Tips for Switching to Dresses & Skirts (and ditching pants)
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- Опубліковано 13 бер 2022
- I switched to dressing mostly in dresses and skirts a couple years ago. Here are my tips for making the transition to a more feminine way of life! I share mental strategies and realizations along with practical tips.
I’m wearing in this video:
Bow Tie Blouse amzn.to/3KMoxmP
Crewneck Cardigan amzn.to/3L0Goa7
A-line Skirt (similar) amzn.to/34Kn01w
I am a grandmother who has worn only dresses for many years. Here are some tips for wearing dresses in the winter where gets cold. The first layer on my legs is a comfy pair of tights. I prefer ones that are european made and have a mixture of cotton , wool or cashmere in them. I have found these online. I find nice soft thigh high woolen socks to go over the tights and and I wear a pair of bloomers, which I make from marino wool long johns that I cut so that they don't show below the dress.
Combined with nice cozy sweaters and coats, I am warm! ❤
I’m a teenager looking to be a bit more modest. I also love the idea of embracing my feminine qualities!
Love that you are so young but want to look feminine ❤
I think it's quite easy to be casual in a skirt/dress - cotton, loosely fitted dress with footless tights, trainer socks and converse in summer, and leggings, thick socks and ankle boots in winter. Dresses lend themselves more to layering.
I look up to you sm I’m 16 and trying to make my faith the center of my personality being an orthodox Christian is so hard in high school
When I've gone to Europe before Covid, the women always looked beautifully dressed; hair, makeup and clothes are just perfect and feminine.
Do you know there are about 30 countries in Europe ? Makes no sense to say that you have been to Europe. We European women are completely different one from another. (And even within the same nation, although I would argue that we French women all tend to wear minimal makeup/simple hairstyles/outfits and that is a true stereotype)
@@sofitocyn100 so true and maybe in touristy areas or when going out we get dolled up but right now it is rainy in Sweden and people in their day to day lives do wear pants
@@sofitocyn100 When I was in France the women looked very well put together and stunning. I am from Australia where no one dresses up and flip flops with shorts to the shops is the norm and partly as it just gets very hot.
This! I'm originally from a small town in a third world country and suddenly going to Europe really opened my eyes on how much women can get dolled up, they all seemed ready to appear on live TV lol. It's refreshing to see someone reassuring you that it's okay if you want to dress up a little more, back in my hometown it was looked down upon and people were really jealous
@sofitocyn100 Yes, I do know. My comment made sense to me, and maybe your comment makes sense to me and the 63 people who liked it.
I relate so much to the feeling overdressed! That is a biggie for me. A few years back I tried to transition into skirts and dresses all at once and it really did set me back because of the identity shift and legalism in my circle, but I still want to get back into wearing more now several years later! I am loving this video Abbey!
I also wanted to say another practical tip I've found is find dresses that flatter your body shape! I find this makes all the difference for me. For years I didn't know my body type and still learning what looks good vs. What is unflattering! I don't mean to show off your body obviously, but it really has helped me fo figure out my body type so I can pick items that make me feel good and still look modest.
Yes! Great tip! I’ll have to include that in a future video. So happy to hear your experience with trying to transition to dresses all at once. I thought it would make it easier (as going all in usually suits me) but it totally just gave me anxiety 😂
Love how real your video is as a mother. Thank you for this video.
As someone who was raised to wear skirts and dresses, who struggled with it growing up ( I was a tomboy haha) and who couldn't find the "why" of wearing skirts and dresses until a few years ago when I was researching for my Modesty book - I can't thank you enough for sharing this!! It is so uplifting and needed and beautiful. God bless you!
xoxoxo
I was also raised in that way, but didn't find a way to feel comfortable in it yet... How did you do that? 😪🙁🙉
Lovely presentation and I agree 100%. I have always enjoyed being a woman. I was in Vienna Austria years ago and my Austrian friends invited me to a summer afternoon function in the hills outside the city. I asked what are you wearing and they said jeans and blazer. I wore a favourite black off the shoulder cotton and lace dress . I don’t own jeans. The friends looked surprised when they saw me and while at the event someone asked me if I am an Opera singer. I went to the function in what I liked to wear and I enjoyed myself
Yes be comfortable in what you like..😊
I haven't worn pants in over 10 years! If I put on a pair of pants, they won't last a day, lol. And I live on a homestead but I can do anything in skirts or dresses that I can do in pants. Even in the winter.
Please give me tips! We just got our homestead and before this had started switching to skirts and dresses. I’m struggling with navigating through the briars in the fields, mud around the lake, and random aspects of the woods. I have 3 boys, the youngest not walking, so I’m very active.
I'm turning 35 this year and realised I want to be more feminine! I need to get used to the feeling of feeling too dressy. Been casual for so long haha thank you!
Living in a northern climate, leggings under a skirt or dress are very cozy.
I’m 25 and I just decided to start wearing them a lot more often. I went shopping at a few thrift stores and found some great dresses and skirts. It is a great way to see what you like. I’m a mom as well. My job and my hobbies aren’t super conducive to wearing nice clothes or dresses but I plan to wear them a lot more otherwise
I am in my 50s and within the last 3 year have started wearing mostly dresses or skirts. I still own some jeans but rarely ever wear them. I started gravitating away from jeans because I find them very uncomfortable. If I am going to wear pants I prefer palazzo pants, the ones that look like your wearing a skirt but your not. Great video. Very helpful information.
This year I have changed the way I wear my hair, my makeup and now I am also transitioning to wearing more skirts and dresses also. I find them a lot more comfortable and I have always loved dresses. I have decided to embrace my feminine style of dressing. I am 45 years old. I also have found what colors to wear as well. It's been a fun year exploring what really works for me. Thank you so much for your video.
About 9 years ago I was at goodwill and saw a dress that I liked and I bought it. It was a black cotton stretch dress with straps and it flaired somewhat at the bottom. It was not tight, it fit comfortable so I wore it to my daughter's birthday and to my surprise I was given many compliments. The dress was not fancy just a black casual dress. I was very happy and felt great so I went back to Goodwill and bought a couple more. It took a bit of trial and error to find dresses that fit my shape and height but in time I have collected several good looks. Dresses don't have to be formal looking or like your going to church or a party. A shift dress and a maxi or summer dress are the kinds I've stuck with because they are comfortable and suite my figure. You don't have to dress in frills or crazy fancy fabrics unless you really want those styles but can use some simple styles that will make you look great. Don't be intimidated by switching to dresses find some tshirt dresses to start off with or sweater dresses if you live in cooler weather. You can also find maybe a maxi dress and wear it once and a while which are great at hiding any figure flaws. Believe me it has been so nice to just put on a dress and shoes and go about my day without tucking in blouses, zipping tight pants and in my weather , feeling hot. I know alot of women would really also like the fact that laundry is much less a hassle because there is less clothes to wash. Simply put women could really benefit from trying on and using dresses because they are comfortable, inexpensive if you shop cheap and less of a hassle to figure out what to wear. Try it out ... I can guarantee you won't go back to pants.
I love dresses so fast and easy in the mornings
I did go back to pants but it's a long story. I still wear skirts and dresses but I haven't been able to go cold turkey yet. I think the #1 reason is dealing with crazy weather in the Midwest.
I am getting married in June and my goal is to give up pants by then. I've been thinking and praying about it for about a year, and more and more I feel like it's what I want to do. I am confident Mary never wore pants.
Well, Jesus never wore pants either… best wishes for your marriage and striving to be more feminine in your everyday wear.
"@@AbbeyClint Jesus never wore pants either" is an insanely ignorant comment. He never dressed in women's clothes. Mary never dressed in men's clothes.
@@c.b.s.3495 pants didn’t exist until at least a thousand years after Christ’s death. I am confident that neither men nor women wore pants at the time of Christ. It’s extremely ignorant to act like pants are male clothing. Women have been wearing pants since the 18th century. Even when I wear pants they aren’t men’s pants…
I read Dressing with Dignity and the history of women wearing pants and it was eye opening.
@@user-nb2sn6id4r God bless you as well 💗😊.
I only wear dresses and skirts, but I never thought much about it. We live in hot climates, so it was easy to phase out long pants. They weren't comfortable in hot humid weather anyway. It's interesting to see other people switching to wearing only dresses and skirts for various reasons. 🌺✈️ Heidi
Welcome to my world. I wear maxi dress and skirts for years. I have always loved dressing comfortably and unique to me. I like floral pattern. My outfit need to go in at the the waist because I have an hour glass figure. I think it best to know your shape and then you can learn what style of dress or skirt suit your figure. Happy Mother's day from Ireland. In Ireland l think it is next Sunday 💐
How wonderful! Great point about dressing for your figure. I’ll have to remember to include that tip in a future video. Thanks for the well wishes!
A jean jacket does the trick in making things casual
Femmenity is such a beautiful thing
It really is
As a child I hated wearing dresses and skirts, as a young women I wore them rarely and mostly in summer to stay cool, and now in my fifties I started hating to wear pants lol. I'm thinking of even getting short dresses I can wear with leggings for things like hiking. It's a matter of wanting to feel comfortable, literally and feel attractive and not wanting my hips squashed with ill fitting material anymore. For some women this is about filling a feminine role but that's not really how I see it, although I don't have a lot of "masculine" interests I happen to be good at hammering nails for example. One day I realized that dressing like a guy or wearing a frilly dress makes a zero percent difference to hitting the nail on the head. Anyway it's really good to see more girls and women getting back to dresses.
I do want to make this transition, maybe not exclusively but more often. They are so modest and feminine! So glad you made this video, watching now! 🤗💕🌼
dresses are so much cooler in summer. and you can find casual dresses, especially in summer. Also because dresses come in different shapes, you can find one that flatters your shape.. hide what you want to hide, highlight what you want to highlight. Skorts can work well if you need to be bending over
I love your advice and I love that you have your children just being children. My daughter (1) and I watched this video together because she was so interested in your daughter.
I'm so glad!
I got rid off all my jeans, shorts and pants 3 years as I didn’t like wearing them at all, I love feminine skirts and dresses all the year round, I just stopped over a summer and packed all pants away and within a month I gave them all to charity, I also grew out my natural curly hair to keep it long, I only wear midi or maxi length and in the winter I wear thick thermal or fleece, tights or leggings
I'm 18!! I love high fashion and the old Hollywood glam style, which I'm why I'm trying to stray away from jeans
Old Hollywood knew how to dress 🤌🏻 Go for it!
I now wear skirts or dresses everyday and I found that the switch from pants was made easier by starting with a long denim skirt. Love this video☺
Reclaiming ladyhood, priceless. Being set apart from the world is an accountability tool. Conviction is priceless. Ladies that embrace long dresses and skirts showcase the masterpiece ladies were created to be, and an encouragement to fellow believers.
@@spacecat3887 why would I ask you to do anything? I don’t believe in forcing people to things. I get tired of feminists movement telling me how to be a man. The real beauty of a lady embraceing long dresses or headcovering is a lady’s personal choice to do so. I don’t believe in mandates.
@@spacecat3887 I believe headcovering is a crown for a daughter of the king of the universe, a physical symbol of a spiritual protection. Headcovering is a personal choice.
@@spacecat3887 I am balding, so I already wear a hat.
You made good points !
I’m in my sixties and am a special needs school bus driver . Our dress code is pants / nice jeans . So I look nice and clean not like a slob . Sometimes I’ll wear a button down collar blouse , a cardigan . But nice not snug jeans . I do appear professional at work . On Sunday’s I wear either a dress or skirt for my TLM ( SSPX ) .
Yes! Pants are totally fine for certain things and I love that you dress them up to make it more feminine. I absolutely agree that dresses and skirts are a must for Mass 👍🏻
Bravo! Great to hear that you are switching to skirts/dresses! 😀
Thanks ☺️ it’s quite the journey
I’ve been wanting to make the switch to dresses and skirts but I’m easing into it like you said. I’ve started to build up my wardrobe with tights and fleece leggings (it’s cold here). I’m newly postpartum with baby no 6 and am trying to incorporate these changes while having nursing flexibility. Thanks for your video!
Hello beautiful! It has been almost a year since I started wearing only maxi dresses and omg, I love it! I wish I could have started earlier but the problem was that long dresses was not that available and if they were then price would be WAY too high. So, one day I happily discovered shein and finally I could find long dresses that are colorful and have reasonable price. I wish I didn't have to buy from shein because I know they don't treat their workers the best but girl...what choice do I have? To make dresses myself? Maybe, but I don't know how and here in Denmark you can't even find material in colors, we have all mainly black, white and beige....I am not about that life. So yeah, from the day I discovered shein, I have been wearing dresses in all 4 seasons. Sometimes I have to be creative and make dresses wearable because most of them tend to be quite transparent, so I layer up. And the last thing that I want to say - we don't have to have a special reason for wearing or doing what we like, the reason itself that we like it, is special enough. P.S. in my profile picture you can see me wearing saree, I have so many of those, this is just another long dress option for me, and no, I am not from India, originally from Latvia, living in Denmark. :)
I love SHEIN as well and it’s what helped me transform my wardrobe! Interesting to see I’m not alone
Hey Abbey, great tips. Love your outfit and hair 😍
LOVE THIS & needed thiss! Thank you! ❤
I found your channel yesterday and I LOVE wood anything in a home and between that and the outfits I’ve seen you in,they just flow so nice! I’m definitely going to have to be more comfortable with my clothing in the future I find since I’ve become a stay at home mom all my dress clothes stay out away because “I don’t have time” but it would be so nice to be dressed up more than just Sunday mornings. Thanks for sharing this!!!
Yes! I’m so glad to have met you here online. It’s great to have SAHM friends with similar values 🤗 I hope you have fun dressing up at home. It’s really given me a positive view of my everyday life
Great tips!
Great ideas! I am also trying to use more dresses and skirts as I am much more comfortable on those. To your tips to the cold I would had pairing dresses and skirts with tall or over-the-knee boots!
This was very helpful!!! Thank you!
This was my first time to see you. I really liked what you presented. It's very practical. I also like how you are so calm and natural with your little girl
Thank you so much!
Great tips! I am also on this journey wearing skirts and dresses.. I do wear overalls at times as well.. but anyhow the closest thing I have found to casual jeans in skirts is of course Jean skirts.....
So true! I don’t find them flexible enough for my needs though. To each their own
@@AbbeyClint yes I do agree with that... I am short so I have to get the right length not too short or too long and it can't be too heavy either or it weights me down...😊 I have a few that I found to work well. I like wearing light cotton materials the most...
Hi Abbey!
Good info!! I’ll remember this if I ever need it! Hahaha
Love, -Paul B.
😂 hopefully you’ll never need this! Hope you’re doing well!
I’ve been wearing dresses for three years. In winter I put leggings under bc my legs freeze.
Hello! My name is Ankhara! I'm a 23 year old girl who also exclusively wears dresses and skirts. I only wear long dresses and skirts and long-sleeved turtlenecks. Part of it is about modesty, part is about covering up my psoriasis. People find me confusing, I dress in long skirts and turtlenecks but I have short hair (bob haircut, had it since I was 12, currently it's a Louise Brooks style cheek-length bob), I also love video games. I'm a girly girl/feminine but not overly so. I love dresses/skirts because they're so comfortable. My favorite color is purple and so 99% of what I wear is purple. Is it weird that I wear my skirts and dresses to bed and wear my shoes to bed, too?
Such a good and helpful video, thank you !
You’re a beauty too subscribed :)
Thank you! And thanks for subscribing 🤗
Hi Abbey love your channel! I especially love when you show us how you cook. Since your daughters also wear dresses like you, would you allow them to wear pants if they wanted to when they were older ?
Thanks Aly! Yes, I allow my daughters to wear pants even now. I don’t make it a regular thing and they prefer to wear dresses. When we go camping or play in the snow they wear pants for sure!
These were helpful tips, thank you! I'm not a mother but as a viewer I want you to know that you don't have to feel like you should only pay attention to "us" while you're filming. Your daughter here seemed to be wanting attention the whole video and it would have made me happy to see you be able to talk to us while giving her the attention she was vying for. I do understand, though, that multitasking like that may be difficult, but I say simply so you can know it doesn't have to be one or the other.
I hope that doesn't seem rude to say, I do not say it with ill intent.
Thanks for your delicate comment. I consider the amount of attention I was giving her to be appropriate for the situation. I struggle to keep my thoughts in order when distracted. She does get lots of attention from me and even just sitting on my lap while I talk to “someone else” is a kind of attention. Thanks for being understanding of the difficulties of motherhood
Congratulations and quitting smoking cold turkey. My sister is trying to quit smoking now. I hope she can quit too I am also thinking about wearing more skirts and dressers because years and years and years ago women wore dresses it wasn’t even a think about to wear pants. I will just curious to know what that feels like. I am going to challenge myself for one week to try to wear nothing but dresses. Who knows I may never wear pants againo or may never wear dresses again who knows what will happen.
I am trying to lose 40 pounds in the next 5 months. I can count on one hand how many times I have worn a dress in my life. But I feel a conviction that I need to start dressing like a women. I have to buy all new clothes when I drop the rest of this weight so what better time than now? I am considering cold turkey. Sometimes though, when I set my mind on something (like this diet) I just know I can do it. This last year I gave up FB after over a decade if having it. I gave up cursing (ex sailor...didn't curse a day in my life until I joined the navy). I gave up drinking any alcohol, not even on occasion. This week is stopped drinking cream and sugar in my coffee cold turkey. I can do the cold turkey thing if I have a stubborn mind frame on it. I think I have that mind frame on dresses and feminine outfits. I do live on a farm though and it gets cold here so jeans might be allowed for a while. And what to do about the boots issue? I need a boot that can be practical on the farm but look decent in a skirt.... 5.5 months and my weight loss journey should be at maintain level and dress buying will commence. I have told my sister and my best friend and my husband already. I can't wait to feel comfortable being feminine and not a lumberjack lol I am sooo happy I just found your channel!
Update: Day 29 of my journey. I'm down 15 pounds and going strong. I did find my first maxi skirt last week and I wore it out in town! It was soooo comfortable. I have been missing out. Jeans can not compare.
I am now down 37 pounds! A couple days ago I went to the Goodwill and found a lot of skirts and shirts to buy. I just received some new, feminine boots to wear with them. The skirt I got before had become basically all I could wear recently because my pants and shorts kept trying to fall off. It's not easy doing farm work while holding your pants up. I have a nice dress on its way to my house also. I am pretty comfortable in skirts now and can see ditching everything else besides dresses here shortly. I still have another 17 pounds or so to go before my ultimate goal but I'm still holding the course.
I wish I didnt have to go cold turkey. I had surgery while in process of experiencing a traumatic miscarriage and the way I was cut pants just won't work for probably a year. I know from a previous surgery I wasnt able to wear normal pants for about a year and it was pretty painless switching to high wasted elastic. But even that will not work with the way I was cut. To top it off I am having the learning curve of wearing them at work because my job entails helping others raise and educate their very young children. I bought some dresses om Amazon and they arent working too well. I care for an 18 month old who likes to grab the top of my shirts and they are a bit more stretchy than I would like...seems important enough that I will have to get lace covers or something to protect my modesty. I was at work the other day and I noticed mind you after looking in the mirror probably in different lighting several times that my brand new dress was more sheer than I would have liked after only a few washes. I am only 3 weeks into this and I havent worn dresses mostly at all for Years! I was so mortified but all I could do is power through the day knowing my clients are aware of what I have been through. Dressing for the day has become completely stressful and I feel like I need to start sewing again to find something that will work for my job. This morning I cried to and and from work because I am so stressed about getting dressed and being able to stay modest. I always found pants more modest just because I wore stuff that wouldnt show skin in places that aren't appropriate. I dont have the luxury of wearing things around my waste and really am grieving pants right now as well as what happened.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I have found some decent dresses on sites like SHEIN and Temu. They are inexpensive enough that you can get a few and try different styles without breaking the bank. I will share a haul soon. Best of luck with finding dresses that you feel comfortable in. I also wear stretchy bloomer shorts under mine; maybe there are some with gentle enough waistbands for you.
Boxer briefs are great under to keep chafing at bay.
Great tip! I wear something similar called a pettipant amzn.to/3MPLsjb
What about winter and tracksuit s
Careful! Your little girl there is liable to steal the show! 🙂
There was a year where I did wear nothing but skirts, but recently I've started wearing them more because sometimes I need that extra modesty.
I recommend avoiding fast fashion. Etsy and thrift stores usually have modest and feminine skirts and dresses!
I understand the sentiment but it’s really not avoidable in my experience
@@AbbeyClint It depends on personal circumstances, I’m sure.
She in has modest dresses and skirts for cheap
Use dawn dish soap as a prestain soak on greese stains on clothes.
I will give that a try! You have given me hope
I'm 51 and haven't worn pants for 20 years. I prefer dresses. My house burned a couple of months ago and I only had my pajamas. I need to buy a couple of summer dresses but am having trouble finding modest plus size dresses that are made from hot weather friendly fabric. Any recommendations?
Dainty Jewells. They also have a foundation site that is discounted and 100% of the purchase price goes to the charity. They also have sample sales.
Skirt society is another brand.
I know Shein has a limited amount of plus sized dresses. I don’t know where would be a good resource for you. Sorry
I’m a 20 years old Muslim woman.
in islam we’re encouraged to body our sex so if you’re male you should dress & act like male, if you’re a female you should act and dress like a female so that’s my main reason like it’s the root that I go back to, but beside that I always LOOOOOOVED dresses and skirts I’m obsessed with them pants make me so uncomfortable because of the material and how they hold and restrict my legs, I also have big hips so my jeans are not easy to get in.
I grew up doing what others do
not taking in consideration my body type, my preferences but now I want to wear what I like, what makes me comfortable and look feminine.
I believe that when u look great u feel great so you do great ❤
I wish we could all bring back modesty dresses and skirt !
Do you have any advice for work dress codes that don’t allow skirts/dresses? I am a skirt/dress girly and I hate my work attire!
I think that blouses make pants look much more feminine. So if you can wear girly blouses. Also, certain pants are more feminine, such as high waisted trousers.
Workout and swimming modest outfits on a budget please
I just can't find a way to wear skirts with my current wardrobe 😭 I feel like I'm gonna have to buy tons of blouses since I don't have any
Do it little by little. You’ll have enough in no time.
Practical tips start at 7:11
I'm a teenager who is playing with wearing dresses and skirts
Dresses and skirts, most of them, are amazing comfortables....but from time to time..use a (sticky) pant...it's OK also
Your home is lovely? Do you ever use your fireplace?
Thank you! No we don’t because the chimney is questionable
There are appropriate fabrics and patterns for skirts and dresses for each season as well as colors. Pastels and florals are more appropriate for spring. Bold colors, stripes, Madras plaids and check patterns known as ginghams are best for summertime. Light weight cottons and linens are good for spring and summer.
Heavier fabrics, patterns and colors are for fall and winter. That would be tweeds, worsted wool (which can be a little itchy) and knits are appropriate for the time of year. Houndstooth, paisleys, tartan plaids are good for that time of year. Of course colors like browns, Forrest green, dark greys and navy are great for fall and winter. It’s hard to find skirts and dresses in these fabrics and prints so you may have to thrift those at places OTHER THAN Goodwill, Salvation Army or St. Vincent de Paul.
Polka dots can be worn year round. They come in light weight fabrics most of the time. It’s always good to have these basic colors in your wardrobe year round in heavy and lightweight fabrics; black, navy, tan, grey, white, red and cream. Heals in each of these colors will be a good base for your shoe wardrobe as well as flats and matching purses.
We should be avoiding things made in sweat shops as much as possible and the polyester dresses don't break down very well and it is better to avoid purchasing these brand new.
Great point!
I love my dresses but I don’t want to ruin them with spitting up babies and wetting my sleeves while washing dishes or oil splatter
Then you love them too much 😂 find some dresses that you love but also are capable of cleaning easily so your babies will have beautiful memories of you when they puke in your lap 😂
This helped me and I wanted to be a modest woman.
Deuteronomy 22:5
5 “A woman shall not wear a man’s garment, nor shall a man put on a woman’s cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God.
If you look feminine enough anything you wear can look feminine
Man this is such a struggle to make this transition. One thing I can’t stand is getting stared at or too much attention. I don’t want to get cat called by men.