Omg!!! You are BEAUTIFUL... You are Right !!! Shut up!! Love it!! You are So funny ! And love your voice... I am on here because YOU GIVE SO MUCH ENCOURAGEMENT.. I Think people who are Relationship coaches who have Disclaimers!! .. To Me that’s controlling and So wrong!! Over and over again this person does this... !! Why ? .. We aren’t Math problems .. Why am I wrong for wanting a man who I loved.. Oh so times were difficult.. So I am suppose to throw them away? That’s why the divorces in United States are so high because people just give up ... When you love it’s Patience and kindness .. I Love through thick and thin .. So I am a CODEPENDENT.. well if I am then why aren’t I jumping from relationship to relationship.. sure I did this as a teenager.. And there’s something wrong with me that my ex made me Happy.. ? Isn’t that is what life is about.. We loved each other and we are getting back together.. we are all DIFFERENT WHAT WORKS FOR ME IS WHAT I WANT .. I am not mentally challenged that I wanted my ex back .. In fact it means that I am Faithful and Love with all that I am.. ❤️♥️
PLEASE know that "No Contact" really works. You have to pray earnestly, apply "No Contact" and keep busy. Work on yourself. Learn from this unfortunate "break-up". Listen to every one of Coach Lee's videos. Continue to pray earnestly. Watch what happens!!! Thank you, Coach Lee!!! Sooooooo much!!!
This is very appropriate for so many situations. Especially talking about intimacy. My ex and I are spending a day together tomorrow, and spending the whole day talking about issues is obviously not the answer. Focusing on having a positive moment- a positive memory- helps more than anything else in the world. Yes, just "shut up" can be a great help. I can highly recommend Coach Lee and his emergency kit. I went through No Contact and it does work if you follow Coach Lee's advice. We are talking now when we were not talking at all back in November. So it does work if you follow his advice!
No contact works !! He broke up with me and reached out saying he missed me . Now we are spending time again. I need to take this advice and keep it slow going . No labels ..he assured me he is not seeing anyone . I dont want to be used for sex .
This video is just what I need. I’ve been trying to talk about the issue with my ex and it only makes the situation worse. Now, I’m not bringing it up anymore and trying my best to be upbeat and patient. I really hope he will have feelings for me again. I never want to give up on this guy. Thank you a lot couch Lee and wish me luck!
THANK YOU!!!! I was recently (about 2 months ago) ghosted by my bf of 5 years for no explanation. I went into no contact as I was honestly just shocked. I initially felt guilty for not having tried more, but I your advice is pure GOLD. Thank you, thank you!!
Communication seems to be the panacea prescribed most often by therapists/counselors but you are right-----an atmosphere of peace instead of constant talking will go a long way in soothing conflict and reducing stress.
I'd be really careful w/ "acting like a couple" but not being one. A lot of pple in these situations end up finding out that the bf/gf is seeing someone else/ having sex w/ someone else and technically they're justified in doing that because "we're not in a relationship"
Exactly what happened to me. He actually used that phrase to his advantage when it was convenient so that he could get away with hurting me. Now i am back in NC. Honestly, i can't wait for the heartache to go away so i can move on and never look back.
Coach, longer hair looks great 👍. This was me last year and I didn’t want to open a can of worms by bringing up the talk. Things were great in my opinion and we had peace and he pursued me, but a month ago he told me he’s in a relationship with someone else. I was shocked! I needed answers, but naturally I didn’t get any so I just went into no contact. I’m still hopeful... P.S he seemed to enjoy hurting me by telling me we didn’t need to have a talk about him being in a relationship with someone else.
Ozger Sahin, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is excellent. It has EVERYTHING in it that will help you immensely. It's POWERFUL and has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Wow!!! Be selective. Focus on positive interaction. Focus on the moment. Time of healing and re-attraction. Peace, healing, listening. Don't try to push for title.
I'm so thankful I have found your videos. I did make the mistakes in the beginning of our separation. I stopped and he is now spending at least one evening in our home with me overnight. He has softened some but it is super hard being in limbo and not bringing up getting him back home. It is torture living like this. I'm trying to be patient and allow the time for him to see the positive changes will stick.
When my ex broke up with me, i accepted it and immediately went to no contact. After 2 weeks he started messaging me random things (links, memes etc) like we did when we were together. After a month he would come over to my house every week and we would have fun, eat, watch movies and have sex. I never mentioned anything about our relationship. Almost 3 months later I started feeling that he only comes to me for sex and I asked him if all this time that we spend together means anything to him. He answered that he thought that if sex and movies is the only thing that we can have and have good time, then why stop it. At that night I just told him that I'm not interested in having a friend with benefits and asked him to stop seeing each other. My question is, what was the mistake that I made? I shouldn't have had sex with him? Or should I have continued having sex with him and not confronting him about the situation? I just gave up, and he continues to message me from time to time. And I really don't know what to do anymore
Cassiope jBlack I am in the same situation. I am in no contact again, he is now stocking me and complaining if I go out with my friends. He even told me he needs to know in what ground he is stepping in as I seen not to care about him anymore, he even asked me what relationship is that we have, I responded we are not in a relationship because he terminated it. I ended the conversation there. He continues to drive by my house on the weekends and calling me and messaging me when I go out. Now I am not sure if he is worthy getting back with. I am so confused! If he was capable of walk out of my life, he will do it again. I want something better for me. ❤️☺️
@@maritzapenalo7267 Sex is like a glue. "The emotional attachment that is created during sex, resulting from the release of oxytocin, binds two people together."
Cassiope jBlack "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [b]homosexuals, nor [c]sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God." 1 Corinthians 6
Coach Lee, this is my exact situation.. my Ex broke up with me but we still remain close friends.... when we are together it is like the break up never happened, we have fun and connect so well.. I do hope one day I can turn this situation around but at the moment I'm enjoying the time I do spend with her ... I will stay positive and expect nothing !! Your advice has helped me keep my perspective during this process ... Thank you so much.. wish me luck :-)
Coach Lee thank you for your work. I'm following your videos extensively because I am in the process here of going through The Break-Up. We were extremely amicable in friendly during our break up because it was kind of mutual and I'm learning so much from your content. I would like to become a relationship coach and I believe that you have the most experience and knowledge in the seal that I've seen so far and I would love to be able to learn your message and teach what you teach as well because people are hurting and they're hurting because they don't have anybody to help them through the process I have a heart for people in relationships and I hate to see broken relationships that are healthy. I'd love to hear back from you about how I could learn to do what you do and maybe start a Coach Lee institute having other people out here who love and care for people in relationships just like you and I. Thank you for your time and thank you for your work
My and my ex broke up a couple of months ago, her decision. The first week i was a bit clingy messaging and phoning her while crying my eyes out asking for us to give it a go. Then i went on UA-cam and found your videos. I tried no contact after this and she would message me asking how i was, i would lie and say I'm doing good and would just act like my old happy self around her. Then it went from her always messaging to we're still friends why dont you come on a Tuesday (one of her free nights) and we can watch movies and stuff have a laugh. 2 Tuesdays later and we're back to having sex but just friends and now she messages for me to pop in for a coffee other nights ( which is just a code for sex) the more i act like I'm happy and not being together doesn't bother me the more she seems to miss/want me. So maybe one day we will get together so keep at it people 👌
I followed your advice and she came back. you know what you are talking about, Coach Lee. you gave me great comfort and direction when I was really fucked up. THANK YOU
How? Im on 11th day of nc but my ex haven't reached out yet. She told me we can be friends with benefits and yk do all sorts of things that couples do but without any label. Basically all the benefits of relationship but no commitment. What should i do?
My ex broke up with me and she was texting me within the first two weeks. Naturally I was pissed but then started to see her differently and am now glad I found this video because I was about to be mean for no reason. We were together 5 years, the last two being LDR.
I'm afraid this video came to me too late. I told her I need space cause I got impatient. We've been acting like a couple for months and are both still single. Things were awesome and your advice was working. I was worried she'd leave cause we weren't official. I felt like a back up even though we spent so much time together. Now she's threatening me with friend zone and not talking as much. Couldn't find a video for my crises. I don't want to lose her and have all this time waisted cause a mistake I made.
10 days into no contact, and I saw him because we're business partners and we had a shoot. It took him a bit to warm up to me (he broke it off over text) and then once we start talking a little bit more he says he paid my phone bill, and took care/still taking care of some of my personal things (nothing to do with our business) without asking me after the breakup. Its confusing because he broke up with me but is still doing things for me that I feel like only a bf/partner would do. Today I was on the phone with him, working on our business, and he's talking my ear off about his weekend and life, etc. I tried my best to mirror him, but I didn't start any separate convos apart from the business, it was all him. IMO, he has a hard time not being with me, it's like he doesn't know how to not be my boyfriend. but breaks up with me... so... I don't get it
Lol my wife left 6 months ago and I spent that time trying to get her to talk or work out the issues. DONT do what i did and set yourself up as the backup plan. She kept saying she needed space which I recently found out meant she was seeing and talking to other men (including abusive ex husband) while telling me she was trying to figure out our marriage and that she wanted it to work 🙄. 3 days later she said she wants a divorce. I went limited contact (we have a daughter) and she still tries to text me about random bs. I respond short and polite when I respond but I don't extend convo. 13 days limited contact and feeling better and dont know that I want that kind of deceitful person back anyway. Watch these videos almost on repeat when I'm feeling like reaching out. Nothing to gain by it. Thanks coach.
Great analogy you can’t push them they need to come to you. Like the Cable salesman…. Your not gonna buy unless you need and want it… or the couples therapy. They won’t do the work unless they want it and it’s their idea
Wish I found this video weeks ago, my ex split with me 6 weeks ago because she said she doesn’t love me and just doesn’t want a relationship anymore and I’ve done everything wrong since then begging pleading trying to get her back, hopefully one day I will
K, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I did no contact n it was just as you said. He kept reaching out n now we go out weekly for dinner n overnites..im trying to be patient but there are days he pulls away n i panic. I dont think he wants me to move on but he goes out n i worry that he will meet someone n forget about me. I do feel we both have love for eachother after living together 10 yrs but he says he doesnt want a relationship. Everyone says just let him go but i still have hope that we will fall in love n at least be bf n gf without living together. Ive been making positive changes n trying to be fun ..hard to smile wen ur heart is broken but i will continue to try n hope he will see that we can have a much better relationship..thank you coach lee for ur words of wisdom. Stay blessed
I should’ve watched this video earlier. My ex just told me he fell out of life with me. I constantly texted 3 months after the break up questioning where we stood and basically begging him to get back together with me. Now there’s another girl in the picture and I can’t help but think I pushed him towards her. I didn’t give him the space he wanted.
Holy shit you’re beautiful 🤣 sorry you’re going through that though. I just made the same mistake with my ex and pushed her away even more lol. What ended up happening with your situation?
@@michaelvega3669 I realized I was being manipulated and disrespected so I ended up blocking him from most things and told him I deserved better. So far I haven’t seen or heard anything from him and it’s been 4 months. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through something similar. It can be tough but I think these types of events in life can be catalysts for growth. And thank you by the way :)
@@hopehealthhappiness5080 I was in an 8 year relationship and she’s making it seem like she’s moved on. I lost my business because of Covid and decided to go back to the military and she basically did not want to wait for me? You’re right this experience can help me realize that maybe it’s not worth being with someone who you’ve vowed to commit and take the next step in our relationship. If she can’t wait while I better myself and she moved on it’s probably for the better. Glad she broke up with me now instead of receiving a dear John letter while in training or deployed.
Coach lee, this is what I was doing after my breakup of my girlfriend of 4 years. We never established the “just friends” conversation so we just kept doing all the couple things and focused on us and getting better and looking at why we fell in love with each other in the first place. I did this for 18 months until I said I want more, I’m ready for more. But she doesn’t want more, she just sees me as her good guy best friend and now I’ve gone no contact :( I thought we were focusing on us, she told ne she was good alone and had no interest in dating anyone or seeing anyone but no she tells ne she met a guy and it just feels right
MACS ASMIR, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It's a POWERFUL Kit and has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk This kitcis GREAT FOR YOU, and what you're going thru. Take care..❤
My ex and I are in love with each other (I think he is, he says he loves me and he acts like it most times) and we always live and behave like a couple but he refuses to acknowledge the label of boyfriend girlfriend. He keeps telling me to focus on myself and that were toxic together and that were not getting back together...I'm not allowed to bring it up without upsetting him but yet we are passionate with each other....the only thing missing is that label (what is a label anyways? It's NOTHING) and this very much bothers me..if he or I were to go be with another person or do anything you wouldn't want an s/o to do "in a relationship" then the other would absolutely freak out and it would be a major problem...as if there were cheating. This is confusing, upsetting, and mostly scary. I'm terrified of him meeting someone else and using the excuse of "well we aren't even really together" or that maybe he will never stop being stubborn on his hangups about me and allow us to move forward and be together. I feel as though I would just die if I saw my son's father whom I'm in love with be with someone else. I would get very crazy. The more he refuses to validate me as his woman the more I feel tempted to chase but I'm trying very hard not to..
@@AmberMarie530 hi I need woman advice...hope can help me out My ex gf broke up with me last December and out of sudden on Valentine's day triggered her to get back together immediately ..i couldnt believe her love and she was upset and confuse why I questioned her love ..after 2 Month she broke up with me again .. I did almost 3 month of No contact she didnt reached out at all..but lucky me I bumped into her coincidently and she was so happy to see me by surprise and even told me "Honey" "love u always " but she said "love sex connection is gone and her love no longer like bf gf" She text me 2 days ago "I am not ready to get back the relationship I only want u to receive Jesus we go church together next week Hopefully this month before your birthday u consider and listen to the sermon and decide u want to receive Jesus" What should I do? Why did she text me "Honey, we meet on Sunday....." then now ...she text me this "she is not ready to get back the relationship " And why only want me to receive Jesus and she can go with me like church buddy ? I don't understand why the "Honey" and the "love always" she broke up with me causing me depression and then say she love me always but only like friend and call me Honey ..God knows why she want me to receive Jesus ? Is Lord Jesus going to save our relationship or she going to leave me with God and leave ? What should I text her or No contact even she reach out jus ignore or ghost her next Sunday ... Will this reward her bad behaviour? Should I go and just enjoy the time and acting like couple which she may take back all the power all on her term? Or ghost her which may resent her ? Or delay till after my birthday on 4 Aug ?
Chelsie, your situation will eventually drive you to a point of no return. You love 2 men. The one you're with who is "crazy jealous" and your son's father. If you stay with the man you're with, you'll be living in fear. That's a heck of a way to live, and that is NOT LOVE! YOU DON'T FEAR A PERSON YOU'RE IN LOVE WITH, NEVER!! If I were you, I (personally) would leave and not turn back. Passionate lust sounds like what you two have. Once again, I would leave and not look back. Good luck to you, and God bless you...❤️
It doesn't make sense for me because he dumped me, we live together and he wanted to act like a couple kissing, hugging, sex, calling each other our nicknames etc. He was acting like nothing changed except the fact that he is single again and he can do what he wants like going out for all weekend. I cannot accept it, he dumped me! Why should I act like nothing happened?
My ex and I broke up and hung out and hooked up for about 4 months post breakup. She broke up with me and I waited to try and let her heal from me lying and then one day I asked her to hang out and she said she was seeing someone. He already met her family and he's already helping her out with things at her house I had yet to do and they're going to concerts and stuff. I'm on day 12 of no contact and don't know what to do. I thought we would get back together. Can't sleep can't eat, can't focus on shit but then two together . Called and cried and begged to her, she told me I needed to move on and I would find someone but I need her in my life. On day 12 of no contact what do I do?
So my now ex as of 2 days ago Broke up with me. Basically we were on a break but it was never established how long the break was supposed to be. So I went into no contact and I saw her a few times on her terms. Things were definitely different. Didn’t talk about a title or anything. I had asked her again to get together and she made up some excuses so then I went back in to no contact because I did not want to push it. She then called me a few days later and called me that she was going to move her mom in and foster her cousins baby. I was asking her questions what that has to do with us. She mentioned they said everything going on that things are changing and I asked her if she wanted to stay together or break up. She said she felt like we were broken up already. And we can talk about it later. We had been on a break for a month already. She said that she had to get back to work and I asked her if she wanted to be together or not before she hung up and she said that we can make it official Breakup. I told her OK I understand I said things that we are better together but if this is what you want then that’s where we’re at. I thought I was doing the right things but then I found this video. I have now been no contact since the break up is official 2 days and counting. Focusing on the moment makes a lot of sense. I guess I will have to wait and see if she reaches out.
Coach Lee or anyone who can give me advise, me and my girlfriend broke up about 4 days ago. I'm currently 2 days into no contact. We broke up because we were to clingy and she wanted to change that. I couldn't accept it. So we broke up to find ourselves again. She said "my spirit tells me I need something other than you. Idk what it is. I can't see us getting back together again." I'll admit I was the type to ask her a lot of questions. Lot out of distrust, but simply because I'm a VERY curious person. She's a gypsy and spiritual. I made her feel trapped. I never should have done that to someone I love and especially someone who loves to be free. A few days after the break up I pleaded and tried to change her mind. She was set on not getting back together. I never annoyed her. And I haven't pleaded or talked to her since. Now her best friend stayed the night and apparently my gf is flirting with people to get positive attention. To make herself feel good. But she's not ready for a relationship or to dedicate herself to someone like she did me. Is there still hope for me? Can No Contact work? Radio silence?
Me and my ex deffo still act like couple but it’s only when we see each other in person. He doesn’t text or call me atm. But in person it’s all positive, intimate and genuine, we be kissing and hugging and holding hands. He brings up our memories and compliments me and we share all our inside jokes! Taking it one day at a time anyhow and I’m still working on myself, staying in the present moment.
i don’t know what to do he broke up with me and says he wants to get back together after he solidifies his life (job school and such) but like isn’t that a break? not a break up? he knows the difference. we talk sometimes in the way we did when we were dating… he still says he loves me and wants me and wants to be with me, but i just don’t get it
My ex lives next door. We hit it off right away. We spent alot of time talking and getting to know one another. Everyone could feel the electricity between her and I. Well fast forward. She broke up with me. Apparently we were in different places in life. I made it known I was not happy about the break up. After that, I stepped back. It hurt of course. I began watching these videos. Sure enough. a month later, she reached out. But because we live next door to one another, she was always reminded of me. Her family and kids would mention my name. Her and I would talk and hang out. We were still intimate with one another. We were everything without a title. But recently (the past 6 weeks), all emotion was sucked out of our conversations. We went from talking on the phone for hours to maybe 30-40 min with half of it filled with awkward silence. I was not allowed to call her hun, no romantic talk. I made it aware to her that I was not interested in a "friends only" relationship. She is in and out. No clue. Im starting a new career. Which is stressful during Covid. Out of nowhere, I noticed last night she blocked me on social media. No warning. No contact again.
Hmmm...dis video hav me tinkin now. I ALWAYS thought we broke up b cuz he was not a person who likes 2 talk much about anyting. But i guess i knw now 2 jus "Shut Up!" And let it b. And tink twice or 3 times b4 bringin up s'ting 2 talk about. In a way...it's like bein in No Contact. It's hard but it's d best option. I'm REALLY learnin ALOT from Coach Lee's videos. Thank u!
This is very true. My ex and I broke up because I'm being too negative (insecurity and ego issues). Then, I joined some therapist sessions and instead of worrying and overthinking about the relationship, my ex and I spent another time together. We had fun and she said that she had one of the best 'date' ever. Focus on having fun together. On the present. Be grateful for every second you can spend with your ex (especially if you still love him/her). I don't say that it necessarily makes you get back with him/her, but the memories are worth to remember ^^
@@dwightschrute8141 hm that’s complicated but honestly I’d probably do it but wouldn’t talk to her much Funny story , my ex from 8 years ago when I was 15 is coming tonight lol
It's great advice, and makes perfect sense, but after 19 years of marriage, I can't do it anymore. At this point, I fear being stuck as fwb more than I fear losing him.
@@dwightschrute8141 we've both moved on and are happy. I literally thought I would die when he left, but today I can say I'm happy. I miss what we had as friends sometimes, but as far as our relationship, I don't miss it. He's found someone that treats him good and so have I.
my girl dumped me 3 days ago, then i did the no contact on first day of our break up...that night, she contacted me, she told me she missed me and the next day we got good together and then today she got back from school she called me..we talk for abit .. she told me she's dizzy she's telling me she got alot of things to do..and she told me not call her i drop the call... i just had the feeling if she's still into me or shes just tricking me help.. coach lee 😭
I may have messed up, my ex was doing the whole broke up but still together. I made it clean by saying we couldn't be friends right now, and starting no contact.
My ex has been doing this for over a year now. She came back two months ago & asked me to come over, but never got back to me. We haven't spoken in 2 months and she's on a dating app. I'm very confused.
He did this came back after a week then we acted like a couple for a month and i was constantly asking for a title and again we are broken up so im only counting on a no contact rn
Hi!Sir Coach Lee,this is exactly my relationship with him .But as your advice again I will follow thank you 🙏 for the sincerity to help us .without your very good advice maybe I’m crazy over him .
Coach Lee, can you please make a video on Borderline Personality Disorder and how to get them back, she broke up with me 2 months ago, I bought your emergency kit and I've followed most of your advise and she had been reaching out to me and I've asked her out for coffee twice she said she will decide and do after exams. She still texts me here and there and I'm sensing she is trying to keep me as a friend. We are yet to meet in person now.
I'd love to have a video about this too! What I've been told is that it's the same like with everyone else - especially pwBPD can't handle talking about relationship issues, so we gotta wait and let them come back to us and if in the process they blame us for anything it's all about mirroring, validating and empathizing - not defending ourselves or judging them. Learning as much about the illness as possible might be helpful.
No just stay away from someone with borderline personality disorder, they are some of the worst people who can live on this planet, if they don't get their way they will try to turn everyone and everything against you for the smallest reason sometimes. It's easy to see when you come across one.
Sara, that’s a complex topic. Most people start having sex shortly after they start dating before there’s a commitment. Sex is often helpful to bring a couple closer and build or rebuild intimacy. So that’s one way to look at it but it’s obviously up to you.
Thanks for the reply Coach! I have found that there is a VERY thin line between rebuilding intimacy and being used. All was good when we were spending time together, but he would ignore me afterwards until I reached out, sometimes for weeks. I am not interested in being somebody’s option. I have since moved on and am in no contact indefinitely. :)
When I had this she was the one who kept bringing it up. Also what is the difference with this situation and accepting friendship after the other person wants to break up?
Broke no contact of 7 days and befriended her for 1 and half months.. during those times we were acting just like we are still together. Last time we had a conversation she told me she's not interested and that she don't love me anymore. I walked away politely. Being in no contact for 2 months now. Not sure if I'd ruined my chances already.
I’ve been following your advice with some good results. Had a few snags here and there but got passed them to where we’re communicating pretty well and he’s contacting me everyday and sometimes more than once a day via phone, text and social media..
@Coach Glen Byrne thanks. Well i was and she reached out i think because some of her familly were moving away. Then we've been meeting up but now she seems to be pulling away again. Guess im back to focusing on myself.
@@Shivani257 any particular reason you ask? To sum it up we continued in a FWB situation but I soon said that was not working for me and that I saw a future for us. She preferred FWB so I ended it.
See my ex was back and forth. We go to school together and he broke up with me out of nowhere saying he lost feelings. Two weeks later he’s in the talking stage with this girl who likes him, she’s known to be manipulative. And after he ended things he would still say stuff like “night,morning,Gn,Gm” but wouldn’t even look at me in school. It’s like I don’t exist and it hurts. Im not even sure what I did and when people try to ask him what happens he does anything to avoid the conversation about our relationship. It’s like he wants to forget about it. He has yet to ask for his stuff back or me getting mine back and it’s been almost a month. I really miss him and I’m so lost. I asked him to stop texting me and give me space after he send me a “Night, hope you sleep well. Sweet dreams and Morning, how did you sleep?”. He stopped texting me for awhile but said “gm” again around a week later. I blocked him because I really just thought I need time to heal. My friends had tried getting him to talk to me about what happened but he just won’t. Out of anger I said something to him at an after school activity and he’s mad at me for it. I’m so lost and just need some advice. My plan was to apologize for saying that and then apologize for whatever happened in the relationship then use no contact. I think I’ve skipped a few steps and it’s too late to go back. What should I do?
Coach lee can i ask a question., Why my girlfriend still keeping all things i gave to her? Even our promise ring? Can you do video with this? Thank you 😊
Right now, my ex and I are in this conundrum. We had a massive destructive breakup where alot of collateral damage took place. After 6 days she cracked and texted and called me. We made an eventual date and slept together after a fun time after a haunted house. She missed me, I missed her. We told each other we still loved one another. We still text and meet up, her texts are often briefer and she doesn't chase nearly as much as she used to. She told me she doesn't know exactly where we go from here.. what should we do? Just take it day by day?
you mention that if they reach out we got to stay casual, be playful etc. but what if we meet and they don’t try to flirt and our relationship is like friendzone? if i’m flirty and if i try to „seduce them” in some way, won’t it make them think that they can have me back anytime they want to? that i’m too easy to get?
You can’t act like a friend no matter how he acts. As long as you don’t act like a friend, you don’t have to worry about the friend zone. That doesn’t mean you’ll get him back right away, but you won’t be considered a friend.
Coach Lee...What If your Ex told you he didn’t want to be in a committed relationship but now that he’s contacting you and communication has been good thus far...he now wants to spend time with you? He told me to bring extra clothing to his house so that I’ll have a change of clothes when I stay there. We live in neighboring states...not too far from each other. Where he lives is more convenient to where I work and my family as I use to live in that state. He’s been reaching out to me more so than me reaching out to him and I have been responding to him. Not too sure how to react to him wanting to spend time with me since he told me before that he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship. I have purchased your Ex back kit but can’t afford a private session with you at this time. Can you speak to this or lead me to one of your videos that talks about this?
Petros Giorgallis...Sorry but what I’m going through with my Ex is more than the friend zone. His emotional attraction for me is starting to raise. I’m just not sure what to do since he’s starring to want to spend time with me again and he told me before that he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship. I believe he wants back what he missed about me and him.
what if it was like this for 1.5 months but then i kept leaving saying i cant do this being friends cause its too confusing like 3-4 times, even tried fixing it but it just stressed her out so we cut it not even friends anymore, we got in a huge yelling argument and now im in no contact almost day 3? is there hope?
I broke up with my ex a year ago. We still hand out a couple times a month, she still let's me keep keys to het flat. She tries to get me in bed every now and again, but seems she does not want me back. What is this?
My ex girlfriend broke up with me, first trying a break then broke up. She didn’t want to stop talking though. I was sad and now you say don’t talk about negatives and that’s where I messed up. I was more negative then happy. I Told her I can’t talk to her anymore because it hurts. She said she will give me space. Almost been a month and my birthday is 5 days away. Not sure if I should contact her or not. Waiting for her to contact but I don’t want her to move on.. do I contact her since I said I don’t want to talk anymore even though she wanted to break up??
Would no contact work if I did mess up the the second time and the attraction lowered and so she broke up with me over text saying something like “ we weren’t really together and we won’t ever , I’m a single mom and I’ve had enough to deal with “ I really did try my best and I know and trust that we had a great thing together that was so passionate and intense. We had many intimate moments like opening up about our lives . I just believe with all my heart that we had something special but it was at the wrong time for her . 😪we never really fought but just had a few misunderstandings and I Did make a couple mistakes that were small but other than that I just felt like this was it , someone I can have a family with and grow old
coach lee , i like your vedios than anyother youtuber ! your explanations about realationship is so real and so true ! can you make vedios about How to keep en ex ! thanks.
Omg!!! You are BEAUTIFUL... You are Right !!! Shut up!! Love it!! You are So funny ! And love your voice... I am on here because YOU GIVE SO MUCH ENCOURAGEMENT.. I Think people who are Relationship coaches who have Disclaimers!! .. To Me that’s controlling and So wrong!! Over and over again this person does this... !! Why ? .. We aren’t Math problems .. Why am I wrong for wanting a man who I loved.. Oh so times were difficult.. So I am suppose to throw them away? That’s why the divorces in United States are so high because people just give up ... When you love it’s Patience and kindness .. I Love through thick and thin .. So I am a CODEPENDENT.. well if I am then why aren’t I jumping from relationship to relationship.. sure I did this as a teenager.. And there’s something wrong with me that my ex made me Happy.. ? Isn’t that is what life is about.. We loved each other and we are getting back together.. we are all DIFFERENT WHAT WORKS FOR ME IS WHAT I WANT .. I am not mentally challenged that I wanted my ex back .. In fact it means that I am Faithful and Love with all that I am.. ❤️♥️
beauuuutiful comment at a girl!!!
Beautiful seeing this!
PLEASE know that "No Contact" really works. You have to pray earnestly, apply "No Contact" and keep busy. Work on yourself. Learn from this unfortunate "break-up". Listen to every one of Coach Lee's videos. Continue to pray earnestly. Watch what happens!!!
Thank you, Coach Lee!!! Sooooooo much!!!
Thanks for the "pin", Coach Lee!!! 🙏🏼
This is very appropriate for so many situations. Especially talking about intimacy. My ex and I are spending a day together tomorrow, and spending the whole day talking about issues is obviously not the answer. Focusing on having a positive moment- a positive memory- helps more than anything else in the world. Yes, just "shut up" can be a great help. I can highly recommend Coach Lee and his emergency kit. I went through No Contact and it does work if you follow Coach Lee's advice. We are talking now when we were not talking at all back in November. So it does work if you follow his advice!
Thank you Odd&Entertaining!
@@RealCoachLee Anytime Coach Lee, you deserve the endorsement.
No contact works !! He broke up with me and reached out saying he missed me . Now we are spending time again. I need to take this advice and keep it slow going . No labels ..he assured me he is not seeing anyone . I dont want to be used for sex .
This video is just what I need. I’ve been trying to talk about the issue with my ex and it only makes the situation worse. Now, I’m not bringing it up anymore and trying my best to be upbeat and patient. I really hope he will have feelings for me again. I never want to give up on this guy. Thank you a lot couch Lee and wish me luck!
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Update ? That's what same with me rn
Updateeee?
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"A lot of couples communicate too much". "Shut up!" "Focus on positive interactions." "Positive on the moment." "Healing and re-attraction."
This is me I needed that shut up , I feel I hv used too much communication to make things work
THANK YOU!!!! I was recently (about 2 months ago) ghosted by my bf of 5 years for no explanation. I went into no contact as I was honestly just shocked. I initially felt guilty for not having tried more, but I your advice is pure GOLD. Thank you, thank you!!
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That’s my situation but I begged for a month and he ignored me. I’ve been in NC for a month now. Any update?
Communication seems to be the panacea prescribed most often by
therapists/counselors but you are right-----an atmosphere of peace
instead of constant talking will go a long way in soothing conflict and
reducing stress.
Don't let someone tell you twice they don't want you
I'd be really careful w/ "acting like a couple" but not being one. A lot of pple in these situations end up finding out that the bf/gf is seeing someone else/ having sex w/ someone else and technically they're justified in doing that because "we're not in a relationship"
Yep yep yep yep yes.
Exactly what happened to me. He actually used that phrase to his advantage when it was convenient so that he could get away with hurting me. Now i am back in NC. Honestly, i can't wait for the heartache to go away so i can move on and never look back.
I have used your coaching advice. I am using this advice now and things are better than they have ever been. Thank you, you have helped me so much!
"Don't try to push for the title."
I love you Coach Lee! I got your "Emergency Break Up Kit", and I still watch your videos on youtube too. I just can't get enough.
This is a valuable video, especially in your explanation of communication. "...We need some healing, we need some peace, we need to shut up.." 😎
Coach, longer hair looks great 👍.
This was me last year and I didn’t want to open a can of worms by bringing up the talk. Things were great in my opinion and we had peace and he pursued me, but a month ago he told me he’s in a relationship with someone else. I was shocked! I needed answers, but naturally I didn’t get any so I just went into no contact.
I’m still hopeful...
P.S he seemed to enjoy hurting me by telling me we didn’t need to have a talk about him being in a relationship with someone else.
OMG, I have made so many mistakes... Jesus... :(
Sister, me too. We have to apply no contact. It is the only way it will help.
You have the right to know what this is okay, not just be an option
This is probably the main video I needed.
Ozger Sahin, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is excellent. It has EVERYTHING in it that will help you immensely. It's POWERFUL and has strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Wow!!! Be selective. Focus on positive interaction. Focus on the moment. Time of healing and re-attraction. Peace, healing, listening. Don't try to push for title.
I'm so thankful I have found your videos. I did make the mistakes in the beginning of our separation. I stopped and he is now spending at least one evening in our home with me overnight. He has softened some but it is super hard being in limbo and not bringing up getting him back home. It is torture living like this. I'm trying to be patient and allow the time for him to see the positive changes will stick.
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You are my fave coach! Please know that you made a difference in my life through your videos. I couldn't thank you enough! 😊
When my ex broke up with me, i accepted it and immediately went to no contact. After 2 weeks he started messaging me random things (links, memes etc) like we did when we were together. After a month he would come over to my house every week and we would have fun, eat, watch movies and have sex. I never mentioned anything about our relationship. Almost 3 months later I started feeling that he only comes to me for sex and I asked him if all this time that we spend together means anything to him. He answered that he thought that if sex and movies is the only thing that we can have and have good time, then why stop it.
At that night I just told him that I'm not interested in having a friend with benefits and asked him to stop seeing each other. My question is, what was the mistake that I made? I shouldn't have had sex with him? Or should I have continued having sex with him and not confronting him about the situation? I just gave up, and he continues to message me from time to time. And I really don't know what to do anymore
Cassiope jBlack I am in the same situation. I am in no contact again, he is now stocking me and complaining if I go out with my friends. He even told me he needs to know in what ground he is stepping in as I seen not to care about him anymore, he even asked me what relationship is that we have, I responded we are not in a relationship because he terminated it. I ended the conversation there. He continues to drive by my house on the weekends and calling me and messaging me when I go out. Now I am not sure if he is worthy getting back with. I am so confused! If he was capable of walk out of my life, he will do it again. I want something better for me. ❤️☺️
Cassiope jBlack You shouldn't have had sex with him.
@@maritzapenalo7267 Sex is like a glue. "The emotional attachment that is created during sex, resulting from the release of oxytocin, binds two people together."
Cassiope jBlack
"Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [b]homosexuals, nor [c]sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God."
1 Corinthians 6
Coach Lee, this is my exact situation.. my Ex broke up with me but we still remain close friends.... when we are together it is like the break up never happened, we have fun and connect so well.. I do hope one day I can turn this situation around but at the moment I'm enjoying the time I do spend with her ... I will stay positive and expect nothing !! Your advice has helped me keep my perspective during this process ... Thank you so much.. wish me luck :-)
You are friend zoned
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Coach Lee thank you for your work. I'm following your videos extensively because I am in the process here of going through The Break-Up. We were extremely amicable in friendly during our break up because it was kind of mutual and I'm learning so much from your content. I would like to become a relationship coach and I believe that you have the most experience and knowledge in the seal that I've seen so far and I would love to be able to learn your message and teach what you teach as well because people are hurting and they're hurting because they don't have anybody to help them through the process I have a heart for people in relationships and I hate to see broken relationships that are healthy. I'd love to hear back from you about how I could learn to do what you do and maybe start a Coach Lee institute having other people out here who love and care for people in relationships just like you and I. Thank you for your time and thank you for your work
Oooo this is so logical! Great videos ☺️ Even though I'm not going through hardship right now, this is great sensible advice for anyone!
My and my ex broke up a couple of months ago, her decision. The first week i was a bit clingy messaging and phoning her while crying my eyes out asking for us to give it a go. Then i went on UA-cam and found your videos. I tried no contact after this and she would message me asking how i was, i would lie and say I'm doing good and would just act like my old happy self around her. Then it went from her always messaging to we're still friends why dont you come on a Tuesday (one of her free nights) and we can watch movies and stuff have a laugh. 2 Tuesdays later and we're back to having sex but just friends and now she messages for me to pop in for a coffee other nights ( which is just a code for sex) the more i act like I'm happy and not being together doesn't bother me the more she seems to miss/want me. So maybe one day we will get together so keep at it people 👌
Are you back together? 😊
Adeline Ri of course not.
@@Godzilla-ct2pp why??
I followed your advice and she came back. you know what you are talking about, Coach Lee. you gave me great comfort and direction when I was really fucked up. THANK YOU
How? Im on 11th day of nc but my ex haven't reached out yet. She told me we can be friends with benefits and yk do all sorts of things that couples do but without any label. Basically all the benefits of relationship but no commitment. What should i do?
My ex broke up with me and she was texting me within the first two weeks. Naturally I was pissed but then started to see her differently and am now glad I found this video because I was about to be mean for no reason. We were together 5 years, the last two being LDR.
Oh I screwed it up so bad 😭 now we are in no contact
Wish I saw this one months ago when she was reaching out all the time.
YOU ARE SO SMART!! I love this video, great advice!
Wish I seen this weeks ago I brought up the relationship now She wants time alone
I'm afraid this video came to me too late. I told her I need space cause I got impatient. We've been acting like a couple for months and are both still single. Things were awesome and your advice was working. I was worried she'd leave cause we weren't official. I felt like a back up even though we spent so much time together. Now she's threatening me with friend zone and not talking as much. Couldn't find a video for my crises. I don't want to lose her and have all this time waisted cause a mistake I made.
Man i was looking for this specific video ! Thank you lee!
10 days into no contact, and I saw him because we're business partners and we had a shoot. It took him a bit to warm up to me (he broke it off over text) and then once we start talking a little bit more he says he paid my phone bill, and took care/still taking care of some of my personal things (nothing to do with our business) without asking me after the breakup. Its confusing because he broke up with me but is still doing things for me that I feel like only a bf/partner would do. Today I was on the phone with him, working on our business, and he's talking my ear off about his weekend and life, etc. I tried my best to mirror him, but I didn't start any separate convos apart from the business, it was all him. IMO, he has a hard time not being with me, it's like he doesn't know how to not be my boyfriend. but breaks up with me... so... I don't get it
Lol my wife left 6 months ago and I spent that time trying to get her to talk or work out the issues. DONT do what i did and set yourself up as the backup plan. She kept saying she needed space which I recently found out meant she was seeing and talking to other men (including abusive ex husband) while telling me she was trying to figure out our marriage and that she wanted it to work 🙄. 3 days later she said she wants a divorce. I went limited contact (we have a daughter) and she still tries to text me about random bs. I respond short and polite when I respond but I don't extend convo. 13 days limited contact and feeling better and dont know that I want that kind of deceitful person back anyway. Watch these videos almost on repeat when I'm feeling like reaching out. Nothing to gain by it. Thanks coach.
Helpful video. I love the way you talk.
Great analogy you can’t push them they need to come to you. Like the Cable salesman…. Your not gonna buy unless you need and want it… or the couples therapy. They won’t do the work unless they want it and it’s their idea
First time I'm in love with someone I've never met, and never will be
Wish I found this video weeks ago, my ex split with me 6 weeks ago because she said she doesn’t love me and just doesn’t want a relationship anymore and I’ve done everything wrong since then begging pleading trying to get her back, hopefully one day I will
Daniel, go NO CONTACT with her. Stay strong. It makes you look better in her eyes and heart. Plus, she'll wonder how you are and what you're doing.
I did this for years until he finally cut me off and wants a new gf
K, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I did no contact n it was just as you said. He kept reaching out n now we go out weekly for dinner n overnites..im trying to be patient but there are days he pulls away n i panic. I dont think he wants me to move on but he goes out n i worry that he will meet someone n forget about me. I do feel we both have love for eachother after living together 10 yrs but he says he doesnt want a relationship. Everyone says just let him go but i still have hope that we will fall in love n at least be bf n gf without living together. Ive been making positive changes n trying to be fun ..hard to smile wen ur heart is broken but i will continue to try n hope he will see that we can have a much better relationship..thank you coach lee for ur words of wisdom. Stay blessed
I'm in the same situation.....its soooooo hard to handle. What is ur status quo?
I should’ve watched this video earlier. My ex just told me he fell out of life with me. I constantly texted 3 months after the break up questioning where we stood and basically begging him to get back together with me. Now there’s another girl in the picture and I can’t help but think I pushed him towards her. I didn’t give him the space he wanted.
I made that mistake too, I wouldn’t give him the space he wanted...
Holy shit you’re beautiful 🤣 sorry you’re going through that though. I just made the same mistake with my ex and pushed her away even more lol. What ended up happening with your situation?
@@michaelvega3669 I realized I was being manipulated and disrespected so I ended up blocking him from most things and told him I deserved better. So far I haven’t seen or heard anything from him and it’s been 4 months. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through something similar. It can be tough but I think these types of events in life can be catalysts for growth. And thank you by the way :)
@@hopehealthhappiness5080 I was in an 8 year relationship and she’s making it seem like she’s moved on. I lost my business because of Covid and decided to go back to the military and she basically did not want to wait for me? You’re right this experience can help me realize that maybe it’s not worth being with someone who you’ve vowed to commit and take the next step in our relationship. If she can’t wait while I better myself and she moved on it’s probably for the better. Glad she broke up with me now instead of receiving a dear John letter while in training or deployed.
Scores when a tennis match
restarts is *love* all.
Venkateshmurthy Ayachit: Best sports quote related go LOVE. Thanks for making me laugh. I needed that! (LOL) 😂
Coach lee, this is what I was doing after my breakup of my girlfriend of 4 years. We never established the “just friends” conversation so we just kept doing all the couple things and focused on us and getting better and looking at why we fell in love with each other in the first place. I did this for 18 months until I said I want more, I’m ready for more. But she doesn’t want more, she just sees me as her good guy best friend and now I’ve gone no contact :(
I thought we were focusing on us, she told ne she was good alone and had no interest in dating anyone or seeing anyone but no she tells ne she met a guy and it just feels right
MACS ASMIR, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It's a POWERFUL Kit and has strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
This kitcis GREAT FOR YOU, and what you're going thru. Take care..❤
My ex and I are in love with each other (I think he is, he says he loves me and he acts like it most times) and we always live and behave like a couple but he refuses to acknowledge the label of boyfriend girlfriend. He keeps telling me to focus on myself and that were toxic together and that were not getting back together...I'm not allowed to bring it up without upsetting him but yet we are passionate with each other....the only thing missing is that label (what is a label anyways? It's NOTHING) and this very much bothers me..if he or I were to go be with another person or do anything you wouldn't want an s/o to do "in a relationship" then the other would absolutely freak out and it would be a major problem...as if there were cheating. This is confusing, upsetting, and mostly scary. I'm terrified of him meeting someone else and using the excuse of "well we aren't even really together" or that maybe he will never stop being stubborn on his hangups about me and allow us to move forward and be together. I feel as though I would just die if I saw my son's father whom I'm in love with be with someone else. I would get very crazy. The more he refuses to validate me as his woman the more I feel tempted to chase but I'm trying very hard not to..
How are you doing?
@@AmberMarie530 hi I need woman advice...hope can help me out
My ex gf broke up with me last December and out of sudden on Valentine's day triggered her to get back together immediately ..i couldnt believe her love and she was upset and confuse why I questioned her love ..after 2 Month she broke up with me again ..
I did almost 3 month of No contact she didnt reached out at all..but lucky me I bumped into her coincidently and she was so happy to see me by surprise and even told me "Honey" "love u always " but she said "love sex connection is gone and her love no longer like bf gf"
She text me 2 days ago
"I am not ready to get back the relationship
I only want u to receive Jesus
we go church together next week
Hopefully this month before your birthday u consider and listen to the sermon and decide u want to receive Jesus"
What should I do?
Why did she text me "Honey, we meet on Sunday....." then now ...she text me this "she is not ready to get back the relationship "
And why only want me to receive Jesus and she can go with me like church buddy ?
I don't understand why the "Honey" and the "love always"
she broke up with me causing me depression and then say she love me always but only like friend and call me Honey ..God knows why she want me to receive Jesus ?
Is Lord Jesus going to save our relationship or she going to leave me with God and leave ?
What should I text her or No contact even she reach out jus ignore or ghost her next Sunday ...
Will this reward her bad behaviour?
Should I go and just enjoy the time and acting like couple which she may take back all the power all on her term?
Or ghost her which may resent her ?
Or delay till after my birthday on 4 Aug ?
Chelsie, your situation will eventually drive you to a point of no return. You love 2 men. The one you're with who is "crazy jealous" and your son's father. If you stay with the man you're with, you'll be living in fear. That's a heck of a way to live, and that is NOT LOVE! YOU DON'T FEAR A PERSON YOU'RE IN LOVE WITH, NEVER!! If I were you, I (personally) would leave and not turn back. Passionate lust sounds like what you two have. Once again, I would leave and not look back. Good luck to you, and God bless you...❤️
These videos are emotional life savers lol
I can tell you’ve gained some more confidence on the camera coach Lee! Subscribed after watching a few more helpful videos =]
It doesn't make sense for me because he dumped me, we live together and he wanted to act like a couple kissing, hugging, sex, calling each other our nicknames etc. He was acting like nothing changed except the fact that he is single again and he can do what he wants like going out for all weekend. I cannot accept it, he dumped me! Why should I act like nothing happened?
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My ex and I broke up and hung out and hooked up for about 4 months post breakup. She broke up with me and I waited to try and let her heal from me lying and then one day I asked her to hang out and she said she was seeing someone. He already met her family and he's already helping her out with things at her house I had yet to do and they're going to concerts and stuff. I'm on day 12 of no contact and don't know what to do. I thought we would get back together. Can't sleep can't eat, can't focus on shit but then two together . Called and cried and begged to her, she told me I needed to move on and I would find someone but I need her in my life. On day 12 of no contact what do I do?
You stay in NC, keep watching more videos.
So my now ex as of 2 days ago Broke up with me. Basically we were on a break but it was never established how long the break was supposed to be. So I went into no contact and I saw her a few times on her terms. Things were definitely different. Didn’t talk about a title or anything. I had asked her again to get together and she made up some excuses so then I went back in to no contact because I did not want to push it. She then called me a few days later and called me that she was going to move her mom in and foster her cousins baby. I was asking her questions what that has to do with us. She mentioned they said everything going on that things are changing and I asked her if she wanted to stay together or break up. She said she felt like we were broken up already. And we can talk about it later. We had been on a break for a month already. She said that she had to get back to work and I asked her if she wanted to be together or not before she hung up and she said that we can make it official Breakup. I told her OK I understand I said things that we are better together but if this is what you want then that’s where we’re at. I thought I was doing the right things but then I found this video. I have now been no contact since the break up is official 2 days and counting. Focusing on the moment makes a lot of sense. I guess I will have to wait and see if she reaches out.
Coach Lee or anyone who can give me advise, me and my girlfriend broke up about 4 days ago. I'm currently 2 days into no contact. We broke up because we were to clingy and she wanted to change that. I couldn't accept it. So we broke up to find ourselves again. She said "my spirit tells me I need something other than you. Idk what it is. I can't see us getting back together again." I'll admit I was the type to ask her a lot of questions. Lot out of distrust, but simply because I'm a VERY curious person. She's a gypsy and spiritual. I made her feel trapped. I never should have done that to someone I love and especially someone who loves to be free. A few days after the break up I pleaded and tried to change her mind. She was set on not getting back together. I never annoyed her. And I haven't pleaded or talked to her since. Now her best friend stayed the night and apparently my gf is flirting with people to get positive attention. To make herself feel good. But she's not ready for a relationship or to dedicate herself to someone like she did me. Is there still hope for me? Can No Contact work? Radio silence?
Me and my ex deffo still act like couple but it’s only when we see each other in person. He doesn’t text or call me atm. But in person it’s all positive, intimate and genuine, we be kissing and hugging and holding hands. He brings up our memories and compliments me and we share all our inside jokes! Taking it one day at a time anyhow and I’m still working on myself, staying in the present moment.
Hi! What’s the update?
Perfect video this is what I'm going through right now but I'm still applying the no contact
i don’t know what to do he broke up with me and says he wants to get back together after he solidifies his life (job school and such) but like isn’t that a break? not a break up? he knows the difference. we talk sometimes in the way we did when we were dating…
he still says he loves me and wants me and wants to be with me, but i just don’t get it
My ex lives next door. We hit it off right away. We spent alot of time talking and getting to know one another. Everyone could feel the electricity between her and I. Well fast forward. She broke up with me. Apparently we were in different places in life. I made it known I was not happy about the break up. After that, I stepped back. It hurt of course. I began watching these videos. Sure enough. a month later, she reached out. But because we live next door to one another, she was always reminded of me. Her family and kids would mention my name. Her and I would talk and hang out. We were still intimate with one another. We were everything without a title. But recently (the past 6 weeks), all emotion was sucked out of our conversations. We went from talking on the phone for hours to maybe 30-40 min with half of it filled with awkward silence. I was not allowed to call her hun, no romantic talk. I made it aware to her that I was not interested in a "friends only" relationship. She is in and out. No clue. Im starting a new career. Which is stressful during Covid. Out of nowhere, I noticed last night she blocked me on social media. No warning. No contact again.
It usually means someone else is in the picture
Hmmm...dis video hav me tinkin now. I ALWAYS thought we broke up b cuz he was not a person who likes 2 talk much about anyting. But i guess i knw now 2 jus "Shut Up!" And let it b. And tink twice or 3 times b4 bringin up s'ting 2 talk about. In a way...it's like bein in No Contact. It's hard but it's d best option. I'm REALLY learnin ALOT from Coach Lee's videos. Thank u!
This is what I need to hear now. Thank you🙂august 07,2020 2:51am
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This is very true. My ex and I broke up because I'm being too negative (insecurity and ego issues). Then, I joined some therapist sessions and instead of worrying and overthinking about the relationship, my ex and I spent another time together. We had fun and she said that she had one of the best 'date' ever. Focus on having fun together. On the present. Be grateful for every second you can spend with your ex (especially if you still love him/her). I don't say that it necessarily makes you get back with him/her, but the memories are worth to remember ^^
But doesn't it hurt knowing it's most probably over?
@@umayma4636 yeah. It lasted for only a month, then we went no contact afterward
lol what if you acted like a couple n then “broke up”
That’s my bs rn smh
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@@dwightschrute8141 happened with another girl after the girl I’m talking about when I commented this lol
Full benefits and perks but no title
@@TheUncleSpiderX my ex told me we can be fwb but im not sure if its the right thing to do because i still love her and i want her back. Any advice?
@@dwightschrute8141 hm that’s complicated but honestly I’d probably do it but wouldn’t talk to her much
Funny story , my ex from 8 years ago when I was 15 is coming tonight lol
It's great advice, and makes perfect sense, but after 19 years of marriage, I can't do it anymore. At this point, I fear being stuck as fwb more than I fear losing him.
Update?
@@dwightschrute8141 we've both moved on and are happy. I literally thought I would die when he left, but today I can say I'm happy. I miss what we had as friends sometimes, but as far as our relationship, I don't miss it. He's found someone that treats him good and so have I.
thanks man, this is so good, and true
my girl dumped me 3 days ago, then i did the no contact on first day of our break up...that night, she contacted me, she told me she missed me and the next day we got good together and then today she got back from school she called me..we talk for abit .. she told me she's dizzy she's telling me she got alot of things to do..and she told me not call her
i drop the call... i just had the feeling if she's still into me or shes just tricking me
help.. coach lee 😭
I may have messed up, my ex was doing the whole broke up but still together. I made it clean by saying we couldn't be friends right now, and starting no contact.
I still see her once a week tho, and she always finds a way to talk to me. HELP
Thanks for your videos. Can you please do a video on "ghosting".
My ex has been doing this for over a year now. She came back two months ago & asked me to come over, but never got back to me. We haven't spoken in 2 months and she's on a dating app. I'm very confused.
What if I already pushed her away by bringing up the issues
you are amazing and very very valuable im a follower and admire everything you say .big thanks and thumps up ❣💞✨✨
He did this came back after a week then we acted like a couple for a month and i was constantly asking for a title and again we are broken up so im only counting on a no contact rn
Hi!Sir Coach Lee,this is exactly my relationship with him .But as your advice again I will follow thank you 🙏 for the sincerity to help us .without your very good advice maybe I’m crazy over him .
Coach Lee, can you please make a video on Borderline Personality Disorder and how to get them back, she broke up with me 2 months ago, I bought your emergency kit and I've followed most of your advise and she had been reaching out to me and I've asked her out for coffee twice she said she will decide and do after exams. She still texts me here and there and I'm sensing she is trying to keep me as a friend. We are yet to meet in person now.
I'd love to have a video about this too! What I've been told is that it's the same like with everyone else - especially pwBPD can't handle talking about relationship issues, so we gotta wait and let them come back to us and if in the process they blame us for anything it's all about mirroring, validating and empathizing - not defending ourselves or judging them. Learning as much about the illness as possible might be helpful.
No just stay away from someone with borderline personality disorder, they are some of the worst people who can live on this planet, if they don't get their way they will try to turn everyone and everything against you for the smallest reason sometimes. It's easy to see when you come across one.
I wished I had watched this before I asked him about us when we were having a good moment. =( Now it's back to square one.
Update?
Refreshing to hear this. Thanks coach.
Coach Lee your the man super gratefull for all your videos.
What about sex? If we are acting like a couple and having sex, isn’t that like giving him the girlfriend benefits without the commitment?
Sara, that’s a complex topic. Most people start having sex shortly after they start dating before there’s a commitment. Sex is often helpful to bring a couple closer and build or rebuild intimacy. So that’s one way to look at it but it’s obviously up to you.
Thanks for the reply Coach! I have found that there is a VERY thin line between rebuilding intimacy and being used. All was good when we were spending time together, but he would ignore me afterwards until I reached out, sometimes for weeks. I am not interested in being somebody’s option. I have since moved on and am in no contact indefinitely. :)
Wish I watched this sooner when she was acting that way. Now she thinks it’s best that we don’t talk😔
When I had this she was the one who kept bringing it up. Also what is the difference with this situation and accepting friendship after the other person wants to break up?
Broke no contact of 7 days and befriended her for 1 and half months.. during those times we were acting just like we are still together. Last time we had a conversation she told me she's not interested and that she don't love me anymore. I walked away politely. Being in no contact for 2 months now. Not sure if I'd ruined my chances already.
What ended up occurring? I feel like I’m going towards the same direction
I’m doing no contact but my ex always talks to me in school what should I do?
I’ve been following your advice with some good results. Had a few snags here and there but got passed them to where we’re communicating pretty well and he’s contacting me everyday and sometimes more than once a day via phone, text and social media..
Im am hopeful that my ex will come around like that. Glad to hear its working for you
@Coach Glen Byrne thanks. Well i was and she reached out i think because some of her familly were moving away. Then we've been meeting up but now she seems to be pulling away again. Guess im back to focusing on myself.
@@Zephirus10 update?
@@Shivani257 any particular reason you ask? To sum it up we continued in a FWB situation but I soon said that was not working for me and that I saw a future for us. She preferred FWB so I ended it.
See my ex was back and forth. We go to school together and he broke up with me out of nowhere saying he lost feelings. Two weeks later he’s in the talking stage with this girl who likes him, she’s known to be manipulative. And after he ended things he would still say stuff like “night,morning,Gn,Gm” but wouldn’t even look at me in school. It’s like I don’t exist and it hurts. Im not even sure what I did and when people try to ask him what happens he does anything to avoid the conversation about our relationship. It’s like he wants to forget about it. He has yet to ask for his stuff back or me getting mine back and it’s been almost a month. I really miss him and I’m so lost. I asked him to stop texting me and give me space after he send me a “Night, hope you sleep well. Sweet dreams and Morning, how did you sleep?”. He stopped texting me for awhile but said “gm” again around a week later. I blocked him because I really just thought I need time to heal. My friends had tried getting him to talk to me about what happened but he just won’t. Out of anger I said something to him at an after school activity and he’s mad at me for it. I’m so lost and just need some advice. My plan was to apologize for saying that and then apologize for whatever happened in the relationship then use no contact. I think I’ve skipped a few steps and it’s too late to go back. What should I do?
Healing and re-attraction.
What if we can’t see eachother anymore because of quarantine, but we can just text?
Coach lee can i ask a question.,
Why my girlfriend still keeping all things i gave to her? Even our promise ring?
Can you do video with this? Thank you 😊
Right now, my ex and I are in this conundrum. We had a massive destructive breakup where alot of collateral damage took place. After 6 days she cracked and texted and called me. We made an eventual date and slept together after a fun time after a haunted house. She missed me, I missed her. We told each other we still loved one another. We still text and meet up, her texts are often briefer and she doesn't chase nearly as much as she used to. She told me she doesn't know exactly where we go from here.. what should we do? Just take it day by day?
I absolutely love your help. It’s absolutely working for me! Thank you 🙏🏻
It says exactly what im experiencing right now with my ex!
My ex continues to text me good morning sometimes will wait a couple of days and i have only ever text them back once.
Great great video wow
you mention that if they reach out we got to stay casual, be playful etc. but what if we meet and they don’t try to flirt and our relationship is like friendzone? if i’m flirty and if i try to „seduce them” in some way, won’t it make them think that they can have me back anytime they want to? that i’m too easy to get?
You can’t act like a friend no matter how he acts. As long as you don’t act like a friend, you don’t have to worry about the friend zone. That doesn’t mean you’ll get him back right away, but you won’t be considered a friend.
Coach Lee so do i act like i am the seeker and he is the prize? because that’s how it seems to be if i’m flirty, right?
Coach Lee...What If your Ex told you he didn’t want to be in a committed relationship but now that he’s contacting you and communication has been good thus far...he now wants to spend time with you? He told me to bring extra clothing to his house so that I’ll have a change of clothes when I stay there. We live in neighboring states...not too far from each other. Where he lives is more convenient to where I work and my family as I use to live in that state. He’s been reaching out to me more so than me reaching out to him and I have been responding to him. Not too sure how to react to him wanting to spend time with me since he told me before that he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship. I have purchased your Ex back kit but can’t afford a private session with you at this time. Can you speak to this or lead me to one of your videos that talks about this?
Welcome to the friendzone
Petros Giorgallis...Sorry but what I’m going through with my Ex is more than the friend zone. His emotional attraction for me is starting to raise. I’m just not sure what to do since he’s starring to want to spend time with me again and he told me before that he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship. I believe he wants back what he missed about me and him.
@@Keba2008 well how you explain that he wants to be with you but not in a commited relationship.I guess he dont wanna lose you
what if it was like this for 1.5 months but then i kept leaving saying i cant do this being friends cause its too confusing like 3-4 times, even tried fixing it but it just stressed her out so we cut it not even friends anymore, we got in a huge yelling argument and now im in no contact almost day 3? is there hope?
I broke up with my ex a year ago. We still hand out a couple times a month, she still let's me keep keys to het flat. She tries to get me in bed every now and again, but seems she does not want me back. What is this?
@Coach Glen Byrne Thanks!!
I love you 💝 coach you are right shut up peace patience .patience is a virtue I will take one day at a time god bless you .💝💝💝
I still don't like to chase I just try to let things come to me bless you again .💝💝💝
You're so handsome
My ex girlfriend broke up with me, first trying a break then broke up. She didn’t want to stop talking though. I was sad and now you say don’t talk about negatives and that’s where I messed up. I was more negative then happy. I Told her I can’t talk to her anymore because it hurts. She said she will give me space. Almost been a month and my birthday is 5 days away. Not sure if I should contact her or not. Waiting for her to contact but I don’t want her to move on.. do I contact her since I said I don’t want to talk anymore even though she wanted to break up??
She just hit me up after three days. Should I answer 😂🤔.... nah I'm good.
Would no contact work if I did mess up the the second time and the attraction lowered and so she broke up with me over text saying something like “ we weren’t really together and we won’t ever , I’m a single mom and I’ve had enough to deal with “ I really did try my best and I know and trust that we had a great thing together that was so passionate and intense. We had many intimate moments like opening up about our lives . I just believe with all my heart that we had something special but it was at the wrong time for her . 😪we never really fought but just had a few misunderstandings and I Did make a couple mistakes that were small but other than that I just felt like this was it , someone I can have a family with and grow old
±2348073317460⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.,.
What happens if you have a child with them ?? There’s no such thing as “no contact”
In that case, watch this video all the way through: m.ua-cam.com/video/EcA47MmHP_I/v-deo.html
coach lee , i like your vedios than anyother youtuber ! your explanations about realationship is so real and so true ! can you make vedios about How to keep en ex ! thanks.