The parents need to stop making excuses for their daughters' behavior. She is acting out violently & needs to know their are consequences for her actions. You can't be assaulting other students & not get in trouble.
Correction your child will never do things in front of you. If your child is on video beating the crap out of another child then yes it is her fault and she should be seeing cops at her door and guess what....EVERY ACTION HAS AN EQUAL CONSEQUENCE
completely different era ... 30 yrs ago IF I had done that - my dad would have made sure I saw what Kingdom Come looked like AND if I still had brain cells he would have given me a choice to smarten up or leave home - there would be NO WAY would I embarrassed the family again....
What a hypocrite, this girl. Very damaged, but extremely vicious and aggressive. She's clearly attacking her victims. She should be punished by law. No matter how young.
The bully’s mom is so trashy. Of course her daughter is physically hurting classmates. Dad is just dumb. I’m sorry but there is no helping people with that mentality. Just keep them away from others!
Videos of kids fighting should automatically be flagged by these companies not be rewarded by going viral it shows other kids that you getting rewarded and a false sense of respect from this community online.
There no money in that company are driven by profits if they will not take stuff down unless there forced to by law or by pubic pressure that make them loses profit
Why? It shows what's going on, and these kids being jackwits and be held accountable legally. Besides it's that kid who wanted the video of being brutal.
She's a girl in crisis, the bullying is a symptom of the much deeper issues of familial divide, a lack of cohesive parenting, there's very little enrichment, if any at all, in her life. She sounds an incredibly despondent child who doesn't feel she belongs anywhere and it's evident just how unhappy she is when she says the closest she feels to being happy is when she's by herself. That in itself speaks volumes. One thing that's missing is love, sure her parents love her, but neither are displaying it consistently by doing things with her to reinforce her self of inclusion and self worth. That is a deeply unhappy girl and it's upsetting to see, especially when it's so evident.
Yeah, and look where she learned it. 0 accountability on the mom's part, and Dad sat up there saying he didn't physically "discipline" (read: abuse) her.
@ShannonMcGann I've known very large families who were a united unit with each child feeling loved, my own grandmother was one of thirteen and they matured into well adjusted and successful adults. What we see going on with this girl's parents is typical self absorbed laziness who expect society and the school system to raise their children
My youngest daughter had a bully, who was way bigger than her, her first year in middle school. She told us, her teachers, and administrators but nothing changed. My wife and I went several times to talk to them but nothing changed. I had been teaching my children how to defend themselves. I finally told my daughter it was time to defend herself. She was scared because the girl was so much bigger than her. We boosted her confidence to where she was nervous but no longer afraid. I told her that when the school calls, we will take their "side" in regards to your actions but rest assure we don't (if we didn't do this they would CPS on us). She put that bully in her place and she never had another bully after that.
I was getting bullied in primary school. My mum died when i was 10 so it was difficult for me, i struggled at school after that. My dad tried to teach me how to fight back but i just wasn't a fighter. I just use to try and get outta school 5 mins early and ran as fast as i could home . Getting bullied at school affects ur grades . You can't concentrate on ur schoolwork cos ur always worried. I'm not being rude but alot of people have been through traumatic situations but we don't go around bullying and hurting others. You can't use that as an excuse.
I am a survivor of extreme bullying, multiple bullies.They could have killed me. Schools don't help. It drove me to quit school. It was the best decision I ever made. I was safe finally. I ended up getting a GED instead.
Mum has too many kids to keep eyes on. I can’t believe she’s excusing her daughter’s behaviour! Her own daughter is of course minimising her actions. “Oh I was just in the bathroom at the time” really? Her parents are stupid if they believe that chit! Get your daughter some help. That poor Dad. I don’t blame him for not watching the video of his son getting beaten by all those thugs that ended up murdering him. I’m glad they’re all facing charges. The same with the girl that physically attacked the two girls. I’m glad she’s facing charges too. Gotta love that video evidence.
The school system never takes the right action. My grandson had a similar situation where 9 boys surrounded him. He's a big kid and he protected himself by just pushing them off of him. The school blamed him and said that he was the bully. My daughter, the other grandma, and I went to the school and talked to the principal, and he did nothing. Another kid tried pushing him down the stairs. They did nothing. The teacher's in the lunchroom made him sit by himself for over a month, and we didn't even know about it. He didn't want to tell us, and they didn't tell us either. I have heard of mentally challenged children being beat up and they still don't do anything. When i was in school we protected those people. There are children in the preschools, head start programs and such when you have a child that is out of line hitting other kids and the teacher.The teacher is not allowed to do anything. They don't even call the parent to come get their child who is acting out. I have friends who are working in these places. I also believe this goes deeper into the vaccinations, metal poisoning and food poisoning it doesn't help our children or us. How are we react to things? Sometimes it's uncontrollable like mercury poisoning. Either way, we need to do something about this. Doctor phil, I hope you and RKJ can get some action on this quickly. Help us parents get involved where we believe, and know something is being done, instead of just being pushed aside every time we stand up for change!
It's crazy seeing the mom stick up for her daughter, the right thing to do would be to see that it is wrong and be disappointed. Sheesh why even be a parent if you won't parent
It should be against the law for anyone under 18 to have social media accounts. Parents that don't stop their bully children should be jailed and have kids thrown in foster care
Or actually when happen threw to counseling therapy every week 3 days in a row to create a habit that can stick as good routine to think about enough learn enough having homework writing emotions and then come next time with evidence of homework so we can say I did something about it or I'm trying. Im working on it, better patience and listening to people because when quiet and not defending I can ask questions for better understanding and I can hear better what did they answer. It's practice and then at least we can forgive them because they put work into it. Until we aren't that one in both shoes we can't be correct in ours shoes. I didn't beat out anyone. But I did hit someone. But until I was embarrassed on my job for hiding something that I was doing behind someones back I wasn't stoping and asking myself do I need that kind of laughting behind my back and knowing that people don't have good opinion about me. And that all other doors were open before but not anymore. I'm grateful that something not that much evidence as bad behaviour wasn't included. I learned what is needed to be before that. And having one job kept 8.5 years made me learn so much about discipline. Behavior other people manners, when to shut up. And when to say something and not closing eyes like nothing had happened. Even now for sure the worst people to have around me actually are ones that are ignorant to bad shit from others or one that they see or from me. Luckily enough I blab my self out to ones that did held me accountable and we're mad at me for my actions. They were mostly strangers. My family was the worse for that part and always making shit up just to escape shit they did. I am still ashamed for them. They aren't neither for themself neither for others. Like nothing had happened. I only have hate for someone that want to save his ass by not getting involved when they should. Regret later will happen for closed mouth until this life ends for sure. Bet it will.
Now that we're taking crimes let's be specific. Parents who do nothing or very little (to be defined in better more specific terms) should be charged. Sometimes a parent can do all they can but the child does not comply. I was one of those children/teens.
Or just a coward. Mad respect to Dad for his courage and to the girl as well for the stones it took to do what she did. Sounds like a well raised girl w social issues
@@danamarie8718 you just don't like mom...me neither. But that girl showed courage humility to stand up and admit what she did. Respect. Probably came from Dad who seems like a good parent
@@ericwarrington6650 It isn’t about whether or not I like the mom. Or the dad, or the girl even. A child who was raised properly would not have done what she did. She would not have thought it was ok to threaten, corner, then beat another girl with the help of her friend. She would not have thought it was acceptable to corner the other girl in the bathroom and again, along with the help of friends, beat her. That is gang mentality, not the thought process of a child who is being raised properly. I agree it took a lot of courage for her to go on national television, be humble, and show remorse. And like you I think her father is a good influence. Hopefully he will be present more in her life and she will turn her life around.
I am NOT the biggest fan of Dr. Phil BUT this is the best explanation of how bullies are made. Dr. Phil also stood up for the victims of the bullies. Lots of accountability! Lots of truth in this episode. Love it!
I think Dr. Phil may be evolving away from his daytime talk show restrictions and endorsements of TTI entities. Good to see his leash removed; no wonder he couldn't speak on these real issues back when he was part of the same media community as Oprah and left-leaning Hollywood.
Get a bigger bully to show her how it feels. I said what I said. Her mother enables her behavior hence she has no remorse. Lastly many children go through trauma and not all hurt other ppl.
NO! That's so wrong! She's a deeply unhappy child and her bullying is a symptom of her familial issues. Both her parents have failed in their duties to their child. it's evident she's treading water. There's zero enjoyment in her life - it's very telling when a child says the closest they feel to being happy is when they are alone. Yet here you are wanting to see her further traumatised instead of having people work at enriching her self, at helping her develop a strong sense of self and motivation. She's lashing out and that in itself is a cry for help. You've fallen into the classic symptom of "become an even bigger bully".
@ she’ll ask for help when she’s on the other end of the bullying. If you listen to her she’s twisting words and not owning up to one bit of her actions. And again her mother is justifying fighting on more than one occasion rather than holding her accountable. Bet you she’s not lost one privilege as a consequence of her actions. Bet you she only preys on the smaller and weak. So I said what I said and we’ll agree to disagree.
@@mizza9595 I agree! I believe her mother was/is a Mean girl, and her father never spanked (put his hands on her, cause he was). She IS twisting her words to cover for what she did! ALL of them need help!!! And the father is only agreeing with Dr. Phil now because he was called out on national TV.
@ 100% not one of them came out and said they were wrong and want to get better. I’m not abt violence at all however in cases like this rules should be broken. That said I lived in a home where I’d get my ass whipped if I even thought of bullying anyone as well as getting my ass beat if I was bullied and didn’t fight back. So there’s that lol
@mizza9595 That's exactly how my parents were. I was to NEVER start a fight period or I'd get it when I got home, but if they started it I was too finish it!
Thankfully in Oklahoma, schools were allowed to open back up in the fall of 2020. I sent my daughter back to school but my sibling elected to keep their two children at home. My nephew, who was in Middle School, was already behind socially and academically. Since he went back to school in the fall of 2021, he has never caught up and probably never will. He has acted out in school against his teachers primarily. He has been suspended from school twice and had the cops called on him twice for criminal mischief. He has no friends to speak of and has distanced himself from most of his family. Being out of school for a year and a half did not do him any favors developmentally. I know that it affected lots of other kids negatively as well. Dr Phil is right. Covid wasn't handled properly.
There was a time in my childhood when I had an adult bully at home and a bully at school. I was so glad when the home bully left the home half the year for work. Otherwise, my only peace would have been going for a walk. Bullies don't just bully you in the moment, It took a long time to get the bullies out of my head. That's why kids commit suicide. With social media amplification, its even worse today.
It sounds like this 13 year old girl needs to live with her father. There is a difference between standing by ur kid’s side and acting like ur child does no wrong and she’s a chronic victim and standing by ur daughters side and teaching her there r consequences to ur behavior and teaching her that she’s not always correct. U can luv her and comfort her and ur loyalty can be with her and still make her apologize in person and take accountability for her actions. I used to tell my aunt this. Her son was out of control and he was 17. She was that type of parent that her son does no wrong. And he started w the cops. Here’s why it was bad. He’s a mixed race kid, but he looked more black and he had a Bronx Italian accent. In upstate NY. So that was 2 reasons u don’t be a smart ass and like to cops and he was 100% in the wrong. This was 18 years ago. They got no where w my aunt and I told her “ u better get ur kid under control or one day a judge will.” , but she didn’t wanna know nothing he son did no wrong and was the victim. I made him stay over night and he did a couple years in big boy jail and he came back a very very different person. U can tell he was attacked. I know to well what that looks like. I told her. It’s sad to say it took that for him to straighten himself up. He went back to school and college he counseled troubled teens. He turned his life around, but he was never the same. It took that for her to hold her children accountable for what he’s done. N girl has the same kind of mother as this little girl had and she’s already been in a lot of trouble. The justice system is going to teach her consequences if the mother doesn’t start acting like a real mother. Ur children don’t need u as a friend they have friends. They need a mother a responsible mother!
Carla’s daughter is not the victim she’s a bully and has to take responsibility for her actions. Carla should not believe what her daughter is saying because she’s being manipulated by her daughter
Police show up when they show up. They prioritize calls. Fights between kids are not in the top tier, and in many cases even the mid tier, of emergency grading. I haven't seen part 1, i don't know the full story of things or when the kid left in comparison to when police show up. Only saying that im hearing weak excuses. Even putting weight on seeing another kid killing at a bday party...it's not common for children who experience something like that to turn around and become violent themselves. Maybe uf they downplay their own behavior, ie "it's not like I shot/killed them", but most kids traumatized from seeing something like that tend to avoid violence and panick when they see others doing it. Parents need to do better. Discipline is not abuse.
Agree discipline Is NOT ABUSE, unless. The Bible says "Spare the rod Spoil the child ". I WAS abused and put in foster care at 12-18 and I'm one who knows that there's a HUGE difference between the two and I'm not against discipline, but I'm VERY MUCH against beating a child leaving major bruises and open wounds and lumps on them, and mentally abusing a child!!!
Dr. Phil your the man! I've always loved watching ur no nonsense, get to the root cause, and the truth approach. And I'm really glad to see you broaden that focus to cultural issues more and more. Thanks for continuing to be a voice of reason through all the bull.
The parent should be held liable and they should be charged. I bet that would make a difference on how the parents would have accountability with themselves and their children.
Regardless of what she has seen or has been done that does not give her the right to beat the hell out of other people . Her mother needs to buck up and be a mother , not a friend .
It's always amazing how all these so called parents take absolutely no responsibility. They refuse to believe that their kids are bad. It's because they are shit parents.
Anything the kids do the parents should suffer consequences see how long the parents put up with listening to all these excuses this lazy father she learned it from somewhere
This little girl just needs to meet her equal… at my school we bullied bullies… I sure asf didn’t allow people to attack innocent people (verbally or physically)… students speaking up and casting shame on bullies is the only way to stop it… there was a kid in class who had a history of SA and he used to touch himself… I witnessed teachers and students bully him and you can bet your bottom dollar I spoke up each time… I was the only person who sat next to him everyday… never once have I actually spoken to him but I knew he appreciated me calling people out and attacking them back… especially the teachers
I bet the parents would be more likely to hold their kid accountable if they realized it was just causing them more pain to be a bully. I hope they have. ❤
My heart goes out to the victims, but it was also so difficult to listen to the girl who was doing the bullying. Thank you Dr. Phil for your caring and wisdom and for potentially casting a new vision for her future. I pray for a turning around of this virus of unaccountability and violence sweeping our nation.
God bless you Dr Phil!🙏🏼❤️ We are so lucky to have you. You truly care about people and I am extremely grateful for your advise. I’ve been watching you since you started on Oprah and you’ve helped me thru a lot of bad times. Thank you and God bless you and keep you healthy. ❤🙏🏼😆👍🏼🕺
Hurt people hurt people when they don’t know how to handle their emotions. I was mentally abused my whole childhood until I learned to use my voice and fight back that way. Before that tho I would handle my anger like this girl, it makes you feel like crap and you’re not happy. You’re angry most of the time, I’d cry everyday at school. It was a really sad life but it can change no matter what side of the coin your life lands on or where you’re at there’s always up. Jesus saved me and he’s who I live for now. Instead of worrying about what is best for me I follow the good in my heart and help others which in turn fills my heart with happiness. I pray for this little girl and everyone who is a victim to bullying❤
This girl is top of the heap with her friends as long as she keeps this title because she is somebody. If she quits she is nothing as far as she is concerned. She needs to be in a different environment.
this daughter needs more support in her life and involvement with her parents. moving does not solve this. joining a new group like a soccer club or similar would do more positive for the longer term.
I don’t care what her reasoning is, You don’t hurt and try to kill another person’s loved one just because you’re loved one got killed in front of you You know you just don’t do that, I mean if that happened to me sure I would be angry I would be completely angry
The parents would not be getting away with stuff. The shool wont be getting away with stuff. What ever happened to common sense. If people had the support things would not get out of hand.This bully stuff should have been handled over twenty years at least. Same ol stuff.Are we insane.😂😂😂😂😂
I feel that how parents handled covid were also responsible for the issues with kids because parent do not teach there kids resilience and how to deal with disappointment and teaching there kids they can have something when they want it instead of patience. People survived the Spanish flu wwi and wwii the crash of the stock market never mind natural disasters and managed to move on and be successful and we have covid and the kids just fall apart and stop thriving. Really!
I'm hoping Dr Phil does a show on these recent presidential pardons, I think it would be really informative to hear his take on it and if anybody could get some of the victims to open up and share their stories it's doctor Phil God bless and Merry Christmas 🎄❤❄️☃️🎁🌨️🦌💕
But you know I fully support and I stand by anybody who had a loved one who was killed at a birthday party And she probably does blame herself for that I have no doubt in my mind she does blame herself She probably thinks if she had done this and she had done that with things have been different you know you go through that phase even as an adult I don’t think that there’s any age in anyway that a person doesn’t ask themselves that over and over and over again
How come you have not come up with some type of help for bullied kids. You have no problem taking on alcholism. Exploiting dads when they are accused of molestation. Mmmm Not one peep about bullies,crt, and booksin school. Why now?😂😂😂😂😂
Once again you helped.That boy was beat up and died because of crt. Other wise i dont believe this would have happened. All your friends liked crt but you never said nothing to say this is all bs.😂😂😂😂😂
1st of all, it's former President Ronald Reagan. 2nd point is you've totally misquoted him. Either you didn't understand what Mr. Reagan was saying, or you've intentionally spread BS. If I've misunderstood your post, I apologize. Here's the proper quote: The nine most terrifying words in the English language are: I'm from the Government, and I'm here to help. " He spoke these words during a news conference and during this news conference, President Ronald Reagan refers to how the government tends to be inefficient, to such a degree that instead of helping, it often causes harm instead.
Even when it’s on camera, clear as day, the parents don’t accept it. Ridiculous. This kind of parenting is what makes bullies.
This mother not taking any responsibility is a big part of what's wrong today with children. Unbelievable
@jeromejasper9111 totally agree
The parents need to stop making excuses for their daughters' behavior. She is acting out violently & needs to know their are consequences for her actions. You can't be assaulting other students & not get in trouble.
Correction your child will never do things in front of you. If your child is on video beating the crap out of another child then yes it is her fault and she should be seeing cops at her door and guess what....EVERY ACTION HAS AN EQUAL CONSEQUENCE
women in america have little accountability anymore.
its a different story for men. men have nothing in life without taking accountability.
Thank you. It seems you're allowing that child was beat down. And it's ok because she was in a bad mental state.
completely different era ... 30 yrs ago IF I had done that - my dad would have made sure I saw what Kingdom Come looked like AND if I still had brain cells he would have given me a choice to smarten up or leave home - there would be NO WAY would I embarrassed the family again....
These parents remind me of the parents of my bullies as a kid. Full of excuses, but nothing changes.
What a hypocrite, this girl. Very damaged, but extremely vicious and aggressive. She's clearly attacking her victims. She should be punished by law. No matter how young.
There's charges pending against her. Hope she goes to juvie
I think her parents need to grow up and be parents and think about their daughters needs above their own!!
The bully’s mom is so trashy. Of course her daughter is physically hurting classmates. Dad is just dumb. I’m sorry but there is no helping people with that mentality. Just keep them away from others!
And has 11 kids going into our society.
Videos of kids fighting should automatically be flagged by these companies not be rewarded by going viral it shows other kids that you getting rewarded and a false sense of respect from this community online.
There no money in that company are driven by profits if they will not take stuff down unless there forced to by law or by pubic pressure that make them loses profit
Why? It shows what's going on, and these kids being jackwits and be held accountable legally. Besides it's that kid who wanted the video of being brutal.
OMG ... you're so true. The mentality of people don't see it as wrong but How Can I Top That Video ....
don't see it ... can't to do it ...
It's disgusting.
Thanks for highlighting this issue and spectacularly well done.
11 kids between the 2 of them? they aren't equipped to handle 1
This bully definitely needs some help.. she's another case of the wrong doer trying to be the victim.
She's a girl in crisis, the bullying is a symptom of the much deeper issues of familial divide, a lack of cohesive parenting, there's very little enrichment, if any at all, in her life. She sounds an incredibly despondent child who doesn't feel she belongs anywhere and it's evident just how unhappy she is when she says the closest she feels to being happy is when she's by herself. That in itself speaks volumes. One thing that's missing is love, sure her parents love her, but neither are displaying it consistently by doing things with her to reinforce her self of inclusion and self worth. That is a deeply unhappy girl and it's upsetting to see, especially when it's so evident.
Yeah, and look where she learned it. 0 accountability on the mom's part, and Dad sat up there saying he didn't physically "discipline" (read: abuse) her.
@@Herbie-Went-Bananas-Then-Splitwell there are a total of ELEVEN kids!
@ShannonMcGann I've known very large families who were a united unit with each child feeling loved, my own grandmother was one of thirteen and they matured into well adjusted and successful adults. What we see going on with this girl's parents is typical self absorbed laziness who expect society and the school system to raise their children
No the mother needs help fix the parents you fix the kids
The mother seerms like she was a bully in school so the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
My youngest daughter had a bully, who was way bigger than her, her first year in middle school. She told us, her teachers, and administrators but nothing changed. My wife and I went several times to talk to them but nothing changed. I had been teaching my children how to defend themselves. I finally told my daughter it was time to defend herself. She was scared because the girl was so much bigger than her. We boosted her confidence to where she was nervous but no longer afraid. I told her that when the school calls, we will take their "side" in regards to your actions but rest assure we don't (if we didn't do this they would CPS on us). She put that bully in her place and she never had another bully after that.
21:05 she's going to be a really successful food stamp queen.
I was getting bullied in primary school. My mum died when i was 10 so it was difficult for me, i struggled at school after that. My dad tried to teach me how to fight back but i just wasn't a fighter. I just use to try and get outta school 5 mins early and ran as fast as i could home . Getting bullied at school affects ur grades . You can't concentrate on ur schoolwork cos ur always worried. I'm not being rude but alot of people have been through traumatic situations but we don't go around bullying and hurting others. You can't use that as an excuse.
I am a survivor of extreme bullying, multiple bullies.They could have killed me. Schools don't help. It drove me to quit school. It was the best decision I ever made. I was safe finally. I ended up getting a GED instead.
Mum has too many kids to keep eyes on. I can’t believe she’s excusing her daughter’s behaviour! Her own daughter is of course minimising her actions. “Oh I was just in the bathroom at the time” really? Her parents are stupid if they believe that chit! Get your daughter some help.
That poor Dad. I don’t blame him for not watching the video of his son getting beaten by all those thugs that ended up murdering him. I’m glad they’re all facing charges. The same with the girl that physically attacked the two girls. I’m glad she’s facing charges too. Gotta love that video evidence.
The school system never takes the right action. My grandson had a similar situation where 9 boys surrounded him. He's a big kid and he protected himself by just pushing them off of him. The school blamed him and said that he was the bully. My daughter, the other grandma, and I went to the school and talked to the principal, and he did nothing. Another kid tried pushing him down the stairs. They did nothing. The teacher's in the lunchroom made him sit by himself for over a month, and we didn't even know about it. He didn't want to tell us, and they didn't tell us either. I have heard of mentally challenged children being beat up and they still don't do anything. When i was in school we protected those people.
There are children in the preschools, head start programs and such when you have a child that is out of line hitting other kids and the teacher.The teacher is not allowed to do anything. They don't even call the parent to come get their child who is acting out. I have friends who are working in these places.
I also believe this goes deeper into the vaccinations, metal poisoning and food poisoning it doesn't help our children or us. How are we react to things? Sometimes it's uncontrollable like mercury poisoning. Either way, we need to do something about this. Doctor phil, I hope you and RKJ can get some action on this quickly.
Help us parents get involved where we believe, and know something is being done, instead of just being pushed aside every time we stand up for change!
Happened to my son also and talking to his teachers and principal didn't help.
I was also bullied in school it's sad 😢
It's crazy seeing the mom stick up for her daughter, the right thing to do would be to see that it is wrong and be disappointed. Sheesh why even be a parent if you won't parent
It should be against the law for anyone under 18 to have social media accounts. Parents that don't stop their bully children should be jailed and have kids thrown in foster care
Would make a WORLD of difference
Or actually when happen threw to counseling therapy every week 3 days in a row to create a habit that can stick as good routine to think about enough learn enough having homework writing emotions and then come next time with evidence of homework so we can say I did something about it or I'm trying. Im working on it, better patience and listening to people because when quiet and not defending I can ask questions for better understanding and I can hear better what did they answer. It's practice and then at least we can forgive them because they put work into it. Until we aren't that one in both shoes we can't be correct in ours shoes. I didn't beat out anyone. But I did hit someone. But until I was embarrassed on my job for hiding something that I was doing behind someones back I wasn't stoping and asking myself do I need that kind of laughting behind my back and knowing that people don't have good opinion about me. And that all other doors were open before but not anymore. I'm grateful that something not that much evidence as bad behaviour wasn't included. I learned what is needed to be before that. And having one job kept 8.5 years made me learn so much about discipline. Behavior other people manners, when to shut up. And when to say something and not closing eyes like nothing had happened.
Even now for sure the worst people to have around me actually are ones that are ignorant to bad shit from others or one that they see or from me. Luckily enough I blab my self out to ones that did held me accountable and we're mad at me for my actions. They were mostly strangers. My family was the worse for that part and always making shit up just to escape shit they did. I am still ashamed for them. They aren't neither for themself neither for others. Like nothing had happened. I only have hate for someone that want to save his ass by not getting involved when they should. Regret later will happen for closed mouth until this life ends for sure. Bet it will.
Use to be
Now that we're taking crimes let's be specific. Parents who do nothing or very little (to be defined in better more specific terms) should be charged.
Sometimes a parent can do all they can but the child does not comply. I was one of those children/teens.
Absolutely 100 percent of the kids a monster so is the mother
I'm guessing mom isn't there in person because she's on house arrest...daughter like mother.
Or just a coward. Mad respect to Dad for his courage and to the girl as well for the stones it took to do what she did. Sounds like a well raised girl w social issues
@@ericwarrington6650Well raised? You must be kidding.
100 i thought the same
@@danamarie8718 you just don't like mom...me neither. But that girl showed courage humility to stand up and admit what she did. Respect. Probably came from Dad who seems like a good parent
@@ericwarrington6650 It isn’t about whether or not I like the mom. Or the dad, or the girl even. A child who was raised properly would not have done what she did. She would not have thought it was ok to threaten, corner, then beat another girl with the help of her friend. She would not have thought it was acceptable to corner the other girl in the bathroom and again, along with the help of friends, beat her. That is gang mentality, not the thought process of a child who is being raised properly. I agree it took a lot of courage for her to go on national television, be humble, and show remorse. And like you I think her father is a good influence. Hopefully he will be present more in her life and she will turn her life around.
I am NOT the biggest fan of Dr. Phil BUT this is the best explanation of how bullies are made. Dr. Phil also stood up for the victims of the bullies. Lots of accountability! Lots of truth in this episode. Love it!
I think Dr. Phil may be evolving away from his daytime talk show restrictions and endorsements of TTI entities. Good to see his leash removed; no wonder he couldn't speak on these real issues back when he was part of the same media community as Oprah and left-leaning Hollywood.
So agree with what you said, except I'm definitely a fan of Dr. Phil!
Get a bigger bully to show her how it feels. I said what I said. Her mother enables her behavior hence she has no remorse. Lastly many children go through trauma and not all hurt other ppl.
NO! That's so wrong! She's a deeply unhappy child and her bullying is a symptom of her familial issues. Both her parents have failed in their duties to their child. it's evident she's treading water. There's zero enjoyment in her life - it's very telling when a child says the closest they feel to being happy is when they are alone. Yet here you are wanting to see her further traumatised instead of having people work at enriching her self, at helping her develop a strong sense of self and motivation. She's lashing out and that in itself is a cry for help. You've fallen into the classic symptom of "become an even bigger bully".
@ she’ll ask for help when she’s on the other end of the bullying. If you listen to her she’s twisting words and not owning up to one bit of her actions. And again her mother is justifying fighting on more than one occasion rather than holding her accountable. Bet you she’s not lost one privilege as a consequence of her actions. Bet you she only preys on the smaller and weak. So I said what I said and we’ll agree to disagree.
@@mizza9595
I agree! I believe her mother was/is a Mean girl, and her father never spanked (put his hands on her, cause he was). She IS twisting her words to cover for what she did!
ALL of them need help!!!
And the father is only agreeing with Dr. Phil now because he was called out on national TV.
@ 100% not one of them came out and said they were wrong and want to get better. I’m not abt violence at all however in cases like this rules should be broken. That said I lived in a home where I’d get my ass whipped if I even thought of bullying anyone as well as getting my ass beat if I was bullied and didn’t fight back. So there’s that lol
@mizza9595
That's exactly how my parents were. I was to NEVER start a fight period or I'd get it when I got home, but if they started it I was too finish it!
The whole family needs to go to therapy
Thankfully in Oklahoma, schools were allowed to open back up in the fall of 2020. I sent my daughter back to school but my sibling elected to keep their two children at home. My nephew, who was in Middle School, was already behind socially and academically. Since he went back to school in the fall of 2021, he has never caught up and probably never will. He has acted out in school against his teachers primarily. He has been suspended from school twice and had the cops called on him twice for criminal mischief. He has no friends to speak of and has distanced himself from most of his family. Being out of school for a year and a half did not do him any favors developmentally. I know that it affected lots of other kids negatively as well. Dr Phil is right. Covid wasn't handled properly.
There was a time in my childhood when I had an adult bully at home and a bully at school. I was so glad when the home bully left the home half the year for work. Otherwise, my only peace would have been going for a walk. Bullies don't just bully you in the moment, It took a long time to get the bullies out of my head. That's why kids commit suicide. With social media amplification, its even worse today.
It sounds like this 13 year old girl needs to live with her father. There is a difference between standing by ur kid’s side and acting like ur child does no wrong and she’s a chronic victim and standing by ur daughters side and teaching her there r consequences to ur behavior and teaching her that she’s not always correct. U can luv her and comfort her and ur loyalty can be with her and still make her apologize in person and take accountability for her actions. I used to tell my aunt this. Her son was out of control and he was 17. She was that type of parent that her son does no wrong. And he started w the cops. Here’s why it was bad. He’s a mixed race kid, but he looked more black and he had a Bronx Italian accent. In upstate NY. So that was 2 reasons u don’t be a smart ass and like to cops and he was 100% in the wrong. This was 18 years ago. They got no where w my aunt and I told her “ u better get ur kid under control or one day a judge will.” , but she didn’t wanna know nothing he son did no wrong and was the victim. I made him stay over night and he did a couple years in big boy jail and he came back a very very different person. U can tell he was attacked. I know to well what that looks like. I told her. It’s sad to say it took that for him to straighten himself up. He went back to school and college he counseled troubled teens. He turned his life around, but he was never the same. It took that for her to hold her children accountable for what he’s done. N girl has the same kind of mother as this little girl had and she’s already been in a lot of trouble. The justice system is going to teach her consequences if the mother doesn’t start acting like a real mother. Ur children don’t need u as a friend they have friends. They need a mother a responsible mother!
Carla’s daughter is not the victim she’s a bully and has to take responsibility for her actions. Carla should not believe what her daughter is saying because she’s being manipulated by her daughter
It Starts with the parents!
Police show up when they show up. They prioritize calls. Fights between kids are not in the top tier, and in many cases even the mid tier, of emergency grading. I haven't seen part 1, i don't know the full story of things or when the kid left in comparison to when police show up. Only saying that im hearing weak excuses. Even putting weight on seeing another kid killing at a bday party...it's not common for children who experience something like that to turn around and become violent themselves. Maybe uf they downplay their own behavior, ie "it's not like I shot/killed them", but most kids traumatized from seeing something like that tend to avoid violence and panick when they see others doing it. Parents need to do better. Discipline is not abuse.
Agree discipline Is NOT ABUSE, unless.
The Bible says "Spare the rod Spoil the child ".
I WAS abused and put in foster care at 12-18 and I'm one who knows that there's a HUGE difference between the two and I'm not against discipline, but I'm VERY MUCH against beating a child leaving major bruises and open wounds and lumps on them, and mentally abusing a child!!!
Dr. Phil your the man! I've always loved watching ur no nonsense, get to the root cause, and the truth approach. And I'm really glad to see you broaden that focus to cultural issues more and more. Thanks for continuing to be a voice of reason through all the bull.
The parent should be held liable and they should be charged. I bet that would make a difference on how the parents would have accountability with themselves and their children.
The mom is the problem. She takes no responsibility for anything.
Regardless of what she has seen or has been done that does not give her the right to beat the hell out of other people . Her mother needs to buck up and be a mother , not a friend .
This end speech got me so emotional. Thank you Dr Phil for bringing to light the corruption of the leaders during the pandemic. Time for prisontimes!
Can't be a childs friend . Be a mother. Set rules
It's always amazing how all these so called parents take absolutely no responsibility. They refuse to believe that their kids are bad. It's because they are shit parents.
Bad parenting. Period. Our world has gone to hell. Who has time for this? DSS is shot and overwhelmed-omgggggg
Anything the kids do the parents should suffer consequences see how long the parents put up with listening to all these excuses this lazy father she learned it from somewhere
The school don’t do nothing I was bullied 8 th grade
Hopefully things are better now! ❤
Ask your parents to move you to a school. That has a better school system.
There was none
get your kids out of public schools
That father needs to stop having kids and look after the ones he has.
This little girl just needs to meet her equal… at my school we bullied bullies… I sure asf didn’t allow people to attack innocent people (verbally or physically)… students speaking up and casting shame on bullies is the only way to stop it… there was a kid in class who had a history of SA and he used to touch himself… I witnessed teachers and students bully him and you can bet your bottom dollar I spoke up each time… I was the only person who sat next to him everyday… never once have I actually spoken to him but I knew he appreciated me calling people out and attacking them back… especially the teachers
Change sex ed to parenting proper children… leave the you decide…and teach people that a baby is a life long commitment not just a cute photo
I bet the parents would be more likely to hold their kid accountable if they realized it was just causing them more pain to be a bully. I hope they have. ❤
So the parents dont believe their daughter is a bully. Do they not know their kid will lie to avoid punishment. Be real.
My heart goes out to the victims, but it was also so difficult to listen to the girl who was doing the bullying. Thank you Dr. Phil for your caring and wisdom and for potentially casting a new vision for her future. I pray for a turning around of this virus of unaccountability and violence sweeping our nation.
The school does absolutely nothing they can put words out there but they never take action on these kids
I was bullied I finally had be removed from that school
AMEN DR. PHIL! YOUR ABSOLUTELY RIGHT REGARDING HOW GOVERNMENT HANDLED C19.
God bless you Dr Phil!🙏🏼❤️ We are so lucky to have you. You truly care about people and I am extremely grateful for your advise.
I’ve been watching you since you started on Oprah and you’ve helped me thru a lot of bad times.
Thank you and God bless you and keep you healthy. ❤🙏🏼😆👍🏼🕺
That’s juvenile is a terror and will grow up to be an adult terror and her dad is weak and her mom is enabling her
People PLACES AND THINGS.
Hurt people hurt people when they don’t know how to handle their emotions. I was mentally abused my whole childhood until I learned to use my voice and fight back that way. Before that tho I would handle my anger like this girl, it makes you feel like crap and you’re not happy. You’re angry most of the time, I’d cry everyday at school. It was a really sad life but it can change no matter what side of the coin your life lands on or where you’re at there’s always up. Jesus saved me and he’s who I live for now. Instead of worrying about what is best for me I follow the good in my heart and help others which in turn fills my heart with happiness. I pray for this little girl and everyone who is a victim to bullying❤
Its happening here in Australia
The school took the bully back?
This girl is top of the heap with her friends as long as she keeps this title because she is somebody. If she quits she is nothing as far as she is concerned. She needs to be in a different environment.
this daughter needs more support in her life and involvement with her parents.
moving does not solve this. joining a new group like a soccer club or similar would do more positive for the longer term.
Phil on a platform and going down a rabbit hole, seems like he wants to be politically relavant?
WT at it's finest
It's the parents fault
I don’t care what her reasoning is, You don’t hurt and try to kill another person’s loved one just because you’re loved one got killed in front of you
You know you just don’t do that, I mean if that happened to me sure I would be angry
I would be completely angry
Maybe “perceived” and maybe “identity as” are now interchangeable in today’s society.
The parents would not be getting away with stuff. The shool wont be getting away with stuff. What ever happened to common sense. If people had the support things would not get out of hand.This bully stuff should have been handled over twenty years at least. Same ol stuff.Are we insane.😂😂😂😂😂
I feel that how parents handled covid were also responsible for the issues with kids because parent do not teach there kids resilience and how to deal with disappointment and teaching there kids they can have something when they want it instead of patience. People survived the Spanish flu wwi and wwii the crash of the stock market never mind natural disasters and managed to move on and be successful and we have covid and the kids just fall apart and stop thriving. Really!
I'm hoping Dr Phil does a show on these recent presidential pardons, I think it would be really informative to hear his take on it and if anybody could get some of the victims to open up and share their stories it's doctor Phil
God bless and Merry Christmas 🎄❤❄️☃️🎁🌨️🦌💕
What's the percentage of bystanders that pull out their phone and record?
Wish my story could be heard 😔🇺🇸
Well, today you have the biggest platform to tell your story ❤
@@jasmineanderson9479It will be blocked just like every other time I try telling TRUTH ON UA-cam 😔
UA-cam won't let me 😔🇺🇸
But you know I fully support and I stand by anybody who had a loved one who was killed at a birthday party
And she probably does blame herself for that I have no doubt in my mind she does blame herself
She probably thinks if she had done this and she had done that with things have been different you know you go through that phase even as an adult
I don’t think that there’s any age in anyway that a person doesn’t ask themselves that over and over and over again
How come you have not come up with some type of help for bullied kids. You have no problem taking on alcholism. Exploiting dads when they are accused of molestation. Mmmm
Not one peep about bullies,crt, and booksin school. Why now?😂😂😂😂😂
💯 @ 34:20
Shes o young everything thats being said is going in 1 ear and out the other
Once again you helped.That boy was beat up and died because of crt. Other wise i dont believe this would have happened. All your friends liked crt but you never said nothing to say this is all bs.😂😂😂😂😂
famous words ronald regan said. im from the government im here to help BS dont trust the government
1st of all, it's former President Ronald Reagan.
2nd point is you've totally misquoted him.
Either you didn't understand what Mr. Reagan was saying, or you've intentionally spread BS. If I've misunderstood your post, I apologize.
Here's the proper quote:
The nine most terrifying words in the English language are: I'm from the Government, and I'm here to help. "
He spoke these words during a news conference and during this news conference, President Ronald Reagan refers to how the government tends to be inefficient, to such a degree that instead of helping, it often causes harm instead.
@@Rubytheblueeyedwolf you get my point what are you school teacher
Wow, why is everyone so blind to whats really going on here.
Obviously it’s the mothers fault of the bully