I don't think it's fair the burden of maintaining contact with ex in laws falls on you. Their dad needs to step up and coordinate and make that effort with you to make it happen. This puts you in a difficult situation.
I agree 100% that putting this on you is , they needed to spend more time with their own son and then they wouldn't be in this situation unless they have visitation rights then it's all up to you and you decide how much they see them
Just tell your in-laws its not your fault that they have to see the children in shifts... they can blame their own son and you are doing your best to work w/the pieces he left...
I have no idea how I found your channel. I have no children, no husband, no boyfriend. But you're sooooo likeable and genuine, I just cannot stop watching your videos. I guess we all go through a lot in this life. Your story seems to be really helping a lot of people with similar circumstances as yours. I think you're great:-)
I'm a 22 year old. Not married, no kids but I still love to watch your videos. Although the topics don't appeal to my personal life. You appeal to me as a person! Xx
I sometimes don't find anything you say useful. Simply because I'm a lot younger, etc. but I find your videos so inspirational. The fact that you share such a personal story, just blows my mind. So I regularly watch your videos to remind myself of the woman I want to become. One with flaws (we are human) but with a huge heart, and a lot of courage. Thank you!
its great that you and your ex mil are still close.my parents got divorced when i was 3 and my mom has stayed close with my fathers side of the family specifically my grandma and aunt.its great for the kids.
You are too cute! Such a down to earth person. I'm grateful to have the relationship I do with my son's gf (mother of a grandson and her daughter/my love grandchild). We also have a very extended mix of married, divorced, remarried family and we all get together for the benefit of any kids involved. Including my brother and I. You're doing such a great job.
Personally, it doesn't matter to me what kind of video you post or on what day. I am not a single Mom and I don't have young kids (22 y/o daughter) but I love your channel regardless! I LOVE all of your videos,even if they don't apply to me and my life (school lunches, etc.) Try not to stress so much over your channel being chaotic... that's what makes you and your channel so real. I used to watch this one girl's channel but she had it all scripted and after watching you, it sounded so fake. I don't watch her anymore. Like the other person that commented said (Denise ), it's like you are a friend and we like to see what's going on... chaotic or not. I hope you plan on doing your channel until your boys are at least 18, so we can see them grow up and see what happens in your life as well. :) Also, I think it's so sweet that you don't edit out your emotions, whether it be getting teary eyed talking about your ex mil or when your dog died or whatever. That's why I feel you are so genuine by just putting it all out there. You are such an inspiration to so many people. I hope you know that!
You don't NEED a UA-cam schedule😉 Post what you want, when you want😊 & stop feeling compelled to "label" your channel. You are Candid Mommy, that's a description for those who need one😉
I admire the fact you are able to communicate with your ex in laws. My ex doesnt want me to have any contact with them at all. It makes it difficult on our daughter, she wants to be able to see here aunt and uncle and other grandparents, but the ex doesnt want me talking with them. I care alot for my ex father in law and my ex sister and brother in laws and rheir kids, but you are in such a better situation. Im jeleous of that.
Who cares what he says, maybe they are thinking the same thing as you. I was in a similar situation and decided to make contact with my Ex's side of the family, and I'm so glad I did. The more people that love your daughter the better.
I've been lucky to get along really well with my ex in laws. They actually came to my wedding to my second husband. They haven't seen or heard from my ex in years, but we talk to them regularly.
Thanks mary, i agree with you! But its easier said then done. Especially when they keep changing numbers and dont let it out. I have a pending court case against her again for contempt of court! She brings it on herself for not following the parenting plan, then purposely attempts to insight arguments which i refuse to engage in, which enrages her more!
Thank you mary. She already has found a new victim. Her current bf was recently jailed for felony theft 1 and 2. Yet his lawyer claimed him autistic and that he did it for her. He didnt want to lose her. Plus a friend of mine down in bama called me recently and shared the same thoughts as myself. We think she is in drugs. Her pictures and in person, she looks strung out. Im glad im that normal mature parent, plus we live with my parents which helps a great deal. Thank you again for your words and support.
perhaps if you were to make it clear to your partner how much it upsets your daughter. I find if you make it about the only Common Ground you share it's hard for them to disagree. even if you can find a time for limited contact or when contact would be okay maybe through email. or maybe your partner would be okay with joint messages that they could see it sounds to me like you just want to see them some more. I think if you made it clear this made you sad the other person would understand more even if they have issue with you. I especially think the joint message thing would work so that they can see the message I found in my experience it's usually about control
you're a very strong person I've just started watching your channel and I've binged watched it. you seem very honest and genuine and I'm very good at reading micro-expressions! you're kind and genuine person who has grown so much in light of a hard situation. you give me hope, I currently have very different and also difficult struggles. but you inspire me to keep my chin up think I can come out of this mostly unscathed. Thanks you so much!!!
I know you set it up like it was a hardly-anything-to-it, blast-from-the-past-style video, but I really enjoyed watching this. When families become so disparate like they can be, I love seeing parents making an effort to keep family involved and I love that your mom-in-law is such a kindred spirit to you. Your boys are so blessed (along with you) that you have that good relationship with their grandma and I really pray that things continue well there, as well as growing better elsewhere. Wi-five from Australia! (That's like a high-five but you don't slap hands. Do they even do wi-five's in the US?)
I think the number one thing I try to remember is even if myself and my mom (the kids' grandmother) disagree with how my divorced brother "shares" his kids with the family (and boy I do!) they are still his kids and our opinions don't need to be shared with him! No matter how much we love them... no matter how much we miss them and want to see them... they are not our children and we need to give my brother space and make ourselves available for the kids when we do get chances to see them. We didn't always think like that, BUT it causes too much conflict when there is already divorce to make seeing the kids an issue too. Anyway, I am sorry if someone made you feel like you are not doing a good job when scheduling family visits can be a nightmare!
mistamoon1i bet she wishes she was but if you saw her other videos you'd realize it's not true. her Vlogs might make that confusing but she has videos with their family shopping if you look at her schedule you can tell
I had the same thing with my ex mother in law, a wonderful closeness, better than my own mother. When I divorced my ex, I was more upset that I was losing her than I was losing him. When she asked me why, I told her it was because he was dealing pot and coke out our home and I wanted him to do it elsewhere because of our baby, that he refused. She refused to believe me. ( I didn't tell her about his partner OD'ing on our living room floor, or that cop helicopters were a nightly thing or that the police cruisers every day were a bit much. Lots of other things as well.) I had to get out of there. It took me 3 years and fertility drugs to have my daughter and I wasn't about to put up with his drugs and maybe losing our baby. I left for Australia for two years. I still, to this day, mourn my relationship with my first mother-in-law. I loved her deeply and I was not there when she died, never forgiving me for the divorce.I miss her love.
Transformation what seriously he was trying to make a common ground with this person or people washing it's a vlog people usually relate to stuff in the video you're going to be an ass go away
You look so bright and pretty ........stay happy and positive ..... Theirs nothing wrong with being friendly with anyone..as long as you feel good You and your boys are all that matters ....
You are doing a great job in what you are doing, you are adapting to a difficult situation that you did not ask for. Wonder how you are doing now? Hope good!
Hey whatever u upload is great we all get busy and life turned upside dwn but it's fact that u put in an effort to upload something is good it's just nice to hear from u like ur a friend it's like thanks for calling :) or thanks for the tip with regard to recipes or great see boys they're getting so big or whatever. That is so nice to b able stay friends with ur mum in law where ur ex is ok with that. Did he ever say ur not allowed see them just to hurt u.
reminder: You can't always please everyone. Do what you can make time for them because they are a new part in your life that keeps you in a positive mode. I'm glad to see you smiling, I know life is stressful but roll with the punches and keep moving on to bettering your self with your new found family. Get a bike and team up with the family and lose that weight together. Family is your strength, never forget that. God Bless !
CandidMommy awe, it's really unfortunate that your ex's dad is putting his personal issue with you (and the May situation) ahead of doing what's best for his grandkids...hopefully time will help him see what's truly important. On the other side that is AMAZING that you have maintained a great relationship with their grandma and a beautiful friendship! How awesome is that?!? So precious!💗💕
First comment yay!! Just want to send you some love and good feelings your way! I love my in laws and it would be so hard to juggle that relationship if my hubby and I ended things. You seem to be trying so hard, but keeping the boys your priority. Good job!
It was the same here but there was a big family argument and my partner got dragged into it from there grandparents and they didn't speak for 6 years but I have been keeping in contact so yes day they came down and things went yell so it did clear the air slightly but it's not nice for our kids (there great grandchildren) xx
I'm happy you have a good relationship with your ex-mil. I don't have this type of relationship with mine. I like to think of her as my ex-mil but I'm still married to my husband. She was or is that is his step mom but his dad passed a way a few years ago. Haven't seen her since our daughter's second birthday party. Our daughter is almost 5. She is not the nicest person on the planet. But life has been a hell of a lot brighter and happier without her in it. Well, without any of my in laws for that matter.
I know that you got a lot of flak for your Ex/Divorce videos, but I have been following you for such a long time so in a way I felt like those videos were necessary to truly understand your journey and situation. And they also seemed to be a bit therapeutic for you. So basically, I enjoyed watching them. And for the people who complained about them, how hard is it to simply not watch something if you're not interested? People kill me sometimes.
In 10 years i never had 1 problem with my inlaw. After i divorce it makes me sad that my father inlaw calls me every now and the to say hi. I use to stay at his house when we visit the country and we had so many good memories. I like hearing from the old man.
Having such a close relationship with her may be more damaging than you think. How does your own mother feel about that? I'm sure it's not easy. Maybe it would be wise to invest in your relationship with her a little more. And how does your ex-husband feel about it? You may not care what his feelings are but if his mom treats you more like her child than she treats him this may be an un-healthy relationship. Not trying to be rude. I've watched you for years and love you to pieces but I have some personal experience with a very similar situation. Feeling like your parents are obsessed with your ex while they could take you or leave you is a pretty painful thing to go through. I know relationships go two ways and maybe he's not putting forth proper effort. But I just thought I might shed some light from the other side of things. I know you feel like losing her would be the end of the world, but perhaps she's not yours to lose. She's a bonus for u, but for him she's the only mom he's got
pinkcinderella07 Well said. I get the impression that your channel could be damaging to your siblings. Not that you don't have the right to have it ( of course you do) but there's more at stake then just you. I think the ex mil should be put into the grandparents category and recognize what or who could be affected deeply. You have a lot to be taking into consideration.
what if your mother sucks it is abusive like mine was honestly I'd throw my relationship with my mom in the garbage if it that were a possibility. unfortunately if ever want to speak to my father I can't do that cuz she's crazy and controlling
I'm sure they won't care..they're boys. Boys don't tend to give a shit about stuff like that. Girls are the ones that hate airing personal things. Plus she's raising them with herself posting on UA-cam. I really don't think it will bother them at all. They're most likely used to it already
It may not be anyone's fault and everyone's fault , you have the kids, work it out so that it best meets your life style and protects your children from ill feeling towards anyone person. Props to you for making it work.
My sons wife left him for our Pastor, who was also his best friend and they got married. My son was crushed and so furious. We had been in that church over 15 years and they grew up together. It was so hard on him. I was living alone on SS and he asked me to move in with him to help with the bills and my precious 3 year old granddaughter. I had been friends with his mother and father all those years too so I felt like I had been betrayed also. My ex daughter n law and her new pastor husband had a baby boy and they’ve went on with their lives while my son is stuck right where he was when it all happened. He doesn’t date, he devotes all his free time to his daughter who is 11 now. We have forgiven them even though they didn’t ask to be forgiven. Btw my son was a good husband but we can never forget. We’ve had problems finding a new home church. It was devastating to us but a new beginning for them. I just felt like getting this off my chest. I still love my daughter n law to an extent but my son is quiet and keeps a lot inside. I’m glad you get along with your ex mother n law. It really helps matters.
SHE and I, not HER and I.....You would not say, "Her is close" but you would say "SHE is close", I am close" is a quick way to test it. HER is a direct object. I took HER to the store with me. HER is not a subject. It can be an adjective such as which shoes, HER shoes. You have two little ones, the greatest gift you can give them is to make it easy for them to learn correct English by modeling it correctly. My mom taught me a person never stops learning, SHE was always correcting her own English usage, trying to better herself. I would not have said anything except it stands out and you can easily change. Please change for your boys, good chance to teach them everyone makes mistakes, it is OK, and everyone keeps learning. Making correct English second nature for your kids is a great gift. They won't have to think about it. You can do it. If in doubt, separate the two subjects and say them as separate sentences like I did above and you will be able to spot the correct way most times. Love you.
Elizabeth Lavet Making correct English? No! Speaking correct English....if you're going to correct someone about proper grammar then use the correct reference.
Hi Jenny, when you said that it did nont go well splitting the week between your ex mil and sister I I thought you meant with your mil; but then realized it couldnt be. Who where you refering to???
its good for the kids to see there granys,im an granny,and two of my boy,s x .are my best friends.does not matter what my boys do in there life ,but my grandkids and there mum,s will always be in our lifes
You may not see this because I've notice this video was posted 2 years ago but I'm going through something similar I'm not married but I'm going through a possibly break up after 8 years of being together and I am really close to his family more so than my own family and have became an aunt to his sister and brothers children i was around since before they were born and I'm just really upset and nervous that I'm gonna lose them all along with him
Provided for her and her kids. Besides, even though he did do all that stuff, that's no excuse for her to publicize it. What an incredible violation on his privacy.
I'm friends with my husbands ex mother in law!!! That's a weird one, she doesn't call her own daughter to get info about her grandkids, she calls me...lol
I wonder what compels anyone to share such intimate details about their private life on UA-cam.. And even worse, what compels anyone to listen to a strangers trivial personal problems.. Society is absurd.
I'm certainly not asking this in a bitchy way, I'm just curious. How does you EX's mother and new wife feel about you making video's about him and sharing info about his addiction, etc...? I understand why you want to do it for you, but I cant help but wonder whether they'd be pissed about you sharing his information?
Julie J it's a vlog, she had it before the divorce.... why wouldn't she continued it. a vlog is sharing all aspects of your life. they knew she had it before why would she stopped. why wouldn't she share Big Life events. just saying.
So I first came across you with how you and your x broke up I just found it again! And now this one and heard the boys dad has a new wife and they go with him for a week? I guess he’s doing good???
I"m not sure what [Ex !! is] !! Drop the word husband all together (he no longer deserves that title.) He is now your child's father only. Grandmother and grandfather will be your kids grandparents for the rest of your life [ NO~Ex !! here]. For the grandparents they are more afraid that you might leave or forget them. Always include the in your life. For them and your family will be the greatest assets you'll ever have and will do anything for you.
Please stop...if I was your mom right now I would be devastated that you have shared with the world that you would rather be with your in law instead.....you are destroying so much
Larisa Jeffrey if her mom is like my mom I would throw that relationship in the trash. my mom was physically abusive most of my life . and when she stopped being physically abusive she started manipulating me mentally so in my teenage years I never really got to make adult decisions for my future she did. don't assume it's stupid.
Love ur videos. I was the jerk In my marriage but she married a good man and they have a beautiful boy. And we get along fine. On a side note, how do u get ur teeth so white.
I was with the father of my daughter for 13 years and he had an affair for a year and the the girl is now pregnant and i basically lost my family which also includes his family i do still talk to some of his family especially his cusin we are very close but he wants me to stay and work it out but no way can i ever be with him ever again that hurt me so much it was like a kick in the stomach for me and this is just the short story but now my life is gna completely change nothing will ever be the same again and i know its gna be hard for me to move on and im really scared never did i think this would happen to me ever .
itzel y I went through something very similar and it was very difficult for me also. Unfortunately, it makes it so much harder when u have a child involved and trying to be strong for them when you feel so sad and depressed. My ex husband also cheated and got one of his ho hos pregnant and after being with someone for 10 years you think u know them but I guess you never really do! Anyways, its been 5 years since I divorced him and trust me it will get easier with time. It doesn't feel like it now but it will. I couldn't stand the site of him after I kicked him out and I had to have my mother be the mediator for a little while for my sons sake. After I accepted that things were gonna change and we would be ok then I realized my life would be better without his cheating ass and I would never have to go on thinking every time he left the house he was cheating on me. Trust is a HUGE factor in a great relationship and without that then you have nothing! Plus the fact that he got another woman pregnant made me sick to my stomach...esp cause he was MY husband and I was so shocked he could do this to me after he would tell me how much he loved me all the time. I guess our vows meant something to only me...obviously. Just concentrate on you and your daughter now...you deserve happiness too! I wish you a lot of luck hun and keep your head up!!! ;-)
Nicole Sitar thank you i hope it does get easier what really really hurt me the most was that i have been trying to get pregnant for 6 years and i havnt been able to i always thank god for my daughter i just have been wanting to give her a sibling you know but ive been to docs and everything and they say i can but its my irregular periods so i would take pills and then stop for a while cause i was tired of taking so many pills but that really hurt me so much i told him u gave her something that i have been wanting for so long and all he can do is stay quite but im gna miss his family and my niece and nephews and im really close to 1 of my nephews everytime i talk about him i start to tear up and no more thanksgiving xmas new year or bday partys with the family he has a big family so we always spent everything with his family including my parents i think the reason why im gna miss all that is cause i was so use to it i just hope i can move on and just try to keep myself busy and not think about anything..but thank you again i pray it does get easier :)
itzel y You can still have a relationship with his family even tho i know things change in ways. Im sure they still love u after u were with him for 13 years...that's a bond that can't just go away. Im so sry to hear about you having issues getting pregnant for so long and then you have to find out he got another girl knocked up by cheating on you. Since u dont want to be with him now, is he trying to be with her? I know how your feeling girl...i was just as heartbroken too. If this all just happened then its going to take time for u to heal and although it feels like it never will get better, it will i promise!
Nicole Sitar Tbh i just cant cause i feel like he will end up with her and just imagine me being over there with the family and her being there i just wouldnt be able to be there ..but i did tell my sister in law that i dont wna lose the relationship i have with the boys and she said of course not but none of his family know what he did yet only his causin cause we are close like i said before..i wish this was all a dream tbh
itzel y To answer your question from before that I just saw...yes he is with the girl today. They are on their 3rd daughter together and she is 20 years younger than him. He could've had her...makes me sick to my stomach! They don't even live in the states anymore. She is from Peru so they decided to move there to start up a business and he hasn't seen my son is 2 years now. He is almost 10 years older than me and even tho he doesn't look it I figured him being older would've made him more mature but guess not! He also was married once before me and had a son that was 2 years old when we met so I am just happy that my son sees his brother from time to time now that his father isn't here for him thru the most important time of his life. Teenage years are hard for a boy and I believe they need their father to talk to about the things that make him uncomfortable to tell his mom u know? Anyways, my ex knows now that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. He always asks me and my son how I am and if I am seeing anyone. The only reason he went to be with her was because I didn't want to be with him anymore and I am so glad that I made that decision now. Just remember that if you do stay with him you will always have to have that child he had with her be a huge part of your life. You will also have to deal with the babys mother and that will never be easy! Every time you look at that child and his mom you will be reminded of when he cheated on you and I am sure it will never get easier but just know that it was never that child fault and it was his and hers. I am sure whatever decision u make you will do whats best for you and your daughter!
Just an opinion... I feel like it's really inappropriate to have a relationship with ex in-laws. That's crossing a boundary and not respecting your ex's life. I understand that you may have had a great relationship but when you get a divorce you are divorcing the family as well. You both need to live your own lives and respect boundaries. You can be friendly and cordial but communication goes through the ex spouse not the parents. I couldn't imagine a scenario where I'm texting my ex's family and we started dating when I was 14 (36 now).
I stumbled upon your videos, why do you feel the need to share such insanely personal topics about you're family on UA-cam? I know you don't "bad mouth" your situation...but golly...think of how these videos might effect your boys when they grow up. Just a thought. Blessings.
that guy messed up! how could you choose the dope over such a gorgeous, smart,and very well spoken young lady?! And before people jump down my throat . let it be known that I have been in the dope when i was younger, VERY into it. more than a user.... yes the drugs can become a sickness, but most of the time the real reason people lose so much is because of their own selfishness. true facts. you messed up dude! I know your reading this. lol I dont know how i got here, but i cant watch anymore, this is to much chick talk. lol
Kaname Locon for better or worse doesn’t include allowing yourself and your children to be mentally and physically abused..... while he cheats.....& she was having to sell everything in their house & return everything she could find that was unopened to the store to get $ for them to eat while she was pregnant because he wasn’t bringing home a paycheck...then he lost his job! Yeah, not the for better or worse situation it was talking about!
I don't think it's fair the burden of maintaining contact with ex in laws falls on you. Their dad needs to step up and coordinate and make that effort with you to make it happen. This puts you in a difficult situation.
Glitter Nails rather
Glitter Nails yea those in laws are insane and ignorant and definitely retarded.
Glitter Nails Dad is a Drug Addict! His brain is Not of value to anyone until he Sobers Up!
I agree 100% that putting this on you is , they needed to spend more time with their own son and then they wouldn't be in this situation unless they have visitation rights then it's all up to you and you decide how much they see them
Just tell your in-laws its not your fault that they have to see the children in shifts... they can blame their own son and you are doing your best to work w/the pieces he left...
I love this lady's honesty and vulnerability. She is the definition of beautiful.
I have no idea how I found your channel. I have no children, no husband, no boyfriend. But you're sooooo likeable and genuine, I just cannot stop watching your videos. I guess we all go through a lot in this life. Your story seems to be really helping a lot of people with similar circumstances as yours. I think you're great:-)
I'm a 22 year old. Not married, no kids but I still love to watch your videos. Although the topics don't appeal to my personal life. You appeal to me as a person! Xx
Malia Same! 23, not married, no kids, in school. I don't relate to any of this but I just find her very inspiring and appealing as a person to watch!
+Maligno FM Creepy.
+Malia Same! I'm 20 with no kids or anything but i literally just love her as a person
+ItsEmmaa I know...right?
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I sometimes don't find anything you say useful. Simply because I'm a lot younger, etc. but I find your videos so inspirational. The fact that you share such a personal story, just blows my mind. So I regularly watch your videos to remind myself of the woman I want to become. One with flaws (we are human) but with a huge heart, and a lot of courage. Thank you!
It's not your job to keep the kids in contact with your ex in laws. It's your ex husbands
agreed!!!
No it's not her job, but she enjoys it and is very close with Them. She wants to spend time with them.
She does it for her kids and their relationship with their grandparents! Why would she want to leave anything up to her ex-husband?
SillyMando2008 Good luck w that! He’s a Drug Addict...not very reliable. She’s doing this for t kids.
Actually it is. When you become a parent your job is to do what’s best for your kids. Yes, the circumstances suck. But that’s life.
its great that you and your ex mil are still close.my parents got divorced when i was 3 and my mom has stayed close with my fathers side of the family specifically my grandma and aunt.its great for the kids.
I'm so happy that you are able to stay in contact with the in laws. It makes it easier on your children. Makes your life easy and have happy times.
She controls the ex through the in-laws. This is highschool cheerleader meangirls lunchtable politics in action.
It blows my mind that people complain about lighting and sound. Haha
You are too cute! Such a down to earth person. I'm grateful to have the relationship I do with my son's gf (mother of a grandson and her daughter/my love grandchild). We also have a very extended mix of married, divorced, remarried family and we all get together for the benefit of any kids involved. Including my brother and I. You're doing such a great job.
you are officially my new favorite, i have been watching your videos all day and your strength and honesty is inspiring
Holy cow you are beautiful. You deserve much better. I could never imagine turning my back on my wife and daughter like that. Never settle.
NEVER SETTLE! EXACTLY!
Personally, it doesn't matter to me what kind of video you post or on what day. I am not a single Mom and I don't have young kids (22 y/o daughter) but I love your channel regardless! I LOVE all of your videos,even if they don't apply to me and my life (school lunches, etc.) Try not to stress so much over your channel being chaotic... that's what makes you and your channel so real. I used to watch this one girl's channel but she had it all scripted and after watching you, it sounded so fake. I don't watch her anymore. Like the other person that commented said (Denise ), it's like you are a friend and we like to see what's going on... chaotic or not. I hope you plan on doing your channel until your boys are at least 18, so we can see them grow up and see what happens in your life as well. :) Also, I think it's so sweet that you don't edit out your emotions, whether it be getting teary eyed talking about your ex mil or when your dog died or whatever. That's why I feel you are so genuine by just putting it all out there. You are such an inspiration to so many people. I hope you know that!
My ex in-laws and I don't get at all. And I'm so happy they don't live near me.
lol that's the way it normally goes!!!
You don't NEED a UA-cam schedule😉 Post what you want, when you want😊 & stop feeling compelled to "label" your channel. You are Candid Mommy, that's a description for those who need one😉
I admire the fact you are able to communicate with your ex in laws. My ex doesnt want me to have any contact with them at all. It makes it difficult on our daughter, she wants to be able to see here aunt and uncle and other grandparents, but the ex doesnt want me talking with them. I care alot for my ex father in law and my ex sister and brother in laws and rheir kids, but you are in such a better situation. Im jeleous of that.
Who cares what he says, maybe they are thinking the same thing as you. I was in a similar situation and decided to make contact with my Ex's side of the family, and I'm so glad I did. The more people that love your daughter the better.
I've been lucky to get along really well with my ex in laws. They actually came to my wedding to my second husband. They haven't seen or heard from my ex in years, but we talk to them regularly.
Thanks mary, i agree with you! But its easier said then done. Especially when they keep changing numbers and dont let it out. I have a pending court case against her again for contempt of court! She brings it on herself for not following the parenting plan, then purposely attempts to insight arguments which i refuse to engage in, which enrages her more!
Thank you mary. She already has found a new victim. Her current bf was recently jailed for felony theft 1 and 2. Yet his lawyer claimed him autistic and that he did it for her. He didnt want to lose her. Plus a friend of mine down in bama called me recently and shared the same thoughts as myself. We think she is in drugs. Her pictures and in person, she looks strung out. Im glad im that normal mature parent, plus we live with my parents which helps a great deal. Thank you again for your words and support.
perhaps if you were to make it clear to your partner how much it upsets your daughter. I find if you make it about the only Common Ground you share it's hard for them to disagree. even if you can find a time for limited contact or when contact would be okay maybe through email. or maybe your partner would be okay with joint messages that they could see it sounds to me like you just want to see them some more. I think if you made it clear this made you sad the other person would understand more even if they have issue with you. I especially think the joint message thing would work so that they can see the message I found in my experience it's usually about control
you're a very strong person I've just started watching your channel and I've binged watched it. you seem very honest and genuine and I'm very good at reading micro-expressions! you're kind and genuine person who has grown so much in light of a hard situation. you give me hope, I currently have very different and also difficult struggles. but you inspire me to keep my chin up think I can come out of this mostly unscathed. Thanks you so much!!!
I know you set it up like it was a hardly-anything-to-it, blast-from-the-past-style video, but I really enjoyed watching this. When families become so disparate like they can be, I love seeing parents making an effort to keep family involved and I love that your mom-in-law is such a kindred spirit to you. Your boys are so blessed (along with you) that you have that good relationship with their grandma and I really pray that things continue well there, as well as growing better elsewhere. Wi-five from Australia! (That's like a high-five but you don't slap hands. Do they even do wi-five's in the US?)
I am so happy that you and Grandma get along well! That's a blessing. (Please don't click on my face. I'm a germaphobe.)
You could write a book about your experiences with these relationships..I am sure someone could benefit as you are very insightful.
I think the number one thing I try to remember is even if myself and my mom (the kids' grandmother) disagree with how my divorced brother "shares" his kids with the family (and boy I do!) they are still his kids and our opinions don't need to be shared with him! No matter how much we love them... no matter how much we miss them and want to see them... they are not our children and we need to give my brother space and make ourselves available for the kids when we do get chances to see them. We didn't always think like that, BUT it causes too much conflict when there is already divorce to make seeing the kids an issue too. Anyway, I am sorry if someone made you feel like you are not doing a good job when scheduling family visits can be a nightmare!
This woman is an actress
mistamoon1i bet she wishes she was but if you saw her other videos you'd realize it's not true. her Vlogs might make that confusing but she has videos with their family shopping if you look at her schedule you can tell
You look like your in good spirits, I am so happy for you. And it has to be better for the boys
They aren't "x-inlaws".... they are "outlaws"... I love my outlaws.
Lol
If y'all are up for it I'd be interested to see a Q&A with her regarding your divorce, like what she thinks about it and everything
I had the same thing with my ex mother in law, a wonderful closeness, better than my own mother. When I divorced my ex, I was more upset that I was losing her than I was losing him. When she asked me why, I told her it was because he was dealing pot and coke out our home and I wanted him to do it elsewhere because of our baby, that he refused. She refused to believe me. ( I didn't tell her about his partner OD'ing on our living room floor, or that cop helicopters were a nightly thing or that the police cruisers every day were a bit much. Lots of other things as well.) I had to get out of there. It took me 3 years and fertility drugs to have my daughter and I wasn't about to put up with his drugs and maybe losing our baby. I left for Australia for two years. I still, to this day, mourn my relationship with my first mother-in-law. I loved her deeply and I was not there when she died, never forgiving me for the divorce.I miss her love.
Holeyyyy shit was all that real? Did all that really happen?
Transformation what seriously he was trying to make a common ground with this person or people washing it's a vlog people usually relate to stuff in the video you're going to be an ass go away
Wow!
You look so bright and pretty ........stay happy and positive .....
Theirs nothing wrong with being friendly with anyone..as long as you feel good
You and your boys are all that matters ....
You are doing a great job in what you are doing, you are adapting to a difficult situation that you did not ask for. Wonder how you are doing now? Hope good!
Hey whatever u upload is great we all get busy and life turned upside dwn but it's fact that u put in an effort to upload something is good it's just nice to hear from u like ur a friend it's like thanks for calling :) or thanks for the tip with regard to recipes or great see boys they're getting so big or whatever. That is so nice to b able stay friends with ur mum in law where ur ex is ok with that. Did he ever say ur not allowed see them just to hurt u.
reminder: You can't always please everyone. Do what you can make time for them because they are a new part in your life that keeps you in a positive mode. I'm glad to see you smiling, I know life is stressful but roll with the punches and keep moving on to bettering your self with your new found family. Get a bike and team up with the family and lose that weight together. Family is your strength, never forget that. God Bless !
It's so nice to see you excited because you get to visit your MIL :) ! Have fun!
CandidMommy awe, it's really unfortunate that your ex's dad is putting his personal issue with you (and the May situation) ahead of doing what's best for his grandkids...hopefully time will help him see what's truly important. On the other side that is AMAZING that you have maintained a great relationship with their grandma and a beautiful friendship! How awesome is that?!? So precious!💗💕
First comment yay!! Just want to send you some love and good feelings your way! I love my in laws and it would be so hard to juggle that relationship if my hubby and I ended things. You seem to be trying so hard, but keeping the boys your priority. Good job!
My mother in law and I are like this too, we are so close and have such a great relationship, whereas my mom and I have a very different relationship.
Me too. It's hard because I want to be close to my own mother but she makes it difficult. My MIL is awesome.
It was the same here but there was a big family argument and my partner got dragged into it from there grandparents and they didn't speak for 6 years but I have been keeping in contact so yes day they came down and things went yell so it did clear the air slightly but it's not nice for our kids (there great grandchildren) xx
I'm happy you have a good relationship with your ex-mil. I don't have this type of relationship with mine. I like to think of her as my ex-mil but I'm still married to my husband. She was or is that is his step mom but his dad passed a way a few years ago. Haven't seen her since our daughter's second birthday party. Our daughter is almost 5. She is not the nicest person on the planet. But life has been a hell of a lot brighter and happier without her in it. Well, without any of my in laws for that matter.
I know that you got a lot of flak for your Ex/Divorce videos, but I have been following you for such a long time so in a way I felt like those videos were necessary to truly understand your journey and situation. And they also seemed to be a bit therapeutic for you. So basically, I enjoyed watching them. And for the people who complained about them, how hard is it to simply not watch something if you're not interested? People kill me sometimes.
Hopefully things will improve with his parents ❤️
You are so cute and transparent. I enjoy your channel!
That's awesome that you have such a nice relationship with your MIL......Not all MIL are horrible! Their are plenty of nice ones.
I just came across your channel. I find you have a very infectious persona. It is quite delightful and refreshing. I hope to see more of you!
Is the circle light new? It looks awesome!
In 10 years i never had 1 problem with my inlaw. After i divorce it makes me sad that my father inlaw calls me every now and the to say hi.
I use to stay at his house when we visit the country and we had so many good memories. I like hearing from the old man.
Love your ditls and advice/educational videos :)
Having such a close relationship with her may be more damaging than you think. How does your own mother feel about that? I'm sure it's not easy. Maybe it would be wise to invest in your relationship with her a little more. And how does your ex-husband feel about it? You may not care what his feelings are but if his mom treats you more like her child than she treats him this may be an un-healthy relationship. Not trying to be rude. I've watched you for years and love you to pieces but I have some personal experience with a very similar situation. Feeling like your parents are obsessed with your ex while they could take you or leave you is a pretty painful thing to go through. I know relationships go two ways and maybe he's not putting forth proper effort. But I just thought I might shed some light from the other side of things. I know you feel like losing her would be the end of the world, but perhaps she's not yours to lose. She's a bonus for u, but for him she's the only mom he's got
pinkcinderella07
Well said. I get the impression that your channel could be damaging to your siblings. Not that you don't have the right to have it ( of course you do) but there's more at stake then just you. I think the ex mil should be put into the grandparents category and recognize what or who could be affected deeply. You have a lot to be taking into consideration.
what if your mother sucks it is abusive like mine was honestly I'd throw my relationship with my mom in the garbage if it that were a possibility. unfortunately if ever want to speak to my father I can't do that cuz she's crazy and controlling
How are your kids going to feel about the fact that nothing in their lives is personal?
I'm sure they won't care..they're boys. Boys don't tend to give a shit about stuff like that. Girls are the ones that hate airing personal things. Plus she's raising them with herself posting on UA-cam. I really don't think it will bother them at all. They're most likely used to it already
It may not be anyone's fault and everyone's fault , you have the kids, work it out so that it best meets your life style and protects your children from ill feeling towards anyone person.
Props to you for making it work.
can you do a video about the oils and weight loss, are there certain oils that promote weight loss?
My sons wife left him for our Pastor, who was also his best friend and they got married. My son was crushed and so furious. We had been in that church over 15 years and they grew up together. It was so hard on him. I was living alone on SS and he asked me to move in with him to help with the bills and my precious 3 year old granddaughter. I had been friends with his mother and father all those years too so I felt like I had been betrayed also. My ex daughter n law and her new pastor husband had a baby boy and they’ve went on with their lives while my son is stuck right where he was when it all happened. He doesn’t date, he devotes all his free time to his daughter who is 11 now. We have forgiven them even though they didn’t ask to be forgiven. Btw my son was a good husband but we can never forget. We’ve had problems finding a new home church. It was devastating to us but a new beginning for them. I just felt like getting this off my chest. I still love my daughter n law to an extent but my son is quiet and keeps a lot inside. I’m glad you get along with your ex mother n law. It really helps matters.
You are so lucky to have a great relationship with your MIL
I enjoy your video every time you come on CandidMommy
SHE and I, not HER and I.....You would not say, "Her is close" but you would say "SHE is close", I am close" is a quick way to test it. HER is a direct object. I took HER to the store with me. HER is not a subject. It can be an adjective such as which shoes, HER shoes. You have two little ones, the greatest gift you can give them is to make it easy for them to learn correct English by modeling it correctly. My mom taught me a person never stops learning, SHE was always correcting her own English usage, trying to better herself. I would not have said anything except it stands out and you can easily change. Please change for your boys, good chance to teach them everyone makes mistakes, it is OK, and everyone keeps learning. Making correct English second nature for your kids is a great gift. They won't have to think about it. You can do it. If in doubt, separate the two subjects and say them as separate sentences like I did above and you will be able to spot the correct way most times. Love you.
Lol calm down
Elizabeth Lavet
Making correct English? No! Speaking correct English....if you're going to correct someone about proper grammar then use the correct reference.
I have a Very Close with my MIL.... when we Did separate for a year, she and I remained close. I hope this holds true yet today.
I don't know how I stumbled across your channel and its so random but I am fascinated by your life. I think it has to do with the way you speak. lol
You should do Periscope! You would be a big hit!
You have the prettttttiest skin. Ugh. So gorgeous💜💜💜
Hi Jenny, when you said that it did nont go well splitting the week between your ex mil and sister I I thought you meant with your mil; but then realized it couldnt be. Who where you refering to???
Auri Guzmán She meant her ex father in in law and his wife.
its good for the kids to see there granys,im an granny,and two of my boy,s x .are my best friends.does not matter what my boys do in there life ,but my grandkids and there mum,s will always be in our lifes
Thats great you still have a bond i now if me and my hubby ever split up that my motherlaw would love it she likes the drama lol
I just saw these divorce videos, I hope you are doing better now. If you need to talk, vent or whatever please reach out to me.
Some people are so desperate for attention...god lady get back to reality...
Daniel Guevara God don't watch Vlogs if you don't want to hear people talk. that's what a vlog is.... seriously though
You may not see this because I've notice this video was posted 2 years ago but I'm going through something similar I'm not married but I'm going through a possibly break up after 8 years of being together and I am really close to his family more so than my own family and have became an aunt to his sister and brothers children i was around since before they were born and I'm just really upset and nervous that I'm gonna lose them all along with him
Provided for her and her kids. Besides, even though he did do all that stuff, that's no excuse for her to publicize it. What an incredible violation on his privacy.
I'm friends with my husbands ex mother in law!!! That's a weird one, she doesn't call her own daughter to get info about her grandkids, she calls me...lol
I wonder what compels anyone to share such intimate details about their private life on UA-cam.. And even worse, what compels anyone to listen to a strangers trivial personal problems.. Society is absurd.
Venting and educating but she's not a good speaker disorganized still it's cruel to judge her
attention whores... simple as
I guess some people like seeing honesty and things that feel ''real'' rather than watching random challenge videos and pranks and stuff :)
She's a narcissist. And ungrateful for all her ex did for her.
KaleKain He was on drugs and treated her like crap, what exactly did he do for her?
my mother-in-law hates me😂, my father-in- law and I have the same personality traits and I believe that's why she hates me lol
Sometimes women can be shady and downright spiteful. I'll never understand it.
I can't understand hate from adults
Row Deo you will when you experience a good amount of life and your about 35-40. Give it time kiddo.
My parents are getting divorce so I've been on this side of youtube
This woman looks beautiful in her pink top.
i love all your stories, i love watching you 😉
Angelina C ñv by no o.
I sure do miss my mother-n-law.
I'm certainly not asking this in a bitchy way, I'm just curious. How does you EX's mother and new wife feel about you making video's about him and sharing info about his addiction, etc...? I understand why you want to do it for you, but I cant help but wonder whether they'd be pissed about you sharing his information?
Julie J it's a vlog, she had it before the divorce.... why wouldn't she continued it. a vlog is sharing all aspects of your life. they knew she had it before why would she stopped. why wouldn't she share Big Life events. just saying.
Please young ladies, go to college, don't marry young, I missed out on a lot because I married young.
You're SO beautiful!!!!
It isn't really a good idea to meet up with ex in-laws , you can ask of help if you want I'll be here waiting
can't wait for the lunches my personal favorite
The ex laws are crack heads miss. They are ignorant and brain dead. Don't give them any more time.
How old are your two young boys
So I first came across you with how you and your x broke up I just found it again! And now this one and heard the boys dad has a new wife and they go with him for a week? I guess he’s doing good???
I"m not sure what [Ex !! is] !! Drop the word husband all together (he no longer deserves that title.) He is now your child's father only.
Grandmother and grandfather will be your kids grandparents for the rest of your life [ NO~Ex !! here]. For the grandparents they are more afraid that you might leave or forget them. Always include the in your life. For them and your family will be the greatest assets you'll ever have and will do anything for you.
God bless you, CandidMom.
i feel where your at cause im there too but really?
Please stop...if I was your mom right now I would be devastated that you have shared with the world that you would rather be with your in law instead.....you are destroying so much
Larisa Jeffrey if her mom is like my mom I would throw that relationship in the trash. my mom was physically abusive most of my life . and when she stopped being physically abusive she started manipulating me mentally so in my teenage years I never really got to make adult decisions for my future she did. don't assume it's stupid.
i love your input...but your connection with your ex-inlaw is not normal,,,,your kids will be confused when they get older
Your husband should start his own channel too
Why are people exposing their personal life online that's some shit you should keep for yourself not to the world to know
why didn't you spend all days with both family visiting
Do you EVER have the boys?
why am i still watching this?
whyyyyyy
Because you chose to.
Love ur videos. I was the jerk In my marriage but she married a good man and they have a beautiful boy. And we get along fine. On a side note, how do u get ur teeth so white.
I was with the father of my daughter for 13 years and he had an affair for a year and the the girl is now pregnant and i basically lost my family which also includes his family i do still talk to some of his family especially his cusin we are very close but he wants me to stay and work it out but no way can i ever be with him ever again that hurt me so much it was like a kick in the stomach for me and this is just the short story but now my life is gna completely change nothing will ever be the same again and i know its gna be hard for me to move on and im really scared never did i think this would happen to me ever .
itzel y I went through something very similar and it was very difficult for me also. Unfortunately, it makes it so much harder when u have a child involved and trying to be strong for them when you feel so sad and depressed. My ex husband also cheated and got one of his ho hos pregnant and after being with someone for 10 years you think u know them but I guess you never really do! Anyways, its been 5 years since I divorced him and trust me it will get easier with time. It doesn't feel like it now but it will. I couldn't stand the site of him after I kicked him out and I had to have my mother be the mediator for a little while for my sons sake. After I accepted that things were gonna change and we would be ok then I realized my life would be better without his cheating ass and I would never have to go on thinking every time he left the house he was cheating on me. Trust is a HUGE factor in a great relationship and without that then you have nothing! Plus the fact that he got another woman pregnant made me sick to my stomach...esp cause he was MY husband and I was so shocked he could do this to me after he would tell me how much he loved me all the time. I guess our vows meant something to only me...obviously. Just concentrate on you and your daughter now...you deserve happiness too! I wish you a lot of luck hun and keep your head up!!! ;-)
Nicole Sitar thank you i hope it does get easier what really really hurt me the most was that i have been trying to get pregnant for 6 years and i havnt been able to i always thank god for my daughter i just have been wanting to give her a sibling you know but ive been to docs and everything and they say i can but its my irregular periods so i would take pills and then stop for a while cause i was tired of taking so many pills but that really hurt me so much i told him u gave her something that i have been wanting for so long and all he can do is stay quite but im gna miss his family and my niece and nephews and im really close to 1 of my nephews everytime i talk about him i start to tear up and no more thanksgiving xmas new year or bday partys with the family he has a big family so we always spent everything with his family including my parents i think the reason why im gna miss all that is cause i was so use to it i just hope i can move on and just try to keep myself busy and not think about anything..but thank you again i pray it does get easier :)
itzel y You can still have a relationship with his family even tho i know things change in ways. Im sure they still love u after u were with him for 13 years...that's a bond that can't just go away. Im so sry to hear about you having issues getting pregnant for so long and then you have to find out he got another girl knocked up by cheating on you. Since u dont want to be with him now, is he trying to be with her? I know how your feeling girl...i was just as heartbroken too. If this all just happened then its going to take time for u to heal and although it feels like it never will get better, it will i promise!
Nicole Sitar Tbh i just cant cause i feel like he will end up with her and just imagine me being over there with the family and her being there i just wouldnt be able to be there ..but i did tell my sister in law that i dont wna lose the relationship i have with the boys and she said of course not but none of his family know what he did yet only his causin cause we are close like i said before..i wish this was all a dream tbh
itzel y To answer your question from before that I just saw...yes he is with the girl today. They are on their 3rd daughter together and she is 20 years younger than him. He could've had her...makes me sick to my stomach! They don't even live in the states anymore. She is from Peru so they decided to move there to start up a business and he hasn't seen my son is 2 years now. He is almost 10 years older than me and even tho he doesn't look it I figured him being older would've made him more mature but guess not! He also was married once before me and had a son that was 2 years old when we met so I am just happy that my son sees his brother from time to time now that his father isn't here for him thru the most important time of his life. Teenage years are hard for a boy and I believe they need their father to talk to about the things that make him uncomfortable to tell his mom u know? Anyways, my ex knows now that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. He always asks me and my son how I am and if I am seeing anyone. The only reason he went to be with her was because I didn't want to be with him anymore and I am so glad that I made that decision now. Just remember that if you do stay with him you will always have to have that child he had with her be a huge part of your life. You will also have to deal with the babys mother and that will never be easy! Every time you look at that child and his mom you will be reminded of when he cheated on you and I am sure it will never get easier but just know that it was never that child fault and it was his and hers. I am sure whatever decision u make you will do whats best for you and your daughter!
My mil hates me and she dislikes her son, my husband. So, we never see each other. 😀
P McKenna I'm crazy jealous
Just an opinion... I feel like it's really inappropriate to have a relationship with ex in-laws. That's crossing a boundary and not respecting your ex's life. I understand that you may have had a great relationship but when you get a divorce you are divorcing the family as well. You both need to live your own lives and respect boundaries. You can be friendly and cordial but communication goes through the ex spouse not the parents. I couldn't imagine a scenario where I'm texting my ex's family and we started dating when I was 14 (36 now).
I stumbled upon your videos, why do you feel the need to share such insanely personal topics about you're family on UA-cam? I know you don't "bad mouth" your situation...but golly...think of how these videos might effect your boys when they grow up. Just a thought. Blessings.
Exactly, it'll blow up in her face and they will eventually hate her. Touche.
Stop yammering and start listening.
Christine M dude it's a vlog if you don't know what that is look it up because that's what that is its people talking...duh
that guy messed up! how could you choose the dope over such a gorgeous, smart,and very well spoken young lady?! And before people jump down my throat . let it be known that I have been in the dope when i was younger, VERY into it. more than a user.... yes the drugs can become a sickness, but most of the time the real reason people lose so much is because of their own selfishness. true facts. you messed up dude! I know your reading this. lol I dont know how i got here, but i cant watch anymore, this is to much chick talk. lol
One needs to be self-medicated to listen to this self-absorbed girl drone on.
chaseme81871
How did you get to an understanding that the other is s drug user? Did I miss something?
Astolfo - Rider of Black his abuse was red flags plus the kids deserve better examples. Maybe you need a different perspective. js.
Kaname Locon for better or worse doesn’t include allowing yourself and your children to be mentally and physically abused..... while he cheats.....& she was having to sell everything in their house & return everything she could find that was unopened to the store to get $ for them to eat while she was pregnant because he wasn’t bringing home a paycheck...then he lost his job! Yeah, not the for better or worse situation it was talking about!
Call me Ishmael K you do realize she’s answering questions that people asked her, right? That’s what she’s getting paid to do on these videos.... 🙄
I don't have trust on these kinds of people and not any more
Man you are absolutely Beautiful!!
Do you think that talking about this stuff with the whole world is a problem? With strangers? Do you respect anyone's privacy?
Hey are you still available?