The reason the "marriage thing" is so important. If I were dating a man and he refused to divorce his wife, there would be red flags going up ALL OVER THE PLACE! Not to mention it is just plain disrespectful to all parties involved. Hope that sheds some light :)
sues unfiltered I recently dated such a man, It didn’t end well, At first I thought they just hadn’t got around to it, But 6months later when he tried to get back with her behind my back, It was clear it was that he hadn’t wanted to let it go.
My ex refuses to divorce me, but we live in separate states and I'm in a relationship now. Still won't. About to go through Legal Aid to see what my options are.
I married my husband in ‘89 thinking it was the right thing to do. I was trying so hard to jump through all the hoops I believed God expected of me. My husband was and is a good man. I wasn’t in love with him and I thought by being obedient I’d be blessed and all the love and passion would develop. It didn’t. After 9 years my marriage became sexless. I asked for a divorce 4 years ago then discovered divorcing him would make him ineligible for the assistance he gets with his medical costs. With out his medication he couldn’t live long and he can’t afford them without this assistance. I just think we all make assumptions to fill in the blanks on the things we don’t know or understand. That’s just gonna cause hurt.
This video was really sidetracking the real situation. For 1- I thought you weren't very kind when he was discussing his feelings- lack one money AND then you liked comments about him. How about you address that. You can make any choice you want- but you can't get mad about how you handled things poorly. How about you apologize for liking all those nasty comments!
Holy back peddling you read and agreed with those comments. You even replied back saying "yes, exactly why we broke up". No one thinks your different but you put your life out there and when you do something rude you get called out. Own it and move on. And get a divorce for Christ's sake it's so easy if he wants one too. If you were legally separated even. But you know damn well you were still "working on things" not that long ago and you know Roger is still in love with you. So having your cake (new love interests) and eating it too (Having Roger as your best friend) is bullshit and selfish. Which is precisely why he's still not happy with you dating other people. There are people that still believe in the sanctity of marriage and everyone should. Not because of religion but because it's a promise. A big one made in front of friends, family and whatever higher power you believe in. If someone feels they can no longer full fill that promise then get a divorce because that's what puts an end to it. That unequivocally shows that both people are done and no longer hold those promises.
That’s no explanation to liking negative comments directed at him. You never like negativity directed at you so stop playing both sides. It was thought out and calculated not and as innocent as you’re making it out to be. Sorry but I have to be honest
Why don’t you explain exactly why you insist on remaining married? Is it fear? Money? What is it? Clearly we don’t get it. It’s not close-minded to ask why a woman who left her husband wants to stay married to him. Are you waiting til you find your next long-term partner? That’s what it seems like.
My brother and his wife has been separated for almost 12 years, they’re still married. They’re still very very good friends. They’ve both been in their current relationships pretty much the entire time they’ve been separated. It works for some people. They’ve made it clear that if either wanted to go on & remarry, they’d go get a divorce, it’s just not that serious to everyone. I wouldn’t be able to do that, but I also can’t say that at 100% considering I’ve never been there.
I don't buy it. Seriously because of saving some money? You are a grown woman with 2 jobs and this is your reason? I didn't have a job or a dime to my name when i was 22 and wanted a divorce from the man i married and i still figured out how to get the money to divorce. And you cant figure out how to deal with insurance if you get divorced? Im sorry but i don't believe you.
Personally my issue and sadness was with how you treated him. I have lost a lot of respect for you. It also blew my mind that you repeatedly called him a “fat kid.”
This really upsets me because you all have no idea how him and I react to each other. We joke like that all the time. We both call each other fat kid or weirdo or dummy. It's a playful banter. You don't joke like that with any of your friends?
Kandy Foxx It upset me because I could SEE this was the way you normally treat him and banter with him, and that you considered it routine and no big deal, but one could see the hurt you were causing. It made me realize you are not the person you portray yourself to be and are actually kind of a bully. We have gotten hints of this in past videos but I didn’t want to believe it... now I do.
Its not normal to victimize your partner. Its not funny to pick appart what you see as other peoples short comings. Its not funny ever and if you think it is, you need to reevaluate how you SEE other people. They deserve bettwe than your jokes, dont act like its not a big deal like girl....
I was kinda shocked at some of the comments that were hearted. They were so mean, and not constructive or explaining themselves, but just flat out mean. If I were dude I’d be so hurt. He let you post that even after you dumped him and I think that’s where trust was broken. Plus it was almost embarrassing to watch the way you were so rude to someone actually being kind to you. Sort of like a spoiled entitled child. I don’t know. I actually really like you and your videos, but for me, that video painted you in a different light. Almost like you thought you were way too good for him. I thought it was odd the way you string your husband along, but then making so many comments about him in that video where it clearly bothered your current boyfriend..meh. Makes you seem selfish. I really think you need to take time alone to figure out where you’re at and what you want before you do anymore dating. Like you taking back being official because another dude was coming? Girl that’s not right. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.
Wafflesmom ForLife someone else commented that she hurt him and now she’s playing victim..even though she’s definitely not. How childish. Own up to your faults, apologize, and move on. Who hurts someone, cries to an audience who kisses their butt nonstop about how hurt they are and then threatens to stop vlogging? Grow up.
@@Nope-cw5mt -Exactly! She really tried to flip this ALL on the people commenting, and there definitely are some harsh comments, but what surprised me in all of this is that she did not recognize her role in adding to the bad comments. It was disappointing. But like you said, own up to the shit, and move on.
You should be careful when it comes to "liking" comments on collaborative vids. I get that you're saying your "like" doesn't necessarily mean anything, but you rarely "like" cruel comments that are directed toward you personally, so why would you "like" negative comments about someone else? That could easily be misconstrued.
I don’t think anyone cares about the questions, it’s more about your response to his answers, and you responding to negative comments. You should be open to discussion, and also not talk negative about him in the comments. Because you didn’t just like the comments you responded too. And you’re coming off as the victim when Xavier was the one that was hurt
I am sorry that you are not feeling good. People were not upset about the fact that you were talking about your relationship and your issues. The problem was with those hearts. And your responses to those comments. Because people wrote some mean shit about Xavier and you put a heart next to it. He is a person. A person who read those comments. And saw your hearts under them. That would crush me. And sure, we know you are not a full time youtuber, and that you are a person with your own life and issues, but you are putting it out there. Online. And people are assholes and will be mean and nasty. I feel like your responsibility is to protect the people in your life who get involved with your youtube channel. Not hearting comments that are putting people from your life down. Sorry, but it was messed up.
I think it shows extremely poor judgement to like comments that are openly unkind to someone you're meant to care about. Whatever your reasoning is behind it, it's just not cool to show support for comments that were upsetting your friend. You've been on UA-cam long enough to understand that liking those comments would be translated as you supporting and agreeing with them. So I find it very hard to believe that you honestly, hand on heart, didn't understand it would be hurtful to Xavier to see you doing that.
I feel the same way.. but I’m not trying to upset her. I was watching the video and scrolling through the comments to see what was all the talk about. The video was weird by itself. And When she threaten to take a break, I’m like you were the one liking the mean comments. She knew what she was doing. Obviously viewers see more behind the meaning because were always wondering or sometimes just being bluntly honest. But she’s just trying to be humble about this entire situation and say things in a nice way that’s twisted without being attacked by her viewers and Xavier. She’s in a tough place right now.
After the video viewers did not know him, but the fact is after 6 weeks or so of their relationship Kandy didn't really know him either, even though early on she was professing, and seemingly actively involved in a romantic relationship with Xavier. If nothing else is learned here, a lack of maturity in her relationships remains, and hopefully she has gained great insight into ' herself' , no one else at this point, but herself.
But you never acknowledge bad comments about yourself unless you're giving some cliche, smart-ass remark brushing off what they've tried to say to you. Never do you ever heart them if they're about you. Also "I don't want you to see... I don't want you to think..." Wait. What was the end of that first sentence? You don't want us to see that side of you? I thought you were all about being real. To be honest, I feel like your viewers don't actually know what you're really like, and they deserve to know. Perhaps now they have a better idea.
As far as your marriage, people feel like you are stringing Roger along. I know you don’t need to address that view point but hat is where a lot of negativity is coming from
I’m not speaking about my feelings I’m summarizing the viewpoint in the comments. I’m explaining some of the view points of the comments because Kandy seems frustrated and genuinely does not understand why people have so many view points on her marriage. This is the blatant truthful answer which I have seen in the comments.
Roger, Roger, Roger - can't hear it anymore. They are separated for over 1 year! The divorce is just a piece of paper - and, I don't know how this is in the US, but over here it is hell a shit expensive to get divorced. I see no need to get divorced just because some people on the internet can't understand and seem to think they are still together in any shape, form or weird way. I understand her completely, because it was the same with my marriage - we got divorced 5 years after we separated, so what?! Am I going to hell now?!
Except they were trying to "work it out" in Kandy's own words right before her and this dude got together. In fact in one of her recent vlogs her and Roger had just spent the weekend together and then she announced her new relationship and she told us Roger and his mother were pissed. I think she doesn't want to lose Roger's friendship but she knows damn well he's still in love with her. And divorce is not just a piece of paper it's closing a door. Here if both parties agree they want a divorce it's a very easy and cheap thing. I don't think Roger wants one. And she may have been living on her own for over a yr but they were still working on things not that long ago. And in your case if you were dating or sleeping with other men while your husband still wanted to work things out then no that's not cool because imagine if the rolls were reversed it's just hurt full. No one gets to eat their cake and have it too.
We spend lots of weekends together. Roger is like family. His family isn't involved in his life so he is part of mine. I will not take that away from him. We haven't been "working it out" since May. We had a long discussion and we both realized how bad we are as a couple but how great we are as friends.
Also want to say Xavier if you read this, you're an amazing person (both of you are). For someone to risk their relationships and safety to stand proud and say this is who I am is so courageous. You're a strong man, doesn't matter what the ignorant people want to say because that is who you are and who you will always be to the people that matter!
Hi love, I watched the entire video and several of your others since last winter...I'm a person who doesn't comment on these but to see you cry...listen love, it's okay I know as well as the true subbies that you ment NO HARM , I thank you for your channel and your honesty in the videos that you share with us. You are AWESOME and don't ever forget that 💖 I learned a lot from the Q and A thanks for sharing. It's okay we love you
I also think it important to always speak kind words to people. Even if we think it is joking, why not take the step to always uplift someone. Take every chance you can to lift your partner up. Lots of hugs and love your way.
Being separated for 19 months, and not having divorce papers filed at least...I just don’t understand that. And I can’t understand any man or woman being okay with dating someone in this situation. It’s totally okay to be friends with your ex husband! Totally! But why not get divorced? Then you can fully move forward with your life and date without still being legally, and to some level, emotionally attached, to someone else? I couldn’t wait to start dating when I left my ex, and did while in the divorce process, but waited until I had those papers filed. Just confused about that. No hate, just confused.
Did I not listen? Uhhh ya- I heard a lot of bawling about how he was perceived as a nicer person than her. Get real- she exploited him- and it turned out bad for her. Point-blank.
Kandy, don't worry. If they didn't like the vlog that's their problem. Don't let the haters get you down. You have a great heart, and you have an awesome personality.
On Facebook, when someone posts something tragic, like a death, illness, issues, etc... if you put a heart on a post about one of these issues or a thumbs up., without comments, does that mean you love the fact that someone died, or if you give a thumbs up does it mean you think it’s cool someone is struggling with mental health... No, it is understandable why it was done. You could hav said something beautiful and people will find a flaw. This breaks my heart seeing you so sad and hurt. You are such a beautiful and sweet person. I follow you on all social platforms and have since the beginning. I love the Kommunity and will always be a fan. I will stand by you Kandy. You know, ships come and ships go, but I promise you I am docked in your corner for life and will always be anchored as a fan. Absolutely no reason you need to explain anything. You don’t owe anything to anyone. People have nothing better to do then to knit pick other. Those who have an issue with you and Rodger, they are jealous of your situation. How many people would love to be separated with someone, still be best friends with them, and be able to live their life in peace. UA-cam needs border patrol💁🏻♀️ to help keep the trash out, and make sure good people like you don’t have to make a video like this. I love you Kandy, and wish I could give you a big hug! Stay strong and remember how many of us in the Kommunity stand by you! 💜🌸
What you said about how some people think that youtubers don’t have feelings & that people forget that they are real people just like everyone else, is so true. I’m sorry that people were hurtful towards you and Xavier. I give Xavier a lot of credit that he was kind enough to sit down and answer our questions. I’m always here to support you Kandy. Over the past (almost) two years of watching your channel, I’ve learned so much from you about love, positivity and acceptance. so thank you.
What disappointments me is people praise you saying stuff like "you look good" and "don't worry about what people say" but...... You go to eugina Cooney's video's and people call her awful things but it's literally the same thing they are both Ed's they are both gonna die early but yet you praise her 😔
It's plain as this... You're just not that into him and it's okay. I didn't think you were mean to him but the chemistry wasn't there. I thought he was a nice person, though. 😶
I got really sad when I saw those hearts on comments that were mostly negative, when I read them I didn't feel they were constructive or coming from a place of love and support for nobody, they were just cruel, mean and loaded with frustration, most likely a reflection of the people writing them. When I discovered your channel and of course binged watch a lot of your videos I saw a lot of "concerned" comments about your health, that were not articulated in a rude manner, and still I didn't see you liking them, but instead I've heard you in many videos saying that your health is your own business and it's rude to comment on someone else's health, so I'm still saddened and confused by you acknowledging those mean comments. This is a very unfortunate situation for everyone involved and time will help you guys feel better. Sometimes we need to play the devil's advocate in order to grown from our mistakes. I hope you feel better Kandy, this is just a bitter moment, but you have a beautiful aura that shines through.
To be honest, Kandy, you "liking" negative comments makes you seem complacent in unwarranted and often times transphobic criticism towards Xavier. Like not the blatant transphobia but a lot of just ignorant subtle stuff ppl said you liked! Don't be complacent, he is your friend. I would shut that shit down quick. Sure you may not have time to reply to everything, but at least don't give it a heart!
Aww Kandy, I love you! I wish I could give you a hug! You are HUMAN, we ALL make mistakes. You are a good person with a good heart and it shows in your channel. Keep you chin up love 💕
Best relationship advice I've heard: If you talk about your relationship with anyone, you make it their business. You've made it everyone's business. My two pennies: you both deserve better partners. Cheers ox
I like you but the Q and A video was not necessary to release. It was too personal, you need some boundaries. It was enough that you said you broke up for some reasons. Showing the video was like making an easy target from Xavier. I just watched few minutes of it because it was awkward and too personal. I'm not saying that to hurt you. And this situation would be equally hurtful even if he was not trans.
I’m so sorry that things have ended up like this. Things are already hard for you since you’re confused on what you want, different feelings etc... and having you cry on camera just breaks my heart, because yes it was kind of confusing but half the stuff you said you’ve already addressed in some of your candid candies. At the end of the day you and Xavier’s business is YOUR business. Sometimes people just read into too many things. Thank you for taking the time to explain and being so open with us no matter how upset it may have made you. You are strong and you are worthy.
Have you processed all of this with your therapist? Maybe some of those things posted you did agree with at their core (and that’s ok really). Have you discussed your hesitancy to finalizing your separation from your spouse? Might be a good idea just for you to have a different non-biased person helping you process these things. Best of luck to you, we are all human. Imperfectly perfect.
It really hurts me to see you like this because you're such an amazing person. You're always trying so hard for everyone and trust me your work doesn't go unnoticed. I watch all of your videos from start to finish. You're honestly my favorite person on UA-cam; you're so genuine, kind-hearted, sweet, caring, and so much more! PLEASE keep going, you're amazing, strong, and you work so hard! I love you Kandy!
I love you Kandy! Although I’m sure nothing any of us say can really change the thoughts that are running through your head or the things that are weighing heavily on you currently, I just want you to know I care and hope you feel better soon! ♥️
It’s clear to your following that you’re a genuinely beautiful human on the outside, but more importantly on the inside. We love you and you deserve the world. The rawness of you talking about subjects people usually tiptoe around shows great maturity and love. We all grow and learn. Xo
We all make mistakes, it what we learn from and do with those lessons that make a person better. Everyone has room to grow, so glad you are learning and growing from this.
Still, it's weird to remain married and date other ppl. It gives the other ppl thoughts like "ohh hey, she's still married bc maybe they'll get back together...'. I'd think it, so would any normal person. But hey, I guess as long as the ones you date know you're not looking for anything serious, it's all good 👌
BabyNapoleon I’m a normal person and I don’t think that. To me, it just means marriage on paper but it’s not a focus to need to get divorced. My mum and dad have been separated almost 20 years, I believe they are still legally married. They don’t even live in the same country as each other so I don’t think they are looking to go back to each other at all!
I'm still separated from my husband, not divorced yet due to money and the fact that the ex is making excuses, but we live in separate states and I've been in a relationship now for a year and a half, happier than I've ever been. Everyone separated in their marriage are so different.
My perception of how likes are used on this channel is that Kandy "hearts" comments that she agrees with and doesn't "heart" comments that don't either build her up or support her already established views. I find that to be a little authoritarian and controlling. Everyone's views should be made to feel welcome. There are all kinds of different people from different backgrounds and with different perspectives who watch this channel. Everyone should feel welcome to be here. Noone should feel discouraged, silenced or left out.
I didn’t see the original video but know you have the biggest heart. Being on social media is really tough and there are many people who are judge mental and closed minded. I could say to ignore it but I know how difficult that is. Just know that many of us love and support you. You are a shining light to many of us. Big big hugs to you!! 💜💜💜
Appreciate and love all your videos. My mom told me once when I was younger, sometimes no reaction is the most powerful statement you can make and speaks way more to people than a response they aren’t going to like or accept anyway. Do you. Everything else will fall into place.
Seeing you like this breaks my heart! Its so honest and raw and real, Dont feel any less of your self because of all of this crap! You don't need to explain yourself to anyone! The hate in this world is so real! You are amazing don't listen to the haters.
What surprisingly came across for me in that video, was you at times, physically showing how uncomfortable you were with this person. For me, it was hard to watch, especially knowing the rough times he was/is going through. It was sad to see you adding to it, though I do believe you were not intentionally trying to do that. When it comes to some of us big girls and dealing with a guy that likes us more than we like them, we can be just as bitchy to them as some average sized women can be. It is our ego that drives that I tend to think. Then you liked some really fucked up comments. Xavier had to see that, which blew me away even more because you have never come across that way before. I did think you two were moving too fast and you were telling way too much about a man that you barely knew yourself, but I never commented and said that. The Q&A video, was a different thing. I stand by my comment in that video. At that time I said I think that Xavier is a nice guy, and that maybe you should not be throwing him away so soon. But at this point, I understand that it is best for you and him to part ways. He did not deserve to be put out there like that. You have your reasons as to why you liked those comments, but overall, you did not push back on them and defend him. And that is what he was left to see. My heart broke for him. Once again, I do not believe you intentionally did any of this to hurt him, but I also think that you did not consider him as much as you should have.
You never have to explain, people are to quick to judge no matter what. Seeing you cry breaks my heart, you are an amazing person who brightens my darkest days for me, gives me the confidence to be who i am. Your not alone as many of us are here for you always. Xx
I was one of the people who commented on the ‘liking’ of some of those comments. One thing I want to say is that we haven’t all been here from the beginning. I, myself, am new to your channel. From the first video, I thought you seemed absolutely lovely. So when I saw you ‘liking’ some very judgmental comments towards this poor guy, it gave the impression that you agreed with their statements. To be honest, I just genuinely felt bad for him. If that was me, I would feel awful. But yeah. I do think you should be selective with what you ‘like’ because new viewers to your channel don’t know what you’ve been doing since the beginning. After all, we’re new here. That being said, I still enjoy your videos and I’m glad you decided to clear this all up.
I understand you may not feel worthy of that kind of love and attention right now but one day you will and it will come easier for you because you are worthy! You’re still growing and learning about yourself and it sounds like you’re still growing a lot. And that’s great! 💜 best wishes Kandy, you’re awesome 😎
Kandy you do NOT have to give an apology to anyone...He seemed like a great person/friend....dont listen to stupid people. Us that have been with you from the beginning of your YT channel are always here to support you. I wish i could give you and Alexander some huge great big hugs....you both are awesome to put his story out there. You are amazing...please dont let negative toxic people bother either one of you. Its their issues not you guys. Xxgreat big huge hugs for you bothxx
You aren’t the victim here Kandy I’m sorry but Xavier is.HE is a real person with real feelings too!The respectful thing to do would be to have NOT posted that video AFTER you’d broken up( even if he did say it was cool). OR you should’ve edited it so that you only showed his trans “story “, but you’re a smart cookie and have been around long enough to know that a Q&A like you did with the title and all would rake in big views... I hate to but can’t help but wonder.... did you exploit a naive, madly in love, sad person for your own gain?
Naww don't cry it's your channel and it's your vision and you no you just have to keep at it no matter what anyone thinks your doing a good job never lose sight of who you are and be proud you deserve it
I don't want to say anything other than YOU ARE AMAZING! PLEASE don't forget that! I wish I could give you a huge hug right now! Seeing you hurting and upset breaks my heart! Please know that you have people that support you and absolutely love you ❤
such a kind hearted girl dont sweat the small stuff kandy - your'e right, some people really don't know your true heart, all goodz you will bounce back blessings from sydney, australia
I think you need to take a break...Probably filming at work is not appropriate...And being so personal isn’t either...Your reviews and stuff are fun...But if you want your personal life to be personal and not critiqued by total strangers...Then don’t share so much... I mean this kindly...Not being snarky...❤️
Kandy I was saddened by this video because it was a painful experience for you! I thought you had good intentions for it. I want to applaud Xavier for discovering what makes him happy. We only get one life and it would be a sad and wasted life to live it the way someone else thinks we should! I hope all the love and support on here and the community will outshine the negativity. You’re an inspiration to everyone here and I hope you feel better! Sending much love, prayers and positivity your way!!!!
I'm glad you introduced us to one of your friends. I'm sorry you and him ended up being hurt by it but that obviously wasn't your intention. Don't beat yourself up about it. The internet can be brutal sometimes and I can understand needing a break. Just don't quit because I enjoy watching your content. :)
Kandy I just discovered your channel recently and love all your videos.You come across as just a very normal person who is so likeable.As much as I admire your openness and honesty I think you need to be more careful about what you disclose. The reason your Q&A session didn't go so well was because you and Xavier were only starting out in your relationship and you didn't know each other that well.i could see you were getting very uncomfortable as it went on.We don't need to know everything about you and i think you need to be more careful about what you put out there.
Dont cry love some relationships just arent ment to be and the thing is is that you tried and that you figured it out in the begining instead of being in an unhealthy unwanted relationship. you are strong and a real person and you are beautiful. dont let people get you down you did the right thing by acknowledging that the relationship wasnt going to work and you guys healthly ending it. i love you kandy and i loved his trans story and his personality. People judge because their on the outside and cant see the inside of how you feel of what your going threw. i struggle with anxiety and depression and relationship problems and i get you on that level stay strong love you got this!
Seeing you cry broke my heart! I don’t think you did anything wrong in this situation, I just think it was a touchy subject overall between you guys! I’m so sorry people can be so cruel 😔💜
I love you so much Kandy girl whatever makes you happy makes your kandy canes happy. Be YOU and love yourself everyday and know that life has it's ups and downs. This will all work its way out. Stay positive and stay strong
You’re such a beautiful person inside and out ! Don’t let the hate bother you . Your real “fans” know the real you and will always support you ! Lots of love from Canada ❤️❤️❤️
Girl, you do what you feel is best and don’t worry about everyone else. If you have to delete a video or block comments or whatever it may be, you do it and don’t apologize! Those people that can so easily make nasty comments do not deserve your apology and those of us here for you will understand! Sorry this happened to you and that you are feeling down! ((Hugs))!
I'm so sorry that you and him both were negatively affected by the comments. People can be so brutal and moronic. You are such a beautiful and sweet person with a pure soul. I wish I could say don't let them bother you but like you've stated, your human and you have more compassion than most. I understand how you feel about the 'lovey' stuff. I've been with my guy for almost 8 years and still feel weird with him being 'lovey'. And we joke the same way. I've even said 'i hate you' to him while we pick on each other and we are the only ones who know how we are and that's what we do. We joke like that. I hope things get better for you both. Love you Kandy. Stay strong hun ❤️
I love watching you, I wish I could make it all better for you, you’re an amazingly person with an awesome heart & I know you’ll figure it all out. Love n Hugs 🤗
You are a great person and I think a lot of this has gotten blown way out of control. I think you are totally right that his story should be told and people of all walks of life have the right to live and love freely. I did post a comment on the QnA video and by no means did i mean any disrespect to any one I found the video funny at some points and I'm glad he got to speek out and when you were teasing him it was oviously in good fun and any one that watches you on the regular should of recognised that. And I was just trying and maybe my words failed me but saying I think you should be having fun getting to know and do you . There is nothing wrong with having relationships with people. Nothing but love and respect for you Kandy. I know that this is all fresh and,raw it will blow over you have tons of caring supporters...❤❤❤
Hugs!! Keep being you, your honest and that’s refreshing, you help people so much with the content of your videos, I no because I’m one of those people I’m so much more body confident and feel able to wear things I never would of due to being a bit of a bigger girl and that’s thanks to you, as seeing your try on hauls I think oh I think I might try an outfit like that lol I know longer live in just black cloths as there “slimming” nor do I cover up my arms constantly, before watching your channel I was so insecure about being a bit of a bigger girl I’d even sit with a cushion covering my belly every time I sat down now I don’t feel the need to cover myself up I am who I am and if people don’t like it then like you say that’s there issue. You have such a fun & vibrant personality it’s infectious you lift peoples spirits by just being you, you talk about things that us bigger girls don’t generally feel comfortable talking about concerning our bodies which then makes them not seem such a big deal, so thank you.
I had a feeling when I watched that Q &A video that it was going to cause you problems n you would regret posting it !! I'm sooo sorry your hurting right now, hurts me to see you cry, wish I could give you a big hug !! This will pass in time darlin. I love you. xxx's ♡
Well damn it , i totally didn’t see it but girl just knowing you a little bit from here, makes me know your a great person. Don’t let this bring you down. Your right your a real person - everyone makes mistakes the only difference is a you tube person and one that is not is we take that chance of putting our selves out there sadly that opens us to a world of judgement! ( hugs ) beautiful . Feel better!
I'm sorry Xavier felt hurt because of all of this, it was so brave for him to share his story because I can only imagine how nervous he might've been. I related to you a lot in this video, I didn't see you as being rude I just saw it as you being more on the uncomfortable side. I'm someone like you whos not used to compliments or people being nice and when they are I don't react how I should and it can come off as cold. I know you're not a bad person and didn't expect for this to go down the way it did, and i'm sorry it did :( I hope yall feel better soon! xoxo
Hugs Hun - don’t worry about drama... it was your first proper relationship after your marriage... I know many people who just don’t prioritise getting a divorce ASAP... it’s on your “I’ll get to it later” kind of thing. Like I messaged you - when you are loved differently and it’s SO foreign - you want it but receiving and ACCEPTING it (regardless of gender) is SUPER difficult!!! Especially when you’ve gotten by on such little over such a long period of time. Always here for you!! Life is messed up!!
So sad to see you this upset, maybe the video was good and needed to happen it seems to have helped you with a decision you were struggling with. You're a sweetheart and wear your heart on your sleeve and being in the public eye that can be difficult. Try not to take the nasty comments so personal and remember anyone trying to bring you down is already beneath you! Big big huge hugs from me to you hope you feel them alllllll the way from Cleveland, Ohio ❤❤
I am so sorry that you feel you need to explain yourself for the Q&A video. It was a great effort and I enjoyed it. Please don’t feel the need to ever explain yourself to haters or those with negative comments. You are putting yourself out there, which is far more than most of us can say. Din’t Give up 💕! Much love!
The reason the "marriage thing" is so important.
If I were dating a man
and he refused to divorce his wife,
there would be red flags going up ALL OVER THE PLACE!
Not to mention it is just plain disrespectful to all parties involved.
Hope that sheds some light :)
sues unfiltered I recently dated such a man, It didn’t end well, At first I thought they just hadn’t got around to it, But 6months later when he tried to get back with her behind my back, It was clear it was that he hadn’t wanted to let it go.
I agree. I would be aghast at a female friend dating someone in that situation, especially one who hasn't really shown much interest in divorcing.
My ex refuses to divorce me, but we live in separate states and I'm in a relationship now. Still won't. About to go through Legal Aid to see what my options are.
I married my husband in ‘89 thinking it was the right thing to do. I was trying so hard to jump through all the hoops I believed God expected of me. My husband was and is a good man. I wasn’t in love with him and I thought by being obedient I’d be blessed and all the love and passion would develop. It didn’t. After 9 years my marriage became sexless. I asked for a divorce 4 years ago then discovered divorcing him would make him ineligible for the assistance he gets with his medical costs. With out his medication he couldn’t live long and he can’t afford them without this assistance.
I just think we all make assumptions to fill in the blanks on the things we don’t know or understand. That’s just gonna cause hurt.
@@dreamsofelegance I'm in the exact same boat. Good luck.
This video was really sidetracking the real situation. For 1- I thought you weren't very kind when he was discussing his feelings- lack one money AND then you liked comments about him. How about you address that. You can make any choice you want- but you can't get mad about how you handled things poorly. How about you apologize for liking all those nasty comments!
Get over yourself, Jenny Moxly. Seriously.
Holy back peddling you read and agreed with those comments. You even replied back saying "yes, exactly why we broke up". No one thinks your different but you put your life out there and when you do something rude you get called out. Own it and move on. And get a divorce for Christ's sake it's so easy if he wants one too. If you were legally separated even. But you know damn well you were still "working on things" not that long ago and you know Roger is still in love with you. So having your cake (new love interests) and eating it too (Having Roger as your best friend) is bullshit and selfish. Which is precisely why he's still not happy with you dating other people. There are people that still believe in the sanctity of marriage and everyone should. Not because of religion but because it's a promise. A big one made in front of friends, family and whatever higher power you believe in. If someone feels they can no longer full fill that promise then get a divorce because that's what puts an end to it. That unequivocally shows that both people are done and no longer hold those promises.
Yes!!!!!!!!
That’s no explanation to liking negative comments directed at him. You never like negativity directed at you so stop playing both sides. It was thought out and calculated not and as innocent as you’re making it out to be. Sorry but I have to be honest
Why don’t you explain exactly why you insist on remaining married? Is it fear? Money? What is it? Clearly we don’t get it. It’s not close-minded to ask why a woman who left her husband wants to stay married to him. Are you waiting til you find your next long-term partner? That’s what it seems like.
apexdosxmil 👏👏👏👏
Simple reason is we share insurance and it's cheaper through his work than it is mine.
My brother and his wife has been separated for almost 12 years, they’re still married. They’re still very very good friends. They’ve both been in their current relationships pretty much the entire time they’ve been separated. It works for some people. They’ve made it clear that if either wanted to go on & remarry, they’d go get a divorce, it’s just not that serious to everyone. I wouldn’t be able to do that, but I also can’t say that at 100% considering I’ve never been there.
@@KandyFoxx that's a terrible reason to stay married.
I don't buy it. Seriously because of saving some money? You are a grown woman with 2 jobs and this is your reason? I didn't have a job or a dime to my name when i was 22 and wanted a divorce from the man i married and i still figured out how to get the money to divorce. And you cant figure out how to deal with insurance if you get divorced? Im sorry but i don't believe you.
Personally my issue and sadness was with how you treated him. I have lost a lot of respect for you. It also blew my mind that you repeatedly called him a “fat kid.”
justinluv I missed that. Wow... 😱
She must have had video up for a short time because a lot of us didn't see it
This really upsets me because you all have no idea how him and I react to each other. We joke like that all the time. We both call each other fat kid or weirdo or dummy. It's a playful banter. You don't joke like that with any of your friends?
Kandy Foxx It upset me because I could SEE this was the way you normally treat him and banter with him, and that you considered it routine and no big deal, but one could see the hurt you were causing. It made me realize you are not the person you portray yourself to be and are actually kind of a bully. We have gotten hints of this in past videos but I didn’t want to believe it... now I do.
Its not normal to victimize your partner. Its not funny to pick appart what you see as other peoples short comings. Its not funny ever and if you think it is, you need to reevaluate how you SEE other people. They deserve bettwe than your jokes, dont act like its not a big deal like girl....
I was kinda shocked at some of the comments that were hearted. They were so mean, and not constructive or explaining themselves, but just flat out mean. If I were dude I’d be so hurt. He let you post that even after you dumped him and I think that’s where trust was broken. Plus it was almost embarrassing to watch the way you were so rude to someone actually being kind to you. Sort of like a spoiled entitled child. I don’t know. I actually really like you and your videos, but for me, that video painted you in a different light. Almost like you thought you were way too good for him. I thought it was odd the way you string your husband along, but then making so many comments about him in that video where it clearly bothered your current boyfriend..meh. Makes you seem selfish. I really think you need to take time alone to figure out where you’re at and what you want before you do anymore dating. Like you taking back being official because another dude was coming? Girl that’s not right. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.
👏👏 My thoughts exactly!
I could not agree more!!! You said it all!!
Wafflesmom ForLife someone else commented that she hurt him and now she’s playing victim..even though she’s definitely not. How childish. Own up to your faults, apologize, and move on. Who hurts someone, cries to an audience who kisses their butt nonstop about how hurt they are and then threatens to stop vlogging? Grow up.
Ashley Ashley Exactly. Said it so well.
@@Nope-cw5mt -Exactly! She really tried to flip this ALL on the people commenting, and there definitely are some harsh comments, but what surprised me in all of this is that she did not recognize her role in adding to the bad comments. It was disappointing. But like you said, own up to the shit, and move on.
You should be careful when it comes to "liking" comments on collaborative vids. I get that you're saying your "like" doesn't necessarily mean anything, but you rarely "like" cruel comments that are directed toward you personally, so why would you "like" negative comments about someone else? That could easily be misconstrued.
I agree 100%
Amen!!
I don’t think anyone cares about the questions, it’s more about your response to his answers, and you responding to negative comments. You should be open to discussion, and also not talk negative about him in the comments. Because you didn’t just like the comments you responded too. And you’re coming off as the victim when Xavier was the one that was hurt
yassss no doubt!!!!!
EXACTLY!!!!
Yes
I am sorry that you are not feeling good.
People were not upset about the fact that you were talking about your relationship and your issues. The problem was with those hearts. And your responses to those comments. Because people wrote some mean shit about Xavier and you put a heart next to it. He is a person. A person who read those comments. And saw your hearts under them. That would crush me. And sure, we know you are not a full time youtuber, and that you are a person with your own life and issues, but you are putting it out there. Online. And people are assholes and will be mean and nasty. I feel like your responsibility is to protect the people in your life who get involved with your youtube channel. Not hearting comments that are putting people from your life down.
Sorry, but it was messed up.
This is exactly what I feel as well..,
agreed.
You know she wouldn't have hearted those comments if they were about her nephews or her sister.
YAS 👏🏼
EXACTLY!!!
I’ll be honest, you seemed a little nasty to him on the video.. I just watched today so I couldn’t see any comments as they were disabled.
I think it shows extremely poor judgement to like comments that are openly unkind to someone you're meant to care about. Whatever your reasoning is behind it, it's just not cool to show support for comments that were upsetting your friend. You've been on UA-cam long enough to understand that liking those comments would be translated as you supporting and agreeing with them. So I find it very hard to believe that you honestly, hand on heart, didn't understand it would be hurtful to Xavier to see you doing that.
I feel the same way.. but I’m not trying to upset her. I was watching the video and scrolling through the comments to see what was all the talk about. The video was weird by itself. And When she threaten to take a break, I’m like you were the one liking the mean comments. She knew what she was doing. Obviously viewers see more behind the meaning because were always wondering or sometimes just being bluntly honest. But she’s just trying to be humble about this entire situation and say things in a nice way that’s twisted without being attacked by her viewers and Xavier. She’s in a tough place right now.
After the video viewers did not know him, but the fact is after 6 weeks or so of their relationship Kandy didn't really know him either, even though early on she was professing, and seemingly actively involved in a romantic relationship with Xavier. If nothing else is learned here, a lack of maturity in her relationships remains, and hopefully she has gained great insight into ' herself' , no one else at this point, but herself.
But you never acknowledge bad comments about yourself unless you're giving some cliche, smart-ass remark brushing off what they've tried to say to you. Never do you ever heart them if they're about you.
Also "I don't want you to see... I don't want you to think..." Wait. What was the end of that first sentence? You don't want us to see that side of you? I thought you were all about being real. To be honest, I feel like your viewers don't actually know what you're really like, and they deserve to know. Perhaps now they have a better idea.
I definitely see her differently now. I also think she was going to say something like, "I don't want you guys to see that side of me."
How is Xavier doing? Feel so bad for him reading all those comments..
Maybe keep your love life out of your channel. Matters of the Heart are too personal. Hard for Everyone to understand...you know.
Thank you both so much for sharing your lives with us! So sorry for the hurt.
As far as your marriage, people feel like you are stringing Roger along. I know you don’t need to address that view point but hat is where a lot of negativity is coming from
Cupcakes Roar she has already clarified their relationship. Multiple times.
I’m not speaking about my feelings I’m summarizing the viewpoint in the comments. I’m explaining some of the view points of the comments because Kandy seems frustrated and genuinely does not understand why people have so many view points on her marriage. This is the blatant truthful answer which I have seen in the comments.
Roger, Roger, Roger - can't hear it anymore. They are separated for over 1 year! The divorce is just a piece of paper - and, I don't know how this is in the US, but over here it is hell a shit expensive to get divorced. I see no need to get divorced just because some people on the internet can't understand and seem to think they are still together in any shape, form or weird way. I understand her completely, because it was the same with my marriage - we got divorced 5 years after we separated, so what?! Am I going to hell now?!
Except they were trying to "work it out" in Kandy's own words right before her and this dude got together. In fact in one of her recent vlogs her and Roger had just spent the weekend together and then she announced her new relationship and she told us Roger and his mother were pissed. I think she doesn't want to lose Roger's friendship but she knows damn well he's still in love with her. And divorce is not just a piece of paper it's closing a door. Here if both parties agree they want a divorce it's a very easy and cheap thing. I don't think Roger wants one. And she may have been living on her own for over a yr but they were still working on things not that long ago. And in your case if you were dating or sleeping with other men while your husband still wanted to work things out then no that's not cool because imagine if the rolls were reversed it's just hurt full. No one gets to eat their cake and have it too.
We spend lots of weekends together. Roger is like family. His family isn't involved in his life so he is part of mine. I will not take that away from him. We haven't been "working it out" since May. We had a long discussion and we both realized how bad we are as a couple but how great we are as friends.
U were basically showing your true colors,smh!
Also want to say Xavier if you read this, you're an amazing person (both of you are). For someone to risk their relationships and safety to stand proud and say this is who I am is so courageous. You're a strong man, doesn't matter what the ignorant people want to say because that is who you are and who you will always be to the people that matter!
Hi love, I watched the entire video and several of your others since last winter...I'm a person who doesn't comment on these but to see you cry...listen love, it's okay I know as well as the true subbies that you ment NO HARM , I thank you for your channel and your honesty in the videos that you share with us. You are AWESOME and don't ever forget that 💖 I learned a lot from the Q and A thanks for sharing. It's okay we love you
I also think it important to always speak kind words to people. Even if we think it is joking, why not take the step to always uplift someone. Take every chance you can to lift your partner up. Lots of hugs and love your way.
Being separated for 19 months, and not having divorce papers filed at least...I just don’t understand that. And I can’t understand any man or woman being okay with dating someone in this situation. It’s totally okay to be friends with your ex husband! Totally! But why not get divorced? Then you can fully move forward with your life and date without still being legally, and to some level, emotionally attached, to someone else? I couldn’t wait to start dating when I left my ex, and did while in the divorce process, but waited until I had those papers filed. Just confused about that. No hate, just confused.
You were liking rude comments. Thats what people were upset about.
Did you not listen to what she said about that? Do you people not fucking listen?
Did I not listen? Uhhh ya- I heard a lot of bawling about how he was perceived as a nicer person than her. Get real- she exploited him- and it turned out bad for her. Point-blank.
Kandy, don't worry. If they didn't like the vlog that's their problem. Don't let the haters get you down. You have a great heart, and you have an awesome personality.
On Facebook, when someone posts something tragic, like a death, illness, issues, etc... if you put a heart on a post about one of these issues or a thumbs up., without comments, does that mean you love the fact that someone died, or if you give a thumbs up does it mean you think it’s cool someone is struggling with mental health... No, it is understandable why it was done. You could hav said something beautiful and people will find a flaw. This breaks my heart seeing you so sad and hurt. You are such a beautiful and sweet person. I follow you on all social platforms and have since the beginning. I love the Kommunity and will always be a fan. I will stand by you Kandy. You know, ships come and ships go, but I promise you I am docked in your corner for life and will always be anchored as a fan. Absolutely no reason you need to explain anything. You don’t owe anything to anyone. People have nothing better to do then to knit pick other. Those who have an issue with you and Rodger, they are jealous of your situation. How many people would love to be separated with someone, still be best friends with them, and be able to live their life in peace. UA-cam needs border patrol💁🏻♀️ to help keep the trash out, and make sure good people like you don’t have to make a video like this. I love you Kandy, and wish I could give you a big hug! Stay strong and remember how many of us in the Kommunity stand by you! 💜🌸
What you said about how some people think that youtubers don’t have feelings & that people forget that they are real people just like everyone else, is so true. I’m sorry that people were hurtful towards you and Xavier. I give Xavier a lot of credit that he was kind enough to sit down and answer our questions. I’m always here to support you Kandy. Over the past (almost) two years of watching your channel, I’ve learned so much from you about love, positivity and acceptance. so thank you.
What disappointments me is people praise you saying stuff like "you look good" and "don't worry about what people say" but...... You go to eugina Cooney's video's and people call her awful things but it's literally the same thing they are both Ed's they are both gonna die early but yet you praise her 😔
@@comedyLover30 well yea everyone dies at some point 😂
It's plain as this... You're just not that into him and it's okay. I didn't think you were mean to him but the chemistry wasn't there. I thought he was a nice person, though. 😶
I got really sad when I saw those hearts on comments that were mostly negative, when I read them I didn't feel they were constructive or coming from a place of love and support for nobody, they were just cruel, mean and loaded with frustration, most likely a reflection of the people writing them. When I discovered your channel and of course binged watch a lot of your videos I saw a lot of "concerned" comments about your health, that were not articulated in a rude manner, and still I didn't see you liking them, but instead I've heard you in many videos saying that your health is your own business and it's rude to comment on someone else's health, so I'm still saddened and confused by you acknowledging those mean comments. This is a very unfortunate situation for everyone involved and time will help you guys feel better. Sometimes we need to play the devil's advocate in order to grown from our mistakes. I hope you feel better Kandy, this is just a bitter moment, but you have a beautiful aura that shines through.
Why would you “like” a neg. comment? You don’t have to feel obligated to acknowledge every comment. I would have been hurt by that too.
To be honest, Kandy, you "liking" negative comments makes you seem complacent in unwarranted and often times transphobic criticism towards Xavier. Like not the blatant transphobia but a lot of just ignorant subtle stuff ppl said you liked! Don't be complacent, he is your friend. I would shut that shit down quick. Sure you may not have time to reply to everything, but at least don't give it a heart!
Kandy I love you!! Just got home from work so stoked you posted. Lol I've had your back this whole time 💜💜
You should go and have some "Nephews" therapy 😊😊😊
Aww Kandy, I love you! I wish I could give you a hug! You are HUMAN, we ALL make mistakes. You are a good person with a good heart and it shows in your channel. Keep you chin up love 💕
Best relationship advice I've heard: If you talk about your relationship with anyone, you make it their business. You've made it everyone's business. My two pennies: you both deserve better partners. Cheers ox
I like you but the Q and A video was not necessary to release. It was too personal, you need some boundaries. It was enough that you said you broke up for some reasons. Showing the video was like making an easy target from Xavier. I just watched few minutes of it because it was awkward and too personal. I'm not saying that to hurt you. And this situation would be equally hurtful even if he was not trans.
These people are COMPLETE STRANGERS. Who cares what anyone says.
I’m so sorry that things have ended up like this. Things are already hard for you since you’re confused on what you want, different feelings etc... and having you cry on camera just breaks my heart, because yes it was kind of confusing but half the stuff you said you’ve already addressed in some of your candid candies. At the end of the day you and Xavier’s business is YOUR business. Sometimes people just read into too many things. Thank you for taking the time to explain and being so open with us no matter how upset it may have made you. You are strong and you are worthy.
Have you processed all of this with your therapist? Maybe some of those things posted you did agree with at their core (and that’s ok really). Have you discussed your hesitancy to finalizing your separation from your spouse? Might be a good idea just for you to have a different non-biased person helping you process these things. Best of luck to you, we are all human. Imperfectly perfect.
It really hurts me to see you like this because you're such an amazing person. You're always trying so hard for everyone and trust me your work doesn't go unnoticed. I watch all of your videos from start to finish. You're honestly my favorite person on UA-cam; you're so genuine, kind-hearted, sweet, caring, and so much more! PLEASE keep going, you're amazing, strong, and you work so hard! I love you Kandy!
I love you Kandy! Although I’m sure nothing any of us say can really change the thoughts that are running through your head or the things that are weighing heavily on you currently, I just want you to know I care and hope you feel better soon! ♥️
Kandy, your true friends will always be here for you!!! Keep calm and God bless you.
Sending you a big hug!!! You are a beautiful person inside and out.
It’s clear to your following that you’re a genuinely beautiful human on the outside, but more importantly on the inside. We love you and you deserve the world. The rawness of you talking about subjects people usually tiptoe around shows great maturity and love. We all grow and learn. Xo
We all make mistakes, it what we learn from and do with those lessons that make a person better. Everyone has room to grow, so glad you are learning and growing from this.
Still, it's weird to remain married and date other ppl. It gives the other ppl thoughts like "ohh hey, she's still married bc maybe they'll get back together...'. I'd think it, so would any normal person. But hey, I guess as long as the ones you date know you're not looking for anything serious, it's all good 👌
BabyNapoleon I’m a normal person and I don’t think that. To me, it just means marriage on paper but it’s not a focus to need to get divorced. My mum and dad have been separated almost 20 years, I believe they are still legally married. They don’t even live in the same country as each other so I don’t think they are looking to go back to each other at all!
I'm still separated from my husband, not divorced yet due to money and the fact that the ex is making excuses, but we live in separate states and I've been in a relationship now for a year and a half, happier than I've ever been. Everyone separated in their marriage are so different.
She has stated that if something got serious with someone then they would get divorced
My perception of how likes are used on this channel is that Kandy "hearts" comments that she agrees with and doesn't "heart" comments that don't either build her up or support her already established views. I find that to be a little authoritarian and controlling. Everyone's views should be made to feel welcome. There are all kinds of different people from different backgrounds and with different perspectives who watch this channel. Everyone should feel welcome to be here. Noone should feel discouraged, silenced or left out.
We all just love you and want the best for you! You’re like the older sister I never had and I feel that you’ve made the right decision
I didn’t see the original video but know you have the biggest heart. Being on social media is really tough and there are many people who are judge mental and closed minded. I could say to ignore it but I know how difficult that is. Just know that many of us love and support you. You are a shining light to many of us. Big big hugs to you!! 💜💜💜
Appreciate and love all your videos. My mom told me once when I was younger, sometimes no reaction is the most powerful statement you can make and speaks way more to people than a response they aren’t going to like or accept anyway.
Do you. Everything else will fall into place.
Seeing you like this breaks my heart! Its so honest and raw and real, Dont feel any less of your self because of all of this crap! You don't need to explain yourself to anyone! The hate in this world is so real! You are amazing don't listen to the haters.
What surprisingly came across for me in that video, was you at times, physically showing how uncomfortable you were with this person. For me, it was hard to watch, especially knowing the rough times he was/is going through. It was sad to see you adding to it, though I do believe you were not intentionally trying to do that. When it comes to some of us big girls and dealing with a guy that likes us more than we like them, we can be just as bitchy to them as some average sized women can be. It is our ego that drives that I tend to think.
Then you liked some really fucked up comments. Xavier had to see that, which blew me away even more because you have never come across that way before. I did think you two were moving too fast and you were telling way too much about a man that you barely knew yourself, but I never commented and said that. The Q&A video, was a different thing.
I stand by my comment in that video. At that time I said I think that Xavier is a nice guy, and that maybe you should not be throwing him away so soon. But at this point, I understand that it is best for you and him to part ways. He did not deserve to be put out there like that. You have your reasons as to why you liked those comments, but overall, you did not push back on them and defend him. And that is what he was left to see. My heart broke for him. Once again, I do not believe you intentionally did any of this to hurt him, but I also think that you did not consider him as much as you should have.
yassss!!!
Wafflesmom ForLife my observation, she put the relationship out way too soon.
@@kaputz8107 I agree. They BOTH were moving too fast.
You never have to explain, people are to quick to judge no matter what. Seeing you cry breaks my heart, you are an amazing person who brightens my darkest days for me, gives me
the confidence to be who i am. Your not alone as many of us are here for you always. Xx
I was one of the people who commented on the ‘liking’ of some of those comments.
One thing I want to say is that we haven’t all been here from the beginning. I, myself, am new to your channel. From the first video, I thought you seemed absolutely lovely. So when I saw you ‘liking’ some very judgmental comments towards this poor guy, it gave the impression that you agreed with their statements. To be honest, I just genuinely felt bad for him. If that was me, I would feel awful.
But yeah. I do think you should be selective with what you ‘like’ because new viewers to your channel don’t know what you’ve been doing since the beginning. After all, we’re new here.
That being said, I still enjoy your videos and I’m glad you decided to clear this all up.
I love you kandy you’re okay girl
Work on you and get all your shit in order. It will make future relationships better.
I understand you may not feel worthy of that kind of love and attention right now but one day you will and it will come easier for you because you are worthy! You’re still growing and learning about yourself and it sounds like you’re still growing a lot. And that’s great! 💜 best wishes Kandy, you’re awesome 😎
Kandy you do NOT have to give an apology to anyone...He seemed like a great person/friend....dont listen to stupid people. Us that have been with you from the beginning of your YT channel are always here to support you. I wish i could give you and Alexander some huge great big hugs....you both are awesome to put his story out there. You are amazing...please dont let negative toxic people bother either one of you. Its their issues not you guys. Xxgreat big huge hugs for you bothxx
You aren’t the victim here Kandy I’m sorry but Xavier is.HE is a real person with real feelings too!The respectful thing to do would be to have NOT posted that video AFTER you’d broken up( even if he did say it was cool). OR you should’ve edited it so that you only showed his trans “story “, but you’re a smart cookie and have been around long enough to know that a Q&A like you did with the title and all would rake in big views... I hate to but can’t help but wonder.... did you exploit a naive, madly in love, sad person for your own gain?
Oh, girl, I am so sorry about this. I totally understand where you are coming from. Love you lots!
Naww don't cry it's your channel and it's your vision and you no you just have to keep at it no matter what anyone thinks your doing a good job never lose sight of who you are and be proud you deserve it
I don't want to say anything other than YOU ARE AMAZING! PLEASE don't forget that! I wish I could give you a huge hug right now! Seeing you hurting and upset breaks my heart! Please know that you have people that support you and absolutely love you ❤
Love you Kandi, we all have faults ♥️ you are a good person because you acknowledged your mistake and now you have to just move on! 💕
such a kind hearted girl dont sweat the small stuff kandy - your'e right, some people really don't know your true heart, all goodz you will bounce back blessings from sydney, australia
I think you need to take a break...Probably filming at work is not appropriate...And being so personal isn’t either...Your reviews and stuff are fun...But if you want your personal life to be personal and not critiqued by total strangers...Then don’t share so much...
I mean this kindly...Not being snarky...❤️
Sorry for both your and Xavier's heartache. Sending you both love. ❤
Kandy I was saddened by this video because it was a painful experience for you! I thought you had good intentions for it. I want to applaud Xavier for discovering what makes him happy. We only get one life and it would be a sad and wasted life to live it the way someone else thinks we should! I hope all the love and support on here and the community will outshine the negativity. You’re an inspiration to everyone here and I hope you feel better! Sending much love, prayers and positivity your way!!!!
Stay strong and stay true to you, you got this. I love your honesty, your authentic truth. Your beautiful ❤️
breaks my heart to see you cry kandy. hope you feel better soon. love u.
I'm glad you introduced us to one of your friends. I'm sorry you and him ended up being hurt by it but that obviously wasn't your intention. Don't beat yourself up about it. The internet can be brutal sometimes and I can understand needing a break. Just don't quit because I enjoy watching your content. :)
I'm just wondering if Kandy has reached out on any other platform since this video. I don't have access and I just want to know if she is OK, thanks
You poor girl, Everything will be alright, you are a beautiful soul....
Don’t apologize girl. We love you.
I’m sorry Kandy. You’re an amazing person and don’t deserve to feel this way
Kandy I just discovered your channel recently and love all your videos.You come across as just a very normal person who is so likeable.As much as I admire your openness and honesty I think you need to be more careful about what you disclose. The reason your Q&A session didn't go so well was because you and Xavier were only starting out in your relationship and you didn't know each other that well.i could see you were getting very uncomfortable as it went on.We don't need to know everything about you and i think you need to be more careful about what you put out there.
I love you💜 People are always going to judge no matter what. Just be you. Your amazing and we know that! Your soul is beautiful
Dont cry love some relationships just arent ment to be and the thing is is that you tried and that you figured it out in the begining instead of being in an unhealthy unwanted relationship. you are strong and a real person and you are beautiful. dont let people get you down you did the right thing by acknowledging that the relationship wasnt going to work and you guys healthly ending it. i love you kandy and i loved his trans story and his personality. People judge because their on the outside and cant see the inside of how you feel of what your going threw. i struggle with anxiety and depression and relationship problems and i get you on that level stay strong love you got this!
Seeing you cry broke my heart! I don’t think you did anything wrong in this situation, I just think it was a touchy subject overall between you guys! I’m so sorry people can be so cruel 😔💜
Good on you for making this video instead of just brushing the issue under the rug. Shows you have big kahoonas
Your channel seemed easier when you kept your love life out of it kandy.x
Be strong girl! You don’t need to continue explaining yourself and apologizing. You have, now move forward! Love you and your channel....!
I love you so much Kandy girl whatever makes you happy makes your kandy canes happy. Be YOU and love yourself everyday and know that life has it's ups and downs. This will all work its way out. Stay positive and stay strong
You’re such a beautiful person inside and out ! Don’t let the hate bother you . Your real “fans” know the real you and will always support you ! Lots of love from Canada ❤️❤️❤️
Sorry you have to go through this. You don't deserve it. Tell Xavier not all of us are assholes and we support him.
Why did you take the Q & A off of your videos, I did not get to see the responses ?
Girl, you do what you feel is best and don’t worry about everyone else. If you have to delete a video or block comments or whatever it may be, you do it and don’t apologize! Those people that can so easily make nasty comments do not deserve your apology and those of us here for you will understand! Sorry this happened to you and that you are feeling down! ((Hugs))!
I'm so sorry that you and him both were negatively affected by the comments. People can be so brutal and moronic. You are such a beautiful and sweet person with a pure soul. I wish I could say don't let them bother you but like you've stated, your human and you have more compassion than most. I understand how you feel about the 'lovey' stuff. I've been with my guy for almost 8 years and still feel weird with him being 'lovey'. And we joke the same way. I've even said 'i hate you' to him while we pick on each other and we are the only ones who know how we are and that's what we do. We joke like that. I hope things get better for you both. Love you Kandy. Stay strong hun ❤️
I love watching you, I wish I could make it all better for you, you’re an amazingly person with an awesome heart & I know you’ll figure it all out. Love n Hugs 🤗
You are a great person and I think a lot of this has gotten blown way out of control. I think you are totally right that his story should be told and people of all walks of life have the right to live and love freely. I did post a comment on the QnA video and by no means did i mean any disrespect to any one I found the video funny at some points and I'm glad he got to speek out and when you were teasing him it was oviously in good fun and any one that watches you on the regular should of recognised that. And I was just trying and maybe my words failed me but saying I think you should be having fun getting to know and do you
. There is nothing wrong with having relationships with people. Nothing but love and respect for you Kandy. I know that this is all fresh and,raw it will blow over you have tons of caring supporters...❤❤❤
Hugs!! Keep being you, your honest and that’s refreshing, you help people so much with the content of your videos, I no because I’m one of those people I’m so much more body confident and feel able to wear things I never would of due to being a bit of a bigger girl and that’s thanks to you, as seeing your try on hauls I think oh I think I might try an outfit like that lol I know longer live in just black cloths as there “slimming” nor do I cover up my arms constantly, before watching your channel I was so insecure about being a bit of a bigger girl I’d even sit with a cushion covering my belly every time I sat down now I don’t feel the need to cover myself up I am who I am and if people don’t like it then like you say that’s there issue. You have such a fun & vibrant personality it’s infectious you lift peoples spirits by just being you, you talk about things that us bigger girls don’t generally feel comfortable talking about concerning our bodies which then makes them not seem such a big deal, so thank you.
Hang in there, girl! Obviously, you are truly hurting and didn’t mean any harm. This too shall pass... 💙
I love you Kandy, you don’t owe us any explanations at all!! Be you girl, you’re awesome!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I had a feeling when I watched that Q &A video that it was going to cause you problems n you would regret posting it !! I'm sooo sorry your hurting right now, hurts me to see you cry, wish I could give you a big hug !! This will pass in time darlin. I love you. xxx's ♡
Is there anywhere I can watch the q&a video?
Well damn it , i totally didn’t see it but girl just knowing you a little bit from here, makes me know your a great person. Don’t let this bring you down. Your right your a real person - everyone makes mistakes the only difference is a you tube person and one that is not is we take that chance of putting our selves out there sadly that opens us to a world of judgement! ( hugs ) beautiful . Feel better!
I'm sorry Xavier felt hurt because of all of this, it was so brave for him to share his story because I can only imagine how nervous he might've been. I related to you a lot in this video, I didn't see you as being rude I just saw it as you being more on the uncomfortable side. I'm someone like you whos not used to compliments or people being nice and when they are I don't react how I should and it can come off as cold. I know you're not a bad person and didn't expect for this to go down the way it did, and i'm sorry it did :( I hope yall feel better soon! xoxo
I’m so sorry that you are sad. I feel so sad to see you crying. You will get past this. Love you
Hugs Hun - don’t worry about drama... it was your first proper relationship after your marriage... I know many people who just don’t prioritise getting a divorce ASAP... it’s on your “I’ll get to it later” kind of thing.
Like I messaged you - when you are loved differently and it’s SO foreign - you want it but receiving and ACCEPTING it (regardless of gender) is SUPER difficult!!! Especially when you’ve gotten by on such little over such a long period of time. Always here for you!! Life is messed up!!
So sad to see you this upset, maybe the video was good and needed to happen it seems to have helped you with a decision you were struggling with. You're a sweetheart and wear your heart on your sleeve and being in the public eye that can be difficult. Try not to take the nasty comments so personal and remember anyone trying to bring you down is already beneath you! Big big huge hugs from me to you hope you feel them alllllll the way from Cleveland, Ohio ❤❤
I am so sorry that you feel you need to explain yourself for the Q&A video. It was a great effort and I enjoyed it. Please don’t feel the need to ever explain yourself to haters or those with negative comments. You are putting yourself out there, which is far more than most of us can say. Din’t Give up 💕! Much love!