Things Not To Say To Someone Who's HIV Positive
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People who are HIV positive give us the run-down on some of the over-the-top and indelicate reactions they encounter on a daily basis.
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Last year I had a speaker who was HIV positive and his talk made me cry because he was sexually abused by his father and his father was HIV positive.
Xoxoellie Xoxo 😦😦😦
Oh god that’s heartbreaking.
oh my god☹️☹️
My heart just skipped a beat wtf his father?! But they're family?? What? I've never heard this in my life. What?
C. Morgan Free, it is more than just horrible but I'm amazed that you have never heard of parents sexually abusing their children before
the guy in the denim jacket was so articulate i loved it
Starla Racine and gay
Why do you think he was misinformed Martha Motevassel?
Danika Mia I agree
Marta Motevassel He's NOT misinformed 😂 He should have said "Is on medication and has an undetectable viral load and a healthy CD4 count."
If I'm wrong... tell that to my infectious disease specialist who did data collection for the studies that recently concluded that undetectable = untransmittable... OH... And say that to my boyfriend of 2 years who is the one who told me about undetectable = untransmittable and he's still HIV negative!
Of course you do
this is a *way* better buzzfeed.
BRICK TAMLAND anything is better than buzzfeed
Bre Marie good point bre marie.. good point.
It's buzzfeed if buzzfeed wasn't full of radical feminazis
***** What? its true.
actually educating people instead of forcing their opinions :p
I was born with HIV but I live a happy and AMAZING life doing the things I love and it never slowing me down, I just have medication once a day and I’m good. Don’t treat ppl differently just because they have HIV.
Same!
@Wayne hahahahah
If you have ever had unprotected sex with anyone you cannot judge. Very educational.
chibi hungary And if they cheated on you? It happens.
chibi hungary Good for you, me too. But all I'm saying is that you can never be 100% sure. It can happen to pretty much anyone.
Anyone can judge anyone. So what...?
chibi hungary Hell if you can't keep someone from cheating on you, how do you know they'll use protection while doing so? You can't control those things
🙋🏻♂️Unprotected sex isn’t the only way you can get HIV, it’s just the most common
If you drink my drink you'll probably get a slap 😂😂😂
That made me smile so harf my cheeks hurts haha
He took the words right out of my mouth. I would do the same thing to.
ikr I loved that XD
Your verry fat
Hiv cant be transmitted by saliva but go off
This was very informative thank you.
Quite the opposite of informative. Telling people you can't catch HIV from an HIV patient on The Cocktail is bogus and dangerous. Thank fuck that shitty channel is no longer license payer funded.
People should be scared of AIDS. When there is fear, there is more caution.
BBC3 is still funded by licence fee... it's just online... and less expensive content to make...
Claire O w
Liztomania I love that song
Also I do agree you don't need to tell everyone you know upfront, but you should always let a possible partner know sooner rather than later. It's the respectful thing to do.
Johnny Boy
Well you should wait until you truly trust them tbh because you should be wearing condoms anyway for the first little while with a new partner.
You should NOT be doing anything at All with somebody who does not have the Virus if you have this, sorry but this is the right thing to do.
Non Stop HIV+ people with an undetectable viral load cannot transmit the virus. Look it up and educate yourself for once.
Girl101
No, you need to inform any sexual partner of your status before any sexual activities. It is your partners right to know.
DUDE before you have sex with someone you should tell them you have an STD not after a while wtf?
2:05 might be the greatest thing on earth
YES!! Best thing I've heard all year
ashwin σ it so was I can't stop laughing about it
Don't see what's so great about it myself. Absolute filth.
but it's a lie, u can get hiv if someone cums in your face and it gets in your eye
Yeah that was really funny
I have to admit; I once shared a cigarette with some one who later told me that he was HIV + and I did not sleep that night. I was absolutely petrified. This helped me realise how ignorant I was - thank you for this video. It should not be such a taboo topic. Let's talk about it.
Phoebe Walsh now if they had herpes on the other hand... :p
Almost everyone does so..... Probably lol
omfg the umbrella analogy. xD this was so funny.
CharliGirlToast it had nothing to do with the hiv but the thought of it raining slimy sperm!!! Just omg! 🤢
'i love being HIV positive' yeah sure thing lmao
I love having to choke down a sack full of anti-retrovirals every day. It's wonderful.
lipgloss675411 you can't take everything at face value. These people have to live with this disease for the rest of their lives. At least they're making the best of it instead of developing depression, or going into denial and refusing to take their meds
lipgloss675411 LMAO RIGHT
It`s only 1 pill a day, and when I take it, it reminds me that I need to live my life to the fullest, without fear and doing the best every day, it`s not wonderful to be HIV positive, but it`s wonderful to live life.
They could have met a great support system after being diagnosed that helped them also solve their other problems and they're grateful for that.
British BuzzFeed
The bbc was established in 1922 buzzfeed was established in 2006....
+AJJ yesssss rule britannia
AJJ I know that lol. I was just talking about this specific show
This is buzzfeed if buzzfeed wasn't shitty
Jordan Wells and sexist and racist.
"Actually I love being HIV positive" I SWEAR I'M DONE WITH THESE POLITICALLY CORRECT VIDEOS
😂😂😂😅😄
MsTheeloisa oh hello someone adequate!
It's quite funny how people claim to hate political correctness while at the same time being CAPLOCK enraged by people who have different opinions to you.
It doesn't make sense for her to have said that out of political correctness when there are still people like you ready to condemn her for making that statement. That's politically controversial, not politically correct.
Exactly
I think she meant she likes the perk of being able to spread awareness and help people who have had the same experiences as her
*disclaimer* I am a public health nurse that works with STDs! If a person is on antiviral medications and their viral load is "undetectable," meaning that it doesn't come up in blood samples, this does NOT mean that the person has no virus left and cannot infect people. The chance is low, but it is still a possibility! Just want everyone to be safe out there :) also, if an HIV+ woman wants to have a baby with an HIV- man, this is completely possible. The mother must be undetectable, and the father must be on PrEP (pre exposure prophylaxis, which decreases your risk of contracting HIV by 92%)
Yeah but you still have AIDS
theslinkymaniaa Thank you so much , your comment was very informative 😊
I briefly dated a guy with HIV and that's when i learned all that. It was only 3-4 dates and there was no intercourse but i was shocked to learn that HIV is no longer a death sentence, they can have intercourse without passing it with proper medication and protection and they can have children as long as the uninfected person takes the proper medication beforehand. We didn't last though because he told me if I wanted to be with him I'd have to get rid of my pet snakes which wasn't going to happen lol
Herr Daly Nurses know a lot of things, honestly they do most of the work.
theslinkymaniaa Can you be a bit more realistic about this statement? I know a lot of HIV workers/nurses/consultants who would disagree with you completely about telling people the chance is low, but its still there. Nobody is saying the virus has been eradicated. But they are saying IF your viral load is 0 then you are undetectable. That means that the virus is so well controlled by medication as to be considered 'NO RISK'. HIV workers have known this for years and lived their private lives accordingly but as professionals they had to hold back on what information they could give out. If you are saying this, then presumably you know of someone who was undetectable and still infected someone else?
Educated me
"Are you sure?"
"I'm HIV positive"
I am a hairdresser and a client wrote me a letter explaining that they had just been diagnosed, and would understand if I don't want to cut their hair anymore! I was really shocked and saddened and was like "what, why?" I cut hair not bodily fluids! 15 years and I've never cut someone and guess what even If did we have sterilization protocols so nobody will catch anything! The guy was really happy as he had only just found out and I think he thought it was a huge deal and that he had to go telling everyone he meets!
When we had sex-education we had a HIV positive woman and a guy with AIDS and they told us to ask ANYTHING we wanted no matter how intimate the question. It was so interesting and we literally talked all through lunchbreak because we could ask everything and just ended up asking them about other things aswell and they where so nice :P
this was exactly what I needed to watch and hear, thanks x
you positive m8
Read what the Plus Us Too organisation is about, idiot.
"HechIV positive"
some guy HechIV
AITCH!!!!
hech
abby x Well we invented the English language, so that is the correct way to pronounce ‘H’.
It’s still a serious thing though. I feel like they’re trying to down play it.
Ash Bath, they're making people aware that it's not the 1980s, an undetectable viral load is virtually impossible to transmit the virus and the fact that there are hundreds of thousands of people, gay and straight, of all racial backgrounds and income levels that aren't aware of their status.
@Ash Bath, I fully agree with you. Videos like this are irresponsible. They make HIV come across like it's a mild issue. Watching this video, you'd think they were talking about a broken ankle. For an awareness video, the message is actually poor. People, whatever their condition, should be treated with respect and not have to face prejudice, but in raising awareness we shouldn't resort to normalizing these things into the culture.
@Helana, 100,000 people may have it but it's still a tiny number compared to the rest of the population. Yes, it cannot be caught through sneezing but it is still a condition that, to date, has no cure and for now requires lifelong medication. It therefore shouldn't be taken lightly especially given the primary root cause of it is sex. In this day and age of casual relationships, in addition to other STI's, it's fair to say we're in the grip of a pandemic. Thus, public health responses, including videos such as the above, should treat this matter more with the seriousness it warrants.
I'm all for reducing the stigma associated with HIV, and the consequences of prejudice and discrimination that follows, but there ought to be a balance between this and highlighting that HIV isn't a matter to be taken lightly.
Agree. Getting rid of stigma and talking about the subject openly is different form downplaying it and it seems to me they are downplaying it too. You have to stick up on your regime precisely to avoid drug resistance. Nobody can possible by 100% precise because we’re just humans. There are those how already catch a multi drug resistant virus and their treatment options are therefore limited. Science is very fast, new drugs are developed rapidly, but the scientific progression may not always be that rapid. We live in a great time where meds are widely available but it may not stay like that forever. Even thought HIV really means just 1 or 2 pills a day for many, it’s still dangerous for others, for poor countries, for drugs users unable to stick on their regimes... There’s no reason to be terrified of HIV in developed countries of 21st century but I still think it should be taken more seriously than this video suggests.
Uhm bc they have to live with it. And they can't feel ashamed about that while their whole life. Probably they are kinda ok with it.
you guys should do a "things not to say to an asexual person"
Absol1234 My asexuality is not a phobia. It is a lack of sexual attraction, which is called asexuality. I do not want to contribute to the erasure of asexuals by refusing to identify as asexual. I am aware that sexuality is a spectrum and I know it could change, but I feel like that is very unlikely for me. I don't have a stubborn mindset, if anything I wish I could change.
I can sort of understand where you're coming from with this. But at the same time, you wouldn't tell a gay person to stop identifying as gay, "cause that might change" and they're just gay cause they "have a stubborn mindset".
Absol1234 It is possible that people who identify as asexual do have a hormonal decrease, or something similar. Some medicines decrease libido, which some people mistake as being asexual. However, for many people asexuality is just a sexuality, not a health issue.
+ Absol1234 What you are saying, is LITERALY things NOT to say to an asexual lol.
Alex Ewing Yes please!! And demisexuals too
Demisexuality doesn't exist
I have a friend who's HIV positive and I hug her and work out with her, it's not scary and you can't catch it from normal things.
Thank you that’s right wish more people would think like you
You're a hero.
I still don't get why or how someone is "happy" to be HIV positive
Ghostof Razgriz1 because what is happens already happened :)
@@sallywirawan9234 Doesn't mean you should be happy about it. I have a chronic illness, which has no cause or cure, and I'm not happy I have it. Yes, it happened, nothing I could do about it, but I would give both arms and legs not to have it
Olivia Van Zimmerman i know my dear... but i just wanna say to be grateful, what is done was done, we only can face it ... i know you feel sad or feeling down, i just can say you are strong enough more than you think, let me makes you thing with another perception, how about you lose your legs and arms, but never think about get a hiv/illness you have it right now, maybe you will say “ i will get anything to make my arms back “ be strong my dear, because you re strong enough more than u think, 🥰🥰🥰
They are trying to live "positively"
Only the westerners who have constant medication to suppress it are 'happy'. Go to sub saharan africa and ask them if they like having HIV 😂
I'm watching the whole series of what not to ask/say to [insert specific group of people here] and I swear they are just things that common sense says you shouldn't ask or say to a complete stranger or even a friend!
One thing I have to say to the people in this video is kudos for helping to break down the stigma around HIV/AIDS! I hope you all have long, happy and fulfilled lives!! 😄
Jeannette Dahlia-Harvey hello my ace friend! (I’m sorry don’t wanna assume but your icon just gave me a hint)
I agree with you completely!! Like who tf thinks these are alright to ask anyone??? Also love the profile picture
... the topic of HIV was great, but the delivery is a little too sarcastic for me... I would have loved it to be more informative and reflective of their various experiences.. but oh well
Ellspressions I totally agree with you. For example when they talk about having kids, why do they laugh?? Isn't a serious thing their babies born with hiv? They don't care about that? It is not that common? I don't want to be rude I GENUINELY WANT TO KNOW
Vale Velasquez yeah... I think in their attempt to be expressive and open about the topic, they forgot that it has been taboo to discuss for a long time, so a lot of people just don't know much when it comes to HIV... PERFECT TIME TO EDUCATE instead of getting angry at miseducated people..
I agree with you, I know I'm ignorant on this topic- and would have loved to know more actual facts.. 😓
@@ellspressions1002 This isn't a documentary on people with HIV though. Its 'things not to say to someone with HIV', or in other words, ridiculous statements they hear on a daily basis that they are tired of being harassed about. They've specifically taught you how to not have a misguided and (sometimes) offensive conversation with someone with HIV. It is now up to you to take that a step further and research more about HIV on your own since they have peaked your interest. There are many different resources available for you to be able to expand upon what you do and do not know about HIV. That's basically the entire purpose of the "Things Not to Say to Someone With..." series as a whole.
@@elizab1247 that's a good point, it is on the person. But just like anything, that initial contact/ conversation can often and will often lead someone one way or the other. No one is looking for full HIV briefing from the video- they can rant on and discuss, they have every right to: but I'm just saying they had a great platform and it was a perfect vehicle to give insight 🤷🏿♀️
First of all, you can have child that is HIV negative whilst you’re living HIV positive... and it seems that when HIV pos people are talking about their experiences, people want them to be sad and to speak all about the tragic way the contracted the virus and blah blah.. but if someone was to do so and have a pity fest people would accuse them anyway (“oh well you had unprotected sex soo...”) Why can’t people just be lighthearted if that’s the way they feel- it’s the whole point of the video. I think people want to make it a lot more dramatic than it is. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a virus that can affect people badly in so many ways but the treatment we have nowadays means people can live normal lives. Don’t try to force a tragedy that just isn’t there...
I work with HIV positive children and I hate that some adults are so ignorant and afraid of helping them.
Some of there are serious legitimate questions and they just laugh and giggle away
iyanna anderson hun you have google and you can read...you can look up doctors talking about it.
KillstreakBeats can’t really ask google if your partner is positive though 😷
@@aliyah_a00yes you can lmao
People are mostly hypocrites, instead of being informed about many things, similar to the olden day's of witch hunting would rather point fingers and be completely ignorant.
I've met several people with HIV in my time. There is a lot of prejudice people with HIV status face but there's a fine line between this and giving the impression that HIV is a walk in the park, as seems to be the case with this video. It's a lifelong thing that requires daily medication and other added complications due to a weakened immune system, with no cure as of yet. Yes, everyone should be treated with respect but the fact remains it is largely caught through sex. This video, in its attempt to normalize this virus, is setting a bad precedent.
Sorry if i shouldn't be, but i can't help but feel terrible for these people. No one deserves a life long illness.
But it's not affecting them in any way, only the stigma associated with the illness
Welcome to 2016 where it's politically incorrect to sympathise and feel bad for someone.
It's a condition. Not an illness.
Obesity may be a condition... And a primary illness, yet they are not bounded to always die by heart diseases. Just more likely.
So if an obese person take care of himself, change to a healthy diet, and exercise and keep within that lifestyle they are taking control of their condition.
An hiv poz just have to stay taking their daily pills and have a healthy lifestyle.
HIV does not equals AIDS.
Its just a condition in which if you dont take care of yourself you will eventualy develop AIDS.
As much as life is a condition prior to die...
Yeah. Life's not fair. We all make life-changing decisions, negative or positive. Some dodge the bullet, others get hit and move forward anyway. Kudos to those in the video for putting themselves out there to educate people. I dig it.
Tyana Alexandra nah you just wanted to make that commebt. Welcome to 2018 closing in on 2019, are you still ignorant?
Are people still that ignorant in this day & age. I was taught about these things in my first year at secondary school. That was way back in 1991.
Richard Hawkins, some people are so clueless man.
A Scott Who is clueless here? I see, people without HIV are loosers now, because they ask "stupid" questions. At least they know how to have safe sex.
Weronika, people have to know the basics about it ! Check out the CDC website on HIV transmission and how being undetectable=untransmittable 👍🏽 ! The research/test have proven this and several top credible sources back it up. It's in ink.
Richard Hawkins hey guess what, schools dont teach us shit that we need to know, so no not ignorant, just never informed
Lots of these thing were not known in 1991- and there weren’t good cures back then like now
I feel like they're glossing over how serious the condition is. Yes, it's great to get over the stigma but it shouldn't be taken lightly.
I hate to break it to you but no they aren’t if you want a full breakdown of aids go watch a medical video because this isn’t one AIDS/HIV isn’t the death sentence it once was
my sister once said that she didn't introduced herself saying she is straight, so she didn't expect gay people to introduce themselves saying they're gay. i feel like that applies to literally every aspect of your life, and that things should always be given time to come up at the right time
Daniela Restrepo
I'm not so sure about that.
HatingOnHomework 98 you watched this whole video and learnt nothing.
what i meant is that you dont need to say it rigth away, however if you see things going somewhere more physical it is your obligation to say it.
Absolutely. Unless you intend to have sex with someone, you're under no obligation to disclose your HIV status - whether you bring it up earlier or later is your prerogative
HJones68
If you're going to be dating someone and it's getting deep, I think you should just tell them (out of respect). Certainly before you have sex.
It really bothers me how this people instead of informing people about HIV they are trying to play it out as something that’s not dangerous. If people cry when you tell them you have HIV is probably because they care about you and your health. Most people who ask questions are trying to understand what you are going through.
I don't see them playing it off in any way at all. In what way do they do that? They are educating you about what life is like, and teaching how to be appropriate and tactful while still showing your sympathy when you learn someone is HIV positive. You can cry, or you can learn from the individuals in the video that it's ok to practice a little self control and still be sympathetic and educated enough to compose yourself out of respect. How miserable would you continue to feel about yourself and situation if for your entire life everyone cried when they found out. Try to see a different perspective and practice empathy instead of just sympathy. They know better than you do sweetie.
@@TheTjoy910 most who got it will get AIDS die slowly painfully. Only just over 20 years ago THEY WASN'T EVEN NO TREATMENT AVAILABLE, Freddie Mercury had his foot amputated people even today die horrible because of AIDS these guys are heavily down playing it. Imagine if it was cancer
@@dudexoxoxo6837 many will die if we are talking about world wide statistics and counting areas with high infection rates and poor health care, but those are needless deaths causes by lack of treatment. But here in the UK very few will die, if they get tested because treatment is available and it's very effective at controlling the virus. And it's the same in any country with a free health care system. HIV is not a death sentence
Lindsey Mackie these comments are
Just horrible, reading so many evil words people have for one another. It’s impossible to explain to imbeciles that refuse to learn. They want to separate from people with disease. When the cure comes people should remember those said individuals.
The gentleman in the Jean jacket is quite wonderful to listen to! I love this whole panel, it was great to see their honesty and I appreciate the education.
This was really interesting. I learnt some things I didn't know before. Thanks brave ppl! 😊
" Without treatment, average survival time after infection with HIV is estimated to be 9 to 11 years, depending on the HIV subtype.[3] Infection with HIV occurs by the transfer of blood, semen, vaginal fluid, pre-ejaculate, or breast milk. " (HIV wikipedia) I can understand why you, and most people, would believe anything the BBC says, but this time they're lying to you.
that's an old study, from the 90s i think. current data shows that hiv+ people are expected to live as long or nearly as long as hiv- people, as long as they take medication
Jenna Trowbridge No, its from 2007 - you can find the link on Wikipedia. (UNAIDS, WHO (December 2007). "2007 AIDS epidemic update" (PDF). p. 10. Retrieved 2008-03-12.). Where are you getting your "current data"?
Did you really just get your information from Wikipedia and think that it's the total truth!? Wikipedia is edited by the public, hence which is why most of it is bullshit.
What makes them brave. Getting an std doesn't make one "brave"
I enjoy these videos. they open a very taboo door and spread good information and encourage conversion instead of lies, misconceptions, and judgments.
It's funny how people who don't have HIV thinks that they know more about HIV than the people who have it.... This is what I see in the comments. Haters gonna hate 🤷
Great vid by the way
I mean, I know it enough to not get it huehuehueheueheueheuheueeheu
@@aquileslame6897
Lets see what will happen when you unknowingly receive an HIV infected transfusion after that nasty accident when you are unconscious to say no, and it's an emergency situation
it is awful how badly people are educated on the matter of HIV. one time unprotected sex is, really, enough. have you ever had unprotected sex? did you use a condom every single time ? even with someone you loved or trusted ? this comment section is filled by hypocrites.
Are you Haych IV positive?
HI-virus is extremely rare in my home country. So if I meet a person carrying the virus, of course I'm worried for myself and that poor fellow too. Carrying such a dangerous virus should never be taken lightly. Of course those questions should remain polite but I see a real good point in there.
Roosa
You have no reason to fear the virus unless you plan on having unprotected sex with an infected individual
Thank you for making this and beginning the conversations to open people's eyes and minds. It's been 14 years positive for me now and I've been asked virtually everyone of those questions plus a plethora more.
One of the largest stigmas around HIV I've noticed in my experiences is that, within the LGBTQ community, people use demeaning language to filter out those who are positive. "Clean only" is generally the most common... Like someone who is positive is "dirty" and incapable of deserving all of the love, affection, etc, as someone who is "clean"? It's like a very ugly precursor to being told that no one will touch you with a ten foot pole. All this under-education manifests in very ugly ways and tends to be very disgusting.
I really appreciate this video. Reducing the stigma of HIV is super important so that we can increase awareness and prompt more people to get tested and be safer and be educated about this disease.
I was very misinformed about HIV and I still have lots to learn. It used to absolutely terrify me but this video really does show that it’s the virus that we need to be against not the people. These people here are just living their lives and they’re no different than anyone else.💕
They pronounce it "haych IV" and it bothers me more than it should
Pippetandpossum
That's how they pronounce the letter h.. In fact I think pronouncing it like ache sounds retarded.
+Nicolas Cage is Disappointed and I agree In some places, 'ayche' is the correct way to say it. Insulting people for how their local culture speaks is really not something you should be doing. You may not like how it sounds, and hey! That's fine! There are lots of accents I find weird. But calling people stupid because their way of speaking has changed from how it was originally is pointless and demeaning.
Nicolas Cage is Disappointed and I agree Yeah, I'm done here. Have a good day.
Cinnamon Bun
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Pippetandpossum yes🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I have to say, this video opened my eyes about HIV. I didn't know a whole lot about it, only folk-tales that adults would mention, or the constant "Oh honey you should stay away from that person." There was always speculation about hiv-transfer when I was growing up. I'm happy to hear that those who live with HIV, can have a fulfilling and happy life. And I appreciate the information, and bringing a new light to it.
So damn sarcastic... Some of these are genuine questions. Not everyone knows everything about HIV, including myself.
Savanna LaVera Most of this shit is common sense. Google is free boo if you don't know research. You have no one to blame for your ignorance except yourself.
Savanna LaVera so educate yourself first about hiv in another video
Em S Em S damn, sorry for not knowing something, I’ll make sure to memorize the internet before making a statement
Education is the key then. Ignorance leads to fear, fear leads to hatred, and hatred leads to violence.
The research is too new on the topic of HIV transmission whilst on medication to say definitively "there has been a study that shows you wont transmit it, if you're levels are undetectable". One or even a few studies is NOT enough to make that kind of claim, especially with the sample sizes in the studies that have been conducted. No researcher or scientist show make that kind of statement and the BBC should not spread that information. Good, ethically driven Health psychologist and researchers state that it is too early to say whether that is true or false and I implore you to take this video down or make it clear that this information is not adequately supported
I mean there's at the very least the PARTNER study that has followed over a 1000 serodiscordant couples for the past 6 years (ongoing), where over 40,000 condomless relations were reported in the first three years alone, and where the only transmission that occurred was when the seronegative person had intercourse with someone outside the relationship. An undetectable viral load does not promise 0% risk, and dialogue and protection should definitely be a thing in any relationship, but studies like this one or the HPTN 052 study, are showing that transmission risks are low to negligible when a viral load is undetectable.
I've actually knocked back a joint from an HIV person. I know it is (supposedly) not transmitted that way but I'm taking no chances with blood parasites and my immune system. Even with condoms I'd never sleep with an HIV sufferer. Not worth the risk. I used to live near an AIDS clinic. I've seen people in the last stages of the disease, it's horrible.
I think you might be a bit uneducated about the matter as you can't compare someone who is in the last stage of the disease and some one who is infected with the virus and takes medicine. The latter look like a "normal" person, eat like a normal person and (probably, there hasn't been enough experience yet) live as long as a normal person. Of course it's a personal decision whether to sleep with someone who is positive and it is good to be caucious of your health, I respect that, but this kind of thinking can easily lead to the exclusion of HIV positive people from social groups or society as a whole. You're making them feel bad about a thing they can't change.
I’m sorry but efficacy does not necessarily imply effectiveness. It’s important to remember that the recruitment and treatment programs in these types of RCTs often have issues with generalisability for effectiveness for general clinical populations. Again, not something we can actually know until further studies focused on EXTERNAL validity have been conducted. It is also important to remember that a single study often encounters many issues and biases and research findings must be replicated. Remember what Ioannidis (2005) said on the topic!
I know how much the scientific community loves a positivity bias but remember that about 34 people from the experimental condition alone were infected with HIV, although a lower rate, this is still something that people need to be aware of.
I’m really not trying to negate the research on this topic because it really is a promising start but I firmly do not believe we are at the stage where broad statements can be made about having proof. Especially when many people don’t have access to actual research papers from which they can draw their own conclusions about what they feel is safe behaviour for themselves.
I truly never meant to cause offense to anyone either in the research community or the HIV community, and I’m very very sorry if I have. My Phd that I’m current;y working on is actually on social perceptions of HIV positive people in relation to medical and behavioural treatment compliance (focused specially on WEIRD populations) and I would hate to contribute to the fears and stereotypes
MultiMel0 I
This was really educational. Great Work
Man these comments are fucking awful
Severius Brandusa LMFAOOOOOOOO
Are you kidding me?? you should tell your partner that you have hiv regardless of what you think. Before you have sex you should metion that you have it not aftet sex. Dont go tell random ass people unless you plain on hooking up later.
mindless Magyar
If your using a condom then you don't need to know until it breaks or something, get to know someone and trust them first before you tell them.
Girl101 I don’t know where you live but you can NOT have sex here in the US without informing someone you have HIV.
Thank god I found this video, I've started being sexually active for about a year now and I'm scared of contracting an std like HIV but I feel a little better about it now and am not freaking out so much. I still plan on being careful but I feel relieved and glad knowing that people are still living life to the fullest while being HIV positive
No need to freak out, but protect yourself. This video is not exposing the whole truth about life with HIV.
You sure as hell better be scared of AIDS. Don't let this politically correct video stir you into thinking otherwise.
Just be careful. HIV is not a disease to be taken lightly.
Wow glad to see this video has done such good. Yup dont worry guys HIV is just like the common cold. Some people are actually even GLAD that they have HIV, so ya dont worry about a thing man go fuck all the unprotected man butt you can.
rick peryy s-sarcasm?
People are so ignorant on HIV. You don't need to be scared of them or feel sorry for them. Treat them with dignity and respect.
the two white men would make such a cute couple
I still wouldn't take risk
they are both positive
Mocha the vegan
Girl nobody asked you though
You still need to wear protection even if both are positive. It's not good to transmit different (or even mutated) versions of the virus, it can fuck up the meds if I understand it correctly.
How dare you, assuming their sexual orientation!
It's scaring me how many people are actually believing that if you are on The Cocktail that you can't pass it on. Good luck with that if you choose to sleep with an HIV sufferer unprotected.
trip2themoon
Omg ask the doctor; you cannot pass it on whilst your undetectable.
Well you go sleep with an HIV infected person unprotected then. Bet you wouldn't if you had prior knowledge of their illness.
Um. I don't even have unprotected sex. A LOT of people don't for many reasons. You're acting like the ONLY way to have sex is without a condom.
There is a small chance for infection, even if it's undetectable
lol
Things not to say to someone who's HIV positive: 'Raw dog me'
Unless you are a bug chaser, heh.
Because they just might.
@@trey87 You'll have to look elsewhere because you won't get one from someone with HIV on treatment.
elis you wouldn't catch it if they're on their meds.. just saying
On the first question ("how long do you have left?"), it's worth remembering that as recent as a few decades ago HIV really was a terminal illness. Thankfully that's no longer the case, and hopefully it can one day be cured altogether.
"I actually love being HIV positive" yeah right
Mari Ni exactly. Someone should tell him if he loves it so much stop taking your medication. Show us how much you really love it.
y’all are fucked up in the heads. smh.
@@MattyBlue shut up, moron
she's said it's as she can help other people who are HIV positive. she's happy and there's nothing wrong with that, shes happy as she has the ability to comfort other and make them happy and that's amazing
It's like they're another buzz feed
They are a british buzz feed.
Seems OK to me. There is a lot of fear around HIV, this is a great way to educate.
XxC0dProsxX Why? Just like the video states, it is an exceptionally minor disease with treatment which is for some reason considered massive.
Jamessuperfun All diseases should be feared. HIV is a disease. It's not a thing anyone should want or feel welcome to. It's like putting on a coat. You are in fear of catching a cold even though it's so minor. This video promotes unsafe sex.
XxC0dProsxX No, this video promotes accepting those with a disease. There is unwarranted fear and concern directed at people specifically with HIV. Other diseases are not socially viewed as being comparably severe, despite HIV being pretty meaningless. Disease is not good but it is not the end of the world either in the vast majority of cases.
It doesn't promote unsafe sex at all, it merely provides a platform for people who have HIV to explain what they feel the issues with society's response to them are. There are a lot of good points here, the general understanding of HIV is limited and wrong.
This is not promoting unsafe sex, it's promoting fact.
This makes me less afraid about getting tested regularly thank you
lynsays Passtime bro you should still get tested regularly. HIV isn't the only disease in town
Thank you me too I hope people understand things like this more people can make up the most craziest things about things like this because they don’t know what it is they should not say anything about something if you they don’t know what they are talking about so I agree
Another thing people don't realize is that a person with HIV can die of a health issue utterly unrelated to HIV, like a heart attack.
Gotta ask people. If you're not sure, don't sleep with them. And be nice to people who have it. It's no walk in the park. And condoms! Please for the love of everything, use condoms!
Are people still having this conversation?
These are the questions that were being asked in the 90s and 00s.
The level of ignorance and prejudice is quite scary.
And I say this as someone who went through the AIDS crisis in the 80s.
Fuckinell.
Am I the only one that feels like this glamorises HIV?
Ive had patients that are HIV positive and people will literally wear gloves and a gown to go in the room. They get so mad at me when i shake hands or hug my patients they always wisper to me wear gloves. Seriously what did my patient do cover the room in blood like oh no we just hugged i better go get tested. I expect better from those in the medical profession but people can and will be stupid.
Anyone who says no to do you wish you never got it is a liar. Yeah, I love having to choke downa sack of pills the size of a large bag of Skittles every day and suffering all the side affects during the trial and error phase of sorting my anti-viral cocktail is wonderful
I've actually found a lot of people who've had experiences they didn't plan or want still say they wouldn't change it. Our lives shape who we are as people; for many the idea of removing bad experiences or mistakes would mean fundamentally changing themselves. From the outside the answer seems obvious, but when you've lived a worthy life regardless (or even because) of what happened to you, the answer isn't quite as obvious.
With regards to the HIV virus it is obvious that any sane person would not want to live with it. Would you want a permanently damaged immune system. Have you ever seen a person who's CD4 count is so low they can't fight off the common cold and their bodies are covered lesions that the immune system would normal kill off? It's truly awful and there's no way they'd not jump at the chance to be free of that terrible virus.
It's not sacks of pills at all BTW.
trip2themoon Well said! finally someone sane in the comment section
it's actually just one or two pills, lol
Thanks guys.. I'm so glad that we've come so far, that people can live with this, mostly like anybody. I remember when my friend 'came out' about his status to me and I thought right away that I might lose him in, say, a decade or so. I hadn't realised that it's much better than that now. Regardless, DON'T take HIV lightly - you may be able to live a long time with it but there comes a time when you could spend your whole day popping medicines and timing everything you do around them, dealing with side effects and being barred from traveling to some countries.
I love this video bc I learned so much! But at the same time be careful saying 0 risk, no chance of passing it on, bc that's simply not true. Decreased risk, yes. But ppl should have the accurate information to make those decisions for themselves (when choosing to be sexually intimate with someone that has HIV)
People who have HIV and still have sex with multiple people like its no big deal should be locked up for reckless endangerment,aggravated assault and attempted murder and the key should be thrown away.
These people are very positive.
HIV positive
They should do one of these for deaf people.
And that's why I wrap it before I tap it
I’m happy I’m HIV positive WTF
I didn't know that when your taking medication you didn't pass on the virus. Thank you for sharing, I learned something new about HIV.
Silver Vegan Brown there is always a chance to spread it, even with medication. I teach awareness to at-risk youth.
SongBird2020 if someone is on medication and has an undetectable viral load then there is *no* chance of sexually transmitting HIV. I'm a microbiologist and public health practitioner, by the way.
Isn't "do you wish it never happened?" An unhelpful question to ask about anything that has happened? Not like the person to whom the thing happened can make it unhappen if they decide they do wish it had never happened!
I'm bisexual and wouldn't have sex with someone whose HIV positive, with or without protection. I don't think they're somehow less of a person, but my health and the way people view the LGBT+ community is more important to me than your feelings.
what the fuck does this have to do with being LGBT?
Yeah of course because that person is HIV Positive. If they become undetectable, and have been taking their medication they cannot pass the virus on to a sexual partner. Educate yourselves
I once told my friends that I had a great uncle who died from HIV. All they did was laugh because they automatically assumed that he got it from sex.
My relative got it from a blood transfusion with blood that had the HIV virus. I wish people realised that you can get it from blood transfusions too
was that one girl on Jeremy Kyle?
yeahman
Nartu Fody no wonder she has aids
naaa it was one of the inspirational Jeremy Kyle episodes
Alison Smith SMH.
It's not really your damn business if I'm HIV positive if I'm not going to have a relationship with you.
very informative video! question (which i hope doesn't appear disrespectful or insensitive because i don't mean for it to): is HIV now generally preferable to conditions like type 1 diabetes, what with recent advances in medicine?
i would think so. even with taking medication, life expectancy is about 11-13 yrs shorter for people w type 1 diabetes, and for someone w hiv who takes meds, life expectancy is the same as for hiv- people (or possibly a few yrs shorter, but no more than 8).
however, if we're not looking at a purely medical standpoint, then i think type 1 diabetes would be preferable, bc it lacks the social stigma that hiv carries.
interesting!
Rachel Day preferable? So someone chooses their preference? Wrong choice of words. You can only compare and contrast conditions.
Jenna Trowbridge...and diabetes is not transferable!
*****
true!
As a medic, I am pleased videos like this are out there for people to learn more about HIV. If managed properly, HIV is just another chronic disease like diabetes although with even better prognosis. Most importantly people, get tested and know your status. It's better to know and manage it properly than to get a diagnosis 10 years later when it's rather late.
this was fairly educational actually. so if a man or woman or both are HIV positive and are on the right medication they can have kids naturally and the child won't have aids? and say if my partner was positive and I wouldn't have to worry about using protection with him etc? providing he's on the right meds. is that how it works or am I wrong? very curious to know
Yes. The video is irresponsible. It should emphasize the need to use condoms and the need to remain on medications.
Someone I know got it from their husband. He had it, then she had it, their child is and was 100% healthy.
Yes, you could have children naturally and provided you're on medication the child would not have HIV.
And yes, people with HIV who are on medication and have a undetectable viral load will not sexually transmit the virus. However I would still recommend protection to everyone to protect against other forms of STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhea etc.
If 2 people who have a hiv. And have unprotected sex they can have hiv 2 there is hiv 1 and hiv 2. No one wants the number 2. Although they're still doing research on or I don't really know that much about it
Thank you for this video.
First of all, I do not have the virus, but I had many misconceptions of the virus. Because of a traumatic experience growing up I became very misinformed about the virus and as a result the idea of the virus would scare me and I was deathly afraid. This video opened my eyes to the fact that HIV isnt as scary as I make it out to be. Although I am not fully informed, this video helped me open my eyes to become a tad bit more informed every day.
I learnt a lot watching this.
I don't believe any of them who said they wouldn't want to NOT have HIV. I get that they are comfortable with themselves and they have learned to navigate the world as an HIV+ person but to say you'd rather have it than not is bullshit.
Guys you are doing a great job
these videos are so fun because you can see its a good way to relieve stress for them. They usually have to keep this stuff quiet but now they can rant and relate to others like them
But one thing we can be sure of..... SOME people who are HIV positive are careless. You can USUALLY avoid HIV by asking the person you are having sex with, whether or not they have HIV.
(NOTICE: PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO THE CAPITALIZED WORDS BEFORE YOU TRY TO START AN ARGUMENT WITH ME)
Ashton xx
Yeah coz everyone is truthful right enough
People lie, people cheat, people don't know their status and it can take up to 6 months before a test can accurately determine a person's status.
So no, while asking is a good thing, it isn't quite enough.
Condoms are the way to go
People are people regardless of status or not. Treat others with kindness and get educated. Props to this channel for covering many subjects .
I’m sorry but I would want someone I was about to sleep with to tell me straight away some of these are legitimate questions to a potentially serious illness I feel like they are answering these questions like it’s something completely harmless
Hannah Willow exactly!! It’s completely selfish to not tell the person they are hiv positive. It is and should be illegal and even if they are on medication the person should be charged with not disclosing the face that they are hiv positive. There is always a risk of spreading the virus and everyone deserves the right to know that.
Where I live, if you don't tell someone you've had sex with you have an STD it's illegal.
eileen perez
In the UK too
well you learn something new every day. i had no idea that a treatment stops you from being able to pass it on to others.
ikr! I never knew that either, was good to learn about a virus I don't know much about :)
Even with the treatment, there's NOT a 0% chance of passing it on, AND if people don't use the treatment correctly, they will be contageous
That guy who said he can't pass it on is talking shite.
Surely though if you're HIV positive and you meet someone you're supposed to tell them before sleeping with them, it's unfair to take that risk with someone who isn't aware they're taking that risk, untreated, HIV can be very dangerous and allowing someone to contract it with out them knowing is very bad.😐
George Whittaker
Omg you should be using condoms when you meet someone new, regardless of having it or not, tell someone when you know and trust them NOT immediately, only wreckless people don't wear a condom\insist on your partner wearing one, I'm a woman and I will admit I've been wreckless in the past and I'm lucky not to have caught anything but NEVER again.
You should do one with things not to say with people with anxiety or borderline personality disorder
"Actually I love being HIV positive" I'm done with this world b
“You should tell people straight away” isn’t a good thing to say to anybody with an issue
Why would you love being HIV positive?!
How much does it cost per year to keep 1 HIV patient alive?
can you do "things not to say to an artist" c:
Samantha Ferrer edgy
"omg you draw??? Draw me"
"What do you mean it's gonna cost money??"
"Omg so you are like Picasso or something"
"Why did you go to art school? Arent you good at maths or other subjects"
"What a nice hobbie"