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One of the best things I've seen was if they were to do a test, they have the results in one envelope and a grandmother's card in the other and giving MIL the choice that if she chooses the results she doesn't get to be a grandma.
I would just flat out tell her if she insists that I do the test, I'll happily do it, but the moment I do it's immediate No Contact. The only contact she will get from me or my child will be the "I told you so!" envelope with the test results.
As someone who grew up mixed, this crap is nothing new. People constantly questioned whether I was my Dad's kid just bc we didn't share the same skin colour. People are deplorable and have no valid excuse for such behaviour.
I bet as the child get older she will say yes yes but the many gods in the Hindu religion will go in one ear and out the other. and she would probably never tell her grandma that she love hamburger or a good steak.HAHAH
When my MIL wrote a letter to my wife criticising her way of bringing our daughter up, my wife had a simple remedy. She didn’t rant or rave, she didn’t even bother to reply, but my MIL didn’t see her granddaughter for more than a year. The lesson went home. Not a squeak out of MIL ever after.
I know u wrote this a long time ago, but the real problem in these situations is the husband doesn’t stand up for the wife, let’s stuff like this happen, and says “that’s just the way it is” or “you’re overreacting”. Obviously, you’re a reasonable person who doesn’t force your wife to deal with this bs, but lots of husbands stay under the thumb of their mother and just want to “keep the peace.” Good for you though. My husband didn’t make me deal with any crap either and didn’t make excuses for his mom. That’s how it’s supposed to be.
@@babymama406 it wasn’t my mother, but my MIL, i.e. my wife’s own mother. My mother was deferential in the extreme to my wife’s directives on how the children should be dealt with, down to making copious notes on food etc The lesson wasn’t lost on my MIL, so much so, that I had a word with her quietly one day to tell her that she was OK and that I trusted her with my children and she shouldn’t be too worried about my wife (i.e. her own daughter!).
@@bigpulgalokes you didn’t read my post, did you? Or you read it, but failed to understand it. Either way, you gave a clear demonstration of completely missing the point.
I would keep a very close eye on the MIL in the first story. She may be trying to get a chance to have a paternity test done herself to "prove she is right". That kind of over-the-top reaction doesn't resolve quietly. DO NOT TRUST HER ALONE WITH THAT CHILD.
@@kristen5149 If you birth a child with your partner and THEN your Mil says you cheated? Would you really give her the test just to prove you are in the right? When you and your partner KNOWS its yours? Giving in and doing the test are not the way to deal with it. But if you *listend* to the full story you would know that.
@@kristen5149There’s nothing wrong with a husband wanting one (so long as agreed a full far more useful board of tests is done as well, not just an ego soothing(yes, I’m calling it ego soothing in the cases of not cheating women)) However, there is everything wrong with extended family *demanding* one, especially when the father accepts the child with no concern at all. They don’t know the situation what so ever. They’re more akin to drive by shooters than caring loved ones. They don’t give shit how their actions may hurt the couple (for all they know, even in the case of not a match, the wife may have been raped, and the husband knew and accepted) they just live for the drama, and if the results come back a match “Oh well, we just needed to be sure.” Never mind said person probably screamed the absolute worse abominable things you could scream at said innocent mother weeks or months ago, maybe even when she’d just given birth and was healing. The choice for a paternity test is the baby’s biological parents’ choice alone, not some drive by popcorn loving assholes. The closest I’d ever say they have the right is if they have physical evidence the wife was cheating big time, and even then, they can’t do that damn choice for him. He might still want to demand his parental rights, regardless of the blood in that baby. But if the test is run, and parental visitation is not set, it can fuck him over from ever seeing the baby again, and maybe even stick him into being an eternal piggybank for said bitch of an ex wife.
As far as i know, they need the mothers consent for a paternaty test (indian law). But i don´t see the problem anyway. Actually i think it should be mandatory. The knowlege of the fathers (and his families) genetic background is important for the child health and because of equal right of certanty for the father.
Add to that she quickly realised she needed to use the right amount of sugar to get the religious ceremony she wanted! I'd watch that one, if I were you, OP! She'll go for the trifecta and sneak in a Hindu middle name, 'just for the Ceremony' or the family. I nearly had a Hindu mother-in-law; that experience damaged me for years. Definitely not all are like the one I experienced. But if you're white you've more likely to be better off - sad, but true.🤷🏾♀️
Well, then MIL is none the wiser - she was told the baby is he son's, it will be proven to be the case - and she still won't know why Sarah looks lighter in skin colour than she expected her to. I am looking forward to Grandma from India and Sarah cooking together the Indian ways, of Sarah getting her first Hennah tattoo and otoh making Grandma very proud when she graduates from college, something Sarah might or might not do if she had been growing up in India. And I am looking forward to Sarah and Grandma singing Hindi lullabies, making Indian cookies, dressing up in Indian clothes just for fun ... I really hope this MIL was just a nervous wreck as that was her first grandchild. And while she seems to know that she cannot treat OP like she would an Indian DIL (thankfully we do not go along with that excrement here), she might also be a little nervous to do things right - and then she was just overwhelmed. Yes, of course she cannot get unhinged around a baby any time she is under pressure. But I think Grandma should be allowed to teach her Grandchild Hindi. She should be encouraged to part Indian culture with her grandchild - the old myths (well, let's leave out the saucy parts for a while), Indian history, watch Indian Bollywood productions, if that is Grandma's thing, and so on. To allow her to pass some of her heritage on to her granddaughter will make her feel accepted. Granddaughter has her parents and the rest of society to correct any unfit traditions (like sleeping separately from family when on your period or a "superiority of the males in the house") If Momma has time, why does she not learn a little Hindi, too? Would probably help her with MIL and FIL.
(First story) she needs to learn basic biology Plus her apology wasn’t valid, what does being salty about not “including her” have to do with the way she reacted when she saw the baby 🤔
Logic and emotions don't often get along. She felt like she was losing part of her family, first by not participating in traditions and then by skin tone. She did seriously over-react, which hints at possible mental health issues, but I think OP made the right move letting her have a chance to prove herself.
3:43 I'm a spiteful bastard I'd have gotten the test and then when it came back that I was the father I'd have gotten the results printed on shirts for the entire family and wore them whenever I went to go see the her I'd have made copies of the results and mailed them to her at least twice a week I would have had them put on edible paper for a cake and gave it to her on her birthday that's how much of an asshole I am
No way would a personal apology be OK! I'd tell her she has to wait until the next big family gathering and apologize in front of the entire family before she can see her granddaughter. And she better be crying when she does!!
Op is a lot nicer than me. Who calls their DIL horrible names, accuses them of cheating, and then makes up a bs story about being upset that the baby doesn't have their cultural upbringing. Damn.
At first I was gonna disagree thinking it was a cultural thing not a religous one and it seemed a fairly unobtrusive concession to the "wanting her to have a part of her heritage" and it is a party for the family not just the MIL...but then I looking it up to find it's a relious practice not cultural. Now I'm torn..but then again they are already having to do it different from tradition since the baby is older than 28 days presumibly so maybe MIL can still prove herself by making it a nice introduction of the baby to the family and make more ammends cause she's showing support of OP and the new baby.
Using heritage traditions as a "weapon" or "punishment" is the wrong way to address other issues. Cultural traditions should be decided by each person individually or in this case, as a couple (parents). Many cultural traditions are falling by the wayside since a growing number of people are not believing or supporting them any longer. THAT is the only reason they should be disregarded. I am 2/3rds American Ojibwe and NOBODY has more heritage and cultural traditions than American Indians do, so trust me, I know.
1st Story: I'm not buying it. OP's MIL flipped out screaming like a lunatic and saying vile things about OP. It's great that she apologized and seems to have meant it, but that is NOT normal behavior. Either MIL is a few noodles shy of a ramen bowl, or she realized her behavior would cut her off from her son, and she only apologized to smooth that over. I don't know. But someone that actually respected OP would never have acted like this. I wouldn't ever leave her alone with the child. After that outburst, I'd be nervous to have her anywhere near the baby.
I was wondering if MIL pulled all that crap with an eye to getting the naming ceremony? It seems weird that she calmed down and appologised so quickly.
This!!! This is exactly what I would have done! Just to rub salt on the wound "See? She is your grandaughter and now you never get to see her!" Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
I would have the paternity test done, then after it shows that the OP's husband is the father, inform the MIL that she does not get to see her grandchild until she begs OP's forgiveness, publicly, and then only allow MIL to see the child while supervised.
@@LunaP1 , more than punishment. The MIL sounds like a nutjob. The OP needs to protect her child from her. Plus, having her apologize with witnesses around means that if MIL tries to walk back her apology later, other people will be less likely to become her flying monkeys and help her harass OP and her child.
Maybe because the deposit would have been from a foreign country and the landlord didn't want to deal with it? Also how long would it take for the funds clear from one private acct to another private acct? Large international banks are more than experienced with that but maybe the landlord deals with a small town/time bank?
You do not need MIL to send money ... and why knowing your previous experience you consult her or even tell her about decisions between you and hubby. I dont get it ... If she wants part of it then she need to learn respect, you are a doormat and she knows it. This allows her to continue, an info diet is most recommendable and minimum contact from OP's part.
yeah, sounds like MIL was raised in India. The female literacy rate there is about 65% due to factors like culture and poverty odds are she wouldn't have stayed in school long enough to learn genetics.
First story: The MIL screaming when she saw her grandbaby then insisted that they get a paternity test. I would have ask MIL and FIL if they got a paternity test when MIL's son was born?. Did MIL's MIL start screaming when they saw your baby? Tell MIL & FIL that they need to have a paternity test as they no longer believe that FIL is his father and his mother might have cheated on him. 😳
Story 1: My wife is Pakistani (was India 60 years ago) and I am white. All our kids are white. You can barely see any of my wife's features. Brown hair, blue eyes and very white. Waiting many years to see if anything changes. I am actually disappointed they aren't taking more after their mother. We keep good ties to people in her village and I am fairly certain there will be a huge fountain of arranged marriage proposals (considering how they view white skin as highly desirable).
I have several family members who are married to different wonderful people from all around SEA and they all seem fascinated by how white i am for a Irish/ German decent lady. They all hope their children inherit our families white skin. I thought maybe I was missing something but I've seen the same sentiment in other Chinese and Vietnamese videos. Is it common in other cultures too?
1st one.....welcome to dealing with typical Indian cultural dramatics .. and yeah you got very lucky with this MIL. There are plenty of very sad examples of Indian families setting the new wife on fire because they felt their family honour was tarnishing some ridiculous way...including the children having the not expected skin tone
What "honor" they show by that then. Setting someone on fire JUST bc? Some true colors coming from them and at the end of the day. They are bigots sadly.
I think she should do the test, send a copy to the MIL and then go no contact for a while. That would tell her that she insulted her and publically humiliated her.
Okay, story 1 My dad has a fair tan, my mother is border line light brown. We're genetically white - I think - , but my parents grew up in the outdoors. I, however, am very pale. So pale, that once I went to the hospital for stuff and the nurse asked if I'm normally " that pale? " Just because the kids skin is paler then the parents doesn't mean the kids not the bio child. Like, I look NOTHING like my mother. She has black hair, black eyes, and border line light brown skin. I have brown hair, dark brown eyes, and pale as damn milk. Like, I've been told that I look like a vampire. ( the fact I'm an emo may or may not contribute ) But point is- parents and kids dont always look like damn twins.
My friend’s DIL is Indian and the grandkids were all born light and darkened as they got older. The youngest is significantly lighter than the older kids.
For the first story I am red hair blue eyes the father of my child was Mexican Indian dark hair dark eyes dark skin my baby came out with red hair blue eyes white the only thing that's different about him is that he tans and I burn frome the sun so a baby can look like coming out of somebody when they're mixed races like that
You see stuff like this in families from South America especially because they've had so many people with diverse genetics intermixing over the last 5 centuries that you can get a darker-skinned person with black curly hair and a lighter-skinned blonde sibling with wavy hair in the same family from the same parents. Since India was once a British colony, there is also going to be some genetic diversity and intermixing there as well which may cause some surprise quirks in genetics. You really never know.
My ex wanted the test and when it turned out that he was the father, he asked for a second test. There are other more invasive tests and you need to make sure to stop any future tests. Because there’s not a test that’s good enough for her
"The only way to pay the landlord"? What happened to the best friend that lives in the same city as the in-laws? So many of these stories don't make a helluva lotta sense.
I don't know what it is like to have a mother-in-law or a father-in-law. They both died when my husband was a young teen. He was raised by his older sister along with his younger brother and sister. His older sister has views as such that if you don't agree completely with her, than you are not worth knowing. We don't communicate with her, not even on Facebook.
I read in a previous post a similar story I suggest you do the same ,tell MIL that you will do the paternity test but when it comes back that your husband is the father that she will never see her grandchild again,see if she still wants it.
I am a woman in my mid 50s (I'm 56 now) and I want to say that even menopausal as I am, I would NEVER, EVER treat anyone my daughter brought home badly. I mean, I get it if that person has hurt your kid, but just because they exist?!! My husband, 61, feels the same. All we want is for our daughter to be happy and loved, whoever her special human is, with or without any kids, we'll be happy too. I don't get these crazy MiLs......
"Had to explain that is normal for babies to be so pale"... Sorry??? Would be a problem If she was white??? Why that necesity of to say "dont worry, she will be darker skinned sooner or later". The housband should have said "Why do you have a problem with the skin of my child? She looks like her mother: precious"
If I was in this situation I would pull an r/MaliciousCompliance. Take the paternity test, and then put it in a nice big picture frame and place it in a noticeable place for MIL to see every time she comes to the house.
Wow. My MIL never got to be alone with my kids because she was unhinged and make questionable decisions with her other grandkids that I witnessed. My husband never had a problem with it when I listed out the reasons why she wouldn’t be alone with them. My FIL was awesome and level headed (they’re divorced now, but this was a long time ago when my kids were really young) so they could go over if he was home. It all worked out. But only because my husband was on board and supportive. If he wasn’t, I can’t imagine the drama and problems that would’ve happened.
Nope. It goes too much in personal lives of people.for cheating spouse, it's great. But too much intrusion.what if a man WANT the baby not of his blood to be recognized as him WITHOUT anyone else knowing about it?
@@cherryrose5514 And no one has to know about it. It's literally just a test between the 2. If they want to spread it around go ahead but at that points it's a personal choice.
@@rionat1314 no.i meant if it's obligatory,then it's involving more than an intrusion in your personal life.It's an open door to your privacy.think about it.
@@cherryrose5514 Literally the moment a baby is born they will run dozens of tests. There is literally no burden to add 1 more for paternity. Take emotions out of this its just a simple test.
Story 2: I actually disagree with you, LG. As someone who has done their best to bet there for others, try to open up, it really hurts when they walk all over you, makes you feel like an outsider, and use you. I've been hurt by family members that way. If they want to come to me, cool. But, I'm not going to give myself to people who have time and time again hurt me badly. I rather reserve my energy for those who have treated me with, at least, respect/acceptance. Maybe in the future, but, at this time, I think it's good to have walls up.
Yup, indifference and sometimes outright disdain will work on people like that. All they want is to have the upper hand, and if you truly no longer care they can't stand it.
Story 1 I'd take test. She needs to KNOW she's wrong so she can reflect on how she acted. Not doing the test will only prolonge her tirade. You can still distrust her for her actions but make sure it's clear how she hurt you.
Haven't listened to comments or update yet, if op wants to do the test I'd make a list of demands mil would have to agree to that when it shows he's the father if she ever wants to see the child. 1 she will tell op what she called her that her husband won't tell her. I'd want to know what she said and when mil knows op didn't cheat having to repeat it may let mil know how bad what she said in anger was. 2 she will sincerely apologize for every single insult, not just one but one for each insult. 3 she will never be alone with the child, either op or her husband will be with them because no way I'd risk her endangering my child.
that comment that op should engage more and build the relationship was kinda dumb, since the whole reason why she acts so indifferent is bc the family where assholes, so no OP doesn't need to do anything, its the families job to fix what the broke in the first place
First Story - you fell for the old bag’s lies, I pity you and that child lady seriously! Second Story - how exactly is the mother “the only way they can pay the landlord”? This is just too far-fetched to be taken seriously, good luck imaginary woman with the imaginary awful ILs! Thanks for the new vid LG 💙🐱💙
Why is the husband calling his mother several times to try to subdue and give his mother reassurance after he said such awful things to his wife? That mother needs to be cut off until she earnestly apologizes. After that, low contact with only supervised visits with the granddaughter, and OP should not be forced into spending time with her if she doesn’t want to be around her.
My friend had similar situation with 1st story, but more abt how she's not accepted by husband's family (white). In this case, the baby is "too dark" (she is south east asian) and "looks black" instead of asian. She did paternity test and once the result arrived she told her in laws that she will tell them again that the baby is husband's, but if they dont believe her, theyre welcome to open and read the results but they will not have a relationship with the grandchild ever. Well they chose to open the letter and lost contact with their grandchild.
Mother-in-law and that rage. I’d get the test and then PUBLIC POST it and put the whole incident and behavior out there. Completely PUBLIC!!!! And the fact she said UGLY things in Hindi to me-oh and that test will be FRAMED and posted in the hallway. For ever!!!
First OP - do the test. When it comes back that Sarah is your husband's, let the MIL know. And then tell her that she's never seeing her granddaughter because of how she acted. EDIT: Okay, looks like she's genuinely sorry. Happy for you, OP! But keep an eye on her.
When my first baby was born my mother in law kept commenting about how she didn't look like my husband. I agreed. She was a duplicate of me except darker. My husband was latino and I was German and Native American but look more German. She kept implying about this for years.
The MIL has rejected your kid. End of story. She would not ever be trusted with your child again. Anything she says after her raw reaction, is probably faked. Your MIL is a good actress.
I am disappointed they aren't going to include any of the Indian culture in their daughter's life because she is half Indian. I'm mixed myself and absolutely hate that my parents didn't raise me with any of my cultural practices or even at least teach me about it.
Get the dammed test. Cut this nonsense off at the pass. And the test will cut grandmother off at the knees. If you will refuse, the doubt will always be there. Then tell her how much she hurt you and let her know it will be up to her to make things right. You have to consider the child. It is not about her relationship with the child. It is about the shadow that will be over her head the rest of her life. Is that worth your pride. But once you have the test then you will be the one who controls the relationships going forward. And a sincere apology will proceed any contact with you are the baby. Having the test will put you in the position of strength and it will show everyone how much of a crazy idiot she is.
I would take the test, wave the results In Her face and tell her that was the one and only time she got to see her granddaughter. I had the same problem with my mil and my youngest son cause he is tiny for his age (we're Dutch so everybody is large here). But he just takes after me (small form of dwarvism in my family). We (so and me) went NC and it is a bliss!
I am having my first grand baby this year, I do not I repeat I do not interfere with daughter decisions on her care unless she ask me, Why? Because If you have a good relationship with your children and raise them the best you know how your children will do the same, yes they will make mistake you did, it is called learning as you go though life, She told me that she is grateful that allow her to learn, she is an adult 33 years old, each pregnancy is different, and if she is in doubt about something we discuss it together in the end her decision, no matter what culture you are from your kids are no longer your kids but in adulthood
Other MIL’S could take lessons from her. Good job on accepting her apology. Also, you might suggest to her to look up generics and read up about it. That would explain why baby was so light on birth.
Take the daughter, fly home to family, call hubby and tell him he can live with you there or without you at home with Mom. Then take the test, mail her the results and tell her she will never see Sarah again.
For story nb 1 op I'd say that last line to your husband "even if I do how am I ever supposed to trust a woman who can become so unhinged like that" if your husband is as respectful to you as he sounds I think he would hear your concerns if he's listening to mls conditions I think you should make some of you're own first off personally I deffinatly woudnlt ever trust her alone with my child as she would probably fill the kids head with doubts tbh in these situations sometimes even if you get a dna test she probably still won't believe you until Sarah darkens up she'd probably acuse you of faking it something, then what? Shes deffinatly untrustworthy how she lost it like that and just because you've always trusted her doesn't mean you should instantly trust her again after a mistake. Needs to be urnt back.
Dude, I'm pale and my husband is too. Our children came out with slight tans and dark hair. Our second child looked Hispanic the third more Asian. Months later the dark hair fell out and blonde came in. Both kids had Jaundice bad. 🙄
I know it's late but I wanted to say I loooove story n1. Mil effef up, admitted it, and op accepted it and she and her husband are optimistic but cautious, like grown ups. Brilliant! As for n2, I do think op is acting perfectly. We don't have much info regarding exactly what mil said but (if mil were a narcissist or something like that) the best emotional response is indiference 100% if you can't go nc (which is what I would've suggested) Anyways, thanks so much lg for your vids. I watch them everyday Muchas gracias🎉
Who gives a shit what your mother In law thinks lmao they didn’t even want to hold your baby and accused you of being unfaithful. Some of these women are doormats jeez
Last story i had same problem but in my case my SO did not have my back and did not actively deal with his mother..the more I tried the worse it got to the point my SO joined in his mother's deliberate attacks on me... after a traumatic final straw I divorced my husband and no longer gave 2 craps about his mother.we maintained a co parenting life with our children but i stopped engaging with his family. Lo and behold MIL now tries to engage me and insists we are still married ..ah definitely not. But i choose to not bother as i have learnt if I try at all she turns back into a vile thieving ,gas lighting backstabber. . All i can say is do what works for you and its your husbands job to deal with his family likewise with your family. Dont give in and try again as it'll only go back to how it was before as its a power game and you most definitely do not want to go back to that...big warning if you have children be VERY clear on your rules and boundaries as it often gives in-laws an excuse to relegate you as an incubator for them . If the push you need to push back with hard consequences which are set in stone
I bet the MIL and the husband had a DNA test behind OP's back. There's no way in hell she just came down and apologized all of the sudden and wanted to be in the granddaughter's life after she name called the mother, threw a complete fit and completely rejected the child because she had white skin. People like that don't do a complete 180.
That Indian mil got everything she wanted. The Hindu Naming Ceremony and she gets to teach the little girl about her religion. So grandma got every thing she wanted
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One of the best things I've seen was if they were to do a test, they have the results in one envelope and a grandmother's card in the other and giving MIL the choice that if she chooses the results she doesn't get to be a grandma.
Nice
I would just flat out tell her if she insists that I do the test, I'll happily do it, but the moment I do it's immediate No Contact. The only contact she will get from me or my child will be the "I told you so!" envelope with the test results.
Oooooh, I like that
@@chantalalexanderThat’s exactly what I would say. I’ll do it but you won’t be seeing me or my child for quite some time.
As someone who grew up mixed, this crap is nothing new. People constantly questioned whether I was my Dad's kid just bc we didn't share the same skin colour. People are deplorable and have no valid excuse for such behaviour.
its racism against whites
I bet as the child get older she will say yes yes but the many gods in the Hindu religion will go in one ear and out the other. and she would probably never tell her grandma that she love hamburger or a good steak.HAHAH
When my MIL wrote a letter to my wife criticising her way of bringing our daughter up, my wife had a simple remedy. She didn’t rant or rave, she didn’t even bother to reply, but my MIL didn’t see her granddaughter for more than a year. The lesson went home. Not a squeak out of MIL ever after.
I know u wrote this a long time ago, but the real problem in these situations is the husband doesn’t stand up for the wife, let’s stuff like this happen, and says “that’s just the way it is” or “you’re overreacting”. Obviously, you’re a reasonable person who doesn’t force your wife to deal with this bs, but lots of husbands stay under the thumb of their mother and just want to “keep the peace.” Good for you though. My husband didn’t make me deal with any crap either and didn’t make excuses for his mom. That’s how it’s supposed to be.
@@babymama406 it wasn’t my mother, but my MIL, i.e. my wife’s own mother. My mother was deferential in the extreme to my wife’s directives on how the children should be dealt with, down to making copious notes on food etc The lesson wasn’t lost on my MIL, so much so, that I had a word with her quietly one day to tell her that she was OK and that I trusted her with my children and she shouldn’t be too worried about my wife (i.e. her own daughter!).
"i didn't defend my wife cause i'm a little bitch boy " got it.
@@bigpulgalokes you didn’t read my post, did you? Or you read it, but failed to understand it. Either way, you gave a clear demonstration of completely missing the point.
Wow- 2 stories where things were resolved peacefully?! Wonders never cease!
It does happen more often then not. Far to often we just don't get an update so we never hear about it
@@335chr yeah I know that- I was just kind of poking fun at the way all these reddit stories seem to full of drama.
I would keep a very close eye on the MIL in the first story. She may be trying to get a chance to have a paternity test done herself to "prove she is right". That kind of over-the-top reaction doesn't resolve quietly. DO NOT TRUST HER ALONE WITH THAT CHILD.
What's the problem with doing a paternity test?
I think that is a bit ott... this is obviously a loving family that have come back together with love.
@@kristen5149 If you birth a child with your partner and THEN your Mil says you cheated? Would you really give her the test just to prove you are in the right? When you and your partner KNOWS its yours? Giving in and doing the test are not the way to deal with it. But if you *listend* to the full story you would know that.
@@kristen5149There’s nothing wrong with a husband wanting one (so long as agreed a full far more useful board of tests is done as well, not just an ego soothing(yes, I’m calling it ego soothing in the cases of not cheating women))
However, there is everything wrong with extended family *demanding* one, especially when the father accepts the child with no concern at all.
They don’t know the situation what so ever. They’re more akin to drive by shooters than caring loved ones. They don’t give shit how their actions may hurt the couple (for all they know, even in the case of not a match, the wife may have been raped, and the husband knew and accepted) they just live for the drama, and if the results come back a match “Oh well, we just needed to be sure.” Never mind said person probably screamed the absolute worse abominable things you could scream at said innocent mother weeks or months ago, maybe even when she’d just given birth and was healing.
The choice for a paternity test is the baby’s biological parents’ choice alone, not some drive by popcorn loving assholes. The closest I’d ever say they have the right is if they have physical evidence the wife was cheating big time, and even then, they can’t do that damn choice for him. He might still want to demand his parental rights, regardless of the blood in that baby. But if the test is run, and parental visitation is not set, it can fuck him over from ever seeing the baby again, and maybe even stick him into being an eternal piggybank for said bitch of an ex wife.
If she doesn't doubt the paternity she should never have acted like that.
First story: Don't put it passed MIL to have the baby tested when you are not looking.
This. She's going to get that test done first chance she gets.
As far as i know, they need the mothers consent for a paternaty test (indian law).
But i don´t see the problem anyway. Actually i think it should be mandatory. The knowlege of the fathers (and his families) genetic background is important for the child health and because of equal right of certanty for the father.
Just heard a story about that happening, all because the girl wasn't born rich like the baby's dad was
Add to that she quickly realised she needed to use the right amount of sugar to get the religious ceremony she wanted! I'd watch that one, if I were you, OP! She'll go for the trifecta and sneak in a Hindu middle name, 'just for the Ceremony' or the family.
I nearly had a Hindu mother-in-law; that experience damaged me for years. Definitely not all are like the one I experienced. But if you're white you've more likely to be better off - sad, but true.🤷🏾♀️
Well, then MIL is none the wiser - she was told the baby is he son's, it will be proven to be the case - and she still won't know why Sarah looks lighter in skin colour than she expected her to.
I am looking forward to Grandma from India and Sarah cooking together the Indian ways, of Sarah getting her first Hennah tattoo and otoh making Grandma very proud when she graduates from college, something Sarah might or might not do if she had been growing up in India.
And I am looking forward to Sarah and Grandma singing Hindi lullabies, making Indian cookies, dressing up in Indian clothes just for fun ...
I really hope this MIL was just a nervous wreck as that was her first grandchild. And while she seems to know that she cannot treat OP like she would an Indian DIL (thankfully we do not go along with that excrement here), she might also be a little nervous to do things right - and then she was just overwhelmed.
Yes, of course she cannot get unhinged around a baby any time she is under pressure. But I think Grandma should be allowed to teach her Grandchild Hindi. She should be encouraged to part Indian culture with her grandchild - the old myths (well, let's leave out the saucy parts for a while), Indian history, watch Indian Bollywood productions, if that is Grandma's thing, and so on. To allow her to pass some of her heritage on to her granddaughter will make her feel accepted. Granddaughter has her parents and the rest of society to correct any unfit traditions (like sleeping separately from family when on your period or a "superiority of the males in the house") If Momma has time, why does she not learn a little Hindi, too? Would probably help her with MIL and FIL.
(First story) she needs to learn basic biology
Plus her apology wasn’t valid, what does being salty about not “including her” have to do with the way she reacted when she saw the baby 🤔
Logic and emotions don't often get along. She felt like she was losing part of her family, first by not participating in traditions and then by skin tone. She did seriously over-react, which hints at possible mental health issues, but I think OP made the right move letting her have a chance to prove herself.
A pathetic cop out.
3:43 I'm a spiteful bastard I'd have gotten the test and then when it came back that I was the father I'd have gotten the results printed on shirts for the entire family and wore them whenever I went to go see the her I'd have made copies of the results and mailed them to her at least twice a week I would have had them put on edible paper for a cake and gave it to her on her birthday that's how much of an asshole I am
mil would just say you paid someone off
That's genius
Lol I would do the same time because I am very petty.
I aspire to be this level of petty.
Damn.😆
No way would a personal apology be OK! I'd tell her she has to wait until the next big family gathering and apologize in front of the entire family before she can see her granddaughter. And she better be crying when she does!!
Story 1...do the test and then inform MIL she isnt allowed near the baby unsupervised and only after she apologizes profusely.
Op is a lot nicer than me. Who calls their DIL horrible names, accuses them of cheating, and then makes up a bs story about being upset that the baby doesn't have their cultural upbringing. Damn.
@@JcBravo8 That doesn't explain anything she did.
I think you should act like a coworker towards your MIL and vice versa. Respect where it is earned. Even playing field.
I wouldn't do the baby name ceremony, the mil was too disrespectful.
Yh behave badly and get what you want anyways? No
Yeah i agree, plus they are Atheist and MIL needs to respect it
Having lived in india for a while I am shocked her MIL came back and apologized.
At first I was gonna disagree thinking it was a cultural thing not a religous one and it seemed a fairly unobtrusive concession to the "wanting her to have a part of her heritage" and it is a party for the family not just the MIL...but then I looking it up to find it's a relious practice not cultural.
Now I'm torn..but then again they are already having to do it different from tradition since the baby is older than 28 days presumibly so maybe MIL can still prove herself by making it a nice introduction of the baby to the family and make more ammends cause she's showing support of OP and the new baby.
Using heritage traditions as a "weapon" or "punishment" is the wrong way to address other issues. Cultural traditions should be decided by each person individually or in this case, as a couple (parents). Many cultural traditions are falling by the wayside since a growing number of people are not believing or supporting them any longer. THAT is the only reason they should be disregarded.
I am 2/3rds American Ojibwe and NOBODY has more heritage and cultural traditions than American Indians do, so trust me, I know.
1st Story: I'm not buying it. OP's MIL flipped out screaming like a lunatic and saying vile things about OP. It's great that she apologized and seems to have meant it, but that is NOT normal behavior. Either MIL is a few noodles shy of a ramen bowl, or she realized her behavior would cut her off from her son, and she only apologized to smooth that over. I don't know. But someone that actually respected OP would never have acted like this. I wouldn't ever leave her alone with the child. After that outburst, I'd be nervous to have her anywhere near the baby.
I was wondering if MIL pulled all that crap with an eye to getting the naming ceremony? It seems weird that she calmed down and appologised so quickly.
I'd do the test, to prove a point, then stay away from MIL, to prove a point. Forget apologies. They mean nothing.
This!!! This is exactly what I would have done! Just to rub salt on the wound "See? She is your grandaughter and now you never get to see her!" Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
I would have the paternity test done, then after it shows that the OP's husband is the father, inform the MIL that she does not get to see her grandchild until she begs OP's forgiveness, publicly, and then only allow MIL to see the child while supervised.
Perfect punishment.
@@LunaP1 , more than punishment. The MIL sounds like a nutjob. The OP needs to protect her child from her. Plus, having her apologize with witnesses around means that if MIL tries to walk back her apology later, other people will be less likely to become her flying monkeys and help her harass OP and her child.
Why would they have to wire money to the mil instead of straight to the landlord?
Sounds like MIL might also by their guarantor.
Maybe because the deposit would have been from a foreign country and the landlord didn't want to deal with it? Also how long would it take for the funds clear from one private acct to another private acct? Large international banks are more than experienced with that but maybe the landlord deals with a small town/time bank?
You do not need MIL to send money ... and why knowing your previous experience you consult her or even tell her about decisions between you and hubby. I dont get it ...
If she wants part of it then she need to learn respect, you are a doormat and she knows it. This allows her to continue, an info diet is most recommendable and minimum contact from OP's part.
DH needs to demand a pat unity test on his father and mother to be sure his father is really his father.
Won't work
Nice. If he has to do it, so does she.
Mil obviously does not have a grasp of genetics.
yeah, sounds like MIL was raised in India. The female literacy rate there is about 65% due to factors like culture and poverty odds are she wouldn't have stayed in school long enough to learn genetics.
@@lawrencelopez9839 69* and see sounds like she is only educated upto secondary school
First story: The MIL screaming when she saw her grandbaby then insisted that they get a paternity test. I would have ask MIL and FIL if they got a paternity test when MIL's son was born?. Did MIL's MIL start screaming when they saw your baby?
Tell MIL & FIL that they need to have a paternity test as they no longer believe that FIL is his father and his mother might have cheated on him. 😳
That's so petty... I LOVE IT!
Fantastic way of driving home the insulting and racist demand from MIL! LOLOLOL
Probably the reason she is so skeptical.
Story 1: My wife is Pakistani (was India 60 years ago) and I am white. All our kids are white. You can barely see any of my wife's features. Brown hair, blue eyes and very white. Waiting many years to see if anything changes. I am actually disappointed they aren't taking more after their mother. We keep good ties to people in her village and I am fairly certain there will be a huge fountain of arranged marriage proposals (considering how they view white skin as highly desirable).
I have several family members who are married to different wonderful people from all around SEA and they all seem fascinated by how white i am for a Irish/ German decent lady. They all hope their children inherit our families white skin.
I thought maybe I was missing something but I've seen the same sentiment in other Chinese and Vietnamese videos. Is it common in other cultures too?
1st one.....welcome to dealing with typical Indian cultural dramatics .. and yeah you got very lucky with this MIL. There are plenty of very sad examples of Indian families setting the new wife on fire because they felt their family honour was tarnishing some ridiculous way...including the children having the not expected skin tone
What "honor" they show by that then. Setting someone on fire JUST bc? Some true colors coming from them and at the end of the day. They are bigots sadly.
I think she should do the test, send a copy to the MIL and then go no contact for a while. That would tell her that she insulted her and publically humiliated her.
2nd story: I would have stop putting my energy into the relationship to begin with and would have lowered my expectations long before OP did.
"If you refuse to see your granddaughter without a paternity test, I refuse to let you see your granddaughter, EVER." Done.
Okay, story 1
My dad has a fair tan, my mother is border line light brown.
We're genetically white - I think - , but my parents grew up in the outdoors.
I, however, am very pale. So pale, that once I went to the hospital for stuff and the nurse asked if I'm normally " that pale? "
Just because the kids skin is paler then the parents doesn't mean the kids not the bio child. Like, I look NOTHING like my mother.
She has black hair, black eyes, and border line light brown skin.
I have brown hair, dark brown eyes, and pale as damn milk. Like, I've been told that I look like a vampire.
( the fact I'm an emo may or may not contribute )
But point is- parents and kids dont always look like damn twins.
My friend’s DIL is Indian and the grandkids were all born light and darkened as they got older. The youngest is significantly lighter than the older kids.
For the first story I am red hair blue eyes the father of my child was Mexican Indian dark hair dark eyes dark skin my baby came out with red hair blue eyes white the only thing that's different about him is that he tans and I burn frome the sun so a baby can look like coming out of somebody when they're mixed races like that
You see stuff like this in families from South America especially because they've had so many people with diverse genetics intermixing over the last 5 centuries that you can get a darker-skinned person with black curly hair and a lighter-skinned blonde sibling with wavy hair in the same family from the same parents.
Since India was once a British colony, there is also going to be some genetic diversity and intermixing there as well which may cause some surprise quirks in genetics. You really never know.
My ex wanted the test and when it turned out that he was the father, he asked for a second test. There are other more invasive tests and you need to make sure to stop any future tests. Because there’s not a test that’s good enough for her
So glad this ended well. ❤️❤️ made my heart happy.
Not at all weird LG. My husband’s mother is a sweet, wonderful woman 😊
I would NEVER see my MIL again if she screamed at my child, called me vile names, and accused me of cheating.
"The only way to pay the landlord"? What happened to the best friend that lives in the same city as the in-laws?
So many of these stories don't make a helluva lotta sense.
I don't know what it is like to have a mother-in-law or a father-in-law. They both died when my husband was a young teen. He was raised by his older sister along with his younger brother and sister. His older sister has views as such that if you don't agree completely with her, than you are not worth knowing. We don't communicate with her, not even on Facebook.
1st story-i dont trust mil.she might do a 'family' dna test behind your back.
I read in a previous post a similar story I suggest you do the same ,tell MIL that you will do the paternity test but when it comes back that your husband is the father that she will never see her grandchild again,see if she still wants it.
Take the paternity test. When proven wrong, the MIL pays for it and offers an apology in front of family.
I am a woman in my mid 50s (I'm 56 now) and I want to say that even menopausal as I am, I would NEVER, EVER treat anyone my daughter brought home badly. I mean, I get it if that person has hurt your kid, but just because they exist?!! My husband, 61, feels the same. All we want is for our daughter to be happy and loved, whoever her special human is, with or without any kids, we'll be happy too. I don't get these crazy MiLs......
First story conclusion had me like : "So she's (MIL) just racist."
I would be so prepared to take my family and move close to my own parents after that. Wth kind of behavior was that?
Thanks LG stay safe.
"Had to explain that is normal for babies to be so pale"... Sorry??? Would be a problem If she was white??? Why that necesity of to say "dont worry, she will be darker skinned sooner or later". The housband should have said "Why do you have a problem with the skin of my child? She looks like her mother: precious"
If I was in this situation I would pull an r/MaliciousCompliance. Take the paternity test, and then put it in a nice big picture frame and place it in a noticeable place for MIL to see every time she comes to the house.
Wow. My MIL never got to be alone with my kids because she was unhinged and make questionable decisions with her other grandkids that I witnessed. My husband never had a problem with it when I listed out the reasons why she wouldn’t be alone with them. My FIL was awesome and level headed (they’re divorced now, but this was a long time ago when my kids were really young) so they could go over if he was home. It all worked out. But only because my husband was on board and supportive. If he wasn’t, I can’t imagine the drama and problems that would’ve happened.
Paternity tests should just be a norm after birth. Honestly it solves a lot of issues, puts to rest a lot of questions, and prevents entrapment.
Nope. It goes too much in personal lives of people.for cheating spouse, it's great. But too much intrusion.what if a man WANT the baby not of his blood to be recognized as him WITHOUT anyone else knowing about it?
@@cherryrose5514 And no one has to know about it. It's literally just a test between the 2. If they want to spread it around go ahead but at that points it's a personal choice.
@@rionat1314 no.i meant if it's obligatory,then it's involving more than an intrusion in your personal life.It's an open door to your privacy.think about it.
@@cherryrose5514 Literally the moment a baby is born they will run dozens of tests. There is literally no burden to add 1 more for paternity. Take emotions out of this its just a simple test.
@@rionat1314 Nope.take emotions out and it is still open doors to your privacy.
Story 1 Wow please keep that crazy woman away from your child
Story 2: I actually disagree with you, LG. As someone who has done their best to bet there for others, try to open up, it really hurts when they walk all over you, makes you feel like an outsider, and use you. I've been hurt by family members that way. If they want to come to me, cool. But, I'm not going to give myself to people who have time and time again hurt me badly. I rather reserve my energy for those who have treated me with, at least, respect/acceptance. Maybe in the future, but, at this time, I think it's good to have walls up.
The fact that OP was ignoring the family might be why they are the ones making the move to engage.
Yup, indifference and sometimes outright disdain will work on people like that. All they want is to have the upper hand, and if you truly no longer care they can't stand it.
Story 1 I'd take test. She needs to KNOW she's wrong so she can reflect on how she acted. Not doing the test will only prolonge her tirade. You can still distrust her for her actions but make sure it's clear how she hurt you.
Tonight, is the night. For what? I don't know
Haven't listened to comments or update yet, if op wants to do the test I'd make a list of demands mil would have to agree to that when it shows he's the father if she ever wants to see the child. 1 she will tell op what she called her that her husband won't tell her. I'd want to know what she said and when mil knows op didn't cheat having to repeat it may let mil know how bad what she said in anger was. 2 she will sincerely apologize for every single insult, not just one but one for each insult. 3 she will never be alone with the child, either op or her husband will be with them because no way I'd risk her endangering my child.
Wow, OP is more trusting than I might have been able to be, after her mil freaked out at baby Sarah.
It is a rare thing that someone has a turning point and truly repents of their sins.
It is a beautiful thing, and I hope that things work out.
I'd take the test but as soon as she read the results I'd be like ok say bye forever. Just like u said first the test then what?
You dont ask for respect, you demand it.
Of course the second OP is nervous, the mother in law never apologised as she should have. Shouldn't even be trying if she won't apologise.
that comment that op should engage more and build the relationship was kinda dumb, since the whole reason why she acts so indifferent is bc the family where assholes, so no OP doesn't need to do anything, its the families job to fix what the broke in the first place
You get the test.....what next? How many hoops do you jump through?
First Story - you fell for the old bag’s lies, I pity you and that child lady seriously!
Second Story - how exactly is the mother “the only way they can pay the landlord”? This is just too far-fetched to be taken seriously, good luck imaginary woman with the imaginary awful ILs!
Thanks for the new vid LG 💙🐱💙
Yeah bank transfer/Internet banking is a thing...this seems v unlikely.
Take the test! Then you have proof! She should apologize for the next few decades
Oooooh 1st story this girl is going to learn the hard way....apologies only mean something when theres not an end game...
If I was op I would tell mother-in-law if your son is not the father of my child then you can’t be grandma 👵
Why is the husband calling his mother several times to try to subdue and give his mother reassurance after he said such awful things to his wife? That mother needs to be cut off until she earnestly apologizes. After that, low contact with only supervised visits with the granddaughter, and OP should not be forced into spending time with her if she doesn’t want to be around her.
The MIL in the second one sounds like she just had a menopause moment or something. Hopefully it was a one-time thing.
For some reason on your videos I click like before listening. I just know yours are the best. A safe thumbs up from me. 🤓😍😍
Most of these stories: "I willingly moved somewhere where I'm a second class citizen and now things are not to my liking."
My friend had similar situation with 1st story, but more abt how she's not accepted by husband's family (white). In this case, the baby is "too dark" (she is south east asian) and "looks black" instead of asian. She did paternity test and once the result arrived she told her in laws that she will tell them again that the baby is husband's, but if they dont believe her, theyre welcome to open and read the results but they will not have a relationship with the grandchild ever. Well they chose to open the letter and lost contact with their grandchild.
Mother-in-law and that rage. I’d get the test and then PUBLIC POST it and put the whole incident and behavior out there. Completely PUBLIC!!!! And the fact she said UGLY things in Hindi to me-oh and that test will be FRAMED and posted in the hallway. For ever!!!
First OP - do the test. When it comes back that Sarah is your husband's, let the MIL know. And then tell her that she's never seeing her granddaughter because of how she acted. EDIT: Okay, looks like she's genuinely sorry. Happy for you, OP! But keep an eye on her.
I would take the test, throw it Iinto mils face and tell her, that there is no way she will ever see her granddaughter
The, first story, about the mother in law. The, first, chance, she, gets, she, going to get a pat-
ernity test done. Bank, on, it.
When my first baby was born my mother in law kept commenting about how she didn't look like my husband. I agreed. She was a duplicate of me except darker. My husband was latino and I was German and Native American but look more German. She kept implying about this for years.
If MIL actually bought you that lemon tree, I think you have been accepted by her.
I'd get the paternity test... then inform MIL that she's never going to see the child.
Why can't you do a payment through PayPal or some other money sending app, like venmo, time, cash app, etc?
The MIL has rejected your kid. End of story. She would not ever be trusted with your child again. Anything she says after her raw reaction, is probably faked.
Your MIL is a good actress.
I am disappointed they aren't going to include any of the Indian culture in their daughter's life because she is half Indian. I'm mixed myself and absolutely hate that my parents didn't raise me with any of my cultural practices or even at least teach me about it.
I totally agree about the one about the Indian mother-in-law damn right there got to be conditions
HUZZA! A wholesome ending to a MIL story! So happy.
More reasons I'm glad I don't have kids. Just introduces a whole level of potential drama and chaos from in-laws. Pass.
Get the dammed test. Cut this nonsense off at the pass. And the test will cut grandmother off at the knees. If you will refuse, the doubt will always be there. Then tell her how much she hurt you and let her know it will be up to her to make things right.
You have to consider the child. It is not about her relationship with the child. It is about the shadow that will be over her head the rest of her life. Is that worth your pride.
But once you have the test then you will be the one who controls the relationships going forward. And a sincere apology will proceed any contact with you are the baby.
Having the test will put you in the position of strength and it will show everyone how much of a crazy idiot she is.
I would take the test, wave the results In Her face and tell her that was the one and only time she got to see her granddaughter. I had the same problem with my mil and my youngest son cause he is tiny for his age (we're Dutch so everybody is large here). But he just takes after me (small form of dwarvism in my family). We (so and me) went NC and it is a bliss!
Sorry, but that is a pisspoor apology..
Good Stories.😊😊😊👍⭐⭐⭐👌✌
I am having my first grand baby this year, I do not I repeat I do not interfere with daughter decisions on her care unless she ask me, Why? Because If you have a good relationship with your children and raise them the best you know how your children will do the same, yes they will make mistake you did, it is called learning as you go though life, She told me that she is grateful that allow her to learn, she is an adult 33 years old, each pregnancy is different, and if she is in doubt about something we discuss it together in the end her decision, no matter what culture you are from your kids are no longer your kids but in adulthood
Other MIL’S could take lessons from her. Good job on accepting her apology. Also, you might suggest to her to look up generics and read up about it. That would explain why baby was so light on birth.
To the third story
Not she is in the way you little kid, you are in the way! So know let us adults talk!!!😑😅😂😂😂
Take the daughter, fly home to family, call hubby and tell him he can live with you there or without you at home with Mom. Then take the test, mail her the results and tell her she will never see Sarah again.
For story nb 1 op I'd say that last line to your husband "even if I do how am I ever supposed to trust a woman who can become so unhinged like that" if your husband is as respectful to you as he sounds I think he would hear your concerns if he's listening to mls conditions I think you should make some of you're own first off personally I deffinatly woudnlt ever trust her alone with my child as she would probably fill the kids head with doubts tbh in these situations sometimes even if you get a dna test she probably still won't believe you until Sarah darkens up she'd probably acuse you of faking it something, then what? Shes deffinatly untrustworthy how she lost it like that and just because you've always trusted her doesn't mean you should instantly trust her again after a mistake. Needs to be urnt back.
Dude, I'm pale and my husband is too. Our children came out with slight tans and dark hair. Our second child looked Hispanic the third more Asian. Months later the dark hair fell out and blonde came in. Both kids had Jaundice bad. 🙄
Yeah that Indian grandmother the sun needs to back her play 100% she's not willing to do that she's got a lot to think about
I know it's late but I wanted to say I loooove story n1. Mil effef up, admitted it, and op accepted it and she and her husband are optimistic but cautious, like grown ups. Brilliant!
As for n2, I do think op is acting perfectly. We don't have much info regarding exactly what mil said but (if mil were a narcissist or something like that) the best emotional response is indiference 100% if you can't go nc (which is what I would've suggested)
Anyways, thanks so much lg for your vids. I watch them everyday
Muchas gracias🎉
Who gives a shit what your mother In law thinks lmao they didn’t even want to hold your baby and accused you of being unfaithful. Some of these women are doormats jeez
An MIL who apologizes after a freak out is rarer thanhens teeth.
Last story i had same problem but in my case my SO did not have my back and did not actively deal with his mother..the more I tried the worse it got to the point my SO joined in his mother's deliberate attacks on me... after a traumatic final straw I divorced my husband and no longer gave 2 craps about his mother.we maintained a co parenting life with our children but i stopped engaging with his family. Lo and behold MIL now tries to engage me and insists we are still married ..ah definitely not. But i choose to not bother as i have learnt if I try at all she turns back into a vile thieving ,gas lighting backstabber. . All i can say is do what works for you and its your husbands job to deal with his family likewise with your family. Dont give in and try again as it'll only go back to how it was before as its a power game and you most definitely do not want to go back to that...big warning if you have children be VERY clear on your rules and boundaries as it often gives in-laws an excuse to relegate you as an incubator for them . If the push you need to push back with hard consequences which are set in stone
Apologies are worthless.
I bet the MIL and the husband had a DNA test behind OP's back.
There's no way in hell she just came down and apologized all of the sudden and wanted to be in the granddaughter's life after she name called the mother, threw a complete fit and completely rejected the child because she had white skin. People like that don't do a complete 180.
How? They never even touched the baby.
That Indian mil got everything she wanted. The Hindu Naming Ceremony and she gets to teach the little girl about her religion. So grandma got every thing she wanted
I'd do the test, then ban her from you and your babies life. Forever.