"Fake it till you make it" that's the sentence that made me changed forever. I was an extremely shy person. I never wanted to go to places where there were lots of people. If I had to enter a room I would find a way to not walk in the middle of it, I would look down and walk as fast as I can. If I liked a guy he would never know cause I would just completely ignore him. I was tired of being this awkwardly shy person. So.. I began to watch videos and read articles about confidence. The two sentences that have changed my life forever were: "Fake it till you make it" and "Life begins at the end of your comfort zone". The first thing I started to do is great strangers and smile at them. I also began to do things alone like: going to the movies, visiting another city, go to a workshop or dance class, smile to handsome men. At first it was scary as hell but do more I did these things do more confident I began to feel. Also seeing the talents I have and telling myself that I'm beautiful, confident, kind, a good listener, a good dancer etc. The most important is knowing who you are. That you are a special, amazing , beautiful star. And when someone is going to be in your presence they are going to be blessed! You are worth it!💖
No one chooses to be shy and introverted, its part of their nature and its extremely difficult for them to be confident and social.. you should make a video how shy people can make themselves confident
Not sure if anybody wants this never asked for piece of advice, but here is one method that helped me going from feeling very insecure in social situations to being excited to meet new, amazing people: Whenever I am in a situation that makes me feel unsure, especially with a new group of people, I first make sure to correct my posture. Then I imagine all the other people in the room and how they are or have been in the very same situation, feeling a bit unstable and not sure what to say or do. Then I imagine that those people are also looking for new contacts, and that there may be a lot of them with interests similar to mine and I imagine how lovely it is to share ideas and have a relaxed and natural talk with them. No need to force it though, just let anything that happens happen. Also know that there are always people who will not suite your personality, but at least an equal amount can become your friend. Maybe this method can work for others too. It's okay to have insecurities, everybody has them, but don't let them get the best of the great person you are!
I totally agree with what you're saying and I know you're not trying to put anyone down, but being shy isn't a bad thing. A lot of men appreciate women who are quiet and elegant but not necessarily streaming with confidence. I agree that confidence is sexy but overconfidence is the exact opposite. I have a really hard time projecting self confidence and that doesn't mean that I don't love myself or that I'm boring; it's just my personality. If you get to know a more introverted person, you will often find that they are completely comfortable in their own skin, but that it takes time for them to let that show. It's easy to tell someone to gain some confidence but it's not something that comes naturally to everyone. I think you're sending a great message and everyone who is struggling with self confidence should definitely take your advice, but if it doesn't work out for them, that's okay too.
Well said. I think there are definitely two sides to this issue and you highlighted that some people are just not capable of becoming the kind of person to take over a room and that's totally fine; they are no less happy or self fulfilled.
i am really loving this different perspective on "sexiness" a great lesson and shows all women that no matter what size or shape they are they all have the potential to be attractive.
I've watched about 6 of your videos in a row and you are SO inspirational! Thank you so much for sharing with us and helping your viewers to help grow as confident and successful individuals. I hope to take your words and really remember them And use them in my daily life to be a better me! You've gained a subscriber today :) thank you so much !!
This may sound a bit weird, but for me I got more confidence when I started buying new specific clothes (bare with me). I am very much a tomboy and was even more so before. I rarely dressed up, never wore make up, and often wore jeans and a T shirt. When I went clothes shopping before it was just so I could have something to wear. However, these clothes didn't really reflect me or my personality. I never really got excited about putting an outfit together or wanted to dress up because well... I didn't have that many clothes that made me go "Wow I really like this top!" or "These jeans look amazing on me!" Everything was "alright" and good enough, but not spectacular or anything. Then I started shopping for clothes online and finding specific things that I like. I'll admit I'll still get T shirts, but now they reflect my interests (like Legend of Zelda or something). Since I liked what I was wearing I started feeling more confident. Before I knew it I actually wanted to wear make up and dress up. I wanted to look good, because I know I can and not cuz of the clothes I wear or anything. Clothes are just a second skin that help express myself. :)
I agree, as soon as I joined my high school I was worried about my ability to do well in my favourite subject, stressed that I would never be good enough to make it my career. Music is something that I've always wanted to do but it also causes me a lot of stress. As soon as I pretended to be confident and told myself that I was a lot better than I believed I truly was, I began to get happier in my everyday life and a whole lot more confident in anything I did, decpite the fact I was faking to start with.
I learned to be more confident by going to new places where I knew nobody and had to create a new daily routine, for example through internships in other cities. As nobody knew me, I figured I could just be myself and see the effects of that - if others did not like it, I would leave in a few months/weeks anyway and would not have to be in contact with them anymore. and what happened? they liked me for who I was and those who did not, I consciously chose not to be in contact. of course, you hear all the time that you should be yourself and ditch those who do not like you for who you are, but actually experiencing this was such an eye opener.
I'm a guy. For all the women wondering if this chick is crazy or if she's right................ Well she is absolutely CORRECT. It's all about confidence just like with guys. Women find confident men most attractive regardless of his looks and its kinda the same. Men are attracted to women who are confident but she can't be ugly. She doesn't need to be drop dead gorgeous, she just needs to not be ugly. Confidence shows in everything a person does and a guy can tell if a woman is confident or Insecure from a mile away. The most obvious is the way she walks. The confident woman walk turns EVERY head both guy and girl.
it's true; i dated a guy that was from Australia, and he was nice and not bad looking either, but he was always putting himself down, calling himself fat, ugly....every negative thing you could think of....and honestly I got sick of it. Lack of confidence is not attractive. Yes, you have flaws, but stop bringing attention to them! It only makes you look like a loser, even if you look good physically
Kiersten Poling Insecurity is one of the biggest turn offs in any relationship on either side. It causes unnecessary arguments, it makes the relationship uncomfortable for both and it also confuses your partner because they feel as though nothing they do can make you happy.
Mimi ur always boosting us up and making us feel better about ourselves. so I feel like I need to take the time to thank you and just say ur amazing and I know all ur followers will agree but WE ALL LOVE U THANK YOU MIMI💛💛💛
I have met so many gorgeous people in my middle school years that are so mean and desperate, and on the other hand, ive found people like me who walk with confidence. And that changed everything.... thank you for making this video Mimi!
Great video! I am an introvert and I feel I often seem closed off and unapproachable. I'm not shy or unconfident, just introverted. I also have a hard time finding people like me to connect with as I am young but not the club/party like the rest of my age group in my small town. Could you possibly do a video on how to make more friends and lasting connections with people when you are this personality type?
buniebum I'm thinking you can still be introverted and confident. Examples include how you walk and facial expressions. Think about things that make you happy while in public- that will change the demeanor without changing who you are.
Thank you for the video Mimi! I think you're totally right about what you said. I have had for a long time problems with confidence and I still have. I started to pretend to be confident and it really made me feel a bit more confident. When I wasn't happy about my looks I told myself 'you are beautiful' and stuff. When I was walking in the street and felt awkward I told myself 'you are gorgeus'. Pretending really helps! To be confident you must properly love yourself. We were talking about depression and mental problems at school with one of our teachers. She told us that when you don't love yourself you of course have also no confidence . She said us: "if you are feeling lack of self-love and confidence, what if you try this: go stand in front of mirrow in the morning, look at yourself properly and say X, I love you. And repeat that every morning." I think she's very wise and that will really help. I didn't try it yet because I know I will cry after doing so. Maybe I will start doing it soon...
Great video! I have seen girls from afar who I would never even talk to because they were not very pretty, but as soon as they began to speak to me and show confident manurisms, they suddenly became irresistible! I have also seen women who were physically HOT, but as soon as they began speaking or the way they carried themselves made them very unattractive.This is just a straight guy's perspective. You are right on!
Let me ask this, why is it that so many women always seem to fall for the good looking jerk who actually has no respect for women? However, I think your spot on but it just seems women don't appreciate a man who has manners, respectful, and treats women they way they should be treated? I'm asking a sincere question here because i think you have a good handle on this subject and would love to hear your presepctive. Thank you, great video.
so what your saying is that women do prefer that good looking jerk.? You say It's just a thought that most girls love sweet guys? The consensus everywhere is that women are chasing the wrong guys. however, my question was why do so many women seem to be attracted to that "jerk" that don't treat them properly. I just wanted to hear your view on this.
+Frankiethegift well I know this question is old but some women date jerks because they think they can change them. you ever seen the movie where a guy seems mean but the more you get to know them they become very sweet? I think some women are so gullible that they think they will have that life too 😂 also, some women just like a challenge, and they think a nice guy is boring or won't bring no excitement. also, sometimes nice guys are not always nice once you get to know them, they're just pretending until they have her. so maybe some girls like jerks because they seem more honest and true to themselves.
@@Frankiethegift then ask a woman not a guy about what a woman wants 😒 I am a woman and I wanna beat the crap out of all the jerks out there. I am looking bit a wise kind hearted man - he will become the most handsome man in the world if he is amazing in the inside and let's say decent on the outside, as in not dressing like a homeless man and clean. I met such amazing people. While the "good looking jerks" you talk about - I saw them in full action, they were so disgusting in what type of person they were, it made me wanna beat them up. I find to be sexy a man that is compatible with me and has confidence. Aka loves animals for example, has a kind heart, thinks first then acts,etc.
You are one of my biggest insporation. They way you love yourself and accepting yourself really makes me want to do the same thing. Acctually this video made me cry just a little, because i finally understood that i don't have to change myself to be " a better verision of me" I have to accept the way i am, and love myself for who i am. Thank you so much Mimi, i really really appreciate the time you spend filming all this videos.
its a really great message to evry girl who thinks dt mens cud be attrcted by their outer beauty bt actly its opposite a beautiful mind creates a beautiful person luv u mimi god bless u..
I always was a shy person, confidence was never my strength. Also i was always comparing myself to all the celebreties, who i had thought they were "perfect". Watching this video made me realise how negative and self destructive i am. It made me realise how i can improve my abilities and skills to be a strong, powerful woman, wether i am tall, short, curvy or skinny. It's not really just about the look and the appereance, it's how you carry yourself and feel every single day. That's the key to attractiveness and self confidence. To everyone who is reading this, have a beautiful amazing life and be just the way you are, cause you do you. P.S. Sorry about the mistakes, english is not my native language
I completely agree with everything you said. Confidence beams a certain aura, and the aura is beauty, kindness, and sweetness (different from kindness by how you treat yourself and the people around you in any situation) "how can you expect a man to care/show you off if you don't do it yourself" I love your channel, and I enjoy watching your tutorials and videos! ~Jocelyn
Mimi you are so right about looking good just for yourself..i just told the same to my fiance who gained weight and stopped caring about himself after the divorce..and i told him that he should never stop loving himself...now that you said the same, i feel so nice that i gave him this advice..
So true, confidence exude sexiness :) Faking it to you make it is a great tip to practice! and faking it + a good attitude makes you even more beautiful!
I'm confident in every way EXCEPT on photos... i'm a mess with photos.. .photoshopping them which probably make people think i'm not really respecting myself.. what can i do about it to accept myself more? It's so hard.. i love myself in the mirror but i hate how i look in photos!
I used to be so shy with zero confidence like the girl you described, and the thing has helped me to become confident and love who I am is yoga. The physical and mental benefits came after a few weeks and my new found confidence followed! I would recommend yoga + meditation to any of you shy girls watching this video, because it helped me so much and it can help you too x
I am a quintessential introvert. Acting and Improv classes really helped me when I was younger, and I have been told that speech classes have helped other people with how to speak and carry yourself.
Being shy is really hard to get over, I am a shy person too, mostly at the interviews and thanks to you I realized how important is our attitude, our posture . :)
The only problem is.. Is that I can't be confident with so many bad things creating a cycle in my mind.. I try to let it shoot right through me. But it's hard
But more than that over the years I have come to realize and understand that the first step towards being self confident is to STOP judging yourself according to the standards set by someone else. Once you do that and cut yourself a lil slack you will start to feel a sense of relief or freedom, which in turn will give you the ground to work on yourself, prioritize your needs (not to be confused with wants and desires) and help build a strong foundation on which the confidence can be built.
I think this is partially true. I am a confident successful web developer, but I've been told by men that my confidence scares men away. While women who are simply flirty to men (not necessarily confident in themselves) seem to garner more of the sex appeal label. To put it in plain terms men want a woman who is submissive and responsive to them, not a woman who is dominating and confident.
I don't think things are that black and white. No matter how advanced and egalitarian our modern societies have become, there is some basic biology and psychology that make men and women very different. I don't think that men want women that are ''submissive'', but they do want us to be ''feminine'' and let them be men around us. Men, as a ''species'', need to feel useful. Back in the days our ancestors still hunted mammoths, the roles were clear. The women made babies, fed them, cared for them.. and the men's roles were essentially to protect the women and children and provide them with food.. both of which, by the way, meant putting their lives on the line for the survival of the species. In today's world I think most men have trouble feeling useful around us. Not only have their own traditionnal roles of providing and protecting have become much more comfortable for them, we don't even let them take care of that for us anymore. Men aren't ''afraid'' of ''confident'' women, they are ''confused'' by ''masculinised'' women. Women can now provide for themselves while still having children and care for them.. but men will never bare children. We now have access to everything that was once theirs only, the public sphere, but they will never be able to take on a part of being a woman that is and will always be ours only. I am an ''entrepreneur''. I am a writer, I make jewelry.. I take care of myself. But I make sure that my being independent and confident doesn't make me ''dominant'' per se. If there's a picture to hang in the house, even though I could do it myself, I let my partner do it, because I know that it makes him feel useful if he does it, and he feels validated when I thank him afterwards. If someone holds the door for me, I don't start lecturing them about how I can hold my own door, I smile and say thank you. If a guy friend offers to go in and buy us coffees when we walk by the Starbucks, I won't insist on going in with him and buy my own coffee, I'll let him do it.. because I know that men enjoy the company of women who let them be men around them. The male in them needs to feel that he can do something for us, be useful to us, take care of us in some way or another. But I feel some women nowadays equate confidence with ''acting like a man'' to some degree. They take on masculine traits (which I think as soon as we decide to go play in ''their field'', is inevitable) of ambition, competitivity, emotional disconnexion, etc, etc.. and the men don't see much of a woman left in them. I watched a video recently that described this in terms of chakral energies and how women typically have let's say stronger 2nd chakras whereas men have stronger 1st chakras, and in a normal man-woman relationship, the woman will give evergy from her second chakra to the man and receive energy from his first chakra, which describes an harmonious ''flow'' between the two partners. Nowadays, women who are very career-oriented tend to carry more energy in their first chakra let's say, while their second becomes ''drained''.. And because we are all sensitive to each other's ''vibrations'', this is in fact what keeps men away from such women, who just don't ''ooze'' as much feminity as others who cultivate their more feminine qualities of gentleness, compassion and so on. As a successful carrer woman in a world of men, you certainly ''tap'' a lot more in your masculine qualities than a woman who works in daycare, for instance.. and the men end up considering you more as ''one of them'' than as a potential mother to their children. Think of it the other way around maybe. What do you think of effeminate men? Do you think of them as sexy beasts, or do you think they're ''cute'', or not even. Or if you met a man who told you how he works in daycare and loves it, and hopes that when you have children, he can stop working and be a stay at home dad? Perhaps these aren't great examples, and I know there are some women who would be totally fine with having a stay at home husband.. but I think generally speaking, most women would raise an eyebrow if a prospect told them they were looking forward to staying home with the kids, because that isn't a typical male behaviour, and the females in us don't recognise that as ''mating material''.. It's ironic, because women strive to be ''men's equals'', but men have no idea what to do with a woman that is their equal. They just want women that are women and display female attributes. Maybe let your male collegues treat you to coffee from time to time, and see how their perception of you changes.. ;)
HijaDelMar6 I agree with you on your general idea. I think most men desire BEING the man in most situations because they feel they are important to the woman in some way. As soon as a man doesn't feel that you are being responsive to them (read submissive) and see that you are taking care of things on your own, they wonder why they are even there. My greatest qualm with this video is the generic idea of "be confident" which ultimately becomes a "be yourself" type of statement. Masculine woman who are confident go getters cannot just "be themeselves". They need to reorient themselves for a relationship with a man and present a more open and willing type of persona rather than the controlling and dominating one. For many years, I was under the impression that the clothing that I feel most confident in are what men will find the sexiest. Low and behold, after taking polls between my male friends, boyfriend, and co-workers my wardrobe lacked sex appeal. I always dressed for business, but never for play with men. My outfits read "she's always busy", "she is not interested in flirting" or "shes probably a lesbian". After talking to men who point out women as hot and being ballsy enough myself to go and make conversation with those women, this is the results that I have found with what men describe as "hot" women. Most frequently these successful females appear to be women who act like basic animals, dress in promiscuous clothing, and will bend their opinions to be desirable to different crowds. Is this confidence? I suppose in some format it is, but it is a far cry away from my confidence which comes from honesty, intelligent display, and showing that I am in control (not acting like an animal). The TDLR of this is that some forms of confidence are not sexy and you need to adapt for the environment that you are playing. If you don't adapt, you are not going to attract the individuals that you find most sexually appealing.
Lacoux First I have to say that after I finished writing my first comment, I kind of felt like a hypocrit, because my own relationship had been four years in the making because my partner was initially intimidated by my confidence and had told himself there was no way I would be interested in him, so for literally years he did everything he could to try and keep me at a safe distance and not have to admit his feelings (including dating another girl - the kind you've just described- for nearly 3 years).. I don't know. Seems like a long time ago now I guess, so it didn't even occur to me while I was writing.. My bad. ;) I do get what you're saying, but you're talking about women that men describe as ''hot''. To me ''hot'' is different than ''sexy'', which encompasses a more general idea of attraction. ''Hot'' to me is someone you would score, not much more. ''Sexy'' is about feeling good in one's skin, being confident, and that should appeal to more than another person's most basic instincts. Simply put, to me ''hot woman'' = ''doable woman'', whereas a sexy woman is somebody who's attractive, but in a way that you would want to get to know her, spend time with her, and possibly make it a long run kind of thing. So for me having confidence as a woman has never been a hindrance. If anything, it keeps ''that kind'' of men, the ones who would only be interested in sex, at bay, and I'm not going to complain. I believe that like attracts like. I live my life and behave according to certain standards I have, for myself but also of course for those people who would come into my life. If men who are only looking for an easy f**k (excuse my French!) are intimidated by me, excellent. Saves me the trouble of having to tell them that they're not good enough for me anyway.. Yes, by being confident and unapologizing about it, fewer men will come to you, but the ones who will have a much higher chance of being high-standard, high-value men themselves, which logically would be the ones who aren't intimidated by you, because they are like you. I am no promiscuous girl either. A pair of jeans and sneakers are what I'll be found wearing most of the time, with my hair up and minimal makeup. Skirts and heels I bother with once or twice a year at the most, if it's a really ''dressy'' kind of event, but, yeah. Maybe some people have thought I was a lesbian before too, who knows? ;) One thing I do know, is that I would never dress in a way that isn't me and is therefore sure to attract to myself the kind of crowds that also aren't me. My partner likes me in my jeans and sneakers, and I would never be with someone who doesn't. If those other guys somehow pick it up, saves me trouble. ;)
HijaDelMar6 We are still talking about sexiness, right? Sexiness is related to long-term dating, but they are not one in the same subject. To stay on point, we are trying to define what it is that men find sexually appealing and whether or not confidence is directly related to that. We are not defining what makes long term versus short term partners. Although we are talking about what men find sexually attractive, you made a point to define your own version of sexiness. I will work with your own personal definition.You define sexiness as "feeling good in one's skin", "being confident" and "should appeal to more than basic instincts". Let's take a look at dictonary.com's definition of sexy: 1.concerned predominantly or excessively with sex; risqué: 2.sexually interesting or exciting; radiating sexuality: 3.excitingly appealing; glamorous: I also checked other online resources and the consensus is clear. Sexiness is to exert a sexual energy or be interested in sex. In other words, sexiness in the scholarly world is recognized as being a "doable woman". No successful woman in the dating scene wants to hear that doable women are what men find sexy, but when any person asks a man "who do you think is sexy?" it almost always is never an elderly woman or child. Knowing this much, we can assume that sexiness has to do with appearing fertile and of child bearing age. Confidence is not the sole factor as children and elderly women would be included in this pool if that were the case. Okcupid has collected statics on their millions of users to see whether or not being a business oriented woman makes you appear more attractive to men. Turns out men steer clear of women with deep pockets and exceptional resumes. The men on Okcupid communicate more frequently with women that have basic interests and are more sexually open in their photos. Okcupid recognizes this as a sign that men are not approaching these confident successful women because those men believe they won't be able to get with a successful woman for long term or short term dating. I'd post the link here, but youtube will take my comment down. You can read more if you google "OkTrends"
Lacoux Of course, ethymologically speaking, ''sexy'' has the stem ''sex'' so that's what it refers to.. and of course, anyone I would consider dating, no matter how smart or kind or interesting they were, they would also have to be sexually appealing to me. So yes, definitely, ''sexy'' has very much to do with sex. But I do believe it's more than that, in part because sexiness, much like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. I've always found it so sexy for instance when a man I find attractive runs his fingers through his hair. Typically he will not have a ''sex exhuding'' intention doing that, but it will have that effect on me. Or I find my partner sexy when he plays hockey or drives, because these are things that I don't do, they're talents that he has and I don't, so I find him sexy doing those, although if we refer to the dictionary's definitions of sexy, neither activities would really fall under it. One last example, most men would probably think that women find them sexy with no shirt on, but I happen to find nothing sexier than a man in jeans and a white shirt, so if a gentleman took his shirt off in front of me with a sexy intention, he would miss the mark. I am not trying to present my personnal views on the subject as authority or reference. I simply meant to offer my more optimistic view and experience to what I felt was a pretty pessimistic one as you had presented it. I don't understand why, as a confident, successful woman, you would care about the general opinion of men who probably aren't as confident and figured-out as yourself seeing as they are ''intimidated'' by you. All right, the men on Okcupid say so and so about what kind of women they like.. but the average (=mediocre) guy has average confidence, average maturity, average brains, average substance, average everything. As a confident, mature, smart, kind, ''real'', figured-out woman, I personally couldn't care less that somebody who isn't all that won't ask me out on a date.. I would say no anyway! Why do you take the opinions of the mediocre masses and see them as a death sentence to your own lovelife? Wouldn't you turn most of them down anyway, seeing that their confidence is no match to yours? It's your apparent sense of loss that baffles me.. If I am too confident for a guy then he is too insecure for me, and I don't want him anyway. The sad truth is, indeed, that most people, men and women, aren't anywhere near as confident as they should be. They are the, what? 90% majority maybe? But there ARE some men out there who CAN deal with confident women. So perhaps some 90% of men, you are out of their league, but the remaining 10% of a few billion people is still a good number of individuals. Mimi's husband and friends seem to fall in that group, as do most of the men who are in my life. They are the people who know that real sexiness, just like real beauty, isn't only skin deep. It's something that transpires from the inside out when a person's sex appeal is directly linked to their value and sense of self-worth. Men are visual, and biologically ''seed spreaders''. They see something with hips and breasts, as you said that appears ''fertile'', and chances are they'll consider getting cozy.. and most will tell you ''no matter what the face looks like'', let alone the personnality. This is the ''brainless animal'' in them urging them to act on that basic instinct. Of course a man who operates from that place will seek a woman who is as equally on ''brainless animal'' mode. Like attracts like. Eventually most people grow up and mature, becoming more confident and responsible, and they start wanting more out of their relationships than easy ''fun''. Then they start seeking ''substance'' in their potential partners, and men won't find women who are nothing more than gorgeous shells quite as attractive anymore. Their definition of ''sexy'' will have shifted from something strictly superficial to one that encompasses that ''from the inside out'' idea that Mimi talked about in her video, and that mature, confident men like her husband describe as being sexy.
this is very inspiring cause ive been looking for a way to gain confidence and honestly everyone says that you should be confidant but they never say how so im soo greatful that you shared us how to be confident and you are truly inspiring:)
:/ if I were your friend I would be extremely mortified and feel completely betrayed that you went around asking people about me then made a video saying everyone thought I was not sexy.
a good tip to being confident is that you're biggest critic is yourself, if you feel out of place or awkward people dont see it as bad as you think it is, just be confident that you're the best you possible and be nice to other people and you'll fit in and feel good about it too (:
As a confident woman, I would say that in my eyes the #1 thing that gives another woman away as having low confidence is how ''dolled up'' she is. There are a fair amount of such ladies here on UA-cam. Girls and young women who are master makeup artists (which I do applaud, I could never apply eyeliner for the life of me.. ;)).. but Jesus girls, when the finished product looks NOTHING like the blank canvas you started with, you are telling me loud and clear ''I don't like the way that ''I'' look''. And how many times have I heard or read comments from girls complaining that the first time their new date saw them without makeup, their face crumbled a little bit.. Well what do you expect? His foreseen disappointment is the exact reason you feel the need to transform into someone else every morning in the first place! And don't get me wrong, I'm not against makeup as a whole. Used in moderation, it can camouflage an array of little imperfections that we don't want everyone to see or enhance those features we like best about ourselves.. but when someone's entire facial morphology changes from the use of makeup, something is definitely off. Giveaway #2 of a low-confidence woman is a ''mean girl''. Women who aren't genuinely confident often make the mistake to think that by giving themselves an ''attitude'', they will appear confident. They turn into this block of unapproachable concrete, never smile, roll their eyes, and sometimes even insult an unsuspecting gentleman that would try holding the door for them, claiming they ''can do it themselves''. A truly confident woman has a bounce in her step and a smile in her eyes. Her feminity is elated, so she is kind, caring, gentle and open. NOT to say that women should smile to everyone they meet or be extra pleasant to any man who tries to flirt with them if they're not interested.. This isn't about being a dumbbell. But truly confident women usually have a ''lightness'' about them, a natural radiance and a degree of ''approachability''. Hiding behind a mask of makeup or a fake I-am-so-above-everyone attitude might procure some false sense of confidence, but true confidence is feeling unthreatened walking around ''naked'', letting people see your true self. ..And just a quick comment to Mimi about how you said that men and women see beauty differently. Do we really? In my experience, most women are attracted to a man's ''energy'', his confidence and sense of humor usually making the top of the list. So it would actually turn out that both men and women are attracted to how good a member of the opposite (or same) sex feels in their own skin. It's just that women (should we blame the media for it..) are generally made to think that their own beauty is determined by the thickness of their lashes or the length of their legs.. when it's really just about how we rock whatever we've got, and turns out the gentlemen were never fooled. :) Great video. I'm off to learn how to stop procrastinating now.. ;)
You are absolutely right, confidence does make you feel and look more attractive. Some may overdo it, by trying to hard...But I think that's the beauty of life, that we are all so different. Not everybody has to be sexy. I think the most important is to learn how to love yourself. Some may also find shyness attractive, everybody has their own preferences. Just try to be the best version of yourself and accept that nobody is perfect and we don't need to be
I get what you're saying about how men think personality is more important than looks, but are you saying that there are no men who will be attracted to a girl who is not the most confident person, and never will be? I'm a really shy, modest person and I try to be more confident but I find it so difficult, and I hope I'll find a guy who accepts my quietness and understands that although I don't always come across as confident, I'm happy within myself... Is this possible? xx
Eva, shyness and modesty are not necessarily negative. I have friends that actually hide from women who are too outgoing and seek the modest, shy types. Overconfidence and vanity make the most physically hot women unattractive. The confidence that I think makes women so beautiful is the kind where they accept and love themselves. Just my opinion. I appreciate fine wine and fine women. :)
Being shy doesn't mean you can't be confident. I'm kinda shy but I'm comfortable with myself and people can see that through the shyness. Being confident means you love what you have and that you trust who you are. I feel that a lot of people equate confidence to being outgoing. Just because you are quiet doesn't mean you aren't confident. If you love yourself and you treat yourself and others well, that sounds like confidence to me. I feel that insecurity is the opposite of confidence and I think that's how people become overconfident or cocky. It's like a mask they wear. I hope that helped.
Mimi I am 18 years old and I think I am in this stage between teenager and adult where I am experimenting, developing and discovering myself overall. You are a great inspiration and I know you get that a lot but I truly see you as a mentor and I try to incorporate a lot of what you say into my life. I agree with a lot of your philosophies and I look up to you. Thanks
couldn't agree more! i used to be quite self-conscious about my weight as i'm a bit bigger than most girls (i have a substantial front & back, & muscular legs) and it was the people closest to me growing up who always put me down. i learned to be confident and happy with myself over the years and i'm happy how i am, but was still a little conscious about it before i met my current boyfriend. he told me the most attractive thing about me, apart from my mind, is my confidence. definitely a keeper!
I've been overweight since I can remember and it really undermines my confidence (you know, not having attencion from boys - nightmare for teenage girl, calling names by others, not feeling well in your skin). I was hiding myself under oversize sweatshirts etc when I was younger, but now I'm trying to get my confidence back :) and that kind of videos motivate me to change. So thank you for it :) (sorry for my bad english) greatings from Poland xx
I'm a little shy, but not socially awkward. I just kind of get nervous talking in front of big crowds, but I know I'm BEAUTIFUL! I'm not Beyoncé confident but, I don't beat myself up. As long as you know you're beautiful, fuck what guys are saying about being confident. Yes, you should be confident but I found it really rude how he said I don't find her attractive because she's not confident. He could have easily said, "I find her attractive, but I like girls who are confident." You can't just burst out telling a woman she's not attractive because she's not confident; because guess what? You just made her confidence drop even more and you're not helping the fucking situation!
I've learned to just be myself. Because there is no way EVERYONE will like me whether I'm faking a personality or not. And whether a person likes you or not is not up to you, it is up to them. I've realized to love myself no matter what and not compare. That's how I've learned to stay happy and sexy :)
Hey MiMi, I've been on a wheelchair for 7 years. Before, I was doing some modeling.. Then all of the sudden, I'm on a wheelchair. I really had a hard time accepting myself. I didn't go to school because I wasn't confident. After many years, I've grown to love myself. Because no superficial injury is going to change who I am as a person. I'm really confident in who I am and that's made me beautiful from the inside and out.
Many people do not feel confident but they still have many people who like them. I'm seeing it everywhere around me. Doesn't mean that what you're saying is wrong, but like it's written in the title; it's about being sexy and attractive to a large number of people. Which is a challenge!
Dont agree with Mimi here. Confidence comes from whithin yes but it has a lot to do with your looks as well. Healthy skin, hair, body etc is attractive. If you have problems with all those things its very hard to be confident or feel good. So, first you have to work on that and fix whatever you dont like. And then work on your inner self. Speaking from my own experience.
Actually confidence is makes a difference. I'm not really confident cos of my weight. But I'm friends with a couple of girls who are big like me and my god, they have completely different experiences. They get cute guys with no problem.😭 Confidences is key. But I agree with u the word sexy doesn't necessarily mean confidence. I guess what im trying to say is confidence attracts opportunities and experiences much faster and it makes a person more appealing/sexy😍.
Mimi, OMG you are sore right about fake it till you make it. Thats what I did about 7 years ago and been super confident ever since. Love you and thank you for helping ppl feel better
As long as you are open and sincere in your interactions, you will inspire other to also open up and be more confident. We have to shine bright like stars to allow others to see light within themselves too:)
Thank you for saying what has been always on my mind. I have been trying to tell my best friend the exact same thing you just nailed in the video. And since I showed her this it's really made a huge difference. Just thank you so much!!!
What I learned from watching this video. The happier I am the more confident and sexier I'll be, therefore, I need to treat myself well and do things that will lift my spirits. Thanks!
Wow mimi this was such an inspirational video. I was already aware if what u talked about but a little reminder never hurts specially when I've been going through some issues lately. One thing I do to feel confident is in the morning I make sure to wear clothes that I love &make me feel good about myself and as I walk out the door and put my headphones on I listen to my fav upbeat song and walk straight, ready to take on the world;) !! I feel awesome after I know I can do great things.
So I started to youtube how to be sexy to help explain to my wife how to be sexy... we watched 3 or 4 other videos done by women, and all they talked about was hair, makeup, dress, etc... with maybe one little thing about confidence. You really hit the nail on the head in this video. I have always said sexy has ZERO to do with how you look, and 100% to do with how you act, the way you move, the looks you give, and the things you say. I know women have confidence issues, but I was shocked to find so many videos by women about how to be sexy being complete wrong. There is not a woman alive that can't be sexy... it's all in the attitude.
Excellent vid - so positive and practical! I used to be so oversensitive to people's rudeness and negativity having been bullied as a teenager and it really affected my confidence. I now realise that the way people treat you is their issue and beyond your control - they project their issues onto you!!! I work constantly on my confidence and being a good and fair person. Please do a video on relationships and dating Mimi!
I think girls lose their confidence after a break up, whether she was dumped, or the other way around. I ended it with my ex few months ago, and while I thought I was doing fine, my confidence and heart was a mess. However... this summer I have been doing things to help me with my self esteem. Working out, getting a job, finding hobbies, spending time alone, writing in my journal.. I can proudly say I have found my confidence again! I am excited to go back to school, show the world how I am now.
Being shy doesn't mean you can't be confident. I am quite a shy person, but I am still confident about myself. You have to accept the fact that you are shy and that it is part of your personality. Most guys find i am mysterious (and find it very sexy), but the fact is that i am mostly shy!! I just learned to accept it! I swear the day you will accept the way you are (even if your shy!) you're going to feel confident and sexy (and guys will feel it too!) ;) Good luck xx
Agree about the confidence and the good posture. In this era it's not easy to really love yourself. Amazingly low number of good examples. Not all women are like Naomi Campbell and not all men look like Brad Pitt. The goal is to develop the same vibe as them and It starts with loving yourself. Women vastly underestimate that attractiveness and being sexy is rooted in being fit and in shape, physically. It gives you subconscious confidence and your body emanates it. Working on the conscious confidence as Mimi explains is a excellent development, once there is the foundation.
This is a FANTASTIC video Mimi! Luckily, I've already realized these things, but a lot of women of all ages haven't. You worded it all so fantastically.
i was feeling really sad and just in a really bad mood and then i felt so lost i clicked on your video your always uplifting and positive i try to portray those charachterstics in myself as well thank you.
This video makes me excited for my next video. Confidence is so important. If you want to be perceived sexy, respected; confidence is key ! Love the message Mimi.
Lovely video! I think another tip that really helps is to dress well. You don't have to wear top of the line stuff, but wear clothes that suit your body and make your feel great! Every time I wear an outfit that I absolutely love, I go through the day being in the best mood. It really helps!
Be sincerely nice to people when you talk to them:) Confidence shouldn't push people away, but rather make you comfortable enough to talk to strangers and meet new people:)
What a great message Mimi! I've dealt with this myself since in my culture the exaggerated "womanly hourglass" figure is thought of being the epitome of beauty. I've struggled with feeling confident for the longest time because I've always had a very small petite and lean frame. You're totally right about accepting and loving yourself. I also hope girls realize that guys really do find confidence sexy and appealing. Guys have different tastes so there's someone for everyone. :-)
Thank You so much Mimi. I have literally changed my lifestyle after watching your videos. Started looking after myself. For me, dressing up well makes me feel confident. I guess this links back to your video 'Why You Should Always Dress Your Best' Thank you SO MUCH!
I think she was talking about confidence alone, not personality or outgoingness :) But I totally agree. I think there's something to be said for that quiet, humble woman who's beauty is overlooked. And there are guys out there that find that shyness & humbleness much more attractive than outgoing girls. The whole point in my opinion is to just be yourself. Embrace who you are and be the best you you can be & the right guy will come along who loves you for who you ARE, not who you try to be :)
Years of being abused emotionally has robbed me of my confidence. Many males told me that I was ugly and that I should realize that no one will like me for me because they can't get passed my looks, I've even heard this from bf's. Confidence is for beautiful people and believe it or not, a lot of guys do really do care about looks, they only settle for less because the better hasn't come along yet, but when it does that's that. You can be the nicest girl and they will still be mean to you if your ugly.
Thankyou so much for doing this video... i think as women we battle with insecurities everyday, trying to match up to this fake and plastic image of the "perfect woman" that the media portrays. I think every woman needs to hear this definition of "sexy" and it is more meaningful when it comes from a beauty and fashion guru like yourself.
I noticed that as children girls dont care how they look so instead of trying to look pretty they have fun but as they get older they listen to other people saying things about them which makes them feel insecure so dont listen to what people say if it is something negative about you
Thank you Mimi :) while breakfast i was just watching ur old videos than i bumped into this one. At this morning i olny needed ur positive energy to start my day !
Mimi I love your videos so much, please keep making videos like this! What makes me feels more confident is to be proud of who I am through my achievements, effort, and relationships with other people. It helps a lot to love who you really are! :)
I can't explain how MUCH it helped me to watch this video; I'm not confident.. AT ALL. I don't even think I'm pretty, and when I look at some gorgeous woman I feel sad because, damn! Why can't I be like her? But you just helped me a low, sweetie. And I think that you're right in everything you just said. THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH for helping me to understand that being confident is really important and that's what make us beautiful (:
Hi Mimi. I absolutely loved this video. You're so right about confidence being sexy. Not just confidence in your looks but confident with your personality. It all shines from the inside out. You're the perfect example of it. I personally struggle with confidence from time to time, but I know it's getting better as I get older. At 24, this is the most confident I've ever been and I continue to look forward to the future :) Thank you and Alex for your inspiring videos! Take care
I randomly found this video. I seriously need to get my confidence back in this situation. wow i am so happy to watch this video and getting message...Thank you! I AM SEXY ! !
Yes but who you are is not necessarily a low profile and shy coverage, it's what's underneath: what you think, how you move, what you say, your jokes, your opinions, without fear, that's who you really are.
That's so true Mimi! I've been experimenting with going out with no makeup sometimes and whereas I started out really nor walking straight and not looking people in the eyes, it was so difficult to get people's attention.. But now I'm better at handling it and sometimes even forgetting that I have no makeup on, and it feels great! People can be just as nice to me! I guess it was all in my head and all I needed was confidence :)
Thank you so much Mimi, I was feeling really down about myself and the way i look despite what anyone told me. Everything you just said made more sense than anything I ever make up in my mind. As I watched this video I realized how differently I'm treated when I feel confident and sexy. I'm so glad I came to this realization 3
"Fake it till you make it" that's the sentence that made me changed forever. I was an extremely shy person. I never wanted to go to places where there were lots of people. If I had to enter a room I would find a way to not walk in the middle of it, I would look down and walk as fast as I can. If I liked a guy he would never know cause I would just completely ignore him. I was tired of being this awkwardly shy person. So..
I began to watch videos and read articles about confidence. The two sentences that have changed my life forever were: "Fake it till you make it" and "Life begins at the end of your comfort zone". The first thing I started to do is great strangers and smile at them. I also began to do things alone like: going to the movies, visiting another city, go to a workshop or dance class, smile to handsome men. At first it was scary as hell but do more I did these things do more confident I began to feel. Also seeing the talents I have and telling myself that I'm beautiful, confident, kind, a good listener, a good dancer etc.
The most important is knowing who you are. That you are a special, amazing , beautiful star. And when someone is going to be in your presence they are going to be blessed!
You are worth it!💖
thank you
megan asafo-agyei (^.^)
yes! i totally agree with you. gotta start from somewhere right?
You go girl!! This is so inspiring, I will start to apply this mentality from now on.
Such an inspiration!! Thank you :)
You go girl
No one chooses to be shy and introverted, its part of their nature and its extremely difficult for them to be confident and social.. you should make a video how shy people can make themselves confident
Nazish munir.. I hear you darling..
Not sure if anybody wants this never asked for piece of advice, but here is one method that helped me going from feeling very insecure in social situations to being excited to meet new, amazing people: Whenever I am in a situation that makes me feel unsure, especially with a new group of people, I first make sure to correct my posture. Then I imagine all the other people in the room and how they are or have been in the very same situation, feeling a bit unstable and not sure what to say or do. Then I imagine that those people are also looking for new contacts, and that there may be a lot of them with interests similar to mine and I imagine how lovely it is to share ideas and have a relaxed and natural talk with them. No need to force it though, just let anything that happens happen. Also know that there are always people who will not suite your personality, but at least an equal amount can become your friend. Maybe this method can work for others too. It's okay to have insecurities, everybody has them, but don't let them get the best of the great person you are!
I totally agree with what you're saying and I know you're not trying to put anyone down, but being shy isn't a bad thing. A lot of men appreciate women who are quiet and elegant but not necessarily streaming with confidence. I agree that confidence is sexy but overconfidence is the exact opposite. I have a really hard time projecting self confidence and that doesn't mean that I don't love myself or that I'm boring; it's just my personality. If you get to know a more introverted person, you will often find that they are completely comfortable in their own skin, but that it takes time for them to let that show. It's easy to tell someone to gain some confidence but it's not something that comes naturally to everyone. I think you're sending a great message and everyone who is struggling with self confidence should definitely take your advice, but if it doesn't work out for them, that's okay too.
Well said. I think there are definitely two sides to this issue and you highlighted that some people are just not capable of becoming the kind of person to take over a room and that's totally fine; they are no less happy or self fulfilled.
exactly my thoughts
i am really loving this different perspective on "sexiness" a great lesson and shows all women that no matter what size or shape they are they all have the potential to be attractive.
I've watched about 6 of your videos in a row and you are SO inspirational! Thank you so much for sharing with us and helping your viewers to help grow as confident and successful individuals. I hope to take your words and really remember them And use them in my daily life to be a better me! You've gained a subscriber today :) thank you so much !!
This may sound a bit weird, but for me I got more confidence when I started buying new specific clothes (bare with me). I am very much a tomboy and was even more so before. I rarely dressed up, never wore make up, and often wore jeans and a T shirt. When I went clothes shopping before it was just so I could have something to wear. However, these clothes didn't really reflect me or my personality. I never really got excited about putting an outfit together or wanted to dress up because well... I didn't have that many clothes that made me go "Wow I really like this top!" or "These jeans look amazing on me!" Everything was "alright" and good enough, but not spectacular or anything. Then I started shopping for clothes online and finding specific things that I like. I'll admit I'll still get T shirts, but now they reflect my interests (like Legend of Zelda or something). Since I liked what I was wearing I started feeling more confident. Before I knew it I actually wanted to wear make up and dress up. I wanted to look good, because I know I can and not cuz of the clothes I wear or anything. Clothes are just a second skin that help express myself. :)
I agree, as soon as I joined my high school I was worried about my ability to do well in my favourite subject, stressed that I would never be good enough to make it my career. Music is something that I've always wanted to do but it also causes me a lot of stress. As soon as I pretended to be confident and told myself that I was a lot better than I believed I truly was, I began to get happier in my everyday life and a whole lot more confident in anything I did, decpite the fact I was faking to start with.
I learned to be more confident by going to new places where I knew nobody and had to create a new daily routine, for example through internships in other cities. As nobody knew me, I figured I could just be myself and see the effects of that - if others did not like it, I would leave in a few months/weeks anyway and would not have to be in contact with them anymore. and what happened? they liked me for who I was and those who did not, I consciously chose not to be in contact. of course, you hear all the time that you should be yourself and ditch those who do not like you for who you are, but actually experiencing this was such an eye opener.
I'm a guy. For all the women wondering if this chick is crazy or if she's right................ Well she is absolutely CORRECT. It's all about confidence just like with guys. Women find confident men most attractive regardless of his looks and its kinda the same. Men are attracted to women who are confident but she can't be ugly. She doesn't need to be drop dead gorgeous, she just needs to not be ugly. Confidence shows in everything a person does and a guy can tell if a woman is confident or Insecure from a mile away. The most obvious is the way she walks. The confident woman walk turns EVERY head both guy and girl.
it's true; i dated a guy that was from Australia, and he was nice and not bad looking either, but he was always putting himself down, calling himself fat, ugly....every negative thing you could think of....and honestly I got sick of it. Lack of confidence is not attractive. Yes, you have flaws, but stop bringing attention to them! It only makes you look like a loser, even if you look good physically
Kiersten Poling Insecurity is one of the biggest turn offs in any relationship on either side. It causes unnecessary arguments, it makes the relationship uncomfortable for both and it also confuses your partner because they feel as though nothing they do can make you happy.
Mimi ur always boosting us up and making us feel better about ourselves. so I feel like I need to take the time to thank you and just say ur amazing and I know all ur followers will agree but WE ALL LOVE U THANK YOU MIMI💛💛💛
I have met so many gorgeous people in my middle school years that are so mean and desperate, and on the other hand, ive found people like me who walk with confidence. And that changed everything.... thank you for making this video Mimi!
Great video! I am an introvert and I feel I often seem closed off and unapproachable. I'm not shy or unconfident, just introverted. I also have a hard time finding people like me to connect with as I am young but not the club/party like the rest of my age group in my small town. Could you possibly do a video on how to make more friends and lasting connections with people when you are this personality type?
buniebum I'm thinking you can still be introverted and confident. Examples include how you walk and facial expressions. Think about things that make you happy while in public- that will change the demeanor without changing who you are.
Thank you for the video Mimi! I think you're totally right about what you said.
I have had for a long time problems with confidence and I still have. I started to pretend to be confident and it really made me feel a bit more confident. When I wasn't happy about my looks I told myself 'you are beautiful' and stuff. When I was walking in the street and felt awkward I told myself 'you are gorgeus'. Pretending really helps!
To be confident you must properly love yourself. We were talking about depression and mental problems at school with one of our teachers. She told us that when you don't love yourself you of course have also no confidence . She said us: "if you are feeling lack of self-love and confidence, what if you try this: go stand in front of mirrow in the morning, look at yourself properly and say X, I love you. And repeat that every morning." I think she's very wise and that will really help. I didn't try it yet because I know I will cry after doing so. Maybe I will start doing it soon...
Great video! I have seen girls from afar who I would never even talk to because they were not very pretty, but as soon as they began to speak to me and show confident manurisms, they suddenly became irresistible! I have also seen women who were physically HOT, but as soon as they began speaking or the way they carried themselves made them very unattractive.This is just a straight guy's perspective. You are right on!
Let me ask this, why is it that so many women always seem to fall for the good looking jerk who actually has no respect for women? However, I think your spot on but it just seems women don't appreciate a man who has manners, respectful, and treats women they way they should be treated? I'm asking a sincere question here because i think you have a good handle on this subject and would love to hear your presepctive. Thank you, great video.
Frankiethegift . Nah its just a tought the most girls love sweet guys
so what your saying is that women do prefer that good looking jerk.? You say It's just a thought that most girls love sweet guys? The consensus everywhere is that women are chasing the wrong guys. however, my question was why do so many women seem to be attracted to that "jerk" that don't treat them properly.
I just wanted to hear your view on this.
+Frankiethegift well I know this question is old but some women date jerks because they think they can change them. you ever seen the movie where a guy seems mean but the more you get to know them they become very sweet? I think some women are so gullible that they think they will have that life too 😂 also, some women just like a challenge, and they think a nice guy is boring or won't bring no excitement. also, sometimes nice guys are not always nice once you get to know them, they're just pretending until they have her. so maybe some girls like jerks because they seem more honest and true to themselves.
@@Frankiethegift then ask a woman not a guy about what a woman wants 😒
I am a woman and I wanna beat the crap out of all the jerks out there. I am looking bit a wise kind hearted man - he will become the most handsome man in the world if he is amazing in the inside and let's say decent on the outside, as in not dressing like a homeless man and clean. I met such amazing people. While the "good looking jerks" you talk about - I saw them in full action, they were so disgusting in what type of person they were, it made me wanna beat them up. I find to be sexy a man that is compatible with me and has confidence. Aka loves animals for example, has a kind heart, thinks first then acts,etc.
You are one of my biggest insporation. They way you love yourself and accepting yourself really makes me want to do the same thing. Acctually this video made me cry just a little, because i finally understood that i don't have to change myself to be " a better verision of me" I have to accept the way i am, and love myself for who i am. Thank you so much Mimi, i really really appreciate the time you spend filming all this videos.
its a really great message to evry girl who thinks dt mens cud be attrcted by their outer beauty bt actly its opposite a beautiful mind creates a beautiful person luv u mimi god bless u..
I always was a shy person, confidence was never my strength. Also i was always comparing myself to all the celebreties, who i had thought they were "perfect". Watching this video made me realise how negative and self destructive i am. It made me realise how i can improve my abilities and skills to be a strong, powerful woman, wether i am tall, short, curvy or skinny. It's not really just about the look and the appereance, it's how you carry yourself and feel every single day. That's the key to attractiveness and self confidence. To everyone who is reading this, have a beautiful amazing life and be just the way you are, cause you do you.
P.S. Sorry about the mistakes, english is not my native language
Mimi you Made my day. I know that maybe it will sound weird cause We don't know Each other but the things you had say means a Lot to me. Thanks 😘
I completely agree with everything you said. Confidence beams a certain aura, and the aura is beauty, kindness, and sweetness (different from kindness by how you treat yourself and the people around you in any situation) "how can you expect a man to care/show you off if you don't do it yourself" I love your channel, and I enjoy watching your tutorials and videos!
~Jocelyn
Confidence is FREE!!!
Mimi you are so right about looking good just for yourself..i just told the same to my fiance who gained weight and stopped caring about himself after the divorce..and i told him that he should never stop loving himself...now that you said the same, i feel so nice that i gave him this advice..
aw you made my day! I love your videos
So true, confidence exude sexiness :) Faking it to you make it is a great tip to practice! and faking it + a good attitude makes you even more beautiful!
I'm confident in every way EXCEPT on photos... i'm a mess with photos.. .photoshopping them which probably make people think i'm not really respecting myself.. what can i do about it to accept myself more? It's so hard.. i love myself in the mirror but i hate how i look in photos!
***** what do you mean?
I used to be so shy with zero confidence like the girl you described, and the thing has helped me to become confident and love who I am is yoga. The physical and mental benefits came after a few weeks and my new found confidence followed! I would recommend yoga + meditation to any of you shy girls watching this video, because it helped me so much and it can help you too x
I had the same confusion before about the guys perspective of a sexy girl.....you are absolutely right girl.
I am a quintessential introvert. Acting and Improv classes really helped me when I was younger, and I have been told that speech classes have helped other people with how to speak and carry yourself.
Hi! Just found this video. Awesome. I like the message. So true.
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Being shy is really hard to get over, I am a shy person too, mostly at the interviews and thanks to you I realized how important is our attitude, our posture . :)
The only problem is.. Is that I can't be confident with so many bad things creating a cycle in my mind.. I try to let it shoot right through me. But it's hard
But more than that over the years I have come to realize and understand that the first step towards being self confident is to STOP judging yourself according to the standards set by someone else. Once you do that and cut yourself a lil slack you will start to feel a sense of relief or freedom, which in turn will give you the ground to work on yourself, prioritize your needs (not to be confused with wants and desires) and help build a strong foundation on which the confidence can be built.
I think this is partially true. I am a confident successful web developer, but I've been told by men that my confidence scares men away. While women who are simply flirty to men (not necessarily confident in themselves) seem to garner more of the sex appeal label. To put it in plain terms men want a woman who is submissive and responsive to them, not a woman who is dominating and confident.
I don't think things are that black and white. No matter how advanced and egalitarian our modern societies have become, there is some basic biology and psychology that make men and women very different. I don't think that men want women that are ''submissive'', but they do want us to be ''feminine'' and let them be men around us. Men, as a ''species'', need to feel useful. Back in the days our ancestors still hunted mammoths, the roles were clear. The women made babies, fed them, cared for them.. and the men's roles were essentially to protect the women and children and provide them with food.. both of which, by the way, meant putting their lives on the line for the survival of the species.
In today's world I think most men have trouble feeling useful around us. Not only have their own traditionnal roles of providing and protecting have become much more comfortable for them, we don't even let them take care of that for us anymore. Men aren't ''afraid'' of ''confident'' women, they are ''confused'' by ''masculinised'' women. Women can now provide for themselves while still having children and care for them.. but men will never bare children. We now have access to everything that was once theirs only, the public sphere, but they will never be able to take on a part of being a woman that is and will always be ours only.
I am an ''entrepreneur''. I am a writer, I make jewelry.. I take care of myself. But I make sure that my being independent and confident doesn't make me ''dominant'' per se. If there's a picture to hang in the house, even though I could do it myself, I let my partner do it, because I know that it makes him feel useful if he does it, and he feels validated when I thank him afterwards. If someone holds the door for me, I don't start lecturing them about how I can hold my own door, I smile and say thank you. If a guy friend offers to go in and buy us coffees when we walk by the Starbucks, I won't insist on going in with him and buy my own coffee, I'll let him do it.. because I know that men enjoy the company of women who let them be men around them. The male in them needs to feel that he can do something for us, be useful to us, take care of us in some way or another. But I feel some women nowadays equate confidence with ''acting like a man'' to some degree. They take on masculine traits (which I think as soon as we decide to go play in ''their field'', is inevitable) of ambition, competitivity, emotional disconnexion, etc, etc.. and the men don't see much of a woman left in them.
I watched a video recently that described this in terms of chakral energies and how women typically have let's say stronger 2nd chakras whereas men have stronger 1st chakras, and in a normal man-woman relationship, the woman will give evergy from her second chakra to the man and receive energy from his first chakra, which describes an harmonious ''flow'' between the two partners. Nowadays, women who are very career-oriented tend to carry more energy in their first chakra let's say, while their second becomes ''drained''.. And because we are all sensitive to each other's ''vibrations'', this is in fact what keeps men away from such women, who just don't ''ooze'' as much feminity as others who cultivate their more feminine qualities of gentleness, compassion and so on.
As a successful carrer woman in a world of men, you certainly ''tap'' a lot more in your masculine qualities than a woman who works in daycare, for instance.. and the men end up considering you more as ''one of them'' than as a potential mother to their children. Think of it the other way around maybe. What do you think of effeminate men? Do you think of them as sexy beasts, or do you think they're ''cute'', or not even. Or if you met a man who told you how he works in daycare and loves it, and hopes that when you have children, he can stop working and be a stay at home dad? Perhaps these aren't great examples, and I know there are some women who would be totally fine with having a stay at home husband.. but I think generally speaking, most women would raise an eyebrow if a prospect told them they were looking forward to staying home with the kids, because that isn't a typical male behaviour, and the females in us don't recognise that as ''mating material''..
It's ironic, because women strive to be ''men's equals'', but men have no idea what to do with a woman that is their equal. They just want women that are women and display female attributes.
Maybe let your male collegues treat you to coffee from time to time, and see how their perception of you changes.. ;)
HijaDelMar6 I agree with you on your general idea. I think most men desire BEING the man in most situations because they feel they are important to the woman in some way. As soon as a man doesn't feel that you are being responsive to them (read submissive) and see that you are taking care of things on your own, they wonder why they are even there.
My greatest qualm with this video is the generic idea of "be confident" which ultimately becomes a "be yourself" type of statement. Masculine woman who are confident go getters cannot just "be themeselves". They need to reorient themselves for a relationship with a man and present a more open and willing type of persona rather than the controlling and dominating one.
For many years, I was under the impression that the clothing that I feel most confident in are what men will find the sexiest. Low and behold, after taking polls between my male friends, boyfriend, and co-workers my wardrobe lacked sex appeal. I always dressed for business, but never for play with men. My outfits read "she's always busy", "she is not interested in flirting" or "shes probably a lesbian".
After talking to men who point out women as hot and being ballsy enough myself to go and make conversation with those women, this is the results that I have found with what men describe as "hot" women. Most frequently these successful females appear to be women who act like basic animals, dress in promiscuous clothing, and will bend their opinions to be desirable to different crowds. Is this confidence? I suppose in some format it is, but it is a far cry away from my confidence which comes from honesty, intelligent display, and showing that I am in control (not acting like an animal).
The TDLR of this is that some forms of confidence are not sexy and you need to adapt for the environment that you are playing. If you don't adapt, you are not going to attract the individuals that you find most sexually appealing.
Lacoux First I have to say that after I finished writing my first comment, I kind of felt like a hypocrit, because my own relationship had been four years in the making because my partner was initially intimidated by my confidence and had told himself there was no way I would be interested in him, so for literally years he did everything he could to try and keep me at a safe distance and not have to admit his feelings (including dating another girl - the kind you've just described- for nearly 3 years).. I don't know. Seems like a long time ago now I guess, so it didn't even occur to me while I was writing.. My bad. ;)
I do get what you're saying, but you're talking about women that men describe as ''hot''. To me ''hot'' is different than ''sexy'', which encompasses a more general idea of attraction. ''Hot'' to me is someone you would score, not much more. ''Sexy'' is about feeling good in one's skin, being confident, and that should appeal to more than another person's most basic instincts. Simply put, to me ''hot woman'' = ''doable woman'', whereas a sexy woman is somebody who's attractive, but in a way that you would want to get to know her, spend time with her, and possibly make it a long run kind of thing.
So for me having confidence as a woman has never been a hindrance. If anything, it keeps ''that kind'' of men, the ones who would only be interested in sex, at bay, and I'm not going to complain. I believe that like attracts like. I live my life and behave according to certain standards I have, for myself but also of course for those people who would come into my life. If men who are only looking for an easy f**k (excuse my French!) are intimidated by me, excellent. Saves me the trouble of having to tell them that they're not good enough for me anyway..
Yes, by being confident and unapologizing about it, fewer men will come to you, but the ones who will have a much higher chance of being high-standard, high-value men themselves, which logically would be the ones who aren't intimidated by you, because they are like you.
I am no promiscuous girl either. A pair of jeans and sneakers are what I'll be found wearing most of the time, with my hair up and minimal makeup. Skirts and heels I bother with once or twice a year at the most, if it's a really ''dressy'' kind of event, but, yeah. Maybe some people have thought I was a lesbian before too, who knows? ;) One thing I do know, is that I would never dress in a way that isn't me and is therefore sure to attract to myself the kind of crowds that also aren't me. My partner likes me in my jeans and sneakers, and I would never be with someone who doesn't. If those other guys somehow pick it up, saves me trouble. ;)
HijaDelMar6 We are still talking about sexiness, right? Sexiness is related to long-term dating, but they are not one in the same subject. To stay on point, we are trying to define what it is that men find sexually appealing and whether or not confidence is directly related to that. We are not defining what makes long term versus short term partners.
Although we are talking about what men find sexually attractive, you made a point to define your own version of sexiness. I will work with your own personal definition.You define sexiness as "feeling good in one's skin", "being confident" and "should appeal to more than basic instincts". Let's take a look at dictonary.com's definition of sexy:
1.concerned predominantly or excessively with sex; risqué:
2.sexually interesting or exciting; radiating sexuality:
3.excitingly appealing; glamorous:
I also checked other online resources and the consensus is clear. Sexiness is to exert a sexual energy or be interested in sex. In other words, sexiness in the scholarly world is recognized as being a "doable woman". No successful woman in the dating scene wants to hear that doable women are what men find sexy, but when any person asks a man "who do you think is sexy?" it almost always is never an elderly woman or child. Knowing this much, we can assume that sexiness has to do with appearing fertile and of child bearing age. Confidence is not the sole factor as children and elderly women would be included in this pool if that were the case.
Okcupid has collected statics on their millions of users to see whether or not being a business oriented woman makes you appear more attractive to men. Turns out men steer clear of women with deep pockets and exceptional resumes. The men on Okcupid communicate more frequently with women that have basic interests and are more sexually open in their photos. Okcupid recognizes this as a sign that men are not approaching these confident successful women because those men believe they won't be able to get with a successful woman for long term or short term dating.
I'd post the link here, but youtube will take my comment down. You can read more if you google "OkTrends"
Lacoux Of course, ethymologically speaking, ''sexy'' has the stem ''sex'' so that's what it refers to.. and of course, anyone I would consider dating, no matter how smart or kind or interesting they were, they would also have to be sexually appealing to me. So yes, definitely, ''sexy'' has very much to do with sex.
But I do believe it's more than that, in part because sexiness, much like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. I've always found it so sexy for instance when a man I find attractive runs his fingers through his hair. Typically he will not have a ''sex exhuding'' intention doing that, but it will have that effect on me. Or I find my partner sexy when he plays hockey or drives, because these are things that I don't do, they're talents that he has and I don't, so I find him sexy doing those, although if we refer to the dictionary's definitions of sexy, neither activities would really fall under it. One last example, most men would probably think that women find them sexy with no shirt on, but I happen to find nothing sexier than a man in jeans and a white shirt, so if a gentleman took his shirt off in front of me with a sexy intention, he would miss the mark.
I am not trying to present my personnal views on the subject as authority or reference. I simply meant to offer my more optimistic view and experience to what I felt was a pretty pessimistic one as you had presented it. I don't understand why, as a confident, successful woman, you would care about the general opinion of men who probably aren't as confident and figured-out as yourself seeing as they are ''intimidated'' by you.
All right, the men on Okcupid say so and so about what kind of women they like.. but the average (=mediocre) guy has average confidence, average maturity, average brains, average substance, average everything. As a confident, mature, smart, kind, ''real'', figured-out woman, I personally couldn't care less that somebody who isn't all that won't ask me out on a date.. I would say no anyway! Why do you take the opinions of the mediocre masses and see them as a death sentence to your own lovelife? Wouldn't you turn most of them down anyway, seeing that their confidence is no match to yours? It's your apparent sense of loss that baffles me.. If I am too confident for a guy then he is too insecure for me, and I don't want him anyway.
The sad truth is, indeed, that most people, men and women, aren't anywhere near as confident as they should be. They are the, what? 90% majority maybe? But there ARE some men out there who CAN deal with confident women. So perhaps some 90% of men, you are out of their league, but the remaining 10% of a few billion people is still a good number of individuals. Mimi's husband and friends seem to fall in that group, as do most of the men who are in my life. They are the people who know that real sexiness, just like real beauty, isn't only skin deep. It's something that transpires from the inside out when a person's sex appeal is directly linked to their value and sense of self-worth.
Men are visual, and biologically ''seed spreaders''. They see something with hips and breasts, as you said that appears ''fertile'', and chances are they'll consider getting cozy.. and most will tell you ''no matter what the face looks like'', let alone the personnality. This is the ''brainless animal'' in them urging them to act on that basic instinct. Of course a man who operates from that place will seek a woman who is as equally on ''brainless animal'' mode. Like attracts like. Eventually most people grow up and mature, becoming more confident and responsible, and they start wanting more out of their relationships than easy ''fun''. Then they start seeking ''substance'' in their potential partners, and men won't find women who are nothing more than gorgeous shells quite as attractive anymore. Their definition of ''sexy'' will have shifted from something strictly superficial to one that encompasses that ''from the inside out'' idea that Mimi talked about in her video, and that mature, confident men like her husband describe as being sexy.
this is very inspiring cause ive been looking for a way to gain confidence and honestly everyone says that you should be confidant but they never say how
so im soo greatful that you shared us how to be confident and you are truly inspiring:)
:/ if I were your friend I would be extremely mortified and feel completely betrayed that you went around asking people about me then made a video saying everyone thought I was not sexy.
My thoughts too!
I've changed last year because of you and your sister. Now I feel more confident in my skin... Thank you for teaching me how to take care of me.
About a week ago...
+Allegra Wu what happened about a week ago?
Allegra Wu week ago !
a good tip to being confident is that you're biggest critic is yourself, if you feel out of place or awkward people dont see it as bad as you think it is, just be confident that you're the best you possible and be nice to other people and you'll fit in and feel good about it too (:
As a confident woman, I would say that in my eyes the #1 thing that gives another woman away as having low confidence is how ''dolled up'' she is. There are a fair amount of such ladies here on UA-cam. Girls and young women who are master makeup artists (which I do applaud, I could never apply eyeliner for the life of me.. ;)).. but Jesus girls, when the finished product looks NOTHING like the blank canvas you started with, you are telling me loud and clear ''I don't like the way that ''I'' look''. And how many times have I heard or read comments from girls complaining that the first time their new date saw them without makeup, their face crumbled a little bit.. Well what do you expect? His foreseen disappointment is the exact reason you feel the need to transform into someone else every morning in the first place!
And don't get me wrong, I'm not against makeup as a whole. Used in moderation, it can camouflage an array of little imperfections that we don't want everyone to see or enhance those features we like best about ourselves.. but when someone's entire facial morphology changes from the use of makeup, something is definitely off.
Giveaway #2 of a low-confidence woman is a ''mean girl''. Women who aren't genuinely confident often make the mistake to think that by giving themselves an ''attitude'', they will appear confident. They turn into this block of unapproachable concrete, never smile, roll their eyes, and sometimes even insult an unsuspecting gentleman that would try holding the door for them, claiming they ''can do it themselves''.
A truly confident woman has a bounce in her step and a smile in her eyes. Her feminity is elated, so she is kind, caring, gentle and open. NOT to say that women should smile to everyone they meet or be extra pleasant to any man who tries to flirt with them if they're not interested.. This isn't about being a dumbbell. But truly confident women usually have a ''lightness'' about them, a natural radiance and a degree of ''approachability''.
Hiding behind a mask of makeup or a fake I-am-so-above-everyone attitude might procure some false sense of confidence, but true confidence is feeling unthreatened walking around ''naked'', letting people see your true self.
..And just a quick comment to Mimi about how you said that men and women see beauty differently. Do we really? In my experience, most women are attracted to a man's ''energy'', his confidence and sense of humor usually making the top of the list. So it would actually turn out that both men and women are attracted to how good a member of the opposite (or same) sex feels in their own skin. It's just that women (should we blame the media for it..) are generally made to think that their own beauty is determined by the thickness of their lashes or the length of their legs.. when it's really just about how we rock whatever we've got, and turns out the gentlemen were never fooled. :)
Great video. I'm off to learn how to stop procrastinating now.. ;)
Well written and true. Thank you for posting. Hopefully this will be insightful to many people. xoxo!!!!
+Rachel Jefferson
Thanks for replying and for your kind words. I do feel quite strongly about this subject.. ;)
You are absolutely right, confidence does make you feel and look more attractive. Some may overdo it, by trying to hard...But I think that's the beauty of life, that we are all so different. Not everybody has to be sexy. I think the most important is to learn how to love yourself. Some may also find shyness attractive, everybody has their own preferences. Just try to be the best version of yourself and accept that nobody is perfect and we don't need to be
I get what you're saying about how men think personality is more important than looks, but are you saying that there are no men who will be attracted to a girl who is not the most confident person, and never will be? I'm a really shy, modest person and I try to be more confident but I find it so difficult, and I hope I'll find a guy who accepts my quietness and understands that although I don't always come across as confident, I'm happy within myself... Is this possible? xx
Eva, shyness and modesty are not necessarily negative. I have friends that actually hide from women who are too outgoing and seek the modest, shy types. Overconfidence and vanity make the most physically hot women unattractive. The confidence that I think makes women so beautiful is the kind where they accept and love themselves. Just my opinion. I appreciate fine wine and fine women. :)
Being shy doesn't mean you can't be confident. I'm kinda shy but I'm comfortable with myself and people can see that through the shyness. Being confident means you love what you have and that you trust who you are. I feel that a lot of people equate confidence to being outgoing. Just because you are quiet doesn't mean you aren't confident. If you love yourself and you treat yourself and others well, that sounds like confidence to me. I feel that insecurity is the opposite of confidence and I think that's how people become overconfident or cocky. It's like a mask they wear. I hope that helped.
Thank you:)
Natasha Eva, I relate..
Mimi I am 18 years old and I think I am in this stage between teenager and adult where I am experimenting, developing and discovering myself overall. You are a great inspiration and I know you get that a lot but I truly see you as a mentor and I try to incorporate a lot of what you say into my life. I agree with a lot of your philosophies and I look up to you. Thanks
Perfect, women's confidence is well communicated here!
This is exactly what I was looking for! Not about looks but about personality. Thank you!!!
mimi thats so inspiring.....god bless u....
I learned how to be confident by just being around the right people, whenever I can be myself I know I don't have to worry about anything ever. :)
i really needed to hear this today. ~ thank you.
couldn't agree more! i used to be quite self-conscious about my weight as i'm a bit bigger than most girls (i have a substantial front & back, & muscular legs) and it was the people closest to me growing up who always put me down. i learned to be confident and happy with myself over the years and i'm happy how i am, but was still a little conscious about it before i met my current boyfriend. he told me the most attractive thing about me, apart from my mind, is my confidence. definitely a keeper!
This video was so necessary in my life right now
Xo
I've been overweight since I can remember and it really undermines my confidence (you know, not having attencion from boys - nightmare for teenage girl, calling names by others, not feeling well in your skin). I was hiding myself under oversize sweatshirts etc when I was younger, but now I'm trying to get my confidence back :) and that kind of videos motivate me to change. So thank you for it :) (sorry for my bad english) greatings from Poland xx
I'm a little shy, but not socially awkward. I just kind of get nervous talking in front of big crowds, but I know I'm BEAUTIFUL! I'm not Beyoncé confident but, I don't beat myself up. As long as you know you're beautiful, fuck what guys are saying about being confident. Yes, you should be confident but I found it really rude how he said I don't find her attractive because she's not confident. He could have easily said, "I find her attractive, but I like girls who are confident." You can't just burst out telling a woman she's not attractive because she's not confident; because guess what? You just made her confidence drop even more and you're not helping the fucking situation!
*****
Aww thanks so much. You too.
I agree with you 100%
I am asking myself how can I be confident and still preserve my polite, cool behaviour and also be out going.. its a tricky..
Chanel valentine, I agree plz...
I've learned to just be myself. Because there is no way EVERYONE will like me whether I'm faking a personality or not. And whether a person likes you or not is not up to you, it is up to them. I've realized to love myself no matter what and not compare. That's how I've learned to stay happy and sexy :)
Such a good video, really helped me :))
Hey MiMi, I've been on a wheelchair for 7 years. Before, I was doing some modeling.. Then all of the sudden, I'm on a wheelchair. I really had a hard time accepting myself. I didn't go to school because I wasn't confident. After many years, I've grown to love myself. Because no superficial injury is going to change who I am as a person. I'm really confident in who I am and that's made me beautiful from the inside and out.
This was so amazing wow!! :D
Many people do not feel confident but they still have many people who like them. I'm seeing it everywhere around me. Doesn't mean that what you're saying is wrong, but like it's written in the title; it's about being sexy and attractive to a large number of people. Which is a challenge!
Dont agree with Mimi here. Confidence comes from whithin yes but it has a lot to do with your looks as well. Healthy skin, hair, body etc is attractive. If you have problems with all those things its very hard to be confident or feel good. So, first you have to work on that and fix whatever you dont like. And then work on your inner self. Speaking from my own experience.
Actually confidence is makes a difference. I'm not really confident cos of my weight. But I'm friends with a couple of girls who are big like me and my god, they have completely different experiences. They get cute guys with no problem.😭 Confidences is key. But I agree with u the word sexy doesn't necessarily mean confidence. I guess what im trying to say is confidence attracts opportunities and experiences much faster and it makes a person more appealing/sexy😍.
Mimi, OMG you are sore right about fake it till you make it. Thats what I did about 7 years ago and been super confident ever since. Love you and thank you for helping ppl feel better
I think you are confident ;)
As long as you are open and sincere in your interactions, you will inspire other to also open up and be more confident. We have to shine bright like stars to allow others to see light within themselves too:)
Shy = Not confident?
Thank you for saying what has been always on my mind. I have been trying to tell my best friend the exact same thing you just nailed in the video. And since I showed her this it's really made a huge difference. Just thank you so much!!!
yet guys still go around looking at other girls when they have an amazing girl so when it comes down to it, what's the point?
Exactly
What I learned from watching this video. The happier I am the more confident and sexier I'll be, therefore, I need to treat myself well and do things that will lift my spirits.
Thanks!
Lifesimmer!
Haha same
Same!
whats with her? why are you saying her name?
She is a UA-camR. And I said her name because she saw this video
How u know?
I never left comments on UA-cam before until I saw your videos. You are so incredibly beautiful, intelligent, and positive.
I dont like this video..For the simple idea thats its to much editing... It dosent seems real
Wow mimi this was such an inspirational video. I was already aware if what u talked about but a little reminder never hurts specially when I've been going through some issues lately. One thing I do to feel confident is in the morning I make sure to wear clothes that I love &make me feel good about myself and as I walk out the door and put my headphones on I listen to my fav upbeat song and walk straight, ready to take on the world;) !! I feel awesome after I know I can do great things.
So I started to youtube how to be sexy to help explain to my wife how to be sexy... we watched 3 or 4 other videos done by women, and all they talked about was hair, makeup, dress, etc... with maybe one little thing about confidence. You really hit the nail on the head in this video. I have always said sexy has ZERO to do with how you look, and 100% to do with how you act, the way you move, the looks you give, and the things you say.
I know women have confidence issues, but I was shocked to find so many videos by women about how to be sexy being complete wrong. There is not a woman alive that can't be sexy... it's all in the attitude.
Excellent vid - so positive and practical! I used to be so oversensitive to people's rudeness and negativity having been bullied as a teenager and it really affected my confidence. I now realise that the way people treat you is their issue and beyond your control - they project their issues onto you!!! I work constantly on my confidence and being a good and fair person. Please do a video on relationships and dating Mimi!
It's my pleasure:) I'm happy to hear that
I absolutely love this video Mimi! Such amazing advice
I think girls lose their confidence after a break up, whether she was dumped, or the other way around. I ended it with my ex few months ago, and while I thought I was doing fine, my confidence and heart was a mess. However... this summer I have been doing things to help me with my self esteem. Working out, getting a job, finding hobbies, spending time alone, writing in my journal.. I can proudly say I have found my confidence again! I am excited to go back to school, show the world how I am now.
Being shy doesn't mean you can't be confident. I am quite a shy person, but I am still confident about myself. You have to accept the fact that you are shy and that it is part of your personality. Most guys find i am mysterious (and find it very sexy), but the fact is that i am mostly shy!! I just learned to accept it! I swear the day you will accept the way you are (even if your shy!) you're going to feel confident and sexy (and guys will feel it too!) ;) Good luck xx
Agree about the confidence and the good posture. In this era it's not easy to really love yourself. Amazingly low number of good examples. Not all women are like Naomi Campbell and not all men look like Brad Pitt. The goal is to develop the same vibe as them and It starts with loving yourself. Women vastly underestimate that attractiveness and being sexy is rooted in being fit and in shape, physically. It gives you subconscious confidence and your body emanates it. Working on the conscious confidence as Mimi explains is a excellent development, once there is the foundation.
This is a FANTASTIC video Mimi! Luckily, I've already realized these things, but a lot of women of all ages haven't. You worded it all so fantastically.
i was feeling really sad and just in a really bad mood and then i felt so lost i clicked on your video your always uplifting and positive i try to portray those charachterstics in myself as well thank you.
This video makes me excited for my next video. Confidence is so important. If you want to be perceived sexy, respected; confidence is key ! Love the message Mimi.
Lovely video! I think another tip that really helps is to dress well. You don't have to wear top of the line stuff, but wear clothes that suit your body and make your feel great! Every time I wear an outfit that I absolutely love, I go through the day being in the best mood. It really helps!
Be sincerely nice to people when you talk to them:) Confidence shouldn't push people away, but rather make you comfortable enough to talk to strangers and meet new people:)
Thanks Mimi! never would have thought guys actually think this way. Ur an awesome person and I admire u a lot
What a great message Mimi! I've dealt with this myself since in my culture the exaggerated "womanly hourglass" figure is thought of being the epitome of beauty. I've struggled with feeling confident for the longest time because I've always had a very small petite and lean frame. You're totally right about accepting and loving yourself. I also hope girls realize that guys really do find confidence sexy and appealing. Guys have different tastes so there's someone for everyone. :-)
Thank You so much Mimi. I have literally changed my lifestyle after watching your videos. Started looking after myself.
For me, dressing up well makes me feel confident. I guess this links back to your video 'Why You Should Always Dress Your Best'
Thank you SO MUCH!
you're so great at talking, like saying exactly what has to be said and explaining it perfectly. you are awesome, it's an awesome topic. thanks a lot!
I think she was talking about confidence alone, not personality or outgoingness :) But I totally agree. I think there's something to be said for that quiet, humble woman who's beauty is overlooked. And there are guys out there that find that shyness & humbleness much more attractive than outgoing girls. The whole point in my opinion is to just be yourself. Embrace who you are and be the best you you can be & the right guy will come along who loves you for who you ARE, not who you try to be :)
Years of being abused emotionally has robbed me of my confidence. Many males told me that I was ugly and that I should realize that no one will like me for me because they can't get passed my looks, I've even heard this from bf's. Confidence is for beautiful people and believe it or not, a lot of guys do really do care about looks, they only settle for less because the better hasn't come along yet, but when it does that's that.
You can be the nicest girl and they will still be mean to you if your ugly.
I think the MOST important thing to do to be confident is LOVING YOURSELF
Thankyou so much for doing this video... i think as women we battle with insecurities everyday, trying to match up to this fake and plastic image of the "perfect woman" that the media portrays. I think every woman needs to hear this definition of "sexy" and it is more meaningful when it comes from a beauty and fashion guru like yourself.
I noticed that as children girls dont care how they look so instead of trying to look pretty they have fun but as they get older they listen to other people saying things about them which makes them feel insecure so dont listen to what people say if it is something negative about you
bless you for making this video mimi, so many people need this advice!
Thank you Mimi :) while breakfast i was just watching ur old videos than i bumped into this one. At this morning i olny needed ur positive energy to start my day !
Mimi I love your videos so much, please keep making videos like this! What makes me feels more confident is to be proud of who I am through my achievements, effort, and relationships with other people. It helps a lot to love who you really are! :)
I've learned to be more confident by smiling and just being an all around happy person:)
I can't explain how MUCH it helped me to watch this video; I'm not confident.. AT ALL. I don't even think I'm pretty, and when I look at some gorgeous woman I feel sad because, damn! Why can't I be like her? But you just helped me a low, sweetie. And I think that you're right in everything you just said. THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH for helping me to understand that being confident is really important and that's what make us beautiful (:
Hi Mimi. I absolutely loved this video. You're so right about confidence being sexy. Not just confidence in your looks but confident with your personality. It all shines from the inside out. You're the perfect example of it. I personally struggle with confidence from time to time, but I know it's getting better as I get older. At 24, this is the most confident I've ever been and I continue to look forward to the future :) Thank you and Alex for your inspiring videos! Take care
Thank you, Mimi, for such great advice! It's such a great phrase to remember, "confidence is free"!
I randomly found this video. I seriously need to get my confidence back in this situation. wow i am so happy to watch this video and getting message...Thank you! I AM SEXY ! !
Yes but who you are is not necessarily a low profile and shy coverage, it's what's underneath: what you think, how you move, what you say, your jokes, your opinions, without fear, that's who you really are.
That's so true Mimi! I've been experimenting with going out with no makeup sometimes and whereas I started out really nor walking straight and not looking people in the eyes, it was so difficult to get people's attention.. But now I'm better at handling it and sometimes even forgetting that I have no makeup on, and it feels great! People can be just as nice to me! I guess it was all in my head and all I needed was confidence :)
Thank you so much Mimi, I was feeling really down about myself and the way i look despite what anyone told me. Everything you just said made more sense than anything I ever make up in my mind. As I watched this video I realized how differently I'm treated when I feel confident and sexy.
I'm so glad I came to this realization 3