How I Keep My Life Focused On My Mental Health
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- Опубліковано 7 кві 2024
- Organizing your life around what's most important to you might be inadvertently sabotaging your life.
People with mental health struggles need to go deeper and determine what is most foundational in their life - not necessarily what is most important to them.
The distinction is critical. The thing that is most foundational is the thing that will cause total system failure.
For me, that thing is managing my life around my mental health goals. I'm going to show you exactly how I do that with a tool called with Sunsama. bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)
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But I do care.
That comment was petty and uncalled for. . Scott is a sensitive brilliant man and clearly an expert in his field He goes above and beyond helping people.
What was the comment?
Which one maria
Your right on all points and he is one of the best for sure, in my top 3. He has incredible insight and first hand knowledge of all that he speaks of and I have learnt a huge amount from him that has helped me manage my own illness. His only weak point is that he has a tendency to insert 'faith' and 'god' way too much and I don't believe that religion is a helpful tool at all for such mental health conditions. But apart from the faith thing, he is pretty spot on with everything else.
This is so true. Unless you've been to the back end of the abyss, you'll never fully understand the immense solace that can be found in the 'regular' and the 'predictable'. Most folk call this approach boring, but those who know call it survival.
I just got out of the psych unit. I've been binge watching your videos because I'm scared of going backwards but its scary to go forward. I'm coming out of a dehibilitating episode that lasted for months. Its like a vampire coming out into the sunshine.
Tho I hate the dark the light can be equally as terrifying.
Jennifer I hope you find the courage to go forwards into the light ❤
I totally relate, and I'm going through something similar.
❤ wishing you support and care
Fellow traveler here...I am holding on because of channels like yours; and concern for those who know me. I do want to get past all of this. Will watch this video tonignt.
I realized the need for structure and routine to keep my life focused and stable. Roommates used to mock me for it until they realized I was right. One of them even thanked me for it -- in tears.
I understand 👍 I have experienced when I was younger a very difficult criminal behavior against me ,I have to have a safe environment and my spiritual life, yes so great thank you for sharing
Please be nice to my thumbnail editor. Mistakes happen.
No problem...thanks a ton for information you sharing ❤
Indeed! Thank goodness or I wouldn't have a job! You have an excellent artist.
@@JoSpring ... Artist?
I love how your on-camera manner is so deeply personal that it feels like you're speaking directly to me. Thank you so so much for this channel - you've actually made a meaningful difference in my life.
I like it when you keep little mistakes in your video (11:10). It shows a humbleness that makes it easy to relate to your content.
So many people acting like they've never made a typo before! They need to grow up!
Happy week to you all. Please be kind to yourself. You're doing the best you can. Thank you Dr. Scott!✨✨✨
I have found that I need to look after myself physically in order to stay well mentally. You would think that it is an easy thing to do but isn't! I have to be very strict with myself and make sure that I eat well, don't get over tired, walk, read, keep to a routine of getting up at the same time, going to bed at the same time etc. I am retired now so it is easier to do this. It may seem a dull way of living to some people but for me it is survival. Thank you Scott 8:50
On behalf of the spelling & punctuation police infiltrating the comments section I apologise, Dr. Scott. I guess you've seen it all before but still, you'd hope for better behaviour from your class of '24...
I absolutely need to structure my day. If I don’t, I waste far too much time being either completely immersed in my work and neglecting myself or having absolutely no idea what I should be doing (for myself) at any given time. It is much easier to prioritise my family & my work than it is myself.
This makes a lot of sense (as usual!) We don't often prioritize our mental health into our days, and just simply doing what is best for us. And you can keep it fairly simple too - sleep, eat, exercise.
Thank you Dr Scott, other people talking about depression who do not experience it somehow don't come across as eloquent as you do. When you speak, you explain what's in my head better than I can. Your authentic and genuine approach really helps me to relate.
I've always been a list person. i use 3x5 card-sized paper pages held together by a brad. i have an "every day" list printed on each page 1 of the day and weekly per day ideas list on a 2nd page, to go over and above my "daily" list. i'm retired but i was always VERY busy in my middle years. Now i try to be kind and patient with myself as well as others. My "pocket notebook" helps me to keep things straight but not be overwhelmed. i also keep a 3rd blank, lined card for inspiring quotes, movies to see, dates for activities i'd like to attend and such. i keep my used pages in a card file by date to refer back to if needed.
Good idea. Beats paying for an app.
Me too 😊
Yes yes yes...this guy knows what he is talking about...and that deep knowing comes from having lived it.
Totally comprehend what he is saying.
This channel is helping me immensely. Because you actually go through it you have a true gift to teach it. Thank you for sharing
My mental health is concerning me..i am dealing with a pinched nerve in my neck, fibromyalgia, so my physical health is always looping through my brain
6:30 totally can relate to this. After cosuming a lot of psychological and self help content (good and bad) over the years I basically know whats good for me and should be done on a daily basis. Works in theory. Practically I'm thrown around by internal and external stimuli. The struggle of establishing a daily routine is real and I wonder if that can be done without external help and pressure by "regular" people that don't have a professional background in psychology. I feel like it almost requires separating a part of one's self, as one has to be the soldier and conolel (or patient and therapist) simultaneously.
For me, having my day very planned out actually stresses me. On the other hand I do feel overwhelmed quickly and I think planning a bit more ahead, especially to stay more on top of things would be good. I do want to prioritize my mental health more. I feel like my life is oftentimes driven more by others than by myself.
You really are brilliant, Dr. Eilers!
I think this was the perfect time for me to hear this message. Thank you
Your transparency/sharing is so inclusive and appreciated.
I am no novice to Therapy and I find your content extremely beneficial to my arsenal of tools.
Thank you Dr.Scott.
Thankyou from the bottom of my heart for these videos.
Not only they give hope but also really good tools and advices. You're a great person, thanks for doing this and sharing your experiences and knowledge about this hard dilemas so many people struggle with
Super fundamental source. Keep guiding us. The most action we need to do is - removing the blindfold off of our eyes (perspective of our thoughts & emotions). Although it hurts kinda like hair removal bandage.
Sending my thanks to Dr. Scott Eilers
I set a structure for my life but find that life interferes on a regular basis. Things like driving my husband to Dr. Appointments. I would love to feel okay most of the time. Will give this more thought.
Thank you for this helpful and honest video, Dr Scott. You're a lifesaver!
Doctor, could I talk to you personally?
You are truly one of mental health advocate I'm following through. What you have said, done, occurred on your life are reflections of what I have struggled for about a decade.
No one has really said better than you did. I wish I could thank you and have a private talk personally.
I do offer coaching through my personal website www.drscotteilers.com
Thanks so much, Scott. I do have a routine for my workdays, and (sort of) for my off days. I do need to work on the off days more. Have a good day!😊
Thanks Dr!
People sure do love pointing out spelling errors on the internet, don't they? Lol.
Thank you Dr. Scott. Every piece helps.
Thank you so much for sharing this❤❤❤
Thanks!!
Im so glad I found your channel! Thank you for all you do to help us.
Thanks Dr. Scott. Having a schedule is key, though sticking to it is still an uphill battle for me
You are so kind and brave to open up your life to help others.
Yes, softly ( but always consistently): rhythms and routines throughout the 3
block times of the day ( interesting the foundation of Early Montessori Care and Education and recent Attachment theories brought out of the dusty basement of
psychological early development….throw in a little Fred Rogers); which I taught and mentored for years ( the delight of my life along with my own children and grandchildren)but somehow my home routines were chaotic. It took me 5 years
following retirement (after developing RA) to focus on my mental/ physical self
Keeping the routines contained in the 3 block rhythms of the morning/ mid day, and evening became the North Star of navigating residual anxiety / depression
along with soft practice of Buddhism and radical acceptance of what is in front of me….that does not include staying in bed for 2 days straight 😂
Thank You for your great video resource 😊
Thank you! That was a great important video.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom on crafting your day to optimize your mental health.
I'm so angry and tired of life. Fuck it with feeling like this every day. I hate everyone and everything. I'm 68 and have never been helped.
You're not alone. And, I'm a few years older than you. I feel like that on MOST days, too. 😐 💕
@@roseyc.5846 Yes, I understand. Please practice Loving, nurturing Care toward your Self. I have found no one else who will do that for us and we need the Loving Care and we Deserve it. A Daily practice as well as writing down our fears, worries, concerns, resentments and then releasing them All to our Higher Power or to God or to The Universal Source or whatever you are connected to has been proven by Scientific Studies to actually work in changing Brain patterns and nervous system. A Daily Practice twice daily can and will change things along with Restful Sleep, Exercise and Diet / Healthy Eating for you. Eating may need to change, perhaps a sensitivity to gluten, to other foods. A need for magnesium supplements, etc. Care for your Body / Mind / Health. You Deserve that . Blessings to All.
Ask for help and keep asking for it till it comes to you. It might come in an unexpected form.
Reject anything that doesn’t truly help.
I feel like that too
Hi Debbie, I totally feel exactly the same, I'm 53.
I'm finding that doing pretty much the same thing every day or at least somewhere in the week is EXTREMELY helpful.
For me it helps keep my SI and bipolar swings in check.
Yet, it's extremely difficult because I am bipolar. I find myself struggling with being discontent and not being fully present. I just don't know how to handle or balance trying to give myself the stability I never had. As well as the relationships I need.
Unfortunately, this easily turns into a cycle for me. A continuous loop I can't seem to break free from.
What a great video im so glad I found You Dr scott
Oh I hope I can do this
Honestly your channel is so underated its really amazing
So glad you made it through the dark. Thanks for the advise.
I have to agree with another comment... This felt like a promotion for the app and not much else. I don't want to dismiss the importance of helping people with mental health, however, the "i almost lost my life" headline, so now I use this app feels ICKY.
I get that.. but you know what else feels Icky... I would not be able to get through half my days were it not for Dr Scotts content. -- single mom of 8yo boy
He is offering a tool to help us with our day...I need all the help tools I can get!
My huge problem with my mental health are the blue rays from computers and cell phones and iPads. 😢
Wow! Brilliant!
This is excellent. Very useful!!
I needed to hear this today.🙏🙏🙏
Needed to hear this.
I really like that perspective. I've known about Sunsama for a while, but I didn't want to try it because planners and lists stress me out. I never thought about using it primarily for self-care and routines for mental health. I think I'll try it out
I will say though, it's not so much that I think schedules/routines are boring. I would LOVE to be okay most of the time, even if it means forcing myself to stick to a schedule. The problem is that I've failed at so many productivity tools that I've lost nearly all faith in my ability to stick to something like that. I'm still gonna try, but I'm honestly terrified that it's not gonna work for me
I have this condition and the only trauma I can think of or remember is when I was a little child I had what is equivalent of a $1 bill stolen out of my hand. I chased the guy but he was much older than me and managed to run away.
I have daily struggles with my anxiety and feeling inadequate. It's like dragging around heavy chains and sometimes I can't stand the thought of dealing with it another day. It's exhausting and overwhelming
LOL. I’m laughing at the part of not being able to trust your own brain, because I feel that all too well, and I find the same is VERY true for myself.
What you said and always say is very practical. Ever since my mom died, some dams were released, both good and bad. And i obstinately refuse to entertain any thought that i know will bring me down. Even though i know some of them were probably true. But my mantra these days 'Only Advance' (for those who get the 3-Body Problem reference). Just laser focus to only advance and nothing else, otherwise there's just only the abyss at the other end.
I personally would appreciate sponsored reliable nutrition ads ( Dr. William Li Master Class is great…no diet this one or that one….just pure nutrition info on various foods…not don’t eat this eat this…his philosophy is find the healthy foods you like and eat them and he gives run downs on nutrients contained in tons of foods….he does advise against ultra processed foods, fructose and sodas)
He is a clinical research cardiologist…he does promote his own book but not
overly…and gives tons of video free right out of his very lengthy master class
I would find grounded straightforward nutrition info ( not diet promo) sponsored
ads really very congruent with your channel
Yes need a cohesive plan, 🤔support my optimal functioning. Changes considering...❤will
Thanks
Thank you!
Such a nice voice
I retired foolishly, and im regretting, with regret and guilt.
I have constant stress, anxiety, depression, and insomnia.
7 months. I don't sleep for many days, in a week.
I lost interest in EVERYTHING.
I don't go anywhere , i freak out. My mental and physical health are declining..... im afraid, and don't want medications. Im unable to go to appointments for anything... im so worried 😢
I use Toodledo for the same purpose.
Focusing on our physical and mental health each day can be a good idea.
Ive never known anyone who speaks more common sense than you!
A consistent routine within the daily rhythms is not a To- Do- List
although I will say Day Light Savings switch overs mess me up for a few weeks
Thanks for reminder. I have to laugh about people who going on about the app sponsor. 1 this man is supposed to give us high quality mental health care every single day essentially, for nothing. He's supposed to save our life week after week and not make any money. 2. The fact that he makes money is not a shock you do see the large framed book cover on the wall behind his head? 3. You don't believe that he uses the app? That's a trust issue. And if you do believe he uses the app.. you want him to suggest it to us but turn down sponsors?? I'm sorry are we all patreon sponsors forking over 10 dollars a month so he can make a living helping us when no one else can. Man. We cant have nice things. Here is a thought try to go join his practice. Oh wait.
I have treatment resistant major depression...I don't think I can do it much longer
I'm the same. I'm so tired of fighting this constant bouts that last longer and longer.
I have no hope, no incentive and no energy. I have nobody around me so l won't be missed. Sending you a hug! I can't remember when I last had one. x
@Mannsy83 @@carrie-joylloyd5785 sending u a virtual hug!!! Please don't give up - have you ever tried yoga ? I know it may seem silly but it can help so so much in ways you wouldn't imagine
@@carrie-joylloyd5785 ua-cam.com/video/klmBssEYkdU/v-deo.html
@@carrie-joylloyd5785 her channel is really comforting and beginner friendly
Same here.!!!!
It's so unbearable!
.... and I have insomnia.
I cannot sleep.!!!
So worried and afraid..
SLEEP IS IMPORTANT PEACE TO KEEP MENTAL HEALTH ❤️ 2:16
You're right,!
.... that's why I'm so scared !!
Hi, I'm 64 years old and have arthritis in both hips, i used to love walking but can't do it anymore so that gets me down! can you suggest anything?
Hubby and I do something called DDPY, which are yoga-type workouts created by former pro wrestler Diamond Dallas Page. He is really funny and truly inspiring. There are workout DVDs for ALL fitness levels, from bedridden to super-athletic, and everything in between. He's in his late 60s, so he totally gets the whole "getting older but wanting to stay active" thing. Hope this helps--best wishes to you!
$162 billed annually, less any discounts. Reminders (free) works for me.
Heartbreak and stress can lead to Atrial fibrillation. I’m going through this now. So…
How will I stay in normal sinus rhythm 🥁. That’s my goal, to take steps towards wellness.
My issue is situational! I was married to a narcissist who abused me and used all my money. I divorced her, and gave her the money to pay her real estate taxes and she wasted the money. Now she wants my family to help out. I stopped talking to her for weeks but had to reach out due to the car I had to let her keep. I am done with spousal support but she still expects me to pay her ridiculous bills that she creates by over spending what she has no right to spend.
I get extreme anxiety because of her .. I don’t know what to do! At 61 I should not live like this! I was a happy healthy man of 57 when I married her and now I am a bankrupt, emotionally challenged man…
If you are divorced, not required to pay spousal support and don't share custody of children under the age of 18 it seems going NO CONTACT with your ex is reasonable and may improve your mental health.
I tried to make these lists a thousand times and failed to keep up each time. Forgetting about a piece of paper or a hundredth phone app is the easiest thing in the world and picking it back up is the hardest and pretty horrible, tbh.
Low carb, high fat & protein diet has helped me 😊
Id still make an appointment with ya 😉
That’s all great how do you get motivated to do that and stop procrastinating
For me personally, it's taking one tiny step at a time, giving myself credit for every small accomplishment, and not beating myself up if I backslide. Anyone else want to chime in here? Wishing you the best!
I want to be ok most of the time.
I just found you and I’m encouraged by your videos. I’m looking for help and hope you can either allow me a phone consultation or connect me with someone who has the same technique as you. Quick summary. I have had professional help when I was in my 20 & 30’s. I’m 74+, depressed and after seeing some of your videos on being Frozen I feel like I have that connection. I also have anxiety. I had a severe injury in 2018 which pushed me into a tailspin. I need help to get started. Can you direct me?
I saw him comment to another person that he does have coaching available through his website, I assume the website link is listed in description. Hope this helps! Hang in there ❤.
😎For me,🤘"HAIRBAND"🎶 80's & early 90's😋
I pray for all in the comments that they get a life fee from anxiety and mantel health illness . I will tell you what I do to become butter when I have anxiety is that read Quran or listen to someone I like their voice reciting Quran . I love (Abullbaset abdull samad . surah (Albaqarah) surah( alqamar) surah (yosuf). (Saad algamadi) surah (Alrahman). wishing you the best .
Routine does sound dreadfully boring and soul crushing. However, that's just my ADHD rearing it's ugly head. Like Dr. Scott said I've never really stuck to a routine for more than a week so I should give it a try.
I just often misguage the importance of the activity to my mental health.
My son is in a deep depression hear jyst afull it is very hard I’m all he has I’m hear 7 20
My mental heath is really bad list are the last thing i can deal with maybe helpful for others .
Im not living im just existing usually forget where i put list don't like using appt for every single thing . Nothing is helping me at the moment I have severe depression hate the sun hate any kind of noise chatter i just feel there no hope for me. When I watch these video i think how are all these depressed people managing to do all these things, because i dread every single minute of my day not knowing how to cope and look after my family. List or no list i just want to go to sleep and not wake up this just to much to deal with my husband doesn't know how ro support me my children who are older just want me to be well again. I feel so sorry for my kids they have lost tbere mum because i have become half the person was this what bad mental health does it steals your identity you not the person you was.
What's is called?
Sunsama?
I need the same lifestyle but at present I'm fa away from it. I would need a guidance but can't afford therapy. If anybody can advise a book or something similar I would highly appreciate it
Dr. Scott's own book is super helpful and is meant to be read over and over again as needed. :)
@@DriftlessWarrior thank you. I know that but I'm actually waiting for his workbook which should be available soon I hope.
@@Lino75 I'm absolutely going to get that workbook when it comes out. I am big-time into workbooks anyway, and one from him will be awesome!
I was loving the video until it got to the point where it went to prescribe one specific app, instead of suggesting using a tool to help. What a let down as soon as I heard the name drop. I do understand that sponsorship is a necessary evil to deliver what otherwise is free content. But it really felt predatory and made me lose my trust that this video was nothing but a vehicle to sell that one product. I think there are more sensitive ways of still advertising sponsors without being so predatory.
Losing
I value. your Chanel. Right now.I am at a point where I feel life is just crap, seriously, what is the point? I really think (m right now) I am at a point where "what is the point"- it's all really bullshit!!
I waited all morning for a SALES PITCH?? Am I crazy(well obviously I am I was a subscriber to this channel) or did the title of the video change since this morning .
I feel pimped out, to wait and watch a countdown to sponsored content pisses me off.
The focal point of this video was simply meant to be the concept of organizing your life around meeting your mental health needs and having some type of system to keep you organized and accountable in doing so. Whether you choose to use the same system that I use or something else is not crucial, but I do think most people will need something to keep them on track ❤️
You are probably not crazy,but you are rude
Losing not loosing
Genius move - deliberately spelling losing wrong to get algorithm-boosting correction comments!
I look to you for information and advice on how to heal from a lifetime of abuse and pain. When the content of your message becomes intertwined with the advertisement of your sponsor it leads me to question your motives. Watching your video today I felt misled, deceived, and sold out. I’m sorry to say that you have lost my trust.
Please look at your psychology ethical standards on conflicts of interest
You might be overthinking it, dude. Does a hermit crab consider philosophy? Probably not
I was born in 1950 I no you don't want to no but you got problems I my story. Dad. Not well after the war. In Brumer and India. We had no food no gas. No money electric ⚡. No fire 🔥 no lights. That's what depression is I'm still here. Not a good wife lm still. Here. 6 years old at the time. You don't no nothing 🫢😥🙈🙊🙉
Can't help feeling a bit sceptical that this is a covert sponsorship advert
Agree. Disappointed re yet another”app”. As a senior I have long managed and will continue to manage with simple lists, pencil on paper. So satisfying to check off items, then rip up list and prepare the next day’s. Although some tech, like UA-cam is incredibly useful, we are *drowning* in apps and useless tech and don’t get me started on AI. As a retired Canadian teacher I’m glad to see Ontario is banning cellphones in classrooms. The constant fighting over and grabbing of our *attention* is a HUGE attack on our mental health😡!
Hardly.
@@OsmanthusFlowerYou missed the point of the video! He’s not saying to create to do lists! Furthermore, you ARE a SENIOR. You’ll tend to do what you’ve always done. Ugh.
Losing - thumbnail edit.
When the illness gets so bad that you start losing your perspicacity!!
I understand you have to have sponsors, but this video was a bit off-putting. A whole video that turned out to be an ad. Most of us with mental health problems can't afford all these apps and programs. This came off as a bit predatory. I can use a bullet journal for free. Unsubscribing.
Oye. It's losing rather than loosing. Amazing to me how few people seem to spell basic words correctly. And don't get me started on it's versus its. Many people seem also clueless about apostrophes.
I know! Its really annoying isnt it!
Hardly original, but it's better than being a looser on the lose in Loserville, Bigheadland. The place stinks, in more ways than one...
Are we in Class concerning spelling and punctuation or are we supposed to work deeper on ourselves,As I am older I always did alot of written cards,letters useing proper spelling and so forth,texting is not my favorite way to communicate ,a subject worth more words,more support and you are supposed to answer in a short few words so I notice my spelling has gone down hill and period writing ✍️ so I don't see any perfection on a cell.phone,texting . Let's take the energy stop complaining focus on the subject and perhaps a few kind or positive words depending on the needs,
Omg everyone!! When you text quickly it sometimes picks up different words! Not spelling errors geez!! 🙄
Exactly! People are quick to jump to knee jerk (mental shortcut) assumptions...and generally of the negative/critical/judgy variety, which isn't a good look for anybody. And tell me about all that 🗣️
@clairesweeney4334 absolutely 💯 unbelievable the words that appear on my phone,texting is not like written cards,letters using paper and pen ,why complain about this on social media,silly to me