The first one is absolutely wild. It's one thing to treat the boy as their own, but to rob the legitimate parents of their son's first words, furthermore them being "Momma" and "Dadda"? Clown behaviour, and for the SIL and her husband to have the gall to be offended is the cherry on top.
I had a psycho mother in law who tried to do shit like this all the time. The scariest was when she was babysitting while I was at the store and when I came home she was in my bedroom with the door closed. I was horrified to hear her saying "say mama! Say mama!!" to my infant daughter 💀 nobody would believe me even though it was obvious from how she acted... Crazy how different things were before we had smartphones handy to record things. Bad enough to have crazies stealing your child without being gaslighted when you call it out and you'll inevitably be framed as the bad guy.
The couple calling the baby theirs are honestly kind of scary! I would be afraid they would take off with my child after that behavior. It's very strange and while no the father didn't have to call her names I'm not sure I would have responded much better lol a lot of people that get talked about on that sub are truly huge assholes.
It seriously sounded almost like a horror movie reveal! You’d have to be pretty deep in a delusion to do something that creepy without even seeming to perceive how out of bounds it is
It could cause the baby to have attachment disorder which could lead to mental health issues later that could turn the baby into an adult that could have antisocial personality disorder due to the lack of bonding with his actual mother in his early years brought on by the confusion of who his mother was.
@@theladyisabelle Unless the parents are letting this woman keep their baby on a daily basis, it's unlikely that this would result in a personality disorder. Some confusion, for sure. But it's not likely to reach the severity of a personality disorder.
You can love a niece or nephew like they are your own, but you don't try to make them your own. The parents have every right to be upset, even knowing the situation that the other couple is in. If they are going through so much with their own fertility and miscarriages, then they need to talk to a therapist. They do not get to use their new nephew as an emotional support animal.
I’m horrible, but I’m glad that my niece isn’t here all the time. She interrupts conversations constantly, which is understandable, but sometimes it’s just because the attention isn’t on her. She’ll then forget what she was going to say, but then blames us and throws one of many tantrums. Can’t say even a simple suggestion without her taking it as us being mean. She especially does it to me. I’m very mean and get screamed at, at least once a day. I only suggested she spread the paint out more. She was loading it on and it was making the page like soggy and wasting paint too. She still says I’m her favourite aunt, but that’s probably said to her other aunts as well 😅😂
@frankcesaretti4817 I know someone this exact thing happened to. It was the uncle of the child's girlfriend and she and the uncle actually kidnapped the baby for Three days!
Okay I think they reacted as well as they could. I have PCOS and cannot have children. I do have a step-daughter and became her stepmom when she was 10 years old. Her mom abused her and has been out of her life since that time. Kayla is now 23 and she has never called me Mom and calls me Emmy. Even if her mom was a great person, I would NEVER make her call me Mom. These people went over the line and obviously have some mental issues not being able to have children.
Like yeah I feel bad that they want kids and can't have them, but trying to low-key steal another person's child is insane behavior. I would say adopt, but I don't think they should have kids anyway if they think this behavior is okay and normal.
@@BuinidhMoChridheDoAlbalol I don't know where you live, but being a court clerk here in Switzerland I can tell you: no, they don't. Also, stupid question in the first place.
For any parents, especially ones with colicky babies, remember if they are dry, fed and safe it's OKAY to walk away to take a breath and clear your mind!! Step outside or into another room. A stressed out parent is worse than letting the baby fuss for ten min alone. When you feel a little better then u can go back and comfort them and i promise they will be just fine. Dry, fed and safe just like you left them.
100%. First time moms in particular think they're horrible people for wanting to get away from their screaming baby. I feel like the mother in that situation was projecting. When a baby has colic they drive you to a point of frustration that turns into rage if you don't escape it. She just feels guilty because she feels like that every single day. Her sister said and did what she wishes she could all the time. She just thinks she's a bad person for wanting to escape it, too, and she's mad she can't. A baby's cry pierces your brain down to some primal level, and it's supposed to. But if it's colic you can't do anything for them. Taking a quick shower, or even putting on headphones in another room could be the best thing for both Mom and Baby. Failure to do that could even lead to shaken baby syndrome, it only takes a moment of losing control to do something irreversible that you'll regret forever.
@@ghoultooth fr, the problem is that the thought of it is so unimaginable that people don't think they could ever do that. But nobody does. It only takes a moment of losing control, a matter of seconds. Or you could just be flustered and exhausted and a baby could slip right out of your arms. Any head trauma could have lifelong consequences. It's just sooo easy to take a breather out of love for a fragile creature who happens to be driving you insane 😊
@@Smittenhamster hahaha I love that, my husband and I both quit smoking when I got pregnant and that's what we ended up doing 😅 taking a moment together on the balcony to smoke was actually a sweet memory, we kind of were giving each other "permission" to take a break and not feel bad. Not recommending anyone start smoking 🚭 but the balcony or porch is perfect to escape. Vape or stick to weed if you need something 😁
I am a parent and have always been someone who loves children but honey, if I’m not responsible for the child’s welfare at the time, I’d definitely get up and leave. No one is responsible for dealing with ur child’s discomfort but u baby. ❤
YES like dude, it’s difficult to be a parent but your childfree sibling isn’t obligated to be a caretaker and sit through the screaming ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I can only tune it out because I was a toddler teacher for a few years.
I cannot stand the sound of screaming babies/children! I'd rather eat glass, with a mix of molten lead, than deal with screaming children. My niece drove me nuts, and I would always tell my sister to take her upstairs so that I didn't have to deal with her. If she complained to our mum, she'd tell her that it's HER kid, so HER problem! I really can't stand kids at any age - especially my own!! 😠😡🤬 (I've got 5)!! 🤣🤣🤣
As a mom, when my kids were babies and started crying during family gatherings I'd pick them up and leave the room. But the sister was the AHole, being a new parent is stressful enough without people making you feel like shit, she could've pretended to go to the bathroom or something, her snarky comment was unnecessary and rude
My sister and I were discussing the baby crying thing recently. It's funny because it gives her a desperate need to find and care for the child that's crying, while it makes me want to bust through walls to get away from the sound asap. One of us has children, and luckily for everyone involved, it's not me. ❤️
i don’t want kids and thought i’d be like you when my newborn nephew cries, but for some reason it doesn’t bother me. the love i have for him i feel like he can do whatever he needs & since it’s the only way he can communicate, i’ve been able to tolerate it
I used to be like you until i became an Aunt. I still cant do screaming children but i can tolerate crying babies a lot better. Also seeing how stressed my sister gets when my nephew cries in public has made me have a lot more empathy for the parents.
While their infertility struggles are sad, it does not excuse them from presenting themselves as the baby's parent especially in front of the parents. A cooling off period is necessary. It's overstepping and not mentally healthy for all involved. Anyway, mainly commenting for the algorithm! Thank you for the additional content!
I have children. I love my children with all my heart, but I personally believe anyone who is not bothered by the sound of a child crying is a psycho. The whole point of a nonverbal baby screaming is to bother the people around him/her, until these people solve the issue that’s making the baby cry. All of my children had severe colic, and it was traumatic for me and them. If your baby is screaming bloody murder, my instinct is to fix the problem or flee the situation. Sorry not sorry. But I would be tactful about it.
It gives me unbearable anxiety and stress. It’s deeply distressing and I can’t bear the sound, and yes, I always get away from the sound as soon as I can, unless I’m giving care to the child, in which case, it’s not quite so bad because it feels like I have more control and do something to stop it. When it’s someone else’s child and I have no control, and they could quite possibly take offense at me trying to help anyway, I need to get away from the sound. And it’s extra frustrating seeing the screaming and a parent ignoring their child.
@@KyndalTheMeister The sound is naturally meant to cause stress, because then something is done about the need the baby has. Just like OP said. Sometimes children just scream. The parent isn't ignoring it, but it might be a baby that cries a lot. Like a colic-y baby. Some babies literally cry up to 20 hours a day and it's extremely frustrating and exhausting for everyone involved. There's not much you can do about it and letting it cry is the only option.
The one time I had to deal with a colicky baby (a sick preemie 😭) it was so loud and piercing that it hurt my ears and it took me a few hours to get my full hearing back later, like I went to a concert or something. If I was the parent I would absolutely understand other people wanting to leave the room, like why sit there and suffer with the baby when there’s nothing you can do 💀
I know this is armchair psychology, but it sounds like the aunt in the first one has really serious mental issues over not having her own baby yet. I suspect the uncle is trying to support her, but maybe he is having issues too. They need therapy before something terrible happens.
In regards to the kid with colic; my daughter had colic and my brother who is the sweetest of sweet humans still has vivid memories of one night of a sleepover when she was a baby to give us a break. Colic is legitimately insane and I didn’t think I would survive. Someone who wanted to leave the room I would not be mad at them at all. You don’t necessarily have to say something about the baby just get up and excuse yourself. The only time it would be inexcusable would be if you were solely minding the baby at that time. I have one daughter who will be 18 next month, and people say “oh, you forget all the baby stuff the crying etc” NOT me lol. One and done ❤
i had colic as a baby and my brother almost didn't exist because my parents didn't know if they wanted to go through that again lmao 😭 luckily for them he did NOT have colic and slept really well
@@harusaurus OMG I'm so glad they powered through and you got to have your brother. People don't really understand until they actually deal with a baby that has colic and not just "fussy" it is next level. My daughter jokes with me now and apologizes and it's hilarious because she has been calm and cool since 6 months. Hug your parents if you can 🫂
I always remind moms, especially moms with colicky babies, if they're dry, fed, and safe it's okay to walk away. Taking a ten min break to clear your mind will not hurt the baby and its better for both mom and baby in the long run.
My baby had a witching hour around 10 pm around a month old we were beyond exhausted. One day they had constipation during the formula due to switching to target soy formula, I sobbed with him screaming in my arms trying to call everyone I trusted for emotional support. Those incidents did not last much but I remember them very well.
100% My second had colic and it was unreal and long and I had to wear ear buds to dampen some of the sound. My first might have been an only if it had been her.
I work in fertility and we often hear from our patients how hard it is when family members have children when they can't which is completely understandable and my heart breaks for them - but that first one was too far. Love you Robert 💜🖤
@@CordeliaWagner1999what do you mean "real adoption"? Lol if someone wants a baby that someone else birthed, they're buying it and it's weird you're advocating for that. There's literally a baby "shortage" for adoption. $30k for an infant.
@@maloryj7165 Apparently it’s okay to buy a baby as long as it’s inside a first world country? (Before anyone comes for me: my nieces are adopted, and the first thing their mother notes is that it’s freakin’ expensive. Hell, I know someone else looking into adopting inside America, and nope - she was quoted $30-$50k by the state adoption agency - it would be more if a private adoption.)
They put the ages because sometimes age provides context for the relationship dynamics found in the stories! A post written by a 40 year old man about him getting mad at a 5 year old throwing a tantrum, for example, would be different from that same man getting mad at a grown 45 year old man throwing a tantrum. In cases where there are young children or minors, too, it also provides a shorthand for ‘ok, in this scenario, how emotionally developed are the involved parties? Can we afford some grace?” Just as examples. I still get tripped up by the grammar of “My [40F] husband [35M]” though, don’t worry.
The second person could have said "I'll be back" and left, but they're not being an asshole for leaving. No one wants to listen to a baby scream at the top of their lungs. OP could have been more tactful, but it's nothing to be that upset over - OP's sister is likely very tired from her baby shrieking so I'd likely just be extra nice and pretend I was wrong anyway. Eventually, I think she'll understand their position better.
the baby with colic - as a mom, i 100% agree with you. a baby's cries are SUPPOSED to be unbearable. it is supposed to drive you crazy so that you'll want to stop the crying! a natural response. but if you're not the caretaker, then you kind of just have to sit through the sound without being able to do anything about it, which can be really overwhelming sensory-wise. mom probably went after this person's head because she herself is overwhelmed and upset dealing with a colicky baby. my first baby had colic and it's so difficult. you feel overwhelmed, guilty, insufficient, and it's not as if the parents are just fine sitting through the crying themselves, but they don't have the choice to get up and leave. for someone to say to your face "yeah this is annoying, i'm leaving" would be beyond rude. if you're ever in this situation, absolutely just leave discreetly. make an excuse, even if it's your family or your own partner. especially then. it's good to be honest, but sometimes it's better to spare feelings. they KNOW the crying is annoying, trust me.
I've got to wonder with the first story, how long do they leave the child with the sil and how many times per week, could be a typing issue but calling their own child "it" seems a bit cold.
I was thinking this too. While it's not right for sil and bil to teach the baby to call them momma and dadda, how long does the baby stay with them so he can have the comfort to call them that?
“It” is definitely strange but if the SIL offered to be the caretaker while the parents are working then that would be a frequent thing. A lot of people prefer to leave their children with family if they need to work. Some family members even offer. I was cared for by both my grandmothers 5 days a week when I was a baby. I was never encouraged to call them mama. I loved them both dearly but I never once thought they were my mom. The SIL is making a conscious effort to get the child to call her mama and that’s messed up.
I love the AITA threads! I probably read too many...😂 Story 1. NTA. It's kind of obvious to me that the infertility issues Laura has, has created a major psychological issue and she needs therapy. Her Husband needs to go too because he's enabling his wife's decision to try and brainwash a child. I personally probably wouldn't have cursed at them in that way, I would have been more like...Wtf? Why are you doing this? I don't feel comfortable with you being around my kid anymore, we're going no contact and then leave. The next day I would suggest they get couples therapy do deal with their infertility issues. I'm childfree and intend to stay that way!
I'm neurodivergent with sensitivities to sound (and single with no kids). My family has always denied any extraordinary sensitivity, and they just say I "have issues." Being around screaming babies and young kids triggers migraines, tightens my chest, causes all-over pain, and I'm juat too overwhelmed by it. They've never accepted my viceral reaction, they say I just "hate kids." I cant come for holiday? Well she hates kids. She canceled again? She hates my kids. Can't make it to cheerleading competition? I'm not surprised, since she hates kids...My poor niece and nephew are going to grow up thinking I hate them, when I just live 8hrs away and can't make it to all of the events. (And I winced when they screamed at Christmas- which they never even noticed because...Christmas!) When someone says they *can't* be around screaming babies/children: IMO, you're not the asshole. I understand. Just dont be a jerk about it.
I have ADHD and also have extreme sensitivity to sound. Ironically I’m a pre-K teacher and love kids! I just wear earplugs that muffle sound so I can still hear but the volume is turned down
I’m sorry your family pushes you off like that. My 6yo daughter is ND, so it hurts my heart that you’re experiencing that. I try to be very aware of how she reacts to sound, as I’ve read that sound plays a big part to a lot of ND people, as well as sensitivity to it. She’s non-verbal still, but I’ve been able to figure out a few of her triggers through trial and error and general observation, and now know ones to avoid (for example, the tinny sound of old music on a record player REALLY discomforts her, so listen to them when she’s not around), but I’m still learning. It’s so upsetting and disrespectful that they just say you “have issues.” You can’t just deprogram your sensitivities, and I hope your niece and nephew figure out that you DO love them dearly. ❤ Much love to you.
My first instinct as woman, is that this mother of the child has been leaving her kid to be babysat there way too often, and that the sister-in-law may slightly resent the mother of the baby because she can have her cake and eat it too. I don’t think it’s really much deeper than that judging by what the contributor wrote in. A baby wouldn’t call it auntie and uncle mama and Dada if it hadn’t spend loads of time with them and interacting in that way, I wonder if the sister-in-law is being passive aggressive in teaching the child to call her mama again as some sort of resentment that she was not able to have a child, but that the mother of the child has the best of both worlds: a child, the social praise of being a mother with a new baby, and all that online attention that she will get on her socials yet she can ditch the baby at the sister-in-law’s and go have mommy and daddy time. My two. Cents
Nope nope nope...as a mom, if someone else taught my child to call them mom/dad I would lose my shit. They would no longer be allowed to have contact with my kid. Also, as a mom, if someone else's child is doing their best banshee's wail impression I would walk away.
The second one... My twins will be 1 this Saturday and they are amazing babies and rarely fuss. On Christmas eve we were celebrating with my inlaws and after a few hours the twins were getting tired and very fussy. His gramps grabbed my son before I could and started rocking him and I brought my daughter to the bed to lay her down. Then my husband's aunt came in to help and her daughter, but ultimately she wanted da da. Point of the story is it takes a village but you can't expect someone to be a member of your tribe. The brother is an AH for being so rude but the parents are also AHs for not excusing themselves
My cousin's daughter had colic and my mom took the baby and sent my cousin to spend time with family and my aunt's took turns as well. Not only it it horrible for the baby but also very hard on the parents. This can go on for months.
As a mom I totally understand needing to leave the room if a baby is screaming at the top of their lungs, it can definitely be a sensory overload and unbearable for other people. When my daughter cries in public I get so much anxiety because I dont want anyone to be mad at me 🥲 I try my best to hurry and quiet her down
Kids are sonic nightmares. I live half a block away from an elementary school as a nursing student who’s home during the day and the noises they make from the playground every afternoon have me so confused and terrified lol
The way babies can screech is one of my top 3 reasons I don't want kids since I have pretty severe sensory issues (mostly related to light and sound). I am absolutely empathetic towards tired parents who have become numb to their child's screams, but that empathy will diminish exponentially the second a parent acts like everyone should just put up with it. We all have to make little concessions to be around one another. I mean, I literally bring ear plugs with me everywhere in case there's an upset child because I know I'm sensitive to loud, high-pitched sounds. I feel like (so long as you're not an only parent with no help or stuck on a plane or something) it shouldn't be a huge ask for people to take their upset children to lower traffic areas to calm down, especially as the kid would probably appreciate the lowered stimulation as well!
The crying baby story is weird for me. I have 2 kids and when they were crying, I was trying to have some privacy to take care of them: the last think that a baby in pain needs, its a crowd looking at him doing nothing. And the last thing that you need, is a bunch of people telling you what they would do and how you are doing it wrong. The mom was probably exausted and angry for other reasons.
Oh wow, that first one. I ended up in a kind of similar situation, albeit not through any sort of actual attempt to encourage what happened, where one of my exes' children (10 year old son) started refusing to call his own Mum 'Mum' and called me Mum instead. My ex (total arsehole) and his ex wife (not much better) were so busy coming up with new and more vicious ways to take pot shots at one another during their divorce, that they essentially neglected their youngest child. So I thought I'd do the right thing and start spending some time with A (the son), and do stuff like take him to Archery practice, take him tadpoling, help him collect spiders and small lizards in the backyard and teach him about different animals and things like that. I wasn't trying to be his mother, I just wanted him to at least have a weekend (my ex had weekend visitation rights) where he had something to do besides listen to his parents screaming abuse at one another. Then he just up and randomly decides that I'm his mother now, and that other woman he used to call Mum, she's not really his mother, not anymore. It didn't matter what I tried to do to explain things to him, he remained steadfast that I was now his real Mum, and that other woman was basically an imposter. It got to the point where his actual Mum would come to pick him up at the end of his weekend visit, and he'd be clinging onto me screaming and sobbing, "Mum, don't let 'her' (his actual Mum) take me away". Eventually his actual Mum blew up at me, and in the heat of the moment I decided to let both of them know what I really thought, ie that if they spent more time looking after their son instead of just attacking one another, then maybe he wouldn't have felt the need to find an alternate parental figure in his life. We almost ended up in a physical altercation; then she found a way to block the father's access visits entirely; I broke up with the father a few weeks later (there were threats of violence, the police had to get involved, it was a whole thing); and then my exes older daughter (who lived with him full time, and who I'd become good friends with) overheard him laughing and bragging to his new girlfriend how he'd basically used me and made a total fool of me for fun; so she threw his dinner his face and went to live with her grandparents. End of story, the grandparents ended up getting temporary custody of both kids, and when B (the daughter) was old enough she applied for full custody of her brother and won the case. I ran into her one day about 20 years after this had all happened, and it turned out that once she'd gotten custody of her brother neither of them had spoken to or had any contact with their parents after that Also found out my ex was doing a 20 year stint in gaol for a particularly horrendous kidnapping and r***, gee what a great guy
@@ash-is-napping I should clarify that I didn't mean the same thing was happening with the case in AITA. I think there's a difference between actively encouraging someone else's child to call you Mum or Dad, and that child doing it spontaneously because they come to genuinely see you as a parental figure.
@@thebabythesavage She handled the whole situation brilliantly for someone that young. I wish we hadn't lost contact over the years, I'd love to know how her and A are doing today. Both of them would be hitting middle age now, I just hope they're lives have been good. :)
This video is great... and yes, we need more! I have kids...36 & 29yrs old. Screaming/crying kids/babies yes can be annoying even to the parents, yet as the parent you are the one who needs to deal with it. I would never subject others to my kids in that situation if it could be helped - every situation when a kid/baby cries is different ( like NOT taking them to dinner in a restaurant when they are hungry or tired or sick...OMG!) My standard rule, especially when shopping is they got 1 chance. I know it may sound harsh, but it only took 1 time to be hauled out of the grocery store if they were screaming/tantrum, i mean i had a full basket.. I left it in the middle of the store...and walked them outside to the car, with my husband and said now you will remain here until i am finished! (insert stern bad cop mom voice) I stuck by the rule my Mom taught me who was told by her dr at the time...raise your kids so when they go to someone;s house its oh, look who is here! Not oh no... So I have not so much been the AH but defiantly the stern bitch Thanks Robert! You're a jewel
For the person who left the room with the screaming baby, I definitely lean NTA, depending on her tone when she said that she couldn't stand the sound. I would think it appropriate for the parent to take the child into another room and not force the whole family to suffer through the screaming. I think the baby's mom is an AH though for the way she reacted - she didn't need to bring up "a different girlfriend every week". I think that was irrelevant, judgemental, and out of line.
I think the tone probably had a lil edge to it that the sister might have ignored otherwise but since she’s probably exhausted from having a baby with colic, she let all her frustrations out on her sister. I don’t think it was right but I do think that the sister probably didn’t have the tact that she should’ve had and/or didn’t know that a comment like that could sting when she’s used to her sister getting her 8 hours
I’m a mom, a loss parent, and while I didn’t struggle with fertility, I did have to wait years after I decided I wanted children to even start trying due to finances and was constantly petrified that by the thought that by the time I found out I had fertility issues it would be too late. I can definitely empathize with the heartbreak that comes with realizing that there is a very real possibility that you might have a ton of kids but still never be able to hear them call you mama or dada, but what you never do is try to appropriate other people’s children. Just be honest that you’re struggling and ask for distance while you sort through your feelings. It’s still heartbreaking taking time away from the children in our life, but it’s so important not to use them as a way to fill the holes in our lives. Also, the “I’m in pain “ baby cry has evolved to be one of the worst sounds for an adult to hear. It’s ok to feel overwhelmed, and it’s completely ok to leave the room to re-group regardless of who the child is to you if overwhelmed.
I love the concept for this video! Sometimes I don't have the bandwidth for other topics like the "Alpha Males" or the "sexy TikTok chefs" you covered, but this hits. Your commentary is funny and so relatable, especially in these "AITA" scenarios. Please do more!
I had the same thing happen with me and my son when he was a baby. The dad’s sister kept having miscarriages and was very bitter that her brother had a baby before she did. I started to realize my son wouldn’t recognize me as his mom and let’s just say I had some nice words to say to the dad towards his sister and magic happened 😇
6:16 is 100% NTA. I absolutely cannot stand that shriek cry that kids and babies do. I have severe sensory issues and just cannot do it. She politely excused herself, period. Secondly, you can't force your baby on people. That might sound mean, but just because you're related, doesn't mean there's this automatic "care-giver" role now assigned to you where you're expected to spend time with a child. THEY had the baby, not you. Jfc they're the uptight ones in that situation.
My thoughts exactly! It didn't seem rude to me at all, just an explanation so the person wouldn't be leaving the room without saying anything lol. But then again I'm autistic and famously we don't always get politeness and rudeness right haha. But just the thought of this situation makes me wanna hide, my ears are so incredibly sensitive. My boyfriend has a toddler nephew who sometimes gets screaming fits and I swear it's as if needles are piercing my eardrums at light speed. Usually I suffer through it silently bc if I'd leave the room I know I wouldn't have it in me to come back xD (I'm so thankful neither my bf nor I want kids, I was kinda scared the nephew would awaken fatherly feelings in him when he was born but NOPE thank god xD)
While i wouldn't call the OP's behaviour *sshole-ish, i would be concerned if this was a routine behavior. Yes, you don't really get a warning or a how-to on being an aunt/uncle, but i would say the main goal is to support your sibling in raising a kid and hopefully become an adult figure the kid knows they can count on. By you leaving the room when the kid is crying, not only does that send a message to your sibling that you dont have their back but it can also look like a lack an effort on the OP's part in actually trying to be involved in the kid's life. Now i don't mean to sound judgy (I'm actually more judgy of the aunt since i feel she overracting and not communicating her needs that well and just kept throwing insults) but there are some responsibilities when helping with child-rearing that I hope OP is doing like doing laundry, or making bottles, or cleaning, or whatever that helps the parents a little. That way, OP can still fulfill her role as an aunt whilst being unable to help with calming the baby down.
Yeah. I totally understand that it takes a village, and I'm against the blatant hate kids/babies tend to get online with people being incredibly rude or cruel to them. But OP excused themselves politely for a valid reason, and they're also not obligated to spend time with the baby.
@@chiderakalaji7206 (I am cis female) Personally I disagree. My parents had my sister, not me. My sister had the baby, not me. I am in no way shape or form expected to give ANY child support to my sibling if I don't want to. I am only the cherry on top that gives them the good presents and is fun to be around. I never once changed a diaper if my sister or her husband was around. I obviously did if I offered to babysit, I am not a monster that would let a child sit in its waste for hours after all. I really think it's outrageous to think that just because I am family that I have any additional responsibilities as an aunt. And I have an amazing sister who also understood that and never once demanded that I help, of course she has asked but would respect whatever answer I gave her because she knows that her child is her responsibility. I have when people try to force me to hold a paper Call me a b*itch but the sister is NTA and its not her responsibility at all. Some of us just really don't like kids and that's ok (as long as we don't produce them!) and if you like kids and want to help that is wonderful and I hope you get to have that.
Parents have to be aware that if you're not used to being around children and their crying and other antics, it can become overwhelming very quickly. A parent may not be able to do anything about it, but at least acknowledge that it can be a lot. Robert, I liked this a lot.
In my family usually if a baby/child is screaming for longer one of the parents will take them to another room or a few steps away from everyone at family gatherings. I thought that this would be normal because others may be having conversations and the crying is uncomfortable for everyone and maybe it’s also soothing for the child to be in a quieter environment. (At least that would be my first impulse to do)
As someone that was born with lifelong GERD (along with other problems like pneumonia that made me a failure to thrive baby), my mom went through hell raising me. She even pulled the risky maneuver of having me sleep with her because she was so afraid of me vomiting in my sleep and aspirating it if I was left alone. But I don’t think she would ever force someone to listen to me cry and scream. Also to add my input to the first one, that is so messed up. My aunt is unable to have children and she loves me and my siblings dearly, but she never tried to make us believe or say that she was our mother. I know the term is most associated with and used to describe pfiles, but the that couple was by definition (via the manipulation and exploitation route) grooming the son into believing he was actually their son. That couple needs counseling at least, but they are definitely dangerous to keep around the son until he becomes old enough to not be manipulated into believing he’s theirs.
I just realized I have the fucking coolest brother and sister in law ever. I have NEVER wanted kids, no maternal instinct, don't think babies are cute, don't care about other people's kid's photos that they always just show you after meeting them for 5 seconds. My brother and SIL have a daughter, my niece, and she barely ever cries or throw tantrums. BUT when she does and I inevitably scowl and leave the room, they just giggle. But in my defense, I do love my niece, I just don't feel it's my job to take care of her and fawn over her when she freaks tf out for whatever reason, that is the parent's job. And her parents have no problem whatsoever with me making an audible "Oh GAWD, I'm out" when she starts to throw a tantrum. The funny part is, I ignore her most of the time, yet I am her most favorite person in the whole world, she always always talks about "Auntie Amy" so now, when she freaks out, I'll be REALLY overexaggerated with my disgust and maske a comment about "nobody likes when people scream and cry over losing a hand of go fish, no one is going to want to be around a person like that, no one else does that" and she literally just stops crying instantly, LMAO, because her Auntie Amy just told her that it's not cool to act like that! Of course, if she starts crying because she is sick or in pain, that is completely different and I do comfort her, call her parents if she was spending the night at mine if she wants, you know, like a normal human being, but those tantrums when theyre four and five? HELL no!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Can I just say that it is really refreshing to listen to someone read from this subreddit who hasn't had their brain rotted yet from reading it too much
The final story resonated so hard with me. I met my current best friend in college and were roommates. We had a third roommate who was very much as inconsiderate as the roommate in the reddit story. She would be out all night, walk in at 4 or 5 AM in stiletto heels that clacked noisily on our tile floor, would turn on her light (we did not have separate rooms, it was a shared space, so yes, this would wake us if her heels didn't). She would proceed to cross the entire space between her bed (farthest from the bathroom) and then use her electric toothbrush (noisiest little thing) and then go back to her space and turn ON her TV. Again, all at 4 or 5 in the morning on school days! My friend and I endured this for a week before deciding we were done with it. We wrote a cordial note to her together and were polite. We made suggestions like taking her heels off before coming in, using headphones to watch her tv, and maybe just turning her desk lamp on instead of the entire overhead light. We were not disrespectful, we just wanted to not be woken up hours before our first class. We didn't see her when she read the note but the day after we left it in her room, she moved out without a word to us. Obviously, this worked to our benefit and we weren't sorry to see her go, we didn't even get to know her that well. Roommates can absolutely suck sometimes.
I'm childfree but I'm an animal person. if I think of the colic story in terms of if my dog wouldn't stop barking and somebody said they couldn't stand it and had to leave, I'd totally get it. hell, people have straight up said that about my (clean, just naturally musky) ferret's smell. I love it but I know it's not for everybody! then again, I'm autistic so straightforwardness is what's polite to me, and false excuses I'd regard as impolite. still, I think the mother getting so bent out of shape is probably either projected stress (stress being understandable, taking it out on someone not fair at all however), or that delusional thing parents sometimes have that their child is a perfect miracle that should be fawned over by all. like, I'm always friendly to kids but come on lol
Ha! I love these subjects. Weighing in about he screaming baby, as someone who doesn’t like kids, doesn’t want kids, I’m with you Robert. People who have kids get desensitized to their kids annoying behavior that inconveniences other people. We need to stop demonizing people who can’t or won’t want to be around loud, annoying kids. Period. Your kid’s issues shouldn’t become everyone else’s issues too.
Yes! I will never get mad at a baby for crying, but I expect parents to never get mad at me for removing myself from the vicinity of it crying. There have unfortunately been cases of an otherwise loving parent who reaches a breaking point and snaps and kills their child because they just sort of lose it and didn't get a break when they needed it. Not acknowledging how much stress a loud, screaming baby can be for a person isn't helpful to anyone.
I agree and disagree. My youngest daughter has special needs and can have meltdowns when she becomes over stimulated. I have to take her to the store with me sometimes. Its not ideal and its really difficult but we have just as much of a right to exist in public as other people do. People can be so mean and intolerant. It breaks my heart when people say mean things to my daughter as if she's crying because she's bad. I make a big effort to make trips at quieter times of the day and to bring lots of coping and soothing tools to minimize the likelihood of any issues. I often abandon my shopping and leave if a meltdown is bad. Many times the trips go perfectly fine but sometimes they don't. Many people generally seem to have the mentality that their right to not be inconvenienced or annoyed in public supercedes the right of others to exist in public. Being part of society means that sometimes inevitably you will have to be around loud sounds, behavior that annoys you and be inconvenienced by others. I do not think people who want to remove themselves from the situation or don't like or want to be around it are bad people at all. I totally understand meltdowns are not pleasant to be around trust me. its the people who pass judgement without knowing anything and think they are sticking it to a shitty parent when in reality they are just harassing a disabled child and their parent who are just doing the best they can. People have yelled things at me, at my 4 year old daughter and laid their hands on my daughter before all because they heard loud crying in the line at the grocery store. That is never acceptable, and those people are the ones who I demonize.
As much as I don’t like kids, I would never go out of my way to be cruel to one. Especially if they have special needs. I have nieces and nephews and 1 has special needs so I completely understand about the meltdowns. I’m not one of those people that will be cruel to a kid. BUT if a kid is being a brat , just to be a brat, while the parents ignore them throwing tantrums, I have a problem with that. And while, yes, of course you have the right exist with your child, you don’t have more rights than someone who chooses not to have children. If someone chooses not to be in a room with a kid who’s crying or screaming uncontrollably that doesn’t make them an a-hole.
@@thelmaankney9812 seems like our views align and I agree 😊 I find the issue often is people just dont stop to consider invisible disabilities and make snap judgements. The experience seems universal atleast in the parent support groups I attend and it makes me sad. I completely understand people not wanting to be around it and also said that doesn't make people bad people at all. It's the people who take it a step further. And there's many who do and a lot double down even after you explain that your child has special needs. It's really hard to tell from a short public interaction which children may have special needs and emotional disregulation and which don't so its better to just let folks be and not assume.
Since I was an extreme doormat my freshman year and let my roommates walk all over me to the point of mental breakdown, I gave zero craps about roommates from my sophomore year onward, and definitely ignored all pounding on the door when keys were forgotten specifically because the RA existed. I can't even imagine the audacity of someone expecting one to drop everything to rush home from work/class/parents' house. And during Quiet Week, too?! She's lucky an irritated dorm neighbor didn't step into the hall to cuss her out!!
“But I’m also really super nosy and I love to read other people’s business!!” highly relatable 😂🖤 the only thing better is you reading it to me and commenting!
about the second one, as a person really sensitive to sounds i never really thought of it as rude to just say when loud noises are bothering you and you have to leave, i can't even think and sometimes even have trouble breathing, I'm basically in fight or flight if it's too loud, or too bright for that matter lol
working in retail and hearing a screaming baby is beyond irritating and then being told “it’s not so bad, the parent has to deal with it more” so?! doesn’t mean i want to hear it
Whenever I go into a certain supermarket, every time there is a kid who screams to the full capacity of their lungs and the parents seem to do nada. I now shop elsewhere, too often people make a lifestyle choice and think I should be part of that. Huge thank you to those parents though that try to calm their kids down and appreciate how annoying it is to others!!!
Absolutely this. I was once at a restaurant with my own family and there was a second one coming in - small boy around 5y and a toddler in a high chair who was fussy and screaming from time to time. Honestly, if your kid is that young and fussy please do everyone a favour and do NOT dine in an enclosed restaurant. Just wait a couple more months until the kid can behave appropriately otherwise it's torture for the kid AND the people around them.
As a parent of small children I actually agree with your comments on the first 2! I do wish people without kids could all be like you - like “I’m not having kids myself but I’ll be empathetic to the parents and nice to kids”. Love that! Everyone I know who doesn’t have kids by choice is so rude! Like yes you don’t like kids but they are human beings. Treat them nicely, and be a bit more patient with the parents. No parent is trying to spite another person by deliberately making their child scream around them. Hell, most parents also hate the sound of their kids screaming. And a lot of mothers have extreme anxiety about it! But yeah I agree with your comments!
Regarding the crying baby, I can see if OP was being honest and non judge mental “hey this crying is really getting me I need to step away” being just fine. But I don’t hold the sister’s reaction too much against her, she was probably also overstimulated.
The fact that this is different enough from other 'AITA' reads JUST because of the way that Robert pronounces it 'Aaarrrsehole' instead of 'Ass-hole' is so funny to me. Yes I'm English, it's just usually US/Canadian AITA videos I watch.
I can see both sides from the sisters and the baby with colics, but since the sister has no baby and can't stand the crying, she forgets that even if you are a mum, the crying is still just as exhausting, all day, every day. My guess is that the mum was hurt and lashed out because of this and being exhausted. As long as the childless one would have a hard time puttig themself in the others situation, the best thing would have been to just avoid harsh words
For the second one, I’m also not a child friendly human. Whenever I need to get away from children, I leave without saying anything, and if someone asks I tell them I have to go #2 very badly and might be a while. Or have to go home/to my own hotel room/ far away to use my own toilet in peace. Works like a charm every time, and now no one asks me anymore (pretty sure they also think I’m just always crapping my pants, but so worth it)
I actually had pretty similar issues with a roommate my freshman year of college as the redit poster. Our dorms were new that year and used our Student ID cards to get into the building and rooms. She would leave super early in the morning without her card and come back shortly after forgetting it all the time. You would think just you would always make sure you had your Student ID with you especially if that’s how you are supposed to access your room. She would also stay up late in our shared living room area and watch videos or listen to music on her laptop without her headphones on. I have a hard time sleeping with videos playing so I would ask if she could use her headphones and she would always say she lost them or couldn’t find them and that’s why she didn’t use them 🙄. I swear I was cursed with roommates because every year I had a bad experience. I had a roommate one time that would set the temp in our room at 85 F degrees when it was August in Texas! That’s insane!
As someone with ADHD and hearing issues, the sound of kids crying/being too loud can get especially frustrating for me from time-to-time. It can be very distracting, and when I can’t focus or when the kids’ noise drown out the other person I’m talking to, I get extremely frustrated. My frustration tends to be with the parents who don’t enforce the concept of “inside voice” more so than with babies, as you can’t really teach them the concept of “inside voice” just yet. The aunt was 100% in the right for taking herself out of the situation, but she probably should’ve phrased it a little better. Saying something like “I’m sorry, I need to step outside for a second” or just getting up quietly and stepping away will cause less of a scene than referring to a baby’s cries as annoying, even if she meant it specifically towards the noise and not the baby themself.
❤ love these videos!! I agree with you on all of them. Makes me feel super blessed to not have people like this in my life!! Honestly, Robert, I could listen to you read a dictionary for hours on end. And I truly love your perspective and reactions !❤
The first one is absolutely wild. It's one thing to treat the boy as their own, but to rob the legitimate parents of their son's first words, furthermore them being "Momma" and "Dadda"? Clown behaviour, and for the SIL and her husband to have the gall to be offended is the cherry on top.
Deserves a drop kick if you asked me 😂
Right?????
I had a psycho mother in law who tried to do shit like this all the time. The scariest was when she was babysitting while I was at the store and when I came home she was in my bedroom with the door closed. I was horrified to hear her saying "say mama! Say mama!!" to my infant daughter 💀 nobody would believe me even though it was obvious from how she acted... Crazy how different things were before we had smartphones handy to record things. Bad enough to have crazies stealing your child without being gaslighted when you call it out and you'll inevitably be framed as the bad guy.
I would be pissed. Those weirdos wouldn't be allowed around my children anymore
I know. I'd have said far worse, and thrown some hands then they would NEVER get to see the child again
The couple calling the baby theirs are honestly kind of scary! I would be afraid they would take off with my child after that behavior. It's very strange and while no the father didn't have to call her names I'm not sure I would have responded much better lol a lot of people that get talked about on that sub are truly huge assholes.
Yeah it’s crazy! I would never trust them around my child again. That would be the last time they see them.
It seriously sounded almost like a horror movie reveal! You’d have to be pretty deep in a delusion to do something that creepy without even seeming to perceive how out of bounds it is
It could cause the baby to have attachment disorder which could lead to mental health issues later that could turn the baby into an adult that could have antisocial personality disorder due to the lack of bonding with his actual mother in his early years brought on by the confusion of who his mother was.
@@theladyisabelle Unless the parents are letting this woman keep their baby on a daily basis, it's unlikely that this would result in a personality disorder. Some confusion, for sure. But it's not likely to reach the severity of a personality disorder.
What did we do to deserve this extra content ? I'm here for it all 🖤
Right?! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to us!
💜 and to you too 🥳
Agreed. This channel was my favorite gift this year, I love the hilarious side of Robert we used to only get on the Twins channel!!
It's soooooo fun to hear Robert talk about topics beyond makeup 😂😂😂 the delivery of the tea is always amazing
I’m absolutely loving it! Look forward to it each week!🤩
WHO RAISED THESE PEOPLE 😭 aita posts are so often completely rational women who are surrounded by people just gaslighting them into insanity 🥲
I've never realized that but it's true
Wow you said it best !!
You can love a niece or nephew like they are your own, but you don't try to make them your own. The parents have every right to be upset, even knowing the situation that the other couple is in. If they are going through so much with their own fertility and miscarriages, then they need to talk to a therapist. They do not get to use their new nephew as an emotional support animal.
I’m horrible, but I’m glad that my niece isn’t here all the time. She interrupts conversations constantly, which is understandable, but sometimes it’s just because the attention isn’t on her. She’ll then forget what she was going to say, but then blames us and throws one of many tantrums. Can’t say even a simple suggestion without her taking it as us being mean. She especially does it to me. I’m very mean and get screamed at, at least once a day. I only suggested she spread the paint out more. She was loading it on and it was making the page like soggy and wasting paint too. She still says I’m her favourite aunt, but that’s probably said to her other aunts as well 😅😂
That first story is something out of a lifetime movie plot. Delusional people like them are incredibly dangerous.
Ikr ! My jaw dropped.
the hand that rocks the cradle vibes
Never knew I needed Robert reading AITA posts but I’m so here for it 😂 “you refer to your son as it? Okay” I love you Robert 😂💕
I love it. I feel like the it baby one is bogus though. It’s just too bizarre and doesn’t add up
Saaaaame, AITA is such a guilty pleasure subreddit for me for exactly the reason Robert described so I'm *here* for this content 😂❤
@frankcesaretti4817 I know someone this exact thing happened to. It was the uncle of the child's girlfriend and she and the uncle actually kidnapped the baby for Three days!
Okay I think they reacted as well as they could. I have PCOS and cannot have children. I do have a step-daughter and became her stepmom when she was 10 years old. Her mom abused her and has been out of her life since that time. Kayla is now 23 and she has never called me Mom and calls me Emmy. Even if her mom was a great person, I would NEVER make her call me Mom. These people went over the line and obviously have some mental issues not being able to have children.
Why wasnt she with dad before you came onto the scene if she was abused? Why wait till dad has a new gf?
@@patty-pat-patBecause courts are generally on the mothers side? Women can openly abuse their kids and still get custody
Like yeah I feel bad that they want kids and can't have them, but trying to low-key steal another person's child is insane behavior. I would say adopt, but I don't think they should have kids anyway if they think this behavior is okay and normal.
@@BuinidhMoChridheDoAlba that's not true. Stop spreading misinformation.
@@BuinidhMoChridheDoAlbalol I don't know where you live, but being a court clerk here in Switzerland I can tell you: no, they don't. Also, stupid question in the first place.
For any parents, especially ones with colicky babies, remember if they are dry, fed and safe it's OKAY to walk away to take a breath and clear your mind!! Step outside or into another room. A stressed out parent is worse than letting the baby fuss for ten min alone. When you feel a little better then u can go back and comfort them and i promise they will be just fine. Dry, fed and safe just like you left them.
My midwife said the same. They'd rather see us take a break and maybe have a smoke on the balcony if needs be than harming the child.
100%. First time moms in particular think they're horrible people for wanting to get away from their screaming baby. I feel like the mother in that situation was projecting. When a baby has colic they drive you to a point of frustration that turns into rage if you don't escape it. She just feels guilty because she feels like that every single day. Her sister said and did what she wishes she could all the time. She just thinks she's a bad person for wanting to escape it, too, and she's mad she can't.
A baby's cry pierces your brain down to some primal level, and it's supposed to. But if it's colic you can't do anything for them. Taking a quick shower, or even putting on headphones in another room could be the best thing for both Mom and Baby. Failure to do that could even lead to shaken baby syndrome, it only takes a moment of losing control to do something irreversible that you'll regret forever.
@@LunarElevenThat last sentence is so, so crucial.
@@ghoultooth fr, the problem is that the thought of it is so unimaginable that people don't think they could ever do that. But nobody does. It only takes a moment of losing control, a matter of seconds. Or you could just be flustered and exhausted and a baby could slip right out of your arms. Any head trauma could have lifelong consequences. It's just sooo easy to take a breather out of love for a fragile creature who happens to be driving you insane 😊
@@Smittenhamster hahaha I love that, my husband and I both quit smoking when I got pregnant and that's what we ended up doing 😅 taking a moment together on the balcony to smoke was actually a sweet memory, we kind of were giving each other "permission" to take a break and not feel bad. Not recommending anyone start smoking 🚭 but the balcony or porch is perfect to escape. Vape or stick to weed if you need something 😁
I am a parent and have always been someone who loves children but honey, if I’m not responsible for the child’s welfare at the time, I’d definitely get up and leave. No one is responsible for dealing with ur child’s discomfort but u baby. ❤
YES like dude, it’s difficult to be a parent but your childfree sibling isn’t obligated to be a caretaker and sit through the screaming ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I can only tune it out because I was a toddler teacher for a few years.
I cannot stand the sound of screaming babies/children! I'd rather eat glass, with a mix of molten lead, than deal with screaming children. My niece drove me nuts, and I would always tell my sister to take her upstairs so that I didn't have to deal with her. If she complained to our mum, she'd tell her that it's HER kid, so HER problem! I really can't stand kids at any age - especially my own!! 😠😡🤬
(I've got 5)!! 🤣🤣🤣
As a mom, when my kids were babies and started crying during family gatherings I'd pick them up and leave the room. But the sister was the AHole, being a new parent is stressful enough without people making you feel like shit, she could've pretended to go to the bathroom or something, her snarky comment was unnecessary and rude
My sister and I were discussing the baby crying thing recently. It's funny because it gives her a desperate need to find and care for the child that's crying, while it makes me want to bust through walls to get away from the sound asap. One of us has children, and luckily for everyone involved, it's not me. ❤️
I'm like you too (and childfree) and it blows my mind that the other type of people exist! I'm glad they do though for the sake of the kids
Funny! I love well behaved kids but cannot bear kids crying and I would want to remove myself.
i don’t want kids and thought i’d be like you when my newborn nephew cries, but for some reason it doesn’t bother me. the love i have for him i feel like he can do whatever he needs & since it’s the only way he can communicate, i’ve been able to tolerate it
I used to be like you until i became an Aunt. I still cant do screaming children but i can tolerate crying babies a lot better. Also seeing how stressed my sister gets when my nephew cries in public has made me have a lot more empathy for the parents.
Same. I love my niece, but I do.t have to love with her! And I can't be doing with other kids. They're fine - waaaay over there, outwith my vicinity!
While their infertility struggles are sad, it does not excuse them from presenting themselves as the baby's parent especially in front of the parents. A cooling off period is necessary. It's overstepping and not mentally healthy for all involved.
Anyway, mainly commenting for the algorithm! Thank you for the additional content!
Yeah, extra crazy to do it in front of them. Bad enough doing it without them around, but to have the gall to do it with them there? Cuckoo bananas
I would've ignored the roommate too, and probably would've called her out on all her BS way before finals 😅
I would love this to become a series of Robert reacting to AITA posts weekly.
I have children. I love my children with all my heart, but I personally believe anyone who is not bothered by the sound of a child crying is a psycho. The whole point of a nonverbal baby screaming is to bother the people around him/her, until these people solve the issue that’s making the baby cry. All of my children had severe colic, and it was traumatic for me and them. If your baby is screaming bloody murder, my instinct is to fix the problem or flee the situation. Sorry not sorry. But I would be tactful about it.
Exactly, it's meant to be annoying and loud 😅
I think some parents get a bit jealous that child free people don't have to endure the crying.
@@nicolorange I agree!
It gives me unbearable anxiety and stress. It’s deeply distressing and I can’t bear the sound, and yes, I always get away from the sound as soon as I can, unless I’m giving care to the child, in which case, it’s not quite so bad because it feels like I have more control and do something to stop it. When it’s someone else’s child and I have no control, and they could quite possibly take offense at me trying to help anyway, I need to get away from the sound. And it’s extra frustrating seeing the screaming and a parent ignoring their child.
@@KyndalTheMeister you explained that very well. I feel the same way
@@KyndalTheMeister The sound is naturally meant to cause stress, because then something is done about the need the baby has. Just like OP said. Sometimes children just scream. The parent isn't ignoring it, but it might be a baby that cries a lot. Like a colic-y baby. Some babies literally cry up to 20 hours a day and it's extremely frustrating and exhausting for everyone involved. There's not much you can do about it and letting it cry is the only option.
The one time I had to deal with a colicky baby (a sick preemie 😭) it was so loud and piercing that it hurt my ears and it took me a few hours to get my full hearing back later, like I went to a concert or something. If I was the parent I would absolutely understand other people wanting to leave the room, like why sit there and suffer with the baby when there’s nothing you can do 💀
I know this is armchair psychology, but it sounds like the aunt in the first one has really serious mental issues over not having her own baby yet. I suspect the uncle is trying to support her, but maybe he is having issues too. They need therapy before something terrible happens.
In regards to the kid with colic; my daughter had colic and my brother who is the sweetest of sweet humans still has vivid memories of one night of a sleepover when she was a baby to give us a break. Colic is legitimately insane and I didn’t think I would survive. Someone who wanted to leave the room I would not be mad at them at all. You don’t necessarily have to say something about the baby just get up and excuse yourself. The only time it would be inexcusable would be if you were solely minding the baby at that time. I have one daughter who will be 18 next month, and people say “oh, you forget all the baby stuff the crying etc” NOT me lol. One and done ❤
i had colic as a baby and my brother almost didn't exist because my parents didn't know if they wanted to go through that again lmao 😭 luckily for them he did NOT have colic and slept really well
@@harusaurus OMG I'm so glad they powered through and you got to have your brother. People don't really understand until they actually deal with a baby that has colic and not just "fussy" it is next level. My daughter jokes with me now and apologizes and it's hilarious because she has been calm and cool since 6 months. Hug your parents if you can 🫂
I always remind moms, especially moms with colicky babies, if they're dry, fed, and safe it's okay to walk away. Taking a ten min break to clear your mind will not hurt the baby and its better for both mom and baby in the long run.
My baby had a witching hour around 10 pm around a month old we were beyond exhausted. One day they had constipation during the formula due to switching to target soy formula, I sobbed with him screaming in my arms trying to call everyone I trusted for emotional support. Those incidents did not last much but I remember them very well.
100% My second had colic and it was unreal and long and I had to wear ear buds to dampen some of the sound. My first might have been an only if it had been her.
I work in fertility and we often hear from our patients how hard it is when family members have children when they can't which is completely understandable and my heart breaks for them - but that first one was too far. Love you Robert 💜🖤
Adoption is an option if somebody really wants to be a parent.
Real Adoption, not buying a Baby from an "Adoption Agency" surrogate in a poor country.
@@CordeliaWagner1999what do you mean "real adoption"? Lol if someone wants a baby that someone else birthed, they're buying it and it's weird you're advocating for that. There's literally a baby "shortage" for adoption. $30k for an infant.
@@maloryj7165 Apparently it’s okay to buy a baby as long as it’s inside a first world country? (Before anyone comes for me: my nieces are adopted, and the first thing their mother notes is that it’s freakin’ expensive. Hell, I know someone else looking into adopting inside America, and nope - she was quoted $30-$50k by the state adoption agency - it would be more if a private adoption.)
They put the ages because sometimes age provides context for the relationship dynamics found in the stories! A post written by a 40 year old man about him getting mad at a 5 year old throwing a tantrum, for example, would be different from that same man getting mad at a grown 45 year old man throwing a tantrum. In cases where there are young children or minors, too, it also provides a shorthand for ‘ok, in this scenario, how emotionally developed are the involved parties? Can we afford some grace?” Just as examples. I still get tripped up by the grammar of “My [40F] husband [35M]” though, don’t worry.
The second person could have said "I'll be back" and left, but they're not being an asshole for leaving. No one wants to listen to a baby scream at the top of their lungs. OP could have been more tactful, but it's nothing to be that upset over - OP's sister is likely very tired from her baby shrieking so I'd likely just be extra nice and pretend I was wrong anyway. Eventually, I think she'll understand their position better.
the baby with colic - as a mom, i 100% agree with you. a baby's cries are SUPPOSED to be unbearable. it is supposed to drive you crazy so that you'll want to stop the crying! a natural response. but if you're not the caretaker, then you kind of just have to sit through the sound without being able to do anything about it, which can be really overwhelming sensory-wise.
mom probably went after this person's head because she herself is overwhelmed and upset dealing with a colicky baby. my first baby had colic and it's so difficult. you feel overwhelmed, guilty, insufficient, and it's not as if the parents are just fine sitting through the crying themselves, but they don't have the choice to get up and leave. for someone to say to your face "yeah this is annoying, i'm leaving" would be beyond rude. if you're ever in this situation, absolutely just leave discreetly. make an excuse, even if it's your family or your own partner. especially then. it's good to be honest, but sometimes it's better to spare feelings. they KNOW the crying is annoying, trust me.
I've got to wonder with the first story, how long do they leave the child with the sil and how many times per week, could be a typing issue but calling their own child "it" seems a bit cold.
I was thinking this too. While it's not right for sil and bil to teach the baby to call them momma and dadda, how long does the baby stay with them so he can have the comfort to call them that?
“It” is definitely strange but if the SIL offered to be the caretaker while the parents are working then that would be a frequent thing. A lot of people prefer to leave their children with family if they need to work. Some family members even offer. I was cared for by both my grandmothers 5 days a week when I was a baby. I was never encouraged to call them mama. I loved them both dearly but I never once thought they were my mom. The SIL is making a conscious effort to get the child to call her mama and that’s messed up.
I love the AITA threads! I probably read too many...😂 Story 1. NTA. It's kind of obvious to me that the infertility issues Laura has, has created a major psychological issue and she needs therapy. Her Husband needs to go too because he's enabling his wife's decision to try and brainwash a child. I personally probably wouldn't have cursed at them in that way, I would have been more like...Wtf? Why are you doing this? I don't feel comfortable with you being around my kid anymore, we're going no contact and then leave. The next day I would suggest they get couples therapy do deal with their infertility issues. I'm childfree and intend to stay that way!
I'm neurodivergent with sensitivities to sound (and single with no kids). My family has always denied any extraordinary sensitivity, and they just say I "have issues." Being around screaming babies and young kids triggers migraines, tightens my chest, causes all-over pain, and I'm juat too overwhelmed by it. They've never accepted my viceral reaction, they say I just "hate kids."
I cant come for holiday? Well she hates kids. She canceled again? She hates my kids. Can't make it to cheerleading competition? I'm not surprised, since she hates kids...My poor niece and nephew are going to grow up thinking I hate them, when I just live 8hrs away and can't make it to all of the events. (And I winced when they screamed at Christmas- which they never even noticed because...Christmas!)
When someone says they *can't* be around screaming babies/children: IMO, you're not the asshole. I understand. Just dont be a jerk about it.
I have ADHD and also have extreme sensitivity to sound. Ironically I’m a pre-K teacher and love kids! I just wear earplugs that muffle sound so I can still hear but the volume is turned down
@@sofiah1174 that's amazing!
@@libbybeliveau7506 thank you! I love my students 🥰
@@sofiah1174 aww good for you! I'm happy for you and for your students!! 😊
I’m sorry your family pushes you off like that. My 6yo daughter is ND, so it hurts my heart that you’re experiencing that. I try to be very aware of how she reacts to sound, as I’ve read that sound plays a big part to a lot of ND people, as well as sensitivity to it. She’s non-verbal still, but I’ve been able to figure out a few of her triggers through trial and error and general observation, and now know ones to avoid (for example, the tinny sound of old music on a record player REALLY discomforts her, so listen to them when she’s not around), but I’m still learning. It’s so upsetting and disrespectful that they just say you “have issues.”
You can’t just deprogram your sensitivities, and I hope your niece and nephew figure out that you DO love them dearly. ❤ Much love to you.
Robert doing AITAH reaction is all I wanted for Christmas 😁🤣
My first instinct as woman, is that this mother of the child has been leaving her kid to be babysat there way too often, and that the sister-in-law may slightly resent the mother of the baby because she can have her cake and eat it too. I don’t think it’s really much deeper than that judging by what the contributor wrote in. A baby wouldn’t call it auntie and uncle mama and Dada if it hadn’t spend loads of time with them and interacting in that way, I wonder if the sister-in-law is being passive aggressive in teaching the child to call her mama again as some sort of resentment that she was not able to have a child, but that the mother of the child has the best of both worlds: a child, the social praise of being a mother with a new baby, and all that online attention that she will get on her socials yet she can ditch the baby at the sister-in-law’s and go have mommy and daddy time. My two. Cents
Nope nope nope...as a mom, if someone else taught my child to call them mom/dad I would lose my shit. They would no longer be allowed to have contact with my kid.
Also, as a mom, if someone else's child is doing their best banshee's wail impression I would walk away.
The second one... My twins will be 1 this Saturday and they are amazing babies and rarely fuss. On Christmas eve we were celebrating with my inlaws and after a few hours the twins were getting tired and very fussy. His gramps grabbed my son before I could and started rocking him and I brought my daughter to the bed to lay her down. Then my husband's aunt came in to help and her daughter, but ultimately she wanted da da. Point of the story is it takes a village but you can't expect someone to be a member of your tribe. The brother is an AH for being so rude but the parents are also AHs for not excusing themselves
My cousin's daughter had colic and my mom took the baby and sent my cousin to spend time with family and my aunt's took turns as well. Not only it it horrible for the baby but also very hard on the parents. This can go on for months.
As a mom I totally understand needing to leave the room if a baby is screaming at the top of their lungs, it can definitely be a sensory overload and unbearable for other people. When my daughter cries in public I get so much anxiety because I dont want anyone to be mad at me 🥲 I try my best to hurry and quiet her down
Kids are sonic nightmares. I live half a block away from an elementary school as a nursing student who’s home during the day and the noises they make from the playground every afternoon have me so confused and terrified lol
The way babies can screech is one of my top 3 reasons I don't want kids since I have pretty severe sensory issues (mostly related to light and sound). I am absolutely empathetic towards tired parents who have become numb to their child's screams, but that empathy will diminish exponentially the second a parent acts like everyone should just put up with it. We all have to make little concessions to be around one another. I mean, I literally bring ear plugs with me everywhere in case there's an upset child because I know I'm sensitive to loud, high-pitched sounds. I feel like (so long as you're not an only parent with no help or stuck on a plane or something) it shouldn't be a huge ask for people to take their upset children to lower traffic areas to calm down, especially as the kid would probably appreciate the lowered stimulation as well!
The crying baby story is weird for me. I have 2 kids and when they were crying, I was trying to have some privacy to take care of them: the last think that a baby in pain needs, its a crowd looking at him doing nothing. And the last thing that you need, is a bunch of people telling you what they would do and how you are doing it wrong. The mom was probably exausted and angry for other reasons.
Am absolutely loving this channel!!
Oh wow, that first one. I ended up in a kind of similar situation, albeit not through any sort of actual attempt to encourage what happened, where one of my exes' children (10 year old son) started refusing to call his own Mum 'Mum' and called me Mum instead. My ex (total arsehole) and his ex wife (not much better) were so busy coming up with new and more vicious ways to take pot shots at one another during their divorce, that they essentially neglected their youngest child. So I thought I'd do the right thing and start spending some time with A (the son), and do stuff like take him to Archery practice, take him tadpoling, help him collect spiders and small lizards in the backyard and teach him about different animals and things like that. I wasn't trying to be his mother, I just wanted him to at least have a weekend (my ex had weekend visitation rights) where he had something to do besides listen to his parents screaming abuse at one another. Then he just up and randomly decides that I'm his mother now, and that other woman he used to call Mum, she's not really his mother, not anymore. It didn't matter what I tried to do to explain things to him, he remained steadfast that I was now his real Mum, and that other woman was basically an imposter. It got to the point where his actual Mum would come to pick him up at the end of his weekend visit, and he'd be clinging onto me screaming and sobbing, "Mum, don't let 'her' (his actual Mum) take me away".
Eventually his actual Mum blew up at me, and in the heat of the moment I decided to let both of them know what I really thought, ie that if they spent more time looking after their son instead of just attacking one another, then maybe he wouldn't have felt the need to find an alternate parental figure in his life. We almost ended up in a physical altercation; then she found a way to block the father's access visits entirely; I broke up with the father a few weeks later (there were threats of violence, the police had to get involved, it was a whole thing); and then my exes older daughter (who lived with him full time, and who I'd become good friends with) overheard him laughing and bragging to his new girlfriend how he'd basically used me and made a total fool of me for fun; so she threw his dinner his face and went to live with her grandparents.
End of story, the grandparents ended up getting temporary custody of both kids, and when B (the daughter) was old enough she applied for full custody of her brother and won the case. I ran into her one day about 20 years after this had all happened, and it turned out that once she'd gotten custody of her brother neither of them had spoken to or had any contact with their parents after that Also found out my ex was doing a 20 year stint in gaol for a particularly horrendous kidnapping and r***, gee what a great guy
B is a fucking hero. I hope she knows that and has lots of support🩷
Agree that there was more to the first story. Who calls their child “it”? The parents could have been neglectful/abusive.
@@ash-is-napping I should clarify that I didn't mean the same thing was happening with the case in AITA. I think there's a difference between actively encouraging someone else's child to call you Mum or Dad, and that child doing it spontaneously because they come to genuinely see you as a parental figure.
@@thebabythesavage She handled the whole situation brilliantly for someone that young. I wish we hadn't lost contact over the years, I'd love to know how her and A are doing today. Both of them would be hitting middle age now, I just hope they're lives have been good. :)
This video is great... and yes, we need more! I have kids...36 & 29yrs old. Screaming/crying kids/babies yes can be annoying even to the parents, yet as the parent you are the one who needs to deal with it. I would never subject others to my kids in that situation if it could be helped - every situation when a kid/baby cries is different ( like NOT taking them to dinner in a restaurant when they are hungry or tired or sick...OMG!) My standard rule, especially when shopping is they got 1 chance. I know it may sound harsh, but it only took 1 time to be hauled out of the grocery store if they were screaming/tantrum, i mean i had a full basket.. I left it in the middle of the store...and walked them outside to the car, with my husband and said now you will remain here until i am finished! (insert stern bad cop mom voice) I stuck by the rule my Mom taught me who was told by her dr at the time...raise your kids so when they go to someone;s house its oh, look who is here! Not oh no... So I have not so much been the AH but defiantly the stern bitch
Thanks Robert! You're a jewel
For the person who left the room with the screaming baby, I definitely lean NTA, depending on her tone when she said that she couldn't stand the sound. I would think it appropriate for the parent to take the child into another room and not force the whole family to suffer through the screaming. I think the baby's mom is an AH though for the way she reacted - she didn't need to bring up "a different girlfriend every week". I think that was irrelevant, judgemental, and out of line.
I think the tone probably had a lil edge to it that the sister might have ignored otherwise but since she’s probably exhausted from having a baby with colic, she let all her frustrations out on her sister. I don’t think it was right but I do think that the sister probably didn’t have the tact that she should’ve had and/or didn’t know that a comment like that could sting when she’s used to her sister getting her 8 hours
I’m a mom, a loss parent, and while I didn’t struggle with fertility, I did have to wait years after I decided I wanted children to even start trying due to finances and was constantly petrified that by the thought that by the time I found out I had fertility issues it would be too late. I can definitely empathize with the heartbreak that comes with realizing that there is a very real possibility that you might have a ton of kids but still never be able to hear them call you mama or dada, but what you never do is try to appropriate other people’s children. Just be honest that you’re struggling and ask for distance while you sort through your feelings. It’s still heartbreaking taking time away from the children in our life, but it’s so important not to use them as a way to fill the holes in our lives. Also, the “I’m in pain “ baby cry has evolved to be one of the worst sounds for an adult to hear. It’s ok to feel overwhelmed, and it’s completely ok to leave the room to re-group regardless of who the child is to you if overwhelmed.
That first story is definitely the plot of a lifetime movie.
I love the concept for this video! Sometimes I don't have the bandwidth for other topics like the "Alpha Males" or the "sexy TikTok chefs" you covered, but this hits. Your commentary is funny and so relatable, especially in these "AITA" scenarios. Please do more!
I had the same thing happen with me and my son when he was a baby. The dad’s sister kept having miscarriages and was very bitter that her brother had a baby before she did. I started to realize my son wouldn’t recognize me as his mom and let’s just say I had some nice words to say to the dad towards his sister and magic happened 😇
6:16 is 100% NTA. I absolutely cannot stand that shriek cry that kids and babies do. I have severe sensory issues and just cannot do it. She politely excused herself, period. Secondly, you can't force your baby on people. That might sound mean, but just because you're related, doesn't mean there's this automatic "care-giver" role now assigned to you where you're expected to spend time with a child. THEY had the baby, not you. Jfc they're the uptight ones in that situation.
My thoughts exactly! It didn't seem rude to me at all, just an explanation so the person wouldn't be leaving the room without saying anything lol. But then again I'm autistic and famously we don't always get politeness and rudeness right haha. But just the thought of this situation makes me wanna hide, my ears are so incredibly sensitive. My boyfriend has a toddler nephew who sometimes gets screaming fits and I swear it's as if needles are piercing my eardrums at light speed. Usually I suffer through it silently bc if I'd leave the room I know I wouldn't have it in me to come back xD (I'm so thankful neither my bf nor I want kids, I was kinda scared the nephew would awaken fatherly feelings in him when he was born but NOPE thank god xD)
Easy fix, you excuse yourself and leave without saying the baby is driving me nuts. Oh, Robert said it.
While i wouldn't call the OP's behaviour *sshole-ish, i would be concerned if this was a routine behavior. Yes, you don't really get a warning or a how-to on being an aunt/uncle, but i would say the main goal is to support your sibling in raising a kid and hopefully become an adult figure the kid knows they can count on. By you leaving the room when the kid is crying, not only does that send a message to your sibling that you dont have their back but it can also look like a lack an effort on the OP's part in actually trying to be involved in the kid's life. Now i don't mean to sound judgy (I'm actually more judgy of the aunt since i feel she overracting and not communicating her needs that well and just kept throwing insults) but there are some responsibilities when helping with child-rearing that I hope OP is doing like doing laundry, or making bottles, or cleaning, or whatever that helps the parents a little. That way, OP can still fulfill her role as an aunt whilst being unable to help with calming the baby down.
Yeah. I totally understand that it takes a village, and I'm against the blatant hate kids/babies tend to get online with people being incredibly rude or cruel to them. But OP excused themselves politely for a valid reason, and they're also not obligated to spend time with the baby.
@@chiderakalaji7206 (I am cis female) Personally I disagree. My parents had my sister, not me. My sister had the baby, not me. I am in no way shape or form expected to give ANY child support to my sibling if I don't want to. I am only the cherry on top that gives them the good presents and is fun to be around. I never once changed a diaper if my sister or her husband was around. I obviously did if I offered to babysit, I am not a monster that would let a child sit in its waste for hours after all. I really think it's outrageous to think that just because I am family that I have any additional responsibilities as an aunt. And I have an amazing sister who also understood that and never once demanded that I help, of course she has asked but would respect whatever answer I gave her because she knows that her child is her responsibility. I have when people try to force me to hold a paper Call me a b*itch but the sister is NTA and its not her responsibility at all. Some of us just really don't like kids and that's ok (as long as we don't produce them!) and if you like kids and want to help that is wonderful and I hope you get to have that.
Parents have to be aware that if you're not used to being around children and their crying and other antics, it can become overwhelming very quickly.
A parent may not be able to do anything about it, but at least acknowledge that it can be a lot.
Robert, I liked this a lot.
In my family usually if a baby/child is screaming for longer one of the parents will take them to another room or a few steps away from everyone at family gatherings. I thought that this would be normal because others may be having conversations and the crying is uncomfortable for everyone and maybe it’s also soothing for the child to be in a quieter environment. (At least that would be my first impulse to do)
I absolutely love this Robert content 💜💜💜
The very courteous petty is exactly what I need in my life!
As someone that was born with lifelong GERD (along with other problems like pneumonia that made me a failure to thrive baby), my mom went through hell raising me. She even pulled the risky maneuver of having me sleep with her because she was so afraid of me vomiting in my sleep and aspirating it if I was left alone. But I don’t think she would ever force someone to listen to me cry and scream.
Also to add my input to the first one, that is so messed up. My aunt is unable to have children and she loves me and my siblings dearly, but she never tried to make us believe or say that she was our mother. I know the term is most associated with and used to describe pfiles, but the that couple was by definition (via the manipulation and exploitation route) grooming the son into believing he was actually their son. That couple needs counseling at least, but they are definitely dangerous to keep around the son until he becomes old enough to not be manipulated into believing he’s theirs.
I just realized I have the fucking coolest brother and sister in law ever. I have NEVER wanted kids, no maternal instinct, don't think babies are cute, don't care about other people's kid's photos that they always just show you after meeting them for 5 seconds. My brother and SIL have a daughter, my niece, and she barely ever cries or throw tantrums. BUT when she does and I inevitably scowl and leave the room, they just giggle. But in my defense, I do love my niece, I just don't feel it's my job to take care of her and fawn over her when she freaks tf out for whatever reason, that is the parent's job. And her parents have no problem whatsoever with me making an audible "Oh GAWD, I'm out" when she starts to throw a tantrum. The funny part is, I ignore her most of the time, yet I am her most favorite person in the whole world, she always always talks about "Auntie Amy" so now, when she freaks out, I'll be REALLY overexaggerated with my disgust and maske a comment about "nobody likes when people scream and cry over losing a hand of go fish, no one is going to want to be around a person like that, no one else does that" and she literally just stops crying instantly, LMAO, because her Auntie Amy just told her that it's not cool to act like that! Of course, if she starts crying because she is sick or in pain, that is completely different and I do comfort her, call her parents if she was spending the night at mine if she wants, you know, like a normal human being, but those tantrums when theyre four and five? HELL no!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That first story is so sad. Confusing the baby during CRITICAL learning moments. I am with the dad
The student edit part killed me!! With you (Robert) talking over random studying and partying scenes!!
This AITA recap is exactly what I needed today, lol. Thank you, Robert!
this is the PERFECT direction for you robert! 💜
You replying to r/AITA is something I had no idea I needed in my life... but now I cannot live without it!
Can I just say that it is really refreshing to listen to someone read from this subreddit who hasn't had their brain rotted yet from reading it too much
That girl is a grown adult. If she can't remember her keys, that's on her.
The first couple is clearly leaving the baby with the sister too often. Now they may need a restraining order - very weird.
I am so here for Roberts React Era! That last story most definitely not the asshole that roommate sounds like a nightmare. 😅
I’m really enjoying these videos and I wish they were longer.
Same! I love AITA
gosh i love the AITA subreddit, the gift that keeps on giving
What in the hand that rocks the cradle is this🤣
We need these types of videos ALL the time! I love them. Your honesty is the best part!
The final story resonated so hard with me. I met my current best friend in college and were roommates. We had a third roommate who was very much as inconsiderate as the roommate in the reddit story. She would be out all night, walk in at 4 or 5 AM in stiletto heels that clacked noisily on our tile floor, would turn on her light (we did not have separate rooms, it was a shared space, so yes, this would wake us if her heels didn't). She would proceed to cross the entire space between her bed (farthest from the bathroom) and then use her electric toothbrush (noisiest little thing) and then go back to her space and turn ON her TV. Again, all at 4 or 5 in the morning on school days! My friend and I endured this for a week before deciding we were done with it. We wrote a cordial note to her together and were polite. We made suggestions like taking her heels off before coming in, using headphones to watch her tv, and maybe just turning her desk lamp on instead of the entire overhead light. We were not disrespectful, we just wanted to not be woken up hours before our first class. We didn't see her when she read the note but the day after we left it in her room, she moved out without a word to us. Obviously, this worked to our benefit and we weren't sorry to see her go, we didn't even get to know her that well. Roommates can absolutely suck sometimes.
I'm childfree but I'm an animal person. if I think of the colic story in terms of if my dog wouldn't stop barking and somebody said they couldn't stand it and had to leave, I'd totally get it. hell, people have straight up said that about my (clean, just naturally musky) ferret's smell. I love it but I know it's not for everybody!
then again, I'm autistic so straightforwardness is what's polite to me, and false excuses I'd regard as impolite. still, I think the mother getting so bent out of shape is probably either projected stress (stress being understandable, taking it out on someone not fair at all however), or that delusional thing parents sometimes have that their child is a perfect miracle that should be fawned over by all. like, I'm always friendly to kids but come on lol
The first one is weird but how much time is your child spending with their aunt to be confused about who their mother and father are
Ha! I love these subjects. Weighing in about he screaming baby, as someone who doesn’t like kids, doesn’t want kids, I’m with you Robert. People who have kids get desensitized to their kids annoying behavior that inconveniences other people. We need to stop demonizing people who can’t or won’t want to be around loud, annoying kids. Period. Your kid’s issues shouldn’t become everyone else’s issues too.
Yes! I will never get mad at a baby for crying, but I expect parents to never get mad at me for removing myself from the vicinity of it crying. There have unfortunately been cases of an otherwise loving parent who reaches a breaking point and snaps and kills their child because they just sort of lose it and didn't get a break when they needed it. Not acknowledging how much stress a loud, screaming baby can be for a person isn't helpful to anyone.
I agree and disagree. My youngest daughter has special needs and can have meltdowns when she becomes over stimulated. I have to take her to the store with me sometimes. Its not ideal and its really difficult but we have just as much of a right to exist in public as other people do. People can be so mean and intolerant. It breaks my heart when people say mean things to my daughter as if she's crying because she's bad. I make a big effort to make trips at quieter times of the day and to bring lots of coping and soothing tools to minimize the likelihood of any issues. I often abandon my shopping and leave if a meltdown is bad. Many times the trips go perfectly fine but sometimes they don't. Many people generally seem to have the mentality that their right to not be inconvenienced or annoyed in public supercedes the right of others to exist in public.
Being part of society means that sometimes inevitably you will have to be around loud sounds, behavior that annoys you and be inconvenienced by others. I do not think people who want to remove themselves from the situation or don't like or want to be around it are bad people at all. I totally understand meltdowns are not pleasant to be around trust me. its the people who pass judgement without knowing anything and think they are sticking it to a shitty parent when in reality they are just harassing a disabled child and their parent who are just doing the best they can. People have yelled things at me, at my 4 year old daughter and laid their hands on my daughter before all because they heard loud crying in the line at the grocery store. That is never acceptable, and those people are the ones who I demonize.
As much as I don’t like kids, I would never go out of my way to be cruel to one. Especially if they have special needs. I have nieces and nephews and 1 has special needs so I completely understand about the meltdowns. I’m not one of those people that will be cruel to a kid. BUT if a kid is being a brat , just to be a brat, while the parents ignore them throwing tantrums, I have a problem with that. And while, yes, of course you have the right exist with your child, you don’t have more rights than someone who chooses not to have children. If someone chooses not to be in a room with a kid who’s crying or screaming uncontrollably that doesn’t make them an a-hole.
@@thelmaankney9812 seems like our views align and I agree 😊
I find the issue often is people just dont stop to consider invisible disabilities and make snap judgements. The experience seems universal atleast in the parent support groups I attend and it makes me sad. I completely understand people not wanting to be around it and also said that doesn't make people bad people at all. It's the people who take it a step further. And there's many who do and a lot double down even after you explain that your child has special needs.
It's really hard to tell from a short public interaction which children may have special needs and emotional disregulation and which don't so its better to just let folks be and not assume.
Definitely need more AITA reaction content 🤣 loved this.
Since I was an extreme doormat my freshman year and let my roommates walk all over me to the point of mental breakdown, I gave zero craps about roommates from my sophomore year onward, and definitely ignored all pounding on the door when keys were forgotten specifically because the RA existed. I can't even imagine the audacity of someone expecting one to drop everything to rush home from work/class/parents' house. And during Quiet Week, too?! She's lucky an irritated dorm neighbor didn't step into the hall to cuss her out!!
“But I’m also really super nosy and I love to read other people’s business!!” highly relatable 😂🖤 the only thing better is you reading it to me and commenting!
about the second one, as a person really sensitive to sounds i never really thought of it as rude to just say when loud noises are bothering you and you have to leave, i can't even think and sometimes even have trouble breathing, I'm basically in fight or flight if it's too loud, or too bright for that matter lol
Please do more of these! I love these! Hell, it's because I'm nosey too.😂
working in retail and hearing a screaming baby is beyond irritating and then being told “it’s not so bad, the parent has to deal with it more”
so?! doesn’t mean i want to hear it
The dancing at that "college party" during your voice over 😂 Hilarious!
please make this a regular series!
Robert I’m loving this channel!! And this video in particular. I could watch you reacting to Reddit threads ALL day. Please do more!
Whenever I go into a certain supermarket, every time there is a kid who screams to the full capacity of their lungs and the parents seem to do nada. I now shop elsewhere, too often people make a lifestyle choice and think I should be part of that. Huge thank you to those parents though that try to calm their kids down and appreciate how annoying it is to others!!!
Absolutely this. I was once at a restaurant with my own family and there was a second one coming in - small boy around 5y and a toddler in a high chair who was fussy and screaming from time to time. Honestly, if your kid is that young and fussy please do everyone a favour and do NOT dine in an enclosed restaurant. Just wait a couple more months until the kid can behave appropriately otherwise it's torture for the kid AND the people around them.
With the crying baby, they could have just said they needed to use the bathroom
I need a million more of these videos
The first one sounds like the start of a psycho thriller. Would never again let them alone with the child.
I’m a parent of four grown children and I can’t stand hearing a child scream and scream and scream! We can only tolerate our own kid’s screams!
As a parent of small children I actually agree with your comments on the first 2! I do wish people without kids could all be like you - like “I’m not having kids myself but I’ll be empathetic to the parents and nice to kids”. Love that! Everyone I know who doesn’t have kids by choice is so rude! Like yes you don’t like kids but they are human beings. Treat them nicely, and be a bit more patient with the parents. No parent is trying to spite another person by deliberately making their child scream around them. Hell, most parents also hate the sound of their kids screaming. And a lot of mothers have extreme anxiety about it!
But yeah I agree with your comments!
oh my god i love this already, AITA comes up on my fyp all the time and i love seeing other people actually reacting to it
The range that Robert has as a human being is so awesome. This video was great! Thank you!! Happy New Year, y'all!
Regarding the crying baby, I can see if OP was being honest and non judge mental “hey this crying is really getting me I need to step away” being just fine. But I don’t hold the sister’s reaction too much against her, she was probably also overstimulated.
The fact that this is different enough from other 'AITA' reads JUST because of the way that Robert pronounces it 'Aaarrrsehole' instead of 'Ass-hole' is so funny to me. Yes I'm English, it's just usually US/Canadian AITA videos I watch.
Awww, your voice reminded me of when you read the ghost stories 😢 MISS the spectrum channel 🖤👻👻👻🖤
I can see both sides from the sisters and the baby with colics, but since the sister has no baby and can't stand the crying, she forgets that even if you are a mum, the crying is still just as exhausting, all day, every day. My guess is that the mum was hurt and lashed out because of this and being exhausted. As long as the childless one would have a hard time puttig themself in the others situation, the best thing would have been to just avoid harsh words
Please do more of these! Hilarious 😂
I'm glad your new channel was recommended to me. Please do this AITA content again. I'm here for it. ❤
Gosh it's nice that you are so kind and toughtfull about every case.
Your responses are very empathetic and reasonable :)
The first one sounds like they’re dropping “it” off so often that they’re practically the parents but both sides are out of pocket 😂
I took the 'it' as the poster not being a native english speaker tbh (just something I have observed a lot)
It’s been such a blast watching you expand your content! I love this channel!
For the second one, I’m also not a child friendly human. Whenever I need to get away from children, I leave without saying anything, and if someone asks I tell them I have to go #2 very badly and might be a while. Or have to go home/to my own hotel room/ far away to use my own toilet in peace. Works like a charm every time, and now no one asks me anymore (pretty sure they also think I’m just always crapping my pants, but so worth it)
I actually had pretty similar issues with a roommate my freshman year of college as the redit poster. Our dorms were new that year and used our Student ID cards to get into the building and rooms. She would leave super early in the morning without her card and come back shortly after forgetting it all the time. You would think just you would always make sure you had your Student ID with you especially if that’s how you are supposed to access your room. She would also stay up late in our shared living room area and watch videos or listen to music on her laptop without her headphones on. I have a hard time sleeping with videos playing so I would ask if she could use her headphones and she would always say she lost them or couldn’t find them and that’s why she didn’t use them 🙄. I swear I was cursed with roommates because every year I had a bad experience. I had a roommate one time that would set the temp in our room at 85 F degrees when it was August in Texas! That’s insane!
I wish there were ghost stories. I miss those!
People with children need to have enough manners to remove the crying child from the room without making others uncomfortable
Robert reacting to AITA thread from reddit is the type of content I didn't know I needed in my life up until now! Please make this a regular thing!!
I love reading these. They make me feel better about my own overreactions.
As someone with ADHD and hearing issues, the sound of kids crying/being too loud can get especially frustrating for me from time-to-time. It can be very distracting, and when I can’t focus or when the kids’ noise drown out the other person I’m talking to, I get extremely frustrated. My frustration tends to be with the parents who don’t enforce the concept of “inside voice” more so than with babies, as you can’t really teach them the concept of “inside voice” just yet.
The aunt was 100% in the right for taking herself out of the situation, but she probably should’ve phrased it a little better. Saying something like “I’m sorry, I need to step outside for a second” or just getting up quietly and stepping away will cause less of a scene than referring to a baby’s cries as annoying, even if she meant it specifically towards the noise and not the baby themself.
❤ love these videos!! I agree with you on all of them. Makes me feel super blessed to not have people like this in my life!! Honestly, Robert, I could listen to you read a dictionary for hours on end. And I truly love your perspective and reactions !❤