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growing up i was told i was a genius so i internalized the idea that i was naturally smart without needing to put in any effort and now i'm in college always behind on my assignments and barely passing my classes
at first its having fun and not having to worry about your grades and then its having a mental breakdown in the school bathrooms cause your pretty much a teachers helper and always have to help people when the teachers helping others like when did i sign up for that??? next year when the teachers do that im gonna be like "its your job to help them not mine"
It feels straining being the gifted kid because everyone EXPECTS you to be hella smart and or talented, plus have such high grades. And when you wanna take a break they ask "whats wrong? Youre literally gifted, you don't need to study hard anyway" and it just makes you think you shouldnt or dont deserve a break 😀
Yes..YES THAT'S IT! My family has such high expectations on me , that i dont even know how to tell them the truth now cause i know theyll be angry. Not just my family but everyone around me
It's russian btw, you can use google translator if you need. Похожая ситуация. Учителя считают меня дофига умным для своего возраста, что очень мешает. От меня ожидают многое, а я просто пытаюсь выбраться из состояния выгорания и не впасть в депрессию во время учёбы. Это чертовски тяжело, а сверстники думают, что мне легче, чем им. Нет, ребят, мне пиздец как сложно, пожалуйста поймите.
i lit don't know how the hell to study because i've never had to study and then when middle school hit i started taking classes that were wayyy harder and everything went downhill
My mom thinks she’s doing something by not comparing me to other people but instead comparing me to my younger self and when she was my age, it’s actually just as damaging (at least to me) “ *But when you were younger you could make friends easily!* ” “ *You’re not the same, I want my little girl back* ” “ *Why are you always in your room and alone now? When you were a kid you were so much more talkative* ” “ *You know when I was your age I was friends with everyone, how come you can’t do that?* ” Yeah I got it, I grew up and I’m not what you expected anymore
My mom compared me to not just her and my younger self but my siblings and other kids why do parents do that. We're human we grow up, we change, we're all different people, and we don't have to be perfect because there is no such thing as perfect everyone has a different idea of perfect.
@@arohachanuwu9504 this epidemic is killing me omg. This year i’ll have to take a test to go to highschool ( vietnamese system) and im dying because this online classes make me do tired and sleepy. And i cant see friends anymore, chatting is not a good communication way. I feel like im having to work 3 times as hard as normal
i was more like "gifted imigrant kid" + "helpful and kind kid" + a little insanity from my biological father ( died in a car catastrophe ) = this fucking alcocholic smoking ingineering student train wreck know as me ( my friendships usually last on an average of 2 years when they get to know me a bit better )
Is it strange that the gifted talented kid is now a burnout with depression and the one no one notice is now a high achiever with flying colors and also grow many talents ?
“Oh, you’re so smart! I bet you’ll be famous in the future, unlike him.” “Oh, you’re failing? You were so smart, look at him, he’s so successful.” “Oh, you can’t do any of this? Why don’t you put more time in studying harder and being like her?” “Oh, you’re so good at this! See - even she looks up to you now!”
@@avidagamegerl1081 I don’t get it. It’s tiring when you have to live up to standards of society, just to make yourself feel like your worth something.
I was the “gifted child” every mom wanted to have as a daughter. I was the girl they use to compare their child to. I was that girl whom everyone looked up to. And now, I feel like I’m way behind everyone else. I always wonder what went wrong.
Hearing the sentence “I’m not mad, just disappointed” doesn’t comfort me more at all, it just makes me feel like a failure. Just say you’re mad. I’d rather have you be mad than disappointed in me.
you show them that youre talented at a young age and theyre amazed. amazement turns into expectation. expectation turn into a standard. and from that point on, anything less than that is a mistake
yeah my sister was like "it's not fair, she is smart, thats why she can do it" or "you suposse to know everithing, you're smart" like ????? really *sigh*. My parents say what I'm doing well and ist fine even if I got a 7 in my exams or like that (they jus't wanna good grades for me is not necessary a 10, here the points going to 0 to 10) and I'm glad whit that (but i'm pushen myself always because my good grades become part of my self steem and I know it's not sane I'm working on that), anyways what I tried to say is my sister is annoying/j nah, what I really try to say is, is fine not being that "smat" when you as a kid, you are human and try your best, you doing well and deserve a rest too, don't forget take care of yourself pls i'm proud of you and what you achieved
Ha, that's why I'm telling myself to not give a fuck anymore, they see it as a mistake, I see it as avoiding future suicidal attempts and even more worse breakdowns than I have now, and those breakdowns are for different personal reasons, I don't need to breakdown because of other peoples expectations, it's not fair to me.
Oh I know a kid in my class who experiences this. I feel so bad for her, speaking from a burned out "smart" kid. I hate it when people expect so much from people who get very high grades and judge them if they don't have full scores.
My English teacher was disappointed at me for getting a 9.75 and it was her fault. I wrote some sentence with ‘they’ as in an unspecified person and my teacher is transphobic so 💀 even all the other “gifted kids” were rooting for me but she never bothered to fix the score.
"your not living up to your potential" " you're a genius and you fit beauty standards why are you depressed?" ' your so mature for your age' ' why can't you get this concept I thought you were smart?' fun timezzzz
I would say i fit into beauty standards other then my huge eyebags also who can forget the helping people in school even though thats the teachers job and you can't complain about it cause then people will say "Gosh just help them your so rude" like they cant even notice the fact that the same pressure put on teachers is put on the gifted kids
@@sakshi52511 omg yess, I also have eye bags btw. But once in class I got like 3 things done because I had to help all my friends instead of doing my own work
BRO SAME, I passed 8th grade with straight a's, each either 95% or higher, while taking the hardest courses. THEN, my math teacher got mad at me because the hardest stuff she taught us, I understood after one example, but I couldnt understand the easiest thing she showed us after weeks of being taught to us.
There’s also the: “Oh my God, how can you do that?!!?” “Girl, you have to teach me” “You’re wayyy too good at this” But guess what’s the funny thing? Those people also call me “nerd” and act like it’s a whole celebration party and brag when they get a better grade then me. Like seriously, I DON’T CARE, I JUST WANNA PASS THE YEAR!!!
i was so proud i was a gifted kid. now that everyones expectations were high for me, my expectations are high for myself. i never study. i start crying whenever i get a single question wrong. edit : dear everyone who is relating to me, i love you. i hope you know that. i hope all of you get better soon. i still feel this way, but im trying to overcome it. please get help.
Same, but when I get a question wrong I start calling myself stupid, then I start getting anxious and think everyone will make fun of me because they have high expectations for me, it takes about 30 minutes for me to be kinda ok with the fact that I got a question wrong
being smart is one of the things I’m known for bc I don’t really know that many people and that’s just what they assume. When I get a question wrong I feel like I’m disappointing my parents bc they trust me with my grades and that I’ll do good. Anything below a 96av is fucking terrible for me and if I get a 80 - 90 on a quiz or test, u bet I’m gonna cry:,)
I'm dreading the "family disappointment" stage but i really don't think i have the same potential that i did when i was younger Idk something's changed. I've become more.. Dull. More hopeless. More overwhelmed. More lifeless. Idk what to do.
ah everyone join in the Burnt Out Gifted Kid Anthem with me! 106% "Good job, kiddo, keep it up" raising your hand for every question 98% "try and bring your grades up, kid" panic attacks in school bathrooms for every wrong answer 93% "your grades are slipping please pay more attention" doubt over every question's answer 86% "...." shaking hands before every test 75% "youre shooting youself in the foot kid" im trying please- 70% "youre gonna need to cut this extra curricular" study study focus study study studygodpleasestudybetter- 60% "sorry but to pass this year you need to take this extra course" sleeping in the back of class 58% "im dissapointed in you-" alright 45% "god whats wrong with you? you used to be so smart!" breaking down mid test 30% "idiot" sorry 29% "what do you want me to say? go back to studying" ...
Being academically gifted is a curse I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemies. Few school systems are designed to continue providing constant intellectual stimulation while not overwhelming their students. This is why “former gifted kid syndrome” exists. This is why you go from devouring books like a monster that can never be satiated to struggling through a single paragraph. You weren’t given the stimulation you needed to sustain your giftedness, and it atrophied like any unused muscle would. I’m so sorry they let you down.
Really?! No wonder I feel this way! This describes me perfectly! Thank you I've never understood why I am like this but now I understand! Thank you, I appreciate it so much!💕
I DONT. usually reply to youtube comments n this is like 3 weeks late but i just wanted to say that i really want to thank you, i kinda read that last sentence and cried /pos
Im eating frozen microwave mac n cheese and baja mtn dew at 3 in the night blasting "are you satisfied through" my bluetooth headphones so i'll go deaf. This is it. This is the peak of giften kid burn out.
I was always called a "gifted" kid, graduated high school at 16, getting into a Master degree in a prestigious university in my country. I am having more trouble keeping up with the pressure and workload, slowly going insane with the deadlines and suffering from impostor syndrome I'm sorry for venting here...
heyyyy you’re doing amazing!!!!!! don’t forget so take break ok? Do something to make you calm okkkkk Please take care of yourself Sending virtual hug to anyone need🥰
here's my "gifted kid" expirence -had fun in elementary -was popular because of my intelligence -grew to think I was on top of everyone else -middle school (7th grade specifically) hit like a truck -struggling to get work turned in on time -always expected to get amazing grades -turned to my comfort character instead of other healthy coping mechanisms to deal with problems -never developed good study/work habits because I never had to I hate school 👍
this is me right now.... ive been biting my nails so much they are bleeding constantly and every day i go home and i shake and cry and i feel like nobody cares
@@gustetamasauskaite4338 and you spend your life scrolling youtube just to criticize people who you don't even know, or understand? Can you ever acknowledge how some people get problems. you're the reason that people's mental health decline. Telling them this kind of thing doesn't help at all. I hope you know that.
@@purelyrlue7197 I only replied to that person. And I'm right, yall sitting hours on tiktok or phone and then complaining about being "depressed" or becoming dumb, because of others🤨
Haruka Nanase right? That's so true. When I was 6,I was considered as a genius, a gifted kid, but now that I'm 12, everybody thinks that's normal to put so much pression on me. I have to be good in everything. I must have good marks, I must have friends, I must be pretty( still on process), I have to be perfect. And I think I'm gonna go insane. Anyway, sorry for bother you with that ans sorry for my bad English(I'm French).
im literally failing every class except English, which is the ONLY class I've never failed at in all my years in school. my parents refuse to acknowledge I might have ADHD and god I'm in fucking shambles. I can't focus and missing work just keeps piling up and all i want is so just disappear. there's no way i'm going to college like this. sorry mom and dad, but you raised a failure
Hey, you're not a failure. My best friend has ADHD; he's screwed up countless times and you know what, he's taught me that failure isn't the end, and failure doesn't make YOU a failure. If you can get through this, you'll be a lot stronger than those of us who never learned how to handle failure. Here's my advice that I've seen work for him, can't speak if it'll work for you but it might help: 1.) He has little things he plays with in his hands, like these squishy balls and clay and stuff. He also leaves his computer and stuff at home when he goes to work. 2.) He can't afford medicine, but he says sometimes a single cup of coffee or something with caffeine can help. 3.) Get someone in your life to set a schedule for you if you can't stick to one yourself; he can't always set one for himself, but if I keep him on board it really helps him. 4.) When he has to really intensely study or work on something, he goes somewhere really quiet, like the quietest part of the local university library and he asks me to make sure he gets work done. Basically try to get yourself an accountability partner if you can, someone who's not your parents and who doesn't stress you out. 5.) I use an app called SelfControl to make it so I can't access anything except what I'm supposed to be working on for specific amounts of time. That plus pomodoro method works for me, maybe it'll help you. 6.) Do just one of the things that are piling up. The piling up causes panic and that causes procrastination; break the cycle by doing just one thing. You only have to do one thing, that's all, that's it. Just one. Sorry if this isn't great advice, it's just what I've seen work for him. But the most important thing to remember is, messing up doesn't make you a failure. Don't talk about yourself like that, it's not true-and if you can't do it for yourself, do it for me, a random internet stranger who cares about you.
@@MySchoolProject15 as someone with diagnosed adhd and being a gifted kid this is some great advice also stuff that is caffeinated slows our brain down, thats how the meds work so yes coffee is a great alternative as well as energy drinks
im in the same boat the school sytem failed you its not us ok try not to hate yourself so much try to find other things to put your self vaule on. it can help
Yeah I was in gifted classes since the 4th grade and now being a 7th grader I struggled a lot to keep myself to a C in math and spent most of the year with an F or D and that teacher was always so rude when it was like that and would say, “ You do so good in your other classes why are you so lazy in my class” like Tiarra I have bad mental health from this dumb program and your making it worse by telling I’m a failure when I can’t solve for X she even yelled at me for not finishing my final while I brought it home and stayed up struggling and going off of 3 cups of coffee just to make a shitty project that easy even a good given grade for me or my group who tried their best
I had the best grades until 7th grade, couldn’t understand things and now I’m back with my good grades but not learning anything tbh, just doing this because that’s what they expect of me
"You're gifted" "youre smart" "youll be fine" "you'll probably do better after you study" lies all lies. Im failing now due to the words you've told me. Thank you. :D
I'm so sorry you're going through that, that was basically what the entirety of the last school year was for me. I promise it will get better though, it may seem like there is no end in sight right now but I promise there is, just hang on for a little while longer. I'm sorry I can't offer any advice because my year did not end the best way but I just want to remind you that it's not the end and to be kind to yourself
@@MM-bx4iv honestly im going through my last year rn and due to covid n stuff my exams are sent to next year when im supoosed to end by this year. But online classes arent helping. My mental health is going who knows where. And my mom doesnt believe that i might have some mental issues. I had to force her through my aunt. Now i have to wait until covid is fully gone or something to be able to go out and actually get diagnosed. Also during my midterm exam which was like few months ago i got 5 failed subjects which is alot considering ive never really failed a class before. But yea thanks for your supporting words i appreciate it alot ✨
I was a straight A student, until last year. I was told anything other than an A was unacceptable and she was right- I still got honor roll, but my mom wasn't proud of me "You should've gotten your grades up" she was surprised when I crumpled it up while we were watching my sister's awards ceremony. she was still disappointed in me. she's been more proud of me, but only cause of my success in theatre and school. If I was failing she'd kill me. I believe that emotions get in the way of work now nobody cares how I feel they just want my money in the future I'm their "401k" I'm their money child but... i don't want that I don't even know what I want... when someone asks me what I want to do, my response is "My mom wants-" and when she finds out i'm nb and lesbian I'll be the family outcast... they'll hate me
I know it's been awhile since you've left this comment but I still wanted to say I believe in you. You can do anything, break free of their dream, pursue yours. At some point and I know how hard this is you've just got to say fuck em, I'm in control. I'm going through something similar, bisexual and feminine my parents hate me, so do all my relatives besides my siblings. We don't owe them anything besides what we choose to give them. Once you're on your own the only person who can stop you is you. Basically, I believe in you, you can find out who you want to be, and grow beyond whatever your family wants for you. Keep going and be yourself, whoever that is.
Ikr, my mom would totally throw me out the second I told her I'm lesbian and Demigirl. I'm not even 18. She'd disown me. I'm already the family disappointment
Being the “gifted kid” for me is different. Everyone never leaves me alone, Everyone expects me to be happy, Everyone won’t give me space, Everyone always depends on me for everything, I’m getting so overwhelmed, Everyone thinks I’m so perfect, I’ve been have panic attacks because of it.
Nah cus when you don't realise how hard u where pushing yourself even outside of studies until you breakdown and litterally can't do itt anymore, and the only thing u can do is pick up your shit and do it all again
The smart kid in our class slipped up one time and the whole class was shocked and making “disappointment noises” from the on, she never slipped up and was always top 1. Must be so hard for her :(
I had almost same situation (as the smart kid)... Its one of the worst feelings sadly... If you dont usually have mid grades but the good ones then it will always be like that :(
I'm supposed to be one of the "smart kids" in our class so whenever I mess up I get the same reaction, some people taking it as far as to tell me they "thought I was supposed to be smart" I've slipped up time and time again and people never learn to hide their disappointment, it hurts so much every time I'm going to an online school part time now where I don't know anybody and it's refreshing to have little to no reputation of being smart, the teachers and students don't expect anything so I either meet their expectations or exceed them, it's so much better :)
I am a 15 year old in Korea. I was always top of the class in elementary, and I still kept a good streak in middle school. Straight As were not good, they were standard. This year is my last year of middle school(the system is kinda different here) so I am prepping for high school. I love science so I decided to take the exam for a science major high school. While prepping for the exam I kinda lost track of my middle school studies and I ended up getting a C in Chinese, which is barely a passing grade. I didn't think much of it; I hadn't studied. It wasn't an important class anyway so I had dropped it. My mother didn't take it well though. She knew I was prepping for high but she was still disappointed. And I know she's gaslighting me into thinking I'm a failure. But I wanna tell you guys out there, whether you failed in school or not, even if you fell short of everyone's expectations, YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE.
@@kazukaeferfer Yeah I did! it's a boarding school so I'm away from my family most of the time. I still struggle with classes, but i like science. I try.
"I don't understand this at all, I think I'm going to fail" "No way, you're so smart, you'll probably be the top of the class" *fails* "What happened, I thought you were smart?"
I mean, its not like im a god or something?? They expect me to finish things in 3 seconds, have straight As, be the CuTe AdoRaBle KinD person i am. Do they even have mirrors in their house? Thats just unfair for us.
The worst thing that always happen to me is when a classmate asks for help, I try to answer and say that I'm not quite sure if this is the correct answer, and when the teacher comes to see how we're all doing they tell to my classmate that they wrote something wrong and the kid starts to blame it on me and say that I'm actually dumb and useless, I love it.. sorry for the vent
"She's first of the class, continue like this!" "This year too she is!" . . "What?! You're third now?!" "I'm disapointed of you" I don't see what's wrong for dropping 2 damn ranks lol
OMG THIS!!!! SIn elementary and middle school i was the first one without studying, then in 8th grade i think, i had to learn how to study (without any help and only the guidance of youtube videos that didnt give good advices) bcs school was getting complicated and couldn't pass with As without studying, and ended third in my grade. I remember that my parents didnt want to go to my graduation bcs of that. Even my brother (who was the best at my house at the time) told me how dissapointed he was. At that time it affected me so bad that i was scared of going back to school after summer break bcs i thought i wasn't good enough. Not being the best of my class still afects me tons, but at least i dont care about dissapointing my family, fck you all parents that care more about their reputation than your child and put them under that pressure at so young age >:c
You can do better? Why dont you just work harder? Why? Because i fucking cant, if i try harder i will go insane Maybe am already a freak who feels like the people of the internet understands more than family and friends
" dude, you were so smart before. " i was, what, 2 to 5 to 7 ? " you can't just say you hate him because he touched you a bit. " you're 10, he didn't even bat an eyelash at you. " this is why nobody likes you around, you're so pessimistic. " hm, i wonder why. " maybe like, shut up next time ? " alright. " don't talk about him when he's not around. " oh, but you can do that when I'M not around ? oh, sorry, i see where i stand on this makeshift pedestal you created. " you're so selfish, do you know that ? " mkay. " she's a good friend. " she pretended to like me, harassed me about it for the rest of the year til school ended. yeah, she's a really good friend.
your not selfish their just mad they can't get what they want out of you people call me selfish all the time when in reality I just don't let people use me
Bad grades don't mean you're stupid Bad habits don't mean you're doing something wrong Bad responses don't mean you're a failure, they just don't understand and maybe want to help/ support you but don't know how. Bad improvement/no improvement doesn't point to you doing something wrong. Something went wrong, but you are still you. And YOU. CAN. DO. THIS. I Believe In You
When ur the “gifted kid” and the sibling who has to do everything right so you slowly go to the “dumber” classes and skip and in general become a delinquent without ur parents noticing but they’ve lowkey gave up on you (it’s funner this way trust me) edit: bro this kinda blew up- just to clarify I enjoy living this way because it’s more fun
lol yesterday "they" just realized that I already "GONE" and told me I didn't even study and being lazy. and told me "people who are study are smart people, who didn't study is the foolish one and they belong to trash :>" all they care is "me". I wouldn't label myself as gifted, the thing is when I was in kindergarten I swear I don't know what is learning about and fail everything my parents know that I knew most of them (I have problem "solving" the answer cus I can't talk at school ; social anxiety ). And they knew I'm "smarter" then "them". And they said I should be better cus I'm the oldest I need to "show" that I'm useful. Ended up I can manipulate people. now I hate myself for knowing how to be bad. I also have trust and anger issues plus fear of abounded. ( sorry if this too long)
@@dionn5609id say look at your self and figure out what u are feeling, why r u feeling this way, and is this a good feeling or not then try and find some postive goal to strive for
When you’ve been “the gifted kid” and “the sunshine child (being happy all the time)” you just feel so drained. You feel like you’re going insane but you feel like you can’t ask for help because you taught yourself to mask your negative emotions. So now you hold it in all day and only let it out when you’re positive that everyone else is asleep
Yeah that is exactlywhat i do , and i know it's unhealthy, but i dont know hwo to ask for help anymore. Because i know they wont listen. Because i know theyll say, "but youre so happy all the time! Stop talking nonsense and seeking attention." Im so goddamn tired. It's so exhausting, I can't...
oh, so you are/were the "gifted kid"? -everything came easy to you as a kid -you need reassurance now because you cant tell if youre doing good at anything or if youve messed up -you never had to study because you knew everything and you never had to do homework because you finished all your work in class, so now you have trouble studying and doing homework -doodling on your work and realizing you have to turn it in, then frantically erasing it -lets be honest, you gave up at some point, didnt you? you just stopped paying attention and doing your work? -you can make up excuses on the spot. -throw yourself into other realities (books, movies, shows, media, shifting) to avoid your responsibilities -you zoomed through books as a kid and now you can barely read -screentime of 7+ hours -probably got access to social medias too early in life ily all pls get a drink and a snack sometime soon
I do read very well, but I can't stay focused. If I'm reading something I don't want to, you can forget it, cuz I won't finish. I love reading books that take me away, where there is no room in my head for anything else. That's why I read so well, my standards in books are so high, that I can only read advanced books. I love reading books of things I can't have. A happy peaceful family, the "Happy Ending", adventures. Not rotting away in my room riddled with holes in the walls from family feuds.
Getting Excessive praise for your talents. Making you purely believe that it's a gift. From this it splits to two: • The kid who overwork them selfs in order to keep their image standing, cursing them self for getting anything lower than perfection. slowly but surely breaking the over flowing dam that is their sanity. • The kid who didn't get to build a work ethic due to people calling their achievements “natural” talents, and so beat them selfs up internally for being “stupid” by not achieving basic goals. thinking they've regressed. Both are: - Burnout. - Self critical. - mentally unhealthy. - idealistic. - Resourceful. - distant. - Prideful. - perfectionists. - Afraid. Those aren't gifts. They're curses.
My fear used to be enough motivation, but now I’m just depressed which got rid of the fear, in fact I wish they would abuse me, hit me, so I wouldn’t feel guilty for calling cps over just mental abuse
One interesting thing is that everyone has some kind of natural talents and most of them are "spiked", with spiked I mean that someone talent is very strong/effective in doing something oddly specific. I was often told to ignore the things that I'm capable of doing and invest my time in learning something else. This is not that bad most of the time, but when you learn a little bit of yourself and understand how small your plate is and how you work you start dropping the things that you cannot keep up and after a while you remain with something almost useless. There is nothing worse to say to another than "you are so talented" because it's the perfect case for creating the negative traits that you whote about in your comment. It's a good ego boost, but like most thing self-love comes from within.
I give up on literally everything that doesn’t come to me naturally I feel so pressured to do everything perfectly I genuinely fucking hate the pressure school puts on me
Its to the point it invades things that arent related to school. If i cant draw something right, I'll give up immdiately. School doesnt even realize the pressure. The amount of anxiousness it always puts me in is literally suffocating. Im in a constant state of anxiety and i cant do anything about it bc despite it being summer break I still feel the pressure and expectations looming over my shoulder.
@@peiithos So true. I gave up on all my hobbies because I didn't meet my own standards. Nothing feels good anymore, just makes me anxious and adds more expectations.
Gifted Kid Poetry (feel free to write some poems in response) Etched margins of black and white Impresses all that see Imaginative mind, curious and talented Success. Achievement. Perfection From treats to labor to standard The pedestal you stand on grows high Peeking over the edge, the floor nonexistent If to fall... would you...? Dread. Worry. Obsession Do not fall else blood stains your clothes Your body grows away from purity Please love you, please be enough
Oh no. I did it again. It's missing. It shouldn't be I made another mistake, it's there in shining letters. It's not graded, I can't see Oh no, I did it again. I sloved the problem. I was happy. Then it poped up again, "overdue", it had said. So I did it again. I'm not preppy Oh no, I did it again. They're said, I can't empathize. What do I do? What do I do? Help. Comfort. Console. Get them to energize. Oh no, I did it again. I forgot to eat. I forgot to shower. I forgot to sleep. I forgot again Oh no, they did it again. I can't see, my sight won't let me see my awards I can't breath, it all suffocating. An iron grip around my throat and hands, I'm asphyxiating Oh no, we did it again. Grades, reputaion, status, expectation. How high are we? Where's the limit? We can't see the bottom anymore. Please, we are enough. We are valuable. We aren't stupid. We can do it. Please.
But I will never be "enough" the past is what everyone sees the future what they expect and the present as gentle water that among the waves caresses the apple of Adam it's enough? is it enough for me? it will never be "enough", word that does not reach, but that comes guided by blindfolded Fortune and it hits now water enters the ship, who was born with a life jacket will never know how to swim
Just because one may understand every question Know every word Know every number and letter Know every fact and opinion Never means they understand themselves They don't always know their favorite color Or music style Or even their name and age. Don't even know themselves.
You want to join? Okay! Wow, you're so smart! My daughter will be a rich person. You'll go so far ahead! Are you sure you don't want to join? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. I'll do it. You are the best! What happened to you? Are you okay? You changed. "Stains can't fade, so neither can my mind's expectations. But you can't trade your life, nor can you get your childhood back."
Being “gifted” at a young age and doing your hardest and slowly failing because they never showed the care you should’ve had, it’s literally so fucking hard.
Literally me. They think you're so bright and brilliant and push you too hard only for you to discover you weren't really "gifted," you were just high-functioning autistic labeled as gifted because it was easier to say... Though that's more of my case
a quick vent. I was a pretty good kid in elementary school (apparently, I can’t remember much). my parents always tell me about how sweet I was and how smart I was. I always got everything turned in on time. I had a college reading level in the 3rd grade. But eventually the stress of it all got to me and my grades slipped. My personality changed (apparently). When I was little I always focused on the positive side, never the negative. but now I guess I’m a nihilist. My mother always tells me, “what happened to the sweet little girl I used to know? What happened?” And to be honest, I don’t know either.
same but I 'never did my work' and was 'disruptive and a cheater' according to my teachers which is why I had such bad grades and had to go to so many new schools.
my mom says that too. but she says it more angry then concerned. welp sorry mom i didnt mean to develop anger issues cause my dad was a non existent bitch
“It’s not a race to the bottom.” “You’re not wearing pajama pants to school you’ll look homeless.” “You can’t wear fishnet, it will make you look like a prostitute.” “Where’s the rest of that shirt? Have some decency.” “You’re at the pool, wear a bikini, not a sweatshirt.” “Why don’t you go for a run, you’re getting lazy.” “You’ve been working out too much, it’s unhealthy.” “You’re not eating enough.” “Do you need to eat all that? Are you actually hungry?” “Take some time to read, you never read anymore.” “You’ve been spending too much time reading.” “That’s too much makeup.” “Do you want to put on some concealer to cover your acne?” “Take a break.” “You’re lazy.” “She’s reading a 600 page book every day, all you read are comics.” “Don’t bind and wear masculine clothes, dress like a girl.” “Those girls clothes are too revealing, there are standards of decency in society.” So what exactly do you want from me???
Like just make up your mind!! And why would I follow your rules anyways? I can be who I want to be, not who society wants me to be. I hope everyone has a good day!! :):)
When I'm feeling like I haven't reached my full potential, Uncle Iroh comes to me, speaking words of wisdom: "There's nothing wrong with a life of peace and prosperity." Stay healthy, friends.
When I find myself in times of trouble, Mother Mary comes to me Speaking words of wisdom, let it be And in my hour of darkness she is standing right in front of me Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
Same- I go to a school with a program inside of it and that’s what I attend. Everyone is gifted, and everyone is failing. We’re all burnt out and that’s kind of how I made friends
I almost had to go I was 1% off but they kept trynna make me go, and I’m so proud of myself for only getting 98% on the tests I would have killed myself if I had gone there
"Both of your parents are smart so you should be too!" "Your brother gets straight A's in everything, I bet you do too!" haha maybe im not a carbon copy of any of them :D
same i have the same problems sister top of everything brother doctor because he could he didnt try mom the other disapintment that uses her kids to give her money dad a genius in electronics me a lazy pile of crap thats is an idiot
This one right here. My parents make me do everything my older brother has done and they asked to put me in the same classes with the same teachers and the same material. I just want to live bro. They have no idea how much i hate having to be this copy of my brother. I just want to have my own personality and have my own friends. I just want to live :/
"Driven by a greed to succeed" is sorta of what happens to some of them. You see, little kids will be that much more *motivated* to do work, get it done all right and nice. As you grow more, sometimes it seems to wilt away and crumple and you lose that "gifted kid" reputation and get more average grades, which will lead to more disappointment and the words that leech at you like "I expected better from you" or "you could've done better, I know that". I hate it.
As a "gifted kid", I've always had good grades and all that. And you know, all your classmates know about it. At first it wasn't really a problem at all. I felt like people thought I was just the "smart girl", and I kind of liked it. But now, this is just pressure. I can't even answer a question in class because I'm scared. They have expectations. They think I'm the best so I must be the best. I have to be the best. So I just stopped answering, because what if I was wrong? They'll start to think I'm useless and stupid. My teacher will start to think I'm stupid. I don't want that. I'm just feeling like I'm about to give up any minute now.
Girlll yes! I have the EXACT same problem. Everytime a question is asked, I hide my face and my anxiety takes over. And it doesn’t help that there are some other good students in class and teachers love pitting us against each other. And when I get a question wrong? Oh boy, the embarrassment, the JUDGEMENT. Recently I haven’t been scoring as well as I used to…and I keep hearing these sympathy comments “what happened? You used to study well.” The teachers who praised me are really mean to me now.They make snarky remarks like they used to with the “dumb kids”
Keep going honey but it's important to remind yourself why this is so important to you. GIVE yourself a reason to wake up every morning to study and do homework, and go to school and just live because i know sometimes it's hard to just breath but bear with it. Please. And you're not stupid, society simply failed to tell us that it was okay to make mistakes, that it was wrong for others to belittle us of our short comings and that we didn't have to be perfect all the time. And please put your health first. Their expectations mean nothing if it's the weapon that's hurting you.
!!!VENT!!!! I am a gifted kid myself, and to be honest, I actually think this is all my fault. All my life, I've never had to actually study, and I just answered the questions with my common sense. Most gifted kids burn out in high school and college, but I'm burning out in middle school. I can't focus on anything for some reason. All my life I never had to actually worry about time management because I would end up getting the motivation to do it last minute, perfectly. But I don't have that anymore. I don't know what happened. My parents know this, and they think its because I'm "watching videos". No im not. I'm literally putting on music. They always assume im doing something bad. Im trying to be perfect for them. They're telling me that this is for my future, but I think that its just for your reputation as a parent. Really, the only person that has actually believed me and appreciated me doing my best is my mother. Even though I never get so see her during the weekdays, I still love her so much because she works just as hard as I do. But the thing is, I always get distracted by something, no matter what I do, and I can't help it. I don't know whats happening to me. I always cry every time I think about the past, the little girl in elementary school that was a straight A student and got along with all my classmates. I have one week of school left. I really hope I can do this. If I were to spit these feelings out in the public, especially in front of my dad, he wont validate it. He would try to one up me by saying he had to walk miles to school when he was a kid and he has to go to the library every day to study. I really wish that he would just validate my feelings for once. Ive tried telling him before, but he always told me to work harder and just keep studying and reading. He loves me, and I love him, but i dont think he understands the fact that this is harder than you see it. Especially if you always get distracted with something. If I dont have my phone, and there isnt any youtube tabs or music on, I'd end up playing with my skin and scabs. I take a bath almost every 5 daysbecause I never have the time to do it regularly. I'd say i wanna die, but that would obviously hurt, so im trying to shift instead. I'm only 12, and thats why most people like to tell me im overreacting. I hate this. They would always talk about how they had even worse experiences in highschool/college. I get really stressed to the point where the tips of my fingers would be ice cold and i dont know why.
I relate to this so much idk what to say. Same feelings same reasons same effects everything. I know what your going through, I'm sorry this is happening to you and I hope everything gets better for you, no I'm sure everything will go better for you sooner or later! 💞
you really hit the spot on describing on how I feel and we'll get through this! o(￣▽￣)ｄ a thought that kinda comforts me is that us being so young we still have chances to redeem ourselves so one day we might get some burst of motivation and straighten out our lives.
I’m 13 and what you just said has touch me in another level, I honestly relate to you in so many ways ( except my dad is the one who isn’t home, and they both are emotionally neglectful)
*Okay so i've never been in a "gifted" program, but ever since I was little i've developed my brain quickly. So i've always been expected to be na smart kid. No inbetween, everyone goes, " I'm proud of you " " Wow! another A! " " You're so smart " " You're so clever " " Excellent " " Very good " " Very good " " very nice " " good enough " " could be better " " Study harder " " it's probably social media is it " " What happened to your scores "
“Your gifted” “Keep on the good work” “Good job” “You will be fine!” “U don’t need a therapist amor” “I’m so disappointed in you” “This isn’t like you” “I can’t believe you did this” Well I’m sorry mom (btw my downhill started in 5th grade and it still continues)
Omg SAMEEE After 5th grade everything started to go downhills, now I'm what the US would consider a sophomore in high school and have no idea how I got this far
I started to go downhill in 3rd grade, but it wasn’t so bad. 4th grade, worse but a few a’s. 5th grade 1 a. And then it started to be worse and worse with each grade I had.
Something someone said to me that really really got me deep: “Just because you’re carrying everything so well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy”. It just…wow I guess.
But maybe your not. Maybe you hide it's heaviness and sob every night. Maybe I'm speaking from experience. Maybe I'm speaking from what's exactly happening to me. Maybe my family will find out and I'll feel bad for making them cry. Maybe my life will fall apart like it already had. Maybe everyone will know I'm a wreck. Maybe no one will ever know. Right?...
(Vent) I’m not a gifted kid. I’m the kid that’s too mentally exhausted to do anything. But that not an excuse for anything. I make c’s and d’s and I’m a upcoming senior. I’m not even sure I’m going to graduate and I’m so fucking scared of my future. I don’t wanna disappoint my family but it’s just so fucking hard all the time. I didn’t even think I’d make it this far in life. I don’t know what to do. I know imma have to suck it up and deal with it but it’s just so so hard.
I would suggest joining the military after high school, and then after that you can go to college/get a degree(I'm pretty sure the tuition would be either free or very low with military benefits). Or, you could become a real estate agent since that doesn't require a college degree, all you need would be to pass the real estate exam.
As a "gifted kid", I'm always my own critic and even though my parents don't care about my grades, I feel that if I get an easy question wrong that I'm a failure. Also, I act so much different than others in my class and they constantly bully me for it even though I can't control my brain....plus my mind is years older than I am but sometimes it's younger so I seem older in class but I act younger when with friends
We're in the same situation. I feel so out of place, my "best friend" litteraly told me that I'm not like kids my age. I'm supposedly so mature but at the same time I like to do silly things like children. I feel so burnt out and tired. I have to keep my grades up, being the top 1 of my class, because if I fail I will lose my worth and disappoint myself.
Wow, my grades are doing good! I’m really happy! Omg I got tested and I’m gifted? So cool! I’m making so many new friends!? I’m popular? My bestie is popular too, cool! (Oh… she’s popular now) I didn’t know debate was her thing… At least I still have better grades than her! My first B. I’m nothing compared to her Is she even my friend? I have to drop out of debate I guess… More Bs, more anxiety attacks. My friends are… not hanging out with me anymore? Everyone else is going on dates, but no one asked me out… “Why aren’t you paying attention in class!?” I don’t know what to do… “Why am I still here..?” It all started with the As. My parents loved it, I was super smart, and I was always cool because of it. When I got my first B, they didn’t care either. But it was like a switch in my brain that just went “you have to do better” and then I started taking Italian, and the pressure to be number one on the charts for my school. All to catch up with the friends that I always thought was my equals. That’s how quick this stuff can develop. Stay safe out there
I still firmly believe that I would have been so much better if they never told me or my mother that I was "gifted", I would be better with my mom knowing me as the average kid with 80 - 90 grades that likes to draw and stuff like that instead of her thinking that I'm a 100/100 student and a genius or something like that and that "can do so many good things" and other lies I can't remember right now
@@purgatory-013 Is there anything you need to talk about? Getting a warm drink, treating myself, listening to music and cosy in to bed makes me feel better. (Though I am a lot better now I'm medicated) :')
@@mcmona4171 i mean I already vented and i just cried a bit so i feel a little better BUUUTTT big announcement i just showered 😗💅 (I haven’t showered because i was sad)
I assure you that your worth is much greater than that. Your intelligence isn't the only good thing about you. I know I'm just a random youtube user, but trust me. You got this, everything will get better.
I know I've never met you, but I know there are so many other good things about you. I'm so sorry somebody ever told you that. I hope you don't have to hear things like that again.
Way too relatable. Especially when you’ve slipped in your other hobbies/interests. Used to be the “popular leader debate kid” now all I am is “test answers” lol
Yep. After you get a b on your report card and your family treats you like it’s a f because I’m a “ A grade student “. It gets old. I’m proud of you? I don’t have that much he’ll just say “oh nice.” Or “good job” GRADES ARE EVERYTHING AND BEING LIKE OTHER SMART KIDS. ( my own personal experience)
my mom would get mad at me when I got an 83% on a test. My classmates made fun of me and told me I was “craving attention” because I got stressed when I got a B. I was just raised with that mentality.
YEAH!! when i tell to my parents that i got good grades they say "so what? that's your job. that's what you are supposed to do, you didn't do anything special."
They don't even seem proud when I get good grades but pissed off when I get a lower grade :/ I was "gifted" in elementary and middle school but now I'm just trying to get normal grades and chill 'cause I realized grades are a bs and don't say how much you're worth or good at something but just how much you're good at memorizing informations you'll forget as soon as you get out of school..
as a classified “moderate” gifted child w an iq of 142, ive always had pressure put on me to be the “best of the best” by my incredibly gifted family of draft athletes, architects, and entrepreneurs. they’re pushing me to become a UN diplomat or a government journalist and i’ve always gone with their demands up until the start of the pandemic. after i came out as queer they gradually began to lose respect for me and said that “our family doesn’t need people like you” . after 8 years of nonstop working i began to feel the effects on my mental health. i was diagnosed with OCD and my grades declined. now i feel like everything’s gone to shit.
I wish I wasn’t “gifted” and a perfectionist sometimes. When I failed my first test a few weeks ago (in math, I’m in 10th grade) I had a breakdown. Luckily I was at home when that happened, but it was still pretty bad. I felt useless. I was supposed to be smart, so why did I fail the test? I hate how so much pressure is put on us just because we’re “smarter’’ than everyone else. We’re still human beings. Human beings have limits. I also feel awful when I get a question wrong because of this
As another former gifted child, it's just a curse. The only validationit ever got was when I did something exceptionally good. I Failed a test yesterday (math for 11th grade) and I cried for two hours in my room and am currently crying because my parents found out. I recently had to get an emotional support animal to help with my panic attacks as recommended by my therapist, and it came as a shock to my parents that I needed one. Sorry for rambling I just needed to talk about it to help me calm down.
this. i always wish i wasn't so smart. just in between.. just not dumb.. but not "oh wow ur so smart i could never do that question" type of smart, yk?
I’m a “gifted” perfectionist too, and honestly it’s tiring. People expect so much from me just because I’m gifted. I’m not even that smart, I suck at math and science, the only thing I’m super great at is reading and ELA. I’m not like neutral in anything, I suck terribly at math, music, science, PE, art, and I’m super good at spelling and ELA. And it’s only those two. Nothing else.
It’s been going on for as long as I can remember. I’m not even a teen and I feel so pressured. I got a B in one of my classes and like you I had a breakdown scared for show my mom. Even now, my grades dropped to B’s and two A’s I feel so burnout and overwhelmed.
Any other “gifted kids” excel in in subjects like history and English so people wouldn’t pay them much attention when they were doing bad at math and science and then it became too late, then you get blamed for not understanding a subject no one put effort into teaching you because like the rest they assumed it would come naturally.
"You were so mature for your age" "You have to win imagine how happy I would be if my daughter won first place" "You're the eldest you're supposed to set the example, so be good" "I bet you're so proud of yourself" My parents told me that they made sacrifices for me and I won't deny that I had most of the things I wanted and more than I needed but I always had to put school above everything else so I could do what they couldtnt. I was having a really difficult time mentally but my dad said I could not be stressed because I would find what that was when I was an adult and had nothing to stress about, I had panic attacks over competitions that I knew my parents wanted me to win every year. One time my dad even hit me so hard he left brusies on my legs just because I didn't make it to the next round, and threaten me saying he could do worst. I then found out the teachet forgot to tell me that I did make it, I sometimes never even tried but did so good, Even though for some reason I was so drained. Every time I didn't come in first place I felt like my world was falling apart just like they showed in movies I couldn't believe it even though I didn't try so I knew it was my fault. That's when I realized if you're not first it means you're not good enough, second and third are good but first is better Sorry if I wrote too much I'm probably just exaggerating since I'm not being abused or anything some people have it worst.
Even tho this doesnt happen to me much, have choco therapy with us. Touch some happy grass, and l i v e with us if u sad, we can eat mchappy And the special hapburger. Hopefully ur doing ok now
To be very honest, I feel like as a "gifted kid" I am so unhappy with grades, not even just 94s in one class, I just want 98s-100s grades, and when I am confident in my scores, people are better and I am so unsatisfied. Yes, I work hard and try my best to pay attention to school, even prep before for my grades, but it doesn't feel right for me to keep on being an overachiever yet I still want to be a better student to get validation and other people are better than me, making me so unhappy. Sorry for overspilling my feelings. Edit: To those who are reading this and can relate to this I'm sorry this is happening to all of you I truly do and wish you the best of luck, and sometimes just realize. This is just school and where you get advancements ahead in life. but that'll never define who you are in the future because it is much more important on your skills and personality.
Lemonstrawberries thank so much, so both my parent control different aspects of my life. My dad, softball. My mom music and teakwondo. They have this habit of signing me up for thing without telling me so sometimes I feel as if my life is completely out of my control. Also I feel whatever I do is never enough for them like whenever I have a game I get really scared and freed game time sometimes it really bad and I'll close my door and start hyperventilating well not really just like my breathing quickens and I start tearing up but I can stop it, when I hear someone come near my door I cover my mouth and tell myself everything fine and that I should stop. Most days I don't want to wake up but the fear of one of my parents busting into my room is usually good enough reason to get up. And they'll sign me up for so many things it's jay really stressful. Like my dad will just sign me up for softball stuff that I don't even want to do but I'm to scared he'll yell at me if I say no cause he already spent then money on it and my mom guilt trips me into doing thing like if I say no then she'll tell me that I'll never make it in life and things like that. And after all this they still expect me to do good in school like my lowest grades will be 80 and they'll be pissed. I've just lost motivation to do most things
@@airuwu682 I'm so sorry that happened and I understand the feeling, sometiimes my parents can be a little controlling when it comes to wanting to improve
@@lemonstrawberries1316 yeah sometimes thing suck like that but hopefully things will get better I mean when you hit rock bottom you can only go up right? but really if people don't realize how much of an amazing person you are, then that's their problem I mean you just let a complete stranger spill their guts, listened and replied so you've got a good heart and thats something that deserves recognition to. I know it sounds hard but take a break once in while and think about what you want. I know it's easier said then done one reason I'm not good comfort lol. I say these things, but really from what you've said you deserve a break even you don't take one, keep in mind that you deserve one and maybe that'll be enough. ( ´･･)ﾉ(._.`) (me trying my best to comfort you lol)
Math has always been the only subject my mother says I can get a C on, if I get anything lower (like this year) she's like, "you just gave up didn't you, you can't do that, quitters do that, I know it's been a hard year but you could've tried harder." Like, she understands that I suck at math because she sucks at math but she still gets unnecessarily upset if I get a d or f in math. It's annoying.
I had to hear from my own sister that i only "sleep and study" when i'm the one keeping the house clean and fighting depression, she thinks i'm lazy but i'm tired....i went from the golden child, best student of the class, to disappointment of the family and motive of gossip. I'm tired
❗(TW: mentions of self-harm and suicide) It was so stressful being the "gifted kid". Especially when it came to mental health. When I first expressed how I felt, most people looked at my grades and said, "Well, your grades are good so what's the issue?" Then when my grades dropped, people were quick to say "You can do better. What's wrong with you? Why are you like this?" All of a sudden, people like me started harming themselves and dying left and right. Even then, grades were the main priority. We were given school counselors who barely helped and pep talks but no actual form of therapy. Sometimes I find it surprising that I made it this far. I'm turning 20 next month but I didn't think I'd make it past 15.
I’m proud of you, I really am. I though I wouldn’t make it past 15, but here I am turning 16 this year. :) honestly I’m so damn proud of you for coming so far
I can relate to this... I thought I wasn’t going to last past 13 or 14 and now im 16, but still struggling heavily. I was supposed to end it all fairly recently a few times but i was able to be calmed down by someone close. However, I hope everyone is doing okay, getting okay rest, taking breaks, and staying hydrated. I love you❤️ you’re feelings are valid, its okay to be stressed, but please, make sure to take care of yourselves!
POV: It’s like everyone is so proud that you are a perfect child but it just starts to become a expectation and you start to become hard on yourself and start crying in the littlest of mistakes and always make fake dreams that everyone still thinks your the best. And everything just starts feeling fake
the most annoying part of all of this is that there are people out there that genuinely think that 'gifted kids' not only don't deserve empathy but deserve pain just because they are gifted
Is it just me or do other "gifted kids" have the same problem; not being able to distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction Edit: I figured it out! I'm aroace (though that's just me)
I ran away but got caught by a cop, I lied my way out of it snd my parents had to pick me up. I got slapped hard and they went through my entire phone, I panicked because my girlfriend called me. I got yelled at more. I had to tell them something that gave me ptsd just so they would stop. They called pastor, his wife, and my grandparents. I got prayed over even if I didn't want it. They wouldn't stop asking questions about my situation for a month. They stopped caring after and threaten to send me to a therapist no matter how many times I say I don't wanna just because I don't listen. Edit: The told them everything knowing damn well grandma is the type to tell everyone everything.
@@purgatory-013 :( hope you get through this okay! find your interest and find supportive people to be around! even if this doesn't matter, I believe in you!! Also, grades really do not matter and you still have so much time to figure out who you are okay! what people think or where you are on the school/class ranking doesn't matter, as long as you're doing better and improving at your own pace everyday, that's more than enough! hope I'm not being an "annoying adult". Good luck!
@@sashat4833 you’re being the best adult in my life, honestly but were i live we don’t even have class rankings, they only use my other grades and say “you can do better” when i already tried my best and it kinda hurts buti am currently alright (“alright” is i just had a mental breakdown)
@@purgatory-013 sorry to hear that you just had mental breakdown and I'm glad you're fine now. I just wanna say that you've done super good so far and as long as you are doing your best, then you have done more than enough! It'll take time to understand what works for you and what's the best way to study, but you'll get where yo wanna be! Work hard but take rests along the way too. Also, if you ever feel like you're not progressing or getting worst grades than before, don't take it too hard and know that it's okay to not reach your goals cause its a part of the journey, okay! You've got this! (gosh i wish that i was talking to 13 year old me ;-;)
"You guys need to go easier on her, shes way too above in the class." -My stupid 2nd grade teacher to my parents For context, i was a very smart kid. For as long as i could remember my father was taught me how to tend to myself alone, how to draw, count, speak, and everything else when i was very very young. He was very strict to ensure that i learned it. Infact, when i did my business in a DIAPER hed get mad at me, even though i was still a mere toddler. If i said something wrong, WACK. If i did something wrong, WACK. If my hand writing was bad, WACK. This taught me to be very self disciplined and hard on myself. I was obsessed with being perfect. "Oh shes so smart for her age!" "You drew this? This is amazing!" "Youre doing so well!" I loved getting compliments because it meant i did something right, and that would mean no discipline. When I reached the age to get to school, we couldnt hold the house we had. My father stayed at home to take care of my brother and i while my mother worked night-shift. It still wasnt enough, though. Thank goodness, my grandparents had a house that we could stay in. I was grateful for it, yes, but it wasn't an ideal place for kids to be in. There were molds left right and center, and the small room all 4 of us stayed in was barely enough to fit. Not only the inside, but the neighborhood was horrid as well. Almost every night we heard gunshots and police sirens. My parents never let me play outside or even step foot out. I remember i had a neighbor whos dog would bark every night, theyd take their dog for a walk, go out in their truck occasionally. They had a Cubs banner outside their house as well. A normal life. Although, one day they stopped walking their dog. Their dog was silent, no barks were heard. Their truck never moved. Its like they evaporated out of thin air one day. It may be me being paranoid, but i thought it was very weird. With a bad neighbors, meant bad school! Yay! 😁🔫 My private school was only 2 minutes away, the only reason i went. It was a very weird school. Not only did the teachers not do anything about the now normal students cussing each other out during study, but they had an odd way of teaching. Everyone had to be on the same page. Nobody moved up nor down. All of the smart kids had to wait until the slower kids caught up. But they never took the time to boost up the dumber ones. I was far more smarter than almost everyone in my 2nd grade class. When everyone was learning cursive, id already known it since kindergarten. It felt nice being that kid who got better grades than everyone else. But my teachers of course, did not approve. "Oh shes very smart! Smarter than most of them!" Mrs. T spoke during the parent-teacher conference. "Shes a great role model too. Shes like the Hail Mary, without the talking of course." "Well thats good to hear, anything else?" "Oh yes, I was thinking about it- I think you guys need to go easier on her, shes way too above in the class." Those words echo through my head everyday. My family and i took her stupid advice. Im not self disciplined anymore, i barely get any work done, barely get compliments, etcetc. When I reached 5th i got out of that hellhole. I ended up moving to a public school that was much more nicer than the other. One problem, since everyone at the previous school needed dumber kids to catch up, i ended up getting dumber along the way. When i reached my new school it was so much more difficult. My old school was teaching how division worked while this school taught how to divide decimals. I fell behind. I went from being smarter amongst dumber kids to being dumber amongst smarter kids. During panic attacks id wonder if id still be in the same position if it werent for my teacher. My grades eventually lowered due to stress and a hunger to be perfect, to getting compliments again. Maybe i was a narcissist, but i just wanted an affirmation of some sort. "Why are you proud of a B?" "What happened, Sophia? You used to be perfect. Now youre.. this." "Your drawings lately have been horrible. Cmon now!" "Youre doing this all wrong!" "Stop f^cking everything up like you always do!" Now im older, still behind and procrastinating. Though i hate my 2nd grade teacher, i blame myself for taking her advice. I fully blame myself for it all. These days i still hope my younger, more passionate, self was still there. Like itd emerge from the shadows.
I just read all of this :( i relate so bad, and i’m so sorry you went through all of this at such a young age. i bet you’re a beautiful thing, a kind soul, and a general pleasure to be around. i hope things get better, and i love you /p
The people who are usually "smart" missed out on something important as a child. They may be viewed as an "excellent role model" but since they are missing that one something from their childhood (affection, friends, anything) , it eventually catches up to them and they start struggling (Like for example, always feeling the need for you to be *perfect* , to be *accepted* by other people, being *approved* of, by other people, doing things and receiving things you never got to do, or got, as a child. Honestly, life is hard and complicated, too much of something or too less of something can really affect you. It hurts that some people are oblivious to this, and that some people view (and peer pressure) "smart gifted people" like some perfect angel, when they are just humans, and look down upon them with the slightest mistake. Also, the "smart gifted" people probably worked their absolute asses to get where they currently are. Just saying-
I hope you are doing good! Remember, if you need to, vent it out! Don't keep it all in, I hope you are doing well, thank you beri much for this comment. It made me realize some stuff. I hope you have a good day :D
I was gifted kid in 2-5 and it was fine I never had to study, and I was flying through books. 6th was when I realized I wasn’t as “gifted” as they said I am.The starting point for that was in 4th grade when I was diagnosed with adhd and anxiety. I’m in 7th grade and just say it’s sucks, cause I’ve fallen right back into the gifted child crap again. Almost all my classes are advanced and in my science class I was says “the one who’s always ahead” I nearly bursted into tears but I just kept sliming. And I’ve finished a 400 page book in 3 days.I hate that I’m like this, add family pressure to it and it’s a nightmare.
Yep I feel ya m8. I was seen as the "smart kid" to everyone but they would become extremely confused when I said that I didn't get all As like I was expected to. Turns out, I have adhd and anxiety which made it basically impossible for me to "reach my full potential." So I was seen just as wasted potential to my teachers
11th grader here. I feel your pain. I was diagnosed with ADHD, Anxiety, and Bipolar (Bipolar and Anxiety is pretty recent, with ADHD I've known about for 10-11 years) and it's all downhill from here for me. But just keep pushing through, you'll survive this and you'll survive high-school. Hope it gets better for you kid.
@@alderaan1931 actually you can stop, not intentionally tho. the expectations will never end tho. even if they see you as a failure. they still expect you to be perfect even if they see right in front of them how much of a failure I am. and they would say "i changed" and "I'm not the person they used to be proud of"
Reading all these comments made me realize how well we all did. I was the teacher's pet, constantly asked for homework left and right, never wanting to ruin my school reputation. Afraid of disappointment. Friendly with all teachers, friendly with all people whether bad or good. Studied, isolated in my room until I cried out of frustration. I used flashcards, tested myself over and over, expectations overflowing. 4.0 GPA, high-achiever, yes to everything asked of staff members. But hey, don't get me wrong I did have my closest friend supporting me and the teachers were kind, but I realized that I didn't do it for myself. I did it for others. In order to not fail their expectations. As one said in the comment section, you show them you're talented at a young age and they're amazed, amazement turns into expectations, expectations turns into standards and then anything less than that is a mistake. And I'm tired. So now entering highschool, even as my relatives may be angered by my actions, I'm doing what I want and feel like. I haven't given up on my grades but I'm not pressured anymore by anyone other than myself. I am taking my own path and it is hard but I love this feeling I've taken upon myself, it feels refreshing. You who is reading this should too...
how's it going? I've been trying to get lower grades and prioritize my mental health and it HASN'T WORKED, back in November I was like "ok, next trimester I'm not going to try as hard, I'm going to prioritize my mental health" and then I proceeded to get directors list (I got a 96.3% academic average) and,,, yeah, FUCK
Well in my case, a different I was never a gifted kid I was naturally born stupid and im aware I only got 90/100 ish on second grade before it came crashing down like a fautly airplane So im sorry.
i wish my elementary school challenged me and the other “gifted kids” with more challenging lessons instead of just having us skip math lessons to build toothpick bridges lmao. maybe then i would be more accepting of failure instead of getting used to having perfect grades without having to put in much effort
for me it's the exact opposite, i learned to square root in the third grade, and i just wanted to make valentines boxes like the other kids. also,i don't know how to describe how stressful it is for an eight yr. old to walk alone, the long way through the 'big kid's hallway' to get to your classroom, on the top floor.
To all the people who are venting: It's totally okay to take a break. The pressure of being so good at something is hard. I feel it too. You can do this, live your life, and make sure you do what makes you happy. If you're satisfied with where you are, there's no need to move. Don't live in someone else's dream. You are the best where you think you're the best. You got this 🙂
I’m surprised that “All Eyes on Me” isn’t part of this playlist! That song is pretty much the soundtrack to whenever I’m having an existential crisis as a former honor student, staring up at the ceiling and wondering where it all went wrong, and where do I go from here
this playlist was made specifically for me, I went from " a special/golden child" to "the family disappointment antisocial child " and now I've slowly gone insane about how to be perfect at everything to be a better child in my family.
Personally, I’ve never been considered “gifted” more like “special” because of my adhd and aspergers, but I still constantly suffer from burnout, have little to no motivation and struggle to get out of bed every morning and it kind of makes me feel guilty because so many others suffer so much from trying to work hard and I don’t even work hard and still suffer from burnout... I try to study and stuff but in the end I always just fall back into the hole of feeling useless and giving up on everything and I’ve never really understood what “gifted” kids go through but these comments are helping me realize thankfully, I always thought “gifted” kids had it easy but I was very wrong. Anyway, sorry for the vent if anyone reads this lol
ngl the addition of thats how the world works adds that feeling of not being able to get out of gifted programs and always having to follow the narrative of the system
Everytime I fulfill their expectations it becomes the norm, and the expectations get higher and higher until a tiny slip is disappointing. I can't keep impressing them.
i wasnt a gifted kid to my dad/family, but to my other peers i was. i even heard one time of a guy saying "at least we got the smart girl in class for the project so we even barely pass" then pointed to me. honestly i love compliments but now i have to keep up that reputation 😀
"Our daughter Isabella is amazing she is getting great grades." "Yeah, Izy is getting behind in math." "It's really bad with Isabella, her grades are really low." "Yeah, Isabella says that she is "Genderfluid." and wants to be called Rae, what a lot of shit." "Bella is in the psych ward, she tried to kill herself but the dose wasn't enough, probably on purpose she just wants attention." "She is failing all of her classes and keeps hanging out with these boys, breaking the law, sneaking out at night." "She ran away, she wants everyone to think we are bad parents because she wants to be cool." "I fucking hate Isabella, she was so good and we didn't do anything wrong she was obviously a bad egg."
I’m so sorry that they’re like that. Some people are really just not understanding of anybody’s situation. I tried to come out to my parents as nonbinary and they were just like “oh, but you’ll always be my little girl” and never even tried to research it or see my point of view. It’s frustrating and hurtful and it’s awful that people would have kids and not try to support them. I hope your situation gets better.
I know I'm 7 months later, and I'm not sure if other people feeling sorry makes you uncomftable, but hey Rae, things will get better, and if they don't, hey, there's always people willing to help like friends or even strangers on the internet! I'm in no place to tell you all this, but I hope your parents become supportive towards you! I'm pretty awful at comforting, but I really hope this made you feel better in any way! Take care, Rae, and I hope they understand soon.
"You can be whatever you want." What does that even matter if I don't even know what to do with my life. "You're the inspiration for the rest of your class!" No, no I'm not, please don't try saying stuff like that, it makes me uncomfortable. Most of these people hate me. "You're so smart, you shouldn't be spending all your time on the internet." This is my only place of finding comfort at this point, please don't try to take these people who will actually listen to me away from me. "Why aren't you talking more with your classmates?" These people are fvcking hateful towards everyone, you really want me to be friends with people who've legit told trans people to just h4ng themself? "You're such a good kid, keep on going with that!" Stop trying to compliment me, it makes me feel like I need to live up to even more of your expectations. "Open more up, we're your parents." I don't like you, just because I liked you when I was 5 doesn't mean I still like you, you called me a monster, do you really think I'll still love you? "Why don't you want a hug?" You "affection" doen't feel like love anymore, please stop. "Stop using your headphones, you're just locking yourself up in a bubble." This gives me comfort, I don't like you listening to everything I do, it makes me uncomfortable. "You have such a pretty body, you should show it off more!" Okay, p3d0. "I know what you're going through." No. No you fvcking don't. You did not have to live in constant fear of being kicked out of your house for being a part of the LGBTQ+. You didn't have to get misgendered on a daily basis. You did not feel insecure about your body. You actually liked yourself, I don't. Don't even try to say that you know me, my friends know me better than my own family.
(Bit of a vent) THIS LITERALLY DESCRIBES ME PERFECTLY, also, since when I was in the first year of elementary my teachers would alway complain about my shyness, now that I’m in middle school I can’t make any new friends because of it😔 I also have developed anxiety and social anxiety and I seriously don’t understand the people that make these things look quirky, I AM THIS ANTI-SOCIAL GIRL ALWAYS IN HER OWN BUBBLE THAN CAN NEVER OPEN UP TO PEOPLE AND HAS TRUST ISSUES, WHEN I’M AWAY FROM SOCIALS NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME, WHY DO PEOPLE WANT TO MAKE THIS A QUIRK?!!?! My parents think that I’m over-exaggerating and my mom in particular thinks that this whole thing is a trend; Most of my classmates want to be me (I hate them) they insult me one day and then the other one they tell me “I wIsh I wErE yOu”
That's so me. At least my classmates support me and are friendly, I don't hate them, but when I hinted being trans to my mother she made a fuss out of it. I hate that. Also my mother and her family are so... "you gotta accept my affection" and touch me without my consent, even when I don't like it and I stated so. But it never matters. It never matters what I can say
I thought I was so smart, and so special, and I was going to be a gifted kid my whole life Then I got sent to a school, where everyone was a gifted kid That went about as well as you expected
So I'm going to highschool this year, and honestly I am terrified. I did online schooling all year and was doing okay. I got all A's except the B I got in Algebra. My parents were so angry, I cried myself to sleep that day. I studied so much but I couldn't be "perfect", I couldn't satisfy them. I am so fucking tired but the show must go on. Thanks for reading my ted talk. :)
I know this might be hard but you need to study for yourself and get the grades YOU want - not what your parents want. You don’t need to be perfect at everything to be successful. If you think B’s seems achievable for you, work for that. High school is difficult. You need to make time for your mental health or you will burn out and risk failing - which isn’t a bad thing but a low grade is better than a fail. There’s no point in stressing yourself out about subjects which you can’t realistically be perfect at. Just do what you need to get into college or the job you want. That’s enough. You are enough. You can always study more if you want but I suggest limiting it to a set amount of time per day (and have days off of course). Mental health should ALWAYS be a priority. I am always here if you need to talk. Good luck with high school x
Sweetheart, you’ve got to protect yourself. Even if you cannot speak outwardly to your parents know in your heart that you are good enough. You know what you have done to get where you are, you tried your hardest and no one, , can ask you for a shred more than that. Nothing and more importantly no one is perfect. Believe me, I’ve spent my entire life chasing that ideal dream. It’s progress over perfection, your best is away the perfect answer. And most importantly, work on satisfying yourself as much as you can in the environment you are in. What is it you truly want, why are you doing this? And sometimes just take a deep breath, you’ve survived 100% of your challenges. Keep thinking of the positives, if you look for the negatives, they are all far too easy to find. Shift your perspective and stay safe. I wish you nothing but the best.
This might sound pretentious, but I actually managed to get into med school. But, I never liked bragging about it. Sure it _sounds_ good but what people don’t understand is that I _hate_ med school. Not in the beginning, no. I like studying a lot, because I like to ask weird things to figure out how things work. A lot of people like to be a little scientist too I’m sure. So it was fun that all my questions I’ve always wanted to know are answered by the doctoes and teachers who clearly know what they’re doing. The problem came when I am expected to _excel_ at med school. It was pressure, scary high pressure. None of my relatives are doctors unless married in. So I am expected to be the first one born into the family to succeed. It didn’t help that I was always first in class. I only wanted stellar grades because I was told that’s what you have to get be able to go into med school. I want to go to med school because I want my questions to be answered. I am also petty enough that the second reason why I wanna get in is because I wanna know if I can. And I did. But the pressure? The “I’m not mad just dissapointed” guilt tripping? The “Oh… a B” without no other comment? The “you’re a future doctor right? you surely know if I’m actually sick, right?” questions? The “you have to be perfect to succeed in life” advice? The “nobody would look for you because you’re socially anxious, so you need this to survive” type of advice? I hated all of it. I don’t want this anymore, I wanted to quit. I wanted to burn all my notebooks and start over. This was _not_ what I signed up for. But quitting med school? Hah! _You gotta be joking, right?_
Hey, do whatever you need go to better your mental health. you shouldn’t be held at such high standards to be the first one in your family to “succeed” - it’s such bs.
I feel exactly the same. I'm in med school second semester, its fricking insane. I never really wanted to do med school that much, but I was kinda just preassured into and thought thats the only thing I CAN do now, having no other plan for my future. I'm highly thinking of dropping out this first semester and pursueing another job, without a degree. But- I put in already two semsters and the pre-exam, getting A's and one B in my first semster. I have two B's and all A's now in this semester, but I'm drasticially struggling. My finals are next week. I'm not ready. I'm going to fail. I don't have money, I don't have the motivation. But surely I can't go on without a degree or plan? So I don't know. If I pass this semster I should just keep going, to have a plan. Theres nothing else I know what to do, even if this isn't what im intrested in. Sure, its cool. I like to learn, but I don't ever want to work in a clinic... I know I CAN do it, but do I WANT too? I've already proven that I could. But, what else sha'll I do? Anyways. Sorry for the long read. TL;DR: Life sucks due to preassure of being a "genius" and I don't know what to do from here.
Medicine is like the mob. Once you are in, you know too much, you can't quit it alive. I should know, Im a doctor... BTW, I Know **EXACTLY** how you feel. Medicine is a huge area with lots of subcategories to specialize into. You can always find something to study that you forget it is medicine and actually is just good enough to get by. With me was sports medicine.
I remember when I was young I used to be the super gifted kid and then as the years progressed things 'declined' and with every "I thought you were smart" or "You've changed, stop being so lazy and do your work" it just goes downhill faster. So to all the other kids who feel burnt out or without the will to do anything, just remember you're still special no matter what anyone says! Now, does anyone wanna come along to commit some arson to the people telling us we aren't worth it :))?
Same even if I’m still only in 8th I feel burnt out as hell, during school I can hide it pretty well but by th time I get home it starts going downhill. I don’t really care anymore so I’m gonna rant HARD because I share a room with my (10 year or so) older brother it’s hard for me to vent my feeling anywhere but the bathroom and very late at night and even if I’m not the most gifted kid in my family I still did really well in school until quarantine online classes hit and everything fell apart my sister is two years older than me and she to me is essentially the most gifted kid in my family she was or at least seemed fine during quarantine and each day while I was staring straight through my screen into the void would call out to me and be like HEY PAY ATTENTION dumbass ok Fuck this never mind this is dumb ranting is hard I’m gonna go contemplate suicide again the worst part is having slightly egotistical Asian parents that barely understand English while I can’t understand Cantonese so it’s extra hard to communicate that I feel stressed and brothers that are way older than you so you can’t even argue with anything they say and went through something different and to them worse than what you did but they think it’s basically the same and lecture you on how they got through it so you should be able to as well even though your different people and don’t think even slightly the same and sisters who basically mock you when you don’t do something right even when my family tries to help me and I try to explain my feelings I have this weird thing where if I talk to someone older that me I almost always start crying even if I get mad and try to argue with them I start crying and being unable to speak so I run away into the bathroom to sit there for an hour contemplating slamming your head into the wall until you die and then being unable to hold grudges and be mad at them because you’re forced to be around them bottling up emotions until you explode at 3am and just break out crying but not screaming and hitting things or else they’ll wake up tell you they’ve had worse to shut the fuck up and go to sleep like god the amount of time I’ve wanted to take out shears and just kill everyone me then myself is uncountable
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"you're born clever"
thanks
"just study harder, and you'll be smarter"
oh haha uh
growing up i was told i was a genius so i internalized the idea that i was naturally smart without needing to put in any effort and now i'm in college always behind on my assignments and barely passing my classes
Relatable
@@rawanelmsalehi4655 same
same
same
honestly at first it's fun, and then when ur older you burn out and suddenly you don't know how to study...
Yeah, and as the oldest out of 4 kids everybody looked up to me. The standards were so much that those A's quickly dropped to F's
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at first its having fun and not having to worry about your grades and then its having a mental breakdown in the school bathrooms cause your pretty much a teachers helper and always have to help people when the teachers helping others like when did i sign up for that??? next year when the teachers do that im gonna be like "its your job to help them not mine"
Yeah.
god i relate to this so much
It feels straining being the gifted kid because everyone EXPECTS you to be hella smart and or talented, plus have such high grades. And when you wanna take a break they ask "whats wrong? Youre literally gifted, you don't need to study hard anyway" and it just makes you think you shouldnt or dont deserve a break 😀
Yes..YES THAT'S IT! My family has such high expectations on me , that i dont even know how to tell them the truth now cause i know theyll be angry. Not just my family but everyone around me
It's russian btw, you can use google translator if you need.
Похожая ситуация. Учителя считают меня дофига умным для своего возраста, что очень мешает. От меня ожидают многое, а я просто пытаюсь выбраться из состояния выгорания и не впасть в депрессию во время учёбы. Это чертовски тяжело, а сверстники думают, что мне легче, чем им. Нет, ребят, мне пиздец как сложно, пожалуйста поймите.
@@tomislair i understand how you feel completely, stay strong, im sure we can get through this
i lit don't know how the hell to study because i've never had to study and then when middle school hit i started taking classes that were wayyy harder and everything went downhill
@@mo_7199 exactly
My mom thinks she’s doing something by not comparing me to other people but instead comparing me to my younger self and when she was my age, it’s actually just as damaging (at least to me)
“ *But when you were younger you could make friends easily!* ”
“ *You’re not the same, I want my little girl back* ”
“ *Why are you always in your room and alone now? When you were a kid you were so much more talkative* ”
“ *You know when I was your age I was friends with everyone, how come you can’t do that?* ”
Yeah I got it, I grew up and I’m not what you expected anymore
this hit sooo close to home
damn i feel bad you had to go through all that.
My mom compared me to not just her and my younger self but my siblings and other kids why do parents do that. We're human we grow up, we change, we're all different people, and we don't have to be perfect because there is no such thing as perfect everyone has a different idea of perfect.
I wish I could like this comment a thousand times
Man, I thought I was the only one
to all the other gifted burnt out kids that peaked in elementary-middle school, i love you :)
ilyt, stranger
thank you :,D
ily too /p.
@@arohachanuwu9504 this epidemic is killing me omg. This year i’ll have to take a test to go to highschool ( vietnamese system) and im dying because this online classes make me do tired and sleepy. And i cant see friends anymore, chatting is not a good communication way. I feel like im having to work 3 times as hard as normal
I hate when you peak in elementary-middle school and everyone thinks your genuis
"The gifted kid" + "the golden child" = teenage insanity
when i have both 🙂
I am that kid even when I’m not a teenager yet
when you're both 😟😟
i was more like "gifted imigrant kid" + "helpful and kind kid" + a little insanity from my biological father ( died in a car catastrophe ) = this fucking alcocholic smoking ingineering student train wreck know as me ( my friendships usually last on an average of 2 years when they get to know me a bit better )
When you were both 😩✌️
Is it strange that the gifted talented kid is now a burnout with depression and the one no one notice is now a high achiever with flying colors and also grow many talents ?
“Oh, you’re so smart! I bet you’ll be famous in the future, unlike him.”
“Oh, you’re failing? You were so smart, look at him, he’s so successful.”
“Oh, you can’t do any of this? Why don’t you put more time in studying harder and being like her?”
“Oh, you’re so good at this! See - even she looks up to you now!”
@@avidagamegerl1081 I don’t get it. It’s tiring when you have to live up to standards of society, just to make yourself feel like your worth something.
I was the one unnoticed, become the talented child and now I'm the burntout :(
holy sht this hits hard
Yeah, my exact progression
I was the “gifted child” every mom wanted to have as a daughter. I was the girl they use to compare their child to. I was that girl whom everyone looked up to. And now, I feel like I’m way behind everyone else. I always wonder what went wrong.
Oh my gosh same.... it is just so infuriating how life turns for us suddenly.
I feel you guys too
same here
Same
Same high school is fvcking me up mentally and there are my peers who are still soaring while I'm ruined in my studies 😭
Hearing the sentence “I’m not mad, just disappointed” doesn’t comfort me more at all, it just makes me feel like a failure.
Just say you’re mad.
I’d rather have you be mad than disappointed in me.
I have never related more to a comment in this section more than this one.
Yes
Or ‘this isint a punishment’
Then why are you taking away my help? My support? My job? My friends?
This.
right, you get over anger. disappointment lingers
you show them that youre talented at a young age and theyre amazed.
amazement turns into expectation.
expectation turn into a standard.
and from that point on, anything less than that is a mistake
this.
which is why I constantly lower people's standards for me so when I do good, they compliment me :))
yeah my sister was like "it's not fair, she is smart, thats why she can do it" or "you suposse to know everithing, you're smart" like ????? really *sigh*. My parents say what I'm doing well and ist fine even if I got a 7 in my exams or like that (they jus't wanna good grades for me is not necessary a 10, here the points going to 0 to 10) and I'm glad whit that (but i'm pushen myself always because my good grades become part of my self steem and I know it's not sane I'm working on that), anyways what I tried to say is my sister is annoying/j
nah, what I really try to say is, is fine not being that "smat" when you as a kid, you are human and try your best, you doing well and deserve a rest too, don't forget take care of yourself pls i'm proud of you and what you achieved
Ha, that's why I'm telling myself to not give a fuck anymore, they see it as a mistake, I see it as avoiding future suicidal attempts and even more worse breakdowns than I have now, and those breakdowns are for different personal reasons, I don't need to breakdown because of other peoples expectations, it's not fair to me.
yeah....
being a smart kid in school is unexpected. everyone’s standards are SO high. I get one question wrong and then ppl are like “I thought you were smart”
Or when people literally laugh and gossip if someone outscores you on an exam bc you’re viewed as the standard to beat
@@lauren1454 Yep, or they make it look like a whole celebration party
Oh I know a kid in my class who experiences this. I feel so bad for her, speaking from a burned out "smart" kid. I hate it when people expect so much from people who get very high grades and judge them if they don't have full scores.
@@lauren1454 yep
My English teacher was disappointed at me for getting a 9.75 and it was her fault. I wrote some sentence with ‘they’ as in an unspecified person and my teacher is transphobic so 💀 even all the other “gifted kids” were rooting for me but she never bothered to fix the score.
"Where did the smart girl go?"
You killed her. You fucking did it. Congrats.
"your not living up to your potential" " you're a genius and you fit beauty standards why are you depressed?" ' your so mature for your age' ' why can't you get this concept I thought you were smart?' fun timezzzz
And of course the "she's such a smart kid but she could do so much better"
I would say i fit into beauty standards other then my huge eyebags also who can forget the helping people in school even though thats the teachers job and you can't complain about it cause then people will say "Gosh just help them your so rude" like they cant even notice the fact that the same pressure put on teachers is put on the gifted kids
@@sakshi52511 omg yess, I also have eye bags btw. But once in class I got like 3 things done because I had to help all my friends instead of doing my own work
BRO SAME, I passed 8th grade with straight a's, each either 95% or higher, while taking the hardest courses. THEN, my math teacher got mad at me because the hardest stuff she taught us, I understood after one example, but I couldnt understand the easiest thing she showed us after weeks of being taught to us.
There’s also the:
“Oh my God, how can you do that?!!?”
“Girl, you have to teach me”
“You’re wayyy too good at this”
But guess what’s the funny thing? Those people also call me “nerd” and act like it’s a whole celebration party and brag when they get a better grade then me. Like seriously, I DON’T CARE, I JUST WANNA PASS THE YEAR!!!
i was so proud i was a gifted kid.
now that everyones expectations were high for me, my expectations are high for myself.
i never study.
i start crying whenever i get a single question wrong.
edit : dear everyone who is relating to me,
i love you. i hope you know that. i hope all of you get better soon. i still feel this way, but im trying to overcome it. please get help.
Same, but when I get a question wrong I start calling myself stupid, then I start getting anxious and think everyone will make fun of me because they have high expectations for me, it takes about 30 minutes for me to be kinda ok with the fact that I got a question wrong
same being smart is the only thing i can do if not then i'm...useless
i have a heart attack every time my grade is in the 70’s because that’s failing in my family and my dad would get mad if we failed ✨
being smart is one of the things I’m known for bc I don’t really know that many people and that’s just what they assume. When I get a question wrong I feel like I’m disappointing my parents bc they trust me with my grades and that I’ll do good. Anything below a 96av is fucking terrible for me and if I get a 80 - 90 on a quiz or test, u bet I’m gonna cry:,)
Same, and I also start crying when I get even slightly told off/lectured or do something wrong. It sucks :(
I’ve personally fallen from “golden child” and “gifted kid” to “family disappointment” :)
I'm dreading the "family disappointment" stage but i really don't think i have the same potential that i did when i was younger
Idk something's changed.
I've become more..
Dull. More hopeless. More overwhelmed. More lifeless.
Idk what to do.
same
Same!!!:)
Me too and it kills me inside
Covid took a large hit on me because I have to be at school in order to learn properly. I went from "smart" to "failure"
ah everyone join in the Burnt Out Gifted Kid Anthem with me!
106%
"Good job, kiddo, keep it up"
raising your hand for every question
98%
"try and bring your grades up, kid"
panic attacks in school bathrooms for every wrong answer
93%
"your grades are slipping please pay more attention"
doubt over every question's answer
86%
"...."
shaking hands before every test
75%
"youre shooting youself in the foot kid"
im trying please-
70%
"youre gonna need to cut this extra curricular"
study study focus study study studygodpleasestudybetter-
60%
"sorry but to pass this year you need to take this extra course"
sleeping in the back of class
58%
"im dissapointed in you-"
alright
45%
"god whats wrong with you? you used to be so smart!"
breaking down mid test
30%
"idiot"
sorry
29%
"what do you want me to say? go back to studying"
...
Wow. That's exactly my life you just describe (sorry for the bad English)
I'm in 93% i'm 10 btw soon to be 11 in september
:D
:,D
WOW WTF
THIS IS TOO TRUE.
I’m a mix of 106% and 93%
Idk how your marks works but in my country the highest mark was 100%. And i miss for getting 98% in test.
Being academically gifted is a curse I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemies. Few school systems are designed to continue providing constant intellectual stimulation while not overwhelming their students. This is why “former gifted kid syndrome” exists. This is why you go from devouring books like a monster that can never be satiated to struggling through a single paragraph. You weren’t given the stimulation you needed to sustain your giftedness, and it atrophied like any unused muscle would.
I’m so sorry they let you down.
Really?! No wonder I feel this way! This describes me perfectly! Thank you I've never understood why I am like this but now I understand! Thank you, I appreciate it so much!💕
I DONT. usually reply to youtube comments n this is like 3 weeks late but i just wanted to say that i really want to thank you, i kinda read that last sentence and cried /pos
something i wish i understood earlier. thank you
this sums it up perfectly!
This.
Im eating frozen microwave mac n cheese and baja mtn dew at 3 in the night blasting "are you satisfied through" my bluetooth headphones so i'll go deaf. This is it. This is the peak of giften kid burn out.
:) it’s alright, but I’m proud of you for going so far! It’s shitty but keep fighting. If I can’t give up, neither can you!!!! 🤧 I love you, ok?
Okay, I'm sorry if this comes if rude or insensitive but, did it work?
@Muffin Tin oh haha good to know but I was talking about if they went death or not. Sorry for the confusion ^^
@Muffin Tin y'know mine would too, so, it's fine ^^
@Muffin Tin I-
I was always called a "gifted" kid, graduated high school at 16, getting into a Master degree in a prestigious university in my country. I am having more trouble keeping up with the pressure and workload, slowly going insane with the deadlines and suffering from impostor syndrome
I'm sorry for venting here...
That’s completely ok!! I’ll listen, I don’t mind :) you’re amazing and you got this. Take a break, treat yourself, ok? You deserve it
heyyyy you’re doing amazing!!!!!!
don’t forget so take break ok? Do something to make you calm okkkkk
Please take care of yourself
Sending virtual hug to anyone need🥰
@@4ngrybvnny istg you are so precious
@@zia3428 I will try to care of myself!! Thanks for the encouragements
@@dawnu Aw thank you
here's my "gifted kid" expirence
-had fun in elementary
-was popular because of my intelligence
-grew to think I was on top of everyone else
-middle school (7th grade specifically) hit like a truck
-struggling to get work turned in on time
-always expected to get amazing grades
-turned to my comfort character instead of other healthy coping mechanisms to deal with problems
-never developed good study/work habits because I never had to
I hate school 👍
same for me but 8th grade was the worst
this is me right now.... ive been biting my nails so much they are bleeding constantly and every day i go home and i shake and cry and i feel like nobody cares
are we the same person bc gahdamn this is literally me
you will fucking love grad school kid
@@bobafrap3253 same! kinda sad we all have the same experience
“What happened to the girl who was rushing to get everything done ahead of time?”
You killed her. I hope you’re proud.
Yeah, well done...
They wanted for us to shine but they forgot that when you polish something too much you end up revealing what's on the inside
No you just watched too much tiktok and got lazy
@@gustetamasauskaite4338 and you spend your life scrolling youtube just to criticize people who you don't even know, or understand? Can you ever acknowledge how some people get problems. you're the reason that people's mental health decline. Telling them this kind of thing doesn't help at all. I hope you know that.
@@purelyrlue7197 I only replied to that person. And I'm right, yall sitting hours on tiktok or phone and then complaining about being "depressed" or becoming dumb, because of others🤨
"When you're 10, they call you a prodigy. When you're 15, they call you a genius. But once you hit 20, you're just a normal person."
Haruka Nanase aint it...haha....but seriously we suffer a lot don't we? 🥲
Shit that hit deep
Haruka Nanase right? That's so true. When I was 6,I was considered as a genius, a gifted kid, but now that I'm 12, everybody thinks that's normal to put so much pression on me. I have to be good in everything. I must have good marks, I must have friends, I must be pretty( still on process), I have to be perfect. And I think I'm gonna go insane. Anyway, sorry for bother you with that ans sorry for my bad English(I'm French).
@@help.5006 damn bro....hang in there kay'? and dw ur perfect the way u are (no matter what anyone says)
@@weebingtoanime2653 thank you❤ I'm will continue to do my best but without pushing me to my limits:)
the dislikes are from the smart kids denying that they're going insane as well
And from all our parents who refuse to believe we’re going insane
Wait, there were dislikes? - oh yeah-
And the guidance counsellors saying that we’re perfectly fine 😃
There also from our parents who think we just want attention and went trough our history
@@mikeywayglasses true
im literally failing every class except English, which is the ONLY class I've never failed at in all my years in school. my parents refuse to acknowledge I might have ADHD and god I'm in fucking shambles. I can't focus and missing work just keeps piling up and all i want is so just disappear. there's no way i'm going to college like this. sorry mom and dad, but you raised a failure
Hey, you're not a failure. My best friend has ADHD; he's screwed up countless times and you know what, he's taught me that failure isn't the end, and failure doesn't make YOU a failure. If you can get through this, you'll be a lot stronger than those of us who never learned how to handle failure.
Here's my advice that I've seen work for him, can't speak if it'll work for you but it might help:
1.) He has little things he plays with in his hands, like these squishy balls and clay and stuff. He also leaves his computer and stuff at home when he goes to work.
2.) He can't afford medicine, but he says sometimes a single cup of coffee or something with caffeine can help.
3.) Get someone in your life to set a schedule for you if you can't stick to one yourself; he can't always set one for himself, but if I keep him on board it really helps him.
4.) When he has to really intensely study or work on something, he goes somewhere really quiet, like the quietest part of the local university library and he asks me to make sure he gets work done. Basically try to get yourself an accountability partner if you can, someone who's not your parents and who doesn't stress you out.
5.) I use an app called SelfControl to make it so I can't access anything except what I'm supposed to be working on for specific amounts of time. That plus pomodoro method works for me, maybe it'll help you.
6.) Do just one of the things that are piling up. The piling up causes panic and that causes procrastination; break the cycle by doing just one thing. You only have to do one thing, that's all, that's it. Just one.
Sorry if this isn't great advice, it's just what I've seen work for him. But the most important thing to remember is, messing up doesn't make you a failure. Don't talk about yourself like that, it's not true-and if you can't do it for yourself, do it for me, a random internet stranger who cares about you.
@@MySchoolProject15 Thank you
I also struggle a lot with ADHD so I'll definitely try these out
@@MySchoolProject15 as someone with diagnosed adhd and being a gifted kid this is some great advice also stuff that is caffeinated slows our brain down, thats how the meds work so yes coffee is a great alternative as well as energy drinks
im in the same boat the school sytem failed you its not us ok try not to hate yourself so much try to find other things to put your self vaule on. it can help
I never related to a comment that much in my whole life.
Being the gifted kid in elementary school sets such a large Expectation but then as soon as Middle school/high school hits it just goes downhill.
It does🥲
Yeah I was in gifted classes since the 4th grade and now being a 7th grader I struggled a lot to keep myself to a C in math and spent most of the year with an F or D and that teacher was always so rude when it was like that and would say, “ You do so good in your other classes why are you so lazy in my class” like Tiarra I have bad mental health from this dumb program and your making it worse by telling I’m a failure when I can’t solve for X she even yelled at me for not finishing my final while I brought it home and stayed up struggling and going off of 3 cups of coffee just to make a shitty project that easy even a good given grade for me or my group who tried their best
Yeah i was doing so good in elementary school without even trying but now look at me:/
I had the best grades until 7th grade, couldn’t understand things and now I’m back with my good grades but not learning anything tbh, just doing this because that’s what they expect of me
Wow omg but why is that literally what happened to me though like omg
Once i heard "are you satisfied" i was immediately drawn in TYSM
RIGHT?!!!!
BESTIEEEE YESSSS 🤩💅🏼💅🏼
SAMEE QUEEEEN!! (Or king, or person of amazing)
same
SAME
"You're gifted" "youre smart" "youll be fine" "you'll probably do better after you study" lies all lies. Im failing now due to the words you've told me. Thank you. :D
Im so sorry:( i bealive in you
@@Nayy.yrocks awe thank you ✨💕
Syaz np
I'm so sorry you're going through that, that was basically what the entirety of the last school year was for me.
I promise it will get better though, it may seem like there is no end in sight right now but I promise there is, just hang on for a little while longer.
I'm sorry I can't offer any advice because my year did not end the best way but I just want to remind you that it's not the end and to be kind to yourself
@@MM-bx4iv honestly im going through my last year rn and due to covid n stuff my exams are sent to next year when im supoosed to end by this year.
But online classes arent helping. My mental health is going who knows where. And my mom doesnt believe that i might have some mental issues.
I had to force her through my aunt. Now i have to wait until covid is fully gone or something to be able to go out and actually get diagnosed.
Also during my midterm exam which was like few months ago i got 5 failed subjects which is alot considering ive never really failed a class before. But yea thanks for your supporting words i appreciate it alot ✨
I was a straight A student, until last year.
I was told anything other than an A was unacceptable
and she was right-
I still got honor roll, but my mom wasn't proud of me
"You should've gotten your grades up"
she was surprised when I crumpled it up while we were watching my sister's awards ceremony.
she was still disappointed in me.
she's been more proud of me, but only cause of my success in theatre and school. If I was failing she'd kill me.
I believe that emotions get in the way of work now
nobody cares how I feel
they just want my money in the future
I'm their "401k"
I'm their money child
but... i don't want that
I don't even know what I want...
when someone asks me what I want to do, my response is "My mom wants-"
and when she finds out i'm nb and lesbian I'll be the family outcast...
they'll hate me
I know it's been awhile since you've left this comment but I still wanted to say I believe in you. You can do anything, break free of their dream, pursue yours. At some point and I know how hard this is you've just got to say fuck em, I'm in control. I'm going through something similar, bisexual and feminine my parents hate me, so do all my relatives besides my siblings. We don't owe them anything besides what we choose to give them. Once you're on your own the only person who can stop you is you.
Basically, I believe in you, you can find out who you want to be, and grow beyond whatever your family wants for you. Keep going and be yourself, whoever that is.
WTH?! Your mom is so messed up!
If i can try to work really hard so i can get away from my family, we should get in contact and become roomies
its ok bro 8th grade will be easier
Ikr, my mom would totally throw me out the second I told her I'm lesbian and Demigirl. I'm not even 18. She'd disown me.
I'm already the family disappointment
Being the “gifted kid” for me is different. Everyone never leaves me alone, Everyone expects me to be happy, Everyone won’t give me space, Everyone always depends on me for everything, I’m getting so overwhelmed, Everyone thinks I’m so perfect, I’ve been have panic attacks because of it.
Happy pills got me, big time
same and my parents dont understand why I don't wanna go to school
This is literally me.
Same :/
So basically,you’re the popular kid,but in an different state. That must be so hard to cope with.
Nah cus when you don't realise how hard u where pushing yourself even outside of studies until you breakdown and litterally can't do itt anymore, and the only thing u can do is pick up your shit and do it all again
its just this torturous loop.
literally my parents said they were disappointed and i worked till i couldnt think and i broke down and fell asleep
Exactly
This comment hit way to close 😭
Hit a little bit to much like my life . 😃
The smart kid in our class slipped up one time and the whole class was shocked and making “disappointment noises”
from the on, she never slipped up and was always top 1.
Must be so hard for her :(
just reading this gave me anxiety. this sounds terrible
I had almost same situation (as the smart kid)... Its one of the worst feelings sadly... If you dont usually have mid grades but the good ones then it will always be like that :(
@@cocolai5243 same i was always top 1 to if i'm not i would fucking cry i would lock myself in my room
fear
I'm supposed to be one of the "smart kids" in our class so whenever I mess up I get the same reaction, some people taking it as far as to tell me they "thought I was supposed to be smart"
I've slipped up time and time again and people never learn to hide their disappointment, it hurts so much every time
I'm going to an online school part time now where I don't know anybody and it's refreshing to have little to no reputation of being smart, the teachers and students don't expect anything so I either meet their expectations or exceed them, it's so much better :)
I am a 15 year old in Korea. I was always top of the class in elementary, and I still kept a good streak in middle school. Straight As were not good, they were standard.
This year is my last year of middle school(the system is kinda different here) so I am prepping for high school.
I love science so I decided to take the exam for a science major high school.
While prepping for the exam I kinda lost track of my middle school studies and I ended up getting a C in Chinese, which is barely a passing grade.
I didn't think much of it; I hadn't studied. It wasn't an important class anyway so I had dropped it.
My mother didn't take it well though. She knew I was prepping for high but she was still disappointed.
And I know she's gaslighting me into thinking I'm a failure.
But I wanna tell you guys out there, whether you failed in school or not, even if you fell short of everyone's expectations, YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE.
I just- I like science but I really want to sing and draw as well. They take my mind off shit.
It's hard being Asian, isn't it? I've devolved from proudly showing my mom my test paper to lying about not receiving it yet
Did you get into the science major high school? I hope you did
@@kazukaeferfer Yeah I did! it's a boarding school so I'm away from my family most of the time. I still struggle with classes, but i like science. I try.
@@duakim7658 congratulations! That's really nice
"I don't understand this at all, I think I'm going to fail"
"No way, you're so smart, you'll probably be the top of the class"
*fails*
"What happened, I thought you were smart?"
Like do people realize most of us just have undiagnosed ADHD? Do they think we're gods or something?
I mean, its not like im a god or something?? They expect me to finish things in 3 seconds, have straight As, be the CuTe AdoRaBle KinD person i am. Do they even have mirrors in their house? Thats just unfair for us.
we're living people
The worst thing that always happen to me is when a classmate asks for help, I try to answer and say that I'm not quite sure if this is the correct answer, and when the teacher comes to see how we're all doing they tell to my classmate that they wrote something wrong and the kid starts to blame it on me and say that I'm actually dumb and useless, I love it.. sorry for the vent
@@aydsnake_-988 the amount of relatable,,,,,
"She's first of the class, continue like this!"
"This year too she is!"
.
.
"What?! You're third now?!"
"I'm disapointed of you"
I don't see what's wrong for dropping 2 damn ranks lol
OMG THIS!!!! SIn elementary and middle school i was the first one without studying, then in 8th grade i think, i had to learn how to study (without any help and only the guidance of youtube videos that didnt give good advices) bcs school was getting complicated and couldn't pass with As without studying, and ended third in my grade. I remember that my parents didnt want to go to my graduation bcs of that. Even my brother (who was the best at my house at the time) told me how dissapointed he was. At that time it affected me so bad that i was scared of going back to school after summer break bcs i thought i wasn't good enough.
Not being the best of my class still afects me tons, but at least i dont care about dissapointing my family, fck you all parents that care more about their reputation than your child and put them under that pressure at so young age >:c
yh
You can do better? Why dont you just work harder?
Why?
Because i fucking cant, if i try harder i will go insane
Maybe am already a freak who feels like the people of the internet understands more than family and friends
i dropped from number 1 to number 2 and the pressure that my family puts on me makes me feel worthless and stopped trying
YES!! THIS ONE HITS SO HARD
" dude, you were so smart before. "
i was, what, 2 to 5 to 7 ?
" you can't just say you hate him because he touched you a bit. "
you're 10, he didn't even bat an eyelash at you.
" this is why nobody likes you around, you're so pessimistic. "
hm, i wonder why.
" maybe like, shut up next time ? "
alright.
" don't talk about him when he's not around. "
oh, but you can do that when I'M not around ? oh, sorry, i see where i stand on this makeshift pedestal you created.
" you're so selfish, do you know that ? "
mkay.
" she's a good friend. "
she pretended to like me, harassed me about it for the rest of the year til school ended. yeah, she's a really good friend.
I'm sorry you had to go through that, you deserve better I hope your doing well
@@brainemptynothink - aye thanks. i'm going through a lot of depression now, but i am persevering through it :)
@@HOUNDOFTARTARUS well if you ever wanna talk I'll listen :)
your not selfish their just mad they can't get what they want out of you people call me selfish all the time when in reality I just don't let people use me
lift your head you you will drop your crown!👑 ily and so does everyone here
Bad grades don't mean you're stupid
Bad habits don't mean you're doing something wrong
Bad responses don't mean you're a failure, they just don't understand and maybe want to help/ support you but don't know how.
Bad improvement/no improvement doesn't point to you doing something wrong. Something went wrong, but you are still you. And YOU. CAN. DO. THIS.
I Believe In You
thank you so much, I really needed that. u saved my life probably
@@athena1837 I'm very glad it helped! Hold on and believe in yourself! I'm proud of you no matter what!
needed this thanks
flippin started crying from this thanks so much
Thanks for this dear stranger
When ur the “gifted kid” and the sibling who has to do everything right so you slowly go to the “dumber” classes and skip and in general become a delinquent without ur parents noticing but they’ve lowkey gave up on you (it’s funner this way trust me)
edit: bro this kinda blew up- just to clarify I enjoy living this way because it’s more fun
lol yesterday "they" just realized that I already "GONE" and told me I didn't even study and being lazy. and told me "people who are study are smart people, who didn't study is the foolish one and they belong to trash :>" all they care is "me". I wouldn't label myself as gifted, the thing is when I was in kindergarten I swear I don't know what is learning about and fail everything my parents know that I knew most of them (I have problem "solving" the answer cus I can't talk at school ; social anxiety ). And they knew I'm "smarter" then "them". And they said I should be better cus I'm the oldest I need to "show" that I'm useful. Ended up I can manipulate people. now I hate myself for knowing how to be bad. I also have trust and anger issues plus fear of abounded. ( sorry if this too long)
@@dionn5609 hay man I feel ya to an extent and if u need someone to talk to im here rsndom internet stranger
@@bingbongwingawong4491 I don't know. My mind is blank. I'm confused and numb rn
@@dionn5609id say look at your self and figure out what u are feeling, why r u feeling this way, and is this a good feeling or not then try and find some postive goal to strive for
Happened to me sucks and makes me feel useless to this day 😕 wish I was born as gods favorite I cant deal with this anymore🙂🙃
When you’ve been “the gifted kid” and “the sunshine child (being happy all the time)” you just feel so drained. You feel like you’re going insane but you feel like you can’t ask for help because you taught yourself to mask your negative emotions. So now you hold it in all day and only let it out when you’re positive that everyone else is asleep
Yeah, i get that. im a child of hades btw :) i was (and kinda still am) also obsessed with those books
Yeah that is exactlywhat i do , and i know it's unhealthy, but i dont know hwo to ask for help anymore. Because i know they wont listen. Because i know theyll say, "but youre so happy all the time! Stop talking nonsense and seeking attention."
Im so goddamn tired. It's so exhausting, I can't...
Wow- this hit a little too close to home...
I sadly relate to this a bit too much :']
@@ender4344 trust me i understand you too well
oh, so you are/were the "gifted kid"?
-everything came easy to you as a kid
-you need reassurance now because you cant tell if youre doing good at anything or if youve messed up
-you never had to study because you knew everything and you never had to do homework because you finished all your work in class, so now you have trouble studying and doing homework
-doodling on your work and realizing you have to turn it in, then frantically erasing it
-lets be honest, you gave up at some point, didnt you? you just stopped paying attention and doing your work?
-you can make up excuses on the spot.
-throw yourself into other realities (books, movies, shows, media, shifting) to avoid your responsibilities
-you zoomed through books as a kid and now you can barely read
-screentime of 7+ hours
-probably got access to social medias too early in life
ily all pls get a drink and a snack sometime soon
I do all this and this hit so much... Ily too please take care of yourself and drink water!! Stay safe^•^
@×Lucidii_Cl0ud× finally some one my age feels the same way I felt like it was only me I’m 11 too! And apparently the “gifted kid”
is this a call out
@×Lucidii_Cl0ud× @•Anime_Avocados• i hope you are both doing okay ^^ remember its always okay to take a break !!
I do read very well, but I can't stay focused. If I'm reading something I don't want to, you can forget it, cuz I won't finish. I love reading books that take me away, where there is no room in my head for anything else. That's why I read so well, my standards in books are so high, that I can only read advanced books. I love reading books of things I can't have. A happy peaceful family, the "Happy Ending", adventures. Not rotting away in my room riddled with holes in the walls from family feuds.
it's so fucking nice seeing people who went through the same shit as me, being pressured from a young age. hope y'all are doing ok
Getting Excessive praise for your talents. Making you purely believe that it's a gift.
From this it splits to two:
• The kid who overwork them selfs in order to keep their image standing, cursing them self for getting anything lower than perfection. slowly but surely breaking the over flowing dam that is their sanity.
• The kid who didn't get to build a work ethic due to people calling their achievements “natural” talents, and so beat them selfs up internally for being “stupid” by not achieving basic goals. thinking they've regressed.
Both are:
- Burnout. - Self critical.
- mentally unhealthy.
- idealistic. - Resourceful.
- distant. - Prideful.
- perfectionists.
- Afraid.
Those aren't gifts. They're curses.
My fear used to be enough motivation, but now I’m just depressed which got rid of the fear, in fact I wish they would abuse me, hit me, so I wouldn’t feel guilty for calling cps over just mental abuse
One interesting thing is that everyone has some kind of natural talents and most of them are "spiked", with spiked I mean that someone talent is very strong/effective in doing something oddly specific. I was often told to ignore the things that I'm capable of doing and invest my time in learning something else. This is not that bad most of the time, but when you learn a little bit of yourself and understand how small your plate is and how you work you start dropping the things that you cannot keep up and after a while you remain with something almost useless.
There is nothing worse to say to another than "you are so talented" because it's the perfect case for creating the negative traits that you whote about in your comment. It's a good ego boost, but like most thing self-love comes from within.
yep, somehow I am both, it feels.
I’m the second…
i am the second one for sure and i got a friend who would be the first one for sure
when you realise that these playlists make you find strangers that understand you more than your family :)
Yup.
( vent don't take this to offense please)
fuck off why are you right
I hate how accurate this is
They've known me for over 10 years and they still dont understand me...
Mhm,sadly it is indeed true
I give up on literally everything that doesn’t come to me naturally I feel so pressured to do everything perfectly I genuinely fucking hate the pressure school puts on me
Its to the point it invades things that arent related to school. If i cant draw something right, I'll give up immdiately. School doesnt even realize the pressure. The amount of anxiousness it always puts me in is literally suffocating. Im in a constant state of anxiety and i cant do anything about it bc despite it being summer break I still feel the pressure and expectations looming over my shoulder.
@@peiithos So true. I gave up on all my hobbies because I didn't meet my own standards. Nothing feels good anymore, just makes me anxious and adds more expectations.
I quit singing bc the ppl around me
I AM EXACTLY LIKE THAT! Finally someone put it into words!
Like i just noticed how bad i am at everything and every time i try to do something i stop because im too bad for my own standards
Gifted Kid Poetry (feel free to write some poems in response)
Etched margins of black and white
Impresses all that see
Imaginative mind, curious and talented
Success. Achievement. Perfection
From treats to labor to standard
The pedestal you stand on grows high
Peeking over the edge, the floor nonexistent
If to fall... would you...?
Dread. Worry. Obsession
Do not fall else blood stains your clothes
Your body grows away from purity
Please love you, please be enough
Oh no. I did it again.
It's missing. It shouldn't be
I made another mistake, it's there in shining letters.
It's not graded, I can't see
Oh no, I did it again.
I sloved the problem. I was happy.
Then it poped up again, "overdue", it had said.
So I did it again. I'm not preppy
Oh no, I did it again.
They're said, I can't empathize.
What do I do? What do I do?
Help. Comfort. Console. Get them to energize.
Oh no, I did it again.
I forgot to eat.
I forgot to shower.
I forgot to sleep.
I forgot again
Oh no, they did it again.
I can't see, my sight won't let me see my awards
I can't breath, it all suffocating.
An iron grip around my throat and hands, I'm asphyxiating
Oh no, we did it again.
Grades, reputaion, status, expectation.
How high are we? Where's the limit?
We can't see the bottom anymore.
Please, we are enough.
We are valuable.
We aren't stupid.
We can do it.
Please.
Oh no, my errors are on display
But I will never be
"enough"
the past is what everyone sees
the future what they expect
and the present as gentle water
that among the waves caresses the apple of Adam
it's enough?
is it enough for me?
it will never be
"enough",
word that does not reach,
but that comes
guided by blindfolded Fortune
and it hits
now water enters the ship,
who was born with a life jacket will never know how to swim
Just because one may understand every question
Know every word
Know every number and letter
Know every fact and opinion
Never means they understand themselves
They don't always know their favorite color
Or music style
Or even their name and age.
Don't even know themselves.
You want to join? Okay!
Wow, you're so smart!
My daughter will be a rich person.
You'll go so far ahead!
Are you sure you don't want to join?
Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. I'll do it.
You are the best!
What happened to you? Are you okay? You changed.
"Stains can't fade, so neither can my mind's expectations. But you can't trade your life, nor can you get your childhood back."
Being “gifted” at a young age and doing your hardest and slowly failing because they never showed the care you should’ve had, it’s literally so fucking hard.
Literally me. They think you're so bright and brilliant and push you too hard only for you to discover you weren't really "gifted," you were just high-functioning autistic labeled as gifted because it was easier to say... Though that's more of my case
a quick vent.
I was a pretty good kid in elementary school (apparently, I can’t remember much). my parents always tell me about how sweet I was and how smart I was. I always got everything turned in on time. I had a college reading level in the 3rd grade. But eventually the stress of it all got to me and my grades slipped. My personality changed (apparently). When I was little I always focused on the positive side, never the negative. but now I guess I’m a nihilist. My mother always tells me, “what happened to the sweet little girl I used to know? What happened?” And to be honest, I don’t know either.
i have never relate to something so much like this. my mom always says "what happened to you" "you changed where did the old you go?".
this sounds *exactly* like me
same but I 'never did my work' and was 'disruptive and a cheater' according to my teachers which is why I had such bad grades and had to go to so many new schools.
this is *exactly* me- freaky-
my mom says that too. but she says it more angry then concerned. welp sorry mom i didnt mean to develop anger issues cause my dad was a non existent bitch
“It’s not a race to the bottom.”
“You’re not wearing pajama pants to school you’ll look homeless.”
“You can’t wear fishnet, it will make you look like a prostitute.”
“Where’s the rest of that shirt? Have some decency.”
“You’re at the pool, wear a bikini, not a sweatshirt.”
“Why don’t you go for a run, you’re getting lazy.”
“You’ve been working out too much, it’s unhealthy.”
“You’re not eating enough.”
“Do you need to eat all that? Are you actually hungry?”
“Take some time to read, you never read anymore.”
“You’ve been spending too much time reading.”
“That’s too much makeup.”
“Do you want to put on some concealer to cover your acne?”
“Take a break.”
“You’re lazy.”
“She’s reading a 600 page book every day, all you read are comics.”
“Don’t bind and wear masculine clothes, dress like a girl.”
“Those girls clothes are too revealing, there are standards of decency in society.”
So what exactly do you want from me???
I feel like this so much it hurts, I feel like this whole comment section should probably all go to therapy together
It’s just so narcissistic of them to think we don’t feel anything. It never adds up.
fuckin same
Like just make up your mind!! And why would I follow your rules anyways? I can be who I want to be, not who society wants me to be. I hope everyone has a good day!! :):)
I'm a frikin 10 year old and they expect me to either act like an idiot or like a high schooler bru
When I'm feeling like I haven't reached my full potential, Uncle Iroh comes to me, speaking words of wisdom: "There's nothing wrong with a life of peace and prosperity."
Stay healthy, friends.
When I find myself in times of trouble, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
And in my hour of darkness she is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
I used to think being a "gifted" student made my life easy and effortless,
until I went to a school full of them.
Same- I go to a school with a program inside of it and that’s what I attend. Everyone is gifted, and everyone is failing. We’re all burnt out and that’s kind of how I made friends
@@iluvmylifesoreal Same, now since i've gone here, i feel like a faliure since im taking classes 2 grades ahead of what's "normal" and im struggling
Same now I feel like a failure
im in class right now, everyone is smarter then me, but all of us are slowly burning out. Thats why we get along so well
I almost had to go I was 1% off but they kept trynna make me go, and I’m so proud of myself for only getting 98% on the tests I would have killed myself if I had gone there
this comment section is amazing,i feel so understood and not judged,i can't talk about how i feel to anyone irl so this playlist is nice,thank you
same dahg
It is always nice hearing others stories and seeing that you aren't alone.
Same
yuh
Yeaaa
"Both of your parents are smart so you should be too!" "Your brother gets straight A's in everything, I bet you do too!" haha maybe im not a carbon copy of any of them :D
same i have the same problems
sister top of everything
brother doctor because he could he didnt try
mom the other disapintment that uses her kids to give her money
dad a genius in electronics
me a lazy pile of crap thats is an idiot
This one right here. My parents make me do everything my older brother has done and they asked to put me in the same classes with the same teachers and the same material. I just want to live bro. They have no idea how much i hate having to be this copy of my brother. I just want to have my own personality and have my own friends. I just want to live :/
The parents thing hit home
Yeahhhh I was compared to my dad and sister
my 7th grade history teacher literally admitted he only gave me good marks bc he thought id be the same as my older sister. outstanding grades. 😬😬
"Driven by a greed to succeed" is sorta of what happens to some of them.
You see, little kids will be that much more *motivated* to do work, get it done all right and nice. As you grow more, sometimes it seems to wilt away and crumple and you lose that "gifted kid" reputation and get more average grades, which will lead to more disappointment and the words that leech at you like "I expected better from you" or "you could've done better, I know that".
I hate it.
As a "gifted kid", I've always had good grades and all that. And you know, all your classmates know about it. At first it wasn't really a problem at all. I felt like people thought I was just the "smart girl", and I kind of liked it. But now, this is just pressure. I can't even answer a question in class because I'm scared. They have expectations. They think I'm the best so I must be the best. I have to be the best. So I just stopped answering, because what if I was wrong? They'll start to think I'm useless and stupid. My teacher will start to think I'm stupid. I don't want that. I'm just feeling like I'm about to give up any minute now.
I'm sorry to hear you're going through so much. I hope you feel better soon.
Girlll yes! I have the EXACT same problem. Everytime a question is asked, I hide my face and my anxiety takes over. And it doesn’t help that there are some other good students in class and teachers love pitting us against each other. And when I get a question wrong? Oh boy, the embarrassment, the JUDGEMENT. Recently I haven’t been scoring as well as I used to…and I keep hearing these sympathy comments “what happened? You used to study well.” The teachers who praised me are really mean to me now.They make snarky remarks like they used to with the “dumb kids”
It looks like we are living the same life... Everything will get better,at least I hope so every day..
Keep going honey but it's important to remind yourself why this is so important to you. GIVE yourself a reason to wake up every morning to study and do homework, and go to school and just live because i know sometimes it's hard to just breath but bear with it. Please. And you're not stupid, society simply failed to tell us that it was okay to make mistakes, that it was wrong for others to belittle us of our short comings and that we didn't have to be perfect all the time. And please put your health first. Their expectations mean nothing if it's the weapon that's hurting you.
@@itz_ary nicely put words, great job. And it helps me too ;]
Dude this could not be more relatable
Ikr?
same tbh
@@olxs same I deleted mine too bc I didn’t wanna look dumb
@@olxs but yeah gifted kid burnout is such a mood, especially coming from one
Same
!!!VENT!!!!
I am a gifted kid myself, and to be honest, I actually think this is all my fault. All my life, I've never had to actually study, and I just answered the questions with my common sense. Most gifted kids burn out in high school and college, but I'm burning out in middle school. I can't focus on anything for some reason. All my life I never had to actually worry about time management because I would end up getting the motivation to do it last minute, perfectly. But I don't have that anymore. I don't know what happened. My parents know this, and they think its because I'm "watching videos". No im not. I'm literally putting on music. They always assume im doing something bad. Im trying to be perfect for them. They're telling me that this is for my future, but I think that its just for your reputation as a parent. Really, the only person that has actually believed me and appreciated me doing my best is my mother. Even though I never get so see her during the weekdays, I still love her so much because she works just as hard as I do. But the thing is, I always get distracted by something, no matter what I do, and I can't help it. I don't know whats happening to me. I always cry every time I think about the past, the little girl in elementary school that was a straight A student and got along with all my classmates. I have one week of school left. I really hope I can do this. If I were to spit these feelings out in the public, especially in front of my dad, he wont validate it. He would try to one up me by saying he had to walk miles to school when he was a kid and he has to go to the library every day to study. I really wish that he would just validate my feelings for once. Ive tried telling him before, but he always told me to work harder and just keep studying and reading. He loves me, and I love him, but i dont think he understands the fact that this is harder than you see it. Especially if you always get distracted with something. If I dont have my phone, and there isnt any youtube tabs or music on, I'd end up playing with my skin and scabs. I take a bath almost every 5 daysbecause I never have the time to do it regularly. I'd say i wanna die, but that would obviously hurt, so im trying to shift instead. I'm only 12, and thats why most people like to tell me im overreacting. I hate this. They would always talk about how they had even worse experiences in highschool/college. I get really stressed to the point where the tips of my fingers would be ice cold and i dont know why.
@@dreamylin5122 thank you so much, this really made me feel better :)
have you considered that you might have adhd?
I relate to this so much idk what to say. Same feelings same reasons same effects everything. I know what your going through, I'm sorry this is happening to you and I hope everything gets better for you, no I'm sure everything will go better for you sooner or later! 💞
you really hit the spot on describing on how I feel and we'll get through this! o(￣▽￣)ｄ a thought that kinda comforts me is that us being so young we still have chances to redeem ourselves so one day we might get some burst of motivation and straighten out our lives.
I’m 13 and what you just said has touch me in another level, I honestly relate to you in so many ways ( except my dad is the one who isn’t home, and they both are emotionally neglectful)
*Okay so i've never been in a "gifted" program, but ever since I was little i've developed my brain quickly. So i've always been expected to be na smart kid. No inbetween, everyone goes,
" I'm proud of you "
" Wow! another A! "
" You're so smart "
" You're so clever "
" Excellent "
" Very good "
" Very good "
" very nice "
" good enough "
" could be better "
" Study harder "
" it's probably social media is it "
" What happened to your scores "
“Your gifted”
“Keep on the good work”
“Good job”
“You will be fine!”
“U don’t need a therapist amor”
“I’m so disappointed in you”
“This isn’t like you”
“I can’t believe you did this”
Well I’m sorry mom (btw my downhill started in 5th grade and it still continues)
Omg SAMEEE
After 5th grade everything started to go downhills, now I'm what the US would consider a sophomore in high school and have no idea how I got this far
I started to go downhill in 3rd grade, but it wasn’t so bad. 4th grade, worse but a few a’s. 5th grade 1 a. And then it started to be worse and worse with each grade I had.
Same here, but now I've finally graduated high school and will be struggling for four years in college 😬.
you're*
Being the “perfect kid” and then all the sudden telling your dad you want to go to therapy only for him to explode is the worst…
Something someone said to me that really really got me deep: “Just because you’re carrying everything so well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy”. It just…wow I guess.
But maybe your not. Maybe you hide it's heaviness and sob every night. Maybe I'm speaking from experience. Maybe I'm speaking from what's exactly happening to me. Maybe my family will find out and I'll feel bad for making them cry. Maybe my life will fall apart like it already had. Maybe everyone will know I'm a wreck. Maybe no one will ever know. Right?...
oh
(Vent)
I’m not a gifted kid. I’m the kid that’s too mentally exhausted to do anything. But that not an excuse for anything. I make c’s and d’s and I’m a upcoming senior. I’m not even sure I’m going to graduate and I’m so fucking scared of my future. I don’t wanna disappoint my family but it’s just so fucking hard all the time. I didn’t even think I’d make it this far in life. I don’t know what to do. I know imma have to suck it up and deal with it but it’s just so so hard.
I would suggest joining the military after high school, and then after that you can go to college/get a degree(I'm pretty sure the tuition would be either free or very low with military benefits). Or, you could become a real estate agent since that doesn't require a college degree, all you need would be to pass the real estate exam.
As a "gifted kid", I'm always my own critic and even though my parents don't care about my grades, I feel that if I get an easy question wrong that I'm a failure. Also, I act so much different than others in my class and they constantly bully me for it even though I can't control my brain....plus my mind is years older than I am but sometimes it's younger so I seem older in class but I act younger when with friends
We're in the same situation. I feel so out of place, my "best friend" litteraly told me that I'm not like kids my age. I'm supposedly so mature but at the same time I like to do silly things like children. I feel so burnt out and tired. I have to keep my grades up, being the top 1 of my class, because if I fail I will lose my worth and disappoint myself.
@@alba7835 life sucks
Wow, my grades are doing good! I’m really happy!
Omg I got tested and I’m gifted? So cool!
I’m making so many new friends!? I’m popular?
My bestie is popular too, cool!
(Oh… she’s popular now)
I didn’t know debate was her thing…
At least I still have better grades than her!
My first B. I’m nothing compared to her
Is she even my friend?
I have to drop out of debate I guess…
More Bs, more anxiety attacks.
My friends are… not hanging out with me anymore?
Everyone else is going on dates, but no one asked me out…
“Why aren’t you paying attention in class!?”
I don’t know what to do…
“Why am I still here..?”
It all started with the As. My parents loved it, I was super smart, and I was always cool because of it. When I got my first B, they didn’t care either. But it was like a switch in my brain that just went “you have to do better” and then I started taking Italian, and the pressure to be number one on the charts for my school. All to catch up with the friends that I always thought was my equals. That’s how quick this stuff can develop. Stay safe out there
starting with "are you satisfied" is a power move
I still firmly believe that I would have been so much better if they never told me or my mother that I was "gifted", I would be better with my mom knowing me as the average kid with 80 - 90 grades that likes to draw and stuff like that instead of her thinking that I'm a 100/100 student and a genius or something like that and that "can do so many good things" and other lies I can't remember right now
I want to hug everyone in the comment section. You deserve a break.
We can forget about you either :)) 🫂 love you!
Thanks,and you deserve a break too.🤗
Currently crying atm so thank you :D
@@purgatory-013 Is there anything you need to talk about? Getting a warm drink, treating myself, listening to music and cosy in to bed makes me feel better. (Though I am a lot better now I'm medicated) :')
@@mcmona4171 i mean I already vented and i just cried a bit so i feel a little better BUUUTTT big announcement i just showered 😗💅 (I haven’t showered because i was sad)
Man, this playlist hits differently as someone who was once told “the only good thing about you is your intelligence” :))
I assure you that your worth is much greater than that. Your intelligence isn't the only good thing about you. I know I'm just a random youtube user, but trust me. You got this, everything will get better.
Thank you so much for the kind words :”) I really appreciate them
@@lexa6570 You don't have to thank me :( I can't stand people feeling this way because of things they're told. I just hope you have a good life
I know I've never met you, but I know there are so many other good things about you. I'm so sorry somebody ever told you that. I hope you don't have to hear things like that again.
Way too relatable. Especially when you’ve slipped in your other hobbies/interests. Used to be the “popular leader debate kid” now all I am is “test answers” lol
Yep. After you get a b on your report card and your family treats you like it’s a f because I’m a “ A grade student “. It gets old. I’m proud of you? I don’t have that much he’ll just say “oh nice.” Or “good job” GRADES ARE EVERYTHING AND BEING LIKE OTHER SMART KIDS. ( my own personal experience)
my mom would get mad at me when I got an 83% on a test. My classmates made fun of me and told me I was “craving attention” because I got stressed when I got a B. I was just raised with that mentality.
YEAH!! when i tell to my parents that i got good grades they say "so what? that's your job. that's what you are supposed to do, you didn't do anything special."
They don't even seem proud when I get good grades but pissed off when I get a lower grade :/ I was "gifted" in elementary and middle school but now I'm just trying to get normal grades and chill 'cause I realized grades are a bs and don't say how much you're worth or good at something but just how much you're good at memorizing informations you'll forget as soon as you get out of school..
@@milimeter3529 exactly I went through that too! Only the other kids that had parents like me understood!
@@lunajz-1584 I know. I was “gifted” from kinder to 4 then 5th grade hit me like a rock. And I was getting yelled at left and right
as a classified “moderate” gifted child w an iq of 142, ive always had pressure put on me to be the “best of the best” by my incredibly gifted family of draft athletes, architects, and entrepreneurs. they’re pushing me to become a UN diplomat or a government journalist and i’ve always gone with their demands up until the start of the pandemic. after i came out as queer they gradually began to lose respect for me and said that “our family doesn’t need people like you” . after 8 years of nonstop working i began to feel the effects on my mental health. i was diagnosed with OCD and my grades declined. now i feel like everything’s gone to shit.
Oh dear, I'm so sorry that it turned out like that! I hope you will be better soon Ｏ(≧∇≦)Ｏ♡
It can get better, at least people won't hurt you as much if you know how shitty everyone of us is
i wish i could gift words of comfort, but all that i have to offer is a "me too", and a few scraps of "it'll get better"
I wish I wasn’t “gifted” and a perfectionist sometimes. When I failed my first test a few weeks ago (in math, I’m in 10th grade) I had a breakdown. Luckily I was at home when that happened, but it was still pretty bad. I felt useless. I was supposed to be smart, so why did I fail the test? I hate how so much pressure is put on us just because we’re “smarter’’ than everyone else. We’re still human beings. Human beings have limits. I also feel awful when I get a question wrong because of this
Yeah.
As another former gifted child, it's just a curse. The only validationit ever got was when I did something exceptionally good. I Failed a test yesterday (math for 11th grade) and I cried for two hours in my room and am currently crying because my parents found out. I recently had to get an emotional support animal to help with my panic attacks as recommended by my therapist, and it came as a shock to my parents that I needed one. Sorry for rambling I just needed to talk about it to help me calm down.
this.
i always wish i wasn't so smart.
just in between..
just not dumb.. but not "oh wow ur so smart i could never do that question" type of smart, yk?
I’m a “gifted” perfectionist too, and honestly it’s tiring. People expect so much from me just because I’m gifted. I’m not even that smart, I suck at math and science, the only thing I’m super great at is reading and ELA. I’m not like neutral in anything, I suck terribly at math, music, science, PE, art, and I’m super good at spelling and ELA. And it’s only those two. Nothing else.
It’s been going on for as long as I can remember. I’m not even a teen and I feel so pressured. I got a B in one of my classes and like you I had a breakdown scared for show my mom. Even now, my grades dropped to B’s and two A’s I feel so burnout and overwhelmed.
Any other “gifted kids” excel in in subjects like history and English so people wouldn’t pay them much attention when they were doing bad at math and science and then it became too late, then you get blamed for not understanding a subject no one put effort into teaching you because like the rest they assumed it would come naturally.
It's finally in words
I'm having difficulties in grasping the basic concept of math and science as well. I aced in any other subjects tho :')
"You were so mature for your age"
"You have to win imagine how happy I would be if my daughter won first place"
"You're the eldest you're supposed to set the example, so be good"
"I bet you're so proud of yourself"
My parents told me that they made sacrifices for me and I won't deny that I had most of the things I wanted and more than I needed but I always had to put school above everything else so I could do what they couldtnt. I was having a really difficult time mentally but my dad said I could not be stressed because I would find what that was when I was an adult and had nothing to stress about, I had panic attacks over competitions that I knew my parents wanted me to win every year. One time my dad even hit me so hard he left brusies on my legs just because I didn't make it to the next round, and threaten me saying he could do worst. I then found out the teachet forgot to tell me that I did make it, I sometimes never even tried but did so good, Even though for some reason I was so drained. Every time I didn't come in first place I felt like my world was falling apart just like they showed in movies I couldn't believe it even though I didn't try so I knew it was my fault. That's when I realized if you're not first it means you're not good enough, second and third are good but first is better
Sorry if I wrote too much I'm probably just exaggerating since I'm not being abused or anything some people have it worst.
Ay. Your father hit you. That is abuse.
No, you’re not overreacting, your feelings are perfectly valid.
Your feelings r valid
Being happy is an accomplishment too!
Fam that sounds pretty abusive to me
@@E_Does_YT your comment made me laugh for some reason
Even tho this doesnt happen to me much, have choco therapy with us. Touch some happy grass, and l i v e with us if u sad, we can eat mchappy
And the special hapburger. Hopefully ur doing ok now
To be very honest, I feel like as a "gifted kid" I am so unhappy with grades, not even just 94s in one class, I just want 98s-100s grades, and when I am confident in my scores, people are better and I am so unsatisfied. Yes, I work hard and try my best to pay attention to school, even prep before for my grades, but it doesn't feel right for me to keep on being an overachiever yet I still want to be a better student to get validation and other people are better than me, making me so unhappy. Sorry for overspilling my feelings.
Edit:
To those who are reading this and can relate to this I'm sorry this is happening to all of you I truly do and wish you the best of luck, and sometimes just realize. This is just school and where you get advancements ahead in life. but that'll never define who you are in the future because it is much more important on your skills and personality.
it's fine if you don't mind could I do the same?
@@airuwu682 of course feel free to （*＾-＾*）
Lemonstrawberries thank so much, so both my parent control different aspects of my life. My dad, softball. My mom music and teakwondo. They have this habit of signing me up for thing without telling me so sometimes I feel as if my life is completely out of my control. Also I feel whatever I do is never enough for them like whenever I have a game I get really scared and freed game time sometimes it really bad and I'll close my door and start hyperventilating well not really just like my breathing quickens and I start tearing up but I can stop it, when I hear someone come near my door I cover my mouth and tell myself everything fine and that I should stop. Most days I don't want to wake up but the fear of one of my parents busting into my room is usually good enough reason to get up. And they'll sign me up for so many things it's jay really stressful. Like my dad will just sign me up for softball stuff that I don't even want to do but I'm to scared he'll yell at me if I say no cause he already spent then money on it and my mom guilt trips me into doing thing like if I say no then she'll tell me that I'll never make it in life and things like that. And after all this they still expect me to do good in school like my lowest grades will be 80 and they'll be pissed. I've just lost motivation to do most things
@@airuwu682 I'm so sorry that happened and I understand the feeling, sometiimes my parents can be a little controlling when it comes to wanting to improve
@@lemonstrawberries1316 yeah sometimes thing suck like that but hopefully things will get better I mean when you hit rock bottom you can only go up right? but really if people don't realize how much of an amazing person you are, then that's their problem I mean you just let a complete stranger spill their guts, listened and replied so you've got a good heart and thats something that deserves recognition to. I know it sounds hard but take a break once in while and think about what you want. I know it's easier said then done one reason I'm not good comfort lol. I say these things, but really from what you've said you deserve a break even you don't take one, keep in mind that you deserve one and maybe that'll be enough. ( ´･･)ﾉ(._.`) (me trying my best to comfort you lol)
this hits different when i've been getting straight 88s all through school but now i can barely manage to get 50 for maths
88 is such a specific number lol
I was 60 now my new results is 8
Math has always been the only subject my mother says I can get a C on, if I get anything lower (like this year) she's like, "you just gave up didn't you, you can't do that, quitters do that, I know it's been a hard year but you could've tried harder."
Like, she understands that I suck at math because she sucks at math but she still gets unnecessarily upset if I get a d or f in math. It's annoying.
I had to hear from my own sister that i only "sleep and study" when i'm the one keeping the house clean and fighting depression, she thinks i'm lazy but i'm tired....i went from the golden child, best student of the class, to disappointment of the family and motive of gossip.
I'm tired
❗(TW: mentions of self-harm and suicide)
It was so stressful being the "gifted kid". Especially when it came to mental health. When I first expressed how I felt, most people looked at my grades and said, "Well, your grades are good so what's the issue?" Then when my grades dropped, people were quick to say "You can do better. What's wrong with you? Why are you like this?" All of a sudden, people like me started harming themselves and dying left and right. Even then, grades were the main priority. We were given school counselors who barely helped and pep talks but no actual form of therapy. Sometimes I find it surprising that I made it this far. I'm turning 20 next month but I didn't think I'd make it past 15.
I really dont know if i can make it past 15 😭
I’m proud of you, I really am. I though I wouldn’t make it past 15, but here I am turning 16 this year. :) honestly I’m so damn proud of you for coming so far
really proud of you! you got this! and happy early birthday! you're amazing and deserve to be happy! hope you have a good day!
@@4ngrybvnny Happy early birthday, really glad you were able to keep pushing! I'm proud of you! (*￣3￣)╭
I can relate to this... I thought I wasn’t going to last past 13 or 14 and now im 16, but still struggling heavily. I was supposed to end it all fairly recently a few times but i was able to be calmed down by someone close.
However, I hope everyone is doing okay, getting okay rest, taking breaks, and staying hydrated. I love you❤️ you’re feelings are valid, its okay to be stressed, but please, make sure to take care of yourselves!
POV: It’s like everyone is so proud that you are a perfect child but it just starts to become a expectation and you start to become hard on yourself and start crying in the littlest of mistakes and always make fake dreams that everyone still thinks your the best. And everything just starts feeling fake
Ive never related so hard for a comment section before.. YOU GUYS R EVERYTHING
the most annoying part of all of this is that there are people out there that genuinely think that 'gifted kids' not only don't deserve empathy but deserve pain just because they are gifted
Is it just me or do other "gifted kids" have the same problem; not being able to distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction
Edit: I figured it out! I'm aroace (though that's just me)
HEY OMG ME TOO 😍😍
Yesssir/maam/ person
you called me out so hard man
Me too!
I feel the same way :)
"Because it's my problem if I wanna pack up and run away.."
I felt that on a spiritual level..
Running away has always seemed really fun..
I even tried to run away once, but i realized that i left my bread 😥
I ran away but got caught by a cop, I lied my way out of it snd my parents had to pick me up. I got slapped hard and they went through my entire phone, I panicked because my girlfriend called me. I got yelled at more. I had to tell them something that gave me ptsd just so they would stop. They called pastor, his wife, and my grandparents. I got prayed over even if I didn't want it. They wouldn't stop asking questions about my situation for a month. They stopped caring after and threaten to send me to a therapist no matter how many times I say I don't wanna just because I don't listen.
Edit: The told them everything knowing damn well grandma is the type to tell everyone everything.
@@mafuyuki3603 LMAO Once I ran away to my backyard tree only to come inside and use the bathroom 😃
Hi, I've fallen and have become someone who doesn't care about my grades in uni and constantly feel like I don't belong here with my batchmates!! :D
Same but im 13 :D
@@purgatory-013 :( hope you get through this okay! find your interest and find supportive people to be around! even if this doesn't matter, I believe in you!! Also, grades really do not matter and you still have so much time to figure out who you are okay!
what people think or where you are on the school/class ranking doesn't matter, as long as you're doing better and improving at your own pace everyday, that's more than enough! hope I'm not being an "annoying adult". Good luck!
@@sashat4833 you’re being the best adult in my life, honestly but were i live we don’t even have class rankings, they only use my other grades and say “you can do better” when i already tried my best and it kinda hurts buti am currently alright (“alright” is i just had a mental breakdown)
@@purgatory-013 sorry to hear that you just had mental breakdown and I'm glad you're fine now.
I just wanna say that you've done super good so far and as long as you are doing your best, then you have done more than enough! It'll take time to understand what works for you and what's the best way to study, but you'll get where yo wanna be!
Work hard but take rests along the way too. Also, if you ever feel like you're not progressing or getting worst grades than before, don't take it too hard and know that it's okay to not reach your goals cause its a part of the journey, okay! You've got this!
(gosh i wish that i was talking to 13 year old me ;-;)
@@sashat4833 thank you I appreciate it ❤️
Ig I'll write s little poem for yall
"You guys need to go easier on her, shes way too above in the class."
-My stupid 2nd grade teacher to my parents
For context, i was a very smart kid. For as long as i could remember my father was taught me how to tend to myself alone, how to draw, count, speak, and everything else when i was very very young. He was very strict to ensure that i learned it. Infact, when i did my business in a DIAPER hed get mad at me, even though i was still a mere toddler. If i said something wrong, WACK. If i did something wrong, WACK. If my hand writing was bad, WACK. This taught me to be very self disciplined and hard on myself. I was obsessed with being perfect.
"Oh shes so smart for her age!"
"You drew this? This is amazing!"
"Youre doing so well!"
I loved getting compliments because it meant i did something right, and that would mean no discipline.
When I reached the age to get to school, we couldnt hold the house we had. My father stayed at home to take care of my brother and i while my mother worked night-shift. It still wasnt enough, though. Thank goodness, my grandparents had a house that we could stay in. I was grateful for it, yes, but it wasn't an ideal place for kids to be in. There were molds left right and center, and the small room all 4 of us stayed in was barely enough to fit. Not only the inside, but the neighborhood was horrid as well. Almost every night we heard gunshots and police sirens. My parents never let me play outside or even step foot out.
I remember i had a neighbor whos dog would bark every night, theyd take their dog for a walk, go out in their truck occasionally. They had a Cubs banner outside their house as well. A normal life. Although, one day they stopped walking their dog. Their dog was silent, no barks were heard. Their truck never moved. Its like they evaporated out of thin air one day. It may be me being paranoid, but i thought it was very weird.
With a bad neighbors, meant bad school! Yay! 😁🔫
My private school was only 2 minutes away, the only reason i went. It was a very weird school. Not only did the teachers not do anything about the now normal students cussing each other out during study, but they had an odd way of teaching.
Everyone had to be on the same page. Nobody moved up nor down. All of the smart kids had to wait until the slower kids caught up. But they never took the time to boost up the dumber ones.
I was far more smarter than almost everyone in my 2nd grade class. When everyone was learning cursive, id already known it since kindergarten.
It felt nice being that kid who got better grades than everyone else. But my teachers of course, did not approve.
"Oh shes very smart! Smarter than most of them!"
Mrs. T spoke during the parent-teacher conference.
"Shes a great role model too. Shes like the Hail Mary, without the talking of course."
"Well thats good to hear, anything else?"
"Oh yes, I was thinking about it- I think you guys need to go easier on her, shes way too above in the class."
Those words echo through my head everyday. My family and i took her stupid advice. Im not self disciplined anymore, i barely get any work done, barely get compliments, etcetc.
When I reached 5th i got out of that hellhole. I ended up moving to a public school that was much more nicer than the other. One problem, since everyone at the previous school needed dumber kids to catch up, i ended up getting dumber along the way.
When i reached my new school it was so much more difficult. My old school was teaching how division worked while this school taught how to divide decimals.
I fell behind. I went from being smarter amongst dumber kids to being dumber amongst smarter kids.
During panic attacks id wonder if id still be in the same position if it werent for my teacher.
My grades eventually lowered due to stress and a hunger to be perfect, to getting compliments again. Maybe i was a narcissist, but i just wanted an affirmation of some sort.
"Why are you proud of a B?"
"What happened, Sophia? You used to be perfect. Now youre.. this."
"Your drawings lately have been horrible. Cmon now!"
"Youre doing this all wrong!"
"Stop f^cking everything up like you always do!"
Now im older, still behind and procrastinating. Though i hate my 2nd grade teacher, i blame myself for taking her advice. I fully blame myself for it all.
These days i still hope my younger, more passionate, self was still there. Like itd emerge from the shadows.
I read everything
You can still learn to be disciplined now
You don't have to be perfect, but it's enough to be better than yesterday
I just read all of this :( i relate so bad, and i’m so sorry you went through all of this at such a young age. i bet you’re a beautiful thing, a kind soul, and a general pleasure to be around. i hope things get better, and i love you /p
The people who are usually "smart" missed out on something important as a child. They may be viewed as an "excellent role model" but since they are missing that one something from their childhood (affection, friends, anything) , it eventually catches up to them and they start struggling (Like for example, always feeling the need for you to be *perfect* , to be *accepted* by other people, being *approved* of, by other people, doing things and receiving things you never got to do, or got, as a child. Honestly, life is hard and complicated, too much of something or too less of something can really affect you. It hurts that some people are oblivious to this, and that some people view (and peer pressure) "smart gifted people" like some perfect angel, when they are just humans, and look down upon them with the slightest mistake. Also, the "smart gifted" people probably worked their absolute asses to get where they currently are. Just saying-
I hope you are doing good! Remember, if you need to, vent it out! Don't keep it all in, I hope you are doing well, thank you beri much for this comment. It made me realize some stuff. I hope you have a good day :D
I'm literally crying. "Why are you proud of a B" hit me like a freight train. Not me over here with my intrusive thoughts and perfectionist parents
I was gifted kid in 2-5 and it was fine I never had to study, and I was flying through books.
6th was when I realized I wasn’t as “gifted” as they said I am.The starting point for that was in 4th grade when I was diagnosed with adhd and anxiety.
I’m in 7th grade and just say it’s sucks, cause I’ve fallen right back into the gifted child crap again. Almost all my classes are advanced and in my science class I was says “the one who’s always ahead” I nearly bursted into tears but I just kept sliming. And I’ve finished a 400 page book in 3 days.I hate that I’m like this, add family pressure to it and it’s a nightmare.
Yep I feel ya m8. I was seen as the "smart kid" to everyone but they would become extremely confused when I said that I didn't get all As like I was expected to. Turns out, I have adhd and anxiety which made it basically impossible for me to "reach my full potential." So I was seen just as wasted potential to my teachers
are we the same person
11th grader here. I feel your pain. I was diagnosed with ADHD, Anxiety, and Bipolar (Bipolar and Anxiety is pretty recent, with ADHD I've known about for 10-11 years) and it's all downhill from here for me. But just keep pushing through, you'll survive this and you'll survive high-school. Hope it gets better for you kid.
Wow, I happen to completely relate to a stranger.. I'm in 7th grade too btw
@@alderaan1931 actually you can stop, not intentionally tho. the expectations will never end tho. even if they see you as a failure. they still expect you to be perfect even if they see right in front of them how much of a failure I am. and they would say "i changed" and "I'm not the person they used to be proud of"
Reading all these comments made me realize how well we all did. I was the teacher's pet, constantly asked for homework left and right, never wanting to ruin my school reputation. Afraid of disappointment. Friendly with all teachers, friendly with all people whether bad or good. Studied, isolated in my room until I cried out of frustration. I used flashcards, tested myself over and over, expectations overflowing. 4.0 GPA, high-achiever, yes to everything asked of staff members. But hey, don't get me wrong I did have my closest friend supporting me and the teachers were kind, but I realized that I didn't do it for myself. I did it for others. In order to not fail their expectations. As one said in the comment section, you show them you're talented at a young age and they're amazed, amazement turns into expectations, expectations turns into standards and then anything less than that is a mistake. And I'm tired. So now entering highschool, even as my relatives may be angered by my actions, I'm doing what I want and feel like. I haven't given up on my grades but I'm not pressured anymore by anyone other than myself. I am taking my own path and it is hard but I love this feeling I've taken upon myself, it feels refreshing. You who is reading this should too...
100% yes
That’s great. I’m happy you got to become who you wanted. (?)
how's it going? I've been trying to get lower grades and prioritize my mental health and it HASN'T WORKED, back in November I was like "ok, next trimester I'm not going to try as hard, I'm going to prioritize my mental health" and then I proceeded to get directors list (I got a 96.3% academic average) and,,, yeah, FUCK
Thank you
Your experience is exactly what I'm going through right now. I'm not fully healed yet but I'm taking my time, and I hope you do as well.
To the burnout "gifted" kids out here, let's be friends:'))
hello
Well in my case, a different
I was never a gifted kid
I was naturally born stupid and im aware
I only got 90/100 ish on second grade before it came crashing down like a fautly airplane
So im sorry.
i wish my elementary school challenged me and the other “gifted kids” with more challenging lessons instead of just having us skip math lessons to build toothpick bridges lmao. maybe then i would be more accepting of failure instead of getting used to having perfect grades without having to put in much effort
Dude fr. Elementary school was fairly easy, perhaps even boring because of the lack of challenge.
for me it's the exact opposite, i learned to square root in the third grade, and i just wanted to make valentines boxes like the other kids. also,i don't know how to describe how stressful it is for an eight yr. old to walk alone, the long way through the 'big kid's hallway' to get to your classroom, on the top floor.
To all the people who are venting:
It's totally okay to take a break. The pressure of being so good at something is hard. I feel it too. You can do this, live your life, and make sure you do what makes you happy. If you're satisfied with where you are, there's no need to move. Don't live in someone else's dream. You are the best where you think you're the best. You got this 🙂
I’m surprised that “All Eyes on Me” isn’t part of this playlist! That song is pretty much the soundtrack to whenever I’m having an existential crisis as a former honor student, staring up at the ceiling and wondering where it all went wrong, and where do I go from here
And when you mess up it feels like everyone's looking at you.
The BATIM song?
this playlist was made specifically for me, I went from " a special/golden child" to "the family disappointment antisocial child " and now I've slowly gone insane about how to be perfect at everything to be a better child in my family.
Personally, I’ve never been considered “gifted” more like “special” because of my adhd and aspergers, but I still constantly suffer from burnout, have little to no motivation and struggle to get out of bed every morning and it kind of makes me feel guilty because so many others suffer so much from trying to work hard and I don’t even work hard and still suffer from burnout... I try to study and stuff but in the end I always just fall back into the hole of feeling useless and giving up on everything and I’ve never really understood what “gifted” kids go through but these comments are helping me realize thankfully, I always thought “gifted” kids had it easy but I was very wrong.
Anyway, sorry for the vent if anyone reads this lol
Its alright ! This is a safe place for all of us ^^
Wow, this is exactly me!
ngl the addition of thats how the world works adds that feeling of not being able to get out of gifted programs and always having to follow the narrative of the system
as the gifted kid that is slowly going insane I greatly relate to and appreciate this playlist 😃😔 /g
Everytime I fulfill their expectations it becomes the norm, and the expectations get higher and higher until a tiny slip is disappointing. I can't keep impressing them.
i wasnt a gifted kid to my dad/family, but to my other peers i was. i even heard one time of a guy saying "at least we got the smart girl in class for the project so we even barely pass" then pointed to me. honestly i love compliments but now i have to keep up that reputation 😀
"Our daughter Isabella is amazing she is getting great grades."
"Yeah, Izy is getting behind in math."
"It's really bad with Isabella, her grades are really low."
"Yeah, Isabella says that she is "Genderfluid." and wants to be called Rae, what a lot of shit."
"Bella is in the psych ward, she tried to kill herself but the dose wasn't enough, probably on purpose she just wants attention."
"She is failing all of her classes and keeps hanging out with these boys, breaking the law, sneaking out at night."
"She ran away, she wants everyone to think we are bad parents because she wants to be cool."
"I fucking hate Isabella, she was so good and we didn't do anything wrong she was obviously a bad egg."
I’m so sorry that they’re like that. Some people are really just not understanding of anybody’s situation. I tried to come out to my parents as nonbinary and they were just like “oh, but you’ll always be my little girl” and never even tried to research it or see my point of view. It’s frustrating and hurtful and it’s awful that people would have kids and not try to support them. I hope your situation gets better.
@@Lily-kl5gp This reply made my day, thank you and I'm praying that it will, just want them to understand
I know I'm 7 months later, and I'm not sure if other people feeling sorry makes you uncomftable, but hey Rae, things will get better, and if they don't, hey, there's always people willing to help like friends or even strangers on the internet! I'm in no place to tell you all this, but I hope your parents become supportive towards you! I'm pretty awful at comforting, but I really hope this made you feel better in any way! Take care, Rae, and I hope they understand soon.
This one. This one hit me like bricks.
Hang in there Rae, hang in there…
"You can be whatever you want."
What does that even matter if I don't even know what to do with my life.
"You're the inspiration for the rest of your class!"
No, no I'm not, please don't try saying stuff like that, it makes me uncomfortable. Most of these people hate me.
"You're so smart, you shouldn't be spending all your time on the internet."
This is my only place of finding comfort at this point, please don't try to take these people who will actually listen to me away from me.
"Why aren't you talking more with your classmates?"
These people are fvcking hateful towards everyone, you really want me to be friends with people who've legit told trans people to just h4ng themself?
"You're such a good kid, keep on going with that!"
Stop trying to compliment me, it makes me feel like I need to live up to even more of your expectations.
"Open more up, we're your parents."
I don't like you, just because I liked you when I was 5 doesn't mean I still like you, you called me a monster, do you really think I'll still love you?
"Why don't you want a hug?"
You "affection" doen't feel like love anymore, please stop.
"Stop using your headphones, you're just locking yourself up in a bubble."
This gives me comfort, I don't like you listening to everything I do, it makes me uncomfortable.
"You have such a pretty body, you should show it off more!"
Okay, p3d0.
"I know what you're going through."
No. No you fvcking don't. You did not have to live in constant fear of being kicked out of your house for being a part of the LGBTQ+. You didn't have to get misgendered on a daily basis. You did not feel insecure about your body. You actually liked yourself, I don't. Don't even try to say that you know me, my friends know me better than my own family.
(Bit of a vent)
THIS LITERALLY DESCRIBES ME PERFECTLY, also, since when I was in the first year of elementary my teachers would alway complain about my shyness, now that I’m in middle school I can’t make any new friends because of it😔 I also have developed anxiety and social anxiety and I seriously don’t understand the people that make these things look quirky, I AM THIS ANTI-SOCIAL GIRL ALWAYS IN HER OWN BUBBLE THAN CAN NEVER OPEN UP TO PEOPLE AND HAS TRUST ISSUES, WHEN I’M AWAY FROM SOCIALS NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME, WHY DO PEOPLE WANT TO MAKE THIS A QUIRK?!!?! My parents think that I’m over-exaggerating and my mom in particular thinks that this whole thing is a trend; Most of my classmates want to be me (I hate them) they insult me one day and then the other one they tell me “I wIsh I wErE yOu”
@@Sofia-rg6qw I hope things get better for you soon, and that these people will just leave you alone. Best of luck from here
@@lacielily 💖💖 Same for my parents
That's so me. At least my classmates support me and are friendly, I don't hate them, but when I hinted being trans to my mother she made a fuss out of it. I hate that. Also my mother and her family are so... "you gotta accept my affection" and touch me without my consent, even when I don't like it and I stated so. But it never matters. It never matters what I can say
@@leoplays5828 Ayy, parents who don't understand consent ganggg!
I thought I was so smart, and so special, and I was going to be a gifted kid my whole life
Then I got sent to a school, where everyone was a gifted kid
That went about as well as you expected
That explains why a lot of "gifted kids" don't do well in college...
So I'm going to highschool this year, and honestly I am terrified. I did online schooling all year and was doing okay. I got all A's except the B I got in Algebra. My parents were so angry, I cried myself to sleep that day. I studied so much but I couldn't be "perfect", I couldn't satisfy them. I am so fucking tired but the show must go on. Thanks for reading my ted talk. :)
I know this might be hard but you need to study for yourself and get the grades YOU want - not what your parents want. You don’t need to be perfect at everything to be successful. If you think B’s seems achievable for you, work for that. High school is difficult. You need to make time for your mental health or you will burn out and risk failing - which isn’t a bad thing but a low grade is better than a fail. There’s no point in stressing yourself out about subjects which you can’t realistically be perfect at. Just do what you need to get into college or the job you want. That’s enough. You are enough. You can always study more if you want but I suggest limiting it to a set amount of time per day (and have days off of course). Mental health should ALWAYS be a priority. I am always here if you need to talk. Good luck with high school x
Sweetheart, you’ve got to protect yourself. Even if you cannot speak outwardly to your parents know in your heart that you are good enough. You know what you have done to get where you are, you tried your hardest and no one, , can ask you for a shred more than that. Nothing and more importantly no one is perfect. Believe me, I’ve spent my entire life chasing that ideal dream. It’s progress over perfection, your best is away the perfect answer. And most importantly, work on satisfying yourself as much as you can in the environment you are in. What is it you truly want, why are you doing this? And sometimes just take a deep breath, you’ve survived 100% of your challenges. Keep thinking of the positives, if you look for the negatives, they are all far too easy to find. Shift your perspective and stay safe. I wish you nothing but the best.
This might sound pretentious, but I actually managed to get into med school. But, I never liked bragging about it. Sure it _sounds_ good but what people don’t understand is that I _hate_ med school. Not in the beginning, no. I like studying a lot, because I like to ask weird things to figure out how things work. A lot of people like to be a little scientist too I’m sure. So it was fun that all my questions I’ve always wanted to know are answered by the doctoes and teachers who clearly know what they’re doing.
The problem came when I am expected to _excel_ at med school. It was pressure, scary high pressure. None of my relatives are doctors unless married in. So I am expected to be the first one born into the family to succeed. It didn’t help that I was always first in class. I only wanted stellar grades because I was told that’s what you have to get be able to go into med school. I want to go to med school because I want my questions to be answered. I am also petty enough that the second reason why I wanna get in is because I wanna know if I can.
And I did. But the pressure? The “I’m not mad just dissapointed” guilt tripping? The “Oh… a B” without no other comment? The “you’re a future doctor right? you surely know if I’m actually sick, right?” questions? The “you have to be perfect to succeed in life” advice? The “nobody would look for you because you’re socially anxious, so you need this to survive” type of advice?
I hated all of it. I don’t want this anymore, I wanted to quit. I wanted to burn all my notebooks and start over. This was _not_ what I signed up for.
But quitting med school? Hah! _You gotta be joking, right?_
Hey, do whatever you need go to better your mental health. you shouldn’t be held at such high standards to be the first one in your family to “succeed” - it’s such bs.
I feel exactly the same. I'm in med school second semester, its fricking insane. I never really wanted to do med school that much, but I was kinda just preassured into and thought thats the only thing I CAN do now, having no other plan for my future. I'm highly thinking of dropping out this first semester and pursueing another job, without a degree. But- I put in already two semsters and the pre-exam, getting A's and one B in my first semster. I have two B's and all A's now in this semester, but I'm drasticially struggling. My finals are next week. I'm not ready. I'm going to fail. I don't have money, I don't have the motivation. But surely I can't go on without a degree or plan? So I don't know. If I pass this semster I should just keep going, to have a plan. Theres nothing else I know what to do, even if this isn't what im intrested in. Sure, its cool. I like to learn, but I don't ever want to work in a clinic... I know I CAN do it, but do I WANT too? I've already proven that I could. But, what else sha'll I do? Anyways. Sorry for the long read.
TL;DR: Life sucks due to preassure of being a "genius" and I don't know what to do from here.
oh hey! Other grown-up gifted kids who got into medical school! How's the ADHD and anxiety going?
Medicine is like the mob. Once you are in, you know too much, you can't quit it alive. I should know, Im a doctor...
BTW, I Know **EXACTLY** how you feel. Medicine is a huge area with lots of subcategories to specialize into. You can always find something to study that you forget it is medicine and actually is just good enough to get by. With me was sports medicine.
I remember when I was young I used to be the super gifted kid and then as the years progressed things 'declined' and with every "I thought you were smart" or "You've changed, stop being so lazy and do your work" it just goes downhill faster. So to all the other kids who feel burnt out or without the will to do anything, just remember you're still special no matter what anyone says!
Now, does anyone wanna come along to commit some arson to the people telling us we aren't worth it :))?
Same even if I’m still only in 8th I feel burnt out as hell, during school I can hide it pretty well but by th time I get home it starts going downhill. I don’t really care anymore so I’m gonna rant HARD because I share a room with my (10 year or so) older brother it’s hard for me to vent my feeling anywhere but the bathroom and very late at night and even if I’m not the most gifted kid in my family I still did really well in school until quarantine online classes hit and everything fell apart my sister is two years older than me and she to me is essentially the most gifted kid in my family she was or at least seemed fine during quarantine and each day while I was staring straight through my screen into the void would call out to me and be like HEY PAY ATTENTION dumbass ok Fuck this never mind this is dumb ranting is hard I’m gonna go contemplate suicide again the worst part is having slightly egotistical Asian parents that barely understand English while I can’t understand Cantonese so it’s extra hard to communicate that I feel stressed and brothers that are way older than you so you can’t even argue with anything they say and went through something different and to them worse than what you did but they think it’s basically the same and lecture you on how they got through it so you should be able to as well even though your different people and don’t think even slightly the same and sisters who basically mock you when you don’t do something right even when my family tries to help me and I try to explain my feelings I have this weird thing where if I talk to someone older that me I almost always start crying even if I get mad and try to argue with them I start crying and being unable to speak so I run away into the bathroom to sit there for an hour contemplating slamming your head into the wall until you die and then being unable to hold grudges and be mad at them because you’re forced to be around them bottling up emotions until you explode at 3am and just break out crying but not screaming and hitting things or else they’ll wake up tell you they’ve had worse to shut the fuck up and go to sleep like god the amount of time I’ve wanted to take out shears and just kill everyone me then myself is uncountable
Also punctuation is dumb
yea boi imma go call c!niki and c!techno to join us do some arson * smirks *
i can bring the matches
whos got the gasoline?