SHOPPING TO COPE WITH THE LOSS OF MY BABY GIRL
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Before anyone judges her....everyone grieves in their own way. Probably most of us have done retail therapy at a low time in our lives. Don't throw stones at this precious Mama. Send her love only...she just lost a child.
I totally agree with that, she is such a sweet lady.
I very much agree with you. Everyone has a different healing journey. What Vanessa needs at this time is the space for grace.💖
Agree 100%. I do it occasionally too. & I’m 75. I love this girl!
U r so beautiful!
Yes...I love Vanessa..best Momma!
Oh my goodness. Vanessa! And everyone else that is encouraging retail therapy during this time of profound loss. Please just stop. This will do nothing for either short term or long term healing. Vanessa. You need professional counseling. I have known deep deep loss so before anyone says anything to the contrary just shut up. I have survived the darkest of times. This is Vanessa how copes. She will be food banking and crying for help again soon. This is all so sad.
No I won’t stop.
You Go gurl!!! @heyvanessamartin
Yep next video will be crying over money..
Yes she will. Some people can see right thru this loud shout out for people to give her money or whatever. A lot of things said makes no sense. Mental problems or something wrong here. She keeps making things worse. Getting pregnant twice not married?
@@heyvanessamartin So ridiculous. I give it a month before you are going to the food bank. Which of course there’s nothing wrong with that. Except. When you spend all your money and then go into debt over and over and over again.
Hi, Vanessa! I wish you and Penelope the best. I noticed Penelope sneezing a few times around the stuffed animals. An allergy to dust mites is the most common allergy people have, and we’ll never get away from dust. Stuffed animals can have a lot of dust on them. When my children were small and I was very busy, I would pick out their favorite stuffed animals and vacuum them off, or wipe them off with a microfiber cloth. I would place the rest in a basket in a closet. When they wanted stuffed toys out of the basket, I would vacuum or wipe those items off before giving them to my children. I think this cut down on the amount of dust they (and I!) were breathing, yet they could still play with their stuffed animals. I never had the time to vacuum all the stuffed animals at once, but my children seemed to enjoy a curated collection of toys to play with, instead of being overwhelmed with all the toys.
Thank you for the tips!! 😊
So happy that you were able to get yourself some nice things during this time! Continuing to pray for you. Love your lashes, btw!
Thanks! 😊
🤞fingers crossed and praying 🙏 that y'all are approved for the house 🙂
Thanks so much!! ❤️
When I suddenly lost my husband to cancer I felt comfort in buying things and moving furniture around in my home 😢.
So sorry for your loss. I understand completely, it's a very real coping mechanism. ❤️❤️
I get doing something to cope but spending money when you are struggling isn't a good idea. It will just cause more problem.
If you aren’t working or going to school, why do you take Penelope to daycare all day everyday? I understand the social aspect so a couple of days a week is understandable. Also sometimes us moms just need a break so I get that part as well. I’m confused why she is in daycare all day, on days that you are shopping, watching tv and sitting at home napping. Especially with how expensive daycare is.
I’m still working on my UA-cam channel daily which is one of my jobs. You basically answered your own question with the other points mentioned. I don’t pay for daycare as I qualify for the affordable child care benefit.
@ I ask questions so I can learn. We live in different countries and you do a lot of things differently than we do here. So rather than immediately assume something I ask questions so I can learn. Here in the states if you qualify for child care the time the child is in daycare is supposed to be spent looking for full time employment so you can become self sufficient. If they found out someone was using those services to go shopping and take naps they could lose the privileges. Here in the US the parent who qualifies for the free child care doesn’t have pay it but those of us who work full time and pay taxes are the ones who pay those bills. Here in the states they have divisions that search for people on social media that are getting assistance and if they were to see people out drinking and partying or getting tattoos they could lose their privileges to certain benefits. In some states some moms do work full time and they still qualify to get help because it’s so expensive to live some places here. I have talked to other Canadians who have said that y’all don’t have taxes. So who pays for these programs that help low income parents? When you get on these programs do they make you file for child support? Here in the states they make you file for back child support and they go after the father for to pay for any services the mom used for the child. If they find out the mom shouldn’t have had the services for example she lies about her income or activities they make them both pay. Does Canada have anything like that? In Germany they pay moms up to two years I believe to stay home with their children. That resets with every child. It’s kind of cool to learn about different things in all countries.
V is on mat leave @@natashalove7016
You look so beautiful. I'm praying everything works for you and your mom with the new place ❤️ your always in my prayers🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you so much, I appreciate it 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Treat yourself but do not rack up debt that you will regret!!!
No negativity here, but pls don’t use the death of your daughter to go on shopping sprees. Look at your past videos before all this happened, and you stated you love to spend money and this is why you were always in debt. I’m also sure you have gotten the monies you were expecting before your delivery. You are now making good money from YT. There are a lot of websites that specifically tells your income, thanks to creators who tells us normal human beings where to look. They state they want to bring this awareness to us, because there are MANY, MANY, creators who take advantage of people who care. Have a great day!
I don’t take advantage of people who care at all. I am fairly confident that the numbers you’re looking at are not accurate. But I’d be interested to know what you consider good money on UA-cam.
That's true here . Watch the facial expressions.??
Stop using your loss of baby in your vlogs for views
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My views are down
Are you her mother? Idts so y u think you can tell her what to do?
Don't stop anything Vanessa, love your vlogs. ❤
Grandma’s blanket is beautiful and heartbreaking.
I’m so excited about the house for you and your mom! I lived with my mom while I was a single parent. It was the best of times. She passed in 2023 and I think about those memories and it was certainly the best thing ever for all of us!
I am sorry for the loss of your mother. May she R.I.P.
@ thank you so much for the kind words. Means a lot!
So sorry for your loss ❤️❤️❤️
@@heyvanessamartinI’m sorry for your loss too!
Retail therapy is great,but please do not get yourself deeper into trouble
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Vanessa try not to overspend life is getting so so hard and to spend is easy is the paying that’s hard .❤❤❤❤❤
So true
Retail therapy is VERY common when grieving, I still do it and lost my husband 7 months ago. DO NOT JUDGE until you are in our shoes. Grieving is the hardest and worst thing I’ve ever had to go through along with supporting my son while he grieves too.
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you ❤️❤️
@@heyvanessamartinI’m sorry for yours too. It’s just not fair and so hard.
Hey Vanessa, I lost my husband in September he was only 48 😢 and I have done the same with shopping therapy
I am so sorry for your loss. ❤️
Vanessa, do whatever you need to do. You and Penelope deserve it. You are an amazing person and Penelope is one lucky sweet girl. Prayers continuing for you.
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Thats exactly what shes doing. Talk about it while looking over your purchases.
I have been loving the daily vlogs! Wouldn't it be great to make enough on UA-cam to live comfortably!
Yes that would be amazing! It’s all about views. Still trying to figure it out while also just posting what I want.
A d its about what she wants@@heyvanessamartin
Dear Vanessa, you are doing such a good job taking care of yourself and your beautiful child. What a wonderful, kind and caring person you are. I watch your videos and support you. Take care sweetheart❤😊
Thank you so much, that means a lot to me. ❤️
She's allergic to cats. LOL
Your eyelashes look so good. I think i am finally gonna give them a shot myself! Sweet girls pig tails are so cute! I love these day in the life style videos
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Such a lovely, precious blanket, I hope you get the house with your mom, fingers crossed 🤞 I’m enjoying your vlogs! Penelope’s pigtails so adorable! She’s beautiful like her mama!
Thank you so much! 👼🏼👼🏼🎀🎀
you’re an adult if you fall downstairs and bumped your head the chances of it being fatal or cause permanent damage. So if you chose to walk down the stairs and look at your phone instead of watching where you are going it doesn’t really matter as much as a child who doesn’t understand the dangers. Reminds me of the saying “play stupid games win stupid prizes”. I do want to thank you though!!o won the bet I had with my daughter that you would respond rude or sarcastically and she didn’t feel like your “snarky” comments on my previous post were aimed at me. I know what you said about the other lady but you can’t say the same about me. I have NEVER been rude to you. So your rude comments and replies to me aren’t deserving. Karma will figure all that out though 😊
Dearest Vanessa, one day at a time🙏You're a beautiful young woman a wonderful mama for Penelope. God loves you!❤❤❤
Thank you so much, that means a lot to me. ❤️
Baby girl, you are coping the best way you know how. You’re a mother and you don’t get a day off when life throws you on the floor. You’re a beautiful example of a strong woman and great mother who is navigating scary, dark, unknown territory one day at a time. I hope any young woman going through the same thing can find you and watch your content. Love from Mississippi ❤
Thank you so much for saying that ❤️❤️
Vanessa you are so beutiful in this video❤ Penelope are so cute ❤️
Thank you so much!!
Human nature to try and make oneself feel better. Self soothing. I know several women who have suffered a stillbirth. They all definitely grieved and reacted differently.
Not our place, nor job to pass judgement. ✨🙏🏼✨
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The blue sweater with the lace collar looked amazing on you 🤩
Thank you! I love that sweater too! 😊
You and Penelope look like you're THRIVING! I love the clothing haul...yeah, buy the comfy stuff. Eyelashes are looking amazing, as well. And so excited you got a P.O. box! Yeah, we want wish lists for you and Penelope!
Thank you so much! 💕
When will you go back to work ?
Mat leave will end at the end of March and then if I want more time I can do that too.
So happy to see you so strong and chugging along life still ESPECIALLY for Penelope. I unfortunately know some women who have lost one of their children and then they just...completely ignore their other children still here on earthside!! I understand the pain&grieving (which should be felt & delt with) but you still have children and yourself on earthside to care for!!!!
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Don't judge. Everyone grieves differently.
I love your subtle little comments to all those haters lol 😂 “comment down below if I shouldn’t be walking down these stairs while vlogging” 😂 honestly haters will always be haters and you do you! I love your strength and resilience you truly are inspirational!
“Let them” theory. Have you read that by Mel Robbin’s ? I’m just starting it and really need to incorporate it into my life. Let ppl think and do what they want
I’m glad you noticed the little subtle comments! 😉 It’s a little way of reminding myself to not take things too seriously and to just be me. ❤️
@@heyvanessamartinlove it!! ❤
I’ve been loving all the videos and you look so beautiful! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your journey. ❤
Thank you so much, that means a lot to me. ❤️
For like a month after my nan died I fell pretty heavy into betting, never been much of a better before or after that. It wa sthe dopamine hit I was chasing, retail therapy also gives a dopamine hit. It's pretty common, one way the brain tries to shield itself from mental pain. Been thinking about you guys ❤
Yes absolutely
Can we talk about how friggin cute Penelope’s pig tails look 😂❤
I am obsessed with them! 🎀🎀
@@heyvanessamartinI love when the girls let me style their hair!
How old are you
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Those stairs would drive me nuts.😂
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Vanessa, hope you and your mom get the house that would be so good for you and Penelope to be together with your mom. Beautiful blanket for sweet Priscilla enjoy your visit with your dad and sister. Hugs❤
Thank you so much, I appreciate it ❤️
@heyvanessamartin your so welcome 🤗 hugs. Hugs for Penelope too
Nice video! I have a question...what brand of foundation, blush and lipstick do you use? Your makeup always looks so nice.
Thank you so much! I don’t wear foundation. Blush and lips are the Milk Cooling Water Jelly Tint Lip + Cheek Blush stain. Highlighter is Fenty Diamond Balm in the shade Rose Rave ✨✨✨
@heyvanessamartin thank you. I'll have to look up the Milk Cooling, I've never seen it before. You have beautiful skin, it looks flawless.
I just found it on Amazon.
@ Thank you so much! It’s my new fav product of all time!
The sweaters look so pretty on you, especially the pink one. I was thinking you were in TJ Maxx, but it looks too clean for that. LOL I'm so excited about the house. Praying ya'll get it.
Thank you! Winners ❤️
Glad you had a good shopping day , that blanket is so beautiful and every stitch is made with love for you all 🩷 Enjoy your family time with your dad and sister 🏴
Thank you ❤️❤️
Praying that you ladies get the house 🙏🏻🏠
It would be the perfect situation and a fresh start for you. ...I am excited for you to have a visit with your dad and sister it'll be a bit of a distraction. So enjoy it . That blanket is gorgeous and you can tell a lot of love went into it. ❤
Cant wait to see the tattoos.
Thank you so much for your kind words, it means a lot. ❤️
Id love to send you friend mail. I love watching your channel. I have limited myself to 20-30 minutes of UA-cam a day and i always check for your videos first. I have watched your channel from the beginning and You bring my comfort as i dont really have anyone after losing my mom. I am praying for you and your family. May God bless you and keep you always. Take care of yourself too
That is so kind of you, thank you for being such a big supporter of me and my channel. So sorry for your loss and I’m glad I can bring some comfort ❤️❤️❤️
That sounds amazing Vanessa, it would be so great for you and Penelope to have your mom around.😊
I agree, it's going to be great to have her even closer.😊
I shop too! I shop for any reason! smh Whatever works for you! I'm just sending you hugs and good vibes to get thru these days
Thank you so much for the hugs and good vibes ❤️
Awww I hope yall get your new home!!! God is good all the time!!
Yes!! Thank you ❤️
Hope for the move with your Mom...have fun with your Dad and sister..my hubby passed 27 years ago and im still shopping so don't feel bad..hugs❤
Thank you so much, it means a lot ❤️
The blanket your Grandma made you is so beautiful 🫶🏻🫶🏻
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Oh my, those little pigtails are the cutest!
A little retail therapy is good to lift your spirit! I do the same, even if it means just going to the thrift store. I was at Marshall’s yesterday, there are good deals on winter items. You are mostly picking up practical things so it is all good!
I’m so excited for you moving into a new place! You can make it work! The benefits far outweigh the space issue.
The blanket from grandma is so beautiful! The scalloping and colors are amazing. It would look great as an accent throw folded at the foot of the bed or draped over a chair. Enjoy your visit with your family!
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Happy 😊 you had the chance to get out again. Love ❤️ what you got at the old navy. When I get stressed I go shopping. It helps me. I just joined the gym a few weeks ago because the doctor ordered me to exercise everyday because I am having some problems with my liver. The gym is a great place to go. Loved 🥰 your video.
Oh little Penelope’s pigtails are so sweet, she just melts my heart! The blanket was just beautiful, what a keepsake for you. You look so pretty Vanessa, I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself as well as the great care you take with Penelope.
Thank you so much, I love her little pigtails too 😊
I don’t see an Amazon wish list? Do you have one? It would be so kind of people to send you a postcard with a nice message or even a gift if we so choose. ❤🎉😊
@sandiedrew4086 Yes! Vanessa, make a wish list for Penelope too!
I can make another one 🥰🥰
Awe, those items for priscilla are so sweet! Also, I love your clothing. I can't wait to see your tattoos. Hope your medical checks are good. You look good.
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Im so clumsy that I would definitely fall trying to vlog while using the stairs 😂 One time, I fell out the stairmasters cause I thought I saw a cute guy 🤪 I love retail therapy so much! Sorry but it’s the best kind of therapy!!! ❤
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Just wanted to leave a kind comment to help your channel. ❤ My thoughts and prayers are with you and Penelope.
Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
Primping it up , its all about attracting some dates.
You look very pretty today ❤
Thank you so much! ❤️
Penelope is so cute! we process death differently if yours is shopping go ahead just do it do whatever you feel happy at this point it's hard but as what people say just take it one day at a time btw that blanket that your nana sent you, you can put it on your center table just if you're wondering what to do with it, it can serve as a table runner, it's beautiful and precious
Thank you so much, it means a lot! ❤️
That blue looks fantastic on you
Vanessa. Keep doing you.
Thank you! Will do! ❤️❤️
Hope you have a fun time with family! Love the blanket, so reminds me of my Gramma. She knitted baby blankets for my only son for his first Valentines day and then mailed it, passed the following month. That blanket is a keepsake for her memory, like your babies blanket will be for your angel. I can see your sorrow, but you are so strong, resilient and good things are happening for you. God has his plan!!❤
Thank you so much, your words mean a lot ❤️
Penelope's pigtails are the CUTEST! I have done retail therapy also and I still do sometimes. Vanessa, you are an exceptional mom. I'm so happy your Dad and Sis are coming. Enjoy your time with them. Love to you and Penelope.
Thank you! 😊
grieve and do what helps you if it helps i bought myself a birthday gift 😂😂😂😂 i’m serious i did . hubby bought me a brand new louis vuitton neverfull bag for my bday and i bought myself a blue tooth speaker to workout in my house listening to my tunes . cheaper than a gym membership . Vanessa sometimes we have to do something that makes us happy and it’s ok . sending you hugs sweet lady .
I totally agree, sometimes you just need a little something to cheer you up. 💕
Before anyone judges her everyone grieves in their own way everyone grieves differently
Shopping therapy! Next video: Trumper food bank haul!
I understand your sentiment and I appreciate your honesty.
She bought 3 items of clothing to fit her postpartum body & a booster seat for her child.. hardly a mad “shopping spree at GUCCI”… give me a break. 🙄
@@heyvanessamartinIgnore these comments.. not good for your mental health. ❤
Beautiful blanket from your Grandmother!
Thank you! 😊
To have a backyard would be amazing. Sounds like a good move overall. Keep us posted ❤🎉😊
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Iam glad you put a offer on the house
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Enjoy your visit with family. Best of luck w the house as well. Fingers crossed. The make up is very nice and natural looking. I could never do it myself...lol :( wish
Thank you so much, I appreciate it! ❤️
@heyvanessamartin forgot to add I'm also finding out mail really sporadic since the end of the strike...hope it's not some scheme and just sorting things out but it makes me think, for sure.
Vanessa it was so nice to see you get to do some retail therapy because although it doesn't take the hurting away, it distracts us alittle when we take care of our sadness and make it abit cheerful. Those outfits were pretty. I pray you and your mom get approved for the home so that you two can bond and she can bond more with Penelope as well and just make memories together. Also, maybe you'll be able to get a little break here and there for you time. So glad you got the p.o. box, Enjoy the time with your dad and sis, make lot's of memories and take pictures so you can maybe oneday put in an album for you and Penelope to look at ^_^
Have a wonderful evening 💕
Thank you so much, your words mean a lot ❤️
Sending love and prayers to you the blanket is beautiful ❤
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Vanessa, you are wonderful. ❤
Thank you so much, that means a lot. ❤️
Hi Vanessa :) I've done retail therapy. It's hard to resist sometimes. This year, I've been being VERY strict. I know it's just the beginning of the year! ;-) I still buy a present or two for myself, but I am aware when I should stop. I saw a cute sweater online last night, but I had already but a necklace w/my initial so I didn't buy the sweater. I know I'll be thankful later. Money worry is hard. Have a good day!
Good for you!! ❤️❤️
I only use Native deodorant now!! I love it!!
I’ve been wanting to try it for forever!
Retail therapy is definitely a thing. I do it more than I want.
Same here ❤️
Vanessa, look in the Home good isle for a step stool
I did they were out at Winners but Marshall’s had those two luckily.
@@heyvanessamartin 💖
Vanessa! So glad you got a PO BOX!! I wanted to send you something!! Sending love and hugs from California! You are so strong! XXOO. ♥️♥️♥️♥️ .
Thank you so much!! ❤️❤️❤️
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Aww the blanket is lovely. Remember not to quick for fitness take it easy your body needs time! Sorry I know you know lol 😆 😅. Your new clothes are lovely you deserve to treat yourself hun. Hope you enjoy your time with your dad and sister ❤ xx
So true! Thank you ❤️
walmart sells step stools for potty etc in the diaper potty section!
Couldn’t find them they must have been out of stock
loving your content lately, im here for the hauls! xx
I’m glad you’re enjoying it! 🥰
@@heyvanessamartin what was the first shop you went to? im just curious i wasnt sure if it was a thrift shop or not
Lots of great news 👍 ❤ Your dad and Sis will be there , and you might be moving 👏🙏 That's a beautiful blanket your grandma made ❤ Great haul 😊 Tfs blessings from Florida 🙌🌴🌴
Awww Look at how long Penelope hair is getting 😍 she is just the cutest little girl ever, precious 💕
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Awww that blanket was beautiful. Loving the frequent vlogs! You are doing great Momma! ❤
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“ Comment down below if you think I shouldn’t be vlogging while walking down the stairs”. That was the best, Vanessa!
I’m glad you got out and about, and I’m glad you have a supportive family. I’m still praying for you and Penelope (with her adorable pig tails today) ! 💕
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I totally understand the buying things, ever since my mom passed away I do a lot of goodwill shopping to try and stay busy, everyone grieves in there own way ❤️❤️❤️
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What a lovely blanket.very very pretty . 😊.btw girl go back n buy that gorgeous purse.
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You're doing a great job making videos. 🎉 Love this one too ❤️
Thank you so much 🤗
You're very welcome 🤗♥️
Love Penelope hair
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I am so excited for your tattoos and family time. Im so happy you're getting the time to heal. When do you have to go back to work? I had to go back 2 weeks post partum. Canada seems so much nicer. ❤❤❤
End of March but I can take more time if needed
I love the make up!
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That would be awesome to get to live with your mom. Save money, and enjoy her company too!
Yes, hopefully we can make it happen! ❤️
Cuteee outfit w the red pants & new clothes 💜
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🌼I hope y'all get the house. so exciting. loved the clothes u picked looks cute and comfortable 💗
I love Ur sense of humor. That blanket was precious💖
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You definitely shouldn’t be vlogging while walking downstairs… very dangerous! 😂😂😂😂😜😜😜😜
I’m a pro lol
@ clearly a pro, unlike me who would probably fall down Lol
Also, your day of shopping looked like so much fun! ❤️
@@amandaj579 so would I 😂😂
Your doing well taking care of you and p
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She's allergic to her kitty......lol. so adorable.
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