home, so both partners would work full time and try to get govt assistance for childcare. It’s available where I live. I don’t feel comfortable with childcare personally, but worst case scenario I would do it if I had to get out of a bad situation. At least give it a year to get to a new home, get a slightly better job or whatever. I know having kids is so biological but I almost feel like they’re doing this for Internet attention.
Also, people should absolutely not get tax breaks for having children. Or tax credits. People with children should pay MORE. They drain more on society
Oh I have one hell of a story.. My grandmother forced my mom into three marriages by the time I was 18 months old.. she was on her second divorce by the time I was 12 1/2 months old. All forced and coerced by my grandmother.. My mother actually tried to starve me to death. She did not kill me. I survived. Finally by the time I was 5 years old I had figured out what my grandparents did and did not do and why our life was so contrived.. My mom had a one-night stand. My mother was married to her high school sweetheart. They met in 8th grade. Junior high.. married right out of high school. My dad hit on my mom year after year. At a party took advantage of her. Not forcefully. But she was a bad girl. She wasn't functioning on all marbles... How to one night stand and got pregnant.. I found out that my grandmother paid $20,000 to have my father's name taken off the birth certificate and the disgusting Dad they were trying to pass as my own. It took me two years to finally convinced my mother that she had the strength to speak up. And get out of this family. I was lucky not to be abused. I was considered an unruly child. I broke my grandmother's teeth, I broke my grandmother's nose and her glasses. This old woman told me to shut up so she could rub one out on me. Yes I broke her nose. Thank goodness I was too intelligent for their abuse. And I'm the one that was able to get us out of that marriage. But I couldn't understand why my mom was being forced in all of these marriages and I finally figured everything out.. Sing about me. I'm gifted. I'm gifted with reading the forefront of thought. If I'm in the same vicinity of you. And you are thinking about it I'm going to pick up on it. That's how I found out that my grandmother paid $20,000 to have my father's name taken off the birth certificate. She was angry and crossed with my mother. But sadly, I told her. Why are you thinking about it. Mother didn't say a word. You didn't. You told on yourself don't blame it on her. My grandmother argued with my mother. My mother saved up $80,000. When we got away from the below the belt crime family. And I'm not kidding family. They were involved in the large Church the 700 club. Absolute demonic. I think all religion is.. whether you believe it to be so or not. It's evil. My mother had saved up $80,000. She had seen a house. $80,000. Or she could buy a bakery. The whole thing. It came with everything. Every cooler every freezer every mixer everything she would need even the cold cases. Everything. My grandmother took a tantrum. Whoever thought of having a business before a home. I tried to correct my grandmother and tell her. If you allow her to buy this business and allow us to stay here. I kid you not I've been living meekly... I stay out of your hair. I do not argue. I have been tipping on eggshells for this whole year. You could allow mother to stay 6 months and she could buy a home better than yours in your neighborhood. You're going to force her to buy this house. You're going to ruin her chance to stand on her own. And she did.. She forced my mother into buying the one-bedroom home.. for many years my mother slept in the living room. She gave me the bedroom. Decorated it preciously. And my mother had more marriages.. more divorces. And more drugs.. Years later. My mother's dead. my grandmother doesn't want to talk about it. I don't care. I'm going to say what's on my chest, in my heart and soul. Whether you like it or not. You made her bed, they did not make their beds. Both my mother and my aunt. You forced in 19 year old girl to marry a 51-year-old drunk. The agreement to this man's divorce to marry your daughter was the all of their children were illegitimate. You didn't share that with your daughter. She didn't find out until her children were in high school. Remember.. You forced your daughter at six different marriages. And one man you told her to remarry. If you would have simply been patient. And allowed my mother to buy the bakery. And stand on her own two feet. Our world would have been so much different. You forced my mother into a divorce. Something that should have never happened. Jay said he would have adopted me. Yeah of course I talked to him. He married someone 6 months after mother divorced him. He was so lonely and so sad he married a woman with a special child and immediately adopted him. He had five children with her.. and he was never a dirty mechanic. He was in the beginning. But he has an empire now. He owns three mechanic shops. And he only goes into check and make sure everything's running smoothly. No more dirty hands except for the projects he likes working on.. You forced everyone else's hand because you thought it was right by god. You are the very demon you try to pray away. You are the very devil you proclaim of evil around you. The most wonderful thing you have ever taught me, is how to never become you. Oh that felt so good to tell her that. Like Ducks, float never flounder, never allow anyone to take how high you can fly or how deep you can dive. Like water off a duck's back. I think my grandmother did a horrible job with her family. Horrible. She was the Pinnacle of a matriarch and took it ruthlessly. She brushed everything under the rug and would lay hands. Let's pray about it.. oh it was so dark. Every bit of it.. Yes I made her cry. No I did not care. She deserves that fracture. I am not the type to tiptoe over flowers. You know whenever you cut the flower, you strengthen the bulb.. My husband says I have an eloquent way of being poetically blunt.. delivering information that is very difficult for others to talk about. I say it lovingly, and quite ruthless.❤
Poor people shouldn't have kids is not a belief I have. You can have little income and be able to provide your kids shelter, food, education, clothes, healthcare, a parent, etc. I don't think you should be striving to be a parent when you know you can't provide for your kids. And if you're poor some of those things may be through government assistance or charity but if they are there than I think that's good. Also the poor parents in my life actually make their kids their priority like the second parent in the video. I come from a lower middle class family. They don't make that much but a lot of them are/eventually became home owners. (Which is definitely harder to do now than when they did it after the housing market crash. I'm jelly.) And a lot of them raised kids, fostered kids, and provided childcare when the working single parent relatives needed it. Monetarily I really do think it was fine. Hand-me-downs, sharing a room/bunk beds, food banks, very rare trips, etc. are really not an issue at all imo. And none of the parents in my family were able to monetarily support their kids through college but they could provide their adult kids free housing. I don't think you *need* $100k a year to raise children at all. I'd definitely prefer to have more money before I have kids though. Only time I'd choose to have a kid in an unideal situation is if I had an unplanned pregnancy which I'm avoiding. And I'd have kids with my disability because I know how to support them and they wouldn't go undiagnosed like I did.
Thanks, Brittany, for sharing your story. I've been following your channel for a few years now and I really appreciate your openness and honesty. It's really helpful to hear about your experiences and how you've overcome your challenges. It gives me hope that I can break free from the generational curse that I'm struggling with.
24:31 I had been taking hormonal birth control since my teens and I was going to all kinds of specialists to find out what kind of chronic illness I had. I had brain fog, and about 3 hours I could work before I got extreme nausea and headaches, I got an MRI to see if I had tumors! During all of this I got Mirena and immediately gained 20lbs and my symptoms got worse so I took it out. When I moved cross-country I was super busy and got lazy and stop taking the pill and ALL MY SYMPTOMS WERE GONE WITHIN A MONTH! That was 7 years ago. Copper IUD and never looked back. I will NEVER put hormonal birth control in my body again. I'm glad it works for you and some people, but it's crazy how many chronic illnesses mimic the symptoms of what some girls experience just being on birth control. I was told by Planned Parenthood that my symptoms could NOT be from birth control, but a simple Google search has SO MANY stories just like mine. I literally thought I had autoimmune or tumors or something! No doctor could figure it out, and now I feel superhuman with no issues. 😮💨😮💨
My BC is 80$ every 3 month, and 100 for the injection. 15 dollar copay That isnt a lot… even for me who works two jobs one min wage and one that pays well (but is very hard work 😭)
There’s so much to unpack. On one hand, this is the most common form of motherhood for most of human history. So, the outrage seems strange. On the other hand, I’m concerned for her because she seems mentally vulnerable. Because why is her husband not improving their situation? Maybe she’s one of those women who just desperately wants to be apart of something and she thinks this is the best option available to achieve that sense of belonging, for whatever reason.
Everything you've said is basically what I agree. Like I do think they are irresponsible to keep having children and barely being able to sustain them, But I do feel that they care and love their kids. Like not enough to call CPS but definitely they need to reevaluate their life goals and choices for their family because it is not beneficial for anyone to keep having more and more just because you want more kids. Like I would love to have one more kid, but at this point a second child will only happen if we can financially and if we are both healthier. Having this talk was sad for us, but in the end it is currently the best choice for our family. One child is what we can afford and give our best to as of right now.
I’m disabled, and I agree with you about having kids the natural way knowing they can be likely to pass on a serious illness. I wouldn’t do that to a child. There are other ways to have kids.
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The man has a child with another woman he doesn’t support at all. He won’t get a “real job” because he doesn’t want his wages garnished for child support. They’re selfish. That’s why the parents live in the bedroom while the kids sleep on the living room floor, always have weed stocked up, have new electronics for the parents, & do not care about the kids. I don’t have any sympathy for the parents. I only have sympathy for the kids.
Sharing a bedroom is normal. Sharing a bedroom with 7 kids isn’t.
I grew up a welfare child in section 8 housing. I was the first person in my immediate family to graduate high school despite having untreated adhd. I’m 30 and still child free (due to finances and mental health) and have had a stable job for ten years. I still have struggled incredibly hard and have made more mistakes than I can count. My dad has told me countless times how proud he is that I broke the cycle, but this video really solidified the fact that I ended that generational curse. I could still majorly eff up, I could have a baby with a loser and I could lose my job etc, but it’s extremely comforting to know I am miles ahead than nearly everyone in my family already. I have been a viewer on and off for like ten years and your videos have brought so much enlightenment to me. It’s truly inspiring to see how far you’ve come.
Children on the ground next to a litterbox and having constant lice goes beyond a little neglect. It's absolutely abuse.
From my mandated reporter training, I would need to call CPS because of the mom admitting to smoking weed while 6 months pregnant.
She also has 4 cats and is actively changing the litter while pregnant.
The way they portrayed their story is different from the truth. The more videos you watch, the more you realize this family’s priorities are not their children.
She doesn’t want a job because she wants to raise her kids as she sees fit and he doesn’t want a job because he risks getting his wages garnished.
Sad situation all around. It is morally wrong to bring children into this world when you cannot provide for them. This is applies psychologically as well.
I believe they intended to go viral for the money and the handouts. The problem is that, even with this, their mindset is flawed. The kids were doomed from the start and that’s what I’m trying to wrap my head around. So so sad.
These people have a breeding kink IMO. It's mind boggling that they expect strangers to pay for their expenses.
To say they're being bullied isn't something I necessarily agree with. They chose to put their business on the internet in the hopes of digitally panhandling so they never have to work. Her being pregnant and saying "he can hump away, I'll take all the babies he can give me."
She has exposed ALL her kids faces to the internet and even posted their address so people can send them things. These people are ridiculously selfish.
I say all this as the oldest of 9 kids (3 bio, 6 adopted) My parents actually did put us first. Some of my siblings came from the most disgusting and horrifying situations that they will never fully heal from.
Def different situations. Sharing a bedroom w one sibling is different than sharing w 4 or 5
I'd love a conversation about having kids when you're rich. I suspect the mental health outcomes are actually terrible.
Perhaps, largely depends on the family and how they raise them.
I don't respect people who have too many kids when they are financially able to in the first place. It annoys me that literally anyone can have kids
Same this is the main problem i have with this situation. Why are you having more kids that you physically and financially CAN NOT care for?
SAME. Bringing an entire human life into the world shouldn’t be a right, if should be a privilege.
I grew up in a wealthy and abusive household. The things I saw and the things that were done to me permanently altered my mental health and future. eventually due to my parents substance abuse they lost everything. At that point I was already over 18 and out of the house. I make a solid living for a single individual, I have enough money to pay all my bills and splurge on some small luxuries, but far less than what my father made at my age. with my first child on the way (a surprise) I know even though my child may grow up with less than I did, they will grow up feeling loved and respected by two people who love and respect each other, life, and them. I will continue to strive to make more money and “get rich.” In fact I’m starting a new job Monday. But In my heart I know, money is far from the most important thing in an upbringing.
Would one of the rare CPS circumstances be if you have 6 kids living in the living room with cats who pee everywhere and have flees?
As someone who DOES have a biological experience to have children, I agree that I’ve made the choice not to because of my own health struggles
This couple lacks some family planning education. 6 kids is pretty rough for pretty much everyone, no matter how much you make or how big of a house have. Still, she does seem to take of the kids. If you the kids to school, give them proper meals and is a loving parson who teaches the kids how to be good people, then you're doing your job as a parent and the kids are gonna grow up fine. Being there for the kids is the main thing. Still... 6 kids is rough and filming them and putting on social media is not a good thing to do.
Let’s keep it 💯. Those older kids are going to raise the younger ones. These 2 parents are useless
i havent watched the full video yet but this mom grosses me out bc i saw other videos ive seen of her is eugenics vibes like '' when youre carrying superior genes (pregnant) but still gotta do chores'' or something. weird stuff. she def has some kind of pregnancy or breeding k/nk if you scroll through her content.
Me and the wife had our happy surprise kid 6 years ago, I’ve been a SAHD since I’ve only ever been an unemployed musician on disability… always figured the least we could do is not have anymore… we’re doing ok on 70-100k but you’re right in a perfect world my kid deserves another 100k. I have a cousin that’s on his 6th kid, it seems like it’s for more assistance, they get 500 or so per kid. It’s complicated yall, luv ya Britt
Im so sick of all the hate cps gets it truly is a life saver they will help you even after 18 i wouldn't be here without them but i always heard yeah we get abused but its not as bad as cps and thats why it took so long for us to ask for help.
Bro my IUD cost $30 and whatever general gp fee to install😭
She mentioned God- I'm wondering if they are really religious. I'm so tired of children who didn't ask to come into the world be forced to live in shitty situations all in the name of religious beliefs (like you said there's a difference in belief and knowing..). Anyways very interesting topic, I hope it gets better for these littles x
Same was just going to comment I have the same implant Britt has and it was thankfully free in my country, I feel so bad for Americans having to pay so much for contraception and then having no options if accidental pregnancy occurs
I should have mentioned that I was charged the full price because I don't have american health insurance since I'm a 1099 worker ♡
@@BrittanySimon does that change for you now in Croatia? Do they have Medicare that will cover you
Yes! Thanks, goodness. It's only 80 euro a month here to be insured vs in the States. I was quoted $800 a month to cover my chronic health issues in Arizona, which is why I didn't do it. It was cheaper to pay out of pocket 😭
@@BrittanySimon that's wonderful it's one of the best perks of moving over seas😂😂😂
Mom of 1. I try to make decisions for my family with the thought “if my child challenged me about this when they become an adult, is it logically defendable?” Or course there’s a chance that something will seem defendable to me but not to them, but I find that it helps me act out my values
That's a great way to do it!
I would never end up in a similar situation, I'm in my 30s and never had a girlfriend, not having sex and accidental pregnancy isn't that difficult.
So true! I feel like one of the most important traits in a parent is to be able to take feedback with grace and have strong introspection skills. I never want my kids to feel like I can’t have a productive conversation about my mistakes.
Buying a $60k car when you make $25k a year is very different than having 4 kids making $20k a year. It’s not fair to the children in that situation. You’re absolutely wrong on the topic of people “doing their best”. Not everybody is doing their best.
I think in a situation where governments are taking away people's ability to opt out of parenting, the amount of contempt I see for poor families is incredibly disheartening. I'm ambivalent towards my decision to not be a mother, and I'm so grateful I've never had to terminate a pregnancy. If we approach parenthood with a place of compassion it would do us all some favours. I remember how tough my childhood was even with all the financial safety nets that were available at the time. This is also difficult in situations with irresponsible parenting or financial planning, which is all too common. It leads to situations where children are unsafe.
agreed, it is so hypocritical for a culture to claim strong family values while simultaneously dismantling social and economic supports for families and removing options for birth control, it is obvious to me that it is rooted in puritanical ideals of sex only for procreation
Ty for this, im a child free person as well and I find these discussions very important to have
When u were talking about having kids when ur own life is hard and imposing ur circumstances, in the past there was more upward mobility and we didn’t think of the cost. Like MJ grew up in poverty then could be a child star but at what cost. I know tons of middle class ppl who grew up poor. However we do not have the economic freedom and upward mobility we once had so unless you think you can make your kid move up and have a better life than u without imposing abuse and toxicity on them… reconsider. It also makes me wonder if I should be less sympathetic to ppl who have harder lives but chose those have kids because clearly they don’t think their lives are so bad or they wouldnt copy paste them to someone else while also adding difficulty to theirs.
Some people are used to this lifestyle, so much so that they don’t want to leave it. I’ve known people who wouldn’t buy toilet paper for months yet still buy weed. First red flag to me is that parents have their own master bd?? I’d be sleeping on the floor. I’ve shared bedroom, not judging for that. But my parents have never had to shove us all in a room like a matchbox. If I were them I’d get authentic Japanese futons (or something similar) and move them out every night fold them away every morning with the kids. Tons of extra space, and you probably wouldn’t even need a couch if you have a few futons. Imo you don’t need a couch at all but js, dual purpose.
I would also prioritize trying to find a better home, so both partners would work full time and try to get govt assistance for childcare. It’s available where I live. I don’t feel comfortable with childcare personally, but worst case scenario I would do it if I had to get out of a bad situation. At least give it a year to get to a new home, get a slightly better job or whatever. I know having kids is so biological but I almost feel like they’re doing this for Internet attention.
Also, people should absolutely not get tax breaks for having children. Or tax credits. People with children should pay MORE. They drain more on society
Oh I have one hell of a story..
My grandmother forced my mom into three marriages by the time I was 18 months old.. she was on her second divorce by the time I was 12 1/2 months old. All forced and coerced by my grandmother..
My mother actually tried to starve me to death. She did not kill me. I survived. Finally by the time I was 5 years old I had figured out what my grandparents did and did not do and why our life was so contrived..
My mom had a one-night stand. My mother was married to her high school sweetheart. They met in 8th grade. Junior high.. married right out of high school. My dad hit on my mom year after year. At a party took advantage of her. Not forcefully. But she was a bad girl. She wasn't functioning on all marbles... How to one night stand and got pregnant..
I found out that my grandmother paid $20,000 to have my father's name taken off the birth certificate and the disgusting Dad they were trying to pass as my own. It took me two years to finally convinced my mother that she had the strength to speak up. And get out of this family. I was lucky not to be abused. I was considered an unruly child. I broke my grandmother's teeth, I broke my grandmother's nose and her glasses.
This old woman told me to shut up so she could rub one out on me. Yes I broke her nose.
Thank goodness I was too intelligent for their abuse.
And I'm the one that was able to get us out of that marriage. But I couldn't understand why my mom was being forced in all of these marriages and I finally figured everything out..
Sing about me. I'm gifted. I'm gifted with reading the forefront of thought. If I'm in the same vicinity of you. And you are thinking about it I'm going to pick up on it. That's how I found out that my grandmother paid $20,000 to have my father's name taken off the birth certificate. She was angry and crossed with my mother. But sadly, I told her. Why are you thinking about it. Mother didn't say a word. You didn't. You told on yourself don't blame it on her.
My grandmother argued with my mother. My mother saved up $80,000. When we got away from the below the belt crime family. And I'm not kidding family. They were involved in the large Church the 700 club. Absolute demonic. I think all religion is.. whether you believe it to be so or not. It's evil.
My mother had saved up $80,000. She had seen a house. $80,000. Or she could buy a bakery. The whole thing. It came with everything. Every cooler every freezer every mixer everything she would need even the cold cases. Everything.
My grandmother took a tantrum. Whoever thought of having a business before a home. I tried to correct my grandmother and tell her. If you allow her to buy this business and allow us to stay here. I kid you not I've been living meekly... I stay out of your hair. I do not argue. I have been tipping on eggshells for this whole year. You could allow mother to stay 6 months and she could buy a home better than yours in your neighborhood. You're going to force her to buy this house. You're going to ruin her chance to stand on her own. And she did..
She forced my mother into buying the one-bedroom home.. for many years my mother slept in the living room. She gave me the bedroom. Decorated it preciously. And my mother had more marriages.. more divorces. And more drugs..
Years later. My mother's dead. my grandmother doesn't want to talk about it. I don't care. I'm going to say what's on my chest, in my heart and soul. Whether you like it or not. You made her bed, they did not make their beds. Both my mother and my aunt. You forced in 19 year old girl to marry a 51-year-old drunk. The agreement to this man's divorce to marry your daughter was the all of their children were illegitimate. You didn't share that with your daughter. She didn't find out until her children were in high school. Remember..
You forced your daughter at six different marriages. And one man you told her to remarry.
If you would have simply been patient. And allowed my mother to buy the bakery. And stand on her own two feet. Our world would have been so much different. You forced my mother into a divorce. Something that should have never happened. Jay said he would have adopted me. Yeah of course I talked to him. He married someone 6 months after mother divorced him. He was so lonely and so sad he married a woman with a special child and immediately adopted him. He had five children with her..
and he was never a dirty mechanic. He was in the beginning. But he has an empire now. He owns three mechanic shops. And he only goes into check and make sure everything's running smoothly. No more dirty hands except for the projects he likes working on..
You forced everyone else's hand because you thought it was right by god. You are the very demon you try to pray away. You are the very devil you proclaim of evil around you. The most wonderful thing you have ever taught me, is how to never become you. Oh that felt so good to tell her that. Like Ducks, float never flounder, never allow anyone to take how high you can fly or how deep you can dive. Like water off a duck's back.
I think my grandmother did a horrible job with her family. Horrible. She was the Pinnacle of a matriarch and took it ruthlessly. She brushed everything under the rug and would lay hands. Let's pray about it.. oh it was so dark. Every bit of it..
Yes I made her cry. No I did not care. She deserves that fracture. I am not the type to tiptoe over flowers. You know whenever you cut the flower, you strengthen the bulb..
My husband says I have an eloquent way of being poetically blunt.. delivering information that is very difficult for others to talk about. I say it lovingly, and quite ruthless.❤
Poor people shouldn't have kids is not a belief I have. You can have little income and be able to provide your kids shelter, food, education, clothes, healthcare, a parent, etc. I don't think you should be striving to be a parent when you know you can't provide for your kids. And if you're poor some of those things may be through government assistance or charity but if they are there than I think that's good. Also the poor parents in my life actually make their kids their priority like the second parent in the video.
I come from a lower middle class family. They don't make that much but a lot of them are/eventually became home owners. (Which is definitely harder to do now than when they did it after the housing market crash. I'm jelly.)
And a lot of them raised kids, fostered kids, and provided childcare when the working single parent relatives needed it. Monetarily I really do think it was fine. Hand-me-downs, sharing a room/bunk beds, food banks, very rare trips, etc. are really not an issue at all imo. And none of the parents in my family were able to monetarily support their kids through college but they could provide their adult kids free housing.
I don't think you *need* $100k a year to raise children at all. I'd definitely prefer to have more money before I have kids though. Only time I'd choose to have a kid in an unideal situation is if I had an unplanned pregnancy which I'm avoiding. And I'd have kids with my disability because I know how to support them and they wouldn't go undiagnosed like I did.
Thanks, Brittany, for sharing your story. I've been following your channel for a few years now and I really appreciate your openness and honesty. It's really helpful to hear about your experiences and how you've overcome your challenges. It gives me hope that I can break free from the generational curse that I'm struggling with.
24:31 I had been taking hormonal birth control since my teens and I was going to all kinds of specialists to find out what kind of chronic illness I had. I had brain fog, and about 3 hours I could work before I got extreme nausea and headaches, I got an MRI to see if I had tumors! During all of this I got Mirena and immediately gained 20lbs and my symptoms got worse so I took it out. When I moved cross-country I was super busy and got lazy and stop taking the pill and ALL MY SYMPTOMS WERE GONE WITHIN A MONTH!
That was 7 years ago. Copper IUD and never looked back. I will NEVER put hormonal birth control in my body again. I'm glad it works for you and some people, but it's crazy how many chronic illnesses mimic the symptoms of what some girls experience just being on birth control. I was told by Planned Parenthood that my symptoms could NOT be from birth control, but a simple Google search has SO MANY stories just like mine. I literally thought I had autoimmune or tumors or something! No doctor could figure it out, and now I feel superhuman with no issues. 😮💨😮💨
My BC is 80$ every 3 month, and 100 for the injection. 15 dollar copay
That isnt a lot… even for me who works two jobs one min wage and one that pays well (but is very hard work 😭)
There’s so much to unpack. On one hand, this is the most common form of motherhood for most of human history. So, the outrage seems strange.
On the other hand, I’m concerned for her because she seems mentally vulnerable. Because why is her husband not improving their situation? Maybe she’s one of those women who just desperately wants to be apart of something and she thinks this is the best option available to achieve that sense of belonging, for whatever reason.
Everything you've said is basically what I agree. Like I do think they are irresponsible to keep having children and barely being able to sustain them, But I do feel that they care and love their kids. Like not enough to call CPS but definitely they need to reevaluate their life goals and choices for their family because it is not beneficial for anyone to keep having more and more just because you want more kids. Like I would love to have one more kid, but at this point a second child will only happen if we can financially and if we are both healthier. Having this talk was sad for us, but in the end it is currently the best choice for our family. One child is what we can afford and give our best to as of right now.
I’m disabled, and I agree with you about having kids the natural way knowing they can be likely to pass on a serious illness. I wouldn’t do that to a child. There are other ways to have kids.
Interested in hearing your perspective! This family and the publics response is fascinating
I have marina i love it