Hi there, I just found your channel today. 😊 I've been teaching young children for several years and I still struggle with the challenging behaviors. What do you recommend for when a 5 year old child shouts whenever she doesn't like something/doesn't get her way or also does it randomly for attention? She is definitely an attention seeker at times but does get tons of positive attention at school.
Hi! Sorry to get back to you so late! I've found that this type of behaviour is common among children that feel a little inadequate in their surroundings. It might be because they find the activities too challenging or perhaps because they can't express themselves verbally as they would like. This can lead to having less friends than desired which doesn't help to feel good about oneself. I've also noticed that children who don't get enough rest tend to be more prone to this behaviour. Talk to the child's parents about his/her sleep habits and if they eat an adequate breakast before school (sometimes hunger can be a trigger, too.) In the classroom you might want to give him/her chores of responsability to boost self-esteem. Remember to always answer in a calm voice... count to ten :-) I hope this helps! Keep me posted!
Hi Adriana I just read your reply thank you a lot! Unfortunately they didn’t understand poorly because one of their Italian friends was translating for them so unfortunately it wasn’t a miss translation and they actually discriminated this poor girl just because she’s Russian!!!! It’s really incredible and thanks again for helping us! You are great and I really don’t understand why people who usually make content for children ignore children and discriminate them for no reason! Yes they are young but I don’t think that ever justify discriminating a child just because of her nationality! She’s been traumatized for days but of course even if they did say it they didn’t even apologize! If it was a miss translation then I wouldn’t have been so mad but unfortunately it wasn’t because someone was translating for my Russian friend so that group should have at least apologized! Of course I’m not saying you justified them because you actually didn’t but I can’t believe that they would do this to this young girl just because she is Russian!
yes, it is indeed a terrible thing if they actually did that... I was hoping in a misinterpretation... :-( I agree with you that being young is no excuse, but it does come with inexperience and lack of tact sometimes... It is a very sad situation; poor child! Were they able to complain to someone? I don't know, the organizer of the event, their manager, somebody?
@@adrianacantisani well Adri , they did but me contro te denyed everything but in the end they just got told not to discriminate anyone again and that was it
Happy 2nd of June Adri, thanks again! So, is it right on my part and her parents’ to try to teach the child songs that aren’t by youtubers or entertain her in other ways? We hope so! What are your thoughts on that? Please tell me! The first song she learned which wasn’t by a youtuber was from my childhood and we had fun, sometimes her parents try to get her off UA-cam, is that right????
thank you! same to you :-) I think it's a great idea to teach her songs from your childhood; it's a great way to pass on cultural heritage and traditions. I also think that at age 7 she should not be on the internet (unless, of course, with her parents beside her.)
Hi. Thank you so much for the video. I have a question. If I try to correct some behaviors I see in children, and they are still not very fluent in English should I adress them in their native language or English? I watched one of your previous video, where you explained that it is a common mistake to switch between 2 languages.
Hi Daniela, good question! I guess my answer would be "it depends" and what I mean is whether we want a "quick fix" or we want to leave a "lasting impression." Let me explain with an example that happened just last week with a new class of five year-olds. Situation 1: A child spit on another child's painting and I used only English saying with a serious face that we don't spit in the classroom, that it is not respectful, etc.... I also asked him to get up, get a piece of tissue paper to clean it, and to shake hands with his friend and apologise... all this in English because the child understood from my facial expression, tone of voice, demeanor, etc. what the message was. Situation 2: transitioning from one activity to another, a child did not want to stop coloring to come and play a game with the rest of the class because she was "not finished." In English, I told her she could finish later and to come play. She did not want to so I allowed her to sit out the game but I did not allow her to continue coloring (because I had already said NO and could not go back on my word.) At first she was frowning and turning away from the class, ignoring us. After a while, she decided to join in the game (and enjoyed it.) When class was over, I broke my rule of "only English" with her: I told her in Italian that I was very happy that she had joined us because it's fun to play together and she is well-loved by the class and by me and so it made us happy that she joined us, that working together is so much funner than sitting alone.... I said it in Italian because I wanted it to be a "life-lesson" and not a quick fix like explaing a class rule like no spitting, for example. I wanted to make sure she understood that I was not angry that she did not want to play and that she is loved/accepted if I don't approve of a behaviour. I hope that helps! Out of curiosity, where are you from?
I hope you help us and I also hope you have an amazing day! Please whatever you say is OK remember that! Even if either me or her parents are doing something wrong you can tell us we won’t be offended! That’s why we’re turning to you to know what we should do and how we should act so don’t worry about anything just please help us! That’s all
@@adrianacantisani HI Adriana complimenti per il video di tata Adriana di sos tata da cristiano saluta al mio cuginetto si chiama Michele e ha 9 mesi e mezzo e nato il 7 agosto sto facendo il babysitter adesso sono educatore dei bambini sono diplomato in servizi socio sanitari
Hi Adriana, I don’t know if you have responded to me or not however I’ll write you again since my PC deleted what I have previously written to you! I need your help for my Russian friends seven year old daughter! I’m teaching her Italian with your tips and she’s learning very well but been trying to listen to songs in Italian because she loves singing so much and basically she ran into a group called me contro te and she started watching that groups videos because they also published videos for children in that kind of stuff which we thought was harmless because it was just content for children and we didn’t realize what was behind it! Turns out that before the pandemic she went to one of the groups events at which that UA-cam group discriminated her for being Russian and even if time has passed and she mostly smiles in this happy sometimes she thinks about it again and she tries watching other UA-camrs but afterwords she’s afraid that they might do the same to her! She doesn’t know how else to spend her time and her parents think that by watching other UA-camrs she is basically learning to move on from what they sent to her so they let her but they noticed that she’s always afraid of being discriminated because of what the two UA-camrs I previously mentioned did to her so her parents don’t know what to do and I don’t know what to do so if you have any tips please write me back! I don’t know if you are reading Adriana but please if you are tell me what we should do!! I’m trying to help as best as I can but it’s hard because it is hard to deal with that kind of stuff so I’m asking you please help us! We are desperate but we know how great you are with kids and how much experience you have so we decided to turn to you for help! If you can help us please respond to me! They said she is seven and I cannot really go into details about what happened because I can’t reveal so much about the family but I’ll tell you what I can! The families from Russia but they migrated to Eataly when the child was still a baby because they just couldn’t find work in the Russian town they live thin and the child it’s very curious and she wanted to learn Italian as soon as she could talk but her parents taught her Russian first because it’s their mother tongue so they wanted to teach her her mother tongue first! As I said she loves singing so she always listen to Italian children’s songs but someone who wasn’t me because I didn’t know the group back then mentioned the group to the family saying it would be very educational and great for their child so of course the family believed it but the child soon grew to be there number one fan and loved them so much! One day they went to this event at which they were supposed to meet them and the child was very excited however as soon as she met them they ignored her and then they whispered to her that they did not want to speak to any children from Russia however they couldn’t get caught on camera because it all happened too quickly and the child hates being recorded on video because she’s shy so the parents just couldn’t record what was happening! After the incident she cried for days and I was the one always comforting her! Do you her I would like a big sister to be honest and I love her like a sister! My aunt is Russian and they are her friends but they also became my friends! So as I was saying after a few weeks she move Don but we know that we left her a very big! Now she’s afraid of watching! And then she expresses her fear because then she remembers what happened to her at that event! I don’t know what to do with Marc please give us some tips
Hi Lara, I had never heard of these two until you mentioned them so I can't really give you a precise answer. I did take a look at their FB page and there are some controversial posts (by parents) on there. Take a look. It's very difficult to be an "influencer", which is what you become when you do tv/videos; I think it's even more difficult to be an influencer for children (yes, unfortunately, even if you don't want to be, you become an influencer to the children who watch you.) Great responsibility comes with the job. These two are very young. That is not a negative thing per sé but I don't know who or if they have a team behind them that decides/filters/corrects/makes appropriate for young ears/brains the content they produce. It's very important that parents have watche A LOT of the content their kids will be watching (not just one episode, for example) before determining that it is ok. I've very sorry for the bad experience the little girl had; are you sure it went as you say? Could the parents (whom, I assume, speak poor Italian) have understood exactly what they said to her? Could there have been some misinterpretation? I'm sorry I cannot be more of help.
Hey everyone! If you have any topic you would like me to explore in my next video, please let me know! Happy teaching!
Hi there, I just found your channel today. 😊 I've been teaching young children for several years and I still struggle with the challenging behaviors. What do you recommend for when a 5 year old child shouts whenever she doesn't like something/doesn't get her way or also does it randomly for attention? She is definitely an attention seeker at times but does get tons of positive attention at school.
Hi! Sorry to get back to you so late! I've found that this type of behaviour is common among children that feel a little inadequate in their surroundings. It might be because they find the activities too challenging or perhaps because they can't express themselves verbally as they would like. This can lead to having less friends than desired which doesn't help to feel good about oneself. I've also noticed that children who don't get enough rest tend to be more prone to this behaviour. Talk to the child's parents about his/her sleep habits and if they eat an adequate breakast before school (sometimes hunger can be a trigger, too.) In the classroom you might want to give him/her chores of responsability to boost self-esteem. Remember to always answer in a calm voice... count to ten :-) I hope this helps! Keep me posted!
@@adrianacantisani Thank you for your reply! 🙂 I appreciate it. I'll keep you posted.
@@MissSuesSkills4Success great!
Hi Adriana I just read your reply thank you a lot! Unfortunately they didn’t understand poorly because one of their Italian friends was translating for them so unfortunately it wasn’t a miss translation and they actually discriminated this poor girl just because she’s Russian!!!! It’s really incredible and thanks again for helping us! You are great and I really don’t understand why people who usually make content for children ignore children and discriminate them for no reason! Yes they are young but I don’t think that ever justify discriminating a child just because of her nationality! She’s been traumatized for days but of course even if they did say it they didn’t even apologize! If it was a miss translation then I wouldn’t have been so mad but unfortunately it wasn’t because someone was translating for my Russian friend so that group should have at least apologized! Of course I’m not saying you justified them because you actually didn’t but I can’t believe that they would do this to this young girl just because she is Russian!
yes, it is indeed a terrible thing if they actually did that... I was hoping in a misinterpretation... :-( I agree with you that being young is no excuse, but it does come with inexperience and lack of tact sometimes... It is a very sad situation; poor child! Were they able to complain to someone? I don't know, the organizer of the event, their manager, somebody?
@@adrianacantisani well Adri , they did but me contro te denyed everything but in the end they just got told not to discriminate anyone again and that was it
@@Masha-nk1xf that is terrible :-/
Happy 2nd of June Adri, thanks again! So, is it right on my part and her parents’ to try to teach the child songs that aren’t by youtubers or entertain her in other ways? We hope so! What are your thoughts on that? Please tell me! The first song she learned which wasn’t by a youtuber was from my childhood and we had fun, sometimes her parents try to get her off UA-cam, is that right????
thank you! same to you :-) I think it's a great idea to teach her songs from your childhood; it's a great way to pass on cultural heritage and traditions. I also think that at age 7 she should not be on the internet (unless, of course, with her parents beside her.)
Hi. Thank you so much for the video. I have a question. If I try to correct some behaviors I see in children, and they are still not very fluent in English should I adress them in their native language or English? I watched one of your previous video, where you explained that it is a common mistake to switch between 2 languages.
Hi Daniela, good question! I guess my answer would be "it depends" and what I mean is whether we want a "quick fix" or we want to leave a "lasting impression." Let me explain with an example that happened just last week with a new class of five year-olds. Situation 1: A child spit on another child's painting and I used only English saying with a serious face that we don't spit in the classroom, that it is not respectful, etc.... I also asked him to get up, get a piece of tissue paper to clean it, and to shake hands with his friend and apologise... all this in English because the child understood from my facial expression, tone of voice, demeanor, etc. what the message was. Situation 2: transitioning from one activity to another, a child did not want to stop coloring to come and play a game with the rest of the class because she was "not finished." In English, I told her she could finish later and to come play. She did not want to so I allowed her to sit out the game but I did not allow her to continue coloring (because I had already said NO and could not go back on my word.) At first she was frowning and turning away from the class, ignoring us. After a while, she decided to join in the game (and enjoyed it.) When class was over, I broke my rule of "only English" with her: I told her in Italian that I was very happy that she had joined us because it's fun to play together and she is well-loved by the class and by me and so it made us happy that she joined us, that working together is so much funner than sitting alone.... I said it in Italian because I wanted it to be a "life-lesson" and not a quick fix like explaing a class rule like no spitting, for example. I wanted to make sure she understood that I was not angry that she did not want to play and that she is loved/accepted if I don't approve of a behaviour. I hope that helps! Out of curiosity, where are you from?
Thank you for the tips!
I'm glad they help!
I hope you help us and I also hope you have an amazing day! Please whatever you say is OK remember that! Even if either me or her parents are doing something wrong you can tell us we won’t be offended! That’s why we’re turning to you to know what we should do and how we should act so don’t worry about anything just please help us! That’s all
I answered your other post :-)
Ciao! Volevo chiedere se Lei fa anche lezioni online per adulti? Grazie
No, sorry! Mi dispiace, solo bambini :-) Gli unici adulti che insegno sono quelli che vogliono diventare insegnanti di inglese per i bambini. 😀
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@@adrianacantisani HI Adriana complimenti per il video di tata Adriana di sos tata da cristiano saluta al mio cuginetto si chiama Michele e ha 9 mesi e mezzo e nato il 7 agosto sto facendo il babysitter adesso sono educatore dei bambini sono diplomato in servizi socio sanitari
grazie! un bacino virtuale a Michele!
Really hard to say, I love them all!
@@adrianacantisani Grazie Cara 😘😘😘
Thank you again please write soon
done :-)
Hi Adriana, I don’t know if you have responded to me or not however I’ll write you again since my PC deleted what I have previously written to you! I need your help for my Russian friends seven year old daughter! I’m teaching her Italian with your tips and she’s learning very well but been trying to listen to songs in Italian because she loves singing so much and basically she ran into a group called me contro te and she started watching that groups videos because they also published videos for children in that kind of stuff which we thought was harmless because it was just content for children and we didn’t realize what was behind it! Turns out that before the pandemic she went to one of the groups events at which that UA-cam group discriminated her for being Russian and even if time has passed and she mostly smiles in this happy sometimes she thinks about it again and she tries watching other UA-camrs but afterwords she’s afraid that they might do the same to her! She doesn’t know how else to spend her time and her parents think that by watching other UA-camrs she is basically learning to move on from what they sent to her so they let her but they noticed that she’s always afraid of being discriminated because of what the two UA-camrs I previously mentioned did to her so her parents don’t know what to do and I don’t know what to do so if you have any tips please write me back! I don’t know if you are reading Adriana but please if you are tell me what we should do!! I’m trying to help as best as I can but it’s hard because it is hard to deal with that kind of stuff so I’m asking you please help us! We are desperate but we know how great you are with kids and how much experience you have so we decided to turn to you for help! If you can help us please respond to me! They said she is seven and I cannot really go into details about what happened because I can’t reveal so much about the family but I’ll tell you what I can! The families from Russia but they migrated to Eataly when the child was still a baby because they just couldn’t find work in the Russian town they live thin and the child it’s very curious and she wanted to learn Italian as soon as she could talk but her parents taught her Russian first because it’s their mother tongue so they wanted to teach her her mother tongue first! As I said she loves singing so she always listen to Italian children’s songs but someone who wasn’t me because I didn’t know the group back then mentioned the group to the family saying it would be very educational and great for their child so of course the family believed it but the child soon grew to be there number one fan and loved them so much! One day they went to this event at which they were supposed to meet them and the child was very excited however as soon as she met them they ignored her and then they whispered to her that they did not want to speak to any children from Russia however they couldn’t get caught on camera because it all happened too quickly and the child hates being recorded on video because she’s shy so the parents just couldn’t record what was happening! After the incident she cried for days and I was the one always comforting her! Do you her I would like a big sister to be honest and I love her like a sister! My aunt is Russian and they are her friends but they also became my friends! So as I was saying after a few weeks she move Don but we know that we left her a very big! Now she’s afraid of watching! And then she expresses her fear because then she remembers what happened to her at that event! I don’t know what to do with Marc please give us some tips
Hi Lara, I had never heard of these two until you mentioned them so I can't really give you a precise answer. I did take a look at their FB page and there are some controversial posts (by parents) on there. Take a look. It's very difficult to be an "influencer", which is what you become when you do tv/videos; I think it's even more difficult to be an influencer for children (yes, unfortunately, even if you don't want to be, you become an influencer to the children who watch you.) Great responsibility comes with the job. These two are very young. That is not a negative thing per sé but I don't know who or if they have a team behind them that decides/filters/corrects/makes appropriate for young ears/brains the content they produce. It's very important that parents have watche A LOT of the content their kids will be watching (not just one episode, for example) before determining that it is ok. I've very sorry for the bad experience the little girl had; are you sure it went as you say? Could the parents (whom, I assume, speak poor Italian) have understood exactly what they said to her? Could there have been some misinterpretation? I'm sorry I cannot be more of help.