2 Types of Shame in Children | Riri Trivedi | Wellness Space

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  • Опубліковано 25 лис 2024

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  • @NS-uq9st
    @NS-uq9st 2 місяці тому +6

    I am reraising myself with all ur tips and I know how much harm wrong parenting can done on adults

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому +1

      👍👍

    • @pujasingh8615
      @pujasingh8615 2 місяці тому

      @@NS-uq9st absolutely true I'm also reraising myself as a mother and sometimes I found myself in a difficult situation and really feel guilty about my actions taken for my son

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому +1

      @@pujasingh8615 The objective of my videos is not to make you feel guilty - it is to make you aware so u can change. Guilt wont help anyone! Guilt never heals or changes anything. It just makes u feel worse! Once u are aware pls change ur ways!

    • @pujasingh8615
      @pujasingh8615 2 місяці тому

      @@riritrivedi absolutely as a parent I will bring positive changes in me and my little one

    • @soumisanyal5315
      @soumisanyal5315 2 місяці тому

      Please share some positive parenting tools to help us to remain aligned in difficult situations.

  • @ambikarahul6000
    @ambikarahul6000 2 місяці тому +2

    Madam plz also talk about role of teacher to fostering positivity in child

  • @prernamohanty3790
    @prernamohanty3790 15 днів тому

    Thank you for all your support and advice 🙏 ❤️ this amazing video really means a lot for us ❤️

  • @Elsa-hq3oy
    @Elsa-hq3oy 2 місяці тому +2

    Ma'am, beautifully explained. Gave solution too. Can't stop myself from thanking you.
    Thank you!!

  • @AdhritMnz
    @AdhritMnz 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so much. Your work and knowledge help us do better as parents.

  • @anmoltripathi926
    @anmoltripathi926 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank u soo much ma'am for explaining every problems with solutions. When I approached to ur videos I realised few mistakes in my parenting. N I am trying to correct earlier mistakes . Actually in parenting we mostly copy ur parents..what they did with us..

  • @ayushi_1218
    @ayushi_1218 2 місяці тому +1

    Very helpul ma'am.

  • @aryannema8076
    @aryannema8076 2 місяці тому

    Thank you🙏

  • @pujasingh8615
    @pujasingh8615 2 місяці тому +1

    Hii riri mam..no doubt the video is really helpful and you really explained beautifully..and I'm a mother of 8 year old boy and I'm also handling tantrums of transition of a toddler to tween..

  • @mamtadwivedi6980
    @mamtadwivedi6980 2 місяці тому

    Very informative and interesting video mam

  • @arpitgupta4092
    @arpitgupta4092 2 місяці тому

    Good Morning Ma'am,
    Your videos are very helpful and useful to everyone but if possible try to make them short and precise so that interest will remain till the end.
    Regards

  • @tanmoydatta7018
    @tanmoydatta7018 2 місяці тому +3

    I think if more situational example been used in this talk, then that would be more beneficial for us. Most of the time I can't t relate your theoretical/conceptual talk with real life situation.

  • @preetysharma1442
    @preetysharma1442 2 місяці тому +1

    Hloo mam u have explained very well but sometime children's don't understand their responsibility nd that's why they get scolded by parents. They do their whole work in day but never gives time to study which can make their future well

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому

      Scolding and being firm is good but not calling names and making personal attacks

  • @archanakhatridas9454
    @archanakhatridas9454 2 місяці тому +1

    I have also done many mistakes in my parenting journey. I want to become a better parent by learning under your training. Is there a possibility, ma'am?

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому +1

      For therapy or consultation queries please fill up this form
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      Once you submit the form our team will reach out to you in the next 48 hrs
      For further questions please WhatsApp us on +91 9099853844 between 10 am to 6 pm IST
      Meanwhile please see the video on what our consultation process is like ua-cam.com/play/PLa4jfO4aTSvtuDRNpUU5RO3xIuvQBieDx.html&feature=shared

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому

      pls join our basics to positive parenting workshops that happen online every few months. there we teach you self regulation techniques and also share parenting tips for all age groups

  • @chemistrybetarays4811
    @chemistrybetarays4811 2 місяці тому

    Mam please make a video on OCD what it causes? how will it cure?
    Is serotonin or dopamine responsible for it??

  • @hasmeetahluwalia96
    @hasmeetahluwalia96 2 місяці тому +1

    Ma'am please guide how to correct my own wrongs as a parent. I would like to rectify my mistakes but my children are both grown-up 17 and 20.

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому

      you can watch my series ua-cam.com/play/PLa4jfO4aTSvt3KaZGgSqkhHTA_auQTrZT.html&si=Ce2epJkh-XSOLm7N

  • @abzcefxm7173
    @abzcefxm7173 3 дні тому

    A very good video maam, My 2 year old is mischievous , so on many occasions i say "naughty baba" some times in an angry tone sometimes in a playful tone....Now i have observed that he does some mischief on purpose and says, " baba naughty boy, doing mischief"
    Or
    If i correct him and say, baba dont do this, you must not throw your toys he replies...." baba throwing" and throws it.
    Am i doing something wrong?, Is this normal for a 2 yr old or what do i need to change in my approach?

  • @tanmoydatta7018
    @tanmoydatta7018 2 місяці тому +1

    If any child makes the same mistake again and again and again.... I can assure you Mam no parent wants to scold his/her child at very 1st few instances... What to do in that scenario? How to react?

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому +2

      It’s not about scolding or not scolding. It’s about making the child feel worthless vs teaching the child consistently to do something right! Saying you ate stupid, why don’t u get it? Vs saying let’s try this again . Both have very different impact 🙏🏼 there r examples r give in all videos

    • @tanmoydatta7018
      @tanmoydatta7018 2 місяці тому

      @@riritrivedi thank you mam

  • @arjunkrishna2117
    @arjunkrishna2117 2 місяці тому

  • @SatabdiSahaOfficial
    @SatabdiSahaOfficial Місяць тому

    My mother body shame me for being thin and dark skinned. After growing up I know that is not my fault but the genetics. My mother is dark skinned and father is skinny. But it torturer me throughout.,😑😔

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  Місяць тому +1

      yes, we totally understand you can work on particular things related to body shaming which has been bothering you!

  • @lifeoflearning3881
    @lifeoflearning3881 2 місяці тому +1

    Maam! My daughter doesn't close any caps..no caps for pens, no lid on the glue tube ..doesnt close the zip pouch, doesnt plan even the smallest things ..wont take her bathrobe to the bathroom and she is 12+. I remind her to set her bag according to time table but she still wont do it. Keeps losing items in school and other places. Keeps shouting at her younger sibling and is veryean with her. She is highly unorganized. Wont check for pencil or geometry box even before exams. What should we do?

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому

      Pls sit with her when she is receptive and try to understand why she is doing this. Is she rebelling or simply apathetic? If she is 12 and doesn’t have any learning disabilities she knows these things have to be done. But if she has been corrected all the time and nagged, but she doesn’t feel connected with parents then she deliberately won’t do it. Talk to her. Understand the why behind this behavoir. Let her face some consequences. Then she might learn

    • @Aunty-wp9tf
      @Aunty-wp9tf Місяць тому

      Read about executive dysfunction, May get some useful tips

  • @maniyamihir4177
    @maniyamihir4177 2 місяці тому

    So relatable. i'm following your series. after watching every video, i feel very unfortunate to have this shitty parents. No No i'm not blaming your video. i know they are shitty from long, they remind me everyday. i used to cry & still do sometime like what a luck i have that i got shittiest of shit as my parents BUT nowadays i'm more & more interested in understanding positive parenting through your videos & focused on my wellbeing. i started watching you after raj shamani podcast, i feel nature urge to watch your videos wevery time i see it on youtube. i feel really really thankful to you riri ma'am.

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому

      Thank You so much!! 😊

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому +1

      Blaming parents won’t heal you. Taking charge of your own life and healing is what will change things for you

    • @maniyamihir4177
      @maniyamihir4177 2 місяці тому

      @@riritrivedi do you think after any parent does so much harm, child should still think oh my parents are wonderful, parents se bada koi nahi, parents bhagwan se bhi bade he & etc shit? i take responsibity of my life but i can not forget or forgive. like we blame criminals for wrong doings of criminals, i believe one must blame their parents if wrong doings has been occured to child & then child should take charge of his life & heal.
      Last year, i had mental break down because they put so pressure on me of my academic failure. i didn't take shower for 1.5 month because of waterphobia. whenever i went to sleep, my body shivered horribly, vision blacked out like i'm dying. they told such things that even if i tell someone, no one believes that a parent can do this. constant threats of death like kal dopahar tak tere khane me zehar milake mar dungi, tu so raha honga tab tera sar hathodi se fod denge, realtives/ shop keepers ke samne beijjat karna, tu na peda hua hota to acha hota, gaddar beta peda ho gaya, etc. physical fights, emotional manipulation, neglect, etc things that i can't even remember now. they didn't even help me when i was in bad physical condition. this is just very small 1% of things happened to me in last 1.5 year.
      i got your pov that you wanted to say don't just go on blaming parents & do nothing. BUT whenever someone say Don't blame your parents, it enrages me.
      Btw started my yoga back & got my mental & physical status on track last year, i started my revenge after that. it has been a good journey from then. i feel very joyful when i see my parents cry.
      last statement may enrage you but it's the truth.
      i have decided to improve & be a good parent to my future kids. that's why i watch your videos.

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому +1

      @@maniyamihir4177 yes accepting what happened is important. but when we blame, we just pass on the responsibility on them - that wont heal us. we will still carry the pain hurt and trauma which we will carry all our life. best to accept and heal own self. Parents wont change till they themselves wish to change. so best is to work on our selves. yes nobody can force u to forgive anyone - and we cannot forget trauma - body never forgets even if mind does! But moving on is important! For our own healing

  • @ruchicasingh
    @ruchicasingh 2 місяці тому

    My son could not run properly after Covid lockdown and I think because we pointed out how slow he is , he tries to avoid running instead of trying harder . Could this be toxic shame

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому +1

      Yes definitely! Don’t say how slow he is, keep reinforcing he is fast! Or if that sounds like a lie then just keep telling him to try without making personal attacks like “you are…” or “you just can’t…”

  • @soumisanyal5315
    @soumisanyal5315 2 місяці тому

    What to do if the child repeats the same mistake everyday. My seven year old is dropping food, pencil shavings etc on the floor though it is said to him everyday. How can I concentrate on the action and not on the child?
    How can I consult you ma'am?

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  Місяць тому

      For therapy or consultation queries please fill up this form
      forms.gle/EP8FsWkmhe2bDTS6A
      Once you submit the form our team will reach out to you in the next 48 hrs
      For further questions please WhatsApp us on +91 9099853844 between 10 am to 6 pm IST
      Meanwhile please see the video on what our consultation process is like ua-cam.com/play/PLa4jfO4aTSvtuDRNpUU5RO3xIuvQBieDx.html&feature=shared

  • @yanmandalam
    @yanmandalam 2 місяці тому

    Ma'am my older son is suffering from OCD. He is in 12th std. His symptoms started recently. It has been only 6 months that I have been noticing some changes in him . He would overwrite because he is not satisfied with the way his handwriting looks. I have told him plenty of times that his handwriting looks good. But he just can not control himself. Another thing he does is to keep things in certain ways. He is again not satisfied with the position of that object. He has become phone addicted, though he watches youtube videos that are knowledge based or sometimes stand up comedy.
    Please help me. How should I deal with this. I have consulted a neurologist. He diagnosed him and said that he is suffering from OCD. He has prescribed him medicine. But I am speculative about giving him that medicine. As his paternal aunt has the same problem and despite taking medicine for a long time, she didn't get cured, but actually, it has aggravated.

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому

      Please take a second opinion of other doctor before starting medication or he can have consultation with us if he is ready.
      For therapy or consultation queries please fill up this form
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      Once you submit the form our team will reach out to you in the next 48 hrs
      For further questions please WhatsApp us on +91 9099853844 between 10 am to 6 pm IST
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  • @poonamsaini3504
    @poonamsaini3504 2 місяці тому

    Plz mam ye video kya hindi me aayega 😢

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому

      haan bilkul.. humare sath jude rhiye bahot jald yahi video hindi me aayega

    • @poonamsaini3504
      @poonamsaini3504 2 місяці тому

      @@riritrivedi 😊 thanks you mam mein hamesha aapki video dekhti hu or unse kuch sikhne ki kosis krti hu aap yese hi hum parents ke liye helpful video banaye jisse hme help milti rhe or hum parenting ke guide hote rhe

    • @riritrivedi
      @riritrivedi  2 місяці тому

      @@poonamsaini3504 Thank you!! follow karte rahiye, subscribe bhi kijiye!!

  • @SwatiSingh-i8p
    @SwatiSingh-i8p 2 місяці тому

    Hello mam..