I Stopped Using the Internet for 30 Days
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- Опубліковано 7 чер 2024
- This is the story of how I stopped using the Internet for 30 days. Well okay, I still sent emails, but I stopped using what the Internet has become - social media and content recommendation algorithms.
0:00 Do we know what we want?
4:30 Expressed preference vs revealed preference
6:40 Deciding to take action
8:51 The news is literally TikTok
11:30 What I learned from this experience
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People are finally figuring out how addicting all this garbage is...
It's all done by design. ..... Mk baby..... wake up....
says the person watching the garbage.....duh
@@tidi1764you know whats up.
It’s pretty obvious,
Wow, MK Ultra is back huh?😅
Watching a guy talk about how bad it is to scroll for hours and hours a week, for several minutes... I FELL FOR THE TRAP!!!
I mean you clicked on this video for a reason right? You thought the title was interested and wanted to know his experience
@@benjadoo or I'm subscribed and watch everything in my feed...
@@RyanMercer Dang good luck brother🙏
@@RyanMercer ouch...
This is probably the most valuable message I’ve seen on the internet… in years. Literally. Thank you.
👌👌
You've gotta be young.
51 lol
@@theshylilie You're 51? ...And you've never considered abandoning social media before?
It’s interesting we can spend too much time scrolling on social media without realizing it. It’s like wasting time without meaning to.
I once calculated the amount of lifetimes wasted every year through social media. It's obscene. It's something like 8 million lives every year... (without even subtracting sleep etc)
That's what they want man
Speak for yourself. I’ve never had TikTok or mindlessly scrolled reels. Such a waste of time. There is more to life than social media :) never forget that.
I have a business so I hv to be on these platforms and I get sucked in
Dude.. you could totally make a podcast. I’d listen
+999999 to this.
if you want a podcast that has good advice and teaches good habits, ide suggest the huberman lab
Same
Best part is he could dub all the foreign languages too!
Stahp with the podcast trash. Not everyone wants podcasts
I relate to this so much man. Haven’t been on IG/Tiktok/YT shorts in over 6 months. Not to be dramatic, but not mindlessly scrolling is life changing in so many ways. Loved hearing your thoughts bro 🙌 hope you’re doing great!
I am 18 years old and I have deactivated all of my socials (besides UA-cam of course). When I did this many of my peers were all "How would you talk to people? Why would you do this?" Studies, many studies, have proven that being on these platforms cause anxiety and mess with our dopamine responses, but so many people use them that those who dislike the platforms go "whelp, if everyone else is doing it, I have to do it too or else I will be out of the loop." I had to take a long look at where I want to be in the future before I deleted anything, and go "Do I really want to be 40 staring at my phone for at minimum an hour a day? Am I really happy doing this?" I am glad that I disengaged, but I also feel sorry for those who feel they cannot and must not otherwise they will be scrutinized for it. Best of luck to all of you, good job Ari.
You are very smart do to this, and will go far in life bc you're investing your time while others are doing the opposite. All the best to you! ❤
bro my problem is with youtube shorts which are the SAME THING and cant be disabled
YOU have made a decision that has saved your life. Always listen to YOUR voice from within, not the billions of voices we see daily!
@davlmt Turn off your Watch History. It limits how many shorts you can see at one time. They only appear when you search for something.
I applaude you, but as ive just mentioned in a different post: Dont be to strict on yourself, if you know the dangers you can ride this river! if you dont at all you will become more separate from others.Dont get me wrong -> I like being alone, its my favorite state of being if you know what I mean.
But if you want to engage with your others you cant really deny the medium is out there.
Good mindset, just dont overdo it as with everything...
you are wise beyond your years, but let me tell you what you already heard: the middle way is the golden way almost anytime! Pandoras Box cant be closed, the media is here to stay and so on... ;)
I haven't watched news, or looked regularly at Facebook, Instagram, etc., since the summer of 2020. I got sucked into social media and tv while we were in lockdown, and I realized how much it was actually harming me. I had to claw my way out of depression and anxiety, and part of the healing came through avoiding media. I only watch YT on the weekends as a treat when I have lots of cleaning and chores to catch up on! Great video!!!
Glad u r keeping the weight off boss. Keep being an inspiration for the rest of us, both for language and Happy health.
It had to be Ozempic. All these people losing weight suddenly got the will to stop eating? Nah, I'm not buying it.
Watch his vid on how he lost the weight @@networth00
@@networth00 people have been choosing to eat right to lose weight like that since forever. Don't be so quick to judge with what you hear on the internet.
Naw, I eat like he described in the last video and it does work.
I truly love everything you are doing with your channel right now with the more personal and relaxed content. Please keep it up it has been super nice
I just use UA-cam and I am almost never watching Shorts. I sit in trains and busses and look out of the window. And I am 27. Go figure.
I just finished the video. Wow. Your sometimes clickbaity videos made me doubt your intentions but this is just so true. Thank you! Go on with that, please!
Don't start with the shorts please. My husband is 46 and I barely interact with him over the last 4 years. Since 2020 he watches hours of shorts and just scrolls.and scrolls. He checked out of life. A lot of wives would have left, but we have 5 kids I occupy my time with and just accept it. But no one wants to be married to someone with their head stuck in a phone. 😢
@@breezeh1127I'm so sorry.
@@Snake8418 Thank you💜
@@breezeh1127 How about you talk to him and ask him why he does that instead of blindly blaming him? He's clearly trying to escape from real life.
@@trmoore0922 What makes you think I haven't tried talking to him many time? You don't know me or him. We have been married for 24 years. It's an addiction my friend. You obviously have never seen this behavior nor know the psychology behind why it happens(I do). Even if it was to run and hide from life(in his case it isn't) it isn't healthy or acceptable. Wouldn't we all like to do that??..Ignore life and hide in our phones. But sadly someone has to be the grown up. We can't hide from life. I will carry what I have to carry, but I won't stop warning people..male or female about the dangers of mindlessly scrolling and scrolling your life away. It becomes more than a habit. Soon you look back and realize you accomplished nothing and were part of nothing. And left others to carry what was left.
I'm loving your lifestyle and commentary videos. Keep it up. Thank you.
My social media addiction has gotten crazy in regards to watching UA-cam videos. Even I am watching this one as I do my homework for college because I can't work without my brain getting stimulated by UA-cam videos and multitasking. I say that I am going to get a certain amount of work done but end up only getting a little work done. It's been a big problem because it has been breaking my concentration and I have a fear of missing out. I feel like I have no control over this.
Maybe try using UA-cam but only to listen to background ambience and chill music videos
Honestly this is one of the most honest and important videos posted I’ve seen in a while
super relatable. you’re last two videos have covered two life changes i’ve been really trying to make. failed on jan 1st for the new year, but im goin for an april 1- august 1 whole foods only and no instagram reels/youtube shorts. i have the same feeling of being sucked into the short form videos and hours of the day wasted when it can be used in the gym, reading, or learning a new language
Good luck with your goals! It is hard, but don't give up, think about your futureself, healthier and happier!! All the best :)
What helped me with social media and youtube is finding different hobbies/activities to do whenever I felt the urge to go online. Go and work out (if you have the time) or grab a book. Exercise in general occupies both the body and the mind and it clears your thoughts. And books are self explanatory. You can find different things that will work for you though. I no longer have any social media accounts (except for youtube, but I'm not on as much as I used to be), last one I had was instagram which I deleted over a year ago. It's so freeing, once you get used to not having it you'll never miss it.
Thank you Ari for sharing this with us, I value your posts and life adventures!!
You hit the nail on the head. Been feeling this way for a long time and I am starting to make changes to take back control of my time.
I got rid of my tv for the same reason. I use UA-cam a bit too much, but mostly I have it on while I’m doing other things. That’s the only content I consume now, I deleted everything else and I’m happier for it.
Congratulations on the life glow up. You are sounding a lot healthier. Even your breathing seems deeper. Well done.
Same, my YT usage is through the roof because I have documentaries or content I like playing in the background while I'm doing things. I dont have to focus, it's a companion like radio or podcasts to me. Make life simpler, eliminate all the noise of other people's problems
@@DimJongUn yes! I now know far too much about midget submarine warfare but the fridge has been cleaned out.....
@@dees3179 exactly. Learn about things while actually accomplishing tasks. It's a win-win
Love this message man. I’ve been taking the time to use my phone less and go outside more, and less headphone usage too allowing my ears to hear the outdoors and soak in life as much as possible.
I appreciate this video, thank you. I stopped watching daily tv local news 8 years ago because I was tired of just listening to negativity and basically 99% useless information. Now for Instagram I see that I am sometimes victim of that rabid hole reels (not always) but i will try to be even more mindful thanks to your insightful video. Thank you😊
DUDE you look so good ever since your last video I've been re-energized to start my fitness journey. Thank you!
Thank you for being vocal about this. more people need to wake up to this, it's addictive and a major problem
Thank you for articulating this so well.
You're BEST video yet! Now, you are the WISER!
Well said, and fantastic reminder. Thank you.
This is a great video. I also massively limited my news consumption and social media presence, particularly during the COVID lockdowns. The algorithms were not tuned to anyone’s best self interest except to those making money off of it. I got my attention back, I focused on what I loved, and I don’t regret it for a minute. My time belongs to me and I can choose to spend it how I want.
Scroll and scroll and scroll, and all of a sudden we’re managing mental health issues.
really interesting to see how much xiaoma's content has changed/varied - the experimentation is super interesting.
first language omegle/shocking people videos, then him going and trying experiences in places & learning the language, and now just him talking and walking for 15 minutes.
definitely respect evolving and changing and genuinely is quite an inquisitive guy it seems
i like these kinds of videos!! thank you!
You made me feel so good about myself with this video. I do not have or use Instagram or TikTok. This was empowering for me. Thanks, Ari
Thanks Xiaoma, always an inspiration!
This was such a great video from beginning to end. Glad I watched to the end, well said
Love this new era of your life you are entering into. Also….GO OFF, KING!!!
keep it up. love your videos
Arieh I love your perspective about so many things including how you're totally chill walking through pouring rain without a hood or an umbrella, I enjoyed watching your hair get progressively more wet lmao
This is phenomenal content, and I resonate so deeply with all of this
Yo ur last couple videos are super relatable it feels very real and is I think your best content to date
This is spot on. Thanks buddy.
My sentiments entirely - Spot on.
The cynic in me has me wonder how long it is before someone supersedes LinkedIn with, you’ve guessed it - SpotOn, lol...!
Please, don’t anyone tell me that it already exists, or send me a link...
I'm doing the same, I'm on day tw- DAMMIT
I can relate and also deleted the apps mid February. Definitely permanently deleting Instagram and Facebook since I see they aren't important to me anymore.
Thank you for this video!
I deleted Instagram 4 years ago (it was my most active app), then Tiktok 3 years ago, SNAP 2 years ago, and then Facebook about a year ago... OMG my life is so much better not having to keep up with anyone. I text my friends and family often and have 1 on 1 time with everyone. Life is so much better.
I’m really stubborn when it comes to trying newer social medias. Refuse to use TikTok and Threads. Deleted Twitter 4 years ago. Only use UA-cam and Instagram, but I don’t necessarily use them every day. When I do use them, it’s typically in the evening/at night after I’ve completed everything I needed to for the day so I’m not wasting precious time during the day
This is so important, I think the reason for so much of the struggles in today's life is linked to all our addictions, addictions many don't even recognize they have. So thanks for sharing your experience and how you changed your life for the better
Thanks - I've seen this sort of video a few times from different creators, but your version here is having an impact on me, maybe because i see you as someone with a self-discipline that I know I am capable of but just not practicing.
I feel the same way. I found out I spent way too much time hours scrolling on Instagram. Therefore, I took action and just limit myself no more than 20 min and respond few comments on my Instagram posting once a week. So far it has been a month, feeling I finally got some control not get addicted to social media too much and be able to concentrate on real life real people. I value your message on this video. Thank you so much!
Great self awareness & highlighting some valuable points here! 👏👏
Very very good and important video!
Glad to hear that you took that step! It's better for your mental health.
More people should see and understand this.
This is the best advise and information I've this year so far. Everyone needs to watch this.
Great Video. Thank you for posting. There is freedom gained from being mindful of what we are consuming on the internet.
Really profound and inspiring stuff, Ari! I like the change in content.
I also deleted all of social media from my phone a while ago. Did not regret it. Although I must admit that the time I spend on UA-cam has increased since then, which is something I probably should also work on. It's similar to the Google news feed. it seems as if UA-cam is more like eating vegetables than sweets. But most of the stuff I watch is not that far from the stuff Tiktok or Instagram, especially with there being Shorts.
Hi Ari, I have to say, I'm inspired. Kudos to you on lifestyle changes you have adopted. Your weight loss is evident.
What is also evident in this video, is a shift in your affect, personality and demeanor. A sense of determination to take your mind and time back.
I follow you and about 20 other UA-camrs. A few of them exhort you to check out their Instagram, even mentioning they have additional content. Now, I won't.
Enjoy your free time!
Agree completely, well done Ari, inspirational!
Really appreciate the health and behavior insight.
Yeah I think most people are struggling with this and I do highly recommend what you are doing about it. My main problem honestly is still youtube, I don't scroll much on my phone anymore but sometimes when I sit down at my desktop I get sucked in to youtube shorts. Maybe I should find a way to just disable it.
The app called NoScroll helped me to get rid of all short videos on YT and Instagram but anyways I am still addicted to regular long videos on YT😅
Turn your watch history off and it won’t generate recommendations on videos or shorts. I do this and it’s a life saver. When I open UA-cam the Home Screen is blank so I click straight onto my subscriptions and watch something that I chose to subscribe to. Honestly it’s a huge time saver.
I use two browser extensions; distraction free youtube, and remove youtube shorts. Distraction free youtube lets you hide recomended videos, notifications, sidebar, comments, and more. Remove youtube shorts just removes all shorts. Both of these have been super useful to me
absolutely love the trend in your channel towards living intentionally, both from a how we eat and how we spend out time. Thank you for this post
Xiaoma this is awesome!! Probably the most important video you’ve ever made and that’s saying something
I like what you said about we're like in a experiment that we didn't sign to participate. No one was ready for the fast changes of the last two decades. No one knew how to deal with it healthly, and we're getting conscious about the bad things just now. As you said, there are many good things! Like, I'm from Brasil and thanks to Internet and youtube and other media I have acess to amazing content. In instagram I follow a lot of professionals that inspires me, but even with this good side, we have to watch ourselves to not lose our focus. Sometimes I feel lost with so much goof content, or pressured and anxious seeing amazing people because I feel I'm so late for all, I have to always learn and do more, but like, the time I spend seeing "good content" or even relaxing watching some cat videos...I could be using to take care of my mental health, or to improve my skills, or many other stuff.
It's a challenge to learn how to deal with all of this healthly. As you said, it's impossible to cut it off our lifes, we need it to work, to study, to keep in touch with family and friends, but we have to always be watching to not lose focus and keep scrolling...
I love your reflections videos, please keep sharing, it's so important!!
So glad you shared this. Feels like all the platforms just raised their hook n engagement bar? Good health & good self-regulation. Keep going.
Seriously more people need to be made aware of this!!!
Trust me! Good video. I’ve had to delete the apps off my phone to not get sucked into the vortex of scrolling. I just re-install and check it every few days now for messages and some cheeky scrolling when i WANT to.
I love watching your videos, they are so interesting, the different languages you speak, its amazing and mind blowing actually, this could be the key to solving the worlds problems
I quitted most social media apps like 4 years ago, spending too much time on these time consuming apps, I rather spend time outside or being with friends.. rather watch so much drama on something, it gives also more mental rest from FOMO like who cares! Great topic , keep it up❤!
Thanks for this!
This is the most serious and reflected video from you in a very long time. You look much older and serious now. Welcomed! I can't imagine how Chinese social media and sites are with not only infinite scroll but also wild subs flying everywhere. Not a single frame without something to beg for attention. It would melt my brain. Can you make a comparison : just how bad are Chinese clones of ig, fb etc compared to the west
That's a great message
I'd really like to commend and validate your feelings on this matter. Not only are there negative consequences to the everyday man who finds that an extra 30-60 minutes of their day has disappeared into the ether; there are dire consequences to those struggling with mental health. A depressed person may find their sense of worth or value in the many innumerous hours they spend scrolling through a tiktok feed; I for sure was one of them. This sense of rebellion against this "thing we did not ask for or sign up for" is in my opinion a valiant fight. Kudos to you Xiaoma, and thank you for being another voice in this fight against this corporate consumerism interest.
I love this detoxing path you’re on
Looking good keep keep up the good work. I bought a flip phone a year ago i switch between the smart phone and the flip phone every 2 months
Is it just me or the same thing is kinda happening with UA-cam shorts ?
congrats ! I hope your wise words will motivate some people to free themselves from those dopamine traps.
I love these new videos, and I feel the same way. I have been blocking these websites for awhile and keeping myself off of shorts
A lot of wisdom and self awareness here.. Inspiring vid
Please start a Podcast. You are wise for your young age. I'd love to listen about anything you feel like talking because it's all topics I'd love to listen to. Along with your friends as guests.
Totally agree. I just decided I need to remove instagram the other day because of threads. I kept getting pulled into random people's venting and drama and I don't even know these people, but they're stressing me out. It's not worth it and not healthy to be constantly bombarded with things that we didn't even need to know about.
Very relatable, great video
Man you're looking a lot healthier, its good to see, can definitely see it in your face a bit
Great message & perfectly said! 👏👏 Love these "walking" videos of yours.
I so totally agree with what you say here. I'm not into Tik Tok or Instagram but it's UA-cam shorts. When I'm going to sleep, I will (with the intention) watch a couple of shorts only to look at the clock and be shocked that an hour or more has gone by without even realizing what happened. And unfortunately I have realized that this has turned into an addiction for me. At home when I have lots of things that need to be done, I get drawn into watching these shorts. I even have noticed it happening at work. On breaks instead of going for a walk or talking with coworkers I'm on my phone watching shorts. I have been trying to get this under control but like any addiction it's been a battle. I don't even know when this started because I never was like this before.
I absolutely love this. SPOT ON!!!
I love seeing where I grew up in your videos! Peace.
PREACH! i can relate
I can relate. It becomes very easy to get into an endless treadmill of one dopamine hit after another, which is addictive.
Don’t consent, delete the app.
Thank you for this very interesting story. 👍
I left social media 3 years ago for a lot of the same reasons you did. It's hard to explain how much my mental health has improved by not constantly digesting all of that stuff - especially the news. The whole worlds news is too heavy to carry every day.
good stuff xiama! You're looking good too with the weight loss. Also, we are collectively trying to connect through this social media while also being addicted to nonsense. Its a really catch 22. The good news is, a lot of us are feeling the need to break out of it, meaning that real life may start becoming a trend again ahaha. I have wasted lots of time personally, and I hope collectively we make the move away from all this algorithm addictive engagement
I really love your content. You are spot on ❤
Looking great man, God bless.
For the record, I don't have an instagram account... I don't have a Tik Tok account... I got my facebook to stay in contact with my friends (I don't EVER go on actual facebook, my bookmark goes directly into Messenger...), and a youtube account for language learning and cute pet videos. Screw social media. Go see your f'n friends... let go of FB, instagram, etc...
Love this form of content and I couldnt agree more with the message of this video
The one should organize his time , be positive , learn things , useful stuff
Thanks Xiaoma
Keep up yr languages trip ❤❤🎉
Last year in June, I deleted all my social media with the exception of Facebook (unfollowed all my friends, still friends with them though, and joined a bunch of book groups because I love reading) and it has been one of the best decisions I've made for myself. I have so much more time to do hobbies that I enjoy. I went from reading 3 books in 2023, to finishing 15 books in 3 months so far in 2024. It's been great
Thanks Ari for this, you've reminded me I have the same issue, but with youtube. I think it's safe to say I get yoinked by youtube for like 40% of the time I am awake. And like you said it's fine to watch videos, but only if it's by direct choice
Really enjoying these type of videos lol. I’m at work so I’m just listening to it in the background to the point of the video haha
Ari, it is always a pleasure hearing your thoughts on things. The food addiction comparison is so dead on. WE consume all kinds of content that does not nourish our souls.
Wow, you’re more thoughtful and articulate than I realized.
Thank you. This is your most important video.
Love him for being wise, walking around speaking facts. Its very nice❤
Thanks for the inspiration...esp. about the "infotainment" addiction. And the food metaphor WORKS.
Well said ! !
Love you, you look so healthy!!! Rock on man!