I have met Paul Stanley twice. He’s an awesome person, and very intelligent and warm hearted in person. Personally, he’s my favorite musician. Paul’s work ethic in regards to his passion for music is inspirational. 💖💖🎸🎸🎤🎤😎🎼
Wow!! Que afortunado eres de conocerlo personalmente. Yo lo amo como artista, músico y cantante. Pero más más, como persona. ¡¡Es mi amor platónico desde que tenía 8 años de edad!! Recuerdo que yo tenía un póster de ellos pegado en mi recámara y al único que veía era a Starchild. Me tenía hipnotizada..... y todavía me tiene hipnotizada
During my divorce, I said the pain was worse than 1000 funerals. Death is natural. Divorce someone chooses to rip apart a family. I was devastated. It took me several years to truly move on.
Pamela was pregnant! She was crying and didn't want a prenup. What should he have done? A few days before the Wedding day she lost the baby. (Face The Music, Chapter 48).
Deep seated emotional turmoil which brought Paul to his knees yet his priorities always remained with his son. That’s the mark of a devoted father and beautiful man. Much respect to you Paul for your strength of character and your integrity.
Is it Paul Stanley reading himself? Very heartwarming and deep explanation of what can happen in one's heart and mind. Thank you. This really heartfelt contribution would do a lot of good to more people. I hope it gets shared. Thank you again for the depth in the words.
Best autobiography I've ever read, then listened to the audio version (above) and enjoyed it even more. It's so honest and straightforward about his very human challenges that it's extremely inspiring.
I agree. I've read Gene's autobiography, and many of the KISS events correlate. But as far as the person, Gene is a narcissist. I have mad respect for both men, but Paul is so down to earth, and genuine. He acknowledges when he makes mistakes, and makes no bones about it. What really bothers me is to find out that all albums from 1983 until Revenge were written, recorded and produced primarily by Paul, because Gene was in his own little world, following his own ambitions. Yet he wanted half his cut. Paul deserved the full cut. He busted his ass to keep KISS afloat, and performed admirably, producing some of the best KISS songs of the 80's.
@@jsgraham67 I get your point completely. I think it was simply Paul's good nature that had it work out that way; not only was Gene the other vital half, but Paul _was_ more focused on keeping the Kiss machine going than Gene was. At some point in time Gene bought Paul a car...a really-really nice one, can't recall the make/model...so I think there was a balance that Paul was satisfied with knowing Gene just had a different view on the whole of their success. Not that even a higher end car could make up the difference financially, but it was a cool gesture. It was as an apology...and if I recall...it could've been about exactly this topic. Cheers.
I've been divorced before. It was one of the most painful experiences I've ever had to endure. That's why I never brought it up to Paul. As a matter of fact, it was 1988 thru 1991 when I was alone again. I got married (again) in 1991. She is absolutely amazing. We just celebrated our 32nd Anniversary on March 5th. I was happy for Paul when I heard he got remarried. I did tell him how happy I was for him. He thanked me for, "not scratching the old wound." Still a great guy.
As he tells the story of his divorce, I find myself being able to relate to Paul Stanley for the first time ever. I felt a lot of the same feelings be did during my divorce years ago. She, too, was emotionally unavailable and I, too, remember coming home the first time after work and she and my son were gone. That night broke me. But you know what? It felt better the next day. And life goes on...
I did same 40 years ago.then met real love of my life. She saw my health slipping and went back to college degree. When my heart problem was discovered. I had to retire. She had just gotten her degree and we kept everything. She didn’t bat an eye when I was bringing home a pay check.
Paul is a thoughtful father and husband. Divorce happens, and it was wonderful of Paul and Pamela to explain everything to Evan. Divorce is just as hard on the kids, and it can be eased if mom and dad explain what's going on and reassure the kids mom and dad still love them. It's good that Paul and Pamela took the time to do this with Evan
Your candidness is very much appreciated. People from all walks of life experience pain sometimes in relationships. The fact that you are able to be so open and honest brings people closer to you. And that you can share your vulnerabilities shoes true strength. Thank you for bringing such joy to people for so many years. Hope you heal and the universe will bring you love again.
Never ever get married, what’s the point of getting married? Exactly, there’s no point, marriage is a made up thing that has no value and no purpose, you can live perfectly happy forever, with or without the same person, without getting hitched.
@@p.c.h.6721 know what you're getting into before you make that step to get married cuz that's a big promise I don't make a promise just you wife or husband you make a promise to God that's a big promise Thomas
A good friend of mine designed and installed the sound and media system in his home studio. He told me Paul is the nicest guy and totally down to Earth.
Omg... I am a New Fan!! Was Never into KISS but my bf is a Huge fan. We just went to their concert here in SoCal. He is Amazing On and Off the stage. What a man and human being.
Divorce is the most painful, horrible, soul ripping, heartbreaking event in life. Only losing a child would be worse....Much worse. I feel for him. I went through it Twice. My second wife liked to cheat. Being cheated on is a feeling that can't be expressed in words. Remember what his contractor said. He's not nuts. I had sworn off marriage. I was touring with our band and ran into my prom date. We've now been married 14 years & have a great life with our kids, and grandkids. Don't lose hope. I'm being vulnerable on UA-cam, which I know is dumb. Trolls will comment. Fuck them! This is for any of you who are where I was. Don't Ever Give Up!!
you're 😎 cool and screw everyone else,glad it turned out great for you,and you first wife wait until she has her heart ripped out.i feel what you went through one week she loves you 2 weeks later it's like wtf just happened. take care bro.
No you're not, you being honest and open might help another man going through the same thing, sharing your experience of divorce, how it affected you and your recovery from it is definitely worthwhile🌹
Your love for your son is something special. We all, all of us seem to get a raw deal in a divorce. Promises broken, "oh, this is business" she says..."right" Past promises? out the window....It's very hard and I wouldn't wish a divorce on my worst enemy. If I didn't know you as the artist you are, I'd respect you for the devoted father you are. Thanks for posting this video. It speaks volumes about the man you are.
Silly Goose ever heard of a lousy parent? There's plenty of them. So giving praise to great parents makes sense. Your stmt is based on an overrated comedian. Pathetic.
This is probably the only part of Paul’s book where he displays genuine humility and manages to step outside of himself, the rest of the book is super egotistical but this felt real, raw, and emotional.
@@garyunsworth726 I agree with you 100%, Gary. And that's not to say that I won't engage in brief meaningless encounters but as far as anything long-term never going to happen again for me. Never.
Interesting perspective for someone who publicly admitted he cheated relentlessly on public TV etc.. Helllloooo. Then again...who knows what she was doing to cope as well. Sounds like they totally destroyed each other. His offers of child support, dealing with years of bad decisions while in a marriage, selling mutual assets...Boo hoo. That is the reality all people who divorce face. Where were your big "decision making and supportive parenting skills" prior to the divorce" for the aftermath of years of poor choices. Really? It's not all about you. Surprise.
I am tempted to read this. Paul is a cooler and more human guy than I expected, and an excellent writer here to boot. Success does not prohibit or protect you from suffering much as every other person goes through on this planet, and unfortunately it probably exposes you to more. I do not know what "fair" is in a divorce since I haven't seen a divorce that 2 people ever looked back on and said, "Yeah, that was amicable and painless." I do not know what position or economic status Pam had prior to her marriage to Paul, but it's likely it was incredibly elevated and improved by what he was able to give her. A friend of mine said to me recently that men love women, and women love what men can provide them. It is scary when anyone feels entitled to what you've worked for, and scarier that we live in a country that supports this legalized theft just because you expressed a desire to be committed to someone and somewhere down the line you have to pay a huge monetary price because you made a regrettable decision in the choice of a life partner. I bet Paul would have supported her for life had her lifestyle expectations been more modest, and by that I mean she would still probably be living better than the rest of us. Anyway, I enjoyed this clip of his book as it gives us a different perspective on Paul's life, and one far too many people can probably relate to.
I've been with my girl for 25 years and have never been married. We both had an understanding that we didn't want the government involved in our relationship.
Thank god McCartney did, as " stumpy, " the greedy, younger wife would flip out during mediation, even throwing objects at Paul's lawyers; He gave her a generous amount, but it wasn't good enough.
I married with a prenup and it pissed her off. She said “you don’t trust me”... I replied” oh no ... it also protects your things as well” And she replies “ yea but.... then froze what she was going to say”... it’s never been brought up since. 95% of women are anti prenup.
If they live in a community property state, she still gets half by law unless they agree to something different. The court will go along with whatever the couple decides on.
He sounds like such a great father. To all the people yelling at him for not getting a prenup and for trusting her shut up. We all make stupid mistakes. The kid being loved and cared for is most important when parents divorce
The original lineup of KISS were also like a divorced marriage for 7 years (1973-1980, Before the reunion in 1996 till 2000). Like the Beatles, who were together for 10 years from 1960 til 1970.
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Honestly written and thought out. I love that Paul didn't play the blame game. I too had a very similar experience and did not write anything negative about my 'wasband'. You are wonderful Paul.
The people who are saying "never marry" or "rock stars should never marry" need to understand that Paul picked the right person to marry in Erin. Someone who was a highly successful lawyer who did not know about Kiss at all when she met Paul. If you have read Paul's autobiography or his recent book, it's a match made in heaven. Erin didn't NEED Paul's money, even if he made more money than her. The problem with many of these rock star marriages is that the rock star ends up marrying a little known model who doesn't have squat and has the brains of a cockroach. The other key issue is that even though there will forever be cynics, the Kiss farewell tour will end. It is physically impossible for 68 year old men to carry around that much gear on stage for two hours and 15 minutes. It's going to end. So at that point, Paul is going to have more time that ever before to spend time with Erin and his kids. That all being said, I 100% agree with comments here about the California divorce laws. They are written as if it were the 1950's. I couldn't believe what Perla got from Slash in their divorce. The cost of pussy is really high in this state, and if kiddies are involved, judges pretty much assume that moms are the only ones capable of parenting. But I feel Paul chose wisely with his 2nd wife.
She sounds awe ful. She tells him how she would bend him over a barrel but figures she's entitled to take what he earned? I don't know how it ended up but hopefully she isn't ripping his soul out any longer.
As a daughter of divorced parents, I understand how Paul Stanley's son must be feeling with the divorce of his parents. I felt betrayed at first; it took years for me to realize my parents just could not make their marriage work. They eventually found their true loves and I have two beautiful stepparents. Divorce is never easy especially when children are involved; must be equally harder when one parent is famous.
It isn’t often that your childhood heroes choose to show that they too are just people as well. My utmost respect for Paul for sharing his feelings! Rock on !!
I've been through it. The easiest divorce is difficult. The hard ones are almost unbearable. Thankfully, we get along well now and she's remarried. My son (Zacky)'s stepfather is a really good guy.
I got divorced to someone that essentially tried to ruin me financially and as consequence mentally. When Paul talks about the toll on his body to achieve the success (and rewards) that he has, it reminds me of my own troubles without his hard earned advantages. Divorce is a terrible thing.
A girl said to me after a few months seeing each other, “we should get engaged” I said “ok” Two months later She said “why don’t we get married? We get along very well!” And I said, “exactly, we get along very well, so why ruin everything by getting married?” Two months later she said again “I really want to get married” so I said “I have too much money to get married” and she replied “you don’t trust me?” I said “when you have the kind of money that I have, marriage is out of question” A week later she took off and never saw her again. Moral of the story... don’t be naive, or you will pay a huge price, literally! (Now I have another “friend with benefits” that I like a lot, but I am NOT getting married, never ever, I’m not stupid, love comes....and goes, and when it goes it goes with your money, guaranteed - there is a very fine line between passionate love ❤️ and passionate enemies 👹☠️)
I frequently have the marriage conversation with people, and everytime they say, "when are you gonna get married?" I say, "when you can tell me what's in it for me, that I can't get for free by staying single." Then they change the subject.
Then you're not ready. Just be honest. Tell any gal that brings up engagement or marriage the truth. You've chosen to shut your life off from something amazing. It can happen. If you're open to it...but never just agree because it won't happen then. It will find you and come from within you. Separate love from lust. They are 2 different things.
Paul you are a great father and your children especially Evan will and probably does know it, you deserve happiness and to be loved, I'm glad you found love after your divorce. .bless you and your family...
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Paul I have so much respect for you. I Feel the same way. Your a true definition of what a real man is . There are not many men that can hold a candle to you You are awesome. ❤❤😎😎⚜🎭
Smh This is the saddest shit. I'm not a KISS fan but I watched a couple of Paul's interviews and was impressed with how he conducts himself. He's a real class act. I remember him saying Gene wasn't invited to his wedding because of his views on marriage but said that's still his brother. I hope he's in a good space though. He's good people.
That was truly moving and so open and honest. RAW - Interesting to say we got married to fix the problems - because that is what a lot of couples do. With or without a lot of money people think getting married will fix what was never there to really fix - as said though - your son would never have been created without that choice - so focusing on that and remembering that will get anyone through.
After listening to this and reading the comment section, to me no matter if someone is a good person, selfish person ECT, one need a to always protect themselves. He helped build an empire before she came along. I believe a person's word is their bond but it's their actions that give themselves away.
Divorce is so painful. I don't think we ever get over it. I am so sorry he went through all this. He is a great guy that is very intelligent and so well spoken. Glad he is doing better and still performing.
Great story. Paul is so hardworking and intelligent. Always working toward his future. It's so surprising that someone so diligent and exacting didn't bother with a pre-nup. But that's what love does to us.
He bothered about the pre-nup. But Pamela was pregnant. She ran out of the office, crying, and didn't want to sign. In this clip here they cut of the most important information.
I had no idea about this. I think what Paul offered her was generous but others will disagree I'm sure. To ask what she asked for though, makes women look bad. Just my opinion.
I went through a divorce too and it is miserable to go through , I made the mistake of choosing the wrong person in the beginning that brought that about, the only good thing out of the marriage is my beautiful daughter we had together from it.
I think I know how you feel -A drunk driver crashed into me , local hospital refused to treat my injuries, I had to sell house due to death threats, my then wife wanted to separate , I bought another house but things were never the same and we divorced , she wanted half of assets even though I have fully paid off a block of land before marriage etc , I haven’t seen my 2 Children for 20 years
While my financial circumstances were a drop in the bucket compared to Paul's, the pain was no different. The financial difference was what killed me. I was left with nothing but a Chrysler minivan that was falling apart, a few miscellaneous personal possessions, and my clothes. My ex got a 5 bedroom house that she was supposed to buy me out of 4 years ago. I got to sleep on friends couches for nearly 2 years while trying to figure out how I was going to spend time with our children. To top everything off, my ex poisoned our children. I got through it. I only wish I had more money.
What an incredible account and so sorry that things turned out to the ugly face of greed. Poor Evan. Glad that you have a long standing relationship with your son.
The sacrifice to stay at home and raising children and give stability to a man that is fulfilling their dreams as no price. Try be a father all the time caring for your children. You would go nuts. women, let's go out to make money have our dream career and be paid the same as man and let them be a stay at home dad . They want the kids, the money the wife and the freedom.
Very foolish to not have a signed pre-nup. The best of us sometimes fail to think above the belt line. But it is critical to keep one thought above the belt line. That is, if you have a net worth of over $1M, and your prospective spouse has a net worth of no more than a fraction of your's, you absolutely must have a pre-nup. If they won't go for it, thank God for the sign and run.
I think rock stars pick wives poorly, and always have. They seem to always have to have a woman that looks like a model, and has no real character. Then these musicians are utterly destroyed, and somehow surprised that the woman just wanted their money. I have known many recording artists, and have seen this story so many times.
Phyllis Pollack You’re so right. I have also seen musicians marry the wrong woman because she played him by saying how talented, unique and how he is the soul reason why is band is any good. These women art not the best looking. These women are very quiet around others and doesn’t truly connect with anyone except the guy she’s after. She’s catches him like a animal, he’s caged and doesn’t know it. Her control leads to his destruction. It sometimes ends in divorce, whereby she gets the bulk of his estate, or he stays with her never aware that he’s her pet dog.
You can't avoid it. Have you seen those gold digger pranks with a car like Lambo or Rarri? What catch you will get depends on what bait you will use. If you are a normal guy and you've made money, you can get car like this as a bait. Or you can be yourself and use your personality as a bait. It's a choice. If you are a rock star? There's no choice. You are the car.
As much i would like to be idealistic about it, a person like Paul should have protected himself of a woman like her. Not only to cover himself financially, but also to make sure her sentiment was true.
Marriage is just a legal arrangement, and the sooner you realize that the sooner you see it is the ultimate leverage against you. It is not about love as much as recourse.
The only people telling me to never marry are those that are married or have been in the past. Just don't do it. Date if you want, but NEVER marry. You will get fucked (and not in the way you want)
Men's laws is on the side of women, yes, but that's what you get for following past costumes. I don't know if you know, but it was the elite who made those kind of practices common. They did destroy the concept of marriage, now women marry for money and to get money from us, it's not true love anymore.
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Calebe Priester - Yeah. So this proves Gene was right about marriage before he caved into marrying Shanon.
Theodorus Rex and if it can be proven that she had an affair, took the kids to see her lover(s) she should be ordered by the family court to forfeit her parental rights for 14 days so she gets the message that she just can't go around being a slut because she is unhappy in the family she helped create
Paul confirmed what I always thought. KISS kept going because he got divorced. This is where people (like Trunk) lose the person and start looking at the one dimensional side of the business and think this man was just being "greedy". He had to survive and essentially rebuild himself financially to where he could one day retire securely. This is the period where he embraced more of the merchandise aspects of KISS and the licensing became a big deal again. And I'm quite sure this is why Eric and Tommy were given the makeup to move the band forward. It was not for career needs, it was for life needs. Paul had to rebuild himself and hoped the KISS Army would still answer the call. They did. I think that has allot to do with why he tries to be attentive to fans when they talk to him. It's definitely been a relationship that gave on both sides of that fence.
I fully agree with ferox. KISS would have continued regardless. Paul and Gene have made more in recent decades than they ever did in the old days, yet they keep going because they dig what they do. Paulie could have compensated that gold digger ten times over by now, but he and Gene soldier on out of love for what they created almost five decades ago.
Black Death 1347 being a KISS fan since 1980, that to me is the biggest thing that stands out. Yes...KISS is his stream of income, but anyone who suggests he doesn't love what he's doing is certifiable.
That's a part of it. But the other part was him emotionally. He needed an outlet and KISS was the perfect outlet. So rebuilding is future finances AND rebuilding his emotions and his heart. He's a very emotional guy
Oh Paul. How can anyone hope to be worthy of your wonderfulness. Even when you’re ruining the lives of others you’re still so kind and forgiving with yourself. What an under appreciated gem of a shallow guy you are. Sigh …
Paul, I experienced the identical situation. The worst part for you was the same for me. Not being able to be available for my son 24/7. He couldn't get to me whenever he needed me. Same goes for his access to his mom. The child gets by far the worst in it. I wanted to protect him from any and all harm yet I couldn't protect him from this. I felt I had failed him. That was the most painful part. My marriage was also doomed from the start in the same way so, it can be easier to share the blame and get over it. I was at fault as much as she. This is very fresh for me but I can already feel optimistic about the future but, the pain of what my son has to deal with and go through may never heal for me.
I have met Paul Stanley twice. He’s an awesome person, and very intelligent and warm hearted in person. Personally, he’s my favorite musician. Paul’s work ethic in regards to his passion for music is inspirational.
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Yes and for singing songs about his penis on his 70s.
absolutely !
Wow!! Que afortunado eres de conocerlo personalmente. Yo lo amo como artista, músico y cantante. Pero más más, como persona. ¡¡Es mi amor platónico desde que tenía 8 años de edad!! Recuerdo que yo tenía un póster de ellos pegado en mi recámara y al único que veía era a Starchild. Me tenía hipnotizada..... y todavía me tiene hipnotizada
I can tell. Guy is an amazing man
During my divorce, I said the pain was worse than 1000 funerals. Death is natural. Divorce someone chooses to rip apart a family. I was devastated. It took me several years to truly move on.
Not having a pre nup for someone like Paul Stanley is financial suicide.
Blahaha
Pamela was pregnant!
She was crying and didn't want a prenup. What should he have done? A few days before the Wedding day she lost the baby.
(Face The Music, Chapter 48).
Deep seated emotional turmoil which brought Paul to his knees yet his priorities always remained with his son. That’s the mark of a devoted father and beautiful man. Much respect to you Paul for your strength of character and your integrity.
Paul sounds like a genuinely good father for a rockstar
The gentleman’s incredibly well spoken. Wonderful to listen to.
And in love with himself , geeez what a pompus self important titt.
Divorce sucks a million times more when kids are in the middle of it. Hats off to Paul here.
Definitely been there and your 100% right
Omg! Yeah! People change faces! And behavior! When moneys involved! Im with you! Here Paul!
Big time !
It sure does.
I guarantee for Paul the worst part was the money. That’s all he cares about.
I listened to this book while going through my own divorce. Paul’s words helped me greatly. My ex also turned into my worst enemy.
Is it Paul Stanley reading himself? Very heartwarming and deep explanation of what can happen in one's heart and mind. Thank you. This really heartfelt contribution would do a lot of good to more people. I hope it gets shared. Thank you again for the depth in the words.
I got divorced a few years ago. Paul’s words here ring very true. Putting his son first is all that matters.
Best autobiography I've ever read, then listened to the audio version (above) and enjoyed it even more. It's so honest and straightforward about his very human challenges that it's extremely inspiring.
I agree. I've read Gene's autobiography, and many of the KISS events correlate. But as far as the person, Gene is a narcissist. I have mad respect for both men, but Paul is so down to earth, and genuine. He acknowledges when he makes mistakes, and makes no bones about it. What really bothers me is to find out that all albums from 1983 until Revenge were written, recorded and produced primarily by Paul, because Gene was in his own little world, following his own ambitions. Yet he wanted half his cut. Paul deserved the full cut. He busted his ass to keep KISS afloat, and performed admirably, producing some of the best KISS songs of the 80's.
@@jsgraham67 I get your point completely. I think it was simply Paul's good nature that had it work out that way; not only was Gene the other vital half, but Paul _was_ more focused on keeping the Kiss machine going than Gene was. At some point in time Gene bought Paul a car...a really-really nice one, can't recall the make/model...so I think there was a balance that Paul was satisfied with knowing Gene just had a different view on the whole of their success. Not that even a higher end car could make up the difference financially, but it was a cool gesture.
It was as an apology...and if I recall...it could've been about exactly this topic. Cheers.
I've been divorced before. It was one of the most painful experiences I've ever had to endure. That's why I never brought it up to Paul. As a matter of fact, it was 1988 thru 1991 when I was alone again. I got married (again) in 1991. She is absolutely amazing. We just celebrated our 32nd Anniversary on March 5th. I was happy for Paul when I heard he got remarried. I did tell him how happy I was for him. He thanked me for, "not scratching the old wound." Still a great guy.
As he tells the story of his divorce, I find myself being able to relate to Paul Stanley for the first time ever. I felt a lot of the same feelings be did during my divorce years ago. She, too, was emotionally unavailable and I, too, remember coming home the first time after work and she and my son were gone. That night broke me. But you know what? It felt better the next day. And life goes on...
I did same 40 years ago.then met real love of my life. She saw my health slipping and went back to college degree. When my heart problem was discovered. I had to retire. She had just gotten her degree and we kept everything. She didn’t bat an eye when I was bringing home a pay check.
Paul is a thoughtful father and husband. Divorce happens, and it was wonderful of Paul and Pamela to explain everything to Evan. Divorce is just as hard on the kids, and it can be eased if mom and dad explain what's going on and reassure the kids mom and dad still love them. It's good that Paul and Pamela took the time to do this with Evan
I appreciate Paul Stanley in the way he is so family oriented, the way he places family above all else.
Your candidness is very much appreciated. People from all walks of life experience pain sometimes in relationships. The fact that you are able to be so open and honest brings people closer to you. And that you can share your vulnerabilities shoes true strength. Thank you for bringing such joy to people for so many years. Hope you heal and the universe will bring you love again.
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"I've never met a woman who thought she got too much." - words to survive by. Choose wisely.
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Never ever get married, what’s the point of getting married? Exactly, there’s no point, marriage is a made up thing that has no value and no purpose, you can live perfectly happy forever, with or without the same person, without getting hitched.
@@p.c.h.6721 know what you're getting into before you make that step to get married cuz that's a big promise I don't make a promise just you wife or husband you make a promise to God that's a big promise Thomas
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Paul is such a cool guy. I actually like the guy more than the famous guy
A good friend of mine designed and installed the sound and media system in his home studio. He told me Paul is the nicest guy and totally down to Earth.
Omg... I am a New Fan!! Was Never into KISS but my bf is a Huge fan. We just went to their concert here in SoCal. He is Amazing On and Off the stage. What a man and human being.
@@FreeMTrider I Totally believe it. He has Great energy.
Almost divorced but rescended, saved our kids pain and this year we celebrate 26 years. It takes work, I'm suprised he gave in.
I have a new respect for Paul Stanley.
@@lindaclark9925 Yawn...
@@margomazzeo1680 haha i don't remember even writing that 😂
Divorce is the most painful, horrible, soul ripping, heartbreaking event in life. Only losing a child would be worse....Much worse. I feel for him. I went through it Twice. My second wife liked to cheat. Being cheated on is a feeling that can't be expressed in words. Remember what his contractor said. He's not nuts. I had sworn off marriage. I was touring with our band and ran into my prom date. We've now been married 14 years & have a great life with our kids, and grandkids. Don't lose hope. I'm being vulnerable on UA-cam, which I know is dumb. Trolls will comment. Fuck them! This is for any of you who are where I was. Don't Ever Give Up!!
Dude, good for you. Glad it's working out for you. No relationship is perfect but there are good ones for sure. Sorry you were cheated on. That sucks.
Hell yeah🤘
Wonderful comment! Cheers to you and your happy 14 year marriage with your prom sweet heart!
you're 😎 cool and screw everyone else,glad it turned out great for you,and you first wife wait until she has her heart ripped out.i feel what you went through
one week she loves you 2 weeks later it's like wtf just happened.
take care bro.
No you're not, you being honest and open might help another man going through the same thing, sharing your experience of divorce, how it affected you and your recovery from it is definitely worthwhile🌹
Your love for your son is something special. We all, all of us seem to get a raw deal in a divorce. Promises broken, "oh, this is business" she says..."right" Past promises? out the window....It's very hard and I wouldn't wish a divorce on my worst enemy.
If I didn't know you as the artist you are, I'd respect you for the devoted father you are.
Thanks for posting this video. It speaks volumes about the man you are.
Say whatever you WANT about Paul as a person or an artist, he CAN'T be faulted as a father here!
DMSProduktions - Paul really got backstabbed. The things Gene originally said about marriage were probably taking over his mind at that point.
Seems yours is too! I have never HEARD Chris Rock!
Hmm this IS entirely possible!
Silly Goose ever heard of a lousy parent? There's plenty of them. So giving praise to great parents makes sense. Your stmt is based on an overrated comedian. Pathetic.
Silly Goose by name...
This is probably the only part of Paul’s book where he displays genuine humility and manages to step outside of himself, the rest of the book is super egotistical but this felt real, raw, and emotional.
Don't be stupid. Ace and Peter are 2 drug addicts.
When Paul talks about his ex wife being emotionally unavailable it struck a nerve. When you're in that situation the harder you try the worse it gets.
I've been in that situation and have now decided I want nothing to do with women ever again, I'm more than happy on my own
Most asian bride marriages are like that.
@@garyunsworth726 I agree with you 100%, Gary. And that's not to say that I won't engage in brief meaningless encounters but as far as anything long-term never going to happen again for me. Never.
@@mrwolsy3696 thank you for the heads up on that I will remember that. 👍👍
Interesting perspective for someone who publicly admitted he cheated relentlessly on public TV etc.. Helllloooo. Then again...who knows what she was doing to cope as well. Sounds like they totally destroyed each other. His offers of child support, dealing with years of bad decisions while in a marriage, selling mutual assets...Boo hoo. That is the reality all people who divorce face. Where were your big "decision making and supportive parenting skills" prior to the divorce" for the aftermath of years of poor choices. Really? It's not all about you. Surprise.
I am tempted to read this. Paul is a cooler and more human guy than I expected, and an excellent writer here to boot. Success does not prohibit or protect you from suffering much as every other person goes through on this planet, and unfortunately it probably exposes you to more. I do not know what "fair" is in a divorce since I haven't seen a divorce that 2 people ever looked back on and said, "Yeah, that was amicable and painless." I do not know what position or economic status Pam had prior to her marriage to Paul, but it's likely it was incredibly elevated and improved by what he was able to give her. A friend of mine said to me recently that men love women, and women love what men can provide them. It is scary when anyone feels entitled to what you've worked for, and scarier that we live in a country that supports this legalized theft just because you expressed a desire to be committed to someone and somewhere down the line you have to pay a huge monetary price because you made a regrettable decision in the choice of a life partner. I bet Paul would have supported her for life had her lifestyle expectations been more modest, and by that I mean she would still probably be living better than the rest of us. Anyway, I enjoyed this clip of his book as it gives us a different perspective on Paul's life, and one far too many people can probably relate to.
I've been with my girl for 25 years and have never been married. We both had an understanding that we didn't want the government involved in our relationship.
Future President You can be worse off in a de facto relationship 😢
What state do
You live in?
Lol....that's what everyone says. Eventually, if you have kids, you have to get the government involved.
I'm sure that you are having pre marital sex. Forenication is a sin that God doesn't like. Make sure that common law doesn't exist where you live.
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"EVERYTHING leads to SOMETHING else..." I ❤️ this!!!
I COMPLETELY felt the same way..... My son is my world, everything I do is for him
No Rich man should ever get married without a Rock solid prenup. End of story
Alan Lloyd Tbh no man ever
Thank god McCartney did, as " stumpy, " the greedy, younger wife would flip out during mediation, even throwing objects at Paul's lawyers; He gave her a generous amount, but it wasn't good enough.
Beware! Even prenups can be thrown out of courts. They are not a sure thing.
I married with a prenup and it pissed her off. She said “you don’t trust me”... I replied” oh no ... it also protects your things as well” And she replies “ yea but.... then froze what she was going to say”... it’s never been brought up since. 95% of women are anti prenup.
No rich man should ever get married period.
Seeking validation where I knew it wouldn't be met! What a universal sentiment that fame and fortune can't eliminate! Thanks for sharing Paul!
I hear ya Paul. I must say you're a brave and real man for exposing yourself as you have with your book.
As smart of a businessman as Paul is....he should NEVER have fallen for this. No prenup?! Paul, Paul, Paul...
Pete Venkman -he tried and she ran crying from the office and he caved. She totally screwed him over
If they live in a community property state, she still gets half by law unless they agree to something different. The court will go along with whatever the couple decides on.
In California, a prenup is meaningless. Though she wouldn't have received all that she wanted.
The soldier has a mind of it's own.
Leave California!! The people whom live there are not rational. Must be something in the water.
He sounds like such a great father. To all the people yelling at him for not getting a prenup and for trusting her shut up. We all make stupid mistakes. The kid being loved and cared for is most important when parents divorce
The original lineup of KISS were also like a divorced marriage for 7 years (1973-1980, Before the reunion in 1996 till 2000). Like the Beatles, who were together for 10 years from 1960 til 1970.
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Hell I'd sigh a prenup just to show him I'm not interested in the money just the man himself and his love.
Honestly written and thought out. I love that Paul didn't play the blame game. I too had a very similar experience and did not write anything negative about my 'wasband'. You are wonderful Paul.
The people who are saying "never marry" or "rock stars should never marry" need to understand that Paul picked the right person to marry in Erin. Someone who was a highly successful lawyer who did not know about Kiss at all when she met Paul. If you have read Paul's autobiography or his recent book, it's a match made in heaven. Erin didn't NEED Paul's money, even if he made more money than her. The problem with many of these rock star marriages is that the rock star ends up marrying a little known model who doesn't have squat and has the brains of a cockroach. The other key issue is that even though there will forever be cynics, the Kiss farewell tour will end. It is physically impossible for 68 year old men to carry around that much gear on stage for two hours and 15 minutes. It's going to end. So at that point, Paul is going to have more time that ever before to spend time with Erin and his kids. That all being said, I 100% agree with comments here about the California divorce laws. They are written as if it were the 1950's. I couldn't believe what Perla got from Slash in their divorce. The cost of pussy is really high in this state, and if kiddies are involved, judges pretty much assume that moms are the only ones capable of parenting. But I feel Paul chose wisely with his 2nd wife.
The jury is still out, It ain’t over ‘till it’s over.
This story is so familiar, many men have gone down this road.
Beautiful words and thoughts. Thank you paul
She was "emotionally unavailable" because she only married you for money Paul.
that was the challenge he spoke about
I know her. You are wrong. She's an actress. Choosing to come home to care for her parents...i love emotional intelligence. So does Paul
@@wendymann7929 .....sure.
She sounds awe ful. She tells him how she would bend him over a barrel but figures she's entitled to take what he earned? I don't know how it ended up but hopefully she isn't ripping his soul out any longer.
@@wendymann7929 bullshit its true. She wanted half .She didnt earn it. What a lazy piece
The man is a legend
As a daughter of divorced parents, I understand how Paul Stanley's son must be feeling with the divorce of his parents. I felt betrayed at first; it took years for me to realize my parents just could not make their marriage work. They eventually found their true loves and I have two beautiful stepparents. Divorce is never easy especially when children are involved; must be equally harder when one parent is famous.
God bless you paul. Keep your head up and keep doing what you do best.
It isn’t often that your childhood heroes choose to show that they too are just people as well. My utmost respect for Paul for sharing his feelings! Rock on !!
I enjoy Paul talking about his son .
very much human and jyst like us average peeps.
It made me wanted to cry all the time
Love u Paul!!
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I've never been a big KISS fan, but I really like something about Paul Stanley's writing.
Funny, I heard a saying along time ago. Money doesn't change you, money makes you more of what you are. Keep that in mind when you get married.
I've been through it. The easiest divorce is difficult. The hard ones are almost unbearable. Thankfully, we get along well now and she's remarried. My son (Zacky)'s stepfather is a really good guy.
I got divorced to someone that essentially tried to ruin me financially and as consequence mentally. When Paul talks about the toll on his body to achieve the success (and rewards) that he has, it reminds me of my own troubles without his hard earned advantages. Divorce is a terrible thing.
A girl said to me after a few months seeing each other, “we should get engaged” I said “ok”
Two months later She said “why don’t we get married? We get along very well!” And I said, “exactly, we get along very well, so why ruin everything by getting married?”
Two months later she said again “I really want to get married” so I said “I have too much money to get married” and she replied “you don’t trust me?” I said “when you have the kind of money that I have, marriage is out of question”
A week later she took off and never saw her again.
Moral of the story... don’t be naive, or you will pay a huge price, literally!
(Now I have another “friend with benefits” that I like a lot, but I am NOT getting married, never ever, I’m not stupid, love comes....and goes, and when it goes it goes with your money, guaranteed - there is a very fine line between passionate love ❤️ and passionate enemies 👹☠️)
Great story.
Also...get a vasectomy and keep it a secret. Avoid the child trap.
I frequently have the marriage conversation with people, and everytime they say, "when are you gonna get married?" I say, "when you can tell me what's in it for me, that I can't get for free by staying single." Then they change the subject.
MGTOW SWORD
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Then you're not ready. Just be honest. Tell any gal that brings up engagement or marriage the truth. You've chosen to shut your life off from something amazing. It can happen. If you're open to it...but never just agree because it won't happen then. It will find you and come from within you. Separate love from lust. They are 2 different things.
What an exceptional parent! Evan is in good hands🙏
When she ran out of the room crying when he brought up the prenup why did he not take that as a huge sign???
Because he thought he loved her and vice versa --- of course all of that is a pipe dream, especially when you're rich.
Yeah...!
Paul you are a great father and your children especially Evan will and probably does know it, you deserve happiness and to be loved, I'm glad you found love after your divorce. .bless you and your family...
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Paul I have so much respect for you. I Feel the same way.
Your a true definition of what a real man is . There are not many men that can hold a candle to you You are awesome. ❤❤😎😎⚜🎭
Smh This is the saddest shit. I'm not a KISS fan but I watched a couple of Paul's interviews and was impressed with how he conducts himself. He's a real class act. I remember him saying Gene wasn't invited to his wedding because of his views on marriage but said that's still his brother. I hope he's in a good space though. He's good people.
Refreshing candor......Simmons is a pig
Big time !
D.D. 214 I AM a Kiss fan, and Paul is a whiny bitch. Facts
That was truly moving and so open and honest. RAW - Interesting to say we got married to fix the problems - because that is what a lot of couples do. With or without a lot of money people think getting married will fix what was never there to really fix - as said though - your son would never have been created without that choice - so focusing on that and remembering that will get anyone through.
Paul Stanley is a good man with a good heart.
Yes!
Paul is speaking very nice and clear . I love it
After listening to this and reading the comment section, to me no matter if someone is a good person, selfish person ECT, one need a to always protect themselves. He helped build an empire before she came along. I believe a person's word is their bond but it's their actions that give themselves away.
Divorce is so painful. I don't think we ever get over it. I am so sorry he went through all this. He is a great guy that is very intelligent and so well spoken. Glad he is doing better and still performing.
Not sure why any Man with that kind of money would get married. Lol I don't have lots of money and would never get married
My parents separated in 1980, Kiss helped me get through it
Hope the best for you Paul. God bless
Great story. Paul is so hardworking and intelligent. Always working toward his future. It's so surprising that someone so diligent and exacting didn't bother with a pre-nup. But that's what love does to us.
He bothered about the pre-nup. But Pamela was pregnant. She ran out of the office, crying, and didn't want to sign. In this clip here they cut of the most important information.
What can I say , not just a rock star and icon, you are a humble and kind man . Rock on dude.
That pain and sounds he made are real and true grief. And I can relate 1000 percent. Just be grateful it was one child. Mine was 4.
I can empathize with you brother, in more ways then you'll know. God bless.
Paul tried to be very reasonable during his divorce, but his wife wasnt willing to work with him. He loves his son very much. You are a good man paul.
I had no idea about this. I think what Paul offered her was generous but others will disagree I'm sure. To ask what she asked for though, makes women look bad. Just my opinion.
Man… I can see every word in this video. It breaks my heart.
Fascinating insight.
I went through a divorce too and it is miserable to go through , I made the mistake of choosing the wrong person in the beginning that brought that about, the only good thing out of the marriage is my beautiful daughter we had together from it.
"I just love to talk about myself. So my wife left me."
I think I know how you feel -A drunk driver crashed into me , local hospital refused to treat my injuries, I had to sell house due to death threats, my then wife wanted to separate , I bought another house but things were never the same and we divorced , she wanted half of assets even though I have fully paid off a block of land before marriage etc , I haven’t seen my 2 Children for 20 years
How does the hospital refuse to treat injuries?!!
While my financial circumstances were a drop in the bucket compared to Paul's, the pain was no different. The financial difference was what killed me. I was left with nothing but a Chrysler minivan that was falling apart, a few miscellaneous personal possessions, and my clothes. My ex got a 5 bedroom house that she was supposed to buy me out of 4 years ago. I got to sleep on friends couches for nearly 2 years while trying to figure out how I was going to spend time with our children. To top everything off, my ex poisoned our children.
I got through it. I only wish I had more money.
She poisoned them?!
@@SilverSting420 Parental alienation. Not with literal poison.
@@JULIANBRACHFELD oh. Phew! Hope you're doing alright.
@@SilverSting420 Doing great, thank you. The serenity prayer helped. A lot.
This is why you get her to sign a prenuptial ageeement especially if you have a significant amount of assets.
His audiobook must be nice!! His voice his awesome
The answer to the question at the end is,,... . Heal your heart. Learn to be alone and like yourself again.
What an incredible account and so sorry that things turned out to the ugly face of greed. Poor Evan. Glad that you have a long standing relationship with your son.
The sacrifice to stay at home and raising children and give stability to a man that is fulfilling their dreams as no price. Try be a father all the time caring for your children. You would go nuts. women, let's go out to make money have our dream career and be paid the same as man and let them be a stay at home dad . They want the kids, the money the wife and the freedom.
Yes!! Truth!!
Very foolish to not have a signed pre-nup. The best of us sometimes fail to think above the belt line. But it is critical to keep one thought above the belt line. That is, if you have a net worth of over $1M, and your prospective spouse has a net worth of no more than a fraction of your's, you absolutely must have a pre-nup. If they won't go for it, thank God for the sign and run.
He has such a good heart and is such a good dad
I was married once, 12 years, and will never do it EVER again... My lesson learned was never do it again
I think rock stars pick wives poorly, and always have.
They seem to always have to have a woman that looks like a model, and has no real character.
Then these musicians are utterly destroyed, and somehow surprised that the woman just wanted their money.
I have known many recording artists, and have seen this story so many times.
Phyllis Pollack You’re so right. I have also seen musicians marry the wrong woman because she played him by saying how talented, unique and how he is the soul reason why is band is any good. These women art not the best looking.
These women are very quiet around others and doesn’t truly connect with anyone except the guy she’s after. She’s catches him like a animal, he’s caged and doesn’t know it. Her control leads to his destruction. It sometimes ends in divorce, whereby she gets the bulk of his estate, or he stays with her never aware that he’s her pet dog.
Yes, Dwayne Goettel from Skinny Puppy was destroyed by a woman because of her influence.
Big time !
Bon Jovi has a very good wife! Exception to the rule..
You can't avoid it. Have you seen those gold digger pranks with a car like Lambo or Rarri? What catch you will get depends on what bait you will use. If you are a normal guy and you've made money, you can get car like this as a bait. Or you can be yourself and use your personality as a bait. It's a choice. If you are a rock star? There's no choice. You are the car.
As much i would like to be idealistic about it, a person like Paul should have protected himself of a woman like her. Not only to cover himself financially, but also to make sure her sentiment was true.
Marriage is just a legal arrangement, and the sooner you realize that the sooner you see it is the ultimate leverage against you. It is not about love as much as recourse.
that is too bad to hear , wow, well love doesn't always work out the way we had or have hoped for keep living life !!! both of you
This is why I will never get married lesson learned through others mistake
NEVER GET MARRIED!!!!
John Oman you flipping Simmons
John Oman - Paul should have paid attention to the Married With Children television series. He'd definitely have stayed single.
The only people telling me to never marry are those that are married or have been in the past. Just don't do it. Date if you want, but NEVER marry. You will get fucked (and not in the way you want)
MGTOW!!!!!!!!!!! Woman never mean what they say or say what they mean.
@@satoshibitcoinsaki6532 no truer words have ever been spoken!!!
I hope that you are moving forward and happier these days.
Very good book. It's cool that you & Gene did audiobook. Been a Kiss fan since 1975!
Oh no tears are falling. I guess even rich folk have problems too.
Law is always on the side of the woman. If women want equality - how about after a marriage they get half of whatever THEY provided.
Men's laws is on the side of women, yes, but that's what you get for following past costumes.
I don't know if you know, but it was the elite who made those kind of practices common. They did destroy the concept of marriage, now women marry for money and to get money from us, it's not true love anymore.
Calebe Priester - Yeah. So this proves Gene was right about marriage before he caved into marrying Shanon.
Theodorus Rex and if it can be proven that she had an affair, took the kids to see her lover(s) she should be ordered by the family court to forfeit her parental rights for 14 days so she gets the message that she just can't go around being a slut because she is unhappy in the family she helped create
Pre-nups ALWAYS get them.
@stan actually most times the father wants nothing to do with the kid and buggers off. There are way more single moms than there are single dads.
Paul is a inspiration. I know that betrayal, listening to this made me cry because I to went through divorce.
True Man & Dad Paul Stanley is 💯💞
Paul confirmed what I always thought. KISS kept going because he got divorced. This is where people (like Trunk) lose the person and start looking at the one dimensional side of the business and think this man was just being "greedy". He had to survive and essentially rebuild himself financially to where he could one day retire securely. This is the period where he embraced more of the merchandise aspects of KISS and the licensing became a big deal again. And I'm quite sure this is why Eric and Tommy were given the makeup to move the band forward. It was not for career needs, it was for life needs. Paul had to rebuild himself and hoped the KISS Army would still answer the call. They did. I think that has allot to do with why he tries to be attentive to fans when they talk to him. It's definitely been a relationship that gave on both sides of that fence.
All good points dude.
Here is another point. Maybe the man simply loves what he does...some people just love what they do...i plan on playing until I drop dead.
I fully agree with ferox. KISS would have continued regardless. Paul and Gene have made more in recent decades than they ever did in the old days, yet they keep going because they dig what they do. Paulie could have compensated that gold digger ten times over by now, but he and Gene soldier on out of love for what they created almost five decades ago.
Black Death 1347 being a KISS fan since 1980, that to me is the biggest thing that stands out. Yes...KISS is his stream of income, but anyone who suggests he doesn't love what he's doing is certifiable.
That's a part of it. But the other part was him emotionally. He needed an outlet and KISS was the perfect outlet. So rebuilding is future finances AND rebuilding his emotions and his heart. He's a very emotional guy
That's not Pam in the photo. That's his current wife. Fix it.
Who cares??
They don't look that much different.
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Asshole wrong ex wife
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He's bi sexual
cool.
Oh Paul. How can anyone hope to be worthy of your wonderfulness. Even when you’re ruining the lives of others you’re still so kind and forgiving with yourself. What an under appreciated gem of a shallow guy you are. Sigh …
It's not unusual that people marry and "ruin" themselves. Better take care that your hate doesn't ruin your life🤢
Paul, I experienced the identical situation. The worst part for you was the same for me. Not being able to be available for my son 24/7. He couldn't get to me whenever he needed me. Same goes for his access to his mom. The child gets by far the worst in it. I wanted to protect him from any and all harm yet I couldn't protect him from this. I felt I had failed him. That was the most painful part. My marriage was also doomed from the start in the same way so, it can be easier to share the blame and get over it. I was at fault as much as she. This is very fresh for me but I can already feel optimistic about the future but, the pain of what my son has to deal with and go through may never heal for me.
I have great respect for you Paul !
Life's choices have consequences.
They always have consequences, even when you are a 20 something unbreakable at the top of the world.
You've done well my friend! You're new wife is now your best friend!! 💘
Life just should not be this complicated,I just enjoy going to the seashore ,reading etc ,life is beautiful